I have been studying English for 2 years, and now I'm able to understand fully what they're saying without even switching the subtitles on, I just can't believe it XDD Update 2023 : it s been 3 years. This commentary got over 780 likes 🤣 and my level in english even grew bigger since. I think I'm starting to reach C1 but some work is still required. I'd like to thank all the kindness steaming out from people that kept supporting me in this comment section, it warms my heart. Y'all amazing 🥰
Be kind always, but don't expect anything. Always try your best to keep your feelings in check until you know for sure the feeling could be mutual. Not everyone is going to reciprocate your interests. That's life. Focus on you and someone will come along. No one really owes anyone anything. Maybe respect, but you can't expect fantasy to become reality. If it hurts too much, keep some distance. This happens to everyone. Again, focus on yourself and something will eventually come along. Usually the wait is worth the final product in the end. Remember, be kind.
"someone will come along" whats the scientific proof that this will be true? there are trillions of good guys who are single and remained single their whole lives, so give some proof of this overused and frankly pathetic line
What she said was totally true!! When a girl turns a guy down it's not because he's a nice guy, it's because she doesn't feel the chemistry, that's all.
Right? And no, sometimes you can't just change the chemistry. Whatever he felt was just from his side. I've had many guys who were charming and taking initiative but I just felt nothing and it's not my fault.
That ending is EXCELLENT. She is absolutely right. This "nice guy" concept is somewhat flawed. Men need to learn that being a decent human being does not warrant ANYTHING from a girl or potential partner. It goes both ways. Thank you Wong Fu for this quality short!
Um, no. I think women should take what people do for them into account at least right? I know for a fact you can get a girl while being a nice guy. But for whatever reason its easier if your not. And that's f*cked up
The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work... when you go to church... when you pay your taxes. It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. Neo: What truth? Morpheus: That you are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else you were born into bondage. Into a prison that you cannot taste or see or touch. A prison for your mind. Morpheus The Matrix
The only things I keep in my shorts are; wallet, phone, keys, pocket knife, headphones, receipts, loose change on occasion, maybe a usb cord/battery pack. Cargo pockets should be on all clothing.
uh, nobody's talking about the fact that the protagonist, in trying too hard to avoid the "nice guy" situation, has been sort of a jerk to the girl he likes, which also backfires? I think that message is just as important as the entitlement issue or whether nice guys do finish last. From my understanding, avoiding the "nice guy" situation really means stop giving the impression that your help and kindness comes cheap and is thus forgettable, but if you take it the wrong way and start acting like a horrible person, that's where things also go wrong.
I learned a long time ago that being a dick does actually work. In my experience women want their interactions to be memorable. Something they can talk about with other women and spend hours trying to see through it. Drama is very easy to raise emotion and make it memorable. Switch back and forth between nice and being a dick keeps them pulled in unfortunately.
I'm nice to everyone(except those I hate obviously, I ignore them), but just nice-er to the person I like... I usually take out all of my pain on myself which makes it an endless loop of... yeah
never feel like you're entitled to someone. that's a huge problem with this recent generation, especially with guys. everyone wants instant gratification, instant success, 100% acceptance rate. in a society where we can get hot fast food in 2 minutes, amazon packages in 2 days, and netflix streams at the tip of our fingers in 2 seconds, everyone thinks that they need things immediately RIGHT NOW. it's the same thing with college applications, course grades, job applications, social circles / popularity. people want prompt recognition that they're valuable, and they measure their self-worth with acceptance from others, including which girls they get to date. if one of your core values is to be nice to everyone, since it's the right thing to do, then you can't get angry when the girl you like rejects you, regardless of how much effort you've put into that friendship. nothing you do gives you the right to that person's decisions, and if you authentically like and care about them, then you should be able to respect their decision, whether or not they give you a justification for why they chose to reject you.
Mafaman clearly you havent seen r/ niceguys. And we say the niceguy line to let guys down easy because we genuinly fucking care sometimes. Othertimes were just creeped out and want to get tf out.
It sucks that fake nice guys ruin the reputation of genuine nice guys. It pisses me off when I see my friends being nice and when they get rejected they get mad. I always love helping others and just doing good deeds but people always think I do it to get sex or something else from them.
You're great and I'm sorry people think about you that way. I personally try to see the good in people, but I also don't wanna be naive. That's sometimes not easy.
@@goodyoutuber5063 I can tell by that comment that you habe an awesome personality. I'm the same way. I am nice to everyone and if someone is unfriendly to me, I don't give a shit, I don't start a fight, I just stop talking to them. I say what I'm thinking and if people don't like me, that's their problem, not mine.
"It seemed like she was feeling something too." That was the mistake. You never assume. Even if she got on top of you and said she could never imagine life without you, it's a false hint!
I have a hard time understanding these because my husband and I were friends for almost a year before we started dating... definitely feel that a good solid friendship is the best foundation for a lasting relationship.
They both have their problems. Crap relationships are well....crap, but the way the guy does stuff here isn't right. Those things he tried would be good IF HE MEANT THEM, but it was all an act because he expected something in return. He's no different from the ones who do nice things for a reward and who wouldn't do them no matter what. Word of advice: live life on your own terms. The people who fit into whatever this is will come in, and you'll enjoy it.
If you get friendzoned it's usually the guy's fault. Men get friendzoned when they behave like a friend, how else should a woman register your behaviour? Present yourself as a romantic interest not as a friend. Anyone can be nice, that's why it doesn't work. When you want someone to see you as a romantic interest, you need to let them know that you are special by setting yourself apart from everyone else. If women had relationships with men just because they were nice then they would be dating every guy that walked down the street. Have some sense!
Hahaha, the term of nice guy and friendzone are very overrated these days. A nice guy is a guy who'd be super nice to someone just because he likes that someone, and at the end will get friendzoned because he's fake. Real nice guys be nice to everyone, enjoy the dating process, and won't cling on one girl. Nice series btw
Since the term "nice guy" has been tainted in the way that is has, I believe the "good man" should be the genuinely kind guy people should strive to be.
She doesn't owe him anything, but neither does he. If he doesn't want to be friends anymore he has all the right to. And so what's wrong with being nice to people and expect something from them, relationships of all kinds go both ways, UNCONDITIONAL love is a disney fairy tale. Keep your BS and Self-righteousness to yourself.
The problem is she thought they were friends and being nice to your friends is normal, it's not unconditional, she was nice to him but she didn't expect more. Rejection sucks and it's okay to be hurt and maybe also distance yourself from the person. What is not okay is saying she was using him, it's not okay that he was nice only because he wanted something more.
Because it’s selfish that’s why ,doing something for someone and then thinking you’re entitled to get something back is selfish,not only the person you’re doing whatever your doing for is going to be mad and realize not to be friends with you, your going to be mad because your thinking you deserve something back when you actually don’t/should have done something without any strings attached so with that being said to end this statement it’s selfish that’s it the end
It's just a jerk move, as if company and friendship was not enough. It's sad from our perspective because we care about our "friend" only to find out it was just a phasade. They might say let's stay friends but they will have you in the back of their mind as a possibility. Also don't tune out the girl if she's explaining why not, important details you might miss.... She might not want a relationship because she's not confident or doesn't feel ready to give. If you're a jerk in return, kills any chance you had plus shows lack of confidence too.
that being said idealy he shoudnt lash out, end the friendship in a mature way. Lashing out shows weakness...desperation. hold his emotions in till hes alone.
Okay enough! Have any of you considered the possibility that maybe not every guy in the world is born knowing how to get a girl to like him? You can't control who you like, feelings like this are not something you can turn off or on, and since it is inevitable to like a girl at some point, what the hell is a guy to do with this feeling? He doesn't know what to do, or say, so he just does the only thing he knows how to do, being kind and nice, the only thing he can think of. Of course he is going to be pissed off, and of course he is going to feel taken for granted and used and incredibly desperate when it doesn't work. He is not a misogynist and he is not feeling entitled to a girl. HE JUST DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE IS SUPPOSED TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!. All he knows is that he has feelings for her and he is supposed to do something. He is just watching the girl he likes fly away from him, while he drowns being taken by a current of desperation . It's one of the most heartbreaking experiences that exist to realize you mean very little to the person who means the world to you, that she'll eventually find someone who will mean the world to her and you can't do anything but watch it happen with a fake smile, while you feel death inside and now we also villanize people who experienced that on top of everything else. Fuck you, fuck you for thinking guys should be charismatic and charming by default, fuck you for thinking we are somehow supposed to magically know what to do, fuck you for thinking nice guys are manipulative. Fuck you for feeling you deserve perfection, when you know you are not perfection yourself. Fuck you for thinking guys should be nice for the sake of being nice, when clearly they are just human beings, with faults and live events that drove them to not be as nice as you would like. when clearly Fuck you all. You Fuckers. She is not to blame, for this, but he is certainly not to be blamed either and shouldn't be judged for thinking niceness might work. Is he suddenly not so nice when she doesn't return his feelings, why not, why would he possibly wait around for her to find someone and feel pain? Is avoiding that heart breaking pain something you find hypocritical, so be it. Guys were not put in this world to serve you. Are these guys in need of learning a lot of things and experiencing personal growth? Yes, but don't you dare villanize someone for something like this, especially when you don't know the pain they feel.
