So, basically it means that if a girl likes a guy then it's okay for her to sexually harass and to molest the guy she likes, but if the guy does the same things to her then he is screwed.
AFTER 10 MONTHS OF SMILES AND HEYS. I GAVE A TOPGUN SHIRT TO HER FRIEND TO GIVE TO HER AND SHE SENT THE COPS TO MY DOOR! 🤣 NOT EVERYONE ACTS LIKE HOW THEY FEEL.😅
She might throw out all these hints at you such as touching your arm, eye 👁️ contact, initiating, making you THINK that she’s into you, but she’s NOT. I’ve had this happen to me many times. MIND GAMES
@@tdrive398 the key to succeeding in the dating world is not giving a damn about whether or not you wind up with a partner, just let nature do it's thing and make sure to enjoy yourself
Not mind games. She's just using you to her advantage. Saleswomen do that a lot, as well as female coworkers when they want you to do their job. The important thing you should do is study looks theory and know exactly where you rank in the attractiveness scale. Women don't throw themselves at sub-7s, unless they're really desperate (i.e., older childless women etc.). If a woman is throwing out those hints at you but you think you're probably not that attractive to be getting all this attention from her, it means you probably aren't, so you're deluding yourself if you think she likes you. She most likely just wants something from you.
It is called *plausible deniability* . It so that at any moment of the first stages of the meeting someone she can turns her back first and say " i reject you ! ", so that she can't be rejected.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back.
Yoo... what the. Mine only lasted 5 years also. I'm now trying to talk to this one girl but idk if she even likes me back and I'm very confused since I've been in a relationship for so long.
One girl who liked me once didn’t even say hi to me or didn’t want to be in the same room as me. Her friend said she was too embarrassed and yet I blew it??? I just laughed and said I’m not a mind reader!
@@SL-lb6lz more or less a female coworker told all her friends she liked me yet didn’t do anything to approach me or orbit me or initiate contact. Went on for a month apparently. Then at a works party she got upset because I was lingering near a girl and then her friend told me she liked me and now I’ve missed my chance with her. I just laughed and said she hasn’t even spoke to me or been in the same room as me. I’m not a mind reader! I understand women can be shy but blaming it on me was beyond laughable
Yep. You blew it. The most important person in the world was within a square mile of you, had a whole security detail of suited-and-sunglasses agents talking to their wrists, that person did an embassage with their friends with a motorcade, and you simply didn't notice any of this. You blew it.
@@DJThree8s well the girl I was speaking to was showing the signs so I went to her. I also liked another girl there too so she was down the pecking order, but after that I was completely turned off if she was too embarrassed to say anything or come near me.
I worked with a woman for years with no contact and I had no interest. About 6 months ago she stopped me and started to talk. Just chit-chat type. Over the last 6 months every sign was there. Eye contact, touching, facing me directly. She started 9 out of 10 conversations. Shes married and I'm making a move on a married woman. But I still talked to her. Last week she said to me shes married and has a boyfriend at work. I will never talk to that woman again.
Never take the bait with modern women. They do this to see how thirsty you’ll get for them when they flirt with you. I used to call it charging you up or love bombing . Bc if they come at you a “little” too aggressively, you’ll know it , but men don’t see this initially bc they’re liking the attention from her.
If a woman actually, genuinely likes you, it is REALLY EASY. I know it first-hand. Unfortunately, most men never experience this phenomenon, so they have no idea how it actually feels. That's really sad, and just shows how bad the world has been when it comes to dating.
I also know it first-hand and realized now that I'm in my later years of college how many missed opportunities I had with women. All the signs where there (Hell, I didn't even know a girl asking for my number was a sign of interest till my 3rd year of college. I just thought she was being nice.) But anyways, I just didn't feel confident in making a move on them without fearing rejection...or even worse, being seen as weird. Also dating really is a sad experience. The dating world can be skewed at times and sometimes good people get hurt, rejected, or ghosted. It really is a numbers game out there.
You are absolutely correct my man👏🏽👏🏽 If you have to sit and wonder if a girls likes you or not, She probably doesn’t. If she is truly interested/attracted to you aka “genuine desire” you have to do little to nothing….
yeah i probably have a better chance dying in a Sub under water before I know true love especially having Autism and ADHD like good luck they say they love you but they lay flowers on your casket and then they move on to the next guy because its not happening for me I was born to lose
I have experienced it a couple of times, though some girls handle it differently. I've had girls try to make me do assignments together at school, got their friends to talk about them to me, and even moments where they got really close to me every opportunity. Now irl, as an adult, it's mostly through online spaces. I'll get a lot of attention and messages from specific women and that usually ends up being a person who sends flirty messages and emotes often. Honestly from the experiences I have, women love interesting personalities. You either got one, or you have other qualities that they're looking for. Also showing your face and having confidence in your appearance is a sure way to tell a woman you're not afraid to be judged. Appearance matters to women to some extent.
@@reinereine1896There's loads of us guys who feel this same way. I've always been told that I'm a good looking young man, but my friends always wondered why I never leveraged on it. Now I'm older and getting more confident with women and I'm starting to regret all the missed opportunities.
Trust me guys, the first one where she is remembering details is a big one. I knew a couple of women who would remember things from weeks ago where I would mention my mother was sick, or my AC in my car died, and they'd ask if my mom was better or if my AC was fixed. It felt good knowing that they remembered the things I said. Sadly, I was younger and naive so I didn't take much note of it other than it felt good.
If you are hot and / or rich staring at a woman is fine, if you are not either of these things you are a stalker, creep and loser who needs to be arrested and have your testicles removed.
Holy shit 💀. You boiled this entire video down into one sentence then had the chutzpah to call yourself a good communicator 😂. It's not that hard and if you can't figure it out my guy, and need her to dumb it down for you, that makes you the subpar communicator who can't read between the lines.
A big one I picked up on through experience is if a woman remembers the facts of your life and what you talked about and when you last saw her. Women who do not like you romantically generally do not remember even basic stuff about you, it is all conversation to them and being nice. If you tell her you are (for an extreme example) a doctor and the next time you see her she asks what you do, she does not like you. That is kind of a big deal and a fact people would remember if they were impressed by you. Can be the same for just opening a new business, just going to college or grad school, just made a sports team, anything. But if a girl likes you, she remembers everything, even when she last talked to you, what you said..everything. It will come through, even if she does not mean to telegraph liking you, because she will say something like, "I have not seen you for two and a half months! (or whenever) Last time we talked you said you were living in "x" How is the job in "x" going?" Attractive women talk to tons of guys trying to impress her with various humble brags. If she remembers yours, it is for a reason..LOL See it in your own life, everyone has that thing where you run into someone you have not seen for a while and you do not even remember their name or if you do, remember basic stuff about them and you ask them some basic thing and they say "remember I told you I started that job, or moved?" and you do the Jerry Seinfeld "oh, yeah, now I remember! How is that going?" thing?
There is scientific evidence that a huge part of a woman's brain activates and memorizes all things when is interested, like a computer hard drive. Sometimes this is scary for men.
Important things: 1:30 First Thing - Increased Attention; 4:01 Second Thing - Body Language; 6:16 Third Thing - Playful Teasing; 7:39 Fourth Thing - Initiating Contact; 8:45 Fifth Thing - Nervousness / Shyness; and 10:50 to summarize all the told here. I agree with the handkerchief. Call me old fashion guy, but I sometimes would really like to see this type of showing interests as well (let's call it that way). Meaning to show if one lady shows interests in one gentleman. But who am I to be asked these things. Also sometimes, even some men aren't trying to show when they are interested in women. They are also using two things that are told here, and those are: Second Thing (Body Language), and Fifth Thing (Nervousness / Shyness). Sometimes even men are in fear of being rejected (like it or not). And I absolutely agree with the body language, especially with the eye contact. That is so true. I remember once that I saw one quote that goes like this (someone can correct me if I'm wrong): "Watch the eyes, because they will always say everything. Words can sometime fumble." I just like the way how you are encouraging. It means a lot 💪💪💪🦾🦾🦾🤓😎🥰🥰🥰🙂.
This could mean a lot of things. I knew a girl that did all of this. Then 1 day she tells me she is seeing someone else. I guess the biggest sign I missed, is when she started saying she doesn't want to take advantage of me when I paid. Of course she still let me, she would just say it before I paid.
@@scmsean I agree with that. But also it can mean that she probably played hot / cold games (or I would rather call it Yes / No games). This is just my thought, probably I'm wrong, cause I don't know how long have you been with your ex girlfriend.
yup. Though if she's not grown or have enough balls to let me know she's interested, I'm not gonna give her that time of the day. That will be meant for women I myself know I am into. If she's into me and I don't know about it, that's on her for not letting me know and dropping these signs.
@@GregXHunterz Agree with that. Sometimes it could be just ok if the people would really say what do they feel about the person that they want to date.
Guys just do yourself a favor and just assume she’s being nice or no interest. It will save you a lot of confusion and frustration. Trust me I read the signs up to and including body mirroring and feet pointing and it meant nothing absolutely nothing
That is the correct approach. I always tell all male friends I talk to: always make sure you have an objective assessment of how attractive you really are (not how you think you are). Women can be nice to anyone, but they don't throw themselves at average or below average-looking men. They just don't do it.
My top 5: 1) When in conversation she will say something like that's a nice place for you to take your girlfriend (when she doesn't know if I have a girlfriend) but fake assumes because she wants me to give her the info without her having to ask directly (doing so would reveal her interest as Courtney so accurately stated) 2) she grooms or adjusts something about herself to look better when she sees me approaching from afar (thinks I didn't notice). 3) she gets angry or impatient when I don't make a move (love that kind of anger because I know I can make it disappear by making the move) 4) will find any excuse (that is not romantic) to exchange contact info. Making it seem like she's just networking. And 5) I WILL NAME SEVERAL BECAUSE I'M GENEROUS 😂 I catch her looking. Turns away quickly. But every chance she gets she looks at me / Catches a glimpse 👀 Blushes, gets nervous, giggles, changes tones of voice around me, and gets giddy after conversations and interactions with me. But they don't confess their feelings unless I make the first bold move. Strange but beautiful creatures, women are. ❤❤
In my experiences woman who’s really into you will not play games, but might be kinda shy. Some signs to look for: 1/ She will give you compliments, either to you personally or in a group of friends/coworkers. Can be related to your physique, sense of humor, work .... 2/ She might entrust you a personal thing .... like a cellphone or her wallet while she goes to toilet. Big sign. 3/ She will want to help you with small things like buying things for lunch at work (if she is a coworker). 4/ Will search for ways to initiate physical contact (shoulder taps, hand touches) 5/ Will invite you to outside activity ... she will offer you options that she considers suitable for you both ... like swimming, mountain hiking, jogging, cinema etc 6/She will enjoy your conversation, laugh a lot 7/ The more shy ones will play with their hair, blush easily....
