We're trying as gently as possible. Putting him down for naps in his crib and trying to comfort him back to sleep if he wakes too soon. The new behaviour was like a light switch.. We were regularly getting 6 hours a night then, flick he's up every hour after the first 4. Makes life difficult when I work full time and my wife is studying.
Hi @Ian Bartram it would be really difficult with you working full time and your wife studying. Hopefully the gentle approach works soon and everyone gets more sleep!
@@ianbartram2118 yep my 3mo is the same, I now have to rock him in my arms to go to sleep.. problem is when I put him down he wakes and when he does sleep it’s generally 30min… sometimes he stretched to 40-45min 😭
I have a 7 week old (my first child), thanks to your information I've learned so many things I did 't know before. I believed so many of the myths. Such as babies needing to be able to sleep in a noisy environment, and I didn't know that even though they might look asleep that it's their way of coping with busy surroundings. It's helped me get my baby girl in quite a good sleeping rythm. Some of my family (particularly mother in law) thinks I'm a little too uptight about her sleeping patterns and her sleeping in a dark and quiet area instead of the busy area of the house during the day, but so far she's extending her night sleeps from 11 - 3 'o clock sleep to feed, to 11 - 4:30! So far so good... Also my MIL was over a few days ago and was holding her for 3,5 hours... I have trouble standing up for myself and let it go for this once, and boy did I regret it. She cried from the afternoon when my MIL left to her late night feed. Never again!
Omg my mum and mil are the same. They just want to play with the baby like he's a toy and think its funny handing over a stressef over tired baby. Guess who never gets to babysit...
Our almost 4mo is sleeping like 10hr in crib a night but all day naps are in arms. We are afraid to change anything we are doing because the night times are great atm.
My 9 month old is going through the same problem! He keeps waking up every 1-2 hours and he has to be breastfed to sleep. I request you to make a dedicated video for the age 9-12 months😭. We always refer to your videos for any help. Thank you soo much! 🤗❤
We are having the same problem. Our little one is almost 11 months and wakes up several times during the night. He will only sleep if we r holding him. Please help
Same here. I'm looking forward to your video about it. My 9 month old wakes up every hour and can't pass herself back to sleep. I'm thinking feeding her every hour is too much. Definetely need help about it. Thanks.
He's 6 months now and screaming through the night and sometimes only settles with a bottlefeed (he never needed that before). He was an ok sleeper, but now we just don't know what to do
Wow, you gotta be watching me 👀 my baby is up every hour now and used to sleep through the night only waking once around 12 or 1. She's 8 months now though.
There's another sleep regression phase around 8-9 months. My daughter is 8 months too and she's going through the same. It's connected to their drive to move and crawl. Baby wants to explore the world, but is suddenly starting to realize that this means, it's moving further away from their primary care giver and that's really scary! So, they are actually torn between "I want to crawl/ walk!" and "Help! Mommy or daddy are suddenly so far away!" and they need to process that during their sleep. It's not pleasant for us as parents, but it's absolutely normal and developmentally important!!!
2 month old here and we just somewhat figured out how to skip witching hour ugh that was a miserable 2 weeks. Fast forward we’re now playing the wake up every hour game and getting no sleep 😳
Thank you so much Emma. This is brilliant advice, really setting parents and babies up for success!!! Love your videos and am so appreciative of the knowledge you share so unconditionally. Many thanks.
I've been following literally ALL these tips for the past month and my 5 months daughter still wakes up every 2-3h per night 😭 I'm convinced I will never sleep again
Emma thank you so much for your videos. My baby is now 4months old and this is exactly what we are going through right now..i was wondering whether this is a regression or not so when your video popped up today i was shocked for that perfect timing😅 Love you and your videos, and thanks for helping new parents like me❤
Great video, only comment is a worthwhile one; a bedroom full of white noise has proven essential to getting and staying asleep. Whereas a quiet room has proven disruptive, in my experience.
3 babies later…I have to disagree. I do that and I give my baby 15 mins to cry. She falls asleep during that 15mins and now when I lay her down “drowsy but awake” she lays in bed awake but she’ll put herself to sleep.
My baby never went through the 4 month regression HOWEVER at 5 months 5 days , my bby started waking up 2-3 times a night 😢 11pm, 2am, and 5 or 6am. She wakes up to feed and quickly falls asleep right after
I have this issue but it started when she turned 9 months and her top teeth are coming thru. She only sleeps in her bed for a couple hours after putting her down and cries until we put her in our bed, this has currently been going on for 3 weeks previously she was a great sleeper.
My little one started sleeping through around 10 weeks, thought this is great 👍 now she's 6 months and back to waking up every couple hrs 😪 biggest issue is rolling over then can't get back over, so been going in flipping her back, 2hrs later, on the belly again awake 😫 any help would be much appreciated guys
4 months? We were fine at 4 months...now we're at 12 months...oh my word...what on earth has happened? Wakes up screaming and cannot be consoled unless picked up and after a while sleeps again, but only on our bed... At our wit's end!
Thank you for this video! My 8 month old wakes up every hour at night since he’s 3 month old, sometimes he sleeps better, sometimes he wakes me up like 8 times at night so I breastfeed him a little and he is asleep again. During the day he naps 30 minutes only , I try my best but it doesn’t change 😌
This is us right now with our 4 month old. We’ve gone from 5-6 hour stretches and one on feed overnight to waking every 2-3 hours and 2-3 feeds overnight 😵💫 she won’t go back to sleep after 5am without another feed. She will stay on the breast for ages but isn’t actually swallowing and screams when I lay her back down so she’s using me as a dummy. I’m dying.
I feel you. Im still a human dummy, going at 8 months now. She won’t leave me!! Thank god, it got better, she can now sleep in trolley or car seat if enough tired. How to tame a wild baby? Haha
She is not using you as a dummy, she is using dummy as you. They look for comfort by sucking mama's nipple, the want to smell you, feel you, feel the warmth and comfort of your arms and be in their safest place. Think about it like this : when people were in the cave they didn't have dummies, babies were sucking nipples for comfort, they do exactly the same thing now, dummy is introduced, nipple is natural.
