Yep same here. Once i see ur not interested in me i just moved on. This is why im a single dude for a long time. Id rather avoid wasting my energy too much
they dont like u that much. its like an eh feeling. they are fine with the attention but dont care enough. i´m sure u there are people you feel about like that too. if someone has a crush on you, but is already your friend, they wont miss a shot on trying to get to know u. or maybe, u can just ask.
Aaron, Yes, that is a good sign! Sometimes teasing is a person's way of saying they like you without coming out and saying it. But, look for other signs too. Just teasing you is not enough to go on, unless they show other indications as well.
I was in my 20s during the 1980s when I was sitting in a cocktail lounge. A pretty girl who sat a couple of tables away kept looking at me until we made eye contact. At that moment she motioned with her forefinger to come here...I got up and sat with her. I was so intimidated by her because she was so gorgeous...I didnt know what to say. My mind went completely blank...so I told her I had come out of a coma with brain damage from a car accident. She got up and left.
Neary, go to the basketball game and say hi to him. And if he doesn't start talking to you, let it go. But this just might be the opportunity he is looking for. Remember, no matter how shy he is, if he is interested in you, he will find some way to be around you and try at least to talk to you.
thank you that last one gave me a lot of confidence. its like when we are at somewhere she follows me and we talk a lot and we have a lot in common so ya I think I have a good chance
"Remember, no matter how shy he is, if he is interested in you, he will find some way to be around you and try at least to talk to you". Yeah, trying to find a way to be around our crushes is a big one for us and something we try - but trying to talk to her is absolutely impossible for us very shy guys (well... at least me, and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in that), and not something that I (and probably more of us shy guys) don't attempt to do ....ever (sadly, since apparently we are still stuck in the 18th century where women aren't supposed to take the initiative) - and I absolutely hate it that women always reinfore the same old garbage that "if he's into you then he will speak to you first". Complete and utter nonsense (sorry, but I've just about had it with this hogwash and complete and utter untruth)
hi !! i noticed i.see this cute guy evry friday hes shy and keeps glancing at me even when i dont look. if i see him lookin he immdieently looks away but never approches.. does he possibly like me? he jus comes every friday where i am like 3 desks away from.me.in front. with his hradphones in...
Hey MISS, I really need your help. A girl at work was giving me all the SHY girl signs that she likes me for like a month and a half. . Staring when she thinks I'm not looking. Getting nervous and clumsy when I would talk to her. She would find excuses to get close to me. She even started to turn red when I would look at her. She started talking to my friends and lingering close by trying to get in my conversations. BUT then she told me she has a Boyfriend what happened????
He purposely acts as if he doesn't but is always around peeping & secretly watch ever move I make. Tried conversation but it didn't work. I have a healthy self esteem & 10 yrs.older. We work out at the same gym. Advice appreciated! Love your advice!
I just like to say, thank you! I've been watching your video's for over a year now and they are a great help! and by the way, the hair looks fab, Marie!
the guy i like mirrors me all the time when im around him, like with my headphones and when i play with my hair or touch my hair he does the same and then we give eachother glances and then pretend like we weren't looking at eachother. i hope he can tell me he likes me. just gonna be patient. also he leaned in whilst i was talking, and he's never done that before and when we lock eyes theres major chemisty. hope he tells me
Cindy, you have to ask yourself if you are interested in him, or just like him as a friend. He probably isn't sure how you feel, that's why he is hesitant.
omg story of my life! you just described me.. i find it so hard to tell/show the guy i like him but my ears would definitely perk up when hes talking and i do avoid looking into his eyes for fear of him finding out i like him. this happened beginning of the year when the guy i like approached me, totally caught me off guard, and yes, i ended up turning my back on him cos i was so flustered! he probably thought i "rejected" him when it wasnt the case at all (im totally fine and confident with guys im not interested in which could have left him confused) and when i finally gathered the courage to talk to him, he walked off fairly quickly... now all i have is regret.
Radius, I would, just once though. Just something pretty casual and short, asking how she is doing, about her new job, anything that you would say to any other friend. But if you don't get a response, I wouldn't pursue it. But if she messages you back, then try to keep the conversation going.
Ilove, you must see him on a regular basis, so there has to be something you have in common...if you work together, ask him about something to do with a problem you are having (it should seem natural) or you could approach him and say, "I always see you, but haven't gotten a chance to talk to you. You work in accounting, right?" and then see how he responds. Same thing if you pass him at school. Just say hi and wave. That way you look warm and approachable. If you don't try, you won't know!
Julie, try to talk to him in a group. Usually, I say the other way around, to talk to someone one-on-one. But in this case, if you can talk to him and his friends when you are all standing around, and you keep doing this, he will get more comfortable around you, and eventually you can talk to him one-on-one, and he won't bolt!
Jess, it could be that he is not interested, or it could be that he is! Could he really like you but is shy? I mean, if he were only interested in you as a friend he wouldn't have any trouble talking to you. If you can find out from someone who knows him who you can really trust, that would be great. But if not, I would still talk to him, and see if he gets more comfortable around you. But if he seems to get worse, then no, don't bother.
I like a guy, but I am too shy and I always end up doing the last thing you said in the video, I make sure he does not notice me. At first he always said hello to me and started a conversation, sometimes a hug or tapping my head, I ended up walking away because I was too scared to mistake him. He started anothertime to talk to me and to say good bye tapped my head. Are those signals? I don't really get how guys think since I am too shy... but I want to talk to him, I just don't have the courage! Help me please :(( and thanks!
