He love Bombed Me And Then Ghosted Me | Dark Manipulative tactics Men Use On Women

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  • He love bombed me and then ghosted me dark manipulative tactics men use on women be vigilant ladies don’t fall for their tricks.

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  • @Aliensanonymous_
    @Aliensanonymous_ 3 місяці тому +329

    Stop listening to what men say. Watch what they do. I promise youll see something.

    • @brookeb14
      @brookeb14 3 місяці тому +16

      Unfortunately women fall in love with what they hear, bc men never show them.

    • @saramelle
      @saramelle 3 місяці тому +19

      Don't forget that we have to observe both because men can treat you like they are in a relationship with you but tell you they don't want to be with someone. A lot of men play too much games 😅

    • @Cynophileandavianenthusiast
      @Cynophileandavianenthusiast 3 місяці тому +9

      Wise to do with everyone.

    • @ericakane6388
      @ericakane6388 3 місяці тому +5

      Amen! Actions always speak louder than words!!

    • @fatz9810
      @fatz9810 3 місяці тому +1

      Don’t tell them what you looking for either. Just watch them….always remember a narcissist will create your perfect person if you tell them.

  • @LLove-fi9xp
    @LLove-fi9xp 3 місяці тому +144

    Never tell a man you love them 1st. Love yourself 1st so you know what love feels like. He must love you like you love you

  • @robincain5287
    @robincain5287 3 місяці тому +143

    OVER IT and OVER THEM! Games.. Please be safe ladies... keep your legs closed and eyes open.. GOD BLESS!

    • @ashleymandigo4406
      @ashleymandigo4406 3 місяці тому +14

      So extremely important... God Bless you also ❤

    • @FirstLoveYoself100
      @FirstLoveYoself100 3 місяці тому +14

      Emphasis on the legs closed AND eyes open Ladies. Love Yourself!

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 3 місяці тому +1

    • @ChildofTMH144
      @ChildofTMH144 3 місяці тому +2

      Tell em sis 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @R0291-l1l
    @R0291-l1l 3 місяці тому +139

    also worth noting, pay attention to his actions OVER TIME. A lot of these men can actually do grand gestures in the beginning, but they quickly tire out. The person that pulled the switcheroo on me flew across the country to come to my bday party before I'd even agreed to date him, but not long after he got me, all the actions came from me and he barely could muster the bare minimum. I don't need grand gestures, I need effort and consistency. In fact, grand gestures are gonna be at least a yellow flag for me going forward.

  • @shauntikayvette
    @shauntikayvette 3 місяці тому +322

    Stop sleeping with these guys. Make them wait, they can only sustain a love bomb or infatuation for so long

    • @kennyav25
      @kennyav25 3 місяці тому +32

      You must not know men 😂😂😂 their audacity is out of this world

    • @meganbaute4254
      @meganbaute4254 3 місяці тому +41

      Some get pissed at you for holding out and still try to punish you for having boundaries. I’ve been called a slut for saying no to a man once 😂 I agree with you though, it’s better to stay celibate because then your emotions won’t be hurt as much when they leave.

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 3 місяці тому +24

      Don't date them in the first place. Time is too precious to wasts, and some women are not returning from these dates alive. Tell the whole truth about these males.

    • @hazelnutespresso
      @hazelnutespresso 3 місяці тому +19

      Some of them are capable of doing it for years. If I hadn’t found out about this guy’s other girlfriend it would have continued as long as I allowed it to.

    • @IAMHERE486
      @IAMHERE486 3 місяці тому +8

      They’ll wait while they sleep with someone else.Someone I knew had an employee who waited until marriage and after the husband got what he wanted he would go missing for days.

  • @hurtingfeelingsdaily
    @hurtingfeelingsdaily 3 місяці тому +136

    I literally got married off love bombing. I didn't know what had happened until my sister sent me an article on it. After that, I immersed myself learning about mental and emotional manipulation tactics.

    • @R0291-l1l
      @R0291-l1l 3 місяці тому +13

      almost happened to me

    • @hurtingfeelingsdaily
      @hurtingfeelingsdaily 3 місяці тому

      @@R0291-l1l I'm glad it didn't. ❤️❤️ I'm glad channels and content like this exist. I was devastated when he turned the love off. Took months of therapy for me to gain back my self esteem.

    • @mae7532
      @mae7532 3 місяці тому +20

      Happened to my best friend. Thankfully she was able to just leave bc he never filed paperwork for thier marriage to be legal 🙃

    • @thepragmatist
      @thepragmatist 3 місяці тому +7

      It's hard when you don't know what it is. You think it's for real.

