Perfect description. My boyfriend committed suicide our junior year of high school. For months I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything without being overwhelmed by grief. It’s been almost 7 years now and it’s easier now to remember the happy times and smile or laugh but every once in a while that grief just hits like a ton of bricks. Happened the other day when I was out at a restaurant with friends and the server asked if I wanted avocado on my tacos. Connor LOVED avocado and would put it on nearly anything. It used to drive me crazy because I couldn’t stand the texture, the smell, or even the look of it for some reason. The server probably thought I was crazy for tearing up about avocados but that simple question hurt as much as when his sister called me at 3 am that night he died and told me what was happening. Grief doesn’t get easier. You just learn to make room for it in your life.
My first born son committed suicide 6 years ago and boy grief and ptsd seem to go hand in hand. Whether it's avocados, curry, a certain smell, a song, the fact that I have his dog! , the box can never get big enough! If you fill the box with marshmallows, you might have a moment or two where the ball doesn't hit the pain button, but those darn marshmallows seem to move out of the way when you think your safe from the feelings and tears!
@Hadley You are so right! This IS the best way to describe grief. I lost my best friend 42 years ago. When I recall how much I miss her, I feel the gut punch like I’m 15 years old again. She’s still my best friend and gosh, I sure do miss her. It’s going to be a crazy- good reunion some day. PS. I’m a nurse too and I love what you do!
You literally described this perfectly. I lost my dad in Feb 2020 and the grief is just like that. The pain button when hit hurts like it just happened and it happens at random times. Thank you for sharing! ❤
I love this description of grief. It's so accurate in my opinion. I remember when I lost my several family members in close succession, and a friend of mine held me while I cried one night and described grief like this to me. It felt so accurate and so right. It's been several years since, and I know my box has gotten a lot bigger, but sometimes the ball hits the button, and I'm a puddle of tears. Grief hurts a lot sometimes, but sometimes I just think about how lucky I was to love someone, and be loved by someone so much that it sometimes physically hurts when I remember they're gone.
I lost my dad years ago, but when I found a notebook with his handwriting in it I burst out crying on my bedrooms floor for hours thinking about him and the pain of his loss. It comes back over and over just as painful as it was, sometimes it even makes me cry a little. So I think this was a perfect example for grief, thank you😌❤️
My dad died on this day in 2020. My mom passed 2 weeks later. This description is so incredibly accurate. She GETS it. It doesn't matter who you lost or what you are grieving. This description still applies. I love this so much. ❤
Omg this is the best description of grief I have ever heard in my life. I am crying right now because that’s exactly how my pain feels seven years later I hope more people see this and realize it doesn’t go away and you just need some time that’s all just give the person a little time and space ❤❤❤ thank you description -well said
My 24 year old son , Jon, died 24 years ago. No time to say goodbye…. And your explanation is spot on!!! It hurts exactly like it did the first day, when my triggers are touched!
I lost my youngest son 19 months ago to epilepsy. Your description helps me understand my grief. I can be feeling good for days and then something makes me think of him and it hurts like it did on day one. It stays with you always
I lost my mom in 2018, my oldest brother in 2020 and my 2nd brother in 2021. It is so true that it hits so hard, especially when I think of them with guilt.
I wish people talked about the guilt more. The guilt can absolutely be almost as bad as the grief itself. I'm glad you mentioned it, and I'm so sorry you have to deal with guilt too, along with the passing of multiple family members.♥
I slept in my dad’s hospital room for a few weeks at the end of his life. There’s nothing more painful than watching your loved one deteriorate. When he passed I was debilitated with sadness and I felt like I was standing still and everyone else kept moving. This is a really good description of pain. Thank you for this.
I feel for you, sister. I lost my dad too. It’s never easy. I don’t have many regrets in my life, but the one thing i regret the most is not visiting my dad in the hospital before he passed. My heart goes out to you and I hope you’re healing
My hubby passed in November of 2022 and I remember feeling so numb. COULDN'T stand the fact that life was going on all around me when mine felt like it came to an abrupt stop 🛑...😢😭😭😭
I love this.. my wife past away at 36 unexpectedly.. it's almost been a year.. and everytime..grief hits that pain button, it sure does feel like the first day.. thank you for this. ♥️
This is the best description I've ever seen. 17 years ago, we lost our daughter and 1st born child, and I still experience the pain as bad as day one, just less often.