What if you are sitting in your bedroom on your computer that is close to the window and your not doing anything wrong but just being in your own house when you look outside the window and I feel like I'm being harrassed
Dayne, hard to tell. But you will definitely know now. So it is good you asked her out. Because now, there will be no question in your mind anymore. If she likes you, she will go out with you, it's as simple as that. But if she searches for excuses or doesn't get back to you at all, that is not a good sign.
niners, yes, but they have to sit down and talk. He/she has to explain what happened and how terrible she feels about it. I think just seeing the honesty and compassion may nudge this coworker to give her another chance. If she continues to say nothing, the problems may simply continue or get worse.
I have a question. So i like a guy and oneday i was walking with my friends and saw him sitting on a bench. With being the bold person i am i walked over and sat by him. He looked me directly in my eyes with a smile and asked me what i was up to and i responded that i was chilling and he laughed out loud. The twist is he said he was on the phone so out of respect i asked him if he wanted me to go and he nodded yes with a smile and i left. Ever since that day he would say sup to me and appear in places i would and come outside more if he saw me but he can never seem to make conversation with me. Why? Is he intrested? Should i give him time?
Hey Marie, This video is pretty spot on. I have a few questions though.(It would be awesome if you replied) So first of all, let me tell you that last week I worked at a talent show and this guy was there that I have been a little interested in. He has shown signs of interest. Like looking at me, trying to show off/brag, fix his hair and so on. One time I looked over at him and he was already looking at me and he turned his head quickly away. The thing is, is that he is shy and does not make a move. He is so shy, that when I was walking toward a certain direction that he was headed, he saw me and literally turned around and walked a different direction. Was he scared of me? Or maybe he thinks it might get awkward or something. It is super annoying because he can talk to other girls fine, even in front of me.He is also not an awkward person, he has a good amount of friends and he is outgoing with them. I am not sure what to think or do. One last thing, he looks at me from far away but when he is close, he looks down. Any tips? Thanks
jam, I'm not sure. It could be that he is interested in you, or he might just be unloading on you. It's not a great sign when he says "I have to figure things out first." I would count on nothing happening, and just be friendly like you normally are. And who knows, you could be pleasantly surprised.
You're amazing just helped me realise the guy I like obviously likes me to. every thing you said he does ❤ I'm going to chat more to him now. Thank you so much X
diana, that's a good idea, talk to him about track. And I know it's late, but next year, you go out for track! Usually the boys and girls have it at the same time. You will have more opportunities to talk to him. And if he does cross country in the fall, go out for that.
btr, it shouldn't unless there is some kind of social stigma there, against dating someone a year younger. He either can't figure out if he likes you, or sometimes feels bold and other times feels shy. Try to talk to him more and see how he reacts to you.
Hello Marie. i have recently gotten out of a relationship with a boy from my class. i was with him for 9 months, but it didnt work out. recently i have found my self having a slight crush and desires towards another guy from my class, who is ofcourse friends with my ex. i feel like he likes me too, he looks at me a lot and sometimes he just goes with me when i have to do something, for no other reason than just to be around me. is it a bad idea to start something up with this guy? i kinda wanna just kiss him, but can i do that without it leading to more? love. Astrid
Ilove, I don't think you are losing your best friend. She will see through this person soon enough. But until then, you'll have to distance yourself from both of them. I know it's hard. But believe me, if she is a good friend, she will soon see this person's true colors. But she has to find out for herself. In the mean time, this is a good opportunity to meet other people, and form new friendships. I know it's hard, but you can do it.
you described what i do when i see my crush but instead of smiling i just bite my lip and when i walk past him i look at him for a second then i just looked down fixed my hair and kept walking i think he looked at me first before i saw him
Preach! This is my life every week and it's crazy how utterly DENSE these people can be. And they circle all around my house trying to look through windows and bang on everything hollering my name outside to pinpoint what room I'm in and will swear to God stand out there for as long as an hour from time to time.... And I just saw these people! They're not family of course but seem to think they are. They ignore the no trespassing signs, video surveillance notices and GO AWAY door mat.
My dilemma is I have a crush on a senior basketball player, and we always happen to be in the dining commons at the same time, or usually I'm leaving when he's entering or vice versa. I have confidence but when it come to talking to crushes or love interest I don't. I am good friends with some of his teammates but I don't try to start a conversation with them when he's around. I just want to know if there could be a possible connection because sometimes I catch him staring at me, but I don't know whether it's because I stare at him. But when I catch him looking at me he stares for a little longer and then looks away and I do the same, so I just want to know could something brewing between us? By the way, I'm a freshmen in college and my crush is a senior in college.
Pamela, I would try to smile a lot. And this has happened to me too. People misinterpret things, so if you say it with a smile, whatever it is, people will always think you are warm and welcoming.
theDubmark, you can kiss him back, but only if you feel comfortable. Don't feel pressured to say or do anything you don't want to. He'll get over it. And if you don't really have feelings towards him now, don't think they will eventually get there. Either you are attracted to someone or your not, right from the beginning,it usually doesn't change.
There was this guy at work who stood next to me , it was on my birthday, and a female co-worker gave me three kisses (thats what we do in Belgium, three kisses for b-days) and he started to blush and said to me "Oh, it's your birthday? Let me give you four kisses.." It was so funny.. I wasn't interested in him though (too bad, why does that never happen with someone I like too??) like he must have been thinking "i'll have to take my chances now and take advantage of it!" haha
Girls Aloud, I would try to talk to him, but only as a friend! No flirting, remember, he has a girlfriend. Seriously, I would try to strike up a conversation, because you never know what will happen with his relationship. And you could end up making a good friend. Just talk to him about classes, professors, etc. And it will be good practice for you to talk to people you don't know all that well. And it sounds like there could be a little chemistry there!
Radius, that is a good sign. Now, you need to approach her, and see how she responds. If she is in a rush to leave, or doesn't seem particularly interested in what you have to say, that's not a good sign. But if she seems focused on you, and then comes up to you again, I think this looks good!
