Did this with both my kids. My daughter was a hard nut to crack but by 12-15 months she was sleeping 10 hours just fine. Now she's 3 y 8 m and is still a great sleeper. My son is now 8 months and I went from co sleeping and waking every 2-4 hours for feeding to sleeping alone in his crib for 11 hours in just 2 days with this method. The first night was painfully horrible. The second night he seems to understand a little better. The third night it was as if he discovered how wonderfully glorious a good, long peaceful sleep is. I set him in his crib, he makes himself comfortable and goes to sleep. I am so relieved. I wake up the next morning ready to be the best parent I can be. 10000% needed. Naysayers just don't know better 💯
@@freyareikigoddess if you’re a mom, I can imagine you’d have more experience than me so I can’t agree (sorry, assuming you identify as female because of your username)
Did this method with my son two years ago. Was sleep trained in two days. Starting tonight with my 6 month old. She’s been waking up every two hours to comfort feed so I’m EXHAUSTED. Wish me luck! Thank you guys for your video
Hey!! Just wanted to ask if you have any updates with your little one? My baby boy is currently six months as well and I’m starting Ferber tonight. Curious to know how it went with you
This is going to work for some people, and not for others. Then, for all those it works for they are going to tell everyone "Woohoo, do sleep training" but actually, babies are not robots, and this method just won't work for all. A good teacher presents all/both sides of a subject.
I just tried the "no cry" method and it made my baby worse. It was to stay in the room with her, but to her it was like 'why are you here but not interacting with me'. so I switched the method I was using mid way during a sleep session and did this and my baby went down after the third check in. And she wasn't crying as hard either. Each baby is different and I can already tell my baby likes this one more.
Omg the no cry method kinda sucks, at least for my baby. I'm going to try this method and hope for the best. But I have a question, what if after the 3rd check in, or even a 4th or 5th, the baby is still crying heavily?...I'm worried that I might give in after a while. Like how how many check ins should do?...😢 I'm running on little to no sleep here..
Watching this in the middle of the night with my baby crying for 30 min now, thank you for giving me the strength to keep going. You answered all the guilt questions I had!!
@@patrizia8958 how do you let your baby cry for thirty minutes? Babies just stops crying to save their energy for survival, not because they learn to sleep. ALL these sleep training is not for babies better sleep but for selfish parents tbh
Listened to so many videos but this is the only one ( to second Mandi P’s comment) which gave my wife and myself confidence to follow Ferber method...usually most videos asks to buy their guide or etc etc ...it seems like these souls just wanna help the struggling parents 🙌 May God bless you
I’m honestly so so shocked. I already notice a huge difference in my 1 year old son. Let me just say a few things before anyone thinks I’m jumping the fence here lol: My son is FULLY breastfed. All throughout the day and all throughout the night. He wakes up about 4-6 times a night to breastfeed and throughout the day he is always following me around and BEGGING at my knees for a feed about every 1-2 hours. My milk production has kept up with his needs of breast milk. This method however has calmed him down about bedtime. After 2 times of doing the 10 minute intervals he’s quieted down quite a bit and has gone to sleep on his very own for the first time. Im IN LOVE with this method. Thanks so much for this helpful video!!!
Great, did he still get up to feed at night or sleep through the night by himself? My daughter doing same as him, always breastfeeding every 2 hours even at 7 months.
agreed! I’m starting this literally right now, I’m on my first 5 minute stretch, it worked for both my older girls so here is hoping it works again for this little man ❤️ this video was great in explaining and getting right to the points! Love it
Can I just say, THANK YOU, I feel like everywhere I’ve tried to look for advice on how to sleep train they always give a good explanation of what self soothing is but never HOW to teach it!
Thank you so much for keeping it simple yet explaining everything so well. Every other video has just left me with more questions but after listening to this I’m feeling confident and ready to help my baby when he’s old enough. Again THANK YOU!!
this is not a tip, please, Inform yourself with a mental health professional about the consequences of this. The baby does not calm down because it understands that you need to sleep, it calms down because it learns to be ignored. this has very serious consequences
Are you a pediatrocian or sleep expert? What are the consequences? Kids need to learn how to soothe indepndebtly. How else are they going to fall asleep on their own.
@@canelitxoh please?? Consequences?! Did you do your research? I did this with my first daughter who learned how to self soothe over night. After sleep training I slept in the room with her and she slept all night. She even understood what night night meant at 7 months. She just turned 11 years old, has skipped a grade and is a happy and healthy child. The things yall make up due to fear lol smh
All I know is that my husband and I have barely slept in months and the consequences of that is our health going down hill, health which we need to look after children, and also our tempers/irritability levels have went up causing us both to become very snappy and impatient with our 3 year old who is at an age where he struggles to regulate emotions. Right now, psychologically, he is much more likely to be impacted by our sleep deprived personalities over a prolonged time than our 6 month old is by having to do a bit of crying for a few nights. So I think we really will have to try this...although we are in the same room as the baby still so not sure how we'll to make it work.
I’m seriously starting to get depressed bec I feel like I can’t do anything right.. and I’ll do anything to not hear baby cry! Thank you for this video. Will rewatch and start tia ASAP. Baby will be five months Monday
@Laritas World you let him cio? I'm so scared to do that he looks like he's in pain crying for so long it breaks my heart. what did u do to make yourself okay? like can u explain the routine u did for it or to put him down and when u came back . im so scared to do it im crying already
@@rcg224 I first started with checking in 2,5,10,15,20 mins. When I noticed that was not working. I stopped checking in so often and timed 15 minutes from initial time of putting in crib. If he was still crying after 15 mins I’d take him out and reset. Start over check diaper, feed/nurse, cuddles, read a book or let him do some tummy time. When I saw signs of him being sleepy again we’d try again. It’s not easy at all and it breaks my heart still hearing him cry but it helps your mental health tremendously!
