Catastrophizing: How to Stop Making Yourself Anxious & Depressed

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  • @hayleywinson5814
    @hayleywinson5814 3 роки тому +23

    "Catch instead of kick yourself when you fall" I love this.

  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 3 роки тому +85

    Deliberately spend more time thinking about the best case scenario than you do thinking about the worst.

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +6

      So much easier said than done.Wish I knew how. Any secrets or advise,?

    • @TakeBackYourMind997
      @TakeBackYourMind997 Рік тому +7

      @@sciencetest8 It is easier said than done for sure. I don't know that there's any secrets to it really it's basically just visualisation, which is a skill you can learn and get better at with practice luckily. Try to do it when you're in a good headspace, that helps, and also you could write down the worst case scenarios in your mind, describe them briefly in a few sentences or something like that, and next to that basically write the opposite, so what would it look like if everything went well in those situations instead of it being the worst case scenario, that might help to build a mental picture so you can visualise that best case scenario more clearly. I cant really think of any other tips for it, practice visualisation mediations and you'll get there!

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +4

      @@TakeBackYourMind997 ,Thank you for that wise and helpful advice. I am struggling like never before.

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +3

      @@TakeBackYourMind997 ,do you do guided meditation or just visualization?

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +2

      @@TakeBackYourMind997 Thank You!

  • @TheEarthycrunchy
    @TheEarthycrunchy 3 роки тому +38

    I didn’t realize I was catastrophising. Cognitive distortions are a big one for me. It’s been so freeing being aware of how I can change my thoughts about outcomes. It’s like my ball and chain has been removed.

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +2

      Were you able to change your thoughts on your own or with assistance,?

    • @TheEarthycrunchy
      @TheEarthycrunchy Рік тому +1

      @@sciencetest8 it’s a daily practice of noticing and then redirecting my thoughts

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +2

      @@TheEarthycrunchy thank you

    • @chaikchaichai
      @chaikchaichai 3 місяці тому +1

      It's always exciting to realise you don't have to think this way isn't it?

  • @joannepigliavento7930
    @joannepigliavento7930 3 роки тому +34

    This is me with respect to medical appointments/tests. It’s difficult to talk yourself into thinking you’ll be OK, no matter the outcome if the outcome is not good. I’d love to battle this horrible mindset 😊

  • @Urbaezfamily
    @Urbaezfamily 3 роки тому +41

    I’ve been paying attention on everything you’re saying in your channel, you’re a angel from heaven. You’re always motivating us exactly when we most needed it!! I’m struggling with depression and anxiety, and you’re right, I’m always expecting the worst in most situations. Thank you for encouraging to think positive and most of all for your kindness and time to make life journey less stressful. Thank you ❤️

    • @edwinromilly4645
      @edwinromilly4645 3 роки тому

      well put hope your finding resources to combat your anxiety,i can relate and remember -your wholeness & value has never been diminished or lost only replaced By false concepts and beliefs this world taught us to believe in

  • @antonboludo8886
    @antonboludo8886 3 роки тому +9

    You cannot be saying this at a better time.
    Thank you, Julia Kristina.

  • @captaindan1000
    @captaindan1000 3 роки тому +34

    This reminded me of Chicken Little. You don't have to go through life acting like the sky is falling. It doesn't.

  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 роки тому +35

    This are definitely my type of thoughts sometimes, but working to change them!

    • @funnysoup9708
      @funnysoup9708 3 роки тому

      If i had a person to back me instead of making fun of me all the time.i quit trying and fighting when I get put down.

    • @beckysargent8473
      @beckysargent8473 3 роки тому

      Lll)llll

    • @motivationalone...
      @motivationalone... 3 роки тому

      Stick with it, stay with Julia

    • @bv9056
      @bv9056 3 роки тому

      I’m right there with you 😔

  • @ronniec99
    @ronniec99 3 роки тому +12

    I'm 3 minutes in, first time ever watching you and I gotta tell you that I'm so impressed with how confident and at-ease you are. Even without knowing you I can already tell that you're very good at what you do. Eager to keep watching and grateful that this video randomly popped up on my homepage!

