When I heard Hamza's story about the girl over-sharing about her past partners, I remembered something similar happened to me. I had an ex boyfriend who I liked a LOT, but he wouldn't shut the hell up about how small my chest was, and how he loved girls with big chests. Is that not one of the most idiotic things you can say to someone you're supposed to like back? I always took great care to show my appreciation for this man and not make him insecure by mentioning past relationships, but he wouldn't stop saying these things even after I got upset and asked him to stop. Some people are utterly careless when it comes to respecting their partner.
Mans just scared of opening the pandora box, thinking that if he pretends that it doesn't exist, it doesn't. But it does and thus it's better to go somewhere else and clean instead of hiding.
Yeah man because it's always easier to leave then to deal with yourself. I understand you, but life is about looking these problems into the eyes. That's the only way to grow, you will come in other part of your life again to this point and you will need to deal with the same problems. There is almost no virgin on the problem or do you want a 3/10 girl? Probably not or ? So find your way to live with new world.
@@Igor-2323It's crazy how you're a watcher of this channel which means you likely want to be in the top 0.01% of men, yet you think it's weird that we want a woman who's attractive and a virgin which is 0.01% of women. If you wanna settle for less then go for it, but don't shame men who have high expectations for their life.
I felt the same way too. I genuinely couldn't sleep at night thinking about it, and it led to my eventual downfall. Also, Hamza's point at 5:40 was so relatable to me. I was given every detail I never asked for and I felt an insane amount of depression. In the end, I was painted out to be sexist. Glad I'm out of it now.
@@jingleballs9935I mean the bell curve of sexual experience is higher on average for women today so it already feels near impossible to believe she hasn't had sex with a few guys that blew her mind body and soul better than the guy she'll end up with. Virginity doesn't really exist imo 🤷.
Somehow the videos remain relevant. I found what you spoke about today so relatable. Even after breaking up, my mind tortured me with these thoughts for over a year.
THANK. YOU! This makes me feel wayyy less alone. I just traveled back home from Canada after breaking a relationship that was toxic. She was my everything, but EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I would overthink and overanalyse little comments and things that I would accidently swipe through on her phone of past lovers and it would haunt me. I felt so mallicious in my thoughts that I felt like I was going insane. It's so refreshing to hear Hamza speak so confidently about what a woman could do instead of blatantly stabbing at her guy with little comments about her past sexual experiences.
I dated a girl for 14 months, but she had problems with substance abuse. Specifically alcohol. She dropped out of school when I was still dating her. & because of that I started to push her into getting her GED or going to trade school, but she had no interested in moving like that & she chose to work at a burger king her aunt was a manger in. Me already ambigious about the relationship, one day we were just smoking outside her house & she just casually burted out she slept with her older sisters BOYFRIEND, mind you we were both 17 at the time, & he was at least 21 (I think he was 23), because he used to buy me and her alcohol. Absolutely disgusted. I couldn't go out dating for a long time.
Bro, you didn't sound much better, you were smoking and drinking and you're upset that your girl did the same thing. You're supposed to help lead her into good habits yet you're smoking with her? You can't get upset that she's indulged in these things if you're also indulging in these bad habits
Yeah that's generally horrible advice, it's basically advising you to just turn your eyes and ignore it even if you have suspicions and be left in the dark for good. Stupid.
#1 no one can change the past. #2 if the past has certain things, it's better to know them and not build the future with her. Kissing is not such a thing. #3 I'm with an amazing woman, who had an unfortunate past. I love honesty, so we talked briefly about it, it doesn't feel good, but I understand her and I see her honest relation to her own past. It's up to me to accept it and work it over, and I'm grateful for the fact that she didn't tell more details and doesn't even want to.
It is not up to you to accept them! It is up to you to be a man, follow your instincts and leave any women with a past if you have any self-respect. Women play on men's empathy to get what they want. Their past shows their true character and morals.
@@edheldude Someone's past is an indication to their character and morals, but it does not shows what the current state of their soul is. People can change. How long ago her past was, and how bad it was, are both contributors to how "risky" it is to be with her, but you must also simply spend a lot of time talking with her, and learning what kind of person she is NOW. There are psychopaths out there who have killed, or attempted to kill, and have turned to God and changed their ways. If men like that can be forgiven, and can change, then women who have disgraced themselves can change as well. And it is up to men to acknowledge the issues with their potential wives calmly, and non-emotionally, to determine whether she will be a good wife NOW. Women are not animals, nor are they children. Their character is not set in stone, they have agency just as men do, and can take responsibility for their actions, and change.
