Why he blames you for EVERYTHING!

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  • Why he blames you for EVERYTHING!
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  • @jeanettemena1286
    @jeanettemena1286 Рік тому +113

    Yea if he constantly finds fault in you - that’s his guilty conscious. He can’t bare staring in the mirror so he’s projecting his guilt on to you.

    • @marian5554
      @marian5554 5 місяців тому +1

      I know i made mistakes, and i tried letting him know that i waa changing thst and i has faith in us. He smiled and said ok its a promise. And days later he broke me telling me all my mistakes ans weaknesses head to toe

  • @jasminea7828
    @jasminea7828 Рік тому +23

    “He’s cultivated a distrust by being untrustworthy.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @80sbaby90
    @80sbaby90 Рік тому +40

    Good men are rare

    • @victorial8764
      @victorial8764 9 місяців тому +3

      Godly men are rare too. ❤

  • @simpsonmarie4
    @simpsonmarie4 Рік тому +96

    My ex hubs did this a lot. And he never took responsibility for noothing he did. I was married for 14 years and he committed adultery the whole time. He blames me for that too.

    • @christinabaatz1204
      @christinabaatz1204 Рік тому +6

      Be happy sister ,🙂
      that you gave him up,
      that you broke up with him and ,
      that you are doing YOUR life without him .

    • @tamiaj7350
      @tamiaj7350 Рік тому +4

      @JustSimply Marie... That's my current situation!!! It's just nonstop adultery!

    • @ThePrivacyviolation
      @ThePrivacyviolation Рік тому

      Me too gurl ...hit me up! Lets chat and uplift each other

    • @deidrejordan2761
      @deidrejordan2761 Рік тому +2

      I’m glad that you are no longer in that toxic relationship.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 Рік тому +2

      Not your fault. Gaslighting and no accountability.

  • @MrSavannah2017
    @MrSavannah2017 Рік тому +26

    Whew! These brothers ain't safe to love.

  • @sammie2377
    @sammie2377 Рік тому +23

    It's really hard for people when all Blame is thrown their way, and accountability is nowhere to be found.

  • @simthembilefundiswamaguban9265
    @simthembilefundiswamaguban9265 Рік тому +22

    You've spit facts only. This is actually a confirmation of my assessment of my ex. He has so much work to do on himself. At one point I had to tell him that he crucified me everytime because he lacked accountability for his own actions. His insecurities stemmed from his childhood, past infidelity, and of course the inability to heal from his past traumas

  • @busylane
    @busylane 3 місяці тому +5

    Amazing timing of this video. Every conversation turns into a fight thanks to him because he cannot take accountability for himself. He turns things, always, around back to me. It makes me crazy.
    Thank you, Derrick.

  • @joyoussouls
    @joyoussouls Рік тому +13

    I actually appreciate you, because you seem to be very positive, and you’re not attacking women for being who they are and you’re being honest about how men truly are

  • @cookiesmom584
    @cookiesmom584 Рік тому +7

    Damn ! You’ve got some incredible insight I’ve never heard before. This explains my last 7 year Situationship.

    • @JustMe-wu9tj
      @JustMe-wu9tj Рік тому +1

      Situationship! Love that, gonna use it now.

  • @tinalang1320
    @tinalang1320 Рік тому +18

    I was married for 21 years, then we got divorce. Don’t want to take accountability for his actions. Adultery and few more things

  • @simpsonmarie4
    @simpsonmarie4 Рік тому +17

    You spoke facts. This video described my ex hubs, to the T.

  • @malloryfithen1900
    @malloryfithen1900 Рік тому +23

    I just want through this he left me just a couple day ago now he's telling people I did him wrong its crazy

    • @missantonia14goldsby
      @missantonia14goldsby Рік тому +2

      Mines attacked me and wanted me to cut all my friends off woman nd men because he felt he only mattered then told his family I was crazy and did a bunch of things to him then turned them against me too I wasn’t even aware

  • @d6l.w8ds
    @d6l.w8ds Рік тому +14

    PLEASEEEEEEE POST MORE MEN AND THEIR CHILDHOOD MENTAL VIDEOS LIKE THIS PLEASEEEE AND HOW THEY ACT IS A PRESENTATION OF THEMSELVES A WHOLEEE SEPARATE WORLD FROM THEIR S.O
    THIS WAS BEYOND BEAUTIFULLY PUT. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! 👏

  • @sxyrachelle
    @sxyrachelle Рік тому +28

    FACTS AGAIN!!! WHEN I NEED TO HAVE REASSURANCE OF WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH AND THE PERSON I USED TO BE WITH... BOOM, A VIDEO POPS UP😊 THANKS AGAIN!!

