The Momma's Boy Syndrome
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- What's plaguing many men is the fact that they weren't just mothered but rather smothered
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"You can't ask her to bring something to the table when you don't even have one"😂
I read this just as he said it, WOW!!! ☠💀☠💀
Great statement!👍 He was so on point with that!👏
Mind blown!! Drop the mic ... This is a good one ! WOW! THANKS!!
Yes!!!!
Lord Jesus, ain't that the truth 😂
I appreciate this....my son is 16yrs old, and there are some things I need to stop doing too....I totally hear this, as mothers, we create a problem by smothering our sons..
Plzzzz Stop & let him figure it out. J/S 😇
Awesome you recognized this. Also try and get him around Godly men
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My brother is almost 21 years old and his mind is still stuck in child days because, of our mom smothering him. She still does it til this day. It has done more damaged than good. It’s really sad to see that my brother may not be able to break from that.
My son is 12 and I am noticing I might be the problem. I am a business owner and im not around much and I know that I Santa him.
It makes it hard for a woman to trust a man who treats his mom like his woman
Is it a deal breaker though? I left an engagement because of that
That kind of male will always believe his mother over you. In most cases she is a meddling mother in law.
@@dnice5182Agree! My mother in law was like that
On the real. A man's first relationship with a female is his mother.. a bad relationship with mom means very bad relationships with the woman in his life.. just fyi
Mommas boys are emotionally enmeshed
It's called emotional incest in some cases especially if mom is a narcissist
I know of an Army officer that has been trained by his Mom to put his mom's shoes on her
Cut the apron strings
It's disgusting
My WHOLE SPIRIT was CONVICTED. My last relationship was with a Boy not a Man.... He needed me for Life .. and I was Drained.... I'm now finally breathing again.
Preach! Went through the same thing.
Lord, restore the Christ like identity to our men and women
In the name of Jesus, Amen!
Amen to that!
What means Christ-like identity?
Allah is The One True God
We don’t need a mami’s boy. We need a real man of God!! Someone who’s gonna lead us to God and not distract us at all.
Amen! 🙏🏼
Amen I'm dealing with my husband he is a mamas boy
@@donontroneicfoster4741 bro literally the most masculine man are mama's bois, name every fucking conquerors.
@@accurategamer7085they aren’t majority of dem are simps
Oh Amen to that!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏💕 we need a man not a baby!
Lead by example. Not by dominance.
If this ain’t my ex .. i finally realized after we broke up that he never really had control over anything in his life because he always let his mom control him . You gave him a little hit of control he abused it & tried to make you feel small . That’s because he felt small his whole life
Omg
Wish I can show this to my bf but then he’ll tell his momma 🥴 lol
Lmao 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Pastor you was dead on. I divorced my mommas boy husband because he’s narcissistic and I was mothering him because I wanted to feel loved and appreciated. But it ended up stretching in ways more than I imagined. He told me I was too strong but we were unequally yoked...thank you for validating my choice to move forward and the hope that we would grow spiritually together. You’re so right. I was exhausted.
Yesss@ Realize Your Beauty...I been exactly thru the same thing...The pastor is so on point...Pastor Flowers had a video about pawns..project and parasites..you show check it out Love ...
Crystal London oh wow! I’m going to check it out. Thank you for sharing with me.
i saw a post on Instagram that said "mothers baby their sons and treat their daughters like they're grown." I never thought about this till i read that post. Now that I'm aware of momma's boy syndrome i see it everywhere. Many mothers do treat their daughters differently not in a bad way, but as in they don't baby their girls as much as they do their boys.
It's the same with fathers, fathers seem to baby their daughters more so then their sons. A good fathers usually teaches the son how to get out on his own and succeed. I don't know the psychology behind this but i found it interesting how parents treat their opposite gendered children.
This is usually the case. Parents treat their opposite gendered children much better than the same gendered children because a parent of a similar gender can sense competition and rivalry on the child of the same gender but they can never sense rivalry on the child of the opposite gender.
