👊🏿simple as that. Now, she may initially flinch and pushback, give her time to understand. (a lot of women operate with absolutely no resistance to dopamine overload)
Exactly its that simple. If you dont want her going on girls night outs, having guy friends, texting other guys etc, you dont make her stop, you tell her why you dont want these things and if she does not want to stop then tell her she can find another partner who can be comfortable with that.
Exactly! The frame you wanna hold is that of “hey, these are my boundaries & standards. You’re gonna do what you do because you have your own free will. Would love to see how this goes, but I like what I like & maybe there’s misalignment goin on rn.” It’s only controlling once a relationship is actually established & there’s commitment involved. Now, it’s a surprise. Boundaries & preferences should be stated clearly before the relationship, during initial dating/rapport building. If you wait until yall are committed to enforce boundaries, you lose frame because she’ll know you just put up with this for X amount of time before the two of you started a relationship. She’ll despise you. She will test you way more now. (Women always test, but they do simmer down once you give her good dick & hold frame). Tbh, I wouldn’t blame her. Not enforcing boundaries until you have her in a relationship just makes you a nice guy who has the logic of “well we’re together now so NOW I can tell her what i REALLY feel”. Be a man. Make your boundaries & preferences clear BEFORE starting a relationship, & be willing to walk away.
Girl here, I'm God fearing, I don't drink, smoke, party, no social media, no guy friends or degenerate friends in my circle.. Its so beautiful to see men wanting a woman similar to what hamza described yet sad that we all pick and choose the wrong kinda person.. Its never controlling if the other person knows what you value and they respect it. If they don't, pls leave they are not for you. There's a beautiful woman or a man waiting for you. Love shouldn't make you feel anxious, draining or in pain. Love should make you feel at peace, safe, nurturing, healing.. Anything less or painful is just a one sided love and commitment. All that love you give but can't peacefully close ur eyes and go to sleep at night? Nah bro u're good.. LEAVE that person for good. Pray, ask God He'll give you a beautiful man or a woman 🤍
After over 10 years on self-improvement, the number one thing I’ve come to understand is that I am most disciplined, strong, fulfilled, loving, and present, when everything I do is an expression of a healthy self worth. I have nothing to prove, not even to myself. I realise that I am worthy of my own honour and respect, and that of others. If I’m not treating myself in the best way to honour the highest side of myself, or I’m allowing others to treat me badly, then something is off. I honour the passions and purposes I feel called toward by diligently working toward them. I work on myself everyday and reap the rewards, not because I need to so I can feel good about myself, but because guess what, I’m worth it. I deserve to be happy, healthy and prosperous, so do you.
The Bible says "Husbands, love your wives. And you wives, submit tobyour husbands" If you show love, appreciation and praise to your girl, she will naturally be willing to do whatever you say, she will submit to you, naturally. She doesn't decide to do this, it just happens as a consequence of your love to her.
I belive the most important thing is to be a good role model If I was a girl and I saw my man has deleted all his social media I would be wanting to do the same thing I hope nobody expects his girl to do something he isnt
Yeah man I agree with this. Part of what makes healthy relationships beautiful is looking up to each other. If you truly love each other, you'll take your partners advice seriously and act on it, that's my opinion
Is very interesting to me that he uses the term "Jessica" because when I was in 7th grade my english teacher made up a story with my name and a women named Jessica, lol.
Do you think all women are stupid? Many people know how to choose their own friends. Instead of trying to change someone just… be picky with who you date instead of going purely off looks and trying to mold the first hot girl you see into who you want her to be, take the time to find someone you’re attracted to who already shares your values and is actually smart.
Yo hamza I love ur vids, u literaly changed my life a few months ago, now my life is back to how I was before but watching ur vids again is helping me a ton bro! Keep it up man!
