The Grand Inquisitor...Mr. "F"ing Perfect and Wonderful-vermin Narrator o thus B.S. Tale. Cheating is NORMAL and Healthy; neither Men or Women are Biologically and Genetically programmed to be Faithful to one mate for LIFE. MONOGAMY has not been the Norm of the Human Race for over 100,000 years. We are genetically 99% similar to Chimps. The average Female Chimp WILL HAVE Sex with 5-6 different Male Chimps....EVERY DAY!!!! Hubby is a Total A-Hole; Hubby is a weakling, cry-baby, pathetic Simp. What kind of Idiot stays angry and enraged for over 14 years to a Woman who is a Loyal and Phenomenal Wife.
Hitting the wall soon if not already. She knows her husband is the only one she has a slight very miniscule chance as no other strong man will want her. But that ship sailed either way long ago. But a slight % chance or zero is better than a negative chance 😂
Marriage provides no value to a man .. don't get married. If you like a woman, string her along as roommates with benefits until she messes it up .. then ghost her.
She cheated. He found out years later. She wants him to get over it. But she won't admit that she lied to him every moment from the time of the affair until the time she admitted the truth. How can she ever be trusted again? She is guilty of years of lying. All her wishes that things could be as they once were are pointless, as in his eyes the lying may have been worse than the cheating. Women make men do a lot before they permit intimacy: dates, proposals, rings, weddings, support after marriage, etc. This is why a cheating spouse is forever spoiled in a man's eyes. She has made a mockery of all his years of effort, and he feels like he has been fooled. It is because he valued her so highly that he is now so disillusioned.
and think about the deeper level of disgusting. more than likely she's trying to manipulate him by doing "certain things" that she would never have done with him before
And then she will try to blame YOU for her feeling guilty for HER own actions. 90% of women are entitled disregulated toddlers that project and throw temper tantrums in a futile attempt to dodge accountability for their own toxic behavior.
"It was so long ago..." #1. Listen, he found out TODAY. This is a fresh wound to him. I'm getting "get over it" vibes, which speaks badly of your character in terms of lack of empathy. You don't know what love is, let alone respect. #2. He is also processing the fact that all those years since are a lie. You presented yourself to him via lie of omission as something you are not - a faithful, caring wife. #3. Eventually he's also going to realize that extra affection that started after your alumni event was out of GUILT, not love. A man wants his woman to love and respect him from the heart, not out of grief or other mis-emotion. At least you gave him an amicable divorce - the ONLY thing you've done for him that is honorable in my book since the affair.
It boils my blood when a woman cheats then "try to make things go back like it was before infidelity". It disgusts me to no end. Women really believe men desire them after another man uses them? GTFO!
The crazy thing is, that women really do believe that. It's because they see a physical affair as being not as bed as an emotional affair and falling in love with the AP. That's why the first thing they usually ask about a husbands affair is : "do you love her?" What women don't understand, is that most men see her as a used Kleenex after she cheats. They often try to plead that "it was only sex!" But that's the main thing men care about, and for good reason, with the paternity questions it can cause.
The problem is women work differently then men. They see a man who has had a lot of experience as desirable, and in some cases can forgive cheating. Where men see experienced women as disgusting, or to be used just for fun, and will never forgive cheating.
@@DarthSoto78 Exactly, and this is something that women absolutely refuse to acknowledge because they would have to admit to themselves that they are damaged goods. Denial is a hell of a drug.
@@nickdiggerz Women for some reason feel like they can become what they desire (Rich, and experienced), and that should draw a partner being it is what they are attracted to. Not realizing most men are turned off by the boss babe that acts like a man, and find her experience disgusting. As you said they are broken. They want to be men with the benefits of being a woman.
It's ironic how treating a skank like OP with affection and respect makes her go cheat, while punishing her makes her attracted. You really can't fix something which is that messed up.
In the past, I had dated several women who longed for a guy who basically disrespected them, who would be selfish and treat them badly... and when I tried to show respect and kindness, they rapidly either lost interest and showed it, or hid their true feelings while seeking abusive relations elsewhere in addition to what I attempted to offer. When I was stationed at MacDill in Florida, I encountered one such young lady who was an extreme example. I had met her previously, at a party being thrown by a mutual friend. We chatted, and seemed to find several common interests, as well as being curious about some activities we did not share (diving, other water sports, paragliding, etc.). Over the next several weeks, we met for coffee and some other shared activities (shopping in Ybor City, Tampa, visiting the Sponge Docks in Tarpon Springs, stuff like that). I grew very interested in her. After about a month, I asked if she would like to go dancing, as a local band I really enjoyed had obtained a gig at a local club in St Petersburg, she said yes. She met me at my apartment, and for the first time she had a few mixed drinks with me. After about an hour, her behavior started being a little off. We got to the club, I paid our cover, and we went in. In the past, when I have went to such places, the drinks I had were stretched out, so to speak, and I tended to burn the alcohol off on the dance floor. Unfortunately, while she danced a few numbers (not even a complete set) with me, she continued to imbibe more than I was confortable with having observed her personality changing more and more. When I tried to ask her to slow down just a tad so we could stretch out the evening and enjoy it, and because I had planned a little special excursion for later in the evening, she suddenly became very belligerant, verbally abusive, and started punching and slapping at me. When my patience had run out, I grasped her wrists and asked her what the hell had was happening, she kicked me in the right shin, then attempted to knee me in the groin, whereupon I stepped back and slapped her, yelling for her to knock it off, I am not your punching bag. To my surprise, she immediately became docile, clinging to me and rubbing against me in a very provocative manner. I told her I had something special in mind, lets go, and she said sure, anything you want. So, I drove back to my apt, got her out of my car, locked it, and told her either she could risk driving herself home (her car was there) or I would call her a taxi (didn't have uber back then). After much weeping and wailing, then another angry outburst, I left her there in the parking lot, and went to my apartment. Despite several attempts to get me to buzz her in, I ignored the intercom and eventually she left. I had thought that dating a fellow soldier would have benefits in a relationship sense. Boy, was I wrong! I really dodged a bullet not getting in deeper with her. I thank my lucky stars that our physical relationship had not proceeded past some petting. I am still perplexed how someone could present such an interesting, pleasant facade for so long yet be able to hide such a freakish personality. People (Men and Women) can be quite scary at times.
She deliberately went to the reunion days early. She deliberately arranged to be with her old boyfriend. She deliberately set things. Up to be with old boyfriend knowing full well where it would lead and then deliberately mad choice after choice to spend multiple times with him. There is no such thing as an accident with women and if any tell you that they can’t remember certain things they are lying!
Dear female commenter, consider that every time your husband even thinks of intimacy with you he is plagued with unwanted mental images of you getting sausage from another man and it just crushes his soul. There's that too.
Yet another good marriage, family and good husband destroyed. What got me, even before she explained it was how fast she hooked up with her ex. She literally wasted no time starting with him the day she got into town. I’ll bet she came up with the idea when she first found out about the reunion months or more in advance.
He will be fine, dont worry...he stayed with her (for whatever reason), but he checked out from marriage and loving her years ago...now he will enjoy his newly found freedom with younger and defo hotter girlfriend, what will finish ex-wife mentally...no symphaty tho, she did it to herself...
This is why body count matters. Clearly she was a promiscuous coquette before the marriage. Once that desire program is in the brain, it's not coming out of there.
She is absolutely disgusting. The way she flippantly described the no eye contact sex as "selfish" is so maddening. SHE is and always has been the ONLY selfish person in the marriage. She would have gladly taken the secret to the grave while she pictured her ex every time she did it with her husband. She doesn't want a divorce, when all is said and done, because she knows she can no longer replace him with someone equal or better, and also she doesn't want to get a goddamned job like a normal adult human.
excuse me gentlemen but the person who writes did not say "what do you think of my grave mistake" but advice to try in some way to recover the relationship with her husband. after all it's a cerebral thing that tears the relationship apart, the thought of her in his arms, and while I condemn adultery, I think that's where we have to work, in the head of someone who suffers such often if not always irreversible damage. one thing must be said if temptation weren't irresistible satan wouldn't exist but neither would saints.
@@vitangelomoscarda2522 Sorry, but this level of betrayal is unforgivable, I don't care what the "book" says about forgiveness. People in this world are already too damned forgiving of crap behavior, that is why it continues. If he took her back, she would not respect him and more importantly he wouldn't respect himself. She needs to face the consequences of her actions, then maybe she would learn something, though I doubt it. As far as advice for getting her man back, there is nothing she can do, the ball is in his court and the decision to take her back (which he shouldn't) is his to make. She has proven herself to be untrustworthy and lied for years, most good men would not get past that.
@@nickdiggerz but I didn't talk about taking it back and forgiveness does not presuppose that he has to take it back, furthermore I said that adultery causes irreversible damage in the person who suffers it which makes forgiveness possible but certainly not intimacy and life with a person of you no longer trust. I just wanted to point out that the writer does not know that she has criticism and insults for her behavior but some useful advice to get back what she has lost. that it's a very difficult thing, I think you know it too-
Most men and women WANT and Need Diversity. Throughout Human History, Monogamy has NOT been the Norm. Ex wife who ratted is a Busy-Body "B" from Hell. Hubby is Weak and Pathetic; You forgive and go on with Life.....
Yet they do it every day. The latest surveys show the percentage of cheating women has grown exponentially in the last decade up over 40% to 78%. It’s absolutely despicable, and no man in his right mind would marry one anymore.
She said the guilt from her cheating made her a better person. That’s like saying “yes I Robbed the Bank and it made me a richer person”. Yeah but you robbed… forget it I’ll just see myself out.
This is women’s BS!! Big time lifts women are so much better at luring their guts out and can take it to the grave without any problems! They are in a class by their selves it total disgraceful!😭😭😭👍👀👌😢😢
See the lies ghey tell theirselves it’s a belly laugher Vvvv my god thry They have no conscience whatsoever they know what they did was trash and make them look like scum, scum bucket sluts, but they’ll do it anyway and then come back and say oh how sorry they are. Yeah they’re sorry the garden got caught and that’s why they end up having to other kids other kids babies and say oh my husband he will take care of the baby just fine yeah because he don’t know no better that’s why they should be DNA test on every child is born I don’t care what it cost if we send money overseas we should find out a lease if that’s gonna be my kid or not every child every child should have a DNA test to make sure that’s the right combination of mother and father combination and then they can make the choice if they need to be taken OK what’s wrong with that? No big deal it’ll help the hospital to make money to.😢😢
Once you hit rock bottom the only way to go is up. Basically what cheaters do. No you didn't make yourself better! You just crawled out if the hole you dug yourself into and became a normal person. You already cheated. Just because you never cheated again doesn't make you a better person. It does if you used to cheat but again the bar was already set low not hard to climb over it
Pretty sure he wasn't giving her a second chance. I believe the reason he didn't divorce her was because he believed it was for the sake of the kids, not to mention the alimoney and child support he would have to pay her if he divorced her.
It’s just hard to be with somebody if you’re not going to forgive them if you’re not going to forgive them and be in the same house you’re going to live a very sad Life. Me personally I think he should forgive her she was a great wife and she made a mistake.
@@paulinejackson5861could be alot of things. Its irrelevant because she's telling the story and gives no indication that hes doing anything abusive or inattentive.saing "cheating happems" as if its an accident is ridiculous .no its a conscious decision thats made in total disregard for the person you are supposed to love.
Nah, they can stay faithful, after it's too late. Look how often there are tales of women remaining celibate in the hope that he'll come back. If only such self control had been exercised earlier before the marriage was ruined.