  • @liss76kat03
    @liss76kat03 3 роки тому +17

    I can relate. I do this all the time. I didn’t realize it has to do with “me” and put meaning about me behind it. It makes so much sense now

  • @beautahmusungu8515
    @beautahmusungu8515 3 роки тому +11

    Your right sometimes I think catastrophizing is all I think about and unfortunately it causes me to do premature decisions.

  • @lynnscorner6587
    @lynnscorner6587 3 роки тому +13

    I So needed to hear this message -I am always waiting and expecting the worst-thanks for this encouraging message .🙏🏾-I just wonder how I got to this point in my life where I expect the worst constantly, but I’m absolutely trying to change that thinking-thank you again for this message

  • @nicolewarner4674
    @nicolewarner4674 27 днів тому

    This video Helped me Relize that there is positive things that go right in my Life, but i just think so negative. And that people are against me all the time, but not true. Thank you for Helping me out, and making this Educational video! I Feel Heard, and Relief when watching, and Listening.

  • @leeclarke8993
    @leeclarke8993 3 роки тому +7

    No matter what happens I will be ok. I refuse to make it mean something negative about me.

  • @lylahboling6383
    @lylahboling6383 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you so much for being here and for your help today and with so many things you have helped me with. I applaud you and I am so happy for your time.

  • @Macjoooy
    @Macjoooy 3 роки тому +1

    Hello, this woman here has helped me a lot on my journey towards healing anxiety. She's a God given gift to us who experience anxiety. Thank you Julia for putting effort in making video and free.

  • @nicolewarner4674
    @nicolewarner4674 27 днів тому

    You have a calm way to reach out to your followers, and very Educational way to get through to us that can relate to this topic. Im Excited to See more of your videos ! I enjoy Listening to you teach, and Explain. I feel Motivated now!😊

  • @jcfischetti
    @jcfischetti 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for giving of yourself! You have helped me to go from being too afraid to get my mail to starting a new Job on Monday!

  • @stevedelane7172
    @stevedelane7172 3 роки тому +2

    So so relatable. It’s been a lifelong battle and journey. But what you have provided my and many many others is a light at the end of a dark tunnel. So much love for you Julia. 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️

  • @lacolemoore6425
    @lacolemoore6425 3 роки тому +7

    😭😭😭 Thank you for making this video!! I really needed this.

  • @jonwhitney9559
    @jonwhitney9559 2 роки тому

    This is, by far, the best video for me - to view and re-view daily- I must change in order to move ahead.

  • @Robert-dt3is
    @Robert-dt3is 2 роки тому

    16:31 - I can’t believe I didn’t think of this from this perspective! Practice expecting things going well (instead of the opposite). I appreciate this video

  • @M_C__studio
    @M_C__studio 3 роки тому +11

    Welp, this popped up at the perfect time for me. Thank you so much Julia!

  • @TheGatewayProductions
    @TheGatewayProductions 3 роки тому +3

    Many thanks for this upload! Depression is horrible but we can crush it!

  • @positive78263
    @positive78263 Рік тому +1

    Much appreciated!

  • @Rob9mm
    @Rob9mm 3 роки тому

    Excellent Julia. I am finally not beating myself up. Especially when I make mistakes in new endeavors! Can't believe I ever did that. I wouldn't do that to anyone else!

  • @thinkingasif4531
    @thinkingasif4531 2 роки тому

    Thank you. It's just very nice of you to make your work available online!

  • @bengrant1201
    @bengrant1201 10 місяців тому

    Stop expecting the worst. Easier said than done. To say it's a practice is a vast understatement.

  • @melyndafrazer1962
    @melyndafrazer1962 3 роки тому +1

    This is so perfect for me , can’t thank you enough for taking the time to post and teach this. I think this way and this is going to help me put a stop treating myself so badly with out comes that aren’t what I expected as well as avoidance, Hugh one for me. I discovered you off watching elevation church services on emotions and I have subscribed ever since. I’ve watched this video many times and saved it. Thank you for being here to help me get through life.

  • @jennifergentry144
    @jennifergentry144 3 роки тому +1

    I swear you are looking into my soul. I’m so very happy I have found your channel. I have learned so much. Thank you!