@@jessica4656 you don't know the pain of liking someone and them being your entire world and thinking they like you to and having all that ripped away so you wouldn't understand and you cant blame him for not wanting to be friends anymore if it is just hurting him more I don't blame him for not wanting to watch some new guy be everything she needs/wants and wondering why you aren't enough until you know how this feels you cant say stuff like that
And for most nice guys this happens more than once they mess up the first time eventually try again and you think this time it will really work to have your soul ripped out over and over again it messes with you head and I think he could give her a better reason he doesn't want to be friends but the same way he cant be mad when she says no, she cant be mad when he doesn't want to be friends and deal with more heart break
It's because you just wasted all of their time. Maybe if he was a player it wouldn't matter, but he clearly is not. Even if you are not trying to use them, if they are beta enough, they will do nice things for you just because they like you. Girls don't want a guy like that until they are ready to settle. The approach of these nice guys is not the best for actually attracting women, but you have to understand that acting that way is something that is taught by feminists, and they are going to be devastated when the one girl they like dismisses them. Anyway, "nice guys" actually are very pathetic, I know because I am one. Also there is no such thing as a nice guy because all men are sex and power hungry maniacs, and nice guys are just in denial.
My bf is a super nice guy, but he didn't play any games or mess about, he told me 30 minutes after meeting me he was into me and we've been together ever since. It's not a question of being nice or not. Just be honest from the beginning!
Because you guys don't have the "lady balls" to tell us if you're into us. It's easy to give advice when you don't have to do the heavy lifting or take any risks.
I met a girl a couple of weekends ago. I got her number and told her that I'd love to hang out sometime. She instantly took that as me being madly in love with her and got creeped out. What did I do wrong?
As a current nice guy the best thing to do if a girl shuts you down, just don't be her friend. It's hard being around someone whom just shut you down and still expects you to listen to them talk about other potential partners. If it hurts brother you just gotta shut that shit down and then be upfront with the next girl sooner.. rinse and repeat til you find the one.
I don't think that's fair to the girl, because for some people, they might like you but only after they know you for longer. Being friends is still okay, and if they're nice, they won't talk about other potential partners in front of you, but still want to hang out and do things with you
This, it is just awkward for both parts involved of course you are not going to be a super asshole to the other person, but realize things aren't going to be the same anymore, just move along and believe me, more people to hang out will come to your life so never fear to ruin a friendship by revealing what you feel, it is way worse to suffer in secret.
Ana Clarke i agree. It sucks how people think that. But then again, can we really blame people? Getting a little philosophical here, but there's only two main theories of how personalities form. Maybe you've heard of "Nature Vs. Nurture". Both theories imply that it's not their fault they're like that. They're either like that because of their surrounding experiences and what they're taught (out of their control), or their personalities are carried since birth (again, out of their control). And, at least where I live, kids ARE taught being nice pays off. Luckily for me I stumbled upon the quote "Expecting the world to be kind to you because you're kind to the world is dumb. It's like expecting a lion not to eat you because you don't eat lion".
i have a friend and she thought the guy who confessed to her was joking and was only fulfilling a dare. Which turned out to be true. So if that was the girl's point of view I would understand. Also, that girl could've been really nervous and said that just to make sure. But I'm just looking at the positive possibilities
I would have told her, if you are not being serious for one moment, you are not a true friend. Just someone who wanted to get their way. Fuck these kind of people, they are not done growing up, maturing and just want to fucking party. It takes all my energy I have to hold myself back from not beating the living shit out of their abusive BF.
Jesus.... This was heavy as heck. I relate to always trying to be nice, but I've never expected anything from others from it. This video does bring on some good points. Just because a person is acting nice, doesn't mean it's genuine all the time. Also, no one is entitled to anything. So.. I like the message. Niceness isn't a sign of romantic intentions, it should be a sign of basic human decency
@@AkiRa22084 The main problem is that he expected "a chance" for being nice to the girl he liked. But the problem is that he waited so long to tell her he liked her. That's really the crux of the issue. For women, it's easy to put someone in "the friend zone" if they seem like they just want to be friends. Basically, giving us mixed signals like that can cause a lot of confusion (and really...she might have thought he was gay. o.o He pretended that he didn't notice any other girls at all...or rather, forgot who they were. Not only is that very odd, but she might have had that thought "huh...he doesn't notice girls at all...maybe he's into guys and in the closet?" That's an automatic friend zone right there.)
@@ohfortheloveofguacamole6803 What's wrong with expecting a chance? Sure, he did it the wrong way, I agree, but that has nothing to do with what Giovanni said. The guy was "genuine" nice from start to end. Also, off topic, but there is no such thing as "friend zone" for gorgeous men. Even if they seem "in the closet".
@@AkiRa22084 When someone has expectations, then they are doomed to disappointment. You should never have an expectation when it comes to another person's behavior. For one, you can only control yourself. For two, people never behave the way you expect. It's simply dooming yourself to failure. As for gorgeous men...there's a reason people say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Men you may consider "gorgeous" might not always be seen that way by other women. The same is likely true in reverse. The things that we find attractive are quite variable after all. My husband's originally from India and I consider him gorgeous. I assume other women do as well, given how many throw themselves at him. But there's likely women who would friend-zone him because they just prefer a different type of guy (blondes or redheads, maybe.) Goodness knows my husband is very picky about girls. That I happen to check all of his "this is a beautiful woman" boxes is happenstance. I would consider myself fairly plain, personally. I think a lot of women agree with that sentiment, because I have gotten many a side-eye over the years (the whole "how on earth did *that* girl get him? She's not even that pretty?!" type. lol) But to him, I'm what he likes. (Of course, after being married 11 years, there's also that familiarity factor and the love that goes into it...but still. I'm often surprised that my husband ever approached me.)
@@ohfortheloveofguacamole6803 Disappointment is a big part of life. If you don't have expectations of others and hopes you'll fall into pessimism and depression. People often behave the way I expect, since most of them are easy to read and aren't hiding much, but that's not relevant to this topic. The nice guy in the video may have doomed himself to failure, but it still has nothing to do with the Giovanni's initial claim that the guy was not genuine. Your personal life is only anecdotal evidence though. Science knows which mathematical ratios of the human face are considered globally beautiful. Google *Jeremy Meeks* for example and his life story. This is a fun conversation.
If you are obsessed with “making the right moves” and being nice, it feels like you aren’t true to yourself. Girls want a guy who respects themself first.
Well, sometimes you need to fake on sth to get the one you like, believe me! Don't you wanna behave well(sometimes it won't be real you) in front of him or her?
@Hellkite1999 Yes ok but I don't understand the point, if she doesn't like me as I am, I can't be me anymore. Women can't expect someone to be a strong, confident man when you have to be their bitch to match that!
Men are also just human beings, everyone who demands that women are in the kitchen and obey, is sexist but women simply assign a role to men and sort everyone else out as nice guys, nerds or anything else
Nice guy or not, no one is entitled to anyone else's affection (except maybe children regarding their parents). I learned that the hard way. It sucks, but you just have to accept, be friends or move on.
That was beautiful!!! So many topics and views being covered in ten minutes, and you blended it together so perfectly. The acting is on point, lighting is gorgeous, and the story-line literally had me commenting the entire time. "Oh my gosh! I love the way they did that." "Seriously, Yess!!!" I was totally into it. You guys rock!