This guy should have left this woman as soon as he found out she cheated. It's amazing that this cheating woman wants to play victim.She would have never told her husband the truth if she wasn't told on. She's a worthless excuse for a wife and a person.
What really grinds for a lot of people is women like her stating their husbands are "the true light of my life and my rock" or similar words, "loving, caring, etc." only to BACKSTAB with LIES/CAPS. If you are going to cap your story, just don't put flowery words to get sympathy from your audience; just say you are a FAILURE of 304 through and through.
Hes was so perfect loving always met my needs the love of my life. The local cashier asked me paper or plastic. Ive been screwing him for the last 6 months.
@@richardcharles4126 "Someone who respects and loves their spouse would be fearful of ruining that relationship and would never seek out what she did." Well said.
@@Czarisyn I know, usually, it meant wearables for the head like a baseball cap. But today, the meaning has evolved to describe something new. From "no cap" = "no lies, for real;" so the word by itself, "cap" would suggest "lie," and "caps = lies." Slang terms used today to "soften up" supposed harsh words such as "liar!"
I think it was poetic justice when she tried to get in front of how the DNA test might turn out since this was one time she was being honest with her husband and it blew up in her face. She didn't deserve the additional five years they were together. She deserves what she got. She certainly didn't deserve the understanding she received from her husband.
I think it's more ironic than that. My guess is the trickle truth did not end but rather she gave him enough to stop him asking questions. I'm pretty sure that he wondered about the timing of his youngest to the affair. And as all cheaters done she would have sworn she used protection etc. But as she said in the story when her daughters were asking her about the timing she lied. I think they knew it as they are women. She knew from the time she got pregnant that it may not have been her husband's which was why she lied. Because she knew that if she told the truth she would have been exposed trying to pass off another man's child as her husband's baby for 9 years. That was until she could not avoid the DNA test and knew it would be best coming from her. This is why you don't waste your life on a cheater. He spent all those year's trying to learn to trust her again only to learn she was still not being truthful to him and even worse was willing to let him raise another man's baby. Trickle truth only gets you borrowed time
@anthonymark2516 It's worse than that, actually. First, I find it highly unlikely that she had not occasionally looked up her xbf on FB or other social media after their affair and most likely knew about his divorce and Parkinsons. Even if she only found out about the disease when her husband mentioned her immediate thought SHOULD have been about her son and the genetic implications...but no. Why didn't she at least go to a doctor and start a process of determining if he had markers to possibly make plans and understand the risks? Because, she continues to protect herself above everything else.
She nearly destroyed her son life that he was conceived during her affair and ex could be father of ex. Fortunately, her husband is the father and should have divorced her instead of salvaged their marriage.
Well the AP is dead, so there is much choice in the matter. The BS is on the hook no matter what happens. DNA test at birth guys. It’s the only way to stop this crap from happening
What are these therapists telling these women? It not about him regaining his manhood. It’s because he now views you of someone he can’t trust and doesn’t want to be around anymore. The BS has completely lost all respect and trust in you. In short, he’s sees you as broken woman that he is permanently tied to because of the kids. I can only imagine the taste of bile he has every time he looks at you.
It's because therapists are typically low-qualification quack wannabe doctors who want to turn the issue into an ego problem for the dude instead of shining a light on a cheating whore who betrayed her marriage vows.
A few thoughts: 1. She made her choice and did what she did. The consequences for her actions are what they are. 2. The husband’s initial response was great with setting up the family meeting and explaining what happened. So many stories of men trying to keep the truth from their children and the kids grow up confused without a reason as to why their dad treats their mom the way they do. Perspective is huge. 3. I hope these kids learn from this. 4. I mentally prepared myself for the ex-boyfriend to be the dad. So glad he wasn’t. 5. Husband made the right move in the end and ended with graciously and with a co-parenting mindset
@@johnbradbury8610 yeeeaahhh, he should of divorced in the beginning. Though, in some rare circumstances I can see attempts at reconciliation being an option. In his case, he made a lot of mistakes after he chose to stay. You don’t stay in a marriage and chose not to reconcile be a prisoner in your home. You always dig for as much of the story as you can gather so you know the truth. He failed to do that.
I can tell you what happens to the kids. The son stays single for life. He ends up happy. The daughters grow up, sleep around in college, get married, cheat, and make money from their divorces. They both end up in "boxed wine and cat land."
The unfaithful woman who thinks her betrayed husband will eventually fall in love with her again and come back is probably the female equivalent of the guy in the friendzone who thinks that his crush will eventually start noticing and falling in love with him. Both absolutely delusional and hopeless, but they will keep spending way too large chunks of their lives waiting for a miracle.
I commented on this post elsewhere, ALL she says is "I, I, I, me, me, me." She contantly states "I destroyed my marriage..." NO, she destroyed her HUSBAND's marriage. She threw HER marriage away!
@@JW-xj6tw LOL! Wrong about that as well. Or as the noted Thomas Sowell puts it, “Facts matter, not to people who have a sense of moral superiority in their ignorance“
@@Macch2275 easy! As I read Reddit I see “I was comfortable with him” “1 felt wonderful “ “I could not control myself” etc, etc. that’s what I am observing.
Which is why they divorce over some, in the grand scheme of things, meaningless reasons. Their feelings override memories and thought about future and introspection. We all are usually the ones in the way of our happiness. Our attitudes. Are we greatful? And so forth.
It was not so long ago, for him it happened the day before he found out. I have been married for over 40 years, and if I found out that my wife had cheated on me in the past I would leave her immediately.
To be perfectly honest, I listen to stories like this and revel in not being married. Peace of mind is not something that valued today but it is a priceless commodity.
From queen to concubine...and shes turned on by it. Young men should pay attention. Women innately get bored with being on the pedastal. Its almost cliche
In that update where she said "after it happened, I felt guilty" well she wasn't feeling that guilty because it "happened" again and again, I would like to ask her if the guilt decreased with each happening.
Any affair is hurtful enough no matter when you find out about it. Keeping that a secret for so long is also so hurtful and selfish. She said in the beginning her "safe marriage" I believe this 304 settled for her husband he was not her first choice and I do not believe that this was the first time she ever cheated on him. It doesn't matter how well she treated him and acted nicely after her affair it should not have happened in the first place.
I agree, it may have been 9yrs that she had to make peace with it in her mind but for him it happened that day and it had 9yrs worth of festering added to the wound.
"I do not believe that this was the first time she ever cheated on him." - I think the same. With her getting pregnant around the time she was fucking the ex, I believe THAT is what inspired the bullshit remorse and pretending to be the World's Best Wife.
What really breaks a man after an SO's affair behind his back is the total disrespect shown by someone he has, all the while, put on a pedestal. This disrespect destroys his self-esteem and his view of himself as a person. It erases all his view of what his life was all about. He thought he was Superman and now he is a cuckold. That's a whole mouthfull to ram down his throat.
24:12 - "I know he'll never forgive me, but that's okay as long as I don't have to experience any negative consequences from his pain and inability to forgive me." The audacity.
My Dad would play the sweetest love/slow songs on his stereo. Truly in love. Moms reveal came out. He has never, ever played one of those songs again. Held the line for us 5 kids. Never truly recovered.
This woman is vile. Hooking up with an ex is disgusting and narcisstic for almost a decade ago. She's a cheater and expects sympathy? None will be given nor will there be forgiveness. This marriage is over and the parties need to move on with their own lives. The husband was a nice guy but deep down just needed to move out. Despise these cheating women. Have seen many of them and men need to stay clear of them. Just sad that there is no morality in marriage anymore.
This storybis just another prime example of why dna testing needs to be mandatory. It's the only way to hold both men and women responsible for their actions. Hold responsible the women that cheat and the men whether married or single that get involved.
They just did this in Jamaica as they have one of the highest rates of paternity fraud in the world and more and more kids are ending up wards of the state as families are left in smoke..
@@holeymcsockpuppet Things are changing.. right wing politicians have started picking up on this which as a left winger worries me as even I would support mandatory testing.
What 90%+ of these marriages ruined by Infidelity have in common is a married women in the WRONG place at the WRONG time WITHOUT her husband Moral of the story is if you don't want to step on a land mine don't go dancing in land mine fields. I said this when I was late teens A married woman has absolutely no business WHATSOEVER out in environments without her husband clearly unsuitable for a married woman like clubs bars fests etc etc and this is 10x more applicable if she will be with single friends For a married man he should never allow nor should he ever need tell his wife there will NEVER be any "girls nights out" or "all girl vacations" if he does it is not a matter of if but WHEN his wife ends up cheating on him Once a woman is in a LTR let alone married absolutely all non-work related involvement with non family member men must absolutely end no exceptions whatsoever and a married woman should only have the absolute minimum involvement with her male coworkers needed to do her job and nothing more no lunches together no work related functions without her husband and a good wife will not need be told any of this Bottom line either she's married or she's not for a husband there is no middle ground or compromising on this And I say absolutely for a husband that has remained faithful under no circumstances whatsoever do you EVER give an unfaithful wife a second chance I would go total burnt earth on my wife if she ever cheated I'd rather loose everything paying a lawyer donate my entire savings and pensions away and have to work the rest of my life than giver her a GD penny so she can live on easy street with her new Johnson And my wife knows this
Placing restrictions on women - not happening. As a result each “girls night out” or whatever is like a pull of the trigger in Russian Roulette. Enough pulls and your marriage is dead.
As a married woman, I respect your words. Although I've had girls' nights out but they are strictly with other women in relationships and there is ZERO talking to men or opportunities for infidelity. We also don't stay out late, and we check in with our men and let them know where we are at all times. Nowadays I don't even go out, though...too tired and too old 😴 🤣. I also prefer dates with my husband don't like to spend too much money.
That may all be true, but why should we have to be the marriage police and chaperone our own wives? Isn't it just better to stay single? Then they can live out their h*e phase for as long as they want and it won't wreck you and leave you destitute and bitter.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743udos. Alas....many younger women go to clubs with skimpy clothing even tho they got bf...or worse...married.... Go to bar n watch Game of Throne is one thing. Going to bar n flirt is another. Btw....predators could detect easy women...n could talk their way into a woman's pants.... N then theyd boast how easy such n such woman is.
The same thing happened to my best friend. Similar situation. Three kids, stay at home wife. He freaked out for about two years. Wouldn't talk to anybody. Just ran his business and that was it. They had a blow out fight and I don't know exactly what happened but he had to move out and was prohibited from seeing his kids for several months. Well he "stayed for the kids" and they somehow made it work. But it's clear he can barely stand her. He goes out most nights to gamble or hang out or whatever so he doesn't have to be with her. Here's the rub. He never told anybody what happened. Why he freaked out and why he can barely stand her. I'm the only one who knows, and I just figured it out. He doesn't even know that I know. In his case, staying for the kids may have been a purely financial decision. He owns a successful business that he would have to turn over 50% to her if they divorced which would be a mess.
"At the time, I wanted what happened to happen and after it happened, I felt terrible guilt..." No she did not, I think she said they had 'closeness' three times, she felt guilt because she knew her husband was going to be there shortly and if he found out, she was afraid she would lose her security and life she was use to.
I think what most people missed here was that they were trying to get back together. He was told she cheated and it broke him, but he was working on it. THEN she dropped the NEXT bomb about the kid might not be his LATER not at the time he got hit with the cheating crap. She didn't bring it up UNTIL she knew it might be a problem. She didn't come clean about everything the first time and tell him everything. At that point he knew there was no way to move forward she could not be trusted to tell the truth unless she was caught.
