It means the world to me that you shared this. Doing all the research was giving me analysis paralysis, but watching you just do it gave me the push to just do it too. I was so afraid to sleep train and upset my baby, but it turns out that she was crying WAY MORE when I was intervening than when she started sleep training. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your first-hand experience with sleep training! I’ve read the books and all but it’s so much easier seeing it IRL. Always appreciate how genuine and authentic you are about sharing your life, hard to come by these days on UA-cam.
Hey babe! I just wanted to thank you, like whole heartedly! After watching this video and the following one I started sleep training that night. With in three nights we didn’t have to do any check ins for any sleeps! Thanks to you I knew exactly what to expect and felt like I knew what I was doing for once! This will be night 7 but we haven’t even had to follow the schedule as bub falls asleep with in 5 minutes anyway. You’re a godsend, so grateful. I’ll save this video for all my friends and my future babes! Sending love xx
Here rewatching this while doing this with my 10 month old tonight. I’m late to the game. I tried at 6 months and then gave up. It took 30 minutes but he is currently asleep in his crib. Hoping he stays down cause my nerves are shot!
@@kristin382 it worked in the sense that he will now go down to bed in his crib. But he doesn’t sleep through the night. He will stay in his crib until 1-2 am. Then I end up just bringing him in bed with me cause I need sleep!!
Was it after Dad's check in that he fell asleep? I'm curious, because, once I passed on sleep duty and checking in to my husband my daughter started falling asleep quicker... Once she saw I wasn't the one responding to her cries she surrendered to sleep...
Here for the same reason. Putting on a happy and confident face for my 2y and 5m old as we do both at the same time. Note: earlier in life is WAY easier. For everyone.
Thank you for this video. We just started ST our third child and let me tell you, the anxiety and guilt we parents experience each time we go through this doesn’t get easier! Despite refreshing my memory with research, watching your video answered so many other questions and gave me the validation that I’m doing what I believe is right and helping my child in the long run. You reminded me that each child is different and it will get worse before it gets better. I especially appreciated that you walked through the naps as that is something that I didn’t see much info on. You gave me the confidence and validation that I was desperately seeking at 2:30am last night. 😅 so grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks again and wish me luck! 🤞🏼
Per a program I used and worked in 2 nights. feed before and after naps, every 2 hrs all day so they have all their calories by night. Feed before bath time, so their food won’t come up right before bed. Once they’re asleep, dream feed at 10:30 and then 3 am. Feeding them before they wake rather than waiting for them to cry is the trick. Then you wean off night feed but feeding a minute less everyday. *also* notice how your baby likes to sleep, on their belly? Side? Put them down that way*:( good luck mommies! 🙏🏽 they say the second is easiest and I just wonderrr lol
On a lighter note from sleep training... can we take a minute to appreciate how super cute Jackson's Star Wars crib sheets are everyone? 😍 They're so cool! Seriously though, thank you for posting this Kyla. We're in the same situation, so it's reassuring to see your videos and read the comments from other mums 👍
Thank you so much for posting this. It is really helpful to inspire me in sleep training my little one. It feels really scary to take this on, but you're making it feel manageable and it's a really helpful step-by-step guide
Tonight was the first night I let my girl cry it out for 30 min she finally fell asleep. She just wouldn’t stay asleep in her crib when I put her down and I was so frustrated! Shes 6 months and I decided to try Ferber method tomorrow and this was the first video I watched. Thank you for the encouragement!
Amaris Luengas I was in the same boat as you guys! I decided to sleep train and it was the BEST DECISION EVER! She is now sleeping through the night and barely cries when I put her down. I’m still doing it but I highly recommend
Iska just posted a video talking about that! If yours is a newborn I highly suggest you watching it, she got help from a professional and her baby boy started sleeping through the night immediately!
I know how you feel. My daughter was a terrible sleeper! We tried sleep training her many times. At 11 months she finally would give it up and would fall asleep on her own! And now she's a amazing sleeper! So it will get easier! You got this mama 💪
Something that has helped us beat the early morning wake ups is to choose daily wake time and continue Ferber until that time comes. Ours is 7:00 and so if she wakes up before (which she doesn’t anymore) we would continue pop ins until 7:00 and then once it hits 7:00 we go in happy and ready to start the day. Also we do a dream feed at like 10:30 and it helps a lot.
Such a good video! Started the ferber method a week ago and we finally have our evenings and bedroom back. So thankful!! And the baby is much much much more happier and rested!
Mothers and babies are designed to be a mutually responsive dyad. Babies express their needs to the mother (or caregiver) through crying. Letting babies "cry it out" is a form of need-neglect that leads to many long-term effects. Consequences of the "cry it out" method include: It releases stress hormones, impairs self-regulation, and undermines trust. Yes the method will work but at what cost? Ever heard of GENTLE SLEEP COACHING, same results but without the tears.
2 years on and still so relevant! My wife and I are just sleep training our 6 month old and this video has been such a comfort for us both, as well as informative!
Idk why anyone would give you hate, your kids cannot sleep in your bed forever. That's not healthy for you, your husband, or the child. My niece slept in her parents' bed until she was six and then they finally tried making her sleep in her own bed. I can't even imagine not having that alone time with my husband for 6 years. You're doing the right thing for your kids and your family :)
I totally agree my oldest sister had all four kids sleep with her. The youngest was in her bed until he was 13 years old. Ugh I could not go that long.
How can you compare a 6 yo with a 6 mo? A baby needs his mother's warmth at night. It is a western thing to want a baby to sleep in their own room, it is not natural and goes against the baby's instincts.