Somehow this video made 2 grown up women cry about their past relationships, forced 2 to singing polish 90' sad songs and I'm just sitting in middle of this chaos with ice creams wanting to know who is this girl cousin... #winenights #wearenotqualifiedtobeadults
UPDATE: Only 1 person is still crying, sad polish songs turned into BgA/David Choi karaoke, I'm running ot of ice creams and in the corner 2 of my best friends arguing about which video should start our Wong Fu binge-watch. How 5 women in their late 20s/early 3s from Poland ended here like this will be unsolved mystery :) #friendshipsareweird #powerofvideo
I'm so happy with that ending! it's finally brought up!! He was totally in the wrong for giving that as his reason for being nice, just to be with her. just be nice to be nice, don't expect a girl to date you cause you're being a good person that just makes you worse than the jerks out there. I'm really excited to see how this character will redeem himself.
Sydney Yang IKR we'll give the chance if you be patient and actually win our heart over time then ill date you, but that's only if we say we don't know our feelings yet, if we don't like you, it's not gonna change, you can't make us fall for you if it makes us feel like the relationship is an obligation, we'll just want it to end
The thing is, people want what they can't get. There's just something coveted about something unobtainable that makes people want to desire it. Many times, people will go for relationships, then back out (or "change their mind" after a one night stand) simply because of this. If people know you like them, they don't want a relationship, but if people think that you're not interested, sometimes, they want to go for it? he's the "Brother," but the girl doesn't not like him because of his persona, it's that he's nice.
Love it around 6:30 he essentially has checked out right away...zoned out. The guy is done period. LOL@ 8:34 "what's the point?"...the girl is upset he won't simp anymore for her.
Dude, this was awesome. Good work. So much was said without it being written. So many people wont understand all scenarios but most of us have been in your position and there is a balance to it. A+
He should have just asked the girl out before he went through all the trouble of trying to be her bff. I mean that's probably what made her put him in the friend zone, he was acting like her best friend.
True. I was interested in a guy once and then we became friends and now I know all of his dating-stories, his problems with his parents etc. I guess I know too much about him. He's a hateful person. If we just dated, I could have maybe ignored that. But now that I know it I can't just forget it.
@@annikaohnenachname9895 Then you should probably not date anyone to be honest. Isn't loving someone about accepting they have problems and YOU have them too. Working them out is the challenging part, which people don't want to put work into. You say you want to ignore his issues but I'd personally try to find out what makes a person tick rather than avoid it and see if I can love them with their faults rather than see them as this perfect being.
@@infinitelightnin6424 It's not about having problems. It's about how you deal with them. My parents used to hit me as a child. But I forgave them and have a very good relationship with them now. He talks bad about them just because they work too much in his opinion. He talks nad about friends because they ask him how he is. Because he thinks it's not genuine when someone asks. And believe me. I tried to convince him about a thousand times in a polite way. That just makss him angrier. That just makes me loose all my interest. The last guy I dated was a refugee from Syria. I'm not saying that everything was perfect, otherwhise we wouldn't have broken up. But he had so many problems and he still tried to fight them and live a good live, didn't give up. And that's so important. I used to have sociophobia and ptsd, but I solved everything on my own, becauae I never gave up. I am a very positive person now and I think I'm even becoming an extrovert. And forgiving was always key. I am not even Christian, but I know how important it is to forgive those, who harmed you. Because that means peace for yourself. No one cares if you're still angry with them. Only you care. You're the person who feels bad about being angry. And I don't think I would've gotten over my trauma and my sociophobia, if I didn't forgive everyone. But some people will never understand that. Those people are not for me.
@@infinitelightnin6424 Oh and in general I think we all have our priorities. No one's perfect but there are things that we could accept and things we won't accept. I'm not gonna accept people who are hateful for apparently no reason and who won't overthink that. That's a very bad sign. And btw the 'problems' of my ex boyfriends haven't been the reason why I broke up. With the first one it just wasn't real love and the second one started treating me like trash after a few months, which is not only his fault, because I let him, wasn't brave enough to leave for six months and only cried. He's not a bad person in general I guess he just didn't have the courage to say "I don't love you anymore and wanna break up", so made me break up. But that has nothing to do with his problems. You can't force someone to love you. I always helped him with all of his problems. But if someone stops loving me, I can't do anything about it. I just wished he would've said something.
Victoria Rowe most men are taught by the women around them, i.e mothers, aunts, sisters, female friends to be nice guys, friendly, accommodating etc...so I guess by default most men shouldn't listen to anything women say pertaining to love/realtionships...
What I love about this first part is that it perfectly captures the typical mindset of a "nice guy". These kinds of people are always expecting something from the other person I know this because I was this "nice guy" too once. Way too many expectations and way too many mistakes of presenting a false version of yourself in hopes of them liking the real you.
If he wanted to get with her from the beginning, why didn't he just ask her out? Why did he wait until they became friends to tell her that he liked her?
miriam villa Because there is this concept going around that says you have to be friends before going further, mostly pushed by women because they can't decide and tells guys they want to be friends first or they don't like the guy and tries to be "nice" even though just like girls accusing guys of being fake nice to get in their pants they're being fake nice so they don't "feel" bad or look like a jerk when rejecting a guy. Everybody is fake in the social sphere. Just look at fb and twitter.
Nice guy or a bad guy, everyone in some point of their life got rejected. I believe we all have our own stories to tell. But, its a good lesson we just cannot miss from life. Sooner or later we will get to meet the love of our life. Be yourself to the best of yourself. Stick to your dreams- and just do not give up on LOVE💑
from the guys POV... he is chasing the girl and seeing her as a potential partner... it is natural to be niceR to the girl that he likes... theres nothing ''fake'' about it... besides girls like it when they get attention and special treatment... i mean who doesn't? however, in this case... it is the guys fault for asking why wasnt he given a chance because even though it is a question... the question sounds like a demand... and hence leading to the girl feeling obligated to reciprocate when in fact, she doesnt need to... in another scenario, if the girl complains and judges the guy for not being as nice to her as before she rejected him, and even judges him for being ''fake'', then it would be the girls fault
But i think women take advantage of that at the same time. People could be nice to one another but when you see someone going the extra mile you do have to think that this person is doing it because they deeply care about you and would like to be more than friends with you. I saw some women take this and use men to later discard them when they find something "better". Thats quite evil in my view. I know she doesnt owe the guy anything but as an adult you should know what your attitude is conveying to a man when you ask for favors or for them to go out of their way to serve you.
All hail to Medusa no.... it’s called being a friend. Just because u ask a guy for favour or to hang out or some guy is extra nice, it doesn’t mean they owe them anything just because they’re like that. Your last line is very hypocritical saying (from what I can see) “sure she doesn’t owe him anything, but she owes him love because he was kind to her.” People can be kind without any ulterior motives, and it’s disgusting to assume just because they don’t return your feelings they are “evil” for choosing someone else. And it’s sad to assume all people are kind because they like you, why can’t they be kind because they want to be kind? All in all, your comment is reflecting exactly what the “nice guy” is trying to get across in the video, just because you treat someone kindly it doesn’t mean they *have* to be in a relationship with you. And it’s not just men btw, this is for women as well.
Just a note - "girls like it when they get attention and special treatment" - don't do that. Treat a girl like your equal, not like she's some unicorn princess who needs special treatment above everyone else. I've had the "special treatment" done to me before and trust me, it does not help with your chances of getting a girl. If you wouldn't do it for another guy or a girl you aren't attracted to, you ~probably~ shouldn't do it for a girl you're attracted to.
I just told my best friend what i feel for her, and the only thing she said, is that she is desappointed, and we'll never be more than friends. I am completely fine :,) R.I.P my heart F
@matelengyel941 duuuude wtf I didn't even remember this shit, we actually started dating some months ago and she disappointed me again so I just sent her to hell man (not literally)
How did she disappoint you? Did you have like an idealized version of her in your head and then u got to know her better and realized she's not even that perfect? Obviously u can tell I'm speaking from experience. :D
@matelengyel941 dude you said it all, she actually changed a lot during this 3 years and it was not the same person I feel in love with yk, she started doing some weird shit like wanting me to bring another guy to have sex with us???? at that point I just said fuck you and got out
I feel like what he was doing was manipulative in a way. Like, you can't assume that just because you're nice to someone and then tell them that you're interested that they have to like you back. It may not be because you're "nice", they just may not be into you romantically.
Are people seriously like that? What's with this friendzone bs these days. It's your responsibility dude to combine your "niceness" with a charming character that makes the girl like you as a lover and not just as a friend. You got to be clear with your intentions from the beginning - anything else is shady. If you can't do it you simply are not decent enough to be her lover. Exactly the same goes for girls. If you a like a guy, be charming and nice to him and things will move on beyond him ignoring you. Implies that you guys actually already took care of your external beauty before trying to show your internal one.
