? I don't understand what you're saying.... I can't be disappointed, if I reject myself first?... I have been totally devastated. I've collapsed many times, have uncontrollable panic attacks. I've been hospitalized. The psychiatrist diagnosed me with ptsd, severe anxiety, severe depression, Anhedonia. Lost interest in living. ... I am very disappointed in myself, and personally devastated. I've returned to the apt. My mental and physical health are declining. I'll don't have any will. Depression is horrible. I've called 988 suicide line, VA crisis, and Here Tomorrow counseling. Just don't want to go on anymore
@@klanderkalI agree That fact is not relatable to everyone...but once you recovered from your disorders trust me you'll become the most happiest person you've ever met...all you have to do is just to be patient...i have gone through the same as you i have drunken poisons too I'm still shocked how I'm still alive.. now I'm regretting the actions i have done to weak my health during my high depressed stages...trust me all you have to do is just to be patient everything is temporary ❤
@Euphoria.x10 wow,.. thank you. I really hope to get well. I still suffer every day. Im unable to do anything,.. and the insomnia is taken a toll on my body/brain. Sleep deprivation 😟 ... depression is so unbearable. Also, now my eyesight has gotten even worse. I need to get glasses, ... I don't want to, but it's gotten bad. Everything is BLURRY. .... I still haven't accepted, loosing my career job.!! I miss that life, and how great I felt. This all wasn't supposed to happen.,.. im off my life's path, and I cannot even get back on..... Patients?.... I don't know if I can survive. It's really declining my mind. ✨️🫶💕
@@klanderkal i also had to give up in my dream to be a great player in chess because of my mental traumas.. that's where i sucked and my mental disorders raised up because of that sorrow..the worst part is since I'm 13 years old when I'm going through it i got no chance to inform about it to my parents even i hate to talk about my situation with my frnds...i always showed up as someone who has zero problems but actually i really needed pills i was like fainting all the with the mental instability...i couldn't Cry because of the fear getting caught to my parents... but i hv shouted one day and had got scolded then i start to research about my situation in Google and yt to overcome with it that only lead me to overcome but it got me around 2years..
@Euphoria.x10 Thank you for sharing this. I'm in that dark place now. I hardly sleep anymore,.. if I pass out for a 1-2 hrs..., I awake in Panic, fear . Reality of my life being ruined. .... * When I was young, my neighbor was a City Bus Driver. He would walk down the street , and for years, tell us stories. I knew i wanted to do that one day,... as I go older, I knew I'd have to wait for decades to be mature enough, and also find a way to achieve the license. It became my goal. I did all kinds of jobs, I would leave the job, only if I could advance my license. That's how dedicated I was to one day, possibly, get the opportunity. I finally got the license. And started applying. A couple years later , they went on strike.... they started hiring again,.. then I got the call. I was SO happy. I graduated from the 3 month class, passed 6 months probation, and my dream came true. That's why loosing the job, the way I lost it, and my own involvement, really has torn me apart. ( just alitte insight, that this just wasn't a job). I hate what I did. I didn't have to retire!!, but I put myself in jeopardy. I couldn't handle, I didn't know what to do.... then. It really got bad.......⛓️☠️
Very well said and explained. I have panic disorder and generalized anxiety, my panic disorder is under control now, but I'm still struggling with catasrostrophising and there is improvement here also. I can see more clearly now that it's just a pattern, an echo of past trauma and I remind myself every day that things are different now.
0:06 yes. I went on my worlds best date ever. Day after we text a bit. Then decide a time to call so we can plan the next date. She did not pickup & i texted next day good morning, went a few hours no response. My immediate thoughts from last night, until she responded was just constant: "Ye she dropped interested, she found someone else in these few hours, she doesn't wanna see you." But no, there was a rational reason, that soothed me for sure. But WHY do these damn thoughts haunt me.
I catastrophized... i saw all mountains of obstacles to keep my career job. I had bad grief, anxiety, insomnia because of everything that was happening.... i just had to do 4 possible things.. and i could have kept my job. I was mentally overwhelmed and thought the very worst. I gave up , threw in the towel. I was DEVASTATED. I couldn't believe i gave up! I wouldn't have thought this way, if i didn't have stress, anxiety and insomnia....! It ruined my life.