Hey Marie. So I recently got a government funded summer student job, and my co-worker happens to be this girl who I know a bit from my church. However 1: I don't know her too well and 2: she is very timid and quiet towards people until she is comfortable. Now one thing that I noticed is that she stays quite timid with me while she is not towards other co-workers, and I can't tell if its because she doesn't want to talk to me, because she can't get comfortable, or other reasons.
She talk to everyone but me now, my uncle, my cousin, and my mother, yet when I come to me she goes silent Last year she and I use to talk, but this year, she went silent on me. She was fidgety for about 2 to 3 weeks, and now after 2 months she is able to be calm when I am around, but she still says nothing, and she turns her head away from me. I do not look up much now, and I look away when talking to her, like K said before her dress is better and she does her nails now, and combs her hair as well. I guess it is hard when we are rarely alone in the store. When there is a line of people to take care of, some how I have to talk to her when she is alone.
mandy18573 Are you sure, she is back to dressing better had her hair up a few days ago, she actually talked to me. And for some strange reason, she made sure I knew the other guy that was in the store at the time was not with her. I just asked who was first, she must of thought that I thought she was with him. She made huge jesters with her hands and arms, and even push her things, the items she was going to buy away from that other guys stuff, even though they were not close to her stuff on the counter. I stopped talking to a few girls, because they do not measure up to her qualities!
Also their is a boy who I think is flirting with me and doesn't go to my school that I only see twice a year. He is 13, and he doesn't even live in the same state as me. I'm 12 and had a crush on him since I was really young. Whenever we see him we always tease each other and he tries to impress me.
Hi marie, i need help on talking to my crush. we have never talked before and i have a feeling he might like me back, he stares at me quite alot and gets quiet when i walk past. How should i approach him? by the way he knows i like him :)
teeganpender Simple....let me give you an opinion from the guys side...if you want to approach me never approach me when im around my friends they will tease me to death..approach when he's not around anyone and when he's calm and not in a hurry to get somewhere...
Wait omg I know this was posted 3 years ago 😂 But the EXACT same thing is happening to me!! Like this has been going on for 5 fricking years😭😭. I need help. I really like this person from primary but we never talk which is sad. If I were to talk to him I'd probably freeze. Oof.
Maha, don't be someone you're not. The real you will come out eventually..might as well make it now. And remember, he doesn't have to have a girlfriend who plays soccer! Does he make a point to talk to you? Does he focus more on you than anyone else? Does he seem at a loss for words around you (meaning he is nervous)? Look for those indications. And remember, don't appear too anxious! Talk to him, and then wait for him to approach you!
So, I have this friend who is really upset with me. We're not friends anymore and quite frankly I don't care. However, she's spreading lies about me and yelling at whole entire classes about me. I'm also really concerned because my best friend is becoming extremely close with this person. I feel like I'm losing my best friend. I've tried to apologize to this person, but she just keeps saying no and that i'm fake and keeps cussing at me. What do I do? I can't lose my best friend!!!!
Its hard because im an extremely quiet guy, so when i talk it always catches everyone off guard with how deep my voice is. People are often just fascinated with me because im quiet and work super hard 😂 I get these signs but whether that intrest is just curiosity is what gets me
sxhamy123, don't give up, but don't seem overanxious either. I would try and talk to him and see how he responds. Just talk about your classes or whatever. Start by just smiling and saying hi when you pass him.
what if i missed all of the signs and didn't realize it until it was too late...should i not approach them and say how i feel if i ever see them again. Now that i know, i will be super nervous. overcoming anxiety should be something you discuss.
Well this is exaclty what my situation is... My classmate and I started to go out together but after that fun time we both admit to each other that we like each other... but he is kinda not approaching me and with texting he also isnt initiating... but i can see that he treat me differently then any girl... in class he is near around me.., quietly and awkwardly... but when i start a comversation, then he is really nice and sweet to me... sometimes this makes me really confusing it looks like he is isnt interesting in me but my guts tells me he do really has interest in me even though he has a hard time to show it... but he initiate with meetings and dates... he text me with short replies but sometimes he text unexpectedly sending red hearts emoticons... haha its really sweet but also confusing for me hahah
Will men do this to other men if they are gay or bisexual? There's a guy at my gym that does this to me constantly. Sometimes, he'll make direct eye contact and give a slight smile and other times a blank, inquisitive stare. A couple of times I've caught him looking at me and he'll look away quickly. He definitely seems to notice me. He'll also position himself near me when we're working out. He would also park his car next to mine. I can't make sense of this dude. There are some other things he's done that are consistent with stalking. This has been going on for about two years.
Sorry; I've been trying to get the valor to talk to this guy i like for years and I just can't ( any advice) thank you sooooooo much for you great advice!:)
Hey Marie!I had a crush on a guy in my class(university) 3 years ago.This guy always stares at me from afar and he still does now.Whenever I enter to the class his friends were always smiling,whispering and shouting his name aloud!But this happens everytime.However this guy only says "Hi" to me,but we never had a real conversation.This year I found out that he has a gf,but he still glances at me whenever I walk..I am really shy tipe,so why he is acting like this?Please inbox me if u can! :)
lmao, I've got this dude who looks at me with the corner of his eye, whenever he sees me, mainly during lunch, his little group of friends sits next to my group of friends. I always catch him looking, but I'm almost 100% sure he doesn't know I know he's been looking once every minute. Other times is when school is over, and everyone would walk out the door, he would be on the other side and I'll be with a friend of mine, we'll just be talking, I would take a sneak peek if he'll be looking, and yup, correct every time ;) But the thing is, we don't even talk to each other :/ This was informative thanks Marie xD
There's a guy. We are studying together, 4 months passed, he talked to me a little bit few times, but not anymore, just always shakes my hand. And the other guy is trying to get me, and that guy that I like started to act very sarcastic and jealous with that guy who tries to get me, he also is looking at me and when I look at him, he becomes embarrassed and turns away. Is there any chances that he will talk to me again? Cause he really looks interested.