Jay Jack Actually, it's not really surface personality that attracts people. It's physical, biological. It's called pheromones. Guys need adequate amounts of Testosterone as well. Girls need Estrogen. It's a hormonal thing that can literally distort an individual's perception of another. Personality adds to this but only if the "chemistry" is there.
Dude, exactly. Make your intentions known from the beginning. You can be friendly AND flirtatious at the same time. Being ONLY friendly and nice puts you into the friend zone to which you may never get out of, and at which point, the ball goes out of your court and is entirely in hers to make any move. Being friendly AND flirtatious leaves an opening to change the relationship into a more than friends, or to remain in the friend zone. Once in the friend zone, it's hard to get out.
Because I know exactly what it feels like to be this guy. Watching this brought tears to come. Bravo Wong Fu another amazing short which has managed to remind me the beauty and pain of nice guys.
you do realize this portrays nice guys negatively right? like as over entitled little losers who think that just because they were nice to a girl, they think she owes them her body, and throw a tantrum when the girls not into her right?
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IT'S MAH BOY MOTOKIII
I have been studying English for 2 years, and now I'm able to understand fully what they're saying without even switching the subtitles on, I just can't believe it XDD
Update 2023 : it s been 3 years. This commentary got over 780 likes 🤣 and my level in english even grew bigger since. I think I'm starting to reach C1 but some work is still required. I'd like to thank all the kindness steaming out from people that kept supporting me in this comment section, it warms my heart. Y'all amazing 🥰
Saaaaaaaaaaaame, feels awesome, right!?!?
I know this is late but good job.
Congrats💜
Congrats 👏👏👏
Good for you 👏🏻
Be kind always, but don't expect anything. Always try your best to keep your feelings in check until you know for sure the feeling could be mutual.
Not everyone is going to reciprocate your interests. That's life. Focus on you and someone will come along.
No one really owes anyone anything. Maybe respect, but you can't expect fantasy to become reality. If it hurts too much, keep some distance.
This happens to everyone. Again, focus on yourself and something will eventually come along. Usually the wait is worth the final product in the end. Remember, be kind.
Right on !
@Joshy Zamael some people need a partner in their lives or at least think they need one
you right. totally... but some dont want just wait for “the right”.... they like to have some “wrongs” before the right is here.
"someone will come along" whats the scientific proof that this will be true? there are trillions of good guys who are single and remained single their whole lives, so give some proof of this overused and frankly pathetic line
KARTIKEYA007 yep your right but not actually because their a higher chance of what the person said. Look at it half full and not half empty
This is like Buzzfeed films but about 100000000% better
buzzfeed is cancer
lmao
Buzzfeed is shit...
Anything would be better.
Ciaelise F. Lol true
Even the white girl is from BuzzFeed
What she said was totally true!! When a girl turns a guy down it's not because he's a nice guy, it's because she doesn't feel the chemistry, that's all.
Quinn
Yes. Their hyperganous nature.
Quinn yeah she feels like she needs an alpha male that treats her rite and establishes a clear dominance cuz women like that shit right?
all he has to do is change the chemistry
i dont think ive heard of people trying that
total asshole as a last resort to see if shes into that persona
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Right? And no, sometimes you can't just change the chemistry. Whatever he felt was just from his side. I've had many guys who were charming and taking initiative but I just felt nothing and it's not my fault.
I love how she flipped the pressure back on him without answering the question.
That ending is EXCELLENT. She is absolutely right. This "nice guy" concept is somewhat flawed. Men need to learn that being a decent human being does not warrant ANYTHING from a girl or potential partner. It goes both ways. Thank you Wong Fu for this quality short!
but when that same girl winds up with someone who is trash she can't complain about it because she made her choice though.
john smith Exactly. Those women should be ignored.
Doesn't mean the first choice was any better.
Um, no. I think women should take what people do for them into account at least right? I know for a fact you can get a girl while being a nice guy. But for whatever reason its easier if your not. And that's f*cked up
If.you are being genuinely nice, that is
why is wong fu so underrated?
Because Asian
Because America’s target audience
Maybe because no one likes real ass content
Because Hollywood is full of WHITE PEOPLE #TRUTH #stopdenying
Bitch they have 3 million subscribers tf
I was told I was “too nice” by several women. I haven’t been told that for 32 years. I’ve made sure of it and been happily married for 31 years.
Really?
Ngl they had us in the first half
The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work... when you go to church... when you pay your taxes. It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.
Neo: What truth?
Morpheus: That you are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else you were born into bondage. Into a prison that you cannot taste or see or touch. A prison for your mind.
Morpheus The Matrix
im confused. So did you make sure you weren't "too nice?"
If Wong Fu shorts exist in their universe, and Wong Fu shorts exist in our universe, does that mean we are all in a Wong Fu short 😱
"..Stupid!"- Jenn, Ashley, Taylor
"(Cool alternate sci-fi theory)" - Wes
"(Funnier joke than I could come up with)" - Benson
"Wait, who's Phil and Chris?" - Michael
The only things I keep in my shorts are; wallet, phone, keys, pocket knife, headphones, receipts, loose change on occasion, maybe a usb cord/battery pack. Cargo pockets should be on all clothing.
And the series Offline was about the wong fu crew working at wong fu.I smell a conspiracy theory
bensonq omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣 HOW ARE YOU SO GOOD
uh, nobody's talking about the fact that the protagonist, in trying too hard to avoid the "nice guy" situation, has been sort of a jerk to the girl he likes, which also backfires?
I think that message is just as important as the entitlement issue or whether nice guys do finish last.
From my understanding, avoiding the "nice guy" situation really means stop giving the impression that your help and kindness comes cheap and is thus forgettable,
but if you take it the wrong way and start acting like a horrible person, that's where things also go wrong.
I learned a long time ago that being a dick does actually work. In my experience women want their interactions to be memorable. Something they can talk about with other women and spend hours trying to see through it. Drama is very easy to raise emotion and make it memorable. Switch back and forth between nice and being a dick keeps them pulled in unfortunately.
starspawn i
You're literally contradicting your points 😂
shihoblade wow, I bet you’ve had long lasting relationships.
@@shihoblade damn fr?
That's weird, I don't remember being filmed...
It's okay Ruby, uncle Qrow still loves you:)
OOOOOOOHHHHHH DAAAAYYUM!!! CHEEEZY GOODNESS!
Typical Asian Joke
Shit is this me in the past life? Wth foreveralone
Yeah me neither.
oh my god that nigahiga song cracked me up lmao!!!
OMG it's happening again. Yes, I've been wait for this for so long. And this is such a huge improvement from the original. Wong Fu have come far
AwesomeEmmaTV
I know right. Time to buy the next 2 parts and binge watch
That Brown Guy There you are again...Hey dude go watch the newest JKP video it's funny
Pack_Ratz
Yeah I watched it, it's cray cray
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Choyn Guy l
I thought she said “no I like dating my brother”🤢😂
incest is wincest
The thing with incest is that aslong as u keep it in the family its cool.
lmfao
I did as well lol 🤣
It's like that Folgers incest commercial.
"And then I realized...That's what a nice guy would do."
Me: *Dude, noooooooooooo*
You know, some times the Nice guy is just "Nice" to hot girls
In that moment you see a normal guy
Not a nice guy
👍👍👍
I'm nice to everyone(except those I hate obviously, I ignore them), but just nice-er to the person I like... I usually take out all of my pain on myself which makes it an endless loop of... yeah
never feel like you're entitled to someone. that's a huge problem with this recent generation, especially with guys. everyone wants instant gratification, instant success, 100% acceptance rate. in a society where we can get hot fast food in 2 minutes, amazon packages in 2 days, and netflix streams at the tip of our fingers in 2 seconds, everyone thinks that they need things immediately RIGHT NOW. it's the same thing with college applications, course grades, job applications, social circles / popularity. people want prompt recognition that they're valuable, and they measure their self-worth with acceptance from others, including which girls they get to date.
if one of your core values is to be nice to everyone, since it's the right thing to do, then you can't get angry when the girl you like rejects you, regardless of how much effort you've put into that friendship. nothing you do gives you the right to that person's decisions, and if you authentically like and care about them, then you should be able to respect their decision, whether or not they give you a justification for why they chose to reject you.
mehwhyausername1 so basically you're saying to go fuck yourself..
Mafaman no this video is clearly the opposite.
