WHY DO WE WEAR WEAVE & WIGS, BLACK WOMEN?
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2024
- Today, I'm having a detailed discussion about the significance of black hair. It's really important that we have these conversations about self love and acceptance. Remember, it is up to you to tell the world how you want to be treated and seen. Enjoy this conversation, and make sure to chime in in the comments if you agree or disagree with the topics discussed. Thank you!
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I completely agree, Black women stop the 🧢. If we truly loved ourselves, the hair business would not be a billion dollar industry 💯
Right. I got tired of wearing weave honestly. I always liked my hair but now I wear my own hair more often unless I add hair when I braid it. My hair is basically 4c but it's relaxed right now. It's not bone straight, it still has a slight curl to it. I'm trying to figure out what styles to wear besides a ponytail
@@ladylady7848 that is awesome to hear. I contribute the love for my hair through my mom. She was Adamant about not putting a perm in my hair when I was little. I heard her several times take up for me and say I do not need it, when all of my aunties and female cousins recommended it 🤦🏿♀️ she braided my own natural hair and kept it moisturized. I have long locs now to my back. Moral of the story: there is nothing wrong with it from time to time because black women were doing this before ancient Egypt. If we embraced our own love for our uniqueness, we would wear our natural hair more, it is a blessing to be the only Ethnicity with this type of hair💯
STOP GASLIGHTING AND BULLYING BW. WE CAN WEAR OUR HAIR THE WAY WE WANT‼️
For Chinese and Koreans!
Please repeat that young lady African-American women are the only group that wear other race HAIR do we see white women Chinese women Mexicans wearing afros or black people's hair period
Exactly. That "protective style" argument is rubbish because the wig/weave/extensions doesn't match their natural hair texture.
Silky bone straight hair only, but it's a "protective style." We have to do better!
Right!
Even these newer curly wigs don't match either. Should have coily to match what grows out of 4a-c scalps.
@@xr2863 true
yup lol
If we learned to love ourselves many businesses would crash and burn.
Right?! Can you imagine what would happen to the makeup industry if we all woke up tomorrow, got out of the shower, and said, “Oh, I’m pretty!”
I’m certain Korea would implode 😂😂
@@boops1192 Exactly. Even if the movement is small right now that's why I'm making more of an effort with my own natural hair and also doing my best to be self confident in my own skin
mmmh truth
I'm glad you mentioned the "white women wear hair extensions" piece because a lot of these women seem to skip over the fact that when other races wear fake hair, it looks like THEIR HAIR. Black women are the only group that collectively walks around with another races crown on their head while keeping their own hidden. Everyone in the world sees it and knows it. It's embarrassing and sad. That's why I threw away my wigs and vow to only stick with my own hair, and if I want to switch it up, box braids and faux locs because those are specifically BLACK.
Keep speaking the truth!
Exactly! You are so right!! Everyone can tell this about us. We've reached a point where people feel comfortable talking to us about our weaves and wigs. It's so important for us to represent ourselves authentically.
@@jackiesword101 Agreed. It's gone to the point where I personally don't even see straight (type 1) or wavy (type 2) hair on black women as attractive anymore (unless it happens to be their natural texture, which is rare). Even if it's temporarily flat-ironed, it just... washes out the "Nubian-ness" of her natural beauty. I don't care if people get mad at me for speaking about this, I will do my part in getting black women to forsake hair that doesn't look like theirs! 💕
Exactly and we are a joke to other races it needs to stop
Thank you Sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That's not true. White and Asian women wear other textures and I've seen that with my own eyes. I know of sites selling Brazilian hair to white women. I've been on forums where Asian women ask if it would be offensive to wear other textures of hair because they want to try it. White women also wear extensions and microbeads along with different colors like red, blue, pink and green. Only black women are treated harshly for it. Even when black women wear our own hair, we are still criticized. I've been torn down for Brazilian wigs, but when I change to kinky it didn't matter. I was told it still isn't mine. I've been torn down for wearing my natural hair in a perm. Then I did the big chop and had locs, was made fun of for that too. I wore an afro and got dragged for that. My own hair in twists and braids, that didn't help either. All of this ridicule came from other blacks. The same people telling you to take off the wigs, were the same women and men telling me my natural hair was ugly, masculine, nappy and unprofessional. The truth is people tear you down no matter what.
When I went to Cosmetology school, I stood up one day in class and I said it! Black girls don’t like their hair! You could hear a pin drop! And then they stopped talking to me. But I didn’t care, the truth always hurt, but it will set you free! I have always embarrassed my natural hair and there’s no shame in having or rocking your own hair. It’s very Liberating. Embrace who you really are and stop pretending to be someone else. Be you! Authentic is rear, but so Beautiful. Period!
Yes! It really is so beautiful!
Of course thay stopped talking to you. Women hate the truth.
Wowwww.....so sad that black women will turn on you for speaking the TRUTH🙄😳. It's such a negative that most black women cannot seperate themselves from this epidemic? I also believe that the reason why most black women are single is because of this very reason? Just facts....no shade.
