I had this idea as a child that adults were monolithic and set-in-stone. Becoming an adult and realizing that people can change in their twenties, thirties, forties and beyond was such a surprise 😳
Tay! It's lovely to see you around 😊 The changes are so different too. You hit 30 and realize life is way bigger and more complex than I thought and we don't REALLY know what we are doing lol
Chris, I’m 85 and had a few mountains I wish I could have had someone like you to talk with. You make so much sense. Sending love and prayers . Keep on keeping on 🙏🙏🙏❤️
I’ve heard a million stories on this channel, I’ve never cried so hard. I’m sorry what you’ve experienced, I’ve gone through so much and I’ve also been isolated. Been really mad at my life and I hate to say I kept asking God why me and I’m a little more than pissed. It’s time to grow through it. Stop being mad for all the unfairness of life. Thank you for sharing your story Chris. Youre a strong man.
From what you wrote, it sounds like I'm in the SAME place as you. I need to come to peace with where life has brought me and stay at peace with God and grow THROUGH this. I just can't take much more. That's my hope and prayer. That I'd get a respite from all the hardship. Peace to you too.
This was a very powerful episode, and I admit that I kept thinking Chris was going to say he had started self-medicating to deal with the trauma. Thank God that didn't happen. Chris is a strong survivor who has overcome many times what would have folded most people. I hope the best for him.
I've been so burried in my trauma, just now barely getting my nervous system back after a very traumatic event amd then divorce..... Chris's testimony makes my situation look like a blip. Understanding that life happens, and we need to deal the best we can, because it is inevitable. Thank you Chris for sharing. You're a precious, smart, amazing human. I want to hug ya. Mark, hopefully we can get a take 2. ❤️🙏
Absolute tear-jerker... It is clear to me that only people who have been through it can have insight and potential for wisdom - true knowledge comes from experience
Great mindset, I lost a child as well, 17 yr old daughter 💔, tragic passing, and I'm doing the best that I can to be there for my adult special needs son now. Life is very lonely as I prioritize my son over parties or many other get-togethers but I'm really doing all this for the greater good of my son. I wouldn't consider myself religious but I believe in time, I will get through these dark times in my life and the right people will cross my path 🙏 and together, we will be able to help each other get through wherever life wants to take us. ❤
I understand what you're saying. Sometimes I feel very alone too. I think we all need community. I know I do as I have very little in the way of 'family" You sound like you're a very strong person. I wish you the best.
This man actually knows what he is talking about ,he walks the talk ,he has earned every word he speaks,my bullshit meter was zero on him, if you are reading this Chris, keep shining your light .
Wow, Mark, my mind is blown away with this one! This is truly a masterpiece of a video. What an absolutely amazing young man! He is so handsome & adorable too lol, but more importantly, so eloquent & well spoken & honestly just so compelling with his story. I could literally sit & listen to him tell every detail of his life from the beginning to now. He is an awesome speaker & you can tell that every word he says is genuinely coming from his heart. Chris, I can’t imagine the loss of a child. Idk how anyone overcomes such a loss. Specially in the way you’ve described. How utterly horrible! I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience such gut wrenching heartaches in your life :( But I absolutely love that you are using your experiences to bring hope to others who may be going through similar situations or just difficult struggles in their lives in general. You are truly an inspiration to the world. I, myself, have actually been struggling with a situation over the past couple of days & was beginning to feel like I was sinking more & more into a downward spiral of depression due to it, & I desperately needed this message of positivity & hope today. I also love what you said about the importance of community. So, Chris, if you see this, please know that you have really brightened my day at a time when I really needed it, so you have helped at least one person lol, though I know you have & will help many, many others with your story. Thank you for being open & vulnerable enough to share some of your life struggles with us in such a sincere & awesome way. You really are such a gifted storyteller. You are so compelling to listen to! Thank you again Chris for sharing your story & also thank you Mark for creating & sharing this video with us & for always using this platform you’ve created in such an inspirational way 😊🥰❤️ Have a wonderful day everyone!!! 😁😁😁
My name is Christina Cross. I grew up in Wilmington myself. Thank you for sharing your story. I happen to know who your brother is and seen the accident that day well, the aftermath anyway not knowing that it was him. He’s definitely in my prayers along with your sister fighting her battle. Just think Jesus every day for her healing. Thank you again for sharing your story.
for a man that had a similar upbringing as far as mother and father and lifestyle , this man speaks extremely well and keeps an immaculate composure with all of this he’s went through … hats off to this gentleman
Wow, Chris… I can’t believe how heart wrenching, yet absolutely beautiful and human and inspiring this story was. Thank you for sharing your life with us, and all of the wisdom you shared about the ways you survived all of these things. I related so much to the conversation of isolating yourself when you’re in pain, as well as your sister hiding her shame, it’s so difficult to leverage those who love and care about you when you’re in so much pain that it hurts to live. Truly a beautiful and humbling story. Mark, thank you for bringing Chris onto the channel, and for your work. I appreciated you giving him lots of room to elaborate on his experience with minimal interruption.
Chris I’m so glad that at your lowest you decided to stick around for your precious daughter. We can all learn strength and perseverance from you. Wishing you love and light in the future ❤
Chris, your eyes glow with hope and kindness, your story is so heart wrenching, so is mine, and I've just come to the realization that I might have been chosen to lead the example and be the beacon of hope in my family. I'm glad things are better with your mom. Wishing you and your family all the best, you're the friend everyone should have ❤
This is such a beautiful story and message to all mankind, We will get through our hardships. Chris, you inspire me. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you, Mark!