  • @edwinromilly4645
    @edwinromilly4645 3 роки тому +2

    Love your post Julia,thanks for your input-
    t’s easy to be miserable in this world. That takes no courage at all. The real test is despite what life may bring can you be happy?
    It takes courage to live in this world with all it’s ups and downs. It takes courage to be alive fully. It takes courage to live with an open heart. It takes courage to feel and not numb yourself.
    REMEMBER-The phoenix must burn to Emerge-When I look back at my failings and the courage & resilience it took to just try I’m so glad I did it,as it didn’t set my Limits-Trying no matter how small really does expand your life,your mind,your opportunities.
    Peeace😋

  • @stoogey1
    @stoogey1 3 роки тому +10

    I've been experiencing this every second of my life since I was 9 and now it's about to be really tested.
    From age 9 to 13 I watched my mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle die.
    The hardest was the first, my mom. No matter what I did I couldn't save her.
    Now I failed my aunt. After mom and dad died, they loved me enough to take me in. I made a promise to take care of her and never put her into a nursing home. Now I'm in my aunts house alone with her in the nursing home. She's in the nursing home because I'm a failure.
    I was going to join shift society, but I'm to big of a failure to get myself right.

    • @positivemind1
      @positivemind1 3 роки тому +22

      You are not a failure. I am a nurse and from a medical perspective you are still caring for your aunt. A nursing home is simply an alternative option. You are still monitoring the care she is being given. You are an awesome son to her. Don't think otherwise.

    • @messue428
      @messue428 3 роки тому +9

      You are not a failure. The fact that you are here watching this shows how awesome you are. You can stop the cycle now. Choose your path, and see the good in yourself. It will take time but trust me, it will happen if you try.

    • @jamesgarzillo7669
      @jamesgarzillo7669 3 роки тому +3

      You sound like a winner to me

    • @richardlowry9663
      @richardlowry9663 3 роки тому +4

      You are not a failure. It is impossible for one to take care of another needing full time attention and or full time monitoring; you have to work and have a life too. Accept, no one ALONE can care for another requiring 24/7 monitoring and care.

    • @clairelouise335
      @clairelouise335 3 роки тому +2

      Your post really touched me. I'm sat here with tears in my eyes. You have been through so much and your compassion shines through. You are not a failure at all. Please don't give up on the process of learning to believe in yourself. I don't know you at all but my heart goes out to you.

  • @ToborDixon
    @ToborDixon 3 роки тому +1

    Hello, Kristina. Thank you sharing your insights with others.

  • @jonwhitney9559
    @jonwhitney9559 2 роки тому

    Purchased the Self Trust Guide- will print it out- Thanks!

  • @annmather9746
    @annmather9746 3 роки тому

    Thanks Julie for your comments. As a caring Mum I have been trying for too long and you are right they are not worthy of me. Thanks for your thoughts.. I realise that maybe my son is but not the daughter-in-law, who yesterday accused me of harming my son and his son, my only grandchild??? she then uninvited me and my husband to our grandsons 2nd birthday party.. At last her true colours have shown and I am now working on myself, not them to clear the anxiety and depression built up over the years.

  • @admirbarucija2018
    @admirbarucija2018 3 роки тому +3

    I’m really looking forward to hearing your thoughts about this! I’ve struggled with this problem for a long time 🙏🏻

  • @nicolewarner4674
    @nicolewarner4674 27 днів тому

    Giving yourself more time to step back, and being more mindful of the situation, and Let you redirect your thinking, and not reacting negative.

  • @staceyforrest9931
    @staceyforrest9931 3 роки тому

    After trauma this seems to be worse. But you can overcome that. This is extremely helpful for me to listen to. Thank you !

  • @mapi6665
    @mapi6665 3 роки тому

    This is me. Less often now, but still working on being free! Thank you for this content!

  • @geniajirak4303
    @geniajirak4303 3 роки тому +1

    I was raised to do this. My mom always said to prepare for the worse and be pleasantly surprised if it doesn't. It has been hard for me to be excited about things, I have a hard time being spontaneous and I learned my lesson and now, I have to fight this daily.

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому

      Sorry to hear that. Hope you find peace.

