Couple years ago an Italian man in his 90s divorced his wife of 70+ years after finding love letters from wife's AP while hubby was off fighting in WW2. Good for him!
@@vincentrisalvato9921 Problem is there is no way to know that she's been good and loyal, she stopped keeping a diary. For all Jerry knows, this is just the only time she got caught. See my other comment below.
@@vincentrisalvato9921 that's because no one wants you to begin with so you'll take anything even a cheating whore wife. These arent things you can let go and expect the world not to become hell
IF this were a true story, and not a work of fiction, I would be in the camp that says, "dude, it was THIRTY YEARS AGO. The three decades since then are what matters." However - this isn't a true story. Some woman's creative writing project on a forum.
@@MrJeffcoley1 And I'd say that's absolutely terrible advice. She fucked the dude 30 years ago, but the husband only just found out the truth. For him, it's like her affair just happened... compounded by knowing that his wife lied to him for three decades. Also they were engaged at the time, and if he knew the truth then, he'd never have married the whore. Everything that happened after that is tainted, because it's built on a shaky foundation of deceit and betrayal. From a cynical point of view, the wife was 49 when he found out about her slutty past. Now he can safely divorce her without looking like the bad guy, avoid having to deal with her going menopausal, and replace her with a younger woman.
When she made the choice not to tell her fiance about Jim, she took away his choice to marry her. If she had come clean when it happened, maybe they could have moved past it. But, she didn't. She chose to lie about it by pretending it never happened. She lied because she knew he'd call off the engagement. He only married her because of that lie. That's the lie that their marriage was based on. He's 100% right.
She needs to understand that she didn't just cheat thirty years ago. She was cheating every day of their marriage by waking up every morning and choosing to keep it a secret from her husband.
I think that last screen said it all. She said she regrets not destroying the diary. She DID NOT say she regrets f*cking another man while engaged. She DID NOT say she regrets not telling her fiance and future husband the truth. She DID NOT say she regrets lying to her husband for over 25 years. Yep, that says it all. Like a commenter below says, she does not regret the affair, she only regrets getting caught. It just took longer than most.
She did say multiple times that she regretted the silly two week period 29+ years ago so perhaps that comment is being taken out of context. I am not excusing her or her actions or her failure to come clean when it happened, I am just saying that I think she does regret her bad behavior. What she fails to apologize for is lying for 29+ years.
@@jimbrent8151 no she doesn’t she only regrets getting caught. You know how many times she tried pin on him by saying it don’t matter it happened years ago. I love only you and all that other bullshit
@@shawne7228 - No. Her husband was probably better in bed. That's why she chose to end it with the AP and marry her fiance. These 304's always have to have some kind of secret from their husband in order to have the "happy" marriage. They really are disgusting.
@@FathersLoveWithoutEnd not really. Almost everybody was and is not a virgin when they get married. Why they can accept that. It is still someone had stuck his thing inside that women's thing. Why that people can accept?
@@davidjones8942 it wasn't just one time, they were screwing constantly for as long as they could until Jerry came back. So she was definitely considering monkey branching.
"My therapist said to mourn Jerry as if he passed away." No. You need to mourn Jerry as if you killed him for fun. I hope OP shows up to her ex's new home to find Jerry married to Suzy.
Suzy might be an option but, if he really wants to destroy his cheating ex, find someone much younger and prettier than her. On the other hand, he'd be better off staying away from women... at least for a while.
What annoys me is that women always say it happened so long ago. For the man it happened on the day before he found out. And if he had known about the cheating he probably would have broken off the engagement. I personally would have also left her.
There is no such thing as a Revenge affair. Once the wife cheated and married him under false pretenses, their vows were meaningless. There is no Revenge Affair when the marriage is already open and the vows are broken.
Technically no. it was not under false pretenses, and vows were not meaningless. she ended the affair and the vows are for the day they were made going forward, not before. I'm not justifying what she did as it was wrong and she should've have told him before they got married. but he broke the vows when he cheated on her. He completely overreacted. I'm not saying he shouldn't have taken space from her and divorced her, if that's what he feels he needs to do, he has every right to feel that way, it may have been over 30 years ago but to him, it just happened. but to go around town telling everyone and to call the kids right away is overreacting.
I could make this even a longer story, but I'll keep it short. Back in the 1980's I got married for the first time. I was 32 and my future ex-wife was 28. I dated her for three years before we married and it was like dating Marlo Thomas from the television show called, “That Girl”. She just looked so cute, dressed smartly, was bubbly and fun to be around, and when you saw her you just wanted to hug her and hold her close to you. I met her at church, and she professed to be a Christian. She was also a second-grade schoolteacher at the Christian school that was connected with our church. After her asking me numerous times to marry her, I finally said yes. During all of this I had been working for law enforcement for about seven years. I told her that was not my career of choice and that my goal was to work for the airlines in any capacity to just get my foot in the door. In addition, I also had my pilots license and an Associates Science degree in Aviation Technology in case things went that direction. I told her I was willing to move anywhere in the United States to take any legitimate job offered to make it happen and that I felt very strongly about this. Meaning no house mortgage and no children so that we could be ready to move when and if I was offered an airline position. Then at that point we could start looking at houses and deciding how many kids we wanted to have. Soon after our marriage she started making noises that she didn’t want to move and leave her friends and family behind. I told her in no uncertain terms that if I was offered a legitimate job with a reputable airline I would take it and if she wanted to stay behind she was free to do so. She on the other hand wanted to saddle me with children and a mortgage right away and condemn me to working in a factory or the likes of for the rest of my life. We both agreed to a three-year limit on my efforts to achieve this goal. Before you read on, I want to say that I am not one to necessarily hold a person’s past against them. Six months into the marriage I discovered this Christian girl I had married was sneaking around behind my back seeing an old boyfriend and having him over our apartment after I had left at ten-o-clock in the evening to work the night shift. But wait, there’s more. In addition, I also discovered she had no less than two abortions when she was in college studying to be a teacher. But wait, there’s more. While in college she attended all night sex charged parties that included drugs, alcohol, and debauchery of all sorts with numerous people of both sexes in attendance. Once the clothes came off, they stayed off for the entire night and into the next morning. They just walked around the apartment naked. Hey, who wants breakfast? Don’t bother putting any clothes on, it’s a come as you are breakfast. They just walked around the place naked, watched television, took showers together, until they had to leave for school or some other reason. The good news, if there is any, she was very good in bed when I married her and was up for whatever I wanted to do. Other good news is that because of her sneaking around behind my back with her ex-boyfriend, she had lost all trust I had in her and all privacy. I felt free to use all my skills and resources to dig into her personal life and in addition I put a recorder on my own phone line among other tactics. No cell phones back then. Well anyways, when all this came to light, I was less inclined to want to tie myself to her with children and a mortgage and didn’t want a future with her as far as marriage was concerned. I couldn’t trust her anymore. I was surprised but not upset with her college years and willing to leave that in the past. I was not willing to put her current indiscretion so quickly in the past. It didn’t help that she took no responsibility for her actions, kept defending what she had done, and continued blaming me for her inability to be a faithful wife. We did go for counselling and according to her it was all my fault she was sneaking around with her ex-boyfriend. I made her do it. Enough said there. What she didn’t seem to realize is that besides what she had already done, as damaging as it was. She more importantly didn’t consider the trust had been broken. I could no longer trust her anymore and questioned everything now and in the past. Was I being lied too then also? How could I trust her going forward? I did go to her ex’s place of employment and flatten his car tires. She got angry with me for doing that, but I am the one making a big deal out of nothing when it’s discovered she is seeing him behind my back. In addition to defending her actions, telling me it was my fault, and telling me I was making a big deal out of nothing. She never admitted wrong doing, never said she realizes how wrong it was of her and sorry she had hurt me, never apologized, never said I am sorry, never promised to never do it again, did nothing to even try to make me feel more secure in our relationship or build the trust back and….. and…. Get this…. Told me how lucky I was that her ex-boyfriend didn’t come over here and beat my a~~ for flattening his tires! Yea, that sounds like something I want to be married to…. If I was a moron. Really? My wife telling me her husband how lucky I am that her ex-boyfriend doesn’t come over to this apartment I am paying for and beat my a~~ for flattening his tires? Really! Did she tell him how lucky he is that I don’t go over to his house and beat his A$$ for conspiring with my wife for after hour “visitation” in my apartment after I had left to go to work? Well bring it on. Anytime he’s ready, I can forget all about how lucky I am. I am sure he knows how to get here. We divorced after three years, I stayed single for the most part after that, got a vasectomy, never had any children by choice, and soon after our divorce I was offered a position with a major airline in a different state and had a wonderful twenty-year career traveling all over the world and “knowing” many attractive women. She on the other hand did get what she wanted, in a sense. She did get remarried to a divorced man with children and had one daughter with him from that union. I met the daughter when she was a teenager and she seemed like a nice girl. A little off but she probably inherited that from her father. In addition my ex was also “blessed” with custody of one of her new simps mentally challenged sons his ex-wife didn’t want. He had more children but his ex-wanted to keep those for herself. Her husband was somewhat mentally challenged himself and much older than her. Maybe that’s why his one son turned out that way. I felt bad for the poor slob coming out of a bad marriage and then marring her. He had a shrew of an ex-wife, and the child that was mentally challenged must have inherited whatever it was that was making his father a little odd “schizophrenic”. His ex-wife did not want this child living with her, so my ex and her new pack mule had to take him in. Running around the house at all hours of the night locking and unlocking doors, running up and down the stairs…. And she HAD to work outside the home which was not the case when she was married to me. In addition, the reason she had to work is because her new simp was not making enough money to pay his child support. So her pay cheque went directly to her new simps ex-wife. I am sure she was just thrilled to hand over her paycheck to his ex-wife. So that’s the life she traded in for the one I was offering her. Moving to a better climate, traveling all over the world first class, a nice home, children that we could have had together, and a life we could easily afford so she can be a stay-at-home mom. I am just shaking my head. Women’s logic? All whilst I was traveling first class around the world eating in exotic restaurants in Europe, lying on beaches in the Caribbean, snowmobiling mountains in Iceland, hiking into the craters of inactive volcanoes in Hawaii, exploring Alaska, romantic evenings sleeping on the beaches of New Zealand, Kenya safaris…. And all with attractive and fun-loving women I either took with me or met there. My ex is now divorced again, the daughter they had together did not want to stay with her mother and wanted to stay with her father and did. My ex is now and has been for quite some time, alone, does not own a home, lives in an apartment and at the mercy of paying rent that can change at any time, struggling financially, and estranged from her daughter. I on the other hand own a nice home that is paid for in a nice neighborhood, a late model car that is paid for, no credit card or any other kind of debt, money in the bank, retired with an airline pension and can still travel for free, good circle of friends, popular with the ladies, and a good social life I can easily afford. I will just never understand the logic or lack thereof, of women. It’s like they are relationship suicidal or hell bent on destroying their lives, their future, and the lives of those unfortunate enough to get caught up in their unnecessary drama. In today’s world, apparently the worst thing a woman can experience is being married to a man who loves her, has a good career, and a bright future. Life is hard. It’s even harder when you’re stupid.
