I just wanted to let Margarita know that I've recently discovered these videos (like the anxious attachment and detachment ones) and it's helped make me so much more self-aware. I've fallen (I think) for a guy who doesn't seem to show a lot of interest (at least through text), and navigating it through these videos has been life-saving.
“Understand him more than you love him” and “he needs to just love the hell out of you and not understand you much” rings so close to the old saying “the man needs to love the woman more”. And for some reason to me it sounds a lot like settling.. it’s hard to come to terms with such a reality.
@miaaa24 look at the big picture and the reality only 2-3% of single men are high value and worth being marrying to and having their kids, so if he ain’t obsessed with you it will be very easy for him to cheat, women literally offer themselves to them, competition is real and brutal so YES he has to love you more always!
@@eglantinafemmininefitrah I agree with what you said, don’t get me wrong. It’s just that in my head, when I hear that statement I associate it with the man being obsessed while the woman is just meh. I definitely think both spouses need to love each other for a happy marriage, and with the same intensity on good days (because of course the intensity of feelings may fluctuate sometimes). Having an imbalance of feelings just wouldn’t fulfill me personally.
i like that you encourage women to be the best versions of themselves instead of using manipulation and deceit to “attract” a man like so many influencers i see. my husband and i watch those types of videos for entertainment because it’s pure delusion. men see through the desperate and inauthentic tactics but some will play dumb to get what they want (ie sex). it was interesting to watch you break down common tactics that are promoted to women to manipulate men and discuss why they may have some merit but also why they often times backfire. i wish everyone peace and it’s my belief that something you obtain through deceit is not going to last or be in your best interest . the universal law is balance.
as a man who veers between anxious and avoidant the hot and cold thing really works on me. i watched this bc i’m trying to learn more about myself and my current situationship bc she is avoidant and this was very helpful.
Wow this is such an insight for me that women amongst themselves praise those who are work horses, the ladies who can do it all. But men actually don’t care in the same way so if you are being a work horse just to impress a man you won’t get that recognition you may be looking for. Thanks for this golden nugget ❤
Being the best version of you is truly the greatest thing you can do for the world - your partner, your children, your business partners. Really, there is no excuse not to work on it. Thanks for the great video Margarita.
You are a mere mortal human. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is walking around thinking about your mistakes. And anyway what other people think of me is none of my business. Your programming from your childhood wants to keep you being hard on yourself. Fill your subconscious mind with positive “I am” affirmations at bedtime! Forgiveness happens in an instant. And don’t go backward with men. Men are in the moment. They forgive and move on. We need to do this too. ❤
I love listening to you, there's many amazing women that do the same. However, you carry yourself so differently, your energy radiates and speaks to me. The way you communicate makes me feel like you know me and want the best for me. Thank you Margarita!
This piqued my curiosity because I was manipulated by my ex for years, subtly and I cannot understand why anyone wants to trick someone into a faux feeling of love. This has been educational. I want the man to be masculine and able and I want to be strong and feminine as a woman, attracting a strong, masculine man.
Watching your videos and hearing you say how women react to men and their behaviour just makes me realise how different my upbringing was from everyone else's. I grew up in an abusive family where I had to supress all about my personality, needs, emotions... and now it is impacting so negatively in my life and my relationships that any kind of demand I make to my partner I feel like I am not entitled to ask for it (even if it is just pick me up at home or hold my bag for a minute). I feel like I am demanding and overreacting and that makes my partner feel entitled to say demand more and more from me and not "bother" him with anything
I totally relate to what you’re saying and feel for you ❤ The good thing is you recognise it and you’re seeking out help through people such as Margarita, so you’re making a step toward change and having a better life
again, extremely helpful advices! straight to the point, valid, non-biased, and not abusing the feminine qualities. Toxic femininity always bring consequences later on.
