My Parents Were Pedophiles-Lisa

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  • @LisaPlumbMFT
    @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +52797

    Hello to everyone and thank you for all the kind and thoughtful comments and support! I'm so very appreciative and I feel so blessed and uplifted. I hope to pass that on to others. As a survivor I feel I must try to make the world a better place for children and victims. I will continue to try to do that in any way that I can as a therapist and an advocate. I'm so grateful to be where I am at in life and I don't take that for granted. Please feel free to reach out for updates or for healing tools. Best wishes in healing and for all good always, Lisa

    • @squeeze1321
      @squeeze1321 Рік тому +940

      Lisa, you are amazing! You have gone thru hell and are like a phoenix rising from the ashes. Congrats on your profession. Question: I’ve heard that “the body remembers the trauma”. Well, how do you let you body release it? What does it mean to “do the work?” I am so very sorry that you were neglected and abused. I’m sorry you experienced those predators. Thank you for sharing and keep on.

    • @BarB2-90Nine
      @BarB2-90Nine Рік тому +237

      Kept on going helping others in turn its helping you Being stronger everyday Forgetting the past is a hard but your doing it ❤ Keep in touch with us .

    • @JustMeIrena
      @JustMeIrena Рік тому +340

      I am so very sad that you never had a caring parent, except for your step-dad as a kid. None of the harm inflicted upon you should have happened. Your soul is so beautiful and I am glad you are healing. You inspire me.

    • @Oseanyboy
      @Oseanyboy Рік тому +175

      Good on you Lisa for fighting and having the courage to keep going, very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • @hayleybennett2630
      @hayleybennett2630 Рік тому +176

      I am completely speechless by your story. I truly wish you the most loving journey on your way to inner peace♥️. Also, EMDR is awesome!

  • @courtney108
    @courtney108 11 місяців тому +18347

    “A single mother with issues is a pedophile magnet”. Growing up with an alcoholic single mother w mental health issues, i can absolutely attest to this

    • @zingyskydiver3277
      @zingyskydiver3277 11 місяців тому +352

      Same. Alcoholic and drug abusing mom on my end. She actually caused my fathers death then married a pedophile when I was 6 months old. That's when the abuse started.

    • @failinginamerica
      @failinginamerica 11 місяців тому

      a lot of the time in cases of famous pedos like Jared Fogle and the guy from lost prophets, they would use their celebrity to lure in single mothers with young children, and actually convince the mothers to let them use their children. anyone who willingly and knowingly pimps out their own children has a reserved spot in Hell

    • @thehangmansdaughter1120
      @thehangmansdaughter1120 11 місяців тому +710

      When my ex-husband and I split I made a promise to my kids that there'd be no men in our home. The stats on abuse by a man who isn't the father of the children he lives with are hideous. So, no men in the home. Yes, it was lonely, but my kids came first.

    • @jeremiahthebluefrog
      @jeremiahthebluefrog 11 місяців тому +173

      Same. My mother didn't have addiction problems (that I knew of) but she had the lowest self steem and brought multiple pedos to our home when I was a child.

    • @ihateallyall
      @ihateallyall 11 місяців тому

      my mother was an addict and her boyfriend raped her and she let him walk her home. that same man touched me sexually and claimed he thought i was my mom… she said he would never come back around. low and behold, he supplied the drugs and affection so she kept him around. I stopped visiting her after that.
      I’m so thankful my father had full custody. he protected me
      from my uncle and was so big and scary looking that we were the last kids a pedo would try to assault.
      broken, addict or not, single moms are super dangerous to children.

  • @KimberlyKingCounselingllc
    @KimberlyKingCounselingllc Рік тому +39038

    I’m only 11 minutes in and i have to say i LIKE that she uses names.. call them all out.

    • @kimberlyclement6870
      @kimberlyclement6870 Рік тому

      Yes! I am her book editor, and she is a fearless warrior! Even when she was treated miserably by the justice system, she showed up to testify and put pedophiles behind bars.

    • @amandapenniesuggs2409
      @amandapenniesuggs2409 Рік тому +1033

      Me too. I caught onto that immediately

    • @mirnabarnes1204
      @mirnabarnes1204 Рік тому +247

      Yep!!

    • @youtubeuser3182
      @youtubeuser3182 Рік тому +402

      As it should be.

    • @MEL2theJ
      @MEL2theJ 11 місяців тому +328

      💪 Gotta shine the light on the darkness

  • @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594
    @bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594 11 місяців тому +26192

    If we just started dating and you are asking to be alone with my children for any reason, that’s an immediate red flag

    • @TheBeigeRaider
      @TheBeigeRaider 11 місяців тому +32

      I don’t believe Lisa. None of us do. I speak for everyone when i say this.

    • @ChanelleFT
      @ChanelleFT 11 місяців тому

      @@TheBeigeRaiderSpoken like a true pedophile

    • @user-uo9kf1sx5o
      @user-uo9kf1sx5o 11 місяців тому

      lol wtf are you talking about. Read the rest of the comments. You're alone in this disgusting belief. Also, you NEVER have the right to "speak for everyone", especially with your crippling lack of intelligence and awareness.@@TheBeigeRaider

    • @kenzie1927
      @kenzie1927 11 місяців тому +2220

      @@TheBeigeRaiderYou’re only speaking for Lisa’s abusers when you say this. We believe her.

    • @potato1084
      @potato1084 11 місяців тому

      @@TheBeigeRaiderYou speak for your bumh0le. Who’s everyone?

  • @roblescesar876
    @roblescesar876 2 місяці тому +586

    One time my wife told me “when they sentence predators they should charge them with murder” my dumb mind “why” she said “because the person that kid could have been has been murdered.” I think about that a lot.

    • @jumpermode
      @jumpermode Місяць тому +10

      THIS !!! 🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤

    • @documissionexploringknowle9513
      @documissionexploringknowle9513 25 днів тому +16

      The Bible says rape IS MURDER.

    • @THX.ISH.
      @THX.ISH. 24 дні тому +8

      Your wife is right.

    • @PapaSquat77
      @PapaSquat77 22 дні тому +17

      And yet dogs are put down for biting. Really makes me wonder about the judicial system

    • @annieaquarius
      @annieaquarius 20 днів тому +3

      100% correct. Even if it happens in adulthood it changes you completely

  • @nicolewagner6549
    @nicolewagner6549 11 місяців тому +23518

    Imagine being treated this way your entire life. It is a miracle she grew up to be so kind and dignified.

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi 11 місяців тому +358

      By the grace of God.

    • @ItTurnsToStone
      @ItTurnsToStone 11 місяців тому +877

      @@joanofarcxxiif god was involved why was she being horribly sexually abused?

    • @ultraparanioa
      @ultraparanioa 11 місяців тому +422

      @@joanofarcxxigod isn't real. if he was, she never would've been so horribly sexually abused by adults in her life as a child.

    • @leannlucero1858
      @leannlucero1858 11 місяців тому +49

      @lgjcexactly.

    • @-Nibbles-
      @-Nibbles- 11 місяців тому +26

      @lgjck

  • @lamented-musings8932
    @lamented-musings8932 10 місяців тому +10718

    The fact that she was smoking, drinking, and doing drugs since she was eight years old shows how much the abuse affected her and made her want an escape.

    • @Beatleslover3
      @Beatleslover3 10 місяців тому +96

      Exactly..I feel so bad for her.

    • @chloe41120
      @chloe41120 10 місяців тому +116

      Reminds me of Drew Barrymore.

    • @PneumaNoose
      @PneumaNoose 10 місяців тому +147

      Precisely. I wish people wouldn’t forget this when they look down upon addicts.

    • @kevintse2870
      @kevintse2870 10 місяців тому +29

      @@PneumaNoose it’s not the life choices that many look down on, it’s the effect that the addicts have on people around them. In the movie “Us,” everyone is sympathetic to the Tethered but everyone also feels good when they die.

    • @lifewithsy7950
      @lifewithsy7950 10 місяців тому

      For we all have sinned and fell short of the glory of God and the wages of sin is death and sin separates us from God and God doesn’t want us to be separated from him. And because he loved us so much, he sent Jesus Christ, his only son, to die on the cross for our sins and was buried. This made Jesus the perfect sacrifice for our sins. And 3 days later, he rose up so through him, we can have eternal life. He wants a genuine relationship with you. He Will be Coming Back Soon.
      Do you desire to repent of your sins and live righteously to God? Then “believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved.” Cast yourself upon Him. Trust in His death for your sins and His resurrection, which has the power to remove your sins and to replace them with the perfect righteousness of Christ. That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
      Prayer : Dear Lord,
      I admit that I am a sinner. I have done many things that don’t please you. I have lived my life for myself only. I am sorry, and I repent. I ask you to forgive me.
      I believe that you died on the cross for me, to save me. You did what I could not do for myself. I come to you now and ask you to take control of my life; I give it to you. From this day forward, help me to live every day for you and in a way that pleases you.
      I love you, Lord, and I thank you that I will spend all eternity with you.
      Amen.

  • @seratoninny
    @seratoninny 11 місяців тому +18583

    a father saying "Don't make a big deal out of it" to his kid getting molested is just fcking crazy insane. Makes my blood boil.

    • @mayram6961
      @mayram6961 11 місяців тому +42

      😭

    • @Canissaer
      @Canissaer 11 місяців тому +278

      "Yeah i know you got ravaged and traumatized but take a chill pill it's not a big deal" like how dense are you sir. Makes me so damn angry

    • @Acoustic-Rabbit-Hole
      @Acoustic-Rabbit-Hole 10 місяців тому +65

      Yeah, literally just rubbing her suffering in her own face.@@Canissaer

    • @jennyrealight1860
      @jennyrealight1860 10 місяців тому +187

      I thought she was going to say her dad came and try to kill the guy or something and when I heard what he said I was just disgusted to say the least, disappointed for not hearing what I wanted to hear a dad say. Instead he was a HS teacher who liked young boys.

    • @roberthansson8222
      @roberthansson8222 10 місяців тому +56

      Learn more about narcissism, it will explain why the world is the way it is.

  • @megansweeten9615
    @megansweeten9615 2 місяці тому +251

    My daughter was 4 when she was abused on her school bus by a bus driver. He was sentenced to 2 life sentences in 2019. I did so much research that lasted 2 years. I looked through every web search and read so many books. I listened to a ton of interviews by sexual abuse victims. Even 6 years later, I still listen to victim interviews and she’s still in therapy. She was young enough to not remember the exact abuse (when she is older and ask, I will be open with her), however she knows she was given a normal childhood. She has so many insecurities and at 10 years old carries stress and depression hard. The statistics of a child SA victim being revictimized rises substantially. That abuse by a man I didn’t know changed our lives forever. I refuse to allow her to be a second victim and have lived 6 years single to protect her. The hurt that childhood sexual abuse causes is a pain I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

  • @Orfeo68
    @Orfeo68 10 місяців тому +4204

    What a harrowing atrocity of a childhood this woman had. She’s a survivor. Her resilience is incredible.

    • @BiggityBoggity8095
      @BiggityBoggity8095 10 місяців тому +34

      I’m 8 minutes in and I can’t stand to listen to this any longer. It makes me feel ill

    • @davidkimber4896
      @davidkimber4896 9 місяців тому +38

      I knew this woman growing up! She's my friend's mom, I saw her at church every single weekend. I can't believe how strong she is, I had no idea. I'm at such a loss for words. I can't believe something like this happened to someone who is so instrumental to my childhood

    • @jaggirl
      @jaggirl 9 місяців тому +16

      She was exposed from one creep to another. Its almost liked she lived in a creeper community.
      It's very sad I'm sorry that nothing was followed through with. To give her a better childhood.

    • @Orfeo68
      @Orfeo68 9 місяців тому +10

      @@jaggirl The whole “let’s allow kids into a nudist colony” thing is UTTERLY INSANE. Like WTF!!! 🤬. The only nudity a child should be exposed to is their own. This story broke my heart.

    • @Gioprangija
      @Gioprangija 9 місяців тому +3

      @@Orfeo68 my parents were nudists so was i when i was little thank god nothing like this did ever happened to me but i don't think there is nothing inherently wrong with parents taking their kids to a nudist beach/colony.

  • @CAA_AB8
    @CAA_AB8 Рік тому +5675

    Never in this life did I envision this level of child sexual abuse in the presence of their parent. Extremely disturbing! Lisa, I applaud your courage and resilience.