People look at me out the corner of their eye, I always think that I did something wrong when they look at me that way. people have always done that. The other person thinks that I have done something to scare them or have done something to them not intentional. How do I make ppl not scared of me or make me think that I have done something wrong to them?
Marie, I see him on the bus a lot. He is amazing. He was standing on the bus and he kept looking at me and he went on his phone and started texting. I want to approach him.
I have been very busy writing letters to my U.S. Representatives, trying to obtain my VA benefits which are being denied. I attend a local community college which is about 90% Hispanic and of course alotta pretty girls in their early or mid-twenties. I am a Persian Gulf veteran, so I always sit in the back row where now I only have bookshelves behind me. There is plenty of computers to use within one side of the college library. I already had noticed that the girls also had their regular computers they like to use. Eventually, they noticed me and would give me a "smile" Surprisingly, a few have come and sat right beside me but then they act as though they don't see me. What is going on? Why come that far and smile at me from the distance and now you are right by my side and pretend you don't see me?
August, take things very very slowly, And if you think that he is not genuine, don't date him at all. Don't settle for anyone who doesn't treat you the very best. Remember that.
Stayinganon, could be an ego boost, could be he is a player. All I know is, do what you're doing...which is nothing..until he breaks up with this girl.
Santiago, I would talk to her. Just ask her how her internship is going, and where she goes to school, that kind of thing. And you really don't know if you like her or not until you talk to her! Also, it sounds like she is nervous around you. But she will feel more comfortable around you the more she gets to know you.
Hey Marie! There is this guy in my class who is always either tapping on my desk or trying to get my attention. In some other way. And he usually complements my doodles or if we are in the middle of reading a chapter he will turn to me and ask me about it or comment how confusing something is. He is very nice to me and if we talk he looks me right in the eye. But i,'m not sure if he likes me or if he's jut being friendly or annoying. I'm so confused.
hey marie, this girl that i met at a freinds house, we had a great evening, and talked a lot, i did notice her being shy, and looking at me in the corner of her eye, but when i text her, she replies, but they are sentences but not as big as a normal sentence, i ask her to do something fun during the week, she says yes, but at the last minute, no. so i ask her again, maybe next week '" nanana had a great time with you...." and now hasnt replied for a few days, i dont what to say...
I have a question. I like this girl, and we're both very shy. The thing is, she talks more to her other friends, but when she's around me, she gets very quiet. I called and asked her out last week (since I couldn't catch her before spring break) , and all she said was a quick "I don't know". What do you think?
There's this guy I really like and we're in the same class and he sits right next to me. He always taps me on the shoulder during class and says something completely random or offers me one of the crackers or whatever he's eating, and he's complimented me on something I'm wearing, too. I can't tell if he likes me, though, because he's nice to everyone and he talks to everyone. How do I know whether he likes me or is just being nice?
Ashley, see how often he initiates a conversation, and when. If it is just because you happen to be there then maybe he is just being nice. But if he seeks you out, maybe in the halls or at lunch, or texts you just to see what's up, then, he probably does like you.
I have this guy friend who i think really likes me but, we have been "just friends" for about 8 months, he did ask me out once but that was when I barely knew him, so I said no. But lately he has started showing "that kind of interest" again, the thing is, he's the kind of guy that's kind of just after "the kitty", so i'm afraid to date him because I think it might ruin our friendship because we "do something". What should I do?
Thecashy, I think he is shy. So, give him some time. He likes you but is afraid. Just talk to him more, and little by little, he will start to feel comfortable around you.
There is a boy, that was staring at me in the cafeteria the other day. I smiled at him, and me and him were awkwardly smiling at each other for at least 10 seconds. Then I looked away, and acted like a friend was talking to me. What do I do? Does he like me?
LPS, you will really need to talk to him. Because otherwise, you will never know. Approach him once and start a conversation. Then, the ball is in his courts. See if he comes up to you.
Its hard when they seem to like you but never talk, and i try but it doesnt go anywhere.
Same shit why ???
Yep same here. Once i see ur not interested in me i just moved on. This is why im a single dude for a long time. Id rather avoid wasting my energy too much
they dont like u that much. its like an eh feeling. they are fine with the attention but dont care enough. i´m sure u there are people you feel about like that too. if someone has a crush on you, but is already your friend, they wont miss a shot on trying to get to know u. or maybe, u can just ask.
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@@katrin6388 Honestly, I feel like they do this when they see you an option, but not their main option. Your like their third option, pretty much.
Am I seriously that Obvious? Omg. That's what I do when I see my crush....
I caught him looking at me out of the corner of his eyes a million times
Lol!- Update about it? Does he like you?
I am cringing at myself about how I do all those things
Your advice is always top notch! Thank you.
yes
Ruby20111000 yes
I love that you basically summarize the video in your description, it’s easier for when you don’t have time or a really short attention span
2:50 " ..really focused on you when you keep up to them" good clue
My cat is in love with me?
No, they are the exception.
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LMAO 😄
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Hokay buddy
You're funny! My ears are perking up already just listening to this great info. Lollll
Hahahaha!! Yeess, I noticed a girl looking at me from the corner of her eye. Hahaha! Thanks for mentioning that. I feel a little better now.
Aaron, Yes, that is a good sign! Sometimes teasing is a person's way of saying they like you without coming out and saying it. But, look for other signs too. Just teasing you is not enough to go on, unless they show other indications as well.
I was in my 20s during the 1980s when I was sitting in a cocktail lounge.
A pretty girl who sat a couple of tables away kept looking at me until we made eye contact.
At that moment she motioned with her forefinger to come here...I got up and sat with her.