Many BW dont know HOW to do their natural hair
I am a 67 year old black woman who has lived this experience you are speaking of. I was wearing wigs even in the 70s and did not acknowledge my own biases about my hair until I had damaged my hair beyond recognition by the mid 90s. I believe that black women are projecting their own self hatred conditioned by 400+ years of being told we are ugly. I am so happy that I have lived long enough to have embraced my natural texture. I took back my natural hair by my divorce in 2000 and have never looked back. My beautiful black sisters, PLEASE listen and stop giving these Asian and white proprietors your billions of dollars wearing fake hair on your eyes and head. Learn to take care of your hair and regain your dignity!
I always liked my hair, but since I was braiding, styling and learning different styles at 10-11, I ended doing my own hair for the last 22 yrs of my life. But I damaged it when I was a teenager and felt stuck wearing weave. When I turned 30, things changed and now I wear my own hair but it's always in a ponytail because I don't know how I should style it besides braids. I want to wear styles that I like
Tell Beyonce
Ma’am, I so appreciate you taking the time to share some wisdom and experience. Thank you 🙏🏻.
While I don’t directly wish harm upon any business, I do wonder what all those creative minds supplied with seemingly endless money would do if we all woke up to faces we loved 🥰 and we complimented all the women around us on their natural beauty.
We’d either have an incredible new world or a bunch of ad executives twiddling their thumbs in huge empty rooms! I would love to see that day!
Beautifully stated.
So it's just Asian and white people who make the hair?? A little racist arnt you?? Who said people are ugly also??
I use to be the same woman that you are describing. I wore nothing but weaves, braids, ponytails and then I got into wigs probably a year or so ago. One day I legit got tired, I was soooo sick of putting something on my head, I was so tired of not truly feeling like "myself". I knew nothing really about caring for my texture/natural hair so I looked at every single UA-cam video I could find and bought a bunch of hair products to try. I remember the first time I wore my natural curls, I was afraid of how the world would perceive me, even my Fiancé had never really seen my natural hair like that. Needless to say, he loved it and I never got so many compliments and looks and stares from men, women, black, white, everyone. I also felt sooooooo confident. I was like this is MY HAIR. I am 2 and half months in with wearing my natural hair out every single day and I am absolutely in love. I love wash day, I love to feel my hair, I love my curls, I make wash day a Sunday spiritual ritual. I am gentle with my hair. I have had traction alopecia and everything from my the weaves. Had bald spots, thin edges, had to go to a dermatologist and get shots in my head. My hair journey has been something else but I love this space. ITS A FLEXXXX. I look at old pics and be like my goodness, why was I wearing that, that didnt even represent me. Sorry for the long book but I just want to encourage my beautiful black Goddesses to let that ish go and embrace your beautiful hair!!!!
We suffer from self-hatred, internalised racism and post traumatic slave syndrome.
Its not our fault but we can try to heal ourselves
I totally agree and we'll never overcome this issue as long as we see ourselves as outsiders looking in but we can learn to heal within by learning and understanding that we've been lied to for centuries and all the while the vast majority of black folks say that they can care less about what other folks say about us but the TRUTH is in our shopping habits and our desire to sit next to our oppressors at the table rather than being content by ourselves at the table.
Since you recognize the problem, but don't take steps to address it, but almost embrace it, you are only making yourself a victim. You have a choice.
@@xr2863 I'm not claiming to be the victim here. WRONG Person pops !
This, and the road to recovery is knowing, and understanding what is behind the self hate for one's own natural hair. It is a painful subject to talk about, and most black women who wear these straight weaves/wigs all the time, are either in denial, or have not reached that point of realization yet.
Stop the victim mentality.
Black men are in the same boat. A lot of black men keep their hair cut low to hide the texture.
I really do not think that is true at all. Maybe a study should be done on how black men view natural hair on themselves, and the women they date.
@@user-hv6on6dk4j No, it’s true trust me. Your average black dude isn’t waking around with a natural fro for a reason. It’s either dreaded up, buzzcut, waves or they’ll grow it out, but fade the side and back. Now black women do have it worst being a lot of black dudes see coloris/texturist
BM NEED TO KEEP HAIR SHORT
no LONG LOCKS
@@kathleenking47 Every other race of men don’t feel like they have to have short hair. Why do black men have to have short hair? Should women keep a long hair cut because they’re women?
Not true 😭
My name is Kenneth Williams. I'm so glad to be here! I'm learning so much on here! I can't believe they don't like thier hair. We need to start loving ourselves again period. I love y'all hair. Either way I love y'all the way y'all are. Shalom.
We have hair that stands up like a crown while every other nation hair bows down.. Real talk we look stupid with weave and then making it straight and blond is letting everyone know you are suffering with madness..
I agree with you wholeheartedly but I will say I’m confused about the whole difficulty our hair argument. It’s some white girls that I know who wash, condition, blow dry, and flat iron their hair daily. If that’s not high maintenance, I don’t know what is. Our texture of hair can stand to go without washing for a week or two (longer for some). My hair is easy and I have kinky hair. I love it and I wear my hair out 80-90 percent of the time. I wish we could have an honest dialogue about it because the weave is a crutch for some women.
It really is a crutch! We need to be honest and tell the truth to ourselves.
Does it not be stink and smelly? Not washing omg 🤢🤮
@@philtoner2621 No, because of our unique hair type we do not need to strip the oils out of hair as frequently. Our hair would be smell and look as clean as yours without frequent washes. Don’t be ignorant, just be willing to learn about Type 3 & Type 4 hair.