My wife and I have just had our first night of proper sleep in months. This method works! It took us 4 days. Our 8 month son used to wake 6 or 7 times a night and could only be soothed back to sleep with a contact nap or by breast feeding. Last night he woke up once to feed but otherwise slept from 7:40pm to 6am. The first couple of nights were brutal, but it’s worth it!
I know this is kind of off topic, but this really sheds light on why long periods of parent leave can improve health outcomes. As a teacher, I get 4 weeks of paid maternity leave. So hard to go back to work when the baby is so little!
Hi there. Thank you for this video. A few quick questions: 1. If the baby is crying because of gripe or gas, do we pick the baby up or not to relieve them? 2. When we go in for the 2 or so minutes to let the baby know we are around, do we stay until the baby has calmed down or do we only stay for a couple of minutes and leave whether the baby has calmed down or not?
Thank you. Subscribed to your channel as the video was to the point. No unnecessary talking, no beating around the bush or asking to join a sleep training course etc etc
Hiscock led one of the few long-term studies on the topic. It's a randomized controlled trial - the gold standard in medical science - with more than 200 families. Blogs and parenting books often cite the study as "proof" that the cry-it-out method doesn't harm children. But if you look closely, you quickly see that the study doesn't actually test "cry it out." Instead, it tests two other gentler methods, including the camping out method.
Starting Ferber tonight at 8 months, I tried to start a month or so ago but couldn’t take the crying. Fingers crossed. I wished I started earlier because now he’s sitting up
The only thing I don't agree with is not breastfeeding in the middle of the night. Formula is heavier and doesn't need a middle of the night feed but breastfeeding needs an extra feed. Once they are eating three meals a day and snacks it is less crucial but still encouraged by breastfeeding specialists
I think you misspoke at 6:57. From what I have read about Ferber, you do not restart the 3, 5, 10 time sequence throughout the night. It is 3,5,10 and then 10 onward for the rest of the night. Right?? Otherwise this is a great video and I was going to show it to my grandparents to get them on board but I think that error would throw them off.
I worked in a day care using this method in a very distorted way. Putting babies to sleep for times during the day when they were not tired and not in consistency with the parents methods and leaving the babies crying for hours without checking. I do not like or believe in this method. I understand and do not judge the family who needs and want to use it. But it needs to be done the right way
My husband and I we’re desperate so we started this method 3 weeks ago with our 8 month old baby The first 2 nights were very hard, but the third night she cried just a little bit. Since the fourth night she is been waking up once. She doesn’t sleep the 10-12 hours in a row but at least she is not waking up every 2 hours as she used to do. Every night since we started the training I put her in the crib and she doesn’t cry and in about 10-15 min she finally falls a sleep. My husband and I were skeptical about this method but in our experience it worked out.
This works! I needed to be emotionally ready for baby to cry but baby slept after three rounds on the first night and has slept after one round since then. It seems barbaric lol but it really isn’t. Take a long weekend and get the process started. I wish I started a month earlier. I did it at 5 and a half months.
But as a caveat- you can tell when your baby is in distress. The cry is a little different. I picked up baby and all he needed was a burp and he went down to sleep in a few minutes
How’s it going now? How’s your baby sleeping now? Mine is 5 and half now, and we’re on day 4. It has been working amazingly for us! Although by day 4 feels a little like torture (for us) to let her cry starting at 12 minutes. Although her crying doesn’t sound deep and emotional as the first night.
Thank you for this informative video. I'm an epileptic with a four month old and the sleep deprivation has really messed with my seizure control. Our first two babies were great sleepers. This little man is ensuring he will always be the baby in the family, lol! Anyways, this video has given me more confidence starting this method. Wish me luck and thanks again!! :)
Hi! I’m so grateful for this video 🙏🏼 so confident about start sleep train. My baby is 5th… right in time. I’m resident doctor of internal medicine and my maternity leave is ending 💔 I just did the first night. We did it! Wish me luck 🙏🏼❤️thank you!
Ok we understand the concept of sleep training but is there a point where the crying becomes so hysterical where you have to stop and intervene? We tried this method but after the first soothing our baby started getting even more hysterical after we left her again.
I give you permission to love your baby. Pick up and hold your baby. It’s instinctual and natural. Love them, sing to them, comfort them, be with them.♥️
We are room sharing and put up a curtain to divide our bedroom! Our little man now has his own space! We ordered it from amazon- large curtains that are mounted onto the ceiling! Worked so far. This is night two of sleep training and last night I had to sleep in our living room- I know it’s going to be short lived, and then I’ll go back in bedroom once he’s gotten a hang of his routine
One thing they don't specifically address, only hint at,but i think it's key .... And what the touchy feely types don't get, is the newborn infant is in survival mode. Cries are their only means of communication. Between 4-6 months, babies start to recognize that "if i cry, they come." That's why this method is actually critical. And why the process works. It's the right balance of reassurance and "you're okay".
Always change a dialer if it needs changing. No sleeping through the night worths diaoer rash that could really make a baby uncomfortable an uncooperative further on anyways.
