I’ve been googling all days reading and researching I’ve been trying to figure out what to do with my life rn baby sleep is not happening…. This is the exact video I needed …. Everything I needed to hear thank you
You're a legend ! We followed this and last night our baby went to sleep , self soothing herself and happy . She is more playful through the day and sleeping so much better . Your technique was straight from the heart for your child , teaching them a new skill but also understanding their comfort and need from us as parents . The 'cry out technique ' was too scary for us to even attempt so we are glad we found your video instead 😃🙏
Wooow this makes me soo happy to hear! I’m so glad it’s working for you guys! I’m glad me sharing my experience and what I did with my daughter could be of so much help ❤️🥰
I’m going through EXACTLY what you were going through in this video. Same tug of war inside me about disagreeing with modern society’s view on baby care and my own need for sleep. It feels like a relief to hear someone voice what’s going on in my mind and know I’m not alone.
Crying while watching this and reading the comments. I thought I was the only one. This video is EXACTLY me and I desperately needed to hear this. THANK YOU.
😭you are not alone mama 🥹🥲❤️ Your doing your best. Sending love your way. I have an updated sleep training video I posted last week you can also check out if you want ✨
Thank you so much!!!!!! I thought I was the only one experiencing these feelings. Baby girl cat naps and Mommie is tired AF. I’m a wife as well and I have not found balance yet and baby is almost 8 months
Your not alone! Sooo many people are in similar boats. I just posted 2 videos on my channel how I sleep trained my 8 month old. I hope it can help ❤️❤️
Im having the same issue with my daughter & like you I don’t believe in leaving her to cry. I believe that as her mother she should be dependent on me. If not me then who else? Your video definitely encouraged me to get her on a schedule. Wish us luck 🤞🏽
Thank you soooo much for outlining your challenges with sleep training due to your belief system. This helps me so much because I share similar values. I feel like God led me to this video. ❤
Oh my word we are like the same person! 8 month old baby boy, working from home, zombie mom not able to do anything but work & take care of baby. He's up every 1-2 he's at night 🤦♀️I have always hated the cry it out sleep training method, have had the same views you do on that subject.
Oh gosh girl 😭 it’s hard & your doing an amazing job. But keep a look out for an upcoming video in the next few weeks I’ll be uploading how I got her to sleep 2-3 hr naps & sleep 12 hours through the night. It took a lot of trial and error but I finalllly did something that worked & hopefully it can help you out too - sooner than it helped me lol she is almost 2 now ☺️❤️
@@thendralnirmal yesss finally...lol. thank you. Finally caved and did the Ferber method and it literally took 1 nap and 1 night time and he was pretty much set.
The French are big proponents of Cry It Out, so proud their babies sleep all night at 7-8 weeks! I'm still not sure if I believe it, but my gosh, I couldn't. Could not let a baby that young "cry it out". There are so many voices coming at Mommys, saying what must be done. But at the end of the day? Trust your gut. I loved what she said, my baby was inside me, she still needs me. 💙
U have no idea how amazing and courageous u are. I needed to hear you so bad. I’ve been praying for help form anything or anyone and u shared exactly what I needed to hear
❤️❤️❤️ your awesome. I also have an updated sleep training video plus some other things to consider that helped my baby sleep well and continue to sleep well 🙂
This is exactly what im experiencing!!! Also totally agree everything u said.. modern times is all about independence and Mom's grinding 🧐 heck no i love being with my baby..i don't want my baby to cry it out!
My situation is literally identical to your in addition to my views I’m definitely going to try some of your tips! Thanks so much for sharing its good to know I’m not alone.
Girl! Your intro was so spot on. For me and my husband we were battling really bad reflux and formula intolerances so our baby got completely used to sleeping on us. She's 8 months adjusted age and it's painfully obvious that it's time to sleep train her. We just aren't sleeping well - either of us. She's flailing and whining every night. I'm hopeful that we can finally get her bottles consolidated so she doesn't need anymore night feedings and we can start soon. Your part about not being able to be a good wife hit me in the feels. Oh... And I gave up my job to take care of her full time for exactly that. Western culture is so work first. We don't really put family first.
I just posted an update version you should check out! But omg YES girl, my daughter was the same way flailing etc. like even when she was in our bed she would not go to sleep there were soo many night where I was literally just like I don’t even know what to do cocomelon it is.. that was the only thing that would settle her down and just sit in the bed with us. She would watch it for hours content but I hated it because obviously that’s not healthy to do every night and not sleep 😭 so I feel you mama, better days are ahead! & the last thing you said - spot on - and because that is so - it makes finding a community of other mamas (in person and not just via online) hard.
I just found your video, I have a 10 ( about to be 11 month old) who sleeps horrible. We have resorted to cosleeping ( which I’m not enjoying). I have been so against sleep training but going 11 months with little sleep is bringing me to my breaking point. I’m going to try this, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
@@FoodShowFan we kind of slept trained my baby. we still rock or I nurse to sleep. He sleeps 9 hours straight, sometimes at the 9th hour is just a feed, sometimes is just to play. But am sure it got better due to us moving him into his room and his developmental progressions.
Thanks for this! I’m struggling with sleep training with my baby’s nap too… with so many sleep training methods out there I felt like something just didn’t feel right. I love how you prayed to God and help you make peace with the right decision you make for your baby. Such a great reminder to ask for wisdom from our Lord. And also you picked her up to console her. This was something that I wasn’t sure I should do with so many sleep training methods were against it. Glad this worked out for you and your baby! :)
Thank you for sharing this!! I'm going through this exact situation with my LO. I found your video because I also don't believe in CIO sleep training but was feeling desperate with chronic lack of sleep. I don't want to get too excited here because it's only been a day but went from cosleeping, up every 45 minutes to sleeping in his own bed ALL NIGHT with one 4.5hr stent. I haven't slept for 4.5 hours in MONTHS. Thank you so much for the encouragement. Hopefully this is day one of many well rested nights!
This is really good to hear! Going through this with my 8 month old. We’ve tried “sleep training” sporadically the past several months but it never really worked. Naps and night time sleep are becoming such a struggle. He always nursed to sleep but lately doesn’t want to all the time so now it’s like shoot what do we do lol. I get so pissed so something needs to change. He doesn’t take a pacifier so I’m hoping without that it will still work to do this. I don’t like the idea of “sleep training” but a modified version will hopefully help him ❤
Thanks mama! Well done!! I am loving this exact experience with my 8 month old and you’ve outlined my situation inside and out. I am going to try this starting NOW. Wish me luck !
First time mom here, I came across your video because I want to start sleep training my baby but it kills me to hear her cry. I havent been able to sleep train her. She is 8 months and started co sleeping with me and my partner at 3 months. We feel like its time to transition her into her crib but I have no clue as to where or how to start. Thank you for your video, it was helpful and relatable. I understand its going to be a journey and you helped shed some light on how to go about it.
My mom made me feel guilty for letting my baby cry because I stay with her but watching this video as a first time mother reassured me that my baby was perfectly fine and doing the same things others baby do . Unfortunately since my baby is turning 10 months he is very aware and always has been aware, I was not told or given advice at all about sleep training but thank god for these platforms but I feel guilty for not checking in on him or picking him up to reassure him everything was ok . We share a room so he seeing me but I don’t pick him up he even cried once to where he threw up his food bc he kept on crying and I felt awful but he eventually goes to sleep and I will continue to put him in the bed and he cry but I kno im doing great
We’re definitely at the point of how we’re doing things just isn’t working for us anymore. Like it’s such an ordeal every nap time and I can’t get anything done during the day and it’s honestly stressing me out and making me dread the days and I don’t want to feel like that about being with her during the day. I just wasn’t sure what that would look like from a cosleeping standpoint because that’s a big no no in todays society like you said so no one ever really talks about that. But I like the idea of doing it gradually and still bringing her in the bed as needed. I’ve recently noticed her being more discontented at night like you mentioned and I honestly just think it’s time. Thanks for making me feel more at peace about it
Yes! I know that feeling all too well. Check out my latest video on our sleep training update now that my daughter is older.. I honestly should have done it way sooner but I actually look forward to bedtime and naps now because its soooooo easy and she goes down so well with no crying or resisting. I thank God for where we are at now! & Yes, I loved co-sleeping, until i didn't.. and I think the time frame for that is different for every co-sleeping parent and society doesn't agree much with that and thats okay. I know people who still cosleep with their 2 year olds happily and I think if thats what they like to do and if it works for them then great! Continue you know? haha. For us, I knew it was time to make a change when neither me or my daughter were getting good sleep and I would become SO aggravated during the night and the next day I would just be so tired all the time. I didn't want to feel that aggravation towards her but at the same time I wasn't quite ready to do what needed to be done to transition her to her own room full night. Does that make sense? Anyways, I finally got to the point of realizing it was best for everyone and I'm so glad we are successfully all getting good nights sleep most nights. Idk why I felt to write all this but hopefully you are making some progress in the sleep department with your little one
Thank you. I was having the same issue and my baby, she's 8 months...and many people keep telling me to let her cry it out, but I was not comfortable with their methods. This is encouraging.