I've let go of silky straight hair and anything other than type 4 curls. I don't like how it looks on me and I don't want to look like I'm trying to hide what my hair looks like. I go for kinky and blowout styles.
Confirmation. Sis you are speaking truth🗣💯💯💯💯 I used to so hate my natural hair. I thank God for teaching me how to love & take good care of my hair. Thank you JESUS 🙌
I've always had this standpoint. Every word. But can't express it to my sisters because I have light skin and 4a hair which is weaponized as (loose) when people are trying to attribute my hair texture to my perceived mixness. Even tho it's classic 4a. Anyway. Girls spending 4 hours and $400 on a wig and lashes is just so sad to me. All that to feel feminine, and then dudes find it "mannish"
Light skin is the other envy, besides straight/curly hair...so you are secretly hated through no fault of your own.
My mom talked about my hair every time she had to wash it, comb it and brush it,she told me she hated my hair ,she pressed my hair every week,I hated it ,it burned SO much😓 she also talked my skin color telling me not to play in the sun too long,I'll get too dusky, so now I'm in my 50's and can't go no where without my wig,I've tried to go to work without my wig and people ask if I'm sick or did I get get a bad hair cut, my hair short and thin
Just remember that you are a beautiful women. And love your natural hair no matter how small,thin or how big it is. Don't let people's opinions about you get into your head. Stay true to yourself.
You hair is gorgeous. I never relaxed or permed my hair, my mother always says I have so much hair in an happy amazement and my father was my natural hair crush cause he kept it long.
Your mom passed down a lie of self hatred she was lied to. Forgive her for she didn't know better in this area. Rest in the fact it's a lie, our hair is gravity defying, the most unique hair texture on the planet, compared to every other race with boring straight hair. It's part of you. Wash it and learn it. Naptural85 is a good start for any 4type hair. Her earliest video and start there.
God bless.
While many colors of women may wear wigs and weaves, black women seem to wear wigs and weaves that look more like hair that you see on white or Asian women. White women's hair styles are pretty basic to me.
In addition to everything you’ve said, as a mature-aged woman, there is another component that baffles me. Why do so many women under a certain age want to look like clones of each other? Exaggerated hair, nails, lashes, etc. Clones! I never thought I’d see the day when looking identical was more common than uniqueness, and the drag queen look was more common than a natural, feminine look.
Oh yessss no uniqueness anymore it's crazy!
I wore my hair in braids when I first went natural because I needed to lean how to do it. When I was in quarantine that’s when I found the balance. Now I wear my hair out all the time. I wouldn’t say I hated my hair it’s that I didn’t know how to do it.
💛 we share the same “unpopular opinion”. I’ve been natural for a decade- loose natural for 6 years, loc’d for 4 years.
I dibbed and dabbed with wigs/weaves a handful of times in the past. I’d end up wasting hundreds of dollars because I’d take out each style after a week. The wigs/weaves were hot, and for me, keeping up the daily maintenance of a lace wig to make it LOOK real, took longer than my natural puff or braid out.
I haven’t worn weave in 4 years. I am proud because my hair is flourishing and most importantly all mine. Also, I’m a walking example for my daughters that weave is not necessary to be beautiful and they love their natural hair 🙌🏾
We need to stop making excuses to wear weaves over our natural hair.
Our hair is beautiful, sexy, and professional (I’ve also been working in corporate America for years, in management).
The more we embrace our own textures, the less others will think we need to assimilate.
Looking forward to more videos!
I’m going on 2 years loc’d. I love it better than loose natural. I was the type that did a co wash once a week with air dry. It’s impossible to have a bad hair day with locs 😂. For the first time since a kid I was able to swim under water and not worried about wash day taking up a whole day afterwards. 💜
Good story, but I have a problem with black women trying to use acceptance by whites corporate America as an excuse for their own self-loathing. No one else dislikes their natural hair but themselves. I'm glad you didn't take that phony, cop-out, low road.
OMG... This is the BEST video I've seen talking about Black women hair. This is a very detailed video. Please note, you are not only talking to African American women in this video, you are talking to all BLACK... AFRICAN women too. ALL black women in Africa. Thank you for this video. I Love it. I subscribed. Thank you.
And black women in the Carribbean. This is about Black women WORLDWIDE!
Like at least wear the similar texture hair: wigs,weave,extensions.
Thank you for being so real with this video. Lots of people don't want to talk about it. Even when I was a kid, I never liked the idea of my mom wearing looser textured wigs. It irked me, I thought " Why doesn't she use her real hair?" Of course my perspective changed as a I grew up and then it went from that to " Why don't they make wigs that look like my hair?" I genuinely thought wigs like our hair DID NOT exist until I found a girl using a kinky straight. 16 year old self hating me was so happy.
Also around 6:16
You said that " our hair is beautiful" this phrase always irked me. I'm not denying that it's not the truth but, often times when people say " Black hair is beautiful." They won't say why. You did: you talked about the uniqueness and such.