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@@user-hq9iv4ff2c Don't go for that bro. They are just fishing for people with broken hearts and souls like yours, and are abusing them for money. Plus the psycho-somatic dangers that they can suggest in your mind are awful. You have a problem with those two elements, and the only physician of the heart and the soul is God, The Lord, it's Creator. I would advice on looking out for Him, as His love endures forever. But you must have faith in love, in a real way, not the process of idealizing or serving people, that are nothing to you not even your family, if not married.
Having recently lost my wife of 53 years (4 years dating and 49 years married), who was literally my 1 and only sweetie, thinking about dating again in this techy & impersonal online world looked insane and foreign. Your guidelines helped me realize that my old fashion ways of courtship and in-person romance would set me apart from the masses of techy males who only know gaming and porn. Thanks for giving me affirmation that respect, care, genuine friendship, attentiveness and a smile still win the day with sincerely interested and mature women in this upside down world. Cheers
I think the initiating contact advice is the most reliable test. Even if she is trying to conceal her interest, she's still going to focus on you when you try to socialize with her. If she smiles and keeps talking, that's more than politeness.
I think men should not care about some signs AT ALL. Man should know only one thing - if he likes her or not. If he does, ask her out. If she rejects, move on. End of story. Period.
@@lifted_above Thank You I watch her from time to time so I can give dating advice to my adult children. In all the videos I've seen of her she seems to be a bit of a unicorn.
@@MikeyP109 Ok? but that doesn't necessarily translate directly to the sort of individual he is. There's down to earth, everyday normal people who have come into money. Then there's absolute jerks who have money, who quantify everything in their sphere by dollar value. It may translate into Courtney being perceived as less applicable to the average person. Yet, she's done plenty of financial based videos and has a pretty good grasp of what is average in this country. She won't be the sort of person that finds her life very restricted due to lack of money, that's for sure. Not unless the economy tanks and the banks collapse, which is very likely by the looks of it. Anyway, there's another channel with someone offering good advice if you're interested. Look up emilywking.
@@lifted_above it makes sense that she married well. She seems like she would be a good contributor to a partnership. I have seen Emily W King. Yes, she is very grounded as well. I have also been appreciating the wisdom of Sadia Khan.
Hey I wanna say thank you for honestly bringing some “down to earth” advice about women… I’ve ran into a lot of “I’m better than you” kind of women over the past couple years and it really makes a young man not even wanna date 💯
Its simple.. First, there is no instant sexual attraction. Second U are nice to the ladies, at a point she feel more dominant then you. These stories u will never hear from a men who has sexy appearance.. woman behave and respond a way different.. if u are average looking, u have to tab on whole another more dominance approach.
When I was young, ladies I tried to date look at me as if they were better than me. Later they got married, divorced, have kids, got older, feel lonely.... guess what? They asking about me. Thank you. I'm not looking for dramas.
Signs she’s confused She shows you all these signs then says oh I want to be with someone else but I’m single 🧐🙃 make a video on if she turns you down after showing you all these signs
Yeah. Last month I met two girls who gave me these signs and many more besides. Played with their hair, mirrored my body language (one of them quite directly), laughed at all my jokes, one of them smiled from ear to ear and touched me back when I touched her, etc. Then nothing. It happens and it's extremely frustrating. You just have to get used to it. Things were much much simpler before tech and social media destroyed dating. Although I admit I think I tend to give up a little too soon since I'm very self-critical. I had given up on a third one when she didn't text me back the first time only to discover that she viewed my Instagram stories frequently so I have since re-initiated contact.
guys if some chick doesnt have the maturity and "emotional intelligence" to be able to talk to you like an adult then she isn't worth your time.. don't try to read minds and take responsibility for something that SHE needs to improve and be accountable for... Ladies - do better
IMO, words are louder than actions when it comes to dating. We are not mind readers and some of us are not good at reading body language, excluding me but overall, communication is key if you want someone to know that you’re genuinely interested in them.
I largely agree. I've met few women who were trying not to show interest, meaning that they either were interested or not, but not somewhere in-between. The other aspects, increased attention, teasing, etc. are surely signs that a woman likes you, but it is not clear in what way. Body language is extremely tricky, as it is subject to attribution error, meaning her body language may be in reaction to somebody or something else. From my perspective it is truly the spoken word and physical contact that make the difference, such has the rather common hand on your upper arm, making sure you're not going anywhere.
As far as I'm concerned, words are louder than actions, and for one simple reason: they should be harder to misinterpret. If a woman is signalling interest in you, it can be misinterpreted in various ways, but if she tells you she is (or is not, as the case may be) interested in you, you don't have to bother about trying to guess what she is thinking/feeling based on her actions.
Well than you are screwed lol. Stop being a damn beta. We all get rejected. It’s not the end of the world. You either figure this out or die alone, and you don’t want to die without having experienced real love with a woman. What a tragedy. And words are fine just be upfront. Don’t try and weasel your away the question you want to ask. When you think you’ve had ample time, just say I’d like to get to know you more, let’s go grab a cup of coffee. Boom. That easy. If you keep go around and around and around in circles it is such a turn off for women. Just do it. Much love.
@@corning1are you actively fighting for the divorce laws, child custody laws, domestic violence laws and false accusation laws to be made fairer to men??
The detail one is so spot on and works both ways. I was with a group of friends and made a backhand comment about my favorite flavor of ice cream (Its vanilla). Cue two weeks later, on a weekend, i meet her (one of the women in the group) on chance in the mall and we started to chat. After we had lunch, she said: "I want a ice cream, do you want too? Vanilla is your favorite, isn't?" I was surprised. I went on a couple of a dates with her and she keep remembering little things that i told her before. 5 years later, she is my fiance. Another one is about her friends. That body language. I observed that too. The rest CAN be confused to just be nice. Every woman is different, but you covered all the common bases. That is my experience. When a woman is interested in you she will remember the small stuffs. No amount of politeness will change that. She will not remember little stuffs if she is just polite or nice to you.
I got almost all of these signals so I started talking to her and found out we had some similar experiences and interests, one being nature walks and areas. So I talked for a bit more then another day asked her to come with me to my favorite nature spot only for her to say no. I have self worth issues and it takes me a couple years in between serious interests when it doesn't work out because I feel I must have to build myself more for women to want to be with me. This last one really sent me back to the depths I spent so much time and effort climbing out of and I don't understand why this happens to me. My despair around dating is climbing and I feel paralyzed from wanting to try yet wanting a genuine woman. My awareness biting me in the ass because I can see it all happening inside me. Did I give TMI? Maybe, but this little vent helped me a little so I don't care
Thanks for being open with us at 9:33. This video was awesome and insightful. Love your content and glad you didn't flip to a podcast format. That arena feels so congested with the same type of content that it's hard to appreciate many of the casters that are out there.
Try being still. Hold completely. Don’t squeeze but not loose. Hug from your heart and you’ll know when to stop. Share the loving energy. Hugs are everything.
Excellent video, Courtney! Here's something I've noticed that I'll share, from my experience: -While you're in a conversation with others in the area? She will walk within the conversation circle, and passively make an introduction. This sounds weird, but this seems to actually happen, in certain circles (e.g; "Union Club", Shoreby Club, etc.) This runs along all of your points, Courtney. It seems to also imply desire to be identified by and with the guy she's interested in, and also to be introduced/identified as being of company with you. This might seem happenstance, but if she thinks you're eligible, and she's getting to know you, and you're showing that you have command presence (that doesn't demand it)? Those are turn-ons to some women, who are interested. In short? She wants to be known and seen with you, but is coy.
Yes please! It'd be great if ladies made the dropping of the handkerchief a norm again. It removes unwanted attention on their end and it tells us guys that it's ok to pursue. Easy peasy. Great video!
I have literally never experienced any of these signs, nor has any woman made it easy for me to know. I know what I look like, what I offer, and what my positives are. Most days, I question the futility of dating in general. I don’t know how some people get success, I really don’t.
I am in a situation right now where I needed to be reminded of these. And I can for sure say that the 5th one (initiation of contact) is almost a dead giveaway! It's the only thing that the situation is lacking right now, but that might hopefully(!) change soon...
Why do I keep seeing guys in the comment section say they want a feminine woman and let a man lead, but then say stuff like this? I’m incredibly confused.
They ain’t gotta “ask the guy out” but there are multiple things they can do to help get a relationship started without every little thing being on the man to get the ball rolling
Because they're not the same guys? Personally, I don't want to lead, I want a team player where her thoughts matter too. Haven't you ever noticed that sometimes people disagree with the leader's decisions? Imagine a guy "being a leader" by taking the girl out to a strip club. Would she like that? Probably not, but he made the decision. If that's not the leader you're talking about, then describe what is?@@poeticeclipse
It's so frustrating when there are girls that are interested but never show it until you do. They make it so confusing and difficult. They wait until they know you are interested before they show they are interested. Just make eye contact and smile and I will smile back and then you can be together right away and be happy in love.
Remembering small details and calling back to them in conversation also works for men, too. In my experience women find this attractive, as it's a sign you were paying attention during previous conversations and therefore have genuine interest in her.