Hope you're channel grows my brother young guys need to hear this shit ... Rich once said "you can either love women or understand them you cannot do both"... In a 39 years old now that I understand them it's mated my dating game a whole lot better
@frank1fm634 she cheated again. I always trimmed her pu$$y and I came home from work and she said she had a surprise for me. Well she had shaved herself completely bald. After some very heated word over several hours she admits she did for a guy that lived around the block from us. I went to his house and told his wife. Him and my wife lived together several years but he was a bum. He could even get a cell phone in his name. My ex ended up jumping from one guy to the next, like the whore she was. Now she lives alone in a 1 bedroom apartment with 3 dogs and a cat. According to my son she is miserable. Haha!!!
Why do these ladies claim that they have a fulfilling life and cheats? You throw away your fulfilling life for nothing. It really irks me when they say that.
"I wish she had called me first so I could have confessed instead of blindsiding my husband and I." The absolute state of women, mates. She had nine years to confess, but still shirks all accountability when given an opportunity to, by laying the blame for the ending of their relationship on this other woman.
Total disrespect... this woman even had the audacity to introduce her husband to the man she'd just been cheating with. Unbelievable. Fortunately AP's ex-wife was good enough to inform the husband about the affair when she finds out herself. Then the age of the guys son comes into consideration... As for her 'infidelity made me a better person' that's total BS.
@@youflatscreentube I think a lot of women want to hurt their partner to divert their self loathing. A wife with good morals and values doesn't want to disrespect her partner.
She introduced them to not arose sus and again to "compare" them which makes it worse. "Seeing the 2 men side by side i couldn't believe i cheated on a lesser man vs my husband".
I just love how they really don't believe they've done anything wrong and can't understand why the husband could possibly be upset. If you ever really loved him (you don't) you would leave him and let him have chance at happiness without you. But of course you only think of yourself, so you want to drag him down in misery just so you can be happy.
I hear this sort of scenario quite a lot in betrayal stories and one thing women never get is this: It might have been along time ago to you, it was 5 minutes ago to him.
It’s pretty common that these cheaters are called good moms/poor wives. A good mom ensures kids are fed, readied for school, extracurricular activities and play dates are scheduled, etc. You know who else can do this and not cheat on you? Ans: a nanny. A good mom wouldn’t put her family at risk by pursuing another man to satisfy her selfish desires.
I always laugh when a cheater is downplayed as a good parent. A good parent does not destroy their own children's family. The betrayed spouse is under the delusion that they can shield the children with that statement.
Why is it women like this one just don't have a clue! They seem to think no matter what their behavior that the relationship can be repaired and go back to what it was. They don't understand the effect their actions have on others and never seem to understand what they have until they have destroyed it. Actions speak louder than words and all things can't be talked out. This woman's attitudes, reasoning thinking were self absorbed, selfish and lack any self awareness. She planned the affair, had sex with both men within the week, lied, . The fact she can turn around in the next sentence and pretend she had any regard for her husband left me speechless. She is shallow and delusional even by Infidelity standards.
I have no sympathy for the guy. He wasted 5 years of his life on a woman that was able to toss away more than 15 years of their relationship. I have no idea why society expects men to put up with that nonsense, but always seem to give women a pass because it was only a "mistake". BS. If you want equality, then treat them equally in good times and bad.
I don't think he wasted 5 years. He can walk away knowing he tried so his conscience is clear. And the children knew that they might get divorced which is easier on them when it actually happened.
@@coureenlawrence4915 Sorry, but that's compete BS that modern women try to force on men trying to make them accept the unacceptable.. The second you know she cheated, the relationship is over murdered by her hand. There's not turning back from that.
@@johnbradbury8610 Disagree, I do feel sorry for him and I think he wanted to leave but was protecting his kids which was the only thing that was making him feel like a man. We live in an society where without a father being there everyday the children are most likely going to fall off the rails.
You would think that with all these stories out there, women and men will think twice about cheating. I also don't understand sleeping with someone unprotected especially when you are married, knowing that you can get pregnant.
FYA, two things, I’m thoroughly enjoy your content, your presentation and professionalism are just outta dis world, downside…. To few… gimme more! Keep rocking, now to this couple, one can tell, he’s tried… but to for to long! She’s still not all truthful, because her reasoning was never revealed, only her “desire” to be the pursuer……… you know, it baffles me EVERY TIME, hearing the same gibberish…. My husband is the best, but I had to destroy my relationship……….. in the words of Al Bundy, "Don't try to understand women, women understand women and they hate each other."
yeah and it showed how she didnt have any love for him as her response to how hes been miserable the last 5 years was to say that shes been happy turning the tables to make it about her again.
This cheating mom has no love for her son... the moment she realized that her AP had Parkinson's she should have his DNA tested for both paternity and Parkinson's Disease Genetic Markers, e.g. PARK2, etc. What a selfish 304 she is!
all the women are selfish 304s like that, they dont give a damn about the fact that if their kid that they think might be the child of their AP and that they dont even know the medical history that could impact that kid. not to mention the kid having an medical emergency and then they are using the so called "fathers" medical history to make a decision but it is all for nought as the kid isnt his so the medical history is useless.
From my experience the dark days are still to come. With the children grown and the parents divorced, the family home sold, there is no connections to bring the family back together. The Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays and other family events will be non-existent because the home and parents have disintegrated. There is no focal point for the family. I experienced family events with my parents and my ex-wife's parents as lovely cosy events , but this is like a death in the family and that family life is difficult to maintain when the parents are disconnected. Those are the precious family times that will never be.
The old societal model was: A young woman would trade her youth and fertility exclusively to only one man, and he in turn would be the workhorse and take care of her when she gets past her prime. This was a great incentive for men to work, become men, and get married. You got a prize, a young beautiful loyal wife. In theory, as we know life isn't perfect. She does him a favor early on by being a virgin/exclusive and later he does her a favor by staying and supporting her instead of leaving her for a younger woman. They both get a prize. The new societal model is: Women whore around and waste their youth and fertility on Chad/Tyrone, get walled out, get STDs, lose their ability to pair bond, rapidly accelerate their aging process with excessive alcohol and fast food, and have no loyalty to any man. What sensible man would pay top dollar for something 30 other men got for free? The incentive for men is gone. You don't get a prize anymore. You get a parasite with an entitlement mentality that’s looking to take your resources and then some. Before you even say “I do” at the altar, she’s already plotting how to financially grape you’re A$$ in family court after she locks you in with at least one kid, a mortgage, and then divorces your sorry A$$ a few years later. Why do you think she’s smiling as she’s walking down the aisle? Wouldn’t you if you got to keep the house, the kids, all the cash and prizes, and she’s paying for it all? Men get divorced to get rid of something. Women get divorced to get something. A woman’s main reason for getting married is to get a divorce. Most women are cold, cruel, predatory animals with no conscience. A woman who marries for money will complain about love. A woman who marries for love will complain about money. A woman who has both will find something else to complain about. Apparently, the worst thing a woman can experience is being married to a man who loves her. A man's sixual drive is used to lure him into signing a one-sided lifetime contract with a parasitic woman with penalties for leaving. She gets to keep all the cash and prizes and can break the contract at any time, for any reason, lie under oath, and suffer no penalties. In fact, she is rewarded and encouraged to do so. There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. A man is not going to invest in somebody that at best laughs at him or at worst hates him and blames him for everything. You're expected to pay a premium price for a used up, beaten up, tatted up, parasitic leach. Who is an ungrateful, self-consumed, easily offended, fat, ugly, aggressive b!tch on wheels, with a masculine demeanor, and an entitlement mentality. A soulless woman from the bargain basement bins of some store in the hood with the morals of an alley cat. An in denial, freak of nature, pathologically delusional, self-esteem deficient, morally bankrupt, bottom dwelling, blood sucking, inhuman, creature of the night, spawned from the seed of Satan. A true boil on the buttocks of the world. When she dies, the last living reminder of helll will be gone from the face of the earth. She has kids from Chad/Tyrone or both, personal credit card debt, no assets, school debt for a worthless degree in liberal arts, Greek Mythology, Humanities, or gender studies. No cooking skills and no desire to learn any, no fiscal responsibility, an overly banged vagina, and a pet you’ll be expected to take care of as well. And you're supposed to be happy about this opportunity to lick up the scraps from the floor. The so-called good men she wants and can’t find are out there. They just don’t want her at the table because she has nothing to bring except financial and emotional pain. When women say, "Men are only after one thing". Meaning seex. My question to them is, do you have anything else to offer? Crickets is all I hear. Which means even they don't believe they have anything else to offer except borderline personality disorder, bi-polar disorder, PTSD, childhood sexual abuse, financial ruin, emotional pain, and narcissism. In addition, she also has great expectations you’ll do everything for her, make her feel better, and provide an unrealistic unsustainable lifestyle she feels she deserves because she read about it some feminazi magazine article that hates men. All this while she cheats behind your back with the “bad boys” she’s always really wanted all along, while you’re at work paying all the bills to feed this little parasitic shrew. Women don’t “love men”, they love what men can do for them. Where are all the great works of art female artists have created, inspired by their love of men? Men are not afraid of commitment or marriage…. Men are afraid of getting divorce graped in “family court.” It’s just a bad deal all the way around for men and a crap shoot at best. There’s nothing in it for men except the chance to be financially ruined for the rest of your life. If you were thinking of going skydiving and knew that three out of four parachutes failed, and you had already watched your friends jump, some successfully, others not so. Would you be willing to take the chance that you're going to be the exception and get the one parachute out of the four that is going to work?......... I mean they all look so pretty and smell so good and feel so soft to the touch and they are offering you the thrill of a lifetime if you would just let one of them wrap itself around you and make that commitment to attach yourself to it and jump...... would you still take that chance? But… but…. Look how pretty the parachutes are, smell their lovely fragrance, touch and feel how soft they feel, they beckon you to try one of them on, please try me on and let me wrap myself tightly around you and see how good I feel to you, I’ll hold on tight and snug to you, I am not like the others, honest I am different, I’ll work. Well….. would you do it? Would you take that chance for the thrill of a lifetime? Yea, that sounds like a good deal if I were a moron, is this the line I stand in to lose half my sheet? Good luck with that. Men are waking up and realizing this system is defective and toxic. Women's seexual liberation, femiinism and the birth control pill, have ironically dis-empowered women. They are throwaway seexual objects now more than ever. "Femiinism did NOT free women from the chains they thought they had. It freed MEN from the chains they had no idea were there." ~ Arch Stanton ~
That is it in a nut shell. It is why we went from 40% of men being unmarried in the US 30 years ago to 65% of men being unmarried today. Some sources cite that at the current rate we could see 75% of men being unmarried in a decade. Men are waking up more and more today when considering that 70% of divorce is initiated by women with at least a highschool education. Divorce is initiated by 90% of women with at least a college education. Then when it comes to financial support following a divorce 93% of those getting the financial support are women. There is quite literally zero reason to marry a woman today, women have made sure that they are now regulated to pump and dump material and that is where they should stay. There is literally no reason to have a wife today, you really dont even need a woman anymore considering that I read an article that by the end of this decade this one company plans to have artificial wombs available for human use which will be a first. Men no longer will have to rely on women if they want a family, they can just go the artificial womb route and have the family they want and be a single father which studies shows single father house holds are better for children than single mother house holds which result in increase risk of suicide, depression, turning to a life of crime, and being locked up in prison. With all the bullshit I have been put through by females going back to middle school, the final straw for me was back in 2012 with this one woman I thought might be different but was just your common gutter TPT that tried to commit paternity fraud on me, my only choice of having a family like I want would be to turn to technology as I cant look for women my age as they are scraping the bottom of the barrel when it comes to eggs and their fertility would be in the trash. My only option would be to seek out women 20-25 and we know that is playing russian roulette with a revolver with seven rounds in the cylinder. So for myself I have regulated myself into a single life doing what I want when I want focusing on myself and when I want a little fun I find some 20-25 yo 304 and use her as the ol pump and dump as that is all the worth modern women have today.
