My crush never looks me in the eye but sometimes he does things that make me think he’s interested I really don’t understand him and it’s messing with my mind I’m tired of overanalyzing and having false hopes
Absolutely correct. I was meeting some friends one evening at a local club. Our waitress was one of the most beautiful women I had ever had the pleasure of seeing. As she made her rounds thru our group getting our drink orders she was nice, laughing and very direct. When she came to me she was just the opposite. Long story short, I thought that either she liked me and was "hiding" it or she thought that I was the most hideous thing she had ever seen and was just doing her job in taking my order. This went on all night and it was something that I wasnt used to. Either way I knew that I was going to talk to her before I left. I figured that I might as well find out one way or the other. Turned out that she was doing exactly what you are describing. She told me that she wanted desperately to meet me but she was afraid of being rejected---unbelievably!!!!!---so she pretended the opposite of what she was feeling. Had I not approached her I would never have known. We were together for several years and are friends to this day. From that one single meeting I realized that sometimes women do the exact opposite of the way they feel and I realized that there were times that I did so as well. People are funny creatures........
Same. There is this attractive female that constantly looks at me as if she's interested, but when I look at her, my facial expression is neutral and I turn away slowly showing that I am not interested. (I fucked up doing this because I did this 3 days in a row) Apparently she did not take too kind to this and now she's doing the same - sometime completely ignoring me. It's like we're playing a game. If this keeps going I will just lay off because I can't stress about one single female when there are plenty out there.
This is where these videos drive me nuts. Too much eye contact-she likes you. Some eye contact-she likes you. No eye contact-she likes you. Thanks for cracking the code.
life is a bad joke i know you have heard this before but it's for real. practice locking eyes with ppl and holding it untill they look away. but be aware of what goes through your head as you make eye contact. because whatever you are feeling will come across in your eyes and face. sure you will feel anxious at first and nervous. that's ok if you keep it up will get better at it. something that took me years. when you are able to hold eye contact and look at the other person, you will see things you coudln't see before when you wouldn't look at them
Thats actually how you know a person likes you. If you find yourself asking why a person is acting weird around you for no reason you know they like you. I notice this especually when walking into a convenient store girls will try to hard and look in all directions and miss the handle. But they will talk to really ugly guy with confidence
The thing is how can us guys tell if we're attractive or not if we've never been told or are your type? I think I make girls shy I've seen them stutter to lol
Will you though? It probably would give him the guts to go talk to you and if he wasn't interested he would just keep going about his day. You expect him to go up to you and say " I've seen this video on UA-cam and it's pretty much telling me you're interested in me from the sign given and just want to let you know that I don't feel the same" hahaha
*I thought my new neighbor was interested in me after watching this video. She has never made eye contact or tried to interact whenever we run into each other. Later found out she is legally blind* .......
I have a crush on someone and I NEVER look him in the eyes! Even when he’s speaking to me. I’ll look for a minute then look away. If I hold that gaze for too long I kno my want for him will be exposed, or atleast that’s what I think.
sounds like this girl i know. she rarely looks me in the eye unless she's far away. but up close never and when we do talk she looks down smiling. but she's married lol. so it makes sense. hopefully they can work on their relationship. i'd bang if she was single tho 🤣
TBH the guy usually likes you, but they are like uber nervous. My friend likes this girl but no matter how much I try to push him to talk to her he is always too nervous to do it. But I have definitely noticed him look at her a bunch, but as soon as she looks at him he looks away. So good luck to y'all cause if you want that guy your gonna need to do help the process yourself.
That sucks! as a shy guy who couldn't even talk to my crush a week ago I would say for him to imagine her as being one of his friends that he has. We are all comfortable with friends but once crushes get in the picture instant anxiety hits. Remember that crushes are people to and they're not perfect being that are made to be in your mind! He actually think that she will make the first move? How did things end up working with that girl
Marie Dubuque so im in my class and this girl keeps just staring at me and she smiles not lightly like a big smile so i looked at her and she just kept staring i didn't know how to feel so i looked away and every time she stares at me and i look over she looks away . what does this mean
There is a girl at my gym that I almost always see every single time I'm there. She doesn't make eye contact and it seems like she is purposely trying not to look at me when we pass each other. If she was ultra confident and socialized with everyone there, I would assume she was not interested but after watching this, I suspect she might be intimidated or shy because her overall demeanor has shy girl written all over her.
what happen with this im in the same situation right now i litterly see her every single damn day and she avoids eye contact on purpose but i can see her looking at me through the mirrors and shit , today i worked out right damn beside her and tried to make eye contact so i could say hi but im invisible to her when im close lol, im a decent looking guy too im prettty fit and i dress nice so i dont see her not liking me but why she acting liek that?
@@Onlyclickz she doesn't want show off her interest, maybe she is reserved. Try and put some effor if interacting with her , friendly, don't show it all that you like her, so she won't pull away, trying to hide her own feelings.
@@Onlyclickz Yep, I totally avoid eye contact to the guys I like. I m super open and sociable with the rest of guys, because they don t make my heart flutter. So.... every crush I had thought I was not interested in them.... Bad, bad, bad... :)
Great, real-world advice! Eye contact is a tricky game though. So much of the "dating and pick-up" world tells you that if a girl doesn't make eye-contact she's absolutely NOT into you. However, human's are incredibly intricate and complex beings and it's never so black and white. It's important to know that Marie saying "a lack of eye contact could actually mean he/she is interested in you" it CAN ALSO MEAN she's absolutely NOT into you at the same time. Marie does mention this however, and gives wonderful advice about taking it further to see if there's interest or not (beyond simply eye-contact) by initiating conversation. The conversation and what's said and primarily (non-verbal communication), is where you can find answers regarding interest level. Thanks for the great video! Watching some young cocky, arrogant guy walking around interviewing girls on the street (which so many of these videos usually are) is old and useless in the real-world.
I actually have a married coworker who I just found out has a huge crush on me. The first time I talked to her she would blush and stutter like she was nervous or something. Ever since that first encounter, she has never looked at me in the face again while talking. I think it is kinda cute for a married women to have a crush on me though. Noone has control over who they think is attractive. It's just part of nature rather your in a relationship or not. The most important thing as that she never acted on her feelings and she seems very loyal to her husband which I respect.
Same situation bro. I understand where youre coming from..damn im married as well but this fine.young lady keeps looking at me at work..hard to figh this
Yup think is so accurate. There is this girl at my school and we used to have class together but we had assigned groups. However when she got to sit at my table she would sit right next to me even though there were like 5 other seats and she would always have her body turned toward me. Once in the hall she was talking to someone and as soon as she noticed me I saw her stare straight into my eyes and I looked up (I was looking at my phone before) and we locked eyes for about 5 to 10 seconds and she didn't look away until I was completely gone. Last week we walked passed each other and there were tons of people in the hall and I thought maybe she didn't notice me. However today she was in a place I didn't expect her to be. She was in the hallway of one of my classes and I've never seen her there before. I know she saw me and I saw her readjust her shirt ( most likely to get my attention as she's done this before) and walk right past me. I know she saw me because most people would at least glance as they are walking past someone also I made direct eye contact a couple of times during the encounter but she was trying really hard not to look and was staring straight ahead. (Also as you said she was really close to me) At first I didn't know what to think but after doing some research and watching this video it all points towards Her having a crush on me. She is pretty shy and usually doesn't make direct eye contact unless I am not looking. I like her a lot and would love to know her better. Now that I know I will definitely talk to her next time. :)
Epicskylegend Gaming damn I have that going on for me too except she never sits by me when we are put in groups and she doesn't look or talk to me entirely, weird stuff
This is absolutely true. Currently I have a situation precisely like this, we are both kind of shy, mostly me. Lack of confidence another factor, and fear of rejection. We are both dying to be together. And yes, because they are not looking at you, does not mean that they are not interested! Watch for other often glaring clues and signs! I stopped looking at her solely because of a lack of confidence. Yet she is smart and knows I want to be with her. Ugh!
This actually happened to me in a class. There is a girl who stares at me when I am doing something else, but I can see her checking me out through the corner of my eyes. When I turn to look at her, she looks away.
Its been now almost 3 months that my crush has a crush on me... But today it felt different like if she's not intressted anymore. I am literally making myself sick every morning for 2 months because I am overthinking of all the situations ever with her.
That's EXACTLY what it means...If a girl checks you out and you see her heart stop, then she makes effort to not look at you..That means she thinks you are gorgeous, hot...I have read so many websites where they write that if a girl makes an effort to not look she thinks your a creep..NOT!!!! This is so far from reality..Bottom line..I know when someone is attracted to me by their energy.. Energy is absolutely everything..Once you tune into a women's energy you can read her from across a crowded room..The ones that make extra effort to not make eye contact are the ones that want to ravage you....