@Limonka my twin girls will be 6 months in 2 days. And they (or I) am going through the same ordeal since 4 months. Its mind boggling and tiring as shit
My 7 month old has this! It started when she was 5 months old then one whole month of good sleep then 7 months old is like she is waking up 9pm then at 3am then at 6am. I need sleep 😭
My son is 7 months old and nurses every 2 hours, and some nights will literally scream for hours if he isnt latched while asleep. How do i change this? Im exhausted.
This video is perfect timing for us. He is 16 weeks and everything switched. Do you have any tips regarding sleep when we are out and about for the day?
did all this. Baby slept fine then at 9.5 months baby learned to scream at top of the lungs, despite knowing moma and dada.... when i picked her up she stopped "cryelling" and started to lecture me in baby gibberish. Full tonality and all.... she is co-sleeping with me from 230in the morning now, cause I feel soo guilty. Didn't care about the crying... but the lecturing hit hard!!
Hello Emma, my son is 10 months old. He can’t sleep well at nights. Nearly wakes up every hour. It makes me so tried, sleepy, and also angry. What’s the reason for that? He is sleeping while breastfeeding , or I’m rocking him on my feet or arms. What can I do?
My baby is already almost 7 months and he is having the same thing. 😢 it has been a week and he is waking up every hour during the second half of the night. 😢
Please, please do a video on sleep regression: when in the first few years we can expect them and how to deal with them. Please. Mine is 4 months and is going thru it. My sister inlaw says to expect one every few months in the first years. Do we let them cry it out. Do we console. Do we take them back to bed with us. Help!
My baby fights naps and requires a dummy for naps and initially to go to sleep on an evening but never throughout the night (he can self settle/doesn’t fight). Do you have an explanation for this? It baffles me
Hi emma my baby dont sleep at all during the day and uses me as a dummy to get back to sleep at night. He dream feeds and stay tired during the day. I feed him in a quite/dark room and rock him after ever feed but he fight back to stay awake. Sometimes he stay asleep after leaving the breasts but that sleep lasts for only few minutes. He sleep for 1 whole hour rarely and stay playfull all the time. Also, he love to see faces around him and if left alone even for a minut he screaams and calms down after seeing me. I am so tired
Sounds very tiring. How old is your little one? If he is under 3 months you might find this video helpful: ua-cam.com/video/SfCxUG1nE84/v-deo.html. Some of the tips in this video will also help !
Emma..all ur videos are very informative and accurate.. we like to know if its okay to use baby carrier with hip seat..it not please recommend the beat for us
Thanks so much😊. If your baby's bottom and thighs are supported and their knees are higher than their hips (so they form an M shape) when they are in baby carrier with the hip seat then the carrier sounds great.
my one and a half month old baby is killing me. she always wakes every 2-2 .5 hours at night and she is active in day time. i have head ache for 3 days now because of lack of sleep. i am thinking to hire a nanny at will work at night
Can you please make a vid of Babys that fight sleep. My 2 month old is fighting sleep during the day. It takes me up to two hrs to get him to take a nap.
Desperate need tips for toddlers. My boy is 14 months now. After he start CC and also get sick he is very attach to us and car 3 times a hour so we have up and co sleep with him. But still ! He cry so much , we are exhausted and desperate 😢
I try to do the sushing or patting but after 5 mn of i eventually give in and end up "feeding" her. She starts feeding but falls asleep right away and keep sucking through the night, if i try to get her off she will scream ! I thought we were done with that but its coming back now at 3 months
This video is so helpful! My wife and I’s newborn just started sleeping well through the night at 6 weeks and we are definitely trying to get ahead of the 4 month sleep regression to make things easier. One question - can we still swaddle our baby at 4 months? When is it no longer recommended to swaddle your baby? Thank you again!
Glad the video was helpful. In regards to swaddling. It really depends. You want to stop swaddling when your baby is showing early signs that they are getting close to rolling over. The concern is that if they do roll over when swaddled they would not be able to use their hands to clear their face and could suffocate. So it is best to transition out of a swaddle when they are showing you that they are close to rolling over. If they have rolled you will have to go to having both arms out ASAP.
Hey it’s really helpful for me at this time because my son is 4.5months and he does exactly what u said in the video…. I would like to know when this regression ends
When my baby was 7 weeks he would sleep from. 4 to 6 hrs a night now at almost 10 weeks he is not sleeping well. Any tips for how to get him back to sleeping better ?
I have a 3.5 month old that was an awesome sleeper from the beginning and would go for a 5 hour stretch or longer. And then wake every 2-3 hours. Now he’s going through a sleep regression and wakes sometimes every hour. I give him the binky unless I can tell he’s not falling back asleep for long. But now I think he’s continuing to rely on me giving him his pacifier really often but I’m not sure what to do in place of it to get him back to sleep? I’m nervous he will start all out crying and become unable to manage if I don’t help him back to sleep.
We're afraid of doing too much together. Our almost 5 month old has started rolling over on his tummy, so we're considering taking him off the swaddle, then there is reducing dependency on us for going to sleep, and finally helping him sleep for longer. Any thoughts on which to prioritize?
Hi @Arudresh I would recommend taking him out of the swaddle first. It is important to do this now as you mentioned he has started to roll over onto his tummy. I would then ensure the bedroom is dark, cool and quiet and your little one might surprise you and start linking his sleep cycles without your support.
My baby is 4.5 months old.....sleeping well around 5-6 hours in afternoon and sleeps only 2-3 hours at night and then stays awake. She wants me to hold her and cries when i place her back on the bed at night. I dont know how to change this
We do a lot, if not all of these things on a regular basis and have done for ages but my 6.5 month old still wants to start his day at 4am 😓 do you have other tips for over 6 months old?
Ours been like this for a month and we’re considering assembling her crib. She had a side bed next to ours. But it seems a little small for her. Bought a bigger one but it didn’t work.