WELL SAID! WONDERFUL THOUGHTS!!! ignore the haters, I totally agree with you! not everything you do is about YOU
Mafaman clearly you havent seen r/ niceguys. And we say the niceguy line to let guys down easy because we genuinly fucking care sometimes. Othertimes were just creeped out and want to get tf out.
I get the sense that you haven't talked to a girl in like 3 years. That or you've been rejected about 33 times
Atleast she didn't say, "I have a boyfriend!".
That's still better than being rejected
I told my crush that I liked her, there being an awkward pause.. then she said "I have a boyfriend." it hurt so bad
Zack Serna ouch! That's real painful
That's true
What you saying?
It sucks that fake nice guys ruin the reputation of genuine nice guys. It pisses me off when I see my friends being nice and when they get rejected they get mad. I always love helping others and just doing good deeds but people always think I do it to get sex or something else from them.
AlexRoverClub You sir sound like a nice guy.
You're great and I'm sorry people think about you that way. I personally try to see the good in people, but I also don't wanna be naive. That's sometimes not easy.
🤣😂 I’m not a nice guy. Or a bad guy really. I’m Me 100% Of The time and it works for me. Don’t have time to be getting mad about other people.
@@goodyoutuber5063
I can tell by that comment that you habe an awesome personality. I'm the same way. I am nice to everyone and if someone is unfriendly to me, I don't give a shit, I don't start a fight, I just stop talking to them. I say what I'm thinking and if people don't like me, that's their problem, not mine.
Thank you for this. This should be the top comment
It all sums up to just this line - "Don't expect anything"
@@bigwheel9468 love is just another way of Being delusional.
More like expect everything, including rejections.
"It seemed like she was feeling something too."
That was the mistake. You never assume. Even if she got on top of you and said she could never imagine life without you, it's a false hint!
AceOfROMs she's naked in your bed cuddling with you. Still unclear
- Casually Explained
AceOfROMs bruh my legs got weak
AceOfROMs OH
ziljin lol You watch him as well! Ayyyy!
lmaooo
WAIT THATS THE GIRL FROM THAT DISNEY SHOW
Neha Sinha Yep. Piper Curda from the show "I Didn't Do It".
Aviebizzydfreak6 Oh yeah I didn't do it is where she's from!! I couldn't figure out which Disney show I saw her in lol
I knew i recognised her from somewhere
ANT FARMMMMM she was THE debate prodigy
AND YOU ARE THE GIRL FROM MY DREAM *smooth*
There's a difference between "nice guys" and nice guys.
Preach!
Nice = weak
passerell that is wildly untrue
mildly*
@@076657 Nothing says "strong" like being an abusive asshole right? *inserts extra sarcasm here just to make sure "
*Oh Oh Oh*
Take it down
Play it straight
Dont look back
Dont hesitate
When you go *Big Time*
BIG TIME RUSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Prepare for a "Why I left Buzzfeed" video soon by Kelsey.
Simon Cowell Ha!
Simon Cowell???
there is one more girl from Buzzfeed
Simon Cowell true
Maybe she got fired
I have a hard time understanding these because my husband and I were friends for almost a year before we started dating... definitely feel that a good solid friendship is the best foundation for a lasting relationship.
missjo5ie
I think friendship should be part of the relationship.
Feeling is nothing compared to experience
So inspirational....so manifestational....my eyes are tearing listening to your story...al hail janoy cresvna it sick
You need to have sexual tension from the start
HA THE PLUG OF THE ORIGINAL VIDEO AND THE MV!!!! I'm dead. This is so good I'm so excited for the rest of the series. Amazing job Wong Fu!!!
Also... was "Asian Student Society" intentionally meant to spell out ASS!? Hahaha amazing!
This is quality production ...very entertaining ...thumbs up
I'd rather be a nice guy than get into a crap relationship
They both have their problems. Crap relationships are well....crap, but the way the guy does stuff here isn't right. Those things he tried would be good IF HE MEANT THEM, but it was all an act because he expected something in return. He's no different from the ones who do nice things for a reward and who wouldn't do them no matter what. Word of advice: live life on your own terms. The people who fit into whatever this is will come in, and you'll enjoy it.
noodleknows I agree
kagemaru397 indeed my man.
I agree..
If you get friendzoned it's usually the guy's fault. Men get friendzoned when they behave like a friend, how else should a woman register your behaviour? Present yourself as a romantic interest not as a friend. Anyone can be nice, that's why it doesn't work. When you want someone to see you as a romantic interest, you need to let them know that you are special by setting yourself apart from everyone else. If women had relationships with men just because they were nice then they would be dating every guy that walked down the street. Have some sense!
It's a sin that you guys don't have 3 mil subs yet!
Almost there tho!! 😁
*Absolutely looking forward to the milestone video. The first 2 were awesome!*
Its because you're nice guys
its incredible that wong fu has never had as many subs are they deserve
you have people like tanner fox with almost twice their subs
my only Wongfu complaint is the dialogue is so white-ish. Asian ppl do not talk like Chandler and Rachel
Hahaha, the term of nice guy and friendzone are very overrated these days. A nice guy is a guy who'd be super nice to someone just because he likes that someone, and at the end will get friendzoned because he's fake. Real nice guys be nice to everyone, enjoy the dating process, and won't cling on one girl. Nice series btw
Akioblast 95 I am nice to everyone I meet in general. I am.not fake. Explain why I am a "nice guy" then!
theres a difference in basic manners and being nice
Since the term "nice guy" has been tainted in the way that is has, I believe the "good man" should be the genuinely kind guy people should strive to be.
I'm just nice. If I like a girl then I'd be nice and if I got friendzoned I would still be nice.
Akioblast 95 that's wrong lol nice guys are nice to everyone the problem is they STILL get friendzoned.
I don’t mind being single. I just want no drama in life 😂
Sometimes coloring your live is good. Because it would become old story that you can laugh when you remember.
She doesn't owe him anything, but neither does he. If he doesn't want to be friends anymore he has all the right to. And so what's wrong with being nice to people and expect something from them, relationships of all kinds go both ways, UNCONDITIONAL love is a disney fairy tale.
Keep your BS and Self-righteousness to yourself.
The problem is she thought they were friends and being nice to your friends is normal, it's not unconditional, she was nice to him but she didn't expect more. Rejection sucks and it's okay to be hurt and maybe also distance yourself from the person. What is not okay is saying she was using him, it's not okay that he was nice only because he wanted something more.
Because it’s selfish that’s why ,doing something for someone and then thinking you’re entitled to get something back is selfish,not only the person you’re doing whatever your doing for is going to be mad and realize not to be friends with you, your going to be mad because your thinking you deserve something back when you actually don’t/should have done something without any strings attached so with that being said to end this statement it’s selfish that’s it the end
@@berryblueish13 did you read my First sentence? Looks like you didn't.
It's just a jerk move, as if company and friendship was not enough. It's sad from our perspective because we care about our "friend" only to find out it was just a phasade. They might say let's stay friends but they will have you in the back of their mind as a possibility. Also don't tune out the girl if she's explaining why not, important details you might miss....
She might not want a relationship because she's not confident or doesn't feel ready to give.
If you're a jerk in return, kills any chance you had plus shows lack of confidence too.
that being said idealy he shoudnt lash out, end the friendship in a mature way. Lashing out shows weakness...desperation.
hold his emotions in till hes alone.
Okay enough! Have any of you considered the possibility that maybe not every guy in the world is born knowing how to get a girl to like him? You can't control who you like, feelings like this are not something you can turn off or on, and since it is inevitable to like a girl at some point, what the hell is a guy to do with this feeling? He doesn't know what to do, or say, so he just does the only thing he knows how to do, being kind and nice, the only thing he can think of. Of course he is going to be pissed off, and of course he is going to feel taken for granted and used and incredibly desperate when it doesn't work. He is not a misogynist and he is not feeling entitled to a girl. HE JUST DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE IS SUPPOSED TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!. All he knows is that he has feelings for her and he is supposed to do something. He is just watching the girl he likes fly away from him, while he drowns being taken by a current of desperation . It's one of the most heartbreaking experiences that exist to realize you mean very little to the person who means the world to you, that she'll eventually find someone who will mean the world to her and you can't do anything but watch it happen with a fake smile, while you feel death inside and now we also villanize people who experienced that on top of everything else. Fuck you, fuck you for thinking guys should be charismatic and charming by default, fuck you for thinking we are somehow supposed to magically know what to do, fuck you for thinking nice guys are manipulative. Fuck you for feeling you deserve perfection, when you know you are not perfection yourself. Fuck you for thinking guys should be nice for the sake of being nice, when clearly they are just human beings, with faults and live events that drove them to not be as nice as you would like. when clearly Fuck you all. You Fuckers. She is not to blame, for this, but he is certainly not to be blamed either and shouldn't be judged for thinking niceness might work. Is he suddenly not so nice when she doesn't return his feelings, why not, why would he possibly wait around for her to find someone and feel pain? Is avoiding that heart breaking pain something you find hypocritical, so be it. Guys were not put in this world to serve you. Are these guys in need of learning a lot of things and experiencing personal growth? Yes, but don't you dare villanize someone for something like this, especially when you don't know the pain they feel.