If you don’t understand the pain or the energy that some babies may cry so much that they literally won’t let you do anything they can literally hurt your body to the core so i do believe in the cry it out method to train them when you keep coddling them it won’t be good for them
I said this on Instagram but I 100% agree with babies having to rely on mama. They should! They need to know security. I want to try this but I need to get emotionally ready to not co sleep lolol
Yessss the biggest thing I think is for the parent to be ready mentally/emotionally. whenever YOU feel it’s time and your ready, that’s the perfect time, not a day earlier ❤️
It’s like you made this video specifically for me 😅 thank you for sharing your experience! It’s nice to hear I’m not the only one with this situation. My baby is six months old and WILL NOT sleep anywhere but on me or in my bed. And naps are never longer than 45 mins. I honestly don’t mind holding him most of the time because he’s so cuddly and sweet and won’t be little forever, but I know it will soon be an issue! I’m really trying to figure out what to do in a couple months when it will be time to “sleep train” and this sounds perfect for us! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
How did it go my son is 11 months old. Your life is my life lol. He contacts sleeps on day and night, rocked and nursed to sleep. I’m scared lol. I need to start though.
Going exactly throught the same with my LO . He is 8 months and he sleeps on his cot but waking up multiple times a night atm more than a few weeks before. I have been going back and forward wether to do it or not . I just cant deal with the idea . He is not getting what he needs from me I like your approach and the honesty in your video. I might try to do this soon i hope i get the courage i need Its so hard . Thank you so much for the video
I feel like you just told my story with your struggles, the guilt going back and forth and now I’m at the point for my physical and mental health that I need to try something now. I will try this.
I so want to do this for my little one's naps but I'm just so not looking forward to him crying. I really liked your video because you were real about how you felt and the fact that you did pick up your daughter.
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m in the same place with my 6 month old. Hubby and I are pooped but don’t want to do the cry it out method. Thank you again.
I'm so glad this video popped up in my feed! We've done a lot of the same things you guys did. My girl is 4 1/2 months and although she still cosleeps soundly at night, I'm ready to end the contact naps. After 4 days of sleep training naps, she's taking them on her own (not sleeping as well yet, but we'll see if she gets back to her old nap schedule in time). It's good to hear how you transitioned from cosleeping. We'll probably do the same around 6-7 months or whenever she gets too wiggly! :D Cheers and thanks for this video!!
Here watching only just found you!! But my daughter is 8 months now and she was the exactly the same as your daughter with her sleep pattern unlike you I don’t like the term sleep training and letting them cry makes me upset but I’ve got to the same point is you I need my sleep now and she definitely does to this video is great help thank you! X
This was so incredibly encouraging! My daughter is 7 months and I’ve been terrified of transitioning to the crib. going to start doing your method tomorrow!
@@JanaeCrawford it has been going so well! We are on day five and she has been sleeping soooo much better. Today she actually took two naps in her crib as well!
@@JanaeCrawford we used the Ferber method with only night time to start and now she is wanting naps in the crib too…to clarify my first comment ❤️ thanks for sharing your experience!
Ohh myy goodnesss thank you 4 this ..I feel like u do but u can't say anything cause everybody is right n I'm wrong..since I been a new mommy I just stay to myself n take care of my lil guy n me n I have twins on the way..everybody is soo hard-core on taking care of babies..anyhow
Oh wow, this was so encouraging & reassuring, thanks a lot 🤗 Don’t feel guilty anymore for not going according to the “norm”. My lil girl slept very well in her crib while swaddled until she was 4months and started turning and then that’s where I got conflicted 😐. She could only get a good night sleep in bed with me, so we’ve been co-sleeping and she’s going to be 6 months next week Wednesday. I’ve been trying to keep her in her crib but I just always pick her up when she doesn’t fall asleep and keeps crying. Now I’m so pumped up to try out your method. Hoping for excellent results and the will & courage to not be so eager to carry her up or put her in my bed when she’s crying 🙏🏼 Thanks a lot for an awesome video 🥰
I’m so glad you found this helpful mama 🤗 remember, at the end of the day, do what feels right for you and your little one 🙏🏽❤️ I’ll be honest the first few days were hard but I’m so glad I decided to do this because now Sage is happier since she is sleeping better that she was and so am I.
My son is exactly like your daughter except he is so stubborn. I did everything you did today this is the first day. I did it for an hour and he wouldn’t stop crying so I ended up letting him sleep on me and then put him down and woke up 20 minutes later. So nap 2 I was super hopeful. Thinking ok he’s tired nope did it again for an hour and did the same thing. I’m hopeful and going to keep trying. Pray for me though because I hated hearing him cry.
Thank you, even if its a year ago, thank you Let me try this and I will let you know.. Its encouraging to know someone else is going thru what am going thru
I felt like a fly on the wall when you were describing your daughter with how she's alert & her sleep habits. My daughter is 8 months old and I've been putting off sleep training (also first time mom). From the second she came out her eyes were wide open lol. She's also been napping on us. We use the jumper a lot to help tire her out. Thanks for posting this, it was really helpful. We're starting this week! 🤞
I should also say she sleeps in a bassinet next to me still. We used to cosleep until she was 4 months on the couch. So moving her to her own bed & own room will be hard.
Any ideas when the baby refuses a paci/bobo?? My husband and I are going to start sleep training our 8 month old and your video helped so much to get us in the right mind set. Everything is similar- baby's crib is in our room, but baby has been co sleeping and he has not been wanting to sleep in his crib. He wakes up and will only fall back asleep if I nurse him next to me in bed. Last night he was up like every hour or less!! It's super exhausting and I know we need to start sleep training. He was taking a paci until around 2 months ago. We are not sure why he won't take the paci anymore but hopefully he will find something to help self soothe during sleep training. Maybe his thumb??
I’m glad this could be useful ❤️ I have updated videos that could help as well on my channel! Also, unfortunately some kids just don’t take pacis. My first still doesn’t sleep without it and she is 2, my littlest won’t take one no matter what I’ve tried and she is now 11 months 😂 maybe a little stuffed animal, but I know people say don’t let kids sleep with anything in their crib until after 1 years old but maybe for naps when you can monitor him you could try?
I love your baby vidéos! First of all your daughter is so cute! Second of all, your videos have been so helpful to me, as a first time mom. I feel like you get me lol. My daughter only falls asleep on me because I believe she has reflux and I keep her upright after feeding (she falls asleep while feeding anyways) so it’s been hard getting anything done. Trying to sleep train her has been hard too. I’m definitely going to try doing it your way because I’m desperate at this point lol and it seems to work. I just love the way you explained it all, it’s not like other sleep training videos that I’ve watched. So thank you so much and God bless you and your family abundant 🙏🏾💜
Aww thank you so much girl! I'm glad I could help! I will be praying for better sleep for you and your little one 🙏🏽 trust me, now that Sage sleeps soooo much better, on the days she doesn't - Im like OMG how did I survive a few months ago 😂
Is her Bobo her paci? My son Jax os almost eight months old and I’m ready to do something similar. Your video has been the only one I truly resonate/ feel like he’s the same as sage was so thank you for sharing!
Yes it is 🙂 & I’m glad I could help! I just uploaded a video last week on my channel of sleep training my second daughter who just turned 8 months old - part 2 is coming this week as well. I also have some sleep training video tips and things that I’ve learned along the way with sleep training Sage ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I am on the same boat. I can’t have anything done during the day cuz my son ( 7 months old) would sleep on me . And nights are crazy and I feel like I am a zombie 😢. I will start this method in few days I just have few questions: 1) Did her nose got clogged because of crying ? I always worry about that and that’s the reason I did not start Cry it out method . I feel he won’t be able to sleep if he cry for 30-45 minutes . 2) after how many days or weeks you transition her into her own room ? 3) before sleep training how many naps she would take ? Thank you so much for your help 🙏🏼
Hi I recommend you watch my updated sleep training videos under the “sleep training” playlist on my UA-cam channel. I think you’ll find the info very helpful 🤍
My daughter is 18 months now and I am pregnant with my second. My daughter was a very good sleeper when she was newborn till 16 months. She never wake up at night till I feed her. She sleep straight 12 hours at night. So now I decided to wean her off breast and she was waking up multiple times at night which was not something she used to it. So I decided not rocking her on the rocking chair but sit with her in my bed because we co sleep till she was born. It took me few weeks till she stop waking up at night and sleep well as she used be. She Was so attached to my breast she never sleep without it. But now I stop feeding her in the day, only she takes nap 1 so I feed her that time for few mins. Than she sleep for 2hrs or more. And before bed time. Than I cut the feeding of the nap time. Slowly bedtime feed. But she do wake up at night multiple times and cry for breast. And my breast got dry as I am 26.4 weeks pregnant. So I didn’t say no to her anytime she ask me but distracted her for other things and it works. Now She don’t even ask me for breast not nap time, no bed time or even wake up at night for breast. Even if she wake up she just make crying sound and say mama she go back to sleep on her on witching 5 seconds. And we sleep straight 11 and more hours at night till morning. Woww didn’t believe even this can happen. I did try to put her in her crib but she never agreed so I didn’t want to force her. So I changed her schedule which help me this process. She sleep nap 1 from 12:30 to 2 or 2:30 and I wake her up and she sleep at night 8:30 or 8:45 till morning 7 or 7:40 without night wake up. Thanks to god I was struggling to train her to sleep without breast but it get easier for me. Now we are happy. But I also want to work her to sleep on her own with out I put her on my lap pray for me mamas 🥰
Was your daughter standing up in the crib at 8 months ??? I want to try this with my boy but he stands up screaming to the top of his lungs In his crib .