I was so intimidated by her because she was so gorgeous...I didnt know what to say.
My mind went completely blank...so I told her I had come out of a coma with brain damage from a car accident.
She got up and left.
Neary, go to the basketball game and say hi to him. And if he doesn't start talking to you, let it go. But this just might be the opportunity he is looking for. Remember, no matter how shy he is, if he is interested in you, he will find some way to be around you and try at least to talk to you.
thank you that last one gave me a lot of confidence. its like when we are at somewhere she follows me and we talk a lot and we have a lot in common so ya I think I have a good chance
"Remember, no matter how shy he is, if he is interested in you, he will find some way to be around you and try at least to talk to you".
Yeah, trying to find a way to be around our crushes is a big one for us and something we try - but trying to talk to her is absolutely impossible for us very shy guys (well... at least me, and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone in that), and not something that I (and probably more of us shy guys) don't attempt to do ....ever (sadly, since apparently we are still stuck in the 18th century where women aren't supposed to take the initiative) - and I absolutely hate it that women always reinfore the same old garbage that "if he's into you then he will speak to you first". Complete and utter nonsense (sorry, but I've just about had it with this hogwash and complete and utter untruth)
hi !! i noticed i.see this cute guy evry friday hes shy and keeps glancing at me even when i dont look. if i see him lookin he immdieently looks away but never approches.. does he possibly like me? he jus comes every friday where i am like 3 desks away from.me.in front. with his hradphones in...
Thank you I had just found out that the guy I like has a crush in me too. This video really helped clear things up.
Hey MISS, I really need your help. A girl at work was giving me all the SHY girl signs that she likes me for like a month and a half. . Staring when she thinks I'm not looking. Getting nervous and clumsy when I would talk to her. She would find excuses to get close to me. She even started to turn red when I would look at her. She started talking to my friends and lingering close by trying to get in my conversations. BUT then she told me she has a Boyfriend what happened????
He purposely acts as if he doesn't but is always around peeping & secretly watch ever move I make. Tried conversation but it didn't work. I have a healthy self esteem & 10 yrs.older. We work out at the same gym.
Advice appreciated!
Love your advice!
I just like to say, thank you! I've been watching your video's for over a year now and they are a great help! and by the way, the hair looks fab, Marie!
Thanks,this shows that the girl I know likes me she's so shy and looks at me through the corner of her eye good tips
My crush avoids me like the plaque
Same
the guy i like mirrors me all the time when im around him, like with my headphones and when i play with my hair or touch my hair he does the same and then we give eachother glances and then pretend like we weren't looking at eachother. i hope he can tell me he likes me. just gonna be patient. also he leaned in whilst i was talking, and he's never done that before and when we lock eyes theres major chemisty. hope he tells me
Thank you Anna! You're right, I'm going to keep it straight.
why do most of these videos are mainly talking about school kids
cuz we need all the help we can get😂🙏🏽
Cindy, you have to ask yourself if you are interested in him, or just like him as a friend. He probably isn't sure how you feel, that's why he is hesitant.
omg story of my life! you just described me.. i find it so hard to tell/show the guy i like him but my ears would definitely perk up when hes talking and i do avoid looking into his eyes for fear of him finding out i like him. this happened beginning of the year when the guy i like approached me, totally caught me off guard, and yes, i ended up turning my back on him cos i was so flustered! he probably thought i "rejected" him when it wasnt the case at all (im totally fine and confident with guys im not interested in which could have left him confused) and when i finally gathered the courage to talk to him, he walked off fairly quickly... now all i have is regret.
Radius, I would, just once though. Just something pretty casual and short, asking how she is doing, about her new job, anything that you would say to any other friend. But if you don't get a response, I wouldn't pursue it. But if she messages you back, then try to keep the conversation going.
Thanks Max! So glad I could help!
Ilove, you must see him on a regular basis, so there has to be something you have in common...if you work together, ask him about something to do with a problem you are having (it should seem natural) or you could approach him and say, "I always see you, but haven't gotten a chance to talk to you. You work in accounting, right?" and then see how he responds. Same thing if you pass him at school. Just say hi and wave. That way you look warm and approachable. If you don't try, you won't know!
Julie, try to talk to him in a group. Usually, I say the other way around, to talk to someone one-on-one. But in this case, if you can talk to him and his friends when you are all standing around, and you keep doing this, he will get more comfortable around you, and eventually you can talk to him one-on-one, and he won't bolt!
Lmfao just laughing my ASS OFF. GO TALK TO THEM.
Jess, it could be that he is not interested, or it could be that he is! Could he really like you but is shy? I mean, if he were only interested in you as a friend he wouldn't have any trouble talking to you. If you can find out from someone who knows him who you can really trust, that would be great. But if not, I would still talk to him, and see if he gets more comfortable around you. But if he seems to get worse, then no, don't bother.
I like a guy, but I am too shy and I always end up doing the last thing you said in the video, I make sure he does not notice me. At first he always said hello to me and started a conversation, sometimes a hug or tapping my head, I ended up walking away because I was too scared to mistake him. He started anothertime to talk to me and to say good bye tapped my head. Are those signals? I don't really get how guys think since I am too shy... but I want to talk to him, I just don't have the courage! Help me please :(( and thanks!
What if you are sitting in your bedroom on your computer that is close to the window and your not doing anything wrong but just being in your own house when you look outside the window and I feel like I'm being harrassed
It's insane that my crush is interested in me and stalking me even though we don't know each other.
Dayne, hard to tell. But you will definitely know now. So it is good you asked her out. Because now, there will be no question in your mind anymore. If she likes you, she will go out with you, it's as simple as that. But if she searches for excuses or doesn't get back to you at all, that is not a good sign.
what if that person was looking at me because she might have caught me looking at her?
niners, yes, but they have to sit down and talk. He/she has to explain what happened and how terrible she feels about it. I think just seeing the honesty and compassion may nudge this coworker to give her another chance. If she continues to say nothing, the problems may simply continue or get worse.