I've noticed a couple of girls trying to disengage as much as possible via lack of eye contact, engagement in conversation etc. After noticing a bit of interest towards me, I did ask one of the girls out and she said she was "too busy". Months later she still acts weird around me. Maybe she things I am a creep lol. But she wasn't so awkward around me initially until I asked her out, got her number etc.
Both of us are not talking to each other when he knew I had feelings for him. I ignored him everytime our paths a crossed. He literally ignores me now 😭😭😭
I do this, especially if, for any reason, it's not appropriate to show interest (ex. at the work place). And I do notice when other person is doing that - trying to hide their interest level. I think You are right.
They completely blew me off when I asked them a very normal typical unsexy friendly question of "what classes are you taking". They responded with "don't ever message me again".
I think it's important to note that when the person showing is displaying signs of interests in you, it could mean that they just wanna hang out and talk - like as a friend. It doesn't necessarily mean they want to be in a relationship with you, though. However, I think this video for sure helps people understand social cues...a skill that is fading as people mindlessly use their devices to substitute for physical human interaction.
This is right on, when someone can't look you in the 👁 it's a sign of your natural power over them. It's a wise move for them to disdain what they cant have
There was this boy I was starting to like, and crush on and he would be exactly the same with me, he'd come across as rude, and avoided the eye contact but then I remembered one Christmas, he had a card for me and he like didn't even give it to me by hand, he just tossed it in the air and walked off. I didn't know what it was at the time but the more Ive thought about it after, he did like me. And enough to write it himself. I do believe he'd be embarrassed when everyone would be ribbing me with him or the other way. I never did talk to him or do anything with him back then because I left him to it because of how awkward it was to be around him. Plus, I was also used to bullying so I didn't know what his deal was. But thanks for this video, wish I knew back then xxxxx
Hi Marie, there's this guy at work who is acting really weird by deliberately pretending that he doesn't see me and avoiding looking at my face. He used to be kind in the past, and he complimented my sense of responsibility once. But then all of a sudden, he started acting rudely. For example, I was in the office, having a conversation with a colleague, so this guy walks in and he pretends I'm not there and says 'hi' to my colleague but not to me. I thought he didn't actually see me (though it was impossible, unless he had gone blind) at first but then the other day he was seated right behind me in a meeting and I had not noticed that, so I turn around and I see him, so I say 'Hello!' and he doesn't reply, he pretends neither to see me nor to hear me and goes on chatting to another co-worker. I'm pretty new at this job and I don't know everyone well, but I can see he is polite and greets everyone but me, and I really don't know whether he's trying to bully me or if he may be attractred to me. BTW, the guy is married and the very first time we met and had a conversation he mentioned his wife right away (which caught my attention because it was personal information I had not asked for and we had only known each other for five minutes). If you may be wondering what I am like, I am polite and thoughtful and I even did some favours to this guy, like helping him with some data that was useful to his job, so I don't think there is something I did he could be upset about. I felt dispised by his rude manners. It is horrible to notice someone is blatantly avoiding you. What do you think?
Here's what I want to know. Every time I'm in a professional setting, specifically with waitresses they will generally make eye contact and talk directly to everyone at the table BUT me. It's not about attractiveness it's about respect. Why do I not get that same respect from people? I am always having fun, smiling laughing joking etc. Just being me. So wondering if you have any idea what my problem or people's issue are. Thanks.
cizzlen07 as long as you are not overtly flirting with them, I don't understand why they don't give you eye contact. Keep talk to these people as you would anyone else and see if they come around.
What if she already knows i like her but whenever she's around me and i talk to her she answers without making eye contact, and earlier today she walked past me and i saw her looking at me in the corner of my eye smiling
There's this girl I see regularly who works at a place I frequent as part of my job. For the first couple of months whenever I went into her workplace to wait for my order I used to always catch her glancing at me, looking at me as I was speaking to other people, and even one time outside when I was sat in my car she turned around to look at me as she was walking away back to the restaurant. I swear I felt an energy coming from her, and I started to catch feelings. It definitely felt like a mutual attraction. But then for a period of about a month I stopped frequenting the place. And ever since, now whenever I go there and see her it's like she's making an effort to not look at me or acknowledge me at all anymore. It's like she's acting the opposite of how she used to. It's so damn confusing and frustrating, and now I'm thinking that I was just being deluded all along and I never was getting any signals from her. Can anyone shed some light?
Wits' End sounds like she was attracted to you but she didn't want to be too obvious about it. When you disappeared she thought you didn't feel the same/lost interest in her/found someone else. As you never approached her/talked to her/tried to get to know her. Leaving her no choice but to squash the initial interest she felt before. Or she has moved on to a different guy who is showing her more interest in her through his actions. (less likely). If you still like her, why not smile at her or say hello. Most women want to be approached, if there is mutual attraction.
just want to comment that a lot of neurodivergent people especially ADHD and autism, also avoid eye contact constantly, its just difficult to do for them. so that may also be a reason.
This girl at my work always avoids eye contacts when she talks to me. She also turns away whenever our eyes meet. I thought maybe she hated me and got a problem with me. Oh, she always brings up her boyfriend when we talk. I notice she does not do that when she talks to other gentleman colleagues at work. I figured perhaps she would like to remind me, either consciously or subconsciously, that she already has a boyfriend.
There were two girls with boyfriends and they both were pretty and they would bring their boyfriends around me a lot. In a couple of month both of them were asking me out. I thought it was weird because you have a boyfriend but you are secretly liking me and I didn't like that.
I do this every time I like someone and I meet them in real life (not through a dating app, where I already know they find me at least a bit appealing). In real life I dont know if I’ll get rejected or not, and I have been rejected before and it hurts a lot, so nowadays I’m just avoiding all eye contact with the people I like the most. I just started a German course and there’s this guy there who I find really cute, I wish I could go and talk to him but he seems to be even more shy than I am, and never makes eye contact, even though he’ll talk to other women in the class. I will wait until I finish the course next week to ask him out hehe, can’t stay with the doubt though. Once I’m gone I got nothing to lose. 😄
Some girls at work flinch when I come near them, they tend to get nervous when I'm around, and they avoid looking at me in conversation. Does it mean I'm ugly?
+Johnnie Shreve If this is a rule at all, there are definitely exceptions. Maybe they are very conscientious about what they perceive as a physical flaw or imperfection, and covering it up. But yet inside hurting to be together. Oh yes, very possible.
+Johnnie Shreve What if they make it a point to sit next to you in the break room, seem to be everywhere you are, yet talk to everyone but you in there and refuse to make eye contact with you. Just last thursday she sat next to me even though there 3 open seats next to other people, yet there was a time when she was talking that she used her arm to lean on on the table and basically covered the side of her face when talking so that I couldn't see her face when she spoke. I found it odd.
Lucid Dream Character that's the thing. How can you tell?? I've been out with friends who are really attractive and they were almost always either approached or gawked at by men. So in my mind that's when you know they like you, not turning their head and looking away. Guess that's why I'm confused. Why would they approach some and not others? ?I just figured it was because I wasn't pretty
Me and my crush is both introverts lol. And we do all of the signs u just said😂. But sadly we are too shy to confess to each other. But deep inside we know we like each other, since we steal glances of each other.
hyohyo _ omg this is literally the same with me and my crush. Like he’s so hot and I think he’s insecure around girls he’s not like “friends with “ and we don’t have any lessons together exept for one when he’s sat behind me but we are to shy to talk to each other and it’s really annoying because I wish I could talk to him but I’m just not confident enough 😂😭and he said I was good looking aswell
Alicia Jackson lmao no no it’s fine! At least you guys have classes together. And he even complimented on your looks. Me and my crush never even had a proper conversation. All of them were short and awkward. I hope it goes well with your crush though. Good luck mate
I have this friend she's more mature (older) than I am. whenever I'm talking to her she's always staring deep into my eyes. it kind of scares me when a woman does that.