Yes! As long as the crib is lowered all the way, baby should be safe and won’t be able to climb out or fall out at that age. Trust me, my daughter did that recently (now 15 months) and gets her leg up to the top of the crib Bae ( I was watching on the monitor, she still can’t get out) but it scared me so bad I ran in there 😂 but at 8 months she definitely could not get out yet.
Hey. Thankyou so much for this video. I just wanted to do a quick check as to when you say you brought her to bed, did she sleep easily in your bed, or did you still have to rock her or feed her to sleep.
Loved this video! So you found that it worked well while room sharing? Every sleep training program that I have looked at says they HAVE to be in their own room for it to work. But I don't think I'm ready for my baby to be in his own room yet 😩. We currently bed share, which is a love-hate situation. I want flexibility to be able to hold him for a nap if I WANT to, or let him sleep in our bed if I WANT to. But right now, like you said, I hold him for every nap all day long and can't get anything done!
That was exactly me, yes! Long term, this did end up not working for us. But it did work well for some time and it was great. I eventually transitioned her to her own room and sleep trained her properly - but it wasn’t until I was absolutely ready and at my end like “this has to happen” lol. Honestly, That’s my biggest tip for sleep training to work because if the parent isn’t ready - you’ll eventually end up caving and messing the whole process up (trust me, I’m talking from personal experience) but when you are ready to have them in their own room and comfortable doing so / have a strong reason why it “has” to happen, no matter how hard it gets you will have to stay the course still and thus it’ll work. Does that make sense?
My son never had naps from the day he was born. By 5 years old he only slept 3 hours a night. No meds worked, natural or otherwise. He finally started sleeping normal in his late teens.
Love your video currently struggling with 6 month old been Exclusively pumping for 3 months, I need the time/balance also a wife and literally exhausted. Did you start this sleep training when she was overtired already from bad naps?
She does not understand what you are saying, she is just mirroring your expressions. She is not clingy. She is a helpless baby. She went without you and now naturally needs and wants you.
So just to understand clearly, you started the training during nap time and not bed time? Thank you for this, I have a 5 month old and her sleeping is horrible but I’ve been struggling to come to grips with the cry it out thing
Correct 🙂 it’s soooo much better once your on the other side & they are sleeping much better 🙌🏽 gosh it’s worth it imo , tough yes but if you feel it’s time then you can do this mama 💜 sending love your way!
Room conditions - dark, little light? - What does the baby wear to sleep? Sleep sack, etc? - was your baby able to crawl, roll at the time? Did you do this alone, or with your partner? One go in after 5 min then another a little later?
Does your baby sleep on her back? My baby is 3 months old. I know that it is recommended for baby to sleep on their back but if my daughter is placed on her back she will only sleep like that for about 20 mins to an hour on a good day. However, if I place her on her stomach she will sleep 6-8 hours. My parents, aunts, friends, and their parents all say they placed their kids on their stomach and everything worked out fine. I like to follow the rules but my daughter does not. Even though she is in her bassinet with just the firm mattress and fitted sheet, she is on her stomach. So I am just curious is your daughter sleeping all this time on her back?
I’ll go into detail in an upcoming update video I’m filming soon, but short answer, no she barely ever sleeps on her back. She is a stomach sleeper for sure 🙂
Hi 👋🏽 this was a few years ago so honestly I forget 🫣 however I currently have a 12 month old and she has been napping around 10am and 2pm but it fluctuates depending on what time she wakes up. This morning for example she woke up earlier than usual (5am) so she napped at 9am -10:20 am then again at 1:30ish. The general rule of thumb to follow is your baby’s sleepy cues that will tell you a lot and let you know you should probably start getting them ready for a nap soon. I hope this helps ❤️
Struggling the same but with a 6 month old. Ive gotten to the point that my body is physically taking the toll and ive put my back out. Can i ask what a bobo is? x
Same situation. My son falls asleep on the boob most of the time. I don’t believe in the cry it out either. He doesn’t not use a Passy. But mama needs a routine I am losing my mind! So question, bloody murder cry is okay ?
Thank you so much, I will try this. The problem is that our baby is standing up, trying to reach things from the crib etc. …, I am scared that he gets hurt. I would need to check on him more than every few minutes … How do you guys handle situations like this?
The crib should be lowered enough so that when baby stands it’s not a hazard that he will fall out and also make sure nothing is near the crib that he could reach and pull into the crib etc. you may have to rearrange the room. I hope this helps 🤍
Okay guys I am a little lost here. Before you attack yes I have watched the video now 2x. I don’t now if I am just too hammered with the baby and my brain is not working or what. But I am a little confused and lost to what she did . I breastfeed her and she falls asleep while breastfeeding so should I let her sleep or what to do? Doesn’t take a bottle I have tried giving her since the beginning but she doesn’t take it she is 8 months and hates the crib. Mama’s please help! 😢😢
My daughter is 8 months and refuses the bottle at night doesnt help we were cosleeping since the day we came home from the hospital and she doesnt like a pacifer. But ive come to the point where if she wakes up st night in my bed she crawls towards the edge off the bed and it scares me so much i cant sleep so now im trying to get her to sleep in her own crib this is my day 2 of doing it she screamed and cried so much last night but im trying to be persistent because her safety is my priority and plus in the long run when she goes to her dads it will be good for her to sleep. Ive been google searching all day and night how to get her to sleep on her own remember this wont last forever i wish i knew how to help you i just had to let you know im struggling too so dont feel alone in this your doing a great job my best advise is just be persistant yes youll lose alot off sleep but it should pay off in a few weeks uhh also when shes having nap 2 of the day i let her nap on me so i can sleep too and that usually helps me stay awake at night and i try let her nap in her crib during the day too and also when shes awake sit her in her crib and give her toys so she gets used to her surroundings Ps excuse my spelling errors im currently trying to get her to sleep so my brain is not at its most functional good luck to you and all the moms out there struggling just think this time in your life will pass before you know it as hard as it is enjoy every minute off it as they will grow and become more independent and wont need mom as much take care xx
Hi Yasmin, I remember responding to this when you wrote it, for some reason I guess it didn't post unfortunately but I will respond again ;) Personally I let my daughter fall asleep breastfeeding, all the time. I tried to keep her awake by all the 'tricks' in the book but it never worked and that was fine with me. I would just lay her in her crib once she was done actively eating and if she woke up, I would try putting her bobo (pacifier) in and that sometimes calmed her right back to sleep. Other times, she would just start crying and I would to the 'sleep training' method I talked about in the video.
I am in the same situation, my baby is 8 almost 9 months had reflux so she always slept with me (co-sleeping) and most of the time on my chest when she was a new born, won’t take neither a bottle and nor a pacifier 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃, I don’t really know how I can help her to soothe herself, but I definitely need to do something, she isn’t sleeping enough I can see when I take her up between the naps that she’s crying for help to sleep more…I will definitely try this and be persistent. Thanks for the video as I also can’t take so much cry will do it gradually. I think most problem is on the maps now, at nights she wakes up few times in case nothing is wrong with her, she’s detaching herself which gives me courage to help her. I will try and see your other videos.
Hahahahah.this lady started with "I don't believe in sleep training" and then proceeded to give all the reasons people end up needing to sleep train🤣🤣🤣we would all love to just cuddle our baby forever but it's not realistic
I think more specifically she didn’t believe in the ‘militant-style’ hardcore ‘there’s only one way’ scheduled approach, and so she adapted it, and that’s what she’s getting at. and believe it or not, I’ve met (a few) who managed to co-sleep and cuddle as long as their child wanted (don’t ask me how, but they did) it’s not realistic for everyone, especially if you have to go to work or have other kids, but some manage to pull it off
When you are doing the minute increments do you wait till they stop crying before you leave or do you pick them up sooth them and still put them back down crying and come back in a few minutes?
the goal is to reassure them and ideally calm them down a bit but oftentimes they just want you to stay in there with them (obviously lol) so they either don’t calm down or they start screaming right when you put them down but either way, calm or still crying, you just leave. I recently sleep trained my daughter (currently 12 months old) and I didn’t pick her up out of her crib unless she had a poopy diaper I needed to change (because that happens sometimes when sleep training that no one talks about lol) but other than that I just give her like a snuggle hug in her crib (her standing) for like 15 seconds then try to lay her down (she usually just stood back up and started crying) but I would still leave and not prolong it. I’ve made some updated sleep training videos and tips and things I’ve learned along the way that have really helped that are up on my channel that you could watch. They are under the “sleep training” playlist on my channel ☺️ I hope that helped 🙏🏽
I picked her up for quite too long, as I learned, no more than a minute it ideal. I’ve made updated videos that I think you would find helpful. They are all in my “sleep training” playlist on my UA-cam channel ❤️
I know this video is older but I’m struggling with naps right now too. I’m wondering what your baby’s wake windows were at this time? How long was she awake between naps? Thanks!