Why has this comment only 10+1 likes??
tldr, but this series was made for people who think like you
Dude, use spaces for the love of god, my eyes hurt by just scrolling that big block of text.
@@jessica4656 you don't know the pain of liking someone and them being your entire world and thinking they like you to and having all that ripped away so you wouldn't understand and you cant blame him for not wanting to be friends anymore if it is just hurting him more I don't blame him for not wanting to watch some new guy be everything she needs/wants and wondering why you aren't enough until you know how this feels you cant say stuff like that
And for most nice guys this happens more than once they mess up the first time eventually try again and you think this time it will really work to have your soul ripped out over and over again it messes with you head and I think he could give her a better reason he doesn't want to be friends but the same way he cant be mad when she says no, she cant be mad when he doesn't want to be friends and deal with more heart break
I know men like that. They are overly nice, but if you are not into them, they cuss you out afterwards.
I M A QYN lmao.... This reminded me of sorrow TV lol
I M A QYN they're the fucking worst
nice guys
i know girls like that too
It's because you just wasted all of their time. Maybe if he was a player it wouldn't matter, but he clearly is not. Even if you are not trying to use them, if they are beta enough, they will do nice things for you just because they like you. Girls don't want a guy like that until they are ready to settle. The approach of these nice guys is not the best for actually attracting women, but you have to understand that acting that way is something that is taught by feminists, and they are going to be devastated when the one girl they like dismisses them. Anyway, "nice guys" actually are very pathetic, I know because I am one. Also there is no such thing as a nice guy because all men are sex and power hungry maniacs, and nice guys are just in denial.
3:31 OMG THAT MIAH AND ALEX SHIBUTANI YESSSS
"Nice guys finish last"
PowahSlap Entertainmint thats why I'll treat you like trash
kookie monster it's not what I really want to do
Ohh.., you only treat bad guys though...
Sooo I'll give you my best try to
Andrew Li treat you the way you want me to
ugh everything about this series is perfect. the actors, the humor, the plot, the cinematography. I love you WF
My bf is a super nice guy, but he didn't play any games or mess about, he told me 30 minutes after meeting me he was into me and we've been together ever since. It's not a question of being nice or not. Just be honest from the beginning!
teddie552 YAASSS
Because you guys don't have the "lady balls" to tell us if you're into us. It's easy to give advice when you don't have to do the heavy lifting or take any risks.
I met a girl a couple of weekends ago. I got her number and told her that I'd love to hang out sometime. She instantly took that as me being madly in love with her and got creeped out. What did I do wrong?
Charlie Edmonson Nothing fuck her!
Aubrey Rex I salute you
Nice guy's don't finish last. If someone likes you they will like you. Being nice has nothing to do with it.
LMAO those past Wongfu video flashbacks!!! GENIUS!!!
I was hoping this was an old video and all the parts were out already. Can't wait for the next one!
We'll see you next week! Or watch it all now at vimeo.com/ondemand/justanotherniceguy/
As a current nice guy the best thing to do if a girl shuts you down, just don't be her friend. It's hard being around someone whom just shut you down and still expects you to listen to them talk about other potential partners. If it hurts brother you just gotta shut that shit down and then be upfront with the next girl sooner.. rinse and repeat til you find the one.
Very Great Kids needed this, stay strong brœthers.
I don't think that's fair to the girl, because for some people, they might like you but only after they know you for longer. Being friends is still okay, and if they're nice, they won't talk about other potential partners in front of you, but still want to hang out and do things with you
This, it is just awkward for both parts involved of course you are not going to be a super asshole to the other person, but realize things aren't going to be the same anymore, just move along and believe me, more people to hang out will come to your life so never fear to ruin a friendship by revealing what you feel, it is way worse to suffer in secret.
How should I cut someone off like that bruh. I feel like that shits just so harsh. I wouldn’t know how to say it to someone
lol.
I love these types of videos. They're so atmospheric.
Most self proclaimed nice guys are not nice, they think we owe them something for being nice.
Ana Clarke i agree. It sucks how people think that. But then again, can we really blame people?
Getting a little philosophical here, but there's only two main theories of how personalities form. Maybe you've heard of "Nature Vs. Nurture". Both theories imply that it's not their fault they're like that. They're either like that because of their surrounding experiences and what they're taught (out of their control), or their personalities are carried since birth (again, out of their control). And, at least where I live, kids ARE taught being nice pays off. Luckily for me I stumbled upon the quote "Expecting the world to be kind to you because you're kind to the world is dumb. It's like expecting a lion not to eat you because you don't eat lion".
What Not To Do At a Stoplight preach it brother!
What Not To Do At a Stoplight so true
What Not To Do At a Stoplight Terrible women, maybe.
No unlike females most men are genuine and don't have alterier motives for their actions.
what’s even worse is being the nice girl who’s in love with the nice guy and the nice guy doesn’t like u back
Im in that position rn
At least you can show some legs to... turn things on ^^
I think that's the same situation with roles reversed lol
Cowboy James i mean like a love triangle where the nice guy doesn’t realize he’s not the only one with unrequited love
sooper salad lol tough.
Anybody think he looks a bit like Jimmy Fallon?
lexnite22 omg I see it too when he makes certain facial expressions
Well, not unseeing that now. Cheers.
I see Taeyang, Ezra Miller, and now that you said it, I see Jimmy Fallon lol
Yeah true
Jimmy Fallon with Asian filter
There is a difference between nice guys and kind guys. Period.
1:32 Kristen is Buzzfeed's Kelsey?
Ikr
YESSS! I was waiting for someone to finally notice! :D
That "To Be Continued" transition was just as devastating as the transition to the credits on last Sunday's Game of Thrones. DAMN YOU WONGGGG FUUU.
His lips are so pillowy!!! 😄 oh and great first episode
Sam Y yeah ! I noticed as well ! How nice it would feel like if you poke it 🤔
i admitted my feelings to a girl. she said “is this a joke” and started laughing.
F
i have a friend and she thought the guy who confessed to her was joking and was only fulfilling a dare. Which turned out to be true. So if that was the girl's point of view I would understand. Also, that girl could've been really nervous and said that just to make sure. But I'm just looking at the positive possibilities
i feel you king💤
I would have told her, if you are not being serious for one moment, you are not a true friend. Just someone who wanted to get their way.
Fuck these kind of people, they are not done growing up, maturing and just want to fucking party. It takes all my energy I have to hold myself back from not beating the living shit out of their abusive BF.
1:50 Wait is that a BuzzFeed girl?
ziljin yes! Kelsey I think!
Henry N. she quit didn't she?
Why is Kelsey in this video?
I don't think so. Didn't see her "Why I Left Buzzfeed" video.
ziljin yeah that's Kelsey
Your not a nice guy Bc u want something out of it, your a nice guy Bc u like being nice. Nice guys r nice guys. Nothing more
Im a threshcan
This comment needs to be featured
Real nice guys get taken advantage of so much that they become assholes
Not a Cop I was gonna disagree but I see ur point, it’s kinda like u either die a hero or live long enough to see urself as a villain
Im a threshcan batman reference?
Jason Dorsey yeah
Damn you guys are really fucking good actors
Eddie Gonzalez ya bro and all cw tv series actors sucks.
Jesus.... This was heavy as heck.
I relate to always trying to be nice, but I've never expected anything from others from it.
This video does bring on some good points. Just because a person is acting nice, doesn't mean it's genuine all the time. Also, no one is entitled to anything.
So.. I like the message.
Niceness isn't a sign of romantic intentions, it should be a sign of basic human decency
Where in the video was implied that he expected anything from others from the niceness? He was even trying to not be nice to avoid that.
