How To Become a DREAM GIRL Instead Of A Placeholder.
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I kind of want to be my own dream girl
this should be the main goal honey
same 😂
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I absolutely was just going to write that very sentiment…. ‘HIS’ dream girl….not a chance…. How about we stop turning ourselves into pretzels for others….Whilst there is always a need for compromise, give and take, and sacrifice for our partner, ‘HIS’ ‘DREAM GIRL’ really? Being ourselves is always ENOUGH!
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My man told me, “I know that if I broke up with you, you wouldn’t chase me” and I loved hearing that sh*t. Haha! He treats me like a queen and makes me feel cherished because I keep him on his toes. It has sadly taken me two divorces and two years of deep transformative healing after my last divorce to get to a place of knowing my value and trusting that what’s meant for me will stay with me. Never chasing a man again. *meow 😽🖤
Thank u! I need to hear it now❤
@@keylo2473 Of course! Wishing you the best on your journey.🥹💛
Can you plz give some examples of how you "keep him on his toes"? I'm curious what that looks like especially in an LTR and you don't play games like hot and cold. Thanks
@@alyailithyia Yes, of course! For me, as someone who had to heal codependent and anxious attachment traits, it’s doing daily check-ins with myself to make sure that I’m giving from a place to express my gratitude for what I’ve already received from my man. Not “giving to get”, which is masculine. I also allow plenty of space to be present in the relationship so he actually has room to come towards me & miss me. Rather than seeing it as “chasing me”, I think a healthier way of looking at it is to notice if he’s “leaning into” and “investing” in the relationship and in those rare occasions where he’s not (usually because of work stress or just needing some man cave time) then I lean back and meet my needs elsewhere by leaning on my friends, passions and hobbies to fulfill me. Usually it’s never more than 48 hours before he’s telling me how much he misses me and wants to spend quality time. I could go on… but, then maybe I’d need to start my own channel. Haha!
@@alyailithyia Yes, of course! For me, as someone who had to heal codependent and anxious attachment traits, it’s doing daily check-ins with myself to make sure that I’m giving from a place to express my gratitude for what I’ve already received from my man. Not “giving to get”, which is masculine. I also allow plenty of space to be present in the relationship so he actually has room to come towards me & miss me. Rather than seeing it as “chasing me”, I think a healthier way of looking at it is to notice if he’s “leaning into” and “investing” in the relationship and in those rare occasions where he’s not (usually because of work stress or just needing some man cave time) then I lean back and meet my needs elsewhere by leaning on my friends, passions and hobbies to fulfill me. Usually it’s never more than 48 hours before he’s telling me how much he misses me and wants to spend quality time. I could go on… but, then maybe I’d need to start my own channel. Haha!
“Struggle love is not for you…..Choose a man who chooses you.” A reminder from Mother that I needed to hear! 💗🙌🏻
And the fathers say to son(s), choose the woman who chooses you 😄
And not just a man that chooses you. A man that knows how to KEEP you. Bc plenty of men will be excited about you and obsessed and have no idea how to keep you bc they lack self awareness and emotional intelligence.
1- be authentic, independent. Don't imitate. Mask dropped
2- don't say everything has ur independence thoughts and feelings
No one wants to listen they just want to speak.
Don't make him chase you if he wants HE wants
3- Actions speak louder than words
4- discuss ur desire and need clearly
emotional independence, detachment and becoming obsessed with myself have been key to becoming her since my breakup. I feel so much better just focusing on myself.
Just went through some break ups and I wsnt to be single and focus on me. Kinda in the same boat you are.
@@SR77736 pouring all that love I used to give to others back into myself is a game changer! You got this!!
I am the married placeholder with 2.4 kids. Listen to this woman's words 👏🏼
how do u know ur the place holder? and r yall divorcing?
I have noticed that many men marry their dream girl and once she encounters some issues: depression, anxiety, post partum depression, the guy wants to leave.
This comment is very “real life” I agree with you on this. Some won’t like this truth ❤ x
Hbd
He needs to be the dream man too
Really? I feel the average man doesn't even have access to his "dream girl".
