Was with my ex bf for almost 4 years..lived with him, did the wife thing...no ring. Came down to straight up asking him if he saw us ever getting married. He said no. I moved out almost immediately. Lesson was learned. From there on I made a vow to myself that I would never move in with another boyfriend. He would need to be at LEAST a fiancé. No ring no living together. Fast forward to today I've been with my now fiancé for not even a year before he proposed. As they say.."if he wanted to, he would".. My point: lay down your boundaries and requirements in the beginning and stick to them. You'll weed out the ones who aren't worth your time and eventually come across the one who is.
I have a 3 steps advice. Tell the guy beforehand that you want to get married and you’re not interested in a boyfriend. Never ever live with a guy without being married. And lastly start hurrying to get married very early on, because good men are taken away very fast. And I garantie you that you’ll be successful, just be smart about the process and honest.
Irina is absolutely right, start out early with intention. The good ones go. Also, don’t forget to pick someone who works hard, is fiscally responsible and gets pleasure from meeting your needs in all ways. Finally offer him the same thing. Always put each other first.
I did talk before getting into a relationship about marriage and kids he said he wants that in 1-2 years and then life got a little hard. now we’re together for 3 years and nothing. When I asked he says he’s not ready and he can’t remember saying that at the beginning (1-2 years then proposing/ marriage)… so idk ☹️ they can promise you whatever you want and then change it once you in the bag and invested
@@itssandylou after one year you should have left him. But its never too late to change direction. Its important to not waste time, especially if you want a family. Our fertility doesnt last forever.
I don’t think living with a person after marriage is smart. You learn so much about someone when you live with them. You shouldn’t wait to marry someone when you don’t fully know the real them. Living with them before is a smart thing.
My very best friend didn't live with her boyfriend she gave him a year. On their one year anniversary they took a wonderful weekend vacation. He proposed on the deck and she almost lost the one of a kind ring that he had designed for her. She was going to dump him when they returned home. Her mom told her to wait and get a great vacation from him! Mom was in on the proposal ❤🎉
I have heard men say they would live with many types of girls, but very few they would marry. Something to consider when so many girls seem very fast at shacking up. You don't want to waste the best years of your life on these types.
I don’t know way many girls are setting very fast. Most of these men aren’t that worthy of your love. Women should love themselves first and always. That way you slip into codependency.
No bc he isn't ready to get married. Once a man is ready he picks whoever is in front of him at the time. Men ain't that picky. They care about timing while women care about the right one.
Ik most women who love their bf see they’re men as husband material and are crying ab how they want marriage and all that. What’s stopping y’all from proposing it’s 2023
@@ctorre….ok be serious right now. You KNOW for a fact that most men would feel extremely embarrassed and emasculated if a woman proposed to them. I would fell embarrassed to propose to a man. Marriage benefits men far more than it does women, plus they live longer and the stats back it up. There is never a reason for a woman to propose to a man…
My sister-in-law was dumped by her fiance soon after he started in a new job. One night he just didn't come back home when the company had had a little party. He had had a mutual interest going on for weeks with a co-worker. Then he explained; well, I couldn't leave you any earlier because I wasn't sure if that new girl would like me or not. At least he was honest.
See how men will use you as a sexual place-holder until he meets someone he likes more, then he'll dump you. Stop giving guys a husbands privileges when he has not married you first. That's how to avoid having your body used.
Wow so this ass of a fiancé put the woman as a placeholder and as soon as another woman gave him some attention he dropped her. He didn’t love her at all. So sad. I hope she didn’t waste years on this asshole.
Also, if you've ever cheated on him, or if you've ever belittled his manhood, or if you're still close "friends" with former lovers - he may keep living with you, but it'll be a million years before he wants to marry you.
I think this is all just common sense and we already know why he's not purposing. You hit the nail on the head, pointing out that we're ignoring the signs of differing values or expectations. In that same way we're ignoring the oh-so obvious behaviors, procrastination, in some cases outright lies, that give us the answer we didn't want to hear. I appreciate your bluntness. I think it's just time to move forward with our lives, weigh the pros and cons of staying in a relationship that will never provide assurance of partnership and belonging. If you make your intentions known, your relationship is 1-2 years in and you're receiving an out right rejection, excuse, or he requires proof of your worthiness by moving the goal post every time you "cause doubt"(more accurately defined as Everytime you do/don't do something he can add to the list he believes substantiates avoiding commitment to you) you know why. And I'm starting to realize that "why won't he purpose?"isn't the right question anyway." Why am I waiting for him to purpose?" is the appropriate question to ask.