Chris, you are not alone in your life challenges and grief. Hearing you say it was like a “Nightmare you want to wake up from” brought tears to my eyes. Healing will change your life in ways you never imagined.
I had 10 brain surgeries at the age of 36 and have 10 rare diseases that were diagnosed after that age. My life took a fast turn at that time and I've made many changes, including becoming a patient advocate. The universe sends me at least one person a day to help with resources - sometimes a friend or family member, and sometimes a complete stranger. We never know what's going to happen, but we have to embrace it.
I know Everyone is going to say Please Have Him Back! So please, have him back... Very relatable and solid words of wisdom and perspective. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. 💙🌎 And as always, thank you Mark
Chris: This story is so unique yet is SO relatable. It was incredibly compelling. I rewatched this and I've never done that with a video before. The grace with which you told your story is something I wont forget. Appreciate this more than you know; Respectfully, A stranger
This guy hails from a tough town filled with gangs and an awful homelife, yet he speaks intelligently and carries himself with respect. Why don’t others do the same?
They don't choose the fight like this wonderful man has done & continues to do! He could have easily chose the other path by giving up.. He is amazing. May God bless him.
I lived in Wilmington until 2013. I know how it was in the 90s and so easy to fall into bad crowds/ gangs. Plus you had counselors telling you that you are not good enough for college. All odds were against me. I’m happy to report that against all odds I am now a therapist. It had to do with a lot of my upbringing me but I love what I do. Chris I would like to connect with you. Thank you for sharing your story!
One of my Top 3 favorite SJU interviews~I have finished the vast majority. The humility, wisdom and grit that a careful listen will impart on seeking individuals is a gift to humanities soul.
Very moving. A man who came out of the fire, but was smart in the best sense of the word with his emotions under control, as best as could be expected under the most heart- wrenching situations. Chris, you're a man of strong character. I wish you the best!
Thankyou Chris, your story blessed me immensely today. There's always a plan, you can either use it or let it destroy you. I hope you continue to be a blessing to everyone around you.
This was a great interview... 'you gotta get up' that same voice says the same thing to everyone who needs to hear it. It's a gift to hear from someone who listened ❤
Thank-you Mark for bringing Chris in. It is the struggle of life that gives our lives meaning and what we overcome makes us stronger. It is learning for our life adversities, overcoming issues, not blaming others, taking personal responsibility for difficult issues gives each individual like Chris inner strength and life well lived. I love it Mark when you ask people, "what have you learned from this experience."
Thank you Chris for sharing your experience with us, AND still here for your Precious Daughter. 🙏 🙏 🙏 prayers to your sister and her fight , horrid cancer , and your precious brother and his sad life. 😢😢😢 thank you Mark for introducing us to Chris.
Oh boy, I'm glad I'm working privately in my own office at the moment, because listening to Chris' segment on the speakers while I work here has me in tears, literally struggling to hold them in check. "Sometimes the answer is no." Oh wow, isn't that the damn truth of it all?! Chris, you're an advanced soul who was destined to negotiate the complicated landscape of this life of yours with your toolbox of wisdom, intuition, and rapidly acquired maturity already firmly gripped in your little hand the moment you were born. Your insights and good situational awareness are firm evidence of an advanced spirit. Please, please, come back for a second segment, and continue sharing your past, present ... and most importantly, your perceptions and views. Thank you! We're all going through individualized challenge out here - puncturing our minds, and hearts, just enough to see how we hold up, how we evolve, or how we acquiesce. Love from Canada.
Suffering causes the ego to break and helps us to connect with our true essence or soul. If we can accept "what is" then suffering can be our greatest teacher. Thanks for telling us your story Chris, you've been through a lot and some how come out the other side better for it.
Nice! I'm going to a vipassana meditation course this upcoming week. For 9 hours a day I will be sitting, observing physical sensation. The practice, if maintained, leads to awareness of being in the present and accepting the highs and lows of life. I took it in 2019, in Thailand, and it was one of the most difficult but rewarding things I've ever done❤
@@misschris325Very cool! I have been to a couple and love them. Check out Lectio Divina retreats too- they are extremely uplifting. It feels as if I’m experiencing the Bible firsthand as if i were there it’s really cool
Chris, Thank You for sharing your story. I listened to it just now. I can relate to it in so many ways. You are being made into a man of faith and love. A wise father, son and friend to others. The journey may be difficult but you know who your true Father is and where this journey is going to bring you. Hold fast, Chris! Be loved and blessed one day at a time. Do not allow bitterness. Be wise, stay open to the love that heals all wounds. I'm so proud of you. Thank you for being merciful and honoring your Mother. You are right about her. When we know better we can do better. When you share these hard things be ready for self care and protection when we talk about the past. Only 10% should be in the past and 10% in the future and the rest of our focus needs to be in our present. Now is all we have. May you know His love and Peace in your daily walk and practice. I am old now. I too have suffered much. I see your suffering in this life. We must suffer but there is joy in the morning. One day we will be in the promised land. The Lion will lie down with the Lamb. Praise God! We will celebrate our long journey of this world will be over. When you can dance and sing and laugh loud and hard. When you must cry and morn. This is the way of this life now. It's OK. Mountains and valleys. Sunrises and sunsets. Love those around you hartily and try to even love those who are still lost. Let your beautiful light shine and thank God for giving you a brain to use so well. As you do. I am so thankful for you. You are a true son. I am smiling for you. Stay strong for your daughter. She does need her papa for her whole life. Thank you!