Hey everyone, I could really use some advice. I'm a med student and I'm focused on self-improvement in all aspects of my life-emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I'm content with where I am and have a supportive group of female friends. I'm curious about your thoughts on women pursuing careers in medicine like me. Personally, I'm sure if I’m not going to work full-time because I want to prioritize my future children or I’ll possibly explore online consultation/research work. I really have so much love to give this world and feel as that helping them with their illnesses will fulfill my purpose. However, I'm conflicted because I fear disappointing my mother, who expects me to work excessively in the future. Part of me is okay with not working at the hospital and rather find other ways to ensure that I will have so much time for my future husband/partner and children, but I also worry about financial abuse. I don’t see myself ever emasculating a future partner. Because I feel like I know how to switch my masculine side (for studying and setting goals) and my feminine (when I’m with family and friends). Any advice?
Hamzas advice on women needing to stay at home is outdated, the world literally doesn’t work that way for 90% of people, and he’ll say ‘we are not the 90%’ but we know there are many watching this who don’t want to start a business or don’t want a housewife. If women didn’t join medicine, the UK would literally crumble due to the NHS being like 60% women
@@danka1167 Thank you for your take and comment, you’re right. It’s been a month since I posted my comment and I've reflected a lot. I’ve narrowed it down: I'll definitely continue pursuing my career because I do find fulfillment at the moment. As life goes on, I’ll continue to monitor myself and my goals and adjust accordingly. At the end of the day, it’s going to come down to balance. So, at the moment, there’s no pressure, and I’ll make sure to have a partner who will lead and support me in decision-making, and we’ll help each other in life. And I’m not going to blindly follow advice from some of these UA-camrs. We all have different life experiences, and that’s the beauty of life.
@@danka1167 Thank you for your comment, you’re right. It’s been a month since I posted that comment and I've reflected a lot. I’ve narrowed it down: I'll definitely continue pursuing my career because I do find fulfillment at the moment. As life goes on, I’ll continue to monitor myself and my goals and adjust accordingly. At the end of the day, it’s going to come down to balance. So, at the moment, there’s no pressure, and I’ll make sure to have a partner who will lead and support me in decision-making, and we’ll help each other in life. And I’m not going to blindly follow advice from some of these UA-camrs. We all have different life experiences, and that’s the beauty of life.
loved this video hamza, i had the worse gut feeling when u were talking about the women work cheating part of the video, any thoughts about about that?
I look at it this way. It is not controlling if you properly communicate these boundaries and rules with her and she is willing to go along with them. If she is very much ok with following along these boundaries, then it isn’t “controlling”, it’s a bare minimum to guarantee a healthy long lasting relationship. But if she isn’t ok with these and you’re just forcing her to follow along and maybe even threatening her with something to follow along these boundaries, that is controlling because she is being coerced into these boundaries. A healthy relationship is a relationship of trust and cooperation. She should be willing to follow along these boundaries for the sake of the relationship and so should you so therefore it’s not controlling, it’s actually healthy and should be a bare minimum. But the line is crossed when it’s clear she is not willing to follow along and that’s when it gets to high tensions and you’d be seen as controlling.
Those are quite the opposite of boundaries, bredda😂 Also, just bcuz a woman might think she agrees to such psychotic "rules", there is such a thing called Stockholm syndrome, where the victim/hostage bonds with their abuser/captor.