My grandma died about a few months ago and went on hospice and told no one but her husband. She didn’t want me and my siblings to be worried about her passing. So the day she passed it came as a shock and her whole life she wanted to make everyone feel loved and appreciated. She was an amazing person❤️
It hasn’t even been a year yet for me, but my friend just sent this to me and it really is nice to be able to understand grief even though I’m having trouble feeling it yet.
This made me feel better. I lost my mom in late June, and at 30 years old I now only have one grabdparent estranged,, and one aunt. The grief I feel is debilitating, and I hope my ball continues to shrink.
This was an amazing description. In the last 4 years I have gone through more loss than anyone should. Some days it hurts just as bad as the day they each left me. Their memories give me laughs and smiles when needed, but also still tears.
This really helped me understand. I lost my husband on our 2nd anniversary, tomorrow will be one year. There was no way for me to explain to myself why some days were worse than others, but now I understand, thank you.❤
Its been 13 years since I lost my best friend, I STILL cry when I think of him. Life goes on and you loose focus of it in all the chaos but when you get a moment for bigger things, and realize they aren't gonna be there with you for the huge milestones it hurts so bad.
It's been over 40 years since my husband died. I rarely think of it these days, but just once in a while I hear a song or realize it would be his birthday and that pain comes back. Love never ends.
Described grieve to the letter! Watching these stories has made me cry over my own mother’s death, which was 12 yrs ago. I rarely cry over it anymore. When I did today, I felt like I couldn’t breath because it hurt so bad. It lasted a few mins, then I was able to move on. In the beginning, I wouldn’t have moved on. I’d cry all day, for days on end.
Its all encompassing on anniversaries. There is not only the mental memory, but the muscle memory too. My whole body feels the loss. But I know he's with me ❤. Finding your videos after he passed helped me so much. You validated the Experiences we had and helped me realize I wasnt going crazy. ❤
I love this! I’ve struggled with grief in the past from lost loved ones but also right now I’m experiencing grief from a breakup. It’s different but also still fits the same description. My mom said something that goes in like with this description she said it’ll hurt but some days years down the road you’ll still get upset over it. You’ll remember the memories or get reminded by something and it will hit. But it’s okay and that’s normal. But I’m just trying to focus on the positives that I was able to make those memories at all with that person. I’m grateful for the time I had no matter the length because it was important no matter what. This was kinda off topic and I didn’t plan to make it this long but I guess it was something sitting heavy on my heart that I needed to relieve. I love you’re videos and it’s inspired me to possibly become a hospice nurse!
when my grandpa and cat passed away within 2 weeks of each other my heart was broken. my mom showed me this analogy and even to this day i still feel this. thank you nurse hadley you’re amazing! 🥰
It’s true. I lost my grandma due to cancer 6 years ago (I’m 12). She played the song “I can only Imagine” at her funeral, and I just all of a sudden hear it out of nowhere yesterday and start BALLING. But, she’s walking right next to Jesus with Her mom and dad with her! I’m so glad she gets to be with him and I can’t wait till I’ll be there too!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🛐🤲🏻
This is the best description I have seen of grief so far. I always wondered why the pain never got easier, I thought I might be too sensitive but this makes so much sense… losing my life partner before we even got to start our life together, it’s gonna hurt.
This truly is the first description that I think people who have not yet felt grief to understand how it works. Time DOESNT heal all wounds it just helps you learn how to deal with it I think
This is the perfect description. I lost my baby brother 2 1/2 yrs ago, his wife and I always talk about how it feels the same sometimes. I miss him dearly. 🙏🏼❤️
This is such a good way of describing it. I started crying today over someone I lost 3 years ago. Most days I'm fine, but sometimes something will just hit that button with amazing accuracy and it's like I'm right back where I was 3 years ago.