    • @hurtingfeelingsdaily
      @hurtingfeelingsdaily 3 місяці тому +8

      @@thepragmatist that is the most painful part. Finding out it was all a lie. Everything was smoke and mirrors.

  • @_Ninjawarrior
    @_Ninjawarrior 3 місяці тому +52

    This thing of entertaining such men will leave you drained energetically... I used to go out on dates every now and then but overtime I realised it wasn't really worth it. I'm at a point where I'm just comfortable without any male attention, it brings me peace.

  • @Daug555
    @Daug555 3 місяці тому +80

    The dusty playbook has been the same since 1 B.C. (Before Christ) .
    I need women to stop with the mental gymnastics with these dust mites and move accordingly.
    Ya'll know the play by plays at this point, yelp reviews are out, car facts everywhere.
    Please work smart not hard.

  • @maryjanerx
    @maryjanerx 3 місяці тому +114

    Says he wants to date, 2 months later has not asked me on a date. Block and delete.

    • @asmita2318
      @asmita2318 3 місяці тому +1

      Amen. He was probably waiting to get text from you so hs can be 'chased' and he can have upper hand.

    • @SmileyAdventures
      @SmileyAdventures 3 місяці тому +13

      Yasssssss

    • @tiaramacdaniels3075
      @tiaramacdaniels3075 26 днів тому

      Why keep talking after two weeks?

    • @maryjanerx
      @maryjanerx 26 днів тому

      @tiaramacdaniels3075 i told him i would like him to take me on a date for my birthday. Hadnt seen him in 20 years, wanted to lose some weight first. Day comes, 6:30 he asks me "whats up" i asked if that was all he had to say to me. "Oh yeah, happy birthday" i havent talked to him since.

    • @carlahaiduk1878
      @carlahaiduk1878 22 дні тому

      ​@@maryjanerx next time. Do not make plans on your birthday with any men. You just showed him by choosing this date that this man who hadn't seen you in decades is more important than EVERYONE ELSE in your life. your friends and family. Your saved YOUR BIRTHDAY for him.

  • @shauntikayvette
    @shauntikayvette 3 місяці тому +57

    It’s not from the Juno if it’s after he’s pursued and slept with you…Some men are just build a woman up to see how far he can break her down

  • @daishawilliams8301
    @daishawilliams8301 3 місяці тому +63

    I was in my freshman year of college when I was talking to this guy every day he expected me to send him nudes but i told him no because we were just talking at the time not exclusive when I would ask him to do the same he would complain and say that I was suppose to be easy because every girl he talks to is easy then I asked him to take me on a date but he all of a sudden he gets very angry and ghost me then two years later i found out that he had a girlfriend and a daughter with her thank god i didn't give him the time of day.😊

    • @MelModica
      @MelModica 3 місяці тому

      Don’t send any of these pervert’s nudes! My niece was dating an older man he had nude photos of multiple girls and was sending them to other people because he sent the pictures of the other girls to my niece to make her jealous! These men are seriously sick in the head! If you’ve been talking to a guy a while send sexy pics but never ever send full nudes they can use the pictures against you!

  • @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066
    @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 3 місяці тому +37

    I know I actively pursued you, invested a lot of time, money and energy into making you feel like I really wanted to be with you....
    But I'm not ready for a relationship so....

  • @TheGhostofAbigailMills
    @TheGhostofAbigailMills 3 місяці тому +43

    Don't fall for the "fill in the blank" game these men play. They say or even do certain things that take no effort, but SEEM - the operate word there is SEEM - to have great importance. When the original poster said the man told her he deleted Hinge because they were having so much fun together, that prompted her to fill in the blanks: "oh he deleted this dating app because of me, that must mean he's serious." Pause. Pump the brakes. Did you two sit down and have a serious conversation about being exclusive with one another and not dating anyone else? No? Then all he told you was that he ... uninstalled an app, an action which takes a few taps on a touchscreen, and said he was having a good time with you. Don't fill in the blanks. Don't take things at face value. And don't let a man set the pace.