The real question is why would a man ever ask to marry you when you are emotionally neglectful and abusive toward all men? Men aren't begging for a relationship where a woman bullies him. It's a lose lose for him.
I am thankful to you for mentioning the point that We as women need to take care of ourselves and it has less to do with making men getting attracted but more to do with how we then feel and perceive ourselves of high quality and that creates magnetism and aura which does attract potential mates.
I agree. She is the first person I found that makes sense and feels right. She is such a healthy influencer, and someone who gives very sound and grounded advice.
I’m at 2nd reason…. And unfortunately I live with him already. He doesn’t want to “ jump into marriage.” Yet we do everything that married people do. So he sees no benefit in proposing marriage and moving forward. Time to change my address. 😢
Same😢I've been living with him 7 years, and bare him 2 kids and he still hasn't proposed. I've been faithful since the time we started dating. I've don't everything a living and caring woman should do for her partner but still no ring🤧
Inspector gadget. 😂. Honestly somehow you just randomly appeared in my UA-cam feed about a month ago. Not quite sure why. But, I’m fascinated listening to you, you’re so articulate, well spoken, smart and beautiful. Like I said before - memorizing. You should be a host for a show on live TV - I can almost guarantee you’ll get a position - any genre. Plus, keep your UA-cam channel. Anyway, like I said before you have a gift. Cheers Marg, have yourself a wonderful day.
In addition to this excellent advice, every woman needs to learn the characteristics of a narcissist and what love bombing is. Lots of good videos on UA-cam
I stayed with a man for five years because I thought my effort was enough. I thought him asking for us to live together meant we were making a commitment to each other, to grow together with or without marriage. I was very wrong. He was not as committed as I was. He left me.
I got a man to propose with a huge diamond. He dumped me a week before the wedding to run off with his secretary. Don't feel like you need to be married by a certain age. It's better to marry late than be with the wrong man.
I’m gonna say that secretary was better looking. Younger and gave him peace. Probably lots of seggs too. While I were just nagging. Irratating and full of baggage 😂😂
They want to waste their time with a fun mate. :) Most of these men are covert narcissists who rest in their feminine energy and will trigger you to step in your masculine and run you dry. After you get emotionally depleted and you have adrenaline fatigue he calls you sick and leaves. (That’s what my father did to his ex spouse) they never really love you. They enjoy their time with you Until they find “that” mate. Don’t waste your time and lower your value with these leaches. Make it about you. It isn’t about them. Don’t settle for potential. Focus on their character and morals. Protect your peace and mental health. I never cared about marriage and never romanticised the idea of it. I simply live my life and I think there is always that one who god wants you to be with for some reason.
It’s like they never go away. They’ll even cheat and force you to stay by never letting up on the calls, texts, pop ups. If my house was paid off id sell it and move states just to disappear and start over. I refused to marry someone that put me through so much already
He doesnt have long goal plans. I built him up and then what the next girl gets proposed, i guess i should change my name to the BRIDGE OR A welcome MATT.
What if you already have kids, live together, do all the wife things and he doesn’t want to get married. I get you said there’s no point to him bc I’m already doing everything and I fully get that but what now?
So it’s very clear that you do not want the same as he wants. You will never be content in this situation because it is not what YOU truly desire. You want to be married, so you have to leave…LEAVE!
thats a string of bad decisions, one right after the other. 1/ DONT have sex before marriage....DONT live with a guy EVER unless youre married to him. both of these bad decisions affect the rest of your life in a derogatory manner. Move away, file at the courts for alimony, child support etc. and go to college, get educated, then get a good job. and go to church/learn morals/obey morals/ask God for a proper husband/ then enjoy your life.
Massive disparity in wealth is a reason men can be hesitant however this only applies to a minority of a population, especially if in addition you've have had a great childhood upbringing, close to family and then have either worked for or been fortunate to have an abundance of wealth. To marry the wrong woman can completely turn your life upside down. With wealth out the picture though yes you should be finding it easier to commit to marry.
It’s been 5 years and I have not been proposed to. We bought the ring back in 2019 but he says “I look at a ring for marriage” and the way I look it is for commitment. I don’t necessarily want to get married but I want to feel wanted and attractive and have the experience of being proposed to and now it’s just getting frustrating and Really unromantic
@@megkovachy6858 it’s barely been a year and you said it yourself you have a 6 month old kid together the least of his worries in his expenses is buying you a diamond ring and a whole wedding
@@woodnymph3063 yeah I guess that I am a complex creature lol. I want the experience of being proposed too without the marriage. And no I don’t make sense at all
I don’t understand the first one. I think it’s important to put on a dating profile that you have a marriage mindset or that you are seeking a long term relationship with the goal of marriage should things work out. Not saying it doesn’t set you up for success.