You stated to keep checking in until the baby’s falls asleep.. well what happens if the baby doesn’t fall asleep? Do you let the baby cry all night long and keep checking in until sunrise? At what point do the subsequent check ins should stop and know that the Ferber method is not working? I tried the Ferber method for 3 consecutive nights and my baby cried for 3.5+ hours until I gave in because apparently we’re supposed to “stop the check ins when the baby falls asleep”.
Hello friends. Can you write down short sleep training method here. Because I am from Uzbekistan and could not understand fully the language they are speaking. Please 🙏 please 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for the video. I'll have to start sleep training soon... I don't want to but my husband worries that I am not sleeping, and yes, he is getting all kinds of advice from his friends that I don't agree with. Maybe I'll give this method a try.
I have an 8 month old who sleeps through the night, but our night time routine to get to sleep isn't working anymore. It's taking up to 2 hours to get him to sleep. We have been feeding him to get to sleep and letting him fall asleep in our arms and then transitioning him to the crib. I know we need to move away from feeding to sleep, I'm just nervous about him crying 😭
Thank you for the video. This is great! What is your recommendation for diaper change? Because sometimes their diaper is full and it has to be changed.
Hi! My baby is 5.5 months and for the last 2 nights Ive trying ferber but I chicken out after a couple of checks in as I can't cope with the crying... However I know I need to do it as my baby is waking minimum 5 times every night And I feed him to sleep every time😴😴
How long to you continue the process of leaving and coming back before you pick the baby up and try again later? One hour, two hours or until they just finally fall asleep?
So my son cries hysterically, turns red, starts coughing. That sort of crying. It’s not “a little bit of crying”. He’s 6 months and stands supported. He’s fed, clean, healthy....do I STILL just let him cry? I’m really concerned.
Never let the baby cry if he wants to soothe in your lap, hold him and put him to sleep as he wants. Eventually babies get better with sleep training. You just keep trying sleep training. With some babies it takes time.
It took my first kid 1 day to sleep train. My second baby...after 2 weeks I gave up tried again a month later with the same results. He eventually figured it out on his own when he was about 18 months old. 3rd baby didn't need sleep training, she just started sleeping through the night. Now my 4th is the worst. I am doing this check in thing for over 3 hours. We are still in the first week but it's awful.
Thankyou for this amazing video! A few questions ! We live in a small apartment and his crib is in our room. How would this method work? His bed time is at 8 pm. So for the first few hours we can leave the room as the video says to. But When we are already asleep in our bed, how would this work? ALSO, do we do the same for naps?
It kills me to imagine not feeding my baby throughout the night. He’s a chunky boy at 4.5 months so he’s not wasting away, but man I’m almost in tears just imagining it! Also not that you answer anyone’s amazing questions, but maybe someone will see my comment who has an idea.. my boy started teething at 3 months, he’s 4 months 3 weeks, & a week ago popped his 2nd tooth. He’s still going through a bit of the pain atm but slowly getting better as it makes its way through. Would I wait to start this method until they’re both fully through. First one is almost finished, maybe another week, and 2nd one would still have 3-4wks maybeee to fully come through. Thanks anyone who sees this 😂❤
Help!! My 5 month old wakes every 30min to an hour ALL night! I’m trying Ferber but my baby usually falls back asleep on his own after less than 5min of crying each time, but how do I get him to stop waking up every 30min. I only go in twice to feed him and the rest of the night I let him self sooth but it’s still constant wakings! What do I do?!
Once the child is sleep trained with the Ferber method, will it hamper if a child's routine gets disturbed due to some unavoidable situations like travel or getting sick etc?
Great video, 2 questions for you guys: If the baby stands up and is well past that 6 month window how do you adjust the method? Also, if the baby is going through a period of intense separation anxiety and more intense crying when away from parents, is this method still advisable, or should the separation anxiety be sorted first?
What do you do if after the set amount of time in the room, they're still crying? Or say you put them back down and they immediately cry...do you still leave and wait 5 mins or however many mins is next?
@@Reemtosa I didn't sleep train. I tried but I couldn't go through him crying and he was out of breath and choking and I just couldn't do it. Also I am still breastfeeding so it was even harder on me. He is 1now. He is sleeping much better. He still wakes up but only for a hug and goes back down so it all improved. We sleep much better.
@@saraadam656 my first daughter was a nightmare b3cause of her sleep schedule. .. the second daughter is now 5 months old and i am trying to figure out how to help her (AND ME😂) sleep through the night. I cant get the hands on this because we have the same bedroom. I want to try it out but i have the same issue, plus, she still needs to be breastfed at night because she has a great appetite and no meal makes her really full. So, thank you for pointing out the obvious, letting the baby cry till choking isn.t a great idea and the bonding we build since birth wont let us let them do that. It.s instinct and it.s healthy. We all are different
Thank you for the information! We are looking into sleep training for our second baby. He generally sleeps pretty well at night but often wakes up and needs us to give him his pacifier in order for him to put himself back to sleep. Is that going to hinder the self soothe process? Also, how would we implement sleep training for naps? He only naps on us or in his swing (which I know is unsafe and I hate doing it!) so we really need to get him to nap in his crib! Any tips?
My baby started self soothing at about 6 weeks and that's when I started to train her and she falls asleep by herself without crying. But, of course, each baby is different.
@@sandraschindlerova573 Leave the baby's hands free and available for him to explore and put them in his mouth to self soothe. At 8 weeks your baby should know he has hands and start to explore with them. It's important that they can access to their hands. My baby is now 9 weeks. She has a hard time sleeping at late hours at night but i learned it's normal. She's very easy! She barely cries. She falls asleep in my arms and I put her in her crib. Not really "training". I think training should be done after 3 months. Hope this helps.
