Before I married my first wife, she was a nymphomaniac. After we married, the nympho left & only the maniac remained. Take heed brothers & tread carefully.
To her, she had undergone everything before she decided to slow down and got married. She should be doing that with her husband, not when she was single.
Guys, you don’t need to let your wife give you a bunch of excuses and gaslight you. Denied her closure. Never meet with them, ghost them. Never go against the advice of an attorney. All the people in the comments suggesting reconciliation I guarantee you these people are cheaters.
She probably never planned on cheating on her husband, but she was tempted, figured she would never get caught and went with it. She probably had a girlfriend who encouraged her to “live a little”. She FAFO.
Safety / security net. Which honestly if you see em as that then you already disrespected them a lot. They should be that but not only that they should be much more to you and YOU TO THEM.
I love how these cheaters try to negotiate. "You can have an open relationship for just you." I can divorce you and be with anyone I want. "I'll remain faithful and wait for you." You couldn't be faithful even before we divorced.
What I don't understand is why do guys get married anyway! I mean unless they were virgins, there's truly no reason nor benefit to doing so. Furthermore, yes it's fine and intelligent to go through with the divorce but I think it is fine to continue the physical intimacy with her as well because at this point he has paid half his livelihood to her so might as well get your money worth especially considering there's no longer any commitment involved. Nonetheless, faithful unbroken women rarely exists these days so he will have to Pay for play regardless or go monk mode or secretly share with unknown tools. At least now he has already paid a large deposit for intimacy with someone he already knows and at this point she is down for whatever just to make amends😂😂😂
The reason is, was said by FYA: This is possible since the whole affair was only about getting the attion and validation and have the tingle to do the forbidden. It was never a "love" affair. It was never ment to be more as just a regulare hook ups. No deeper connection to the AP. The AP is some what exchangable. It is comparable to a man visiting a professional.
@@DontBe_Cruel All true. Notice that there are tons of stories now of couples never getting married, but all the benefits from it just being unofficial? At this point, the marriage itself is just letting the State get involved in your relationship, which seems insane to me. It's 'expected' by society but why? You can even give them a ring, do the whole ceremony, etc, just not actually get legally married, don't combine assets or make joint accounts of any sort. That way if something happens there's no issue.
Though I realize things were different in the olden days, when cheating wasn't grounds for divorce for a variety of reasons. But asking a MAN to overlook having seen VIDEO of his wife being gored by another bull is beyond the pale.
And he didn't make her show proof that she was attending sessions prior to his discovery as she claimed..... The sessions were most likely a coverup and only started when she knew the jig was up
One thing I really hate is when these cheaters suggest couple's counseling. Why the HELL should the betrayed husband go to counseling? The only thing that will happen is that he'll get gaslit into accepting responsibility for cheating wife's choices and decisions.
True. BUT, if forced or think it will help, the aggrieved party picks. Not the problem person. Not sure who picked this one, but he got tag teamed. Don't let the trouble maker pick.
Its always so annoying when people criticize betrayed spouses for giving up X years of good marriage. Wouldn't the person who gave up on the marriage be the one who stepped out of it for sex?
I'm 100% sure the reason why she immediately told everyone she cheated is because he has videos and pics. So she moved fast and told everyone the soft diluted version and everyone bought it. I would send a pic to every person that tells me that she made a mistake and I should forgive her 🤣
As a man, my advice would always be to dump a cheating woman, especially your WIFE. She allowed another man to experience ecstasy from entering her body, that’s the ultimate disrespect to the husband and breach of trust to the marriage. BUT, in addition, once those mind movies are stamped into the husband’s memory, he’s witnessed her allowing another man to enjoy her body behind his back, he will LITERALLY never see her the same. IT’S OVER 🤦♂️
SHE gave him son and her life and 25 LOYAL years-WHY?? doesn't that Count or Matter???//!!!!! This guy is an Idiot and Loser and pathetic Gry-Baby. He is Hateful and Vengeful...what good does this do???? He should take her back and forgive and love her to Death. NO Trust in her is TOTAL BULLSHIT. She will never cheat again and he damn well knows this. THAT 1 hour HORROR Meeting was beyond HATEFUL-it was CONTEMPT and an ATTACK on a Wife and Friend. You Communicate and Listen and have an open Heart and Mind. You stay up all night if need be!! I don't believe this story is TRUE!!!! He has sex with her after the Divorce...What an EVIL SCUMBAG
That's why I say counseling is a scam. 77.6% of therapists are FEMALE. Think about that for a second. Most of them came up in the feminist dogma so they have the same stupid views as all of the other women of their ilk. A woman can't be at fault, it's always the patriarchy, blah blah blah. I also despise these activist judges that think talking to a disinterested (but biased) third party is going to change things. No amount of talk is going to erase the memory of VIDEO EVIDENCE of her getting smashed by another dude. Just a few reasons why marriage in the West is just not worth it. Look at OP's situation. SHE cheated but somehow she gets half his shit? WHY? What did she do to earn 50% of his assets, aside from f'in another guy?
Its always a SIMP! Then you ask why women cheat. Takes her out to dinner after divorce. LOL! He prolly wouldnt get any other woman so he accepts physical relationship with a cheating hoe. In my Opinion...he deserved it!!!
Regarding the comment by Female Response #2: the OP's wife double crossed him. There may have been a 0.0000001% chance of reconciliation if she'd come home from the meeting and immediately confessed to him that she had a short-term compulsion for some strange sausage, but as it was she kept the kid's contact information to herself and divulged nothing for those 2+ years, and 4 more series of encounters. So she gets -0- breaks at all. She doesn't (as always) regret doing it, she only regrets getting caught doing it.
Operation Mindcrime....all part of the programming, thats what i think of when i hear that. They cant tie you to a post to keep you on the farm and make you paranoid of escape, not in the literal sense. So they try to wear you down with therapists and counselors like they attempted with this guy- to try to get inside his head and make him feel bad for not wanting to rectify the situation on HER and THEIR terms.
As maddening and disgusting as this whole story is -- the judge ordering 60 days has me just as upset. It's like that effing judge telling a gr@pe victim to "just get over it". What a POS. And the therapist blaming the victim ... holy F, blood is boiling now. You should have screamed that a hole into oblivion, reported her and then got a new therapist. edit: got to the end: There is a 0.00% chance she will "stay monogamous while waiting for him, or never cheat again."