    • @creolelady3930
      @creolelady3930 Рік тому +90

      You would be floored.
      Thank you Mark and blessings. Expose these animals

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +64

      Thank you so much for your kind words

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +84

      @@creolelady3930 Yes, they need to be exposed, I'm so grateful to have any opportunity to do that

    • @Nan-1017
      @Nan-1017 Рік тому +51

      @@LisaPlumbMFT oh Lisa, I was in tears throughout your story but especially when you would talk about how badly you were treated by not only your own parents and abusers but the people in law enforcement…You know, the ones that are supposed to believe and protect you!
      I just feel so incredibly bad for you. I’m so so sorry hon. 😪😪😪😪

    • @leejennifercorlewayres9193
      @leejennifercorlewayres9193 Рік тому

      It's the Israelis with remote mind control weapons corrupting all the countries for their communist revolution.

  • @helunanova
    @helunanova Рік тому +6926

    The worst predator here is the mother who not only failed to protect her but actually threw her in front of the pedophiles. It's heartbreaking. The mother wanted the molesting to happen it seems. For me this woman is not only crazy, she's a monster. Dear, beautiful Lisa, I wish you so much love and healing. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 11 місяців тому +482

      Yeah, the mom is actually a participant; especially letting the kids see her be with Larry.

    • @valeriebrousseau1053
      @valeriebrousseau1053 11 місяців тому

      She was probably getting money from pédophiles. Literally pimping child-prostitution.

    • @kadeelacayo4806
      @kadeelacayo4806 11 місяців тому

      I mean, her mom definitely had a hand in it. But the actual people who DID it are the worst pedophiles

    • @HumanityIsDisgusting
      @HumanityIsDisgusting 11 місяців тому

      There all fucking equally horrific. She didn't protect her because she knew and enjoyed it.

    • @Peem_pom
      @Peem_pom 11 місяців тому +373

      The dad is absent, and also asks her to forget her experience. Don't forget his role, he abandoned his little girl completely. The pedophiles are still the worst, and dunno if Larry threatened his gf

  • @malloryfeigenbaum5480
    @malloryfeigenbaum5480 2 місяці тому +153

    I’m a human trafficking survivor. Thank you Lisa for being vulnerable and telling your story.

  • @TMichelle555
    @TMichelle555 Рік тому +10899

    Damn really makes you think twice about the girls who were labeled as "sluts" in school :( i just want to scream at the adults and people who have failed people like Lisa

    • @thematriarchy2075
      @thematriarchy2075 Рік тому +649

      Yes, but why call girls sluts, ever?

    • @TMichelle555
      @TMichelle555 Рік тому +451

      @@thematriarchy2075 idk ask them, ppl have issues

    • @van_Gogo
      @van_Gogo Рік тому

      Exactly how can a 10 year be a slut to a 30 year old man .. victim blaming

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +522

      Thank you so much! I feel this and appreciate it. I hope to educate people in this area, junior high and high school was such a terrible experience for me. Appreciate you!

    • @debbiemohekey1509
      @debbiemohekey1509 Рік тому

      Blame the victim. Call a girl a slut and make sure everybody knows it and no one will believe the guy involved did anything improper, his mates will be envious of the stories he will tell and some will claim they were lucky with her too, simply because they don't want to be known as the guy who missed out, and that is how innocent girls get bad reputations. To be fair young boys get blamed for seducing their ugly old teachers and coaches and priests if they tittle-tattle. Age-old story, just don't know why people insist on believing such lies. Go to any courtroom and lawyers will be perpetuating the same old 'slut' stories. That ought to teach a victim to never open her|his mouth. Shame is big.

  • @fulanichild3138
    @fulanichild3138 10 місяців тому +6479

    I looked up Don Gordon's case and my jaw dropped. He spent 26 months in a mental hospital for his first pedo offense as an adult (who knows what he did before age 18.) Five years after his release, he was arrested again for crimes against 6 children, including Lisa. He was sentenced to 10 years in prison but was paroled after 5. Within 5 years of his release, he was arrested _again_ for molesting a child. He was sentenced to over 16 years, but was paroled after 8. Within 2 years, he was caught with kiddie porn. Hopefully he spent the rest of his life in prison, but considering how lax the system is with these monsters, he may have gotten out. It is unbelievable that the justice system keeps releasing these people to offend over and over again! It seems there is no regard for the well being of children.

    • @fulanichild3138
      @fulanichild3138 10 місяців тому

      @taramcgavan7654 And parole boards.

    • @geegeezlouis86
      @geegeezlouis86 10 місяців тому +781

      Looked into it too and three of his victims were his children. Fucking awful.

    • @gwendolynbleu1454
      @gwendolynbleu1454 10 місяців тому +163

      Thank you for looking into it …devastating

    • @YouTubeHandlesAreStupid
      @YouTubeHandlesAreStupid 10 місяців тому +242

      I'm at the point where I think the Judges are in on it.

    • @meows_and_woof
      @meows_and_woof 10 місяців тому +430

      Why is he still alive? I thought inmates sort such people out in prison

  • @EpicCoolGuy21
    @EpicCoolGuy21 11 місяців тому +11590

    The fact anyone thinks going to a “family nudist camp” is normal or not creepy is mind blowing

    • @b00mroasted666
      @b00mroasted666 11 місяців тому +1692

      the fact that such a place even existed/exists

    • @samanthamiller1277
      @samanthamiller1277 11 місяців тому

      Uujiji887yt77jruy768j😊

    • @Parrotgirl-tattoo
      @Parrotgirl-tattoo 11 місяців тому +436

      I live in Central Florida where there are several nudist camps. I'm acquainted with a few people who are nudists & they are lovely people, hippies really. But they are acutely aware that there are people with bad intentions & they try their best to keep those bad seeds out. It's unfortunate that in 2024 there is such a huge threat to children. I feel like the tolerance we have now for alternative lifestyles opens the door for degenerates. Especially when they know they can accuse others of being hateful if they get called out for their behavior.

    • @laourse1751
      @laourse1751 11 місяців тому

      ​@@ashlimontgomery8780This literally has nothing to do with lgbt people. Statistically, they're the one being abused as kids.

    • @HannaTegneskog
      @HannaTegneskog 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@ashlimontgomery8780 excuse you? Are you confused or what does LGBT has to do with pedophiles?

  • @christinagraham2237
    @christinagraham2237 3 місяці тому +194

    I totally forgot mark was even there. Thank you for sitting back and letting people tell their stories. No one else has ever sat back and listened for these people. You're a blessing to everyone you meet!

  • @breatheless
    @breatheless 11 місяців тому +5945

    it feels like every single person in her life has let her down, even as an adult and that is heartbreaking

    • @JustCammie
      @JustCammie 11 місяців тому +99

      I just finished watching the entire story, and I can't stop crying. She really became her own advocate. Incredible.

    • @franziskani
      @franziskani 11 місяців тому +163

      Her mother had one decent boyfriend that tried to fill the role of a good step father. But he was gone half of the time (merchant navy) and I think they split up when she was 12. But at least she got from him the confirmation that there ARE other relationships between kids and (step) father, and that she deserved better.

    • @adt4025
      @adt4025 11 місяців тому +53

      Seriously. It’s almost like it was all done on purpose that’s how terrible her story is. One thing after the next, after the next, after the next. Are people really this terrible on purpose?

    • @breatheless
      @breatheless 11 місяців тому +7

      @@franziskani it was also for just such a short time

    • @breatheless
      @breatheless 11 місяців тому +34

      @@adt4025 people tend to flock together if they are the same. Sadly she was born into a terrible state, she seemed to pull through but her siblings didn’t. We also don’t know how well she parents or how healthy her relationship is with her husband. I’m hoping she is at peace and breaking the emotional damage cycle

  • @ceeceethatsme9769
    @ceeceethatsme9769 11 місяців тому +7837

    You weren't "forever naive", you were a child subjected to so much manipulation. Those monsters were everywhere.😢

    • @celticfiddle7605
      @celticfiddle7605 11 місяців тому

      Those monsters are sinister and effective. Their brainwashing and grooming techniques work on little innocent children. Parents need to warn their children against child predators and murderers. Never leave your child with a stranger, man or woman. And tell your child to never let anyone touch them. If they are trained from infancy they will be safer.

    • @Jxiaojthcuwonsbf1230
      @Jxiaojthcuwonsbf1230 11 місяців тому +18

      Let us also remember that "those monsters" were probably victims themselves who just never got the help they needed.
      This is why therapy and talking to people about serious matters is so important.
      Especially children.❤

    • @keywestcarla
      @keywestcarla 11 місяців тому

      ​@@Jxiaojthcuwonsbf1230I know a high percentage WERE victems themselves, however, two wrongs do not make a right!! Once an adult there IS NO EXCUSE to hurt a child and have NO sympathy for them. I was hurt but I am.not out there molesting children. I never got help, I didn't even tell anyone for years...I turned to drugs and alcohol so please, let there be NO EXCUSES FOR THESE PEOPLE, victems or NOT!!!

    • @kimmcintyre9585
      @kimmcintyre9585 11 місяців тому +92

      One of my molesters was shot and killed by his 14yo stepdaughter. She got too old for him and he was replacing her.
      I was in therapy for years before the memories actually came together, and i understood why I acted out as I did. My parents knew. They hid the shame. My sister, brother, and I were all victims of 3 uncles, my dad's brothers. I'm sure that they(the brothers) were also sexually abused as well. But, they were old enough at the times that they abused us to know right from wrong. It's been a lifelong struggle for me to understand why my parents did nothing and continued to allow these monsters to come to our house and act like everything was normal. It probably why, as a 60 year old single woman that I can not even think about dating. I hate the thought of an old man touching me. It makes me physically ill.

    • @Donnydarko9912
      @Donnydarko9912 11 місяців тому +2

      Exactly 👏

  • @refolo7174
    @refolo7174 Рік тому +8600

    Pedophilia is so rampant in this world. I'm sorry that you had such creeps raising you. 😢You are really brave to share your story.

    • @UptownLexi
      @UptownLexi 11 місяців тому +1

      Yep, take a look at the comments on any news article about a female teacher and male student and you’ll see how rampant pedophilia is.
      People have no issue with it and defend it but will freak out over things that aren’t a risk. Then they act high and mighty like they’re defenders of children. Meanwhile dismissing all of the community leaders and religious or family members that are pedophiles.
      I’ll never understand.

    • @Notyourmanicpixiedreamgirl
      @Notyourmanicpixiedreamgirl 11 місяців тому +248

      I don’t want to believe this :( who looks at children like that? Like how can anyone possibly ugh it’s sickening 😢

    • @sunstarsmoon
      @sunstarsmoon 11 місяців тому +267

      I had no idea until I started watching this channel. I had such a basic childhood, with zero abuse and a lot of love. I thanked my parents profusely after watching this channel. Unreal what some kids go through.

    • @SRHisntSilent
      @SRHisntSilent 11 місяців тому +79

      Yeah there seems to be a higher prevalence nowadays
      It's very concerning and I fear for children in this era

    • @SRHisntSilent
      @SRHisntSilent 11 місяців тому +9

      ​@@Notyourmanicpixiedreamgirl I think that once someone is a predator and has very predatory behaviours they can go down that path

  • @nitters100
    @nitters100 2 місяці тому +72

    Lisa you broke the cycle. What a testimony of incredible strength and courage. God bless you and keep you. You are truly amazing and inspiring on SO many levels.

  • @ambriahmphilli
    @ambriahmphilli 6 місяців тому +1765

    Literally one of the saddest stories I’ve ever heard in my life.

    • @whatname5570
      @whatname5570 6 місяців тому +13

      I'm fucking crying and I didn't even watch halfway

    • @ginaw6319
      @ginaw6319 5 місяців тому +10

      I am devastated. My soul feels crushed just listening to her story but to live it is unimaginable

    • @jasonv2323
      @jasonv2323 5 місяців тому +9

      I am so angry right now

    • @ginaw6319
      @ginaw6319 5 місяців тому +8

      @@jasonv2323 it made me angry too! I wanted to absolutely rage for her!

    • @mattyicee
      @mattyicee 5 місяців тому +1

      Was her mother a pedo or accepting of pedos too? I’m struggling to understand how she could let her daughter go to a nudist camp with complete strangers her non adult SISTER met on the train? These stories always leave me with soo many questions because none of it makes sense to me. Soo many fucked up individuals, but it absolutely begins with her mother at the top. From 5 years old she became a perpetual victim, passed from one pervert to the next and her mother was just cool with it? And then her father? What a sick fuck. Insanity.

  • @clarkfredericks3309
    @clarkfredericks3309 Рік тому +7061

    I did my interview with Mark about 8 or 9 months ago. A few months back I got a private message from Lisa telling me how moved she was with my story. She hinted that she wanted to tell her story as well. I told her to go for it. The telling of our trauma on our terms means that we are now in control of our pain, rather than our pain controlling us. We sit alone with our shame, and it just eats us up. It's better to share it with the world and not let it just be on our own shoulders.
    Bravo Lisa for being able to articulate so well the horror you lived through. There are so many monsters out there, it's absolutely frightening the number of sick individuals running around. Well done, now go have a more peaceful life now that the burden you have carried is lifted.