Once the vow is broken there is no marriage anymore. The man's never the same, and he'll never see you the same again............won't trust, won't desire you the same nothing ever again. Might as was divorce there is no going back.
She says she’s turned on by his indifference and his rage in the sack. Modern women summarized in one sentence. Something tells me the old flame wasn’t the commitment type, but rather the aloof Chad whose approval she desperately craved. The husband was the doting fool she settled for.
Having watched my family fall apart due to infidelity, I can say with confidence that going ahead and getting divorced is the best option for the kids' sake. Totally agree with you in that one.
I see my old boyfriends all the time. I feel no need to reconnect with them, because there was a reason why we broke. Why would I want to reconnect with something that was over.
@@lottoo5693I doubt that very much. “I run into my ex boyfriends all the time”. How many ? She used the term plural so at least 2. Imagine being her husband running into guys (multiple) that used to plow your wife and not only seeing them once but “all the time”. How embarrassing. Perfect example as to why men prefer a woman with a low body count.
Those who say they have no sympathy for the husband and that he should have divorced her straight away forget how biased the courts are against men even though the wife destryoed the marriage. She will take half his assets, get primary custody of young children and get child support and probably alimony if she was a SAHM. His life will be devasted while she still lives off him even if she finds new temporary partners. So think things through before berating the innocent party.
Most people who say divorce straight away are Darwin Award winning incels. A man with children knows once he discovers the wife is trash, live for the kids instead. Get them to safety before dumping the ballast of a wife. Kids who see their parent divorce young grow up to be damaged adults. Husband in this story got his two daughters into college before dumping the wife; otherwise the OP would have brought a rotating cast of men to molest her daughters before they grew to adulthood.
28:30 "Even though our relationship has changed, I'm sure most women on here are in envy of what I have would gladly trade places with me." - WTF? Is she completely delusional? I'm confident that most women would prefer a trustful relationship over the wreckage of a marriage she created. Even being divorced might be better for many people.
How fast she cheated with only few days to do it, her mind to cheat was made up a long time before the reunion.. The reunion was her first safe opportunity and she took it, what a horrible and selfish person
Women value the abstract of a guy, and men value what is built together with the woman. The husband found out the relationship is a lie and is disgusted. Both "therapsists" try to throw this back on the mans masculinity issue. Its a basic human issue the problem is women aren't wired like that in relationships. Women forgive cheating because the man is the same or better than before on a superficial level, but the relationship between them is still a lie and tainted. Women don't care, but men do and that is not a problem with us dudes.
@@davidnash8208 Which is why therapy is a scam. These snake oil salesmen will do anything to keep a patient coming back. Women are just easier to manipulate because of the weight they put on their feelings.
Thats what I was wondering. I know when I found out the woman I first hooked up with and tried a relationship with became pregnant but then realized later before the birth that the conception date didnt match up with the last time me and her were together, I called her out on it she dismissed on the call saying we will talk tomorrow next thing I know its been 11 years and never heard from her again. First few years I wanted answers to the questions I had, after that I quickly moved on and took up the stance of not even pissing on her if she was on fire. that experience along was the final straw for me and now I realize its easier to view all women as liars and cheaters.
When Reid's ex-wife contacted him, he should have told her "You don't have to dote over him anymore. I'm booting out my B in heat so she can come smother him with love and affection in his time of need !" (Just for old times sake!)
"While you may think this is selfish and one sided on his part....." WTF? She gets turned on by it? Also, the ex-wife should have contacted her first? C'mon, she'd spin it to be as innocuous as possible. She'd trickle-truth him for decades.
Yep thats why she was so upset with the old bf`s ex-wife cause she didnt give her the courtesy of trying to spin a tale and soften the blow by half truths.
The only reason why she has been a "good mother and wife" since the affair is because of her guilt. If she didn't cheat, she'd never have shown him so much affection.
I must say that I have always enjoyed reading your amazing stories. The contents are very interesting, but more than that, I especially enjoy your mastery of the English language. You're just amazing to listen to and learn from. Thank you.
In his defense, he was just trying to do what he thought was best for his family as a whole, right or wrong, despite being handed a huge turd, he tried to hold it by the “clean” end. He should have been a bit suspicious about her behavior since she had become June cleaver after she had her fun and had discovered guilt afterwards.
@NormK I agree. It's just for me, the whole staying for the kids thing doesn't make since bc I'm a child of this kind if betrayal and the drama and tension are definitely noticeable. I always thought that if I'm not happy, I can't make anyone else happy (the kids).
@@stanleyphinazee5354 interesting. I tried to stay with my first wife after she confessed to cheating (with this one particular guy, I suspect there was another FWB ongoing) . We stayed together for about 5 more years. My mom and dad divorced when I was 8 and I promised myself that I wouldn’t put my kids through that… well we were apparently pretending that we were okay. I eventually decided that once my youngest hit 18 I was gone. She didn’t give me the opportunity. After that first confession and “reconciliation “ she decided that she wanted to run off with an 18 year old brother of a friend of hers. She was 28 at the time. We had 3 kids together ( I assume they are all mine). This was it for me and I had her served. I had sole custody for the first couple of years but then she stole money from her boss, took me to court and vvoman judge gave her custody…. Knowing now, what I did not know then, I would have baled on her the first time. If she would have truely been remorseful (she is not capable, her personality type can never be wrong) and put 1000% of her efforts into making the marriage work, I think I could have rug swept the whole affair…. But alas, it was not meant to be. She just got better at hiding her shenanigans and I was too naive to check her. I was the ultimate blue pilled super simp with rose colored glasses. If I could go back and “SMACK” myself!
@NormK Sry mam. But at least ur self confident enough to admit u were a simp. "Sweeping it under the rug" is never a good idea...ever. now u r better and can heal and find someone who truly deserves ur everything
Put yourself in his shoes, In reference to the second question post No way, shape or form does cheating make you a better person if anything, it makes you more disgusting than you once were. You have to feel bad for the husband though I try to put myself in their shoes it’s gotta be so hard to accept it & have to just walkaway from your whole life and family that’s all he knows.. but the marriage will never be the same. You definitely can’t change the inevitable I have lots of sympathy for these guys 🙏🏼
She asked for it , she ask for burgers when she knew fully well that she has steaks waiting for her at home . It's not a mistake ,she made the choice to hook up with her ex bf .
which is funny when you think about it, she decided to be a good wife to make up for the cheating which she should have been doing all along as part of her vows but she was a bad wife by cheating and then lying about it and trying to cover it up for decades. mental gymnastics is what women are great at.
"I plan to start looking for a job later this year, but for now I'm going to take a couple months off to work on myself". Lady, you are an older women who is divorced but not close to a social security check. You've been doing what all these years? NOW, YOU ARE GOING TO WORK ON YOURSELF? A couple of months from now,........ "You going to look for work?" Nah, I still need to work on myself.
13:50 it never fails to amaze me how the person who cheated always ends up acting like there the ones who have been hurt and deceived they expect to be forgiven but in reality they are utter selfish vile human beings she gobs off about him being her rock her champion yet she still betrayed him it wasn't a mistake at all she chose to sleep with her ex low and disgusting
She cheats, destroys her family, humiliates her husband, and then posts online to make herself the poor victim. What a slag.
No accountability, as always.
You're right! She is an utter disgrace!
ha ha ha... slag.
Indeed 💯 and they always have you meet the very guy that they cheated on you with.
I think you meant to say "what a woman".
I like how she’s says, “everything we’ve been thru. “. You actually mean Everything you’ve put your family thru.
Typical female always sees herself as a victim even when she's the one doing the damage
The Grand Inquisitor...Mr. "F"ing Perfect and Wonderful-vermin Narrator o thus B.S. Tale. Cheating is NORMAL and Healthy; neither Men or Women are Biologically and Genetically programmed to be Faithful to one mate for LIFE. MONOGAMY has not been the Norm of the Human Race for over 100,000 years. We are genetically 99% similar to Chimps. The average Female Chimp WILL HAVE Sex with 5-6 different Male Chimps....EVERY DAY!!!! Hubby is a Total A-Hole; Hubby is a weakling, cry-baby, pathetic Simp. What kind of Idiot stays angry and enraged for over 14 years to a Woman who is a Loyal and Phenomenal Wife.
Yeah, I've heard that one. I also love "I don't want to fight" as they start a fight.
I love how she didn't bother working out or losing weight during the marriage, and only started thinking about that following the divorce.
Hitting the wall soon if not already.
She knows her husband is the only one she has a slight very miniscule chance as no other strong man will want her. But that ship sailed either way long ago. But a slight % chance or zero is better than a negative chance 😂
@@fumothfan9Oh, she def hit the wall. She's in her late 40's/early 50's.
Marriage provides no value to a man .. don't get married. If you like a woman, string her along as roommates with benefits until she messes it up .. then ghost her.
Wife: "I'll do anything for you." Husband: "yeah, anything except be faithful."
. . . or honest.
Yes, my marriage was so fulfilling that she hooked up with her ex-boyfriend - a quote right out of the whore handbook!
it just amazes me how cheaters cannot get over that the betrayed spouse cannot get over the act of betrayal.
She cheated. He found out years later. She wants him to get over it. But she won't admit that she lied to him every moment from the time of the affair until the time she admitted the truth. How can she ever be trusted again? She is guilty of years of lying. All her wishes that things could be as they once were are pointless, as in his eyes the lying may have been worse than the cheating. Women make men do a lot before they permit intimacy: dates, proposals, rings, weddings, support after marriage, etc. This is why a cheating spouse is forever spoiled in a man's eyes. She has made a mockery of all his years of effort, and he feels like he has been fooled. It is because he valued her so highly that he is now so disillusioned.
Guilty affection is absolutely disgusting. Nothing worse than getting affection from your partner out of guilt than love.
Too bad she didn't put in the work before that from the start.
Because that supposed love if false. I would rather simple indifference. At least that indifference is honest.
and think about the deeper level of disgusting. more than likely she's trying to manipulate him by doing "certain things" that she would never have done with him before
And then she will try to blame YOU for her feeling guilty for HER own actions. 90% of women are entitled disregulated toddlers that project and throw temper tantrums in a futile attempt to dodge accountability for their own toxic behavior.
Just like make up sex...EEEEWWWWW!🤮
"It was so long ago..."
#1. Listen, he found out TODAY. This is a fresh wound to him. I'm getting "get over it" vibes, which speaks badly of your character in terms of lack of empathy. You don't know what love is, let alone respect.
#2. He is also processing the fact that all those years since are a lie. You presented yourself to him via lie of omission as something you are not - a faithful, caring wife.
#3. Eventually he's also going to realize that extra affection that started after your alumni event was out of GUILT, not love. A man wants his woman to love and respect him from the heart, not out of grief or other mis-emotion.
At least you gave him an amicable divorce - the ONLY thing you've done for him that is honorable in my book since the affair.
It boils my blood when a woman cheats then "try to make things go back like it was before infidelity". It disgusts me to no end. Women really believe men desire them after another man uses them? GTFO!
The crazy thing is, that women really do believe that.
It's because they see a physical affair as being not as bed as an emotional affair and falling in love with the AP. That's why the first thing they usually ask about a husbands affair is : "do you love her?"