However, let's say that the mother is a butch lesbian or the father is a feminine gay man, it could be possible for a butch lesbian mom ( because of her masculine nature, her relationship with her children would be more of a father and child than mother and child ) to be slightly more rough on her sons ( since fathers are usually rough on their sons ) and more doting towards her daughters ( since father are usually doting towards their daughters ) just as a feminine gay dad ( because of his feminine nature, his relationship with his children would be more of a mother to child than a father to child ) would be rough on his daughter ( since mothers are usually rough on their daughters ) and doting towards his son ( since mothers are usually doting towards their sons ).
Not me- I treat my girl and boy the same as their mother. Their father is the narcissist and I teach them all about it.
My husband took 7 years to realize what kind of mother he has and now he is on his healing process.
Oh dear maybe I shouldn’t have left my ex cause he is a mommy’s boy. Well done for fixing that problem.
A momma's boy is definitely not a man of God at all!!! He can't make a decision without his momma. When, you hear a man say he wears a badge of honor as a father, son, and a brother... Watch out!!! Also, beware of not hearing him say, I wear a badge of honor as a child of God, as a boyfriend, as a fiance, and as a future husband. In closing, when he's stated several times during the relationship, my momma said!!!!
I recently got out of a relationship where I experienced a lot of this. Growing up, my parents didn't baby me and I grew up to be responsible and start working in 9th grade. Although he and I grew up similar with struggles from a single parent household, I noticed his lack of maturity was an issue when we disagreed or him wanting things his way. When I held him accountable, he thought I was judgemental or nagging. The attachment and abandonment issues are so true. Even though he started treating me as an opponent, he was very attached. The relationship became draining and I had to break it off. I saw potential and that's where I went wrong. It's been 4 months and I've learned, although I'm imperfect, his healing and maturity was beyond me. My level of peace since then has been amazing❤🙏. Thank you for these video that remind me of my worth and to be patient and focus on my purpose.
You go girl 🤗
@@annabelle1471 thank you❤
Hey J rich. I’m a momys boy. How can i be more “mature” and responsible?
@@vodkacannon hey, u still there? Have you gotten any advice elsewhere? If not, I just left a relationship with a momma's boy and it was one of the most frustrating things EVER. I actually don't think discussion with a female will be that helpful, but I'll say these two things: 1) If you've identified yourself as a momma's boy, then that's so vital, and that's the first step to "healing". 2) Be cognisant of what you share with your mother. You shouldn't have to run to her for a solution on every problem/issue in your life. In summary, I think it's best to talk to an older, adult *alpha male about this. Can I recommend Jesse Lee Peterson? You can call into his radio show, and he also does one-on-one (phone/in-person) counseling. His message is so crucial for Today's male. ❤️
I just got out of a relationship with a mommas boy. Thank you Jesus! I tried to push him to be better but he felt “rushed.” And his mom was aw you guys have to be considerate of each other 😒😒😒😒😒
The hispanic community flooded with mommas boys! 🤧
“If you don’t let God heal him, you’ll never be his wife, only his nurse” Whew.
I grew up with a single mum dad died when I was 3 mum did the best to teach me on how to be responsible and to be a man but I guess there is an importance of having a father figure in your life coz when I grew up and wanted to move out mum wouldn't let me and when she did I was only allowed move in the same area but I had to be a man and I remember talking to her about the importance of me being my own man. It was emotional buy she understood and seeing this affirms that I made the best decision
My ex and his mom act like they was husband and wife. They even lived together for years, never moved out til this day. Everytime I was over she was sitting with us. Couldn't even eat alone without her. Etc. Ugh
Some mothers treat their sons like their husband. If i had not heard this post I would not have realized this was what i went through. I dated a male who was a boy and literally would call himself that smh. Horrible horrible traumatic experience. It's taken so much to heal from the years of damage he did and I allowed in deception.
It’s an emotional incestous relationship
Eeek
I had one a long time ago...when I walked away from the relationship..my life changed for the better. Now I've been getting to know Jesus more intimately. Single at peace and happy! God is amazingly Great and I'm happy to hear Mr.and Mrs.Flowers anytime I can. You all are such a Blessing. May God keep you both and continue to bless you. Because he use you both to bless us with the words of knowledge,wisdom,and understanding. It's powerful and encouraging. Thank you🙂
My thoughts exactly!