  • @redgoddess
    @redgoddess 3 місяці тому +68

    Why any woman is still taking xys seriously is a mystery to me 😩

  • @roreo1612
    @roreo1612 3 місяці тому +59

    I had a guy proposed to me on day one then ghosted 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭 you can’t make this shit up

    • @Missguave
      @Missguave 3 місяці тому +8

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @MsLovely802
      @MsLovely802 3 місяці тому +6

      Sorry that happened to you. At least he didnt get you pregnant and leave. It happened to.my best friend. I had a guy made me his girlfriend one day and blocked me on social media and never heard from him again. These males are truly demonic

    • @Cerez78
      @Cerez78 3 місяці тому

      That's wild. Usually narcissist will do that kinda nonsense moving hella quick with things. I had a guy ask to have his baby within a few days of texting each other 😅

    • @tiaramacdaniels3075
      @tiaramacdaniels3075 26 днів тому

      If u believed that, just because y’all had sex, that’s a u problem

    • @roreo1612
      @roreo1612 26 днів тому

      @@tiaramacdaniels3075 we didnot even have sex. its was an online chat

  • @geremymason5936
    @geremymason5936 3 місяці тому +22

    It’s crazy listening to stories like this. I can’t imagine putting all that time, effort, and energy to manipulate someone for my own selfish gain. It’s even crazier that they accuse women of being schemers, plotters, and manipulators but this is what is actually happening.

  • @RedDeadReverie
    @RedDeadReverie 3 місяці тому +84

    Even when it comes to fwb, they do this hot and cold game. They want you to chase and do things on their terms. Like the girl isn’t doing you a favor in the first place?

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 3 місяці тому +32

      YESSSSSSS
      They don’t even know how to do fwb correctly!!! It’s so weird.
      Like, We both know what we are doing and what we agreed too so why tf are you acting like I’m trying to “win your affection”? No bro, I just want us to go eat these steak tacos and then you eat this kewchie and dyck me down like WTF????

    • @RedDeadReverie
      @RedDeadReverie 3 місяці тому +1

      @@KurosakiLuvar01 I know right! It’s ridiculous since you say you don’t even want a relationship up front! I guess they all want to stay celibate with their p•rn collection and complain how no one wants them 😅

    • @Regladeocha
      @Regladeocha 3 місяці тому +20

      ​@@KurosakiLuvar01 🤣 🤣 girl for real!! Everything you typed 💯 they be feeling themselves and it ain't even that serious. You just wanted fck right? OK well then let's do that.

    • @SmileyAdventures
      @SmileyAdventures 3 місяці тому +6

      PREACH!!!

    • @SmileyAdventures
      @SmileyAdventures 3 місяці тому +4

      @@KurosakiLuvar01😂😂😂👏🏽👏🏽

  • @ak-47intelligence75
    @ak-47intelligence75 3 місяці тому +9

    Dont give men anything when they lovebomb you.
    Be it support, love, encouragement, going out of your way to do something for him , money, a place to stay, your charger, whatever the case is.
    Take all the compliments, use it to boost your own ego and build yourself up !
    Dont give him anything in return.
    Dont try to earn his love, NO !

  • @maryannspicher
    @maryannspicher 3 місяці тому +19

    If only they came with a car fax 😂 I’ve been single for two years now. Not meaning I’m mingling just single, not bothering with anyone. I don’t go out and I love being in my home alone having the peace I have never had! It reminds me of summer vacation in high school, when the parents were at work and I had the house to myself. I think that was the last time I felt peaceful! I’m no spring chicken and I love seeing all of you lovely young ladies being so much more intelligent than I have ever been. I’m learning, better late than never!

  • @ccannon1
    @ccannon1 3 місяці тому +23

    This reminds me of this dude who said he wanted to move to Colombia and have kids (two separate things, not he wanted to move there to have kids. he was 45). Anyway he kept saying stuff that implies that I also had intentions on moving to Colombia and having his kids (examples: ‘when we live in Colombia…’, ‘well I wouldn’t let you do xyz with our kids’ etc) until finally I was like “dude you need to stop. I’m not moving to Colombia, i don’t want to be in a relationship with you. I don’t want to have your or anyone else’s kids.” This man looked me dead in my face and said I must have misunderstood him…he literally said OUR KIDS!

  • @maddart4445
    @maddart4445 3 місяці тому +50

    They tell everyone their amazing. Next time a man says you are so amazing ask him to show you.

  • @moe_ramz
    @moe_ramz 3 місяці тому +66

    Only narcissistic men do that lol 😂

    • @AprilSunshine
      @AprilSunshine 3 місяці тому +21

      And avoidants. And there are a LOT of them

    • @toscadonna
      @toscadonna 3 місяці тому

      All men are narcissistic. Some of them just hide it better.

    • @MyLifeAsRaphael
      @MyLifeAsRaphael 3 місяці тому +4

      Read the 48 powers of law by Robert Green and you will see this trait used by NPD. That book is their bible.

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 3 місяці тому +93

    Basically trhy fall in love with the idea of the woman

    • @maddart4445
      @maddart4445 3 місяці тому +26

      They fall in love with the chase. It’s the chase they get high from. Sex is the climax and boom they gone!