@MindKnown thank you for caring, I don't have a future anymore. I've worked for decades at the job I always wanted. It's was my purpose, identity, etc. I unfortunately was going through very tuff times... I had lost my life savings in a bad investment. My young adult children were in need of help, as they were in different states at school. My Mom, Grandma, Uncle and cousin all passed away in October... I made a horrible decision at work... under all the extreme stress... that cost me my job. That was my last straw. I lost it. The mental breakdown was so horrifying. The panic attacks, the collapsing. Being diagnosed with ptsd, insomnia, severe anxiety and severe depression, Anhedonia. .... I have so much hurt, regret, guilt etc. I lost interest in everything, including life. I've called 988 suicide , VA crisis, and Here Tomorrow suicide help. I just hate this suffering...
Everything I do, I always expect thr absolute possible worst outcome and i'd say 95% of the times what I pictured as worse outcome doesn't come up. I always thought I was doing that to protect myself.
I do all these things but I also have fantasies that don't go my way and turn into disasters in my head. They're quite vivid though. I'm something of a maladaptive daydreamer and a catastrophizer with vivid intrusive thoughts to boot.
Glad this video helped you to lighten up! It's so easy to blow things our of proportion - everyone does it from time to time. When we step back we can see that most things are not as bad as we think they are!
I do have situations in my business that can blow up, I've had threats of lawsuits and loss of contracts, reputational issues, you name it. For me, it is true these things can be real problems. What I have found is that they don't happen or they do and I'm able to handle them. Some of what I do is subjective, people can blame me for things and I cannot absolutely disprove them because, well, subjective. So far efforts to convince myself something is extremely unlikely haven’t worked. I've had extremely unlikely things happen. Most I have gotten through, but the worse, that my wife had Alzheimer’s, both came true and has been 9 years of, well, not entirely hell every day, but I've nearly broken down three times. It's harder now, so the stuff I deal with seems more real in probability and I struggle to, for instance, deal with dismissing a bluff, like someone saying they're gonna make things bad for you because of something a client did even. I can imagine how tough it is for the good and honest cops where being right isn’t necessarily a defense.
Everyday i expect horrible situations that will inevitably happen,like being a homeless and freezing to death on a park bench, being a victim of setup by the police and spending years in prison as a result, getting killed because of my race. These 3 scenarios are like Neverending horrific whirlpool swirling in my brain every single day.
For 9 months I've done this, for nine months I've contemplated suicide everyday while luving in my own created hell!!! Telling myself I can't, I can't, and I couldn't, until I've realised I'm feeding my fear with my own horror stories. I've lost the ability to think clearly
That sounds really tough. I hope you know someone who can listen to you and what you’re going through. Even if you do, you may also wish to consider having a chat with a mental health professional 🙂
I do this often it's a very bad habit of mine I don't know how to stop I get so overwhelmed ,emotional ,I am always so tired, stressed. I live a group home with 6 different women , one is mentally unstable and that scares me,one is a 400 bully who becomes the food police telling everyone how they are allowed to eat ( they focus mostly on me ) I have both AUTISM and Adhd so I often have meltdowns I didn't have as many meltdowns until the 400 pound bully moved and the women who is mentally challenged and unstable
Don't ignore the anxious thoughts.Stare at them. Tell them bring in some more anxious thoughts I will stare at them. Then begin to stare at the feelings they bring on. Dont run away from them. Do it many times . They go away.That works better. Watch Therapist Emma's videos.
My worse case came true loss my wife of 13 yrs to cervix cancer thinking it was only menopause was only 50, tho i loss her this way, my fear was a car accident... how to deal with loss n grief :( ... got a vid on that? ...
I'm so sorry for you loss. I do have one video on grief and loss that might be helpful to you: ua-cam.com/video/U_mq5POfKmo/v-deo.htmlsi=7Map-dqAt9L9Ktrh
So idk if my problem seems silly but I'm going through it. So this thing, i was 12 and joking sent some voice notes of me fake moaning in a gc of friends i made online. I didn't know that it's giving a bad image or anything. Now after 3 years suddenly a thought came to me that what if someone uses it. My life will be destroyed. My image will be destroyed. The fact that if it has to happen it would have happened way back. But there's still a doubt.