@@AkiRa22084 The main problem is that he expected "a chance" for being nice to the girl he liked. But the problem is that he waited so long to tell her he liked her. That's really the crux of the issue. For women, it's easy to put someone in "the friend zone" if they seem like they just want to be friends. Basically, giving us mixed signals like that can cause a lot of confusion (and really...she might have thought he was gay. o.o He pretended that he didn't notice any other girls at all...or rather, forgot who they were. Not only is that very odd, but she might have had that thought "huh...he doesn't notice girls at all...maybe he's into guys and in the closet?" That's an automatic friend zone right there.)
@@ohfortheloveofguacamole6803 What's wrong with expecting a chance? Sure, he did it the wrong way, I agree, but that has nothing to do with what Giovanni said. The guy was "genuine" nice from start to end.
Also, off topic, but there is no such thing as "friend zone" for gorgeous men. Even if they seem "in the closet".
@@AkiRa22084 When someone has expectations, then they are doomed to disappointment. You should never have an expectation when it comes to another person's behavior. For one, you can only control yourself. For two, people never behave the way you expect. It's simply dooming yourself to failure.
As for gorgeous men...there's a reason people say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Men you may consider "gorgeous" might not always be seen that way by other women. The same is likely true in reverse. The things that we find attractive are quite variable after all.
My husband's originally from India and I consider him gorgeous. I assume other women do as well, given how many throw themselves at him. But there's likely women who would friend-zone him because they just prefer a different type of guy (blondes or redheads, maybe.) Goodness knows my husband is very picky about girls. That I happen to check all of his "this is a beautiful woman" boxes is happenstance. I would consider myself fairly plain, personally. I think a lot of women agree with that sentiment, because I have gotten many a side-eye over the years (the whole "how on earth did *that* girl get him? She's not even that pretty?!" type. lol) But to him, I'm what he likes. (Of course, after being married 11 years, there's also that familiarity factor and the love that goes into it...but still. I'm often surprised that my husband ever approached me.)
@@ohfortheloveofguacamole6803 Disappointment is a big part of life. If you don't have expectations of others and hopes you'll fall into pessimism and depression.
People often behave the way I expect, since most of them are easy to read and aren't hiding much, but that's not relevant to this topic.
The nice guy in the video may have doomed himself to failure, but it still has nothing to do with the Giovanni's initial claim that the guy was not genuine.
Your personal life is only anecdotal evidence though. Science knows which mathematical ratios of the human face are considered globally beautiful. Google *Jeremy Meeks* for example and his life story.
This is a fun conversation.
If you are obsessed with “making the right moves” and being nice, it feels like you aren’t true to yourself. Girls want a guy who respects themself first.
Well, sometimes you need to fake on sth to get the one you like, believe me!
Don't you wanna behave well(sometimes it won't be real you) in front of him or her?
@Hellkite1999 Yes ok but I don't understand the point, if she doesn't like me as I am, I can't be me anymore. Women can't expect someone to be a strong, confident man when you have to be their bitch to match that!
Men are also just human beings, everyone who demands that women are in the kitchen and obey, is sexist but women simply assign a role to men and sort everyone else out as nice guys, nerds or anything else
This
Absolute bollocks.
When is just a nice girl coming out?
never because People attack you if you turn down a Girl apparently.
Then they need to cast me....😑
jose rubious birdman?
Yes we need that!!!!
Nice guy or not, no one is entitled to anyone else's affection (except maybe children regarding their parents). I learned that the hard way. It sucks, but you just have to accept, be friends or move on.
That was beautiful!!! So many topics and views being covered in ten minutes, and you blended it together so perfectly. The acting is on point, lighting is gorgeous, and the story-line literally had me commenting the entire time. "Oh my gosh! I love the way they did that." "Seriously, Yess!!!" I was totally into it. You guys rock!
Wow this was so well produced
Somehow this video made 2 grown up women cry about their past relationships, forced 2 to singing polish 90' sad songs and I'm just sitting in middle of this chaos with ice creams wanting to know who is this girl cousin... #winenights #wearenotqualifiedtobeadults
that's what we here for!!
UPDATE: Only 1 person is still crying, sad polish songs turned into BgA/David Choi karaoke, I'm running ot of ice creams and in the corner 2 of my best friends arguing about which video should start our Wong Fu binge-watch. How 5 women in their late 20s/early 3s from Poland ended here like this will be unsolved mystery :) #friendshipsareweird #powerofvideo
I'm so happy with that ending! it's finally brought up!! He was totally in the wrong for giving that as his reason for being nice, just to be with her. just be nice to be nice, don't expect a girl to date you cause you're being a good person that just makes you worse than the jerks out there. I'm really excited to see how this character will redeem himself.
i hate that he asked for a chance
if a girl doesnt like you, there is NO WAY her feelings will change through a forced relationship
Sydney Yang IKR we'll give the chance if you be patient and actually win our heart over time then ill date you, but that's only if we say we don't know our feelings yet, if we don't like you, it's not gonna change, you can't make us fall for you if it makes us feel like the relationship is an obligation, we'll just want it to end
BOOM. Right on the nose!
The thing is, people want what they can't get. There's just something coveted about something unobtainable that makes people want to desire it. Many times, people will go for relationships, then back out (or "change their mind" after a one night stand) simply because of this. If people know you like them, they don't want a relationship, but if people think that you're not interested, sometimes, they want to go for it? he's the "Brother," but the girl doesn't not like him because of his persona, it's that he's nice.
@Fahima Abawi Can't deal with the truth?
@@jasonpeng5798 truuu
Love it around 6:30 he essentially has checked out right away...zoned out. The guy is done period. LOL@ 8:34 "what's the point?"...the girl is upset he won't simp anymore for her.
Omg its the Shibutanis!!!!!
YEAH I WAS LOOKING FOR A COMMENT THAT WOULD SAY THAT
I know^ I’m waiting for this!!
Antonio Lansang 3:31
YEEEEEEEEEEEE
How are people not talking about Alex and Maia Shibutani? The Winter Olympics bronze medalists at 3:31!
No one watches it
Saw them too im shook it was so fast
What she said at the end is so true!
Dude, this was awesome. Good work. So much was said without it being written. So many people wont understand all scenarios but most of us have been in your position and there is a balance to it. A+
Dang, both times the main protagonist "really didn't like Kristen." I wonder if there's a backstory to the name Kristen for these guys 🤔.
I think the line this time was just thrown in as a tribute to the original video.
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oughtopilot ugh kristen
Gawsh Kristen
And Steve. Fuck you Steve.
Nice guy inception 😂
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Wait wtf there's a Michelle Lee and a Michelle Li here
He should have just asked the girl out before he went through all the trouble of trying to be her bff. I mean that's probably what made her put him in the friend zone, he was acting like her best friend.
True. I was interested in a guy once and then we became friends and now I know all of his dating-stories, his problems with his parents etc. I guess I know too much about him. He's a hateful person. If we just dated, I could have maybe ignored that. But now that I know it I can't just forget it.
@@annikaohnenachname9895 Then you should probably not date anyone to be honest. Isn't loving someone about accepting they have problems and YOU have them too. Working them out is the challenging part, which people don't want to put work into. You say you want to ignore his issues but I'd personally try to find out what makes a person tick rather than avoid it and see if I can love them with their faults rather than see them as this perfect being.
@@infinitelightnin6424
It's not about having problems. It's about how you deal with them. My parents used to hit me as a child. But I forgave them and have a very good relationship with them now. He talks bad about them just because they work too much in his opinion. He talks nad about friends because they ask him how he is. Because he thinks it's not genuine when someone asks.
And believe me. I tried to convince him about a thousand times in a polite way. That just makss him angrier.
That just makes me loose all my interest.
The last guy I dated was a refugee from Syria. I'm not saying that everything was perfect, otherwhise we wouldn't have broken up. But he had so many problems and he still tried to fight them and live a good live, didn't give up. And that's so important.
I used to have sociophobia and ptsd, but I solved everything on my own, becauae I never gave up. I am a very positive person now and I think I'm even becoming an extrovert. And forgiving was always key. I am not even Christian, but I know how important it is to forgive those, who harmed you. Because that means peace for yourself. No one cares if you're still angry with them. Only you care. You're the person who feels bad about being angry. And I don't think I would've gotten over my trauma and my sociophobia, if I didn't forgive everyone.
But some people will never understand that. Those people are not for me.
@@infinitelightnin6424
Oh and in general I think we all have our priorities. No one's perfect but there are things that we could accept and things we won't accept. I'm not gonna accept people who are hateful for apparently no reason and who won't overthink that. That's a very bad sign.