I am totally confused, Marie! He passed me by in a group of people. I stopped him with my hand and we embraced each other. He was happy to see me and smiled to me. We hugged for 10 seconds, he lingered in my hug, held it until I released myself from the hug. But after that, suddenly, he started behaving like a total jerk: he kept talking to my friend, avoided my questions, covered my words with his voice, purposely avoided my eyes and then with a disgusted and bored attitude, he left my group! I am still shocked, confused and broken. I keep asking myself what I did wrong, maybe interrupting him while he was talking to my friend and he got angry or maybe he felt that I liked him a lot and ran away, I don't know. After a while, he returned in my area, like 10 metres away but tally ignored my presence. Only once I caught his look and he seemed angry and hateful to me. I am totally broken, please, help me with a clue!
my crush acts like this. he says hi then acts like he doesnt know im breathing. he talks to everyone comfortably but me, he goes to the other side of the room when i sit or go somewhere. he says hi to me and he has touched my hand a few times and even grabbed my waist one time when we were playing a game. i saw him staring at me a few times. we were even at the same table together eating lunch and he said hi to everyone but me! he insisted on giving me a ride home when he didnt have to and he was joking and teasing me when we were in the car. plus when i mentioned my ex, he made fun of him. so gosh idk if thats a good sign or not tbh
I linked-up with an ex last night after a 7 months of being being blocked ( he blocked me🥺). I noticed that he was talking to me but busying himself to keep from looking at me. Once we finally locked eyes, I feel like he remembered who I’ve always been to him😍. The meet up went well🥰🥰🥰🥰 Thank you again!!
Hi Marie. Theres this guy in office whom i got on well with. We talk most of the time and chat online almost everyday. Sometimes i think he likes me but im not too sure. He helps me alot at work. He can so caring at times and he can also be aloof at times. He would talk to me quietly abt work or life, sometimes with eye contact (if its on serious matters), sometimes without eye contact as we both talk while working. He always talk to me in a low voice. We can talk for ages on phones off the office hours and laughed a lot with eachother.. I notice a few times that when wish me to have a good long break before leaving the office, he would say it without looking at me, looking down etc but he spoke in a low voice so that only i could hear him. There was one time, i got flu and he knew i had to drive out of town, he wished me well telling me to get some rest first but not looking at me, just fastening his beg. The way he said it made me belived he cares for me. Then turned and walked away without looking at my face. Later he text me, reminding me to take medication, rest before driving. I'm totally confused now. What does all these mean?
Shadatul Haniza Shahriman he is playing games...be careful. Remember, if he were serious, he would have asked you out already. And honestly, getting involved with someone at work is not a great idea anyway.
Okay Marie you better be right because ,I know a girl who never wants to look me in the eye from close but she initiates eye contact from far away .I went and asked her name and now she always seems to be around when im there but she acts like she's super busy. I feel like I need to stop her in her tracks to ask how she's doing and she answers me but looks down. im older than her I know that ,but I feel like she's shy and super serious , and I'm also shy but I have a tendency to overthink things. I want to skip the small talk with her but I'm nervous I guess I fear rejection aswell, there are other girls in the world, I know but something about this girl got me stressing I'm not sure what it is
I do the opposite when into someone. I avoid eye contact. Because I avoid most eye contact to begin with, it makes me uncomfortable. So when im actually interested, it's just worse lol People don't get it. And i don't see it as a bad thing that I do this. I can feel everything....Unlike a sociopath lol
I’m pretty sure she just doesn’t like me, but that’s okay I’ve been at that gym longer then she’s worked there. I’m just gonna be my kind confident self, I have no time for wondering what she wants.
I’m interested in this boy and I want to talk to him and get to know him. He used to look at me a lot but I would always look away and ignore because I thought nothing of it...Now he stopped looking at me maybe because it took me so long to notice him. I’m trying to give eye contact and smile but he just doesn’t look at me anymore. Is it too late.....? Should I give up? :(
I might be the only exception here. I avoid eye contact with everyone passively, because I am scared of looking directly to eyes and scared of people staring me into the eyes. This is caused by my mild autism.
It doesn't matter what I do 90 percent of women avoid eye contact with me. I've had a lady who owns the dry cleaning by my house nervously tapping her foot because we were alone. It made me uncomfortable and I'm 6'1" 295 pounds weight lifter. I don't like to even talk to women I don't know anymore.
Hi.. (There is a gentleman who I think likes me??)... When we are in a group he will look at everyone while he is talking. But as soon as he looks my way he quickly looks way. He won't stare at me having a conversation... But yet, he loves it when I give him a kiss and hug when we say our hello's and goodbyes... What do you think? x
Thank you if I may ask another question...what does it mean when, a lady who is just about to give him a goodbye kiss (as always nothing new until)... the man looks at her lips, looks away, then looks again at her lips, looks away then stiffens up when she kisses him goodbye? This time he could not kiss her lips, he was to scared to look at her? So she kissed his cheeck instead... Change of heart from his side? Or does she take his breath away? Thank you
I think your right when I was in high school. On the first day there was this guy that I thought was handsome I got closer to try to say something and he just had his eyes trying to avoid me. He sat behind me talking and being friendly to a group of people. I thought he was cute but he never looked at me. Fast forward to grad night I'm on the dance floor I am a very good dancer and I see him trying to get near me to dance with me I start panicing inside I became so nervous that when he attempted to try to dance with me I turned my back on him. Now I think he probably liked me from the start.
Hello Marie! I have a new boyfriend, and he says that he feels awkward towards anyone if he looks at them straight in the eye, almost as if it is uncomfortable to him. Do you think that maybe the more we become comfortable with each other, the more he might want to glance and look into my eyes as I love to glance into his? He has the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen! It's such a shame that he can never keep a glance for more than a split second! Should I comfort him? I feel like maybe I intimidate him? I'm not sure?
I do this ALOT. I don't turn my body towards him or my feet or try to touch my face. or make toooo much eye contact. I try my hardest not to show him I like him cuz I don't know how he feels. I feel like maybe we are mirroring each other. Cuz when he talks to me he's not facing me with his chest or feet. Just his head like I do. Once in a while tho he would face directly at me or touch his face. Sometimes he asks how I'm doing and sometimes I ask how he's doing. I really like this person we had like maybe 3 conversations the whole year we worked together. At one point he asked me about my son and if I had pictures of him. At first I was concerned lol. I told him no. So he walked away came back asked my sons name walked away and came back and asked how old he was. Then walked away again. He works nights and I work days. But it never use to be that way, I use to work night shift with him for almost a year and was promoted and work days for a month now. Sometimes we get one good eye contact in, but not sure if it's cuz we are just walking by each other and notice each other lol. Other times I would turn around and he was walking up behind me and was looking right at me. Or maybe he thinks I look weird idk. I catch him sometimes. Even when I'm not looking at him directly and he walks by i see him look in my direction. But i always think maybe it's just a natural thing. Cuz when i walk by a door or where someone is standing i look in that direction just cuz. Not sure why reflex kind of thing i guess
(1/2) Before I moved out of state, I went to the same school as my crush who I've liked since 2nd grade and we're now Seniors. Well, I tried to say "hi (his name)" in the hallway but I don't think he heard me and he was in a hurry to get to class. His mom who was my gym teacher knew I liked him, and always tried getting me to talk to him, and asked before if he said hello to me (which he didn't, he just looked in my eyes had a little redness and a little-but-quick smile).
He does this. So I went up to him to say hi and as soon as his eyes met mine he immediately looked down. Either Im the fugliest thing he’s ever seen or he’s shy.
So true I got someone doing that now she's my sister in law who I called beautiful didn't go to well, but since then she's been wearing her hair down and looking even better then before acting like this. She also says hey to me really fast with no eye contact kinda side eye with a little hand wave. She never acted this way before. Also I stopped giving her attention and compliments. I know this sounds bad but you can't help who you fall for right
Had a female co worker help me out on some work, she would not make any sort of eye contact, the whole time her eyes were facing down but she had no problem being in close proximity to me and talking to me but her voice sounded low.