@@yusufraage8554 "Get over her man it been 40+ years." You have either misunderstood my comment or not read it in it's entirety. I have gotten over her and have enjoyed a good life and continue to do so. I wrote that comment some years ago and copy and paste it for other men to read in the hopes of saving them from making a bad relationship mistake. We are all hear to help each other with advice and experience. Cheers.
99% of all women are this way how do you think they got good at something practice makes perfect all of them cheat all of them lie about their past all of them are always looking to replace you with a bigger and better deal this is nature you cannot negotiate that only stupid man get married
It really boils my blood when I hear “just get over it” in this circumstance. Sure, the cheating happened decades ago, but he’s finding out about it NOW. The wound is fresh! Of course he’ll react the way he did. A lot of people would! Then to add further insult to injury, she’s downplaying his pain by saying he’s overreacting. Lady cheated on him, lied to him for almost 30 years about it, and her first thing to say is that he’s overreacting?! Gtfo! Divorce is the only acceptable course of action when you discover cheating
it's so stupid and people wouldn't apply the same moral logical consistency to much else, we sure as hell know a 'forced snuggle struggle' is something a woman will not be told to so simply "just get over" nor should she, time does help with wounds and people shouldn't be bound to the past with PTSD or whatnot, but you shouldn't completely forgive and forget everything like it's a clean slate. 'wake up one day find out your entire life was a lie due to cheating and get told "get over it" those people can kick rocks.
My hero is the 99 year old man in Florida that discovered love letters between his wife and another man dating back to the forties which revealed she cheated on him. He divorced her
If she wishes that she destroyed the diary instead of not cheating on her fiance then it sounds more like she is sorry that she was caught, not that she cheated... she should have run with the guy she cheated with so at least her husband would find a loyal wife
Who says she wasn't a loyal wife for thirty years and gave him a family....?? She stepped out on him before the marriage, not after, she didn't break any of her marriage vows.
I love that he told her the marriage is a lie, because it is. She didn't give him the chance to leave her or stay. She's a delusional POS Come on Jerry don't be stupid. Let her be alone because she's not sorry at all! Also I don't believe he had a revenge affair. She's the source of that information and we know she's a LIAR
This is a little different. They weren’t married when she had the affair. It was 27 yrs ago. She was likely lonely and burning. She asked him to push up their wedding date but he didn’t. If there hasn’t been any infidelity since they got married, I say forgive and move on.
@@jaman878 Nope Nope and NOPE! She failed the wife test as soon as she cheated as the fiancee. That type of thinking is mind boggling, well you shot me 27 years ago but since you haven't done it since I forgive you smh and 🤣🤣🤣
YOU pimp HARD Bro... Lighten UP on these hoes, man.. lol This woman STILL A LOT better than 90 percent of these byches now days so if I KNEW I wanted a woman in my life (And I DON'T) I would've kept HER..
She never tried to understand her husband's pain and only regrets getting caught. Regretting not burning the book but not the affair even after therapy is disgusting. Really surprised she and kids ultimately ended up thinking he took things too far by ending things. People need to understand that the discovery day is the start of the pain and betrayal and it does not matter how long ago the betrayal took place. It makes it worse as well because realizing you've been lied to every day for years can warp your sense of reality and self. Hoping Jerry doesn't entertain her pathetic attempts to reconcile she isn't remotely close to being a good candidate for that course of action.
@@tzarius78 Exactly. I might have been 30 years ago for her, but for Jerry it's brand new and the pain must have been excruciating. Even if she's telling the truth about being faithful to him their entire marriage, how can he ever truly believe her? That woman #2 comment was completely idiotic. If anyone was stupid enough to marry her in the first place, I guarantee she's divorced. She probably typed that comment while shooing one of her cats away from the keyboard.
How many times did we read that she truly regretted the affair? Yes she did, is she regretful that she was caught yes she is as well. She is not a toxic person a stupid person yes absolutely, a cheater yes absolutely. However there is soemthing fundamentally narcicstic about Jerry. I would bitch slapped him from here to kingdom come & even he admitted he was an ass to her. Their marriage bulit on a lie that is just BULLS**T, married 27+ years is no lie. Was he loved by his wife YES he was, was he happy in his marriage YES he was. Did this deserve to result in a divorce YES & NO - his so-called manly ego couldn't handle it and fair enough although it was nearly 30 years prior it might as well have been the day he found out which it was? Although she does not say it is my hope that they do get back together and the divorce and distance and moving out of small town mentality town has toned him down a bit to be forgive maybe with the hope that as mother to his children and ex--wife that the 27+ years meant something good. We will never know
@@ahmadyusof2480 Jan started it. If she didn't like the consequences of her actions she should've kept her legs closed. If and when Jerry and Suzy hooked up, it was after he and Jan were separated and it wasn't as if Jerry was sneaking around behind anyone's back. Your morals and ethics are very screwy, Ahmad, so I suspect most of 'us' people think you are a moron.
I hope OP give us a new update about how lovely it was to meet Her husband and his new GF and watching him happy with her really made her happy too😂😂😂🤣
So she thinks the fact that she remained faithful to him (that's up for debate though) for their nearly 30 years of marriage completely erases the fact that she cheated on him while they were engaged (still together) and hid it from him the whole time? Also, how and why in the hell do cheaters not understand that it's not just cheating, but the fact that you CHOSE not to tell your partner/spouse about it that ends up being the dealbreaker? The mindset cheaters have during these situations just astounds me.
Notice how everything regarding their marriage is coming from her, not Jerry. She's a shitty wife and most likely Jerry despises her as it is. This just reinforced what he probably thought of her character throughout their 29 year marriage. He needs to kick that b to the curb and go NC. Serves her right to pay for her life of debauchery at an older age. These women don't learn any other way.
"completely erases the fact that she cheated on him" Yes, she absolutely does feel that. Cheating wives blurt out that BS so often that it's a cliche. They view their infidelity as a forgivable mistake that happened years ago, not understanding that any cheating from a woman is a total deal breaker. The fact is that her husband would never have married the lying whore if he'd found out before the wedding, hence the entire marriage is a sham. Jerry needs to start dating girls half her age. Nothing hurts a cheating wife more than being replaced by a much younger and prettier woman.
Here is a ROYAL BS. When a man cheats, that is, commits an affair/adultery, the woman not only wants to see the evidence but DEMANDS a confession out of the guy. Now, when it comes to a woman cheating, she WILL DO anything in her power to PUT the BLAME on the guy for not meeting her expectations. So, the point is CHEATING ALLOWANCE applies ONLY to women at their convenience.
I hate the downplaying gimmick, it simply doesn't make any sense. "I feel Jerry has completely overreacted. The affair happened nearly 30 years ago" --> "I did him dirty multiple times and lied for nearly 30 years" Reality: The fact it happened a long time ago makes it worse, cause every day she didn't tell him counts on top.
The fact she did not tell him, but got caught, says something about her character. She should have confessed when it happened so that he had the choice to marry her or move on. She didn't tell him about the affair. She could have had another affair, but not told him. She sounds more upset about not destroying the diary than the affair. No one wants to be cheated on or lied to. Neither men or women. If you don't like this behavior then don't do it.
Hes a fool to take her back. Doesn't matter if she's in her 40s. She will disrespect him for taking back a cheater. She'll see it as weakness and punish him for it. That's how cheaters operate.
The affair may have happened 29 years ago; but to him the betrayal happened on discovery day. The added complication was that if he'd known then, he wouldn't have married her and he'd probably now be with someone who deserved him. IMHO reconciliations can't happen until the betrayer has paid a sufficient price. I don't think she's there yet, and I hope while she's visiting, her ex introduces her to his new girlfriend.
“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.” It doesn't matter whether she slept with Jim during their marriage or not. Once the trust is gone, then it's gone. Jan should find the second commenter (the man-hater) and go horde cats together. She's selfish and has zero empathy for how her husband is feeling.
My guess is that he probably had signs that she had cheated years ago, and he ignored them out of love for her. The diary was something that was more direct and could not be ignored.