@@Digganob590 The thing is they could have changed and could've not. And we never ever can know that in the absolute sense. Almost all the time when it is about a woman we fell in love with, our decisions or choices are clouded by our emotion. This is the harsh reality. Past affects a person in a very major way. One can take the risk and stay with her or can find peace within himself leaving her. It's a choice.
I actually disagree with the final conclusion in this video which is ''I can't imagine anyone getting over it once they hear about it.''. Both me and my best friend of 10 years, are now in relationships with women who have done some mistakes in their past which, unless clarified, would've massively dropped their quality in our eyes. They're both amazing women. Wife material, submissive, feminine, emotional, chaotic (in a good way), caring, kind, love kids, would give their lives for us in a split second (just like we would for them), and 24/7 cheerleaders for both of us in terms of every single goal we set out to achieve. Me and him got to discuss about this and figured out that yeah, it's incredibly difficult to get over it, but nowhere near impossible. We both love our women for what they currently are and as much as it was twisting our stomachs when we were thinking about it, my arrogance got the best of me and I came to a mentality which snapped us out of this obsession over their past. I know she's an amazing woman. I know she's making my life a million times better. I know that the thought of breaking up with her and eventually letting another man have her, is making me rage internally and my chest sink. And now imagine letting another man from her past, who she doesn't even think about for a split second because she's too busy being obsessed with me, influence my relationship with her till the point where I'm letting her go. How pathetic is that? I am literally allowing a man who doesn't even know I exist, ruin my relationship with this 1 in 1000.000.000 girl, by letting my thoughts of him affect our relationship until the worst outcome possible. A man who doesn't even know I exist. Again, how pathetic is that? Take it even a step further. Let's imagine he peeks inside of your brain and sees how insecure you get, how much you overthink, how much power he has over you and your relationship and how much he can influence it simply by *existing*. How would that make you feel? I cannot allow myself to get to a point where I let one of the most important aspects of my life, my relationship with the woman of my dreams, get absolutely ruined by a man who I've allowed to have control over my thoughts and my relationship till the point where it's getting pushed off a cliff. That is an insult to myself as a man, it is an insult to my masculinity, it is an insult to my honor, it is an insult to my pride, it is an insult to my identity and it is an insult to the man I one day dream to become. With this, I got to a point where I genuinely have to make a conscious effort to think about this subject and even if I do, I always get to the same conclusion in a matter of seconds. I know it would be absolutely impossible for me to ever notice ''the man who has done this thing to my woman'' . Not because there's a 0% chance I will ever run into him, but because there is a 0% chance that even if I do, I will ever notice him or allow him to get any attention from me or my woman. He is nothing, because I don't allow him or any other man, this degree of control over my mind or any other important aspect of my life. I hope this helps.
If her body covnt ain't ZERO, don't be her HERO. There's a reason virginlty is the most valuable asset a woman can bring to a marriage. Zero baggage is what every man wants in a woman. Sadly in today's world finding something like that is like finding a needle in a haystack.
@@bockman55 are you are also a virgin? Do you expect to magically meet another virgin and both of you hit it off perfectly and nothing ever goes wrong for the rest of your lives? I can only assume that you are extremely young to be this deluded, it takes time and and effort to build a strong relationship, and that includes making fuckups before you build the right relationship.
Gotta say, her having only kissed other guys, ASSUMING SHE'S BEING HONEST (we don't know how honest she's being, we don't have context), is a great sign, and nothing to really worry about, considering the state of our culture right now. We no longer live in medieval times, so smooches between lovers is pretty much as chaste as it gets within dating. The fact she did actually kiss other guys, but didn't go any further, is a great thing. It is encouraging. Now, if she LIED about only kissing other guys, and say, kissed them somewhere else than the lips, that's where you get into dishonesty, and that's a massive red flag. If a girl cannot be honest about the "level" of sexual experience she has had, then you cannot rely on her. She has to mature more before she's ready for a committed relationship. Anyways, if you're only worried about her having kissed other guys, that's pretty much all on you bro. That's not even worse than a woman having masturbated to fantasies, which almost all women and men have done these days, most likely more (pornography). Kissing is the most innocent possible way to discover if you're physically compatible, and is nothing to worry about morally, so ill feelings towards the thought must be eliminated, and made peace with. She kept it to kissing FOR YOU. Given, if she's trashing your kissing skills because she's had better kissers, similar to what Hamza was saying here, she's got to shut the fuck up. Red flag. Best case scenario, she's really bad at dirty talking.
