PREPARING for my RELAXER DAY while I talk about hate comments | DenaJ

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  • @chidinmannoke-uka414
    @chidinmannoke-uka414 Рік тому +7

    I know exactly how receiving hateful and spiteful comments from someone who I really trusted. It hurt and I just had to distance myself from that lady. I was natural for eight years, in those eight years I was always looking unkept. I couldn't manage my hair, even tried sister locs at a time. I really just got tired of always having to do too much. My hair was and still is so thick and full.. the only style I could rock was a top bun and I was just tired.
    Thank you for this pep talk ...

  • @hrhsophiathefirst4060
    @hrhsophiathefirst4060 Рік тому +13

    Your story mirrors many of us, we did not have the knowledge, did not have the products and did not have the money! Thanks for not shaming your mother! Lots of love from a relaxed hot mouthed Bajan! Montserrat is gorgeous!

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Hot-mouthed Bajan! LOL.
      Lots of love girl. Xx

  • @CassysHairCare
    @CassysHairCare Рік тому +26

    Girl, you are right. Those comments about relaxed hair are getting crazy nowadays 🤦🏾‍♀️.

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +5

      We just can't get break....

    • @CassysHairCare
      @CassysHairCare Рік тому

      @@DenaJ 😔

    • @kikicouture10
      @kikicouture10 Рік тому +6

      I had someone basically say if I get Cancer then that’ll be on me. They wish negativity and it’s very nasty. God don’t like ugly.

    • @Sweetlyniki
      @Sweetlyniki Рік тому +1

      @@kikicouture10wow smh

    • @queeniesnewyorklotto3284
      @queeniesnewyorklotto3284 Рік тому +1

      Sending love from NYC ❤❤❤❤

  • @s6352
    @s6352 Рік тому +12

    Love your channel. People who put out hate vibes need to check themselves. It’s more about their insecurities than anything else. Keep doing you Boo! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🌹

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Thanks girl!

  • @kurlymeka
    @kurlymeka Рік тому +10

    Dena girl the hate is real especially if you get a lot of views on a video. I am not sure but I can’t say if I have ever seen hate comments on natural hair videos. If only people knew what chemicals are in our food products and other everyday cosmetic product, they wouldn’t even bother hate on relaxed hair. I hope your relaxer day goes well and congratulations 🎉on your UA-cam growth road to 5k. You are doing an awesome job at sharing your relaxed hair journey let the haters take a back seat 😂❤

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Couldn't have said it better, Meka.
      And thank you 💕

  • @joanecajuste9800
    @joanecajuste9800 Рік тому +9

    I love your channel. I'm natural and thinking about going back to relaxed. I think both natural and relaxed hair are beautiful. I honestly think that many of the hateful comments come from people who don't like their hair. There is a difference between people who don't care for relaxers vs those that condemn. The ones that condemn are actually the ones struggling with major hair insecurities. I don't know anyone who loves themselves and truly is comfortable with their natural hair that is spewing hate towards women that are relaxed. Basically, don't take it personal Dena. Thank you for all your tips. I've been binge watching your videos the past few weeks:)

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Awwww, Thank you hun.

  • @carlishaalexander7578
    @carlishaalexander7578 Рік тому +2

    Girls.... It's your hair and your life. Choose what makes you happy.

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Got that right, gurrrrl 🤗

  • @glicious1981
    @glicious1981 Рік тому +5

    Gal my hair ain't even relaxed and I lay right here and watch dis whole video 🤣. I liked the vibe here. New subscriber from 🇧🇸

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      LOL- I love it! xx

  • @chriswilliams2468
    @chriswilliams2468 Рік тому +2

    I'm glad I found this video. My relaxed hair is past my shoulder blades, and it is becoming more difficult for my sister to apply the relaxer. She said that my ends were very dry, so we are going to try your methods on my next relaxer. I'm 43 years of age and have tried being natural for about 8 years. I had several different hair textures, and it just became too much for me. Seeing as how I was relaxed the majority of my life. My hair is healthier and longer than it has ever been. And I to use dark and lovely.