Thanks Courtney, this was a real eye opener for me! I'm at the end of my 30s and only now I'm really beginning to understand what's going on more clearly: Throughout my teens, 20s and now 30s, the concept of non-verbal communication have been more or less nonexistent in my repertoire of social skills. I never understood why everyone else around me managed attract girls, but now I see why! When I think back now to all the times a girl obviously have been showing interest, but I had no clue at all how to deal with it, now I realise those were all lost opportunities, sigh! It's frustrating to say the least. I got my ASD-diagnosis last year, and this have been really relieving. I know begin to see the picture more clearly, both with myself and how social interactions are actually supposed to work. We are each on a journey of our own self-discovery, but I have faith that we can all improve for the better, if we really put our efforts in it. Take care everyone 🙌
It is not this easy guys. You can have a woman that touches your forearm, that smiles when she’s talking to you, that shares sensitive details about her life, that tells you you’re the only person that ever shows they care, she can say she loves you, and so much more and have it mean absolutely nothing. In fact, then wonder to herself why did this guy think I liked him?
Courtney, I know you prob hear it constantly but you are so fine. Georgeous doesnt come close. Thanks for having our back. Not all of us are great with women and it helps having you in our corner.
Yes we need to bring back the hankerchief thing! I thought I'd never hear a girl say that, I always love that reference. I think a lot of these signs can make it look like she's not interested...I know when I was younger I misinterpreted the shyness as nervousness as if she didn't want me around
Actually, they should bring back the Candid Camera skit where a woman wearing a suit jacket, a mini skirt, and a pair of panties around her ankles holding a huge box and asks a man for his help dealing with her panty situation. There were a lot of guys awkwardly trying to raise her panties up her legs trying not to look creepy. (Hint: The guy should offer to hold the box while she discreetly squats down to raise her panties herself.)
@@728huey Wow that’s one hell of a game to play. I’d probably hold the sign for her instinctively lol. Not hard to figure out. Honestly I’d assume someone that does that has Histrionic Personality Disorder though and would probably run
She is married or has a boyfriend or pretends to...I know a little bit about women, her favorite part about doing this video is when she gets to say how she could not eat because she likes her man...just teasing her simp subscribers
Such a classy, beautiful woman. It's so awesome that you help out us men when you can be a model or whatever else 😊. Thank you Courtney! Keep up the good work!
Now a days trying to understand if a woman is interested and you meet her paradoxical, complex, and often confounding standards is a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma
Great video! I have a co-worker that keeps coming by my department and keeps saying hi to me all the time and she's divorced. I get nervous and she's been really nice. Awesome video thank you! 💕🙏😊👊
I think an extra layer to be added with body language and communications is this: when a girl who is flirty but touchy feely, she needs to immediately stop that before she gives off the wrong idea. And if she’s active initiating communication, she needs to always be intentional. Anecdote: girl I met at church attempted to initiate contact with me while I was talking to someone else but she didn’t say anything till I did. Then she did the touchy feely thing any and every time I was around her. But as time went on, then she pulled back whenever I initiated contact. And eventually it reached a point where it was me initiating everything until I stopped giving her attention and then she paid more attention. She’s inconsistent even though she seems to think highly of me, but seeing the behavior, I came to realize that the instability is a major headache.
Yep those are always pain in the ass had two I really liked pulled thst n two faced as well I've caught mine doubling back each time we made out n she found ne n she would be telling all her friends play by play, call them out directly each time n go for the pussy
This is classic game. It's called the push-pull method and it's hella toxic in my opinion. Mature, emotionally responsible people communicate their needs to each other, even if it results in disappointment.
@@griffferguson3039 the funny thing is as I read your response, I kept noticing this push-pull tension and I thought it was just me. And I agree it’s toxic. That’s why I haven’t spoken to her in 3 months.
@@Vergil14 dude, ditch that noise from your life. I've been on a stoic kick lately and have reprioritized a peaceful and calm inner life over a chaotic relationship with a woman. I feel so much better without the constant buzz of latent mental illness around me.
I was all set to do my autumn/ winter shopping, then I hopped on a plane to Spain and even since the flight I've been getting girls numbers , all those hours learning basic Spanish paid off , Courtney's videos are brilliant, it's the best college ever
Out of the blue, I recently fell hard for a dear friend who I've known now for almost 10 months. The more I learned about her and have grown to know her,, the more I liked her until it hit me like a ton of bricks. She's a widow of 2 years and I'm a widower of 4 years, so I think we're both not only out of practice, but I know I'm petrified that I might do something to destroy the friendship. You just gave me several enlightening examples of potential good signs that make me think she has feelings for me. Thank you!
Same thing happened to me 2 years after a woman at work befriended me. Let me save you some trouble. As soon as you fell for her the friendship was destroyed. In my case she had feelings too but just wanted to stay friends. That caused jealousy and possessiveness on both sides as well as arguments we would have never had as just friends.
I appreciate what you're saying, but there have been developments since I wrote the comment. I took a leap of faith for Valentine's Day and wrote her a letter professing my feelings and I went one better. I'm an amateur musician on the side, so I wrote and produced a really pretty song just for her that pretty much removed all doubt. I let her know in the letter that I was scared to death, but that I cared so much for her that I had to take the risk. She was completely blown away and not only loved the song, but she explained that though she's still healing, the last thing in the world she wanted was to lose me. We'll see what happens and I'll be patient and take baby steps. If if falls apart, at least I tried.@@MrWhaatay
@@MVMullins The one at work baked me some food and said it was from the bottom of her heart. A week later she told me she was so sorry I got feelings for her and if she wanted to date it wouldn't be with someone she works with. I ended up quitting soon after. Good luck.
Your appetite story made me laugh because it happened to me & my friend. She told me she was leaving the country. I thought for good but she meant for 2 months. That's how she travels. That forced me, at dinner, one night to tell her about my feelings for her before she left. She was so flattered & surprised. She said "You're making me blush! I don't know what happened but I was so hungry but my appetite is gone!" I knew exactly what happened because she'd done it to me the last time we hang out together. I'd never seen her so giddy around me like the rest of the night. She was so happy I told her!
Let’s see increased attention, sat next to me 6/6 times, stood next to me 3/3 times, eye contact with dilated pupils she actually held eye contact I looked away and we locked eyes again , compliments on my looks, hand shaking, fist bumps, gave me candy, touching my arm saying as in passing in the hallway, body mirroring, feet pointing towards me, open body language. Then got ghosted when I pursued. Since then I simply gave up on this bullshit.
@@Guigley nope my entire life it’s been the exact same. I’m now 45. I’m done and have officially checked out of dating. If a chick wants to date me she’ll ask me. I’m done “reading” signs and being wrong because she used me for an ego boost or her emotional punching bag. The last one was a church girl who I thought would be different but nope the same bullshit so I’m done. But you keep on dealing with them gump
I really don't like videos like this, and it's not because they're not helpful but because it shows why things are so complicated. If you like me, just say it. I get that women might be afraid of rejection or believe that men should make the first move, but why try to play 4-D mental chess instead of just being upfront? You only hurt yourself in the end.
Your points are well taken, but if you do find yourself in a situation where a woman appears to be giving you attention... Take a deep breath -- and maybe an internal shot of courage -- and slowly take control of the situation: You can compliment something she is wearing or mention your hobby and ask what she thinks about it. ("Oh, I'm just taking a survey" could be your follow-up comment). So maybe she's not interested or wants plausible deniability, but otherwise watch for signs of her face lighting up because you actually noticed her.
Hi Courtney, new subscriber! Just a few days before this video was uploaded, my now-ex-fianceé and I broke up. Before anyone reading says “I’m so sorry”, please don’t because I didn’t realize until very recently that I was being manipulated by her, so I finally feel authentic again. Thanks very much Courtney, for being a source of comfort and relaxing in a difficult time. I appreciate it very much
If a person is attempting to communicate non-verbally or telepathically or is UNWILLING to be OPEN and HONEST then they are UNWORTHY of being spoken to. We must punish women for being secretive and cryptic and encoded and provide negative reinforcement that this is cowardly childish and embarrassing or they will never change.
If a woman is staring at you with a warm smile on her face, that is generally a good sign that she wants you to go up and talk to her. That is basically the modern day "dropping of the handkerchief".
During my final year of high school when I participated in Unified Track I was close to a girl named Lydia and its been sort of difficult accepting the fact that my friends are busy. I would like to start with me and Lydia grow in our friendship and then after a year or two I thought about coming clear expressing how I feel about her, there's never a day though that I don't miss her and my other friends but I'm so thankful for my new friends that I made at my home church it has really helped me be less down and stressed about missing my track friends.
If woman and men did better at communicating how they felt instead of relying on if the person your talking to reading your mind and very subtle body language. Less people would be alone in this world.
I do smth similar to the handkerchief generally😂 a few days ago a man sitting nearby caught my attentiom so I asked me if he could keep an eye on my belongings while I go to the bathroom and he started the conversation when I came back^^
well I want a masculine man, one who will court me and show me his interest (a go getter). I don’t play games or « hard to get », I will frankly show my interest back when he initiates and give cues that show I am interested (be interested in him, ask him questions about his life and goals) . But it would be stepping out my healthy femininity to do the chasing.
@@sarahsf6940 How's a man not masculine if he isn't the one to initiate a conversation with a woman? These days he could easily get called a creep, or even get accused of other stuff. Don't you find it reasonable that he'd wanna avoid such risks? Women have it easier because they could approach and not get defamed and humiliated. Why is it the man who has to initiate everything?
@@Kenny-ep2nf Part of what constitutes masculinity is the very ability to take risks and face potential rejection without crumbling like a butter biscuit. By letting the man lead and giving him discret cues to encourage him he proves to me he has self-confidence, which I enormously value in a man's character. Society is filled with spineless men so women like me who want a strong man to stand by her side in a lifelong partnership, we'll want to test you (without cruelty, always with class). It's a question of dynamic not just of achieving getting into a relationship. I want a dynamic in which I can lean in my feminine power and that is only possible if my partner is fully owning his masculine power, so we can beautifully complement one another. I have been in a relationship with a man who had confidence issues, I did my best to be supportive while the relationship lasted but eventually I had to break it off because it was leading me into emotional instability (I am less neurotic than the average woman, so that was quite something) as I found myself having to be the protector more often than the protected. Do you understand my point?
@@sarahsf6940 I’m the type of guy who doesn’t approach women but it’s not out of fear of rejection as much as it is just me not caring much about the whole thing, and also when I see women in public it doesn’t even occur to me to approach because there’s a good chance they’re already with another man and even if they were being nice to me I’d just take it as kindness and not think much else of it. With that being said, men don’t have to always take the risk of rejection, I don’t see the issue with women putting themselves out there or speaking up as well, like how am I supposed to communicate with someone that won’t even be direct with me?