If I can remember correctly (it’s been a while lol) but when you google “baby wake window for x months” she typically started showing sleepy cues 15-30 minutes PRIOR to the recommended window for her first nap and usually as the day went on for her next naps they were usually spot on within the time frame but sometimes on the longer side even 15-30 minutes past. I hope that makes sense.
No, occasionally I would start leaking all over the place if it’s been like 7 hr stretch but personally I never felt so engorged that it hurt which I’m grateful for. She still wakes up to eat in the night so my boobs are usually never that full. I also don’t have an oversupply at all so I’m sure that impacts it. I take supplements to help keep my milk supply up in the night for her to eat, if I didn’t, there wouldn’t be much milk for her during the night - weird I know, but I learned that a few months ago. She would wake up to eat and nothing would come out and she would cry and cry. When I started taking supplements that problem was solved - thankfully.
Im trying to get my son to sleep good. If he doesn’t see me or im not around him he crys and i cant let him cry it out so i cant so anything around the house lol
Honestly I don’t remember what feeding looked like since it was a year and a half ago 🫣 however I did just sleep train my second daughter who is 8 months old and I talk a bit more about what the feeding looks like in sleep training part 2 (the video I just posted to my channel today) I have many sleep training tips & videos I have made learning from my mistakes and even some I made with going about it in this video. I’ve learned a lot since then. I hope my newer videos can help ❤️ here’s part one - FIRST 72 HOURS OF SLEEP TRAINING | sleep train with us! ua-cam.com/video/ZehqgGr97vA/v-deo.html
Hi.. thanks for sharing your experience. I have an eight month old daughter and we are facing similar sleep related issues.. I only have one question. What to do when the baby keeps waking up in the middle of the night?? I mean what do you do after taking her to your bed at night?? I co-sleep with my baby but she wud still keep waking up almost every hour at night. I just don’t know what to do!!
Sleep train during the night as well so do the same methods you would do for naps during the night when she wakes. I have a few updated videos on how I did this with my daughter on my channel if you look at the “sleep training” playlist - I have about 5 or so videos with tips and things that should help :)
Thank you for sharing your technique! I also didn’t want to just let my baby cry herself to sleep - the thought of it kills me. I will be trying this method starting today! I have one question though: what made you start the “sleep training” with nap time rather than bedtime?
Of course ❤️ and I would say the fact that we room shared made sleep training at night difficult since she could literally see us laying in bed 2 feet away from her crib you know so I just didn’t feel right having her literally see me right there and not tend to her. It’s confusing for her too. For naps it was much easier because it was during the day so of course I would just leave the room as if she was in her own room space. Does that make sense?
@@JanaeCrawford that makes sense! I followed your steps and started with her nap also. We’re only on day 2 and she fell asleep for her nap by herself in SEVEN MINUTES and slept for an hour! Thanks again!! 🙏🏼❤️
So I have a question Idk if I missed in the video I tried to watch it when my baby was taking her short nap, so I know each month has a awake window since your baby was taking that long to fall asleep how long where were you letting the awake window to be ? I mean I feel if I let her that long maybe is going to cross to be overtired? Idk first time mom here and I think the same way as you so I just want to try a better method with her
Honestly just paying close attention to her sleepy cues is HUGE. Every baby is different so for example say at 7-8 months the average wake window is 2.5-3 hours in the morning after baby wakes up until their first nap, today (for example) my daughter went for a nap slightly earlier than 2.5 hours - but then come afternoon she has a longer wake window. It’s all about watching your baby’s sleepy cues and if you can- start putting them for a nap right then by doing your normal nap time routine. It’s important they don’t get overtired - even missing their sleepy cues and trying to put them for a nap 10 minutes past when they first started showing sleepy signs could be too late and now they are overtired and fight the nap longer or don’t nap at all. Trust me, this happens to me a lot so I know from experience lol
What were you dressing her in? And what temp is your house at night usually? We are struggling not to use a blanket with our 8 month old overnight while he sleeps on his own, can’t afford a sleepsack, and onesies don’t seem to be enough or they make him too hot :/ we keep it 68 otherwise it’s too stuffy in our room. Help!
I used to dress her in a long sleeve onesie , pants & a sleep sack. Or a footed zip up sleep n play with a sleep sack. I realized over the months (she is now 1.5 years old) that when her room got too cold she would and will always wake up. It used to drop at night but I’ve since changed our thermostat not to decrease temp at night. She sleeps most comfortably and soundly if it’s actually a bit warmer. I’m usually sweating but ide rather sweat and have my baby sleep all night than have her wake up every night 🥲 I stopped putting her in a sleep sack around 10 months I believe & just made sure to always have socks on her or a footed sleep n play & started putting a blanket on her when she was around 18 months - I didn’t feel comfortable doing so before that. I noticed the warmer she was the better she would sleep and not wake up. If her room is any colder than 69 she will guaranteed wake up cold. Her room is the coldest room of the house but I try to make sure it never drops below 69. 70-72 she seems most comfortable though. If your baby doesn’t have a blanket or sleep sack like you mentioned, then I would personally try dressing him in warm clothing - like a fleece sleep n play - and maybe turn the heat up to 69/70 and get a humidifier and see if that helps.
Every minute baby cries during sleep training feels like eternity for mommy
I know 😩
I’ve been googling all days reading and researching I’ve been trying to figure out what to do with my life rn baby sleep is not happening…. This is the exact video I needed …. Everything I needed to hear thank you
🫶🏽 sending love & prayers your way mama ❤️
This was so helpful! We trained for a week and he is now thriving with two naps a day for 2 hours!! Thanks for this video and the encouragement!
That is SO awesome to hear! Yay mama 👏🏽🙌🏽
You're a legend ! We followed this and last night our baby went to sleep , self soothing herself and happy . She is more playful through the day and sleeping so much better . Your technique was straight from the heart for your child , teaching them a new skill but also understanding their comfort and need from us as parents . The 'cry out technique ' was too scary for us to even attempt so we are glad we found your video instead 😃🙏
Wooow this makes me soo happy to hear! I’m so glad it’s working for you guys! I’m glad me sharing my experience and what I did with my daughter could be of so much help ❤️🥰
I’m going through EXACTLY what you were going through in this video. Same tug of war inside me about disagreeing with modern society’s view on baby care and my own need for sleep. It feels like a relief to hear someone voice what’s going on in my mind and know I’m not alone.
Crying while watching this and reading the comments. I thought I was the only one. This video is EXACTLY me and I desperately needed to hear this. THANK YOU.
😭you are not alone mama 🥹🥲❤️
Your doing your best. Sending love your way.
I have an updated sleep training video I posted last week you can also check out if you want ✨
Thank you so much!!!!!! I thought I was the only one experiencing these feelings. Baby girl cat naps and Mommie is tired AF. I’m a wife as well and I have not found balance yet and baby is almost 8 months
Your not alone! Sooo many people are in similar boats. I just posted 2 videos on my channel how I sleep trained my 8 month old. I hope it can help ❤️❤️
Im having the same issue with my daughter & like you I don’t believe in leaving her to cry. I believe that as her mother she should be dependent on me. If not me then who else? Your video definitely encouraged me to get her on a schedule. Wish us luck 🤞🏽
Yes!! Now that I have a daytime schedule with Sage, uhhh I can't tell you how much different the days feel- in a good way. Good luck girl!!
@@JanaeCrawford Hey could you please reply to my comment I am having a hard time. It’s been 3 weeks no reply. All you did was like it.
I dnt believe in leaving a baby to cry either! I love this
Thank you soooo much for outlining your challenges with sleep training due to your belief system. This helps me so much because I share similar values. I feel like God led me to this video. ❤
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Oh my word we are like the same person! 8 month old baby boy, working from home, zombie mom not able to do anything but work & take care of baby. He's up every 1-2 he's at night 🤦♀️I have always hated the cry it out sleep training method, have had the same views you do on that subject.
Oh gosh girl 😭 it’s hard & your doing an amazing job. But keep a look out for an upcoming video in the next few weeks I’ll be uploading how I got her to sleep 2-3 hr naps & sleep 12 hours through the night. It took a lot of trial and error but I finalllly did something that worked & hopefully it can help you out too - sooner than it helped me lol she is almost 2 now ☺️❤️
My 11 month old wakes every 30, 60, to 90 minutes at night...no sleep. can't get anything done... don't being in CIO method either
@@laurenmurphy4357 is she sleeping through the night now?