Language like 'my life will be destroyed' absolutely sounds like catastrophizing. Try to focus on the present and counter arguments to your worst case thoughts. Thanks for watching!
My problem is health anxiety and going straight to the worse case scenario, at the moment I'm hounding my G.P to send me for an mri, which I said I'd pay for myself, I just need reassurance over my neck and head pain thats been going on for weeks!! 😢
The first step is recognising when you’re catastrophizing 🙂 Hopefully your GP can also connect you with someone who can help you with your health anxiety.
I play soccer and when I have a bad game it makes me feel sad and it makes me not want to play anymore cuz Im scared that its going to happen again and then when I miss all those games I get sad cuz I dont get better cuz when you don’t play you can’t get good at soccer😢😢
Actually I don't know what is wrong with me. Because I do think bad things about people around me. Even if there is no evidence.i started creating story's in my mind. And now I can't handle it 😔... don't know what? How?why me?
I do this multiple times a day! It's the toughest sometimes :( I try and come back to the fact that 'the hardest battle we face is with ourselves.' I journal every evening and practice mindfulness, I recommend.
It’s natural to create these narratives. Whenever you do, try asking yourself what’s the evidence and if there are other ways to view the situation/person 🙂
So sad it sounds like me I don't and won't leave my house I do feel i am a jinx ...I have good reasons shit does happen stuck in elevator sky ride getting stuck I am to afraid to even let someone go to the store for me because if something happens it will be my fault 😢
I have stomach problems so bad it started 2 years ago after surgery I hate myself I’m skinny can’t look in the mirror and feel sick every day I was a good looking muscular man 2 years ago now I look like I have cancer and feel horrible I can’t cope with this I’m so insecure about my body and can’t fix my problem I’m prescribed medication that’s addiction and I know it’s hurting me and I can’t stop it because I’m so unhappy so I keep taking the medication so many days I wish I would just not wake up from my sleep and be free and leave this world I hate myself
I’m sorry that you’re having such a hard time. Remember that you’re not alone and there are people who can help you 😊. I would recommend getting help with your mental health in the country where you live; you won’t be wasting anyone’s time. Your mental health is as important as your physical health. Take care.
Well, I was very anxious the last months my lordlord will kick me out of my appartment and guess what happened? He did. Sometimes the worst you can imagine WILL happen to you. What an irony to get this recommendation and in times like this where the housing market is rotten by greed, I better bury myself than supporting someone's next sport car, capitalism ruined humanness.
4:02 what if we dont want the thoughts to go away..? What if I'm only repeating them so I could fix it eventually! What if letting go means not caring anymore..
You’re right, anxiety can motivate us to make positive changes, but disproportionate worries can impact our mental health and wellbeing. Thanks for watching and commenting 😊
Everything will be okay in the end, and if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.
Shit happens,
One of my go to sayings😀
"We cant be disappointed if we reject are selfs first" that hit harder then it should
? I don't understand what you're saying....
I can't be disappointed, if I reject myself first?...
I have been totally devastated.
I've collapsed many times, have uncontrollable panic attacks. I've been hospitalized. The psychiatrist diagnosed me with ptsd, severe anxiety, severe depression, Anhedonia. Lost interest in living.
... I am very disappointed in myself, and personally devastated.
I've returned to the apt. My mental and physical health are declining. I'll don't have any will. Depression is horrible. I've called 988 suicide line, VA crisis, and Here Tomorrow counseling. Just don't want to go on anymore
@@klanderkalI agree That fact is not relatable to everyone...but once you recovered from your disorders trust me you'll become the most happiest person you've ever met...all you have to do is just to be patient...i have gone through the same as you i have drunken poisons too I'm still shocked how I'm still alive.. now I'm regretting the actions i have done to weak my health during my high depressed stages...trust me all you have to do is just to be patient everything is temporary ❤
@Euphoria.x10 wow,.. thank you. I really hope to get well. I still suffer every day. Im unable to do anything,.. and the insomnia is taken a toll on my body/brain. Sleep deprivation 😟
... depression is so unbearable.
Also, now my eyesight has gotten even worse. I need to get glasses, ... I don't want to, but it's gotten bad. Everything is BLURRY.