I have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is not proposing. How long should you wait for a proposal? He is in his 30s and I am in my late 20s.
Was with me for 4 years and didn’t even move in Don’t be like me Listen and keep your eyes open to the signs. You always know. Also just ask.. does he believe in marriage / care about it etc?
What if he’s fallen out of love but says he doesn’t want to break up? We live together, I’ve been a “cow”, and I don’t know how to turn this around. Can he fall back in love?
You’re a “cow?” Sorry what? For WHAT? Falling out of love, na okay. Leave. You clearly want him but he doesn’t or doesn’t have same feelings. Go with someone who will respect your time and love you eventually and wholly and non stop. He doesn’t want to break up? He wants benefits of having you but keeping you ie sex/ he’ll be alone so fear of losing what is currently in his life. He doesn’t value YOU. Leave please x
The feeling of wanting to murder someone and not murdering them stays with you kinda like a depression. Depression is a lingering sadness… rage a permanent anger, comes from wanting to murder and not being able too. Thats why he smiles. Id smile too if i killed the people that i hated. But since i haven’t killed anyone, the rage and hate stayed with me. Thats Trauma
And i know youre not helping because you want killers. And i know why. Heres an example. Remember the white kid who did the mass shooting in s black neighborhood? You need stories to sell. You need fear for votes
If marriage is a bussiness partership as you said may be because the woman has nothing to offer in this lifelong parntership. So It would be unfair for the man.
I had a friend who had children with her boyfriend, they did not even live together in the same house. Her and the kids lived with a family member while their dad was at his own place. Couple years past still dating, she complains to me and another friend of ours from work that she doesn’t understand why he hasn’t proposed but I always was like you should be asking much more than that. Your situation is odd. Turns out he had been cheating on her with a girl best friend that he would swear up and down that nothing was happening. AND to make matters worse, the girl best friend was living with him at one point and my friend had no clue until she caught him in a lie when finding her stuff in his bathroom.
The man I am with right now I asked for the 6th time since 2005, when is he going to marry me, always the same answer “we’re together already, isn’t that enough?” I would just turn away and not respond to that because I have no words or clapback for that…yes I am weak….😞
I was with my ex for 4 years and he didn’t purpose until I told him. Then he finally purposed but bc I had mentioned it a few months back 😭 he was still in the same place financially and was always broke. He kept promising me that he would get a better job but never did and most of the time i bought him expensive things and he didn’t have money to take me out to eat 😑 and I just got fed up and broke off the engagement 😞 I was done and heartbroken 💔
Sorry but this is bullsht. To all the girls out here: talk to your partner instead watching Videos of some strangers who don't know you or your relationship.
@@beep_beep_beepand you Sound frustrated. I'm in a happy relationship since 6 years and engaged. Never had problems because i always communicated with my partner.
If you feel yourself “waiting“ you should know he isn’t the right one. Men don’t care about your age. If it’s something they want they will get. If they really want you they will be waiting to get you not the other way around. Please don’t confuse a narcissist with a real man with good intentions.
I’m curious about your take on this: my boyfriend of 6 months is scared to get married because he could lose his pension (army). He was with his ex for 10 years, 2 kids no marriage & feels like he dodged a bullet because she wanted half of his pension. Do you think a pre nup could be a good compromise in this situation? I truly feels like I want to ultimate life commitment at some point in our relationship.
women grin the same way when they are sitting next to their divorce lawyer. if she wants to get married in church in front of God and family, fine. but never sign the marriage license. the power immediately shifts into her hands. in the back of their minds, if the marriage fails, there will be a payoff.
I feel bad for the guys. Guys do so much for us. In most cultures around the world romance seems to focus on us while guys have to do it all: approach us, ask us out, pursue us, court and romance us, pay for everything, propose, save like 3 months of their salary to buy us a ring, talk to both families, etc. And all we do is show up to the date? Thats cold haha! I might get weird looks from friends but I do those things for the guy I am seeing just like he does for me. Come on girls. Lets put some effort for the guys just like we expect from them. Relationship are not all about us.
@@LaisCordiolli Its not but it can be prevented and we are not having children with every guy that we go out with. Being a provider is not easy either or knowing they could lose it all in a divorce. A relationship involves two people. Not sure why so many women refuse to do more for a man other than just showing up to a date and being in the receiving end.