@@thendralnirmal yesss finally...lol. thank you. Finally caved and did the Ferber method and it literally took 1 nap and 1 night time and he was pretty much set.
The French are big proponents of Cry It Out, so proud their babies sleep all night at 7-8 weeks! I'm still not sure if I believe it, but my gosh, I couldn't. Could not let a baby that young "cry it out". There are so many voices coming at Mommys, saying what must be done. But at the end of the day? Trust your gut. I loved what she said, my baby was inside me, she still needs me. 💙
U have no idea how amazing and courageous u are. I needed to hear you so bad. I’ve been praying for help form anything or anyone and u shared exactly what I needed to hear
❤️❤️❤️ your awesome. I also have an updated sleep training video plus some other things to consider that helped my baby sleep well and continue to sleep well 🙂
This is exactly what im experiencing!!! Also totally agree everything u said.. modern times is all about independence and Mom's grinding 🧐 heck no i love being with my baby..i don't want my baby to cry it out!
My situation is literally identical to your in addition to my views I’m definitely going to try some of your tips! Thanks so much for sharing its good to know I’m not alone.
Girl! Your intro was so spot on. For me and my husband we were battling really bad reflux and formula intolerances so our baby got completely used to sleeping on us. She's 8 months adjusted age and it's painfully obvious that it's time to sleep train her. We just aren't sleeping well - either of us. She's flailing and whining every night. I'm hopeful that we can finally get her bottles consolidated so she doesn't need anymore night feedings and we can start soon.
Your part about not being able to be a good wife hit me in the feels.
Oh... And I gave up my job to take care of her full time for exactly that. Western culture is so work first. We don't really put family first.
I just posted an update version you should check out! But omg YES girl, my daughter was the same way flailing etc. like even when she was in our bed she would not go to sleep there were soo many night where I was literally just like I don’t even know what to do cocomelon it is.. that was the only thing that would settle her down and just sit in the bed with us. She would watch it for hours content but I hated it because obviously that’s not healthy to do every night and not sleep 😭 so I feel you mama, better days are ahead!
& the last thing you said - spot on - and because that is so - it makes finding a community of other mamas (in person and not just via online) hard.
I’m so glad I found this video. We share the same views and we’re experiencing the same issues as one another. Thanks for making this!
Glad it could be helpful ❤️ your not alone mama
I just found your video, I have a 10 ( about to be 11 month old) who sleeps horrible. We have resorted to cosleeping ( which I’m not enjoying). I have been so against sleep training but going 11 months with little sleep is bringing me to my breaking point. I’m going to try this, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
Did it work for your baby?
Yes how is it going?
@@FoodShowFan we kind of slept trained my baby. we still rock or I nurse to sleep. He sleeps 9 hours straight, sometimes at the 9th hour is just a feed, sometimes is just to play. But am sure it got better due to us moving him into his room and his developmental progressions.
Thanks for this! I’m struggling with sleep training with my baby’s nap too… with so many sleep training methods out there I felt like something just didn’t feel right. I love how you prayed to God and help you make peace with the right decision you make for your baby. Such a great reminder to ask for wisdom from our Lord. And also you picked her up to console her. This was something that I wasn’t sure I should do with so many sleep training methods were against it. Glad this worked out for you and your baby! :)
Is such a relieve to see this video. Today is my day 1 sleep training my 5 and a half month old baby …. wish me luck… 😅
Thank you for sharing this!! I'm going through this exact situation with my LO. I found your video because I also don't believe in CIO sleep training but was feeling desperate with chronic lack of sleep.
I don't want to get too excited here because it's only been a day but went from cosleeping, up every 45 minutes to sleeping in his own bed ALL NIGHT with one 4.5hr stent. I haven't slept for 4.5 hours in MONTHS.
Thank you so much for the encouragement. Hopefully this is day one of many well rested nights!
I haven’t slept for the past 9 months
This is really good to hear! Going through this with my 8 month old. We’ve tried “sleep training” sporadically the past several months but it never really worked. Naps and night time sleep are becoming such a struggle. He always nursed to sleep but lately doesn’t want to all the time so now it’s like shoot what do we do lol. I get so pissed so something needs to change. He doesn’t take a pacifier so I’m hoping without that it will still work to do this. I don’t like the idea of “sleep training” but a modified version will hopefully help him ❤
Thank you so much for this video
Blessed be your heart,
I am traveling with my 8 month old son and I will start it as soon as I am back
I have thought I had VIDEO on so many times. I blame my phone. But definitely been there!
Thanks mama! Well done!! I am loving this exact experience with my 8 month old and you’ve outlined my situation inside and out. I am going to try this starting NOW. Wish me luck !
My son is almost 9 months old. I have the same issue with him, so thank you for this video, will start trying this tomorrow ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hi how did it go?
Did you try?
First time mom here, I came across your video because I want to start sleep training my baby but it kills me to hear her cry. I havent been able to sleep train her. She is 8 months and started co sleeping with me and my partner at 3 months. We feel like its time to transition her into her crib but I have no clue as to where or how to start. Thank you for your video, it was helpful and relatable. I understand its going to be a journey and you helped shed some light on how to go about it.
Im so glad 💜 it’s been a few weeks so how’s it going mama?
My mom made me feel guilty for letting my baby cry because I stay with her but watching this video as a first time mother reassured me that my baby was perfectly fine and doing the same things others baby do . Unfortunately since my baby is turning 10 months he is very aware and always has been aware, I was not told or given advice at all about sleep training but thank god for these platforms but I feel guilty for not checking in on him or picking him up to reassure him everything was ok . We share a room so he seeing me but I don’t pick him up he even cried once to where he threw up his food bc he kept on crying and I felt awful but he eventually goes to sleep and I will continue to put him in the bed and he cry but I kno im doing great
We’re definitely at the point of how we’re doing things just isn’t working for us anymore. Like it’s such an ordeal every nap time and I can’t get anything done during the day and it’s honestly stressing me out and making me dread the days and I don’t want to feel like that about being with her during the day. I just wasn’t sure what that would look like from a cosleeping standpoint because that’s a big no no in todays society like you said so no one ever really talks about that. But I like the idea of doing it gradually and still bringing her in the bed as needed. I’ve recently noticed her being more discontented at night like you mentioned and I honestly just think it’s time. Thanks for making me feel more at peace about it
Yes! I know that feeling all too well. Check out my latest video on our sleep training update now that my daughter is older.. I honestly should have done it way sooner but I actually look forward to bedtime and naps now because its soooooo easy and she goes down so well with no crying or resisting. I thank God for where we are at now! & Yes, I loved co-sleeping, until i didn't.. and I think the time frame for that is different for every co-sleeping parent and society doesn't agree much with that and thats okay. I know people who still cosleep with their 2 year olds happily and I think if thats what they like to do and if it works for them then great! Continue you know? haha. For us, I knew it was time to make a change when neither me or my daughter were getting good sleep and I would become SO aggravated during the night and the next day I would just be so tired all the time. I didn't want to feel that aggravation towards her but at the same time I wasn't quite ready to do what needed to be done to transition her to her own room full night. Does that make sense? Anyways, I finally got to the point of realizing it was best for everyone and I'm so glad we are successfully all getting good nights sleep most nights. Idk why I felt to write all this but hopefully you are making some progress in the sleep department with your little one
Thank you. I was having the same issue and my baby, she's 8 months...and many people keep telling me to let her cry it out, but I was not comfortable with their methods. This is encouraging.
So glad it could be of help ❤️❤️
If you don’t understand the pain or the energy that some babies may cry so much that they literally won’t let you do anything they can literally hurt your body to the core so i do believe in the cry it out method to train them when you keep coddling them it won’t be good for them
I said this on Instagram but I 100% agree with babies having to rely on mama. They should! They need to know security. I want to try this but I need to get emotionally ready to not co sleep lolol
Yessss the biggest thing I think is for the parent to be ready mentally/emotionally. whenever YOU feel it’s time and your ready, that’s the perfect time, not a day earlier ❤️
I’m only 9 minutes in and I love everything you have said so far 🤗💖
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It’s like you made this video specifically for me 😅 thank you for sharing your experience! It’s nice to hear I’m not the only one with this situation. My baby is six months old and WILL NOT sleep anywhere but on me or in my bed. And naps are never longer than 45 mins. I honestly don’t mind holding him most of the time because he’s so cuddly and sweet and won’t be little forever, but I know it will soon be an issue! I’m really trying to figure out what to do in a couple months when it will be time to “sleep train” and this sounds perfect for us! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
PS - your baby girl is precious!!! 🥰🥰 omg!