Yes that’s exactly how it feels. My dad was out in hospice while I was on a field trip at school. When I got home my mom called me and said that my uncle would be driving me and my sister to the place and he didn’t have much time. We got there and my mom hugged us while crying saying “it’s gonna be okay” she said he was asleep and he could hear us but we would never be able to talk to him again. I spent about 30 minutes outside crying in a chair. Later that night he passed away and this was the worst pain I have ever felt. I’m glad others understand
Thank you for this description. Building a bigger life definitely has helped. Plus the red button aged, so even pushed it doesn't activate that hard anymore. Then I have loads of tools and rituals to handle the pain when it does hurt some days. Thanks for publishing this short video!
I absolutely love this description of grief. It’s short, sweet and to the point and more accurate than any description I’ve ever heard. I’m so glad I found your channel I absolutely love you. I’ve been putting off my dreams of being a pediatric hospice nurse and doing any job I can to take care of my kids. Even jobs I hate. My kids are teenagers now and I’m start school right before my 40th birthday. Your videos kept popping up several times a day and I take it as a sign that it’s time to do it. Super excited about your book.
Yes indeed. I know a family member who cares so deeply for so many people who have passed both naturally and tragically. I can't even begin to imagine.
Hadley, when you used the backpack analogy I was finally able to start managing my life again. I realize that when I have another heavy day with the backpack of grief it does not mean that I am stuck there forever. i am struggling more some days than others and it makes sense that I will never take the backpack off. Thank you for sharing that. It is helping.
Yes, a very accurate way to describe grief. Sometimes a simple reminder of my late husband will have me tearing up, or just bawling crying. Trying to explain it to others is hard. Thank you for the video, greatly appreciate it. 👵☮️🖖
I appreciate that the grief doesn’t fade, your life goes on and expands. That is a far more apt description than grief fading with time. It’s been 3 years and I still have a lot of days where it feels like no time has passed at all.
Nurse Hadley, this is an amazing, concise and accurate description. I'm just going to flat out steal it to use with my therapy clients. Actually, I'll show them this video - you say it best Thank you for sharing what you do and so much of yourself. All the best.
It’s been four years since my dad took his life and when that ball hits the button.. suddenly my world crashes down and the pain is just as raw as it was the day I found out he left us. It’s a hole in my heart and it hurts constantly all the time
I know you miss your Dad terribly and no human on earth could ever replace him. But I want you to know you have a Heavenly Father who will never die who will never leave you nor forsake you and is right there with you loving you and will give you strength to endure and have joy again. He promises so Matthew 5 when He says blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. And again at Jeremiah 31:3 when God promises that He loves us with an everlasting love and that with loving kindness He has drawn us to Himself
@@jenniferornduff7835 with all due respect, what the fuck. I don’t know what the intention of your comment was..but NO. I do ave my father, he is still with me every day in my heart. He’s my only father and his name was Pete. I don’t know how to respond to this comment because it feels very disingenuous. It may have been meant with good intentions but your comment is incredibly insensitive.
This was helpful to me. I had a friend pass at age 14 due to leukemia just over a year ago. About 3 months after she passed, I was up until 4am crying. I had hardly cried about it until then. I had to go downstairs to my mom because i just couldn't handle it alone that night. I wasn't sure why it was hurting that bad so suddenly.
This is the best description of grief I’ve ever seen. In the past 11 years I’ve lost 2 partners, 3 family members, and multiple friends. Every day is different when it comes to grief. It doesn’t get better it just gets different.
I just lost my grandpa at the end of January and this is so accurate. I love watching your videos but since he passed - I have a hard time watching them bc it makes me go back to last year of hospice he was on and so many times of thinking “this is it - he’s bout to go” but then BOOM! He bounces back and remembers you. But that last month was the hardest. He had gotten so small and it just broke my heart. That’s what has weighed on me the hardest. Seeing him whither away…. Just so hard.
I lost my dog in January and this is exactly how it went. I couldn’t get up to go to school-for context, she died in her sleep and my parents found her in the morning. Whenever I think too hard about her it all just hits, at once, and I have to hold back tears.
Mom is now "pre-hospice" or eligible for "long term hospice". It's been the most difficult time of my life so far. I guess that's why your shorts keep coming up in my feed. I appreciate your outlook, advice, and the way you respectfully share your experience. It helps to know I'm not going through this alone, even if I feel lonely.