"We forget that men are human beings. They have emotions." Damn, never thought I'd hear those words out of a woman. She still won't change to faciliate those emotions though. lmao
No no no… its not that you (she) were suppose to be beautiful… its that each time you lie to me i raise my standards for how physically attractive i want them to be until you cant meet my criteria anymore
I find that an odd dynamic. Does she propose with a ring? If so, who gets her ring? Do they go get her ring together... Etc? Talking about it, agreeing you both want to get married.. Yes. But actually proposing? No.
Its a con. You set up the pieces. First you devalue them. The make them dependent Sign a contract Frame them Scapegoat In group controls the narrative and denies it… censors it Out group (me) points it out. Points it out… points it out… and im not going to stop until you lose everyone and theres no one left to lie to
What the fuck do you teach them? Is there a sociopath training they go through at 5 years old? Because people arent naturally wired this way, it has to be trained in them
Im guessing as parents, you ignore them ostracize them, treat them like shit to the brink of suicide ams then say “this is what you have to become to survive, heres the list of people thats ok to do this too and heres a list of people its not ok to do this too. Make money. Nothing is your fault” Then you fill in the blanks as you go?
Because at this rate, if i had children id teach them “never trust anything anyone does or says. There is a 100% chance that 99.9% of the things people will say and do are a lie”
My reason I wouldn’t propose, some of you women really love having multiple male “friends”, and I don’t like to share my woman. To me, that shows she’s not really committed to me or respects my feelings. I’m of the belief that men and women cannot be truly platonic friends. We are sexual beings and it’s not a question of if it will get sexual, only when.
How many of your women had male friends (and you felt the relationship crossed boundaries). And how many women you would have proposed to (if they did not have those hypothetical friends) ? Methinks the number of people one would want to marry (for real) would be rather small throughout your life - and ALL of them have besties that give you second thoughts ?
Was with my ex bf for almost 4 years..lived with him, did the wife thing...no ring. Came down to straight up asking him if he saw us ever getting married. He said no. I moved out almost immediately. Lesson was learned. From there on I made a vow to myself that I would never move in with another boyfriend. He would need to be at LEAST a fiancé. No ring no living together.
Fast forward to today I've been with my now fiancé for not even a year before he proposed. As they say.."if he wanted to, he would"..
My point: lay down your boundaries and requirements in the beginning and stick to them. You'll weed out the ones who aren't worth your time and eventually come across the one who is.
I have a 3 steps advice. Tell the guy beforehand that you want to get married and you’re not interested in a boyfriend. Never ever live with a guy without being married. And lastly start hurrying to get married very early on, because good men are taken away very fast. And I garantie you that you’ll be successful, just be smart about the process and honest.
Irina is absolutely right, start out early with intention. The good ones go. Also, don’t forget to pick someone who works hard, is fiscally responsible and gets pleasure from meeting your needs in all ways. Finally offer him the same thing. Always put each other first.
I did talk before getting into a relationship about marriage and kids he said he wants that in 1-2 years and then life got a little hard. now we’re together for 3 years and nothing. When I asked he says he’s not ready and he can’t remember saying that at the beginning (1-2 years then proposing/ marriage)… so idk ☹️ they can promise you whatever you want and then change it once you in the bag and invested
@@itssandylou do you live with the guy or just date him? If you live with him, he won’t marry you, no incentive.
@@itssandylou after one year you should have left him. But its never too late to change direction. Its important to not waste time, especially if you want a family. Our fertility doesnt last forever.
I don’t think living with a person after marriage is smart. You learn so much about someone when you live with them. You shouldn’t wait to marry someone when you don’t fully know the real them. Living with them before is a smart thing.
My very best friend didn't live with her boyfriend she gave him a year. On their one year anniversary they took a wonderful weekend vacation. He proposed on the deck and she almost lost the one of a kind ring that he had designed for her. She was going to dump him when they returned home. Her mom told her to wait and get a great vacation from him! Mom was in on the proposal ❤🎉
I have heard men say they would live with many types of girls, but very few they would marry.
Something to consider when so many girls seem very fast at shacking up. You don't want to waste the best years of your life on these types.
Off topic but I haven't heard the phrase "shacking up" in decades. That was a little trip down memory lane 🤭
I don’t know way many girls are setting very fast. Most of these men aren’t that worthy of your love.
Women should love themselves first and always. That way you slip into codependency.