I’m in my mid 50’s is a number I know . I’ve read books on attachment and listened to podcasts, audible on all things relationships, speakers like Lewis Howes , Lisa Biyelu , diary of a ceo , and you ! Love your words , your authenticity, down to earth , direct and loving way you are . I’m gaining wisdom and clarity listening . Many blessings to you and your family 💕
Love the energy you radiate Margarita!❤ and I really do gain help from the stuff you talk about in your insightful videos. Sending much love and appreciation. 😊✨
Margarita you are a absolute gem, the World needs more people like you. ❤ I think generally males can be very self-centred and love "me time". Sometimes it helps to give a wake up call in terms of carrying their fair weight and share of relationship responsibilities, rather than x, y, z is the Woman's role... but of course there is a whole approach required for that to be effective and it's not one of nagging, but instead emphasising the weight load, its effect and impact it is having. If he genuinely cares and values his relationship he should step up and share the work load. This also helps him to attune his emotional understanding and the less communication barriers generally the healthier the relationship as both form deeper understandings of each other. These are just my thoughts, I'm no health professional etc...
Please margarita, talk more again about self confidence , I feel so weak this times , and I don’t control my emotions and my energy is very low 😔 love you ❤
This was helpful as I'm in the initial stages of a new relationship. Knowing how I made mistakes in earlier relationships and how can I avoid doing the same thing all over again is actually lovely. Thank you so much❤
A very nicely made video. Provides a number of insights. In my view, most men see through these and other manipulations women employ. They simply ignore them to get what they want.Manipulations tend to reduce relationships to transactions
Margarita, I first came across your videos when I was searching for anxious avoidant attachments but ended up listening to every UA-cam video and podcast you’ve put out. Your advice has singlehandedly transformed my relationship and friendships and made me more discerning about what I was letting into my life. So thank you for that!
I really appreciate that you are debunking a lot of these “myths” but showing what is the healthier spin on it. The last one of hot and cold - that one really made me think about how that can apply to everyone in your life, not just your partner. Bottom line is have your own life and find balance on always being there for everyone.
Just came across '9 Ways to MANIPULATE a Man...and how to not go wrong doing it' and it's an interesting perspective. While manipulation isn't recommended, your insights on healthy communication and understanding are valuable.
Thank you. I watch and listen to all of your videos and podcasts ❤ Could you please do a video/podcast about the difference between being feminine versus being passive in a relationship? Thank you ❤
Understanding man is real deal. I am very frank and open minded when it comes to boys. They all tell I'm a good hearted human. They all seem to love talking to me, share their secrets, have great laugh and all.. But I remain just a friend. None ever approach me. I am quite talkative. They might find me tomboyish Or something. I cant give off that girly girl energy as I fear of being seen as needy. I am sooo confused what to do! 😭
Why do I need to initiate a "change in her life"? A couple should be a compliment to one another. Manipulation is a terrible thing for any human being to do to another.
I have to be a workhorse right now bc my husband passed away at 46. This really sucks. I hate doing it all and I don’t even know how to do it all. On top of balancing 2 children on my own. I miss my partner.
I found your podcast a month ago and it has been life changing. (Dramatic? No lol) Both of my parents are present, only physically. You have taught me things, as a young woman, that I have craved to have from my mother- and didn’t even know I needed. My perspective has changed with men and myself and it is literally seeing life through a different lense. Thank you for all you do, for being brave, for being unapologetically YOU. You’re an amazing human being and I just about fell out on your most recent podcast when you said “my little chicken soup” 😂❤️ I love hearing what you have to say, I am now in the mindset of being and fulfilling everything I deserve in my feminine flow. Thank you🥰🫶🏼 can’t wait to hear about your experience as a girl momma now! With love from Biloxi, MS. 💕
Hello Margarita! I really do enjoy your videos, very educational very enlightening, refreshing. your like the maternal figure i never had. or older sister 🥰. thanks so much . But i do have a question, we can practice detachment and follow this ideals all day. However, how do we know we have found the right guy? 🤔🤔 thanks.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
You did a video about how to make him obsessed at the beginning, and I loved it T^T Could you do another video like that but in a husband-wife relationship? Like, how to act when you become the wife to keep him obsessed with you ^^
I randomly was going through UA-cam videos, and even though this doesn't technically apply to me, that statement: "It's a prize to have life." That is so profound, and it applies to all beings. Thank you for sharing that.