What did you do to "get to know Jesus more intimately"?
@@Nerine98 I start my day off by reading the daily bread, I say my prayers, then I love to talk with the Jesus and God. I get ready for work, in my car I listen to gospel music and throughout my day I read the Bible on my phone. Verse of the day,then I meditate on the goodness of God. It's uplifting and I feel Blessed. I always thank God for for a beautiful, Blessed, happy, joy, and peace that passes all understanding day filled with the love of Jesus, the Holy spirit and the Holy ghost!!! I claim my day before I step out the house. I'm still human and still a sinner because I know I'm not perfect. But I thankful that I know Jesus... he's the only way to God. I just want a better walk with God ❤💖❤ the light of my life 😍
He not gone be fine when the lights off. 😄😄😄
Lol. Ikr??!
Y’all are blessing us with the consistency of the videos y’all are putting out. God bless!
Amen!!!!
Yessss!!! I binge as much ss I can
Imaging marrying a guy and finding out, after the fact, his mother has power of attorney to his finances 😒😒🤯 smh
@Arsha03 shut up That’s why you’re karma gonna get you for judging people
Exactly I almost married such I man. I feared his mothers change of mind and impositions would have strained my relationship with him
You can't ask her to "Bring Something To The Table" if you don't even have one!
Best line of the whole video Lol
This is my life.
I wish I knew this before I got married. So sad but this is so true.
Same here
My husband is married to his mom and I’m the mistress
This was so hard for me to watch. Not only was I that kind of single parent, I have also dated those dudes. All the while you were teaching my spirit kept saying "Ouch!" This message was necessary. Now, can you make one about how to back off of making our sons Mamas boys? Thank you Pastor. Bless you.
Yes true, how can we as mothers gently wean our sons, so that we do not smother them, but allow them to become strong independent men
@@VenSpence At the very least, do what you do with your daughters. There are very few co-dependant daughters out there; relying on their moms for every little thing. But those sons? SMH
First thing is remove the "gently". Like he said about nipple confusion, when a man gets ahold of him trying to man him up but he takes it as being mean bc of how momma treats him "gently"
N Payne so how is mummy suppose to treat her son then? Not in a gentle manner?
I raised my sons to be gentlemen, independent, cook, clean, budget and save, work hard, be respectful - believe they are the best but not better than, because if anything happened to me I would know they could survive life’s ups and downs - that was important to me. Just like mothers of animals in the wild, lionesses teach their cubs to survive, hunt because it’s survival of the fittest and we are not going to live forever. I do this because I love them. I’m not afraid they won’t love me for it because they’re my children they’ll always love me, and I them. When they leave home they have to, or they won’t grow. And by stopping them we prevent their development. Be fair, uphold honesty, make them accountable or they won’t have healthy boundaries. Support their growth dont disable them.
I love everything you wrote. I’m going through a break up right now. My ex fiancé is 32 and has always lived at home. I didn’t see a problem with it until we hit a few rough patches and he just crumbled…..lots of tears… no composure… his mom and sister proudly do almost all of the cooking, cleaning, mom packs all of the guys’ lunches daily and she knew how many blood pressure pills my ex had left in his bottle…. Between the emotionality and the pills she kept track of for him.. I know it’s time to exit. Thank you for raising your kids right! They and their spouses will always be grateful for you doing things this way 🤗💗
There’s an epidemic of lazy men
Also an epidemic of women who THINK they are "strong independent", while totally unaware of their own feelings of exhaustion and their co-dependency tendencies.
These are the perfect targets for "momma's boys".
@@nachannachle2706 ouuuu yes😭
Yes these men are enabled
POWERFUL EPISODE 🔥 | I think “Daddy Daughter” should be next 💯|
This is who I am dealing with..... THE TRY ME SERIES IS BLESSING MY LIFE!!! I am learning my worth.
This was an excellent message 🙌😇 so much truth in 7 minutes!