I have a question. So i like a guy and oneday i was walking with my friends and saw him sitting on a bench. With being the bold person i am i walked over and sat by him. He looked me directly in my eyes with a smile and asked me what i was up to and i responded that i was chilling and he laughed out loud. The twist is he said he was on the phone so out of respect i asked him if he wanted me to go and he nodded yes with a smile and i left. Ever since that day he would say sup to me and appear in places i would and come outside more if he saw me but he can never seem to make conversation with me. Why? Is he intrested? Should i give him time?
You Are absolutely right - Follow your instincts - your gutt feeling
Hey Marie, This video is pretty spot on. I have a few questions though.(It would be awesome if you replied) So first of all, let me tell you that last week I worked at a talent show and this guy was there that I have been a little interested in. He has shown signs of interest. Like looking at me, trying to show off/brag, fix his hair and so on. One time I looked over at him and he was already looking at me and he turned his head quickly away. The thing is, is that he is shy and does not make a move. He is so shy, that when I was walking toward a certain direction that he was headed, he saw me and literally turned around and walked a different direction. Was he scared of me? Or maybe he thinks it might get awkward or something. It is super annoying because he can talk to other girls fine, even in front of me.He is also not an awkward person, he has a good amount of friends and he is outgoing with them. I am not sure what to think or do. One last thing, he looks at me from far away but when he is close, he looks down. Any tips? Thanks
Stephanie you should talk to him! He clearly likes you but is nervous. You have nothing to lose!
Thank you so much!! You're such an amazing and inspirational woman. You have helped us ALL so much. :)
jam, I'm not sure. It could be that he is interested in you, or he might just be unloading on you. It's not a great sign when he says "I have to figure things out first." I would count on nothing happening, and just be friendly like you normally are. And who knows, you could be pleasantly surprised.
You're amazing just helped me realise the guy I like obviously likes me to. every thing you said he does ❤ I'm going to chat more to him now. Thank you so much X
lobo, she likes you, I'm pretty confident! Try to talk to her more. It can't hurt.
You're amazing and I always look forward to your advice!
You are soo gorgeous 😍 Plus your advice is lucid and has been applicable n my life situations..Thank You!!
You give such good advice that has helped me so much , thankyou
diana, that's a good idea, talk to him about track. And I know it's late, but next year, you go out for track! Usually the boys and girls have it at the same time. You will have more opportunities to talk to him. And if he does cross country in the fall, go out for that.
Thank you. I could tell you my story and rave about how much you've helped me, but, really, just, thank you.
Laura, thank you for your kind comment. It means a lot.
btr, it shouldn't unless there is some kind of social stigma there, against dating someone a year younger. He either can't figure out if he likes you, or sometimes feels bold and other times feels shy. Try to talk to him more and see how he reacts to you.
Thanks dj, lots of experience!
Hello Marie. i have recently gotten out of a relationship with a boy from my class. i was with him for 9 months, but it didnt work out. recently i have found my self having a slight crush and desires towards another guy from my class, who is ofcourse friends with my ex. i feel like he likes me too, he looks at me a lot and sometimes he just goes with me when i have to do something, for no other reason than just to be around me. is it a bad idea to start something up with this guy? i kinda wanna just kiss him, but can i do that without it leading to more?
love.
Astrid
Ilove, I don't think you are losing your best friend. She will see through this person soon enough. But until then, you'll have to distance yourself from both of them. I know it's hard. But believe me, if she is a good friend, she will soon see this person's true colors. But she has to find out for herself. In the mean time, this is a good opportunity to meet other people, and form new friendships. I know it's hard, but you can do it.
i do all these when my crush is around me!!!! actually i thot he had crush on me and i started observing him and now i like him
you described what i do when i see my crush but instead of smiling i just bite my lip and when i walk past him i look at him for a second then i just looked down fixed my hair and kept walking i think he looked at me first before i saw him
Preach! This is my life every week and it's crazy how utterly DENSE these people can be. And they circle all around my house trying to look through windows and bang on everything hollering my name outside to pinpoint what room I'm in and will swear to God stand out there for as long as an hour from time to time.... And I just saw these people! They're not family of course but seem to think they are. They ignore the no trespassing signs, video surveillance notices and GO AWAY door mat.
im gonna message her tonight...its been two weeks hopefully I dont lose my shot if I had one!
Your good at this Marie keep it up!
My dilemma is I have a crush on a senior basketball player, and we always happen to be in the dining commons at the same time, or usually I'm leaving when he's entering or vice versa. I have confidence but when it come to talking to crushes or love interest I don't. I am good friends with some of his teammates but I don't try to start a conversation with them when he's around. I just want to know if there could be a possible connection because sometimes I catch him staring at me, but I don't know whether it's because I stare at him. But when I catch him looking at me he stares for a little longer and then looks away and I do the same, so I just want to know could something brewing between us? By the way, I'm a freshmen in college and my crush is a senior in college.
Pamela, I would try to smile a lot. And this has happened to me too. People misinterpret things, so if you say it with a smile, whatever it is, people will always think you are warm and welcoming.
OMG!! My crush asked me out today!!!!!
theDubmark, you can kiss him back, but only if you feel comfortable. Don't feel pressured to say or do anything you don't want to. He'll get over it. And if you don't really have feelings towards him now, don't think they will eventually get there. Either you are attracted to someone or your not, right from the beginning,it usually doesn't change.