Yea I am already 35. I was engagad before things happen. I don't wanna waste my time.
He's not proposing because he doesn't see you as WIFE Material. Period.
No bc he isn't ready to get married. Once a man is ready he picks whoever is in front of him at the time. Men ain't that picky. They care about timing while women care about the right one.
@@anayarey Were both right! 😉
@@CrystalDatingCoach True
Ik most women who love their bf see they’re men as husband material and are crying ab how they want marriage and all that. What’s stopping y’all from proposing it’s 2023
@@ctorre….ok be serious right now. You KNOW for a fact that most men would feel extremely embarrassed and emasculated if a woman proposed to them. I would fell embarrassed to propose to a man. Marriage benefits men far more than it does women, plus they live longer and the stats back it up. There is never a reason for a woman to propose to a man…
My sister-in-law was dumped by her fiance soon after he started in a new job. One night he just didn't come back home when the company had had a little party. He had had a mutual interest going on for weeks with a co-worker. Then he explained; well, I couldn't leave you any earlier because I wasn't sure if that new girl would like me or not. At least he was honest.
See how men will use you as a sexual place-holder until he meets someone he likes more, then he'll dump you. Stop giving guys a husbands privileges when he has not married you first. That's how to avoid having your body used.
Damn. I hope karma gets him.
Wow so this ass of a fiancé put the woman as a placeholder and as soon as another woman gave him some attention he dropped her. He didn’t love her at all. So sad. I hope she didn’t waste years on this asshole.
Also, if you've ever cheated on him, or if you've ever belittled his manhood, or if you're still close "friends" with former lovers - he may keep living with you, but it'll be a million years before he wants to marry you.
I think this is all just common sense and we already know why he's not purposing. You hit the nail on the head, pointing out that we're ignoring the signs of differing values or expectations. In that same way we're ignoring the oh-so obvious behaviors, procrastination, in some cases outright lies, that give us the answer we didn't want to hear. I appreciate your bluntness. I think it's just time to move forward with our lives, weigh the pros and cons of staying in a relationship that will never provide assurance of partnership and belonging. If you make your intentions known, your relationship is 1-2 years in and you're receiving an out right rejection, excuse, or he requires proof of your worthiness by moving the goal post every time you "cause doubt"(more accurately defined as Everytime you do/don't do something he can add to the list he believes substantiates avoiding commitment to you) you know why. And I'm starting to realize that "why won't he purpose?"isn't the right question anyway." Why am I waiting for him to purpose?" is the appropriate question to ask.
The real question is why would a man ever ask to marry you when you are emotionally neglectful and abusive toward all men? Men aren't begging for a relationship where a woman bullies him. It's a lose lose for him.
I like that last part you said. " Why am I waiting for him to propose? "
I am thankful to you for mentioning the point that We as women need to take care of ourselves and it has less to do with making men getting attracted but more to do with how we then feel and perceive ourselves of high quality and that creates magnetism and aura which does attract potential mates.
Your voice is so calm and soothing. You put across things so calmly. It doesn't hurt to hear the truth. Love your content! ❤❤❤
I agree. She is the first person I found that makes sense and feels right. She is such a healthy influencer, and someone who gives very sound and grounded advice.
I’m at 2nd reason…. And unfortunately I live with him already. He doesn’t want to “ jump into marriage.” Yet we do everything that married people do.
So he sees no benefit in proposing marriage and moving forward. Time to change my address. 😢
Same😢I've been living with him 7 years, and bare him 2 kids and he still hasn't proposed. I've been faithful since the time we started dating. I've don't everything a living and caring woman should do for her partner but still no ring🤧
One of the most excellent videos made by a woman, for women. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Inspector gadget. 😂. Honestly somehow you just randomly appeared in my UA-cam feed about a month ago. Not quite sure why. But, I’m fascinated listening to you, you’re so articulate, well spoken, smart and beautiful. Like I said before - memorizing. You should be a host for a show on live TV - I can almost guarantee you’ll get a position - any genre. Plus, keep your UA-cam channel. Anyway, like I said before you have a gift. Cheers Marg, have yourself a wonderful day.
In addition to this excellent advice, every woman needs to learn the characteristics of a narcissist and what love bombing is. Lots of good videos on UA-cam
The difference between love bombing and not love bombing is if they stick around
Just experienced this omg
@@Alphabet7lol exactly. Real Empathy continues to flow through.
This is so good! I often fumble over word choices. Please keep the advice coming
I stayed with a man for five years because I thought my effort was enough.