this shit happened in my last relationship, all of this behaviors, i couldn't move on when we we're together i didn't know people could relate to that, i was so anxious that i couldn't do shit in my day, and till to this day, i have some feelings for her and this things still hurt me a little when i think
I totally get that uneasy feeling everytime an intrusive thought pops into your mind thinking about your partners past, feels like a curse that perpetually haunts you. Before you take a call on ending things, I would recommend reading this book called Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy by Zachary Stockhill, if you feel everything else in the relationship is perfect except for her past. Hope this helps
damn bro I known this girl for three years and she decided to randomly break up with me we are both virgins then when she broke up with me i found out through her sister these past 2 years she used to randomly go on twitch and talk to some next people sexually i even caught her just fuckin talking to some next dudes online sexually and even the day she broke up with me i found out 3 days earlier she was talking to another dude not on her self improvement bullshit like she said she was gonna do well never trust online girls they r hoes fuckin wh-res man it still breaks my heart this shit happened yesterday i found all it out.
The Sexual Revolution and it's consequences... After watching the video, the guy's situation isn't even bad at all, but far more guys will end up in a similar situation but with much worse circumstances...
14:15 this actually happened to me when I was meditating last year in January, but after that I wasn't consistent and lost this 'super power'. I'm still trying to get it back but it's not happening.
Aight now I’ll js share my thought process since I’m currently in a long term relationship. So me and my girl are both 18, and when we met, we ultimately both told eachother we weren’t virgins, I only had sex once, I regretted it, as I was 12 and didn’t know any better, but now I’ve realized sex is a precious thing, that should be preserved for the person who inspires you to wanna keep trying your best, the person who’ll always want the best for you and will stay by your side regardless of how fucked up your life could get, and the person who’ll always work with you thru life together like a team. My girl’s experience happened when she was 15, and she didn’t know any better either, and she regrets it since it was a boy who didn’t really give a shit about her. Now, just last night, I was overthinking and I was thinking “what if I’m not special enough” and all the self doubt shit in my head, yknow the yiddy yadda. The sole reason I was worrying was because, for most my life, I’ve been raised to instill the ideology of how “men bleed, men don’t cry“ and, I wasn’t afraid to be alone man, like honest to god I wasn’t. I was just contemplating my life and growing up, I always visioned myself living alone, away from family, friends, and just living by myself til the day I die. I just couldn’t trust anyone, so id always be blunt, harsh and I never shown an ounce of kindness, and whenever someone got too close, I’d leave them in a heart beat. I’ve always js focused on rugby, seeing as im the captain in my rugby team and since I’m the strongest mf on the field. However, that all changed the day I met her. Honestly dude, after my experience when I was 12, I always avoided girls, all solely because I doubted no girl would truly give two shits about me considering what typa world we live in now, but when I met her, it was like the crowd disappeared and my eyes were glowing, and I js went up to her, spoke to her, and we exchanged texts back and forth, I didn’t expect anything much, and I honestly was afraid of telling her how I felt for a long long time. But god, I just loved her so much and the thought of her being with somebody else, it just angered me that I could breakdown and fall apart, and when I told her how I felt, she js sat on my lap and js rubbed my head and told me how much she loved me, and bro let me tell you, that moment changed my life forever, and she was crying, reassuring me that I’m better than everyone she’s met, and the list goes on. I’m convinced this woman is right for me, and what am I trying to tell y’all with my experience? Don’t let her past scare you away man. If she’s treating you good, making sure you’re okay, is always there for you, and always tries to make you happy, that shows her hearts full of you bro. If y’all met a hoe and you knew she was one from the beginning, sure, leave her, but if you’re with a genuine girl, and if she acknowledges that she knows she’s made mistakes and if she’s doing everything she can to be better, if she’s treating you good, and if she loves you, trust me, she’ll do everything to make sure you’re okay and to let you know you’re her world.
having one partner before is pretty normal , especially if its an attractive woman , but the problems start when shes had multiple partners before hand , thats when you basically fall apart and never get over it. one partner beforehand is perfectly fine and normal tho
@@Starboy-fu6dm yea, which is why I feel like it’s redundant to wanna know your partners past, especially if it’s sumn sexual and whatnot, cus those are things you’d never wanna know more about
I had a similar relationship, everything was going well until one day she just started telling her past with every single detail for absolutely no reason everything was going well and i was heartbroken till she said it all, am going to be honest it was before i discovered self improvement and this channel, if i had knew this channel i would have not needed to learn the hardway If your wondering, yup she cheated on me and we broke up, am glad she did Good luck with your plans to whosoever is reading this You got it 👑🔥
You're off on this one, bro. I want to hear and know everything about her past! Are you kidding me? I would find out myself anyway so why hide it from me? Hiding it from me would make it worse when I find out. I would always start grilling a girl I'm dating about her past as soon as possible so that I can quickly know whether to continue or not before much investment of time and resources.
facts dude. it's agonising living in state of ignorance w/ a girl; even if it hurts you in the short run, it'll always be better to polarise the situation
A lot of people here say that you should leave the girl if she has a past or a body count over 0. That is easy to say when you haven’t fallen in love with that person. Then it becomes much harder to leave. Because it will be painful for you and here. I still don’t know the solution to this myself. Time will tell.