    • @Yoqyy
      @Yoqyy Рік тому +1

      God works in mysteries way beautiful 💜

    • @lanapalij4014
      @lanapalij4014 Рік тому

      @@Yoqyyyes!
      Always!😉

  • @reneedregmans556
    @reneedregmans556 8 місяців тому +5

    💯 Men like this are so obvious they tell on themselves every time 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @kickstartwithkate4510
    @kickstartwithkate4510 4 місяці тому +2

    Jaxn- thanks for the video because your last point about emotional state and up bringing is soooo on point …. Really makes me think and feel better knowing I am not the only one that thinks that. Good men are hard to come by ladies- I’m living the being blamed and criticized for everything and if you are too - reevaluate it all and see it’s not you - it’s so them and then you’ll know how to handle it and what to do. Jaxn you are so on point.

  • @blondeevan4731
    @blondeevan4731 6 місяців тому +4

    Asking him just that one question opens up the probability of an argumen

  • @colorfreakjina
    @colorfreakjina Рік тому +18

    What a sick behavior to humble/put in place/even the score a woman who he knows has value and goodness and high level traits. Instead of trying to grow and match her level he wants her to go down so he feels good about himself. So sick.

    • @marsdreamproductions
      @marsdreamproductions 9 місяців тому +2

      Everyy try thing he said i feel like i just went through. It had me in tears. I hope to never go through that again.

    • @impossiblegems
      @impossiblegems 6 місяців тому

      Always my experience

  • @connieeller46
    @connieeller46 Рік тому +5

    Facts, you have described half the men out here. With that being said, there are a handful of good ones out here too.

  • @dwilliams5700
    @dwilliams5700 Рік тому +1

    You couldn't be more on point Derrick !!! 🎯🎯🎯

  • @tubegen11
    @tubegen11 Рік тому +8

    Thank you Derrick for this truth …Thank God for you. You are inspiring generations of women and giving them the courage for change for the better.

  • @sushmalewis5425
    @sushmalewis5425 Рік тому +1

    The last point struck home thank you Derrick for clearing up everything that I have been enduring

  • @thisloop
    @thisloop Рік тому +6

    true... i agree! blame the woman & make that all her faults where actually its his + accuse her for things that she aint do

  • @yd4460
    @yd4460 Рік тому +7

    I All love and respect for the respect you give to men and women in teaching respect for each other.💯💞 all love and respect for you and your family.💯💞

  • @patriciaburtescu
    @patriciaburtescu Рік тому +10

    Beyonce says to play the cards we’ve been dealt, ehich means listen to his blame game, see his cards, smile&wave and leave without a shdow of a doubt.

    • @marsdreamproductions
      @marsdreamproductions 9 місяців тому +1

      Facts. when i heard this song i was like wow she is right

    • @misskiana81
      @misskiana81 7 місяців тому

      What song is this?

  • @elizabethvice488
    @elizabethvice488 4 місяці тому

    D, I'm so glad to listen to this video again! Three times in a row, very valid perspective! There are men out here who are a combination of all these traits, and I know: I had him. Thank you very much D!!! You're the Internet Bro we all need!!!

  • @aliceA111
    @aliceA111 День тому

    Thank you so so freaking much for this video ✨🙏

  • @lanapalij4014
    @lanapalij4014 Рік тому +2

    Damn!!! You got that right! He blames ME, says “I’m seeing someone else”, cuz he can’t reach me on Friday night!
    Told him, I’m not, and, that’s what people are doing to ME! ( and accuses me, hah!)

  • @PaulaLowery-r8d
    @PaulaLowery-r8d Рік тому +7

    I can’t go for a long drive just to think without a thousand questions n accusations

  • @mea24palustre3
    @mea24palustre3 Рік тому +1

    It's because it's good doesn't mean it's right, on point!

  • @leonamendoza2199
    @leonamendoza2199 Рік тому +2

    GOODNESS YES! EVERY SINGLE WORD!!

  • @Bob_Cats
    @Bob_Cats 6 місяців тому

    Oh wow, this makes so much sense. I see now. Thank you for sharing!!

  • @belinda8610
    @belinda8610 9 місяців тому +5

    My husband blames me for every single damn thing. When I say everything I MEAN EVERYTHING!! He even tell his family friends and anyone I'm the blame for his Fu*ked up life!!!