How did it go my son is 11 months old. Your life is my life lol. He contacts sleeps on day and night, rocked and nursed to sleep. I’m scared lol. I need to start though.
this is exactly my daughter
Going exactly throught the same with my LO . He is 8 months and he sleeps on his cot but waking up multiple times a night atm more than a few weeks before. I have been going back and forward wether to do it or not . I just cant deal with the idea . He is not getting what he needs from me
I like your approach and the honesty in your video.
I might try to do this soon i hope i get the courage i need
Its so hard .
Thank you so much for the video
Awesome, I'm a believer in doing things your own way.
I feel like you just told my story with your struggles, the guilt going back and forth and now I’m at the point for my physical and mental health that I need to try something now. I will try this.
How'd you go? Hope things have improved for you guys. I'm trying it now. Heartbreaking but also we are all exhausted.
my baby just turned 9 months and pretty much have your same life lol. i hope this works for me and my lil boy. thank you so much for sharing.
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I so want to do this for my little one's naps but I'm just so not looking forward to him crying. I really liked your video because you were real about how you felt and the fact that you did pick up your daughter.
Literally needed you in my life
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What is the difference of what you did and the Ferber Method? It sounds the same ….
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m in the same place with my 6 month old. Hubby and I are pooped but don’t want to do the cry it out method. Thank you again.
I'm so glad this video popped up in my feed! We've done a lot of the same things you guys did. My girl is 4 1/2 months and although she still cosleeps soundly at night, I'm ready to end the contact naps. After 4 days of sleep training naps, she's taking them on her own (not sleeping as well yet, but we'll see if she gets back to her old nap schedule in time). It's good to hear how you transitioned from cosleeping. We'll probably do the same around 6-7 months or whenever she gets too wiggly! :D Cheers and thanks for this video!!
Here watching only just found you!! But my daughter is 8 months now and she was the exactly the same as your daughter with her sleep pattern unlike you I don’t like the term sleep training and letting them cry makes me upset but I’ve got to the same point is you I need my sleep now and she definitely does to this video is great help thank you! X
This was so incredibly encouraging! My daughter is 7 months and I’ve been terrified of transitioning to the crib. going to start doing your method tomorrow!
Hey, how has it been going, mama?
@@JanaeCrawford it has been going so well! We are on day five and she has been sleeping soooo much better. Today she actually took two naps in her crib as well!
@@JanaeCrawford we used the Ferber method with only night time to start and now she is wanting naps in the crib too…to clarify my first comment ❤️ thanks for sharing your experience!
That’s so great to hear! I’m glad you found something that works for you both ☺️🙌🏽
Ohh myy goodnesss thank you 4 this ..I feel like u do but u can't say anything cause everybody is right n I'm wrong..since I been a new mommy I just stay to myself n take care of my lil guy n me n I have twins on the way..everybody is soo hard-core on taking care of babies..anyhow
...thank u soooo much ..u have a new subscriber 😁😁🤗🤗🤗
Glad I could be of help! And thanks for the support mama and congratulations 🎉 🥹
@@JanaeCrawford 🤗🤗🤭🤭🥰
Oh wow, this was so encouraging & reassuring, thanks a lot 🤗
Don’t feel guilty anymore for not going according to the “norm”. My lil girl slept very well in her crib while swaddled until she was 4months and started turning and then that’s where I got conflicted 😐. She could only get a good night sleep in bed with me, so we’ve been co-sleeping and she’s going to be 6 months next week Wednesday. I’ve been trying to keep her in her crib but I just always pick her up when she doesn’t fall asleep and keeps crying.
Now I’m so pumped up to try out your method. Hoping for excellent results and the will & courage to not be so eager to carry her up or put her in my bed when she’s crying 🙏🏼
Thanks a lot for an awesome video 🥰
I’m so glad you found this helpful mama 🤗 remember, at the end of the day, do what feels right for you and your little one 🙏🏽❤️ I’ll be honest the first few days were hard but I’m so glad I decided to do this because now Sage is happier since she is sleeping better that she was and so am I.
@@JanaeCrawford Yea, I’ll just flow with what feels right and at a good pace as well 🤗 Thanks 🙏🏼
❤️ I hope it goes well!
I tried the Ferber method for half a day 😅 I gave up it was literally heart wrenching
My son is exactly like your daughter except he is so stubborn. I did everything you did today this is the first day. I did it for an hour and he wouldn’t stop crying so I ended up letting him sleep on me and then put him down and woke up 20 minutes later. So nap 2 I was super hopeful. Thinking ok he’s tired nope did it again for an hour and did the same thing. I’m hopeful and going to keep trying. Pray for me though because I hated hearing him cry.
I know it’s so hard mama. Prayers for you and your little one going up 🙏🏽❤️❤️
How is it going?
Did you keep up cause my daughter will cry for a hour and sleep 15 mins but I haven’t pushed it 😭
Wow. Best video ever! Thank you!
Thank you, even if its a year ago, thank you
Let me try this and I will let you know..
Its encouraging to know someone else is going thru what am going thru
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I felt like a fly on the wall when you were describing your daughter with how she's alert & her sleep habits. My daughter is 8 months old and I've been putting off sleep training (also first time mom). From the second she came out her eyes were wide open lol. She's also been napping on us. We use the jumper a lot to help tire her out. Thanks for posting this, it was really helpful. We're starting this week! 🤞
I should also say she sleeps in a bassinet next to me still. We used to cosleep until she was 4 months on the couch. So moving her to her own bed & own room will be hard.
Haha 😅 our babies seem very similar & 🙏🏽 praying it goes well for you all. It’s hard but so so worth it imo 💕
@@JanaeCrawford thank you and congrats on your new baby!
Thank you 💕💕
Same same so much same!!!! Good to hear the jumper tires them lol will get one! How’s it going now for you?
My UPDATED sleep training videos are here! Learn from my mistakes so you don’t have to ❤️ ua-cam.com/play/PL71NykEgipUCWx7WV15QzPsXrNP0ByixY.html
I so agree with you and this is exactly what I needed to watch !!!
So glad to hear it! Make sure you check out my updated sleep training video as well I just posted on my channel ❤️
Any ideas when the baby refuses a paci/bobo?? My husband and I are going to start sleep training our 8 month old and your video helped so much to get us in the right mind set. Everything is similar- baby's crib is in our room, but baby has been co sleeping and he has not been wanting to sleep in his crib. He wakes up and will only fall back asleep if I nurse him next to me in bed. Last night he was up like every hour or less!! It's super exhausting and I know we need to start sleep training. He was taking a paci until around 2 months ago. We are not sure why he won't take the paci anymore but hopefully he will find something to help self soothe during sleep training. Maybe his thumb??
I’m glad this could be useful ❤️ I have updated videos that could help as well on my channel! Also, unfortunately some kids just don’t take pacis. My first still doesn’t sleep without it and she is 2, my littlest won’t take one no matter what I’ve tried and she is now 11 months 😂 maybe a little stuffed animal, but I know people say don’t let kids sleep with anything in their crib until after 1 years old but maybe for naps when you can monitor him you could try?
I love your baby vidéos! First of all your daughter is so cute! Second of all, your videos have been so helpful to me, as a first time mom. I feel like you get me lol. My daughter only falls asleep on me because I believe she has reflux and I keep her upright after feeding (she falls asleep while feeding anyways) so it’s been hard getting anything done. Trying to sleep train her has been hard too. I’m definitely going to try doing it your way because I’m desperate at this point lol and it seems to work. I just love the way you explained it all, it’s not like other sleep training videos that I’ve watched. So thank you so much and God bless you and your family abundant 🙏🏾💜
Aww thank you so much girl! I'm glad I could help! I will be praying for better sleep for you and your little one 🙏🏽 trust me, now that Sage sleeps soooo much better, on the days she doesn't - Im like OMG how did I survive a few months ago 😂
Thank you for making this video!!! My baby is 7 months old right now and her name is sage too!! ❤
Aww that’s so sweet congrats 🥰 one of the best names 😉 & be sure to check out my updated sleep training videos that could help too ❤️
Thank you so much for this ! I totally agree with you ❤🥰 and will try this with my little one xx
glad I could help 🙂💕
Is her Bobo her paci? My son Jax os almost eight months old and I’m ready to do something similar. Your video has been the only one I truly resonate/ feel like he’s the same as sage was so thank you for sharing!
Yes it is 🙂 & I’m glad I could help! I just uploaded a video last week on my channel of sleep training my second daughter who just turned 8 months old - part 2 is coming this week as well. I also have some sleep training video tips and things that I’ve learned along the way with sleep training Sage ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I am on the same boat. I can’t have anything done during the day cuz my son ( 7 months old) would sleep on me . And nights are crazy and I feel like I am a zombie 😢. I will start this method in few days I just have few questions:
1) Did her nose got clogged because of crying ? I always worry about that and that’s the reason I did not start Cry it out method . I feel he won’t be able to sleep if he cry for 30-45 minutes .
2) after how many days or weeks you transition her into her own room ?
3) before sleep training how many naps she would take ?