I'm 23 in college. When I go back home to visit my mom dosent want me to go out of town with friends I'm visiting back home either. I love my mom but most of my decisions are "would mom be happy" my dad was emotionally unavailable to my mom my whole life. He'd rather get up on his days off work and spend all day in the streets instead of with my mother and his family so...2 lessons learned. Now i just need to know how to love my mom
I can relate.
Omg I dated a mamas boy 2x omg I had enough of this lord help me never again! I’m in nursing field it’s so draining to nurse people at work then have to nurse a relationship I’m not doing it again I’m single mom I have a son and I’m praying to God I don’t become a soft mama and I raise him better than what I experienced
We critically need this being preached in churches.. pivotal to our men who are suffering w out kingdom man guidance 💪🏽
Oh bae baby... I needed this years ago 💯but hallelujah any how 🙌🏾
I was with someone like this for 3 years and it was the most draining relationship ever. He was such a mamas boy and he moved in with me and expected me to be the same I was like heck no and we battled for long. I wish I knew my identity in Christ back then as I know now because I settled out of fear of being alone and now my God has shown me my worthy and my value and my identity. Found out the guy took off and found another woman he can go and do the same to. I definitely dodged a bullet by not marrying him. Thank you Jesus!
Excellent advice!! God created the man to leave not to cleave..Lord deliver those mama boys so that they will become the kingdom men that you called for them to be..🙏
Mamas boys don’t pay taxes yal
😂😂😂
And they always know when the next Jordans drop. But don't have a car
Yeah and if they do their momma is filing taxes for him 😂😂😂
“Lead my example not by dominance.” 🎤🔥🔥🔥
Amen Pastor Jerry I was in a relationship with a Mammie Boi for 7 years , it was the worst ...I am a nurse and to nurse him was like I was in work all over again 🙄. Thank you Lord I am delivered ...🙌👏🙌
A lot of mommies don't love their sons and use them for their own unmet needs and covertly abuse them, by turning them into their husbands. Now that is not love. The only love involved in these dynamics is for the mommy. Healthy mothers don't do this to their sons and they encourage their sons to grow up to be Full Grown Adult Men. That's Real Love.
“ Beard 🧔🏾 and grown “ 🤣💯
I love this...❤
Part of the reason my husband and I divorced is because of his mom.
I will be doing the same
Same
So sad but me too. She is his priority and he allows her to lie and will defend her
Me too
I swear am on repeat mode up in here... Ma momma said.. my momma said..A.B..C..........😒😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 Oooh mehn! Amen brother preach... This is so true...
I commented when my son was 16yrs old, I admitted I needed to stop doing something’s for him. He’s 18 now thank God. I’m preparing to go on holiday in the next week God willing , he’s taken the stance, he needs to know how I cook meals whilst I’m away. He’s come along way, his room is much cleaner, a lot more responsible. It takes time, but oh yes! We do need to avoid smothering our Son’s or they will never become responsible men. Thankful for this teaching, I must rewatch. Blessings
For all the women in here agreeing with this, look at your sons and realize you will one day have to let them go. And they will be better for it.
Listen what is beautiful is y'all prophetic......y'all obedient to the spirit of God, these be so timely!
I know y'all ainy tryna be famous but work on marketing because your content needs to reach the masses....healthy and solid Kingdom marriages are needed for the Kingdom to move forward and thrive in the next decade
It’s my job to heal me and his job to heal himself. My ex was a serious mommas boy. I ain’t going down THAT road again.
Men also have daddy's boy and grandparents boy problems too. I wish you can do one on daddy's boys with men who do not want to leave their daddy's house and can't commit due to daddy being his provider
Thisss
As a son-husband I needed this. Thank you brotha! 🙏❤️
Wow! True true true! This message need to be shared not just with adult men but also with young teenage boys.
Excellent video!!! So informative. Very very helpful!!! Awesome Thank you so muchl❤❤❤
*That's good bro 💯*
You just hit the nail on the head.
You just expressed everything I went through in my former marriage.
This is why when i have kids i will treat both of them equally.