Unfortunately what all women fail to under is that women are the majority and men are a minority so when the woman withholds intimacy there are dozens of other women who are just waiting for them to mess up so they can move in and take their man and they will give him what they refuse to give their man.
Hello, a fellow guy here. I think I’m a victim of manipulation from a female friend. It’s the second time it happened. First time was with a different girl. You’re spot on. Do you think I’m potentially dealing with a psychopath? I thought I’m in love like I thought I was with my ex, but after this video I sort of understand why I could never give myself to her fully, because the entire relationship was based on her manipulation and now it’s happening again, but why? Why not someone else? Why me?
Hey Margarita how are you? Do you have a video on why 50:50 doesn’t work or are you going to explore this more in a podcast? Is this something we can bring up early in dating? Sometimes the signs are clear and not defined with their actions, if they lead or like to step into the masc provider role. But I feel like this energy shouldn’t need to be questioned. Also would love some prompts on how to explain this stance without sounding like a princess. Thank you xx
"Value is given to those who give themselves value" THAT PART!
gang
I just wanted to let Margarita know that I've recently discovered these videos (like the anxious attachment and detachment ones) and it's helped make me so much more self-aware. I've fallen (I think) for a guy who doesn't seem to show a lot of interest (at least through text), and navigating it through these videos has been life-saving.
@SummerLuvinAlaiand what is the situation now? Are you still dating this guy? Does he genuinely likes you? Or are you guys not dating anymore?
@@Nika-my2ctwhy are you so curious in her business lmao.
“Understand him more than you love him” and “he needs to just love the hell out of you and not understand you much” rings so close to the old saying “the man needs to love the woman more”. And for some reason to me it sounds a lot like settling.. it’s hard to come to terms with such a reality.
To me that’s an ideal life BUT it doesn’t need to be it for you. Xxx
He has to love you more. That’s just fact
@miaaa24 look at the big picture and the reality only 2-3% of single men are high value and worth being marrying to and having their kids, so if he ain’t obsessed with you it will be very easy for him to cheat, women literally offer themselves to them, competition is real and brutal so YES he has to love you more always!
@@eglantinafemmininefitrah I agree with what you said, don’t get me wrong. It’s just that in my head, when I hear that statement I associate it with the man being obsessed while the woman is just meh. I definitely think both spouses need to love each other for a happy marriage, and with the same intensity on good days (because of course the intensity of feelings may fluctuate sometimes). Having an imbalance of feelings just wouldn’t fulfill me personally.
sadly, altho he loves me so much, him not understanding me much makes our relationship so hard. (and he is slightly autistic)
i like that you encourage women to be the best versions of themselves instead of using manipulation and deceit to “attract” a man like so many influencers i see. my husband and i watch those types of videos for entertainment because it’s pure delusion. men see through the desperate and inauthentic tactics but some will play dumb to get what they want (ie sex). it was interesting to watch you break down common tactics that are promoted to women to manipulate men and discuss why they may have some merit but also why they often times backfire. i wish everyone peace and it’s my belief that something you obtain through deceit is not going to last or be in your best interest . the universal law is balance.
I love that you see what I’m
Doing here xxx
Real intimacy is made on honesty not manipulation.
as a man who veers between anxious and avoidant the hot and cold thing really works on me. i watched this bc i’m trying to learn more about myself and my current situationship bc she is avoidant and this was very helpful.
Wow this is such an insight for me that women amongst themselves praise those who are work horses, the ladies who can do it all. But men actually don’t care in the same way so if you are being a work horse just to impress a man you won’t get that recognition you may be looking for. Thanks for this golden nugget ❤
Being the best version of you is truly the greatest thing you can do for the world - your partner, your children, your business partners. Really, there is no excuse not to work on it. Thanks for the great video Margarita.