Wow! This was powerful. Chris is such an inspiration. God bless him and his family, especially his brother and sister! Hope all works out well for them.
Can’t believe it took me a whole year to watch this video. Chris, you are a brave man and you are doing great things. Thank you for telling your story.
Chris is so kind and thoughtful and loving. You can see in his eyes there hurt and pain but that he has made hard and conscious decisions to channel that into peace and love and kindness. Lovely human being.
Excellent speaker. Very eloquently and articulately well spoken. People go through so much in this life. You never know what total strangers may have gone through or are going through in this life. Let's be kind to everyone and each other, always ❤.
This is what the journey of reflection and introspection, to heal from trauma and overcome, looks like. I can relate on so many levels. Well done, Chris. 👏 You're a soldier. Sending love and infinite peace your way ✨️
The humbleness of Chris!!! Sometimes God says NO! Yet Chris chose to accept and “give” and grow and to keep going forward!! So so many people take the “NO’s” and become bitter. They personalize NO as rejection or punishment, or simply can’t accept “NO”. They get revenge and hurt others because they are hurt. They destroy other’s lives as they are destroying their own. Thank you Chris! You are “God touched” and sharing your Grace with us to gain strength from. ♥️
Your story is the story of so many, as you say some go through worse, but listening to your journey teaches one never to accept defeat, you are a true inspiration. .Thank you for sharing, your journey gives hope. Wishing you a beautiful life! x
I really needed to hear this story tonight. As i sit here after having a very traumatic week with a major accidental injury and feeling sorry for myself, I am now feeling more hopeful knowing that there are others who are also sitting with major things in their lives as well. thank you for this interview. It is very inspirational.
Amazing interview and what a story ... riveting at times. Got the chills , cried, even healed some, and learned a lot. I prayed for appreciation /gratitude in general at times bc I struggle with being happy at times. I also got some help with that from this interview. God bless him and his family. And Marks too. Great work!!!!
Thank you, Chris. I hope your siblings get through these awful trials and find the gifts from such loss--the way you did. My trial was a long chronic illness. The silver linings were there. Gifts of loss.
The infidelity part is so relatable to me. Especially when he said you couldnt even make a movie this bad. I said the same thing when i went through the hardest time in my life. Unbelievable, but so, so relatable.
Omg, I can relate to waaaay too much of this, to include a dead son. 😢 My heart goes out to you. Many parts of your story really hit me deep & hurt, as I have a 17 year old beautiful brown boy, and the adversity that he faces, even on the west coast, just hurts me. Your lack of parental love & care hurts as well, and I experienced the same thing. My marriage didn't survive our son dying either. So much love to you! ❤
crazy, but I just got home from church and an evening out with friends and couldn't wait to get home and watch Soft White Underbelly interviews. I am making sense of so much of the madness in my own life. Bless you Mark for this and all your hard work and commitment... Good on ya my friend.
Great interview. I'm amazed at the life that these people went through. So much abuse & trauma. People having kids...who shouldn't have had kids. Kids having kids...who have no idea how to parent. Just one vicious cycle after another. Generational abuse. 💔🥺😦 Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊 I can't imagine losing a child in a hospital...from someone's negligence. Brutal! 💔🥺😕
He's been through so much. And has learned to navigate through it. His story is showing me that I'm leading myself in the right direction. Thank you for sharing your story.
You said you can’t control what people have done to you but you can control how it affects you, I pray that you gain the confidence in yourself that you deserve and that God places his anointing on your future I just gave birth to my son and my heart breaks hearing the pain and abandonment that you suffered through as an innocent little boy I am so sorry you were treated that way and the enemy fought you on your dignity and worthiness of proper care and guidance, sometimes we have to thank God for interfering with the enemy however it manifests and allowing us to survive I am so happy you made it and spoke up about your experience God has so much to give you while healing your heart and I pray you will be blessed spiritually and financially going forward so you can heal and nurture that sweet innocence young man that you are the world we live in is unbelievable heartbreaking and those that reach out deserve Gods blessings I wish and I am always working on having the confidence to speak up for myself to receive the blessings that me and my son need but I know God will guide me in the way nobody else can God bless you sweetheart 🙏
We all go through pain in our lives, this hits home for me, you have to be strong and keep going or you’ll get buried very young, this man is absolutely beautiful inside and out, I have tears in my eyes, please tell Chris he’s an amazing human being…a tight hug and nothing but respect for him! Chris you should write a book ❤
Chris, thank you for your testimony. You're a great man and your family and your daughter is blessed to have you in their lives. Praying for your sister and your family for strength and peace and continued healing. God bless ✝️🙏
Beautiful testimonial. In awe of you Chris. Your daughter is blessed to have you for a Dad. I would've given anything for a Father like you. Hugs, love, and prayers. ♥️♥️♥️
"People revere the lotus for its ability to thrive under challenging environments; the flowers grow in muddy water and often emerge unscathed from the murky depths, symbolizing hope, rebirth, strength, and resilience." Many of us are lotus flowers. Edit: If anyone reading this doesn't realize it, you are a lotus flower. Bloom. Bloom in the mud. There's a nice books like the Tao Te Ching and "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels and are nice mental getaways :)
There are few people younger than me that I look up to, but Chris has rare qualities that are only earned through hardship, such as perspective and gratitude. He is very strong, but gentle. He gives back. He is reliable and not only uses his strength for others, but is a role model who leds it to them when they need it. This is what a man should be.