You will hereby be subjected to 60 days of femini5t propaganda re-education. A lot of judges are just j@ack@sses in a robe. The irony is that the therapist probably made it worse by making excuses for the cheater instead of encouraging her to take full responsibility.
Therapists and especially marriage counselors will ALWAYS tell the cheated on husband that 'you too have some things to work out of this is going to work' because they want you to keep coming back. EVEN IF they are pointing out your traitorous spouse's infidelity and other issues, the fact that they will also immediately gaslight you, the betrayed, into thinking that it was somehow your fault too? No, no marriage counseling, run for the hills. 50% of your assets and losing the house is better than 50 years of suffering and not knowing if every single time she leaves the house, is she cheating again? Every time you're stuck at work for that extra long 10 hour shift, is she getting piped in your marriage bed? Not worth it. Anyone who disagrees is lying to themselves, or a woman who wants to have their cake and eat it too.
I wonder what the time frame was between: her ending the relationship, her going to therapy and her finding out that the bartenders' ex found the old phone. (You know the bartender called her to tell her that his girlfriend found out). My hunch is she only started therapy as a "cover story" if and when the exgf called her husband. Did the husband ever confirm that she was in counseling? How did she pay for it? With HIPPA laws, a medical office can't tell you anything unless you are listed by the patient in the HIPPA paperwork. Here's how I bet the timeframe went: 1. GF of bartender finds the old phone with pictures. Breaks up with bartender. Is now Exgf 2. Bartender immediately calls cheating wife. CW figures the gig is up and immediately breaks up with bartender. (aww...poor guy) 3. CW waits days, weeks and then months for the hammer to drop, but it doesn't. 4. During this time, CW comes up with the idea about being a sex addict. Maybe even goes to therapy after researching the symptoms of being a SA. 5. She plans out a "what if" scenario if the husband ever finds out--hence her quick reaction to go talk to both sets of parents. 6. I bet she thought she was in the clear after so many months passing by without contact. I bet if the husband thought about it, he would remember her acting strangely nervous for a few weeks or months in the past year.
I am dubious about whether women can really have sex addiction. Unless it's something like heroin (chasing the feeling of that first hit) and is actually a biological addiction (not just a mental one), I'm not buying it. Seems way too convenient for a woman to be a harlot and use it as an excuse. But I agree with you. This was all damage control. She had a plan of action in place for when the other shoe dropped.
Well, it could be possible. Her high sex drive isn´t an addiction, but she wants it, as often as possible. Such things exist. But you, as a person ALLWAYS have the power to choose. Either to be an a$$hole/w$ore, or to stay loyal. She could have bought sex toys - in her hotel room for hours having fun with her own. Zero problems. But she didn´t do that, because her lies are just that. Lies to herself "oh i am sex addicted, i had no choice, i am INNOCENT". Nope, no woman is innocent. NEVER. They are guilty like hell. They cheat - they are worthless shit. Or switch it - woman are worthless shit, so they cheat all the time. And we know, that w§ore cheated on him in every other moment she was away from him, too.
Bingo. Its why his well-laid plans fell apart. CW was just waiting and was prepared. "Sex addict" at age 47, ROFLMAO. Probably the first known case in human history, as everyone knows when menopause hits, its "men on pause".
I highly doubt this was her only affair. I’m even willing to bet she had multiple affairs going on simultaneously everytime she was In NYC. Especially if the sex addict bit is legit
Yep if I was that guy and she was using the sex addiction excuse I would say so then just how many men has she fucked in new York as if she's an sex addict then it wouldnt have been isolated to just one.
"Wife" is a title of honor. Since Maddie behaved dishonorably, she no longer deserved the title. Op simply took back her title and downgraded her position to concubine. Nothing wrong with that.
This isn’t her first time cheating, she has needed attention and validation all her life. She was too much of a cheating pro for it to be the first time . She doesn’t want to lose her stability, home etc plus sleeping around won’t be exciting. She probably won’t find another relationship just hookups. I see a cat in her future
The not exciting most likely. There's no danger involved. So no fun. If the OP thinks she's still hot as pluck, others will also, regardless of age. But, that's no fun, because no one cares if she gets caught.
If a woman cheats on you, but kept it hidden with 💯 intent to remain in the relationship..she cheated 💯 for attention and validation. Leave no matter what tho
I watch a lot of these vids and I’ve NEVER seen any guy regret divorcing their wives. However I have seen regrets from guys who gave their cheating spouses another chance.
This wasn't an isolated instance of cheating. She had been making those trips for work for a LONG time and she continued those trips after the known affair. The second point I have is that the guy obviously has self esteem issues. If he thinks being able to go blow off steam with his slag of an ex wife is a win he must not think he can do better.
While I would use an ex wife as a ol pump and dump, I wouldn't consider it a win, I'd just consider it getting mine with a common for the streets whore.
That's my biggest issue. There's no way that at 47-49 this is the first time she's done it. ESPECIALLY if she supposedly has a "sex addiction". No way.
A woman with "S" addiction is a repeated ticking time bomb. It's never ending addiction to attention hardwired. Did she ever mention her therapy? Or the affair before caught? Nope.
11:30 "she has taken full responsibility for her actions and has confessed to everybody" No she hasn't, if that were the case, she would have confessed long ago to you. She is jumping the gun as she knows all friends and family will soon know and she is trying to get her spin on the story.
Couple councelling in this case is like make a abuse victim stand one hour every week in company of the perpetrator. I never saw a victim of domestic violence having to stand that BS when they try divorce
female response 2 : imagine thinking a cheat DESERVES as chance to explain opening for strange. this messed up world is the one we created and you ruined, remember inderpendents while we munch on our popcorn.
Always keep in mind that when a cheater says that "it meant nothing," what is really being admitted is that the cheater threw the entire relationship away for nothing.
“My husband always made me feel beautiful, but I didn’t feel attractive.” So basically your husbands opinion holds less weight than a random bartender?
She was 48. Wrinkles, cellulite, liver spots, saggy waggies. And he was sleeping with that same woman for 25 years. Congratulations Sir, breathe the sweet air of freedom once sgain.
So Maddie exposes the husband to gosh only knows what kinds of STDs as well as destroying the trust in her marriage. Then excuses her behavior and does not tell the OP because she might lose him. To engage in this behavior is one of the worst ways to disrespect your husband and the father of your kid. Listening to this story makes me want to throw up!
That's if the kid is even his. If she really does have a sex addiction then there is a damn good chance she has had numerous APs and the son might not even be his.