To anyone like me that gets irked like me when it comes to this "your hair is beautiful" ...here are the reasons why your hair is beautiful (and is mostly likely the best hair texture. Of course I am biased because I'm part of the curviest and prettiest race 😇):
. um...SHRINKAGE??? SHRINKAGE is literal magic. Your hair could look like ear length but actually be back length and people are non the wiser
. Curls are feminine asf and don't tell me that be about " I don't have curls bc I'm 4C :(" first of all, shut your damn mouth, you do have curls. and second of all, if you wanna see your curl pattern use some water and petroleum jelly
. Very versatile with styles: one day you can have waves the next day you can have a big fluffy puff
. VOLUME??? Big hair is superior. If you disagree you're just wrong babe. Because we have the superior hair texture, we literally don't have to kill ourselves out to get it to look like a cloud
. You don't have to kill yourself out to get your hair to have a looser pattern ( I'm referring to braid outs) unlike straight hair that needs heat for that stuff
. While our hair can't tagpke abuse like straight hair, it does love oil and water, it soaks that stuff up
. You have a free Lion's mane attached on your head at any given moment
. POV: humanity originated in Africa so all other hair textures are stretched out versions of yours and not the other way around
Please love your hair baddies. You are like a person that has a diamond ring but threw it away because you are ignorant of its priceless value. Don't be a clown babe. 💖💖
Embrace the 4 type hair. There's plenty of products gels, shampoos and conditioners out there for thicker hair. The key is deep condition every week. I have type 4 hair and deep condition every and hair is moisturized and easier to manage.
Do you stretch it out?
I’m natural and it took me years to unlearn that my hair only looks good when it’s straight. My mom relaxed my hair when I was only 4 years old so I didn’t even know what my natural hair looked like until I went to college and did the big chop. Society has taught us that tight curls and coils are bad and only straight hair is good. Now I embrace my natural hair texture. Also I did face hair discrimination when I would try to get a job. I have been rejected from interviews in the past for wearing my natural hair out, wearing faux locs, and braids. I didn’t want to straighten my hair just to get a job so I use to slick down my hair with gel into a bun. Then I would wait until I got the job before wearing my natural hair out or wearing braids. Now I work from home so I don’t have that issue anymore.
4 yr old is crazy
4 years old..is TO YOUNG
also.WW have a thing, about wanting blonde hair
Thank you for this. I support black women utilizing their hair creativity in any way that pleases them, but the use of wigs at point is clearly pathological.
Ive been natural for more than 20 years and the transformation in my psyche has been astounding. I hope every BW goes on that journey of prioritizing their natural image and peace of mind in all matters.
I think with the natural movement, black women have grown to embrace, love and care for their hair. I've seen major strides in the last 20 years.
I know WW whose hair doesn't grow long.their hair is super fine
U right a lot of women don't like their natural hair ,as me being a real woman I love women to wear their natural hair I think they are so Beautiful when they go natural even when its comes to makeup. all my friends are natural so I can love the truth and not fall in love with a lie.
Thank you for making this ❤
As a black man I found this video to be uplifting and truthful from my personal P.O.V. and at times we know that giving personal opinions on the topic of hair, colorism and even if one's view is from experience these topics of hair and the textures of hair in the black communities are and will always be touchy subjects. As a Photographer for 15 plus years I've witnessed and heard disturbing conversations about hair and the desires of having long straight hair and even hearing conversations about people choosing other races over their black race for the features of another race for not only their hair but for skin tones and even for academics purposes as well. So there is a level of self hate within ourselves from either side whether it's Male or Female and both sides are in a great need for healing and help but to get there one has to accept themselves for whom they were created to be.
I’m so glad someone finally said it!!
Girlllll I just found you. You better keep this content coming, because I love it and others will thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions regarding this topic because it’s really not being talked about. So I’m glad I was able to find your channel. Keep up the good work, looking forward for hearing more ❤️
You made very valid points but you didn't need to say you're not "bashing" anyone (that's such an overused word) and that you don't have a problem with weaves and wigs. Just call it out and leave it at that. You're not being disrespectful and you don't have to make the people who wear them feel comfortable about wearing it. It IS a problem and it needs to go away.
I’ve been natural all my life but got more into wigs and weaves around 16 because my hair pattern changed from like 3c to 4a/4b and after a while i thought my hair was “too hard”..,,but honestly it wasn’t until I got locs that I really had to be confronted with the fact that I would cover up my hair missing the silky look… this is the first time I really had to come to terms with my real true hair EVERYDAY… going to all functions with my real hair… until you really do it, it’s crazy to look back at the fact that you cover it… I don’t even feel right looking at pics with straight wigs… nowadays it looks like I was playing cosplay… I often wonder what other races think of us… and no it’s nothing wrong with extensions but let’s wear hair that looks like OURS
Finally someone speaking the truth. I could say something but I won't because you dropped the mic on this one. Thank you for this Video.
This 16-18 minute mark is especially special to me. Thank you. ❤ I’m working on it.
Most are not happy with the way they look or their hair
Love this!!