Whenever I see a girl problem, the answer is in The Way of The Superior Man - Directly or indirectly. I've been covering this book on my channel and am reading it for the 7th or 8th time. Every time I read it I am amazed to see how relevant the book is
A few weeks ago my girl said she’s gonna hang out with her classmate from college and her friends however she didn’t mention they were 2 guys and was hanging out with them mad late I called to say goodnight to her and she didn’t want to be “rude” to these random ass guys she just met instead of taking a few seconds to say goodnight to me mind you she kept this from me until I asked what gender her classmates friends were she wants to hang out with them again when I already said I didn’t like that and I would never do that to her mind you if I did I know she wouldn’t be okay with it we’ve been in a relationship for 6 months now and she doesn’t come off as a cheater at all and besides with our relationship is very healthy but when she asked me if she told me she wanted to hang out with them again I went off on her and confronted her on everything she was at work so she couldn’t talk long I feel like I’m being played but I don’t think she’s cheating however I think she fails to realize how inappropriate and deceitful it is do this I’m gonna tell her if she wants to hang out with other guys then she can but I want nothing to do with her I’m so ready to break up with her I won’t stand for it
Man it’s hard af I’ve been in a relationship for nearly a year and have been deciding whether or not to stay and after u watch this vid I think it will become clear to u. I know it is to me now but I have to man up and face reality
1. Learn to use punctuation, don't just write 500 words one after the other, it has no coherence🙄 2. Why do you need to call her to say good night? Texting is a thing, you ain't gonna die if you don't say good night one time, chill. 3. Have you thought that maybe she didn't tell you the gender of her friends BECAUSE she knew you'd react like an unhinged ape? 4. Leave her. You'd be doing her a favor, cuz no matter how bad she is, she still doesn't deserve to be pestered by a paranoid psycho like you😖
dawg imma be real witchu….if she’s hanging out late with 2 other dudes and she says it’s for “class” im sorry man….it wasn’t for class just dump her ass, she doesn’t have any morals or values, if she did, she wouldn’t be doing that but hey if u don’t end it here, it’s up to you, you’re gonna find out the hard way
I am sick of typing my stories to people but no one help I am 15 yrs old from india My father is a drinking bastard and fights with my mom He even believes in black magic and goes there , disrespecting our words His family is the main cause who brainwashed him because they need money from him . He left us 5 to 6 yrs back I am now 10th grade and my exams are near ( in 1 month ) I am learning Copywriting too I am so stressed now Family problems, studies, work I can't afford to join your paid membership too ( which i like to join ) Anyone here to give me advice? My situation and mental health getting worse I am trying to adopt some stoic principles
Thank you Hamza for giving out good advice but i have to say i couldnt stay consistent at all on self improvement and everything was bad until i accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour. He died for all our sins and He can save everyone just how He saved me. My life is way better now and doing the good habits is way easier + im sure if i died right now i would be going to heaven. Stay strong brothers ❤️💪🏼💯
I’ve got to say, I’ve lost some respect for hamza because of the “Subscribe because then there will be more people that you meat on self improvement.” He’s just saying subscribe so that you have a 0.00001% better chance of not being lonely!
Absolutely not. I wish I saw this video earlier. I choose to stick with a girl even tho I had better options. I helped her become a a better human. But she left me at a low point and also got mad at me once for how I tried to make her a better person. The same girl who said "I would be depressed if I didn't meet you" didn't give a fvck abt me when I was in a really bad place in my life
You should never control a women. Explain your values and beliefs to her, and if she does not agree, you must be willing to walk away.
👊🏿simple as that. Now, she may initially flinch and pushback, give her time to understand. (a lot of women operate with absolutely no resistance to dopamine overload)
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Exactly its that simple. If you dont want her going on girls night outs, having guy friends, texting other guys etc, you dont make her stop, you tell her why you dont want these things and if she does not want to stop then tell her she can find another partner who can be comfortable with that.
Valid asf
Exactly!
The frame you wanna hold is that of “hey, these are my boundaries & standards. You’re gonna do what you do because you have your own free will. Would love to see how this goes, but I like what I like & maybe there’s misalignment goin on rn.”
It’s only controlling once a relationship is actually established & there’s commitment involved. Now, it’s a surprise. Boundaries & preferences should be stated clearly before the relationship, during initial dating/rapport building.
If you wait until yall are committed to enforce boundaries, you lose frame because she’ll know you just put up with this for X amount of time before the two of you started a relationship. She’ll despise you. She will test you way more now. (Women always test, but they do simmer down once you give her good dick & hold frame). Tbh, I wouldn’t blame her. Not enforcing boundaries until you have her in a relationship just makes you a nice guy who has the logic of “well we’re together now so NOW I can tell her what i REALLY feel”.
Be a man. Make your boundaries & preferences clear BEFORE starting a relationship, & be willing to walk away.
"Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved" ~J Cole
Girl here,
I'm God fearing, I don't drink, smoke, party, no social media, no guy friends or degenerate friends in my circle..
Its so beautiful to see men wanting a woman similar to what hamza described yet sad that we all pick and choose the wrong kinda person.. Its never controlling if the other person knows what you value and they respect it. If they don't, pls leave they are not for you. There's a beautiful woman or a man waiting for you.
Love shouldn't make you feel anxious, draining or in pain. Love should make you feel at peace, safe, nurturing, healing.. Anything less or painful is just a one sided love and commitment. All that love you give but can't peacefully close ur eyes and go to sleep at night? Nah bro u're good.. LEAVE that person for good.
Pray, ask God
He'll give you a beautiful man or a woman 🤍
I love this, you are precious 😅
"if you feel like you're controlling in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship" -Hamza ahmed
After over 10 years on self-improvement, the number one thing I’ve come to understand is that I am most disciplined, strong, fulfilled, loving, and present, when everything I do is an expression of a healthy self worth.
I have nothing to prove, not even to myself.
I realise that I am worthy of my own honour and respect, and that of others.
If I’m not treating myself in the best way to honour the highest side of myself, or I’m allowing others to treat me badly, then something is off.
I honour the passions and purposes I feel called toward by diligently working toward them.
I work on myself everyday and reap the rewards, not because I need to so I can feel good about myself, but because guess what, I’m worth it.
I deserve to be happy, healthy and prosperous, so do you.
"You're trying to polish a turd." 12:22
Wise words. Had a good chuckle over that one.
I'm coming after you💀
The Bible says
"Husbands, love your wives. And you wives, submit tobyour husbands"
If you show love, appreciation and praise to your girl, she will naturally be willing to do whatever you say, she will submit to you, naturally.
She doesn't decide to do this, it just happens as a consequence of your love to her.
I need dopamine first thing in the morning too... Cold shower😎
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thumbnail and the title catches me off guard 😂
I belive the most important thing is to be a good role model
If I was a girl and I saw my man has deleted all his social media I would be wanting to do the same thing
I hope nobody expects his girl to do something he isnt
Yeah man I agree with this. Part of what makes healthy relationships beautiful is looking up to each other. If you truly love each other, you'll take your partners advice seriously and act on it, that's my opinion
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink
These type of videos form you are Always Helpful And Always Relatable
God Bless You for your content brother 🙏
your girl sounds like an angel g lmao you deserve her bro
23:30 I felt that part, man, I had such a bad heartbreak last year for not having high standards.
Is very interesting to me that he uses the term "Jessica" because when I was in 7th grade my english teacher made up a story with my name and a women named Jessica, lol.
Big fan of your work bro
love that, "You are trying to polish a turd".
Thank you
When you started the snapchat jokes you really got me. I am laughing my ass off its so funny, but you actually have a point tho.
Great video
Most dedicated cult members I’ve ever seen
Life changing
This is so true
bro quoted jcole
Here to boost algorithm❤️
Do you think all women are stupid? Many people know how to choose their own friends. Instead of trying to change someone just… be picky with who you date instead of going purely off looks and trying to mold the first hot girl you see into who you want her to be, take the time to find someone you’re attracted to who already shares your values and is actually smart.
Yes, that was expressed in the video. Being picky and not choosing the first woman who shows interest.
@@hamzaahmed3919 I meant for the guy with the problem, I watched the whole video.
ur tweakin 😂
Yo hamza I love ur vids, u literaly changed my life a few months ago, now my life is back to how I was before but watching ur vids again is helping me a ton bro! Keep it up man!