Hi Emma how about baby doesn’t need night feed already since 3months old , and has been sleep through the night until 4months ish all the sudden she wake up earlier or multiple wake up during the night ? We tried to feed her when she wake before 12am but she does take it well , we don’t know what to do with this sleep regression!!! Please help
Hi Emma, my 3 month old is going through the regression. Unfortunately, she has been a catnapper since birth and would only sleep cycle for longer than 30 minutes if being held. Now that the regression has started, it’s difficult to get her to sleep longer than 30 mins even when she is held! Her nights are all over the place but we are so anxious about whether she will ever learn to sleep cycle. Any advice on how to manage a catnappers daytime schedule would be amazing! Thank you
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My baby is 7 months, he sleeps 11 hours at night. The first 5-6 hours he sleep and then he wakes up for feed and eats it is a true feed dut after he wakes up every 1-2 hours just to feed for 1 min and fall a sleep on me. How i spot this ones?! He does not want petting or something else ,he will cry as a miserabel baby untill i take him .it is like his way or no way and no one will sleep. What i do ?!
Hi, we have almost 4 month old twins, they share the room. Last night they kept waking each other every hour. We have a noisemachine. Shall we try seperate rooms?
Is there a 6 weeks regression?? Our newborn started at around 4wks to get to some longer sleep streches at night. We had 4-5 hours between breastfeeds. Now (5-6weks) our boy is waking every 2-3 hours. He is also much more unsettled at night. And its much harder to calm him back to sleep. He seems uncomfortably gassy /windy. Do you have any advice??🙏
Can you make a video on when not to swaddle please? Is it when rolling to the side or to the belly or when can roll and roll back or when there is no startle reflex or all above or some has priority over the others.... Just a bit confused here haha! Thanks heaps
My baby is 2.5 months old and she doesn’t sleep longer than 3-4 hour stretches at night? But often it’s less, 1-2 hours. What am I doing wrong? I wake up 3-4 hours a night to feed her I am going mad 😢
I noticed recently that my 4mo isn't feeding very well and gets distracted a lot. I didn't realise it was a thing! I'm not sure how to fix this since he seems distracted by me. I try not to look at him as making eye contact seems entertaining. Any other advice?
Yes, absolutely. At 9/10 months little ones are more mobile (crawling/learning new skills), are also aware of separation anxiety and in the process of dropping a nap. This can lead to a sleep regression. You can approach the regression using the tips in this video but you just need to adjust the wake times and night feeds to suit a 9 month old. At 9 months your bub might be on a two nap schedule. So generally look for your little ones' tired signs after being awake for around 2 hours in the morning and again after being awake for around 3 hours after the first nap. Some 9 months olds may wake for one feed at night and some might not need a feed.
My baby is 6 months old and I was so surprised to observe the he has started not to sleep early. Instead he would be sleeping at midnight then will wake up every two hours until morning. Jesus. But thanks to your tips Emma. I'm glad I've subscribe d your channel.
My baby is approaching 5 months and he is waking 3 or 4 times a night and the only way he goes back to sleep with a feed I’ve tried these methods before resorting to a feed but if you have any more suggestions that would be great.
If the only way your baby goes back to sleep is by a feed, most likely it is because of hunger. What I did was offering more milk/food during the day so that the baby's tummy has all the needed calories to last through the night without a feed. This solved the problem for me, no more night wakings.
@@charu230 hi Charu, I think the next step was trying to have him attempt to put himself back to sleep. I fed in the night up until he was 15 lbs I think it was. Try the gentle sleep method too.
Hello Emma, My baby is 3 months and 10 days old, from past 1 week i have been noticing similar signs of ?? Sleep regression. My concern is that is it possible to get regression so early? Also, her appetite has decreased I was expecting cluster feeding during this time But its reduced. What to expect?? Kindly enlighten
How do you make them nap in the day if they just won’t sleep? He’ll sleep for about 30mins in late morning but that’s literally it, we can’t get him to nap at all. This means he’s overtired every night and struggles to sleep
Hi! I am not sure how old your little one is but I do have a baby sleep course for 0 - 6 month olds which would help. Here is the link to the course in case you're interested: brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
Proud to help my baby back to sleep by nursing him. 🥰❤✌ Nursing is a gift that was given to mothers. Dang it's hard, exhausting, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
I think this obession with babies sleeping independently is really evil. It deprives babies of much needed affection. I also believe that nursing to sleep is so soothing for babies and I love it. There is something magical when the babies fall asleep while nursing. In my experience it does not effect their sleep either. It just a theory which is hard to prove. I will rock and nurse all my babies to sleep. That is a precious bonding time. My first was a terrible sleeper (honestly, I think I caused it bcs could not read his feeding and sleeping cues properly) and still nursed and rocked him to sleep. Now he is 2.5 years old and I have such sweet memories and bonding because of it.
Hi Emma! I have been following you before my daughter's birth..Now that she's been 4 and a half months Let me take you a week before I tried to stretchher daytime feed intervals.. So ,she was sleeping 3 times a day 30 to 45 mins naps but I used to feed her in every 2 hours or sometimes 1 and a half hour.during the day. 10 min feed from one breast only and for the next feed ,the other breast after every 2 to 2.5 hours. used to sleep through the night. A week ago, I tried to stretch the time between feeds.Since then, she hasn't been sleeping through the night and wakes up for feed, even if I have fed her at 12am.. :( She is now taking 6 min feed at every hour and then she asks for another one after 3 hours almost, which I try to stretch to make it 4. What do I do,I am not used to waking up at nights :( as she has been a good sleeper since the beginning.
I feel like I have been doing all this and no results. I feed my son every 3 hours during day starting at 7am. He never has what the formula said cause he has bad reflux. Previously he would go down at 8 to 830 with a dream feed at 10 and he awoke for a feed at 330 to 4ish then he’d sleep until 630. Naps have been hard for ages. He used to last 20 mins in the bassinet at the start and then I had to contact nap for the rest cause he would cry anytime I put him back down. Now he’s started not sleeping at night and has even been hard to settle in arms. He’s 4 months in just under a week (he also has two bottom teeth that have started to poke through and requires gaviscin for reflux) any other tips?
My 3.5 months old just hates darkness. He’ll start crying when we carry him to his dark bedroom and stop straight away when we turn the light on. He will even be super fussy & move a lot when he’s already asleep and we turn the light off. Any suggestions as to how to overcome this issue?