@@kokolatte825 great point! He would have to be above average if he is going to pursue his “dream girl” it works both ways x
Okay but that scared me when you said “nobody forced you Patricia” it’s a sign
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Gather around my sweet summer children MOTHER HAS ARRIVED
Zip it and write it in a diary 😂😂😂
Be your own dream girl! Be everything you ever wanted to be, earn your own respect and admiration ❤❤❤
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
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Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
That blue color compliments you Margarita! You are looking fabulous as always ❤
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Everything you just said about invest in yourself instead of investing in him which makes you more attractive by default is exactly the affirmation i needed to hear. I can still focus on being a good partner but until he marries me, I’m focused on moving into my own place, advancing my career as I’m already doing, self care and my own hobbies
I loved the pigeon analogy😁. When I think I'm gonna swoop in like a graceful swan and help, I have to make sure that I am not just a pigeon desperate for crumbs.
thank god mother uploaded
I need to feel the power I know I have within me
Believe it
Feeling is the secret
@@hayaashraf3404 fake it til you make it
You got this!
I just did LOL though because your profile picture made me hear that in Dwight's Voice 😂😂😂
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I never thought it fun to chase a man & yes I had unhealed father wounds & pain.. God healed that. Glad to hear you talking about God. I love & pray for you.
Personal notes:
1) Be 100% authentic. It'll attract the right man FOR YOU.
2) Emotional independence and detachment; have your own life going own, your own thoughts, hobbies, etc
3) Discuss your wants and needs clearly; they won't know what you want if you dont tell them, basically them a manual on how to make you happy.
4) Support him as his woman, not as his mom; dont do 50/50, rather, encourage him to do better.
5) Invest in yourself
6) Create a deep emotional bond.
7) Be confident in yourself; dont constantly ask if he loves you
8) Have the willingness to walk away, no need to announce it, just have it and they'll sense it.
9) Hot and cold behavior to create desire.
10) Don't drive the entire relationship
You have no idea how much I needed to see this video right now
Such powerful advice! Becoming your true self, setting boundaries, and embracing your independence are the keys to attracting the right person. Love the emphasis on being pursued, not chasing after love. We all deserve to be the dream girl, not a placeholder. 💖
"Boo boo kitty" Love it! I tell my husband what I want and he still gets it wrong. I would love for you to also talk about what to do after being married for a long while. None of this helps me now. My husband is too lost in life and I'm just another stress too support. So my lovely feminine energy is always drawing others towards me which is hard because I want the attention from my husband. At this point he drinks to deal and is a shell of himself.
Addiction is a valid reason to leave.
“Codependent No More” was a life changing read for me. Highly recommend for this dilemma.
If he won't get any help, he's abandoned himself & you. It will only get worse. I'd think about leaving.
I would try changing your mindset about your husband and talk differently about the situation. I mean this lady advice is great but your thoughts, beliefs and your mindset creates your reality an the experiences you experiences with the people around you.
The core issue is not your husband is that the core issue is that he not putting you as a priority. Have you downplayed your goals and aspirations regarding putting yourself as less of a priority?
Ask yourself those questions
You are EVERYTHING I didn’t know I needed during this separation I’m going through with my husband. Like I don’t even know how to thank you. The knowledge, the attitude, the humor. You are getting me through this. 💜
he says i’m perfect and he’s always praising me , he talks about weddings and stuff with me and is always professing his love lol. this lady gives the same advice my mom does listen to her! it works!
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I am 47. Hopeful i can get it right next time. Was married to guy who was abusive, don't wanna make the same mistake again. Thank you ❤
omg, the moment you said "Patricia, nobody forced you" hit me the best because my name is Patricia. Thank you so much!
You hurt my feelings in all the right ways. Speaking facts!!! Thank you. I love the tough love approach. You have helped snap me into place when I need it. Grateful videos like yours exist.
I was just pondering this dilemma yesterday. I want to be someone's dream girl and I can't settle for less. I'm through with being pursued by mediocre men with lazy intentions
“You’re a place holder because you’re amazing”
Riiiiight 😂
The edge in the tone of this video is everything ❤ Thank you for the tough love mama.
South Africa has decided to skip spring and go into summer too ! It’s lovely
I absolutely adore your videos. I think they are honestly life-changing for women and how we see ourselves. Keep up the amazing work.
you’re really my role model 🩷 love u aunty margarita
OMG Margarita, I am the placeholder! And I never realized!!! Aaaah!