Thank you so much for your help 🙏🏼
Hi I recommend you watch my updated sleep training videos under the “sleep training” playlist on my UA-cam channel. I think you’ll find the info very helpful 🤍
My daughter is 18 months now and I am pregnant with my second. My daughter was a very good sleeper when she was newborn till 16 months. She never wake up at night till I feed her. She sleep straight 12 hours at night. So now I decided to wean her off breast and she was waking up multiple times at night which was not something she used to it. So I decided not rocking her on the rocking chair but sit with her in my bed because we co sleep till she was born. It took me few weeks till she stop waking up at night and sleep well as she used be. She Was so attached to my breast she never sleep without it. But now I stop feeding her in the day, only she takes nap 1 so I feed her that time for few mins. Than she sleep for 2hrs or more. And before bed time. Than I cut the feeding of the nap time. Slowly bedtime feed. But she do wake up at night multiple times and cry for breast. And my breast got dry as I am 26.4 weeks pregnant. So I didn’t say no to her anytime she ask me but distracted her for other things and it works. Now
She don’t even ask me for breast not nap time, no bed time or even wake up at night for breast. Even if she wake up she just make crying sound and say mama she go back to sleep on her on witching 5 seconds. And we sleep straight 11 and more hours at night till morning. Woww didn’t believe even this can happen. I did try to put her in her crib but she never agreed so I didn’t want to force her. So I changed her schedule which help me this process. She sleep nap 1 from 12:30 to 2 or 2:30 and I wake her up and she sleep at night 8:30 or 8:45 till morning 7 or 7:40 without night wake up. Thanks to god I was struggling to train her to sleep without breast but it get easier for me. Now we are happy. But I also want to work her to sleep on her own with out I put her on my lap pray for me mamas 🥰
Hey there do you happen to have a written out version of this method we can follow??
THIS is the method i’ve been looking for. YOU are the mom i am and I NEEDED this 😭
Was your daughter standing up in the crib at 8 months ??? I want to try this with my boy but he stands up screaming to the top of his lungs In his crib .
Yes! As long as the crib is lowered all the way, baby should be safe and won’t be able to climb out or fall out at that age. Trust me, my daughter did that recently (now 15 months) and gets her leg up to the top of the crib Bae ( I was watching on the monitor, she still can’t get out) but it scared me so bad I ran in there 😂 but at 8 months she definitely could not get out yet.
Hey. Thankyou so much for this video. I just wanted to do a quick check as to when you say you brought her to bed, did she sleep easily in your bed, or did you still have to rock her or feed her to sleep.
Loved this video! So you found that it worked well while room sharing? Every sleep training program that I have looked at says they HAVE to be in their own room for it to work. But I don't think I'm ready for my baby to be in his own room yet 😩. We currently bed share, which is a love-hate situation. I want flexibility to be able to hold him for a nap if I WANT to, or let him sleep in our bed if I WANT to. But right now, like you said, I hold him for every nap all day long and can't get anything done!
That was exactly me, yes! Long term, this did end up not working for us. But it did work well for some time and it was great. I eventually transitioned her to her own room and sleep trained her properly - but it wasn’t until I was absolutely ready and at my end like “this has to happen” lol. Honestly, That’s my biggest tip for sleep training to work because if the parent isn’t ready - you’ll eventually end up caving and messing the whole process up (trust me, I’m talking from personal experience) but when you are ready to have them in their own room and comfortable doing so / have a strong reason why it “has” to happen, no matter how hard it gets you will have to stay the course still and thus it’ll work. Does that make sense?
My son never had naps from the day he was born. By 5 years old he only slept 3 hours a night. No meds worked, natural or otherwise. He finally started sleeping normal in his late teens.
Oh man! I hope you caught up on all your sleep!
Love your video currently struggling with 6 month old been Exclusively pumping for 3 months, I need the time/balance also a wife and literally exhausted. Did you start this sleep training when she was overtired already from bad naps?
She does not understand what you are saying, she is just mirroring your expressions. She is not clingy. She is a helpless baby. She went without you and now naturally needs and wants you.
Hello..you look so beautiful today and i love hearing your voice
So just to understand clearly, you started the training during nap time and not bed time? Thank you for this, I have a 5 month old and her sleeping is horrible but I’ve been struggling to come to grips with the cry it out thing
Correct 🙂 it’s soooo much better once your on the other side & they are sleeping much better 🙌🏽 gosh it’s worth it imo , tough yes but if you feel it’s time then you can do this mama 💜 sending love your way!
Room conditions - dark, little light? - What does the baby wear to sleep? Sleep sack, etc? - was your baby able to crawl, roll at the time? Did you do this alone, or with your partner? One go in after 5 min then another a little later?
I’ve made a few updated videos going into more detail I think you will find helpful ☺️ they are under the “sleep training” playlist on my channel
10:15 sort of starts her week journey into gentle sleep training
Does your baby sleep on her back? My baby is 3 months old. I know that it is recommended for baby to sleep on their back but if my daughter is placed on her back she will only sleep like that for about 20 mins to an hour on a good day. However, if I place her on her stomach she will sleep 6-8 hours. My parents, aunts, friends, and their parents all say they placed their kids on their stomach and everything worked out fine. I like to follow the rules but my daughter does not. Even though she is in her bassinet with just the firm mattress and fitted sheet, she is on her stomach. So I am just curious is your daughter sleeping all this time on her back?
I’ll go into detail in an upcoming update video I’m filming soon, but short answer, no she barely ever sleeps on her back. She is a stomach sleeper for sure 🙂
@@JanaeCrawford Thank you.
Hiii thanks for your video can you share the nap schedule please when you say 2 naps at what time she usually naps ?
Hi 👋🏽 this was a few years ago so honestly I forget 🫣 however I currently have a 12 month old and she has been napping around 10am and 2pm but it fluctuates depending on what time she wakes up. This morning for example she woke up earlier than usual (5am) so she napped at 9am -10:20 am then again at 1:30ish. The general rule of thumb to follow is your baby’s sleepy cues that will tell you a lot and let you know you should probably start getting them ready for a nap soon. I hope this helps ❤️
How far apart are these naps .. my baby girl is 8 months old and I need help 😩
Hi can I ask what you are feeding her for solids? I’m wondering if what I’m feeding baby is affecting his going down time?
THANK YOU SO MUCH😍
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I have the same issue with my little girl. Would be really hard to see her crying. But I want to try.
ua-cam.com/video/GFCCgCejnRU/v-deo.html here’s my updated one. I know it’s tough but 🙏🏽 I pray it helps 💕
Struggling the same but with a 6 month old. Ive gotten to the point that my body is physically taking the toll and ive put my back out. Can i ask what a bobo is? x
Same situation. My son falls asleep on the boob most of the time. I don’t believe in the cry it out either. He doesn’t not use a Passy. But mama needs a routine I am losing my mind! So question, bloody murder cry is okay ?
Hey, I recommend you watch my updated sleep training video as it goes into more detail - it’s linked above ❤️
Thank youu for this!!
😊🫶🏽 glad it could help
Thank you so much, I will try this. The problem is that our baby is standing up, trying to reach things from the crib etc. …, I am scared that he gets hurt. I would need to check on him more than every few minutes …
How do you guys handle situations like this?
The crib should be lowered enough so that when baby stands it’s not a hazard that he will fall out and also make sure nothing is near the crib that he could reach and pull into the crib etc. you may have to rearrange the room. I hope this helps 🤍
Okay guys I am a little lost here. Before you attack yes I have watched the video now 2x. I don’t now if I am just too hammered with the baby and my brain is not working or what. But I am a little confused and lost to what she did . I breastfeed her and she falls asleep while breastfeeding so should I let her sleep or what to do? Doesn’t take a bottle I have tried giving her since the beginning but she doesn’t take it she is 8 months and hates the crib. Mama’s please help! 😢😢
My daughter is 8 months and refuses the bottle at night doesnt help we were cosleeping since the day we came home from the hospital and she doesnt like a pacifer. But ive come to the point where if she wakes up st night in my bed she crawls towards the edge off the bed and it scares me so much i cant sleep so now im trying to get her to sleep in her own crib this is my day 2 of doing it she screamed and cried so much last night but im trying to be persistent because her safety is my priority and plus in the long run when she goes to her dads it will be good for her to sleep. Ive been google searching all day and night how to get her to sleep on her own remember this wont last forever i wish i knew how to help you i just had to let you know im struggling too so dont feel alone in this your doing a great job my best advise is just be persistant yes youll lose alot off sleep but it should pay off in a few weeks uhh also when shes having nap 2 of the day i let her nap on me so i can sleep too and that usually helps me stay awake at night and i try let her nap in her crib during the day too and also when shes awake sit her in her crib and give her toys so she gets used to her surroundings
Ps excuse my spelling errors im currently trying to get her to sleep so my brain is not at its most functional good luck to you and all the moms out there struggling just think this time in your life will pass before you know it as hard as it is enjoy every minute off it as they will grow and become more independent and wont need mom as much take care xx
Hi Yasmin, I remember responding to this when you wrote it, for some reason I guess it didn't post unfortunately but I will respond again ;)
Personally I let my daughter fall asleep breastfeeding, all the time. I tried to keep her awake by all the 'tricks' in the book but it never worked and that was fine with me. I would just lay her in her crib once she was done actively eating and if she woke up, I would try putting her bobo (pacifier) in and that sometimes calmed her right back to sleep. Other times, she would just start crying and I would to the 'sleep training' method I talked about in the video.