There was this guy at work who stood next to me , it was on my birthday, and a female co-worker gave me three kisses (thats what we do in Belgium, three kisses for b-days) and he started to blush and said to me "Oh, it's your birthday? Let me give you four kisses.." It was so funny.. I wasn't interested in him though (too bad, why does that never happen with someone I like too??) like he must have been thinking "i'll have to take my chances now and take advantage of it!" haha
Music Girl adorable!!
poor guy lol. forever alone
Girls Aloud, I would try to talk to him, but only as a friend! No flirting, remember, he has a girlfriend. Seriously, I would try to strike up a conversation, because you never know what will happen with his relationship. And you could end up making a good friend. Just talk to him about classes, professors, etc. And it will be good practice for you to talk to people you don't know all that well. And it sounds like there could be a little chemistry there!
another thing if they smile at you all the time like they are crazy ❤️❤️❤️
Radius, that is a good sign. Now, you need to approach her, and see how she responds. If she is in a rush to leave, or doesn't seem particularly interested in what you have to say, that's not a good sign. But if she seems focused on you, and then comes up to you again, I think this looks good!
Hey Marie. So I recently got a government funded summer student job, and my co-worker happens to be this girl who I know a bit from my church. However 1: I don't know her too well and 2: she is very timid and quiet towards people until she is comfortable. Now one thing that I noticed is that she stays quite timid with me while she is not towards other co-workers, and I can't tell if its because she doesn't want to talk to me, because she can't get comfortable, or other reasons.
She talk to everyone but me now, my uncle, my cousin, and my mother, yet when I come to me she goes silent Last year she and I use to talk, but this year, she went silent on me. She was fidgety for about 2 to 3 weeks, and now after 2 months she is able to be calm when I am around, but she still says nothing, and she turns her head away from me. I do not look up much now, and I look away when talking to her, like K said before her dress is better and she does her nails now, and combs her hair as well. I guess it is hard when we are rarely alone in the store. When there is a line of people to take care of, some how I have to talk to her when she is alone.
Very cute. She is soooo into you!!! Hehe..but shy...give her a red rose without saying any!!
mandy18573 Are you sure, she is back to dressing better had her hair up a few days ago, she actually talked to me. And for some strange reason, she made sure I knew the other guy that was in the store at the time was not with her. I just asked who was first, she must of thought that I thought she was with him. She made huge jesters with her hands and arms, and even push her things, the items she was going to buy away from that other guys stuff, even though they were not close to her stuff on the counter.
I stopped talking to a few girls, because they do not measure up to her qualities!
Also their is a boy who I think is flirting with me and doesn't go to my school that I only see twice a year. He is 13, and he doesn't even live in the same state as me. I'm 12 and had a crush on him since I was really young. Whenever we see him we always tease each other and he tries to impress me.
Hi marie,
i need help on talking to my crush. we have never talked before and i have a feeling he might like me back, he stares at me quite alot and gets quiet when i walk past.
How should i approach him? by the way he knows i like him :)
teeganpender Simple....let me give you an opinion from the guys side...if you want to approach me never approach me when im around my friends they will tease me to death..approach when he's not around anyone and when he's calm and not in a hurry to get somewhere...
Wait omg I know this was posted 3 years ago 😂 But the EXACT same thing is happening to me!!
Like this has been going on for 5 fricking years😭😭. I need help. I really like this person from primary but we never talk which is sad. If I were to talk to him I'd probably freeze. Oof.
Maha, don't be someone you're not. The real you will come out eventually..might as well make it now. And remember, he doesn't have to have a girlfriend who plays soccer! Does he make a point to talk to you? Does he focus more on you than anyone else? Does he seem at a loss for words around you (meaning he is nervous)? Look for those indications. And remember, don't appear too anxious! Talk to him, and then wait for him to approach you!
So, I have this friend who is really upset with me. We're not friends anymore and quite frankly I don't care. However, she's spreading lies about me and yelling at whole entire classes about me. I'm also really concerned because my best friend is becoming extremely close with this person. I feel like I'm losing my best friend. I've tried to apologize to this person, but she just keeps saying no and that i'm fake and keeps cussing at me. What do I do? I can't lose my best friend!!!!
Likeme, can you "happen" to walk by them on the way out of class? Or get to class a few minutes early and chat about a test or an assignment.
Its hard because im an extremely quiet guy, so when i talk it always catches everyone off guard with how deep my voice is. People are often just fascinated with me because im quiet and work super hard 😂
I get these signs but whether that intrest is just curiosity is what gets me
we want to talk about grown men and women
sxhamy123, don't give up, but don't seem overanxious either. I would try and talk to him and see how he responds. Just talk about your classes or whatever. Start by just smiling and saying hi when you pass him.
what if i missed all of the signs and didn't realize it until it was too late...should i not approach them and say how i feel if i ever see them again. Now that i know, i will be super nervous. overcoming anxiety should be something you discuss.
I know someone I think she's interested when I go near her work area she makes it a point to turn around and look at me.
What if they make jokes about you and tease you in a good way around people? Does that mean they like you?
Well this is exaclty what my situation is... My classmate and I started to go out together but after that fun time we both admit to each other that we like each other... but he is kinda not approaching me and with texting he also isnt initiating... but i can see that he treat me differently then any girl... in class he is near around me.., quietly and awkwardly... but when i start a comversation, then he is really nice and sweet to me... sometimes this makes me really confusing it looks like he is isnt interesting in me but my guts tells me he do really has interest in me even though he has a hard time to show it... but he initiate with meetings and dates... he text me with short replies but sometimes he text unexpectedly sending red hearts emoticons... haha its really sweet but also confusing for me hahah
Will men do this to other men if they are gay or bisexual? There's a guy at my gym that does this to me constantly. Sometimes, he'll make direct eye contact and give a slight smile and other times a blank, inquisitive stare. A couple of times I've caught him looking at me and he'll look away quickly. He definitely seems to notice me. He'll also position himself near me when we're working out. He would also park his car next to mine. I can't make sense of this dude. There are some other things he's done that are consistent with stalking. This has been going on for about two years.