  • @tmayor1949
    @tmayor1949 3 роки тому

    Superb Julia
    I cannot get enough of you
    Thank you so much 💓

  • @dmuller2
    @dmuller2 3 роки тому +3

    Very down to earth explanation. Well done Julia 😎👍

  • @CherryBerryFashion
    @CherryBerryFashion 2 роки тому

    My dad used to say “prepare for the worst, expect the best” but that just doesn’t work - you either really expect the best - believing a good thing will happen or you believe sth bad will happen and so you’re preparing for the worst. Your behaviour is a manifestation of your beliefs so that saying just shows that deep down the belief is negative.
    I guess the one situation in which thinking out how to handle a situation that could (only) potentially go wrong, how you would prepare for sth going wrong (but not taking action, just thinking) is when that is used to stop the fear connected to a scenario that makes you feel afraid. That’s the only one situation where this is a healthy behaviour. Like the way you explained Julia. All else is just unnecessary anticipatory anxiety instead of living in the moment and only thinking what to do when sth actually happens.

  • @senserave
    @senserave 2 роки тому

    Reality means Real plus your liability towards outcome. Very good.

  • @elizabethfindlay5752
    @elizabethfindlay5752 3 роки тому +1

    I haven't listened to your beautiful voice in a while, I didn't realize how much I missed you until now.
    (Ive been subscribed but no notifications until today. )

  • @jrod1191
    @jrod1191 3 роки тому +1

    Yeah I perceive most things in my life in this way. Most recently with my relationship. Over the past few months it just got worse and worse while we got further apart and i knew if i didnt do something about it she would eventually pull the plug and she did. I couldnt do anything about it because my whole life i dealt with problems by freezing up or becoming numb that i just let things happen. Now all i can do is let her go and look forward in the most positive way so my future and better self can join my happiness with her.

  • @stoneyvowell1239
    @stoneyvowell1239 3 роки тому +1

    I get what you're saying about catastrophizing. I like the expression expect the worst hope for the best. I don't particularly care for the wording though, it seems to throw off the point. It should be; Understand that the worst can happen, but plan for the best anyway. The actual outcome will be somewhere in between.

  • @evamejia9108
    @evamejia9108 3 роки тому

    Love your tips it calmed my anxiety down just listening to the information and what you said in the end expecting the outcome to well.im going to keep that thought with me especially just started a new job

  • @MikeJackson690
    @MikeJackson690 2 роки тому

    Here because I'm worried about absolutely everything, and all goes back to a mistake I made a few years ago. It destabilised my life more than I ever could've imagined. Now things are looking bad globally, out of my control, my worries are worsened. The last three years have been hell, who knows what's next.

  • @jonwhitney9559
    @jonwhitney9559 2 роки тому

    Story of my life- this video spoke deeply to me and my issues of Anxiety and Catastrophizing-which leads to Procrastination - a viscious cycle..
    ousousous

  • @malikmalik1141
    @malikmalik1141 2 роки тому +1

    Lady you have made my whole world shift. I got fired for no reason. These women treated me badly , forcing me to quit. If I had stayed it would have been very uncomfortable. You rock lady.

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +1

      @ malik. Sorry you went through this. I did too. It was so difficult to go through. I almost didn't make it through
      We are both still here though.

  • @annmather9746
    @annmather9746 3 роки тому +1

    This is so true, and I have felt this way for as long as I can remember, I have started to avoid things now as I feel as though I am wrong ..I need not to expect the worse and change my thoughts . I am exhausted with trying and the harder I have tried the more I feel let down . Now I will attach myself more loosely. I know when I offer help or interest to my family I will be rejected. I am used to this and I am now realising it is not me and I need to carry on offering but accept the rejection .

    • @juliewillis5042
      @juliewillis5042 3 роки тому

      Why keep offering if they are not showing appreciation for your efforts. Are they worthy of you ?

  • @amylamm3798
    @amylamm3798 2 роки тому

    Thank you! Shared with my family ❤

  • @michaelross2107
    @michaelross2107 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this wonderful presentation. It’s a long road but a worthwhile one and you inspire. I am starting to think that embracing uncertainty is a common thread in so many of your videos.Thanks again.