  • @hussalena
    @hussalena Рік тому

    I love that u still do these videos ❤

  • @adriennechamberlain4868
    @adriennechamberlain4868 Рік тому

    OMG YOU MAKE TOTAL SENSE!!!

  • @khanyisilewotshela1639
    @khanyisilewotshela1639 Рік тому +1

    Make perfect sense with everything you've said.

  • @OnlyKingdomandCovenant
    @OnlyKingdomandCovenant 3 місяці тому

    U making ALL KINDS of sense!

  • @Jackie-O.Louisiana
    @Jackie-O.Louisiana Рік тому +3

    WOW! This is my life right now!

  • @BR9900-w5l
    @BR9900-w5l Рік тому +1

    Love it..respect from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤️

  • @evelisisdavis7242
    @evelisisdavis7242 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for sharing!!!

  • @kendrariedelrealestateprof2932

    Wow...😢 I needed this. Thanks 🎉

  • @esbethstuurman5661
    @esbethstuurman5661 Рік тому +9

    🙏Hi Derrick Jaxm THANK you for your reading it resonates 100% to me truly that's my Husband whether l must say it my self lm a very good hearted person for my family grandchildren and other people but he will never change me God is good to me lm not perfect but I tired to move on spirituality 🙏🙏THANK you for bringing peace to my Soul 🙏🙏🙏l love you Lord 🙏♥️♥️♥️

    • @esbethstuurman5661
      @esbethstuurman5661 Рік тому +1

      🙏🙏 Amen Hi Derrick l THANK you for bringing more clarity to my mind and Soul🙏🙏 but most of all l THANK God for putting the right poeple on my Path 🙏🙏l can see there is light at the end of the tunnel Amen 🙏🙏be bless ♥️♥️♥️

  • @paulawilliams2664
    @paulawilliams2664 Рік тому

    On point! Thank you 🙌🏼

  • @ldbobay
    @ldbobay Рік тому

    You are making perfect sense

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Рік тому +6

    He projects on you to create an alibi for his future wrongs, a game strategy ~ a great defense is a good offense !! Textbook Player Game

  • @Judybell1959
    @Judybell1959 Рік тому +2

    Yes you making sense

  • @Steph_1215
    @Steph_1215 9 місяців тому

    Oh my God, amazing explanation!

  • @virginiavaldes4601
    @virginiavaldes4601 Рік тому +1

    everything you said hes doing each and every one of those to me

  • @AmieLewis-t5q
    @AmieLewis-t5q 9 місяців тому

    You are speaking to me my Bro

  • @BulelwaJack-xo3fd
    @BulelwaJack-xo3fd 9 місяців тому

    Thanx for the facts big brother 😊❤

  • @tina12rusco.
    @tina12rusco. Рік тому +2

    That is so true

  • @MrAnna2626
    @MrAnna2626 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for this video 🙏

  • @miayacarter9059
    @miayacarter9059 Рік тому

    True facts 💯

  • @Cherryblossom-fg1pl
    @Cherryblossom-fg1pl 6 місяців тому

    I you are RIGHT!

  • @kurosawagin
    @kurosawagin Рік тому +1

    Love u derrick you keep up the good work 🙏

  • @sevrinedelannay9381
    @sevrinedelannay9381 Рік тому

    your reading resonates with me. Ex of mine come from a critical entourage and did it with me also so i decide to remove myself

  • @CarolynVan
    @CarolynVan Рік тому +1

    An ex for a reason. I was spared and am so grateful for it ♥️.

  • @jennifernunez220
    @jennifernunez220 Рік тому

    Excellent points

  • @StephaniEtienette
    @StephaniEtienette Рік тому

    God bless you Derrick ☝ I mean he already obviously did with the life experiences that led you to sharing this wisdom, immense gratitude for that Sir, thank you🙏❤ So I guess we're all blessed after all, if we just choose to see all the blessings👁 Seeing or not seeing truly is a matter of free will and choice, cowardice or strenght, beauty or beast 🧚‍♀👹

  • @tyronejones8434
    @tyronejones8434 5 місяців тому

    These conversations just don’t hold the same weight

  • @Keana43
    @Keana43 Рік тому +2

    Been through this

  • @Qween_Effie
    @Qween_Effie 9 місяців тому

    Thank you for this video

  • @princessjulia5646
    @princessjulia5646 Рік тому

    Your making good sense

  • @thelmabocales256
    @thelmabocales256 9 днів тому

    This is what my partner did to me, accusing me blaming me for everything, and he broke up with me coz of his accusations, it's hurt but I have let him go

  • @danielledickerson9732
    @danielledickerson9732 Рік тому

    This was a great video

  • @Steph_1215
    @Steph_1215 9 місяців тому +1

    That is the language that he is speaking to himself!