Thank you, thank you. I just start sleep training my 10 month even though it broke my heart but I definitely need to sleep to survive and to be a better mother.
To all the moms out there you got this! This is temporary. When babies cry, picking them up will show them you are emotionally available and will always be there for them. Sending love and support!
Thank you for being so honest and transparent! this is going to be super useful for us. My babi just turn one and she sleeps so bad, she still wakes up every 2-3 hours
I would suggest a sleep sack or wearable blanket! Like Zipadee-Zip. On their website it says that babies like it because they feel comfort when they feel can feel the edges. Idk I guess it imitates the womb but okay for older babies that can roll over. Worth a shot! My almost 4 month old wears the Love to Dream "Swaddle Up" since she didnt like being swaddled with her hands down anymore. She cries when I put her down but once i zip her up (and I do use pacifier) she goes right to sleep. She knows when she's wearing it that its time for sleep! I will transition her soon to the Zipadee-zip when she can roll over. Just a thought! It might help.. Love keeping up with you and your family!
I'm doing sleep training with my 5 and a half month old daughter right now, by you doing this vlog at this specific time is perfect. I'm a first-time mama and this is definitely not the easiest but it is definitely the most rewarding keep being a great Mama Kayla ♥️ thank you again for this video! Continued luck with your sleep training 🙏💤
Just want to mention that sometimes with full extinction, they stop way faster overall. I tried ferber at first, and she could go for literally hours because she was just reinvigorated every time I went in. When we tried full extinction, 20 minutes flat. Also worth mentioning that my baby would cry while being rocked to sleep as well, so we really weren't getting her to sleep cry free at any point in her life past newborn. But now that she's sleep trained, she only cries when she's overtired and only for a few minutes.
You’re doing a great job! I work as a nanny for an almost 3 month old. I have done the Ferber method in the past and one thing that definitely helped was not allowing baby to get so frustrated that he isn’t able to settle down. After the first few minutes, I go in and place my hand on their chest and once I see that they are calm, I leave the room. I know it’s hard to hear your baby cry, this will allow them to learn how to self soothe, before you know it.. they’re sleeping without assistance! Another tip would be to start sleep training during the day - first nap Use a sleep sack-, zen sleep sack is great!
My baby girl is 7 weeks old. I want to start sleep training so bad but she is still in our room. Thank you for being super honest about parenting. Love your channel.
Thank you so much for sharing, I was watching your video while my baby cried for a whole hour until she fell asleep. Your video helped me not give up as I did yesterday when I heard her cry so bad my heart broke and I weakened and gave up. Today my baby and I did it, I got the first 3 and 5 then 4 more 5's and then 10 and 3 more 10's... She passed out after it. Thank youuuuuu
Your video gave me such comfort and confidence! After 3 days of this method, my 8 month old slept 7 hours straight!! I was so scared to try it at first and had so many questions. Your video was so helpful! Thank you so much❤️
THANK YOU so much for making all these update videos/sleep training/ milestone updates. They're so helpful to me who has an almost 3month (on the 21st) and 2 yr old! Thank you for keeping it real about the struggles & tiredness so I dont feel alone & like I'm failing. This is life & it's real. It's hard but we love our babies & try our hardest. Your the best, hope your day goes great!!!
I can’t relate with the night time sleep since my son is a great sleeper at night. But oh my gosh he does not nap. I feel your pain about not being able to get anything done!
Hey Kayla I'm a first time mom and i started watching your videos basically the second I found out I was pregnant. You have provided so much great insight on this whole mom thing and I really appreciate it, you've truly been a blessing. I've since given birth to a beautiful baby boy and you've inspired me to start my own UA-cam journey. Hopefully i can be a blessing for other people the way you have for me.
My daughter does good with sleeping but she hates sleeping on her back all of a sudden. She now is a side and tummy sleeper. She tends to be more comfortable on her stomach and she sleeps longer on her tummy. She just turned 6 months. Good luck momma. You got this! ♥️
Thank you. So much. For making this video. My 5-month-old Jack sounds exactly like Jackson when it comes to sleeping. We're going to try sleep training and your detailed description of the whole process is going to help so much.
My two are adults, and I truly don’t remember how we got through sleep issues. I think those times were a fog of exhaustion! Take care of yourself, you’re an amazing mama.
I’m watching this and just start balling my eyes out at 6:30 ….. thank you I hope this helps me tonight I’m loosing my mind, my son just turned 1 and we are on the same page as this. ❤
Hahaha when you said he doesn’t get tired of crying and he’s stubborn, you literally described my Benny 😂 I used these exact words talking to my husband about him yesterday.
Your videos are extremely helpful! I’m a stay at home dad and I’m sleep training our 5 month old. I have a question though… we also use the Huckleberry app for tracking sleep. Our boy wakes up in the middle of the night a few times still. Do I stop the sleep and then start a new one when he falls back asleep or just keep it going? He’s up for about 20 minutes each time. Thanks!
Thank you for your video. I've been thinking about the Ferber method. I will try to do it tomorrow. I'm doing gentle sleep training. It worked well at the beginning. But it has been 2 weeks now. It just not working. And I'm going crazy. And actually, it is jot that gentle. They still do cry.. and they will! Even after 1 month of doing it, she is till cyring. She even was crying while I was rocking her. I was lucky my first baby did well. I didn't need to sleep train her. It was very natural. But this lady.. Ohdear..5 months.. And nothing has changed. So..Ferber method. I hope it will work.