I don’t think you understand how funny you are Margarita 😂😂
You drop gems though ❤️
Your vibe, timing, comedic wisdom is EVERYTHING I need right now ❤❤❤
I love your shirt here!! Blue fits you sooo well 💙
YES my first thought. This blue looks incredible on her! 💙
Thats so tough.
Ive always had a "black cat energy" but after long term relationship, when it end im behaving like a chaser.
I know I will eventually go back to my real self, but for now im making so many mistakes when meeting new people, like I forgot my true desires and personality. L O L
You’re my role model! 💕
Margarita changed my brain chemistry. God bless this woman
Seriously love your content SO much! You keep me laughing while also having a serious attitude and reminding me of how to be a black cat in a marriage of 7 years. God bless you!
You are like a big sister and raise me up. Thank you for this video
Thank you for the reminder 🙏🏼 I needed this video today, I had something that was starting to get out of control and I could tell but wasn’t sure if I was overthinking
Your videos are absolute GOLD. Thank you 🙏.
You're literally a next level spiritual teacher for me who's just learning to embrace my feminine energy thank you so much ❤definitely will be signing up for a course
I love your style ! You are soooo funny …let’s let go of struggle life..and your voice is so soothing
Ahhhhh….summer in Australia….stay cool!!! ❤
Great advice, something I would’ve appreciated to hear when I was younger but still, I think this applies in the many phases of my life.
This landed at the perfect time for me! Thank you, goddess 😘
I could listen to you for hours, love your energy
I love your content as always. I was struggling alot in my previous experience with lets say Brad. He wanted to take mortgage with me, he suggested mortgage before saying I love you or even sharing any interest in my life. I knew smth was off, also I remember he told me his ex was useless 😅😅 alot of red flags, I am proud of myself I found my balls to end this 💪
If u need to see an example of a dream blk cat, then watch mrs.russell on gilded age. They are a perfect example. She shows everything, setting boundaries, blk cat energy, having her own goals, her own life, her support to her hubby. She is the perfect example
Needed this today 😢 thank you. I almost forgot about my feminine energy that I worked so hard to embrace in this new “relationship” of mines.
I've learned this the hard way. I was the golden retriever from my first marriage. Trying to be the dream girl with this new relationship that im in. I love it whenever i hear him say that im his dream girl and that he wouldnt do anything to let me go, even if i dont want him hahahah. Seems obssessed but it's a good feeling to be loved that way by a man.
Amen!!!!! I was the dedicated wife who worked full time, brought the most of the money, I took care of my daughter and he always put me in the placeholder for years…
His mother raised him like a little prince and I was always thinking I had to take care of him so my mother in law accepted me.. but after years I understood that she will always find defects on me and he will always be weak if I am a golden retriever.
I am a black cat energy for the last month and I this man is in my feet!!
I don’t need him anymore but he is still around because he is chasing me all the time! And honestly I don’t know if I will continue with him but it is fascinating how basic men are
For all the women out there, I would strongly recommend to read "The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden". I have studied men before.
I love u. This is the best timing when needed the most!
this format really suits me
“Like the pigeon that I am” brother no one can wake me up inside like you - not even evanescence…. Like how am I laughing at myself after being called a rat with wings
It’s the first time that I am watching a video on repeat! Wow! How nice is this ! ❤
I'm here for the Margarita idioms!! They are 💥 and I'll be dropping them too haha
oh gosh i really love you and there is always something new to learn!!
This video confirmed to me what I deep down already knew.
I am a dream girl ahaha.
Margarita you literally described my mindset and beliefs.
Thanks for all the effort you put into these videos ❤
I binge watched them since i found you a couple months back when i met a guy which made me feel insecure and not valued.
Your videos helped me build up my confidence and i felt great lately 💪
Started talking to another guy, which i seemed to get along great and just before we could agree on a date to meet up, he self sabotaged and i feel not only turned off but heartbroken.
I don't understand why someone i didn't even met yet, can make me feel so awful 😔.
It kinda destroyed my day and i went from a high into a hole. My stomach aches and im just wondering, how can i be open for love but also protect myself to not get hurt and disencouraged by one individual.
This experience on top of all the others really put me off even trying again 😢
Seems like you are directly talking to me. Thank you for this.
I sent this to my sister who's been a placeholder for 10 years now
You literally changed my life in the most positive way. Thank you so much!!! When does your book come out and where can I buy it????
