Having NEEDS is not BEING NEEDY
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- Опубліковано 27 лют 2023
- In this video, we're going to talk about the difference between needing and being needy. We're going to explore the different types of needs and how to deal with them.
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Having needs does not make you needy!
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1. loyalty
2. honesty
3. closeness
I had needs and was needy because my needs weren’t met then I became so needy. Read the book attached and it let me know that I wasn’t being weird and I was human
Very nice video. Had to learn this, too. My ex barely met my needs, we were the anxious avoidant trap. I tried to talk to him and also compromise, asking him what he needs and wants and where we could meet in the middle. He barely responded, it always had to be his way. So I started to spiral and became more and more needy, desperate and unhappy as my attachment system constantly got triggered. When he ended the relationship, after over 8 years, I thought everything was my fault. I was devastated, thought I was needy, always heard his voice in my head “you are too much”. After a year post break up, I realised, that I am good, I am enough and not too much. I am fine now, over the rs and over him. I am actually glad that he ended it. We were just toxic and unhappy towards the end. I grew so so so so much, also because of your videos Rory, thank you for that.
I am happier, than I have ever been.
Being in a relationship where your anxiety constantly gets triggered makes you lose yourself. I was just a shadow of who I used to be. Now I am back, even better than before.
Outgoing, extroverted, meeting so many new people, found new hobbies, gained a lot of insight and finally shifted to a more secure self and attachment style. Knowing I will be fine, whatever comes. Not being scared of being alone. I am just happy for the moment and enjoying my single life.
Thank you for all your guidance Rory, you and Craig Kenneth had an immense impact on my growth process.
Rory I needed to hear this. But here’s the catch….they usually start by texting YOU during their work day, or calling regularly….then suddenly they do a 360 and say, “I don’t need to talk to you…”….it’s bizarre!
Anxious vs Avoidant, it happens all the time. They need to evaluate if that is what they want in a partner. What a timely subject and video.
My top 3 needs in a relationship.
1. Transparency
2. Honesty with honest communication
3. Reciprocation of my attention in the same way.
I miss what we had together. Now I'm totally alone. Yes I have good friends. He dumped me but kept calling and bresdcrumbimg me sssooo quit answering his calls . I have cut him out of my life. It's not asy but I know he really don't want me in his life. I know I'm not needie. I'm a very independent person. Maybe that scares a lot of men?? Grant you I'd like to have a partner but not 24,hours a day all the time. I like the idea of my own place and vice_versa. Yes you have made it clear about need and needie. Thank you. 💖🥰
I started became needy after opening up to him since we have been dating for 8 months, but being in LDR made it hard. I feel like he couldn’t meet my needs. I love him but I feel alone being in a relationship. I tried to talk to him about him but it just causes a fight and him saying I was just causing a drama and and now he’s distant. Felt like I shouldn’t have communicated my needs
Thank you! I really needed this. Now I know I wasn't needy, just demanding what I needed and the other person didn't give, even if I clearly said that was what I needed: CLOSENESS. Thanks, now I know I made the right choice (breaking up).
Great video, Rory I’ve been watching your videos for around 9 months now. At first it was as a survival mechanism as I had just gone through my first breakup and thought the world had ended.
Nowadays the meaning has changed and it’s more about learning. Although I will admit sometimes when the old feelings come back after a particularly rough day. I can always return to these videos and they provide a sense of comfort, so thank you ❤
Woah, u r pumping out videos left and right. Thanks man. Hope u will fully recover soon.
Spot on! That was an important topic to cover thanks Rory ❤️
You are so welcome!
Whoa a new love chat video by my man Rory the love chat guy! What a pleasant surprise!
Mines
Honesty
Communication
Thoughtfulness
Just found out my ex is seeing some one with in 2 week I did have to talk to her about a police matter and I told her congratulations feel like shit but I'll get over it
I regret being needy and my ex has cut me out of theyre life for good.
Top 3
1) respect of cultural values
2) compassion
3) physical intimacy
Can u make a video on what to do AFTER you’ve already accidentally agreed on being friends with an ex ????
Cuz me and my ex agreeed on being friends a week after our breakup when he reached out.
I didn’t know it was a bad ifea
Every video you make is HBO level TV quality
Kind of you to say. :D
Rory, the Love Chad!