When your voice broke, I started crying 😭 I am with you girl! When I did this with my daughter it was so hard, but now she's sleeping through the night. Love you and your sweet family ❤️ hope y'all are doing well
I haven’t started sleep training my little guy yet very close to it but I remember seeing another video where she suggested that you have a family member or friend or partner someone you can rely on at anytime during the night cause basically if you’re really struggling sleep training you ring up the person and they can help you through it or even come over or stay with you while you do it as it is incredibly hard by yourself so having someone you can talk to can help a huge amount
Watching as I do some sleep training as well. Love every single video of yours Kayla 💕 whether they are 10 minutes long or almost an hour long, I’m watching it all 🤣
You’re a great mom girl!! Everyone needs that separation from their children at night! My daughter is six and a half months old and we started sleep training her after watching your videos about sleep training Riley 😁 good luck with Jackson and I’m looking forward to more of your videos!! ♥️
My daughter would cry until she throws up and that even when I nurse her to sleep and she sleeps in bed with me. That's why I haven't been able to do any sleep training.
Looking to try the Ferber method soon because I'm in the same boat! He always comes into our bed at some point in the night because he won't sleep for long on his own in the bassinet. He will wake up screaming bloody murder sometimes so I don't know how it's going to go.... 😬 Not sure if he's started teething so that doesn't help but we ALL need sleep! This is very encouraging.
I just started this with my son tonight! He’s almost 10 months old and hasn’t went to sleep on his own at all or slept all night. However, he cried and I went in at 3 minutes, cried and I went back in at 5 minutes.....I DIDN’T HAVE TO GO IN ANYMORE AFTER THAT! He went to sleep on his own before the 10 minutes. We’ll see how it goes throughout the night!
Have you thought about getting him a slumberkin? I have been following your journey since our boys are 2 months apart. We had similiar sleep issues at first. Mine did amazing in his dock a tot and his slumberkin.
I would add a mobile or something on his crib so he had something to concentrate on other then your absence. I would also look into the wub inub (spelling), even though he may not have liked a pacifier in the past. It gives weight and something for his hands to hold as well. Just thinking out loud
Our girl didn't take a pacifier for her first 5 months, we tried again with sleep training and it's been a lifesaver especially when eliminating comfort nursing.
Hi Kayla plz answer as soon as u can. Is that a jumperoo jackson is in or an activity center. Plz list the one u have. I want to see if I need both ( the skip hop activity center & fisher price jumperoo).thanks alot ur amazing. When u delivered b4 me I thought I wld be left behind but ur taking me right along with u & helping me. 💕💕💕Am a first time mom😂😂
Sleep training for the first time (day 2) with my 5-month old. I cant stop crying...it feels like he is gettng worse and worse...he's only had one 30-min nap today. I just feel like im torturing him but I dont wanna mess up the process. Ugh....event he "gentle" sleep training approaches make your baby cry.
This is me at them moment. Pack n play, CO sleep, 30 min naps , up all night for feedings. I tried but I start bawling as aoon as he gets into second gear cries.
Thank you for your vid I'm just researching about the furber method just done the first night with our 6 month old boy, not gonna lie it's super hard to hear your little one crying so much, but good to know it's not just us going through the hardship
On our first born we bought a bigger crib and decorated his room and everything but on our second baby we have a smaller crib inside our bedroom that way when he wakes up we can hear him.
It’s ok to not sleep train. You can keep your baby happy and comfortable at night instead, that will bring baby confidence in your love and a sense of safety that will lead to more confidence and true independence that is based on love, not separation or stress. Check out “breastsleeping” by Dr. McKenna.
I’ve noticed that the temperature in the monitor shows at 77 or 78, I wonder if lowering the temperature a little bit will help him. Also I remember that with my daughter she would go through “twilight sleep” which is when they wake up halfway through their nap, but if you let me cry for a bit they will go right back to sleep and complete their nap. I hope this helps!
Yes! Like mentioned below, that monitor has never been accurate with the temperature. That’s the one thing I don’t like about it. But yea, Jackson will wake up after that twilight sleep but it looks like these days he’s at least putting himself back down after that so that’s progress!!
how beautiful! thanks for all the information. I tried this method today but unfortunately my baby vomited her feed and I had to pick her up to clean up. she was screaming non - stop and did not soothe herself even for a minute. Can you please give me any tips?
My daughter did not sleep through the night until she was 2. I tried everything. She was exclusively breastfed for a year , never took a bottle or pacifier. Would always fall asleep on me and use me as a pacifier to sooth. I was miserable. Not until she was 2 she only started to sleep through the night.. I feel for you.
I’m starting to sleep train my 9 month old, he’s never slept in his crib/cot since birth after suffering with reflux and finding it uncomfortable on his back. I’m so worried the bond with him and trust he has in me will affect him. Did you have any long term effects? If they wet their nappy I change and then start the process again from the start? Thank you for this video ❤
Do you use black out curtains or something to darken the room during the day for his naps? I'm a first time mom and expecting a little one in November. I know they say it's important for them to distinguish between day and night and was wondering if that would be too confusing
We sleep trained my daughter at 4 months old. We started with the Ferber method but ended up using extinction because she would just cry harder and harder after check-ins. Took about 3 nights (and I cried almost the whole time she cried!), but it was so worth it in the end. We did also get her a lovey because she wouldn't take a pacifier either, but she is also a thumb sucker which helped immensely.
Yea Jackson won’t suck his thumb so I’m thinking of introducing a lovey here soon. But I’m glad your little one finally slept! It’s so amazing once they do 🙌🏼💕
This is so helpful. My son is very stubborn as well. Thank you so much. Anyone know how this works if you share a room with your baby? We live in an apartment in NYC and just don’t have the space.