Hi Emma, in relation to tip 2 , does this mean if my 4 month old was only previously waking for 2 night feeds, but is now waking 4-5, I should only feed her for 2 and the extra wake times try to settle her other ways? Thanks so much
Hi Elle! Yes, absolutely! If your little one was previously only waking for 2 night feeds but is now waking f4 or 5 times, it is highly likely she is waking at these extra times because she is waking between sleep cycles and needing your help to fall back asleep. And not so much because she is extra hunger. So I would recommend trying to settle her in other ways at these times. Hope this helps.
Emma, thanks for all your videos, really helpful and informative! We are now coming soon to 4 months and since very beginning my baby has awful sleep patterns (day sleep 30 min, more ( 1,5 to 2 hours) only outside on the walk. Now he starts to spend the whole night on the breast eating, not sure what to do and how to fix it. Thanks
oh shitz..... i saw alot webpages about not needing to feed overnight now im seeing they need 1-2 for a 4 month old????? now im worried... WHICH ONE IS IT????? hes been doing this at 3 1/2 month old.... i feel horrible... can anyone help me? idk anyone.... no my parents n grandparents are dead ... i dont have friends with kids. now im going to struggle.... another q is... ( i might have missed one of the video scrolling) how to avoid using paci ( he doesn't want it) and its hard to keep his nails trimmed to be prevent cutting inside his mouth. its hard to keep him swaddled ( he breaks free n reaches his ears to pull) im currently trying to get rid of behind the ear cradle cap/fungal doesn't have it anywhere else no matter how much i clean it right on the bottom where his shirt or swaddle rubs on it keeps rubbing off the fungal cream the dr gave me n yes i tried other products until i was blue in the face. any advice to keep it on there? i can only do it at night when he is swaddled to keep him from poisoning himself. ( i stopped swaddling during the day naps at 3 months) im worried about cause torticollis or developing issues. i cant hardly find any videos for the behind the ears! or muff or something pedi doesn't give a shit about his ear pulling since 2 1/2 months n he cant see inside cause of the wax... i went thru 4 pedi... ( i have hearing loss im terrified of ear infections) he's pulling less now that the cream reduced the cradle cap area but he still does it especially at feeding time. im afraid of putting bandage ( choking on it) anyone out there that could help me?
Is it still normal for babies to still need a feed at night around 9 months old or is that 100% sleep association? Like other parents here, it's been really rough with my bebe waling every 2 hours and having a very hard time going back to bed. Thank you!
My daughter used to sleep in her bassinet but then when she started scooting and rolling she started sleeping in the bed with us. (Only Bc we just got a new king size) this was around 4-5 month mark. Now she costeros and nurses to go to sleep. She sleeps for about 4 hrs then wakes up and only nursing her will calm her down. I would like for her to sleep in crib so I know she’s safe and won’t fall off bed. What can I do? I don’t want to do the crying out method 😭😭
Hi, sounds like it is a bit tiring for you both. I would start giving her time during the day sleeping in a cot/crib. At the end of the video I cover how you might be able to do this gently. Hope it helps!
Thanks for watching! Which strategy are you going to try first?
I think I’ll start gently, and taking him to his bedroom to have a nap on my arms… I’m so tired I’m scared I won’t last much crying
@@alexpuchala Sounds like a great idea.
We're trying as gently as possible. Putting him down for naps in his crib and trying to comfort him back to sleep if he wakes too soon.
The new behaviour was like a light switch.. We were regularly getting 6 hours a night then, flick he's up every hour after the first 4. Makes life difficult when I work full time and my wife is studying.
Hi @Ian Bartram it would be really difficult with you working full time and your wife studying. Hopefully the gentle approach works soon and everyone gets more sleep!
@@ianbartram2118 yep my 3mo is the same, I now have to rock him in my arms to go to sleep.. problem is when I put him down he wakes and when he does sleep it’s generally 30min… sometimes he stretched to 40-45min 😭
"This is a permanent change" *screams internally*
😂 Sorry to be the bearer of bad news Ian. I promise it gets better though!!
@@EmmaHubbard at least I know what's happening :) thank you
Hope it gets better soon!
Currently screaming 🫠🫠🫠
Hahaha sameeee
I have a 7 week old (my first child), thanks to your information I've learned so many things I did 't know before. I believed so many of the myths. Such as babies needing to be able to sleep in a noisy environment, and I didn't know that even though they might look asleep that it's their way of coping with busy surroundings. It's helped me get my baby girl in quite a good sleeping rythm. Some of my family (particularly mother in law) thinks I'm a little too uptight about her sleeping patterns and her sleeping in a dark and quiet area instead of the busy area of the house during the day, but so far she's extending her night sleeps from 11 - 3 'o clock sleep to feed, to 11 - 4:30! So far so good...
Also my MIL was over a few days ago and was holding her for 3,5 hours... I have trouble standing up for myself and let it go for this once, and boy did I regret it. She cried from the afternoon when my MIL left to her late night feed. Never again!
Omg my mum and mil are the same. They just want to play with the baby like he's a toy and think its funny handing over a stressef over tired baby. Guess who never gets to babysit...
@@dawnhapgood2907 it's frustrating, good luck with your MIL and mom, totally get what you're going through.
Learning about sleep cues and wake periods saved my sanity with my colicky baby😭😭😭😭 thanks Emma!
You're so welcome!
Our almost 4mo is sleeping like 10hr in crib a night but all day naps are in arms. We are afraid to change anything we are doing because the night times are great atm.
This is exactly what happened 🙈 thank you for the video!
You're so welcome! I hope it helps
My 9 month old is going through the same problem! He keeps waking up every 1-2 hours and he has to be breastfed to sleep. I request you to make a dedicated video for the age 9-12 months😭. We always refer to your videos for any help. Thank you soo much! 🤗❤
Thanks for sharing!! I will try and do a video on this topic soon! In the meantime these tips should also help.
We are having the same problem. Our little one is almost 11 months and wakes up several times during the night. He will only sleep if we r holding him. Please help
Same here. I'm looking forward to your video about it. My 9 month old wakes up every hour and can't pass herself back to sleep. I'm thinking feeding her every hour is too much. Definetely need help about it. Thanks.
Same here.. Would love to see a dedicated video ❤️
Me too ! He is 7 months and have the same problem
We are experiencing this right now! Oh wow this is the video we needed. Thank you!
Hope it helped!