@@sandraschindlerova573 for future reference babies should not and cannot be sleep trained in any way before 12 weeks, the drowsy but awake should begin. Young babies cannot self soothe
My son did so at 6 weeks until I started giving him the pacifier he is now 9 weeks an I am over the pacifier because he won't sleep without it but I tried last night he kept his hands closer to his mouth an slept well until 10am I just feed an put him back to sleep. The pacifier once he is in deep sleep I remove, but I hate it now still trying to let him self soothe like before 7 weeks when we go back home where he has his crib he will fall back into his routine.
When do you transition the baby into their own room? Does keeping them in your room (in their cot) make it harder for them to sleep and resettle by themselves ?
This depresses me just to hear about it. There are other much better ways to help your baby sleep through the night than letting them cry. Please listen to Erica Komisar.
My daughter is 9.5 months and we had to start this method because it was no longer feasible to have irregular sleep. We are on the 8th night, and it is working. Our daughter is very persistent though...so right now it seems to be the "extinction burst" which basically is a huge tantrum before it actually settles down. But our night are much better. Will they cry? YES. Will it hurt your feelings? YES. Is it still worth it? YES. :)
@dolphynlvr4 thank you, i was thinking the same as my daughter (5 months old) is teething and not really having a good night's sleep. I.ll just wait a little longer and this method is the first i am going to try.
Hi, thank you for the great and simple guide. I have two questions though. Is it okey to put the baby down with pacifier? And my baby is four months and I swaddle him at night. Is it ok?
My baby beat the system… she cried for 2 straight hours until the point she started literally choking. I had to pick her up. It was like that for 3 straight nights. We tried everything we can’t get her to fall asleep on her own
Thank you for this nice video. What's the order of moving baby to his room and sleep training him? Should I move my baby to his own room while sleep training or do one first and then start the other?
With our first baby, we kept her in our room while sleep training, then moved her to her own room. Now with baby no.2 , we started sleep training the same night we moved him to his own room. He took a bit longer to adjust to the training in comparison but still within the normal timeliness given. In hindsight, I would either do what we did with our first or move the baby to their own room first, let them adjust to that then start the training.
What do you do when baby tolls on their tummy and cannot roll back ? Do you go in and place them back? My baby does this a lot and I don’t know how it will affect the sleep training. Also - baby doesn’t eat enough during the day ( maybe 14 oz-17 oz)so he needs 2-3 night feeds or he ll wake up every 1 h . What do you recommend?
Did this with both my kids. My daughter was a hard nut to crack but by 12-15 months she was sleeping 10 hours just fine. Now she's 3 y 8 m and is still a great sleeper. My son is now 8 months and I went from co sleeping and waking every 2-4 hours for feeding to sleeping alone in his crib for 11 hours in just 2 days with this method. The first night was painfully horrible. The second night he seems to understand a little better. The third night it was as if he discovered how wonderfully glorious a good, long peaceful sleep is. I set him in his crib, he makes himself comfortable and goes to sleep. I am so relieved. I wake up the next morning ready to be the best parent I can be. 10000% needed. Naysayers just don't know better 💯
Ok this is great for night sleep
Can you tell me about naps? How it works?
“Babies at a certain point won’t need to eat in the middle of the night”
Me eating my midnight snack
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@@wanjiru.j lol
This is complete bs, babies wake up to be fed and at 4 months they need to eat!
@@freyareikigoddess if you’re a mom, I can imagine you’d have more experience than me so I can’t agree (sorry, assuming you identify as female because of your username)
Did this method with my son two years ago. Was sleep trained in two days. Starting tonight with my 6 month old. She’s been waking up every two hours to comfort feed so I’m EXHAUSTED. Wish me luck! Thank you guys for your video
Hey!! Just wanted to ask if you have any updates with your little one? My baby boy is currently six months as well and I’m starting Ferber tonight. Curious to know how it went with you
@@Eugeniacastro94 How did it go for you? My baby is also 6 mos and we are trying this tonight. Thank you!
Curious how it went for you? :)
This is going to work for some people, and not for others. Then, for all those it works for they are going to tell everyone "Woohoo, do sleep training" but actually, babies are not robots, and this method just won't work for all. A good teacher presents all/both sides of a subject.
I just tried the "no cry" method and it made my baby worse. It was to stay in the room with her, but to her it was like 'why are you here but not interacting with me'. so I switched the method I was using mid way during a sleep session and did this and my baby went down after the third check in. And she wasn't crying as hard either. Each baby is different and I can already tell my baby likes this one more.
Omg the no cry method kinda sucks, at least for my baby. I'm going to try this method and hope for the best. But I have a question, what if after the 3rd check in, or even a 4th or 5th, the baby is still crying heavily?...I'm worried that I might give in after a while. Like how how many check ins should do?...😢 I'm running on little to no sleep here..
@@annabeths8572 hey, how did you do it at the end?🙏🏽
@@annabeths8572how did it go for you?
Watching this in the middle of the night with my baby crying for 30 min now, thank you for giving me the strength to keep going. You answered all the guilt questions I had!!
30 minutes your baby crying???? You people are crazy. They don't learn how to sleep. They learn how to be ignored by their parents and how to give up
@@patrizia8958 how do you let your baby cry for thirty minutes? Babies just stops crying to save their energy for survival, not because they learn to sleep. ALL these sleep training is not for babies better sleep but for selfish parents tbh
That’s a little too long haha I’m guessing your baby has learned to sleep alone by now.
@@TheGreenbutsad AMEN!!!