What women don't understand, is that most men see her as a used Kleenex after she cheats. They often try to plead that "it was only sex!" But that's the main thing men care about, and for good reason, with the paternity questions it can cause.
The problem is women work differently then men. They see a man who has had a lot of experience as desirable, and in some cases can forgive cheating. Where men see experienced women as disgusting, or to be used just for fun, and will never forgive cheating.
@@DarthSoto78 Exactly, and this is something that women absolutely refuse to acknowledge because they would have to admit to themselves that they are damaged goods. Denial is a hell of a drug.
@@nickdiggerz Women for some reason feel like they can become what they desire (Rich, and experienced), and that should draw a partner being it is what they are attracted to. Not realizing most men are turned off by the boss babe that acts like a man, and find her experience disgusting. As you said they are broken. They want to be men with the benefits of being a woman.
@@DarthSoto78Authority of a man; benefits of a woman; accountability of a child.
It's ironic how treating a skank like OP with affection and respect makes her go cheat, while punishing her makes her attracted. You really can't fix something which is that messed up.
They want what they don’t have currently
But, that is the hidden thought life of many women. It’s what actually turn them on.
It’s actually what turns women on
In the past, I had dated several women who longed for a guy who basically disrespected them, who would be selfish and treat them badly... and when I tried to show respect and kindness, they rapidly either lost interest and showed it, or hid their true feelings while seeking abusive relations elsewhere in addition to what I attempted to offer. When I was stationed at MacDill in Florida, I encountered one such young lady who was an extreme example. I had met her previously, at a party being thrown by a mutual friend. We chatted, and seemed to find several common interests, as well as being curious about some activities we did not share (diving, other water sports, paragliding, etc.). Over the next several weeks, we met for coffee and some other shared activities (shopping in Ybor City, Tampa, visiting the Sponge Docks in Tarpon Springs, stuff like that). I grew very interested in her. After about a month, I asked if she would like to go dancing, as a local band I really enjoyed had obtained a gig at a local club in St Petersburg, she said yes. She met me at my apartment, and for the first time she had a few mixed drinks with me. After about an hour, her behavior started being a little off. We got to the club, I paid our cover, and we went in. In the past, when I have went to such places, the drinks I had were stretched out, so to speak, and I tended to burn the alcohol off on the dance floor. Unfortunately, while she danced a few numbers (not even a complete set) with me, she continued to imbibe more than I was confortable with having observed her personality changing more and more. When I tried to ask her to slow down just a tad so we could stretch out the evening and enjoy it, and because I had planned a little special excursion for later in the evening, she suddenly became very belligerant, verbally abusive, and started punching and slapping at me. When my patience had run out, I grasped her wrists and asked her what the hell had was happening, she kicked me in the right shin, then attempted to knee me in the groin, whereupon I stepped back and slapped her, yelling for her to knock it off, I am not your punching bag. To my surprise, she immediately became docile, clinging to me and rubbing against me in a very provocative manner. I told her I had something special in mind, lets go, and she said sure, anything you want. So, I drove back to my apt, got her out of my car, locked it, and told her either she could risk driving herself home (her car was there) or I would call her a taxi (didn't have uber back then). After much weeping and wailing, then another angry outburst, I left her there in the parking lot, and went to my apartment. Despite several attempts to get me to buzz her in, I ignored the intercom and eventually she left. I had thought that dating a fellow soldier would have benefits in a relationship sense. Boy, was I wrong! I really dodged a bullet not getting in deeper with her. I thank my lucky stars that our physical relationship had not proceeded past some petting. I am still perplexed how someone could present such an interesting, pleasant facade for so long yet be able to hide such a freakish personality. People (Men and Women) can be quite scary at times.
She deliberately went to the reunion days early. She deliberately arranged to be with her old boyfriend. She deliberately set things. Up to be with old boyfriend knowing full well where it would lead and then deliberately mad choice after choice to spend multiple times with him. There is no such thing as an accident with women and if any tell you that they can’t remember certain things they are lying!
Don't forget she also didn't use protection which not only questioned the paternity of her son, put her husband at risk as well.
30:57 "my husband is witholding intimacy to establish dominance" BS lady, he's not doing you because you disgust him.
That's her therapist talking because it's one way of subtly manipulating a stupid hussy to come back next week.
Dear female commenter, consider that every time your husband even thinks of intimacy with you he is plagued with unwanted mental images of you getting sausage from another man and it just crushes his soul. There's that too.
Yet another good marriage, family and good husband destroyed. What got me, even before she explained it was how fast she hooked up with her ex. She literally wasted no time starting with him the day she got into town. I’ll bet she came up with the idea when she first found out about the reunion months or more in advance.
He will be fine, dont worry...he stayed with her (for whatever reason), but he checked out from marriage and loving her years ago...now he will enjoy his newly found freedom with younger and defo hotter girlfriend, what will finish ex-wife mentally...no symphaty tho, she did it to herself...
She was on the board. She made the reunion for this very reason.
This is why body count matters. Clearly she was a promiscuous coquette before the marriage. Once that desire program is in the brain, it's not coming out of there.
@@franknada8235 You can take the 304 off the streets, but you can't take the streets out of a 304.
She is absolutely disgusting. The way she flippantly described the no eye contact sex as "selfish" is so maddening. SHE is and always has been the ONLY selfish person in the marriage. She would have gladly taken the secret to the grave while she pictured her ex every time she did it with her husband. She doesn't want a divorce, when all is said and done, because she knows she can no longer replace him with someone equal or better, and also she doesn't want to get a goddamned job like a normal adult human.
excuse me gentlemen but the person who writes did not say "what do you think of my grave mistake" but advice to try in some way to recover the relationship with her husband. after all it's a cerebral thing that tears the relationship apart, the thought of her in his arms, and while I condemn adultery, I think that's where we have to work, in the head of someone who suffers such often if not always irreversible damage. one thing must be said if temptation weren't irresistible satan wouldn't exist but neither would saints.
@@vitangelomoscarda2522 Sorry, but this level of betrayal is unforgivable, I don't care what the "book" says about forgiveness. People in this world are already too damned forgiving of crap behavior, that is why it continues. If he took her back, she would not respect him and more importantly he wouldn't respect himself. She needs to face the consequences of her actions, then maybe she would learn something, though I doubt it. As far as advice for getting her man back, there is nothing she can do, the ball is in his court and the decision to take her back (which he shouldn't) is his to make. She has proven herself to be untrustworthy and lied for years, most good men would not get past that.
@@nickdiggerz but I didn't talk about taking it back and forgiveness does not presuppose that he has to take it back, furthermore I said that adultery causes irreversible damage in the person who suffers it which makes forgiveness possible but certainly not intimacy and life with a person of you no longer trust. I just wanted to point out that the writer does not know that she has criticism and insults for her behavior but some useful advice to get back what she has lost. that it's a very difficult thing, I think you know it too-
Divorcing her is the best thing he could do for himself.
The absolute stupidest thing a woman can do is cheat on a faithful husband.
Most men and women WANT and Need Diversity. Throughout Human History, Monogamy has NOT been the Norm. Ex wife who ratted is a Busy-Body "B" from Hell. Hubby is Weak and Pathetic; You forgive and go on with Life.....
Yet they do it every day. The latest surveys show the percentage of cheating women has grown exponentially in the last decade up over 40% to 78%. It’s absolutely despicable, and no man in his right mind would marry one anymore.
Women don't think that way.
@@georgesontag2192 I do.
@@georgesontag2192 Yes, because that would be a logical thought.
She said the guilt from her cheating made her a better person. That’s like saying “yes I Robbed the Bank and it made me a richer person”. Yeah but you robbed… forget it I’ll just see myself out.
Or hitler saying he’s a better person after all he’s done because he feels bad now
This is women’s BS!! Big time lifts women are so much better at luring their guts out and can take it to the grave without any problems! They are in a class by their selves it total disgraceful!😭😭😭👍👀👌😢😢
See the lies ghey tell theirselves it’s a belly laugher Vvvv my god thry They have no conscience whatsoever they know what they did was trash and make them look like scum, scum bucket sluts, but they’ll do it anyway and then come back and say oh how sorry they are. Yeah they’re sorry the garden got caught and that’s why they end up having to other kids other kids babies and say oh my husband he will take care of the baby just fine yeah because he don’t know no better that’s why they should be DNA test on every child is born I don’t care what it cost if we send money overseas we should find out a lease if that’s gonna be my kid or not every child every child should have a DNA test to make sure that’s the right combination of mother and father combination and then they can make the choice if they need to be taken OK what’s wrong with that? No big deal it’ll help the hospital to make money to.😢😢
Once you hit rock bottom the only way to go is up.
Basically what cheaters do.
No you didn't make yourself better!
You just crawled out if the hole you dug yourself into and became a normal person.
You already cheated. Just because you never cheated again doesn't make you a better person. It does if you used to cheat but again the bar was already set low not hard to climb over it
A cheating spouse should NEVER be given a second chance!
Under ANY circumstances. But some men don't get that staying is actually rewarding her for her behavior.
Pretty sure he wasn't giving her a second chance. I believe the reason he didn't divorce her was because he believed it was for the sake of the kids, not to mention the alimoney and child support he would have to pay her if he divorced her.
It’s just hard to be with somebody if you’re not going to forgive them if you’re not going to forgive them and be in the same house you’re going to live a very sad Life. Me personally I think he should forgive her she was a great wife and she made a mistake.
Sometimes cheating happens! He could be abusive and not providing for her needs.
@@paulinejackson5861could be alot of things. Its irrelevant because she's telling the story and gives no indication that hes doing anything abusive or inattentive.saing "cheating happems" as if its an accident is ridiculous .no its a conscious decision thats made in total disregard for the person you are supposed to love.
"The affair happened X years ago!"
Translation: I've been lying to you for X years.
I love how all these cheating spouses say they will do anything for their husband/wife they cheated on. Except stay faithful
Nah, they can stay faithful, after it's too late. Look how often there are tales of women remaining celibate in the hope that he'll come back. If only such self control had been exercised earlier before the marriage was ruined.
This guy should have left this woman as soon as he found out she cheated. It's amazing that this cheating woman wants to play victim.She would have never told her husband the truth if she wasn't told on. She's a worthless excuse for a wife and a person.
What really grinds for a lot of people is women like her stating their husbands are "the true light of my life and my rock" or similar words, "loving, caring, etc." only to BACKSTAB with LIES/CAPS. If you are going to cap your story, just don't put flowery words to get sympathy from your audience; just say you are a FAILURE of 304 through and through.
Hes was so perfect loving always met my needs the love of my life. The local cashier asked me paper or plastic. Ive been screwing him for the last 6 months.
@@richardcharles4126 "Someone who respects and loves their spouse would be fearful of ruining that relationship and would never seek out what she did." Well said.
Okay, I'm old...wtf does "cap" mean when you use it in that comment?
@@Czarisyn I know, usually, it meant wearables for the head like a baseball cap. But today, the meaning has evolved to describe something new. From "no cap" = "no lies, for real;" so the word by itself, "cap" would suggest "lie," and "caps = lies." Slang terms used today to "soften up" supposed harsh words such as "liar!"
@@asolaris6470 thank you for explaining that to this out of touch old man
I think it was poetic justice when she tried to get in front of how the DNA test might turn out since this was one time she was being honest with her husband and it blew up in her face. She didn't deserve the additional five years they were together. She deserves what she got. She certainly didn't deserve the understanding she received from her husband.
I think it's more ironic than that. My guess is the trickle truth did not end but rather she gave him enough to stop him asking questions. I'm pretty sure that he wondered about the timing of his youngest to the affair. And as all cheaters done she would have sworn she used protection etc. But as she said in the story when her daughters were asking her about the timing she lied. I think they knew it as they are women.
