I feel like what all of these essentially "minimalism is the way to a happy life" videos miss is that people have different relationships with things. I'm a maximalist, but I'm extreeemmmeeelllyyyy picky about what comes into my home. I love being surrounded by beautiful, great quality things. People who have more than one hobby also tend to have trouble containing all the bits and bobs. Minimalism is also easier in urban areas because the whole city is really your home, where in more suburban or rural areas your home needs to be more self-sufficient. I feel like the message shouldn't be so much "the less you have the happier you'll be" as it should be, "buy what you really love, and skip the rest." It's okay to have a huge wardrobe if you wear it all, and combining clothes in new ways is part of how you express yourself. If your kitchen is full to the brim because you're a consummate cook, and want to be able to make any dish from anywhere in the world, knock yourself out. If you want 10,000 figurines, and they bring you joy, and you enjoy dusting them because you get to have fun rearranging them and admiring them, that's wonderful. If you're a bookworm and you love being surrounded by books, buy more shelving for them. The goal shouldn't necessarily be less things, but focusing on what you really love.
You make great points. I would say though that message should really be: what can you realistically maintain in your life. If you have the energy to maintain and use heaps of things then that's great. Yet some people really struggle with the weight of things they are carrying.
Hello completely agree with your clarity yet... some people will need support ... clutter is unfinished business ... deciding what to do with that business is decision making .... decision making is hard when you have executive function issues. Society might want to think about how those with impulsive drives need less exposure to advertising.
Great speech Tania. We certainly need to declutter as we are overwhelmed by my materialistic objects that we accumulate to fill gaps in our life. And we believe we are entitled.
I lived with a hoarder! I left him. I had to do it. I found out I had pre-Diabetes. But living in a clutter free place, I reversed it. I don't have it anymore . Why? Leaving a hoarder allowed me to get better! It's true!
Thank you, Tanya, for sharing your wisdom and your personal experience. I've gone through all the decluttering, Kondo-ing and minimalising before. But it all crept back in, especially with a young family! I really like what you said about perspectives. This resonated with me and has inspired me to look at the choices I make (especially with Christmas coming) and how it will affect our home life. Thank you again!!
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I believe because we are constantly seeking to get our needs met in as quick and easy way as possible. When we stop and examine what we believe we will get from said decision, we can often work out what need we’re trying to meet and what we could do instead.
In survival mode, insecurity, need of acceptance, looking for security or approval from us or from others, believe in material is forever and give us meaning.
I feel like what all of these essentially "minimalism is the way to a happy life" videos miss is that people have different relationships with things. I'm a maximalist, but I'm extreeemmmeeelllyyyy picky about what comes into my home. I love being surrounded by beautiful, great quality things. People who have more than one hobby also tend to have trouble containing all the bits and bobs. Minimalism is also easier in urban areas because the whole city is really your home, where in more suburban or rural areas your home needs to be more self-sufficient. I feel like the message shouldn't be so much "the less you have the happier you'll be" as it should be, "buy what you really love, and skip the rest." It's okay to have a huge wardrobe if you wear it all, and combining clothes in new ways is part of how you express yourself. If your kitchen is full to the brim because you're a consummate cook, and want to be able to make any dish from anywhere in the world, knock yourself out. If you want 10,000 figurines, and they bring you joy, and you enjoy dusting them because you get to have fun rearranging them and admiring them, that's wonderful. If you're a bookworm and you love being surrounded by books, buy more shelving for them.
The goal shouldn't necessarily be less things, but focusing on what you really love.
You make great points. I would say though that message should really be: what can you realistically maintain in your life. If you have the energy to maintain and use heaps of things then that's great. Yet some people really struggle with the weight of things they are carrying.
Great
yes I see that too
true, I get that for sure.
a lot of honesty in this
I needed this today, thanks
You share your message so clearly. It's powerful to see your home differently and clear the clutter to feel better.
Thank you Caroline. It really is amazing the power just a small tweak in perspective can have.
The most interesting thing that she said " "When you change the way you look at things . They will start to change "
I failed many times to stop buying things that I do not really need 😭
A great talk. Thank you
Hello completely agree with your clarity yet... some people will need support ... clutter is unfinished business ... deciding what to do with that business is decision making .... decision making is hard when you have executive function issues. Society might want to think about how those with impulsive drives need less exposure to advertising.
Great speech Tania. We certainly need to declutter as we are overwhelmed by my materialistic objects that we accumulate to fill gaps in our life. And we believe we are entitled.
Tanya, I spelt your name wrong, sorry.
I lived with a hoarder!
I left him. I had to do it.
I found out I had pre-Diabetes.
But living in a clutter free place, I reversed it. I don't have it anymore .
Why?
Leaving a hoarder allowed me to get better! It's true!
I am going through this cleaning process right now
I love this talk and hearing about how Tanya uses Anxiety Freedom Cards
Thank you, Tanya, for sharing your wisdom and your personal experience. I've gone through all the decluttering, Kondo-ing and minimalising before. But it all crept back in, especially with a young family! I really like what you said about perspectives. This resonated with me and has inspired me to look at the choices I make (especially with Christmas coming) and how it will affect our home life. Thank you again!!
Tanya this is amazing congratulations 👏 ❤️
Please be kind to each other ❤️
Great talk! Thanks.
It's amazing, thanks.
To me, it sounded like a "problem" of plenty - the "problem" faced by the lucky, rich, and privileged in our world.
Amazing!!
truth
I am interested in the Freedom cards. Any link to find them.
Yes, me too
I tried to post a link for you but it’s not allowed. If you connect with me on Facebook or LinkedIn I can send you a link and share more info with you if you’d like xx
You can also find them if you look for Anxiety Freedom Cards it's a uk company but sells internationally 🙂
what if you have a clock shop, with 200 individual clocks, cuckoo clocks and atmos clocks, and you want to build a clock that does the thing
1. Jesus Matthew 6:9-14
We are all squirrels...why?
I believe because we are constantly seeking to get our needs met in as quick and easy way as possible. When we stop and examine what we believe we will get from said decision, we can often work out what need we’re trying to meet and what we could do instead.
In survival mode, insecurity, need of acceptance, looking for security or approval from us or from others, believe in material is forever and give us meaning.
truth