  • @survivor4776
    @survivor4776 Рік тому +1

    Facts 🤴🏽

  • @JacquelineOuma
    @JacquelineOuma Рік тому

    Thnx derrick

  • @nadiaconseillant8616
    @nadiaconseillant8616 4 місяці тому +1

    I want peace and to sit on the beach with my love next to me. Nice to have peace. Too much drama for these relationships

  • @shelleykennedy876
    @shelleykennedy876 Рік тому +1

    He goes back and forth.

  • @TyroneEntertainingJoseph
    @TyroneEntertainingJoseph Рік тому

    Talk the talk bro

  • @sandraestraume7278
    @sandraestraume7278 Рік тому +6

    Lots of blamers accuse me

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 Рік тому

      B4 you accuse me, take a look at yourself ~ Eric Clapton song lyric

  • @jejebarack7160
    @jejebarack7160 Рік тому

    My husband divorcing me yesterday just because he said my attitude really bad when we fight. It doesnt make sense just because lil thing he left me. He blamed me I'm a bad person. Like I deserve this

  • @sevrinedelannay9381
    @sevrinedelannay9381 Рік тому

    its speaks to me ,

  • @jewelrich27
    @jewelrich27 Рік тому +2

    Ain’t nobody listening to U. U just HECKA FINE. We all know better ❤

  • @MiltaEstien
    @MiltaEstien Рік тому

    Yes

  • @jenniwats2806
    @jenniwats2806 Рік тому +1

    I worry about what he do but more importantly what he don't do and don't correct

  • @Tina12121
    @Tina12121 Рік тому +1

    Ok.. so when we split and 1 year later he blames me for his relationship not working . Ive been no where near or spoke to him for all this time .. he wasnt nice 😔. Hey! He did me wrong thats why i ended it. I just don't get it

  • @theresapollice6857
    @theresapollice6857 7 місяців тому

    Hit home!

  • @kaitlynconlan561
    @kaitlynconlan561 Рік тому

    Yo facts

  • @charleanaroberts5477
    @charleanaroberts5477 Рік тому

    Thanks for clarifying lot of what I went through for 23 yrs. Is this a Reprobate person? I divorced him on his Birthday! He did t bother to show up. Thank you.

  • @AmieLewis-t5q
    @AmieLewis-t5q 9 місяців тому

    That's what I had in a marriage and He Just left me and gone

  • @marthaarias233
    @marthaarias233 4 місяці тому

    He keeps calling me toxic and annoying af!

  • @latteakelly2902
    @latteakelly2902 Місяць тому

    I think my bf mom has a part of how he acts cuz he more emotional than me.

  • @janehotvedt3949
    @janehotvedt3949 Рік тому

    Felt.

  • @valeriecarolus-figini5045
    @valeriecarolus-figini5045 Рік тому

    Oh yes

  • @Sophia_Milan
    @Sophia_Milan 7 днів тому

    My father

  • @PaulaLowery-r8d
    @PaulaLowery-r8d Рік тому +1

    All his exs were crazy red flag

  • @alicevollman5769
    @alicevollman5769 Рік тому

    💯

  • @isobelle.London
    @isobelle.London Рік тому +3

    That’s a cluster b personality.

  • @PaulaLowery-r8d
    @PaulaLowery-r8d Рік тому

    No but we’ve been together since we were kids

  • @terrihunt522
    @terrihunt522 2 місяці тому

    I’ve understand that your husband will put everything on u to hide what’s going on in them
    Watch the whole video, very good

  • @jd6331
    @jd6331 Рік тому +1

    9:34 and 11:08

  • @brendamartin763
    @brendamartin763 6 місяців тому

    Good is not right.

  • @taylormeisenburg6383
    @taylormeisenburg6383 Рік тому

  • @lefoxtube
    @lefoxtube 7 місяців тому

    They do not exist.

  • @sandraestraume7278
    @sandraestraume7278 Рік тому

    Next would be his placement

  • @elizabethlyon2950
    @elizabethlyon2950 Рік тому

    I have frozen ground beef.

  • @ITSRAYANNNN
    @ITSRAYANNNN 6 місяців тому

    Idk , I don't think his mom taught him better than than that.