Your brother being in jail, mourning with guilt about his beloved children, and being blamed for the accident is not justice. I dont even think its constitutional. I hope a lawyer with a big heart sees this. Great interview. Ty ❤
Chris, You are the true depiction of a wonderful human being! I think you need to become a counselor. Your family and daughter are blessed to have you in their lives! What a great perspective!
The way chris speaks is so calming. This was one of the best interviews from this channel. We need a part 2 in The WORST WAY! Im from Southern California too so everything was so relatable to me.
This is one of the most powerful testimony I ever heard. Chris, you have so much grace and peace in you. May our God shine his face toward you continuously, as he already has been through your journey. 😊
I love listening to Chris. He is very captivating. A calm voice and amazing willpower. I hope if he is reading this he knows how amazing he is. Motivational speaking in his future possibly.
Chris you are an inspiration. After losing a child it really is a place no one wants to be. It has been 8 years since our loss and I still have times when I just barely cope. You have endured so so much and here you are showing us that one can return to some positivity and bring light back into their lives. Be blessed as you move forward in your life. ❤
This is the best episode I’ve watched from SWU. Very touching story from a genuinely good man. He has the attitude that every human should strive for. The world is a better place with him in it. I feel inspired and honored to have heard him tell his story.
My husband has a similar testimony this one. He was just diagnosed with cancer and we have 3 children. He he also in recovery. We're a family with faith in Jesus. It would be a gift to share it with you, Mark. Much love from Oregon 🌱
Jesus won't save you, but adapting your diet and changing to a positive mindset, alleviating stress and times of quiet contemplation perhaps with your bible will, God helps those who help themselves.
This guy has real strength of character, and a powerful mind, and can help many people in this life. When you hear other people's stories, you realize how minor your challenges are. Very much enjoyed this video, and a lot can be learned from watching it.
Man you said something that I had never in my 46 years thought of thank you so much for this it is something that I will think about often "Everybody's Mountain Is Everybody's Mountain". Just the story you told made so much sense to me. I use the Serenity Prayer many times daily and I needed this today thank you. I pray that you and your daughter are blessed!!
The range of experiences your interviewees share with you is as wide as the emotions I feel listening to them. Some people break my heart, and others amaze me with their strength and tenacity. Either way, I end up admiring, not only the individual, but also the magnificence of the human spirit. These videos should be seen by everyone, especially young people who are struggling with choices and direction.
I had this idea as a child that adults were monolithic and set-in-stone. Becoming an adult and realizing that people can change in their twenties, thirties, forties and beyond was such a surprise 😳
Was saying this exact same thing to someone just this week 🙌
I’m growing to realize that there is no plateau.
Growth with age can be really great, unfortuntely sometimes it just takes so long.
Operative "can" ...one would think.
Tay! It's lovely to see you around 😊 The changes are so different too. You hit 30 and realize life is way bigger and more complex than I thought and we don't REALLY know what we are doing lol
Chris, I’m 85 and had a few mountains I wish I could have had someone like you to talk with. You make so much sense. Sending love and prayers . Keep on keeping on 🙏🙏🙏❤️
Hi Sharon, what a nice comment. I wish you well.
You are incredibly wise. I hope you are ok. Sending you love and prayers from Australia 🇦🇺
I agree wholeheartedly with your voice tones, Sharon. 💜✨️
Hello Sharon!
“Sometimes the answer is no”. This was very powerful, and I needed to hear it. Thanks for sharing, Chris. Many blessings to you!
Gotta have faith and trust God’s plans Are for good for us and not for evil.
Hard to do when we have our own idea of what’s best.
True words❤
Yes, that resonated with me as well.
Same
I’ve heard a million stories on this channel, I’ve never cried so hard. I’m sorry what you’ve experienced, I’ve gone through so much and I’ve also been isolated. Been really mad at my life and I hate to say I kept asking God why me and I’m a little more than pissed. It’s time to grow through it. Stop being mad for all the unfairness of life. Thank you for sharing your story Chris. Youre a strong man.
From what you wrote, it sounds like I'm in the SAME place as you. I need to come to peace with where life has brought me and stay at peace with God and grow THROUGH this.
I just can't take much more. That's my hope and prayer. That I'd get a respite from all the hardship.
Peace to you too.
This was a very powerful episode, and I admit that I kept thinking Chris was going to say he had started self-medicating to deal with the trauma. Thank God that didn't happen. Chris is a strong survivor who has overcome many times what would have folded most people. I hope the best for him.
Self medicating on that Higher power
Amen!!
When he did his body shot I thought “ok he’s clean looking”? Ok? So what’s his addiction?
He’s a man of grace. an Angel.
I've been so burried in my trauma, just now barely getting my nervous system back after a very traumatic event amd then divorce..... Chris's testimony makes my situation look like a blip. Understanding that life happens, and we need to deal the best we can, because it is inevitable. Thank you Chris for sharing. You're a precious, smart, amazing human. I want to hug ya. Mark, hopefully we can get a take 2. ❤️🙏
Just like Chris said, we all have our own mountain. Yours is just as important as anyone else's. ❤
Absolute tear-jerker... It is clear to me that only people who have been through it can have insight and potential for wisdom - true knowledge comes from experience
The grace that this man has is seriously laudable.