I have a question. Dies it set them back by allowing them to come into your bed in the morning and fall back asleep? Since that’s what he wanted to begin with? Would it be like starting from scratch since he got what he wanted? I’m not asking in a sarcastic way, I really am curious about if it’s ok or if it’s recommended to always put them back in their own bed.
Hi he might need only 2 naps a day? My baby from 7 months was refusing naps so he took only 2 and then from 9 months 1 nap and was much easier when we didn’t push him to sleep 😊
Would you consider a swaddle they have them for babies his size... & what about a projector on the ceiling for him to look at? Be strong Mama you got it you did it once and this time will be easier. &😘
When they are teething or sick or having a hard time, you are not supposed to "manage your expectations " but to comfort them! You are not supposed to start a sleep training at all when they are not doing well
Wow you are doing great...sleep is so important for your baby, and you. My son's pediatrician told me to give him a pacifier and small blanket so he knows it's bed time. Worked GREAT!
Lillian Epperson it’s crazy how they won’t sleep on their own flat lol. Like my baby haatesss that. But he loves to sleep like a little human with a blanket and a pillow. I’m like are you serious lol he likes to be so comfy. He can take hour naps that way. But only naps so I can watch him.. I know they aren’t supposed to sleep like that so I’m in the same room with him doing work. But just the blanket there he likes to mess with it until he falls asleep.
No method in this world can not convice me that this is a better way. Im tired and I get up at nights..its a period and wont last for 20 years for God sake… but I can not leave my child to cry on its own.
Hi. I just saw your video and I would like to follow this one. Quick question. If baby stops crying in the middle of the 10 minute wait, should I restart the timer? Thank you.
In my opinion this is a very harsh method . it might work as the baby will fall asleep eventually due to the exhaustion of crying and then will develop a pattern and fall asleep ,but you must be a very strong mother to do it ( the method being thought by a man who does not have the same connection with the baby that a mother has ) and make sure also that your baby is not chocking himself with the compulsive crying , mine if starts crying because i put him down when almost asleep or even asleep and then wakes up because of the crying, will end up almost stop breathing so i am not going to put him through this. and also i fear he will feel abandoned . But for who decides to do it , best of luck and stay strong .
It actually allows you to monitor your child as they learn to independently focus on their sleep. It may seem harsh but it’s teaching them you are there for them as they learn on their own. A valuable lesson. So many methods out there, hope you find yours!
Don't be embarrassed about the nursery mess.... That's real life, Mama... I've watched so many videos where nurseries looked perfect, but wished they would have showed more of the process to share how real and acceptable it is to just get done what you can as you... It's a wonderful room!
Lord I’m dreading this!!! My baby calls for me in her own little way! When she sees me she smiles! I can’t imagine hearing her call me and not going in! I’m exhausted but I’m her mommy and I just can’t bring myself to leave her all alone to cry. I want to sleep train her when she’s 4 1/2 months old but I don’t think I can! 😭
It means the world to me that you shared this. Doing all the research was giving me analysis paralysis, but watching you just do it gave me the push to just do it too. I was so afraid to sleep train and upset my baby, but it turns out that she was crying WAY MORE when I was intervening than when she started sleep training. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your first-hand experience with sleep training! I’ve read the books and all but it’s so much easier seeing it IRL. Always appreciate how genuine and authentic you are about sharing your life, hard to come by these days on UA-cam.
Hey babe! I just wanted to thank you, like whole heartedly! After watching this video and the following one I started sleep training that night. With in three nights we didn’t have to do any check ins for any sleeps! Thanks to you I knew exactly what to expect and felt like I knew what I was doing for once! This will be night 7 but we haven’t even had to follow the schedule as bub falls asleep with in 5 minutes anyway. You’re a godsend, so grateful. I’ll save this video for all my friends and my future babes! Sending love xx
Here rewatching this while doing this with my 10 month old tonight. I’m late to the game. I tried at 6 months and then gave up. It took 30 minutes but he is currently asleep in his crib. Hoping he stays down cause my nerves are shot!
How did it work for you? My 9 month old needs to be sleep trained too.
@@kristin382 it worked in the sense that he will now go down to bed in his crib. But he doesn’t sleep through the night. He will stay in his crib until 1-2 am. Then I end up just bringing him in bed with me cause I need sleep!!
@@aprilsummers9930 So you keep rewarding the behavior that you want to stop. Why should he ever change? Good luck with that!
@@lessehead luckily I don’t need your validation that I am doing what is right for myself and my son.
@@aprilsummers9930 Happy sleeping!
Was it after Dad's check in that he fell asleep? I'm curious, because, once I passed on sleep duty and checking in to my husband my daughter started falling asleep quicker... Once she saw I wasn't the one responding to her cries she surrendered to sleep...
Crying rn as I’m sleep training and watching this video for support.
Here for the same reason. Putting on a happy and confident face for my 2y and 5m old as we do both at the same time.
Note: earlier in life is WAY easier. For everyone.
Thank you for this video. We just started ST our third child and let me tell you, the anxiety and guilt we parents experience each time we go through this doesn’t get easier!
Despite refreshing my memory with research, watching your video answered so many other questions and gave me the validation that I’m doing what I believe is right and helping my child in the long run. You reminded me that each child is different and it will get worse before it gets better.