    • @Deelifull
      @Deelifull Рік тому +112

      Thank you ::: Lisa ::: ❤ 🧡 💛 & Thank you ::: Clark ::: 💚 💙 💜 for sharing your stories.
      It means the world to us all. 🌎

    • @mmmfun77
      @mmmfun77 Рік тому +56

      I was guided to both of your interviews late last night. I , too, have a surgery mark. I wrote a comment on your interview feed as well as hers with an open, flowing heart❤ guided by grounded faith. I watched Lisa’s interview first and knew you had something to do with this. I felt it strongly . Hours later you wrote this. Inner peace with a quiet mind well earned is a powerful combination and CLARITY is priceless. ❤

    • @sharonbernhardt5387
      @sharonbernhardt5387 Рік тому +52

      I'll never forget your story Clark. I hope you and Lisa are doing well!

    • @catherinerobinson8844
      @catherinerobinson8844 Рік тому +26

      Thank you Clark. Has Lisa’s book been published ? I’d love to read it if so.

    • @clarkfredericks3309
      @clarkfredericks3309 Рік тому +9

      ​@@sharonbernhardt5387 thank you Sharon

  • @papaflanders4619
    @papaflanders4619 10 місяців тому +3522

    Her language is heartbreaking. “Anyways”, “whatever” when recounting her story. Constantly being letdown by the people who are supposed to be there for her. But she’s impossible to pity. Most people would fold underneath her circumstances. So many people in her life failed her yet she still wants to help people and children that may have been in a similar position to her in the past. Incredible resistance, truly admirable. I wish her nothing but the purest joy life can provide

    • @erikm8372
      @erikm8372 10 місяців тому +25

      I get what you’re saying, but I also hear her saying “whatever” from a different perspective, such as when they were watching “Pretty Baby” at the campground-she said she was like, “whatever” about that. As if they’re these weird adults watching this weird creepy film, you know? And she’s going along with it. Like “whatever”. But I get what you’re saying too.

    • @madanelayne3530
      @madanelayne3530 10 місяців тому +41

      Its like shes remembering and its so sick the “whatever” or “anyways” erases in that moment the scene in her mind 🥺

    • @madanelayne3530
      @madanelayne3530 10 місяців тому +51

      Kind of like a defense mechanism sort of

    • @ZombieSazza
      @ZombieSazza 10 місяців тому +21

      @@madanelayne3530I do the same thing - grew up in a very violent home and as such I’ve permanent nerve damage that’s left me with mobility issues, and PTSD, I’m okay explaining the general gist of the abuse I faced but not the specifics, if I do I try to do it as quickly as possible and try to move on with “anyway”, “it’s whatever” as a coping mechanism of sorts to stop the potential oncoming flashbacks.

    • @ashleytorres6821
      @ashleytorres6821 10 місяців тому

      x​@@erikm8372

  • @johnmilan4480
    @johnmilan4480 3 місяці тому +81

    Thank you Lisa, for taking the time and enduring the painful memories to tell your story. As a 60 year old man, I sat mesmerized and frozen in an almost forgotten fear as you recalled your childhood nightmares. Now, my tears wont stop as the strings of my own memories are plucked and vibrate in deep and lasting wounds that I thought were healed and forgotten long ago. Again, thank you for sharing. Thank you for being brave. And thank you for reminding me of the work I still need to do in my own life on these issues.

  • @lindalu8565
    @lindalu8565 7 місяців тому +3510

    Breaks my heart that so many adults havent been punished for child abuse.

    • @Vixiemini
      @Vixiemini 7 місяців тому +42

      They will punished! Judgement day

    • @_smv
      @_smv 7 місяців тому +24

      Cause most of them are really important people to society . Polic officers, politicians, the IDF etc

    • @jamiematthews1216
      @jamiematthews1216 7 місяців тому +35

      Over here in England, the sentences for Peadophiles are an absolute joke you get a bigger sentence for drug dealing how the hell is that justified.

    • @ElizabethBarbaro-eo8iu
      @ElizabethBarbaro-eo8iu 7 місяців тому +6

      ​@@jamiematthews1216 Same as in Australia

    • @daketh
      @daketh 7 місяців тому +3

      ​@@_smv school teachers and principels ect..

  • @mousetales
    @mousetales 10 місяців тому +3293

    I feel like her mom and bio dad were trafficking her. I feel like they were compensated. I’m so sorry Lisa, you deserved so much better

    • @Liitebulb
      @Liitebulb 10 місяців тому +363

      Yes of course. That's why they kept forcing her to travel with strangers

    • @elinaj3689
      @elinaj3689 9 місяців тому +21

      @@Liitebulb but where did all that money go?

    • @StreetsOfVancouverChannel
      @StreetsOfVancouverChannel 9 місяців тому

      @@elinaj3689drugs, expensive food, clothing, trips, pricey electronics

    • @starlette7820
      @starlette7820 9 місяців тому +225

      @@elinaj3689 Mom was a party girl remember? Living up the single lady life. Probably drugs, alcohol and gambling.

    • @garrettdeanna
      @garrettdeanna 9 місяців тому +18

      @@elinaj3689I mean if that happened it probably wasn’t a lot of money.

  • @trotskiftw
    @trotskiftw 10 місяців тому +2157

    I'm glad she talks about not only the abuse, but how the system consistently failed her for decades after the abuse. It needs to be heard by the institutions that fail these people.

    • @paintedbymarianna
      @paintedbymarianna 10 місяців тому +11

      It’s crazy how even when she was older too and had a whole family!! That’s insane…

  • @ShaleighRae
    @ShaleighRae 2 місяці тому +23

    Signed the petition! Thank you for sharing this. Praying for clarity, peace, and protection you and your family.

  • @tymberlynnj9875
    @tymberlynnj9875 4 місяці тому +2813

    i don’t understand how a “family friendly” nudist camp ever existed and it is still open to this day. im utterly disgusted

    • @greenknitter
      @greenknitter 3 місяці тому +76

      Lol never come to Europe. We have full and partly naturist camps in many European countries, many with kids facilities. There are rules that must be followed that protect all, and there is nothing wrong with nudity. It has no connection whatsoever to abuse. I'm sorry you feel shame and disgust at the human body.

    • @janeflip1
      @janeflip1 3 місяці тому

      @@greenknitterI’m sorry that you have fallen victim to the lies of evil people! Bodies are private and should be covered. Only sickos think public nudity is okay!

    • @Aleahadg
      @Aleahadg 3 місяці тому +440

      @@greenknitter Be real, no child should be naked around other naked adult strangers. Everyone's priority should be protecting children from potential pedophiles and as this woman said, these events and places are opportunities for pedophiles to take advantage of and you should not be giving these people any kind of access to children. It has nothing to do with feeling 'shame and disgust at the human body'.

    • @bridgetblackshear5991
      @bridgetblackshear5991 3 місяці тому

      @greenknitter I bet you’re a psychopath just like these monsters

    • @Kaigirl27
      @Kaigirl27 3 місяці тому +184

      @@greenknittercreep

  • @IWP-t8n
    @IWP-t8n 11 місяців тому +1958

    Lisa’s mom trafficked her. That’s why her response was so off when the detectives came to the school 😡

    • @morganstarchild5359
      @morganstarchild5359 11 місяців тому +201

      I agree she probably got paid

    • @CryingRaven
      @CryingRaven 3 місяці тому +83

      Yes. It's the only thing that makes sense. Why else would she be so dead set on her going with those people?

    • @thatsmynamja732
      @thatsmynamja732 3 місяці тому +56

      That's exactly what i said. She didn't even know those people but demanded she goes with them.

    • @JovitadeJesus120
      @JovitadeJesus120 2 місяці тому +1

      @@thatsmynamja732😡

    • @Pastaaa204
      @Pastaaa204 2 місяці тому

      ​@@CryingRavencould just be a useless self absorbed mother that only thinks about herself. My mother regularly endangered me and my younger sisters wellbeing bc she needed "a break" from us - despite hardly ever actually putting effort into any of her daughters. I remember many nights her bursting into our rooms in the middle of the night just to tell us we were ugly, no one would want us, were selfish and don't want her to be happy, we're wrong for making her bfs feel weird (me locking the bathroom door bc her bf kept ripping the shower curtain open while I was showering at 13), we need to love her how her family never did etc. Gang members were our saving grace which is crazy, but they had respect for all of my grandfather's and refused to allow any harm to come to us. She would drop us off on random friends for weeks, she'd leave us at drug dealers houses (really lovely people we came across which is mind blowing), leave us W her parents for months on end to party. All the effort they put in really reduced the abuse we went through and I did my best to shield my sisters from going through what I did, but even then I couldn't stop everything especially when I needed to step away and get better and they still had the mother they did. I don't regret moving out when I was younger bc I needed to, but I regret what our mother turned a blind eye to bc she resented the fact she was a mother. She wasn't the most attractive, however our father was model worthy and me and my sister looked more like him so it irked her. She also victimised herself bc she was a single mother - she broke up W our dad and he was only a child. She's a pedophile, it's why my father isn't on my birth certificate he's on my sisters tho. He was 15 for 30 days before I was born, my mother was 20 for 6months by the time I came around. She's also his first cousin by marriage - his parents took her and her brother in due to her father being physically abusive. My maternal grandmother's father married my paternal grandmother's mother. It's not blood, but it's still incest to me. My father was also a product of pedophilia, my grandmother was 13 when his big sister was born to their father who was a 26yo gang member. My maternal grandmother's brother was friends W my father's bio dad, he was livid he got his little sister pregnant twice so he tried killing him - the bullet richoted and it took his eye out but he lived. Most of my grandfather's tried murdering each other at one point or another so ig thats why gang members were so caring in regards to us girls. They kept us v sheltered so the things going on didn't affect us. A good mother wouldn't dump her children in the thick of all that mess.
      I thought too that her mother trafficked her, but there could be other possibilities.

  • @AnsonRobbins_Bodybuilding
    @AnsonRobbins_Bodybuilding 10 місяців тому +3598

    People get 15 years for personal possession of drugs but literal serial child rapists will get like 3 years. We HAVE TO CHANGE THIS!!!! SOMEHOW, DOING DRUGS IS SEEN AS WORSE THAN ASSAULTING CHILDREN BY THE LAW?!?!?

    • @hisokacranel7268
      @hisokacranel7268 10 місяців тому +70

      Thank Regan!😊

    • @judijohnson5555
      @judijohnson5555 10 місяців тому +18

      Totalling shocking !!!

    • @oeknnd
      @oeknnd 10 місяців тому

      It's probably that way because the people sentencing the pedophiles are also pedophiles and want less time in case they get caught

    • @Rosemary-up1ql
      @Rosemary-up1ql 10 місяців тому +70

      One in Claremore okla. Got 9 months suspended. I'll never forget that horrible judge, she was 9yrs. The judge was probably a ped also.

    • @deborahshedslighton1427
      @deborahshedslighton1427 10 місяців тому

      It will never change, they are all pedos

  • @alyssaroxanne9084
    @alyssaroxanne9084 3 місяці тому +55

    3:33 this is one of the reasons is it *so* *important* to teach children accurate anatomical words! And start teaching them about consent as early as possible. It is possible to give age appropriate education in these matters.

    • @pastelgalaxy123
      @pastelgalaxy123 2 місяці тому +10

      my mom is an assistant district attorney. she prosecutes sex offenders and child molesters, so since a very young age i was taught about body parts and what adults shouldn’t be able to do to you. i learned what sex was at a pretty young age as well (just a medical description basically but enough to understand). my mom knew that keeping kids ignorant about “inappropriate” topics was exactly what predators wanted. body parts are body parts. call them what they are. i’m so lucky to have my parents and i hope in the future more parents aren’t afraid to discuss “uncomfortable” topics like this with their kids.

  • @singingblueberry
    @singingblueberry 4 місяці тому +1133

    It's insane how she was just surrounded by monsters. Not a single responsible and compassionate adult in her life for so many years. Heartbreaking. I hope she can find peace.

    • @AL-qi4sx
      @AL-qi4sx 3 місяці тому +36

      Didn’t she say Ray was a good guy? Just wanna make sure I didn’t miss something.

    • @GynomKin
      @GynomKin 3 місяці тому +4

      ​@@AL-qi4sx yes, i think so

    • @zippobondo
      @zippobondo 2 місяці тому +7

      It’s insane how unbelievably many of these cases there are. Just in the US.