I met a guy at one of the local establishments where I live. I made a subtle comment toward him about his curly locks and I said to him, "Did you put conditioner on this morning" and he went on like a 5 minute rant about the conditioner that he used. LOL it was hilarious.
There's a small window of opportunity they'll give you to take the lead and show that you're confident enough and not weak, once that window closes it's game over, you're now in the friend zone.
A long time ago, I was walking with my folks and sisters to a restaurant, and a group of beautiful girls passed by. One of them made eye contact and smiled warmly at me, and I immediately looked away from sheer nervousness. I've always regretted that.
I've been smiled at by this girl at school and so I smiled back, but days later when I saw her again she didn't even know who I am. So rest assured you didn't miss nothing bro, keep your head up and stay confident
There's a girl at work (whom I definitely like) who lately _seems_ to be flirting with me, but I'm so socially inept that I can't read body language or social cues and I don't know if she's just being friendly.
How exactly? Or better yet, why not just...I don't know...use words? Like normal people? If women are interested in a guy, just speak up. To get dates, we have talk to women. To talk with them, we have to approach them (since 9 times out of 10 they sure as heck won't). Until that happens, none of these points matter, but we really don't understand what you're so afraid of. Worst case scenario, a guy approaches, he's seen as a creeper (depends though). Women almost never approach it seems so they want us to come to them, and even when the ball starts rolling, they're still dropping signs that WE must decode. Lots of women seem to never consider what THEY are doing to deserve a guy in the first place, let alone going on dates
Liking someone and trying not to show it is like going to the same store to watch clothing we like but never buying it. It's pointless! Women, grow some eggs and tell the man you like him. We're tired of constant games and wondering. Follow your heart and stop being in your friggin' ego!
The last one is very true. They also show a lot of insecurities. It's also a sign that tells me when the girl hasn't been in a relationship in a long time.
From experience i know: if you're confused - walk away. If 3she's the one there is no trickery going on, the flow is just completely natural and you do not need to analyze each detail. Am I fortunate to have run into somebody like that, because (online) dating - it's a cesspool. All the rules and byrules, all of them unwritten and unspoken - plus one little detail on your picture and you're a swipe left.
@@lazonya604 That’s actually what it’s for… so considering that, I’m not picking up that hanky, she might have blown her nose on it. I’d be like, “Keep your snotty hanky to yourself, lady!”
Courtney said some good things already. I'd like to add the following to Courtney's list. 6. Deliberately getting in the way. (Like, literally blocking your path while trying to look as innocent and innocuous as possible) I've seen that happen a lot to me. What I mean by this is a woman deliberately postioning herself in such a way that you HAVE to talk to her just to pass her by. And when you pass her by, she'd give you a totally over the top "sorry" for getting in the way. (As if she stole your phone or something and immediately gives it back to you. Kinda like a prank gone bad). Often followed by a 10 second stare with dilated pupils and (sometimes) finshed off with her kinda checking you out from head to toe in a very subtle way. Or sometimes even adding a "I was a bit distracted, that's why I didn't see you coming." "I'm so sorry." Another telltale sign is if she, on top of all this, keeps a 'soft' stance, with zero urgency to get back to whatever it is she was doing before you came into the picture. To me, the "Sorry" (or excusing themselves) seems to be a staple for women that WANT you to strike up a conversation with them. It's like woman language for an open invitation. Whenever a woman goes through the 'ritual'/'routine' I just described I know it's a sure shot. Only downside, you can't get this on a dating app. That's probably why I shy away from dating apps altogether.😅 7.Trying a bit too hard to hide her feelings and in doing so coming off as alloof and (in some cases) slightly arrogant. This changes though, when you break the ice and make her feel at ease around you. A well-meant compliment or a joke will usually do the trick. Cheers!✌
Unless a woman flat out expresses her interest to me. I will never pick up her subtle ways!! What seems obvious to most is extremely challenging to me! I guess I’m very unique😊
If you meet a girl working in the store or at the gas station, she most probably won't initiate physical contact because it's seen as unprofessional. Some people, including myself, cross their armes or avoid eye contact, because we feel uncomfortable looking people in the eyes and we feel more comfortable with crossed arms. It has nothing to do with how much we like the person we talk to. It has more to do if the person is introverted or extroverted. Some people don't like physical contact or eye contact when talking to others, if they don't know the person very well
Hope everyone is having a fun and safe Labor Day Weekend. Here are the signs that "could" imply a woman likes you: 1) She pays more attention to you 2) Her body language (e.g. Frequent eye glances, mirrors your body languages, light or playful touches, keeps most of her body turns toward you and is not crossing her arms) 3) Playful teasing (This a test to see if you can respond with light-hearted fun; this could be make-or-break) 4) Initiating contact (She is being proactive with talking and/or sending the first messages about making plans) 5) Nervousness/shyness (She is conscious on how she acts around you, and may have a difficult time being open around you. If you like her and you really want her to be more open with you, then be personable and create a safe space for her; this can make things a little easier as long as you don't forcefully rush it.)
If a woman I'm interested in doesn't want to make her feelings or her actions known to me about why she's engaging with me in a conversation or in a moment I see that as a little girl attitude that she has about herself
One thing..I think might be an obvious game changer is to really make an effort to make sure you are “put together”…great shoes..hair..jeans..cologne..etc. why do I suggest this obvious thing? A girl will evaluate you in the first 5-8 seconds from a purely physical perspective…and will allow you to engage her if she thinks: “this guy has it together.” This in turn, buys you those pretty important first few moments to put together even the simplest hello. If you smell nice and you look like you make an effort to put yourself together..will keep her fixated a bit longer…and your opening line or lines don’t have to be bang on. I guess all I’m trying to say is that meeting someone is a bit of a pressure situation…and all you need is a bit more time to put it all together…and looking like you are at your best helps you with that. There..clearly a very obvious point!
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So, basically it means that if a girl likes a guy then it's okay for her to sexually harass and to molest the guy she likes, but if the guy does the same things to her then he is screwed.
Courtney, I watched a video on youtube, saying that your husband is a millionaire while you are teaching your viewers to live a simple life.
AFTER 10 MONTHS OF SMILES AND HEYS. I GAVE A TOPGUN SHIRT TO HER FRIEND TO GIVE TO HER AND SHE SENT THE COPS TO MY DOOR! 🤣
NOT EVERYONE ACTS LIKE HOW THEY FEEL.😅
Jesus girl how much time do you spend on your looks 😂
And no one wants that tiege Hanley bs
Signs a man likes you:
1. He will say he likes you.
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False because then the woman says she doesn't feel the same and gets creeped out.
@@MrWhaatay That doesn't make it false -- just means it's unsuccessful.
best comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but thats why we love women so much :)
@@MrWhaataythen move on lmao. Dont be hung over on it. Plenty of fish in the sea
You know what's easier than dropping a handkerchief? Engaging in a normal conversation like a person who isn't insane.
That would be way too reasonable for a woman.
@@gotinogaden ha, yet they complain about why they're single
What if the short, balding man gets to the handkerchief first? She will probably burn it later after turning him down.
@@johnsampson6387 She would call the bald man a creep and then the cops would arrest him.
@@gotinogaden
You mean for a western, feminist woman. Women outside of feminist amerikkka don't behave this way like little immature 13-year-olds.
She might throw out all these hints at you such as touching your arm, eye 👁️ contact, initiating, making you THINK that she’s into you, but she’s NOT. I’ve had this happen to me many times. MIND GAMES
The whole vid was "maybes" and contradictions. Men are much simpler and more direct in our communication.
@@tdrive398 the key to succeeding in the dating world is not giving a damn about whether or not you wind up with a partner, just let nature do it's thing and make sure to enjoy yourself
I'd think she's after something. Money, free food or drinks...like, why are you so aggressive?
Not mind games. She's just using you to her advantage. Saleswomen do that a lot, as well as female coworkers when they want you to do their job. The important thing you should do is study looks theory and know exactly where you rank in the attractiveness scale. Women don't throw themselves at sub-7s, unless they're really desperate (i.e., older childless women etc.). If a woman is throwing out those hints at you but you think you're probably not that attractive to be getting all this attention from her, it means you probably aren't, so you're deluding yourself if you think she likes you. She most likely just wants something from you.
@Mikecheatham6176, AKA Playing hard to get?
I think the main reason why women keep thoughts to themselves is because they don’t want to be responsible if it doesn’t work out.
It is called *plausible deniability* . It so that at any moment of the first stages of the meeting someone she can turns her back first and say " i reject you ! ", so that she can't be rejected.
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Yes and no. Depending on the woman.
You said you think? Nah man that is 100% facts
Amen.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago, The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back.
Amazing. how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive.
Yoo... what the. Mine only lasted 5 years also. I'm now trying to talk to this one girl but idk if she even likes me back and I'm very confused since I've been in a relationship for so long.
One girl who liked me once didn’t even say hi to me or didn’t want to be in the same room as me. Her friend said she was too embarrassed and yet I blew it??? I just laughed and said I’m not a mind reader!
Tell me more. This has happened to me I think on more than one occasion.
@@SL-lb6lz more or less a female coworker told all her friends she liked me yet didn’t do anything to approach me or orbit me or initiate contact. Went on for a month apparently. Then at a works party she got upset because I was lingering near a girl and then her friend told me she liked me and now I’ve missed my chance with her. I just laughed and said she hasn’t even spoke to me or been in the same room as me. I’m not a mind reader! I understand women can be shy but blaming it on me was beyond laughable
Yep. You blew it. The most important person in the world was within a square mile of you, had a whole security detail of suited-and-sunglasses agents talking to their wrists, that person did an embassage with their friends with a motorcade, and you simply didn't notice any of this. You blew it.
@Mac_Kymera you probably should've just told her friends to give her your number and text you
@@DJThree8s well the girl I was speaking to was showing the signs so I went to her. I also liked another girl there too so she was down the pecking order, but after that I was completely turned off if she was too embarrassed to say anything or come near me.