It’s coming up on a year since my mom passed. I’m still completely heartbroken not one day has gone by where I don’t cry missing her so much. Thank god for my children they are the only reason I get out of bed and function. My 7 yr old is autistic I never dreamed I could learn so much from a 7 year old. I can’t wait to see What amazing things he will do. I know moms watching us always.❤
I lost my mom 14 years ago. She was 46 and I was pregnant with my first child. To say the least it was super tough. And ur description is EXACT!! All these years later I can hear a song and actually hear mama singing along to the song… and it hits just that quick! It never goes away and it never gets easier. Less frequent. Such a good job explaining it!!! ❤❤❤
Last year my grandma died right before Thanksgiving and it’s going to be on Thanksgiving but this bottle of grief in this button still brings back a lot of pain of her but sometimes it feels good if you know she’s in a better place
3 years later. I don’t cry every day. But I miss momma hard. But even just watching this, that familiar feeling hit my heart. My tears fell a minute. But it’s still better.
My grandma died of cancer about five years ago and I still sit and cry whenever I think of all the amazing memories I had with her and all the memories I will no longer be able to make with her….I think this is one of the best ways to describe it and what it does especially if you were really close to the person which little side note, my parents had me when they were in college so often times I would stay with my grandma at her house with my grandpa aunts, uncles, and even some family friends. It was a great time and she was the most loving caring person I have ever met and I don’t think I’ll ever find anyone as amazing as her.
I love this description, I lost my best friend 30 years ago and the pain is still there. ♥️
So so sorry for your loss
Same here, it’s been 13 years 😢❤
same here, it’s been 6 years and i still remember what it was like when i found out (i was 8)
I'm so sorry for your loss❤️
@@Rachelonawimb I'm so sorry I can't imagine you have my deepest condolences ❤️
Perfect description. My boyfriend committed suicide our junior year of high school. For months I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything without being overwhelmed by grief. It’s been almost 7 years now and it’s easier now to remember the happy times and smile or laugh but every once in a while that grief just hits like a ton of bricks. Happened the other day when I was out at a restaurant with friends and the server asked if I wanted avocado on my tacos. Connor LOVED avocado and would put it on nearly anything. It used to drive me crazy because I couldn’t stand the texture, the smell, or even the look of it for some reason. The server probably thought I was crazy for tearing up about avocados but that simple question hurt as much as when his sister called me at 3 am that night he died and told me what was happening. Grief doesn’t get easier. You just learn to make room for it in your life.
I am so sorry, i feel bad, *virtual hug*
My first born son committed suicide 6 years ago and boy grief and ptsd seem to go hand in hand. Whether it's avocados, curry, a certain smell, a song, the fact that I have his dog! , the box can never get big enough! If you fill the box with marshmallows, you might have a moment or two where the ball doesn't hit the pain button, but those darn marshmallows seem to move out of the way when you think your safe from the feelings and tears!
@@diannedelledera3096 oh I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how horrible that must have been.
@@the_author_artist7815 thank you. I wish I never knew. I wish that no other person would experience it. It's that heartbreaking.
I'm really sorry that happened. My mum committed suicide also so just know your not alone.
@Hadley You are so right! This IS the best way to describe grief. I lost my best friend 42 years ago. When I recall how much I miss her, I feel the gut punch like I’m 15 years old again. She’s still my best friend and gosh, I sure do miss her. It’s going to be a crazy- good reunion some day.
PS. I’m a nurse too and I love what you do!
This is the best description of grief I've heard. Thank you.
You literally described this perfectly. I lost my dad in Feb 2020 and the grief is just like that. The pain button when hit hurts like it just happened and it happens at random times. Thank you for sharing! ❤
I love this description of grief. It's so accurate in my opinion. I remember when I lost my several family members in close succession, and a friend of mine held me while I cried one night and described grief like this to me. It felt so accurate and so right. It's been several years since, and I know my box has gotten a lot bigger, but sometimes the ball hits the button, and I'm a puddle of tears.
Grief hurts a lot sometimes, but sometimes I just think about how lucky I was to love someone, and be loved by someone so much that it sometimes physically hurts when I remember they're gone.