Oh my God thank you for making this. How do most black women not get that? We're the only ones with this issue. I'm Haitian and my hair is very short because I cut it. and in Haiti, we don't damage kids'hair because that'd be absurd. But I see black American women perming, straightening, frying their little daughters' hair and I wonder how they don't see what's wrong with that. It's so wrong. They damage their hair from such a young age, they don't teach them how to properly care for their hair. And they keep trying to turn their hair into what it's not. It's a shame 😔
I can't imagine having to wear some stupid wig on my head every day because I'm too ashamed to wear my real hair. Ridiculous 🤦🏾♀️
I live in South Florida around Haitians. It’s not just black Americans perming their children’s hair. Haitians are relaxing their hair and bleaching their skin. Don’t try to create a divide as if Haitians also don’t have serious self hate issues.
I'll be honest, I prefer flat ironed natural hair. It is stunning to me with the body and texture. Some wash and go's are cute but I live flat ironed sleek hair that's thick and bouncy. Natural hair has that effect.
About time a black female brought out a video to tell the God's honest truth about their afros 👍🏻👏🏻
Finally someone told the truth
I'm in my 50s now so my hair is graying. I don't have the money to keep getting my natural hair permed and dyed, which is the primary reason why I wear wigs. It's just that PLAIN and SIMPLE with me.
I totally agree. But, I take it a step beyond hair hatred. IMO, the “wear-somebody-else’s-used-hair-even-though-it-kills-my-own-natural-hair” syndrome is a component of full blown self-hatred.
I am so grateful to be part of a generation that was young during pre-artificial-everything days. We took pride in everything natural. 😊 Many of us still do.
That silly African woman😞
I think a lot of women would look gorgeous with locs… I’ve had coils all my life but the freedom my locs have 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I take very little time to get ready in the morning and I am able to Retwist my own hair in a very short amount of time every few weeks… that’s it… it’s the freedom of braids but with your real hair and no install 🙌🏾
You’re soo pretty😍❤️
So true, I've had the same observation
Noooooo you stop posting? 😭😭😭😭 We need more content like this
Thank you my dear sister!
Wigs had no stigma in Africa. Women wore braid extension formed from animal hair, threat, clay or their husband's hair. It;ss not new.
Some African women
Wear weaves
Wear your hair how you want. However, be honest about why you choose to wear wigs or weaves. How can you call wigs or weaves "protective styles", if you wear them 365 days of the year? How are they "protective styles" when you don't take care of the hair that is under the wigs and weaves? I hate seeing people invest so much time and energy into learning how to take care of their "protective styles", but refuse to do the same when it comes to their real hair. When some take off the wigs and weaves, it's embarrassing to see how neglected their real hair is.
13:38 - 14:15 I literally have someone in mind here with this particular subject where I couldn’t take her commentary seriously and *clicked off* because it was ‘black this, black that’, while regularly donning a straight synthetic wig. 🤦🏾♀️ 😬
Same. I don't know if there's something wrong with me, but whenever I'm looking for hair care tips and I see a video and the person giving the tips has only weaves in all her videos, I just skip. I don't know why I do that. I just never seem interested. Like what's the point when you don't even wear it out?
In 2009-2010s, the natural hair movement was flourishing for like 5ish years where i learned to take of my hair, always natural and loved but now i had to new knowledge just pouring out to me and i grew out my hair so long it shocked me, I fell in love with my hair all over again but more extreme cause of how ir reacted to the care I was giving.
I get so sad seeing a sea of wigs and straight hair black women mostly wear around me. It's like the natural hair movement didn't even make a dent and everyone dived right back into this fake straight hair. Whenever i bring up this topic they get angry but when i catch one with natural hair, i compliment them. Its so sad how sometimes they give this look of happy but embarrassed/guilty look but they get inspired when i wear my hair out around them.
The most unique hair texture on the planet, literally defying gravity, and my people cover it up.
12:29
Women period, shouldn't be in corporate, not military..
Those seem to be men only spaces to be best
Thank you sister for speaking the truth !!!
Please keep the truth coming
Well done! ❤💐
PREACH. 🙏🏽
I guess I'm a one percenter. Always
loved my Afro in the seventies. Yes I'm
Old School. Then wore bearutiful beaded
braids. Switch to wearing extention natural
braided styles. Presently wear many all natural
hair styles. And. I love my hair ! My Mom
had a lot to do with embracing my own hair. My
hair is thick, kinky coils, soft, strong, healthy and
well kept.
Your hair is BEAUTIFUL!
Black women heads are seen as a unit price for wigs/weaves and extensions. The Chinese man just see dollar signs!!
We didn't do weaves, until the mid 80s
Please do a video on bleaching cream because the wig is just as bad as the bleaching cream! Most black ladies doesn’t like their skin colour also.
Bleaching cream, is dangerous for any group
It makes sun dangerous
I think it's more the texture....if you like weaves and wigs ...at least wear your texture....she right ✅️ no other groups of women wear another culture texture. It's sad 😔 we still in conversation about this 2024...
As a white woman I can only say: do with your hair whatever you like, just Iike I do. Personally I prefer natural hair, always, but why would you bother what I or someone else is thinking?
It’s not about what other people are thinking, it’s much deeper than that.
We don’t care what you think. WW benefit the most from BW not loving our own features. Now git!
Thats why im wearing mybown haor for a year and continue and than do my own twist outs even. Im not wasting my money on my added hair
. I don’t wind wigs and weaves every once in a while but I like my natural hair better. I’ve never worn a wig before . I always thought I’d look funny with another person hair on my head like that .I only went as far as braids and I don’t even wear them anymore. I love my natural hair and my fadora and I’m good
Wigs are cool, got a change..but not to cover your own hair
I realize I’m not your target audience here and my opinion may carry zero weight in this conversation. It’s absolutely valid for everyone to think that of me.