This woman really went from hopeful to delusional when she said she was still waiting to talk with Jerry AFTER he'd already handed her seperation papers. Like hon, he's already chosen his path, the divorce was inevitable
The fact that this secret had been hidden for so many years just quadrupled the impact of its discovery. Keeping secrets over a period of time can be extremely devastating when it comes to light.
This woman doesnt understand men at all. The greatest gift she can give to her husband was her loyalty and she threw it away because she considered Jim a superior man at the time. If she had told Jerry when it happened he wouldnt have married her, so yes their marriage was built on a big fat lie
She lied for nearly 30 years. That only makes it worse. On top of that it seems, from her words, that her biggest regret was that she got caught by keeping the evidence. Once you find out your partner is a liar and a cheat then they become worthless to you as a partner, you not only can never trust them again they are actually less trustworthy than a complete stranger.
Exactly what lie did she tell him for 30 years. Words have a specific meaning.....what lie did she tell him. She didn't tell him anything. Are there any adults in the room. I have seen things in my life ( non criminal ) that I will take to the grave because it would serve no useful purpose to reveal them. Does that make me a liar. It would seem that the husband in this story has one huge and fragile ego.
@@jb-xc4oh Are you stupid? Firstly, lies of omission are still lies. Secondly, any woman that cheats does not love and respect their man, period. So for 30 years she lied in order to keep her cushy life.
@@jb-xc4oh Words do have specific meanings, and it is abundantly clear you do not know the meaning of the word lie. He didn't say she told him a lie. He said that she lied for 30 years. The problem is with your understanding of what it means to lie. You think of lying in only one context; "to speak a falsehood". But lying is the intent to deceive - saying false things is just one way of doing so. Deception is the main thing here. And deception can be done in many forms. Evasiveness is a form of deception. In this context, what she did is known as lying by omission. She didn't stay committed to him. She should have disclosed that information. But she kept that information hidden, and didn't disclose it. So she's omitting this information. That's deception. She's deceiving her husband to believe something about their relationship that isn't true by omitting her committing infidelity. Which is what lying by omission is.
@@EntertheFray1 You just proved my point about words. Of course there is lying by omission, deception and the like. It would have been easy to qualify the overall meaning with a better choice of words but that was not done. Personally, I found the husbands reaction somewhat juvenile. Everybody lies or deceives at some point, to think otherwise is be naive about human nature.
This should be a stark eye-opener for any man out there a woman does not value her sexual intimacy she only values what you bring to the relationship. This is why they can cheat and not really think anything of it and not understand how cheating 25 years ago can completely destroy the entire image you have of her in your head.
16:40 Overreacting? You cheated on your partner, never disclosed this to him, and misrepresented who you are at your wedding to him. He thought he was marrying a faithful partner, not a cheating harlot. YOU DENIED HIM THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE whether he wanted to spend his life with a cheater or not. This is what he meant when he said your lives were built on a lie - a lie you withheld from him for your own selfish reasons. In another culture, you would be deleted for this crime.
If she never spoke to Jim again in 29 years how does she know he got married two months later? Remember this story is pre-cell phone so it's definitely pre-social media.
Apparently this needs to be explained again! He did not cheat on her! Since she cheated first, her cheating breaks All contracts! They were never married and he didn’t cheat since her cheating completely voided any spoken or written agreements!
She kept lying for almost 30 years for not telling him of this affair. That is why it does not matter if it happened yesterday or 30 years ago. What makes this all worse is that the only thing she seems to regret is not destroying the diary. Jerry made the right thing by divorcing her.
Even though the affair was 29 years ago, it's brand new to him. She says she hadn't cheated since, but his trust is gone and will always wonder if she was telling the truth. The relationship was built on a lie, because if she had fessed up right after it happened, he never would have married her. He worked hard for 30 years providing her a good life and home, while all along she knew it was a lie. Plus, I hate it when someone calls cheating a mistake!!! She made a choice!!!! A choice she continued to make multiple times over a 2 week period. She couldn't even give him the space he needed right after he found out. She kept calling and texting and going over to the house to try and talk to him. She only cared about herself.
We all know she cheated again shorty wrote down in explicit detail what she did. Keep that journal as well even move in that house hell she automatically knew he was reading that bitch as well. And now look at how she is trying act like why she doesn’t know why he change. This old bitch is evil
Jan kept the diary all those years, and did not destroy it, because it contained special memories she would one day revisit. It was a log of her life and it was precious to her. She cheated on Jerry knowing full well what the ramifications would be, and she put her head down and did it anyway. It wasn't a mistake - it was premeditated and deliberate. When the cat's away...the rats will play. At the moment of seduction, Jan's love for Jerry was subservient to her carnal desires, so she released him, and their relationship to the fates. She loved being naughty, and enjoyed engaging in risky, forbidden sex with Jim. It made her feel sexy, desirable, and alive! She didn't say anything to Jerry because she knew she violated his trust, and broke her word, and would no longer be considered wife material. A woman of this nature probably shrugged it off saying, "What he doesn't know won't hurt him." Jan did not leave Jim because she came to her senses, she left Jim (so she says) and embraced Jerry (once more), because her curiosity had been satisfied, and her carnal desires had been met. Apparently Jim was good enough to entertain her in bed, but he was not good enough to be her husband, provider, and breadwinner. In a word: Jerry offered her a better deal going forward and he was a man she could trust, unlike her treacherous lover. I'm sure playing housewife would get stale before long, but it would allow Jan to cheat on Jerry whenever it tickled her fancy. She already proved that sex outside of marriage was permissible, and that getting drilled by other men was, not only acceptable, but desirable. She knew while they were engaged, that Jerry expected her to be faithful, and I'm sure she promised unfaltering faithfulness. But, since Jan had already set the precedence for breaking her promises, and had already made peace with breaking Jerry's confidence, as well as his heart - marriage wouldn't pose much of a barrier. Once a cheater...always a cheater.
I would have divorced her. they were engaged. she had pledged herself to jerry and he to her. jerry's not being able to come home for two or three weekends was not the reason she spread her thighs for jim. if she did not like jim's flirting she could have put a stop to it. she used the excuse of jerry not being able to come home because of school and work to justify dating jim and then sleeping with jim for a week. for the length of their marriage jerry thought of her as being his alone, now he knows he was following in another male's plowing. there is no justification for this betrayal.
The big problem here is the loss of trust. How can the husband believe that this was really a one time thing? If he stays in the relationship he will always be looking for further signs of betrayal and that just creates toxic emotions that corrode any feelings of love he may still have.
"A 99-year-old Italian man is divorcing his wife of 77 years after he stumbled across letters she had written to a secret lover in the 1940s. The damning discovery days before Christmas led the galled grandfather to confront his once two-timing wife immediately, London's Daily Telegraph reported. The 96-year-old woman, identified in court papers as Rosa C., reportedly confessed to having an affair 60 years ago, and then tried desperately to persuade her hubby to stay." In 2011. Keeping keepsakes? Now that's beyond stupid, if she really loves her husband.
She had 25+ years to fess up, whether she forgot about the diary or not. Every day that she hid the affair from her husband is a day of of lies, deceit, and betrayal. It may have been almost 30 years for her. But the news of the affair is new to him. To him, the affair is recent. She missed the point entirely…it’s not about how long ago it happened. It’s about her betraying the man she married.
He's not over reacting, because if he knew about the affair before marriage, then most likely he would have broken off their engagement. His life would have been completely different.
@@brandonmatthews3722 And she wrote about it in a diary, that means it meant something to her. She settled for the guy because she couldn't get the one she wanted.
Really you thank so ??! Well if your right than to hell with she butvi would at least do a lie-detector test and if she passes the test I would choke down and try as I’m sure all those years he is so in love and all those years do count for something! I hope for real they make it it’s so easy for me to set and judge this lady I refuse to Huge her then I’ll add up all those good tears must count for something at least a lie tester and then let’s see what happens friend life has a lot of gray it’s not all black & white we all mess up so let’s be positive or at least try!!
"I can honestly say that nothing like that has ever crossed my mind and I have been completely faithful for our entire marriage." OK Prove It!! You cheat when he can't make it home for a weekend, so, what do you do when you have marital issues? I know you haven't had a 30-year relationship without a disagreement.
She had an Alpha male but did not realize that fact. She took his kind, loving ways as weakness and that he loved her so much that he would eventually get over the point of her cheating all those years ago. If she really paid attention to her man's approach to life, she would know that he would leave her regardless of the time frame.
Wow, the OP's parting message is if she could she would have burned her diary. That is the only true remorse this OP has shown, it tells us she learned nothing from her saga. She still wants to hide the truth even now.
A Text to Speech channel recently uploaded the same story. On face value, no big deal. However, the other channel added FYA's interjections as well. FYA, thank you for being a REAL human reading these stories!
"Your honor, I murdered that person 27 years ago but since then i've been a good citizen, some may even call me a Saint. It's all in the past so I don't see a reason why I should get a life sentence"
It does not matter if the affair was 29 years ago. To Jerry it felt like it was yesterday, the day he found out about it. And after finding out she had been lying (hiding the affair) for 29 years, he would be feeling like she could be hiding other affairs or one-night-stands. You can say it was 29 years ago and he should get over it and reconcile, but until you have it happen to you and realize how the mind recognizes it, you have no clue how bad it is.
Shes not sorry that she cheated. Shes sorry that she got caught. Notice how she downplays and minimizes the affair? It was 30 years ago so its not as big of a deal? You know he would have been gone if he found out a day later. I really hope that he's not taking her back. I hope that he's just using her, but I wish that he just had nothing to do with her anymore
Cheaters always say "let me explain", that just baffles me that these people can try and gaslight someone who they supposedly love "truly". She probably felt justified with what she did since she though he was going to cheat on her while in college and took the first opportunity to do so herself. She then proceeded to make the so called mistake multiple times while he was still away. She made a choice, we all know she's not upset and remorseful about her wrongdoings (women can't accept accountability) she's only upset that she got caught and wished she'd destroyed the diary where she thought it'd be a good idea to write down her affair, probably because she was proud of it and wanted to relive it from time to time.
