@@theresamcgallicher I'm guilty of this, pity for the poor orphan was v seductive. I catch myself wallowing every day. At beginning of talk she said, she was widowed & then lost her mother I immediately started competing with her story in my head. Still I try like the Japanese say Fall 7 times Rise 8
@@KateBates22zabu The ability to focus on the positive aspects of life versus the negative is the most powerful skill that one can have, but it does take mind training. The default is to always go to the negative.
Just to summarize some of the small steps she mentioned that will keep us mentally strong - 1. Practicing gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and express gratitude for what you have, rather than dwelling on what you lack. 2. Comparing yourself only to your past self: Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your personal growth and how you've improved compared to who you were yesterday. 3. Embrace uncomfortable emotions: Allow yourself to feel sad, angry, or scared, and then move on. This will help you gain confidence in your ability to handle discomfort. 4. Setting healthy boundaries: Establish limits with others to maintain a sense of control over your own life, without trying to control others or letting them control you. 5. Accepting life's inherent unfairness: Understand that life is not always fair, but this doesn't mean you're doomed to suffer. Focus on creating the life you want, despite the challenges you face. 6. Making small, positive changes: Start with one small change in your daily routine or habits that can improve your mental well-being, such as replacing a sugary drink with a healthier option or incorporating a few minutes of exercise into your day.
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions thoughts and behaviors in the ways that set them up for success in life check out these things that mentally strong people don't do so that you too can become more mentally strong. 1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves. Mentally strong people don't sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn't always easy or Fair. 2. They don't give away their power. They don't allow others to control them and they don't give someone else power over them. They don't say things like "my boss make me feel bad" because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond. 3. They don't shy away from change. Mentally strong people don't try to avoid change. Instead they welcome positive change in are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt. 4. They don't waste energy on things they can't control. Did you hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams?! But Instead these people focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes the only thing that they control is their attitude. 5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone. Mentally strong people recognize that they don't need to please everyone all the time. They are not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair but can handle other people being upset if they didn't make them happy. 6. They don't fear taken calculated risk. They don't take reckless or a foolish risk but don't mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time waiting their risk and benefits before making a big decision and they are fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action. 7. They don't dwell on the past. Mentally strong people don't waste time and dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They aknowledge their past and can say what they've learned from it. However they don't constantly relieve bad experiences or fantasize about the Glory Days. Instead they live for the present and plan for the future. 8. They don't make the same mistakes over and over. Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result they don't keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead they move on and make better decisions in the future. 9. They don't resent other people's success. Mentally strong people can't appreciate and celebrate people's success in life. They don't grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead they recognize that success comes with hard work and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success. 10. They don't give up after the first failure. Mentally strong people don't view failures as a reason to give up. Instead they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right. 11. They don't fear alone time. Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don't fear silence. They aren't afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoyed their own company and aren't depend on other for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone. 12. They don't feel the world owns them anything. Mentally strong people don't feel entitled to things in life. They weren't born with a mentality that others will take care of them or that the word must give them something. Instead they look for opportunities based on their own merits. 13. They don't expect immediate results. Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground mentally strong people don't expect immediate results. Instead they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
There are lot of people that you can go and speak to...like this nice woman...you will feel better once you put eveything out of your system...I really hope you will try... I send you lot of ❤❤❤
Every person goes through worst experience in life. It is different from person to person and varies People can have one or multiple bad experience to them. When i said worse experience. I think about life put u down to the ground where u think u cannot seem to go back up. That is a way of life testing us if we can make it back to the path again. Some people fail - those are the people who die than to live , commit the act of dying and succeeded and some people survive and found their way back in life.
Amara, Avoid comparing yourself with anybody or anything. Practical steps are needed to reprogramme your mind. Reduce negative thoughts to relax. Its quite simple with a little determination. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Do the above practice daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
There you go again. You are the same who commented on another video that you didn't have a proper family, if I recall correctly. Looks like we are on same Ted talk marathon.
@@KrishanBorwal Ted talks really help, don't they? It has been a month since my marathon and I feel a lot better. They give me new insights to go on with life a bit longer. I am glad that so many of us find this helpful.
Except that you're your own person, and other people are seperate from you,the only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday❣️ The best line.
The only person you should compare yourself to is God, the Lord Jesus Christ. He is the only one worthy of our worship and the only one worthy of all the glory. Amen! + Run to Jesus! Trust in Him alone! + If you have defected from God then read these Scriptures: (Lost Sheep, Luke 15:1-7 - Lost Coin, 15:8-10 - Lost Son, 15:11-32 - Rich Man and Lazarus, 16:19-31) Jesus is calling you back home, read His word, believe and repent. Saved by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone! + The world is racing toward "AMAGEDDON" !!! And people need to get right with the Lord! If you have not read the books of (Daniel chapters 7-12), (Ezekiel chapters 37-39) (Matthew chapters 24:1-51 + 25:1-30), (1 Thessalonians chapters 1-5), (2 Thessalonians chapters1-3) and (Revelation chapters 6-19), now would be a good time. They will explain a lot about what is going on right now! These books will cover the "Wars" about to come, the catching up / the blessed hope, World judgement, hence the Tribulation and the Great Tribulation! These books will also be the most ominous and scary for the unbelievers and the most exciting and uplifting for those who believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior!... It is my hope and prayer that people would repent and believe on the Lord Jesus Christ before all these things take place, because it is going to be very, very scary if you do not and you decide to wait and see what happens. + May the Lord encourage you to seek the truth, in Jesus' name. Amen and Amen. + All glory be to God. Amen!
I just lost my husband a month ago he was only 26...I'm a 23 year old widow , I don't even know how I got to this video...You are a strong woman we have the same story. I have a hope
Jealousy is a human and natural emotion. We can’t stop/control emotions from coming and going. It’s impossible unless you have apathy. Changing behavior is a better method.
no of course not your past does not define who you are or who you were if you made mistakes is fine and I believe that comparing yourself like that is not healthy
She is so strong...I struggle with petty things every day. Just the fact that she's experienced so much devastating loss and can still stand up is a triumph of human spirit. ❤️
That's just human psyche being human psyche. Nothing to do with being strong or not mentally. Other people tolerate losses better than others. It really just depends on how badly that particular psyche takes those things. It is non-voluntary action of a mind. Some are better in taking personal losses than others. No free will baby, not in any way. It is an illusion.
honestly...We all struggle with petty things :D The key is to accept how you feel, take a deep breath and then move on. Haha the number of times a friend's petty remarks have brought me down is amazing lol! but I accept how he made me feel, take a deep breath and move on. Everyone experiences tough situations differently, the important thing is not to be hard on yourself for feeling how you feel. When you've accepted your feelings, it is no longer a huge, psychological wrestler and you are free to allow your brain to work out solutions.
My God, I started sobbing hearing her story. Then I took a breath, and remembered I’m human, I’m PMSing, and I have so much to be grateful for. God bless this woman.
Summary: get rid of bad mental habits ----> 1. Self pity (exaggerating problems) 2. Victim mentality (thinking that ppl/situations have the power to hurt you, instead of thinking how you can choose to respond) 3. Expecting that life is fair (that if you work hard, you'll find success) Developing mental strength is just like developing physical strength. Cultivate good mental habits (healthy food) and get rid of bad ones (junk food). Practice daily to train your brain (gym). Start small. Keep going.
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
a very sad story but really impressive, her voice sounds like crying inside, but she chooses to shine after the storm her book really was a turning point in my life thank you Amy
Do not compare yourself at all...just accept yourself as you are say thank you to mother nature to make you whatever you feel to be like..just go ahead in your life with all your energy....
I just wanted to come here almost 5 years later to say: THANK YOU, AMY!!!! I watched many talks, read tons of books and listened to many podcasts, but this particular speech saved me and cured my addiction! Your story and perspective touched my soul ❤❤ Thank you
@@ebrelus7687 hey, sorry to reply just now… Haven’t seen it before, but due the optimistic reply from today I at least got the chance to see it. Honestly, there was something about what she said that inspired me to change. In a way: “Stop throwing a pity party”, “Life isn’t fair and no one owes you anything”, “You are the main character of your story and you can make that story whatever you want it to be about”. I think she had it tough and to see how everything worked out for her at the end (to some extent) gave me the practical perspective of that when one door closes, another opens. I started journaling with check list with small daily tasks, read books and changed small everyday habits - which lead to me having a very different daily life than before. P.s. would strongly recommend “Reinventing your life” by Jeffrey Young
@@ebrelus7687 did you include, as I did the hyper link of your name in your request as to the “how?” Are they supposed to be physic? Honest questions….
@@user-hq5ps7dx7d this is exactly what she was referring too… unhealthy beliefs about others, #2 . Sounds like you are not conscious of your own unhealthy thoughts towards others. Sad, but true.
Actually some people think the opposite. Life is fair because doesn’t discriminate anything could happen to anybody. It is other way to think about it.
By deleting facebook and instagram my life changed 180 degrees. I started focusing more on my life not caring about how beautiful the life of others is. Also setting a plan for my day and using the time I spend surfing the internet carefully made me a much happier person. The phrase that is motivating me to achieve something new everyday is "The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday''. I have been searching for a solution against all the depressions that I'm having and this video was and is a life-savor for me.