    • @yummemys4608
      @yummemys4608 2 місяці тому +12

      Ray, the detective and her husband are good guys. I'm just glad she got out. 🙏❤️

    • @ignacioalejo9136
      @ignacioalejo9136 Місяць тому

      And they say Mexicans are crazy drugged rapists 🤔 white films have always been the sickest folk I’ve ever come across real talk

  • @Cynnas
    @Cynnas 11 місяців тому +1144

    For all the "stranger danger" we're terrified of statistics show that child are in far more danger at home, with family or family friends, at a friend's house, at church or with any known person. Seriously.

    • @ZzzZ-sb9ju
      @ZzzZ-sb9ju 11 місяців тому +19

      Exactly!

    • @howareyoualiveifyoudonteatbeef
      @howareyoualiveifyoudonteatbeef 11 місяців тому

      Stepfather is the number 1 perpetrator of s*xual abuse... Especially towards girls.
      Why? Because single mothers are magnets for paedophiles. The lady in the video hit the nail on the head. I see these kids for real. It's nearly always the same groups of people surrounding a child.

    • @Infinityxxxxxx
      @Infinityxxxxxx 11 місяців тому +29

      Don't forget Schools....

    • @everyoneknowsitsbutters8071
      @everyoneknowsitsbutters8071 11 місяців тому +34

      Yeah it’s usually not a stranger. Pedophiles who are family members feel as if their victim won’t tell because they have a connection or some time of familial bond. And it’s true because the child will be too scared to tell anyone else in the family out of fear of being shunned. Especially if it is a very close relative like a sibling, parent, cousin, you know.

    • @bearythebear69
      @bearythebear69 11 місяців тому +3

      Yes!

  • @annamarchi4600
    @annamarchi4600 11 місяців тому +4290

    "you had a quite extensive sex life" I CANNOT BELIEVE A FATHER WOULD SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT AFTER EVERYTHING SHE TOLD HIM. IT'S INFURIATING.

    • @roleat
      @roleat 10 місяців тому

      He was likely abusing her when she was an infant.

    • @ninashirley432
      @ninashirley432 10 місяців тому +11

      How dare you speak to like that ! 😡

    • @prunabluepepper
      @prunabluepepper 10 місяців тому +108

      Normally I scold people for using all caps, but for your comment, the letters should be even bigger! You're so right! How dared he, what a terrible father he was. 😢

    • @staciacrick3373
      @staciacrick3373 10 місяців тому +17

      @@ninashirley432Who are you referring to and what is your point?

    • @WaryJester
      @WaryJester 10 місяців тому +11

      ​@@staciacrick3373 probably about the father saying that, not the comment tht is rightly disgusted by it

  • @artistabbymarie
    @artistabbymarie 3 місяці тому +29

    I wanted to reach out and hug her while watching this.. so much pain and suffering.. this is heartbreaking… I send her so much love and healing ❤️

  • @maddart4445
    @maddart4445 Рік тому +2855

    You didn’t have a voice as a child but you have a voice now. I’m proud of you for telling your story. You are courageous. Keep it up!

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +53

      Thank you so much! ✊🏻🙏🏻

    • @sharonjoan9997
      @sharonjoan9997 Рік тому +15

      @@LisaPlumbMFTyou are beautiful blessed and loved. I’m hugging your 5 yr old self. ♥️🙏🏼👏

    • @jenkim8933
      @jenkim8933 Рік тому +1

      L

    • @jacquelens
      @jacquelens Рік тому +3

      @@LisaPlumbMFT so resilient and a downright hero!

    • @golic7123
      @golic7123 11 місяців тому

      Great comment !

  • @_afracturedmind_
    @_afracturedmind_ 11 місяців тому +800

    The amount of negligence by EVERY SINGLE adult in this story is effing mind blowing. This is wild, i can't. I would have violent angry thoughts too.

    • @valeriebrousseau1053
      @valeriebrousseau1053 11 місяців тому +23

      They would rather protect their status/reputation than protect childrens. Im soo not suprised😢

    • @rabblerousin8981
      @rabblerousin8981 11 місяців тому +5

      My whole family too.

    • @XGRIMYONEX
      @XGRIMYONEX 11 місяців тому +2

      neglect?? . They just didn’t care.

    • @_afracturedmind_
      @_afracturedmind_ 11 місяців тому +13

      @@XGRIMYONEX the definition of neglect is failure to care

    • @_afracturedmind_
      @_afracturedmind_ 11 місяців тому +2

      @valeriebrousseau1053 yeah no kidding. It's despicable, I couldn't imagine holding my reputation at a higher value than any children. I can't wrap my head around it. It's insane how common these acts are. Wtf is wrong with people.

  • @Gaby-fb7gh
    @Gaby-fb7gh 11 місяців тому +1438

    The lack of compassion from the detectives when she testified angers me. It's completely disgusting.

    • @squizzerl1478
      @squizzerl1478 11 місяців тому

      The detectives are probably the same as the people they investigate... pedos are EVERYWHERE. They hide in plain sight.

    • @thatb1tchtherapist
      @thatb1tchtherapist 11 місяців тому +69

      The fact that the investigator shut her down when she tried expressing herself is so fucked. They truly failed her. They ask her to essentially be retraumatized and face one of her perpetrators. And she had one simple request. And they couldn't even do that...

    • @Liitebulb
      @Liitebulb 10 місяців тому +58

      The detectives, the parole officers, all so fucking useless

    • @shleepy...
      @shleepy... 9 місяців тому

      Pedophiles/abusers stick together…

    • @Cutdiamond
      @Cutdiamond 8 місяців тому

      Because they are all involved in this demonic sh*t too! The swamp runs deep!

  • @guardian2598
    @guardian2598 Місяць тому +15

    I don’t know why I listen to these. I feel the rage in my heart, those “parents” cannot suffer enough. You are strong and an inspiration, take care Lisa.

  • @mosspiglet_
    @mosspiglet_ 11 місяців тому +2481

    The scariest part of this is how normal her parents seemed to society. And that it was happening right under everyone's noses. Horrifying. Lisa you are such an amazing survivor! So inspiring.

    • @ElainePaterson-g6w
      @ElainePaterson-g6w 11 місяців тому +20

      Lots if this has happened..that abducted in plain sight says exactly that...parents sold and still sell their kids

    • @VolcanicAsh2001
      @VolcanicAsh2001 11 місяців тому +18

      Honestly, it’s because people excuse tooooo many behaviors that are red and orange and yellow flags

    • @lailanimessina1473
      @lailanimessina1473 11 місяців тому +9

      That’s usually how it always goes ! Just like the biggest drug addicts and alcoholics are the rich living in big houses and actn like they’re better than everyone else

    • @JustWowNick
      @JustWowNick 11 місяців тому +17

      Literally described them as “straight out of a 1950s magazine”, so stereotypical nuclear family patents on the outside. For once “never judge a book by its cover” is a true statement.

    • @ryanjacobson2508
      @ryanjacobson2508 11 місяців тому +12

      ​@@JustWowNickShe is too young to have grown up in the 50's..... Honestly, the 70's and 80's had much higher rates of child abuse because that's when the hedonistic Sixties generation tried (and I emphasize, tried) to be parents and failed miserably.... Often bringing their hippie-dippy nonsense into their kids' lives.

  • @Mouchet26
    @Mouchet26 11 місяців тому +2259

    This is absolutely horrific! All the adults should be in jail.

  • @angelamoran1479
    @angelamoran1479 Рік тому +2019

    How in the world did this poor girl survive with so many monsters coming in and out of her life. The level of abuse she endured is mind boggling. Hope and pray that she has peace in her life now.

    • @beckee6282
      @beckee6282 11 місяців тому +64

      Some people don’t. But some people that go through horrific abuse come out smarter, stronger and unfortunately more cautious and anxious than most people. You learn to survive, because it’s the only thing you CAN do. She’s in survival mode forever. The resilience she shows is a trauma response, I know as a survivor myself.

    • @Lonewolf-fw7nz
      @Lonewolf-fw7nz 11 місяців тому +13

      Sounds like my mother so similar . Everyday I walk around dead inside

    • @stuff1784
      @stuff1784 11 місяців тому +9

      She had no other choice than to survive.. I’m still amazed though.

    • @lc1429
      @lc1429 11 місяців тому +2

      antinatalism strikes again

    • @jennifers.3818
      @jennifers.3818 11 місяців тому +10

      It seems like alot of victims have repeated abuse throughout their lives by many different perps, for some reason. Idk what it is

  • @nicolejohnson9355
    @nicolejohnson9355 2 місяці тому +19

    Oh Lisa! You are bringing up so many suppressed memories for me. I had a very good family but was left alone (or allowed alone a lot). Elements of so many of your experiences were mine as well. Your sharing is so important. Thank-you

  • @MrsKState
    @MrsKState 11 місяців тому +2380

    I work in child welfare.. Lisa you are the reason I go to work everyday for the traumatized children. Thank you… you give me hope🙏🏾❤️

    • @Littlepea2890
      @Littlepea2890 11 місяців тому +32

      You are a HERO! Thank YOU for doing what you do!

    • @PamelaH_HappyVibes
      @PamelaH_HappyVibes 11 місяців тому +18

      I can’t imagine what you see in your line of work. My heart aches for you. Somebody has to stand up for the children. I am so thankful for you and for all of your work!

    • @derekspringer6448
      @derekspringer6448 11 місяців тому +13

      These children however, are likely becoming traumatized by your own doing... I don't know how anyone that works in child services can live with themselves. I haven't been made aware of kids getting sexually abused in my personal life, thank god, but I have seen more children irreparably traumatized by the foul, judgemental, and wholly uncaring and indifferent system that is child "protective" services.
      Guardian Ad Litem's who take their own personal judgement of situations at the very beginning of cases, because they totally buy into the manipulation of the worse parent. Only to yoink the kid from their stable and loving home, and shove them into a home with an unfit, manipulative, terrible parent who has ZERO relationship with the kid, as this person just got out of prison, then run a case stacked with double standards, making it absolutely impossible for that kid to end up with the correct parent. So instead they get to live full time with a complete stranger, who just got out of prison, and has zero desire to raise this kid or have a relationship with them, and is not quiet about this fact either... He shows no interest in the child, the child absolutely DOES NOT want to live with him and its obvious... So how is it that he came to have custody? His insane girlfriend of six months went in there and manipulated absolutely NOBODY... Child psychologists have said custody should go to mom without a doubt, dad has zero interest blah blah blah... NO ONE thinks this kid should go with dad and crazy girlfriend... Oh wait, except the Guardian Ad Litem. When this all started I told my friend she wouldn't even have to try... Its so obvious her kid should be with her. I wasn't even considering that he might be able to win custody... And for good reason too, all of the professionals brought in thought the exact same thing. Nobody in their right mind would EVER consider giving this abusive POS custody of a daughter that's never spent a day with him, doesn't know him, he just got out of prison for beating up her mom and drugs... Where is the kid today you ask? Why, with the father who has FULL CUSTODY of her, is taking her out of her private school so they can homeschool her with their 6th grade education's (they won't actually). The kid is 6 and has recently developed an eating disorder, doesn't sleep well at all, her life is in shambles except the two days every other week she gets to leave her dad's... Dads house... Get away from her uncle who sells every drug under the sun and also lives with them and grandpa... And gets to go to her real home with mom.
      This is just one of MANY stories I could have told. CPS takes kids from loving homes, just to be in the system until they are 18, because mom or dad struggled a little with substances, but never let it affect being there for their child. It happens constantly. And I do know there are people out there who's kids SHOULD be taken away, it just seems to me like they are the ones who have luck with protective services, and ample chances to continuously fail with... When people who absolutely should remain guardian of their children get their kids taken because one of the case workers hated the color of their blinds or something, and takes on a personal vendetta against that person... Disgusting. It happens ALL. THE. TIME.

    • @Agencetourix
      @Agencetourix 11 місяців тому

      @@derekspringer6448I think it's time to take your meds...

    • @misty5882
      @misty5882 11 місяців тому +31

      @@derekspringer6448you’re being very very judgemental and assuming yourself right now. you don’t know this person and you’re using other statements to blanket them.

  • @benandjerrys9147
    @benandjerrys9147 10 місяців тому +445

    “why didn’t you tell me” the audacity of this woman to act dumb when she KNEW damn well what was going on. thank you lisa for sharing your story! you are incredibly brave and resilient

    • @Liitebulb
      @Liitebulb 10 місяців тому +36

      She was doing it in front of the cops to bolster her innoncence

    • @LeilaniKristina
      @LeilaniKristina 9 місяців тому +13

      ​​👏🏼 That 1000 % ​@@Liitebulb I wouldn't doubt if she sold her daughter to them. The incentive for her to go with them is a total red flag. A sicko, how she didn't go to jail is mind-blowing.