I especially appreciated that you walked through the naps as that is something that I didn’t see much info on. You gave me the confidence and validation that I was desperately seeking at 2:30am last night. 😅 so grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks again and wish me luck! 🤞🏼
Per a program I used and worked in 2 nights. feed before and after naps, every 2 hrs all day so they have all their calories by night. Feed before bath time, so their food won’t come up right before bed. Once they’re asleep, dream feed at 10:30 and then 3 am. Feeding them before they wake rather than waiting for them to cry is the trick. Then you wean off night feed but feeding a minute less everyday. *also* notice how your baby likes to sleep, on their belly? Side? Put them down that way*:( good luck mommies! 🙏🏽 they say the second is easiest and I just wonderrr lol
Yes my 2nd son was very stubborn! Separation anxiety was his issue but as soon as I put music on...it was lights out!
On a lighter note from sleep training... can we take a minute to appreciate how super cute Jackson's Star Wars crib sheets are everyone? 😍 They're so cool!
Seriously though, thank you for posting this Kyla. We're in the same situation, so it's reassuring to see your videos and read the comments from other mums 👍
Thank you so much for posting this. It is really helpful to inspire me in sleep training my little one. It feels really scary to take this on, but you're making it feel manageable and it's a really helpful step-by-step guide
Tonight was the first night I let my girl cry it out for 30 min she finally fell asleep. She just wouldn’t stay asleep in her crib when I put her down and I was so frustrated! Shes 6 months and I decided to try Ferber method tomorrow and this was the first video I watched. Thank you for the encouragement!
I’m a first time mom and my babygirl is a horrible sleeper...seriously finding your channel has been the best thing ever!!!!!🥰❣️
Same her girl
Same here my baby boy is 5 month thinking of starting sleep training after his 6 month check up
Amaris Luengas I was in the same boat as you guys! I decided to sleep train and it was the BEST DECISION EVER! She is now sleeping through the night and barely cries when I put her down. I’m still doing it but I highly recommend
Iska just posted a video talking about that! If yours is a newborn I highly suggest you watching it, she got help from a professional and her baby boy started sleeping through the night immediately!
I know how you feel. My daughter was a terrible sleeper! We tried sleep training her many times. At 11 months she finally would give it up and would fall asleep on her own! And now she's a amazing sleeper! So it will get easier! You got this mama 💪
Something that has helped us beat the early morning wake ups is to choose daily wake time and continue Ferber until that time comes. Ours is 7:00 and so if she wakes up before (which she doesn’t anymore) we would continue pop ins until 7:00 and then once it hits 7:00 we go in happy and ready to start the day. Also we do a dream feed at like 10:30 and it helps a lot.
Such a good video! Started the ferber method a week ago and we finally have our evenings and bedroom back. So thankful!! And the baby is much much much more happier and rested!
This method was actually proven to be emotionally damaging to the baby as an adult
@@nazekb3756 no it hasn’t
@@nazekb3756 mmm yeah that’s inaccurate
Mothers and babies are designed to be a mutually responsive dyad. Babies express their needs to the mother (or caregiver) through crying.
Letting babies "cry it out" is a form of need-neglect that leads to many long-term effects.
Consequences of the "cry it out" method include: It releases stress hormones, impairs self-regulation, and undermines trust.
Yes the method will work but at what cost?
Ever heard of GENTLE SLEEP COACHING, same results but without the tears.
How is the naps now a day?
2 years on and still so relevant! My wife and I are just sleep training our 6 month old and this video has been such a comfort for us both, as well as informative!
Idk why anyone would give you hate, your kids cannot sleep in your bed forever. That's not healthy for you, your husband, or the child. My niece slept in her parents' bed until she was six and then they finally tried making her sleep in her own bed. I can't even imagine not having that alone time with my husband for 6 years.
You're doing the right thing for your kids and your family :)
I totally agree my oldest sister had all four kids sleep with her. The youngest was in her bed until he was 13 years old. Ugh I could not go that long.
How can you compare a 6 yo with a 6 mo? A baby needs his mother's warmth at night. It is a western thing to want a baby to sleep in their own room, it is not natural and goes against the baby's instincts.
This video is a gift to all humanity ❤
Thank you, thank you. I just start sleep training my 10 month even though it broke my heart but I definitely need to sleep to survive and to be a better mother.
wonder whos heart broke more. your childs.
Hey how did it go? My baby is 8 months and imma start soon!
@@samanthadawson1490 do you have experience about your baby cry 10000times a night , and you and your baby can Not have a good sleep every night?
Absolutely! You need to take care of yourself to best take care of your baby
To all the moms out there you got this! This is temporary. When babies cry, picking them up will show them you are emotionally available and will always be there for them. Sending love and support!
I legit checked three times this morning for this video, was so excited
This is exactly what I needed to see! We are going through the same thing right now and this was so informative!
Thank you for being so honest and transparent! this is going to be super useful for us. My babi just turn one and she sleeps so bad, she still wakes up every 2-3 hours
I would suggest a sleep sack or wearable blanket! Like Zipadee-Zip. On their website it says that babies like it because they feel comfort when they feel can feel the edges. Idk I guess it imitates the womb but okay for older babies that can roll over. Worth a shot! My almost 4 month old wears the Love to Dream "Swaddle Up" since she didnt like being swaddled with her hands down anymore. She cries when I put her down but once i zip her up (and I do use pacifier) she goes right to sleep. She knows when she's wearing it that its time for sleep! I will transition her soon to the Zipadee-zip when she can roll over. Just a thought! It might help.. Love keeping up with you and your family!