    • @annah5507
      @annah5507 3 місяці тому +2

      Then punish u for not living up to that mental image they made up

  • @augustG.I.F
    @augustG.I.F 3 місяці тому +27

    This happened to me in January to be exact a person from my past. We never dated or anything relationship related. He came in hot and heavy. 😂😅

  • @duncaioanaiulia2367
    @duncaioanaiulia2367 3 місяці тому +27

    Then date more guys in the same time 😂😂😂 If is not a relationship
    At first date I go to restaurants, free food!!

  • @gloriabaptiste9984
    @gloriabaptiste9984 3 місяці тому +22

    A man will be on his best behavior because he hasn't use you yet so yes he will wine and dine you and then slowly but surely he will start asking you for things and once you start giving it you become involved in his sick plan to use you then dump you once he finds someone else to use. I don't understand why you women have to be told how to see a man for who he is before you come totally invested in his trap your mother or your grandmother should have taught you these things or even any grown adults that how I learn to avoid user like that.

    • @thepragmatist
      @thepragmatist 3 місяці тому +2

      Yes. The initial "wining and dining" behavior is like a loan that you will need to pay back.

    • @roxy4325
      @roxy4325 3 місяці тому +1

      Okay maybe cool it with the condescending judgement. Yeesh. Must be nice to be perfect up there on your high horse 🙄

    • @Cerez78
      @Cerez78 3 місяці тому +2

      You're right. Many of us didn't have the proper role models and r learning the hard way. I wish it wasn't this way 😢 we needed our men to guide and protect us too but they didn't.

    • @ayceinquisitor190
      @ayceinquisitor190 3 місяці тому

      You're completely ignoring the likelihood of those mothers and grandmothers being the ones to teach young women the opposite, to stay trapped in men's BS because themselves have been entrapped mentally and spiritually. This is a long-term generational and parenting problem, for everyone.

  • @franciebelcher4594
    @franciebelcher4594 3 місяці тому +13

    I agree with all the stitches. It's all true. Love bombing wasn't a term when I dated, we just called it what it was, manipulation. It's a vile trait practiced by vile people.
    Fortunately, or unfortunately, I'll have to ask my therapist, I've never been successfully love bombed. I grew up with right amount of care and neglect that I don't trust anyone, initially. It's definitely sad, but it's also kept me safe, most of the time. Safety first, ladies❤

  • @DaughterofDiogenes
    @DaughterofDiogenes 3 місяці тому +18

    3:13 this right here. I had a “friend” years ago who did this to me and every woman basically. We were so perfect together. He was the first person to ever slow dance with me. The first and only actually. The only person to ever sing to me. He would call me at night and sing about how I was as radiant as the moon. He loved and after a few months of this (we had been hanging out and sleeping together while he was in town) I started to make plans to visit. I made a comment about how I needed some good seggs and out of nowhere he says, uh don’t you think that’s kind of weird, we’re basically like brother and sister now. I had absolutely no idea how to handle it so I just acted like I wasn’t bothered, got off the phone and never talked to him again. It was mind blowing. I just had no idea guys could do stuff like that

  • @HD-Australia
    @HD-Australia 3 місяці тому +8

    Ladies, talk is so cheap, it costs men NOTHING.
    Listen, then block your ears, and watch his actions....
    Is he acting out the things he says he is going to do?
    Is he actually DOING things for you to improve YOUR life?
    Is he lifting your burden to make your life easier?
    Saint James wrote in the Bible "faith without works is dead"
    If he is all talk and no to minimal action (breadcrumbing) HE DOES NOT REALLY LOVE YOU.
    Dump him and reclaim your future

  • @LoveMe0516
    @LoveMe0516 3 місяці тому +10

    5:10 she is spot on and this is a conversation we don’t have enough. Women will throw out all logic when they’re infatuated but that’s when you have to pay the most attention.

  • @MyLifeAsRaphael
    @MyLifeAsRaphael 3 місяці тому +6

    When you read the 48 powers of Law by Robert Green you will realise that most of the trick used by love bombers are from that book. The NPD Bible. lol. Please careful and notice when you are being love bond.

  • @juliet4521
    @juliet4521 3 місяці тому +13

    Dude at the 7 minute mark nailed it

  • @SonoNariFiorewithGrace
    @SonoNariFiorewithGrace 3 місяці тому +7

    If some guy Goes “you’re the most beautiful, intelligent woman I’ve ever seen” or “if you’re looking for someone to give you validation, such as if you feel lonely or don’t feel
    Beautiful” do yourselves a favor and don’t talk to him anymore.
    He wants you to feel crummy so he thinks he can say all that nonsense to make you feel better. You don’t need a man to tell you these things ever and if he is honest about his compliments then good but know your worth especially what God says bc his words are not by peoples opinions. Jesus is the same forever! You don’t need someone to compliment you and then twist it!