She knew from the time she got pregnant that it may not have been her husband's which was why she lied.
Because she knew that if she told the truth she would have been exposed trying to pass off another man's child as her husband's baby for 9 years.
That was until she could not avoid the DNA test and knew it would be best coming from her.
This is why you don't waste your life on a cheater. He spent all those year's trying to learn to trust her again only to learn she was still not being truthful to him and even worse was willing to let him raise another man's baby.
Trickle truth only gets you borrowed time
Wasn't honestly just damage control and trickle truthing.
@anthonymark2516 It's worse than that, actually. First, I find it highly unlikely that she had not occasionally looked up her xbf on FB or other social media after their affair and most likely knew about his divorce and Parkinsons. Even if she only found out about the disease when her husband mentioned her immediate thought SHOULD have been about her son and the genetic implications...but no. Why didn't she at least go to a doctor and start a process of determining if he had markers to possibly make plans and understand the risks? Because, she continues to protect herself above everything else.
Men,
How many of you would bet this was actually her only time cheating?
Only time getting caught. If ap hadn’t confessed. Good job on the OBS.
@@NootNoot67
Indeed
She was on that gayass loser high school committee SOLELY to seek out her ex.
Hahahahahahahaha! Oh yeah, I hahaha believe her hahahahaha!
Ha ha, bet she had her fingers crossed behind her a#s when she made that statement !
She nearly destroyed her son life that he was conceived during her affair and ex could be father of ex. Fortunately, her husband is the father and should have divorced her instead of salvaged their marriage.
Well the AP is dead, so there is much choice in the matter. The BS is on the hook no matter what happens. DNA test at birth guys. It’s the only way to stop this crap from happening
What are these therapists telling these women? It not about him regaining his manhood. It’s because he now views you of someone he can’t trust and doesn’t want to be around anymore. The BS has completely lost all respect and trust in you.
In short, he’s sees you as broken woman that he is permanently tied to because of the kids. I can only imagine the taste of bile he has every time he looks at you.
I agree, the therapist doesn't have a clue. I have to wonder how many therapists have been cheated on and betrayed like this.
A-friggin-men!
It's because therapists are typically low-qualification quack wannabe doctors who want to turn the issue into an ego problem for the dude instead of shining a light on a cheating whore who betrayed her marriage vows.
@@russellkeeling4387 Should be mandatory requirement to qualify for a therapist license!
Most therapists are women so of course 9 times out of 10, they’re gonna side with the woman over the man.
A few thoughts:
1. She made her choice and did what she did. The consequences for her actions are what they are.
2. The husband’s initial response was great with setting up the family meeting and explaining what happened. So many stories of men trying to keep the truth from their children and the kids grow up confused without a reason as to why their dad treats their mom the way they do. Perspective is huge.
3. I hope these kids learn from this.
4. I mentally prepared myself for the ex-boyfriend to be the dad. So glad he wasn’t.
5. Husband made the right move in the end and ended with graciously and with a co-parenting mindset
@@johnbradbury8610 yeeeaahhh, he should of divorced in the beginning. Though, in some rare circumstances I can see attempts at reconciliation being an option. In his case, he made a lot of mistakes after he chose to stay. You don’t stay in a marriage and chose not to reconcile be a prisoner in your home. You always dig for as much of the story as you can gather so you know the truth. He failed to do that.
I can tell you what happens to the kids. The son stays single for life. He ends up happy. The daughters grow up, sleep around in college, get married, cheat, and make money from their divorces. They both end up in "boxed wine and cat land."
@@holeymcsockpuppet She caused the de-railment !
The unfaithful woman who thinks her betrayed husband will eventually fall in love with her again and come back is probably the female equivalent of the guy in the friendzone who thinks that his crush will eventually start noticing and falling in love with him.
Both absolutely delusional and hopeless, but they will keep spending way too large chunks of their lives waiting for a miracle.
I commented on this post elsewhere, ALL she says is "I, I, I, me, me, me." She contantly states "I destroyed my marriage..." NO, she destroyed her HUSBAND's marriage. She threw HER marriage away!
Thank you Aztec01, i made a note of this in my diary as it gives a perspective that sounds more real.
See! Women unfortunately value their feelings over all else, husband, family, etc.
@@JW-xj6tw LOL! Wrong about that as well. Or as the noted Thomas Sowell puts it, “Facts matter, not to people who have a sense of moral superiority in their ignorance“
@annsheridan12.... Some women (many don't/I don't), as also some men.... Why always throw everybody in the same basket?
@@Macch2275 easy! As I read Reddit I see “I was comfortable with him” “1 felt wonderful “ “I could not control myself” etc, etc. that’s what I am observing.
@RobKoch1962 only feelings are in their vocabulary.
Which is why they divorce over some, in the grand scheme of things, meaningless reasons. Their feelings override memories and thought about future and introspection.
We all are usually the ones in the way of our happiness. Our attitudes. Are we greatful? And so forth.
It was not so long ago, for him it happened the day before he found out. I have been married for over 40 years, and if I found out that my wife had cheated on me in the past I would leave her immediately.
Then please investigate further.
To be perfectly honest, I listen to stories like this and revel in not being married. Peace of mind is not something that valued today but it is a priceless commodity.
From queen to concubine...and shes turned on by it. Young men should pay attention. Women innately get bored with being on the pedastal. Its almost cliche
@jmreynaud Great comment!
That and toxic mentality
Absolutely true. I know my husband is completely devoted to me no matter what I do. It’s boring as fck.
@@flipphone4755 I double dare you to kick some sense into him. You'd be surprised at what can motivate him to become a man.
@@taotzu1339 how would I do that?
In that update where she said "after it happened, I felt guilty" well she wasn't feeling that guilty because it "happened" again and again, I would like to ask her if the guilt decreased with each happening.
She felt more guilty because she got caught.
Any affair is hurtful enough no matter when you find out about it. Keeping that a secret for so long is also so hurtful and selfish. She said in the beginning her "safe marriage" I believe this 304 settled for her husband he was not her first choice and I do not believe that this was the first time she ever cheated on him. It doesn't matter how well she treated him and acted nicely after her affair it should not have happened in the first place.
I agree, it may have been 9yrs that she had to make peace with it in her mind but for him it happened that day and it had 9yrs worth of festering added to the wound.
"I do not believe that this was the first time she ever cheated on him." - I think the same. With her getting pregnant around the time she was fucking the ex, I believe THAT is what inspired the bullshit remorse and pretending to be the World's Best Wife.
What really breaks a man after an SO's affair behind his back is the total disrespect shown by someone he has, all the while, put on a pedestal. This disrespect destroys his self-esteem and his view of himself as a person. It erases all his view of what his life was all about. He thought he was Superman and now he is a cuckold. That's a whole mouthfull to ram down his throat.
This is one of the most selfish posts of a woman cheating that I have seen on this site. I could never trust her again. Divorce her!
24:12 - "I know he'll never forgive me, but that's okay as long as I don't have to experience any negative consequences from his pain and inability to forgive me." The audacity.
My Dad would play the sweetest love/slow songs on his stereo. Truly in love. Moms reveal came out. He has never, ever played one of those songs again. Held the line for us 5 kids. Never truly recovered.
This woman is vile. Hooking up with an ex is disgusting and narcisstic for almost a decade ago. She's a cheater and expects sympathy? None will be given nor will there be forgiveness. This marriage is over and the parties need to move on with their own lives. The husband was a nice guy but deep down just needed to move out. Despise these cheating women. Have seen many of them and men need to stay clear of them. Just sad that there is no morality in marriage anymore.
UGLY-ZACKLY !
This storybis just another prime example of why dna testing needs to be mandatory. It's the only way to hold both men and women responsible for their actions. Hold responsible the women that cheat and the men whether married or single that get involved.
Well, it's against the law to paternity test a child in France. Other countries have similar policies and laws. Paternity fraud is legal in 48 states.
They just did this in Jamaica as they have one of the highest rates of paternity fraud in the world and more and more kids are ending up wards of the state as families are left in smoke..
@@holeymcsockpuppet Things are changing.. right wing politicians have started picking up on this which as a left winger worries me as even I would support mandatory testing.
@@holeymcsockpuppetThe French have always been a backward ass society
@@anthonymark2516 Then you support "Fefail women", change your thought, I'm tired of liberal BS!!!!!!!
What 90%+ of these marriages ruined by Infidelity have in common is a married women in the WRONG place at the WRONG time
WITHOUT her husband
Moral of the story is if you don't want to step on a land mine don't go dancing in land mine fields.
I said this when I was late teens
A married woman has absolutely no business WHATSOEVER out in environments without her husband clearly unsuitable for a married woman like clubs bars fests etc etc and this is 10x more applicable if she will be with single friends
For a married man he should never allow nor should he ever need tell his wife there will NEVER be any "girls nights out" or "all girl vacations" if he does it is not a matter of if but WHEN his wife ends up cheating on him
Once a woman is in a LTR let alone married absolutely all non-work related involvement with non family member men must absolutely end no exceptions whatsoever and a married woman should only have the absolute minimum involvement with her male coworkers needed to do her job and nothing more no lunches together no work related functions without her husband and a good wife will not need be told any of this
Bottom line either she's married or she's not for a husband there is no middle ground or compromising on this
And I say absolutely for a husband that has remained faithful under no circumstances whatsoever do you EVER give an unfaithful wife a second chance I would go total burnt earth on my wife if she ever cheated
I'd rather loose everything paying a lawyer donate my entire savings and pensions away and have to work the rest of my life than giver her a GD penny so she can live on easy street with her new Johnson
And my wife knows this
Placing restrictions on women - not happening. As a result each “girls night out” or whatever is like a pull of the trigger in Russian Roulette. Enough pulls and your marriage is dead.
As a married woman, I respect your words. Although I've had girls' nights out but they are strictly with other women in relationships and there is ZERO talking to men or opportunities for infidelity. We also don't stay out late, and we check in with our men and let them know where we are at all times. Nowadays I don't even go out, though...too tired and too old 😴 🤣. I also prefer dates with my husband don't like to spend too much money.
And that’s why your wife will likely never be disloyal.
That may all be true, but why should we have to be the marriage police and chaperone our own wives? Isn't it just better to stay single? Then they can live out their h*e phase for as long as they want and it won't wreck you and leave you destitute and bitter.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743udos.
Alas....many younger women go to clubs with skimpy clothing even tho they got bf...or worse...married....
Go to bar n watch Game of Throne is one thing. Going to bar n flirt is another.
Btw....predators could detect easy women...n could talk their way into a woman's pants.... N then theyd boast how easy such n such woman is.
The same thing happened to my best friend. Similar situation. Three kids, stay at home wife. He freaked out for about two years. Wouldn't talk to anybody. Just ran his business and that was it. They had a blow out fight and I don't know exactly what happened but he had to move out and was prohibited from seeing his kids for several months. Well he "stayed for the kids" and they somehow made it work. But it's clear he can barely stand her. He goes out most nights to gamble or hang out or whatever so he doesn't have to be with her.
Here's the rub. He never told anybody what happened. Why he freaked out and why he can barely stand her. I'm the only one who knows, and I just figured it out. He doesn't even know that I know. In his case, staying for the kids may have been a purely financial decision. He owns a successful business that he would have to turn over 50% to her if they divorced which would be a mess.
"At the time, I wanted what happened to happen and after it happened, I felt terrible guilt..." No she did not, I think she said they had 'closeness' three times, she felt guilt because she knew her husband was going to be there shortly and if he found out, she was afraid she would lose her security and life she was use to.