  • @sellanyeka
    @sellanyeka Рік тому +7

    Girl, nuh pay dem nuh mind. I started following you recently because I've just started my hair care journey, after suffering a major setback due to protein overload and overprocessing. I'm hoping to see major improvements by year end. You are one of the FEW persons I follow on YT. I love your content and the accent (I'm Jamaican) and I plan to utilize the tips that you give. Thanks again and I look forward to more content from you

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Thanks girl 💕🤗

  • @fionaj7340
    @fionaj7340 Рік тому +7

    Your population is less than your subscribers 😂😂 that is mad funny. You are very authentic and address real relaxed hair problems and share what you have done to get winning results.....you are not a lazy or selfish youtuber by no means, so that makes it easy for people to relate to you and keep connected.

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      This means so much, Fiona. Thanks for your continued support. The goal was always to create connect that was relatable. I'm happy that it is :)

  • @ebonyhamilton1544
    @ebonyhamilton1544 Рік тому +8

    I love your content! I can’t do my hair either 😂😂 but I love being relaxed! So much easier!! I went natural and could only do ponytails 😂

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Girl, that's why I hate it when people ask me to do hair styles...when I could barely make a striaght part... -____-

    • @ebonyhamilton1544
      @ebonyhamilton1544 Рік тому

      @@DenaJ 🤣🤣I love your styles - simple and cute!

  • @0tismadaline
    @0tismadaline Рік тому +2

    Yea when l leave my hair out too it does the same, can't wait for relaxer day and thanks for sharing sweetheart ❤

  • @wittykitti
    @wittykitti Рік тому +7

    Whenever I wear my relaxed hair out for an extended period of time, my next relaxer includes a cut 😪. I've learned my lesson and now leave my hair curly from the rollerset, only picking out the roots to remove the marks and parts and wearing it that way. Straight hair just had this way of demanding that you comb it all the time for it to 'look good' then brap, I'm half bald 😂😭😪🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      I am glad I'm not alone! I see people who wear their hair out often and I always wonder how...
      Not half bald....DWLL

    • @krislatoya7556
      @krislatoya7556 Рік тому

      I started doing this & using a hairnet to keep the curls in place but I find I end up with tangles in the curls 😩

  • @kikicouture10
    @kikicouture10 Рік тому +1

    You have great content and a lovely personality. You’re doing what makes you happy and that’s all that matters.

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Thank you so much!

  • @maimouna1453
    @maimouna1453 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for your videos! We love them! EVERYTHING is danger if you listen to people and our health is personal, thank you

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      LOL! Thanks girl. Xx And yes, just to breathe in fresh air is a danger...

  • @renelcharles1634
    @renelcharles1634 Рік тому +3

    Big up to my Caribbean girl. Love your channel I'm a relaxed hair girl from the caribbean as well (Grenada). Keep up the good works!!

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Hey girl 💕💕 thank you🤗🤗

  • @shanteljoseph5821
    @shanteljoseph5821 Рік тому +2

    I love your Chanel and content. Much love from Antigua!

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Hey Girl! Thanks for the love. Xxx

  • @ShaneciaManning
    @ShaneciaManning Рік тому

    Girl I’m one of those people you moved to comment on your vid lol 😂. I was looking up products to use to soften my relaxed hair, while detangling and I found you and literally started binge watching you. I love the way deliver information and your whole energy overall ❤. I’m a big introvert so I know the struggles lol 🇯🇲.

  • @luxehaircloset_
    @luxehaircloset_ Рік тому +3

    We must always do what works for us at the end of the day 😍😍If you’d like to switch up your look & give your hair a breather our AMARACHI tape in extensions would blend in so well with your texture with unlimited volume and style possibilities 🎉

  • @qoletteagee8268
    @qoletteagee8268 Рік тому +1

    Your lifestyle is your lifestyle and your hair is your hair. Your styles are simple, healthy, and wonderful. I know because I'm pretty sure I've tried them all. Girl just let them comments slide right on off.

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      You are so right 🤗

  • @gigih4892
    @gigih4892 Рік тому

    I love your hair, and I love my relaxed hair also. Keep up the good work.

  • @ShardayCampbell
    @ShardayCampbell Рік тому +2

    I was just explaining to friends that me not knowing how to do hair is my leading reason for relaxing. Will you please share what type of dry shampoo you use?