You are the best on this subject. Period.
If you’re reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.💗🙏🏼
Yesss 💯
I desperately need it at this time.
Could you do a video on regret and forgiving yourself please?
Yes, I’m struggling with regret and forgiving myself. I had no idea it could be this hard.
😰😰
You are a mere mortal human. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is walking around thinking about your mistakes. And anyway what other people think of me is none of my business. Your programming from your childhood wants to keep you being hard on yourself. Fill your subconscious mind with positive “I am” affirmations at bedtime! Forgiveness happens in an instant. And don’t go backward with men. Men are in the moment. They forgive and move on. We need to do this too. ❤
I will
Make it xx
try eft tapping on forgiving yourself. It will change your life xxx@@Iriesoul717
authenticity is the currency of high value elite individuals who you want to be with
I cry constantly whenever I need to say that I don't like something, I just cry a lot and don't know how to fix it
I love listening to you, there's many amazing women that do the same. However, you carry yourself so differently, your energy radiates and speaks to me. The way you communicate makes me feel like you know me and want the best for me. Thank you Margarita!
as a man i appreciate your work of enlighting women
The title and thumbnail are so perfect. I can’t help but kind of chuckle.
This piqued my curiosity because I was manipulated by my ex for years, subtly and I cannot understand why anyone wants to trick someone into a faux feeling of love. This has been educational. I want the man to be masculine and able and I want to be strong and feminine as a woman, attracting a strong, masculine man.
Watching your videos and hearing you say how women react to men and their behaviour just makes me realise how different my upbringing was from everyone else's. I grew up in an abusive family where I had to supress all about my personality, needs, emotions... and now it is impacting so negatively in my life and my relationships that any kind of demand I make to my partner I feel like I am not entitled to ask for it (even if it is just pick me up at home or hold my bag for a minute). I feel like I am demanding and overreacting and that makes my partner feel entitled to say demand more and more from me and not "bother" him with anything
I totally relate to what you’re saying and feel for you ❤
The good thing is you recognise it and you’re seeking out help through people such as Margarita, so you’re making a step toward change and having a better life
Can you please do a video on texting men, the do’s and don’ts, their texting habits and what they mean etc ❤
again, extremely helpful advices! straight to the point, valid, non-biased, and not abusing the feminine qualities. Toxic femininity always bring consequences later on.
I love this video, can't get this honesty anywhere else
I love the way you express yourself very unapologetically because im only 27 but I feel like were the same person in different bodies you're a queen.
Margarita, your content has helped me so much. I wish you'd been in my life sooner
Very practical advise 🙂 I just wished I had seen something like this before
I’m in my mid 50’s is a number I know . I’ve read books on attachment and listened to podcasts, audible on all things relationships, speakers like Lewis Howes , Lisa Biyelu , diary of a ceo , and you ! Love your words , your authenticity, down to earth , direct and loving way you are . I’m gaining wisdom and clarity listening . Many blessings to you and your family 💕
Love the energy you radiate Margarita!❤ and I really do gain help from the stuff you talk about in your insightful videos. Sending much love and appreciation. 😊✨
This is such a fresh perspective on these 7 behaviours, thank you!
Margarita you are a absolute gem, the World needs more people like you. ❤ I think generally males can be very self-centred and love "me time". Sometimes it helps to give a wake up call in terms of carrying their fair weight and share of relationship responsibilities, rather than x, y, z is the Woman's role... but of course there is a whole approach required for that to be effective and it's not one of nagging, but instead emphasising the weight load, its effect and impact it is having. If he genuinely cares and values his relationship he should step up and share the work load. This also helps him to attune his emotional understanding and the less communication barriers generally the healthier the relationship as both form deeper understandings of each other. These are just my thoughts, I'm no health professional etc...
obsessed with your videos. this is true feminine power!! LIVING FOR THIS!!