Grace that comes from God alone ❤️
Great mindset, I lost a child as well, 17 yr old daughter 💔, tragic passing, and I'm doing the best that I can to be there for my adult special needs son now. Life is very lonely as I prioritize my son over parties or many other get-togethers but I'm really doing all this for the greater good of my son. I wouldn't consider myself religious but I believe in time, I will get through these dark times in my life and the right people will cross my path 🙏 and together, we will be able to help each other get through wherever life wants to take us. ❤
So sorry for your loss Annie, hang in there ❤
I understand what you're saying. Sometimes I feel very alone too. I think we all need community. I know I do as I have very little in the way of 'family" You sound like you're a very strong person. I wish you the best.
Thank you for sharing, I love you ❤and am praying for you 🙏
Thank you for sharing, I am not religious either-but I know Jesus loves me and he loves you ❤️ and your children
This man actually knows what he is talking about ,he walks the talk ,he has earned every word he speaks,my bullshit meter was zero on him, if you are reading this Chris, keep shining your light .
Wow, Mark, my mind is blown away with this one! This is truly a masterpiece of a video. What an absolutely amazing young man! He is so handsome & adorable too lol, but more importantly, so eloquent & well spoken & honestly just so compelling with his story. I could literally sit & listen to him tell every detail of his life from the beginning to now. He is an awesome speaker & you can tell that every word he says is genuinely coming from his heart. Chris, I can’t imagine the loss of a child. Idk how anyone overcomes such a loss. Specially in the way you’ve described. How utterly horrible! I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience such gut wrenching heartaches in your life :( But I absolutely love that you are using your experiences to bring hope to others who may be going through similar situations or just difficult struggles in their lives in general. You are truly an inspiration to the world. I, myself, have actually been struggling with a situation over the past couple of days & was beginning to feel like I was sinking more & more into a downward spiral of depression due to it, & I desperately needed this message of positivity & hope today. I also love what you said about the importance of community. So, Chris, if you see this, please know that you have really brightened my day at a time when I really needed it, so you have helped at least one person lol, though I know you have & will help many, many others with your story. Thank you for being open & vulnerable enough to share some of your life struggles with us in such a sincere & awesome way. You really are such a gifted storyteller. You are so compelling to listen to! Thank you again Chris for sharing your story & also thank you Mark for creating & sharing this video with us & for always using this platform you’ve created in such an inspirational way 😊🥰❤️ Have a wonderful day everyone!!! 😁😁😁
Amen to absolutely every word she said here!❤🎉❤🎉❤
What a great reply. 🥰
Such a great comment! Lol
It’s always amazing the way God looks after us. ❤
Handsome ya right
My name is Christina Cross. I grew up in Wilmington myself. Thank you for sharing your story. I happen to know who your brother is and seen the accident that day well, the aftermath anyway not knowing that it was him. He’s definitely in my prayers along with your sister fighting her battle. Just think Jesus every day for her healing. Thank you again for sharing your story.
for a man that had a similar upbringing as far as mother and father and lifestyle , this man speaks extremely well and keeps an immaculate composure with all of this he’s went through … hats off to this gentleman
Possibly one of the best interviews I have seen on this channel. I am so grateful to have seen this. This deserves millions of views.
Fantastic interview. I would love a part 2. He said there was much more. Truly an incredible story and coming from the ashes
I hope that Mark can get him back. He is just amazing.
We need a part 2 🙏💐💖
Yesssss!!!!! I could easily hear this man on and on
One of the best interviews yet. This guy could be a motivational speaker. Wow.
Wow, Chris… I can’t believe how heart wrenching, yet absolutely beautiful and human and inspiring this story was. Thank you for sharing your life with us, and all of the wisdom you shared about the ways you survived all of these things. I related so much to the conversation of isolating yourself when you’re in pain, as well as your sister hiding her shame, it’s so difficult to leverage those who love and care about you when you’re in so much pain that it hurts to live. Truly a beautiful and humbling story.
Mark, thank you for bringing Chris onto the channel, and for your work. I appreciated you giving him lots of room to elaborate on his experience with minimal interruption.
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I am an ICU Nurse, we NEVER have family members do chest compressions! Wth?!
His story is incredible.
My thoughts exactly
More and more people are becoming weary of the entire medical field. Hope you’re not complicit in the current g3nocide…
I believe every word he said. Sounds like the hospital fucked up a whole hell of a lot.. & a precious life.
I was thinking the same thing! WTF. This poor man should not have ever had to do that
Chris I’m so glad that at your lowest you decided to stick around for your precious daughter. We can all learn strength and perseverance from you. Wishing you love and light in the future ❤
What a beautiful man. I admire your ability to continue shining your light so we know we're not alone.
Chris, your eyes glow with hope and kindness, your story is so heart wrenching, so is mine, and I've just come to the realization that I might have been chosen to lead the example and be the beacon of hope in my family.
I'm glad things are better with your mom. Wishing you and your family all the best, you're the friend everyone should have ❤
Wow, I’m a therapist and will use this testimony for others who are hurting. Thanks!
This is such a beautiful story and message to all mankind, We will get through our hardships. Chris, you inspire me. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you, Mark!
Chris, you are not alone in your life challenges and grief. Hearing you say it was like a “Nightmare you want to wake up from” brought tears to my eyes.
Healing will change your life in ways you never imagined.