After all of that, she still cheats lol...Can't win with these 403's...Stay single my friends 🤘 Those female responses from the story comments are too comical 😂😂
Of course they are. Accountability is like kryptonite to females and to cheaters in general. If the OP isn't a doormat and forgives the cheater, then the female commenters get mad and blame him. It's quite common.
@@Milner62you and me both, because I'm a avid reddit browser as well as other sites and have never seen these stories...Kinda sus tbh, but who knows 🤷
I don't know how he could get physical with her again. If that happened to me I wouldn't want to touch her again; repulsed by her having sex with another man....
Addiction is a BS excuse. All addiction can be resisted. Funny how part of her "recovery" was not to admit to him what she did but only after she got caught did she admit anything.
It is a known fact that the adulterous wife failed to conceal her cheating with her "boy toy" from NYC. What was not mentioned was that she may have been able to hide another hook up with a different adultery partner while pleading for mercy and forgiveness. At that point, if I were the hubby, I would have considered hiring a private investigator among other things.
I hate when people don't listen to their lawyers. Why even hire them if you are going against their expertise? He is a fool. Hope he catches something from his cheating ex.
Ok, that was crazy. My ex cheated on me for a year before i found out. Once, i found out I couldn't be in the same room with her, much less get physical. The very idea made my stomach hurt. The woman i loved , supported, protected, nursed when she was sick decided to have another man between her legs. Love making is the most intimate experience two people can share. A man enters a womans body and leaves his seed inside her. There's nothing causal or " it didn't mean anything" about that. She means our marriage didn't mean anything. I didn't mean anything. Its the ultimate physical and emotional betrayal. Its over, done, Im out. I've only spoken to me ex a few times in decades.
It is hard to see how counseling could have helped this marriage. All the counseling sessions were a big waste of time. I have a friend who took back his wife after she cheated on him. It lasts only four more months because each day they return together, he starts to hate her to the point that he could not have a physical relationship with her anyone. He realizes that listening to family and friends about giving her another chance was not a wise decision. He should have just divorced.
Within six months of taking back a cheater, she’s going to start disrespecting you. Why? Because she cheated and got away with it and you took her back. I guarantee you within two years she would be cheating with somebody else.
@@dlewis9760 I agree with you! However, some men can accept a cheater back, and others cannot, no matter what happens in the relationship. But again, you do have a great point about the counselor aspect.
@@MichaelEllisYT The penalty for ALL sin is death. Still want to throw your stones? You will be judged by the same accordance you give others... If you don't forgive, you should not expect to be forgiven. Simple as. And no, this is not a plea to just move on, and forget about it as if it never happened. But you can't draw blessings and curses from the same well... Don't use the Laws that Moses set down as an excuse to justify your own murderous heart.
It reminds of the foreign woman who had the good idea to restore her co-worker's manhood by sleeping with him and tried to get permission from her husband who of course told her he wouldn't but she was a grown woman who could make her own choices. Besides her delusion about her "great idea", she thought as long as they used latex, it was alright.
ive never spoke to single man yet that regretted leaving a cheating wife. but i have spoke to several who regretted NOT getting divorced or divorced sooner
Not sure how he was supposed to say vigilant about this one. Unless, with absolutely no bad vibes going on, when she hits the road, he has to hire a PI to take the same flight? That's mighty expensive.
Betrayers insist that even though the trust has been pulverized, the relationship can be saved and they can be ‘stronger’! Hahahahahaha This OP will be pulled back into her world because he’s a simp for continuing contact.
This is the one reason why I never want to get married again. I don't want to be somebody's jailer! I don't want to be somebody's security guard! I don't want to have to look over people's shoulders constantly. You don't have to look over mine why do I have to look over yours. It's just not worth the hassle.
This isn't a tough one she's still the bad guy here. The moment she realized smit was wrong and ended things she should have checked herself into therapy and told her husband, and requested that he at least wait for her to finish therapy. Not telling him what she did and also using the addiction is a sign of gaslighting and manipulation, whatever points she gained from ending and therapy, is negated by the lack of info
60 days of forced "counselling'? That is just to wear the man down and take her back. Stay strong, brothers, and keep the goal bright in mind: freedom from the street walking garden tool.
Her claiming to have an S disorder is even more reason to divorce. It means she could act on it at any time. Obviously that claim is just manipulation. Just saying it is the absolute worst excuse you could come up with. Everyone saying she should get credit for getting help. Is overlooking the fact she never let her husband know. Just excuses. It is ridiculous that judges can force someone into couseling were the victim is treated as the abuser. This guy needs to go no contact with his ex. He is messing up massively.
You should divorce her. Just remember that every time that she is out of your sight. You would be wondering is she where she say she is. You do not want to play detective in your marriage.
"Never underestimate the ability of a woman to rationalize her bad behavior avoiding all accountability." All words in this statement are true and the female responses proves it. They don't care she cheated, disrespected her husband, inflicted severe pain, a pain he will carry out for his rest of his life. They never adress that. No they only care about the women who is now suffering the consequences of her actions. Do they not get his anger is justified and he deserves to do what he wants? If it's a man "oh you have anger issues" "you could have been better or done better" But if it was a woman telling the story " He put you thought this, he deserves it" "never look back" that's why I usually never take advice from women. They will always justify, support and even encourage this terrible behavior women do. Even if it's bad. Seriously they need help.
OP is making a huge mistake.. people don't understand that even when a divorce is handed down, both sides can continue raising objections/petitions with the judge. Maddie could use their being intimate literally the day they got divorced as ammunition to force continued counseling. Yes, a divorce settlement can be thrown out just like any other judgment handed down by a court.
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist They can and have nullified divorce decrees before...happens all the time due to various reasons. The same way annulments are given, divorces can be axed too. Most of the time it's due to financial reasons and new discovery.
@@GSP-76 very true. My waiting period for appeal was 6 months. She definitely could have filed an appeal and forced the whole thing to start over and more counseling.
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist Who are you getting this false information from? Seriously! A person can get released from DEATH ROW. You think a divorce is untouchable? It's fairly commonplace for an ex-wife to run into court to have alimony adjusted when her ex-husband starts making more money. it's commonplace for a wife to run into court to get assets recalculated when it turns out the ex-husband had an asset that wasn't eligible for division at the time of the divorce but "matured" post-divorce. They argue that the asset was acquired during the marriage (even if it wasn't) but loopholes exempted it from being divided. I don't know what it is you're smoking to think that divorce decrees are final but I wish you'd share. I want to believe the system is "fair" too (but I know better).