Thank you. You've become our go to for advice. I'm going to use the transition advice to get him into his own rib and crib.
You're welcome Nicole! I hope that helps :)
He's 6 months now and screaming through the night and sometimes only settles with a bottlefeed (he never needed that before). He was an ok sleeper, but now we just don't know what to do
How can I differentiate wether my baby is crying at bedtime because it's overtired or because it's not tired enough?
Wow, you gotta be watching me 👀 my baby is up every hour now and used to sleep through the night only waking once around 12 or 1. She's 8 months now though.
Same, 6 months old...
There's another sleep regression phase around 8-9 months. My daughter is 8 months too and she's going through the same. It's connected to their drive to move and crawl. Baby wants to explore the world, but is suddenly starting to realize that this means, it's moving further away from their primary care giver and that's really scary! So, they are actually torn between "I want to crawl/ walk!" and "Help! Mommy or daddy are suddenly so far away!" and they need to process that during their sleep. It's not pleasant for us as parents, but it's absolutely normal and developmentally important!!!
Hopefully some of these tips help as it all relates to increasing a bub's ability to self-settle.
2 month old here and we just somewhat figured out how to skip witching hour ugh that was a miserable 2 weeks. Fast forward we’re now playing the wake up every hour game and getting no sleep 😳
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Thank you so much Emma. This is brilliant advice, really setting parents and babies up for success!!! Love your videos and am so appreciative of the knowledge you share so unconditionally. Many thanks.
It’s my pleasure!
I've been following literally ALL these tips for the past month and my 5 months daughter still wakes up every 2-3h per night 😭 I'm convinced I will never sleep again
Same! Mine wakes up with what seems to be gas and I am now starting to avoid dairy.. He's 7 months old 😭
@@mellow1481Don’t avoid dairy, you need it
Emma thank you so much for your videos. My baby is now 4months old and this is exactly what we are going through right now..i was wondering whether this is a regression or not so when your video popped up today i was shocked for that perfect timing😅 Love you and your videos, and thanks for helping new parents like me❤
You are so welcome!
My baby girl is almost 8 months old and still wakes up every few hours to feed at night
Appreciate you sooooooo much! So thankful I found your channel. Thank you for making these videos
We are going through 4 months sleep regression since 2 months old (just hit 3), literally you described our nights 🙈
Great video, only comment is a worthwhile one; a bedroom full of white noise has proven essential to getting and staying asleep. Whereas a quiet room has proven disruptive, in my experience.
Good point!
The drowsy but awake thing never. Ever. Works.
Totally... just means you have to start over 😮
Agreed
3 babies later…I have to disagree. I do that and I give my baby 15 mins to cry. She falls asleep during that 15mins and now when I lay her down “drowsy but awake” she lays in bed awake but she’ll put herself to sleep.
This has to be the hardest part of being a part. Its exhausting and frustating in more ways than one hopefully it can be corrected
My baby is going through this at 3 months. I’m grateful that I can keep swaddling to help her through it, but it’s rough.
Same my lo
This is just what I needed right now. THANK YOU
I'm so glad to hear that!
My daughter is 2 months. Wakes once in the night to feed, down a few hours, and then cuddles for the next 2 hours
My baby never went through the 4 month regression HOWEVER at 5 months 5 days , my bby started waking up 2-3 times a night 😢 11pm, 2am, and 5 or 6am. She wakes up to feed and quickly falls asleep right after
So THAT'S why he is only sleeping about an hour at a time in the second half of the night. Thanks for the tips
My pleasure. Hope they help!
I have this issue but it started when she turned 9 months and her top teeth are coming thru. She only sleeps in her bed for a couple hours after putting her down and cries until we put her in our bed, this has currently been going on for 3 weeks previously she was a great sleeper.
Hopefully when the teeth come through she returns to being a great sleeper again. But these tips should also help a bit! 😁
My little one started sleeping through around 10 weeks, thought this is great 👍 now she's 6 months and back to waking up every couple hrs 😪 biggest issue is rolling over then can't get back over, so been going in flipping her back, 2hrs later, on the belly again awake 😫 any help would be much appreciated guys
4 months? We were fine at 4 months...now we're at 12 months...oh my word...what on earth has happened? Wakes up screaming and cannot be consoled unless picked up and after a while sleeps again, but only on our bed... At our wit's end!
Thank you for this video! My 8 month old wakes up every hour at night since he’s 3 month old, sometimes he sleeps better, sometimes he wakes me up like 8 times at night so I breastfeed him a little and he is asleep again. During the day he naps 30 minutes only , I try my best but it doesn’t change 😌
The same thing happening with my 9 month old baby, I never get appropriate sleep since I had my baby, I’m so tired 😪
Very helpful, thank you!
This is us right now with our 4 month old. We’ve gone from 5-6 hour stretches and one on feed overnight to waking every 2-3 hours and 2-3 feeds overnight 😵💫 she won’t go back to sleep after 5am without another feed. She will stay on the breast for ages but isn’t actually swallowing and screams when I lay her back down so she’s using me as a dummy. I’m dying.
I feel you. Im still a human dummy, going at 8 months now. She won’t leave me!! Thank god, it got better, she can now sleep in trolley or car seat if enough tired. How to tame a wild baby? Haha
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Hi Karly, hopefully some of these tips will help you get some sleep back. Particularly tip #2.
We have the same demon child. Jk kinda my wife is physically and mentally drained from this behavior. I feel helpless
She is not using you as a dummy, she is using dummy as you. They look for comfort by sucking mama's nipple, the want to smell you, feel you, feel the warmth and comfort of your arms and be in their safest place. Think about it like this : when people were in the cave they didn't have dummies, babies were sucking nipples for comfort, they do exactly the same thing now, dummy is introduced, nipple is natural.
I have this problem as well. And my saughter will be 6 months old tomorrow. Are the advice the same for this age? Thank you
Yes, it is!
@Limonka my twin girls will be 6 months in 2 days. And they (or I) am going through the same ordeal since 4 months. Its mind boggling and tiring as shit
@@Nickerz1983 , you are right. It is exhausting!
Thank you maam for your valuable instructions 💓❤️🙏🏻
It’s my pleasure!