Sorry; I've been trying to get the valor to talk to this guy i like for years and I just can't ( any advice) thank you sooooooo much for you great advice!:)
Hey Marie!I had a crush on a guy in my class(university) 3 years ago.This guy always stares at me from afar and he still does now.Whenever I enter to the class his friends were always smiling,whispering and shouting his name aloud!But this happens everytime.However this guy only says "Hi" to me,but we never had a real conversation.This year I found out that he has a gf,but he still glances at me whenever I walk..I am really shy tipe,so why he is acting like this?Please inbox me if u can! :)
lmao, I've got this dude who looks at me with the corner of his eye, whenever he sees me, mainly during lunch, his little group of friends sits next to my group of friends. I always catch him looking, but I'm almost 100% sure he doesn't know I know he's been looking once every minute. Other times is when school is over, and everyone would walk out the door, he would be on the other side and I'll be with a friend of mine, we'll just be talking, I would take a sneak peek if he'll be looking, and yup, correct every time ;) But the thing is, we don't even talk to each other :/ This was informative thanks Marie xD
There's a guy. We are studying together, 4 months passed, he talked to me a little bit few times, but not anymore, just always shakes my hand. And the other guy is trying to get me, and that guy that I like started to act very sarcastic and jealous with that guy who tries to get me, he also is looking at me and when I look at him, he becomes embarrassed and turns away. Is there any chances that he will talk to me again? Cause he really looks interested.
People look at me out the corner of their eye, I always think that I did something wrong when they look at me that way. people have always done that. The other person thinks that I have done something to scare them or have done something to them not intentional. How do I make ppl not scared of me or make me think that I have done something wrong to them?
I turn into a spastic around my crush and im so awkward gosh
I love all your videos!! :) Some really good advice. I hope you make more. :) Thanks for all the help.
Marie, I see him on the bus a lot. He is amazing. He was standing on the bus and he kept looking at me and he went on his phone and started texting. I want to approach him.
I have been very busy writing letters to my U.S. Representatives, trying to obtain my VA benefits which are being denied. I attend a local community college which is about 90% Hispanic and of course alotta pretty girls in their early or mid-twenties. I am a Persian Gulf veteran, so I always sit in the back row where now I only have bookshelves behind me. There is plenty of computers to use within one side of the college library. I already had noticed that the girls also had their regular computers they like to use. Eventually, they noticed me and would give me a "smile" Surprisingly, a few have come and sat right beside me but then they act as though they don't see me. What is going on? Why come that far and smile at me from the distance and now you are right by my side and pretend you don't see me?
August, take things very very slowly, And if you think that he is not genuine, don't date him at all. Don't settle for anyone who doesn't treat you the very best. Remember that.
Hi Marie. How to tell if your best friend likes you more than a friend
Stayinganon, could be an ego boost, could be he is a player. All I know is, do what you're doing...which is nothing..until he breaks up with this girl.
Marie, my crush refuses when my friends say that we would make a good couple, but he is always staring and smiles when he walks past, what shall I do?
Jade, he likes you but is shy. Just slowly talk to him a little more.
Santiago, I would talk to her. Just ask her how her internship is going, and where she goes to school, that kind of thing. And you really don't know if you like her or not until you talk to her! Also, it sounds like she is nervous around you. But she will feel more comfortable around you the more she gets to know you.
Wow you read me like a book
Hey Marie! There is this guy in my class who is always either tapping on my desk or trying to get my attention. In some other way. And he usually complements my doodles or if we are in the middle of reading a chapter he will turn to me and ask me about it or comment how confusing something is. He is very nice to me and if we talk he looks me right in the eye. But i,'m not sure if he likes me or if he's jut being friendly or annoying. I'm so confused.
hey marie, this girl that i met at a freinds house, we had a great evening, and talked a lot, i did notice her being shy, and looking at me in the corner of her eye, but when i text her, she replies, but they are sentences but not as big as a normal sentence, i ask her to do something fun during the week, she says yes, but at the last minute, no. so i ask her again, maybe next week '" nanana had a great time with you...." and now hasnt replied for a few days, i dont what to say...
I have a question. I like this girl, and we're both very shy. The thing is, she talks more to her other friends, but when she's around me, she gets very quiet. I called and asked her out last week (since I couldn't catch her before spring break) , and all she said was a quick "I don't know". What do you think?
There's this guy I really like and we're in the same class and he sits right next to me. He always taps me on the shoulder during class and says something completely random or offers me one of the crackers or whatever he's eating, and he's complimented me on something I'm wearing, too. I can't tell if he likes me, though, because he's nice to everyone and he talks to everyone. How do I know whether he likes me or is just being nice?
Ashley, see how often he initiates a conversation, and when. If it is just because you happen to be there then maybe he is just being nice. But if he seeks you out, maybe in the halls or at lunch, or texts you just to see what's up, then, he probably does like you.
I have this guy friend who i think really likes me but, we have been "just friends" for about 8 months, he did ask me out once but that was when I barely knew him, so I said no. But lately he has started showing "that kind of interest" again, the thing is, he's the kind of guy that's kind of just after "the kitty", so i'm afraid to date him because I think it might ruin our friendship because we "do something". What should I do?
Thecashy, I think he is shy. So, give him some time. He likes you but is afraid. Just talk to him more, and little by little, he will start to feel comfortable around you.
There is a boy, that was staring at me in the cafeteria the other day. I smiled at him, and me and him were awkwardly smiling at each other for at least 10 seconds. Then I looked away, and acted like a friend was talking to me. What do I do? Does he like me?
LPS, you will really need to talk to him. Because otherwise, you will never know. Approach him once and start a conversation. Then, the ball is in his courts. See if he comes up to you.