My mom taught me this when my dance studio closed due to the pandemic
Thank you. My dad died in December, but I found myself weeping in a store thinking about him last week.
You just explained to me why thinking about my childhood dog sometimes just randomly makes me burst into tears. Thank you!
What a perfect way to describe it. This is exactly what it feels like….twenty years later.😢 Thank you, Hadley. You’re the angel we ALL need!❤
I lost my dad years ago, but when I found a notebook with his handwriting in it I burst out crying on my bedrooms floor for hours thinking about him and the pain of his loss. It comes back over and over just as painful as it was, sometimes it even makes me cry a little. So I think this was a perfect example for grief, thank you😌❤️
My dad died on this day in 2020. My mom passed 2 weeks later. This description is so incredibly accurate. She GETS it. It doesn't matter who you lost or what you are grieving. This description still applies. I love this so much. ❤
Wow, I’m so sorry you lost your parents so close together. That must have been so difficult for you. ❤
So sorry.
I lost my Gma who raised me to Covid on Mother's Day that same year.
The grief still hits the same some days.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢 2020 was the worst year ever.
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This was a really good description of grief.
It's been 7 years this year, but my box still feels so small.
Omg this is the best description of grief I have ever heard in my life. I am crying right now because that’s exactly how my pain feels seven years later I hope more people see this and realize it doesn’t go away and you just need some time that’s all just give the person a little time and space ❤❤❤ thank you description -well said
truer words have not been spoken
My 24 year old son , Jon, died 24 years ago. No time to say goodbye…. And your explanation is spot on!!! It hurts exactly like it did the first day, when my triggers are touched!
That’s probably the best description of grief I have ever heard or seen! Thank you for the share!
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I lost my youngest son 19 months ago to epilepsy. Your description helps me understand my grief. I can be feeling good for days and then something makes me think of him and it hurts like it did on day one. It stays with you always
I lost my mom in 2018, my oldest brother in 2020 and my 2nd brother in 2021. It is so true that it hits so hard, especially when I think of them with guilt.
I wish people talked about the guilt more. The guilt can absolutely be almost as bad as the grief itself. I'm glad you mentioned it, and I'm so sorry you have to deal with guilt too, along with the passing of multiple family members.♥
@@kylieshaye6562 Thank you! I had to make the decision to pull the plug on one of my brothers and it just kills me, even a year later.
I slept in my dad’s hospital room for a few weeks at the end of his life. There’s nothing more painful than watching your loved one deteriorate. When he passed I was debilitated with sadness and I felt like I was standing still and everyone else kept moving. This is a really good description of pain. Thank you for this.
I feel for you, sister. I lost my dad too. It’s never easy. I don’t have many regrets in my life, but the one thing i regret the most is not visiting my dad in the hospital before he passed. My heart goes out to you and I hope you’re healing
My hubby passed in November of 2022 and I remember feeling so numb. COULDN'T stand the fact that life was going on all around me when mine felt like it came to an abrupt stop 🛑...😢😭😭😭
I love this.. my wife past away at 36 unexpectedly.. it's almost been a year.. and everytime..grief hits that pain button, it sure does feel like the first day.. thank you for this. ♥️
This is the best description I've ever seen. 17 years ago, we lost our daughter and 1st born child, and I still experience the pain as bad as day one, just less often.
My grandma died about a few months ago and went on hospice and told no one but her husband. She didn’t want me and my siblings to be worried about her passing. So the day she passed it came as a shock and her whole life she wanted to make everyone feel loved and appreciated. She was an amazing person❤️
I really needed this today. I just loss a loved one today and it helps to be reminded that it will get better.
It hasn’t even been a year yet for me, but my friend just sent this to me and it really is nice to be able to understand grief even though I’m having trouble feeling it yet.
This made me feel better. I lost my mom in late June, and at 30 years old I now only have one grabdparent estranged,, and one aunt. The grief I feel is debilitating, and I hope my ball continues to shrink.
The ball does shrink but it will get bigger at key moments in your life that your mom will miss.
You got this. Keep stepping forward and expanding your life however you can.