Infidelity is almost as evil as murder, since it destroys people and relationships. Hiding it is a conspiracy that compounds the damage. Those that call the victim "childish" cannot or will not realize the effects of betrayal, and are also evil. Acting up like a toddler, especially after being caught, cannot fix anything. No trust, no relationship.
This woman is a liar. She got away with it at that very special time when they were young, - Does any body seriously think that is the only time she cheated? I don’t.
@@caucasianafrican1435 I've thought like that before. Women tell men that they should get in touch with their feelings, but I doubt that they would like that.
Rather than not having an affair and maintaining the moral higound, he did right getting it out of his system as he owns her nothing anymore. By having an affair himself in retliation, he lessens the hurt that she caused.
I'm guessing female 2 is still single. Just the vibe I'm getting from her response.And finally a therapist that gets it. I bet Suzy is at Jerry's place when she gets there...:-)
Do not forget her "reasoning" for having the affair while engaged. Jim was going to be away working for two weeks. Two weeks. That's all it took for her to sleep with an engaged customer who payed her compliments. Had Jim ever worked away from home for two weeks....or more...in the 29 years of their marriage? If he had, she probably banged the stock boy at the grocery store when he told her to "have a nice day!"
He was the love of her life, even while they were engaged. And yet, she still slept with the other man FOUR TIMES. What the hell kind of love is that? No matter that to her “it was 29 years ago. To her husband it was NOW. What was an old “mistake” (although it was a choice) to her is a brand new, painful wound to him..
The affair was yesterday for Jerry, not 30 years ago, like it was for OP. My guess is your marriage is over, as how does a man get over being deceived and lied to, for 30 years?
A wife (or fiancé) cheating is the *ultimate* disrespect and show of a lack of loyalty. Men will put up with a LOT- but not that. The two things that burned that bridge between Jan and Jerry: 1. She lied to him hundreds of times a day for nearly 30 years. MORE disrespect. 2. She saved the diary- this meant she cherished the memories of cheating on him. MORE disrespect. Jan doesn't deserve *any* of what he has to offer (that he gave for nearly 30 years). She only showed remorse for being held accountable.
Bro you have the best red pill content on youtube, I wish you'd upload more but I know this is a lot of work and research on top of what you do in real life so I get it.
I'm in camp 3. I believe her regrets at getting caught. I do not believe that this was the only affair she has had. She is admitting to what he has proof of. She will not admit to anything else unless there is proof. Her character is what it is. She has been playing her games for 29 years. Why would anyone believe that this is the whole truth. She will never admit to anything that he doesn't already know.
Although it was like 30 years ago, it’s still a lie and betrayal. However, she was maybe 19 or 20. At that age we all have done really dumb crap and that’s not who we are now. When we find out the person we’ve loved and sacrificed for aren’t who we thought they were and the choices you’ve made m, that’s devastating. Even if the reconcile, he will never feel that same powerful love with her again. That is gone.
That was not dumb shit. She fully knew what she was doing that’s why she kept the book. That’s also why lied about it because it was about her feelings and her feelings only.
She wanted the guy she had an affair with during her engagement. According to her, she has not spoken or had any contact with her affair partner. With that in mind, two people knew about the affair. Jim knew that he had slept with Jerry's wife. Her husband, in his mind, thinks or feels that the affair partner has been laughing at him for thirty years. He will never see her in the same light as a loving wife.
What this woman doesn't understand, is that the sudden information about the "affair" is new to Jerry. She doesn't have the authority to dictate how Jerry reacts to this betrayal or how long it will be for Jerry to come to terms or if ever about this revealed secret. It's natural for him to believe that their marriage was built on her lies and betrayal. She must leave him alone and hope he gets back in touch with her again to sort out the future. She knew she was going to cheat at the very beginning of the relationship for she projected her intention onto Jerry while he was working hard and sacrificing for their future. She knew what she was doing at time, she also had the chance to leave with Jim. But stayed, and now the Karma Police has come to collect and reckon the universal account. SYMPATHY FOR JERRY!
the fact that the affair was a long time ago only makes things worse. The longer it takes for you to find out about the betrayal THE MORE its going to hurt. EVerything you've built together was based on a lie, because had he known you had cheated on him, he would never have married you. You robbed him of his ability to make a rational decision and he doesnt know the person he married. AND THERES NOTHING HE CAN DO ABOUT IT, its all in the past so he cant get this time back. THiS is why you deserve NO forgiveness.
No, the husband, now the past husband is NOT overeacting at all. He is just rightfully disposing the lie of the false wife into the Trash bin, where she belongs...
If I was Jerry, I'd have Suzy-Q come down ahead of time and be there when good ol' Jannie-honey arrives for the visit ! Then let her feel like the third wheel whenever they went out or did something ! Iffen she's axually staying with'um, she could sleep on the lawn chair on the patio while Suzy-Q sleeps with him, inside ! (Oh, you've decided not to stay w/Suzy & I ? Okay, baah !) Oh, AND STAY UP NORTH, so you're close to Jimmie !
That fact that she wishes she destroyed the diary proves she doesn't actually regret the affair, she just regrets getting caught.
Absolutely!! She’s upset that her skeletons were exposed.
yep... most women dont regret doing it just being catched.
look at the likes...
Exactly
Jerry cheated with Suzy while they were still married. Thats not wrong? Crazy.
Couple years ago an Italian man in his 90s divorced his wife of 70+ years after finding love letters from wife's AP while hubby was off fighting in WW2. Good for him!
Fuck man that's so sad. These crazies think it shouldn't matter somehow like wtf. You dont love or respect him but want him to love you?
You're talking about women. You expect more?
@@vincentrisalvato9921 Problem is there is no way to know that she's been good and loyal, she stopped keeping a diary. For all Jerry knows, this is just the only time she got caught. See my other comment below.
@@vincentrisalvato9921 that's because no one wants you to begin with so you'll take anything even a cheating whore wife. These arent things you can let go and expect the world not to become hell
It doesn’t matter. She’s fully vested and their needs were fulfilled years ago.
"He's no longer the kind man I've known for 30 years"
Yeah, betrayal of the worst kind can do that to a man.
He probably still is, just not TO HER.
“He’s no longer the kind man I’ve know for 30 years” just means, “He’s no longer the the person I prefer him to be for my own benefit”.
Yes because she was not really the woman she portrayed to be for 30 years.
IF this were a true story, and not a work of fiction, I would be in the camp that says, "dude, it was THIRTY YEARS AGO. The three decades since then are what matters." However - this isn't a true story. Some woman's creative writing project on a forum.
@@MrJeffcoley1 And I'd say that's absolutely terrible advice.
She fucked the dude 30 years ago, but the husband only just found out the truth. For him, it's like her affair just happened... compounded by knowing that his wife lied to him for three decades.
Also they were engaged at the time, and if he knew the truth then, he'd never have married the whore. Everything that happened after that is tainted, because it's built on a shaky foundation of deceit and betrayal.
From a cynical point of view, the wife was 49 when he found out about her slutty past. Now he can safely divorce her without looking like the bad guy, avoid having to deal with her going menopausal, and replace her with a younger woman.
When she made the choice not to tell her fiance about Jim, she took away his choice to marry her. If she had come clean when it happened, maybe they could have moved past it. But, she didn't. She chose to lie about it by pretending it never happened. She lied because she knew he'd call off the engagement. He only married her because of that lie. That's the lie that their marriage was based on. He's 100% right.
Spot on
The affair may we’ll have happened 30 years ago but to him it’s new, and it hurts worse to the fact that he’s been duped for 30 years
Exactly. Its just cheating as well as 30 years of lying.
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They are incapable of understanding this.
Wise words
EXACTLY
She needs to understand that she didn't just cheat thirty years ago. She was cheating every day of their marriage by waking up every morning and choosing to keep it a secret from her husband.
Exactly, that is actually worse than the original betrayal.
Yes..
That's it. Without trust there is nothing.
Agreed, you summed it up well.
For all he knows, she’s probably been cheating on him throughout the whole marriage.
I think that last screen said it all. She said she regrets not destroying the diary. She DID NOT say she regrets f*cking another man while engaged. She DID NOT say she regrets not telling her fiance and future husband the truth. She DID NOT say she regrets lying to her husband for over 25 years. Yep, that says it all. Like a commenter below says, she does not regret the affair, she only regrets getting caught. It just took longer than most.
She did say multiple times that she regretted the silly two week period 29+ years ago so perhaps that comment is being taken out of context. I am not excusing her or her actions or her failure to come clean when it happened, I am just saying that I think she does regret her bad behavior. What she fails to apologize for is lying for 29+ years.
@@jimbrent8151 Her last comment was her most 'honest' one about regretting not destroying her diary.
@@jimbrent8151 no she doesn’t she only regrets getting caught. You know how many times she tried pin on him by saying it don’t matter it happened years ago. I love only you and all that other bullshit
@@jimbrent8151 and she only apologized because she was caught so def would’ve took it to the grave with her.
@@jimbrent8151 nope. All lies. Cheaters only regret getting caught.
It simply astounds me that she sees the diary as the cause of all this. Absolutely zero accountability whatsoever. Cheaters get what they deserve.