I am in the same situation, my baby is 8 almost 9 months had reflux so she always slept with me (co-sleeping) and most of the time on my chest when she was a new born, won’t take neither a bottle and nor a pacifier 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃, I don’t really know how I can help her to soothe herself, but I definitely need to do something, she isn’t sleeping enough I can see when I take her up between the naps that she’s crying for help to sleep more…I will definitely try this and be persistent. Thanks for the video as I also can’t take so much cry will do it gradually.
I think most problem is on the maps now, at nights she wakes up few times in case nothing is wrong with her, she’s detaching herself which gives me courage to help her. I will try and see your other videos.
so helpful!! thank you!!!!!
I’m so glad ❤️ I also made an updated version linked above 🥰
@@JanaeCrawford ur awesome ❤️
Hahahahah.this lady started with "I don't believe in sleep training" and then proceeded to give all the reasons people end up needing to sleep train🤣🤣🤣we would all love to just cuddle our baby forever but it's not realistic
I think more specifically she didn’t believe in the ‘militant-style’ hardcore ‘there’s only one way’ scheduled approach, and so she adapted it, and that’s what she’s getting at.
and believe it or not, I’ve met (a few) who managed to co-sleep and cuddle as long as their child wanted (don’t ask me how, but they did) it’s not realistic for everyone, especially if you have to go to work or have other kids, but some manage to pull it off
When you are doing the minute increments do you wait till they stop crying before you leave or do you pick them up sooth them and still put them back down crying and come back in a few minutes?
the goal is to reassure them and ideally calm them down a bit but oftentimes they just want you to stay in there with them (obviously lol) so they either don’t calm down or they start screaming right when you put them down but either way, calm or still crying, you just leave.
I recently sleep trained my daughter (currently 12 months old) and I didn’t pick her up out of her crib unless she had a poopy diaper I needed to change (because that happens sometimes when sleep training that no one talks about lol) but other than that I just give her like a snuggle hug in her crib (her standing) for like 15 seconds then try to lay her down (she usually just stood back up and started crying) but I would still leave and not prolong it.
I’ve made some updated sleep training videos and tips and things I’ve learned along the way that have really helped that are up on my channel that you could watch. They are under the “sleep training” playlist on my channel ☺️
I hope that helped 🙏🏽
Struggling momma here 😅
When you would pick her up, for how long did you consoled her?
I picked her up for quite too long, as I learned, no more than a minute it ideal. I’ve made updated videos that I think you would find helpful. They are all in my “sleep training” playlist on my UA-cam channel ❤️
I know this video is older but I’m struggling with naps right now too. I’m wondering what your baby’s wake windows were at this time? How long was she awake between naps? Thanks!
If I can remember correctly (it’s been a while lol) but when you google “baby wake window for x months” she typically started showing sleepy cues 15-30 minutes PRIOR to the recommended window for her first nap and usually as the day went on for her next naps they were usually spot on within the time frame but sometimes on the longer side even 15-30 minutes past. I hope that makes sense.
I am you. You are me. Lol
Make sure you check out my new sleep training video here! 🤌🏽
ua-cam.com/video/GFCCgCejnRU/v-deo.html
How have you adjusted nursing now that she sleeps longer at night? Did you have to pump at all in the middle of the night for comfort?
No, occasionally I would start leaking all over the place if it’s been like 7 hr stretch but personally I never felt so engorged that it hurt which I’m grateful for. She still wakes up to eat in the night so my boobs are usually never that full. I also don’t have an oversupply at all so I’m sure that impacts it. I take supplements to help keep my milk supply up in the night for her to eat, if I didn’t, there wouldn’t be much milk for her during the night - weird I know, but I learned that a few months ago. She would wake up to eat and nothing would come out and she would cry and cry. When I started taking supplements that problem was solved - thankfully.
Im trying to get my son to sleep good. If he doesn’t see me or im not around him he crys and i cant let him cry it out so i cant so anything around the house lol
Did she cry when you were sleep training because she was hungry? What did feeding look like before bed time?
Honestly I don’t remember what feeding looked like since it was a year and a half ago 🫣 however I did just sleep train my second daughter who is 8 months old and I talk a bit more about what the feeding looks like in sleep training part 2 (the video I just posted to my channel today) I have many sleep training tips & videos I have made learning from my mistakes and even some I made with going about it in this video. I’ve learned a lot since then. I hope my newer videos can help ❤️ here’s part one - FIRST 72 HOURS OF SLEEP TRAINING | sleep train with us!
ua-cam.com/video/ZehqgGr97vA/v-deo.html
THIS IS EXACTLY MY SITUATION. I'M SO EXHAUSTED N IRRITATED...IRRITATED WITH MYSELF BC I'M TIRED 😫.. SMH
Hi.. thanks for sharing your experience. I have an eight month old daughter and we are facing similar sleep related issues.. I only have one question. What to do when the baby keeps waking up in the middle of the night?? I mean what do you do after taking her to your bed at night??
I co-sleep with my baby but she wud still keep waking up almost every hour at night. I just don’t know what to do!!
Sleep train during the night as well so do the same methods you would do for naps during the night when she wakes. I have a few updated videos on how I did this with my daughter on my channel if you look at the “sleep training” playlist - I have about 5 or so videos with tips and things that should help :)
Thank you for sharing your technique! I also didn’t want to just let my baby cry herself to sleep - the thought of it kills me. I will be trying this method starting today! I have one question though: what made you start the “sleep training” with nap time rather than bedtime?
Of course ❤️ and I would say the fact that we room shared made sleep training at night difficult since she could literally see us laying in bed 2 feet away from her crib you know so I just didn’t feel right having her literally see me right there and not tend to her. It’s confusing for her too. For naps it was much easier because it was during the day so of course I would just leave the room as if she was in her own room space. Does that make sense?
@@JanaeCrawford that makes sense! I followed your steps and started with her nap also. We’re only on day 2 and she fell asleep for her nap by herself in SEVEN MINUTES and slept for an hour! Thanks again!! 🙏🏼❤️
Wow that’s amazing🥲! Good work mama ☺️🙏🏽 happy for you guys!
Liked your technique, if you could touch the point of the routine and the feeding. I'm really curious if feeding is/not part of the routine.
Making a 3 part series on our sleep training journey coming soon!
So I have a question Idk if I missed in the video I tried to watch it when my baby was taking her short nap, so I know each month has a awake window since your baby was taking that long to fall asleep how long where were you letting the awake window to be ? I mean I feel if I let her that long maybe is going to cross to be overtired? Idk first time mom here and I think the same way as you so I just want to try a better method with her
Honestly just paying close attention to her sleepy cues is HUGE. Every baby is different so for example say at 7-8 months the average wake window is 2.5-3 hours in the morning after baby wakes up until their first nap, today (for example) my daughter went for a nap slightly earlier than 2.5 hours - but then come afternoon she has a longer wake window. It’s all about watching your baby’s sleepy cues and if you can- start putting them for a nap right then by doing your normal nap time routine. It’s important they don’t get overtired - even missing their sleepy cues and trying to put them for a nap 10 minutes past when they first started showing sleepy signs could be too late and now they are overtired and fight the nap longer or don’t nap at all. Trust me, this happens to me a lot so I know from experience lol
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What were you dressing her in? And what temp is your house at night usually? We are struggling not to use a blanket with our 8 month old overnight while he sleeps on his own, can’t afford a sleepsack, and onesies don’t seem to be enough or they make him too hot :/ we keep it 68 otherwise it’s too stuffy in our room. Help!
I used to dress her in a long sleeve onesie , pants & a sleep sack. Or a footed zip up sleep n play with a sleep sack. I realized over the months (she is now 1.5 years old) that when her room got too cold she would and will always wake up. It used to drop at night but I’ve since changed our thermostat not to decrease temp at night. She sleeps most comfortably and soundly if it’s actually a bit warmer. I’m usually sweating but ide rather sweat and have my baby sleep all night than have her wake up every night 🥲 I stopped putting her in a sleep sack around 10 months I believe & just made sure to always have socks on her or a footed sleep n play & started putting a blanket on her when she was around 18 months - I didn’t feel comfortable doing so before that. I noticed the warmer she was the better she would sleep and not wake up. If her room is any colder than 69 she will guaranteed wake up cold. Her room is the coldest room of the house but I try to make sure it never drops below 69. 70-72 she seems most comfortable though. If your baby doesn’t have a blanket or sleep sack like you mentioned, then I would personally try dressing him in warm clothing - like a fleece sleep n play - and maybe turn the heat up to 69/70 and get a humidifier and see if that helps.