I worked with a woman for years with no contact and I had no interest. About 6 months ago she stopped me and started to talk. Just chit-chat type. Over the last 6 months every sign was there. Eye contact, touching, facing me directly. She started 9 out of 10 conversations. Shes married and I'm making a move on a married woman. But I still talked to her. Last week she said to me shes married and has a boyfriend at work. I will never talk to that woman again.
Is this real?
@@ATA-wi2lh It's the internet - who knows?
Never take the bait with modern women. They do this to see how thirsty you’ll get for them when they flirt with you. I used to call it charging you up or love bombing . Bc if they come at you a “little” too aggressively, you’ll know it , but men don’t see this initially bc they’re liking the attention from her.
😂😂😂 Run!
man, social media makes it harder for us common people
If a woman actually, genuinely likes you, it is REALLY EASY. I know it first-hand.
Unfortunately, most men never experience this phenomenon, so they have no idea how it actually feels. That's really sad, and just shows how bad the world has been when it comes to dating.
I also know it first-hand and realized now that I'm in my later years of college how many missed opportunities I had with women. All the signs where there (Hell, I didn't even know a girl asking for my number was a sign of interest till my 3rd year of college. I just thought she was being nice.) But anyways, I just didn't feel confident in making a move on them without fearing rejection...or even worse, being seen as weird.
Also dating really is a sad experience. The dating world can be skewed at times and sometimes good people get hurt, rejected, or ghosted. It really is a numbers game out there.
You are absolutely correct my man👏🏽👏🏽
If you have to sit and wonder if a girls likes you or not, She probably doesn’t. If she is truly interested/attracted to you aka “genuine desire” you have to do little to nothing….
42 years old and I haven't had that experience yet.
yeah i probably have a better chance dying in a Sub under water before I know true love especially having Autism and ADHD like good luck they say they love you but they lay flowers on your casket and then they move on to the next guy because its not happening for me I was born to lose
I have experienced it a couple of times, though some girls handle it differently. I've had girls try to make me do assignments together at school, got their friends to talk about them to me, and even moments where they got really close to me every opportunity. Now irl, as an adult, it's mostly through online spaces. I'll get a lot of attention and messages from specific women and that usually ends up being a person who sends flirty messages and emotes often. Honestly from the experiences I have, women love interesting personalities. You either got one, or you have other qualities that they're looking for. Also showing your face and having confidence in your appearance is a sure way to tell a woman you're not afraid to be judged. Appearance matters to women to some extent.
When I was younger and very shy - as well as naïve - I missed so may opportunities. Thanks Courtney for educating us guys.
The same here. I hate myself for all missed opportunitys. My life could have been totally different if I only had been a little braver.
@@reinereine1896 Same here - it may well have been different but, with hindsight, I wonder whether it really would have been better.
It was the same with me for a long time.
Lol, oh really! I thought I was the only one!🤣
@@reinereine1896There's loads of us guys who feel this same way. I've always been told that I'm a good looking young man, but my friends always wondered why I never leveraged on it. Now I'm older and getting more confident with women and I'm starting to regret all the missed opportunities.
Trust me guys, the first one where she is remembering details is a big one. I knew a couple of women who would remember things from weeks ago where I would mention my mother was sick, or my AC in my car died, and they'd ask if my mom was better or if my AC was fixed. It felt good knowing that they remembered the things I said. Sadly, I was younger and naive so I didn't take much note of it other than it felt good.
And had you expressed interest back you would have been rejected.
Takes me by surprised, cause I would forget those details.
There's just something so nice about you saying "my husband".
You are Simp of the Year PRdude...need your Simpcard,and fake Courtney wants to discuss your Simpness with ya.😂
@@lukeyboy5385😂. True though.
Yeah I agree. I’m so used to her saying “my fiancé.” That’s awesome they got married.
So, basically, everything is and isn't an indicator at the same time. This simply proves that men are better communicators.
If you are hot and / or rich staring at a woman is fine, if you are not either of these things you are a stalker, creep and loser who needs to be arrested and have your testicles removed.
Being a better communicator isn't that hard.
@@mateaukalua4426 Correct. Especially when the majority of people are functionally illiterate.
@@winconfig smfh.
Holy shit 💀. You boiled this entire video down into one sentence then had the chutzpah to call yourself a good communicator 😂. It's not that hard and if you can't figure it out my guy, and need her to dumb it down for you, that makes you the subpar communicator who can't read between the lines.
A goofy grin is one of the most common. It comes out without her even trying. If she hides interest too much she will lose out and be forgotten.
I hate the modern world
Ahaha why? 😅
A big one I picked up on through experience is if a woman remembers the facts of your life and what you talked about and when you last saw her. Women who do not like you romantically generally do not remember even basic stuff about you, it is all conversation to them and being nice. If you tell her you are (for an extreme example) a doctor and the next time you see her she asks what you do, she does not like you. That is kind of a big deal and a fact people would remember if they were impressed by you. Can be the same for just opening a new business, just going to college or grad school, just made a sports team, anything.
But if a girl likes you, she remembers everything, even when she last talked to you, what you said..everything. It will come through, even if she does not mean to telegraph liking you, because she will say something like, "I have not seen you for two and a half months! (or whenever) Last time we talked you said you were living in "x" How is the job in "x" going?" Attractive women talk to tons of guys trying to impress her with various humble brags. If she remembers yours, it is for a reason..LOL
See it in your own life, everyone has that thing where you run into someone you have not seen for a while and you do not even remember their name or if you do, remember basic stuff about them and you ask them some basic thing and they say "remember I told you I started that job, or moved?" and you do the Jerry Seinfeld "oh, yeah, now I remember! How is that going?" thing?
There is scientific evidence that a huge part of a woman's brain activates and memorizes all things when is interested, like a computer hard drive. Sometimes this is scary for men.
What you are describing has never happened to me except for with certain female cousins lol
Important things: 1:30 First Thing - Increased Attention; 4:01 Second Thing - Body Language; 6:16 Third Thing - Playful Teasing; 7:39 Fourth Thing - Initiating Contact; 8:45 Fifth Thing - Nervousness / Shyness; and 10:50 to summarize all the told here.
I agree with the handkerchief. Call me old fashion guy, but I sometimes would really like to see this type of showing interests as well (let's call it that way). Meaning to show if one lady shows interests in one gentleman. But who am I to be asked these things.
Also sometimes, even some men aren't trying to show when they are interested in women. They are also using two things that are told here, and those are: Second Thing (Body Language), and Fifth Thing (Nervousness / Shyness). Sometimes even men are in fear of being rejected (like it or not).
And I absolutely agree with the body language, especially with the eye contact. That is so true. I remember once that I saw one quote that goes like this (someone can correct me if I'm wrong): "Watch the eyes, because they will always say everything. Words can sometime fumble."
I just like the way how you are encouraging. It means a lot 💪💪💪🦾🦾🦾🤓😎🥰🥰🥰🙂.
This could mean a lot of things. I knew a girl that did all of this. Then 1 day she tells me she is seeing someone else.
I guess the biggest sign I missed, is when she started saying she doesn't want to take advantage of me when I paid. Of course she still let me, she would just say it before I paid.
@@scmsean I agree with that. But also it can mean that she probably played hot / cold games (or I would rather call it Yes / No games).
This is just my thought, probably I'm wrong, cause I don't know how long have you been with your ex girlfriend.
Appreciate you saving me another 10~ min of nonsense.
yup. Though if she's not grown or have enough balls to let me know she's interested, I'm not gonna give her that time of the day. That will be meant for women I myself know I am into. If she's into me and I don't know about it, that's on her for not letting me know and dropping these signs.
@@GregXHunterz Agree with that. Sometimes it could be just ok if the people would really say what do they feel about the person that they want to date.
Guys just do yourself a favor and just assume she’s being nice or no interest. It will save you a lot of confusion and frustration. Trust me I read the signs up to and including body mirroring and feet pointing and it meant nothing absolutely nothing
Those videos that tell us this stuff are just trying to get views for money
That is the correct approach. I always tell all male friends I talk to: always make sure you have an objective assessment of how attractive you really are (not how you think you are). Women can be nice to anyone, but they don't throw themselves at average or below average-looking men. They just don't do it.
Amen to that advice Brian Waller
Who hurt you ?
@@mtrichie111 lmao classic response.
My top 5:
1) When in conversation she will say something like that's a nice place for you to take your girlfriend (when she doesn't know if I have a girlfriend) but fake assumes because she wants me to give her the info without her having to ask directly (doing so would reveal her interest as Courtney so accurately stated) 2) she grooms or adjusts something about herself to look better when she sees me approaching from afar (thinks I didn't notice).
3) she gets angry or impatient when I don't make a move (love that kind of anger because I know I can make it disappear by making the move)
4) will find any excuse (that is not romantic) to exchange contact info. Making it seem like she's just networking. And 5) I WILL NAME SEVERAL BECAUSE I'M GENEROUS 😂 I catch her looking. Turns away quickly. But every chance she gets she looks at me / Catches a glimpse 👀 Blushes, gets nervous, giggles, changes tones of voice around me, and gets giddy after conversations and interactions with me. But they don't confess their feelings unless I make the first bold move. Strange but beautiful creatures, women are. ❤❤
I just give them foot massages and put by dick between the feet, out of the 6 times I done it it only failed 1 time;p
If she wants you to leave her alone she will tell you about past STDs she's had.
@@jimdandy8996 I would appreciate that, catched my 1st one with a girl that had such a sexual attraction but also red flags;p
@@jimdandy8996 😂
@@jimdandy8996😂😂😂
In my experiences woman who’s really into you will not play games, but might be kinda shy.
Some signs to look for:
1/ She will give you compliments, either to you personally or in a group of friends/coworkers. Can be related to your physique, sense of humor, work ....
2/ She might entrust you a personal thing .... like a cellphone or her wallet while she goes to toilet. Big sign.
3/ She will want to help you with small things like buying things for lunch at work (if she is a coworker).
4/ Will search for ways to initiate physical contact (shoulder taps, hand touches)
5/ Will invite you to outside activity ... she will offer you options that she considers suitable for you both ... like swimming, mountain hiking, jogging, cinema etc
6/She will enjoy your conversation, laugh a lot
7/ The more shy ones will play with their hair, blush easily....