Just deleted snap boys💪
Nice
go a step further and delete your account or you might come back to it
@@superswordman039 I did already💪
Hey everyone, I could really use some advice. I'm a med student and I'm focused on self-improvement in all aspects of my life-emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I'm content with where I am and have a supportive group of female friends. I'm curious about your thoughts on women pursuing careers in medicine like me. Personally, I'm sure if I’m not going to work full-time because I want to prioritize my future children or I’ll possibly explore online consultation/research work. I really have so much love to give this world and feel as that helping them with their illnesses will fulfill my purpose. However, I'm conflicted because I fear disappointing my mother, who expects me to work excessively in the future. Part of me is okay with not working at the hospital and rather find other ways to ensure that I will have so much time for my future husband/partner and children, but I also worry about financial abuse. I don’t see myself ever emasculating a future partner. Because I feel like I know how to switch my masculine side (for studying and setting goals) and my feminine (when I’m with family and friends). Any advice?
Hamzas advice on women needing to stay at home is outdated, the world literally doesn’t work that way for 90% of people, and he’ll say ‘we are not the 90%’ but we know there are many watching this who don’t want to start a business or don’t want a housewife. If women didn’t join medicine, the UK would literally crumble due to the NHS being like 60% women
@@danka1167 Thank you for your take and comment, you’re right. It’s been a month since I posted my comment and I've reflected a lot. I’ve narrowed it down: I'll definitely continue pursuing my career because I do find fulfillment at the moment. As life goes on, I’ll continue to monitor myself and my goals and adjust accordingly. At the end of the day, it’s going to come down to balance. So, at the moment, there’s no pressure, and I’ll make sure to have a partner who will lead and support me in decision-making, and we’ll help each other in life. And I’m not going to blindly follow advice from some of these UA-camrs. We all have different life experiences, and that’s the beauty of life.
@@danka1167 Thank you for your comment, you’re right. It’s been a month since I posted that comment and I've reflected a lot. I’ve narrowed it down: I'll definitely continue pursuing my career because I do find fulfillment at the moment. As life goes on, I’ll continue to monitor myself and my goals and adjust accordingly. At the end of the day, it’s going to come down to balance. So, at the moment, there’s no pressure, and I’ll make sure to have a partner who will lead and support me in decision-making, and we’ll help each other in life. And I’m not going to blindly follow advice from some of these UA-camrs. We all have different life experiences, and that’s the beauty of life.
Good Video
7:13 🤣🤣
loved this video hamza, i had the worse gut feeling when u were talking about the women work cheating part of the video, any thoughts about about that?
Hey Hamza! Could you (or anyone else) perhaps give a source of that vasopressin stuff, found that fascinating, know my girl would to
I look at it this way. It is not controlling if you properly communicate these boundaries and rules with her and she is willing to go along with them. If she is very much ok with following along these boundaries, then it isn’t “controlling”, it’s a bare minimum to guarantee a healthy long lasting relationship.
But if she isn’t ok with these and you’re just forcing her to follow along and maybe even threatening her with something to follow along these boundaries, that is controlling because she is being coerced into these boundaries. A healthy relationship is a relationship of trust and cooperation. She should be willing to follow along these boundaries for the sake of the relationship and so should you so therefore it’s not controlling, it’s actually healthy and should be a bare minimum.
But the line is crossed when it’s clear she is not willing to follow along and that’s when it gets to high tensions and you’d be seen as controlling.
Those are quite the opposite of boundaries, bredda😂 Also, just bcuz a woman might think she agrees to such psychotic "rules", there is such a thing called Stockholm syndrome, where the victim/hostage bonds with their abuser/captor.
Whenever I see a girl problem, the answer is in The Way of The Superior Man - Directly or indirectly. I've been covering this book on my channel and am reading it for the 7th or 8th time. Every time I read it I am amazed to see how relevant the book is
For anyone interested, this problem is closely linked to chapter 21: Stay With Her Intensity - To a Point.