I call bullsh*t. That's not how sexual compulsive d/o works. It's like any other addiction, it's used to make themselves feel better then the high wears off, then they start feeling bad about themselves again, then they go to seek out more sex. It's not a compulsive drive for sex, it's just a different type of d.o.c. like alcohol or meth or coke. It's more tied to personal insecurities than other addictions but at its core it's not really different it's just using sex to numb their pain. So I highly doubt she's in therapy at all for it or she would know that. Not to mention a therapist would insist on bringing a spouse/so into a session to confess. None of that was done, it's pure bs she's slanging.
10:52 Ahh screw his parents!! They think it’s ok she’s running around to his own family before him telling them and confessing to his parents but not to him… She not taking responsibility, she’s jumping in front of it before he does. Prove she’s in therapy and then talk to this charlatan “therapist” and threaten to sue and have their licensee revoked.
Every single person who tries to justify cheating or suggest forgiveness for cheating is a cheater. It’s hard to find out that both of your parents cheated on each other, but that doesn’t mean that you need to follow their lead.
Why do these cheaters always try to suggest the one-sided open relationship as the cure for their own infidelities? If he had wanted to cheat on her he would have already. It will never erase the images of her clapping cheeks with a "boy toy".
Well there’s a shocker for us the female commenters defending the cheating wife and trying to shift the blame to the victim husband ! Misandry at its finest .
Geez! The f’d up logic she used. Claiming she was loyal because she loved only him, never denied him and only cheated when she was out of town, her and her AP never kissed and he always used condoms. Like that would actually make it okay. 🙄 Mind Blowing!
Here the thing about forgiveness it's never on the betrayer side to work it out but the betrayed to do the healing because they are the ones that got hurt. It doesn't matter what steps the beytrayer takes to become a better person, they aren't the ones in pain. So OP ex-wife saying she going to therapy means nothing because she not the one that got cheated on.
As for "rushing things", unfortunately, some things take time. That's frustrating, but it's not always a bad thing. Time gives you perspective, not necessarily to change your mind, but to cool down. Carrying anger and hatred is exhausting and bad for you physically and mentally. You gotta find a way to release that shit.
If the therapist browbeats you, watch the video of the cheating during the session. Ask your wife how much she loved you in certain scenes while f'ing boy toy. Get some feedback from the therapist on boy toy's s3x technique. If the therapist does it again, show her a picture. Again? Another picture.
I beg to differ, time does not heal all wounds. They may lessen, but they never disappear or heal completely, one thought, one misspoken word, and they come rushing back, sometimes to the point you feel sick to your stomach. It’s best to end things and move on.
Before I married my first wife, she was a nymphomaniac. After we married, the nympho left & only the maniac remained. Take heed brothers & tread carefully.
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To her, she had undergone everything before she decided to slow down and got married.
She should be doing that with her husband, not when she was single.
Guys, you don’t need to let your wife give you a bunch of excuses and gaslight you. Denied her closure. Never meet with them, ghost them. Never go against the advice of an attorney.
All the people in the comments suggesting reconciliation I guarantee you these people are cheaters.
Either cheaters or weak people who took their wayward spouse back.
@@SergioKoolhaas Cheaters and/or simps.
They are cheaters or they tolerate cheating and have tolerated it in the past. Females and Simps are usually the culprits.
Yes! I said the same thing. Why in the hell would you go against the advice of your attorney???
Yep he did everything right up until he meet with his STBX wife to 'Hear her out' against his lawyers advice. I fully agree with you on this
I wonder why do people even bother with relationships if you plan to stab someone you "love" in the back? People are such vilt.
Good question.That's why I 've been gone single.
She probably never planned on cheating on her husband, but she was tempted, figured she would never get caught and went with it. She probably had a girlfriend who encouraged her to “live a little”. She FAFO.
Cause wives get cash and prizes on way out, even if they're the one cheating in most jurisdictions.
Selfish
Safety / security net.
Which honestly if you see em as that then you already disrespected them a lot. They should be that but not only that they should be much more to you and YOU TO THEM.
I love how these cheaters try to negotiate. "You can have an open relationship for just you." I can divorce you and be with anyone I want. "I'll remain faithful and wait for you." You couldn't be faithful even before we divorced.
Yes all paragraphs from the official cheaters handbook.
What I don't understand is why do guys get married anyway! I mean unless they were virgins, there's truly no reason nor benefit to doing so. Furthermore, yes it's fine and intelligent to go through with the divorce but I think it is fine to continue the physical intimacy with her as well because at this point he has paid half his livelihood to her so might as well get your money worth especially considering there's no longer any commitment involved. Nonetheless, faithful unbroken women rarely exists these days so he will have to Pay for play regardless or go monk mode or secretly share with unknown tools. At least now he has already paid a large deposit for intimacy with someone he already knows and at this point she is down for whatever just to make amends😂😂😂
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The reason is, was said by FYA: This is possible since the whole affair was only about getting the attion and validation and have the tingle to do the forbidden. It was never a "love" affair. It was never ment to be more as just a regulare hook ups. No deeper connection to the AP. The AP is some what exchangable. It is comparable to a man visiting a professional.
@@DontBe_Cruel All true. Notice that there are tons of stories now of couples never getting married, but all the benefits from it just being unofficial? At this point, the marriage itself is just letting the State get involved in your relationship, which seems insane to me. It's 'expected' by society but why? You can even give them a ring, do the whole ceremony, etc, just not actually get legally married, don't combine assets or make joint accounts of any sort. That way if something happens there's no issue.
As a woman I totally agree with OP. The parents and in laws are selfish thinking about themselves not the feelings OP. It's only the son who is wise.
Though I realize things were different in the olden days, when cheating wasn't grounds for divorce for a variety of reasons. But asking a MAN to overlook having seen VIDEO of his wife being gored by another bull is beyond the pale.
Maybe the parents had affairs
Am I the only one who noticed that she never confessed yet everyone is giving her credit for being in therapy??
nope I thought the story was fake because no one brought that up in the story. seems pretty obvious tbh
And he didn't make her show proof that she was attending sessions prior to his discovery as she claimed..... The sessions were most likely a coverup and only started when she knew the jig was up
she never would have confessed had he not caught her.
Yep. And the bartender ended the relationship but she is claiming she ended the affair....after TWO YEARS
She'll stay monogamous hahaha 😂
One thing I really hate is when these cheaters suggest couple's counseling.