I had 10 brain surgeries at the age of 36 and have 10 rare diseases that were diagnosed after that age. My life took a fast turn at that time and I've made many changes, including becoming a patient advocate. The universe sends me at least one person a day to help with resources - sometimes a friend or family member, and sometimes a complete stranger. We never know what's going to happen, but we have to embrace it.
God bless you❤
Please get him back for a part 2. Chris your truly someone I look up to and your story gives so much hope.
One of the most powerful uploads to date. Thank you both, Mark and Chris
This man is a great story teller and human being. I hope his life is blessed and fulfilled.
Immense respect for Chris.
We need more men like him.
Prayers for him & his family.
Chris is the man with a plan! Great way to overcome life’s obstacles 💯.
He's such an inspiring survivor. Thanks to him for sharing his story and what he learned from them. It gave me strength.
I know Everyone is going to say Please Have Him Back! So please, have him back... Very relatable and solid words of wisdom and perspective. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. 💙🌎
And as always, thank you Mark
Chris is an incredible human being. He is definitely serving the lord in the best way possible.
Chris: This story is so unique yet is SO relatable. It was incredibly compelling. I rewatched this and I've never done that with a video before. The grace with which you told your story is something I wont forget. Appreciate this more than you know; Respectfully, A stranger
This guy hails from a tough town filled with gangs and an awful homelife, yet he speaks intelligently and carries himself with respect. Why don’t others do the same?
They don't choose the fight like this wonderful man has done & continues to do! He could have easily chose the other path by giving up.. He is amazing. May God bless him.
Because we're all born with different tolerances, temperaments, intellects and talents.
I lived in Wilmington until 2013. I know how it was in the 90s and so easy to fall into bad crowds/ gangs. Plus you had counselors telling you that you are not good enough for college. All odds were against me. I’m happy to report that against all odds I am now a therapist. It had to do with a lot of my upbringing me but I love what I do. Chris I would like to connect with you. Thank you for sharing your story!
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@@BobbySchafferDid you really say that?
Trauma is trauma is what he is saying at the end . This was a video I needed to see thank you Mark for your honesty and kindness .
How he told his life story without crying is beyond me. I started tearing up with his sons story.
Sounds like he’s cried so much maybe he doesn’t have many tears left in him.
What a resilient and wise human being.
So sorry for the loss of your baby boy. God continued blessings to you and all your family members❤
What a true man. Thanks Chris, for sharing those parts of your life. I hope you'll come back for another session... part 2.
We need more of these formats. Interviewing real people about real problems. Thank you
This is something were trying to do with our channel as well
One of my Top 3 favorite SJU interviews~I have finished the vast majority. The humility, wisdom and grit that a careful listen will impart on seeking individuals is a gift to humanities soul.
This is soooo good! I'm sure someone needs to hear this today. Thank you Chris! So good!!!
Wow!
This has to be one of my favorite SWUB videos. Definitely in the top three. You are one amazing person. Inspiring ❤️
Very moving. A man who came out of the fire, but was smart in the best sense of the word with his emotions under control, as best as could be expected under the most heart- wrenching situations. Chris, you're a man of strong character. I wish you the best!
Thankyou Chris, your story blessed me immensely today. There's always a plan, you can either use it or let it destroy you. I hope you continue to be a blessing to everyone around you.
This was a fantastic interview. Praying for you and your family, Chris. Keep sharing your story. So much wisdom in it.
This was a great interview... 'you gotta get up' that same voice says the same thing to everyone who needs to hear it. It's a gift to hear from someone who listened ❤
Thank-you Mark for bringing Chris in. It is the struggle of life that gives our lives meaning and what we overcome makes us stronger. It is learning for our life adversities, overcoming issues, not blaming others, taking personal responsibility for difficult issues gives each individual like Chris inner strength and life well lived. I love it Mark when you ask people, "what have you learned from this experience."
Thank you Chris for sharing your experience with us, AND still here for your Precious Daughter. 🙏 🙏 🙏 prayers to your sister and her fight , horrid cancer , and your precious brother and his sad life. 😢😢😢 thank you Mark for introducing us to Chris.
Oh boy, I'm glad I'm working privately in my own office at the moment, because listening to Chris' segment on the speakers while I work here has me in tears, literally struggling to hold them in check. "Sometimes the answer is no." Oh wow, isn't that the damn truth of it all?! Chris, you're an advanced soul who was destined to negotiate the complicated landscape of this life of yours with your toolbox of wisdom, intuition, and rapidly acquired maturity already firmly gripped in your little hand the moment you were born. Your insights and good situational awareness are firm evidence of an advanced spirit. Please, please, come back for a second segment, and continue sharing your past, present ... and most importantly, your perceptions and views. Thank you! We're all going through individualized challenge out here - puncturing our minds, and hearts, just enough to see how we hold up, how we evolve, or how we acquiesce. Love from Canada.
Suffering causes the ego to break and helps us to connect with our true essence or soul. If we can accept "what is" then suffering can be our greatest teacher. Thanks for telling us your story Chris, you've been through a lot and some how come out the other side better for it.
Nice! I'm going to a vipassana meditation course this upcoming week. For 9 hours a day I will be sitting, observing physical sensation. The practice, if maintained, leads to awareness of being in the present and accepting the highs and lows of life. I took it in 2019, in Thailand, and it was one of the most difficult but rewarding things I've ever done❤
Use it or let it destroy you...that says it all.
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@@misschris325Goenka retreat?