She wrote about her crime in her diary. LOL
It's like I was a serial killer and stuck a photo of my next victim on my door.🤣🤣
She kept a diary as a Memento of Good Times. Jim was that Alpha and she was the alpha Widow we all know it
@@shawne7228 - No. Her husband was probably better in bed. That's why she chose to end it with the AP and marry her fiance. These 304's always have to have some kind of secret from their husband in order to have the "happy" marriage. They really are disgusting.
@@FathersLoveWithoutEnd perhaps you are right and Jim was a failed monkey branch. And Jerry ended up being the better option. It's hypergamy 101.
@@FathersLoveWithoutEnd not really. Almost everybody was and is not a virgin when they get married. Why they can accept that. It is still someone had stuck his thing inside that women's thing. Why that people can accept?
That's right, serial killers collect loot from their victims and get an item to remind them of that moment. ;)
It's funny how women think that there's a statute of limitations on cheating.
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It was 30 years ago for her but for her husband it might as well have been yesterday
What gets me is how they say they love their husband SSSOOOOOOOOO much, but didn't have any problem cheating on him!!!
@@davidjones8942 it wasn't just one time, they were screwing constantly for as long as they could until Jerry came back. So she was definitely considering monkey branching.
@@shawne7228 If he didn't come back for 2 months, 3 days and 7 hours, that's how long they would have went at.
"My therapist said to mourn Jerry as if he passed away." No. You need to mourn Jerry as if you killed him for fun.
I hope OP shows up to her ex's new home to find Jerry married to Suzy.
I hoping that’s the next update too! Stay strong Jerry!
Suzy might be an option but, if he really wants to destroy his cheating ex, find someone much younger and prettier than her. On the other hand, he'd be better off staying away from women... at least for a while.
I would want a paternity test for all kids and find out if she cheated after marriage, too.
Done... @ 21:24
What annoys me is that women always say it happened so long ago. For the man it happened on the day before he found out. And if he had known about the cheating he probably would have broken off the engagement. I personally would have also left her.
100% She's lucky she wasn't stoned.
So true! "saying it happened so long ago is a foolish thing to say. It makes things worse.@@caucasianafrican1435
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"Im keeping a journal and will tell you all about it in 30 years." Damn if that isnt a great comeback.
The husband was a savage. Kudos to him.
There is no such thing as a Revenge affair. Once the wife cheated and married him under false pretenses, their vows were meaningless. There is no Revenge Affair when the marriage is already open and the vows are broken.
Exactly. He is immediately and irrecoverably released from the vows
I couldn't have said it better myself . Great comment!
Technically no. it was not under false pretenses, and vows were not meaningless. she ended the affair and the vows are for the day they were made going forward, not before. I'm not justifying what she did as it was wrong and she should've have told him before they got married. but he broke the vows when he cheated on her. He completely overreacted. I'm not saying he shouldn't have taken space from her and divorced her, if that's what he feels he needs to do, he has every right to feel that way, it may have been over 30 years ago but to him, it just happened. but to go around town telling everyone and to call the kids right away is overreacting.
@@ritchierich6133 There is no proof that he cheated on her. Other than that your post is insightful and accurate.
@@ritchierich6133 white-knight SIMP detected!!!!
I could make this even a longer story, but I'll keep it short.
Back in the 1980's I got married for the first time.
I was 32 and my future ex-wife was 28.
I dated her for three years before we married and it was like dating Marlo Thomas from the television show called, “That Girl”.
She just looked so cute, dressed smartly, was bubbly and fun to be around, and when you saw her you just wanted to hug her and hold her close to you.
I met her at church, and she professed to be a Christian. She was also a second-grade schoolteacher at the Christian school that was connected with our church.
After her asking me numerous times to marry her, I finally said yes.
During all of this I had been working for law enforcement for about seven years.
I told her that was not my career of choice and that my goal was to work for the airlines in any capacity to just get my foot in the door. In addition, I also had my pilots license and an Associates Science degree in Aviation Technology in case things went that direction. I told her I was willing to move anywhere in the United States to take any legitimate job offered to make it happen and that I felt very strongly about this. Meaning no house mortgage and no children so that we could be ready to move when and if I was offered an airline position. Then at that point we could start looking at houses and deciding how many kids we wanted to have.
Soon after our marriage she started making noises that she didn’t want to move and leave her friends and family behind. I told her in no uncertain terms that if I was offered a legitimate job with a reputable airline I would take it and if she wanted to stay behind she was free to do so.
She on the other hand wanted to saddle me with children and a mortgage right away and condemn me to working in a factory or the likes of for the rest of my life.
We both agreed to a three-year limit on my efforts to achieve this goal.
Before you read on, I want to say that I am not one to necessarily hold a person’s past against them.
Six months into the marriage I discovered this Christian girl I had married was sneaking around behind my back seeing an old boyfriend and having him over our apartment after I had left at ten-o-clock in the evening to work the night shift.
But wait, there’s more.
In addition, I also discovered she had no less than two abortions when she was in college studying to be a teacher.
But wait, there’s more.
While in college she attended all night sex charged parties that included drugs, alcohol, and debauchery of all sorts with numerous people of both sexes in attendance. Once the clothes came off, they stayed off for the entire night and into the next morning. They just walked around the apartment naked. Hey, who wants breakfast? Don’t bother putting any clothes on, it’s a come as you are breakfast. They just walked around the place naked, watched television, took showers together, until they had to leave for school or some other reason.
The good news, if there is any, she was very good in bed when I married her and was up for whatever I wanted to do. Other good news is that because of her sneaking around behind my back with her ex-boyfriend, she had lost all trust I had in her and all privacy. I felt free to use all my skills and resources to dig into her personal life and in addition I put a recorder on my own phone line among other tactics. No cell phones back then.
Well anyways, when all this came to light, I was less inclined to want to tie myself to her with children and a mortgage and didn’t want a future with her as far as marriage was concerned. I couldn’t trust her anymore. I was surprised but not upset with her college years and willing to leave that in the past. I was not willing to put her current indiscretion so quickly in the past. It didn’t help that she took no responsibility for her actions, kept defending what she had done, and continued blaming me for her inability to be a faithful wife.
We did go for counselling and according to her it was all my fault she was sneaking around with her ex-boyfriend. I made her do it. Enough said there.
What she didn’t seem to realize is that besides what she had already done, as damaging as it was. She more importantly didn’t consider the trust had been broken. I could no longer trust her anymore and questioned everything now and in the past. Was I being lied too then also? How could I trust her going forward?
I did go to her ex’s place of employment and flatten his car tires. She got angry with me for doing that, but I am the one making a big deal out of nothing when it’s discovered she is seeing him behind my back.
In addition to defending her actions, telling me it was my fault, and telling me I was making a big deal out of nothing. She never admitted wrong doing, never said she realizes how wrong it was of her and sorry she had hurt me, never apologized, never said I am sorry, never promised to never do it again, did nothing to even try to make me feel more secure in our relationship or build the trust back and….. and…. Get this…. Told me how lucky I was that her ex-boyfriend didn’t come over here and beat my a~~ for flattening his tires! Yea, that sounds like something I want to be married to…. If I was a moron.
Really? My wife telling me her husband how lucky I am that her ex-boyfriend doesn’t come over to this apartment I am paying for and beat my a~~ for flattening his tires? Really!
Did she tell him how lucky he is that I don’t go over to his house and beat his A$$ for conspiring with my wife for after hour “visitation” in my apartment after I had left to go to work?
Well bring it on. Anytime he’s ready, I can forget all about how lucky I am. I am sure he knows how to get here.
We divorced after three years, I stayed single for the most part after that, got a vasectomy, never had any children by choice, and soon after our divorce I was offered a position with a major airline in a different state and had a wonderful twenty-year career traveling all over the world and “knowing” many attractive women.
She on the other hand did get what she wanted, in a sense.
She did get remarried to a divorced man with children and had one daughter with him from that union. I met the daughter when she was a teenager and she seemed like a nice girl. A little off but she probably inherited that from her father.
In addition my ex was also “blessed” with custody of one of her new simps mentally challenged sons his ex-wife didn’t want. He had more children but his ex-wanted to keep those for herself.
Her husband was somewhat mentally challenged himself and much older than her. Maybe that’s why his one son turned out that way. I felt bad for the poor slob coming out of a bad marriage and then marring her.
He had a shrew of an ex-wife, and the child that was mentally challenged must have inherited whatever it was that was making his father a little odd “schizophrenic”. His ex-wife did not want this child living with her, so my ex and her new pack mule had to take him in.
Running around the house at all hours of the night locking and unlocking doors, running up and down the stairs…. And she HAD to work outside the home which was not the case when she was married to me. In addition, the reason she had to work is because her new simp was not making enough money to pay his child support. So her pay cheque went directly to her new simps ex-wife. I am sure she was just thrilled to hand over her paycheck to his ex-wife.
So that’s the life she traded in for the one I was offering her. Moving to a better climate, traveling all over the world first class, a nice home, children that we could have had together, and a life we could easily afford so she can be a stay-at-home mom. I am just shaking my head. Women’s logic?
All whilst I was traveling first class around the world eating in exotic restaurants in Europe, lying on beaches in the Caribbean, snowmobiling mountains in Iceland, hiking into the craters of inactive volcanoes in Hawaii, exploring Alaska, romantic evenings sleeping on the beaches of New Zealand, Kenya safaris…. And all with attractive and fun-loving women I either took with me or met there.
My ex is now divorced again, the daughter they had together did not want to stay with her mother and wanted to stay with her father and did. My ex is now and has been for quite some time, alone, does not own a home, lives in an apartment and at the mercy of paying rent that can change at any time, struggling financially, and estranged from her daughter.