My 7 month old has this! It started when she was 5 months old then one whole month of good sleep then 7 months old is like she is waking up 9pm then at 3am then at 6am. I need sleep 😭
Hopefully some of these tips help. Also good to check if your little one is teething as it can start around this age too!
My son is 7 months old and nurses every 2 hours, and some nights will literally scream for hours if he isnt latched while asleep. How do i change this? Im exhausted.
Just what i needed!
My baby is 3 months and during the day he only naps if he is being held. Do you have any tips?
can we pls have a vid on teething. and i dont mind night feedings but everyone says not to do them bc it will lead to bad habits later on
Hi! I've got a video on teething if you search my channel 😀
@@EmmaHubbard thank you!
@@sarikatimmi No worries. Hope it helps
This video is perfect timing for us. He is 16 weeks and everything switched.
Do you have any tips regarding sleep when we are out and about for the day?
I am expecting an answer from Emma on the latter part
She's not sleeping at night as well she is three years old help
Mine is three years old she is not sleeping at night
did all this. Baby slept fine then at 9.5 months baby learned to scream at top of the lungs, despite knowing moma and dada.... when i picked her up she stopped "cryelling" and started to lecture me in baby gibberish. Full tonality and all.... she is co-sleeping with me from 230in the morning now, cause I feel soo guilty. Didn't care about the crying... but the lecturing hit hard!!
Hello Emma, my son is 10 months old. He can’t sleep well at nights. Nearly wakes up every hour. It makes me so tried, sleepy, and also angry. What’s the reason for that? He is sleeping while breastfeeding , or I’m rocking him on my feet or arms. What can I do?
My baby ALWAYS fights sleeps. He does not like the idea of going to sleep as soon as we start our bedtime routine he gets upset. Any advice?
My baby is already almost 7 months and he is having the same thing. 😢 it has been a week and he is waking up every hour during the second half of the night. 😢
Please, please do a video on sleep regression: when in the first few years we can expect them and how to deal with them. Please. Mine is 4 months and is going thru it. My sister inlaw says to expect one every few months in the first years. Do we let them cry it out. Do we console. Do we take them back to bed with us. Help!
What if my baby is 10 months old and started waking at ~1 am and crying/refusing to go back to sleep for basically a full wake window worth of time? 😭
My baby fights naps and requires a dummy for naps and initially to go to sleep on an evening but never throughout the night (he can self settle/doesn’t fight). Do you have an explanation for this? It baffles me
Hi emma my baby dont sleep at all during the day and uses me as a dummy to get back to sleep at night. He dream feeds and stay tired during the day. I feed him in a quite/dark room and rock him after ever feed but he fight back to stay awake.
Sometimes he stay asleep after leaving the breasts but that sleep lasts for only few minutes. He sleep for 1 whole hour rarely and stay playfull all the time. Also, he love to see faces around him and if left alone even for a minut he screaams and calms down after seeing me. I am so tired
Exactly what am facing right now....😢am so exhausted...
Sounds very tiring. How old is your little one? If he is under 3 months you might find this video helpful: ua-cam.com/video/SfCxUG1nE84/v-deo.html. Some of the tips in this video will also help !
Emma..all ur videos are very informative and accurate.. we like to know if its okay to use baby carrier with hip seat..it not please recommend the beat for us
Thanks so much😊. If your baby's bottom and thighs are supported and their knees are higher than their hips (so they form an M shape) when they are in baby carrier with the hip seat then the carrier sounds great.
my one and a half month old baby is killing me. she always wakes every 2-2 .5 hours at night and she is active in day time. i have head ache for 3 days now because of lack of sleep. i am thinking to hire a nanny at will work at night
Can you please make a vid of Babys that fight sleep. My 2 month old is fighting sleep during the day. It takes me up to two hrs to get him to take a nap.
Can you guide about converting from motherfeed to bottle feed ???
Good suggestion!
Desperate need tips for toddlers. My boy is 14 months now. After he start CC and also get sick he is very attach to us and car 3 times a hour so we have up and co sleep with him. But still ! He cry so much , we are exhausted and desperate 😢
I try to do the sushing or patting but after 5 mn of i eventually give in and end up "feeding" her. She starts feeding but falls asleep right away and keep sucking through the night, if i try to get her off she will scream ! I thought we were done with that but its coming back now at 3 months
So my baby is 2mo and he keeps waking up every hour in the early morning around 5am and doesn’t stay down 😭
Am Claire from Uganda been helped so much by your videos dear Emma but my baby over cries between naps.
This video is so helpful! My wife and I’s newborn just started sleeping well through the night at 6 weeks and we are definitely trying to get ahead of the 4 month sleep regression to make things easier. One question - can we still swaddle our baby at 4 months? When is it no longer recommended to swaddle your baby? Thank you again!
Glad the video was helpful.
In regards to swaddling. It really depends. You want to stop swaddling when your baby is showing early signs that they are getting close to rolling over. The concern is that if they do roll over when swaddled they would not be able to use their hands to clear their face and could suffocate. So it is best to transition out of a swaddle when they are showing you that they are close to rolling over. If they have rolled you will have to go to having both arms out ASAP.
Hey it’s really helpful for me at this time because my son is 4.5months and he does exactly what u said in the video…. I would like to know when this regression ends
When my baby was 7 weeks he would sleep from. 4 to 6 hrs a night now at almost 10 weeks he is not sleeping well. Any tips for how to get him back to sleeping better ?
Please make a video for 9 to 12 months sleeping
Thank u Emma
But my one month old want to sleep in my arms and when i put her down she wakes up everytime.
What should i do?
I have a 3.5 month old that was an awesome sleeper from the beginning and would go for a 5 hour stretch or longer. And then wake every 2-3 hours. Now he’s going through a sleep regression and wakes sometimes every hour. I give him the binky unless I can tell he’s not falling back asleep for long. But now I think he’s continuing to rely on me giving him his pacifier really often but I’m not sure what to do in place of it to get him back to sleep? I’m nervous he will start all out crying and become unable to manage if I don’t help him back to sleep.
We're afraid of doing too much together. Our almost 5 month old has started rolling over on his tummy, so we're considering taking him off the swaddle, then there is reducing dependency on us for going to sleep, and finally helping him sleep for longer. Any thoughts on which to prioritize?