Yay The Queen is here👑
Wise words girl ..🙏🏻❤️
Mashalah, you are amazing! New fav youtube channel!
I so appreciate your straightforward advice!! Thank you!!! 🙏👏💖
Just ordered your book!!! ❤❤❤
Sooo needed to hear this! Thank you!!!❤
Im obsessed with your channel, it has helpes me immensly, I really feel the authenticity and am very gratefu. I ve started mimicing you with the hand movements hah ok not funny its ared flag. Anyway truly appreaciate the work, the inspiration and wisdom, the seamless sponsorship inserts and ads. Please dont stop
Fall here 🥰 Always happy to see your videos 🎉
theres this man, im his dream girl. hes made it clear now for like 6 years. and he is almost my dream guy. i know he would take care of me and make me happy. but he has a child already.. and i don’t know if i want my own kids- let alone be a stepmom! i dont know what to do and ive been internally battling whether to be with him or not for the past two years
I started focusing on self growth while with my ex-husband realized I wasn’t where I wanted to be .
I met this boy at 17 ignored crazy red flags and now Going through a divorce at 23 . always felt like a placeholder. Walked on like a doormat and never his dream girl.
I nowww know not to ignore what I feel .You live and you learn I guess
My friend is going through the same thing but she just got back together with him. (They arent married but he threatens to sue her bc he thinks they’re common law) Everyone in her family hates him so I want to give her space to figure it out and not just be another nagging voice to her.
Don’t know how else to help
Thanks so much for this reminder. Haven't had relationship experience
I love you Margarita. Thank you thank you thank you. I appreciate your teachings so much!
Sadly I live in spain and here absolutely everyone goes 50/50 and it's seen very badly that he pays more just because you are a woman. Still, me and him are paying equal rent and equal everything and he earns 300€ more than me every month... It's hard for me to save money right now because rent and food is so high, I have exactly the same money saved as when I moved with him a year ago. Maybe it's time to have a conversation with him 😅
Sounds like room mates. 😅
@@onaalert5480 it’s the same in Denmark and probably a lot of places in Europe. I have seen relationships where guys made 1-2k euro more then their girlfriend or wife and the would still go 50/50.
Sounds like it's not your man, I used to have such type of relationships, even worse actually, it didn't work, man should invest something material in his woman, even if a woman earns more money, otherwise it's just a friend.
@@keylo2473 Update: I had the scary conversation with him and he gladly agreed. He probably isn't the thoughtful type but he found it very reasonable specially since he is expecting a raise for his job. I'm glad he's willing to invest in his girl even if the other men around him won't. Now that I recall it, he told me this morning that he had a dream where he got a huge raise and he bought a beautiful house for us (real) so I made a step in the right direction for sure.
@@keylo2473 but really, never date a spanish man. No flowers, 50/50 on dates, no romantic gestures.... It maybe helps that my boyfriend is russian, he was raised better 😂
margarita please make a video on how to make a strong emotional bond? !!
Love your channel SO much!
Ok- aside from all that I’m finally learning in my late 40s from you I learned something new today. I had no idea summer and spring were different months in Australia. At first I was like “How was this posted 12 hours ago if it’s summer?”😅😂
She's on UA-cam omg!.
0:51 I've decided to give my parents some daughter issue for a change ;)
Good idea 🙌🏻😄
Nooo..
Thank you so much for you videos Margarita 🙏🏽
I am my own dream girl and I am chasing my own dreams he can come along if he so chooses, either way I get my prize!
The fact that the onus is being put on the woman to become "better" for the man rather than calling out the man for using women as place holders and reducing her to these categories really bothers me
The less we compete with one another to be placeholders, the fewer men will hang onto placeholders because there won’t be any left hanging around
Love this…golden advice.
Thank you for your wisdom as always🖤
These feed my soul! Thank you ❤❤
Love this. We already are, I guess that’s the goal. Realising it 🤗💗💗xx
I refused not to be the dream girl so it is what it is!
you are somethin else :D. love it. youre funny and witty. thanks for this video!
Margarita, seriously
I love you more ❤
Loved the video!!! Where did you get your shirt??? i love it!
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If you sneeze at me… I will walk away! 😂😂
Love the video❤
I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