The solution is no marriage. If she didn’t save herself, then she don’t get the ring. You should be able keep her as a life partner to love, but to give her the ultimate prize and the chance to fk your life up when she couldn’t save herself for you is absurd.
this is actually my worst fear, and this is the reason that makes me think that i wont be able to continue any relationship in the future because seriously i can't, doesn't matter how many times i try I would never be able accept something even as little as kiss (which i don't believe to be little) thinking about all this makes me realize that i would just end up alone; which i might most probably but still i have little hope(atleast for now) I am 17 now and i don't know how long that hope will last and i seriously fear what i would do once even that little hope vanishes
I was talking with a girl in 2022 for 3 month. We had built up a good synergy with each other. Despite her having daddy issues, I showed her great amount of respect. And then one day she told she had a crush on my best friend. At first, I didn't take it very seriously since it was a long time ago. Then one day when I was talking with my Best friend he showed me his & her recent chats, she was talking about sexual stuff with him. I thanked my friend for showing me this & I mentally left her & stopped talking to her. I walked away wishing her All the best & educated her. But still she bothered me again after 7 months & kept saying sorry & emotional shit. Then I gave her a reality check and shut her mouth for good. But still this experience was very brutal & disgusting for me, to this day. But I am grateful that I came out as Smarter & wiser after this. Pardon my Grammartical mistakes.
I understand how he feels. I was in a relationship with a girl that really liked me but after i found out she had sex with several guys including an old friend of mine before she met me it completely changed how I viewed her, and it ruined my relationship with her, especially me being a religious man who is saving himself for marriage, it didnt feel fair to me that while I was waiting for marriage she had already had her sexual experiences before she met me. I tried to show her unconditional love and keep the relationship afloat but just the thought of "my women" having intercoarse with an old friend of mine disgusted me and sadded me. After 6 months with Gods help i had to end things, I still had feelings for her so it hurt but this is what was best for the both of us in the long term. I dont regret ending things despite how good she treated me. I know God has someone more ideal for me in store.
Ofc not, if you had sex before or have Been with other girls before you did the same thing, dont be insecure who is she with rn? Who is sleeping with who? You mf you are sleeping with her, just say “I wont talk about my past as long as you dont talk about yours” end of discussion
Yep. Women and also men should be more careful who they're having sex with. This isn't a place like you do anything and expect your significant other to be okay with it
That's why i honestly would rather build a relationship with a 5-6/10 virgin instead of having to go through the pain of thinking about all the other guys that had her before me, it really is biological, you can't help it, as a man you tend to be more attracted to a woman with no experience and the moment you know she's had more experience than you thought, your view of her changes. It is inevitable, that's why asking her about her past is a double edged sword, you might find relief knowing there was no one else before you or you might end up being unable to move on from what she says, there's also the option where she doesn't tell you because she knows the relationship will die if she does which i can't see as a good thing. Women biologically KNOW this, that a man considers her past to be very important, that's why a lot of the time you see women either hiding it or being disgusting about it, calling men insecure, because they themselves regret their own decisions. I literally have a friend like this, where she is(or was probably isn't anymore idk) a virgin and the moment she told me she let a random guy finger her at the back of his truck on a first date, whatever attraction i had for her DIED right then and there, and it's impossible for me to ever feel or look at her the same way again i also began distancing myself a bit, she was never very attractive, maybe a 4, so big part of my attraction for her was the fact she was inexperienced and wasn't very "easy", she has also glown up a bit but her glow up didn't matter that much to me especially after she began behaving the way she did and saying stuff like that. This just goes to show it doesn't even have to be sex, just the simple fact another guy is touching her makes your gut hurt. Long story short, if can't handle the woman's past it's best you just break things off immediately instead of feeling a pain that will never go away unless you're a cuck(these types of people usually don't care) and don't care about feeling that way. Trust me, this feeling never goes away, especially if you actually have feelings for the girl. Don't believe the people that say you're insecure for feeling this way, it's your masculine nature kicking in, insecure is thinking she'll cheat without any actual indications that she will do so, not when it's plastered everywhere in the form of how many partners she's had(the more partners, the more likely she is to cheat, scientifically proven).