I on the other hand own a nice home that is paid for in a nice neighborhood, a late model car that is paid for, no credit card or any other kind of debt, money in the bank, retired with an airline pension and can still travel for free, good circle of friends, popular with the ladies, and a good social life I can easily afford.
I will just never understand the logic or lack thereof, of women. It’s like they are relationship suicidal or hell bent on destroying their lives, their future, and the lives of those unfortunate enough to get caught up in their unnecessary drama.
In today’s world, apparently the worst thing a woman can experience is being married to a man who loves her, has a good career, and a bright future.
Life is hard.
It’s even harder when you’re stupid.
Get over her man it been 40+ years.
@@yusufraage8554 "Get over her man it been 40+ years."
You have either misunderstood my comment or not read it in it's entirety.
I have gotten over her and have enjoyed a good life and continue to do so.
I wrote that comment some years ago and copy and paste it for other men to read in the hopes of saving them from making a bad relationship mistake.
We are all hear to help each other with advice and experience.
Cheers.
Good read
99% of all women are this way how do you think they got good at something practice makes perfect all of them cheat all of them lie about their past all of them are always looking to replace you with a bigger and better deal this is nature you cannot negotiate that only stupid man get married
Excellent story, thank you for sharing it.
It really boils my blood when I hear “just get over it” in this circumstance. Sure, the cheating happened decades ago, but he’s finding out about it NOW. The wound is fresh! Of course he’ll react the way he did. A lot of people would! Then to add further insult to injury, she’s downplaying his pain by saying he’s overreacting. Lady cheated on him, lied to him for almost 30 years about it, and her first thing to say is that he’s overreacting?! Gtfo! Divorce is the only acceptable course of action when you discover cheating
it's so stupid and people wouldn't apply the same moral logical consistency to much else, we sure as hell know a 'forced snuggle struggle' is something a woman will not be told to so simply "just get over" nor should she, time does help with wounds and people shouldn't be bound to the past with PTSD or whatnot, but you shouldn't completely forgive and forget everything like it's a clean slate. 'wake up one day find out your entire life was a lie due to cheating and get told "get over it" those people can kick rocks.
Calling him "overreacting" is a form of gaslighting
"Are you trying to minimise my feelings"?
Isn't that a classic woman line alledging emotional abuse?
@@WifeyReviews Thank God some women think like you do.
My hero is the 99 year old man in Florida that discovered love letters between his wife and another man dating back to the forties which revealed she cheated on him. He divorced her
Dont mess with florida man
I seen that woman was mad
What It a 99 year old man is gonna do with his pride ? His foot is already buried.
@@SuperAlex2205 Spoken like someone with little integrity and low standards
@@SuperAlex2205 doesn't means anything. A man without pride isn't a man at all.
Woman cheats and destroys her marriage: women most affected 😂
That sounds like something Lion of MGTOW would say 👍
If she wishes that she destroyed the diary instead of not cheating on her fiance then it sounds more like she is sorry that she was caught, not that she cheated... she should have run with the guy she cheated with so at least her husband would find a loyal wife
Are those kids even his???
@@kingston163I hope for his sake that they are.
@@kingston163prolly not
Who says she wasn't a loyal wife for thirty years and gave him a family....?? She stepped out on him before the marriage, not after, she didn't break any of her marriage vows.
@@jb-xc4oh you are talking like a simp
For her it was 30 years ago. For him it was a few days ago. I don't understand why she doesn't get that.
This woman doesn't realize while it was 29 years for her for him it's like it just happened because he just found out about it.
Because he was fool enough to go through and read someone else's personal diary. Better to leave sleeping dogs lie.
@@jb-xc4oh spoken like a true cheater lol
@@jb-xc4oh Ignorance isn't bliss.
I love that he told her the marriage is a lie, because it is. She didn't give him the chance to leave her or stay. She's a delusional POS
Come on Jerry don't be stupid. Let her be alone because she's not sorry at all!
Also I don't believe he had a revenge affair. She's the source of that information and we know she's a LIAR
This is a little different. They weren’t married when she had the affair. It was 27 yrs ago. She was likely lonely and burning. She asked him to push up their wedding date but he didn’t. If there hasn’t been any infidelity since they got married, I say forgive and move on.
@@jaman878 Nope Nope and NOPE! She failed the wife test as soon as she cheated as the fiancee. That type of thinking is mind boggling, well you shot me 27 years ago but since you haven't done it since I forgive you smh and 🤣🤣🤣
@@UchuKejiMovan And all we have is her word that she didn't do it since so who is to say? We know we can't trust her now so...
YOU pimp HARD Bro... Lighten UP on these hoes, man.. lol This woman STILL A LOT better than 90 percent of these byches now days so if I KNEW I wanted a woman in my life (And I DON'T) I would've kept HER..
@@UchuKejiMovan you type of thinking boggles my mind.
She’s had more affairs since then. She can easily hide things without issues
She never tried to understand her husband's pain and only regrets getting caught. Regretting not burning the book but not the affair even after therapy is disgusting. Really surprised she and kids ultimately ended up thinking he took things too far by ending things. People need to understand that the discovery day is the start of the pain and betrayal and it does not matter how long ago the betrayal took place. It makes it worse as well because realizing you've been lied to every day for years can warp your sense of reality and self. Hoping Jerry doesn't entertain her pathetic attempts to reconcile she isn't remotely close to being a good candidate for that course of action.
She doesn't understand this is like now for him. That the problem.
@@tzarius78 Exactly. I might have been 30 years ago for her, but for Jerry it's brand new and the pain must have been excruciating. Even if she's telling the truth about being faithful to him their entire marriage, how can he ever truly believe her?
That woman #2 comment was completely idiotic. If anyone was stupid enough to marry her in the first place, I guarantee she's divorced. She probably typed that comment while shooing one of her cats away from the keyboard.
And you people approved of Jerry's affair with Suzy while they were still married? I think that is more idiotic.
How many times did we read that she truly regretted the affair? Yes she did, is she regretful that she was caught yes she is as well. She is not a toxic person a stupid person yes absolutely, a cheater yes absolutely. However there is soemthing fundamentally narcicstic about Jerry. I would bitch slapped him from here to kingdom come & even he admitted he was an ass to her. Their marriage bulit on a lie that is just BULLS**T, married 27+ years is no lie. Was he loved by his wife YES he was, was he happy in his marriage YES he was. Did this deserve to result in a divorce YES & NO - his so-called manly ego couldn't handle it and fair enough although it was nearly 30 years prior it might as well have been the day he found out which it was? Although she does not say it is my hope that they do get back together and the divorce and distance and moving out of small town mentality town has toned him down a bit to be forgive maybe with the hope that as mother to his children and ex--wife that the 27+ years meant something good. We will never know
@@ahmadyusof2480 Jan started it. If she didn't like the consequences of her actions she should've kept her legs closed. If and when Jerry and Suzy hooked up, it was after he and Jan were separated and it wasn't as if Jerry was sneaking around behind anyone's back. Your morals and ethics are very screwy, Ahmad, so I suspect most of 'us' people think you are a moron.
I hope OP give us a new update about how lovely it was to meet Her husband and his new GF and watching him happy with her really made her happy too😂😂😂🤣
So she thinks the fact that she remained faithful to him (that's up for debate though) for their nearly 30 years of marriage completely erases the fact that she cheated on him while they were engaged (still together) and hid it from him the whole time?
Also, how and why in the hell do cheaters not understand that it's not just cheating, but the fact that you CHOSE not to tell your partner/spouse about it that ends up being the dealbreaker?
The mindset cheaters have during these situations just astounds me.
Notice how everything regarding their marriage is coming from her, not Jerry. She's a shitty wife and most likely Jerry despises her as it is. This just reinforced what he probably thought of her character throughout their 29 year marriage. He needs to kick that b to the curb and go NC. Serves her right to pay for her life of debauchery at an older age. These women don't learn any other way.
"completely erases the fact that she cheated on him"
Yes, she absolutely does feel that.
Cheating wives blurt out that BS so often that it's a cliche. They view their infidelity as a forgivable mistake that happened years ago, not understanding that any cheating from a woman is a total deal breaker.
The fact is that her husband would never have married the lying whore if he'd found out before the wedding, hence the entire marriage is a sham.
Jerry needs to start dating girls half her age. Nothing hurts a cheating wife more than being replaced by a much younger and prettier woman.
There is no excuse to cheat, and it's unforgivable not to confess after cheating.
@caucasianafrican1435 exactly right
Here is a ROYAL BS. When a man cheats, that is, commits an affair/adultery, the woman not only wants to see the evidence but DEMANDS a confession out of the guy. Now, when it comes to a woman cheating, she WILL DO anything in her power to PUT the BLAME on the guy for not meeting her expectations. So, the point is CHEATING ALLOWANCE applies ONLY to women at their convenience.
I hate the downplaying gimmick, it simply doesn't make any sense.
"I feel Jerry has completely overreacted. The affair happened nearly 30 years ago" --> "I did him dirty multiple times and lied for nearly 30 years"
Reality: The fact it happened a long time ago makes it worse, cause every day she didn't tell him counts on top.
The fact she did not tell him, but got caught, says something about her character. She should have confessed when it happened so that he had the choice to marry her or move on. She didn't tell him about the affair. She could have had another affair, but not told him. She sounds more upset about not destroying the diary than the affair. No one wants to be cheated on or lied to. Neither men or women. If you don't like this behavior then don't do it.
Hes a fool to take her back. Doesn't matter if she's in her 40s. She will disrespect him for taking back a cheater. She'll see it as weakness and punish him for it. That's how cheaters operate.
It didn't happen 29 years ago. To him it just happened.