    • @erikaandrews4648
      @erikaandrews4648 9 місяців тому +2

      And was a participant

  • @missbusanbeth
    @missbusanbeth 10 місяців тому +1480

    This lady is a badass. To go through so much and still have so much kindness, empathy and honesty. Just wow.

    • @MunkuStrap-b3s
      @MunkuStrap-b3s 10 місяців тому +22

      She’s worked really hard to get there. I think the natural human response oftentimes is resentment, anger, apathy, etc. I’m very happy she is where she is.

    • @marandaholley-u9p
      @marandaholley-u9p 10 місяців тому +1

      how do you know she possesses those things from this video lmao

    • @missbusanbeth
      @missbusanbeth 10 місяців тому +8

      The way she talks bout her situation and other people lmao

  • @acaciablossom558
    @acaciablossom558 2 місяці тому +10

    Lisa thank you for being strong enough to give your story this specifically. I was abused by many opportunists when I was a kid, and the hardest thing to explain to people is how the grooming happens. How the parental neglect leads to opportunity for abusers, and how abusers take advantage and groom. I hope that telling your story was more helpful than painful, but I hope so much more that parents and relatives hear this and can help them see signs and intervene.
    I’m so sorry for what happened to you. You are an extremely strong woman. I am very proud of you.

  • @karinalemus2305
    @karinalemus2305 11 місяців тому +2262

    I have a 5 year old. I broke down when she said she WAS 5 when she was abused for the first time 😢

    • @ri1b
      @ri1b 11 місяців тому +54

      @@boostedrex9460Bro I’m pretty sure she’s talking about the lady in the video? Not her own daughter

    • @dabest444u
      @dabest444u 11 місяців тому

      @@boostedrex9460Ur so dumb 😂😂😂😂 READ BITCH

    • @karinalemus2305
      @karinalemus2305 11 місяців тому +53

      @@ri1b Thank you! I didn’t think my comment would be misinterpreted

    • @Ricecakee0
      @Ricecakee0 11 місяців тому +33

      @@boostedrex9460 comprehension skills are important.

    • @amandakrause9394
      @amandakrause9394 11 місяців тому +1

      Same here 😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @girlwithaword93
    @girlwithaword93 Рік тому +1663

    Not only those men molested her. The mother molested her too, letting your kids watch you having sex with the father /partner whatever, is sexual abuse too

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +134

      Yes it is, thank you for caring 🙏🏻✊🏻🙇🏻‍♀️

    • @Nicole-ph4yb
      @Nicole-ph4yb 10 місяців тому +16

      That's terrible I cried when she said that

    • @bernice4599
      @bernice4599 9 місяців тому +1

      @@LisaPlumbMFT😢

    • @gemdedurere
      @gemdedurere 9 місяців тому +10

      Heartbreaking story😢 I have a 2 year old son and it seems out of this world to me that there’s people out there that do this to little children. Especially their own parents!!!! So sorry for you Lisa… little Lisa deserved better parents and love…

    • @exnihilonihilfit6316
      @exnihilonihilfit6316 9 місяців тому +4

      Duh.

  • @ReneeWilson-bb5nm
    @ReneeWilson-bb5nm 8 місяців тому +2413

    You became an EMDR therapist! You became who you needed.

    • @karolusmagnus3992
      @karolusmagnus3992 7 місяців тому +24

      I never thought about this, I think this is very much true in my case as well. So many of the things which my abuser(s) did bother me so immensely I have forcefully removed them from myself entirely. They often gaslit and said misleading/false things, and so I'm very very particular about admitting when I'm wrong, and always saying "now I'm not sure about this" and correcting anything I realize I've said that wasn't entirely correct. I never lie, which certainly has its own problems but I don't ever want to cause that kind of feeling in someone else. I want for others to have the person I didn't.
      Great comment!

    • @shorty4872
      @shorty4872 7 місяців тому +26

      You became who you needed😢 I love this

    • @amberearheart3326
      @amberearheart3326 6 місяців тому +9

      This lady is a HERO she became who she needed

    • @dondamon4669
      @dondamon4669 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@amberearheart3326nothing heroic here it's abuse and you shouldn't see it as a positive thing

    • @projectacuhope
      @projectacuhope 6 місяців тому

      EMDR works

  • @onnivision6464
    @onnivision6464 2 місяці тому +16

    That’s amazing that a voice told her to memorize how to get to the studio. 🙏🏽

  • @Beachbby850
    @Beachbby850 11 місяців тому +782

    Her description of his eyes changing- made my stomach drop. It brought me back to so many of my own memories. God Bless you, Lisa

    • @Jess_Smith0903
      @Jess_Smith0903 11 місяців тому +14

      I’m so sorry this hit anywhere remotely close to home for you. I hope you’re in a healthy mental state!

    • @amiarizzo
      @amiarizzo 11 місяців тому +4

      im sorry you had that relation and similar or the same experience , sending you love and prayers x I hope you love yourself forever !

    • @Puddycat00
      @Puddycat00 11 місяців тому +9

      Demons do possess ppl every day

    • @failinginamerica
      @failinginamerica 11 місяців тому +4

      @@Puddycat00anyone who claims that demons aren’t real or that they don’t need morality is allowing themselves to be easily lured into one of many traps of evil.

    • @ShimmeringSparkCHRIST.IsComing
      @ShimmeringSparkCHRIST.IsComing 11 місяців тому +1

      I'm so sorry. I pray peace & healing find & comfort you ❤

  • @ChelseaMiddlebrook
    @ChelseaMiddlebrook Рік тому +2070

    Shame on Lisa's mother for not protecting her. What a brave woman. Loved listening to her story

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +57

      Thank you so much

    • @GDJ113
      @GDJ113 Рік тому +144

      "Not protecting" as if she wasn't actively complicit

    • @janedoe8005
      @janedoe8005 Рік тому +72

      Her mother and father...

    • @JeannetteRoss-r7c
      @JeannetteRoss-r7c Рік тому +4

      I loved listening to your story you are a powerful woman of God! I need to get a copy of your book!

    • @Protolamna
      @Protolamna Рік тому +27

      ​@@x_elisabeta_xYes I think this is the most common type of trafficking It seems😢

  • @Renofirefly30
    @Renofirefly30 11 місяців тому +1373

    My dad went to jail for domestic assault after finding out my uncle and his wife molested me. My dad explained to the police and the judge why he beat up my uncle and none of them invested it. My dad was able to get his record expunged but all 7 of my aunt and uncles kids were later removed from their home for child abuse and my uncle again got away with everything while his wife was sentenced to a mental facility.

    • @oizyzz
      @oizyzz 11 місяців тому +194

      your dad did the right thing. im so sorry this happened to you, and i hope you and your father are living peacefully right now

    • @nicolenotizieeamici
      @nicolenotizieeamici 11 місяців тому +109

      He should be given an award.

    • @5sick2
      @5sick2 11 місяців тому +81

      Your dad is a hero 💜 and I am so sorry for what you went through, you are so strong

    • @heatherchandlerr
      @heatherchandlerr 11 місяців тому +30

      your dad is truly one, pray your doing well now

    • @spb8039
      @spb8039 11 місяців тому +18

      The wife was held responsible for her husband's actions. WOW!!1

  • @dr.education6286
    @dr.education6286 20 днів тому +5

    I'm so sorry for all that has happened to you! You are a victor, a beautiful survivor, and I'm glad to hear that you are using your pain as purpose to be an advocate for children.

  • @genisisdawn
    @genisisdawn 8 місяців тому +1634

    My mom got molested by her stepdad. She let me go stay with the guy and my grandma for many a summer. What the hell was she thinking. Needless to say I got molested there of course. I'm breaking this generational curse and not EVER putting my son in a situation that this could EVER happen. Wtf is wrong with people. These pedophiles should be UNDER the jail. It fucks your life around when you get molested. You never truly get over it. You can literally permanently damage a child's psyche. Sickening!!!

    • @shanghaiffgg
      @shanghaiffgg 8 місяців тому +26

      Very sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine either of my two boys being molested. Do whatever you have to do to keep your kids safe.

    • @DragonKiller-nw2ju
      @DragonKiller-nw2ju 8 місяців тому +7

      Damn

    • @i_hateithere
      @i_hateithere 7 місяців тому +105

      The first time, I was only 6 years old. I didn’t understand what a “penis” was. He showed me. Told me to grab it, then slapped my hand and said “no”.
      It fully started when I was 9. My mom was away at a funeral, in Pennsylvania. We lived on base in California. He was in the military, & gone 6 months out of each year. I dreaded when he was home. I started sleeping in front of my bedroom door, blocking it, & watching underneath for his footsteps. Listening… I stopped caring for my hygiene, stopped brushing my teeth and hair, stopped washing. Nothing stopped him. I made myself as disgusting as possible. It didn’t matter. My mom (after she was told, & he said it was an accident & misunderstanding, it wasn’t) she left us at a friends party on base, a long walk from home, with him very drunk. I had to guide him. The whole way, he was apologizing & saying “I never meant to hurt you, I didn’t mean to”, he was crying. I didn’t answer. This wasn’t a one time thing. It was over 2 years.
      Today, I’m his caretaker. He’s fully disabled. He is a respected veteran, in his community. I have had to live with this almost 40 years.
      Thank you for allowing me to share. Thank you for reading. ❤️‍🩹

    • @carpathianken
      @carpathianken 7 місяців тому +10

      It must make you feel really unimportant in the present day now that you've come to realise how easy it is to protect your children from predatory harm, so why wasn't the same care afforded to you to protect you from molestation? My mother let middle aged men rape & molest my 9 & 11 year old sisters & even though my sisters got paid out crimes compensation money by the government they struggle with forgiving my mother, especially when she accused them of being ungrateful for "all" she's done for them. I'm sending you love & healing in my thoughts & I salute you for breaking the cycle of abuse for your son.

    • @DragonKiller-nw2ju
      @DragonKiller-nw2ju 7 місяців тому +13

      @carpathianken I'm pretty sure nobody would forgive their parents if "letting random middle-aged men" rape them is part of growing up. I always tell people there's a difference between acting like a parent and having the title of one.

  • @yashvgaikwad
    @yashvgaikwad 11 місяців тому +1613

    I feel so disturbed listening to everything she had to go through. My heart is broken into a million pieces. I feel sick to my stomach and I wanna throw up. I’m so shattered but so happy that Lisa is out of that hell. She is inspiring

    • @zoeranaldi5213
      @zoeranaldi5213 11 місяців тому +21

      I completely relate. I hate that this is the world that we live in. I'm so proud of Lisa for having had endured that and coming out of it such an amazing person.

    • @JustCammie
      @JustCammie 11 місяців тому +7

      Me too. I can't unfurrow my brows. This is rough.

    • @Mason-ci8gj
      @Mason-ci8gj 11 місяців тому +11

      Yeah the longer I listened the more depressing. So upsetting that people do this to children and teenagers. Thank God for a good ending 🙏❤️

    • @saraht903
      @saraht903 11 місяців тому +5

      And the feeling of helplessness…. knowing this goes on in the world. But we can’t do anything to save them. Its just so hopeless it seems. 🥺

    • @mrlsdutch
      @mrlsdutch 11 місяців тому +4

      I'm watching this with my 7 week old son on my chest and I can't understand that people could do something like this to (their own) children... I just want to protect my boy and raise him with love and safety 😢 this is horrific. Absolutely disgusting. Poor Lisa...

  • @secretshaman189
    @secretshaman189 Рік тому +940

    You were groomed your whole early life, and then shamed by people who were callus and clueless. You are so brave to come forward to describe your pain and problems to order to help others. God bless you.

    • @taylorssquad3770
      @taylorssquad3770 11 місяців тому +1

      Dad knew .,..😢

    • @franziskani
      @franziskani 11 місяців тому +21

      @@taylorssquad3770 Dad made a point not to learn of (be botherred with) any details. The touching (the first incident by the first boyfreind) he was eager to gloss over. When her parents divorced it was contentious, and the children in the middle of it. But he chose NOT to go after his wife when he had an excellent justification to do so. He was really afraid HE would become the primary caregiver and would have to take care of the children.
      He was obviously right to divorce his wife, but he should not have left the children with her. He is a bad parent as well, just not as terrible as the mother.
      - The "mother" obviously sold her daughter (her boyfriends enjoyed it for free and mum dearest did not want to know) but the aquaintance Lisa obviously had an arrangement with the mother.