Your right .... Facebook can instigate people's negativity about how their lives are not in line with all the happy people ...... it's a narcissist playground....and damages people belief on how their lives should be ...... I wonder how many people were satisfied with their lives before being subjected to others ? ... life before Facebook...... take me back!
What i took from this video: give gratitude, counter unhealthy beliefs, exercise good mental habits, stop comparing yourself to other people. only person you should compare yourself is to the person you were yesterday, accept that life isn't fair, set goals, you can change the outcome of your world, what's one small step you can take today to change your bad mental habits right here right now.
“Take your time healing, as long as you want. Nobody else knows what you’ve been through. How could they know how long it will take to heal you?” - Abertoli
Gòod observation. But a time will come when you will ask your self, " Am i not dwelling on this for too long ?" At that point it is time to move on with your life.
Listening to her story made think "I've red this story before" then I realized... She's the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. One of my fave books!!!
as a 17 year old who always envy people with understanding parents,caring people,independent thoughts i always spent my days feeling sorry for being born in a family which suppress my thoughts , for having people who hate me around, i have become really weak in this lockdown with past thoughts and people’s words around hurting me,i cry often nowadays and have no one to share things with.but let me go through may be one day i will be able to live the life i want💪🏻♥️
When you look at her eyes it really shows that she has been through a lot but she is not broken. God blessed her with resilience. She is a strong woman. Probably the goomiest Ted talk I ever watched but one of the most impactful. Thank you for this video.
when she talks about how she losses her loved ones her voice is shaking from holding back tears. I admire her to be able to speak about it in open to us so from her story we will be able to get a bit of the strength ourselves to overcome uncomfortable feelings
Minha linda não me deram nada dessa forma nunca me deram nada que eu nunca você é uma mulher alguém me dá água para você você não conhece eu estou alguém que confessa alguém que comete crime comete um crime da água para alguém pessoas que mesua visão ou nasceu a sua sabedoria para mim eu nunca pedi nada para
Se se dá a algo para alguém dessa forma aí seria muito fácil alguém pegar o creme fácil de cometer o crime e jogar tudo e juízo comentando morando com pessoas
ou essas palavras se o juiz fosse juiz de verdade ela estaria preso mas o juiz juiz tá sempre corro que tô sendo sendo vítima dosaltura de um juiz tá fazendo a palhaçada e a******** junto com ela e eu tô sendo vítima alguém esperado em juízes que faça alguma coisa para eles comose tiver se estivesse mentindo ele se ele tinha feito algoela entra lá como uma criminosa e sair como vítima eu tô sendo vítima dos próprios juízos o que que é a letra do ar como uma criminosa e sai como o vídeo colocandoquando ela entra lá eu devia apresentar as provas não saindo fazendo comentário dessa estou sendo vítima dos próprios
Eu vou estar livre qualquer lugar do mundo dessa forma que os reaiseu vou estar sempre livre qualquer lugar do mundo para abrir o bloco porque se ele vai agir com ofensa um palavras criminosa eu sou eu sou direitoe quando eu entro no país em bloco diferente eu não estou sendo criminoso estou sendo vítima se conseguir se eles entraram se eu entrar e se ele recebe o dessa forma qualquer eles coloca tempo todo estou livre porque eu não só estou lhe sempree eu tô o tempo todo estou sendo a vítima deles e do juízo próprio juiz
She looks very calm and quiet but she is definitely a very strong woman. I could never get through those like her. I like her idea that we should not give away our power to others. i totally agree.
I love this talk. The way she talks, her tone of voice, the words she expresses were really impacting to the listeners (at least for me). She is blessed to have the voice like that, it's really soothing and trustable.
I felt the same thing 💔 loosing her mom at early age, being widow at 26, loosing her dad in law… how could she overcome these dooms she’s really strong 💪🏻
The most beautiful smiles happen when people who have gone through countless tragedies smile brightly. I have nothing but admiration for her. Lovely attitude towards life!
One of the most emotional Ted speech ever. Her story is a great lesson for each of us, a truly reminder that in life we shouldn't take anything for granted and we must celebrate every day
Hey, sorry to hear that...cant give any good advice since i know nothing about you. however, something that helped me a lot to understand more about myself and why i feel bad is watching/ reading Jordan Peterson. e.g. "stand straight with your shoulders back" = learn/show that you are somebody not anybody. people will tell you that you should focus on yourself and not others, which is extremly difficult to achieve, but it helps when you start recognizing yourself as somebody and articulate your own goals. sooner or later, what others do wont be so imoprtant anymore, but it takes time (like learning an instrument), be patient but persistant.... i wish you all the best
I know a woman I envied a lot because I found she was so good looking, better than I: now after having had diabetes through her life her situation got bad and last week she went to the hospital to have her leg cut under the left knee!!!! What a lesson to learn and not forget.
Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness!
What a beautifully tempered, strong, courageous woman.. You can hear in her voice how she was on the verge of crying, but she held strong, to be able to share her message through her experiences.. Doing so and summarizing beautifully and eloquently.. In my opinion, her statements about Facebook are absolutely true.. People post up their best "scenes" in life, never the "behind the scenes".. People compare and develop unhealthy ways of thinking and comparing, especially when things aren't going so well.. Unhealthy competition is created, then animosity, jealousy, resentment.. Dwelling and pondering.. It brings up the mistakes you have made in life, the circumstances which you had no control over, the actions of others who have affected your life.. Creating anxiety, depression, and the feeling of everything overwhelming.. To be able to let go of all that is absolutely crucial to keeping things in context and in perspective.. I'm definitely going to be looking for her book and look forward to reading it..
“My mother in law drives me crazy. You give away your power. Maybe she’s not the nicest person on earth, but it’s up to you how you respond to her. You have the power.” I’m going through this RIGHT NOW! This video was meant for me. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. Working on it.
I watched halfway through this video and her words really inspired me. I realized that it’s unhealthy how I’ haven’t talked to my boyfriend about how toxic our relationship has gotten lately, and it’s been so hard on me. So I paused the video and sent him a text and we finally talked about it, after almost a month of me overthinking this everyday. We broke up. And while that’s sad, it’s also liberating. Because now I can finally move on. Thank you so much for this video and for your words, they really helped me 🙏🙏 also sending big hugs to anyone that’s going through a rough time right now
Awesome! You saw the advice given and most importantly, you took action. That’s the first step and something a lot struggle with. I applaud you and wish you luck for your future!
Social media is toxic and makes you feel depressed especially in these pandemic times.People really need to realize this cuz this is gonna cost all of us a lot!
So true, i stopped using insta. Ppl post their perfect lives and i actually started envying a friend so much that i felt bad abt it..life is more peaceful without social media
I agree but I also disagree. Its ultimately again a choice. Yes indeed Instagram consumed way too much of my time and I did not so anything productive all day, but ultimately it was my own choice to keep scrolling watching reels. Yet the very same reels have helped me change my perception on life and helped to be grateful of things around me and helped to be more at peace. My life is not perfect. But nothing in nature is.
@@gaurigoyal3398 Take a journey inwards. Reduce negative thoughts to relax and reach a state of equanmity. . Its quite simple with a little determination. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Do the above practice daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
"The only person you should compare yourself to, is the person you were yesterday" - Amy Morin. This was a great video, her delivery wasn't brash and in your face, it was relatable and human. Thank you for this upload.
what if shes a manipulative and controlling narcissist that is emotionally abusing you and stealing money from you, should you still be giving her a big hug?
@@voguexperimental Everyone's mother is different. My mom doesn't take money from me but she does emotionally abuse me. I personally feel like she'll always see me like a failure...which is why the title of this video caught my attention. I want to be strong...but it's not been easy. Even though my mom has said hurtful things to me and makes me feel not good enough I still love her for at least being there for me and not just kicking me out. One time she fainted and I freaked out thinking I lost her forever. I want to be there for her till her time ends. The comment I put was a simple message to value the good that you have. I know I'll miss her presence when her time is done. I'm sorry if my comment offended you. It was not my intention to hurt anyone here. I don't know what would be the best answer for your question, but hopefully someone can provide a good answer for you here. Mothers can get on our nerves, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be shown some love 😔 maybe you can try telling your mother how she makes you feel and if she doesn't listen to you, you can try finding other ways. You don't need to stay hurt forever.
@@mabelidove6813 I love how you think. My mom died when i was 17yo. Everybody should appreciate what their mother does for them because being a mother isn't an easy thing. And as long your mother loves you and cares about you, you should show her respect, hug her, tell her you love her because those small things you do really make her feel good and makes her appreciate you more aswell. Those small things fixes alot of stuff... Death is so unexpected so take 10 minutes of your day to talk to your mom, tell her nice things or talk to her about what she likes to do, what her favourite color is, what was the funniest thing that have happened to her when she was your age... These small talks will mean alot when someone is gone. Because when someone is gone you can't ask them anything.
Just wonderful, I have been researching "subconscious power" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Giyoe Fonogan Builder - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my brother in law got amazing results with it.
This is heartbreaking 😢 I lost my dad and brother suddenly and turned to alcohol, for tears and years it was my crutch and it clouded all my grief, I grieved through alcohol and "friends did not help, I nearly ended my life at a few stages. I am in a good place now without it, we see things alot differently after these traumas. I wish you all long healthy life ❤
As clique as it sounds, everything we go through DOES make us who we are today. Her experiences with losing loved ones encouraged her to develop positive coping mechanisms. Now she’s helping others get through this tough thing called life. God always has a plan. No matter what season we are in (good or bad), we are always being prepared for something bigger. Her entire experience is the bigger picture.