Please margarita, talk more again about self confidence , I feel so weak this times , and I don’t control my emotions and my energy is very low 😔 love you ❤
A queen has uploaded again!
This was helpful as I'm in the initial stages of a new relationship. Knowing how I made mistakes in earlier relationships and how can I avoid doing the same thing all over again is actually lovely. Thank you so much❤
A very nicely made video. Provides a number of insights. In my view, most men see through these and other manipulations women employ. They simply ignore them to get what they want.Manipulations tend to reduce relationships to transactions
This was very revealing, and amazing food for thought!
I struggle with setting boundaries. The guilt is bad.
Margarita, I first came across your videos when I was searching for anxious avoidant attachments but ended up listening to every UA-cam video and podcast you’ve put out. Your advice has singlehandedly transformed my relationship and friendships and made me more discerning about what I was letting into my life. So thank you for that!
I really appreciate that you are debunking a lot of these “myths” but showing what is the healthier spin on it. The last one of hot and cold - that one really made me think about how that can apply to everyone in your life, not just your partner. Bottom line is have your own life and find balance on always being there for everyone.
This is soooo true. Never resonated more with a video.
This was the most informative video yet!! ❤️ It helped to see the way to do it right vs ways it can go wrong. Love it! Have a nice thanksgiving
Always with the facts, Margarita. The man should help, not completely help you out 24/7.
You dropped Gems💎 Thank you!
I am enjoying your content! Thanks!
I love your work. Your Advice is empowering us all women regardless of our race or background.
Just came across '9 Ways to MANIPULATE a Man...and how to not go wrong doing it' and it's an interesting perspective. While manipulation isn't recommended, your insights on healthy communication and understanding are valuable.
Wish I had you a long time ago, however I’m still grateful for you now. Thank you for being you!!
I loved this video. I think what you said was spot on and appreciate you sharing it. 😊
can't go wrong with a petite body, long hair, a clear complexion, & pretty mani/pedi. That alone will get you almost anything you want.
no it wont
@@tensevoyou must be a male.
you must be a manipulator@@gigitv5176
lol. You have to have an engaging personality as well.
This !!!
Thank you Margarita ❤
your content is gold
I’m getting scorpio vibes lol love your energy & blunt perspective ❤☺️ !!
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you. I watch and listen to all of your videos and podcasts ❤
Could you please do a video/podcast about the difference between being feminine versus being passive in a relationship?
Thank you ❤
Oh I like this! I find it hard to find that balance and either come across as passive or too assertive and maybe masculine
Your voice is si adorable ans captivating , besides the way you transmit everything is impressive.
20:47 "Value is given to those who Give themselves value!"
These videos are like homework for me. As soon as I start it I get out a notebook and pen😂
I loved it! I would like a video where you go more in depth about this hot and cold dynamic ❤
Your videos are so informative and eye opening
Binge watching you ❤ you’re amazing girl x
23:23 is gold, for any topic
Understanding man is real deal. I am very frank and open minded when it comes to boys. They all tell I'm a good hearted human. They all seem to love talking to me, share their secrets, have great laugh and all.. But I remain just a friend. None ever approach me. I am quite talkative. They might find me tomboyish Or something. I cant give off that girly girl energy as I fear of being seen as needy. I am sooo confused what to do! 😭
I will consider your recommendations ❤
Love you and you're as funny as hell....I always resonate with what you say♥️♥️😂😂🥰🥰
Very good video, thank you! Lots of love ❤
👏👏👏wonderful analysis!!! Thanks a lot !!
Why do I need to initiate a "change in her life"? A couple should be a compliment to one another. Manipulation is a terrible thing for any human being to do to another.
Happy new days
generally good advice
You really do have good insight into the male mind, I feel very seen.
I value your input x
This was very insightful.
Loving this ERA ! 🪐🪐🪐
always got an advice on point
One of your best videos thank you so much
The last one hit me. I always say I’m leaving in every argument 😢 learning now.