My thoughts are just a few:
1. 4C hair is gorgeous. Confident women are gorgeous.
2. For medical reasons, I’ve been bald several times now. This brought me to the world of wigs where I quickly learned black women know more about wigs than most hairdressers. Hasidic Jewish women got you beat, but they don’t share information.
But, chemo also makes your scalp feel like it’s on fire underneath a wig. I completely understand being discriminated against for the way I look. When I’m bald, people assume I’m incapable of doing anything.
3. While I agree with you that everyone needs to learn to love themselves, 4C (the hair I envy), bald (as many women are), or gray(btw where are all the good gray hair wigs 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️) ~ we ALL need to stop judging others and where they are on their journey.
Can’t we wear what we want, wigs if we want, have whatever color hair we want ~ even our natural hair?
You are gorgeous and amazing and carry one of the most important conversations happening.
Disagreed. BW’s natural hair is not a catastrophic medical condition like cancer. BW should love what comes out of their own heads first.
My grandma wore blonde hair all my life and I mistaken for a white women. She used to wear afros when she was younger she said it was more in fashion than.
Men think if you wear a weave/ fake hair- your bald. And probably never wash your hair.
Facts
How about slicked downs with products?
1:35
That’s what saddens me.
Amen. I love my hair. I like long hair on everyone else but me🤮. So with my hair natural and shrinking so badly I love it. I don't care about baby hairs and popping curls and twist out braids outs wash n gos.. So people are meh about my fro.
Amen sis
My preference will be for our women to where there own hair. No matter what length or texture. It’s a turn off for me to see a sister with a wig or extensions. Please where your real hair like back in the day 60’s and 70’s
Yep
Like afro sheen, for the 4c girls....it made them bigger😊stretching it
I paused at 9:54 to comment. I do agree that we should learn to appreciate and maintain our hair. Yet, Can we also admit that it can be a lot of work to maintain course, thick hair. It is. It’s also expensive and time consuming. Many of us rarely have the time and we weren’t taught how. Also straight hair shouldn’t be considered not a black style. There are women in every culture that straighten their hair, with tools or with chemicals.
thank u for writing the most reasonable comment in this section. Fr the rest of the comments apparently are just too delusional as a lot of natural hair supremacists cannot look past their nose and see the fact that in a capitalism environment, most of us have busy lifes and we cannot afford to have the time, energy, effort and money to take care of natural hair.
Silk presses are definitely a black thing.
Why dont u upload more??
We as black people have been breaking our necks begging non-blacks to accept us yet we cannot accept ourselves.
I'm honestly trying to stop cuz I don't want to b wearing wigs all my life n not know wut it's like to wear my hair only. I love my real n I look 10billion times better without it
Then just stop. Learn to walk in self-love because your natural hair is sufficient. You don’t need to wear fake hair. 💕
Me personally if you gonna wear wigs and weaves as a blk woman and never show your real hair at least wear your own texture!
I wear all kinky wigs, my life is to busy for my texture 3b..
Excuses, say you don’t like the hair that grows out of your hair. 😂 she addressed you defensive, excuse making people in the video
Its not just the women, its the men that hate natural hair to the point of berating them. And then there's the products/styles that alter the curl texture that makes it "acceptable" to wear it out in public. you will rarely see someone black walk out side with natural hair, never. Natural hair= clean hair and moisturizer. As opposed to hair gel, cream, moose that makes hair coily, relaxer, bald headed, close cut, relaxer, texturizer, Jerry curl and etc.
I mean I dont think it’s nothing wrong with styling your natural hair. Other races style their hair too.
I feel like do what you want. I have long hair and I still will rock weave bc I love to. Now I think we cover our hair completely with wigs all the time due to internalized racism. When the natural hair movement became a thing, wigs also became a thing. And if you wear them all the time, it’s not protection. It’s covering it.
I also think that we talk and spend too much time telling black women how to wear their hair. This is also due to the natural hair care movement which caused more division than anything. Like this video. Black people get online and make think pieces about everything and none of it moves the community forward.
Where did these alphabets and numbers come from to describe our hair type, this needs to stop also
It came from a mixed dude who has his own line of black hair products. But it was adopted by the natural hair community as fact…
@@DemonBunnyQueen he also stated that 4c hair should be relaxed smh
@@DemonBunnyQueenhe could have 2 black parents, and had siblings with various hair textures
@@luckygirl0303you could stretch it naturally
@luckygirl0303 that's crazy.
Even the Bible says not to wear weave 1 Corinthians 11:15 but if a woman has long hair it is her glory. For her hair is given to her for a covering. This mean your hair is given to you not bought from a hair store. Nothing is wrong with the hair god gave us whether it is long or not
It's to not wear it short
Either hair, or hat
Many men go bald, and should keep it short
Its your choice what you do with your hair…however if your preference is to cover & damage your natural hair by constantly covering your crown with someone elses straight, flowing hair think about this….What happens to those non-melanated womens hair when they age? They become cotton candy heads…and thats where your hair will be…also we’ve created another income stream for the beauty industry (hair transplants, traction alopecia treatments) Keep wearing it and you won’t be able to not wear it
I think you mean " Authentic is RARE " not REAR !!!