But it made her a “better” person. Now instead of just a cheater, she’s also a liar…
I think what most people missed here was that they were trying to get back together. He was told she cheated and it broke him, but he was working on it. THEN she dropped the NEXT bomb about the kid might not be his LATER not at the time he got hit with the cheating crap. She didn't bring it up UNTIL she knew it might be a problem. She didn't come clean about everything the first time and tell him everything. At that point he knew there was no way to move forward she could not be trusted to tell the truth unless she was caught.
Hope you're channel grows my brother young guys need to hear this shit ... Rich once said "you can either love women or understand them you cannot do both"... In a 39 years old now that I understand them it's mated my dating game a whole lot better
That's a quote from Oscar Wilde.
I made the same error he made by not kicking her out! I wasted another 9 years of my life on a whore of a wife. NEVER TAKE A CHEATER BACK !!!
jb5313 so after you invested 9 years did eventually kicked her out for what reason?1)you couldn't get over the hurt or 2)she cheated on you again
@frank1fm634 she cheated again. I always trimmed her pu$$y and I came home from work and she said she had a surprise for me. Well she had shaved herself completely bald. After some very heated word over several hours she admits she did for a guy that lived around the block from us. I went to his house and told his wife. Him and my wife lived together several years but he was a bum. He could even get a cell phone in his name. My ex ended up jumping from one guy to the next, like the whore she was. Now she lives alone in a 1 bedroom apartment with 3 dogs and a cat. According to my son she is miserable. Haha!!!
Why do these ladies claim that they have a fulfilling life and cheats? You throw away your fulfilling life for nothing. It really irks me when they say that.
They are never satisfied.
"I wish she had called me first so I could have confessed instead of blindsiding my husband and I."
The absolute state of women, mates. She had nine years to confess, but still shirks all accountability when given an opportunity to, by laying the blame for the ending of their relationship on this other woman.
Total disrespect... this woman even had the audacity to introduce her husband to the man she'd just been cheating with. Unbelievable. Fortunately AP's ex-wife was good enough to inform the husband about the affair when she finds out herself. Then the age of the guys son comes into consideration... As for her 'infidelity made me a better person' that's total BS.
It was probably a kinky turn on for her to introduce them.
@@youflatscreentube I think a lot of women want to hurt their partner to divert their self loathing. A wife with good morals and values doesn't want to disrespect her partner.
She introduced them to not arose sus and again to "compare" them which makes it worse.
"Seeing the 2 men side by side i couldn't believe i cheated on a lesser man vs my husband".
@@fumothfan9 I think introducing them was a way of increasing the drama Fum. It made her feel 'alive'.
I just love how they really don't believe they've done anything wrong and can't understand why the husband could possibly be upset. If you ever really loved him (you don't) you would leave him and let him have chance at happiness without you. But of course you only think of yourself, so you want to drag him down in misery just so you can be happy.
I hear this sort of scenario quite a lot in betrayal stories and one thing women never get is this: It might have been along time ago to you, it was 5 minutes ago to him.
"Ok fleshlight that cries" 😆 🤣 😂
The woman knew, Knew, KNEW the youngest wasn’t the husbands.
It’s pretty common that these cheaters are called good moms/poor wives. A good mom ensures kids are fed, readied for school, extracurricular activities and play dates are scheduled, etc. You know who else can do this and not cheat on you? Ans: a nanny. A good mom wouldn’t put her family at risk by pursuing another man to satisfy her selfish desires.
I always laugh when a cheater is downplayed as a good parent. A good parent does not destroy their own children's family. The betrayed spouse is under the delusion that they can shield the children with that statement.
I feel nothing but pure unfiltered and unadulterated rage for this woman. Never in my life have I wanted to fight someone more…
Why is it women like this one just don't have a clue! They seem to think no matter what their behavior that the relationship can be repaired and go back to what it was. They don't understand the effect their actions have on others and never seem to understand what they have until they have destroyed it. Actions speak louder than words and all things can't be talked out. This woman's attitudes, reasoning thinking were self absorbed, selfish and lack any self awareness. She planned the affair, had sex with both men within the week, lied, . The fact she can turn around in the next sentence and pretend she had any regard for her husband left me speechless. She is shallow and delusional even by Infidelity standards.
I have no sympathy for the guy. He wasted 5 years of his life on a woman that was able to toss away more than 15 years of their relationship. I have no idea why society expects men to put up with that nonsense, but always seem to give women a pass because it was only a "mistake". BS. If you want equality, then treat them equally in good times and bad.
I don't think he wasted 5 years. He can walk away knowing he tried so his conscience is clear. And the children knew that they might get divorced which is easier on them when it actually happened.
@@coureenlawrence4915 Sorry, but that's compete BS that modern women try to force on men trying to make them accept the unacceptable.. The second you know she cheated, the relationship is over murdered by her hand. There's not turning back from that.
@@johnbradbury8610
Disagree, I do feel sorry for him and I think he wanted to leave but was protecting his kids which was the only thing that was making him feel like a man.
We live in an society where without a father being there everyday the children are most likely going to fall off the rails.
Yes the five years wasted. The cake was not eaten in the end by the delusional one.
Kind of disagree with this as the dude was clearly thinking if his kids.
Hilariously when the wife said it meant nothing. That is when the husband says that’s right our marriage meant nothing to you. Goodbye.
You would think that with all these stories out there, women and men will think twice about cheating. I also don't understand sleeping with someone unprotected especially when you are married, knowing that you can get pregnant.
STD or AIDS....too.
@maximuscomfort Unfortunately, most people aren't afraid of std's anymore because of all the different drugs that are being developed. Just sad.
I’m about halfway through, and I think he’s waiting for all the kids to grow up and get out of the house before he kicks her to the curb
Husband: You have been Defiled, now I shall use you like a toilet!
Man your channel really is the best no extra talking and good lessons
This story shows why:
1. Only stupid Simps stay with a cheater.
2. The hsuband was an idiot for not immediately testing the three children that day?
Cheating women love the challenge of “ working it out “ after they are caught! They always think they can manipulate him and make him stay!
My 10 year HS reunion resulted in 3 babies being born from the spouse free weekend.
😂
FYA, two things, I’m thoroughly enjoy your content, your presentation and professionalism are just outta dis world, downside…. To few… gimme more! Keep rocking, now to this couple, one can tell, he’s tried… but to for to long! She’s still not all truthful, because her reasoning was never revealed, only her “desire” to be the pursuer……… you know, it baffles me EVERY TIME, hearing the same gibberish…. My husband is the best, but I had to destroy my relationship……….. in the words of Al Bundy, "Don't try to understand women, women understand women and they hate each other."
This guy in the story deserves it because he didn't go scorched earth the moment he found out about the adultery
"He said the past five years have been miserable ". No man is going to be happy staying with a wife who cheated on him.
yeah and it showed how she didnt have any love for him as her response to how hes been miserable the last 5 years was to say that shes been happy turning the tables to make it about her again.
This cheating mom has no love for her son... the moment she realized that her AP had Parkinson's she should have his DNA tested for both paternity and Parkinson's Disease Genetic Markers, e.g. PARK2, etc. What a selfish 304 she is!
all the women are selfish 304s like that, they dont give a damn about the fact that if their kid that they think might be the child of their AP and that they dont even know the medical history that could impact that kid. not to mention the kid having an medical emergency and then they are using the so called "fathers" medical history to make a decision but it is all for nought as the kid isnt his so the medical history is useless.
From my experience the dark days are still to come. With the children grown and the parents divorced, the family home sold, there is no connections to bring the family back together. The Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays and other family events will be non-existent because the home and parents have disintegrated. There is no focal point for the family.
I experienced family events with my parents and my ex-wife's parents as lovely cosy events , but this is like a death in the family and that family life is difficult to maintain when the parents are disconnected.
Those are the precious family times that will never be.
The old societal model was:
A young woman would trade her youth and fertility exclusively to only one man, and he in turn would be the workhorse and take care of her when she gets past her prime. This was a great incentive for men to work, become men, and get married. You got a prize, a young beautiful loyal wife.
In theory, as we know life isn't perfect.
She does him a favor early on by being a virgin/exclusive and later he does her a favor by staying and supporting her instead of leaving her for a younger woman. They both get a prize.
The new societal model is:
Women whore around and waste their youth and fertility on Chad/Tyrone, get walled out, get STDs, lose their ability to pair bond, rapidly accelerate their aging process with excessive alcohol and fast food, and have no loyalty to any man. What sensible man would pay top dollar for something 30 other men got for free? The incentive for men is gone. You don't get a prize anymore. You get a parasite with an entitlement mentality that’s looking to take your resources and then some. Before you even say “I do” at the altar, she’s already plotting how to financially grape you’re A$$ in family court after she locks you in with at least one kid, a mortgage, and then divorces your sorry A$$ a few years later.
Why do you think she’s smiling as she’s walking down the aisle? Wouldn’t you if you got to keep the house, the kids, all the cash and prizes, and she’s paying for it all? Men get divorced to get rid of something. Women get divorced to get something.
A woman’s main reason for getting married is to get a divorce. Most women are cold, cruel, predatory animals with no conscience.
A woman who marries for money will complain about love. A woman who marries for love will complain about money. A woman who has both will find something else to complain about.
Apparently, the worst thing a woman can experience is being married to a man who loves her.
A man's sixual drive is used to lure him into signing a one-sided lifetime contract with a parasitic woman with penalties for leaving. She gets to keep all the cash and prizes and can break the contract at any time, for any reason, lie under oath, and suffer no penalties. In fact, she is rewarded and encouraged to do so.
There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.
A man is not going to invest in somebody that at best laughs at him or at worst hates him and blames him for everything.
You're expected to pay a premium price for a used up, beaten up, tatted up, parasitic leach. Who is an ungrateful, self-consumed, easily offended, fat, ugly, aggressive b!tch on wheels, with a masculine demeanor, and an entitlement mentality. A soulless woman from the bargain basement bins of some store in the hood with the morals of an alley cat. An in denial, freak of nature, pathologically delusional, self-esteem deficient, morally bankrupt, bottom dwelling, blood sucking, inhuman, creature of the night, spawned from the seed of Satan. A true boil on the buttocks of the world.
When she dies, the last living reminder of helll will be gone from the face of the earth.
She has kids from Chad/Tyrone or both, personal credit card debt, no assets, school debt for a worthless degree in liberal arts, Greek Mythology, Humanities, or gender studies. No cooking skills and no desire to learn any, no fiscal responsibility, an overly banged vagina, and a pet you’ll be expected to take care of as well.
And you're supposed to be happy about this opportunity to lick up the scraps from the floor.
The so-called good men she wants and can’t find are out there. They just don’t want her at the table because she has nothing to bring except financial and emotional pain. When women say, "Men are only after one thing". Meaning seex. My question to them is, do you have anything else to offer? Crickets is all I hear. Which means even they don't believe they have anything else to offer except borderline personality disorder, bi-polar disorder, PTSD, childhood sexual abuse, financial ruin, emotional pain, and narcissism.
In addition, she also has great expectations you’ll do everything for her, make her feel better, and provide an unrealistic unsustainable lifestyle she feels she deserves because she read about it some feminazi magazine article that hates men.
All this while she cheats behind your back with the “bad boys” she’s always really wanted all along, while you’re at work paying all the bills to feed this little parasitic shrew.
Women don’t “love men”, they love what men can do for them. Where are all the great works of art female artists have created, inspired by their love of men?
Men are not afraid of commitment or marriage…. Men are afraid of getting divorce graped in “family court.” It’s just a bad deal all the way around for men and a crap shoot at best. There’s nothing in it for men except the chance to be financially ruined for the rest of your life.