.... I still haven't accepted, loosing my career job.!! I miss that life, and how great I felt. This all wasn't supposed to happen.,.. im off my life's path, and I cannot even get back on.....
Patients?.... I don't know if I can survive. It's really declining my mind. ✨️🫶💕
@@klanderkal i also had to give up in my dream to be a great player in chess because of my mental traumas.. that's where i sucked and my mental disorders raised up because of that sorrow..the worst part is since I'm 13 years old when I'm going through it i got no chance to inform about it to my parents even i hate to talk about my situation with my frnds...i always showed up as someone who has zero problems but actually i really needed pills i was like fainting all the with the mental instability...i couldn't Cry because of the fear getting caught to my parents... but i hv shouted one day and had got scolded then i start to research about my situation in Google and yt to overcome with it that only lead me to overcome but it got me around 2years..
@Euphoria.x10 Thank you for sharing this.
I'm in that dark place now.
I hardly sleep anymore,.. if I pass out for a 1-2 hrs..., I awake in Panic, fear . Reality of my life being ruined.
.... * When I was young, my neighbor was a City Bus Driver. He would walk down the street , and for years, tell us stories. I knew i wanted to do that one day,... as I go older, I knew I'd have to wait for decades to be mature enough, and also find a way to achieve the license. It became my goal.
I did all kinds of jobs, I would leave the job, only if I could advance my license. That's how dedicated I was to one day, possibly, get the opportunity. I finally got the license. And started applying. A couple years later , they went on strike.... they started hiring again,.. then I got the call. I was SO happy. I graduated from the 3 month class, passed 6 months probation, and my dream came true.
That's why loosing the job, the way I lost it, and my own involvement, really has torn me apart.
( just alitte insight, that this just wasn't a job). I hate what I did. I didn't have to retire!!, but I put myself in jeopardy. I couldn't handle, I didn't know what to do.... then.
It really got bad.......⛓️☠️
Very well said and explained. I have panic disorder and generalized anxiety, my panic disorder is under control now, but I'm still struggling with catasrostrophising and there is improvement here also. I can see more clearly now that it's just a pattern, an echo of past trauma and I remind myself every day that things are different now.
4:15 catastrophizing focuses our thoughts on the past or the future at the expense of living in the present ❤❤❤
0:06 yes.
I went on my worlds best date ever. Day after we text a bit. Then decide a time to call so we can plan the next date.
She did not pickup & i texted next day good morning, went a few hours no response. My immediate thoughts from last night, until she responded was just constant: "Ye she dropped interested, she found someone else in these few hours, she doesn't wanna see you."
But no, there was a rational reason, that soothed me for sure. But WHY do these damn thoughts haunt me.
I catastrophized... i saw all mountains of obstacles to keep my career job. I had bad grief, anxiety, insomnia because of everything that was happening.... i just had to do 4 possible things.. and i could have kept my job. I was mentally overwhelmed and thought the very worst. I gave up , threw in the towel. I was DEVASTATED. I couldn't believe i gave up! I wouldn't have thought this way, if i didn't have stress, anxiety and insomnia....! It ruined my life.
Sorry that happened to you. Hopefully you'll be able to notice signs of catastrophizing in the future.
@MindKnown thank you for caring,
I don't have a future anymore.
I've worked for decades at the job I always wanted. It's was my purpose, identity, etc.
I unfortunately was going through very tuff times... I had lost my life savings in a bad investment. My young adult children were in need of help, as they were in different states at school. My Mom, Grandma, Uncle and cousin all passed away in October...
I made a horrible decision at work... under all the extreme stress... that cost me my job. That was my last straw.
I lost it. The mental breakdown was so horrifying. The panic attacks, the collapsing. Being diagnosed with ptsd, insomnia, severe anxiety and severe depression, Anhedonia.
.... I have so much hurt, regret, guilt etc. I lost interest in everything, including life.
I've called 988 suicide , VA crisis, and Here Tomorrow suicide help.
I just hate this suffering...
I hope you're okay now. 😢
Everything I do, I always expect thr absolute possible worst outcome and i'd say 95% of the times what I pictured as worse outcome doesn't come up. I always thought I was doing that to protect myself.
I do all these things but I also have fantasies that don't go my way and turn into disasters in my head. They're quite vivid though.