    • @AlexandraDingbat
      @AlexandraDingbat 11 місяців тому +6

      ​@@franziskani I had to stop reading your comment after a few sentences for too become psychically I'll and I ran to vomit. I have a serious emotional issue when people tell me they think I'm beautiful... My mother ... Hey favorite line was " this is my daughter, isn't she beautiful??" . Then she would go to her bedroom and shut the door. Waiting for the drugs and money I was given. Started at 14. Though I went thru m*lestain well before. I'm sorry I'm gonna be sick again I can't explain any more

    • @thickmint5875
      @thickmint5875 11 місяців тому +8

      @@AlexandraDingbat I am so sorry to hear this. I went through something pretty bad as a kid too that I don't like to talk about so I feel your pain. But God loves you. Cling to Jesus because the Lord says, "Vengeance is mine; I will repay."

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT 11 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much for your compassion and best wishes, to you too!

  • @jemimanorman9841
    @jemimanorman9841 2 місяці тому +5

    Thank you Lisa!
    Such a good description of the struggle with the reoccurring triggers. The lack of empathy where it is so needed. Thank you Thank you

  • @barb-jm7990
    @barb-jm7990 11 місяців тому +1296

    This poor lady makes me wonder if some of the girls we knew in my school that seemed a little "fast" were actually victims of child sexual abuse. I know one of them told me years later that her stepfather had molested her regularly. She never told her Mom because he said they would have no money or place to live if he left. After going through therapy as an adult, she changed her name because of the way her stepfather used to say her name. Another girl had to have gynecological reconstruction at about age 12 and I didn't understand at the time why she needed that. I know now that it had something to do with her mother's boyfriend. I am so sorry that Lisa had to go through all of that as a child. She definitely deserved to be protected by her parents and not treated the way she was.

    • @hannahm.9881
      @hannahm.9881 11 місяців тому +101

      More than likely. I was young and fast...and a victim of SA.

    • @barb-jm7990
      @barb-jm7990 11 місяців тому

      I'm sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you!@@hannahm.9881

    • @stephanieann9770
      @stephanieann9770 11 місяців тому +37

      The answer is yes.

    • @Story_player
      @Story_player 11 місяців тому +2

      May I ask what you mean by fast?

    • @chanelsoglo
      @chanelsoglo 11 місяців тому +1

      @@Story_playerbasically doing sexual things at a young age

  • @cassieondra
    @cassieondra Рік тому +2780

    it’s stories like these that make me sit and realize my childhood was an absolute blessing. Lisa, i hope you find peace with everything you have been through.

    • @he4609
      @he4609 Рік тому +64

      Same 😭 i wish these people didn’t have to experience such evil humans as innocent children.

    • @danettecherry5003
      @danettecherry5003 Рік тому +46

      Right!? These videos have shown me the same! My heart brakes for any child who falls victim to such sick adults. But if I've learned anything, it's that those sick adults were probably victims themselves, and the sickness gets passed on.

    • @wesleyAlan9179
      @wesleyAlan9179 Рік тому +13

      💜🙏same here.

    • @mrfinitefinder1361
      @mrfinitefinder1361 Рік тому +38

      We don't ever really find peace. We just try to cope on a daily basis for the rest of our lives. Coming from a guy who has been in treatment and recovery for decades.

    • @life_withl
      @life_withl Рік тому +12

      I relate to her, not on this particular level but enough to lose my first spouse. I’m doing EMDR Therapy now and it’s been incredibly beneficial. Sending positive vibes her way 🙏🤍

  • @chlo7427
    @chlo7427 11 місяців тому +1506

    My mother sold me in exchange for drugs, which lasted 8 years of my childhood, and even when I got away from her I still managed to get mixed in with pedophiles.
    I'm so touched by Lisa's story and I'm happy she's come this far and has been able to tell the world. It really makes people who have struggled in this way feel seen, and not alone.

    • @megyn2546
      @megyn2546 11 місяців тому +66

      unfortunately it seems like once it starts, it keeps going by different people. im so sorry this happened to you.

    • @ashleykuhn89
      @ashleykuhn89 11 місяців тому +34

      I’m so sorry that happened to you… 💔

    • @marisawoods
      @marisawoods 11 місяців тому +31

      God bless and keep you. It's so difficult to talk about, and the pain is always there. Bless you with peace.

    • @feelthecosmos91
      @feelthecosmos91 11 місяців тому +24

      It breaks my heart to read this. I'm sorry...

    • @keywestcarla
      @keywestcarla 11 місяців тому +14

      I hope you are doing well now, also!! Heartbreaking!

  • @HugDealer
    @HugDealer 2 місяці тому +12

    What an incredible, wise, strong and insightful woman. A true WINNER. I have so much respect for her resilience. I cannot imagine going through so much abuse, throughout childhood and adulthood. Yet growing into such a well spoken, rational, self aware and well articulated woman. I bet she is the best therapist for abused kids in the whole state, being able to relate and being truly compassionate.

  • @jamespolizos8984
    @jamespolizos8984 Рік тому +1499

    I’m so very sorry for everything Lisa endured. To say I’m filled with sympathetic rage is an extreme understatement.

    • @Kellz323
      @Kellz323 11 місяців тому +14

      I feel the same

    • @auntangelsgarden9081
      @auntangelsgarden9081 11 місяців тому +5

      Me as well.

    • @gamzeakkus-erdal211
      @gamzeakkus-erdal211 11 місяців тому +10

      I couldn’t have put it better myself. I wish her the very best. What a remarkable woman

    • @gailjohnson2487
      @gailjohnson2487 11 місяців тому +1

      YES YES YES….sympathetic RAGE 😤 🤬🤬🤬

    • @saragrosso6104
      @saragrosso6104 Місяць тому +1

      Put into words exactly what I’m thinking. I’ve been trying EMDR myself, but I cannot fathom or imagine being in this level of pain and betrayal. I can’t count the amount of times I’ve gasped or cried or laughed in shock saying wtaf to myself.. horrified, disturbed, heartbroken, bewildered can’t cover it. Lisa you are a warrior, and have the goodness still this world needs after experiencing such disgusting circumstances. I have no doubt God has a direct line to you. Prayers and love to you❤️ and bless you for all you are doing to help others. Never forget you matter, and best wishes for all your healing.

  • @jay-nc2bb
    @jay-nc2bb 11 місяців тому +943

    the way she's able to tell this story with out bursting into tears. this is horrible

    • @ayasha89games66
      @ayasha89games66 10 місяців тому +89

      She's probably all cried out and numb inside. Or on meds and therapy.

    • @caninecaregroomer8030
      @caninecaregroomer8030 10 місяців тому +62

      Complete dissociation. Obviously. She would be psychotically insane if not.

    • @dahlia_124
      @dahlia_124 10 місяців тому +14

      Maybe she has had a lot of therapy hours 😢

    • @denden8372
      @denden8372 10 місяців тому +52

      I noticed too that she often said "whatever" to sort of just casually dismiss things. Ties back with the mindset that she was trained with to "not make a big deal out of things." I hope she's healed a lot from that eventually

    • @happyhenshomesteadkeith-pa1289
      @happyhenshomesteadkeith-pa1289 10 місяців тому +31

      She commented five months ago and said that she is a therapist herself. I imagine she has worked through a lot of the trauma and is simply reciting the horrible story and has coping skills of how to deal with it, that’s why she’s not bursting into tears every time she talks about it.

  • @sallyanngrant1179
    @sallyanngrant1179 11 місяців тому +606

    The ‘Don’t contact me again’ from the detective was the most brutal of all of it. Oddly, I had a similar thing happen after reporting sexual abuse as a child, and then decades later after having to report that young children in my family were being sent unaccompanied to stay overnight with the perpetrator. People’s minds certainly work in mysterious ways sometimes.

    • @deeh5126
      @deeh5126 11 місяців тому +71

      My (former) sister in law told the family about the sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of my (then) husband about 15 years ago. The reaction she got from the family (who, in most ways, is a good family) was horrible. Of course I didn't know the details, and my husband assured me his sister was mentally unhinged. A bit later I discovered that he was the most disturbed person I know personally. I divorced him and gained full custody of our kids, with supervised visitation only for him (I don't think my kids were ever harmed by him, but when I left him my eldest was 13 and that was when I started seeing red flags and gtfo).
      I finally went to his sister and apologized for not being a safe place for her and helping here through what must have been so hard. One of the other sisters, who always favored my (ex) husband even told her she thought she was a liar- to her face. Her own sister... smh. Needless to say, this victim has little to do with her family anymore. She and I are closer now than we ever were before an I try to validate her as much as I can.
      All that to say that I not only witnessed people perform mental gymnastics to avoid the truth, I have done it myself. I am not proud of it, but it has been an eye opening things to realize. I am so sorry for what you endured.

    • @phataton7588
      @phataton7588 11 місяців тому +11

      He might have been involved

    • @MicheleOverton
      @MicheleOverton 11 місяців тому +20

      That detective just pisses me off royally. I would have reported that dude but if Lisa had done that it would have perpetuated the pain she was already in and she risked yet another rejection from that A hole's boss. Sometimes I've had to walk away from situations when what I really wanted to do was confront. For my own piece of mind. Seriously, how dare that detective. I don't care if Lisa wasn't as calm and well spoken as she was. No matter what that piece of s*** could have apologized to her and talked for a bit. How could that be so hard for a trained professional? Jerk.

    • @undeuxtrois123
      @undeuxtrois123 11 місяців тому +2

      @@deeh5126What were the red flags you saw ?

    • @ShimmeringSparkCHRIST.IsComing
      @ShimmeringSparkCHRIST.IsComing 11 місяців тому

      I'm so sorry you went through that. Thank you for speaking up on behalf of the children in your family. ❤

  • @LisaEder-r9j
    @LisaEder-r9j 3 місяці тому +34

    Kids , both male and female who are labeled as “sluts” or promiscuous are kids who need help … NOT SHAME. Understanding, empathy, caring and love … all kids deserve and need this. Reach out with love v judgement to change a life . Lisa you are amazing ❤

  • @bsdetective1500
    @bsdetective1500 Рік тому +683

    I had a pit in my stomach listening to her story. It's a miracle that she was saved. The trauma that she had to relive over and over was palpable. I felt sick each time.. A therapist who knows trauma personally is the best kind. She deserves to have a great life now.

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +42

      Thank you for caring and for supporting us wounded healers, appreciate your support! 🙇🏻‍♀️

    • @theTrend7
      @theTrend7 Рік тому +1

      Same,I almost couldn't finish it. But I am glad I did,just to hear how much she had overcome

    • @Mardia100
      @Mardia100 Рік тому +3

      I felt exactly the same. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Every time Lisa began to explain a different encounter I felt more and more nauseated. I looked up this eden place and also can't believe it is still open. Knowing that it is a common place for pedophiles and child abusers, it is disgusting to have this place open today.
      Lisa, I thank you for telling me your story. The reason why I dove in to the topic of child abuse is because I have two daughters of my own and I want to do everything in my power to never have anything like this happen to them. I feel like the more I know, the more I can protect them. But man, I was not prepared for a the awful things I would learn. It is giving me nightmares

  • @lindsaykat
    @lindsaykat 11 місяців тому +780

    “I have to put the feelings where they belong” is my new mantra. This woman is an incredible human being and I’m in tears. She has no idea how many strangers she has inspired by persisting and advocating and speaking out❤. Thank you

    • @Ga-hr7ux
      @Ga-hr7ux 11 місяців тому

      we need demand brook shields to condemn the pedophile film

    • @Cthomas5678
      @Cthomas5678 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes I liked that saying too❤

  • @nathalypablo2683
    @nathalypablo2683 4 місяці тому +905

    This women is incredibly strong. I can't imagine describing all those horrific events with a calm tone.

    • @waterox73
      @waterox73 3 місяці тому +21

      I've learned it's actually pretty common for extremely traumatized people to tell their stories in this very matter-of-fact casual manner.

    • @tinyybiceps
      @tinyybiceps 3 місяці тому +8

      When you've been abused from such a young age, it becomes (very unfortunately) normalized and it's just like talking about how your day went or a TV show you watched

    • @jody2873
      @jody2873 3 місяці тому +4

      ​@@waterox73kind of acts like shock- it's a sort of disconnect to once again read through the events and qualify moments "objectively" to deal with crap

    • @AstraeaJustice
      @AstraeaJustice 2 місяці тому +2

      She wasn’t that calm can’t you hear the airy voice and her little sighs?

    • @lh8167
      @lh8167 Місяць тому +2

      ​@AstraeaJustice also the rocking & holding her hands & rubbing them. She is, unfortunately, still affected.

  • @SandraKoss-w5o
    @SandraKoss-w5o 2 місяці тому +2

    I’ve listened to so many Laita interviews and many of them impress upon me any number of emotions or thoughts. How you were able to capture so many details so young… you’re an amazing human. We have abuse in our family and at 64 I struggle with our history. Just when I think I have total recall, someone brings up an event I was at but have zero recall.