THIS has to be one of the most well articulated videos on this topic/issue. If I could show this to my Ex without him being offended I would. Tried to talk to him about it once, and he BLEW UP. I didn't try again after that, just didn't think it was my place to do so anymore.
God bless you because you are shedding light on the neglect from fathers not being active in there sons life ….As well as some narcissist miserable mothers who add to the fire : who didn’t get Healed ,And want to control there son’s happiness because MISERY LOVES COMPANY!!!!
I dated a woman once that had a 30 yr old son , with two kids by two different women and the better we became financially , the more he wanted to come back home ! It’s like he had no drive , no sense of self betterment and his mom seems to feel sorry for him ! He blamed his parents divorce when he was a teenager-but never got over it !
A lot of men need to hear this this was Great
My husband is a mama's boy. To keep his mother happy, he used to get angry all the time. Now she has thrown me out of the house along with the children.
My child’s father is like this and I’m struggling to put up with it. I left him once, returned thinking things changed. Silly me. It’s maddening 😭😭
I needed this I need to change this cycle to show growth
Shoot, I needed this word for my own self and how my mom tries to treat me and to keep it from developing more of a hatred towards her or make me feel like I’m owed whatever kind of freedom I want once I’m a relationship thats 50-50 rather than 99-1. So thank you ❤️
Is it possible for them to have those external things in order BUT be a mommas boy emotionally? When it came to internal things, I think my ex relied too much on the viewpoints of his mother. He said he formed them on his own but some of them didn’t even line up with the Bible, so I was like how can you agree with your mom and think that view is right when it clearly contradicts scripture (such as sex outside of marriage). In his defense, she could be controlling emotionally and I don’t think he realized it. We aren’t together anymore but I still pray for him that he would find himself and grow in the knowledge of the Lord and be released from that.
Yes! I can agree with that because I unfortunately dated that too. He was a very spiritual man, but I could tell with how he acted, he was closer to his mom than his dad. Yet he had everything together; I still pray for him.
These don't sound like Christian men that I know. They sound like my dude friends who don't know Jesus.
Oh sweetie the Ahab spirit in Christian men with Jezebel mothers is alive in living color
@@breakthrough2682 just because someone claims Jesus does not mean they are living Jesus. So we got go to be careful on all sides. I never met a real Christian that lives like this. When I got saved I was healed and set free so of someone is not healed and set free like the Bible says what happens when you really get saved I question their mindset on what they believe christianity really is.
If you are not co partnering with the Lord on your transformation and actively trying to live out who he is in you there's a problem.
Wow! This message was on point! I've personally experienced this and can say this is 1000% accurate!!!
PREACHHH WHO NEED A REAL MAN !!!!!
THUMBS UP 👍🏾
Dude you're too levelheaded and a damn poet
The first minute of this video hit home immediately! So happy that you're sharing these relationship realities with spiritual messages. 🙌🏾
Redefined TV come now with it!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My wife wants to homeschool our son. I told her that I want him in public school for at least his first two years of schooling. I don't want him to start off with codependency as normative. I want her to have time to be who she is and not hinder him from being who he will be.
Selah! The wisdom and truth in this video breaks years of generational bondage. A powerful message.
Thank you for your advice ❤
This is a blessing,My fiancé was a boy everything you said hit the spot after 1 8months of abuse and control im free.
Thank you so much Mr. Flowers. This is so important and seen everyday. I feel at times mothers blame themselves for their child's father being absent and many children don't have no kind of male role model in their lives. But when you have a mother that is putting her best foot forward in parenting in spite of- placing her children before the Lord, it'll work out for everyone's good....thanks for your ministry...
Thanks so much for being an inspiration and motivating me to start my own channel, I pray God uses me to impart lives like you guys are ❤️
I needed this
THAT LAST MINUTE WAS POWERRRRRRR
Wow!!!Thank u for being open n honest about this topic.I just came out of a 3 year relationship with a man just like this. Now i understand the reason behind the behaviour . Good 411.God bless.Love your n the beautiful wife's ministry. Totally sharing this with my girlfriends
I’m going through this right now, thank you for this insight 🙏🏽
This came across my feed and I just had to listen. I just don’t understand why mothers do this. It causes women like me who want to be married to get discouraged.