Why the HELL should the betrayed husband go to counseling? The only thing that will happen is that he'll get gaslit into accepting responsibility for cheating wife's choices and decisions.
True. BUT, if forced or think it will help, the aggrieved party picks. Not the problem person. Not sure who picked this one, but he got tag teamed. Don't let the trouble maker pick.
75% of all marriage counselors are women.
Gee, I wonder who they are going to side with nearly 100% of the time...
@@dlewis9760It was the judge's decision.
Its always so annoying when people criticize betrayed spouses for giving up X years of good marriage. Wouldn't the person who gave up on the marriage be the one who stepped out of it for sex?
Exactly..it makes one want to pull there hair out. I often think, Why didn't the cheating spouse consider that when they cheated?
Negative people support negative things….
I'm 100% sure the reason why she immediately told everyone she cheated is because he has videos and pics. So she moved fast and told everyone the soft diluted version and everyone bought it. I would send a pic to every person that tells me that she made a mistake and I should forgive her 🤣
As a man, my advice would always be to dump a cheating woman, especially your WIFE. She allowed another man to experience ecstasy from entering her body, that’s the ultimate disrespect to the husband and breach of trust to the marriage.
BUT, in addition, once those mind movies are stamped into the husband’s memory, he’s witnessed her allowing another man to enjoy her body behind his back, he will LITERALLY never see her the same.
IT’S OVER 🤦♂️
Women don't have any respect for their bodies these day's anyway, that's why they can't keep their panties on with other men.
Period.
SHE gave him son and her life and 25 LOYAL years-WHY?? doesn't that Count or Matter???//!!!!! This guy is an Idiot and Loser and pathetic Gry-Baby. He is Hateful and Vengeful...what good does this do???? He should take her back and forgive and love her to Death. NO Trust in her is TOTAL BULLSHIT. She will never cheat again and he damn well knows this. THAT 1 hour HORROR Meeting was beyond HATEFUL-it was CONTEMPT and an ATTACK on a Wife and Friend. You Communicate and Listen and have an open Heart and Mind. You stay up all night if need be!! I don't believe this story is TRUE!!!! He has sex with her after the Divorce...What an EVIL SCUMBAG
Now it's his turn to use the condoms.
@@johnbradbury8610 i see what you mean, but at the same time, he's not cheating and ex wife is willing and is fully aware he will not stay with her.
There's always a female response that boils my blood than the actual cheater... Like how can you blame the guy for getting cheated on 😂😂
They are Feminist. 😂
Acting strong and independent but afraid of Accountability. 😂😂
That's why I say counseling is a scam. 77.6% of therapists are FEMALE. Think about that for a second. Most of them came up in the feminist dogma so they have the same stupid views as all of the other women of their ilk. A woman can't be at fault, it's always the patriarchy, blah blah blah. I also despise these activist judges that think talking to a disinterested (but biased) third party is going to change things. No amount of talk is going to erase the memory of VIDEO EVIDENCE of her getting smashed by another dude. Just a few reasons why marriage in the West is just not worth it. Look at OP's situation. SHE cheated but somehow she gets half his shit? WHY? What did she do to earn 50% of his assets, aside from f'in another guy?
only cheaters defend cheaters
As the saying goes "if a man cheats it's his fault, if woman cheats it's his fault ".
What do you expect from something as sly as a cat?
The audicaity for women to expect men to forgive them when they cheat. It's ludicrous.
Its always a SIMP! Then you ask why women cheat.
Takes her out to dinner after divorce. LOL! He prolly wouldnt get any other woman so he accepts physical relationship with a cheating hoe.
In my Opinion...he deserved it!!!
That's the right thing to do.Adultery is like any crime.Confronting a criminal is a waste of time.
In the Old Testament under Jewish law adultery was a capital crime.
Regarding the comment by Female Response #2: the OP's wife double crossed him. There may have been a 0.0000001% chance of reconciliation if she'd come home from the meeting and immediately confessed to him that she had a short-term compulsion for some strange sausage, but as it was she kept the kid's contact information to herself and divulged nothing for those 2+ years, and 4 more series of encounters. So she gets -0- breaks at all. She doesn't (as always) regret doing it, she only regrets getting caught doing it.
Yeah, my bet FR2 road the baloney pony and is trying to justify it.
Notice how she gaslights with “angry” the most cliched accusation to ANY man with standards. She definitely rode the C Carousel
It's sad that you dont even have the right to leave a marriage without a judge making you do what they feel like
Operation Mindcrime....all part of the programming, thats what i think of when i hear that. They cant tie you to a post to keep you on the farm and make you paranoid of escape, not in the literal sense. So they try to wear you down with therapists and counselors like they attempted with this guy- to try to get inside his head and make him feel bad for not wanting to rectify the situation on HER and THEIR terms.
As maddening and disgusting as this whole story is -- the judge ordering 60 days has me just as upset. It's like that effing judge telling a gr@pe victim to "just get over it". What a POS. And the therapist blaming the victim ... holy F, blood is boiling now. You should have screamed that a hole into oblivion, reported her and then got a new therapist. edit: got to the end: There is a 0.00% chance she will "stay monogamous while waiting for him, or never cheat again."
This! 100%
You will hereby be subjected to 60 days of femini5t propaganda re-education. A lot of judges are just j@ack@sses in a robe. The irony is that the therapist probably made it worse by making excuses for the cheater instead of encouraging her to take full responsibility.
Yeah, the judge and the therapist are BOTH CRIMINALS.
Therapists and especially marriage counselors will ALWAYS tell the cheated on husband that 'you too have some things to work out of this is going to work' because they want you to keep coming back. EVEN IF they are pointing out your traitorous spouse's infidelity and other issues, the fact that they will also immediately gaslight you, the betrayed, into thinking that it was somehow your fault too?
No, no marriage counseling, run for the hills. 50% of your assets and losing the house is better than 50 years of suffering and not knowing if every single time she leaves the house, is she cheating again? Every time you're stuck at work for that extra long 10 hour shift, is she getting piped in your marriage bed? Not worth it. Anyone who disagrees is lying to themselves, or a woman who wants to have their cake and eat it too.