Hi @Arudresh I would recommend taking him out of the swaddle first. It is important to do this now as you mentioned he has started to roll over onto his tummy. I would then ensure the bedroom is dark, cool and quiet and your little one might surprise you and start linking his sleep cycles without your support.
@@EmmaHubbard thanks for responding! We'll do that first.
My 4m old is doing same... and am dying to sleeep thru atleast 5 yrs during night...😩😩
Do you have a video about 6 month sleep regression?
My baby is 4.5 months old.....sleeping well around 5-6 hours in afternoon and sleeps only 2-3 hours at night and then stays awake. She wants me to hold her and cries when i place her back on the bed at night. I dont know how to change this
How do I get him to sleep without my help , I got to work at 3 in the morning and don’t have time to be awake for him
What happens is she’s only 7weeks and she’s already like this. She only sleeps one sleep cycle. Does this still apply if she’s not 4 months yet ?
We do a lot, if not all of these things on a regular basis and have done for ages but my 6.5 month old still wants to start his day at 4am 😓 do you have other tips for over 6 months old?
Ours been like this for a month and we’re considering assembling her crib. She had a side bed next to ours. But it seems a little small for her. Bought a bigger one but it didn’t work.
Hi Emma. So my 5 months old is wakes every 2 hours for full feeds. His routine has not changed since he was born. Please help
Hi Emma how about baby doesn’t need night feed already since 3months old , and has been sleep through the night until 4months ish all the sudden she wake up earlier or multiple wake up during the night ? We tried to feed her when she wake before 12am but she does take it well , we don’t know what to do with this sleep regression!!! Please help
Hi Emma, my 3 month old is going through the regression. Unfortunately, she has been a catnapper since birth and would only sleep cycle for longer than 30 minutes if being held. Now that the regression has started, it’s difficult to get her to sleep longer than 30 mins even when she is held! Her nights are all over the place but we are so anxious about whether she will ever learn to sleep cycle. Any advice on how to manage a catnappers daytime schedule would be amazing! Thank you
I tried all of these tricks and my baby still wont sleep, shes 5.2 months old its driving me nuts…
I am looking for paid service for - How to teach a 16m old baby to sleep independently.. my baby goes to daycare now and has problems sleeping. she is very stressed and so am I. Please help
My baby is 7 months, he sleeps 11 hours at night. The first 5-6 hours he sleep and then he wakes up for feed and eats it is a true feed dut after he wakes up every 1-2 hours just to feed for 1 min and fall a sleep on me. How i spot this ones?! He does not want petting or something else ,he will cry as a miserabel baby untill i take him .it is like his way or no way and no one will sleep. What i do ?!
Hi, we have almost 4 month old twins, they share the room. Last night they kept waking each other every hour. We have a noisemachine. Shall we try seperate rooms?
Is there a 6 weeks regression??
Our newborn started at around 4wks to get to some longer sleep streches at night. We had 4-5 hours between breastfeeds. Now (5-6weks) our boy is waking every 2-3 hours.
He is also much more unsettled at night. And its much harder to calm him back to sleep. He seems uncomfortably gassy /windy.
Do you have any advice??🙏
My baby is 4 month, at the moment her sleep is the dream she sleeps from 8pm until 8am. (Not always thow)
I am scared by watching this video.......
Can you make a video on when not to swaddle please? Is it when rolling to the side or to the belly or when can roll and roll back or when there is no startle reflex or all above or some has priority over the others.... Just a bit confused here haha! Thanks heaps
My baby is 2.5 months old and she doesn’t sleep longer than 3-4 hour stretches at night? But often it’s less, 1-2 hours. What am I doing wrong? I wake up 3-4 hours a night to feed her I am going mad 😢
I noticed recently that my 4mo isn't feeding very well and gets distracted a lot. I didn't realise it was a thing! I'm not sure how to fix this since he seems distracted by me. I try not to look at him as making eye contact seems entertaining. Any other advice?
Hi Emma,
My baby is 9 months and is going through a sleep regression, is that normal as well? Can we approach it similarly? Thank you!
Yes, absolutely. At 9/10 months little ones are more mobile (crawling/learning new skills), are also aware of separation anxiety and in the process of dropping a nap. This can lead to a sleep regression. You can approach the regression using the tips in this video but you just need to adjust the wake times and night feeds to suit a 9 month old. At 9 months your bub might be on a two nap schedule. So generally look for your little ones' tired signs after being awake for around 2 hours in the morning and again after being awake for around 3 hours after the first nap. Some 9 months olds may wake for one feed at night and some might not need a feed.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you so much!!!
My baby is 6 months old and I was so surprised to observe the he has started not to sleep early. Instead he would be sleeping at midnight then will wake up every two hours until morning. Jesus. But thanks to your tips Emma. I'm glad I've subscribe d your channel.
I hope this helps! Hopefully you both get some more sleep💕
My baby is approaching 5 months and he is waking 3 or 4 times a night and the only way he goes back to sleep with a feed I’ve tried these methods before resorting to a feed but if you have any more suggestions that would be great.
If the only way your baby goes back to sleep is by a feed, most likely it is because of hunger. What I did was offering more milk/food during the day so that the baby's tummy has all the needed calories to last through the night without a feed. This solved the problem for me, no more night wakings.
@@Bold-Math interesting I do offer more during the day though.
Hi Payal
I’m going through the same issue with my four month old
Any tips what worked for you eventually?
@@charu230 hi Charu, I think the next step was trying to have him attempt to put himself back to sleep. I fed in the night up until he was 15 lbs I think it was. Try the gentle sleep method too.
so this is where i went wrong D: shes 10 months now but she used to sleep soooo good at night! :((( its terrible.
Hello Emma, My baby is 3 months and 10 days old, from past 1 week i have been noticing similar signs of ?? Sleep regression.
My concern is that is it possible to get regression so early?
Also, her appetite has decreased
I was expecting cluster feeding during this time
But its reduced.
What to expect?? Kindly enlighten
How do you make them nap in the day if they just won’t sleep?