I have to be a workhorse right now bc my husband passed away at 46. This really sucks. I hate doing it all and I don’t even know how to do it all. On top of balancing 2 children on my own. I miss my partner.
That’s heart breaking….I’m
So so sorry my love
Sorry for your loss. 😢
Sorry for your loss
I found your podcast a month ago and it has been life changing. (Dramatic? No lol) Both of my parents are present, only physically.
You have taught me things, as a young woman, that I have craved to have from my mother- and didn’t even know I needed.
My perspective has changed with men and myself and it is literally seeing life through a different lense.
Thank you for all you do, for being brave, for being unapologetically YOU.
You’re an amazing human being and I just about fell out on your most recent podcast when you said “my little chicken soup” 😂❤️ I love hearing what you have to say, I am now in the mindset of being and fulfilling everything I deserve in my feminine flow.
Thank you🥰🫶🏼 can’t wait to hear about your experience as a girl momma now!
With love from Biloxi, MS. 💕
Great advice 👍
Damn woman, you’re GOOD! Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤
Nice video I love your advice ❤
how i love your mindset ,thanks for the enlightening other special us the women loooooovve uuuuuu so much ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
As a man. I really enjoy you
Hello Margarita! I really do enjoy your videos, very educational very enlightening, refreshing. your like the maternal figure i never had. or older sister 🥰. thanks so much . But i do have a question, we can practice detachment and follow this ideals all day. However, how do we know we have found the right guy? 🤔🤔 thanks.
That’s an episode coming soon x
@@Margarita.Nazarenko yess please! 😁
Any suggestions on self loving and not blaming yourself even when you're not at fault?
It’s so sad that even a small wrong step can break relationships… 😢
When I start overthinking about things, I find great solace from the wise words of Matthew Hussey: “The right relationship is not fragile.”
It means fixing it is also important
Welcome to the world of non top 15% men
You look good hun
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
You did a video about how to make him obsessed at the beginning, and I loved it T^T
Could you do another video like that but in a husband-wife relationship? Like, how to act when you become the wife to keep him obsessed with you ^^
Love this❤
I randomly was going through UA-cam videos, and even though this doesn't technically apply to me, that statement: "It's a prize to have life."
That is so profound, and it applies to all beings. Thank you for sharing that.
I love your videos. The headline of this was misleading though.
When intimacy is withheld it’s usually bc it’s been ongoing issues in relationships
Unfortunately what all women fail to under is that women are the majority and men are a minority so when the woman withholds intimacy there are dozens of other women who are just waiting for them to mess up so they can move in and take their man and they will give him what they refuse to give their man.
Befor watching your video margarita you are awsome
Can you do a video on how to be your most authentic self?
thank you for all of your words of wisdom you're someone I look up to a lot!!
I can x
Hello, a fellow guy here. I think I’m a victim of manipulation from a female friend. It’s the second time it happened. First time was with a different girl. You’re spot on. Do you think I’m potentially dealing with a psychopath? I thought I’m in love like I thought I was with my ex, but after this video I sort of understand why I could never give myself to her fully, because the entire relationship was based on her manipulation and now it’s happening again, but why? Why not someone else? Why me?
Relationships are based on trust
love you!
Hey Margarita how are you? Do you have a video on why 50:50 doesn’t work or are you going to explore this more in a podcast?
Is this something we can bring up early in dating? Sometimes the signs are clear and not defined with their actions, if they lead or like to step into the masc provider role. But I feel like this energy shouldn’t need to be questioned.
Also would love some prompts on how to explain this stance without sounding like a princess. Thank you xx
Sweetheart, you’ve never walked into a room and been the most intelligent person in it. Bless your heart!
Not never. But sure maybe half the time. X
Wow Margarita. Thank you for this! You are so wise and I do not say this often. Point 8 helped me so much.
Could you do a video about what to do or say if you're triggered by yelling
9:17 Girl you got me 😲