  • @Emilyb21-dm3bf
    @Emilyb21-dm3bf 3 місяці тому +10

    The 3 month man

  • @savageornah7696
    @savageornah7696 3 місяці тому +13

    Yup we matched on bumble he wanted my number we texted I think on the same day once and he ghosted me it’s now day 3 but before that he told me how special I was and we match and then he ghosted me but didn’t block me he was super kind so idk what I should do but I’m not chasing

    • @melissam6037
      @melissam6037 3 місяці тому +4

      They do this all the time. Block and delete. A lot of married guys just want to message with a girl for something to do and have no intention of meeting. Don’t give out you personal number until you know someone better. If they can’t cope with messaging on the app for some weird reason you made up they are t serious either.

    • @rainestorm762
      @rainestorm762 3 місяці тому

      Same happens to me. What makes them not contact again?

    • @savageornah7696
      @savageornah7696 3 місяці тому

      @@rainestorm762 yeah I think that too maybe he is busy but still I saw that he was online so in the 24 hours the last 3 days he ain’t has 5 minutes to text that he is busy ect? I deleted him on bumble and didn’t blocked him yet but still why do they do that 🥲 ??

    • @IAMHERE486
      @IAMHERE486 3 місяці тому +4

      Move on!

    • @savageornah7696
      @savageornah7696 3 місяці тому +3

      @@IAMHERE486 so should I block him ?

  • @fatz9810
    @fatz9810 3 місяці тому +4

    No hate but I really don’t take men seriously…my male friends opened my eyes to the madness and I want no part is the clown show. It’s actually funny when they turn it around and call you unserious because you not believing their games.

    • @elalovatt2751
      @elalovatt2751 23 дні тому

      That's how I feel honestly aha see straight through it

  • @charlenewilley6481
    @charlenewilley6481 3 місяці тому +6

    If he seems to good to be true then you need to keep your head and protect your feelings.

  • @KurosakiLuvar01
    @KurosakiLuvar01 3 місяці тому +25

    Preach, babygirl!
    I’m going on a “date” Friday and I already sense it will be a “love bombing” date. He’s been trying that in messages but I just give a “💗”. And don’t text again until he does about actual conversation.
    I’m just going just to go to get out the house, watch his ACTIONS and see how this goes, chile.

    • @roxy4325
      @roxy4325 3 місяці тому +1

      We BETTER get an update on this date sis! I'm too invested 😂!

    • @MelModica
      @MelModica 3 місяці тому

      Good luck dear I wish you the best, so hard to find a sane man in this world but they are out there!

  • @susanmarks416
    @susanmarks416 3 місяці тому +3

    ignore me, personal bookmark 7:39 (8:04)

  • @etherealE777
    @etherealE777 3 місяці тому

    Going through this now. This shit sucks.

  • @wrappedaroundmyfinger
    @wrappedaroundmyfinger 3 місяці тому

    Yep. Some guy I was talking to tried to get me to chase him. It felt like I was dealing with a woman the entire time. I cut him off really quick. To this day, every time I see him in public (small town) all he do is stare. He makes it very obvious. 😂

  • @rainestorm762
    @rainestorm762 3 місяці тому +2

    So how do you know if someone’s bsing?

  • @RDCFemmes
    @RDCFemmes 3 місяці тому +1

    He said talking, ai heard twerkin😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @PandaHead602
    @PandaHead602 3 місяці тому +1

    They can really add it back in the hinge LOL in their car 🚗 0:38

  • @fatz9810
    @fatz9810 3 місяці тому

    Scammers lol

  • @tamaraford6634
    @tamaraford6634 3 місяці тому

    Great video, I definitely needed to see/ hear this!

  • @Riverlovesfood
    @Riverlovesfood 3 місяці тому +9

    He said he wanted to take me on a date multiple times but guess what he never did. Instead he just groomed me and abused me and then blocked me and ditched me to sleep with other girls. Multiple of them. Then tries coming back into my life 🙄nope blocked. It’s been around a year since we’ve talked and I’m still hurt 😢I loved him 😓I can’t believe there are so many guys who do this to us women it’s not fair but your better off single ladies ❤

  • @lotusflower1065
    @lotusflower1065 3 місяці тому

    I was not aware of this until it happened. Had been single for five years (married for 20). He was angry and started to show his true colors by the second month. I'd had enough and rejected this clown. Lesson learned!