Mommy's boys seek mothers in their girlfriends and wives. If you want a weak man with no backbone that wants to spend more time with mother, and needs her approval over yours, find a man who calls mother every time they need assistance or help.
Or calls his mom every time he has an argument with his partner. Then, the mom calling the partner. This man was almost 40 and acting like a teenager. "Mom, this bitch is crazy! Help me calm down!"
never try to help their sons realize their part in the problem but they will gladly tell their son to run back home ….if you meet his mother and she refers to him as “my son “. Run. She think she owns him even in adulthood and she probably right.
Thank you for this... This turned on sooo many humbling lights. Thank you.
Greetings Pastor Flower!! AMEEEEN AND AAAAMEN!! IT IS SO AND SO IT IS!!! SERIOUSLY!!!
Amen speak! Keep exposing tactics that the devil uses to keep men them in bondage.
Sending this to him right now
“Leaving the nest from the breast” 💯💯💯
This one right here takes the cake! “‘I’m not called to be a Nurse but a Whole Wife” 🙌🏽
My ex he is a 30 year old man... His mother was in a Happy marriage still a hard core mama's Boy
I just saw about four posts about females who have married financially immature men. These questions are mandatory before you marry someone because you can end up homeless in the streets because someone is financially immature. This is why it’s so important to consult him first
I'm so sorry I was I single mom and worked three damn jobs. I'm terrible.
What a word!
Thank you for the clarification
Now, THAT'S a word!!!
Another Great message!!! Thank Pastor Flowers and God Bless.
My birthday was on Juneteenth and fathers day this year, (his father had died a while ago). He’s lived with his mom pretty much all his life except for when he was in college then he moved back in with her and hasn’t moved out since. He told me his mom wanted him to go to church with him for a few hours to honor his father or something like that, so I was like okay but don’t be too long, it is my birthday. After church ended he told me his mom wanted him to drive them to this family church event at someone’s house, but this time, it was 3:30,4pm. I was annoyed asf at this point. We communicated so I could see when he would be finished hanging out with her. I didn’t see him that day until 8pm. 8PM!! He spent ALL OF MY BIRTHDAY with his mother. And after I finally met up with him, he started a fight with me and returned my birthday gift he never gave me. I ended up going to the club with my friend and her friends. He also bought his mom a new phone not having a job, but only gave me $20 for food when I asked him to help out with the groceries he ate constantly, and he was making $20/hour at the time. That was the absolute last straw.
Its super obvious when the man is a mamas boy. It could effect so many things like even how he communicates his feelings. Screws the man up.
amen
How do they communicate?
@@SiSi-oi2or They don't.
They expect you to read their minds and cater for their "feelings"...like their mothers have always done. If you don't, they bring their mommy to scare you into submission.
And if you stand up to their mommy, they will act Alpha exclusively around you to bully you into submission. And if you blast their BS fake ego in public, they will start stalking you to gain your acceptance. And if you ignore the sh!t out of them, they will attempt to become a hero in your eyes. And if you blank them for good, they will start doing the hovering in a less frequent manner, still hanging onto the childish delusion that they will "melt your heart" one day and that you will "love" them.
I'm a Secondary school teacher and I can't count the number of teenage boys I have had to straighten out of their stupid momma's boys tactics, because they were trying to run away from their responsibilities/nasty behaviours in my classroom.
I have also had my share of mentally immature colleague/classmates trying to wiggle themselves into my life so that I can become the substitute for their mothers. These suckers didn't know that there are some women have a purpose on this planet and whose life force is not going to be wasted on perennial tossers.
All is well. ^__^
@@nachannachle2706 well thank you for that lol, glad u got it off ur chest too, also glad you straightened sum suckers out and didn’t fall prey to the other suckers ! 😂 Yes, some women do know and walk out their purpose. I wish more would know their worth.
@@nachannachle2706 this is so true as someone who left a relationship like this recently the mother fights all the battles while the son expects you to read their minds and act out in passive aggressive ways
Yes the men children 👶🏽 are confused
Wow, this is deep