@@tenrc26 she means in intervals you idiots
Listened to so many videos but this is the only one ( to second Mandi P’s comment) which gave my wife and myself confidence to follow Ferber method...usually most videos asks to buy their guide or etc etc ...it seems like these souls just wanna help the struggling parents 🙌 May God bless you
my wife loved this video. thanks for helping. i'm going back to bed.
Roderick Ripamonti Love.... I’m putting our marriage on the Ferber Method!
I’m honestly so so shocked. I already notice a huge difference in my 1 year old son. Let me just say a few things before anyone thinks I’m jumping the fence here lol:
My son is FULLY breastfed. All throughout the day and all throughout the night. He wakes up about 4-6 times a night to breastfeed and throughout the day he is always following me around and BEGGING at my knees for a feed about every 1-2 hours. My milk production has kept up with his needs of breast milk.
This method however has calmed him down about bedtime. After 2 times of doing the 10 minute intervals he’s quieted down quite a bit and has gone to sleep on his very own for the first time. Im IN LOVE with this method. Thanks so much for this helpful video!!!
Great, did he still get up to feed at night or sleep through the night by himself? My daughter doing same as him, always breastfeeding every 2 hours even at 7 months.
This is the one and only video that has made me feel confident and comfortable with sleep training when the time comes. Thank you!
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agreed! I’m starting this literally right now, I’m on my first 5 minute stretch, it worked for both my older girls so here is hoping it works again for this little man ❤️ this video was great in explaining and getting right to the points! Love it
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Thank you for reminding me not to compare my child to someone else’s.
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Can I just say, THANK YOU, I feel like everywhere I’ve tried to look for advice on how to sleep train they always give a good explanation of what self soothing is but never HOW to teach it!
Thank you so much for keeping it simple yet explaining everything so well. Every other video has just left me with more questions but after listening to this I’m feeling confident and ready to help my baby when he’s old enough. Again THANK YOU!!
Lack of sleep was the hardest part about parenting an infant!! Thanks for the tips!
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this is not a tip, please, Inform yourself with a mental health professional about the consequences of this. The baby does not calm down because it understands that you need to sleep, it calms down because it learns to be ignored. this has very serious consequences
Are you a pediatrocian or sleep expert? What are the consequences? Kids need to learn how to soothe indepndebtly. How else are they going to fall asleep on their own.
@@canelitxoh please?? Consequences?! Did you do your research? I did this with my first daughter who learned how to self soothe over night. After sleep training I slept in the room with her and she slept all night. She even understood what night night meant at 7 months. She just turned 11 years old, has skipped a grade and is a happy and healthy child. The things yall make up due to fear lol smh
All I know is that my husband and I have barely slept in months and the consequences of that is our health going down hill, health which we need to look after children, and also our tempers/irritability levels have went up causing us both to become very snappy and impatient with our 3 year old who is at an age where he struggles to regulate emotions. Right now, psychologically, he is much more likely to be impacted by our sleep deprived personalities over a prolonged time than our 6 month old is by having to do a bit of crying for a few nights. So I think we really will have to try this...although we are in the same room as the baby still so not sure how we'll to make it work.
I’m seriously starting to get depressed bec I feel like I can’t do anything right.. and I’ll do anything to not hear baby cry! Thank you for this video. Will rewatch and start tia ASAP. Baby will be five months Monday
Can I ask how did it go?
Thank you so much for asking! I had to let him cio and it helped. This past week he’s started to want to wake up multiple times again
Ok, great to know! We tried this last night and gave in. Plan to try again this weekend lol
@Laritas World you let him cio? I'm so scared to do that he looks like he's in pain crying for so long it breaks my heart. what did u do to make yourself okay? like can u explain the routine u did for it or to put him down and when u came back . im so scared to do it im crying already
@@rcg224 I first started with checking in 2,5,10,15,20 mins. When I noticed that was not working. I stopped checking in so often and timed 15 minutes from initial time of putting in crib. If he was still crying after 15 mins I’d take him out and reset. Start over check diaper, feed/nurse, cuddles, read a book or let him do some tummy time. When I saw signs of him being sleepy again we’d try again. It’s not easy at all and it breaks my heart still hearing him cry but it helps your mental health tremendously!
My wife and I have just had our first night of proper sleep in months. This method works! It took us 4 days. Our 8 month son used to wake 6 or 7 times a night and could only be soothed back to sleep with a contact nap or by breast feeding. Last night he woke up once to feed but otherwise slept from 7:40pm to 6am. The first couple of nights were brutal, but it’s worth it!
I know this is kind of off topic, but this really sheds light on why long periods of parent leave can improve health outcomes. As a teacher, I get 4 weeks of paid maternity leave. So hard to go back to work when the baby is so little!
In Canada we get 1 year - more countries should be doing this.
Hi there. Thank you for this video. A few quick questions: 1. If the baby is crying because of gripe or gas, do we pick the baby up or not to relieve them? 2. When we go in for the 2 or so minutes to let the baby know we are around, do we stay until the baby has calmed down or do we only stay for a couple of minutes and leave whether the baby has calmed down or not?
Thank you. Subscribed to your channel as the video was to the point. No unnecessary talking, no beating around the bush or asking to join a sleep training course etc etc
Hiscock led one of the few long-term studies on the topic. It's a randomized controlled trial - the gold standard in medical science - with more than 200 families. Blogs and parenting books often cite the study as "proof" that the cry-it-out method doesn't harm children. But if you look closely, you quickly see that the study doesn't actually test "cry it out." Instead, it tests two other gentler methods, including the camping out method.