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
@@user-hq9iv4ff2c Don't go for that bro. They are just fishing for people with broken hearts and souls like yours, and are abusing them for money. Plus the psycho-somatic dangers that they can suggest in your mind are awful. You have a problem with those two elements, and the only physician of the heart and the soul is God, The Lord, it's Creator. I would advice on looking out for Him, as His love endures forever. But you must have faith in love, in a real way, not the process of idealizing or serving people, that are nothing to you not even your family, if not married.
Hey man, turn to Jesus. Not to a witch. Only through Christ can one be set free from the trauma and suffering one is going through. God cares for you.
Dang the bots are getting pretty sus
Having recently lost my wife of 53 years (4 years dating and 49 years married), who was literally my 1 and only sweetie, thinking about dating again in this techy & impersonal online world looked insane and foreign. Your guidelines helped me realize that my old fashion ways of courtship and in-person romance would set me apart from the masses of techy males who only know gaming and porn. Thanks for giving me affirmation that respect, care, genuine friendship, attentiveness and a smile still win the day with sincerely interested and mature women in this upside down world. Cheers
May she rest in peace man, hope you're coping well ?
So you're at least 69 years old?
@@malliahreyn8429 70 and energy, romance and fitness level of a 30 year old
Yes!
you're in for a shock
I think the initiating contact advice is the most reliable test. Even if she is trying to conceal her interest, she's still going to focus on you when you try to socialize with her. If she smiles and keeps talking, that's more than politeness.
I think men should not care about some signs AT ALL. Man should know only one thing - if he likes her or not. If he does, ask her out. If she rejects, move on. End of story. Period.
Best advice out there, sir!
9:38 "The 1st few dates with my husband..."
Wow, a dating coach who's actually married! Congratulations!!
It's only been recently.
@@lifted_above Thank You
I watch her from time to time so I can give dating advice to my adult children. In all the videos I've seen of her she seems to be a bit of a unicorn.
Married to a multi millionaire.
@@MikeyP109 Ok? but that doesn't necessarily translate directly to the sort of individual he is. There's down to earth, everyday normal people who have come into money. Then there's absolute jerks who have money, who quantify everything in their sphere by dollar value.
It may translate into Courtney being perceived as less applicable to the average person. Yet, she's done plenty of financial based videos and has a pretty good grasp of what is average in this country. She won't be the sort of person that finds her life very restricted due to lack of money, that's for sure. Not unless the economy tanks and the banks collapse, which is very likely by the looks of it.
Anyway, there's another channel with someone offering good advice if you're interested. Look up emilywking.
@@lifted_above it makes sense that she married well. She seems like she would be a good contributor to a partnership.
I have seen Emily W King. Yes, she is very grounded as well.
I have also been appreciating the wisdom of Sadia Khan.
Hey I wanna say thank you for honestly bringing some “down to earth” advice about women… I’ve ran into a lot of “I’m better than you” kind of women over the past couple years and it really makes a young man not even wanna date 💯
Its simple.. First, there is no instant sexual attraction. Second U are nice to the ladies, at a point she feel more dominant then you. These stories u will never hear from a men who has sexy appearance.. woman behave and respond a way different.. if u are average looking, u have to tab on whole another more dominance approach.
When I was young, ladies I tried to date look at me as if they were better than me. Later they got married, divorced, have kids, got older, feel lonely.... guess what? They asking about me. Thank you. I'm not looking for dramas.
@@Arvidjehow can you even say that you don’t even know him?
Signs she’s confused
She shows you all these signs then says oh I want to be with someone else but I’m single 🧐🙃 make a video on if she turns you down after showing you all these signs
Yeah. Last month I met two girls who gave me these signs and many more besides. Played with their hair, mirrored my body language (one of them quite directly), laughed at all my jokes, one of them smiled from ear to ear and touched me back when I touched her, etc. Then nothing. It happens and it's extremely frustrating. You just have to get used to it. Things were much much simpler before tech and social media destroyed dating. Although I admit I think I tend to give up a little too soon since I'm very self-critical. I had given up on a third one when she didn't text me back the first time only to discover that she viewed my Instagram stories frequently so I have since re-initiated contact.
Happens all the time. When she says she is confused, that's secret code for she is not interested in you. Usually they say it to let you down easy.
guys if some chick doesnt have the maturity and "emotional intelligence" to be able to talk to you like an adult then she isn't worth your time.. don't try to read minds and take responsibility for something that SHE needs to improve and be accountable for... Ladies - do better
So why would anyone want to be with someone who is actively trying not to show they like them?!?
lol desperation, it's hilarious bro
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IMO, words are louder than actions when it comes to dating. We are not mind readers and some of us are not good at reading body language, excluding me but overall, communication is key if you want someone to know that you’re genuinely interested in them.
IMO, words are louder than actions when it comes to dating....
doesnt work that way in the wild...lol
I largely agree. I've met few women who were trying not to show interest, meaning that they either were interested or not, but not somewhere in-between. The other aspects, increased attention, teasing, etc. are surely signs that a woman likes you, but it is not clear in what way. Body language is extremely tricky, as it is subject to attribution error, meaning her body language may be in reaction to somebody or something else. From my perspective it is truly the spoken word and physical contact that make the difference, such has the rather common hand on your upper arm, making sure you're not going anywhere.
As far as I'm concerned, words are louder than actions, and for one simple reason: they should be harder to misinterpret. If a woman is signalling interest in you, it can be misinterpreted in various ways, but if she tells you she is (or is not, as the case may be) interested in you, you don't have to bother about trying to guess what she is thinking/feeling based on her actions.
Well than you are screwed lol. Stop being a damn beta. We all get rejected. It’s not the end of the world. You either figure this out or die alone, and you don’t want to die without having experienced real love with a woman. What a tragedy.
And words are fine just be upfront. Don’t try and weasel your away the question you want to ask. When you think you’ve had ample time, just say I’d like to get to know you more, let’s go grab a cup of coffee. Boom. That easy. If you keep go around and around and around in circles it is such a turn off for women. Just do it. Much love.
@@corning1are you actively fighting for the divorce laws, child custody laws, domestic violence laws and false accusation laws to be made fairer to men??
When you realize that you have never encountered woman that does these things for you :D
Same here brother
Honestly the world has changed. Barely any younger people actually engage in that social behavior just because of social media rising.
you are meant to find contentment within yourself
@@Danny328DT You can meet whales with green hair and tatoos. Good luck to you. 👍
@@kingdomofgeorgia1751 Green hair is oddly specific. 🤔
The detail one is so spot on and works both ways. I was with a group of friends and made a backhand comment about my favorite flavor of ice cream (Its vanilla). Cue two weeks later, on a weekend, i meet her (one of the women in the group) on chance in the mall and we started to chat. After we had lunch, she said: "I want a ice cream, do you want too? Vanilla is your favorite, isn't?" I was surprised. I went on a couple of a dates with her and she keep remembering little things that i told her before. 5 years later, she is my fiance.
Another one is about her friends. That body language. I observed that too. The rest CAN be confused to just be nice. Every woman is different, but you covered all the common bases.
That is my experience. When a woman is interested in you she will remember the small stuffs. No amount of politeness will change that. She will not remember little stuffs if she is just polite or nice to you.
"Open honest communication, if only it was that easy." Bingo!
I got almost all of these signals so I started talking to her and found out we had some similar experiences and interests, one being nature walks and areas. So I talked for a bit more then another day asked her to come with me to my favorite nature spot only for her to say no. I have self worth issues and it takes me a couple years in between serious interests when it doesn't work out because I feel I must have to build myself more for women to want to be with me. This last one really sent me back to the depths I spent so much time and effort climbing out of and I don't understand why this happens to me. My despair around dating is climbing and I feel paralyzed from wanting to try yet wanting a genuine woman. My awareness biting me in the ass because I can see it all happening inside me. Did I give TMI? Maybe, but this little vent helped me a little so I don't care
You story is common because these signs don't mean anything.
Thanks for being open with us at 9:33. This video was awesome and insightful. Love your content and glad you didn't flip to a podcast format. That arena feels so congested with the same type of content that it's hard to appreciate many of the casters that are out there.
Try being still. Hold completely. Don’t squeeze but not loose. Hug from your heart and you’ll know when to stop. Share the loving energy. Hugs are everything.
Eye contact is very important to it shows her you are a good listener
Everyone does eye contact when talking. It is socially normal.
Excellent video, Courtney! Here's something I've noticed that I'll share, from my experience:
-While you're in a conversation with others in the area? She will walk within the conversation circle, and passively make an introduction. This sounds weird, but this seems to actually happen, in certain circles (e.g; "Union Club", Shoreby Club, etc.) This runs along all of your points, Courtney. It seems to also imply desire to be identified by and with the guy she's interested in, and also to be introduced/identified as being of company with you.
This might seem happenstance, but if she thinks you're eligible, and she's getting to know you, and you're showing that you have command presence (that doesn't demand it)? Those are turn-ons to some women, who are interested. In short? She wants to be known and seen with you, but is coy.
Yes please! It'd be great if ladies made the dropping of the handkerchief a norm again. It removes unwanted attention on their end and it tells us guys that it's ok to pursue. Easy peasy. Great video!
I have literally never experienced any of these signs, nor has any woman made it easy for me to know. I know what I look like, what I offer, and what my positives are. Most days, I question the futility of dating in general. I don’t know how some people get success, I really don’t.
Yes please!! Back to the days dropping the handkerchiefs.
I am in a situation right now where I needed to be reminded of these. And I can for sure say that the 5th one (initiation of contact) is almost a dead giveaway! It's the only thing that the situation is lacking right now, but that might hopefully(!) change soon...
Mannn
Women: why am i single?!
Also women: *won't ask the guy out*
Why do I keep seeing guys in the comment section say they want a feminine woman and let a man lead, but then say stuff like this? I’m incredibly confused.
Also women: farting intensely in front of a man to prove she’s a good feminist
They ain’t gotta “ask the guy out” but there are multiple things they can do to help get a relationship started without every little thing being on the man to get the ball rolling
Telling a guy where something is happening is fine....asking him out and proposing seem kind of weird to me.