I don’t get why black women want to put wigs on there heads it’s not there’s it belongs to some one else 😂
Did you see the youtube video of a black woman cutting the tail off a horse. A man caught her and was laughing at her and asking what she was doing. She looked at him, took the tail and walk away like she'd done nothing wrong. Come on now!
LOL
She robbed that horse. 😂😂😂
everything is rooted and racism. things are passed down. I won’t judge the woman who wears wigs & weave because I have and still do at times. at the end of the day this stemmed from something and I think black woman need to come together and talk about their hair. together. ❤
…and those septum rings, why?
Lmao I had one in hs. I was in my rebellion stage
Don't get me started on facial piercings
It's been out since the late 1970s...
Tattoos weren't until mid 2000s
Both are wrong
Nose rings look like pimples IMO..no matter who wears them
So if straightening your hair, dying it and wearing wigs/weaves is self-hating because that's not how black women's hair grows out their head naturally. Well wouldn't wearing long/or colored braids, cornrows, locs or using weave to create big afros also be self-hating since that's also not how hair grows out of their head🤔 Like if their hair is short shouldn't they get short braids and afro wigs🤨
And before people come with oh the African traditions, majority of the slaves in America lost their traditional culture/traditions throughout the centuries. And these types of braids we see now didn't become popular until a few decades ago. To be honest I don't even see Africans with long/colored braids. Locs are just becoming popular too in non-loc communities in America.
Wouldn't it be self-hating if the use creams, gels, moose, braid/or twist outs to manipulate curl patterns they don't naturally have 🤔 Just look at the TV, magazines, shows and just at the grocery store and what do you see, curly afros that were manipulated.
And let's not act like it's not any self hating naturals. These natural ladies who they themselves/or kids wear "protective styles", when in reality they don't like their hair or their kids hair and aren't taking care of the hair under these styles. Those are types is where majority of the time you will never see their real hair. And if you do it's when the hairdresser is getting ready to install another wig or braids but they want to show you they have hair.
But not all of them though, because my kid rocks boxed braids almost all year long and has long beautiful thick hair. But I don't do hair because I'm lazy, so they will be in braids until they can properly do their own hair😂🤣 I keep it trimmed, washed and conditioned. I use to do two strand twist on their natural hair but you eventually got to redo them at the end of the week, but box braids I can go 2-3 months and their hair is perfectly fine.
I've known/seen the ones where they're always wearing the tight bun or puff ball/ or their kids have tight braids were their edges are almost gone. But that's their preference and it's natural right. But no one's getting on them about loving their hair/their kids hair🤨
I didnt hear her say anything but constantly wearing someone else’s hair is self hate.
Because we freakin' want to. Anymore stupid azz questions?
The real question is why do you want to wear hear that imitates the hair of other races of women?
Exactly! Because we want to. Why wear makeup, why even comb hair, why use products, why pierce your ears? God gave me a few hairs on my upper lip; I wax that ish every week.
You could talk about your hair, if it was theirs.
Thank you for this! I was dating Haitian guy and he would complain about some of his cousins always wearing weave- blonde wigs- box braids etc.
And he said why don’t our people wear natural hair like whites do. I had to let his ass know they wear weave too! And wigs too! I literally showed him pictures of whites women who wear wigs and weaves and he said “wow I didn’t even know!”. So damn stupid. I hate ignorance . Dumped his ass
Yeah you see white women wearing weave that imitates black hair all the time…….
@@trentward2725 EXACTLY
You were just in your feelings. Unlike Black females, 80 % of white girls from the ages 10-17 DO NOT have weave or extentions. Even if they did, it wouldn't be a completely different hair texture than what grows out of their heads.
Of course you dumped him for telling the truth. You hate yourself
White women don't cover their heads completely because they don't hate their hair like black women, black women have a texture like sheep's wool
...and qhy do sime bkack men cut their hair low? Our generation was definitely conditioned to war permsand low cuts.