I wonder what the time frame was between: her ending the relationship, her going to therapy and her finding out that the bartenders' ex found the old phone. (You know the bartender called her to tell her that his girlfriend found out). My hunch is she only started therapy as a "cover story" if and when the exgf called her husband. Did the husband ever confirm that she was in counseling? How did she pay for it? With HIPPA laws, a medical office can't tell you anything unless you are listed by the patient in the HIPPA paperwork. Here's how I bet the timeframe went:
1. GF of bartender finds the old phone with pictures. Breaks up with bartender. Is now Exgf
2. Bartender immediately calls cheating wife. CW figures the gig is up and immediately breaks up with bartender. (aww...poor guy)
3. CW waits days, weeks and then months for the hammer to drop, but it doesn't.
4. During this time, CW comes up with the idea about being a sex addict. Maybe even goes to therapy after researching the symptoms of being a SA.
5. She plans out a "what if" scenario if the husband ever finds out--hence her quick reaction to go talk to both sets of parents.
6. I bet she thought she was in the clear after so many months passing by without contact.
I bet if the husband thought about it, he would remember her acting strangely nervous for a few weeks or months in the past year.
I am dubious about whether women can really have sex addiction. Unless it's something like heroin (chasing the feeling of that first hit) and is actually a biological addiction (not just a mental one), I'm not buying it. Seems way too convenient for a woman to be a harlot and use it as an excuse. But I agree with you. This was all damage control. She had a plan of action in place for when the other shoe dropped.
Well, it could be possible. Her high sex drive isn´t an addiction, but she wants it, as often as possible. Such things exist.
But you, as a person ALLWAYS have the power to choose. Either to be an a$$hole/w$ore, or to stay loyal. She could have bought sex toys - in her hotel room for hours having fun with her own. Zero problems.
But she didn´t do that, because her lies are just that. Lies to herself "oh i am sex addicted, i had no choice, i am INNOCENT".
Nope, no woman is innocent. NEVER.
They are guilty like hell. They cheat - they are worthless shit. Or switch it - woman are worthless shit, so they cheat all the time.
And we know, that w§ore cheated on him in every other moment she was away from him, too.
@@steffenjonda8283true that bro. F these 304s
Bingo. Its why his well-laid plans fell apart. CW was just waiting and was prepared. "Sex addict" at age 47, ROFLMAO. Probably the first known case in human history, as everyone knows when menopause hits, its "men on pause".
I highly doubt this was her only affair. I’m even willing to bet she had multiple affairs going on simultaneously everytime she was In NYC. Especially if the sex addict bit is legit
Yep if I was that guy and she was using the sex addiction excuse I would say so then just how many men has she fucked in new York as if she's an sex addict then it wouldnt have been isolated to just one.
Who knows? Certainly her husband doesn't, and that is the point!
Most likely. That bartender was 1 of many
"Wife" is a title of honor. Since Maddie behaved dishonorably, she no longer deserved the title. Op simply took back her title and downgraded her position to concubine. Nothing wrong with that.
FACTS
I agree 👍💯
I too agree, you mess up you get a permanent demotion and lose every perk of what you once had
This isn’t her first time cheating, she has needed attention and validation all her life. She was too much of a cheating pro for it to be the first time . She doesn’t want to lose her stability, home etc plus sleeping around won’t be exciting. She probably won’t find another relationship just hookups. I see a cat in her future
The not exciting most likely. There's no danger involved. So no fun. If the OP thinks she's still hot as pluck, others will also, regardless of age. But, that's no fun, because no one cares if she gets caught.
If a woman cheats on you, but kept it hidden with 💯 intent to remain in the relationship..she cheated 💯 for attention and validation. Leave no matter what tho
I watch a lot of these vids and I’ve NEVER seen any guy regret divorcing their wives. However I have seen regrets from guys who gave their cheating spouses another chance.
This wasn't an isolated instance of cheating. She had been making those trips for work for a LONG time and she continued those trips after the known affair. The second point I have is that the guy obviously has self esteem issues. If he thinks being able to go blow off steam with his slag of an ex wife is a win he must not think he can do better.
While I would use an ex wife as a ol pump and dump, I wouldn't consider it a win, I'd just consider it getting mine with a common for the streets whore.
That's my biggest issue. There's no way that at 47-49 this is the first time she's done it. ESPECIALLY if she supposedly has a "sex addiction". No way.
"Sex addict", yet only banged this one guy. ROFL. And "sex addict" post-menopause?!? Who the f'' can honestly believe this pseudo science quack?
I can’t believe the judge has the power to force a man to sit in the same room as the 304 who literally cheated on him
I'd tell the Judge Fuxh off as I'm not doing it...
A woman with "S" addiction is a repeated ticking time bomb. It's never ending addiction to attention hardwired. Did she ever mention her therapy? Or the affair before caught? Nope.
He should’ve made a public display of DNA testing their son
The moral to this is never marry someone who travels for work and has a high libido. The cat plays while away from the mice
Credit for confession? 😂😂. She only confessed before op confesses to face less heat.
She couldn't be loyal when they were married what makes him believe she will be faithful while he's dating 😂
11:30 "she has taken full responsibility for her actions and has confessed to everybody"
No she hasn't, if that were the case, she would have confessed long ago to you. She is jumping the gun as she knows all friends and family will soon know and she is trying to get her spin on the story.
Couple councelling in this case is like make a abuse victim stand one hour every week in company of the perpetrator. I never saw a victim of domestic violence having to stand that BS when they try divorce
female response 2 : imagine thinking a cheat DESERVES as chance to explain opening for strange. this messed up world is the one we created and you ruined, remember inderpendents while we munch on our popcorn.
Always keep in mind that when a cheater says that "it meant nothing," what is really being admitted is that the cheater threw the entire relationship away for nothing.
“My husband always made me feel beautiful, but I didn’t feel attractive.” So basically your husbands opinion holds less weight than a random bartender?
She was 48. Wrinkles, cellulite, liver spots, saggy waggies. And he was sleeping with that same woman for 25 years. Congratulations Sir, breathe the sweet air of freedom once sgain.
So Maddie exposes the husband to gosh only knows what kinds of STDs as well as destroying the trust in her marriage. Then excuses her behavior and does not tell the OP because she might lose him. To engage in this behavior is one of the worst ways to disrespect your husband and the father of your kid. Listening to this story makes me want to throw up!
That's if the kid is even his. If she really does have a sex addiction then there is a damn good chance she has had numerous APs and the son might not even be his.
It doesn't matter what the family thinks. They don't have to live with a cheater... YOU do.
Makes me wonder if OP's mother was a cheater and his dad forgave her.