Because he was fool enough to go through someone else's personal diary. Looks good on him, better to let sleeping dogs lie.
@@jb-xc4oh Got it. You're an advocate of lying.
@@mljrotag6343 Not at all and that is not what I said.
The affair may have happened 29 years ago; but to him the betrayal happened on discovery day. The added complication was that if he'd known then, he wouldn't have married her and he'd probably now be with someone who deserved him. IMHO reconciliations can't happen until the betrayer has paid a sufficient price. I don't think she's there yet, and I hope while she's visiting, her ex introduces her to his new girlfriend.
“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”
It doesn't matter whether she slept with Jim during their marriage or not. Once the trust is gone, then it's gone. Jan should find the second commenter (the man-hater) and go horde cats together. She's selfish and has zero empathy for how her husband is feeling.
My guess is that he probably had signs that she had cheated years ago, and he ignored them out of love for her. The diary was something that was more direct and could not be ignored.
This woman really went from hopeful to delusional when she said she was still waiting to talk with Jerry AFTER he'd already handed her seperation papers. Like hon, he's already chosen his path, the divorce was inevitable
The fact that this secret had been hidden for so many years just quadrupled the impact of its discovery. Keeping secrets over a period of time can be extremely devastating when it comes to light.
This woman doesnt understand men at all. The greatest gift she can give to her husband was her loyalty and she threw it away because she considered Jim a superior man at the time. If she had told Jerry when it happened he wouldnt have married her, so yes their marriage was built on a big fat lie
She didnt tell him 30 years ago, because she knows he would have dumped her.
She stole his choice
SHE DARES TO SAY HE IS OVERREACTING SMH 🤦♂️
She lied for nearly 30 years. That only makes it worse.
On top of that it seems, from her words, that her biggest regret was that she got caught by keeping the evidence.
Once you find out your partner is a liar and a cheat then they become worthless to you as a partner, you not only can never trust them again they are actually less trustworthy than a complete stranger.
Right. And why be with someone who betrayed you, when most of the world hasn't.
Exactly what lie did she tell him for 30 years. Words have a specific meaning.....what lie did she tell him. She didn't tell him anything. Are there any adults in the room. I have seen things in my life ( non criminal ) that I will take to the grave because it would serve no useful purpose to reveal them. Does that make me a liar. It would seem that the husband in this story has one huge and fragile ego.
@@jb-xc4oh Are you stupid?
Firstly, lies of omission are still lies.
Secondly, any woman that cheats does not love and respect their man, period.
So for 30 years she lied in order to keep her cushy life.
@@jb-xc4oh Words do have specific meanings, and it is abundantly clear you do not know the meaning of the word lie. He didn't say she told him a lie. He said that she lied for 30 years. The problem is with your understanding of what it means to lie.
You think of lying in only one context; "to speak a falsehood". But lying is the intent to deceive - saying false things is just one way of doing so. Deception is the main thing here. And deception can be done in many forms. Evasiveness is a form of deception.
In this context, what she did is known as lying by omission. She didn't stay committed to him. She should have disclosed that information. But she kept that information hidden, and didn't disclose it. So she's omitting this information. That's deception. She's deceiving her husband to believe something about their relationship that isn't true by omitting her committing infidelity. Which is what lying by omission is.
@@EntertheFray1 You just proved my point about words. Of course there is lying by omission, deception and the like. It would have been easy to qualify the overall meaning with a better choice of words but that was not done.
Personally, I found the husbands reaction somewhat juvenile. Everybody lies or deceives at some point, to think otherwise is be naive about human nature.
This should be a stark eye-opener for any man out there a woman does not value her sexual intimacy she only values what you bring to the relationship. This is why they can cheat and not really think anything of it and not understand how cheating 25 years ago can completely destroy the entire image you have of her in your head.
Further in Jerry understood exactly what she had done to him, you go Jerry for having balls and standing up for yourself.
16:40 Overreacting? You cheated on your partner, never disclosed this to him, and misrepresented who you are at your wedding to him. He thought he was marrying a faithful partner, not a cheating harlot. YOU DENIED HIM THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE whether he wanted to spend his life with a cheater or not. This is what he meant when he said your lives were built on a lie - a lie you withheld from him for your own selfish reasons. In another culture, you would be deleted for this crime.
I'm beginning to think that culture is on to something.
Yet another woman that turned a damn good man into a beast..... I've never seen him like that. These woman are insane
So is the man.
If she never spoke to Jim again in 29 years how does she know he got married two months later? Remember this story is pre-cell phone so it's definitely pre-social media.
Apparently this needs to be explained again!
He did not cheat on her! Since she cheated first, her cheating breaks All contracts! They were never married and he didn’t cheat since her cheating completely voided any spoken or written agreements!
She kept lying for almost 30 years for not telling him of this affair. That is why it does not matter if it happened yesterday or 30 years ago. What makes this all worse is that the only thing she seems to regret is not destroying the diary. Jerry made the right thing by divorcing her.
She did not lie, what lie did she keep telling him for 30 years. Words have a specfic meaning, use them properly.
Even though the affair was 29 years ago, it's brand new to him. She says she hadn't cheated since, but his trust is gone and will always wonder if she was telling the truth. The relationship was built on a lie, because if she had fessed up right after it happened, he never would have married her. He worked hard for 30 years providing her a good life and home, while all along she knew it was a lie. Plus, I hate it when someone calls cheating a mistake!!! She made a choice!!!! A choice she continued to make multiple times over a 2 week period. She couldn't even give him the space he needed right after he found out. She kept calling and texting and going over to the house to try and talk to him. She only cared about herself.
We all know she cheated again shorty wrote down in explicit detail what she did. Keep that journal as well even move in that house hell she automatically knew he was reading that bitch as well. And now look at how she is trying act like why she doesn’t know why he change. This old bitch is evil
Jan kept the diary all those years, and did not destroy it, because it contained special memories she would one day revisit. It was a log of her life and it was precious to her. She cheated on Jerry knowing full well what the ramifications would be, and she put her head down and did it anyway. It wasn't a mistake - it was premeditated and deliberate. When the cat's away...the rats will play.
At the moment of seduction, Jan's love for Jerry was subservient to her carnal desires, so she released him, and their relationship to the fates. She loved being naughty, and enjoyed engaging in risky, forbidden sex with Jim. It made her feel sexy, desirable, and alive! She didn't say anything to Jerry because she knew she violated his trust, and broke her word, and would no longer be considered wife material. A woman of this nature probably shrugged it off saying, "What he doesn't know won't hurt him."
Jan did not leave Jim because she came to her senses, she left Jim (so she says) and embraced Jerry (once more), because her curiosity had been satisfied, and her carnal desires had been met. Apparently Jim was good enough to entertain her in bed, but he was not good enough to be her husband, provider, and breadwinner. In a word: Jerry offered her a better deal going forward and he was a man she could trust, unlike her treacherous lover.
I'm sure playing housewife would get stale before long, but it would allow Jan to cheat on Jerry whenever it tickled her fancy. She already proved that sex outside of marriage was permissible, and that getting drilled by other men was, not only acceptable, but desirable. She knew while they were engaged, that Jerry expected her to be faithful, and I'm sure she promised unfaltering faithfulness. But, since Jan had already set the precedence for breaking her promises, and had already made peace with breaking Jerry's confidence, as well as his heart - marriage wouldn't pose much of a barrier. Once a cheater...always a cheater.
The thing is he’s probably spiraling in his mind and convincing himself that wasn’t the only time because it probably wasn’t.
I would have divorced her. they were engaged. she had pledged herself to jerry and he to her. jerry's not being able to come home for two or three weekends was not the reason she spread her thighs for jim. if she did not like jim's flirting she could have put a stop to it. she used the excuse of jerry not being able to come home because of school and work to justify dating jim and then sleeping with jim for a week. for the length of their marriage jerry thought of her as being his alone, now he knows he was following in another male's plowing. there is no justification for this betrayal.
Remember, she only kept diary into her early 20s, so there's no proof of other affairs other than her word. Jerry should 23&Me their kids.
Even her own daughter questioned this!
The big problem here is the loss of trust. How can the husband believe that this was really a one time thing?
If he stays in the relationship he will always be looking for further signs of betrayal and that just creates toxic emotions that corrode any feelings of love he may still have.
"A 99-year-old Italian man is divorcing his wife of 77 years after he stumbled across letters she had written to a secret lover in the 1940s.
The damning discovery days before Christmas led the galled grandfather to confront his once two-timing wife immediately, London's Daily Telegraph reported.
The 96-year-old woman, identified in court papers as Rosa C., reportedly confessed to having an affair 60 years ago, and then tried desperately to persuade her hubby to stay."
In 2011.
Keeping keepsakes?
Now that's beyond stupid, if she really loves her husband.
She was trying to pull a Rose but he didn't want to be the cuck to her dead Jack's spirit.
The fact that she kept the diary all these years proves she still had a thing for the AP. She’s only sorry she got caught.
Why do women think that the fact that it happened a long time ago somehow makes it any less of a crime.
She had 25+ years to fess up, whether she forgot about the diary or not. Every day that she hid the affair from her husband is a day of of lies, deceit, and betrayal. It may have been almost 30 years for her. But the news of the affair is new to him. To him, the affair is recent. She missed the point entirely…it’s not about how long ago it happened. It’s about her betraying the man she married.
He's not over reacting, because if he knew about the affair before marriage, then most likely he would have broken off their engagement. His life would have been completely different.
If she did it during the engagement she surely did it during marriage.
BIG TIME!
@@brandonmatthews3722 And she wrote about it in a diary, that means it meant something to her. She settled for the guy because she couldn't get the one she wanted.