Interesting! What is the other gentle method?
First time with a newborn
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Starting Ferber tonight at 8 months, I tried to start a month or so ago but couldn’t take the crying. Fingers crossed. I wished I started earlier because now he’s sitting up
How did it go?
Can you try this method for naps? Or is there a better method for day sleeping ?
The only thing I don't agree with is not breastfeeding in the middle of the night. Formula is heavier and doesn't need a middle of the night feed but breastfeeding needs an extra feed. Once they are eating three meals a day and snacks it is less crucial but still encouraged by breastfeeding specialists
Comparison is the thief of happiness. ❤️
I think you misspoke at 6:57. From what I have read about Ferber, you do not restart the 3, 5, 10 time sequence throughout the night. It is 3,5,10 and then 10 onward for the rest of the night. Right?? Otherwise this is a great video and I was going to show it to my grandparents to get them on board but I think that error would throw them off.
I worked in a day care using this method in a very distorted way. Putting babies to sleep for times during the day when they were not tired and not in consistency with the parents methods and leaving the babies crying for hours without checking. I do not like or believe in this method. I understand and do not judge the family who needs and want to use it. But it needs to be done the right way
I absolutely love y’all’s approach and how you explain everything very simply and have a comforting attitude
Thank you. This makes me feel so much better. Been wondering when to start sleep training and this is just perfect explanation. Thanks again xx
So glad where i live we get a whole year with our little baby !
What about naps during the day? Would you recommend doing the same process or is it ok to let them sleep in your arms/lap during the day?
Picking up and comforting a crying baby will show them love and teach them that you’re emotionally available as a parent.
My husband and I we’re desperate so we started this method 3 weeks ago with our 8 month old baby
The first 2 nights were very hard, but the third night she cried just a little bit. Since the fourth night she is been waking up once. She doesn’t sleep the 10-12 hours in a row but at least she is not waking up every 2 hours as she used to do.
Every night since we started the training I put her in the crib and she doesn’t cry and in about 10-15 min she finally falls a sleep.
My husband and I were skeptical about this method but in our experience it worked out.
This worked great 36 years ago with my boys , it just didn’t have a name.
Can you provide references on these long term studies done on crying babies?
Yes, I would also like to see the references for this claim.
This works! I needed to be emotionally ready for baby to cry but baby slept after three rounds on the first night and has slept after one round since then. It seems barbaric lol but it really isn’t. Take a long weekend and get the process started. I wish I started a month earlier. I did it at 5 and a half months.
But as a caveat- you can tell when your baby is in distress. The cry is a little different. I picked up baby and all he needed was a burp and he went down to sleep in a few minutes
Me reading this as my baby is 5.5 months old lol
How’s it going now? How’s your baby sleeping now?
Mine is 5 and half now, and we’re on day 4. It has been working amazingly for us! Although by day 4 feels a little like torture (for us) to let her cry starting at 12 minutes. Although her crying doesn’t sound deep and emotional as the first night.
Thank you for this informative video. I'm an epileptic with a four month old and the sleep deprivation has really messed with my seizure control. Our first two babies were great sleepers. This little man is ensuring he will always be the baby in the family, lol! Anyways, this video has given me more confidence starting this method. Wish me luck and thanks again!! :)
Are sound machines ok?
Good luck!!!! And we use them :)
Hi! I’m so grateful for this video 🙏🏼 so confident about start sleep train. My baby is 5th… right in time. I’m resident doctor of internal medicine and my maternity leave is ending 💔 I just did the first night. We did it! Wish me luck 🙏🏼❤️thank you!
Ok we understand the concept of sleep training but is there a point where the crying becomes so hysterical where you have to stop and intervene? We tried this method but after the first soothing our baby started getting even more hysterical after we left her again.
I give you permission to love your baby. Pick up and hold your baby. It’s instinctual and natural. Love them, sing to them, comfort them, be with them.♥️
It would be great to hear tips for families that are room sharing
YES!!!
I need that too 😭😭 asap . Im so exhausted
Yes we live in a small studio and baby’s crib is literally right next to our bed
We are room sharing and put up a curtain to divide our bedroom! Our little man now has his own space! We ordered it from amazon- large curtains that are mounted onto the ceiling! Worked so far. This is night two of sleep training and last night I had to sleep in our living room- I know it’s going to be short lived, and then I’ll go back in bedroom once he’s gotten a hang of his routine
We all sleep in the same bed. What do you recomend ?
One thing they don't specifically address, only hint at,but i think it's key .... And what the touchy feely types don't get, is the newborn infant is in survival mode. Cries are their only means of communication. Between 4-6 months, babies start to recognize that "if i cry, they come." That's why this method is actually critical. And why the process works. It's the right balance of reassurance and "you're okay".
must be nice to have a nanny and grandparents helping. wouldn't know anything about that
When you go back in do you turn on the light? Also do you check for dirty diaper and change it if needs be?
I don’t think so!!! Sleeping thriugh the night usually means without any waking, diaper change or feed etc
Always change a dialer if it needs changing. No sleeping through the night worths diaoer rash that could really make a baby uncomfortable an uncooperative further on anyways.
Do you recommend during the first night to implement the ferber method for every single wake up ?
You stated to keep checking in until the baby’s falls asleep.. well what happens if the baby doesn’t fall asleep? Do you let the baby cry all night long and keep checking in until sunrise? At what point do the subsequent check ins should stop and know that the Ferber method is not working?
