I do blame the mother. It is a manifestation of extreme selfishness on her part to prevent her son from becoming a real man -- emotionally speaking. It indicates a weakness on the part of the son too. Normal adolescent innate rebellion is nature's way to prevent this.
Cool, the rest of us DO blame the father. Mother shouldn't be doing that stuff, but DEADBEAT DAD LEFT. So he gets more blame. Yes, blame is valuable. It's unfair to victims to just pretend "no one did it".
💢As a recovering Trophy Child I couldn't agree more to this video‼️Not having a healthy masculine role in their life, will definitely lead to the opening of Pandora's Box‼️The child will potentially end up a son-husband and will be seriously damaged, especially when going out into the real world and seeing how things really are‼️ It's going to start once he gets his heart broken by one of his crushes, and gets Red Pilled once he finds out he got cheated on. It's going to sting coming to grips with the fact that the girl he likes doesn't even respect him‼️
It sounds like you've had a challenging journey, and I appreciate you sharing your perspective. Recognizing the impact of early influences and relationships is an important step in personal growth. I hope you’ve found strategies or resources that will help you navigate these experiences.
My 14 yr old son is in the position. We left his dad when he was 8 and his dad rejected him at age 10. Although he lives 5 miles away, he refuses to see him. Therapist says, his dad is sick so it’s best to let that relationship go. But now, my son is being bullied at school cause he’s a “Mamas boy” he’s a big kid, 5’9” 180, but the other boys want nothing to do with him cause he’s not strong or athletic. He doesn’t have a single friend. My heart is broken. I don’t know how to help him. I feel like o should force him to spend at least 30-60 min a day getting into shape so he learns some self respect and so his peers will have some respect. They all have dads and they all seem to sense that although big, he’s weak and awkward and they bully him ruthlessly. What’s a single mom to do? Will forcing him to get in shape help him? How could it not?
I can see this unfolding in my family with my son. I'm separated from his father and my 6yo son sees how "daddy is too aggressive" and I am afraid he will see himself or being a boy or man as a bad thing. (He has lots of emotional outbursts & sometimes says I wish I wasn't a boy). I try to teach him to stay in touch with his feelings and to label & express them but I don't know if this is enough.
Try looking up a Boys and Girls Club in your area. They have volunteers who are trained to be positive mentors for at risk youth including children from single parent homes. Yes all mentors must pass a background check. The service is free. And, your son can be linked up with a positive male mentor. There are also Promise Neighborhood programs (afterschool and summers too) that have similar services. Ditto the 4H Club. Hope this information is helpful. Best of luck to you!
I hope I’m not doing this to my boys. I have 3 boys. 13, 11 and 7, I’m married to their dad by my husband their dad is emotional available and I find myself talking to my boys a lot trying to get them to understand me and trying to train them not to ignore their wife when they get older. I know it’s not their problem and their place to care but I no they notice our relationship is estranged and distant and I don’t want them to feel obligated to fulfill my voids
This is exactly why I broke up with my fiancé. You explain it so well. What you’re expressing is the exact story line he lived in his childhood
I do blame the mother. It is a manifestation of extreme selfishness on her part to prevent her son from becoming a real man -- emotionally speaking. It indicates a weakness on the part of the son too. Normal adolescent innate rebellion is nature's way to prevent this.
Cool, the rest of us DO blame the father. Mother shouldn't be doing that stuff, but DEADBEAT DAD LEFT. So he gets more blame. Yes, blame is valuable. It's unfair to victims to just pretend "no one did it".
💢As a recovering Trophy Child I couldn't agree more to this video‼️Not having a healthy masculine role in their life, will definitely lead to the opening of Pandora's Box‼️The child will potentially end up a son-husband and will be seriously damaged, especially when going out into the real world and seeing how things really are‼️ It's going to start once he gets his heart broken by one of his crushes, and gets Red Pilled once he finds out he got cheated on. It's going to sting coming to grips with the fact that the girl he likes doesn't even respect him‼️
It sounds like you've had a challenging journey, and I appreciate you sharing your perspective. Recognizing the impact of early influences and relationships is an important step in personal growth. I hope you’ve found strategies or resources that will help you navigate these experiences.
My 14 yr old son is in the position. We left his dad when he was 8 and his dad rejected him at age 10. Although he lives 5 miles away, he refuses to see him. Therapist says, his dad is sick so it’s best to let that relationship go. But now, my son is being bullied at school cause he’s a “Mamas boy” he’s a big kid, 5’9” 180, but the other boys want nothing to do with him cause he’s not strong or athletic. He doesn’t have a single friend. My heart is broken. I don’t know how to help him.
I feel like o should force him to spend at least 30-60 min a day getting into shape so he learns some self respect and so his peers will have some respect. They all have dads and they all seem to sense that although big, he’s weak and awkward and they bully him ruthlessly.
What’s a single mom to do? Will forcing him to get in shape help him? How could it not?
I can see this unfolding in my family with my son. I'm separated from his father and my 6yo son sees how "daddy is too aggressive" and I am afraid he will see himself or being a boy or man as a bad thing. (He has lots of emotional outbursts & sometimes says I wish I wasn't a boy). I try to teach him to stay in touch with his feelings and to label & express them but I don't know if this is enough.
Try looking up a Boys and Girls Club in your area. They have volunteers who are trained to be positive mentors for at risk youth including children from single parent homes. Yes all mentors must pass a background check. The service is free. And, your son can be linked up with a positive male mentor. There are also Promise Neighborhood programs (afterschool and summers too) that have similar services. Ditto the 4H Club. Hope this information is helpful. Best of luck to you!
This was great, thank you. Do you have a video on what the next steps are after being with the awareness?
I’m a woman and both my parents pyschic invested me I resent them
So, what can I do man?
I hope I’m not doing this to my boys.
I have 3 boys.
13, 11 and 7, I’m married to their dad by my husband their dad is emotional available and I find myself talking to my boys a lot trying to get them to understand me and trying to train them not to ignore their wife when they get older. I know it’s not their problem and their place to care but I no they notice our relationship is estranged and distant and I don’t want them to feel obligated to fulfill my voids