I'm doing sleep training with my 5 and a half month old daughter right now, by you doing this vlog at this specific time is perfect. I'm a first-time mama and this is definitely not the easiest but it is definitely the most rewarding keep being a great Mama Kayla ♥️ thank you again for this video! Continued luck with your sleep training 🙏💤
Thanks for keeping it real about how hard this can be.
Just want to mention that sometimes with full extinction, they stop way faster overall. I tried ferber at first, and she could go for literally hours because she was just reinvigorated every time I went in. When we tried full extinction, 20 minutes flat. Also worth mentioning that my baby would cry while being rocked to sleep as well, so we really weren't getting her to sleep cry free at any point in her life past newborn. But now that she's sleep trained, she only cries when she's overtired and only for a few minutes.
You’re doing a great job!
I work as a nanny for an almost 3 month old. I have done the Ferber method in the past and one thing that definitely helped was not allowing baby to get so frustrated that he isn’t able to settle down. After the first few minutes, I go in and place my hand on their chest and once I see that they are calm, I leave the room. I know it’s hard to hear your baby cry, this will allow them to learn how to self soothe, before you know it.. they’re sleeping without assistance!
Another tip would be to start sleep training during the day - first nap
Use a sleep sack-, zen sleep sack is great!
Would you train them if they are swaddled??
@@cuteloverlol568 you can definitely train them if they are swaddled but I think it’s easier to transition to a sleep sack and train at the same time
I really would use a sleepsack and a breathable cloth. It gives them a lot of comfort.
Omg i cried when you cried. Thank you for the video ❤️ you have a new subscriber now
My baby girl is 7 weeks old. I want to start sleep training so bad but she is still in our room. Thank you for being super honest about parenting. Love your channel.
I hope u didn’t try to sleep train that poor child at 7 weeks omg???
Thank you so much for sharing, I was watching your video while my baby cried for a whole hour until she fell asleep. Your video helped me not give up as I did yesterday when I heard her cry so bad my heart broke and I weakened and gave up. Today my baby and I did it, I got the first 3 and 5 then 4 more 5's and then 10 and 3 more 10's... She passed out after it. Thank youuuuuu
Your video gave me such comfort and confidence! After 3 days of this method, my 8 month old slept 7 hours straight!! I was so scared to try it at first and had so many questions. Your video was so helpful! Thank you so much❤️
THANK YOU so much for making all these update videos/sleep training/ milestone updates. They're so helpful to me who has an almost 3month (on the 21st) and 2 yr old! Thank you for keeping it real about the struggles & tiredness so I dont feel alone & like I'm failing. This is life & it's real. It's hard but we love our babies & try our hardest. Your the best, hope your day goes great!!!
I can’t relate with the night time sleep since my son is a great sleeper at night. But oh my gosh he does not nap. I feel your pain about not being able to get anything done!
Hey Kayla I'm a first time mom and i started watching your videos basically the second I found out I was pregnant. You have provided so much great insight on this whole mom thing and I really appreciate it, you've truly been a blessing. I've since given birth to a beautiful baby boy and you've inspired me to start my own UA-cam journey. Hopefully i can be a blessing for other people the way you have for me.
blessings to you and your child
My daughter does good with sleeping but she hates sleeping on her back all of a sudden. She now is a side and tummy sleeper. She tends to be more comfortable on her stomach and she sleeps longer on her tummy. She just turned 6 months. Good luck momma. You got this! ♥️
Thank you. So much. For making this video. My 5-month-old Jack sounds exactly like Jackson when it comes to sleeping. We're going to try sleep training and your detailed description of the whole process is going to help so much.
This was really helpful and encouraging, since we are starting to sleep train our 5 month old!
Thank you so much for this ❤ you’re amazing
My two are adults, and I truly don’t remember how we got through sleep issues. I think those times were a fog of exhaustion! Take care of yourself, you’re an amazing mama.
Thank you so much Terri! I really appreciate it! Of the fog of exhaustion is real lol we won’t remember any of this in a few years lol
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I am doing the same training with my LG. Second night and .... it's really hard but I hope it's for the best.
Jackson looks so cute staring at the camera after his first nap. You are absolutely right it’s not their fault, it’s a learning process for them.
I used your videos to help with baby #1 getting ready to Ferber baby #2… thank you for the videos
I’m watching this and just start balling my eyes out at 6:30 ….. thank you I hope this helps me tonight I’m loosing my mind, my son just turned 1 and we are on the same page as this. ❤
This is a badass video. Thank you for posting this!
Hahaha when you said he doesn’t get tired of crying and he’s stubborn, you literally described my Benny 😂 I used these exact words talking to my husband about him yesterday.
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When it feels like you will loose your mind if you don’t get a nights sleep THEN you are ready for sleeptraining:) WELL DONE, Kayla👍🏻
Your videos are extremely helpful! I’m a stay at home dad and I’m sleep training our 5 month old. I have a question though… we also use the Huckleberry app for tracking sleep. Our boy wakes up in the middle of the night a few times still. Do I stop the sleep and then start a new one when he falls back asleep or just keep it going? He’s up for about 20 minutes each time. Thanks!
Thank you for your video. I've been thinking about the Ferber method. I will try to do it tomorrow. I'm doing gentle sleep training. It worked well at the beginning. But it has been 2 weeks now. It just not working. And I'm going crazy. And actually, it is jot that gentle. They still do cry.. and they will! Even after 1 month of doing it, she is till cyring. She even was crying while I was rocking her. I was lucky my first baby did well. I didn't need to sleep train her. It was very natural. But this lady.. Ohdear..5 months.. And nothing has changed.