Alright so there is this girl at my school, when we pass each other she looks away either looking up or the other direction. I want to approach her but I’m afraid that I might get rejected😅
I went in a bar last night and this girl walked by me twice. I felt a good vibe from her in one way (before she walked by me), but then as I looked at her as she was walking by me she would not look at me... She looked straight, with her eyes almost locked looking forward (seemingly so she could tell using her peripheral vision to see if I was going to look at her) . My gut feeling is this girl noticed me and is attracted to me. I think she may have a boyfriend and is being loyal to him by not making eye contact with me or flirting with me, but I also think she is attracted to me and is fighting her sexual instincts to look at me and smile and potentially talk to me. I go in this bar every weekend and I think this girl is a bartender. I'll follow and let you know what happens in the future with this one :)
THANKu for sharing... i maybe just going thru this situation, I've also tried starting conversation but it seems in doing all the work. my crush is always making her way around me at work but never strikes up conversation, HELP!??? LOL
Hello, Marie. I told a woman how I felt about her, but she's in a relationship. When I asked her how she felt, she said "what is their to say? I'm in a relationship, if I were single it'd be different." For a while we were talking a lot, then one day she deleted and blocked me on Facebook. When I see her, she always has a sad expression on her face. When I try to talk to her at work, she won't engage in conversation that isn't work-related. When I sit down and smoke a cigarette, she won't look at me. She looks in the opposite direction. She rarely returns my texts. Oh, yeah, she's my boss. She cut my hours and hired a new employee. When I asked her why, she said I was getting on her nerves. Apparently I was talking to her too much. She then told me via text "Get your stuff together, Jack, and I will too." I know she has a boyfriend, but she always talks about him negatively when she brings him up. What does all this mean? Does she hate me? Is she interested? Should I give up on her? Please note that this is not a crush. I'm head-over-heels in love with this woman. This is really tearing me up inside. Any info you could provide would be appreciated.
jackslater230011 she does not like you brother sorry move on apologize to her and say I won't ever talk to you in that way again On a personal level sat I will keep it professional with you move on brother
My crush and I texted and we got into a deep conversation and he was so misunderstood and we became good friends and I started liking him. Then he talked to my friend and said “If she likes me it’s very obvious and I don’t really like her in that way but she is cool, funny, and I like her smile and I love her as a friend.” But in the halls he doesn’t look at me and when I’m around him he looks at my friend instead of me (btw he doesn’t like my friend I know that for a fact and she doesn’t like him) anyways he or one of his friends then says “hey where did gabby go?” And I’m not sure I think he said “she went outside” meaning he’s kinda observing where I go. I’m super confused as to his feelings. He makes me insecure about my body like it’s not my personality but the outside of me that needs changing. I know I shouldn’t change for a guy but....idk
Hello Marie. I'm a good looking guy but when it comes to approaching women and trying to talk to a girl I find interesting i get nervous and the conversation becomes awkward. I am constantly in my head and thinking of me having a successful approach and have a great conversation but when I am face to face I just blank out. Do you have any advice that would allow me to break free of this anxiety?
jdawg reviews 4u you are not alone! Try talking to someone who you would naturally talk to...like about work or a class, or someone you both know. If you are approaching her because you want to talk to her about something...rather than approaching her for the sake of approaching her, the conversation will be easier.
Gosh almost everytime I have a crush on someone they always look away from me even when they're talking to me they don't make eye contact and even if I'm not really into this person i always think if i was ugly or something was wrong with me
Omg I like this dude, and he gives me the eye contact, the smile, ask me questions? But I be so scared, I make minimum eye contact, shaking a bit... So I give little at a times
I’ve been seeing an ex from 30 years ago, who is going through And absolutely horrible divorce. When he asked me to come see him I notice he does not let me in the eye his eyes are on mine for a moment and dart away. But he is the first one to lean in for a kiss goodbye. Somebody help I’m confused
I have found a guy that I like and have caught him looking at me quickly, not once but a few times. He has tried to get closer to me a few times and he has asked my friend about me. I believe he likes me but I am to shy to say something and keep a straight face because I am nervous and he is possibly shy....
Please respond. I like this guy and I know he likes me cuz he's not playing games. He would look at me and not look away when i looked at him. If I smile, he smiles. "Accidentally" touches my hand every week or so, If i touch his hand "accidently" he gets super giddy and is in a good mood all day. made an excuse to come to come talk to me asking me basic questions about myself. But we speak different languages. I know a bit of Spanish but not enough to be confident, but I go up to him and try to talk. Two days ago, he was staring at me leaning his head and smiling like he was falling in love, I made a big smile, he turned around and continued to work with a cute smile. Last 2 days he started looking at me less. And if he does its for a split moment without a smile. So i stopped looking at him today and i see him staring at me in the corner of my eye. I hate this makes me feel likes hes not interested in me anymore. I can't stop looking at him entirely, if i do everything stops there. What should I do?
this pretty annoying to people who suffer with ocd staring when you look at someone and they look away it doesn't mean they like you some people do.I just need to put this in someone's mind before they say someone likes them and they find out the hard way when they don't
i kinda do this, i dont look at the person when im near but when im far, i glance. when they get nearer i dont go away. i even suddenly have an excuse to pass by or something.
I'm confused if a guy a interested or not, he's my crush. The first time we walked past each other on a sidewalk , first I avoided looking at him, but I couldn't (he's really cute) when I turned to him, his eyes were already on me. He nodded while giving me a half of a smile at the corner of his mouth (not a huge smile), and we locked eyes for about 2/3 seconds, it was definitely longer than normal . The next day we saw each other again, he caught me and my friend looking at him. The next day after that I saw him and could tell he was looking at me, but I didn't look directly at him because I felt I was staring at him to much. I saw him for the fourth time today, walked past him (he was with a friend) but he didn't look at me. He's head was facing forward, but his eyes were turned completely to the opposite side that I was walking. Did he loose interest? Was he just being nice the first time he smiled at me and never was interested?
Aisha Perez I would start by saying hi and smiling. Then the next time, start a short conversation and see how he responds. If you don't at least talk to him, you will never know. And it seems as if he wants to talk to you too but is a little nervous. So break the ice!
My crush never looks me in the eye but sometimes he does things that make me think he’s interested
I really don’t understand him and it’s messing with my mind I’m tired of overanalyzing and having false hopes
for you to struck up a conversationHe is waiting for t
Whatever happened to you And your crush?
What happened
Me too. Sometimes i don’t think into me.
@@bradyg6754 doen't happen anything
Absolutely correct. I was meeting some friends one evening at a local club. Our waitress was one of the most beautiful women I had ever had the pleasure of seeing. As she made her rounds thru our group getting our drink orders she was nice, laughing and very direct. When she came to me she was just the opposite. Long story short, I thought that either she liked me and was "hiding" it or she thought that I was the most hideous thing she had ever seen and was just doing her job in taking my order. This went on all night and it was something that I wasnt used to. Either way I knew that I was going to talk to her before I left. I figured that I might as well find out one way or the other. Turned out that she was doing exactly what you are describing. She told me that she wanted desperately to meet me but she was afraid of being rejected---unbelievably!!!!!---so she pretended the opposite of what she was feeling. Had I not approached her I would never have known. We were together for several years and are friends to this day. From that one single meeting I realized that sometimes women do the exact opposite of the way they feel and I realized that there were times that I did so as well. People are funny creatures........
MAT, so true. Glad it worked out for you!
I totally get this, almost all the time! Accept for the second part, as I never have the guts to follow it up :/
Why did it end?
Lovely story. Good for you for having the courage to approach her!
cool story! why it pays off to be prepective and notice how she is with other people MEN espeically and towards you.
the saddest thing is we both did the same thing wtf
Samee itss so sad...
Same. There is this attractive female that constantly looks at me as if she's interested, but when I look at her, my facial expression is neutral and I turn away slowly showing that I am not interested. (I fucked up doing this because I did this 3 days in a row) Apparently she did not take too kind to this and now she's doing the same - sometime completely ignoring me. It's like we're playing a game. If this keeps going I will just lay off because I can't stress about one single female when there are plenty out there.
@@elimsyldog4858 same me and my crush its like we playing a game and I'm bored of this
What a world
Elims Yldog it’s more like you aren’t interested at all. If you were that interested, you could have initiated something 🤷🏻♀️.
I totally do this. guilty.
me to :(
Your honesty is refreshing
I do this all the time
Yep
DITTO MAN
This is where these videos drive me nuts. Too much eye contact-she likes you. Some eye contact-she likes you. No eye contact-she likes you. Thanks for cracking the code.
I ALWAYS avoid eye contact, it's not because I'm interested in them or anything! It's because of my low self confidence.
Any solution?
I feel you bro
Staring contests
I feel yah bruh
Are u still.there?
life is a bad joke i know you have heard this before but it's for real. practice locking eyes with ppl and holding it untill they look away. but be aware of what goes through your head as you make eye contact. because whatever you are feeling will come across in your eyes and face. sure you will feel anxious at first and nervous. that's ok if you keep it up will get better at it. something that took me years. when you are able to hold eye contact and look at the other person, you will see things you coudln't see before when you wouldn't look at them
Thats actually how you know a person likes you. If you find yourself asking why a person is acting weird around you for no reason you know they like you. I notice this especually when walking into a convenient store girls will try to hard and look in all directions and miss the handle. But they will talk to really ugly guy with confidence
LOL if a girl talks to you with confidence that means your ugly guys
Lmfao I be doing this shit at work..i thought I was like crazy or sum ..but its anxiety and fear of regection
question is it acting weird or am i projecting and they just don’t care abt me 😭
Very true I work in a supermarket🤣🤣🤣
The thing is how can us guys tell if we're attractive or not if we've never been told or are your type? I think I make girls shy I've seen them stutter to lol
You are now exposing me. If by any chance my crush sees this video, I will be screwed
Will you though? It probably would give him the guts to go talk to you and if he wasn't interested he would just keep going about his day. You expect him to go up to you and say " I've seen this video on UA-cam and it's pretty much telling me you're interested in me from the sign given and just want to let you know that I don't feel the same" hahaha
Please dont give me hope, it has been too much :(
Same...
me with my crush for the past 2 months
+Aspensworld, Just 2 months?! Here im... fuc*in 8 years!