And btw the 'problems' of my ex boyfriends haven't been the reason why I broke up. With the first one it just wasn't real love and the second one started treating me like trash after a few months, which is not only his fault, because I let him, wasn't brave enough to leave for six months and only cried. He's not a bad person in general I guess he just didn't have the courage to say "I don't love you anymore and wanna break up", so made me break up.
But that has nothing to do with his problems. You can't force someone to love you. I always helped him with all of his problems. But if someone stops loving me, I can't do anything about it. I just wished he would've said something.
Victoria Rowe most men are taught by the women around them, i.e mothers, aunts, sisters, female friends to be nice guys, friendly, accommodating etc...so I guess by default most men shouldn't listen to anything women say pertaining to love/realtionships...
What I love about this first part is that it perfectly captures the typical mindset of a "nice guy". These kinds of people are always expecting something from the other person I know this because I was this "nice guy" too once. Way too many expectations and way too many mistakes of presenting a false version of yourself in hopes of them liking the real you.
If he wanted to get with her from the beginning, why didn't he just ask her out? Why did he wait until they became friends to tell her that he liked her?
Bravo 👏🏽👏🏽
miriam villa
Because there is this concept going around that says you have to be friends before going further, mostly pushed by women because they can't decide and tells guys they want to be friends first or they don't like the guy and tries to be "nice" even though just like girls accusing guys of being fake nice to get in their pants they're being fake nice so they don't "feel" bad or look like a jerk when rejecting a guy. Everybody is fake in the social sphere. Just look at fb and twitter.
Lone Wander if a girl says they want to friend first, you are already in the friendzone so take the hint dam it
Well sometimes people don't get feelings for a person until they know them better and build an emotional connection.
Pooooooosayyyyy
Is this dude Mr. Bean's son?
YES
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Nice guy or a bad guy, everyone in some point of their life got rejected. I believe we all have our own stories to tell. But, its a good lesson we just cannot miss from life. Sooner or later we will get to meet the love of our life. Be yourself to the best of yourself. Stick to your dreams- and just do not give up on LOVE💑
This video is absolutely perfect. Never before in my life have I related to a video so much.
from the guys POV... he is chasing the girl and seeing her as a potential partner... it is natural to be niceR to the girl that he likes... theres nothing ''fake'' about it... besides girls like it when they get attention and special treatment... i mean who doesn't?
however, in this case... it is the guys fault for asking why wasnt he given a chance because even though it is a question... the question sounds like a demand... and hence leading to the girl feeling obligated to reciprocate when in fact, she doesnt need to...
in another scenario, if the girl complains and judges the guy for not being as nice to her as before she rejected him, and even judges him for being ''fake'', then it would be the girls fault
But i think women take advantage of that at the same time. People could be nice to one another but when you see someone going the extra mile you do have to think that this person is doing it because they deeply care about you and would like to be more than friends with you. I saw some women take this and use men to later discard them when they find something "better". Thats quite evil in my view. I know she doesnt owe the guy anything but as an adult you should know what your attitude is conveying to a man when you ask for favors or for them to go out of their way to serve you.
All hail to Medusa no.... it’s called being a friend. Just because u ask a guy for favour or to hang out or some guy is extra nice, it doesn’t mean they owe them anything just because they’re like that. Your last line is very hypocritical saying (from what I can see) “sure she doesn’t owe him anything, but she owes him love because he was kind to her.” People can be kind without any ulterior motives, and it’s disgusting to assume just because they don’t return your feelings they are “evil” for choosing someone else. And it’s sad to assume all people are kind because they like you, why can’t they be kind because they want to be kind? All in all, your comment is reflecting exactly what the “nice guy” is trying to get across in the video, just because you treat someone kindly it doesn’t mean they *have* to be in a relationship with you. And it’s not just men btw, this is for women as well.
Just a note - "girls like it when they get attention and special treatment" - don't do that. Treat a girl like your equal, not like she's some unicorn princess who needs special treatment above everyone else. I've had the "special treatment" done to me before and trust me, it does not help with your chances of getting a girl. If you wouldn't do it for another guy or a girl you aren't attracted to, you ~probably~ shouldn't do it for a girl you're attracted to.
Can you guys create a video but in Audrey's perspective? I think that will be awesome.
YEEEESSS IT'S OUT!! IT'S FINALLY OUT!!
I just told my best friend what i feel for her, and the only thing she said, is that she is desappointed, and we'll never be more than friends.
I am completely fine :,)
R.I.P my heart
F
How are you doing nowadays?
@matelengyel941 duuuude wtf I didn't even remember this shit, we actually started dating some months ago and she disappointed me again so I just sent her to hell man (not literally)
How did she disappoint you? Did you have like an idealized version of her in your head and then u got to know her better and realized she's not even that perfect? Obviously u can tell I'm speaking from experience. :D
@matelengyel941 dude you said it all, she actually changed a lot during this 3 years and it was not the same person I feel in love with yk, she started doing some weird shit like wanting me to bring another guy to have sex with us???? at that point I just said fuck you and got out
she wasn't like this man, fr I don't know what happen but nah, she hurt me too much during this 3 years and now I'm happy that I got over it
Only bought the other parts to support u guys to do more of these ...plis
I feel like what he was doing was manipulative in a way. Like, you can't assume that just because you're nice to someone and then tell them that you're interested that they have to like you back. It may not be because you're "nice", they just may not be into you romantically.
i bought the series. worth it!
This video has been in my suggested for probably at least 6 months. Finally watched it, and it was good. Time to watch episode 2
Are people seriously like that? What's with this friendzone bs these days. It's your responsibility dude to combine your "niceness" with a charming character that makes the girl like you as a lover and not just as a friend. You got to be clear with your intentions from the beginning - anything else is shady. If you can't do it you simply are not decent enough to be her lover. Exactly the same goes for girls. If you a like a guy, be charming and nice to him and things will move on beyond him ignoring you. Implies that you guys actually already took care of your external beauty before trying to show your internal one.
Jay Jack Actually, it's not really surface personality that attracts people. It's physical, biological. It's called pheromones. Guys need adequate amounts of Testosterone as well. Girls need Estrogen. It's a hormonal thing that can literally distort an individual's perception of another. Personality adds to this but only if the "chemistry" is there.
so spike her drink with estrogen and ures with Testosterone? preferably a chocolate drink
taoist40 There is no direct evidence supporting the claim that humans detect pheromones or respond to them.
True this: let girls friend zone you then leave or ignore them for no reason or explanation to them. Might work.
Dude, exactly. Make your intentions known from the beginning. You can be friendly AND flirtatious at the same time. Being ONLY friendly and nice puts you into the friend zone to which you may never get out of, and at which point, the ball goes out of your court and is entirely in hers to make any move. Being friendly AND flirtatious leaves an opening to change the relationship into a more than friends, or to remain in the friend zone. Once in the friend zone, it's hard to get out.
Because I know exactly what it feels like to be this guy. Watching this brought tears to come. Bravo Wong Fu another amazing short which has managed to remind me the beauty and pain of nice guys.
you do realize this portrays nice guys negatively right?
like as over entitled little losers who think that just because they were nice to a girl, they think she owes them her body, and throw a tantrum when the girls not into her right?
Kathryn Mercier that's cause they are
at the time I didn't. But the point I was trying to come across was different.
We can also be just a nice girl. You don't wanna know how much I heard that fucking "oh" or the "ieuw you are like a little sister to me"
Oh My God.....I have waited😭😭so long
I need someone who won't leave me no matter what happened.
YEEHE JUST AVOID THIS BROKEN HEARTED GIRL. NYAHAHA
NOOOOOOOOOO TOOOOO SHORTTTTT
Piper Curda...dude i so clicked fast. luv her..
please add Piper to all Wong Fu. Piper's so awesome & sweet. thanks dudes.
"I DIDN'T DO IT!!!" Piper
Chill chill
brooooooo i know her and she went to my church and we've talked
Matt Zeiders | *casually searches for comments like this.
BOIIIII YOU JUST REFERENCED THE SONG YOOO THAT SONG IS MY LIFE
Worst case is, if you're an introvert. And shy. And also a nice guy.
Like me.
Edit : subbed ✓
Don't describe me...
I thought I am the only one :)
Preach
Same here bro
sames lol
I'm about to put it all on the line this weekend lol wish me luck!
This brought back nightmares of my actual life, “just another nice guy” 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Did anyone else like this video before watching it?
story of my life.. i feel your pain homie. i am sadly weeping to this