Because they're not the same guys? Personally, I don't want to lead, I want a team player where her thoughts matter too. Haven't you ever noticed that sometimes people disagree with the leader's decisions? Imagine a guy "being a leader" by taking the girl out to a strip club. Would she like that? Probably not, but he made the decision. If that's not the leader you're talking about, then describe what is?@@poeticeclipse
It's so frustrating when there are girls that are interested but never show it until you do. They make it so confusing and difficult. They wait until they know you are interested before they show they are interested. Just make eye contact and smile and I will smile back and then you can be together right away and be happy in love.
Remembering small details and calling back to them in conversation also works for men, too. In my experience women find this attractive, as it's a sign you were paying attention during previous conversations and therefore have genuine interest in her.
Thanks Courtney, this was a real eye opener for me! I'm at the end of my 30s and only now I'm really beginning to understand what's going on more clearly: Throughout my teens, 20s and now 30s, the concept of non-verbal communication have been more or less nonexistent in my repertoire of social skills. I never understood why everyone else around me managed attract girls, but now I see why! When I think back now to all the times a girl obviously have been showing interest, but I had no clue at all how to deal with it, now I realise those were all lost opportunities, sigh! It's frustrating to say the least. I got my ASD-diagnosis last year, and this have been really relieving. I know begin to see the picture more clearly, both with myself and how social interactions are actually supposed to work. We are each on a journey of our own self-discovery, but I have faith that we can all improve for the better, if we really put our efforts in it. Take care everyone 🙌
"If only it was that easy." The encapsulating statement
It is not this easy guys. You can have a woman that touches your forearm, that smiles when she’s talking to you, that shares sensitive details about her life, that tells you you’re the only person that ever shows they care, she can say she loves you, and so much more and have it mean absolutely nothing. In fact, then wonder to herself why did this guy think I liked him?
Courtney, I know you prob hear it constantly but you are so fine. Georgeous doesnt come close. Thanks for having our back. Not all of us are great with women and it helps having you in our corner.
Yes we need to bring back the hankerchief thing! I thought I'd never hear a girl say that, I always love that reference. I think a lot of these signs can make it look like she's not interested...I know when I was younger I misinterpreted the shyness as nervousness as if she didn't want me around
Actually, they should bring back the Candid Camera skit where a woman wearing a suit jacket, a mini skirt, and a pair of panties around her ankles holding a huge box and asks a man for his help dealing with her panty situation. There were a lot of guys awkwardly trying to raise her panties up her legs trying not to look creepy. (Hint: The guy should offer to hold the box while she discreetly squats down to raise her panties herself.)
@@728huey Wow that’s one hell of a game to play. I’d probably hold the sign for her instinctively lol. Not hard to figure out. Honestly I’d assume someone that does that has Histrionic Personality Disorder though and would probably run
Most women assume that if you really like her that much and are a real man, you will initiate. Saves her the rejection if she initiates.
I just found your channel and can tell you why you have been so successful. The advice you give to men is fantastic. Keep up the great work, Courtney!
She is married or has a boyfriend or pretends to...I know a little bit about women, her favorite part about doing this video is when she gets to say how she could not eat because she likes her man...just teasing her simp subscribers
It's false or out of ignorance. Read the comments. You will learn more than from her videos.
Such a classy, beautiful woman. It's so awesome that you help out us men when you can be a model or whatever else 😊. Thank you Courtney! Keep up the good work!
Now a days trying to understand if a woman is interested and you meet her paradoxical, complex, and often confounding standards is a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma
Great comment.
Great video! I have a co-worker that keeps coming by my department and keeps saying hi to me all the time and she's divorced. I get nervous and she's been really nice. Awesome video thank you! 💕🙏😊👊
If I have to wonder if a woman likes me, I assume that she doesn't and govern myself accordingly.
True. Sometimes the best game is to have no game at all.
I think an extra layer to be added with body language and communications is this: when a girl who is flirty but touchy feely, she needs to immediately stop that before she gives off the wrong idea. And if she’s active initiating communication, she needs to always be intentional. Anecdote: girl I met at church attempted to initiate contact with me while I was talking to someone else but she didn’t say anything till I did. Then she did the touchy feely thing any and every time I was around her. But as time went on, then she pulled back whenever I initiated contact. And eventually it reached a point where it was me initiating everything until I stopped giving her attention and then she paid more attention. She’s inconsistent even though she seems to think highly of me, but seeing the behavior, I came to realize that the instability is a major headache.
Yep those are always pain in the ass had two I really liked pulled thst n two faced as well I've caught mine doubling back each time we made out n she found ne n she would be telling all her friends play by play, call them out directly each time n go for the pussy
She's into the game of you being into her. Wants what she cannot have. That's it.
This is classic game. It's called the push-pull method and it's hella toxic in my opinion. Mature, emotionally responsible people communicate their needs to each other, even if it results in disappointment.
@@griffferguson3039 the funny thing is as I read your response, I kept noticing this push-pull tension and I thought it was just me. And I agree it’s toxic. That’s why I haven’t spoken to her in 3 months.
@@Vergil14 dude, ditch that noise from your life. I've been on a stoic kick lately and have reprioritized a peaceful and calm inner life over a chaotic relationship with a woman. I feel so much better without the constant buzz of latent mental illness around me.
Interesting list. My experience is that these are signs of sympathy, but not attraction.
yeah or kindness
I was all set to do my autumn/ winter shopping, then I hopped on a plane to Spain and even since the flight I've been getting girls numbers , all those hours learning basic Spanish paid off , Courtney's videos are brilliant, it's the best college ever
If she's trying not to show it, she's not that into you. Move on to the next one!
Out of the blue, I recently fell hard for a dear friend who I've known now for almost 10 months.
The more I learned about her and have grown to know her,, the more I liked her until it hit me like a ton of bricks.
She's a widow of 2 years and I'm a widower of 4 years, so I think we're both not only out of practice, but I know I'm petrified
that I might do something to destroy the friendship.
You just gave me several enlightening examples of potential good signs that make me think she has feelings for me. Thank you!
Same thing happened to me 2 years after a woman at work befriended me. Let me save you some trouble. As soon as you fell for her the friendship was destroyed. In my case she had feelings too but just wanted to stay friends. That caused jealousy and possessiveness on both sides as well as arguments we would have never had as just friends.
I appreciate what you're saying, but there have been developments since I wrote the comment.
I took a leap of faith for Valentine's Day and wrote her a letter professing my feelings and I went one better.
I'm an amateur musician on the side, so I wrote and produced a really pretty song just for her that pretty much removed all doubt.
I let her know in the letter that I was scared to death, but that I cared so much for her that I had to take the risk.
She was completely blown away and not only loved the song, but she explained that though she's still healing, the last thing in the world she wanted was to lose me.
We'll see what happens and I'll be patient and take baby steps.
If if falls apart, at least I tried.@@MrWhaatay
@@MVMullins The one at work baked me some food and said it was from the bottom of her heart. A week later she told me she was so sorry I got feelings for her and if she wanted to date it wouldn't be with someone she works with. I ended up quitting soon after. Good luck.
Your appetite story made me laugh because it happened to me & my friend. She told me she was leaving the country. I thought for good but she meant for 2 months. That's how she travels. That forced me, at dinner, one night to tell her about my feelings for her before she left. She was so flattered & surprised. She said "You're making me blush! I don't know what happened but I was so hungry but my appetite is gone!" I knew exactly what happened because she'd done it to me the last time we hang out together. I'd never seen her so giddy around me like the rest of the night. She was so happy I told her!
And what ever happened?
Your videos occasionally pop up on my feed. You are always so well put together and classy looking.
very smooth transition into the skin care product
I appreciate the fact that you offer this advice as a married woman. Great job!
The advice isn't accurate so there's that.
Let’s see increased attention, sat next to me 6/6 times, stood next to me 3/3 times, eye contact with dilated pupils she actually held eye contact I looked away and we locked eyes again , compliments on my looks, hand shaking, fist bumps, gave me candy, touching my arm saying as in passing in the hallway, body mirroring, feet pointing towards me, open body language. Then got ghosted when I pursued. Since then I simply gave up on this bullshit.
So you had one bad experience and you're giving up completely? How manly.
@@Guigley nope my entire life it’s been the exact same. I’m now 45. I’m done and have officially checked out of dating. If a chick wants to date me she’ll ask me. I’m done “reading” signs and being wrong because she used me for an ego boost or her emotional punching bag. The last one was a church girl who I thought would be different but nope the same bullshit so I’m done. But you keep on dealing with them gump
@@Guigleywhat up simp 😂
@@BrianWaller-qe7grthat's fine if you're done but watching this content doesn't make anything better
@@desertraider8628 I mainly watch for the comedy that men actually still think this crap works.
I really don't like videos like this, and it's not because they're not helpful but because it shows why things are so complicated. If you like me, just say it. I get that women might be afraid of rejection or believe that men should make the first move, but why try to play 4-D mental chess instead of just being upfront? You only hurt yourself in the end.
I agree. It’s unfortunate lol we all need to learn how to communicate effectively!
Your points are well taken, but if you do find yourself in a situation where a woman appears to be giving you attention... Take a deep breath -- and maybe an internal shot of courage -- and slowly take control of the situation: You can compliment something she is wearing or mention your hobby and ask what she thinks about it. ("Oh, I'm just taking a survey" could be your follow-up comment). So maybe she's not interested or wants plausible deniability, but otherwise watch for signs of her face lighting up because you actually noticed her.
@@joekrozel6137 Naw I'd rather leave her hanging and wait for her to talk
And in this day and age with social media shaming, false accusations, embarrassment, etc. I am not bothering without clear signals.
@@jamesbell1613 yeah bro exactly, it’s easy to be direct anyhow
As a guy who's super oblivious/low self-esteem... thank you
Hi Courtney, new subscriber! Just a few days before this video was uploaded, my now-ex-fianceé and I broke up. Before anyone reading says “I’m so sorry”, please don’t because I didn’t realize until very recently that I was being manipulated by her, so I finally feel authentic again. Thanks very much Courtney, for being a source of comfort and relaxing in a difficult time. I appreciate it very much
All these and when you approach her she says she's just being friendly.
If a person is attempting to communicate non-verbally or telepathically or is UNWILLING to be OPEN and HONEST then they are UNWORTHY of being spoken to. We must punish women for being secretive and cryptic and encoded and provide negative reinforcement that this is cowardly childish and embarrassing or they will never change.