Cheaters are selfish by nature, never let them back in your life
After all of that, she still cheats lol...Can't win with these 403's...Stay single my friends 🤘
Those female responses from the story comments are too comical 😂😂
Of course they are. Accountability is like kryptonite to females and to cheaters in general. If the OP isn't a doormat and forgives the cheater, then the female commenters get mad and blame him. It's quite common.
Yep I wish I knew where theses stories were pulled from exactly so I could go through the comments and call those kind of whores out.
@@Milner62you and me both, because I'm a avid reddit browser as well as other sites and have never seen these stories...Kinda sus tbh, but who knows 🤷
@@evanwilkins06very well put 🙏
I don't know how he could get physical with her again. If that happened to me I wouldn't want to touch her again; repulsed by her having sex with another man....
Addiction is a BS excuse. All addiction can be resisted. Funny how part of her "recovery" was not to admit to him what she did but only after she got caught did she admit anything.
It is a known fact that the adulterous wife failed to conceal her cheating with her "boy toy" from NYC. What was not mentioned was that she may have been able to hide another hook up with a different adultery partner while pleading for mercy and forgiveness. At that point, if I were the hubby, I would have considered hiring a private investigator among other things.
I hate when people don't listen to their lawyers. Why even hire them if you are going against their expertise? He is a fool. Hope he catches something from his cheating ex.
Ok, that was crazy. My ex cheated on me for a year before i found out. Once, i found out I couldn't be in the same room with her, much less get physical. The very idea made my stomach hurt. The woman i loved , supported, protected, nursed when she was sick decided to have another man between her legs. Love making is the most intimate experience two people can share. A man enters a womans body and leaves his seed inside her. There's nothing causal or " it didn't mean anything" about that. She means our marriage didn't mean anything. I didn't mean anything. Its the ultimate physical and emotional betrayal. Its over, done, Im out. I've only spoken to me ex a few times in decades.
It is hard to see how counseling could have helped this marriage. All the counseling sessions were a big waste of time. I have a friend who took back his wife after she cheated on him. It lasts only four more months because each day they return together, he starts to hate her to the point that he could not have a physical relationship with her anyone. He realizes that listening to family and friends about giving her another chance was not a wise decision. He should have just divorced.
Especially considering in this case the counselor kept putting the blame on the victim.
@@Milner62 It might work if the aggrieved party picks the therapist. Not the trouble maker.
Within six months of taking back a cheater, she’s going to start disrespecting you. Why? Because she cheated and got away with it and you took her back. I guarantee you within two years she would be cheating with somebody else.
@@TexasLonghornRanch, Totally agree!
@@dlewis9760 I agree with you! However, some men can accept a cheater back, and others cannot, no matter what happens in the relationship. But again, you do have a great point about the counselor aspect.
He did so well but fumbled the landing.
All those so-called "friends" are not what any committed man should assume that it is.
I have been married over 30 years and my husband said it just feels like forever. Very little talking any more.
leave and live your best life.never stay with a cheater
If she gives herself to another man , you cannot take her back, ever.
People have forgotten that the Biblical penalty for adultery is death.
Not anymore. That was the old Testament. Eventhough some truly deserved it.
@@coureenlawrence4915 What difference does it make if it's in the Old Testament?
@MichaelEllisYT the difference is, they are not being put to death.
@@MichaelEllisYT The penalty for ALL sin is death. Still want to throw your stones? You will be judged by the same accordance you give others... If you don't forgive, you should not expect to be forgiven. Simple as. And no, this is not a plea to just move on, and forget about it as if it never happened. But you can't draw blessings and curses from the same well...
Don't use the Laws that Moses set down as an excuse to justify your own murderous heart.
She will stay faithful now. Shame she couldn't stay faithful while married. Now if he just wants to use her, go for it.
She didn't confess until she got caught
Well they never kissed and he always wore a condom. So nothing happened, right? RIGHT!!!!???????? That was his excuse?
Exactly correct! Since they never kissed it only counts as cheating if you have any functioning brain cells.
Just like a drug addict always uses a clean needle, right?
It reminds of the foreign woman who had the good idea to restore her co-worker's manhood by sleeping with him and tried to get permission from her husband who of course told her he wouldn't but she was a grown woman who could make her own choices. Besides her delusion about her "great idea", she thought as long as they used latex, it was alright.
@@noydb-1 You mean that's not an excuse?
We never kissed, we just shook hands.
That wasn't his hand!
“It meant nothing” => Yes it did. It meant we’re finished.
ive never spoke to single man yet that regretted leaving a cheating wife. but i have spoke to several who regretted NOT getting divorced or divorced sooner
Of course the counselor blames the victim. This is why counseling is a joke
You mean a counselor blames victim ? I'm surprised 🤯
Not sure how he was supposed to say vigilant about this one. Unless, with absolutely no bad vibes going on, when she hits the road, he has to hire a PI to take the same flight? That's mighty expensive.
Telling man it was only s€x, is the same as telling a woman your deeply in love with your affair partner and she’s your soulmate.
I got nothing to say but laugh at this women
Lesson: Always listen to your lawyer. Never apply your brain more than required.
He wants her to hurt and has plans to make her hurt over and over.
How is that "standards" and not anger issues?
Attention and validation Ding ding
As a NYer I apologize to the OP for this POS intersecting himself into the OP's marriage
To bad he didn't live in NY, an at fault state, he would have come out better.
Betrayers insist that even though the trust has been pulverized, the relationship can be saved and they can be ‘stronger’! Hahahahahaha
This OP will be pulled back into her world because he’s a simp for continuing contact.
This is the one reason why I never want to get married again. I don't want to be somebody's jailer! I don't want to be somebody's security guard! I don't want to have to look over people's shoulders constantly. You don't have to look over mine why do I have to look over yours. It's just not worth the hassle.
This isn't a tough one she's still the bad guy here. The moment she realized smit was wrong and ended things she should have checked herself into therapy and told her husband, and requested that he at least wait for her to finish therapy.
Not telling him what she did and also using the addiction is a sign of gaslighting and manipulation, whatever points she gained from ending and therapy, is negated by the lack of info
60 days of forced "counselling'?
That is just to wear the man down and take her back.
Stay strong, brothers, and keep the goal bright in mind: freedom from the street walking garden tool.
Her claiming to have an S disorder is even more reason to divorce. It means she could act on it at any time. Obviously that claim is just manipulation. Just saying it is the absolute worst excuse you could come up with. Everyone saying she should get credit for getting help. Is overlooking the fact she never let her husband know. Just excuses. It is ridiculous that judges can force someone into couseling were the victim is treated as the abuser. This guy needs to go no contact with his ex. He is messing up massively.