So..Ferber method. I hope it will work.
Thank you for being so open. And sharing your journey.
When your voice broke, I started crying 😭 I am with you girl! When I did this with my daughter it was so hard, but now she's sleeping through the night. Love you and your sweet family ❤️ hope y'all are doing well
I haven’t started sleep training my little guy yet very close to it but I remember seeing another video where she suggested that you have a family member or friend or partner someone you can rely on at anytime during the night cause basically if you’re really struggling sleep training you ring up the person and they can help you through it or even come over or stay with you while you do it as it is incredibly hard by yourself so having someone you can talk to can help a huge amount
Ok but on a side note even Jacksons cry is adorable !! This baby melts me 💞
Watching as I do some sleep training as well. Love every single video of yours Kayla 💕 whether they are 10 minutes long or almost an hour long, I’m watching it all 🤣
You’re a great mom girl!! Everyone needs that separation from their children at night! My daughter is six and a half months old and we started sleep training her after watching your videos about sleep training Riley 😁 good luck with Jackson and I’m looking forward to more of your videos!! ♥️
🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️girl you had me crying. I’m so tired
My daughter would cry until she throws up and that even when I nurse her to sleep and she sleeps in bed with me. That's why I haven't been able to do any sleep training.
Thank you so much for sharing this!
Looking to try the Ferber method soon because I'm in the same boat! He always comes into our bed at some point in the night because he won't sleep for long on his own in the bassinet. He will wake up screaming bloody murder sometimes so I don't know how it's going to go.... 😬 Not sure if he's started teething so that doesn't help but we ALL need sleep! This is very encouraging.
I just started this with my son tonight! He’s almost 10 months old and hasn’t went to sleep on his own at all or slept all night. However, he cried and I went in at 3 minutes, cried and I went back in at 5 minutes.....I DIDN’T HAVE TO GO IN ANYMORE AFTER THAT! He went to sleep on his own before the 10 minutes. We’ll see how it goes throughout the night!
I just tried to do this but my husband said no more after 3 mins..😩 my son is 11 months 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@@chas745 ahh you gotta give it time tell him lol
Have you thought about getting him a slumberkin? I have been following your journey since our boys are 2 months apart. We had similiar sleep issues at first. Mine did amazing in his dock a tot and his slumberkin.
The dock atot is amazing but god help you when you take it away, my LO wouldn’t sleep without it
I would add a mobile or something on his crib so he had something to concentrate on other then your absence. I would also look into the wub inub (spelling), even though he may not have liked a pacifier in the past. It gives weight and something for his hands to hold as well. Just thinking out loud
Girl your hair looks so good in a bun! You pull off the 'no sleep' look astonishingly well! Gorgeous
Hahaha thank you! You made my day ❤️
Our girl didn't take a pacifier for her first 5 months, we tried again with sleep training and it's been a lifesaver especially when eliminating comfort nursing.
My girl is a HUGE comfort nurser. She refuses a pacifier it makes her mad 😭 shes 2 months
Also all the momma's are doing a great job, every babe is different and parents are too! Keep it up, you got this.
@@alexislankford3422 be happy. That’s called a healthy baby and a healthy attachment.
Hi Kayla plz answer as soon as u can. Is that a jumperoo jackson is in or an activity center. Plz list the one u have. I want to see if I need both ( the skip hop activity center & fisher price jumperoo).thanks alot ur amazing. When u delivered b4 me I thought I wld be left behind but ur taking me right along with u & helping me. 💕💕💕Am a first time mom😂😂
❤❤ good job!
Sleep training for the first time (day 2) with my 5-month old. I cant stop crying...it feels like he is gettng worse and worse...he's only had one 30-min nap today. I just feel like im torturing him but I dont wanna mess up the process. Ugh....event he "gentle" sleep training approaches make your baby cry.
This is me at them moment. Pack n play, CO sleep, 30 min naps , up all night for feedings. I tried but I start bawling as aoon as he gets into second gear cries.
Desperately sleep deprived with my 4 month old. Thank you
Thank you for your vid I'm just researching about the furber method just done the first night with our 6 month old boy, not gonna lie it's super hard to hear your little one crying so much, but good to know it's not just us going through the hardship
I’m crying thinking of having to hear my bby cry when I do this🥺
You don't have to do it, there are other methods or you can continue co-sleeping, what ever makes you and baby happy
You ABSOLUTELY DO NOT have to sleep train. I personally would never and I do not! My baby and I cosleep 🤍
On our first born we bought a bigger crib and decorated his room and everything but on our second baby we have a smaller crib inside our bedroom that way when he wakes up we can hear him.
It’s ok to not sleep train. You can keep your baby happy and comfortable at night instead, that will bring baby confidence in your love and a sense of safety that will lead to more confidence and true independence that is based on love, not separation or stress. Check out “breastsleeping” by Dr. McKenna.
It’s hard mama but I promise it is worth it! It only takes a week if you do it right
I did the same for my son he cried for 1 hour and 15 minutes he almost died I rushed to him and he fell asleep straight away when I picked him up.
I need to start doing some sleep training for my 7 1/2 month old. Not looking forward to it!! Do you follow this method for naps as well?