  • @jazmynvalentine158
    @jazmynvalentine158 5 місяців тому +1213

    My family moved to Adelanto when I was a teenager, we had a neighbor named Don (Donnie), he brought over lollipops when moved in, then the next day a watermelon “for the kids” and he said we could go over and play whenever we wanted to. My mother, (who I always said was “paranoid”, now I say vigilant) declined the watermelon, told him to not come to come to our door anymore, and told us kids we were never to go to his house or even acknowledge him in anyway, I remember thinking “man that’s mean, he was just being nice” and I remember my mom saying..”No one is nice like that for no reason” now, I wonder if this was the same Don. Even if it’s not, as an adult I get it now, and I’m so grateful and proud of my Mom for always protecting us. Maybe she came off rude, maybe she miss judged some people, but she wasn’t going to find out if she was or not that hard way, we came first and we were always protected, even growing up in terrible places. I’m so proud of my mom ❤

    • @DaisyMaybee1723
      @DaisyMaybee1723 4 місяці тому +41

      This comment is beautiful. Bless you, your siblings, and your mom!

    • @Rainbow_Pumpkin
      @Rainbow_Pumpkin 4 місяці тому +64

      Your mom is right. No man is that kind immediately without any reason.
      I remember a relative of mine. He was very clingy to me, always tickled me, kissed me, and wanted me to sit on his lap. My mom would always get mad, so they tell me to hide whenever he comes by. We live in a small village, every house is close nearby, and the people living there were all relatives.

    • @jazmynvalentine158
      @jazmynvalentine158 4 місяці тому +140

      Update: Turns out this was the same Don living across from us 😳

    • @TheCatiebrownie
      @TheCatiebrownie 4 місяці тому +12

      @@jazmynvalentine158she’s a smart woman.

    • @marcusmedford9634
      @marcusmedford9634 4 місяці тому +6

      @@jazmynvalentine158what year was this?

  • @alexh7146
    @alexh7146 11 місяців тому +397

    Currently 15 minutes in the video and I am absolutely so disturbed and blown away at the fact that there is such place like Glenn Eden that allows children there to be with adults and allow just anybody and just did a Google search and they’re still open and running?!? a recent Google review says somebody’s child got groped there, and authorities did nothing either .

    • @kawaiilotus
      @kawaiilotus 11 місяців тому +81

      Yeah its fucking mental, if all adult nudists resorts want to do whatever then its by the by, but adding minors inro the mix just seems like a recipe for disaster to me, even if these places are well intentioned it is so easy for the rot to seep in, how depraved!

    • @EverybodyLovesSarah
      @EverybodyLovesSarah 11 місяців тому

      Anyone who brings their child there is a p*do or a p*do by proxy end of story.

    • @heathermumpower2403
      @heathermumpower2403 11 місяців тому

      I can’t beleive it either!!! It’s just allowing a safe place for pedos

    • @LoveK1
      @LoveK1 11 місяців тому +42

      The “authorities” are probably frequent flyers there themselves.

    • @ExoticAfrican6
      @ExoticAfrican6 11 місяців тому +12

      @@LoveK1exactly what I was thinking

  • @amylopez5840
    @amylopez5840 Рік тому +681

    The fact that she made it thru this without crying I think shows the work she’s done and she feels safe enough to tell her story. I want to reach this point eventually, I can talk about some things but I’m not sure I could tell my whole story

    • @HH-kg4fq
      @HH-kg4fq 11 місяців тому +11

      Proof that Jesus Christ is King!!! Jesus Christ is Savior!!!

    • @sallyanngrant1179
      @sallyanngrant1179 11 місяців тому +30

      It’s a high bar. I doubt I will ever reach that either. And that’s okay. As long as we can actually have a functioning life with happiness and security then we’ve achieved so much. ❤

    • @ShadeBlackroses
      @ShadeBlackroses 11 місяців тому +16

      @@HH-kg4fq jesus made her suffer all those things but sure

    • @cudderkid1336
      @cudderkid1336 11 місяців тому

      @@HH-kg4fqJesus Christ let’s kids get touched every day

    • @virginiamosier9115
      @virginiamosier9115 11 місяців тому +15

      She has had to be numb for a lot of her life. When she had kids she knew what she would do to protect them. At that point she coujd realize how deficient her mother was.😮

  • @mayarivers8622
    @mayarivers8622 13 днів тому

    Thank you Sarah.
    When you share your story you put out a beacon that says we are not alone.
    I appreciate you

  • @keyoshisuki
    @keyoshisuki Рік тому +2648

    The response her dad gave when she told him everything 🤯🤯🤯☹️☹️☹️

    • @VibrantLight709
      @VibrantLight709 11 місяців тому +29

      💯

    • @Alaitha
      @Alaitha 11 місяців тому

      Yeah. I nearly spat out my coffee. It caught me completely off guard.
      What a piece of human excrement.
      I (unfortunately) found the website of the North American Man Boy Love Association (the group she mentioned when talking about when they cleared his house).
      I am sick to my stomach, and just perusing the site for 2minutes taught me exactly why his response was exactly that.
      That the page is even online to find with a simple google search is soooo sooo sick.

    • @Haruzumakii
      @Haruzumakii 11 місяців тому +79

      Disgusting

    • @annipsy2185
      @annipsy2185 11 місяців тому +172

      Pretty sure they were all in on it basically

    • @RestauranteBeiraMar
      @RestauranteBeiraMar 11 місяців тому +76

      I SEE THAT NOT EVERYONE IS MEANT TO BE PARENTS.

  • @seraphale
    @seraphale 7 місяців тому +811

    One thing I notice over and over again is the anxiety the interviewees have when they are recounting the early years, fidgeting, not being able to catch their breath, being extremely uncomfortable; and how it melts away as they go on to describe how they escaped those situations and gained power and independence. Sometimes you have to be your own hero, and it IS possible.🖤

    • @jeromevincente2932
      @jeromevincente2932 5 місяців тому +2

      That is adult analysis. What BS TO A 4 year old! Be your own hero that’s and adult mature brain ! A 4 year old is just leaving the pamper phase of life . Don’t confuse them. Say and name things naturally without emotional attachment.

  • @mattsheezy5469
    @mattsheezy5469 11 місяців тому +1522

    This isn’t an isolated thing, guys. You see how many predators show up to these sting houses? My local DA said the number of cases she sees is staggering. What is up with our culture??

    • @tipofthefingercomedy5071
      @tipofthefingercomedy5071 11 місяців тому +38

      I think there are a lot of factors, but kids seem to be developing younger which I think may have something to do with the food industry, and the clothing styles of today that kids are wearing are more like what a promiscuous adult would wear. These two factors alone are baiting for predators, but still doesn’t explain why predators are so prevalent.

    • @nohesiii
      @nohesiii 11 місяців тому

      Because these fckers r tryna normalize pedophilia they way they did with changing genders

    • @el-sd8oo
      @el-sd8oo 11 місяців тому

      this was the nonciest response i've ever heard wtf is wrong wit u @@tipofthefingercomedy5071

    • @lalaisoyan757
      @lalaisoyan757 11 місяців тому

      ​@tipofthefingercomedy5071 this doesn't make any sense. Pedophiles are by definition looking for immature traits, they enjoy how children are naive and don't look like adults. No matter how fast hormones kick or whatever you mean, nothing will make children equal to adults and that difference is what pedofilles are seeking for

    • @anonymouse9833
      @anonymouse9833 11 місяців тому +432

      @@tipofthefingercomedy5071 this is victim-blaming and a very bad take. A 5 yr old will _never_ look "developed" regardless of what they're wearing or what food they ate. wtf is wrong with you?

  • @beronicapuello6372
    @beronicapuello6372 Місяць тому +2

    What brave people that come on this channel to share these stories. I couldn’t be more speechless every time. Sad!

  • @MommaARA
    @MommaARA 11 місяців тому +581

    The exact reason why I did not marry or date after my girls dad died. I was engaged to one man through the church we were going to, but when I discovered he was lying about dating sites I broke it off. No reason to put my kids or myself in danger. I still get questioned to this day by other adults why I didn't date or marry like I had done something wrong. My adult kids are safe and untouched.

    • @MrsLyraGyrl
      @MrsLyraGyrl 11 місяців тому +24

      My mother was similar. She was engaged a few times, but never once left me alone with them. It wasn't until my senior year of college that she was finally going through with it (they had a house and everything ). I didn't know him well, but everytime I went home I could see how happy they were together. Unfortunately, January they found out he had cancer, and he died Valentine's day. I wanted to fly home to comfort her, but she's stalwart. Took it in stride, even when his kids and ex-wife suddenly swooped in to take what they'd built together. She didn't care about the money, so she didn't even fight. Just grieved in her own way.

    • @denisehood2915
      @denisehood2915 11 місяців тому +8

      Same! Both my girls are now grown and have wonderful husbands.

    • @adshaj
      @adshaj 10 місяців тому +8

      My son is 5 and I have zero intention of dating or bringing a man around until my son is teen. No rush for me. I’m so overprotective of where he goes. He knows what penis is, he knows what the names are. He knows NO ONE can touch him without his permission.

    • @cesarchavez507
      @cesarchavez507 10 місяців тому +7

      Respect. My grandmother never remarried since she had 5 daughters.

    • @liliannapassut2246
      @liliannapassut2246 10 місяців тому

      I was sexually abused from ages 5 to 8 by my moms on and off again boyfriend the amount of times I wished she'd just dump him

  • @Alexandria250
    @Alexandria250 7 місяців тому +758

    Soooo important to start talking to our kids at 2-3 years old about how NO one should touch you in certain areas and use the words!!!! Don’t be afraid to talk to your kids about these things and to remind our children they can talk to us about anything!

    • @blessed74God
      @blessed74God 7 місяців тому +20

      2 and 3 I know I did and I used the words!!! Relatives like, "u know that's a child, right?! And I'm trying to keep him that way

    • @cg9616
      @cg9616 7 місяців тому +8

      Assumes children have authority. Knowing shame doesn’t save children from monsters. Protect your child

    • @black-ij3ui
      @black-ij3ui 7 місяців тому

      @@cg9616 it definitely could save them if they knew what sexual abuse is. a lot of these stories are children "not knowing what's happening", believing they did something wrong, that their parents would be mad or whatever. At the age of 5 i knew what molesting/sexual abuse was and what predators say ("our little secret" etc) and there is no way i wouldn't go running to my parents if someone ever attempted anything.

    • @roxylooney2585
      @roxylooney2585 6 місяців тому +10

      @@cg9616no shit Sherlock.

    • @LunaScorpius
      @LunaScorpius 6 місяців тому +24

      @@cg9616It’s not just teaching them the vocabulary but also teaching them what consent means. When kids are forced to give hugs and kisses to relatives when they don’t want to-they’re taught their feelings and consent don’t matter. You need to teach them about consent early bc that’s how predators prey-by breaking the boundaries of consent, slowly.

  • @zeuswrld9547
    @zeuswrld9547 11 місяців тому +677

    I used to hate my parents for being up in my business 24/7, always checking my phone and social media, always telling me I couldn't go places with my cousins or friends. Now that I'm older and hear more stories like these, I'm so grateful for them.

    • @yeetrootthebeetroot3872
      @yeetrootthebeetroot3872 10 місяців тому +32

      literally bro i could not be more grateful

    • @MarcosRobles-oj7om
      @MarcosRobles-oj7om 10 місяців тому

      This is however, not the world we should be living in.​@@yeetrootthebeetroot3872

    • @the-berries-and-cream-dude
      @the-berries-and-cream-dude 10 місяців тому +22

      I remember being a kid and my mom not letting me go to sleepovers and being so mad and thinking how exaggerated she’s being when she told me ‘you never know behind close doors’. As an adult, I can see how true that is.

    • @gabrielle9412
      @gabrielle9412 10 місяців тому +8

      My mom didn’t tell me about my body or how to protect it. And I was free to do whatever the hell I wanted. Sometimes I feel like there may be gaps in my memory. I feel drawn to these stories and certain faces, family members and stuff pop into my head, but I can never be sure. All that being said, I would have been the perfect victim. I had no idea, and abusers could have groomed me easily. I had a very abusive home life. I was starved for affection, especially male affection. I’m forever grateful that somehow this woman’s story WASN’T mine. In the wrong circumstances it could have been.

    • @yeetrootthebeetroot3872
      @yeetrootthebeetroot3872 10 місяців тому +2

      @@gabrielle9412 i’m sorry that happened to you

  • @AntzAhhh
    @AntzAhhh 3 місяці тому +6

    That "life can be good" at the end hit like a freight train jeez Lisa everthing good for you and your family!