I'm something of a maladaptive daydreamer and a catastrophizer with vivid intrusive thoughts to boot.
This completely destroyed every aspect of my life... i feel terrible every second
I hope the video was helpful 🙂
you and me both
@@lerc3690please meditate on the scriptures and pray .. You will see a massive improvement in few months if only you are consistent
Thanks for the video It helps me to lighten up .
Glad this video helped you to lighten up! It's so easy to blow things our of proportion - everyone does it from time to time. When we step back we can see that most things are not as bad as we think they are!
Same here
I do have situations in my business that can blow up, I've had threats of lawsuits and loss of contracts, reputational issues, you name it. For me, it is true these things can be real problems. What I have found is that they don't happen or they do and I'm able to handle them. Some of what I do is subjective, people can blame me for things and I cannot absolutely disprove them because, well, subjective. So far efforts to convince myself something is extremely unlikely haven’t worked. I've had extremely unlikely things happen. Most I have gotten through, but the worse, that my wife had Alzheimer’s, both came true and has been 9 years of, well, not entirely hell every day, but I've nearly broken down three times. It's harder now, so the stuff I deal with seems more real in probability and I struggle to, for instance, deal with dismissing a bluff, like someone saying they're gonna make things bad for you because of something a client did even. I can imagine how tough it is for the good and honest cops where being right isn’t necessarily a defense.
this sounds very stressful - i wish you to be happy and free form harm!
The advice in this video on dealing with catastrophing are ideas that I had never considered. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful! 🙂
Everyday i expect horrible situations that will inevitably happen,like being a homeless and freezing to death on a park bench, being a victim of setup by the police and spending years in prison as a result, getting killed because of my race. These 3 scenarios are like Neverending horrific whirlpool swirling in my brain every single day.
Thank you for all your helpful, supportive, detailed videos. They are very informative and insightful. ❤
Thank you, glad you found them helpful! 😊
For 9 months I've done this, for nine months I've contemplated suicide everyday while luving in my own created hell!!! Telling myself I can't, I can't, and I couldn't, until I've realised I'm feeding my fear with my own horror stories. I've lost the ability to think clearly
That sounds really tough. I hope you know someone who can listen to you and what you’re going through. Even if you do, you may also wish to consider having a chat with a mental health professional 🙂
This deserves more views! How do you do your animation?
Thank you! 🙂 I use an iPad animation app called Toonsquid.
You are so kind to everyone...lovable
Fantastic video! Very well thought out, great advice and I love the visuals. Your channel deserves more views 👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you for watching and for your kind feedback! 😊
Than you so much ill keep practicing it ruined my relationship last year
I do this often it's a very bad habit of mine I don't know how to stop I get so overwhelmed ,emotional ,I am always so tired, stressed. I live a group home with 6 different women , one is mentally unstable and that scares me,one is a 400 bully who becomes the food police telling everyone how they are allowed to eat ( they focus mostly on me ) I have both AUTISM and Adhd so I often have meltdowns I didn't have as many meltdowns until the 400 pound bully moved and the women who is mentally challenged and unstable
Don't ignore the anxious thoughts.Stare at them. Tell them bring in some more anxious thoughts I will stare at them. Then begin to stare at the feelings they bring on. Dont run away from them. Do it many times . They go away.That works better. Watch Therapist Emma's videos.
thank you i needed this also keep up the good work and i can't wait till your next video
Thank you! Glad it was helpful for you 🙂
Thank you so much this made me feel better
Glad I could help! Thanks for watching 🙂
Thank you 🙏🏻
You’re welcome 😊
My worse case came true loss my wife of 13 yrs to cervix cancer thinking it was only menopause was only 50, tho i loss her this way, my fear was a car accident... how to deal with loss n grief :( ... got a vid on that? ...
I'm so sorry for you loss. I do have one video on grief and loss that might be helpful to you: ua-cam.com/video/U_mq5POfKmo/v-deo.htmlsi=7Map-dqAt9L9Ktrh
So idk if my problem seems silly but I'm going through it. So this thing, i was 12 and joking sent some voice notes of me fake moaning in a gc of friends i made online. I didn't know that it's giving a bad image or anything. Now after 3 years suddenly a thought came to me that what if someone uses it. My life will be destroyed. My image will be destroyed. The fact that if it has to happen it would have happened way back. But there's still a doubt.