@@rambo-ram-0 i aint religious at all but i do believe everything that happens wether good or very bad there’s always a reason. and at the moment you may think that there is no reason and the world is just against you or punishing you, but there will eventually come a day where you realize why what happend to you happend and that it’s for the best and that it is part of life and will help you become a better and stronger version of yourself.
@@rambo-ram-0 I don't think there's any point as to why that happened. Life is unfair but at the same time the kid has to make most of it.. Even if it's unfair. I don't believe in God either and life is surely unfair but we have to find a way somehow
Self pity is the worst it makes you weak, love yourself but dont magnify your misfortune, count your little blessings! Happiness starts from there. Always REMEMBER! GREAT DESTINY REQUIRES HARDSHIPS & OBSTACLES, THE MORE YOU SUFFER AND GET THROUGH THAT, YOU'LL BE THE BRAVEST AND STRONGEST! GOD BLESS YOU ALL💙
I lost my 3.5 year old daughter years ago of the flue, then in 2015 my wife of 25 years of aneurysm so I know your pain and really could use this....THANKS
There is no shortcut to being mentally and emotionally strong. No techniques. No meds. No counselling. The only way you can get mentally strong is to endure. Endure pain. Endure loss. Endure disappointment. Endure failure. The most important factor is TO BE WILLING to get through things. If that will is not there, NOTHING can help you. But when you are willing and have the patience to endure and come to the other side ( the side where you are getting over it ) you will realize it didn't kill you. Or break you. If you can see that and realize that, you will also learn that you can in fact deal with things and that is when you get to know you have been and can be strong. It isn't so bad. The brain really does fade away memories. How much do you remember of your college farewell ? Or your first date ? If you think about it, you will realize that you actually don't recall too much about it. And just like the good things, the bad things also fade. That moment of decision when we have to decide whether to hang in there or to give up is the most crucial. The choice we make at that point is what decides our path forward.
In the past eighteen months, my mother, father, and brother who was my best friend and only sibling, all passed away. My parents were in their 90’s, my brother early 70’s. I divorced an abusive narcissist in the midst of it all. They say what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. That isn't always true. It's how you face it and process it, and move forward. I should have a superhero cape by now. I have to, as I have two brilliant sons to care for in life. Interesting how videos like this show up at the right time.
3 destructive beliefs for mental health: 2:03 unhealthy beliefs about ourselves 2:46 unhealthy beliefs about others 3:33 unhealthy beliefs about the world counter those unhealthy beliefs with healthier ones: 10:11 go through uncomfortable emotions and move on 10:53 stop comparing yourself to others 11:24 accept that the world isn't fair and believe you can change it
This has been really helpful to me. I lost my mum when i was 19 and it gave me this idea that my dad would be somehow safe and the universe would not do anything to take him away from me. Well three years later he died of a heart attack without any warning. I was floored and never let myself get over it so as not to through the sadness again. I had a baby at 19 and my son became ill and was in and out of hospital until he was 7, heartbreaking to see (gladly hes fine now). All this impacted me in may ways, with anxiety issues and OCD. 3 months ago my partner of 24 years left me out the blue, no warning at aged 41, partly due to my anxiety. I have been suffering badly since. All the loss I never dealt with all at once. This moving talk had given me hope that I will become stronger and deal with all this loss. Thank you Amy for sharing your difficult life story.
"lost my mum when i was 19 and it gave me this idea that my dad would be somehow safe and the universe would not do anything to take him away from me." This sentence gave me chills. I had to deal with something similar. One takeaway from this TED talk is the thought that the universe does not owe us anything. Very depressing thought but very true
Topics of the video, thank me later. 1. Unhealthy believes about yourself. 2. Unhealthy believes about others. 3. Unhealthy believes about the World. How to train your brain: Replace unhealthy believes with good ones. First believe your changes and then actually do thr changes.
Excellent speech very good information I don't do do social media but I'm not sure why you started with that but the grief and the fact that even though you're a therapist going through it yourself is different. Something I would like to hear more about is when you cannot forgive yourself. And how to keep functioning it's very hard to function. And thank God you didn't say call 911 get help or call grief counselor because all they do is call the police and make things worse. Yes I could tell you're very heartfelt and genuine thank you
This Ted talk was so inspiring. My jaw kept on dropping when she talked about her mom and her husband. Then Steve’s dad getting terminal cancer. She is truly blessed and inspiring.
i can feel her choking up while talking about her mother. remember even experts and people who have been on this journey since forever still struggle with mental strength. don't beat yourself up, it takes time. keep fighting
i forgot when i first watched this video that really helped me conquer my grief and insecurities. i was a 16 year old girl when i lost my mom, and my dad works outside the country so i need to be motivated enough to survive. i’m 19 now, and i can say that i’m better and still striving to be better by eliminating my nad habits. i rewatched this coincidentally and remembered how this helped me. i couldn’t help but compare myself today to the person i was. i am now mentally strong!!! i wish that all of you who are carrying tragic baggages that hinder you from walking peacefully to your journey can soon lift it up with strength and confidence.
Until everybody jumps onto the next wagon nowadays makes it harder for those who got off way ahead of them makes me honestly stop acknowledging people because it’s a time where everybody saying there going to do better but to me really you all want act better just be yourself even if it’s not fair ok
Many people commenting on the speakers manner of presenting, it is quite literally her way of coping while speaking on such a difficult topic. I am the same when I do lived experience presentations about losing my youngest son to suicide, 2 days after his 22nd birthday. I tend to use my grief and anger to channel me through these presentations. And sometimes I come across as unaffected. I get her so well.
I have had ocd for about 4 years now, it’s mentally drained me the last 3 and a half years. But in the December of 2021 I decided I need to find a cure, a way out. I discovered this therapist on UA-cam that specializes in ocd and anxiety. He helped me threw my problems it all began with me really fighting against my thoughts, by agreeing with them. This might sound weird but it helped me. I felt stronger mentally, I kept watching him and I’m almost free of my ocd! I just have to keep fighting and it all started with me self reflecting, If I wanted the rest of my life to be like this. Keep fighting what your fighting don’t give up. It gets better eventually but don’t think that the world should feel sorry for you. You have to be strong so keep fighting!🙏🏾🤝❤️
Amy is so right - you shouldn't resent someone else's success. My grandfather used to say that envy is a friendship killer. Never think someone else leads a charmed life. You just never know.
I stopped comparing myself to someone else. I deleted my social media account, and that was a right decision. Now I found my own passion, and keep pursue that. I believe I'm a unique person and I happy with that.
@@glennromulus6625 no, it doesn't. Stop using social media doesn't mean I cut off my social life. I can go out and chat with my friends in person. It's more real than just texting.
This was such an eye opener. I was complaining about my problems just a few mins before this video. This helped gain so much perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge. Hope you're doing well :)
I found this video today shocked by that someone truly had similar experience of what I am experiencing now. My story short, last year, mum(58 yrs old) suddenly ill because of a stroke from brain aneurysm. A year later (now) when I finally just came out a little bit from the grief (she made it, through a full year and ongoing intense rehabilitation), 12 years--first love husband felt in love with someone who he never met in person within two months on internet, and decided to left me all the sudden. And I let him do that simply because 200% of loving him. I'm 32 years old. Two years ago, I wouldn't have a deep understanding of how important mental strength is, now I'm sitting here, feeling so much appreciate that someone like Amy Morin do exist, and she did everything right. I can do this too and willing to become a much stronger person. Bless you Amy.
I have been suffering for a year now. A bad relationship finally ended. I blamed myself for not being a better man. Now I read and study and work and constantly encourage ppl to find a starting point and keep moving. However I can't let go of the unhealthy thoughts. I think this lady is saying every second every hour and everyday, you have push back against life. I've learned suffering eventually will lead to you finding yourself. Thank u for posting this video. "WE" can do this.
This popped up randomly. My mom passed away unexpectedly when I was 22 1/2. Days before my 24th birthday and only after 6 months of marriage but 7+ years together I found out my husband was having an affair. He then continued and became mentally abusive I finally stood up for myself September 8th and he left once I told his truth. I’ve never “adulted” alone. I have no siblings and my family is 2 hours away. I’m really trying to be mentally strong though thank you
@@Shannonsense u wil be asrite I just came through tht phase but unfortunately my mom gave me so much support when had big break up after 7year relationship just belive ur self
Shannon Mowery, better to be alone than walking on tip toes every day with someone like that. You are stronger than you know! And you're proving it. 🍀🥀
I gave up using facebook long ago the moment I realized my fb feed was not productive for me and guess what I realized I have lot more strong personal traits than I ever had. Twitter is lot better than fb and makes more sense in general than posting updates of your life on fb.
I've haven't quit using fb but I have systems in place that keep my use to 10 mins a day at most. I tend to spend a lot of time on Quora on the other hand and I believe it's time spent productively because I learn from people who are knowledgeable and practice my writing skills. I also use instagram because I like taking photos. The key is to not lose yourself in other people's lives which are often their life highlights. It takes insane discipline. Kudos to those of you who have quit the platforms.