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Ppl don't realise that styling natural hair is a task... And I'm not blessed in that department 😣

  • @natrlchallenge
    @natrlchallenge Рік тому +1

    Folks are bitter and jealous that your hair is long and gorgeous. Relaxed hair can be healthy and long. Proving the haters wrong.

  • @chev_elle3
    @chev_elle3 Рік тому +1

    Hey Dena! Sending love from Jamaica 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Hey girl 💕💕 Sending love to you too

  • @cheladl1435
    @cheladl1435 Рік тому +1

    Love you 😍❤❤❤I was expecting this video , came in the right time 😂, I got my fresh relaxer a week ago and got some burns 😢 I didn’ have it often and this time was very bad

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Hey hun! The burns....Which relaxer did you use?

    • @cheladl1435
      @cheladl1435 Рік тому

      @@DenaJ olive 🫒 no-lye 🥲🥲🥲 my stylist leave it for too long , I’ve been relaxed for 14y it’s the first time I got painful burns 😂😂😂 but I’m ok now , thanks my LÍDER for ask ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I’m Angolan 🇦🇴 by the way 😘😘😘

  • @debrabailey8690
    @debrabailey8690 Рік тому +2

    Hi beautiful lady. Your video are awesome. Your relaxed hair is beautiful. Do you use regular strength or super relaxer. I've done 2 relaxer last year. Regular, I was under process twice, my end was still kinky. My hair was puffy still right after. I don't know what to do. What you recommend?

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      Hey hun. I use regular strength. How did you style your hair after? And how long did you allow it to process?

  • @kerdeyyy
    @kerdeyyy Рік тому

    Ditto on the breakage with the hair down … had the same realization this past week. Had my hair down and was out and about and that night when I was detangling, it was horrible. My hair was so matted and tangled at the ends. And when passing the comb through, i could literally hear the strands ripping apart. 😫. So its back to wearing my hair up !

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Girl, that's the safest way to preserve the ends and minimise the breakage

  • @dianabanning8793
    @dianabanning8793 Рік тому

    Will come back to watch cos I going out, love you gal

  • @CharlotteMasonTT
    @CharlotteMasonTT Місяць тому +1

    I can’t comb hair either, that’s why I relax hair

  • @yvonneperkins7504
    @yvonneperkins7504 Рік тому +1

    It’s crazy because it’s just hair we dye it ,we cut it ,we grow it out natural ,process it ,like relax it’s just hair. Heck I cut my hair every spring for summer weather and go natural and then ai process it in the winter . Like it’s just hair.

  • @CHRISTEL-LULU
    @CHRISTEL-LULU Рік тому +1

    Oh yes , some people are “ emotionally “ more invested in others well-being than theirs 😀😎

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Lolol! Ain't that the truth

  • @mainasidibe9619
    @mainasidibe9619 Рік тому +3

    Hey Dina 😍,
    Did you try apple cider vinegar on your hair: since I use it, I don’t have flakes anymore
    Your hair is beautiful 😍

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому +1

      Hey girl..No I haven't tried. But I'll consider it :)

  • @leeannkembo2524
    @leeannkembo2524 Рік тому +2

    I’ve heard people say you shouldn’t wash your hair before relaxer is that correct

    • @evalaurent5276
      @evalaurent5276 Рік тому +6

      Yes that’s right. When you wash your hair right before you relax it, there’s a greater chance of you getting burns because there’s not a protective barrier between your clean scalp (since you just washed it) and the relaxer. After I wash my hair, I wait at least a week before I relax it, so there’s time for my scalp to get build up on it. Also the day before I relax my hair, I put a grease on my scalp, to have more build up on my scalp. This grease also adds to the protective barrier, decreasing my chances of getting burned on relaxer day.

  • @shernetbrown4883
    @shernetbrown4883 Рік тому

    when you said who can't comb I was like me front of the class😄

    • @DenaJ
      @DenaJ  Рік тому

      🤣🤣🤣

  • @killahkurlz7157
    @killahkurlz7157 5 місяців тому

    black women are always talking about a style 😂. maybe thats why their hair wont grow past a certain length....