You should divorce her. Just remember that every time that she is out of your sight. You would be wondering is she where she say she is. You do not want to play detective in your marriage.
He found his alpha then lost it.
he should just go no contact. he is only going to cause himself more pain.
"Never underestimate the ability of a woman to rationalize her bad behavior avoiding all accountability."
All words in this statement are true and the female responses proves it. They don't care she cheated, disrespected her husband, inflicted severe pain, a pain he will carry out for his rest of his life. They never adress that. No they only care about the women who is now suffering the consequences of her actions.
Do they not get his anger is justified and he deserves to do what he wants? If it's a man "oh you have anger issues" "you could have been better or done better"
But if it was a woman telling the story " He put you thought this, he deserves it" "never look back" that's why I usually never take advice from women. They will always justify, support and even encourage this terrible behavior women do. Even if it's bad. Seriously they need help.
He down graded her from wife to FWB. I don’t condone it but maybe it’s a more appropriate situation for both of them.
Yep, there's nothing wrong in my eyes using her as the ol pump and dump that she is while looking for a new relationship and then dumping her.
OP is making a huge mistake.. people don't understand that even when a divorce is handed down, both sides can continue raising objections/petitions with the judge. Maddie could use their being intimate literally the day they got divorced as ammunition to force continued counseling. Yes, a divorce settlement can be thrown out just like any other judgment handed down by a court.
that only matters until you're divorced. In the separation period, having sex is seen as reconciling
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist They can and have nullified divorce decrees before...happens all the time due to various reasons. The same way annulments are given, divorces can be axed too. Most of the time it's due to financial reasons and new discovery.
@@GSP-76 very true. My waiting period for appeal was 6 months. She definitely could have filed an appeal and forced the whole thing to start over and more counseling.
@@chaselostones bingo...and they're always more sympathetic to women which just makes it worse for men.
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist Who are you getting this false information from? Seriously! A person can get released from DEATH ROW. You think a divorce is untouchable? It's fairly commonplace for an ex-wife to run into court to have alimony adjusted when her ex-husband starts making more money. it's commonplace for a wife to run into court to get assets recalculated when it turns out the ex-husband had an asset that wasn't eligible for division at the time of the divorce but "matured" post-divorce. They argue that the asset was acquired during the marriage (even if it wasn't) but loopholes exempted it from being divided. I don't know what it is you're smoking to think that divorce decrees are final but I wish you'd share. I want to believe the system is "fair" too (but I know better).
Thank you for another great story. As usual the post was well written.
I call bullsh*t. That's not how sexual compulsive d/o works. It's like any other addiction, it's used to make themselves feel better then the high wears off, then they start feeling bad about themselves again, then they go to seek out more sex. It's not a compulsive drive for sex, it's just a different type of d.o.c. like alcohol or meth or coke. It's more tied to personal insecurities than other addictions but at its core it's not really different it's just using sex to numb their pain. So I highly doubt she's in therapy at all for it or she would know that. Not to mention a therapist would insist on bringing a spouse/so into a session to confess. None of that was done, it's pure bs she's slanging.
So she plans to stay monogamous after divorce but couldn't do it while married. Ok, whatever you say lady.
Enjoy your free life OP.... she will regret it sooner than later..!!
10:52 Ahh screw his parents!! They think it’s ok she’s running around to his own family before him telling them and confessing to his parents but not to him… She not taking responsibility, she’s jumping in front of it before he does. Prove she’s in therapy and then talk to this charlatan “therapist” and threaten to sue and have their licensee revoked.
Every single person who tries to justify cheating or suggest forgiveness for cheating is a cheater. It’s hard to find out that both of your parents cheated on each other, but that doesn’t mean that you need to follow their lead.
Ghosting is the best. Like a cowboy riding away in the sunset 🤠 YEEHAW!
Time to move on.
Have to agree. Big mistake to hook up with her after divorce.
Why do these cheaters always try to suggest the one-sided open relationship as the cure for their own infidelities? If he had wanted to cheat on her he would have already. It will never erase the images of her clapping cheeks with a "boy toy".
They always say it meant nothing to them. What they do not seem to get. It means everything to the betrayed spouse
With the way things turn out, sometimes I think these people deserve each other ! Ain't True Love GRATE ?
Well there’s a shocker for us the female commenters defending the cheating wife and trying to shift the blame to the victim husband ! Misandry at its finest .
Don't be a wimp men...there is no going back to a cheater.
She ended the affair because she got caught. If she didn't get caught she would still be sleeping around.
Those stupid counseling sessions are nothing more than a way to make you spend money.
Geez! The f’d up logic she used. Claiming she was loyal because she loved only him, never denied him and only cheated when she was out of town, her and her AP never kissed and he always used condoms. Like that would actually make it okay. 🙄 Mind Blowing!
Here the thing about forgiveness it's never on the betrayer side to work it out but the betrayed to do the healing because they are the ones that got hurt. It doesn't matter what steps the beytrayer takes to become a better person, they aren't the ones in pain. So OP ex-wife saying she going to therapy means nothing because she not the one that got cheated on.
It disgusts me that people think you forget cheating...this woman didn't melt down until she got served
It's like winning the race and then punching the judge and getting disqualified. OP did so well until the end and then took a huge L.
As for "rushing things", unfortunately, some things take time. That's frustrating, but it's not always a bad thing. Time gives you perspective, not necessarily to change your mind, but to cool down. Carrying anger and hatred is exhausting and bad for you physically and mentally. You gotta find a way to release that shit.
It's not worth having a relationship in these days . Absolutely pointless . Stay single gentlemen save yourself the drama and BS .
If the therapist browbeats you, watch the video of the cheating during the session. Ask your wife how much she loved you in certain scenes while f'ing boy toy. Get some feedback from the therapist on boy toy's s3x technique. If the therapist does it again, show her a picture. Again? Another picture.
She got a ("ZEX") addiction. Well, I got a ("DIVORCED / LEAVING") addiction. Unapologetic, ain't staying.
I love how OP turned his wife into a FWB, after she cheated. Well done OP!
I beg to differ, time does not heal all wounds. They may lessen, but they never disappear or heal completely, one thought, one misspoken word, and they come rushing back, sometimes to the point you feel sick to your stomach. It’s best to end things and move on.