@@misschris325Very cool! I have been to a couple and love them. Check out Lectio Divina retreats too- they are extremely uplifting. It feels as if I’m experiencing the Bible firsthand as if i were there it’s really cool
Thank you for sharing your experience. This has been amongst the most powerful interviews I’ve ever heard. Stay blessed man
What an absolutely amazingly strong minded person he is to have experienced all that and come out so sane and healthy and well adjusted!!!🎉❤🎉❤❤
Chris, Thank You for sharing your story. I listened to it just now. I can relate to it in so many ways. You are being made into a man of faith and love. A wise father, son and friend to others. The journey may be difficult but you know who your true Father is and where this journey is going to bring you. Hold fast, Chris! Be loved and blessed one day at a time. Do not allow bitterness. Be wise, stay open to the love that heals all wounds. I'm so proud of you. Thank you for being merciful and honoring your Mother. You are right about her. When we know better we can do better. When you share these hard things be ready for self care and protection when we talk about the past. Only 10% should be in the past and 10% in the future and the rest of our focus needs to be in our present. Now is all we have. May you know His love and Peace in your daily walk and practice. I am old now. I too have suffered much. I see your suffering in this life. We must suffer but there is joy in the morning. One day we will be in the promised land. The Lion will lie down with the Lamb. Praise God! We will celebrate our long journey of this world will be over. When you can dance and sing and laugh loud and hard. When you must cry and morn. This is the way of this life now. It's OK. Mountains and valleys. Sunrises and sunsets. Love those around you hartily and try to even love those who are still lost. Let your beautiful light shine and thank God for giving you a brain to use so well. As you do. I am so thankful for you. You are a true son. I am smiling for you. Stay strong for your daughter. She does need her papa for her whole life. Thank you!
I am so glad I listened to this video, Chris's story should remind all of us that we have purpose and be kind to others. May God find you comfort.
Wow! This was powerful. Chris is such an inspiration. God bless him and his family, especially his brother and sister! Hope all works out well for them.
Can’t believe it took me a whole year to watch this video. Chris, you are a brave man and you are doing great things. Thank you for telling your story.
Chris is so kind and thoughtful and loving. You can see in his eyes there hurt and pain but that he has made hard and conscious decisions to channel that into peace and love and kindness. Lovely human being.
Excellent speaker. Very eloquently and articulately well spoken. People go through so much in this life. You never know what total strangers may have gone through or are going through in this life. Let's be kind to everyone and each other, always ❤.
This is what the journey of reflection and introspection, to heal from trauma and overcome, looks like. I can relate on so many levels. Well done, Chris. 👏 You're a soldier. Sending love and infinite peace your way ✨️
The humbleness of Chris!!!
Sometimes God says NO! Yet Chris chose to accept and “give” and grow and to keep going forward!!
So so many people take the “NO’s” and become bitter. They personalize NO as rejection or punishment, or simply can’t accept “NO”.
They get revenge and hurt others because they are hurt. They destroy other’s lives as they are destroying their own.
Thank you Chris! You are “God touched” and sharing your Grace with us to gain strength from. ♥️
Your story is the story of so many, as you say some go through worse, but listening to your journey teaches one never to accept defeat, you are a true inspiration. .Thank you for sharing, your journey gives hope. Wishing you a beautiful life! x
I really needed to hear this story tonight. As i sit here after having a very traumatic week with a major accidental injury and feeling sorry for myself, I am now feeling more hopeful knowing that there are others who are also sitting with major things in their lives as well. thank you for this interview. It is very inspirational.
Amazing interview and what a story ... riveting at times. Got the chills , cried, even healed some, and learned a lot. I prayed for appreciation /gratitude in general at times bc I struggle with being happy at times. I also got some help with that from this interview. God bless him and his family. And Marks too. Great work!!!!
Thank you, Chris. I hope your siblings get through these awful trials and find the gifts from such loss--the way you did. My trial was a long chronic illness. The silver linings were there. Gifts of loss.
The infidelity part is so relatable to me. Especially when he said you couldnt even make a movie this bad. I said the same thing when i went through the hardest time in my life. Unbelievable, but so, so relatable.
Omg, I can relate to waaaay too much of this, to include a dead son. 😢 My heart goes out to you. Many parts of your story really hit me deep & hurt, as I have a 17 year old beautiful brown boy, and the adversity that he faces, even on the west coast, just hurts me. Your lack of parental love & care hurts as well, and I experienced the same thing. My marriage didn't survive our son dying either. So much love to you! ❤
crazy, but I just got home from church and an evening out with friends and couldn't wait to get home and watch Soft White Underbelly interviews. I am making sense of so much of the madness in my own life. Bless you Mark for this and all your hard work and commitment... Good on ya my friend.
Great interview. I'm amazed at the life that these people went through. So much abuse & trauma. People having kids...who shouldn't have had kids. Kids having kids...who have no idea how to parent. Just one vicious cycle after another. Generational abuse. 💔🥺😦 Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊 I can't imagine losing a child in a hospital...from someone's negligence. Brutal! 💔🥺😕
He's been through so much. And has learned to navigate through it. His story is showing me that I'm leading myself in the right direction. Thank you for sharing your story.
This guy is the perfect example of a genius growing up under bad circumstances.