If you were thinking of going skydiving and knew that three out of four parachutes failed, and you had already watched your friends jump, some successfully, others not so. Would you be willing to take the chance that you're going to be the exception and get the one parachute out of the four that is going to work?......... I mean they all look so pretty and smell so good and feel so soft to the touch and they are offering you the thrill of a lifetime if you would just let one of them wrap itself around you and make that commitment to attach yourself to it and jump...... would you still take that chance?
But… but…. Look how pretty the parachutes are, smell their lovely fragrance, touch and feel how soft they feel, they beckon you to try one of them on, please try me on and let me wrap myself tightly around you and see how good I feel to you, I’ll hold on tight and snug to you, I am not like the others, honest I am different, I’ll work.
Well….. would you do it? Would you take that chance for the thrill of a lifetime?
Yea, that sounds like a good deal if I were a moron, is this the line I stand in to lose half my sheet?
Good luck with that.
Men are waking up and realizing this system is defective and toxic. Women's seexual liberation, femiinism and the birth control pill, have ironically dis-empowered women. They are throwaway seexual objects now more than ever.
"Femiinism did NOT free women from the chains they thought they had. It freed MEN from the chains they had no idea were there."
~ Arch Stanton ~
Great post!
@@Remianen Thank you for your vote of confidence.
This could pass for the RP mainfesto
@@kchall5 Thanks, I like the way you think.
Please feel free to copy and post/paste with my blessings.
That is it in a nut shell. It is why we went from 40% of men being unmarried in the US 30 years ago to 65% of men being unmarried today. Some sources cite that at the current rate we could see 75% of men being unmarried in a decade.
Men are waking up more and more today when considering that 70% of divorce is initiated by women with at least a highschool education. Divorce is initiated by 90% of women with at least a college education. Then when it comes to financial support following a divorce 93% of those getting the financial support are women.
There is quite literally zero reason to marry a woman today, women have made sure that they are now regulated to pump and dump material and that is where they should stay. There is literally no reason to have a wife today, you really dont even need a woman anymore considering that I read an article that by the end of this decade this one company plans to have artificial wombs available for human use which will be a first. Men no longer will have to rely on women if they want a family, they can just go the artificial womb route and have the family they want and be a single father which studies shows single father house holds are better for children than single mother house holds which result in increase risk of suicide, depression, turning to a life of crime, and being locked up in prison.
With all the bullshit I have been put through by females going back to middle school, the final straw for me was back in 2012 with this one woman I thought might be different but was just your common gutter TPT that tried to commit paternity fraud on me, my only choice of having a family like I want would be to turn to technology as I cant look for women my age as they are scraping the bottom of the barrel when it comes to eggs and their fertility would be in the trash. My only option would be to seek out women 20-25 and we know that is playing russian roulette with a revolver with seven rounds in the cylinder.
So for myself I have regulated myself into a single life doing what I want when I want focusing on myself and when I want a little fun I find some 20-25 yo 304 and use her as the ol pump and dump as that is all the worth modern women have today.
The things about cheating on your spouse, eventually your spouse will find out about your cheating.
Once the vow is broken there is no marriage anymore. The man's never the same, and he'll never see you the same again............won't trust, won't desire you the same nothing ever again. Might as was divorce there is no going back.
Cheating and second chance are irreconcilable terms.
“Oh! what a tangled web we weave when we endeavor to deceive”
You would not believe how often this happens
Im near the beginning but had to say how great it was that the husband recognised the whore cheated on the kids as well
She says she’s turned on by his indifference and his rage in the sack. Modern women summarized in one sentence. Something tells me the old flame wasn’t the commitment type, but rather the aloof Chad whose approval she desperately craved. The husband was the doting fool she settled for.
Having watched my family fall apart due to infidelity, I can say with confidence that going ahead and getting divorced is the best option for the kids' sake. Totally agree with you in that one.
I see my old boyfriends all the time. I feel no need to reconnect with them, because there was a reason why we broke. Why would I want to reconnect with something that was over.
Espacialy when her husband has been so great so far
bcs ur a good woman with morals
@@lottoo5693I doubt that very much. “I run into my ex boyfriends all the time”. How many ? She used the term plural so at least 2. Imagine being her husband running into guys (multiple) that used to plow your wife and not only seeing them once but “all the time”. How embarrassing. Perfect example as to why men prefer a woman with a low body count.
Oh geez, how wonderful for your hubby to know you run into your exes all the time. He got a real prize alright.
Those who say they have no sympathy for the husband and that he should have divorced her straight away forget how biased the courts are against men even though the wife destryoed the marriage. She will take half his assets, get primary custody of young children and get child support and probably alimony if she was a SAHM. His life will be devasted while she still lives off him even if she finds new temporary partners. So think things through before berating the innocent party.
Most people who say divorce straight away are Darwin Award winning incels. A man with children knows once he discovers the wife is trash, live for the kids instead. Get them to safety before dumping the ballast of a wife. Kids who see their parent divorce young grow up to be damaged adults. Husband in this story got his two daughters into college before dumping the wife; otherwise the OP would have brought a rotating cast of men to molest her daughters before they grew to adulthood.
28:30 "Even though our relationship has changed, I'm sure most women on here are in envy of what I have would gladly trade places with me." - WTF? Is she completely delusional?
I'm confident that most women would prefer a trustful relationship over the wreckage of a marriage she created. Even being divorced might be better for many people.
The best thing is for this couple to divorce. This is such a cluster that she deliberately initiated, pursuing her ex. A total cluster of drama.
How fast she cheated with only few days to do it, her mind to cheat was made up a long time before the reunion.. The reunion was her first safe opportunity and she took it, what a horrible and selfish person
Women value the abstract of a guy, and men value what is built together with the woman. The husband found out the relationship is a lie and is disgusted. Both "therapsists" try to throw this back on the mans masculinity issue. Its a basic human issue the problem is women aren't wired like that in relationships. Women forgive cheating because the man is the same or better than before on a superficial level, but the relationship between them is still a lie and tainted. Women don't care, but men do and that is not a problem with us dudes.
All too many therapists, male and female, take the woman's side, no matter what she has done they manage to blame the man.
@@davidnash8208 Which is why therapy is a scam. These snake oil salesmen will do anything to keep a patient coming back. Women are just easier to manipulate because of the weight they put on their feelings.
@@davidnash8208it’s the safe bet, men surrender themselves more easily.
Thats what I was wondering. I know when I found out the woman I first hooked up with and tried a relationship with became pregnant but then realized later before the birth that the conception date didnt match up with the last time me and her were together, I called her out on it she dismissed on the call saying we will talk tomorrow next thing I know its been 11 years and never heard from her again. First few years I wanted answers to the questions I had, after that I quickly moved on and took up the stance of not even pissing on her if she was on fire.
that experience along was the final straw for me and now I realize its easier to view all women as liars and cheaters.
When Reid's ex-wife contacted him, he should have told her "You don't have to dote over him anymore. I'm booting out my B in heat so she can come smother him with love and affection in his time of need !" (Just for old times sake!)
"While you may think this is selfish and one sided on his part....." WTF? She gets turned on by it? Also, the ex-wife should have contacted her first? C'mon, she'd spin it to be as innocuous as possible. She'd trickle-truth him for decades.
Yep thats why she was so upset with the old bf`s ex-wife cause she didnt give her the courtesy of trying to spin a tale and soften the blow by half truths.
The only reason why she has been a "good mother and wife" since the affair is because of her guilt. If she didn't cheat, she'd never have shown him so much affection.
She was only pretending to be a good mother and wife. Otherwise, she would’ve never cheated.
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The husband made it hard to feel sorry for him cause he was giving doormat reactions to every bomb she dropped on him.
In his defense, he was just trying to do what he thought was best for his family as a whole, right or wrong, despite being handed a huge turd, he tried to hold it by the “clean” end. He should have been a bit suspicious about her behavior since she had become June cleaver after she had her fun and had discovered guilt afterwards.
Can't blame him, they have 3 kids together. He got the 2 daughters over the finish line before op put the killing shot to their marriage.
@NormK I agree. It's just for me, the whole staying for the kids thing doesn't make since bc I'm a child of this kind if betrayal and the drama and tension are definitely noticeable. I always thought that if I'm not happy, I can't make anyone else happy (the kids).
@@stanleyphinazee5354 interesting. I tried to stay with my first wife after she confessed to cheating (with this one particular guy, I suspect there was another FWB ongoing) . We stayed together for about 5 more years. My mom and dad divorced when I was 8 and I promised myself that I wouldn’t put my kids through that… well we were apparently pretending that we were okay. I eventually decided that once my youngest hit 18 I was gone. She didn’t give me the opportunity. After that first confession and “reconciliation “ she decided that she wanted to run off with an 18 year old brother of a friend of hers. She was 28 at the time. We had 3 kids together ( I assume they are all mine). This was it for me and I had her served. I had sole custody for the first couple of years but then she stole money from her boss, took me to court and vvoman judge gave her custody…. Knowing now, what I did not know then, I would have baled on her the first time. If she would have truely been remorseful (she is not capable, her personality type can never be wrong) and put 1000% of her efforts into making the marriage work, I think I could have rug swept the whole affair…. But alas, it was not meant to be. She just got better at hiding her shenanigans and I was too naive to check her. I was the ultimate blue pilled super simp with rose colored glasses. If I could go back and “SMACK” myself!
@NormK Sry mam. But at least ur self confident enough to admit u were a simp. "Sweeping it under the rug" is never a good idea...ever. now u r better and can heal and find someone who truly deserves ur everything
i hate meaningless apologies like, "i wish i could go back and change things". this woman is gross. the love of/for her husband meant nothing to her.
When the marriage is going so well, trust a woman to bring chaos into it.
The husband has found someone from his Hiking club. So he has decided to move on.
Put yourself in his shoes,
In reference to the second question post
No way, shape or form does cheating make you a better person if anything, it makes you more disgusting than you once were.
You have to feel bad for the husband though I try to put myself in their shoes it’s gotta be so hard to accept it & have to just walkaway from your whole life and family that’s all he knows.. but the marriage will never be the same. You definitely can’t change the inevitable I have lots of sympathy for these guys 🙏🏼
She asked for it , she ask for burgers when she knew fully well that she has steaks waiting for her at home . It's not a mistake ,she made the choice to hook up with her ex bf .
Very stoic man. He'll be far happier down the road. 👊🏻
So to make up for cheating on him she decided to be a good wife,wasn’t that what she was supposed to do.
This is a theme with women who cheat. Men that cheat don't play that game.
It's called love bombing.
She was only pretending to be a good wife. A truly good wife would’ve remained faithful.
which is funny when you think about it, she decided to be a good wife to make up for the cheating which she should have been doing all along as part of her vows but she was a bad wife by cheating and then lying about it and trying to cover it up for decades. mental gymnastics is what women are great at.
"I plan to start looking for a job later this year, but for now I'm going to take a couple months off to work on myself". Lady, you are an older women who is divorced but not close to a social security check. You've been doing what all these years? NOW, YOU ARE GOING TO WORK ON YOURSELF? A couple of months from now,........ "You going to look for work?" Nah, I still need to work on myself.
she says she loves her husband and children.Just not enough to stop her from cheating...GOT IT!
13:50 it never fails to amaze me how the person who cheated always ends up acting like there the ones who have been hurt and deceived they expect to be forgiven but in reality they are utter selfish vile human beings she gobs off about him being her rock her champion yet she still betrayed him it wasn't a mistake at all she chose to sleep with her ex low and disgusting