  • @dianaorlando3964
    @dianaorlando3964 3 роки тому

    Excellent talk. Love how you relay the information to your followers. Thank you for Shari your knowledge in such a care free way. Diana

  • @mayahalpern8679
    @mayahalpern8679 3 роки тому

    this video was so helpful, thank you! i noticed that you started using “humans” rather than “men and women”. Love that!!!

  • @charlesegbulefu7709
    @charlesegbulefu7709 3 роки тому

    Thank you Julia. Grazie! God bless you

  • @albapaz8686
    @albapaz8686 2 роки тому

    Thank you for every single word 🙏🏻

  • @blackicemedia
    @blackicemedia 3 роки тому

    thank you for this! this came up for me when I needed it! This is the second time your content has shown up for me when I needed it
    :)

  • @katrinaruthministries
    @katrinaruthministries 3 роки тому

    Thoughts are always a choice - the right expectations can change so much!

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay860 3 роки тому +1

    I can completely understand and relate to this video and everything that's been talked about in this video I feel bad on and off everyday I have bad thoughts I'm always thinking about things iv done things I want to do worrying about everything I plain I got so anxious and have bad depression thank you for this video

  • @nicolewarner4674
    @nicolewarner4674 27 днів тому

    Hello I Just came across this video. It was Very relative of what im going through right now! As i was Listening to you talk, i felt Like , this is me, and i need to change my thinking process.

  • @dmgsoultogetherness6667
    @dmgsoultogetherness6667 3 роки тому +4

    The fear of looking foolish...can leave you feeling foolish.....also...the thoughts like "I'm going to trip up I'm going to trip up I'm going to trip up...you probably will trip up (in the street) because your not concentrating properly

  • @Timmeshia
    @Timmeshia 3 роки тому

    No matter what happens I will be okay 💪🏾

  • @jessicafoundings9759
    @jessicafoundings9759 11 місяців тому

    So well spoken. Thank you so much !!!!

  • @beebakj0137
    @beebakj0137 3 роки тому

    You are the greatest!!

  • @darksoul479
    @darksoul479 3 роки тому +2

    I already know that no matter what happens I will be okay. It's been a long road. I am made of stone.

  • @mamabear5488
    @mamabear5488 3 роки тому +1

    Your subject is always perfect💞 Thank you!

  • @melyndafrazer1962
    @melyndafrazer1962 3 роки тому +1

    I see how thoughts can get better and attaching loosely and what we make it mean

  • @joellaryea5613
    @joellaryea5613 3 роки тому +1

    So basically no matter the outcome, I will be able to handle it well. A solid sense of self. 👏🏽That's a brain hack 👍🏾
    Thank you 🙏🏾

    • @sciencetest8
      @sciencetest8 Рік тому +1

      What's a solid sense of self? Thank you

  • @dewaynetodalen4491
    @dewaynetodalen4491 Рік тому

    So helpful. Thank you.

  • @user-gz5mx2nd5p
    @user-gz5mx2nd5p 2 роки тому

    Time 7:57. Yes.

  • @salpiper9623
    @salpiper9623 3 роки тому

    Thank you for your content 🙏 its blessing me love from Scotland UK

  • @snowmobile246
    @snowmobile246 Рік тому

    Hello thanks for sharing this information. Nice job

  • @LisaSmith-yb2uz
    @LisaSmith-yb2uz 3 роки тому +1

    This is SO VERY Relevant to me rn 😚👌 awesome topic!

    • @jasonbryan9056
      @jasonbryan9056 3 роки тому

      How are you doing 😊😊😊😊☺️

  • @Rick40years
    @Rick40years 2 дні тому

    That was a great insight.

  • @emmaprice5605
    @emmaprice5605 3 роки тому +1

    I really needed to hear this today!! Thank you 🙏

    • @jasonbryan9056
      @jasonbryan9056 3 роки тому

      How are you doing 😊😊😊☺️☺️

  • @KenishaCable
    @KenishaCable 3 роки тому

    You're doing such great work!👏🏽👏🏽😊😊

  • @heidinuttall3307
    @heidinuttall3307 3 роки тому

    Hello everyone! Glad to be here! I was recommended to you my a leader of an Al-Anon support group :)

  • @lisakrushinski9436
    @lisakrushinski9436 3 роки тому

    Excellent information! Thanks for helping me adjust my mindset towards the positive!