This was an amazing description. In the last 4 years I have gone through more loss than anyone should. Some days it hurts just as bad as the day they each left me. Their memories give me laughs and smiles when needed, but also still tears.
So true 😢😢
Lost my husband 2 months ago...thank you. Bless you...can't breathe without him
I am so sorry. ❤
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This is the best description I’ve heard to explain how I feel about my loss many years ago. Thank you.
Perfectly said, I miss my dad so much sometimes that it takes my breath away
This really helped me understand. I lost my husband on our 2nd anniversary, tomorrow will be one year. There was no way for me to explain to myself why some days were worse than others, but now I understand, thank you.❤
This is so real!!! Best way to describe grief. Thank you.
As a person that recently lost somebody, this is a perfect picture of what grief feels like
It's been 14yrs. Since my 2yr old passed away. This is a perfect description of grief.
I lost my pet almost two years ago and every time I hear the music he liked it still makes me cry my eyes out
Nobody ever explained why grief hits the way it does. Thank you. Really. Thank you.
Its been 13 years since I lost my best friend, I STILL cry when I think of him. Life goes on and you loose focus of it in all the chaos but when you get a moment for bigger things, and realize they aren't gonna be there with you for the huge milestones it hurts so bad.
It's been over 40 years since my husband died. I rarely think of it these days, but just once in a while I hear a song or realize it would be his birthday and that pain comes back. Love never ends.
Described grieve to the letter! Watching these stories has made me cry over my own mother’s death, which was 12 yrs ago. I rarely cry over it anymore. When I did today, I felt like I couldn’t breath because it hurt so bad. It lasted a few mins, then I was able to move on. In the beginning, I wouldn’t have moved on. I’d cry all day, for days on end.
Its all encompassing on anniversaries. There is not only the mental memory, but the muscle memory too. My whole body feels the loss.
But I know he's with me ❤. Finding your videos after he passed helped me so much. You validated the Experiences we had and helped me realize I wasnt going crazy. ❤
I love this! I’ve struggled with grief in the past from lost loved ones but also right now I’m experiencing grief from a breakup. It’s different but also still fits the same description. My mom said something that goes in like with this description she said it’ll hurt but some days years down the road you’ll still get upset over it. You’ll remember the memories or get reminded by something and it will hit. But it’s okay and that’s normal. But I’m just trying to focus on the positives that I was able to make those memories at all with that person. I’m grateful for the time I had no matter the length because it was important no matter what. This was kinda off topic and I didn’t plan to make it this long but I guess it was something sitting heavy on my heart that I needed to relieve. I love you’re videos and it’s inspired me to possibly become a hospice nurse!
WELL SAID!!! AWESOME!
I WILL PULL THIS OUT WHEN HELPING OTHERS!
THANK YOU!! YOU ARE AWESOME!!
when my grandpa and cat passed away within 2 weeks of each other my heart was broken. my mom showed me this analogy and even to this day i still feel this. thank you nurse hadley you’re amazing! 🥰
she helped me grieve over my dad that passed 7 years ago❤😊
Thank you! I lost my son 2 years ago and this help's bring the sadness I feel in proactive.
Thanks, I lost my mama (she was only 43 years old) I know, she does not want me to be sad, and this keeps me going ❤❤ love you mama ❤
It’s true. I lost my grandma due to cancer 6 years ago (I’m 12). She played the song “I can only Imagine” at her funeral, and I just all of a sudden hear it out of nowhere yesterday and start BALLING. But, she’s walking right next to Jesus with Her mom and dad with her! I’m so glad she gets to be with him and I can’t wait till I’ll be there too!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🛐🤲🏻
This is the best description I have seen of grief so far. I always wondered why the pain never got easier, I thought I might be too sensitive but this makes so much sense… losing my life partner before we even got to start our life together, it’s gonna hurt.
Very glad I stumbled upon your shorts. Great analogy
This describes my grief very well. Thank you!