I tried the Ferber method for 3 consecutive nights and my baby cried for 3.5+ hours until I gave in because apparently we’re supposed to “stop the check ins when the baby falls asleep”.
Hello friends. Can you write down short sleep training method here. Because I am from Uzbekistan and could not understand fully the language they are speaking. Please 🙏 please 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
Hi! Thank you for the info! Can you please name the studies you are referring to? Or a link? Thanks!
Thank you for the video. I'll have to start sleep training soon... I don't want to but my husband worries that I am not sleeping, and yes, he is getting all kinds of advice from his friends that I don't agree with. Maybe I'll give this method a try.
Can we do the sleep training with mother sleeping in the same room after baby falls asleep..
I’m doing it now! Seems to work. But I have a large curtain that divides his space from ours! It was less than $150!On Amazon
I have an 8 month old who sleeps through the night, but our night time routine to get to sleep isn't working anymore. It's taking up to 2 hours to get him to sleep. We have been feeding him to get to sleep and letting him fall asleep in our arms and then transitioning him to the crib. I know we need to move away from feeding to sleep, I'm just nervous about him crying 😭
Thank you for the video. This is great! What is your recommendation for diaper change? Because sometimes their diaper is full and it has to be changed.
What can I do for my baby who is 7.5 months? He keeps sitting up and will cry every time I lay him in the crib. Please help!
Hi! My baby is 5.5 months and for the last 2 nights Ive trying ferber but I chicken out after a couple of checks in as I can't cope with the crying... However I know I need to do it as my baby is waking minimum 5 times every night And I feed him to sleep every time😴😴
BECAUSE your instinct said you are doing it wrong. jesus what a buch of bull
How long to you continue the process of leaving and coming back before you pick the baby up and try again later? One hour, two hours or until they just finally fall asleep?
Thank you very much. Super Helpful for First time moms like me. More videos about babies pls😊
I’d like to see the studies that you’re referencing. 4:19
Can we use pacifier
I needed this! Thank you so much!!!!!
You are lovely! Thank you for this information 🥰
So my son cries hysterically, turns red, starts coughing. That sort of crying. It’s not “a little bit of crying”. He’s 6 months and stands supported. He’s fed, clean, healthy....do I STILL just let him cry? I’m really concerned.
Never let the baby cry if he wants to soothe in your lap, hold him and put him to sleep as he wants. Eventually babies get better with sleep training. You just keep trying sleep training. With some babies it takes time.
@reachfortheskybee y
It took my first kid 1 day to sleep train. My second baby...after 2 weeks I gave up tried again a month later with the same results. He eventually figured it out on his own when he was about 18 months old.
3rd baby didn't need sleep training, she just started sleeping through the night. Now my 4th is the worst. I am doing this check in thing for over 3 hours. We are still in the first week but it's awful.
Thankyou for this amazing video! A few questions ! We live in a small apartment and his crib is in our room. How would this method work? His bed time is at 8 pm. So for the first few hours we can leave the room as the video says to. But When we are already asleep in our bed, how would this work?
ALSO, do we do the same for naps?
How do you do the Ferber method if babies crib is in the same room with your or it is in a shared sibling room?
So AAP recommends baby sleep in the same room until 1 year. Can you do this in the same room as the parents?
And then the same method you apply during the day naps right?
It kills me to imagine not feeding my baby throughout the night. He’s a chunky boy at 4.5 months so he’s not wasting away, but man I’m almost in tears just imagining it! Also not that you answer anyone’s amazing questions, but maybe someone will see my comment who has an idea.. my boy started teething at 3 months, he’s 4 months 3 weeks, & a week ago popped his 2nd tooth. He’s still going through a bit of the pain atm but slowly getting better as it makes its way through. Would I wait to start this method until they’re both fully through. First one is almost finished, maybe another week, and 2nd one would still have 3-4wks maybeee to fully come through. Thanks anyone who sees this 😂❤
Help!! My 5 month old wakes every 30min to an hour ALL night! I’m trying Ferber but my baby usually falls back asleep on his own after less than 5min of crying each time, but how do I get him to stop waking up every 30min. I only go in twice to feed him and the rest of the night I let him self sooth but it’s still constant wakings! What do I do?!
Once the child is sleep trained with the Ferber method, will it hamper if a child's routine gets disturbed due to some unavoidable situations like travel or getting sick etc?
Great video, 2 questions for you guys: If the baby stands up and is well past that 6 month window how do you adjust the method? Also, if the baby is going through a period of intense separation anxiety and more intense crying when away from parents, is this method still advisable, or should the separation anxiety be sorted first?
I am wondering the same!
Same question! Any pointers for this?
Wondering the same, has anyone heard anything more on this?
Me too
Please someone answer this question!
What do you do if after the set amount of time in the room, they're still crying? Or say you put them back down and they immediately cry...do you still leave and wait 5 mins or however many mins is next?
This is really hard when you sharing a room with your baby. Because they can still see you.
same issue here. What did you do?
@@Reemtosa I didn't sleep train. I tried but I couldn't go through him crying and he was out of breath and choking and I just couldn't do it. Also I am still breastfeeding so it was even harder on me. He is 1now. He is sleeping much better. He still wakes up but only for a hug and goes back down so it all improved. We sleep much better.
I just leave the room!
Use kids friendly sleep mask on them and under the supervision of an adult.