I thought him asking for us to live together meant we were making a commitment to each other, to grow together with or without marriage.
I was very wrong. He was not as committed as I was. He left me.
When you spell it out like this, it all makes sense! TYFS! 😊🧡😊
I got a man to propose with a huge diamond. He dumped me a week before the wedding to run off with his secretary. Don't feel like you need to be married by a certain age. It's better to marry late than be with the wrong man.
Jesus Christ. If I had to buy u a huge aaahhh diamond. I’d run off too 😂😂
I’m gonna say that secretary was better looking. Younger and gave him peace. Probably lots of seggs too. While I were just nagging. Irratating and full of baggage 😂😂
Obviously you kept the ring 💍 ! 🎉
They want to waste their time with a fun mate. :)
Most of these men are covert narcissists who rest in their feminine energy and will trigger you to step in your masculine and run you dry. After you get emotionally depleted and you have adrenaline fatigue he calls you sick and leaves. (That’s what my father did to his ex spouse) they never really love you. They enjoy their time with you
Until they find “that” mate. Don’t waste your time and lower your value with these leaches.
Make it about you. It isn’t about them.
Don’t settle for potential.
Focus on their character and morals. Protect your peace and mental health.
I never cared about marriage and never romanticised the idea of it. I simply live my life and I think there is always that one who god wants you to be with for some reason.
Sisssssssss!!!! I first saw you on TikTok. You have no idea how happy I am that you have a UA-cam. 🎉
Reason #1: There absolutely no benefit for a man to get married, just liability.
#Facts!!!
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Not being married is benefiting us right now but after school I do want that
It’s like they never go away. They’ll even cheat and force you to stay by never letting up on the calls, texts, pop ups. If my house was paid off id sell it and move states just to disappear and start over. I refused to marry someone that put me through so much already
He doesnt have long goal plans. I built him up and then what the next girl gets proposed, i guess i should change my name to the BRIDGE OR A welcome MATT.
What if you already have kids, live together, do all the wife things and he doesn’t want to get married. I get you said there’s no point to him bc I’m already doing everything and I fully get that but what now?
So it’s very clear that you do not want the same as he wants. You will never be content in this situation because it is not what YOU truly desire. You want to be married, so you have to leave…LEAVE!
This only lowers your value. To yourself and to him.
thats a string of bad decisions, one right after the other. 1/ DONT have sex before marriage....DONT live with a guy EVER unless youre married to him. both of these bad decisions affect the rest of your life in a derogatory manner. Move away, file at the courts for alimony, child support etc. and go to college, get educated, then get a good job. and go to church/learn morals/obey morals/ask God for a proper husband/ then enjoy your life.
Massive disparity in wealth is a reason men can be hesitant however this only applies to a minority of a population, especially if in addition you've have had a great childhood upbringing, close to family and then have either worked for or been fortunate to have an abundance of wealth. To marry the wrong woman can completely turn your life upside down. With wealth out the picture though yes you should be finding it easier to commit to marry.
Young married guy here, high value, all the 6's. Everything she said is true.
It’s been 5 years and I have not been proposed to.
We bought the ring back in 2019 but he says “I look at a ring for marriage” and the way I look it is for commitment. I don’t necessarily want to get married but I want to feel wanted and attractive and have the experience of being proposed to and now it’s just getting frustrating and Really unromantic
Time to leave🤷♀️.
If he knows you don’t want to get married you have no place to get mad. And you also can propose
Been with mine since 2022 we have a 6 month old together live together and I'm at the point of being done waiting
@@megkovachy6858 it’s barely been a year and you said it yourself you have a 6 month old kid together the least of his worries in his expenses is buying you a diamond ring and a whole wedding
@@woodnymph3063 yeah I guess that I am a complex creature lol. I want the experience of being proposed too without the marriage. And no I don’t make sense at all
I don’t understand the first one. I think it’s important to put on a dating profile that you have a marriage mindset or that you are seeking a long term relationship with the goal of marriage should things work out. Not saying it doesn’t set you up for success.
@@user-ih4fd9sf8x who said anything about posting everywhere? If saying your goal is getting married is desperate than our society is effed.
@@user-ih4fd9sf8x not sure why you’re boasting but, good luck to you too! :)
Just seen a video of a women saying she waited 8 years and didn't even have a wedding 💀
I have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is not proposing. How long should you wait for a proposal? He is in his 30s and I am in my late 20s.
Same here, 4 years and nothing is happening. If he doesnt propose this year Im moving on.