@@birdpolice4803 you mean you've been single for 8 years well guess what no lie I've been single for 8 years now
+RUSSELL BALDWIN, Yea.. No big deal.. Its normal.
Lack of eye contact means she is interested. I guess I'll keep dreaming.
WTF women are so confusing.
Men are just as confusing tbh
TheFutureKing. 👍 women are confusing. True!
PEOPLE are confusing.
Richard Warren. ?????
*I thought my new neighbor was interested in me after watching this video. She has never made eye contact or tried to interact whenever we run into each other. Later found out she is legally blind* .......
lolllll
😂😂good one
I have a crush on someone and I NEVER look him in the eyes! Even when he’s speaking to me. I’ll look for a minute then look away. If I hold that gaze for too long I kno my want for him will be exposed, or atleast that’s what I think.
I now know I am not the only one
So how do people fall in love then, if people find it hard to express their love for a person?
He will think you don't like him. Dont be surprised if he wants nothing to do with you.
Same I have a crush on a girl, and when she talks to me I avoid making eye contact with her when talking
sounds like this girl i know. she rarely looks me in the eye unless she's far away. but up close never and when we do talk she looks down smiling. but she's married lol. so it makes sense. hopefully they can work on their relationship. i'd bang if she was single tho 🤣
TBH the guy usually likes you, but they are like uber nervous. My friend likes this girl but no matter how much I try to push him to talk to her he is always too nervous to do it. But I have definitely noticed him look at her a bunch, but as soon as she looks at him he looks away. So good luck to y'all cause if you want that guy your gonna need to do help the process yourself.
That sucks! as a shy guy who couldn't even talk to my crush a week ago I would say for him to imagine her as being one of his friends that he has. We are all comfortable with friends but once crushes get in the picture instant anxiety hits. Remember that crushes are people to and they're not perfect being that are made to be in your mind! He actually think that she will make the first move? How did things end up working with that girl
Shy people do that. I wish people would understand us more . This is accurate.
Did you mean that shy people do it because they are shy or because they like someone?
Dorado, definitely talk to her. You have nothing to lose! And the fact that she is stealing glances at you is a good sign!
+Jake she's probably shy. It's been few months now how did it go?
Marie Dubuque My guy friend stopped talking to me. Why tho?
Marie Dubuque so im in my class and this girl keeps just staring at me and she smiles not lightly like a big smile so i looked at her and she just kept staring i didn't know how to feel so i looked away and every time she stares at me and i look over she looks away . what does this mean
Noah read my reply
Marie Dubuque women tell me that my eye contact is too deep to a point they find it hard to look at me while talking should I lighten my gaze?
There is a girl at my gym that I almost always see every single time I'm there. She doesn't make eye contact and it seems like she is purposely trying not to look at me when we pass each other. If she was ultra confident and socialized with everyone there, I would assume she was not interested but after watching this, I suspect she might be intimidated or shy because her overall demeanor has shy girl written all over her.
dude same thing this girl avoid all eye contact
She is interested
what happen with this im in the same situation right now i litterly see her every single damn day and she avoids eye contact on purpose but i can see her looking at me through the mirrors and shit , today i worked out right damn beside her and tried to make eye contact so i could say hi but im invisible to her when im close lol, im a decent looking guy too im prettty fit and i dress nice so i dont see her not liking me but why she acting liek that?
@@Onlyclickz she doesn't want show off her interest, maybe she is reserved. Try and put some effor if interacting with her , friendly, don't show it all that you like her, so she won't pull away, trying to hide her own feelings.
@@Onlyclickz Yep, I totally avoid eye contact to the guys I like. I m super open and sociable with the rest of guys, because they don t make my heart flutter. So.... every crush I had thought I was not interested in them.... Bad, bad, bad... :)
Great, real-world advice! Eye contact is a tricky game though. So much of the "dating and pick-up" world tells you that if a girl doesn't make eye-contact she's absolutely NOT into you. However, human's are incredibly intricate and complex beings and it's never so black and white. It's important to know that Marie saying "a lack of eye contact could actually mean he/she is interested in you" it CAN ALSO MEAN she's absolutely NOT into you at the same time. Marie does mention this however, and gives wonderful advice about taking it further to see if there's interest or not (beyond simply eye-contact) by initiating conversation. The conversation and what's said and primarily (non-verbal communication), is where you can find answers regarding interest level. Thanks for the great video! Watching some young cocky, arrogant guy walking around interviewing girls on the street (which so many of these videos usually are) is old and useless in the real-world.
She’s looking into my soul. So much eye contact from her😝
I actually have a married coworker who I just found out has a huge crush on me. The first time I talked to her she would blush and stutter like she was nervous or something. Ever since that first encounter, she has never looked at me in the face again while talking. I think it is kinda cute for a married women to have a crush on me though. Noone has control over who they think is attractive. It's just part of nature rather your in a relationship or not. The most important thing as that she never acted on her feelings and she seems very loyal to her husband which I respect.
Same situation bro.
I understand where youre coming from..damn im married as well but this fine.young lady keeps looking at me at work..hard to figh this
brownpunk just give in. She can’t hurt you if she doesn’t find out 😉😂🤣😂
@@fastingislife3766 ummm bro, no? wtf
shadowsaladsalad 😂🤣😂🤣 what they don’t know won’t hurt. You know it’s true 😁😛
@@fastingislife3766 yeeah, fucked low and pathetic you know it's true 😉😉😉
Yup think is so accurate. There is this girl at my school and we used to have class together but we had assigned groups. However when she got to sit at my table she would sit right next to me even though there were like 5 other seats and she would always have her body turned toward me. Once in the hall she was talking to someone and as soon as she noticed me I saw her stare straight into my eyes and I looked up (I was looking at my phone before) and we locked eyes for about 5 to 10 seconds and she didn't look away until I was completely gone. Last week we walked passed each other and there were tons of people in the hall and I thought maybe she didn't notice me. However today she was in a place I didn't expect her to be. She was in the hallway of one of my classes and I've never seen her there before. I know she saw me and I saw her readjust her shirt ( most likely to get my attention as she's done this before) and walk right past me. I know she saw me because most people would at least glance as they are walking past someone also I made direct eye contact a couple of times during the encounter but she was trying really hard not to look and was staring straight ahead. (Also as you said she was really close to me) At first I didn't know what to think but after doing some research and watching this video it all points towards Her having a crush on me. She is pretty shy and usually doesn't make direct eye contact unless I am not looking. I like her a lot and would love to know her better. Now that I know I will definitely talk to her next time. :)
I thought there were more stories:(
Epicskylegend Gaming damn I have that going on for me too except she never sits by me when we are put in groups and she doesn't look or talk to me entirely, weird stuff
Joshua Adebayo so...what happened??😂🤣😂😂🤷🏾♂️
🤣we all want to know🤣
Even though she's shy.... she is very bold towards you.... she wants you to approach her
This is absolutely true. Currently I have a situation precisely like this, we are both kind of shy, mostly me. Lack of confidence another factor, and fear of rejection. We are both dying to be together. And yes, because they are not looking at you, does not mean that they are not interested! Watch for other often glaring clues and signs! I stopped looking at her solely because of a lack of confidence. Yet she is smart and knows I want to be with her. Ugh!
This actually happened to me in a class. There is a girl who stares at me when I am doing something else, but I can see her checking me out through the corner of my eyes. When I turn to look at her, she looks away.
Yes. This is me all day. My Look away game is too strong lol 💯🙌
Its been now almost 3 months that my crush has a crush on me... But today it felt different like if she's not intressted anymore. I am literally making myself sick every morning for 2 months because I am overthinking of all the situations ever with her.