Language like 'my life will be destroyed' absolutely sounds like catastrophizing. Try to focus on the present and counter arguments to your worst case thoughts. Thanks for watching!
@@MindKnown how to cure this problem
My problem is health anxiety and going straight to the worse case scenario, at the moment I'm hounding my G.P to send me for an mri, which I said I'd pay for myself, I just need reassurance over my neck and head pain thats been going on for weeks!! 😢
The first step is recognising when you’re catastrophizing 🙂 Hopefully your GP can also connect you with someone who can help you with your health anxiety.
I play soccer and when I have a bad game it makes me feel sad and it makes me not want to play anymore cuz Im scared that its going to happen again and then when I miss all those games I get sad cuz I dont get better cuz when you don’t play you can’t get good at soccer😢😢
You might find my latest video on self-limiting beliefs helpful 😊: ua-cam.com/video/kNp3eOqMWUE/v-deo.htmlsi=Wo9wW1bempM6ZS0T
Actually I don't know what is wrong with me. Because I do think bad things about people around me. Even if there is no evidence.i started creating story's in my mind. And now I can't handle it 😔... don't know what? How?why me?
I do this multiple times a day! It's the toughest sometimes :( I try and come back to the fact that 'the hardest battle we face is with ourselves.' I journal every evening and practice mindfulness, I recommend.
In the same situation… 😢 sometimes it feels like I hit a peak of relief then it starts over again and sometimes worse. I.Don’t.Understand.
It’s natural to create these narratives. Whenever you do, try asking yourself what’s the evidence and if there are other ways to view the situation/person 🙂
So sad it sounds like me I don't and won't leave my house I do feel i am a jinx ...I have good reasons shit does happen stuck in elevator sky ride getting stuck I am to afraid to even let someone go to the store for me because if something happens it will be my fault 😢
I have stomach problems so bad it started 2 years ago after surgery I hate myself I’m skinny can’t look in the mirror and feel sick every day I was a good looking muscular man 2 years ago now I look like I have cancer and feel horrible I can’t cope with this I’m so insecure about my body and can’t fix my problem I’m prescribed medication that’s addiction and I know it’s hurting me and I can’t stop it because I’m so unhappy so I keep taking the medication so many days I wish I would just not wake up from my sleep and be free and leave this world I hate myself
I’m sorry that you’re having such a hard time. Remember that you’re not alone and there are people who can help you 😊. I would recommend getting help with your mental health in the country where you live; you won’t be wasting anyone’s time. Your mental health is as important as your physical health. Take care.
I just turned highschool and i realize that i have this as i overthink at night i end up sleeping at 2am i also realize i have adhd
Realising that you're catastrophizing is the first step! I hope this video was helpful 😊
I do do that in the car
I do this all day everyday and it’s terrible but I don’t know how to change it.
Just noticing automatic negative thoughts (like catastrophizing) is a big first step towards managing them. 🙂
It’s worse when you have gangstalkers.
loved it
Thank you 😊
Well, I was very anxious the last months my lordlord will kick me out of my appartment and guess what happened? He did. Sometimes the worst you can imagine WILL happen to you. What an irony to get this recommendation and in times like this where the housing market is rotten by greed, I better bury myself than supporting someone's next sport car, capitalism ruined humanness.
It's Maladaptive Daydreaming..
The answer is pray
No it isn't
Yeah it isn't
There is no answer in which i mean there is never a precise, exact answer.
*a
@@Natrocity91 the answer is more simple then u think
4:02 what if we dont want the thoughts to go away..? What if I'm only repeating them so I could fix it eventually! What if letting go means not caring anymore..
You’re right, anxiety can motivate us to make positive changes, but disproportionate worries can impact our mental health and wellbeing. Thanks for watching and commenting 😊
Nobody is born a catastrophfiser.
Very true
Oh boy! Another video telling us that we're all ok.. and with the same art style as the others to.. hmm. Ah, im just "Catastrophizing" arent i?
Keep up the good work! Following your channel since the beginning, top notch quality content
Thank you! I really appreciate your support 🙂