Dude chill out lol
If a woman is staring at you with a warm smile on her face, that is generally a good sign that she wants you to go up and talk to her. That is basically the modern day "dropping of the handkerchief".
Of all the relationships I’ve had, the best ones have been ones where she initiated contact and did the initial pursuing.
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During my final year of high school when I participated in Unified Track I was close to a girl named Lydia and its been sort of difficult accepting the fact that my friends are busy. I would like to start with me and Lydia grow in our friendship and then after a year or two I thought about coming clear expressing how I feel about her, there's never a day though that I don't miss her and my other friends but I'm so thankful for my new friends that I made at my home church it has really helped me be less down and stressed about missing my track friends.
If woman and men did better at communicating how they felt instead of relying on if the person your talking to reading your mind and very subtle body language. Less people would be alone in this world.
I do smth similar to the handkerchief generally😂 a few days ago a man sitting nearby caught my attentiom so I asked me if he could keep an eye on my belongings while I go to the bathroom and he started the conversation when I came back^^
Why not just talk directly?
well I want a masculine man, one who will court me and show me his interest (a go getter). I don’t play games or « hard to get », I will frankly show my interest back when he initiates and give cues that show I am interested (be interested in him, ask him questions about his life and goals) . But it would be stepping out my healthy femininity to do the chasing.
@@sarahsf6940 How's a man not masculine if he isn't the one to initiate a conversation with a woman? These days he could easily get called a creep, or even get accused of other stuff. Don't you find it reasonable that he'd wanna avoid such risks? Women have it easier because they could approach and not get defamed and humiliated. Why is it the man who has to initiate everything?
@@Kenny-ep2nf Part of what constitutes masculinity is the very ability to take risks and face potential rejection without crumbling like a butter biscuit. By letting the man lead and giving him discret cues to encourage him he proves to me he has self-confidence, which I enormously value in a man's character. Society is filled with spineless men so women like me who want a strong man to stand by her side in a lifelong partnership, we'll want to test you (without cruelty, always with class). It's a question of dynamic not just of achieving getting into a relationship. I want a dynamic in which I can lean in my feminine power and that is only possible if my partner is fully owning his masculine power, so we can beautifully complement one another. I have been in a relationship with a man who had confidence issues, I did my best to be supportive while the relationship lasted but eventually I had to break it off because it was leading me into emotional instability (I am less neurotic than the average woman, so that was quite something) as I found myself having to be the protector more often than the protected. Do you understand my point?
@@sarahsf6940 I’m the type of guy who doesn’t approach women but it’s not out of fear of rejection as much as it is just me not caring much about the whole thing, and also when I see women in public it doesn’t even occur to me to approach because there’s a good chance they’re already with another man and even if they were being nice to me I’d just take it as kindness and not think much else of it. With that being said, men don’t have to always take the risk of rejection, I don’t see the issue with women putting themselves out there or speaking up as well, like how am I supposed to communicate with someone that won’t even be direct with me?
I met a guy at one of the local establishments where I live. I made a subtle comment toward him about his curly locks and I said to him, "Did you put conditioner on this morning" and he went on like a 5 minute rant about the conditioner that he used. LOL it was hilarious.
There's a small window of opportunity they'll give you to take the lead and show that you're confident enough and not weak, once that window closes it's game over, you're now in the friend zone.
A long time ago, I was walking with my folks and sisters to a restaurant, and a group of beautiful girls passed by. One of them made eye contact and smiled warmly at me, and I immediately looked away from sheer nervousness. I've always regretted that.
I've been smiled at by this girl at school and so I smiled back, but days later when I saw her again she didn't even know who I am. So rest assured you didn't miss nothing bro, keep your head up and stay confident
Courtney your the best keep up the good work!
Yes!
Thanks Courtney! This was very helpful!
There's a girl at work (whom I definitely like) who lately _seems_ to be flirting with me, but I'm so socially inept that I can't read body language or social cues and I don't know if she's just being friendly.
Pay attention to her eyes. She will look at you differently compared to other men. People can’t hide they’re eyes of communication.
How will they look at us?
Doesn't sound like she is trying to hide anything.
How exactly? Or better yet, why not just...I don't know...use words? Like normal people? If women are interested in a guy, just speak up. To get dates, we have talk to women. To talk with them, we have to approach them (since 9 times out of 10 they sure as heck won't). Until that happens, none of these points matter, but we really don't understand what you're so afraid of. Worst case scenario, a guy approaches, he's seen as a creeper (depends though). Women almost never approach it seems so they want us to come to them, and even when the ball starts rolling, they're still dropping signs that WE must decode. Lots of women seem to never consider what THEY are doing to deserve a guy in the first place, let alone going on dates
Amen!@@michaelrespicio5683
@@michaelrespicio5683 spitting facts my dude
It’s all in the eyes.
Liking someone and trying not to show it is like going to the same store to watch clothing we like but never buying it. It's pointless! Women, grow some eggs and tell the man you like him. We're tired of constant games and wondering. Follow your heart and stop being in your friggin' ego!
The segue into the product endorsement was stellar!
Happy Labor day weekend, Courtney! ❤
Stay away from them all bros. They all are for the streets. Focus on yourself, and only yourself
yourself and those you know
The last one is very true. They also show a lot of insecurities. It's also a sign that tells me when the girl hasn't been in a relationship in a long time.
From experience i know: if you're confused - walk away. If 3she's the one there is no trickery going on, the flow is just completely natural and you do not need to analyze each detail. Am I fortunate to have run into somebody like that, because (online) dating - it's a cesspool. All the rules and byrules, all of them unwritten and unspoken - plus one little detail on your picture and you're a swipe left.
What if the wrong person picks up the handkerchief 😂
The advent of boxing.
What if everyone leaves it on purpose?
@@garypierce7380somebody picks it up and uses it to blow their nose 😂
She will burn it later if the short, balding man gets to it before the tall, handsome man.
@@lazonya604 That’s actually what it’s for… so considering that, I’m not picking up that hanky, she might have blown her nose on it.
I’d be like, “Keep your snotty hanky to yourself, lady!”
Courtney said some good things already.
I'd like to add the following to Courtney's list.
6. Deliberately getting in the way. (Like, literally blocking your path while trying to look as innocent and innocuous as possible)
I've seen that happen a lot to me. What I mean by this is a woman deliberately postioning herself in such a way that you HAVE to talk to her just to pass her by.
And when you pass her by, she'd give you a totally over the top "sorry" for getting in the way. (As if she stole your phone or something and immediately gives it back to you. Kinda like a prank gone bad). Often followed by a 10 second stare with dilated pupils and (sometimes) finshed off with her kinda checking you out from head to toe in a very subtle way.
Or sometimes even adding a "I was a bit distracted, that's why I didn't see you coming." "I'm so sorry."
Another telltale sign is if she, on top of all this, keeps a 'soft' stance, with zero urgency to get back to whatever it is she was doing before you came into the picture.
To me, the "Sorry" (or excusing themselves) seems to be a staple for women that WANT you to strike up a conversation with them. It's like woman language for an open invitation. Whenever a woman goes through the 'ritual'/'routine' I just described I know it's a sure shot.
Only downside, you can't get this on a dating app.
That's probably why I shy away from dating apps altogether.😅
7.Trying a bit too hard to hide her feelings and in doing so coming off as alloof and (in some cases) slightly arrogant. This changes though, when you break the ice and make her feel at ease around you. A well-meant compliment or a joke will usually do the trick.
Cheers!✌
Dude, you could have all these encounters with women from the list in the video yet still get ghosted by them.
All really good advice. Reading a woman’s subtle gestures and body language is difficult but your video clarifies it a lot.
It's very situational too. Also, in most cases, you get a very small window of opportunity to make a move.
Unless a woman flat out expresses her interest to me. I will never pick up her subtle ways!! What seems obvious to most is extremely challenging to me! I guess I’m very unique😊
I am the same way. I completely ignore women unless they try to initiate a conversation. That’s how I met my wife. Good luck man!
Maybe that is why I can't get a date. The woman like me so much they get intimidated.
Phew glad I wasnt the only one!
Cope 😂😂😂
If you meet a girl working in the store or at the gas station, she most probably won't initiate physical contact because it's seen as unprofessional.
Some people, including myself, cross their armes or avoid eye contact, because we feel uncomfortable looking people in the eyes and we feel more comfortable with crossed arms. It has nothing to do with how much we like the person we talk to. It has more to do if the person is introverted or extroverted.
Some people don't like physical contact or eye contact when talking to others, if they don't know the person very well
You are amazing with these vids as always Courtney
Hope everyone is having a fun and safe Labor Day Weekend. Here are the signs that "could" imply a woman likes you:
1) She pays more attention to you
2) Her body language (e.g. Frequent eye glances, mirrors your body languages, light or playful touches, keeps most of her body turns toward you and is not crossing her arms)
3) Playful teasing (This a test to see if you can respond with light-hearted fun; this could be make-or-break)
4) Initiating contact (She is being proactive with talking and/or sending the first messages about making plans)
5) Nervousness/shyness (She is conscious on how she acts around you, and may have a difficult time being open around you. If you like her and you really want her to be more open with you, then be personable and create a safe space for her; this can make things a little easier as long as you don't forcefully rush it.)
#1 nope, #2 nope, #3 nope etc etc….
If a woman I'm interested in doesn't want to make her feelings or her actions known to me about why she's engaging with me
in a conversation
or in a moment
I see that as a little girl attitude that she has about herself
her feelings will come after a while if u proper date her for a couple of months..
One thing..I think might be an obvious game changer is to really make an effort to make sure you are “put together”…great shoes..hair..jeans..cologne..etc.
why do I suggest this obvious thing? A girl will evaluate you in the first 5-8 seconds from a purely physical perspective…and will allow you to engage her if she thinks: “this guy has it together.” This in turn, buys you those pretty important first few moments to put together even the simplest hello. If you smell nice and you look like you make an effort to put yourself together..will keep her fixated a bit longer…and your opening line or lines don’t have to be bang on. I guess all I’m trying to say is that meeting someone is a bit of a pressure situation…and all you need is a bit more time to put it all together…and looking like you are at your best helps you with that. There..clearly a very obvious point!