He’ll sleep for about 30mins in late morning but that’s literally it, we can’t get him to nap at all. This means he’s overtired every night and struggles to sleep
Hi! I am not sure how old your little one is but I do have a baby sleep course for 0 - 6 month olds which would help. Here is the link to the course in case you're interested: brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
Proud to help my baby back to sleep by nursing him. 🥰❤✌ Nursing is a gift that was given to mothers. Dang it's hard, exhausting, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
I think this obession with babies sleeping independently is really evil. It deprives babies of much needed affection. I also believe that nursing to sleep is so soothing for babies and I love it. There is something magical when the babies fall asleep while nursing. In my experience it does not effect their sleep either. It just a theory which is hard to prove. I will rock and nurse all my babies to sleep. That is a precious bonding time. My first was a terrible sleeper (honestly, I think I caused it bcs could not read his feeding and sleeping cues properly) and still nursed and rocked him to sleep. Now he is 2.5 years old and I have such sweet memories and bonding because of it.
Hi Emma!
I have been following you before my daughter's birth..Now that she's been 4 and a half months
Let me take you a week before I tried to stretchher daytime feed intervals.. So ,she was sleeping 3 times a day 30 to 45 mins naps but I used to feed her in every 2 hours or sometimes 1 and a half hour.during the day. 10 min feed from one breast only and for the next feed ,the other breast after every 2 to 2.5 hours. used to sleep through the night.
A week ago, I tried to stretch the time between feeds.Since then, she hasn't been sleeping through the night and wakes up for feed, even if I have fed her at 12am.. :(
She is now taking 6 min feed at every hour and then she asks for another one after 3 hours almost, which I try to stretch to make it 4.
What do I do,I am not used to waking up at nights :( as she has been a good sleeper since the beginning.
I feel like I have been doing all this and no results. I feed my son every 3 hours during day starting at 7am. He never has what the formula said cause he has bad reflux. Previously he would go down at 8 to 830 with a dream feed at 10 and he awoke for a feed at 330 to 4ish then he’d sleep until 630. Naps have been hard for ages. He used to last 20 mins in the bassinet at the start and then I had to contact nap for the rest cause he would cry anytime I put him back down. Now he’s started not sleeping at night and has even been hard to settle in arms. He’s 4 months in just under a week (he also has two bottom teeth that have started to poke through and requires gaviscin for reflux) any other tips?
My 3.5 months old just hates darkness. He’ll start crying when we carry him to his dark bedroom and stop straight away when we turn the light on. He will even be super fussy & move a lot when he’s already asleep and we turn the light off. Any suggestions as to how to overcome this issue?
Maybe dim lighting
Our "4 month sleep regression" started at 4 months and has so far lasted to 10½ months.... I'm tired...
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Hi Emma, in relation to tip 2 , does this mean if my 4 month old was only previously waking for 2 night feeds, but is now waking 4-5, I should only feed her for 2 and the extra wake times try to settle her other ways?
Thanks so much
Hi Elle! Yes, absolutely! If your little one was previously only waking for 2 night feeds but is now waking f4 or 5 times, it is highly likely she is waking at these extra times because she is waking between sleep cycles and needing your help to fall back asleep. And not so much because she is extra hunger. So I would recommend trying to settle her in other ways at these times. Hope this helps.
@@EmmaHubbard Perfect! I assumed so and within a few nights she was back to her regular wake times thank god:)
Emma, thanks for all your videos, really helpful and informative!
We are now coming soon to 4 months and since very beginning my baby has awful sleep patterns (day sleep 30 min, more ( 1,5 to 2 hours) only outside on the walk. Now he starts to spend the whole night on the breast eating, not sure what to do and how to fix it.
Thanks
Did it get better?
It is happening now at the 6th month with my baby
oh shitz..... i saw alot webpages about not needing to feed overnight now im seeing they need 1-2 for a 4 month old????? now im worried... WHICH ONE IS IT????? hes been doing this at 3 1/2 month old.... i feel horrible... can anyone help me? idk anyone.... no my parents n grandparents are dead ... i dont have friends with kids. now im going to struggle.... another q is... ( i might have missed one of the video scrolling) how to avoid using paci ( he doesn't want it) and its hard to keep his nails trimmed to be prevent cutting inside his mouth. its hard to keep him swaddled ( he breaks free n reaches his ears to pull) im currently trying to get rid of behind the ear cradle cap/fungal doesn't have it anywhere else no matter how much i clean it right on the bottom where his shirt or swaddle rubs on it keeps rubbing off the fungal cream the dr gave me n yes i tried other products until i was blue in the face. any advice to keep it on there? i can only do it at night when he is swaddled to keep him from poisoning himself. ( i stopped swaddling during the day naps at 3 months) im worried about cause torticollis or developing issues. i cant hardly find any videos for the behind the ears! or muff or something pedi doesn't give a shit about his ear pulling since 2 1/2 months n he cant see inside cause of the wax... i went thru 4 pedi... ( i have hearing loss im terrified of ear infections) he's pulling less now that the cream reduced the cradle cap area but he still does it especially at feeding time. im afraid of putting bandage ( choking on it) anyone out there that could help me?
Is it still normal for babies to still need a feed at night around 9 months old or is that 100% sleep association? Like other parents here, it's been really rough with my bebe waling every 2 hours and having a very hard time going back to bed. Thank you!
My baby is, doing this, at 3 weeks old. Is this normal? She only sleeps when being held or fed.
Ours did too ur not alone !!!!!!!
A 3 week old baby needs to feed every 2-3 hours, around the clock, 24 hours a day...........everday
My daughter used to sleep in her bassinet but then when she started scooting and rolling she started sleeping in the bed with us. (Only Bc we just got a new king size) this was around 4-5 month mark. Now she costeros and nurses to go to sleep. She sleeps for about 4 hrs then wakes up and only nursing her will calm her down. I would like for her to sleep in crib so I know she’s safe and won’t fall off bed. What can I do? I don’t want to do the crying out method 😭😭
Hi, sounds like it is a bit tiring for you both. I would start giving her time during the day sleeping in a cot/crib. At the end of the video I cover how you might be able to do this gently. Hope it helps!
Is anybody else going through this at 11/12 weeks!? Isn't this too early? He was born 2 weeks late if that makes a difference...
Yes, us, please give me some hope it ever got better 🤣