This truly is the first description that I think people who have not yet felt grief to understand how it works. Time DOESNT heal all wounds it just helps you learn how to deal with it I think
This is the perfect description. I lost my baby brother 2 1/2 yrs ago, his wife and I always talk about how it feels the same sometimes. I miss him dearly. 🙏🏼❤️
This is the best description of grief that ive ever seen, its really hard to describe but this is on point
This is such a good way of describing it. I started crying today over someone I lost 3 years ago. Most days I'm fine, but sometimes something will just hit that button with amazing accuracy and it's like I'm right back where I was 3 years ago.
So true. Thank you for the work you do!
it’s so nice to see it visually. i lost my grandpa in 2015 and most days still feel like the first. i hope my box expands soon
Yes that’s exactly how it feels. My dad was out in hospice while I was on a field trip at school. When I got home my mom called me and said that my uncle would be driving me and my sister to the place and he didn’t have much time. We got there and my mom hugged us while crying saying “it’s gonna be okay” she said he was asleep and he could hear us but we would never be able to talk to him again. I spent about 30 minutes outside crying in a chair. Later that night he passed away and this was the worst pain I have ever felt. I’m glad others understand
Thank you for this description. Building a bigger life definitely has helped. Plus the red button aged, so even pushed it doesn't activate that hard anymore. Then I have loads of tools and rituals to handle the pain when it does hurt some days. Thanks for publishing this short video!
I love your explanation of grief it’s perfect
it definitely feels like that. I lost my mom ten years ago when I was ten years old. The box of my life has grown but there’s still times when I sob.
My gram was in hospice and her hospice nurse kept her comfortable and we are so thankful for the nurse that helped her. Thank you ❤ for what you do ❤❤
I absolutely love this description of grief. It’s short, sweet and to the point and more accurate than any description I’ve ever heard. I’m so glad I found your channel I absolutely love you. I’ve been putting off my dreams of being a pediatric hospice nurse and doing any job I can to take care of my kids. Even jobs I hate. My kids are teenagers now and I’m start school right before my 40th birthday. Your videos kept popping up several times a day and I take it as a sign that it’s time to do it. Super excited about your book.
Yes indeed. I know a family member who cares so deeply for so many people who have passed both naturally and tragically. I can't even begin to imagine.
My dad died over 20 years ago and it sneaks up when I am not thinking about him . 😢 I miss him soooooo much.
Amazing description of grief ❤
Hadley, when you used the backpack analogy I was finally able to start managing my life again. I realize that when I have another heavy day with the backpack of grief it does not mean that I am stuck there forever. i am struggling more some days than others and it makes sense that I will never take the backpack off. Thank you for sharing that. It is helping.
Yes, a very accurate way to describe grief. Sometimes a simple reminder of my late husband will have me tearing up, or just bawling crying. Trying to explain it to others is hard.
Thank you for the video, greatly appreciate it. 👵☮️🖖
Thank you so much for your videos, my mother is in hospice home care and I understand more now
Amen! This is exactly it:( miss my mama every day
I love this it is so accurate and correct!! I still feel grief over things
I appreciate that the grief doesn’t fade, your life goes on and expands. That is a far more apt description than grief fading with time. It’s been 3 years and I still have a lot of days where it feels like no time has passed at all.
Nurse Hadley, this is an amazing, concise and accurate description. I'm just going to flat out steal it to use with my therapy clients. Actually, I'll show them this video - you say it best Thank you for sharing what you do and so much of yourself. All the best.
It’s been four years since my dad took his life and when that ball hits the button.. suddenly my world crashes down and the pain is just as raw as it was the day I found out he left us. It’s a hole in my heart and it hurts constantly all the time
I know you miss your Dad terribly and no human on earth could ever replace him. But I want you to know you have a Heavenly Father who will never die who will never leave you nor forsake you and is right there with you loving you and will give you strength to endure and have joy again. He promises so Matthew 5 when He says blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. And again at Jeremiah 31:3 when God promises that He loves us with an everlasting love and that with loving kindness He has drawn us to Himself
@@jenniferornduff7835 with all due respect, what the fuck. I don’t know what the intention of your comment was..but NO. I do ave my father, he is still with me every day in my heart. He’s my only father and his name was Pete.
I don’t know how to respond to this comment because it feels very disingenuous. It may have been meant with good intentions but your comment is incredibly insensitive.