I think being mentally strong means being at peace with yourself, understand yourself, knowing your weaknesses and strengths, and as she said taming you bad mental habits and promoting good ones
I've lost the love of My life, the man of my dreams, my husband who seemed to be everything to me . I've been through a lot alone, despite having all people's support . Now I feel like I have nothing to lose. What makes me stronger is that i have to work harder to meet him afterlife.
Honestly I started resenting her when she described all she achieved by 23... then it went downhill from there and I felt like shit. Shows that we shouldn't envy but just be happy for the goodness that others have in their lives. That's a lot of tragedy she's experienced quite young and pushed through, quite a strong woman. Envy and self pity really are major walls that prevent us from moving forward.
I have this strange complex and have had it for awhile. I'm a 24 year old guy that has never been in a relationship and when I do see other people my age that are in relationships, engaged, or married, I automatically put them on a pedestal. Like they're better than me in every way. No more of this though 👍
Trust me, many of them envy you :) 100% sure. They see you and think "I wish I had ... like Eye of Horus", "I wish I was as ... as Eye of Horus", "I wish I did this and that with my life as Eye of Horus". It always works like this. We have many positive qualities, but we can't have all the possible awesomeness in our lives because that would be impossible. So we tend to think that someone who is slightly more awesome in just one aspect, that we're obsessed about at the time, is some kind of mysterious perfect being. While they're thinking the same thing about us.
I actually understand where you're coming from. I'm 23. No kids, and I'm not married. I'm not even dating,but I see everyone i graduated with has already started their lives with families and I feel like I'm on the slow train lol. So I know what you mean.
Whom so ever watching this video, I wish you health, wealth and lot of happiness to you from the bottom of my heart.
Same for you too❤️ thanks you
Thanks Vatal s:)
You're so nice, thank you and best wishes to you too 💝
Thank you! Much love and stay safe out there ❤💯🙌🏾
Thank you, likewise!🤗
I cant imagine how heartbreaking it must be to lose your mother and your husband at such a young age, what a strong and brave woman.
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing Amy, so much pain/hardships thrown your way 💔 Keep moving forward - you're an inspiration 🌟
I will pray for you!
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"no matter how much you've suffered, you aren't doomed to keep suffering"
that one really hit hard
I really needed this reminder today♥️
Suffering is optional. Pain cannot be avoided, but the decision to focus on painful things is a choice.
@@theresamcgallicher I'm guilty of this, pity for the poor orphan was v seductive. I catch myself wallowing every day. At beginning of talk she said, she was widowed & then lost her mother I immediately started competing with her story in my head.
Still I try like the Japanese say Fall 7 times Rise 8
@@KateBates22zabu The ability to focus on the positive aspects of life versus the negative is the most powerful skill that one can have, but it does take mind training. The default is to always go to the negative.
@Dante Toshiro64 It can end and pass before then. No need to wait for death.
Just to summarize some of the small steps she mentioned that will keep us mentally strong -
1. Practicing gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and express gratitude for what you have, rather than dwelling on what you lack.
2. Comparing yourself only to your past self: Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your personal growth and how you've improved compared to who you were yesterday.
3. Embrace uncomfortable emotions: Allow yourself to feel sad, angry, or scared, and then move on. This will help you gain confidence in your ability to handle discomfort.
4. Setting healthy boundaries: Establish limits with others to maintain a sense of control over your own life, without trying to control others or letting them control you.
5. Accepting life's inherent unfairness: Understand that life is not always fair, but this doesn't mean you're doomed to suffer. Focus on creating the life you want, despite the challenges you face.
6. Making small, positive changes: Start with one small change in your daily routine or habits that can improve your mental well-being, such as replacing a sugary drink with a healthier option or incorporating a few minutes of exercise into your day.
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I watched the entire video, but I appreciate the summary too.
Thank you 🥹🥰
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions thoughts and behaviors in the ways that set them up for success in life check out these things that mentally strong people don't do so that you too can become more mentally strong.
1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
Mentally strong people don't sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn't always easy or Fair.
2. They don't give away their power.
They don't allow others to control them and they don't give someone else power over them. They don't say things like "my boss make me feel bad" because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.
3. They don't shy away from change.
Mentally strong people don't try to avoid change. Instead they welcome positive change in are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.
4. They don't waste energy on things they can't control.
Did you hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams?! But Instead these people focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes the only thing that they control is their attitude.
5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone.
Mentally strong people recognize that they don't need to please everyone all the time. They are not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair but can handle other people being upset if they didn't make them happy.
6. They don't fear taken calculated risk.
They don't take reckless or a foolish risk but don't mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time waiting their risk and benefits before making a big decision and they are fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.
7. They don't dwell on the past.
Mentally strong people don't waste time and dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They aknowledge their past and can say what they've learned from it. However they don't constantly relieve bad experiences or fantasize about the Glory Days. Instead they live for the present and plan for the future.
8. They don't make the same mistakes over and over.
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result they don't keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead they move on and make better decisions in the future.
9. They don't resent other people's success.
Mentally strong people can't appreciate and celebrate people's success in life. They don't grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead they recognize that success comes with hard work and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.
10. They don't give up after the first failure.
Mentally strong people don't view failures as a reason to give up. Instead they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.
11. They don't fear alone time.
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don't fear silence. They aren't afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoyed their own company and aren't depend on other for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.
12. They don't feel the world owns them anything.
Mentally strong people don't feel entitled to things in life. They weren't born with a mentality that others will take care of them or that the word must give them something. Instead they look for opportunities based on their own merits.
13. They don't expect immediate results.
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground mentally strong people don't expect immediate results. Instead they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
Wow. This comment is underrated. Thank you so much dear💖
God bless you
Lol..a person person list
Did you write this?
@@Radianty_Ella no. Reposted. Sharing is caring no??!
Really trying to be mentally strong to beat depression and suicidal ideation. I must fight; I cannot give up. This helped a lot. Thanks.
Keep fighting. You're not alone! I hope you're alright. Stay strong, dear one! May your life be filled with happiness.. I hope you will find your way.
There are lot of people that you can go and speak to...like this nice woman...you will feel better once you put eveything out of your system...I really hope you will try...
I send you lot of ❤❤❤
This will be one of the most awesome things you'll do for yourself in your life... Mark my words!❤️
Don't give up, I wish you all good things for your life
I wish you all the best and happiness in your life♡ I love you keep fighting for yourself ♡♡♡
You can literally feel the grief in her voice. She's such a strong person
yeah.. true..we all need to move on mentally up the ladder no matter whats happen
Mahesh Javvadi true. Perspective is everything!
I heard it too... I felt it. Empaths can literally feel the words
Hi
@@dishnaranasinghe4280 yes indeed agree wid you
Nobody can provide better therapy than those who have gone for similar or worse experiences, and live to talk about it. Thank you for this Talk.
I love u
Every person goes through worst experience in life. It is different from person to person and varies People can have one or multiple bad experience to them.
When i said worse experience. I think about life put u down to the ground where u think u cannot seem to go back up. That is a way of life testing us if we can make it back to the path again.
Some people fail - those are the people who die than to live , commit the act of dying and succeeded and some people survive and found their way back in life.
Ok
Yeah it feels lot to hear it from those kind of people
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"The only person I should compare myself to is the person I was yesterday." A WORD!
Reminds me of Lee
Absolutely. I love that!!! True
Amara, Avoid comparing yourself with anybody or anything. Practical steps are needed to reprogramme your mind. Reduce negative thoughts to relax. Its quite simple with a little determination. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Do the above practice daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
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@; and that's ok too :)
Ted talks are like a free therapy session for me.
Thank you 🌼
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For me too....
Yes! For me too. They give me motivation.
There you go again. You are the same who commented on another video that you didn't have a proper family, if I recall correctly. Looks like we are on same Ted talk marathon.
@@KrishanBorwal Ted talks really help, don't they? It has been a month since my marathon and I feel a lot better. They give me new insights to go on with life a bit longer. I am glad that so many of us find this helpful.
u can hear her pain in her voice but still a strong woman respect.
I noticed that too, I was expecting her to shed a tear or cry but she didn't. She's a very strong person.
@@Bibimbapski yup.
made me cry
I can feel it indeed respect ❤️
I agree. She's my mom.
Except that you're your own person, and other people are seperate from you,the only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday❣️
The best line.
Accept*
The only person you should compare yourself to is God, the Lord Jesus Christ. He is the only one worthy of our worship and the only one worthy of all the glory. Amen!
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Run to Jesus!
Trust in Him alone!
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If you have defected from God then read these Scriptures: (Lost Sheep, Luke 15:1-7 - Lost Coin, 15:8-10 - Lost Son, 15:11-32 - Rich Man and Lazarus, 16:19-31) Jesus is calling you back home, read His word, believe and repent. Saved by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone!
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The world is racing toward "AMAGEDDON" !!! And people need to get right with the Lord!
If you have not read the books of (Daniel chapters 7-12), (Ezekiel chapters 37-39) (Matthew chapters 24:1-51 + 25:1-30), (1 Thessalonians chapters 1-5), (2 Thessalonians chapters1-3) and (Revelation chapters 6-19), now would be a good time. They will explain a lot about what is going on right now!