Really you thank so ??! Well if your right than to hell with she butvi would at least do a lie-detector test and if she passes the test I would choke down and try as I’m sure all those years he is so in love and all those years do count for something! I hope for real they make it it’s so easy for me to set and judge this lady I refuse to Huge her then I’ll add up all those good tears must count for something at least a lie tester and then let’s see what happens friend life has a lot of gray it’s not all black & white we all mess up so let’s be positive or at least try!!
@@lorensr.bingham5217 Physically cheating is black and white.
Yeah right, cause you were there and saw her do it.
"I can honestly say that nothing like that has ever crossed my mind and I have been completely faithful for our entire marriage." OK Prove It!! You cheat when he can't make it home for a weekend, so, what do you do when you have marital issues? I know you haven't had a 30-year relationship without a disagreement.
That she says she had no contact with this Guy in 30 yrs....in a town of 3,500?? Yeah right.
She had an Alpha male but did not realize that fact. She took his kind, loving ways as weakness and that he loved her so much that he would eventually get over the point of her cheating all those years ago. If she really paid attention to her man's approach to life, she would know that he would leave her regardless of the time frame.
Correction for the therapist: "You murdered the man you loved, he is gone forever."
She loved him so much that she cheated on him and lied to him about it for 30 years. Her type hasn't got even the slightest clue about what love is.
Shoutout to the therapist - that's a damn good way to put it.
Wow, the OP's parting message is if she could she would have burned her diary. That is the only true remorse this OP has shown, it tells us she learned nothing from her saga. She still wants to hide the truth even now.
A Text to Speech channel recently uploaded the same story. On face value, no big deal. However, the other channel added FYA's interjections as well.
FYA, thank you for being a REAL human reading these stories!
"Your honor, I murdered that person 27 years ago but since then i've been a good citizen, some may even call me a Saint. It's all in the past so I don't see a reason why I should get a life sentence"
Stepping out on your fiance has no equivalence to murder in any way shape or form....get real.
That ending was very telling. She's still more upset for being caught than for actually having the affair.
Yes, Jerry still loves you. The you that was true to him. His soul as well has been ripped away.
It does not matter if the affair was 29 years ago. To Jerry it felt like it was yesterday, the day he found out about it. And after finding out she had been lying (hiding the affair) for 29 years, he would be feeling like she could be hiding other affairs or one-night-stands. You can say it was 29 years ago and he should get over it and reconcile, but until you have it happen to you and realize how the mind recognizes it, you have no clue how bad it is.
She doesn't realize that it was 30 years for her and 1 day for him.
Shes not sorry that she cheated. Shes sorry that she got caught. Notice how she downplays and minimizes the affair? It was 30 years ago so its not as big of a deal? You know he would have been gone if he found out a day later. I really hope that he's not taking her back. I hope that he's just using her, but I wish that he just had nothing to do with her anymore
The daughter's reaction was the best, saying she was going to DNA test herself!
He was not turned into a cheater. Once his wife broke her vows, he was a free agent to do as he pleases.
If she never talked to that guy again, how did she know he got married 🤔
Cheaters always say "let me explain", that just baffles me that these people can try and gaslight someone who they supposedly love "truly". She probably felt justified with what she did since she though he was going to cheat on her while in college and took the first opportunity to do so herself. She then proceeded to make the so called mistake multiple times while he was still away. She made a choice, we all know she's not upset and remorseful about her wrongdoings (women can't accept accountability) she's only upset that she got caught and wished she'd destroyed the diary where she thought it'd be a good idea to write down her affair, probably because she was proud of it and wanted to relive it from time to time.
Infidelity is almost as evil as murder, since it destroys people and relationships. Hiding it is a conspiracy that compounds the damage.
Those that call the victim "childish" cannot or will not realize the effects of betrayal, and are also evil.
Acting up like a toddler, especially after being caught, cannot fix anything.
No trust, no relationship.
She's going to lose! He's not going to ever accept the affair!
This woman is a liar. She got away with it at that very special time when they were young, - Does any body seriously think that is the only time she cheated? I don’t.
"He's overreacting.", She doesn't realize how much he loved her. All the more reason she should be divorced.
If he overreacted, she'd be in a barrel somewhere
@@caucasianafrican1435LOL😂
@@caucasianafrican1435 I've thought like that before. Women tell men that they should get in touch with their feelings, but I doubt that they would like that.
Rather than not having an affair and maintaining the moral higound, he did right getting it out of his system as he owns her nothing anymore. By having an affair himself in retliation, he lessens the hurt that she caused.
She said “we can both heal” what do cheaters need to heal from???!!
I'm guessing female 2 is still single. Just the vibe I'm getting from her response.And finally a therapist that gets it. I bet Suzy is at Jerry's place when she gets there...:-)
Infidelity is a problem she'll never have to worry about.
Do not forget her "reasoning" for having the affair while engaged. Jim was going to be away working for two weeks. Two weeks. That's all it took for her to sleep with an engaged customer who payed her compliments. Had Jim ever worked away from home for two weeks....or more...in the 29 years of their marriage? If he had, she probably banged the stock boy at the grocery store when he told her to "have a nice day!"
She's not sorry, just sorry she got caught. She kept the journal for memories
He was the love of her life, even while they were engaged. And yet, she still slept with the other man FOUR TIMES. What the hell kind of love is that?
No matter that to her “it was 29 years ago. To her husband it was NOW. What was an old “mistake” (although it was a choice) to her is a brand new, painful wound to him..
The affair was yesterday for Jerry, not 30 years ago, like it was for OP. My guess is your marriage is over, as how does a man get over being deceived and lied to, for 30 years?
I love it "I checked on him and he said he was fine. He was just reading." LOL
The saying "old to me, new to you" takes a whole new meaning here.
A wife (or fiancé) cheating is the *ultimate* disrespect and show of a lack of loyalty.
Men will put up with a LOT- but not that.
The two things that burned that bridge between Jan and Jerry:
1. She lied to him hundreds of times a day for nearly 30 years. MORE disrespect.
2. She saved the diary- this meant she cherished the memories of cheating on him. MORE disrespect.
Jan doesn't deserve *any* of what he has to offer (that he gave for nearly 30 years). She only showed remorse for being held accountable.
I always listen to these when I’m sitting on the toilet lol
Shit for shit.
@@dereklearnslow lol literally
SITTIN' ON A TOI-LET!!!
I'm literally on the toilet right now 🤣😂
@@Star-Prime-Logic lol cheers
Bro you have the best red pill content on youtube, I wish you'd upload more but I know this is a lot of work and research on top of what you do in real life so I get it.
Thank you for the feedback and for watching the channel. I plan to upload my latest video tomorrow afternoon. Thanks again! FYA
I'm in camp 3. I believe her regrets at getting caught. I do not believe that this was the only affair she has had. She is admitting to what he has proof of. She will not admit to anything else unless there is proof. Her character is what it is. She has been playing her games for 29 years. Why would anyone believe that this is the whole truth. She will never admit to anything that he doesn't already know.
"Gerry was the love of my life".
How many times has a women said this about a man she cheated on?
Although it was like 30 years ago, it’s still a lie and betrayal. However, she was maybe 19 or 20. At that age we all have done really dumb crap and that’s not who we are now. When we find out the person we’ve loved and sacrificed for aren’t who we thought they were and the choices you’ve made m, that’s devastating. Even if the reconcile, he will never feel that same powerful love with her again. That is gone.
That was not dumb shit. She fully knew what she was doing that’s why she kept the book. That’s also why lied about it because it was about her feelings and her feelings only.
Yes most people are the same how they always been. They either toned it down because got to old or act like they changed
No woman who truly loves her man will be “ok” with him cheating on her. Her being indifferent to it tells me she isn’t in love. She settled.
She wanted the guy she had an affair with during her engagement. According to her, she has not spoken or had any contact with her affair partner. With that in mind, two people knew about the affair. Jim knew that he had slept with Jerry's wife. Her husband, in his mind, thinks or feels that the affair partner has been laughing at him for thirty years. He will never see her in the same light as a loving wife.
What this woman doesn't understand, is that the sudden information about the "affair" is new to Jerry. She doesn't have the authority to dictate how Jerry reacts to this betrayal or how long it will be for Jerry to come to terms or if ever about this revealed secret. It's natural for him to believe that their marriage was built on her lies and betrayal. She must leave him alone and hope he gets back in touch with her again to sort out the future. She knew she was going to cheat at the very beginning of the relationship for she projected her intention onto Jerry while he was working hard and sacrificing for their future. She knew what she was doing at time, she also had the chance to leave with Jim. But stayed, and now the Karma Police has come to collect and reckon the universal account. SYMPATHY FOR JERRY!
the fact that the affair was a long time ago only makes things worse. The longer it takes for you to find out about the betrayal THE MORE its going to hurt. EVerything you've built together was based on a lie, because had he known you had cheated on him, he would never have married you. You robbed him of his ability to make a rational decision and he doesnt know the person he married. AND THERES NOTHING HE CAN DO ABOUT IT, its all in the past so he cant get this time back. THiS is why you deserve NO forgiveness.
No, the husband, now the past husband is NOT overeacting at all.
He is just rightfully disposing the lie of the false wife into the Trash bin, where she belongs...
If I was Jerry, I'd have Suzy-Q come down ahead of time and be there when good ol' Jannie-honey arrives for the visit ! Then let her feel like the third wheel whenever they went out or did something ! Iffen she's axually staying with'um, she could sleep on the lawn chair on the patio while Suzy-Q sleeps with him, inside ! (Oh, you've decided not to stay w/Suzy & I ? Okay, baah !) Oh, AND STAY UP NORTH, so you're close to Jimmie !