Was with me for 4 years and didn’t even move in
Don’t be like me
Listen and keep your eyes open to the signs.
You always know.
Also just ask.. does he believe in marriage / care about it etc?
What if he’s fallen out of love but says he doesn’t want to break up? We live together, I’ve been a “cow”, and I don’t know how to turn this around. Can he fall back in love?
Time is precious and he is wasting yours. Move house and focus on your life goals.
You’re a “cow?” Sorry what? For WHAT? Falling out of love, na okay. Leave. You clearly want him but he doesn’t or doesn’t have same feelings. Go with someone who will respect your time and love you eventually and wholly and non stop. He doesn’t want to break up? He wants benefits of having you but keeping you ie sex/ he’ll be alone so fear of losing what is currently in his life. He doesn’t value YOU. Leave please x
Reason. He doesn't want you but doesn't want to be alone.
@@CrystalDatingCoach exactly thissss
I hope you left him 😢 you deserve better xx
They always say “war is traumatizing” but they leave out the part that its only traumatizing for the losing side
Trauma doesnt come from killing a man… trauma comes from wanting to kill a man and not being able to
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The feeling of wanting to murder someone and not murdering them stays with you kinda like a depression. Depression is a lingering sadness… rage a permanent anger, comes from wanting to murder and not being able too. Thats why he smiles. Id smile too if i killed the people that i hated.
But since i haven’t killed anyone, the rage and hate stayed with me. Thats Trauma
And you… you are definitely not helping
And i know youre not helping because you want killers. And i know why. Heres an example.
Remember the white kid who did the mass shooting in s black neighborhood?
You need stories to sell. You need fear for votes
If marriage is a bussiness partership as you said may be because the woman has nothing to offer in this lifelong parntership. So It would be unfair for the man.
I had a friend who had children with her boyfriend, they did not even live together in the same house. Her and the kids lived with a family member while their dad was at his own place. Couple years past still dating, she complains to me and another friend of ours from work that she doesn’t understand why he hasn’t proposed but I always was like you should be asking much more than that. Your situation is odd. Turns out he had been cheating on her with a girl best friend that he would swear up and down that nothing was happening. AND to make matters worse, the girl best friend was living with him at one point and my friend had no clue until she caught him in a lie when finding her stuff in his bathroom.
Wtf
@@iamme7664 A mess
He doesn't love her.
I needed this so badly, thank you.
I love when you call me "baby". I replayed it 5 times. 😂
W t fook😅
The man I am with right now I asked for the 6th time since 2005, when is he going to marry me, always the same answer “we’re together already, isn’t that enough?”
I would just turn away and not respond to that because I have no words or clapback for that…yes I am weak….😞
I was with my ex for 4 years and he didn’t purpose until I told him. Then he finally purposed but bc I had mentioned it a few months back 😭 he was still in the same place financially and was always broke. He kept promising me that he would get a better job but never did and most of the time i bought him expensive things and he didn’t have money to take me out to eat 😑 and I just got fed up and broke off the engagement 😞 I was done and heartbroken 💔
Sorry but this is bullsht. To all the girls out here: talk to your partner instead watching Videos of some strangers who don't know you or your relationship.
You sound single.
@@beep_beep_beepand you Sound frustrated. I'm in a happy relationship since 6 years and engaged. Never had problems because i always communicated with my partner.
How long should you wait for a proposal in your 30s?
If you feel yourself “waiting“ you should know he isn’t the right one.
Men don’t care about your age. If it’s something they want they will get.
If they really want you they will be waiting to get you not the other way around.
Please don’t confuse a narcissist with a real man with good intentions.
Most of the reasoning comes from the fact that men fear being ransacked in the divorce courts. The stories out there are absolutely harrowing.
I’m curious about your take on this: my boyfriend of 6 months is scared to get married because he could lose his pension (army).
He was with his ex for 10 years, 2 kids no marriage & feels like he dodged a bullet because she wanted half of his pension.
Do you think a pre nup could be a good compromise in this situation? I truly feels like I want to ultimate life commitment at some point in our relationship.
Your too pretty to settle! If he didn’t marry her, he probably won’t marry you. Find someone who wants the same thing as you
A sister I never had! ❤
Another reason is the sex has slowed, become boring or stopped altogether.
What about if the sex keeps getting better and better but the communication and commitment is falling apart completely
@@adelante3938 when does that ever happen?
@@MrStudGuyit happens in relationships where sex is prioritized over all other things, Mr. Stud Guy. 💀
@@prnsxsa too bad! Sex is important to men.