  • @standufrene93
    @standufrene93 3 роки тому

    Wow!!! This is what ive been doing to my self. I've quit going places i used to enjoy going to. Because i expect to be disappointed. I dont open my mail for fear of bad news. This was, now and then, but lately every day. I need HELP!

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay860 3 роки тому

    Hello everyone I don't comment very often or watched many of these video s only certain videos focused on anxiety and depression because that's what I suffer from I hope to feel comfortable here in the comments I like to meet and talk to people who go though the same things as me this channel is,very helpful andxhood videos I have followed this channel for a while your advice and help is much appreciated Kristina 🙂

  • @nicolewarner4674
    @nicolewarner4674 27 днів тому

    I Feel that I get a more productive. And positive Response from people, and makes me feel better about how i handled the conversational. I have the power to think more clearly.

  • @robertstratton3197
    @robertstratton3197 2 роки тому

    Julia, this is Bob from Norwalk, hello to you, yes, we must inventory our thoughts.

  • @mamabear5488
    @mamabear5488 3 роки тому

    Back again! We always look for you💖

  • @ellenmargrethelarsen80
    @ellenmargrethelarsen80 6 місяців тому

    Thank you❤

  • @perezlourdes8223
    @perezlourdes8223 3 роки тому

    So needed this video! Not attached to the outcome! How come I always forget this? Practice, practice, practice.. gotta make new brain 🧠 pathways.. neurotransmitters!

  • @geethabharathi6569
    @geethabharathi6569 3 роки тому

    🙏 Thank you very much.
    It was very helpful.🙏

  • @melyndafrazer1962
    @melyndafrazer1962 3 роки тому

    I’m back as always... I am getting so much out of these videos thank you so much for posting and teaching truly I’m getting so much out of this

  • @tmayor1949
    @tmayor1949 3 роки тому

    I am so excited about you
    I could listen to you forever

  • @margaretelmajed5265
    @margaretelmajed5265 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much. Your advice is so helpful 👍

  • @sharonkelly5437
    @sharonkelly5437 8 днів тому

    Very helpful video!

  • @thegodofsilence5580
    @thegodofsilence5580 3 роки тому

    Thanks Julia you’re the best!

  •  Рік тому

    Your videos are always very helpful...

  • @nicolewarner4674
    @nicolewarner4674 27 днів тому

    My counselor taught me to Lead with my words, and not my Emotions when talking to people! If I feel stuck in a conversation, nicely say I hear you, i will think about this and get bck to you.

  • @jamesthompson222
    @jamesthompson222 3 роки тому

    So needed this. Thank you

  • @adoreekimora
    @adoreekimora 3 роки тому

    Hello. Thanks for all of your content. It’s really helpful during this time in my life

  • @TwiggyKitty
    @TwiggyKitty 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much dear Julia, for this so useful channel. You are helping me a lot with your videos, to clear my mind and manage my emotions and daily life. Plus I can improve my English (I'm Italian so I'm not an English mother tongue, unfortunately!) please I hope I won't bother you with my request, but I was wondering if you maybe could do a video about solitude and creation of imaginary inner worlds in order to 'survive' to daily life and reality (which to be honest, scares me a lot and makes me anxious and aggressive in response to my discomfort, even more!)... Thanks again for your precious work 💜

  • @Eduardado
    @Eduardado 3 роки тому

    Thanks a lot Julia.

  • @tarotbysammybrite
    @tarotbysammybrite 3 роки тому +4

    I struggle with castrophizing (sorry I can't spell it!) And fortune telling (no pun intended). Distorted thinking was something I worked briefly on in therapy in my early 30s. I struggle with it from time to time as a 36 year old but I am working on it with my BetterHelp therapist. One thing I'm terrified of is bugging people if I call them especially businesses and professionals like doctors and accountants etc. I'm always afraid that I'm bugging them and so I go without calling and say "I'll call tomorrow". My therapist wants me to reach out to someone he recommended me to me that could help me with social media marketing for my business but I'm like intimidated to call him.