This was helpful to me. I had a friend pass at age 14 due to leukemia just over a year ago. About 3 months after she passed, I was up until 4am crying. I had hardly cried about it until then. I had to go downstairs to my mom because i just couldn't handle it alone that night. I wasn't sure why it was hurting that bad so suddenly.
Thank you ❤
Wow, very enlightening! Thank you!
This is the best description of grief I’ve ever seen. In the past 11 years I’ve lost 2 partners, 3 family members, and multiple friends. Every day is different when it comes to grief. It doesn’t get better it just gets different.
Thank you for sharing this I have shared this with so many people u have heldped
You are angel straight from the hands of God! Thank you again
U r brilliant!!! From 45 years Clinical RN, last. Job till retirement at 65, ANM nights in ED. Watch and adore
All of ur videos.❤😊
I just lost my dog to cancer yesterday, and this was honestly the most comforting YT Short I've seen. Thank you.
Two miscarriages last year. A greater strength to learn how to help myself and others through the time. This is a wonderfully helpful explanation
I needed to see this today. Thank you
I just lost my grandpa at the end of January and this is so accurate. I love watching your videos but since he passed - I have a hard time watching them bc it makes me go back to last year of hospice he was on and so many times of thinking “this is it - he’s bout to go” but then BOOM! He bounces back and remembers you. But that last month was the hardest. He had gotten so small and it just broke my heart. That’s what has weighed on me the hardest. Seeing him whither away…. Just so hard.
that is so smart! I have never thought of it that way, because it does hurt just as hard each time
I lost my dog in January and this is exactly how it went. I couldn’t get up to go to school-for context, she died in her sleep and my parents found her in the morning. Whenever I think too hard about her it all just hits, at once, and I have to hold back tears.
Mom is now "pre-hospice" or eligible for "long term hospice". It's been the most difficult time of my life so far. I guess that's why your shorts keep coming up in my feed. I appreciate your outlook, advice, and the way you respectfully share your experience. It helps to know I'm not going through this alone, even if I feel lonely.
Thank you for being here ♥️ so sorry about your mom
My grandmother died 13 years ago and this describes my pain perfectly. Thank you 😊♥️
It’s coming up on a year since my mom passed. I’m still completely heartbroken not one day has gone by where I don’t cry missing her so much. Thank god for my children they are the only reason I get out of bed and function. My 7 yr old is autistic I never dreamed I could learn so much from a 7 year old. I can’t wait to see What amazing things he will do. I know moms watching us always.❤
I lost my mom 14 years ago. She was 46 and I was pregnant with my first child. To say the least it was super tough. And ur description is EXACT!! All these years later I can hear a song and actually hear mama singing along to the song… and it hits just that quick! It never goes away and it never gets easier. Less frequent. Such a good job explaining it!!! ❤❤❤
Great! Thank you!
Never felt something so deeply before. This makes so much sense
Uhg even YEARS later (almost 30) the pain is so hard when that is hit
Thank you for sharing your stories. We need them
I was a pallbearer at my grandmother funeral they played amazing grace everytime I hear it it brings me back to that day which was about 12 yrs ago
Fantastic description Hadley ❤
this reminds me a lot of how triggers feel when you’re in recovery from addiction. healthy coping mechanisms are so important.
Last year my grandma died right before Thanksgiving and it’s going to be on Thanksgiving but this bottle of grief in this button still brings back a lot of pain of her but sometimes it feels good if you know she’s in a better place
Lost my husband almost ten years ago, and the pain is still there..!! I cry everyday..!!
3 years later. I don’t cry every day. But I miss momma hard. But even just watching this, that familiar feeling hit my heart. My tears fell a minute. But it’s still better.
I've used this analogy for grief for some time now - it's SO apt! ⏺️
My grandma died of cancer about five years ago and I still sit and cry whenever I think of all the amazing memories I had with her and all the memories I will no longer be able to make with her….I think this is one of the best ways to describe it and what it does especially if you were really close to the person which little side note, my parents had me when they were in college so often times I would stay with my grandma at her house with my grandpa aunts, uncles, and even some family friends. It was a great time and she was the most loving caring person I have ever met and I don’t think I’ll ever find anyone as amazing as her.