  • @GUACHARN
    @GUACHARN 10 місяців тому +499

    Mark, the best part about this interviewed was her last sentence " Thank you for listening " you did exactly that. Thank you for allowing their voice to be heard.

  • @StormyHallahan
    @StormyHallahan 7 місяців тому +301

    I got cat called more as a 12 year old than I ever have as an adult. I think more “men” like children than ever admit it or do anything about it.

    • @magdabak5797
      @magdabak5797 5 місяців тому +17

      A lot of men do like children. Unfortunately a lot of us know that more than we ever should.

    • @IchorOfTheManndrake
      @IchorOfTheManndrake 5 місяців тому

      Or, the men with those perversions are socially maladjusted and thus more likely to cat-call?

    • @beatriz6403
      @beatriz6403 5 місяців тому +3

      Saaaaaamee

    • @alyssapage1585
      @alyssapage1585 5 місяців тому +8

      Yupppp + while pregnant too. I wonder why men who aren't the father of an unborn baby are turned on by random pregnant women....hmmm. Absolutely vile 🤢

    • @juliocoronado7995
      @juliocoronado7995 5 місяців тому +1

      Don’t forget women Stormy, but I understand where you’re coming from.

  • @ilyadelaco1672
    @ilyadelaco1672 11 місяців тому +1032

    I just googled Glen Eden expecting it to be closed as her experience was so long ago and my jaw about hit the floor when I found out that not only is it still open but they STILL allow children there.

    • @beekind6267
      @beekind6267 11 місяців тому +36

      😮😮😮😮

    • @butterflywings8332
      @butterflywings8332 11 місяців тому +12

      😨

    • @pixpusha
      @pixpusha 11 місяців тому +161

      I hope the internet gets it shut down.

    • @soul-zc4ny
      @soul-zc4ny 11 місяців тому +131

      God in the name of Jesus Christ lift a standard against that place and close it down through your grace and mercy's for the children that are being disrespected and hurt by Demo!!!! filled people.!!!!!!!

    • @ABC-cy6ve
      @ABC-cy6ve 10 місяців тому +9

      I don’t think it’s a nudist resort anymore, unless I found the wrong one. Near Steamboat, Colorado?

  • @AviaTitus
    @AviaTitus 11 місяців тому +923

    My childhood wasn't perfect, but when I hear stories like this I realize how lucky I was, and how truly terrible the world is for some children. It's heart breaking that any child goes through this.

    • @robotcookies
      @robotcookies 11 місяців тому +4

      Same like I’m starting to heal my inner child but I have to realize when I hear these stories that my childhood wasn’t as worst like theirs.

    • @rareben395
      @rareben395 11 місяців тому +28

      You are valid too and everybody's emotions are valid. No need for comparing. Not saying it isn't true but often times seeing others have it worse make me completely feel like I'm a shitty person. So if anyone wanted to hear something like this YOU ARE VALID AND IM PROUD OF YOU.

    • @willowoodz
      @willowoodz 11 місяців тому +6

      ​@@rareben395 you don't realize how much this means. thank you for commenting this. God bless your soul. 💗

    • @ellichan5603
      @ellichan5603 11 місяців тому +5

      Your trauma is still valid. Another persons suffering doesn't lessen your own!!!

    • @rareben395
      @rareben395 11 місяців тому +1

      @@willowoodz ❤❤all love, you are loved !!! (and anyone else reading this)

  • @shea5287
    @shea5287 11 місяців тому +903

    Her mom definitely knew and seemingly encouraged it

    • @dimed5820
      @dimed5820 11 місяців тому +176

      I bet that she probably profited from it as well.

    • @halliadams5987
      @halliadams5987 11 місяців тому +150

      Absolutely! When you have a man and woman visit you on their way to a nudist camp and you tell your young daughter to "go with them" what in the he!! do you think is happening. The supposed "mom" not only encouraged it, she actively enabled those sick activities! Absolutely disgusting.

    • @__.maryy.janee.__
      @__.maryy.janee.__ 11 місяців тому

      she definitely knew, also in the beginning lisa talks about her moms ex boyfriend (i think his name was larry or something) but he wanted lisa in the room when him and her mother were having sex. she was LETTING her kid WATCH her pedo boyfriend have sex with her. ofc she knew of what was to come

    • @lindadenneypu6315
      @lindadenneypu6315 11 місяців тому +67

      Her mother actually I would say birth giver is a monster

    • @cjbotts
      @cjbotts 11 місяців тому

      Probably getting paid by those evil animals. Just sick.

  • @Mom_Non
    @Mom_Non 10 місяців тому +573

    Lisa, look at you! You had a traumatic childhood. One of the most disturbing and difficult ones I've heard of. And yet, you not only survived you are brave and so strong. You've risen above the life you could have had. You are a cycle breaker, compassionate, and show immense perseverance. I don't know you personally but am so proud of you. You are victorious. So courageous

    • @bernice4599
      @bernice4599 9 місяців тому +2

      👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️

  • @GritToGrace
    @GritToGrace 9 годин тому

    Lisa!!! I also came from being an addict to becoming a therapist. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

  • @The.Meg.K-cc1tv
    @The.Meg.K-cc1tv 11 місяців тому +302

    Lisa stopped the cycle. I have a 12 year old daughter and I just kept thinking "If I just could have taken Lisa and hugged, loved and protected her " what a wonderful women. May God continue to bless her.

    • @anguishedcarpet
      @anguishedcarpet 11 місяців тому +16

      Her story disproves the existence of an all powerful, benevolent god. Why would a benevolent god make this his plan for her and why would an all powerful god not stop it

    • @eeeelayna
      @eeeelayna 11 місяців тому +15

      @@anguishedcarpethave to agree with you. If god is really all powerful and all knowing- what a cruel, evil, jealous, spiteful creature.

    • @claudeyaz
      @claudeyaz 11 місяців тому +4

      ​​@@eeeelayna I'm not very religious but based on religious people's talking, it's the reason that heaven exists, so for people who are innocents and who are victims of other humans free will,... This stuff is normal, this is how dark human history has always been.. We were living in a very peaceful time... And look at what dark and horrible things happen.. But this peace? that we are gonna miss it everything breaks down, imagine if there were no laws or nothing to hold these types of people in check. Terrifying.
      And what the hell is up with the sister, did she get paid for her sister?

    • @Copemaxer
      @Copemaxer 11 місяців тому +1

      @@anguishedcarpet”benevolent and all good”

    • @neonnv1139
      @neonnv1139 11 місяців тому +4

      @claudeyaz when something great happens Praise god for what he did. When something bad happens it’s bc of free will. Nah. No thank you.

  • @fawn111
    @fawn111 11 місяців тому +349

    soo glad she mentioned pretty baby. it’s so common for predators to very strategically show their victims that sort of media as a way ot grooming them into thinking it’s normal and romantic. it’s really frustrating that Brooke shields to this day actively defends that movie and then pretends she’s an advocate for abused women

    • @isalisa909
      @isalisa909 11 місяців тому +91

      She defends that movie because of her mother who basically got her that role. Brooke even has a hard time admitting that her own mother groomed her and sold her to Hollywood

    • @stepho3078
      @stepho3078 11 місяців тому +29

      This is my first time hearing about that movie and I’m so mad that Brooke shields defends the movie. She’s 50+ and she still doesn’t understand? Even with kids…..

    • @mitchweber7868
      @mitchweber7868 11 місяців тому +8

      ​@stepho3078 Nah, dude shes gotta understand 😂😂😂 she's not stupid, these people are baffling.

    • @Youtubesucks777
      @Youtubesucks777 11 місяців тому +1

      What movie? The one on an island?

    • @karenedwards6713
      @karenedwards6713 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@UA-camsucks777no this movie is where she plays a prostitute's daughter in a legal New Orleans whore house. She is about 12 and she is auctioned off for which man buys her virginity. It plays on tv every now and then. Yea, blows your mind!

  • @Thatweirdchickfromyoutube
    @Thatweirdchickfromyoutube Рік тому +776

    This story really makes my stomach hurt. How disgusting that all these adults around her were so depraved. Makes me so sad. What a strong person to get through all that & be who she is now.

    • @hgraham1836
      @hgraham1836 Рік тому +31

      This is the worst I've heard. I just can't believe the mother

    • @icorp3942
      @icorp3942 Рік тому +15

      Yea I'm only 8 mins in and I don't want to watch anymore

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +10

      Thank you for your kind words Claudia

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +8

      @@hgraham1836 Thank you for caring

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +5

      @@icorp3942 I hope you are able to regulate and watch what you are up for, thank you

  • @melanietoth1376
    @melanietoth1376 2 місяці тому +11

    My mom and dad assaulted me Both were crazy. No drugs or alcohol involved. I'm not sure which started it. I was rented out after 9 yrs old but already acclimated at that point. I never meet anyone whose been through what my siblings and I went through. I hate that any of us dealt with it but I do wish those of us who have had experiences so young and so often and so extreme could have a group of some sort. We were trafficked, abused by our parents, we survive I wish we could support each other and support the younger ones just emerging as survivors. I wish we could be there for each other. ♡I wish I could meet Lisa.

  • @hannahmurphy9314
    @hannahmurphy9314 10 місяців тому +680

    So many stories where CPS gets involved and then returns the child victim to the abuser, never to follow up again. And so many stories of children getting taken from loving parents over false accusations. I don’t think that’s a coincidence

    • @slove7932
      @slove7932 10 місяців тому +4

      Happened to me

    • @alancameron6687
      @alancameron6687 10 місяців тому +15

      Exactly why I kept my mouth shut. It wasn't SA, but physical and psychological abuse and I knew if I reported it, I'd only make things worse for myself. So I didn't.

    • @ednabustamante8872
      @ednabustamante8872 10 місяців тому +7

      Omg yes ! The justice system is so broken I fear everyday for the innocent children getting abused/killed at the hands of the wrong people 🥺🥺🥺

    • @iAmCodeMonkey
      @iAmCodeMonkey 10 місяців тому

      @@alancameron6687 :(

    • @Tearfulmelodies
      @Tearfulmelodies 10 місяців тому

      @@alancameron6687same .

  • @alexblainelayter7703
    @alexblainelayter7703 Рік тому +569

    I'm amazed that she not only survived but also redirected her life. She's courageous to keep putting her trust in people and systems after having been failed and abandoned again and again. She's clearly still processing - rationalising, minimising, deflecting - but it is incredible that she never stopped trying to live a good life. She deserves happiness and recognition for what she has overcome.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 Рік тому +4

      @Eidelmania Amazing!

    • @teresaacevedo1731
      @teresaacevedo1731 Рік тому +4

      Lisa you are a rock star ! Thank you for sharing your painful journey. I’m so proud of you for staying strong and being determined to better yourself. You are a true survivor .

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +24

      Thank you so much Alex! I do weave in and out of denial, etc and then back to gratitude for all the good I do have.

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +15

      @Eidelmania I have heard that I present that way, but you'd be surprised at how many survivors do. I have my moments.

    • @LisaPlumbMFT
      @LisaPlumbMFT Рік тому +7

      @@teresaacevedo1731 That's super kind of you to say

  • @garden_vibes7796
    @garden_vibes7796 11 місяців тому +316

    My boyfriend suffered abuse at rhe hands of his stepfather all his life. His mother was in the SAME HOUSE. How people are blind to these things is beyond me. It is gut wrenching, and those people should be taken care of as they are the lowest in society.

    • @kimm.6818
      @kimm.6818 11 місяців тому

      Sadly, women like your BF's mother and this woman's mother were never "blind". They are fully complacent with their children being abused. Either they themselves are pedophiles as well and they fetishize the idea of their children being abuse or they have such low self esteem that they are willing to do anything to keep a man around.

    • @smolkiddo1842
      @smolkiddo1842 11 місяців тому +20

      They may not be blind but blatantly stupid, or as abusive as their partner or just desperate because they can't afford a better life.

    • @Myacckt
      @Myacckt 11 місяців тому +10

      They’re willingly blind and don’t ask questions when they know they should

    • @atroxfortuna
      @atroxfortuna 11 місяців тому +13

      Denial is a survival mechanism for trauma. Meaning, the abuse is highly likely generational. Some are victims and can end up offending while others are survivors and shed light to the evil by speaking up thus stopping the cycle.

    • @_anon_4532
      @_anon_4532 11 місяців тому +6

      They’re blind bc they choose to be. They’re selfishly trying to protect themselves and their own feelings. Too cowardice to do what’s right.

  • @guest-hy2jy
    @guest-hy2jy 12 днів тому

    Thanks for describing your PTSD Symptoms so well. Its really helped me.