That's EXACTLY what it means...If a girl checks you out and you see her heart stop, then she makes effort to not look at you..That means she thinks you are gorgeous, hot...I have read so many websites where they write that if a girl makes an effort to not look she thinks your a creep..NOT!!!! This is so far from reality..Bottom line..I know when someone is attracted to me by their energy.. Energy is absolutely everything..Once you tune into a women's energy you can read her from across a crowded room..The ones that make extra effort to not make eye contact are the ones that want to ravage you....
😱 you are a 1000% correct 😅. I hope my crush doesn't know all of that haha
yup they do to much of the opposite.
I've noticed a couple of girls trying to disengage as much as possible via lack of eye contact, engagement in conversation etc. After noticing a bit of interest towards me, I did ask one of the girls out and she said she was "too busy". Months later she still acts weird around me. Maybe she things I am a creep lol. But she wasn't so awkward around me initially until I asked her out, got her number etc.
Both of us are not talking to each other when he knew I had feelings for him. I ignored him everytime our paths a crossed. He literally ignores me now 😭😭😭
Sameee brooo sameeee
You are so right Marie, Human courtship is fantastic, its the best thing, its exciting. Love all your vids Marie.
or maybe its because im kind of ugly lmaoo
shantie66 lmao same.
shantie66 haha same, crei for us
My wife calls me an ugly duckling. I think she's quackers-:)
That’s what I think. 🤢
You’re not ugly...
I do this, especially if, for any reason, it's not appropriate to show interest (ex. at the work place). And I do notice when other person is doing that - trying to hide their interest level. I think You are right.
The more I like someone the less I show it. I'm shy and real ❤
Same here. I always wonder if people like us will end up being single for life. Makes me kinda sad actually
They completely blew me off when I asked them a very normal typical unsexy friendly question of "what classes are you taking". They responded with "don't ever message me again".
Well, shit. There goes my confidence to ask her out
Literally this boy that i like everytime he walks by i look away uhhhh
you fucking bimbo
SAME because i don't want to stare weirdly
Everytime i pass by a girl at work she immediately looks down as if she’s embarrassed. What would that mean to you?
I think it's important to note that when the person showing is displaying signs of interests in you, it could mean that they just wanna hang out and talk - like as a friend. It doesn't necessarily mean they want to be in a relationship with you, though. However, I think this video for sure helps people understand social cues...a skill that is fading as people mindlessly use their devices to substitute for physical human interaction.
You're such a sweet lady
This is right on, when someone can't look you in the 👁 it's a sign of your natural power over them. It's a wise move for them to disdain what they cant have
I don't look people straight in the eyes because I don't want them to feel uncomfortable or like it's a stare down
There was this boy I was starting to like, and crush on and he would be exactly the same with me, he'd come across as rude, and avoided the eye contact but then I remembered one Christmas, he had a card for me and he like didn't even give it to me by hand, he just tossed it in the air and walked off. I didn't know what it was at the time but the more Ive thought about it after, he did like me. And enough to write it himself. I do believe he'd be embarrassed when everyone would be ribbing me with him or the other way. I never did talk to him or do anything with him back then because I left him to it because of how awkward it was to be around him. Plus, I was also used to bullying so I didn't know what his deal was. But thanks for this video, wish I knew back then xxxxx
Hi Marie, there's this guy at work who is acting really weird by deliberately pretending that he doesn't see me and avoiding looking at my face. He used to be kind in the past, and he complimented my sense of responsibility once. But then all of a sudden, he started acting rudely. For example, I was in the office, having a conversation with a colleague, so this guy walks in and he pretends I'm not there and says 'hi' to my colleague but not to me. I thought he didn't actually see me (though it was impossible, unless he had gone blind) at first but then the other day he was seated right behind me in a meeting and I had not noticed that, so I turn around and I see him, so I say 'Hello!' and he doesn't reply, he pretends neither to see me nor to hear me and goes on chatting to another co-worker. I'm pretty new at this job and I don't know everyone well, but I can see he is polite and greets everyone but me, and I really don't know whether he's trying to bully me or if he may be attractred to me. BTW, the guy is married and the very first time we met and had a conversation he mentioned his wife right away (which caught my attention because it was personal information I had not asked for and we had only known each other for five minutes). If you may be wondering what I am like, I am polite and thoughtful and I even did some favours to this guy, like helping him with some data that was useful to his job, so I don't think there is something I did he could be upset about. I felt dispised by his rude manners. It is horrible to notice someone is blatantly avoiding you. What do you think?
He might be falling in love with you so he's trying to avoid sexual harassment
Here's what I want to know. Every time I'm in a professional setting, specifically with waitresses they will generally make eye contact and talk directly to everyone at the table BUT me. It's not about attractiveness it's about respect. Why do I not get that same respect from people? I am always having fun, smiling laughing joking etc. Just being me. So wondering if you have any idea what my problem or people's issue are. Thanks.
cizzlen07 as long as you are not overtly flirting with them, I don't understand why they don't give you eye contact. Keep talk to these people as you would anyone else and see if they come around.
This definitely is me....to T, you hit the nail on the head lady
There was a guy who was always smiling at me but ever since I started saying hi to him, he completely avoids looking in my direction 😂
What if she already knows i like her but whenever she's around me and i talk to her she answers without making eye contact, and earlier today she walked past me and i saw her looking at me in the corner of my eye smiling
There's this girl I see regularly who works at a place I frequent as part of my job. For the first couple of months whenever I went into her workplace to wait for my order I used to always catch her glancing at me, looking at me as I was speaking to other people, and even one time outside when I was sat in my car she turned around to look at me as she was walking away back to the restaurant. I swear I felt an energy coming from her, and I started to catch feelings. It definitely felt like a mutual attraction. But then for a period of about a month I stopped frequenting the place. And ever since, now whenever I go there and see her it's like she's making an effort to not look at me or acknowledge me at all anymore. It's like she's acting the opposite of how she used to. It's so damn confusing and frustrating, and now I'm thinking that I was just being deluded all along and I never was getting any signals from her. Can anyone shed some light?
Wits' End sounds like she was attracted to you but she didn't want to be too obvious about it. When you disappeared she thought you didn't feel the same/lost interest in her/found someone else. As you never approached her/talked to her/tried to get to know her. Leaving her no choice but to squash the initial interest she felt before. Or she has moved on to a different guy who is showing her more interest in her through his actions. (less likely). If you still like her, why not smile at her or say hello. Most women want to be approached, if there is mutual attraction.
just want to comment that a lot of neurodivergent people especially ADHD and autism, also avoid eye contact constantly, its just difficult to do for them. so that may also be a reason.
You are like the mom i never had.. tha ks for saying what i needed to hear. Ive been drinking hard for the past 4 days
This girl at my work always avoids eye contacts when she talks to me. She also turns away whenever our eyes meet. I thought maybe she hated me and got a problem with me. Oh, she always brings up her boyfriend when we talk. I notice she does not do that when she talks to other gentleman colleagues at work. I figured perhaps she would like to remind me, either consciously or subconsciously, that she already has a boyfriend.
There were two girls with boyfriends and they both were pretty and they would bring their boyfriends around me a lot. In a couple of month both of them were asking me out. I thought it was weird because you have a boyfriend but you are secretly liking me and I didn't like that.
I do this every time I like someone and I meet them in real life (not through a dating app, where I already know they find me at least a bit appealing). In real life I dont know if I’ll get rejected or not, and I have been rejected before and it hurts a lot, so nowadays I’m just avoiding all eye contact with the people I like the most.
I just started a German course and there’s this guy there who I find really cute, I wish I could go and talk to him but he seems to be even more shy than I am, and never makes eye contact, even though he’ll talk to other women in the class. I will wait until I finish the course next week to ask him out hehe, can’t stay with the doubt though. Once I’m gone I got nothing to lose. 😄
How did it go?
Some girls at work flinch when I come near them, they tend to get nervous when I'm around, and they avoid looking at me in conversation. Does it mean I'm ugly?
I get treated similarly...It's very weird...
@@Feber2001 are you dark skinned like me?
if they cover their face with their hand and look away that's a great sign they're not interested
😂
+Johnnie Shreve If this is a rule at all, there are definitely exceptions. Maybe they are very conscientious about what they perceive as a physical flaw or imperfection, and covering it up. But yet inside hurting to be together. Oh yes, very possible.
I could see that too but from experience most of the time not
+Johnnie Shreve What if they make it a point to sit next to you in the break room, seem to be everywhere you are, yet talk to everyone but you in there and refuse to make eye contact with you. Just last thursday she sat next to me even though there 3 open seats next to other people, yet there was a time when she was talking that she used her arm to lean on on the table and basically covered the side of her face when talking so that I couldn't see her face when she spoke. I found it odd.