I’ve noticed that the temperature in the monitor shows at 77 or 78, I wonder if lowering the temperature a little bit will help him. Also I remember that with my daughter she would go through “twilight sleep” which is when they wake up halfway through their nap, but if you let me cry for a bit they will go right back to sleep and complete their nap. I hope this helps!
she said in a video before, that the temperature on the monitor is not correct
Yes! Like mentioned below, that monitor has never been accurate with the temperature. That’s the one thing I don’t like about it. But yea, Jackson will wake up after that twilight sleep but it looks like these days he’s at least putting himself back down after that so that’s progress!!
how beautiful! thanks for all the information. I tried this method today but unfortunately my baby vomited her feed and I had to pick her up to clean up. she was screaming non - stop and did not soothe herself even for a minute. Can you please give me any tips?
Did you pump in the night to keep the supply normal?
My daughter did not sleep through the night until she was 2. I tried everything. She was exclusively breastfed for a year , never took a bottle or pacifier. Would always fall asleep on me and use me as a pacifier to sooth. I was miserable. Not until she was 2 she only started to sleep through the night..
I feel for you.
My LO doesn’t cry while in the room, she screammmmmmmmmmmmms like world will be ending soon
I’m starting to sleep train my 9 month old, he’s never slept in his crib/cot since birth after suffering with reflux and finding it uncomfortable on his back. I’m so worried the bond with him and trust he has in me will affect him. Did you have any long term effects? If they wet their nappy I change and then start the process again from the start? Thank you for this video ❤
Do you use black out curtains or something to darken the room during the day for his naps? I'm a first time mom and expecting a little one in November. I know they say it's important for them to distinguish between day and night and was wondering if that would be too confusing
Yes! We have Velcro blackout shades in his room so that it’s super dark in there even for naps. I find that’s always helped him sleep a little better.
We sleep trained my daughter at 4 months old. We started with the Ferber method but ended up using extinction because she would just cry harder and harder after check-ins. Took about 3 nights (and I cried almost the whole time she cried!), but it was so worth it in the end.
We did also get her a lovey because she wouldn't take a pacifier either, but she is also a thumb sucker which helped immensely.
Yea Jackson won’t suck his thumb so I’m thinking of introducing a lovey here soon. But I’m glad your little one finally slept! It’s so amazing once they do 🙌🏼💕
This was super helpful! My son is almost 3 months old and even though he naps on his own, he sleeps with us overnight.
This helped me SO much! Thank you 🙏
Having cherish cry herself to sleep is the most painfullest thing I've ever had to do. I'm crying my eyes out as I watch this
This is so helpful. My son is very stubborn as well. Thank you so much. Anyone know how this works if you share a room with your baby? We live in an apartment in NYC and just don’t have the space.
My question too..
how much time do you spend checking in on your baby? Do you stay about a minute then leave?
I have a question. Dies it set them back by allowing them to come into your bed in the morning and fall back asleep? Since that’s what he wanted to begin with? Would it be like starting from scratch since he got what he wanted? I’m not asking in a sarcastic way, I really am curious about if it’s ok or if it’s recommended to always put them back in their own bed.
This was so helpful!
Hi he might need only 2 naps a day? My baby from 7 months was refusing naps so he took only 2 and then from 9 months 1 nap and was much easier when we didn’t push him to sleep 😊
Would you consider a swaddle they have them for babies his size... & what about a projector on the ceiling for him to look at? Be strong Mama you got it you did it once and this time will be easier. &😘
Thank you for being so real and open. I love it.
When they are teething or sick or having a hard time, you are not supposed to "manage your expectations " but to comfort them! You are not supposed to start a sleep training at all when they are not doing well
Wow you are doing great...sleep is so important for your baby, and you. My son's pediatrician told me to give him a pacifier and small blanket so he knows it's bed time. Worked GREAT!
Lillian Epperson it’s crazy how they won’t sleep on their own flat lol. Like my baby haatesss that. But he loves to sleep like a little human with a blanket and a pillow. I’m like are you serious lol he likes to be so comfy. He can take hour naps that way. But only naps so I can watch him.. I know they aren’t supposed to sleep like that so I’m in the same room with him doing work. But just the blanket there he likes to mess with it until he falls asleep.
😁exactly!!!
No method in this world can not convice me that this is a better way. Im tired and I get up at nights..its a period and wont last for 20 years for God sake… but I can not leave my child to cry on its own.
Hi. I just saw your video and I would like to follow this one. Quick question. If baby stops crying in the middle of the 10 minute wait, should I restart the timer? Thank you.
Yep
In my opinion this is a very harsh method . it might work as the baby will fall asleep eventually due to the exhaustion of crying and then will develop a pattern and fall asleep ,but you must be a very strong mother to do it ( the method being thought by a man who does not have the same connection with the baby that a mother has ) and make sure also that your baby is not chocking himself with the compulsive crying , mine if starts crying because i put him down when almost asleep or even asleep and then wakes up because of the crying, will end up almost stop breathing so i am not going to put him through this. and also i fear he will feel abandoned . But for who decides to do it , best of luck and stay strong .
It actually allows you to monitor your child as they learn to independently focus on their sleep. It may seem harsh but it’s teaching them you are there for them as they learn on their own. A valuable lesson. So many methods out there, hope you find yours!
Do you do this for naps as well or just night sleep?
Don't be embarrassed about the nursery mess.... That's real life, Mama... I've watched so many videos where nurseries looked perfect, but wished they would have showed more of the process to share how real and acceptable it is to just get done what you can as you... It's a wonderful room!
Thank You for this video !!!!!
Lord I’m dreading this!!! My baby calls for me in her own little way! When she sees me she smiles! I can’t imagine hearing her call me and not going in! I’m exhausted but I’m her mommy and I just can’t bring myself to leave her all alone to cry. I want to sleep train her when she’s 4 1/2 months old but I don’t think I can! 😭