A few weeks ago my girl said she’s gonna hang out with her classmate from college and her friends however she didn’t mention they were 2 guys and was hanging out with them mad late I called to say goodnight to her and she didn’t want to be “rude” to these random ass guys she just met instead of taking a few seconds to say goodnight to me mind you she kept this from me until I asked what gender her classmates friends were she wants to hang out with them again when I already said I didn’t like that and I would never do that to her mind you if I did I know she wouldn’t be okay with it we’ve been in a relationship for 6 months now and she doesn’t come off as a cheater at all and besides with our relationship is very healthy but when she asked me if she told me she wanted to hang out with them again I went off on her and confronted her on everything she was at work so she couldn’t talk long I feel like I’m being played but I don’t think she’s cheating however I think she fails to realize how inappropriate and deceitful it is do this I’m gonna tell her if she wants to hang out with other guys then she can but I want nothing to do with her I’m so ready to break up with her I won’t stand for it
I haven’t watched hamzas video yet cuz I’m at work but I just wanted to see what other self improvement guys think of my situation
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Man it’s hard af I’ve been in a relationship for nearly a year and have been deciding whether or not to stay and after u watch this vid I think it will become clear to u. I know it is to me now but I have to man up and face reality
1. Learn to use punctuation, don't just write 500 words one after the other, it has no coherence🙄
2. Why do you need to call her to say good night? Texting is a thing, you ain't gonna die if you don't say good night one time, chill.
3. Have you thought that maybe she didn't tell you the gender of her friends BECAUSE she knew you'd react like an unhinged ape?
4. Leave her. You'd be doing her a favor, cuz no matter how bad she is, she still doesn't deserve to be pestered by a paranoid psycho like you😖
dawg imma be real witchu….if she’s hanging out late with 2 other dudes and she says it’s for “class”
im sorry man….it wasn’t for class
just dump her ass, she doesn’t have any morals or values, if she did, she wouldn’t be doing that
but hey if u don’t end it here, it’s up to you, you’re gonna find out the hard way
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I never had snapchat.
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True let go of these chick's let them be free and you focus on you because that's all you have.
Where is the super human body and brain series bro?
hamza is based fr fr
bro looks like cj
Okay
sorry if i am honest this just showes what the situation in this generation is about love and thats very depressing
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Im 47 years old, am i too old to watch this channel?
absolutely not! im a girl and i’m here too 😭
never too late to seek knowledge
I am sick of typing my stories to people but no one help
I am 15 yrs old from india
My father is a drinking bastard and fights with my mom
He even believes in black magic and goes there , disrespecting our words
His family is the main cause who brainwashed him because they need money from him . He left us 5 to 6 yrs back
I am now 10th grade and my exams are near ( in 1 month )
I am learning Copywriting too
I am so stressed now
Family problems, studies, work
I can't afford to join your paid membership too ( which i like to join )
Anyone here to give me advice?
My situation and mental health getting worse
I am trying to adopt some stoic principles
Use the pain as motivation and energy brother.
Project it towards your copywriting/work. Get guidance. Get some capital. Start a business. Work hard.
Try to talk with hamza somehow, don't give up, or just what you have to do.
Oh sad to hear that! Where do you live (which city)? I'm from India too.
Thx for ur advices brothers...and btw in india , I am from Chennai
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Thank you Hamza for giving out good advice but i have to say i couldnt stay consistent at all on self improvement and everything was bad until i accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour. He died for all our sins and He can save everyone just how He saved me. My life is way better now and doing the good habits is way easier + im sure if i died right now i would be going to heaven.
Stay strong brothers ❤️💪🏼💯
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I’ve got to say, I’ve lost some respect for hamza because of the “Subscribe because then there will be more people that you meat on self improvement.” He’s just saying subscribe so that you have a 0.00001% better chance of not being lonely!
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used to like hamza. now i realise how toxic his content is
This was kind of an unnececary one wasnt it
purely tryna get people to subscribe and sign up to his farcical adonis gang haha
Absolutely not. I wish I saw this video earlier. I choose to stick with a girl even tho I had better options. I helped her become a a better human. But she left me at a low point and also got mad at me once for how I tried to make her a better person. The same girl who said "I would be depressed if I didn't meet you" didn't give a fvck abt me when I was in a really bad place in my life
If this video helps you in your life. Why don't you like😭 it has 2483 views and only 364 of you liked it
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