You said you can’t control what people have done to you but you can control how it affects you, I pray that you gain the confidence in yourself that you deserve and that God places his anointing on your future I just gave birth to my son and my heart breaks hearing the pain and abandonment that you suffered through as an innocent little boy I am so sorry you were treated that way and the enemy fought you on your dignity and worthiness of proper care and guidance, sometimes we have to thank God for interfering with the enemy however it manifests and allowing us to survive I am so happy you made it and spoke up about your experience God has so much to give you while healing your heart and I pray you will be blessed spiritually and financially going forward so you can heal and nurture that sweet innocence young man that you are the world we live in is unbelievable heartbreaking and those that reach out deserve Gods blessings I wish and I am always working on having the confidence to speak up for myself to receive the blessings that me and my son need but I know God will guide me in the way nobody else can God bless you sweetheart 🙏
He's a good guy who won.t give in to the challenges in life and fall into drugs or crime.....keep it going.
What a beautiful gentle man .. he doesn’t have any bitterness! Sending you so much love
We all go through pain in our lives, this hits home for me, you have to be strong and keep going or you’ll get buried very young, this man is absolutely beautiful inside and out, I have tears in my eyes, please tell Chris he’s an amazing human being…a tight hug and nothing but respect for him! Chris you should write a book ❤
Chris, thank you for your testimony. You're a great man and your family and your daughter is blessed to have you in their lives. Praying for your sister and your family for strength and peace and continued healing. God bless ✝️🙏
Chris said he was from Wilmington not Long Beach. This was a great interview. Bravo Chris stay strong...
Beautiful testimonial. In awe of you Chris. Your daughter is blessed to have you for a Dad. I would've given anything for a Father like you. Hugs, love, and prayers. ♥️♥️♥️
"People revere the lotus for its ability to thrive under challenging environments; the flowers grow in muddy water and often emerge unscathed from the murky depths, symbolizing hope, rebirth, strength, and resilience." Many of us are lotus flowers.
Edit: If anyone reading this doesn't realize it, you are a lotus flower. Bloom. Bloom in the mud. There's a nice books like the Tao Te Ching and "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels and are nice mental getaways :)
There are few people younger than me that I look up to, but Chris has rare qualities that are only earned through hardship, such as perspective and gratitude.
He is very strong, but gentle. He gives back. He is reliable and not only uses his strength for others, but is a role model who leds it to them when they need it.
This is what a man should be.
Your brother being in jail, mourning with guilt about his beloved children, and being blamed for the accident is not justice. I dont even think its constitutional. I hope a lawyer with a big heart sees this. Great interview. Ty ❤
Chris, You are the true depiction of a wonderful human being! I think you need to become a counselor. Your family and daughter are blessed to have you in their lives! What a great perspective!
The way chris speaks is so calming. This was one of the best interviews from this channel. We need a part 2 in The WORST WAY! Im from Southern California too so everything was so relatable to me.
This is one of the most powerful testimony I ever heard. Chris, you have so much grace and peace in you. May our God shine his face toward you continuously, as he already has been through your journey. 😊
"Everybody`s mountain is everybody`s mountain" There are many insights in this interview. All the best to Chris and again, great channel.
I love listening to Chris. He is very captivating. A calm voice and amazing willpower. I hope if he is reading this he knows how amazing he is. Motivational speaking in his future possibly.
Chris you are an inspiration. After losing a child it really is a place no one wants to be. It has been 8 years since our loss and I still have times when I just barely cope. You have endured so so much and here you are showing us that one can return to some positivity and bring light back into their lives. Be blessed as you move forward in your life. ❤
Bless you. I am sorry for your loss and wish you peace.
@@Toonces666 thank you for your kind words.
This man is a terrific example to all of us,- of strength. A terrific choice of interview. Thank you..
This is the best episode I’ve watched from SWU. Very touching story from a genuinely good man. He has the attitude that every human should strive for. The world is a better place with him in it. I feel inspired and honored to have heard him tell his story.
His story hurts my heart😢 but what a inspirational story it is!! God is definitely using him to show grace,love, and forgiveness ❣️
Inspiring. Well done. I understand where you come from. You stand tall and fight. Out of the pit.
What happened to your child is horrifically devastating. This was a really powerful interview. Many blessings to you
Amazing attitude, perspective & inspiration! Love this interview with Chris. What a gracious soul. God bless him always in all ways. 🙏😇
Fantastic interview!!! You could be a therapist Chris!!! We are all walking each other home. Many blessings ✨️🙏🏾✨️Sending love & light✨️💖✨️🕯✨️
My husband has a similar testimony this one. He was just diagnosed with cancer and we have 3 children. He he also in recovery. We're a family with faith in Jesus. It would be a gift to share it with you, Mark. Much love from Oregon 🌱
Jesus won't save you, but adapting your diet and changing to a positive mindset, alleviating stress and times of quiet contemplation perhaps with your bible will, God helps those who help themselves.
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This guy has real strength of character, and a powerful mind, and can help many people in
this life. When you hear other people's stories, you realize how minor your challenges are.
Very much enjoyed this video, and a lot can be learned from watching it.
Man you said something that I had never in my 46 years thought of thank you so much for this it is something that I will think about often "Everybody's Mountain Is Everybody's Mountain". Just the story you told made so much sense to me. I use the Serenity Prayer many times daily and I needed this today thank you. I pray that you and your daughter are blessed!!
The range of experiences your interviewees share with you is as wide as the emotions I feel listening to them. Some people break my heart, and others amaze me with their strength and tenacity. Either way, I end up admiring, not only the individual, but also the magnificence of the human spirit. These videos should be seen by everyone, especially young people who are struggling with choices and direction.