Lucid Dream Character that's the thing. How can you tell?? I've been out with friends who are really attractive and they were almost always either approached or gawked at by men. So in my mind that's when you know they like you, not turning their head and looking away. Guess that's why I'm confused. Why would they approach some and not others? ?I just figured it was because I wasn't pretty
we avoid things that are visually offensive or make us uncomfortable. It does not mean they’re interested.
Me and my crush is both introverts lol. And we do all of the signs u just said😂. But sadly we are too shy to confess to each other. But deep inside we know we like each other, since we steal glances of each other.
hyohyo _ omg this is literally the same with me and my crush. Like he’s so hot and I think he’s insecure around girls he’s not like “friends with “ and we don’t have any lessons together exept for one when he’s sat behind me but we are to shy to talk to each other and it’s really annoying because I wish I could talk to him but I’m just not confident enough 😂😭and he said I was good looking aswell
Sorry I know you don’t care 😂I just wanted to say it
Alicia Jackson lmao no no it’s fine! At least you guys have classes together. And he even complimented on your looks. Me and my crush never even had a proper conversation. All of them were short and awkward. I hope it goes well with your crush though. Good luck mate
hyohyo _ yeah Thank you , you to !!
I look away from him but he notices I look at him sometimes. He does what you’re saying!!! UGH! I gotta start a conversation soon.
I have this friend she's more mature (older) than I am. whenever I'm talking to her she's always staring deep into my eyes. it kind of scares me when a woman does that.
She's in her 40's
Scares me, too..
I am totally confused, Marie! He passed me by in a group of people. I stopped him with my hand and we embraced each other. He was happy to see me and smiled to me. We hugged for 10 seconds, he lingered in my hug, held it until I released myself from the hug. But after that, suddenly, he started behaving like a total jerk: he kept talking to my friend, avoided my questions, covered my words with his voice, purposely avoided my eyes and then with a disgusted and bored attitude, he left my group! I am still shocked, confused and broken. I keep asking myself what I did wrong, maybe interrupting him while he was talking to my friend and he got angry or maybe he felt that I liked him a lot and ran away, I don't know. After a while, he returned in my area, like 10 metres away but tally ignored my presence. Only once I caught his look and he seemed angry and hateful to me. I am totally broken, please, help me with a clue!
Trying make these guesses about someone can put you in an embarrassing situation if you misread someones feelings for you.
Try the ONE EYE. Put your foreheads together and looking into the others eyes it will appear the have one eye in the middle then yell ONE EYE
i would talk to my crush but i have really BAD anxiety my heart just drops when i see them i get Super red too :[
This is 100% true this lady is brilliant 👌
Wow this video should have an award, because her logic sound just like a fact ! 💯
my crush acts like this. he says hi then acts like he doesnt know im breathing. he talks to everyone comfortably but me, he goes to the other side of the room when i sit or go somewhere. he says hi to me and he has touched my hand a few times and even grabbed my waist one time when we were playing a game. i saw him staring at me a few times. we were even at the same table together eating lunch and he said hi to everyone but me! he insisted on giving me a ride home when he didnt have to and he was joking and teasing me when we were in the car. plus when i mentioned my ex, he made fun of him. so gosh idk if thats a good sign or not tbh
I tend to be flirtitious,then I avoid them..I really fear getting rejected ,several men told me I was attractive but I still act this way :((
Initial focal point...talk...and make some motion in the energy field. Make a repor. Love it all great advice.
I linked-up with an ex last night after a 7 months of being being blocked ( he blocked me🥺).
I noticed that he was talking to me but busying himself to keep from looking at me.
Once we finally locked eyes, I feel like he remembered who I’ve always been to him😍. The meet up went well🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you again!!
Hi Marie. Theres this guy in office whom i got on well with. We talk most of the time and chat online almost everyday. Sometimes i think he likes me but im not too sure. He helps me alot at work. He can so caring at times and he can also be aloof at times. He would talk to me quietly abt work or life, sometimes with eye contact (if its on serious matters), sometimes without eye contact as we both talk while working. He always talk to me in a low voice. We can talk for ages on phones off the office hours and laughed a lot with eachother.. I notice a few times that when wish me to have a good long break before leaving the office, he would say it without looking at me, looking down etc but he spoke in a low voice so that only i could hear him. There was one time, i got flu and he knew i had to drive out of town, he wished me well telling me to get some rest first but not looking at me, just fastening his beg. The way he said it made me belived he cares for me. Then turned and walked away without looking at my face. Later he text me, reminding me to take medication, rest before driving. I'm totally confused now. What does all these mean?
Shadatul Haniza Shahriman he is playing games...be careful. Remember, if he were serious, he would have asked you out already. And honestly, getting involved with someone at work is not a great idea anyway.
Marie Dubuque yes i agree. thank you Marie
It's hopeless no girl ever looks at me period 😭
Okay Marie you better be right because ,I know a girl who never wants to look me in the eye from close but she initiates eye contact from far away .I went and asked her name and now she always seems to be around when im there but she acts like she's super busy. I feel like I need to stop her in her tracks to ask how she's doing and she answers me but looks down. im older than her I know that ,but I feel like she's shy and super serious , and I'm also shy but I have a tendency to overthink things. I want to skip the small talk with her but I'm nervous I guess I fear rejection aswell, there are other girls in the world, I know but something about this girl got me stressing I'm not sure what it is
I start conversations to him, but he never looks at me in the eyes.
I do the opposite when into someone. I avoid eye contact. Because I avoid most eye contact to begin with, it makes me uncomfortable. So when im actually interested, it's just worse lol People don't get it. And i don't see it as a bad thing that I do this. I can feel everything....Unlike a sociopath lol
I’m pretty sure she just doesn’t like me, but that’s okay I’ve been at that gym longer then she’s worked there. I’m just gonna be my kind confident self, I have no time for wondering what she wants.
I’m interested in this boy and I want to talk to him and get to know him. He used to look at me a lot but I would always look away and ignore because I thought nothing of it...Now he stopped looking at me maybe because it took me so long to notice him. I’m trying to give eye contact and smile but he just doesn’t look at me anymore. Is it too late.....? Should I give up? :(
The girl i likes doesn't look at me or face toward me😐😐...even when i walk up to her...but she text me a #LOTTTT...does she like me?
But problem is that I'm also every shy person, that can't start conversations with him
I might be the only exception here. I avoid eye contact with everyone passively, because I am scared of looking directly to eyes and scared of people staring me into the eyes. This is caused by my mild autism.
It doesn't matter what I do 90 percent of women avoid eye contact with me. I've had a lady who owns the dry cleaning by my house nervously tapping her foot because we were alone. It made me uncomfortable and I'm 6'1" 295 pounds weight lifter. I don't like to even talk to women I don't know anymore.
Hi.. (There is a gentleman who I think likes me??)... When we are in a group he will look at everyone while he is talking. But as soon as he looks my way he quickly looks way. He won't stare at me having a conversation... But yet, he loves it when I give him a kiss and hug when we say our hello's and goodbyes... What do you think? x
Zelia De Sousa He likes you!
Thank you if I may ask another question...what does it mean when, a lady who is just about to give him a goodbye kiss (as always nothing new until)... the man looks at her lips, looks away, then looks again at her lips, looks away then stiffens up when she kisses him goodbye? This time he could not kiss her lips, he was to scared to look at her? So she kissed his cheeck instead... Change of heart from his side? Or does she take his breath away? Thank you
I think your right when I was in high school. On the first day there was this guy that I thought was handsome I got closer to try to say something and he just had his eyes trying to avoid me. He sat behind me talking and being friendly to a group of people. I thought he was cute but he never looked at me. Fast forward to grad night I'm on the dance floor I am a very good dancer and I see him trying to get near me to dance with me I start panicing inside I became so nervous that when he attempted to try to dance with me I turned my back on him. Now I think he probably liked me from the start.
Hello Marie! I have a new boyfriend, and he says that he feels awkward towards anyone if he looks at them straight in the eye, almost as if it is uncomfortable to him. Do you think that maybe the more we become comfortable with each other, the more he might want to glance and look into my eyes as I love to glance into his? He has the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen! It's such a shame that he can never keep a glance for more than a split second! Should I comfort him? I feel like maybe I intimidate him? I'm not sure?