These books will cover the "Wars" about to come, the catching up / the blessed hope, World judgement, hence the Tribulation and the Great Tribulation! These books will also be the most ominous and scary for the unbelievers and the most exciting and uplifting for those who believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior!...
It is my hope and prayer that people would repent and believe on the Lord Jesus Christ before all these things take place, because it is going to be very, very scary if you do not and you decide to wait and see what happens.
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May the Lord encourage you to seek the truth, in Jesus' name. Amen and Amen.
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All glory be to God. Amen!
She's been through a lot. I hear the grief in her voice. God give you the peace of mind that passes all understanding..
Yeah.
And her eyes have alot more to say...💔💔
God bless her
There is no god!
From better or worst how could I think about that while why not me huh
@@JustAWatcher73 Right!!!
I just lost my husband a month ago he was only 26...I'm a 23 year old widow , I don't even know how I got to this video...You are a strong woman we have the same story. I have a hope
sorry for your loss, i hope you're doing fine :s
problem comes in life but u have to keep going
KARTIK SINGH NEGI yes I keep going, I read a lot and whenever I feel numb I watch this video to feel better. Thank you
aya khalifa i feel a lot better now, thank you
Sending you love from NC. Grieve however you need to. 💜
3 ways to develope a strong mental mindset:
- remove unhealthy habits
- stop jealousy on others’ success
- accept that life is unfair
Honestly I really like it so much your words are too strong
Jealousy is a human and natural emotion. We can’t stop/control emotions from coming and going. It’s impossible unless you have apathy. Changing behavior is a better method.
"The only person you should compare yourself to is the person that you were yesterday."
Wow...tat makes lot of sense....and perfect
And the person you could be tomorrow
~Asian kid
no of course not your past does not define who you are or who you were if you made mistakes is fine and I believe that comparing yourself like that is not healthy
So true and right.
someone posted a Kendrick's Lamar quote " I used to think it was me against the world when really it's me vs me"... so true!
“THE ONLY PERSON YOU SHOULD COMPARE YOURSELF TO IS THE PERSON YOU WERE YESTERDAY”
First Last Gold.
The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday
First and last.........steal my words☺☺☺☺☺
I like this statement, It's ultra profound.
First Last YESSS
She is so strong...I struggle with petty things every day. Just the fact that she's experienced so much devastating loss and can still stand up is a triumph of human spirit. ❤️
Ikr, I try to control little things in my life.
That's just human psyche being human psyche. Nothing to do with being strong or not mentally. Other people tolerate losses better than others. It really just depends on how badly that particular psyche takes those things. It is non-voluntary action of a mind. Some are better in taking personal losses than others. No free will baby, not in any way. It is an illusion.
You are pretty :)
honestly...We all struggle with petty things :D The key is to accept how you feel, take a deep breath and then move on. Haha the number of times a friend's petty remarks have brought me down is amazing lol! but I accept how he made me feel, take a deep breath and move on. Everyone experiences tough situations differently, the important thing is not to be hard on yourself for feeling how you feel. When you've accepted your feelings, it is no longer a huge, psychological wrestler and you are free to allow your brain to work out solutions.
Maddy Harvey when you go through so much loss like her.you get molded into a stronger person.
My God, I started sobbing hearing her story.
Then I took a breath, and remembered I’m human, I’m PMSing, and I have so much to be grateful for.
God bless this woman.
She only started smiling when she talked about how much she helped her client, she's a good person hope she continues finding good things in her life.
Her personal story - unbelievable.
Her presentation style - very effective.
Her message - tremendously important.
Anthony Gagliano Also have you seen what shes wearing? She looks like a million bucks :-)
Summary: get rid of bad mental habits ---->
1. Self pity (exaggerating problems)
2. Victim mentality (thinking that ppl/situations have the power to hurt you, instead of thinking how you can choose to respond)
3. Expecting that life is fair (that if you work hard, you'll find success)
Developing mental strength is just like developing physical strength. Cultivate good mental habits (healthy food) and get rid of bad ones (junk food). Practice daily to train your brain (gym). Start small. Keep going.
Nafisa Rahman thank you
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Thanks for this beautiful message
Nafisa Rahma
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There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
700 likes in 4 days about some random book? Ok pal
a very sad story but really impressive, her voice sounds like crying inside, but she chooses to shine after the storm
her book really was a turning point in my life thank you Amy
Hi, thought she was great to listen to. What's her book called? thank you :)
Nancy Hambly it's called
13 things mentally strong people don't do, very good one. i read it in epub format you can google it
omg, i thought the same thing. you can hear her sadness but her strength to carry on. so inspiring.
+Luluș Ione well I would look at you how emotional you could get if your relatives keep dying !!!
i just cant understand where these ppl get there strength..amazing
"Dont compare yourself to others
Just Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday" 10:55
That Quote hit me
Write it down somewhere u can see it everyday
@@talkingtoawall5123 Thx i wrote it down on my calender in my room.
@@daftking1115 i wasnt begging just thought id forget 🤔
Do not compare yourself at all...just accept yourself as you are say thank you to mother nature to make you whatever you feel to be like..just go ahead in your life with all your energy....
That was one of the biggest things I took from this too
" Don't compare yourself to others. You have to know that you are your own person and other people are separate from you " Loved that phase
I just wanted to come here almost 5 years later to say: THANK YOU, AMY!!!! I watched many talks, read tons of books and listened to many podcasts, but this particular speech saved me and cured my addiction! Your story and perspective touched my soul ❤❤ Thank you
How did you do it? Did you make other better habits instead?
@@ebrelus7687 hey, sorry to reply just now… Haven’t seen it before, but due the optimistic reply from today I at least got the chance to see it.
Honestly, there was something about what she said that inspired me to change. In a way: “Stop throwing a pity party”, “Life isn’t fair and no one owes you anything”, “You are the main character of your story and you can make that story whatever you want it to be about”. I think she had it tough and to see how everything worked out for her at the end (to some extent) gave me the practical perspective of that when one door closes, another opens. I started journaling with check list with small daily tasks, read books and changed small everyday habits - which lead to me having a very different daily life than before.
P.s. would strongly recommend “Reinventing your life” by Jeffrey Young
@@ebrelus7687 did you include, as I did the hyper link of your name in your request as to the “how?”
Are they supposed to be physic? Honest questions….
@@user-hq5ps7dx7d this is exactly what she was referring too… unhealthy beliefs about others, #2 . Sounds like you are not conscious of your own unhealthy thoughts towards others. Sad, but true.
“Accept the fact that life is not fair. It can be liberating.” True.
But why so man 😭😭😭😭
ok ????
Actually some people think the opposite. Life is fair because doesn’t discriminate anything could happen to anybody. It is other way to think about it.
@@audrechan9313 ok cool
Never!
Make it fair!
You may not give a damn because you hide your laziness or awful weakness, but what about the others who suffer?
By deleting facebook and instagram my life changed 180 degrees. I started focusing more on my life not caring about how beautiful the life of others is. Also setting a plan for my day and using the time I spend surfing the internet carefully made me a much happier person.
The phrase that is motivating me to achieve something new everyday is "The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday''.
I have been searching for a solution against all the depressions that I'm having and this video was and is a life-savor for me.
Your right .... Facebook can instigate people's negativity about how their lives are not in line with all the happy people ...... it's a narcissist playground....and damages people belief on how their lives should be ...... I wonder how many people were satisfied with their lives before being subjected to others ? ... life before Facebook...... take me back!
mine too
still trying but I really have been feeling much better after Instagram-free life. Now trying to slowly cut back on facebook
Mahmoud Ahmed delete youtube and it will change to 270 degrees
Mahmoud Ahmed I’m on it!
To whoever needs to hear this, just like me, I hope we'll slowly overcome the unwanted feelings we are both going through! ✨
Me too!!!🙏🏻
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how are you feeling now
I hope so, I'm going to try
nice
What i took from this video:
give gratitude, counter unhealthy beliefs, exercise good mental habits, stop comparing yourself to other people. only person you should compare yourself is to the person you were yesterday, accept that life isn't fair, set goals, you can change the outcome of your world, what's one small step you can take today to change your bad mental habits right here right now.
Wonderful talk.
“Take your time healing, as long as you want. Nobody else knows what you’ve been through. How could they know how long it will take to heal you?” - Abertoli
I really needed to hear that
AMEN🙏🏻,you are so correct!
Gòod observation. But a time will come when you will ask your self, " Am i not dwelling on this for too long ?" At that point it is time to move on with your life.
Thanks so much for writing this. Best quote ever
thank you, really needed this
Listening to her story made think "I've red this story before" then I realized... She's the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. One of my fave books!!!
Thank u am going to look for the book
Same! I was like this lady ripped her off! Lol love this book
@@estheronojapeter5375 me too
Where to buy that book tho?
@@mochimeng2637 amazon
as a 17 year old who always envy people with understanding parents,caring people,independent thoughts i always spent my days feeling sorry for being born in a family which suppress my thoughts , for having people who hate me around, i have become really weak in this lockdown with past thoughts and people’s words around hurting me,i cry often nowadays and have no one to share things with.but let me go through may be one day i will be able to live the life i want💪🏻♥️
It's exactly the same with me. You're not alone.