Well god can take it back cause i don’t want it, yeah I said it, if that makes me self hating, so be it but this my honest feelings and I’m not even a weave or wig wearer but most days my 4a-4b naturally curly hair gets on my last damn nerve, our hair can be annoying frustrating a pain in the a** time consuming and expensive especially on a day to day basis, it’s mocked judged made political and idc what you say no one wants to constantly deal with that all time, yeah we’re the only race with this hair texture but that just makes us even more of a target to be singled out as different and inferior in beauty, yes most women have days of not wanting to deal with their hair but other races have the option of putting it in a messy bun and being on their way, we don’t unless it’s straightened, otherwise we have to put some effort in our hair even if it’s a simple messy bun or have people give us ish about it, it’s tiring and exhausting constantly being judged ridiculed and mocked cause of our hair so I see why so many BW wear weaves/wigs for whatever reason but it’s just not my thing so I have to just deal with my real hair unless I’m wearing braids or a drawstring ponytail which is every blue moon so not very often, every woman wants to feel beautiful and black hair isn’t considered beautiful or professional so we feel the need to do what needs to be done to our hair to be accepted and it’s honestly just exhausting having to constantly deal with bs from the world about our hair so I personally would just rather have hair texture that’s more easy to manage and that’s my honest feelings even if people don’t like what I said
That’s valid. The truth is way more respected than making excuses for it. Its the world we live in. You are beautiful all around. Thanks for posting
Sis the only one you need to answer to is God, because he made you, why are you caring or worrying what people have to say about your hair or how you wear it? God doesn’t do refunds, in this life of learning you have to learn to love your hair and accept what your hair is and what it isn’t. “Professional” appearance is rubbish when it comes our hair in the working environment, I wear hijabs to work no one tells me anything you have to stand up for yourself and ask your self is the job worth it if they are discriminating against your hair texture? God made black people special, because Jesus has hair like wool who do you think God wanted us to look like? A reflection of Jesus Christ. You should not hate your hair because we look like our lord and savior that’s why in this life we constantly deal with ridicule and criticism they did the same to Jesus did people not?! And now look he died for our sins and we are to remember that everyday when we wake up. We are beautiful black people in all shades of brown and different hair textures embrace who you are and learn to be kind to your hair, wear your hair in braids or twists without extensions keep it moisturized and cleansed and then put on a beautiful headwrap sis and go on with your day. Keep your hairstyles simple and do not wear it tightly. You will see your hair will respond better once you should it love.
I understand your point and I respect that. I even agree with some parts that you said, sad but true. Wish it wasn’t this way.
First of all we need to quit the lies and stop calling coily hair curly in order to feel better about our own texture. They are not one and the same. If we can't accept our uniqueness and difference then just do whatever. Black men and women overall have the same hair texture, just like white women and men, Asian women and their men, Hispanic women and men, Indigenous women and men. Accept your race and rise🌹
I understand
A better question is why do they wear those silly eyelashes
The eyelashes look ridiculous and blatantly fake. How have we as a collective convinced ourselves that these things look good when they actually take FROM our features instead of accentuating our beauty?
@doll.ov.poetrii4682 I have no idea. I can understand why so many women wear makeup because makeup can sometimes change the appearance of the face and make a person look more stereotypically pretty, but the lashes seem absurd
😂😂 never understood the need for them.
@KushQueen9 it's to the point now lashes are like some right of passage to be part of a secret club
Ppl do what makes you feel good. Why are black women such a hot topic on social media in bad light. Women of all races wear makeup weave nails and fake lashes.. I don't see as many ppl speaking out on the LGBTQ community about embracing their real gender or heterosexuality. Everyone who has kinky hair doesn't like it or identify with it because most are Americanized and don't feel like trying to be extra just to prove self love.. maybe I love what makes me feel good whether that makes you feel good or not. Let black women be. Or teach black women how to grow and maintain long healthy hair without the weave instead of judging why. lots do want to wear their hair but it's damaged by the time we decide that thus the weave is the go to.
I have my own hair now.4c .its not easy to manech but .i feel pure and beautifull. I was a shamed to weare weave .i hate it now . Stop wearing weave please !! It don't look good on us
Look, women of all races like to change their hairstyles. It is the easiest thing to do when you need a change. So please, whatever way you want to wear your hair, go ahead. Don't let anyone tell white girls that they cannot wear braids or black girls that they cannot straighten their hair.. Or wear it natural. Or short, long, shaved. You are free to be who YOU want to be. You don't have to answer to anyone else about how you choose to wear your hair. And if you get tired of it one way, then try new things. Why not? We are all free. And there is nothing that gives us a lift like a new hairstyle.
This is not about changing hairstyles. Women of other races LOVE their own hair texture. BW don’t. Quit comparing apples to oranges.
Maam, this sounds like a cope
Here's something yall may have not thought about. If I don't feel like maintaining my own hair on a daily basis because it's difficult to manage and or takes extra time, why would I then go buy a wig with that same texture🥴? I bought a wig that was the same texture as my hair and I was maintaining it like it was my real hair which defeated the purpose. With my actual hair the styles I like take an hour the night before to do and and half hour to an hour to take down and style in the morning. With work, school, errands, exercise, self care and everything else I have to do I need my extra hour and a half two hours of sleep. I'm not spending it on hair when I can get a texture of hair I can put on and go. I'm so sick of everyone telling black women who we are and how we do or don't love ourselves. Are there some that don't absolutely. But that's not the case for all of us. We go through enough. Now even our own sisters are throwing this bullshit at us. Sthu 🙄
These are the sorts of excuses that black women throw out to justify wearing hair that is of another ethnicity. My hair is 4c, and by no means takes me all that time to do my hair. There are so many videos on here showing simple styles that would not take an inordinate amount of time to achieve. It is not bullshit to suggest that black women should be wearing their own hair, instead of spending xyz on weaves, and wigs that obviously look like they belong to anybody other than a black woman.
Our hair does not define us however we wear it. We can’t expect other races to respect that our hair doesn’t define us when our own people make bs videos like this. I believe people should wear their hair how they want. I know people with thick long beautiful hair up under their wigs, weaves and protective styles and ain’t no one going to tell me they don’t love their hair bc they do. Natural hair is a lot of work and takes trial and error. It’s always our own people who bash anything our race does first! And to be clear I am natural! And wear my hair in Afros, twist outs, weaves and any other way I feel like.