I do this ALOT. I don't turn my body towards him or my feet or try to touch my face. or make toooo much eye contact. I try my hardest not to show him I like him cuz I don't know how he feels. I feel like maybe we are mirroring each other. Cuz when he talks to me he's not facing me with his chest or feet. Just his head like I do. Once in a while tho he would face directly at me or touch his face. Sometimes he asks how I'm doing and sometimes I ask how he's doing. I really like this person we had like maybe 3 conversations the whole year we worked together. At one point he asked me about my son and if I had pictures of him. At first I was concerned lol. I told him no. So he walked away came back asked my sons name walked away and came back and asked how old he was. Then walked away again. He works nights and I work days. But it never use to be that way, I use to work night shift with him for almost a year and was promoted and work days for a month now. Sometimes we get one good eye contact in, but not sure if it's cuz we are just walking by each other and notice each other lol. Other times I would turn around and he was walking up behind me and was looking right at me. Or maybe he thinks I look weird idk. I catch him sometimes. Even when I'm not looking at him directly and he walks by i see him look in my direction. But i always think maybe it's just a natural thing. Cuz when i walk by a door or where someone is standing i look in that direction just cuz. Not sure why reflex kind of thing i guess
(1/2) Before I moved out of state, I went to the same school as my crush who I've liked since 2nd grade and we're now Seniors. Well, I tried to say "hi (his name)" in the hallway but I don't think he heard me and he was in a hurry to get to class. His mom who was my gym teacher knew I liked him, and always tried getting me to talk to him, and asked before if he said hello to me (which he didn't, he just looked in my eyes had a little redness and a little-but-quick smile).
He does this. So I went up to him to say hi and as soon as his eyes met mine he immediately looked down. Either Im the fugliest thing he’s ever seen or he’s shy.
So true I got someone doing that now she's my sister in law who I called beautiful didn't go to well, but since then she's been wearing her hair down and looking even better then before acting like this. She also says hey to me really fast with no eye contact kinda side eye with a little hand wave. She never acted this way before. Also I stopped giving her attention and compliments. I know this sounds bad but you can't help who you fall for right
Had a female co worker help me out on some work, she would not make any sort of eye contact, the whole time her eyes were facing down but she had no problem being in close proximity to me and talking to me but her voice sounded low.
Alright so there is this girl at my school, when we pass each other she looks away either looking up or the other direction. I want to approach her but I’m afraid that I might get rejected😅
I went in a bar last night and this girl walked by me twice. I felt a good vibe from her in one way (before she walked by me), but then as I looked at her as she was walking by me she would not look at me... She looked straight, with her eyes almost locked looking forward (seemingly so she could tell using her peripheral vision to see if I was going to look at her) . My gut feeling is this girl noticed me and is attracted to me. I think she may have a boyfriend and is being loyal to him by not making eye contact with me or flirting with me, but I also think she is attracted to me and is fighting her sexual instincts to look at me and smile and potentially talk to me. I go in this bar every weekend and I think this girl is a bartender. I'll follow and let you know what happens in the future with this one :)
THANKu for sharing... i maybe just going thru this situation, I've also tried starting conversation but it seems in doing all the work. my crush is always making her way around me at work but never strikes up conversation, HELP!??? LOL
Hello, Marie. I told a woman how I felt about her, but she's in a relationship. When I asked her how she felt, she said "what is their to say? I'm in a relationship, if I were single it'd be different." For a while we were talking a lot, then one day she deleted and blocked me on Facebook. When I see her, she always has a sad expression on her face. When I try to talk to her at work, she won't engage in conversation that isn't work-related. When I sit down and smoke a cigarette, she won't look at me. She looks in the opposite direction. She rarely returns my texts. Oh, yeah, she's my boss. She cut my hours and hired a new employee. When I asked her why, she said I was getting on her nerves. Apparently I was talking to her too much. She then told me via text "Get your stuff together, Jack, and I will too." I know she has a boyfriend, but she always talks about him negatively when she brings him up. What does all this mean? Does she hate me? Is she interested? Should I give up on her? Please note that this is not a crush. I'm head-over-heels in love with this woman. This is really tearing me up inside. Any info you could provide would be appreciated.
jackslater230011 she does not like you brother sorry move on apologize to her and say I won't ever talk to you in that way again On a personal level sat I will keep it professional with you move on brother
My crush and I texted and we got into a deep conversation and he was so misunderstood and we became good friends and I started liking him. Then he talked to my friend and said “If she likes me it’s very obvious and I don’t really like her in that way but she is cool, funny, and I like her smile and I love her as a friend.” But in the halls he doesn’t look at me and when I’m around him he looks at my friend instead of me (btw he doesn’t like my friend I know that for a fact and she doesn’t like him) anyways he or one of his friends then says “hey where did gabby go?” And I’m not sure I think he said “she went outside” meaning he’s kinda observing where I go. I’m super confused as to his feelings. He makes me insecure about my body like it’s not my personality but the outside of me that needs changing. I know I shouldn’t change for a guy but....idk
Explain being in a relationship and not getting eye contact after telling someone you love them
Hello Marie. I'm a good looking guy but when it comes to approaching women and trying to talk to a girl I find interesting i get nervous and the conversation becomes awkward. I am constantly in my head and thinking of me having a successful approach and have a great conversation but when I am face to face I just blank out. Do you have any advice that would allow me to break free of this anxiety?
jdawg reviews 4u you are not alone! Try talking to someone who you would naturally talk to...like about work or a class, or someone you both know. If you are approaching her because you want to talk to her about something...rather than approaching her for the sake of approaching her, the conversation will be easier.
Gosh almost everytime I have a crush on someone they always look away from me even when they're talking to me they don't make eye contact and even if I'm not really into this person i always think if i was ugly or something was wrong with me
I do this to a woman at work that likes me...i look away but i do like her...all FACTS
Not always true sometimes I look away from someone because I don't want them to get the wrong idea.
Omg I like this dude, and he gives me the eye contact, the smile, ask me questions? But I be so scared, I make minimum eye contact, shaking a bit... So I give little at a times
I’ve been seeing an ex from 30 years ago, who is going through And absolutely horrible divorce. When he asked me to come see him I notice he does not let me in the eye his eyes are on mine for a moment and dart away. But he is the first one to lean in for a kiss goodbye. Somebody help I’m confused
Thank you for your knowledge on this topic. it's really confidence booster
and makes sense!
I have found a guy that I like and have caught him looking at me quickly, not once but a few times. He has tried to get closer to me a few times and he has asked my friend about me. I believe he likes me but I am to shy to say something and keep a straight face because I am nervous and he is possibly shy....
What about someone you meet for the first time
Please respond. I like this guy and I know he likes me cuz he's not playing games. He would look at me and not look away when i looked at him. If I smile, he smiles. "Accidentally" touches my hand every week or so, If i touch his hand "accidently" he gets super giddy and is in a good mood all day. made an excuse to come to come talk to me asking me basic questions about myself. But we speak different languages. I know a bit of Spanish but not enough to be confident, but I go up to him and try to talk. Two days ago, he was staring at me leaning his head and smiling like he was falling in love, I made a big smile, he turned around and continued to work with a cute smile. Last 2 days he started looking at me less. And if he does its for a split moment without a smile. So i stopped looking at him today and i see him staring at me in the corner of my eye. I hate this makes me feel likes hes not interested in me anymore. I can't stop looking at him entirely, if i do everything stops there. What should I do?
Hes losing interest because u aren't giving him a signal he's noticing
this pretty annoying to people who suffer with ocd staring when you look at someone and they look away it doesn't mean they like you some people do.I just need to put this in someone's mind before they say someone likes them and they find out the hard way when they don't
i kinda do this, i dont look at the person when im near but when im far, i glance. when they get nearer i dont go away. i even suddenly have an excuse to pass by or something.
I'm confused if a guy a interested or not, he's my crush. The first time we walked past each other on a sidewalk , first I avoided looking at him, but I couldn't (he's really cute) when I turned to him, his eyes were already on me. He nodded while giving me a half of a smile at the corner of his mouth (not a huge smile), and we locked eyes for about 2/3 seconds, it was definitely longer than normal . The next day we saw each other again, he caught me and my friend looking at him. The next day after that I saw him and could tell he was looking at me, but I didn't look directly at him because I felt I was staring at him to much.
I saw him for the fourth time today, walked past him (he was with a friend) but he didn't look at me. He's head was facing forward, but his eyes were turned completely to the opposite side that I was walking. Did he loose interest? Was he just being nice the first time he smiled at me and never was interested?
Aisha Perez I would start by saying hi and smiling. Then the next time, start a short conversation and see how he responds. If you don't at least talk to him, you will never know. And it seems as if he wants to talk to you too but is a little nervous. So break the ice!
I'm so shy and soooooo afraid of rejection, but I'll try it. Thank you.