You're not alone. Guys, I believe in you. May your life be filled with happiness.. I really hope you will find your peace one day
@@lucentyr thank you so much ❤this comment made me happy
@@zachmustachio340 everything will be healed soon❤
I can relate to your comments. I hope you are doing better ❤❤
When you look at her eyes it really shows that she has been through a lot but she is not broken.
God blessed her with resilience. She is a strong woman.
Probably the goomiest Ted talk I ever watched but one of the most impactful.
Thank you for this video.
I can't imagine how much she has suffered through her life
when she talks about how she losses her loved ones her voice is shaking from holding back tears. I admire her to be able to speak about it in open to us so from her story we will be able to get a bit of the strength ourselves to overcome uncomfortable feelings
“I always thought it was me vs. the world until I found it was me vs. me”
Kendrick Lamar
Minha linda não me deram nada dessa forma nunca me deram nada que eu nunca você é uma mulher alguém me dá água para você você não conhece eu estou alguém que confessa alguém que comete crime comete um crime da água para alguém pessoas que mesua visão ou nasceu a sua sabedoria para mim eu nunca pedi nada para
Se se dá a algo para alguém dessa forma aí seria muito fácil alguém pegar o creme fácil de cometer o crime e jogar tudo e juízo comentando morando com pessoas
Esmola é ela que levanta a saia e oferece para os outros nos vídeos ela é as mola que ganhar dinheiro levantando a saia
ou essas palavras se o juiz fosse juiz de verdade ela estaria preso mas o juiz juiz tá sempre corro que tô sendo sendo vítima dosaltura de um juiz tá fazendo a palhaçada e a******** junto com ela e eu tô sendo vítima alguém esperado em juízes que faça alguma coisa para eles comose tiver se estivesse mentindo ele se ele tinha feito algoela entra lá como uma criminosa e sair como vítima eu tô sendo vítima dos próprios juízos o que que é a letra do ar como uma criminosa e sai como o vídeo colocandoquando ela entra lá eu devia apresentar as provas não saindo fazendo comentário dessa estou sendo vítima dos próprios
Eu vou estar livre qualquer lugar do mundo dessa forma que os reaiseu vou estar sempre livre qualquer lugar do mundo para abrir o bloco porque se ele vai agir com ofensa um palavras criminosa eu sou eu sou direitoe quando eu entro no país em bloco diferente eu não estou sendo criminoso estou sendo vítima se conseguir se eles entraram se eu entrar e se ele recebe o dessa forma qualquer eles coloca tempo todo estou livre porque eu não só estou lhe sempree eu tô o tempo todo estou sendo a vítima deles e do juízo próprio juiz
She is so brave, just talking about this whole without collapsing in tear. There is always hope in life no matter what we are going through
Yeah. If you want more proof, read Victor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning.
"Comparison is the thief of joy" -Theodore Roosevelt
Isabel McNeill quote I live by
Wow. Thanks. 👍
Yeah it's true.
Very true!
@@karaokay5444. ?
"Becoming strong doesn’t start in the gym. It starts in your head"
How do I become stronger in my head ):
So true
Why not go to gym ? You can becoming strong both. Dont make excused
@@pshmps1836 the meaning is that strength comes from your mind, not your muscles. But yes, do still go to the gym haha
@@oatmealgains2617 learn (ofcourse know who you're learning from)
"The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday". Mind - > blown!
right.....words cant even describe how i felt after that
Brandon Kain #\26
Hello friend
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Prolly one of the most important things anyone has ever told me
"the only person you should compare yourself with is the person you were yesterday"
👍
stunning and eye-opener
What if I prefer the person I was when I was 14, when nothing mattered?
its your personal demand. i don't judge you.
Ya but then the quote is fruitless in that you cannot really compare yourself to a version of yourself under a completely different environment.
She looks very calm and quiet but she is definitely a very strong woman. I could never get through those like her. I like her idea that we should not give away our power to others. i totally agree.
yes indeed
I love this talk. The way she talks, her tone of voice, the words she expresses were really impacting to the listeners (at least for me). She is blessed to have the voice like that, it's really soothing and trustable.
I feel small to even think of my "troubles" when listening to this amazingly brave lady.... wish her the best of the world has to offer....
I felt the same thing 💔 loosing her mom at early age, being widow at 26, loosing her dad in law… how could she overcome these dooms she’s really strong 💪🏻
samee
The most beautiful smiles happen when people who have gone through countless tragedies smile brightly. I have nothing but admiration for her. Lovely attitude towards life!
One of the most emotional Ted speech ever. Her story is a great lesson for each of us, a truly reminder that in life we shouldn't take anything for granted and we must celebrate every day
Mariama Diaby AMEN!!!
"Why do my friends have it better?"
That line hit me. So bad. I am crying as I recount everything. Its... its horrible. This video hit me really hard.
Hey, sorry to hear that...cant give any good advice since i know nothing about you. however, something that helped me a lot to understand more about myself and why i feel bad is watching/ reading Jordan Peterson. e.g. "stand straight with your shoulders back" = learn/show that you are somebody not anybody. people will tell you that you should focus on yourself and not others, which is extremly difficult to achieve, but it helps when you start recognizing yourself as somebody and articulate your own goals. sooner or later, what others do wont be so imoprtant anymore, but it takes time (like learning an instrument), be patient but persistant.... i wish you all the best
yep that was me I used to envy happy people until I started changing my thought process and figured out how to make myself happy
I know a woman I envied a lot because I found she was so good looking, better than I: now after having had diabetes through her life her situation got bad and last week she went to the hospital to have her leg cut under the left knee!!!!
What a lesson to learn and not forget.
Hope your OK x
Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness!
Thank you for those very powerful words! I can't believe they almost moved me to tears; they are so rare to hear.
What a beautifully tempered, strong, courageous woman.. You can hear in her voice how she was on the verge of crying, but she held strong, to be able to share her message through her experiences.. Doing so and summarizing beautifully and eloquently..
In my opinion, her statements about Facebook are absolutely true.. People post up their best "scenes" in life, never the "behind the scenes".. People compare and develop unhealthy ways of thinking and comparing, especially when things aren't going so well.. Unhealthy competition is created, then animosity, jealousy, resentment.. Dwelling and pondering.. It brings up the mistakes you have made in life, the circumstances which you had no control over, the actions of others who have affected your life.. Creating anxiety, depression, and the feeling of everything overwhelming.. To be able to let go of all that is absolutely crucial to keeping things in context and in perspective..
I'm definitely going to be looking for her book and look forward to reading it..
TubeDeviant I
Exactly.. True... God bless her.....
TubeDeviant "verge of crying" - I wouldn't call that "strong"...
Jason MMA crying is not a sign of weakness
Alice Potter It is.
procrastination by watching ted videos are holding me back from filling my destiny in the universe.
Me too, bro... I hope they have a Ted talk on this issue
These videos are knowledge that can be used later on.
me too - can you do ted talk on that pls
Procrastination by watching ted videos is holding me back too. But it's a lame excuse. :-)
i don`t think so , watching whatever videos are , is part of your destiny , for learn and upgrade yourself and be better :D
“My mother in law drives me crazy. You give away your power. Maybe she’s not the nicest person on earth, but it’s up to you how you respond to her. You have the power.”
I’m going through this RIGHT NOW! This video was meant for me. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. Working on it.
Yep
@@LaurynDonofrio nice line
@@LaurynDonofrio Now THATs profound!!
Me too 😭 this hit me hard...
me three :( this line is so incredible
I watched halfway through this video and her words really inspired me. I realized that it’s unhealthy how I’ haven’t talked to my boyfriend about how toxic our relationship has gotten lately, and it’s been so hard on me. So I paused the video and sent him a text and we finally talked about it, after almost a month of me overthinking this everyday. We broke up. And while that’s sad, it’s also liberating. Because now I can finally move on. Thank you so much for this video and for your words, they really helped me 🙏🙏 also sending big hugs to anyone that’s going through a rough time right now
i'm proud of you!
Awesome! You saw the advice given and most importantly, you took action. That’s the first step and something a lot struggle with. I applaud you and wish you luck for your future!
What was the reason?
Social media is toxic and makes you feel depressed especially in these pandemic times.People really need to realize this cuz this is gonna cost all of us a lot!
So true, i stopped using insta. Ppl post their perfect lives and i actually started envying a friend so much that i felt bad abt it..life is more peaceful without social media
I agree but I also disagree. Its ultimately again a choice. Yes indeed Instagram consumed way too much of my time and I did not so anything productive all day, but ultimately it was my own choice to keep scrolling watching reels. Yet the very same reels have helped me change my perception on life and helped to be grateful of things around me and helped to be more at peace. My life is not perfect. But nothing in nature is.
@@bhuvaneshwarij1326 yes, it is but if we learn how to use them in a appropriate way thn we would be in a safer side of mental state.
@@gaurigoyal3398 Take a journey inwards. Reduce negative thoughts to relax and reach a state of equanmity. . Its quite simple with a little determination. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Do the above practice daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
true
"The only person you should compare yourself to, is the person you were yesterday" - Amy Morin. This was a great video, her delivery wasn't brash and in your face, it was relatable and human. Thank you for this upload.
For those who have their mother still alive, go give them a big hug right after this video. If she's far, call her and tell her you love her 💖
what if shes a manipulative and controlling narcissist that is emotionally abusing you and stealing money from you, should you still be giving her a big hug?