@@sarahjaynescott545 women rarely have sex with their husbands after marriage. That’s why so many married men cheat.
If girls are offering wife experience for free/ why should a guy marry
if you have the cow at home , why buy the milk ?
Because they teach their children to have no standards
Thank you
98% likelihood that he's going to stay with his wife. Only 2% leave the wife.
Reason number one: divorce.
Beautiful and smart 😊
11years later, 2boys still nothing😢
Damn… 11 years is way too long of a wait. Sorry.
Sorry 😔 that’s sad
women grin the same way when they are sitting next to their divorce lawyer. if she wants to get married in church in front of God and family, fine. but never sign the marriage license. the power immediately shifts into her hands. in the back of their minds, if the marriage fails, there will be a payoff.
I got divorced. Took no alimony. But definitely had a payoff of trauma and abandonment issues.
Can you do a review of the newest season of the show Ready to Love. Please please please. It just started and Iwould love your assessment.
I feel bad for the guys. Guys do so much for us. In most cultures around the world romance seems to focus on us while guys have to do it all: approach us, ask us out, pursue us, court and romance us, pay for everything, propose, save like 3 months of their salary to buy us a ring, talk to both families, etc. And all we do is show up to the date? Thats cold haha! I might get weird looks from friends but I do those things for the guy I am seeing just like he does for me. Come on girls. Lets put some effort for the guys just like we expect from them. Relationship are not all about us.
We literally make humans for them. They just sit there. That’s their pay off.
@@BrooklynBaby100 You don’t make babies for all the guys that are paying for your dinners and drinks, do you?
Do you think pregnancy and childbirth is easy?
@@LaisCordiolli Its not but it can be prevented and we are not having children with every guy that we go out with. Being a provider is not easy either or knowing they could lose it all in a divorce. A relationship involves two people. Not sure why so many women refuse to do more for a man other than just showing up to a date and being in the receiving end.
You should look into feminine and masculine energy
"We forget that men are human beings. They have emotions." Damn, never thought I'd hear those words out of a woman. She still won't change to faciliate those emotions though. lmao
#1 reason. You are not faithful.
No no no… its not that you (she) were suppose to be beautiful… its that each time you lie to me i raise my standards for how physically attractive i want them to be until you cant meet my criteria anymore
Many men just want to be with everbodies va-jj.
2:22 you cant get anymore wrong than this
Theres no such thing as an intentful romance. Only faithful romance
2:52 worst advice ive ever heard in my entire life
If you say “i want to get married and you need to make a decision soon” your answer is always going to be “see ya”
Unless hes a simp or his family pressures him into it, then there is a 100% divorce rate for that
3:18 are you fucked in the head?
“He doesnt have to go out and look for sex because youre already giving it to him”
Why don’t women propose instead of waiting and dropping hints?
I find that an odd dynamic. Does she propose with a ring? If so, who gets her ring? Do they go get her ring together... Etc? Talking about it, agreeing you both want to get married.. Yes. But actually proposing? No.
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Not swallowing and no ana1.
Haha. Trust me , i walked enough distance to know where that road went. They all lead to the same place
Its a con. You set up the pieces.
First you devalue them.
The make them dependent
Sign a contract
Frame them
Scapegoat
In group controls the narrative and denies it… censors it
Out group (me) points it out. Points it out… points it out… and im not going to stop until you lose everyone and theres no one left to lie to
Im disgusted that you people would even think about bringing children into this world
What the fuck do you teach them? Is there a sociopath training they go through at 5 years old? Because people arent naturally wired this way, it has to be trained in them
Im guessing as parents, you ignore them ostracize them, treat them like shit to the brink of suicide ams then say “this is what you have to become to survive, heres the list of people thats ok to do this too and heres a list of people its not ok to do this too. Make money. Nothing is your fault”
Then you fill in the blanks as you go?
Because at this rate, if i had children id teach them “never trust anything anyone does or says. There is a 100% chance that 99.9% of the things people will say and do are a lie”
My reason I wouldn’t propose, some of you women really love having multiple male “friends”, and I don’t like to share my woman. To me, that shows she’s not really committed to me or respects my feelings. I’m of the belief that men and women cannot be truly platonic friends. We are sexual beings and it’s not a question of if it will get sexual, only when.
How many of your women had male friends (and you felt the relationship crossed boundaries). And how many women you would have proposed to (if they did not have those hypothetical friends) ?
Methinks the number of people one would want to marry (for real) would be rather small throughout your life - and ALL of them have besties that give you second thoughts ?