@@saraadam656 my first daughter was a nightmare b3cause of her sleep schedule. .. the second daughter is now 5 months old and i am trying to figure out how to help her (AND ME😂) sleep through the night. I cant get the hands on this because we have the same bedroom. I want to try it out but i have the same issue, plus, she still needs to be breastfed at night because she has a great appetite and no meal makes her really full. So, thank you for pointing out the obvious, letting the baby cry till choking isn.t a great idea and the bonding we build since birth wont let us let them do that. It.s instinct and it.s healthy. We all are different
Clear and concise information. Amazing!
This info and video was so refreshing 🙏🏽
Starting tomorrow with naps! Wish me luck 😢
Finally, great and to the point video!
Our baby sleep in our bedroom, what should we do when he cry in the meddle of the night?
It will break my heart seeing bubba crying to sleep. It’s not my cup of tea 🍵 I rather be there for my child.
Me too!
How about for an 18month old baby? The same applies? Thanks
Thank you for the information! We are looking into sleep training for our second baby. He generally sleeps pretty well at night but often wakes up and needs us to give him his pacifier in order for him to put himself back to sleep. Is that going to hinder the self soothe process?
Also, how would we implement sleep training for naps? He only naps on us or in his swing (which I know is unsafe and I hate doing it!) so we really need to get him to nap in his crib! Any tips?
This is literally my life 🙄
My baby started self soothing at about 6 weeks and that's when I started to train her and she falls asleep by herself without crying. But, of course, each baby is different.
Could you be more specific on this please? I have a 3 week old and want to start sleep training at 8 weeks
@@sandraschindlerova573 Leave the baby's hands free and available for him to explore and put them in his mouth to self soothe. At 8 weeks your baby should know he has hands and start to explore with them. It's important that they can access to their hands. My baby is now 9 weeks. She has a hard time sleeping at late hours at night but i learned it's normal. She's very easy! She barely cries. She falls asleep in my arms and I put her in her crib. Not really "training". I think training should be done after 3 months. Hope this helps.
@@sandraschindlerova573 for future reference babies should not and cannot be sleep trained in any way before 12 weeks, the drowsy but awake should begin. Young babies cannot self soothe
My son did so at 6 weeks until I started giving him the pacifier he is now 9 weeks an I am over the pacifier because he won't sleep without it but I tried last night he kept his hands closer to his mouth an slept well until 10am I just feed an put him back to sleep. The pacifier once he is in deep sleep I remove, but I hate it now still trying to let him self soothe like before 7 weeks when we go back home where he has his crib he will fall back into his routine.
lucky
When do you transition the baby into their own room? Does keeping them in your room (in their cot) make it harder for them to sleep and resettle by themselves ?
This depresses me just to hear about it. There are other much better ways to help your baby sleep through the night than letting them cry. Please listen to Erica Komisar.
How about naps? Do you do this for naps also at the same time??
Great job guys! Very informative :)
Mae Aghili thanks for watching!!!
Can we use Ferber method at 9 months ? And baby sleeps in the crib on the same room as parents. Does this work ?
Thanks
did you try this finally ? and did it work ?
My daughter is 9.5 months and we had to start this method because it was no longer feasible to have irregular sleep. We are on the 8th night, and it is working. Our daughter is very persistent though...so right now it seems to be the "extinction burst" which basically is a huge tantrum before it actually settles down. But our night are much better. Will they cry? YES. Will it hurt your feelings? YES. Is it still worth it? YES. :)
What if they're teething & in pain?
Give baby some infant Panadol before he sleeps. Read instructions on packaging for how much to give him.
I don’t think it’s recommended to start sleep training when you think they are particularly bothered by teething. Best to wait a couple weeks.
@dolphynlvr4 thank you, i was thinking the same as my daughter (5 months old) is teething and not really having a good night's sleep. I.ll just wait a little longer and this method is the first i am going to try.
Same method for daily naps? 😢 She only wants to sleep on my arms while nursing
Thank you this is really helpful to prepare sleep training.
Hi, thank you for the great and simple guide. I have two questions though. Is it okey to put the baby down with pacifier? And my baby is four months and I swaddle him at night. Is it ok?
What is the baby is already 8 months old. Is it not worth to give a try? What would you recommend.
My baby beat the system… she cried for 2 straight hours until the point she started literally choking. I had to pick her up. It was like that for 3 straight nights. We tried everything we can’t get her to fall asleep on her own
Was this with picking her up every 2 minutes?
This was so helpful!! Do I do this with naps as well?
Is this method something you can do if you're room sharing?
I had to research on how to put my baby to bed after suffering from back pains from rocking my 15 pounds 3 month old by to bed every now and then
Ok so when baby wakes up in middle of night you reset the times so start again with 2, 5, etc, yes?
Thank you for this nice video. What's the order of moving baby to his room and sleep training him? Should I move my baby to his own room while sleep training or do one first and then start the other?
With our first baby, we kept her in our room while sleep training, then moved her to her own room.
Now with baby no.2 , we started sleep training the same night we moved him to his own room. He took a bit longer to adjust to the training in comparison but still within the normal timeliness given.
In hindsight, I would either do what we did with our first or move the baby to their own room first, let them adjust to that then start the training.
How do you guys not have way more subscribers?
Because not every wants or needs to sleep train and not everyone agrees with it
What do you do when baby tolls on their tummy and cannot roll back ? Do you go in and place them back? My baby does this a lot and I don’t know how it will affect the sleep training.
Also - baby doesn’t eat enough during the day ( maybe 14 oz-17 oz)so he needs 2-3 night feeds or he ll wake up every 1 h . What do you recommend?
Two questions. Do you replace the pacifier ? Also do you also do this for naps ?
I have a question - we plan to start this training tomorrow, so I'm interested in how to behave when it comes to afternoon sleep?