@@voguexperimental Everyone's mother is different. My mom doesn't take money from me but she does emotionally abuse me. I personally feel like she'll always see me like a failure...which is why the title of this video caught my attention. I want to be strong...but it's not been easy. Even though my mom has said hurtful things to me and makes me feel not good enough I still love her for at least being there for me and not just kicking me out. One time she fainted and I freaked out thinking I lost her forever. I want to be there for her till her time ends.
The comment I put was a simple message to value the good that you have. I know I'll miss her presence when her time is done. I'm sorry if my comment offended you. It was not my intention to hurt anyone here. I don't know what would be the best answer for your question, but hopefully someone can provide a good answer for you here. Mothers can get on our nerves, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be shown some love 😔 maybe you can try telling your mother how she makes you feel and if she doesn't listen to you, you can try finding other ways. You don't need to stay hurt forever.
I will need to call my mom and tell her that I love her 😍💜🙏🏼
@@mabelidove6813 I love how you think. My mom died when i was 17yo. Everybody should appreciate what their mother does for them because being a mother isn't an easy thing. And as long your mother loves you and cares about you, you should show her respect, hug her, tell her you love her because those small things you do really make her feel good and makes her appreciate you more aswell. Those small things fixes alot of stuff... Death is so unexpected so take 10 minutes of your day to talk to your mom, tell her nice things or talk to her about what she likes to do, what her favourite color is, what was the funniest thing that have happened to her when she was your age... These small talks will mean alot when someone is gone. Because when someone is gone you can't ask them anything.
Just wonderful, I have been researching "subconscious power" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Giyoe Fonogan Builder - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my brother in law got amazing results with it.
This is heartbreaking 😢 I lost my dad and brother suddenly and turned to alcohol, for tears and years it was my crutch and it clouded all my grief, I grieved through alcohol and "friends did not help, I nearly ended my life at a few stages. I am in a good place now without it, we see things alot differently after these traumas. I wish you all long healthy life ❤
Thank you angel for this light. You are so strong and beautiful. Peace and love to you.
As clique as it sounds, everything we go through DOES make us who we are today. Her experiences with losing loved ones encouraged her to develop positive coping mechanisms. Now she’s helping others get through this tough thing called life. God always has a plan. No matter what season we are in (good or bad), we are always being prepared for something bigger. Her entire experience is the bigger picture.
Spoken like a true women of TMH. May He continue to bless you, Amen!
Ok so explain me what was gods plan when a children gets cancer and dies at the age of 5 . What was the point ?
@@rambo-ram-0 i aint religious at all but i do believe everything that happens wether good or very bad there’s always a reason. and at the moment you may think that there is no reason and the world is just against you or punishing you, but there will eventually come a day where you realize why what happend to you happend and that it’s for the best and that it is part of life and will help you become a better and stronger version of yourself.
@@rambo-ram-0 you heard from the video too that life is not fair. World is not a dream world with everything you want and it's not equal to everyone.
@@rambo-ram-0 I don't think there's any point as to why that happened. Life is unfair but at the same time the kid has to make most of it.. Even if it's unfair. I don't believe in God either and life is surely unfair but we have to find a way somehow
That was. hands down. my favorite Tedx Talks ever! This should be a mandatory lesson before graduating high school.
I am looking forward to enjoying this then.
It was interesting. Food for thought.
really? glad i find this then, i am going to college in a few weeks lol
like the educational system would want that lool
Pabsgc Beats the elite wants slaves a society full of mentally strong free thinkers is their worst nightmare
Such a painful talk, I never heard it before. She is literally crying inside during talk. Brave woman.
Self pity is the worst it makes you weak, love yourself but dont magnify your misfortune, count your little blessings! Happiness starts from there. Always REMEMBER! GREAT DESTINY REQUIRES HARDSHIPS & OBSTACLES, THE MORE YOU SUFFER AND GET THROUGH THAT, YOU'LL BE THE BRAVEST AND STRONGEST! GOD BLESS YOU ALL💙
so perfectly said. Self pity is really the worst thing to have. I think it even hurt you physically,I had it and I'd literary feel pain in my heart.
You have Obviously Never suffered from Major Depressive Disorder
Yes, perfect.
How can u love ur self when everyone hates u tho
@@arjminder433 I’m sure there are plenty of people that love you :)
I lost my 3.5 year old daughter years ago of the flue, then in 2015 my wife of 25 years of aneurysm so I know your pain and really could use this....THANKS
So sorry for your losses. I hope you found a way to continue being strong
I am so sorry
I’m sorry for your losses
sorry for your lost.
Sorry for you....
There is no shortcut to being mentally and emotionally strong. No techniques. No meds. No counselling.
The only way you can get mentally strong is to endure. Endure pain. Endure loss. Endure disappointment. Endure failure.
The most important factor is TO BE WILLING to get through things. If that will is not there, NOTHING can help you.
But when you are willing and have the patience to endure and come to the other side ( the side where you are getting over it ) you will realize it didn't kill you. Or break you. If you can see that and realize that, you will also learn that you can in fact deal with things and that is when you get to know you have been and can be strong. It isn't so bad.
The brain really does fade away memories. How much do you remember of your college farewell ? Or your first date ? If you think about it, you will realize that you actually don't recall too much about it. And just like the good things, the bad things also fade.
That moment of decision when we have to decide whether to hang in there or to give up is the most crucial. The choice we make at that point is what decides our path forward.
this is amazing...thank you
YEP if i hear some one talking about BANK DEBT OR PROBLEMS i now take no notice,,,stick with winners,,
Saumya Jain, I most definitely agree and resonate with you.
In the past eighteen months, my mother, father, and brother who was my best friend and only sibling, all passed away. My parents were in their 90’s, my brother early 70’s. I divorced an abusive narcissist in the midst of it all. They say what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. That isn't always true. It's how you face it and process it, and move forward. I should have a superhero cape by now. I have to, as I have two brilliant sons to care for in life. Interesting how videos like this show up at the right time.
I hope you are well! You are so strong. I wish the best for u and your sons
3 destructive beliefs for mental health:
2:03 unhealthy beliefs about ourselves
2:46 unhealthy beliefs about others
3:33 unhealthy beliefs about the world
counter those unhealthy beliefs with healthier ones:
10:11 go through uncomfortable emotions and move on
10:53 stop comparing yourself to others
11:24 accept that the world isn't fair and believe you can change it
Wow so true.
"The only person you should compare yourself to is the person that you were yesterday." Wonderfully said. Thank you for the kind reminder.
This has been really helpful to me. I lost my mum when i was 19 and it gave me this idea that my dad would be somehow safe and the universe would not do anything to take him away from me. Well three years later he died of a heart attack without any warning. I was floored and never let myself get over it so as not to through the sadness again. I had a baby at 19 and my son became ill and was in and out of hospital until he was 7, heartbreaking to see (gladly hes fine now). All this impacted me in may ways, with anxiety issues and OCD. 3 months ago my partner of 24 years left me out the blue, no warning at aged 41, partly due to my anxiety. I have been suffering badly since. All the loss I never dealt with all at once. This moving talk had given me hope that I will become stronger and deal with all this loss. Thank you Amy for sharing your difficult life story.
You can do it!!! I believe in you :)
Be strong, you can kick all your problems away!
becky0710 sending you all the positivity you can accept x
"lost my mum when i was 19 and it gave me this idea that my dad would be somehow safe and the universe would not do anything to take him away from me." This sentence gave me chills. I had to deal with something similar. One takeaway from this TED talk is the thought that the universe does not owe us anything. Very depressing thought but very true
You got it girl!! You are very strong! !
I believe in you and so should you
'People don't really value things until they've lost them', watching this reminded me of that. Taking for granted is a mistake anyone can easily make.
Topics of the video, thank me later.
1. Unhealthy believes about yourself.
2. Unhealthy believes about others.
3. Unhealthy believes about the World.
How to train your brain:
Replace unhealthy believes with good ones.
First believe your changes and then actually do thr changes.
Thank you!
good summary!
Excellent speech very good information I don't do do social media but I'm not sure why you started with that but the grief and the fact that even though you're a therapist going through it yourself is different. Something I would like to hear more about is when you cannot forgive yourself. And how to keep functioning it's very hard to function. And thank God you didn't say call 911 get help or call grief counselor because all they do is call the police and make things worse. Yes I could tell you're very heartfelt and genuine thank you
Good, go on incel..........
Thank you
This Ted talk was so inspiring. My jaw kept on dropping when she talked about her mom and her husband. Then Steve’s dad getting terminal cancer. She is truly blessed and inspiring.
THE ONLY PERSON YOU SHOULD COMPARE YOURSELF TO IS THE PERSON YOU WERE YESTERDAY
Amazing idea. Thanks.
Stolen lol copy and paste
I just heard that and was very impressed
@@martinanderko9893 it was my favorite quote from this video
@@eljota1633 stolen? I guess. I’m quoting her
i can feel her choking up while talking about her mother. remember even experts and people who have been on this journey since forever still struggle with mental strength. don't beat yourself up, it takes time. keep fighting
"The only way to get through uncomfortable emotions is to get through them."
every 60 seconds a minute passes
I read this comment as she said in the video
The only way out is through...
I cried three times during this talk. Best wishes to her, excellent talk.
Parth Patel love you sooooomuch
Parth Patel my love and baby
Parth Patel happy boy
Parth Patel not to be negative, but you obviously need to apply some of her advice..
Same.
She's so strong to talk about her life in front of every one
Thank you!
i forgot when i first watched this video that really helped me conquer my grief and insecurities. i was a 16 year old girl when i lost my mom, and my dad works outside the country so i need to be motivated enough to survive. i’m 19 now, and i can say that i’m better and still striving to be better by eliminating my nad habits. i rewatched this coincidentally and remembered how this helped me. i couldn’t help but compare myself today to the person i was. i am now mentally strong!!! i wish that all of you who are carrying tragic baggages that hinder you from walking peacefully to your journey can soon lift it up with strength and confidence.
That's nice dear
Beautiful words. Thankyou
Craving for outside love & attention wastes your time. Crave 4 growth in your inner self, crave for knowledge & purpose instead.
Well said
I learned that today, and to walk in my purpose. Doing anything else just makes you depressed.
That's so true.
Until everybody jumps onto the next wagon nowadays makes it harder for those who got off way ahead of them makes me honestly stop acknowledging people because it’s a time where everybody saying there going to do better but to me really you all want act better just be yourself even if it’s not fair ok
So true! I had to find this out the hard way :(
Many people commenting on the speakers manner of presenting, it is quite literally her way of coping while speaking on such a difficult topic. I am the same when I do lived experience presentations about losing my youngest son to suicide, 2 days after his 22nd birthday.
I tend to use my grief and anger to channel me through these presentations. And sometimes I come across as unaffected.
I get her so well.
Oh so sorry for your loss. May God see you through. We all know no pain can be compared to losing loved ones. God is in control
h3llnite ❤️
Hugs
Hope you’re healing well
Ryan Ong adapting is a better way to describe it. This wound never heals. We learn to live around it. Thank you
I have had ocd for about 4 years now, it’s mentally drained me the last 3 and a half years. But in the December of 2021 I decided I need to find a cure, a way out. I discovered this therapist on UA-cam that specializes in ocd and anxiety. He helped me threw my problems it all began with me really fighting against my thoughts, by agreeing with them. This might sound weird but it helped me. I felt stronger mentally, I kept watching him and I’m almost free of my ocd! I just have to keep fighting and it all started with me self reflecting, If I wanted the rest of my life to be like this. Keep fighting what your fighting don’t give up. It gets better eventually but don’t think that the world should feel sorry for you. You have to be strong so keep fighting!🙏🏾🤝❤️
hello i just wanted to ask what is the therapist on youtube called
Amy is so right - you shouldn't resent someone else's success. My grandfather used to say that envy is a friendship killer. Never think someone else leads a charmed life. You just never know.
Knowing it and doing it are two different things
It's all practice. Like anything else
I think thats her point...
What I learned is that being wise is learning from the mistakes i have made. Being intelligent is knowing it all. I'd rather be wise!
I stopped comparing myself to someone else. I deleted my social media account, and that was a right decision. Now I found my own passion, and keep pursue that. I believe I'm a unique person and I happy with that.
by deleting your social media does it mean you cut off your social life?
@@glennromulus6625 no, it doesn't. Stop using social media doesn't mean I cut off my social life. I can go out and chat with my friends in person. It's more real than just texting.
Same here, social one that making sick of mental health, Im so happy deleted for 1 year and would never ever used it any more.
Thankyou god bless
@@12-minhhue59 how u manage your inner voice after delete social media
This was such an eye opener. I was complaining about my problems just a few mins before this video. This helped gain so much perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge. Hope you're doing well :)
Her book "13 things mentally strong people don't do" is hands down my favorite book ever. So motivational
"You are not doomed to keep suffering." I needed to hear that so badly. Thanks Amy :')
Hello friend how are you doing
I found this video today shocked by that someone truly had similar experience of what I am experiencing now. My story short, last year, mum(58 yrs old) suddenly ill because of a stroke from brain aneurysm. A year later (now) when I finally just came out a little bit from the grief (she made it, through a full year and ongoing intense rehabilitation), 12 years--first love husband felt in love with someone who he never met in person within two months on internet, and decided to left me all the sudden. And I let him do that simply because 200% of loving him. I'm 32 years old. Two years ago, I wouldn't have a deep understanding of how important mental strength is, now I'm sitting here, feeling so much appreciate that someone like Amy Morin do exist, and she did everything right. I can do this too and willing to become a much stronger person. Bless you Amy.
I have been suffering for a year now. A bad relationship finally ended. I blamed myself for not being a better man. Now I read and study and work and constantly encourage ppl to find a starting point and keep moving. However I can't let go of the unhealthy thoughts. I think this lady is saying every second every hour and everyday, you have push back against life. I've learned suffering eventually will lead to you finding yourself. Thank u for posting this video. "WE" can do this.
finding yourself? hopefully not ego self, best to be selfless
My marriage is falling apart
This popped up randomly. My mom passed away unexpectedly when I was 22 1/2. Days before my 24th birthday and only after 6 months of marriage but 7+ years together I found out my husband was having an affair. He then continued and became mentally abusive I finally stood up for myself September 8th and he left once I told his truth. I’ve never “adulted” alone. I have no siblings and my family is 2 hours away. I’m really trying to be mentally strong though thank you
a little late but I’m sending all my prayers to you and the people around you.
Myra thank you!!! It’s so much better now 💛
@@Shannonsense u wil be asrite I just came through tht phase but unfortunately my mom gave me so much support when had big break up after 7year relationship just belive ur self
Shannon Mowery, better to be alone than walking on tip toes every day with someone like that. You are stronger than you know! And you're proving it. 🍀🥀
usmle exam thank you! It’s interesting people are commenting months after I posting and seeing just how different I already feel now :)
I don't know what it is about her, but I really like her, she is so genuine and strong.
I'm over here studying about mindset and found this! Omg, perfect. Life is ever changing. "Our world is what we make it".
I gave up using facebook long ago the moment I realized my fb feed was not productive for me and guess what I realized I have lot more strong personal traits than I ever had. Twitter is lot better than fb and makes more sense in general than posting updates of your life on fb.
thumbs up you made the right choice
Hyloui Demell Way to go! Have a great future.
Hyloui Demell I agree.
The speaker shouldn't go back to the gym. The gym seems to be cursed.
I've haven't quit using fb but I have systems in place that keep my use to 10 mins a day at most. I tend to spend a lot of time on Quora on the other hand and I believe it's time spent productively because I learn from people who are knowledgeable and practice my writing skills. I also use instagram because I like taking photos. The key is to not lose yourself in other people's lives which are often their life highlights. It takes insane discipline. Kudos to those of you who have quit the platforms.
Her voice sounds like she is crying out from inside.
Shahnewaz Md. Sunvee i figure that out !! I believe she still in pain
I literally felt like she was crying in between where she mentions her mom's death.
I thought the same, I don't think she is healed but her advice is sound!
Abosulately such as me, she is crying in deep of her heart....
How could she not.
I think being mentally strong means being at peace with yourself, understand yourself, knowing your weaknesses and strengths, and as she said taming you bad mental habits and promoting good ones
I've lost the love of My life, the man of my dreams, my husband who seemed to be everything to me . I've been through a lot alone, despite having all people's support . Now I feel like I have nothing to lose. What makes me stronger is that i have to work harder to meet him afterlife.
Honestly I started resenting her when she described all she achieved by 23... then it went downhill from there and I felt like shit. Shows that we shouldn't envy but just be happy for the goodness that others have in their lives. That's a lot of tragedy she's experienced quite young and pushed through, quite a strong woman. Envy and self pity really are major walls that prevent us from moving forward.
You can have it all and it gets snatched out of your existance within seconds ....never take things for GRANTED.
I have this strange complex and have had it for awhile. I'm a 24 year old guy that has never been in a relationship and when I do see other people my age that are in relationships, engaged, or married, I automatically put them on a pedestal. Like they're better than me in every way. No more of this though 👍
Trust me, many of them envy you :) 100% sure. They see you and think "I wish I had ... like Eye of Horus", "I wish I was as ... as Eye of Horus", "I wish I did this and that with my life as Eye of Horus". It always works like this. We have many positive qualities, but we can't have all the possible awesomeness in our lives because that would be impossible. So we tend to think that someone who is slightly more awesome in just one aspect, that we're obsessed about at the time, is some kind of mysterious perfect being. While they're thinking the same thing about us.
Nastaran Zameni Number of reasons. I don't go out, lack of confidence, fear of rejection. I've been working on these three though.
do what is right for you -------I love being single
I actually understand where you're coming from. I'm 23. No kids, and I'm not married. I'm not even dating,but I see everyone i graduated with has already started their lives with families and I feel like I'm on the slow train lol. So I know what you mean.
Eye of Horus never do that they only human and getting married does not mean ur above anyone else. and their life is not perfect at all.
They say things happen for a reason!! I opened my youtube app and somehow this video was on my newsfeed. I really needed to hear this words
Ditty Chacon I needed this
Even i needed this
That’s God!
Thank you for the talk. Watched it like 4 or 5 years ago and it is still making me cry today when I found this again. I hope you are doing well, Amy