I actually think it is better to talk about each other’s past in the beginning of the relationship. This way, you could know what kind of a woman she is. Things from the past have a very high chance to come up at some point. Imagine you date this girl of your dreams for like 10 years and start a family with her, and then randomly find out some fucked up sexual history about her. Like randomly meeting her friend from uni while taking a walk, and he reveals that she was the main “whore” at their university (just an example to get my point across). And now this deep pain starts, and you can’t think of anything else. That is a fucked up situation to be in. I would not date a woman with a fucked up and dark past (one night stands, fucking random guys at parties, etc), but I accept the fact, that, for example, my girlfriend had several (and actually healthy) relationships before me. I do not think of it as “she made a mistake”, because it is simply not true. She did not know me at that time, and frankly I was not a man of high value who could attract any quality woman. So I do not think of it as an act of “disloyalty” to me or a “mistake”. Hope this helps someone.
This shit you say is honestly naive as fuck. You have to see how present her is, her attude towards things NOW, and then build trust. ¿You really think she is going to tell you "yeah bro, i fucked every man in this country, now put a ring in my finger"?. No, you will never know if she is telling the truth or not. That´s why trust is a major part of relationships.
Have you made bad mistakes in your past? Why do you think Hamza's fans are very keen to give men grace for making mistakes/doing wrong ('we all make mistakes, bro.. you're only human... Onwards and upwards), yet women are held to a higher standard where they are expected to be blemish free
This is so true. I'm exactly on the same page as Hamza. I don't know why I'm like this but I'm very extreme & sensitive about this subject too, no matter how hard I try not to be. If I'm dating a woman & find out ANY (and I mean ANY) detail about her past with other men, it instantly puts me off forever. I just can't accept it no matter how hard I might want to try. I'm not a virgin myself tbh which is fair enough but I don't know, I can't help it.
Facts im petty af too bro, if i know any detail of some sexual experience with another man, i might not break up with her at the moment but shes disqualified to be the mother of my child thats for sure
I made a post in adonis gang talking about how my father is a crackhead and idk whether to save him or leave him to rot. Would be really helpful if hamza made a video on this
I mean what's the difference between knowing your girl has some crazy past or not, what's the purpose of dodging it and avoiding the truth, when you know that if you had that info, you would probably move on. The goal is to have a girl who doesn't give you nightmares of her past bcs she has no past, not because you just don't know it. my take on it though..
@@Kil369 Facts. lots of cope from western low T boys in the comments because they think their girl is "the one" and special even though her count is well over double digits. Having a virgin bride is the best thing a man can get. And the ironic thing is these women that sleep around walk in a white wedding dress to signify 'purity' when it's the complete opposite.. just to show off to their friends they're getting married without wanting to be a wife.
NO seal no deal if shes even kissing a guy this shows she aint waiting and preserving herself totally in all ways for just solely one person till marriage
Absolutely, many end up settling for less however and the consequences that come with that because so many women chose to wh0re themselves out so the Man thinks he just has to accept it.
I mean it's good to have standards and everything but what are the odds you meet a kissless virgin that has all the personality traits that make you wanna make your life with her in this day and age ? They might represent 5% of the 20yo and 1% of the 25yo ? At some point one has to be realistic and reevaluate his expectations.
@@prenomnom6203really the men are so ridiculous in the comments.. who dates their soulmate in the first try? It is getting more and more rare to have high school sweethearts.. people DATE 😂
Hey Hamza, I’m in an awkward position rn. I’m 18 and I’ve never had a girlfriend and at the end of summer, I came out of a year long “situationship” with a girl. I still think about it most days but it doesn’t usually affect me anymore however every so often it still does, like today. I haven’t been speaking to any girls since (mostly due to seeing none I like) and a lot of my friends are starting to speak to girls more now. I’m starting to feel like I should too and I’d be ready to but I don’t know what to do - do I just wait until somebody comes along, or use dating apps, or something else? I’m always busy with college, work, gym etc and I’m concerned I’ll never have time for girls if I’m not careful. What should I do?
Man the gut pain, i remember the gut pain everytime i would think of it. 😂 I thought i was the only one. I thought maybe i was too religious, but it makes glad to hear im not the only one who would get disgusted with the idea of the woman you love already have been messed with by some other man.
I started talking to a new girl recently. We got very close very quickly, in literally two weeks. When she brought up her past, I was jealous at first and I had a petty reaction, to which she wasn't happy with as she said I wasn't communicating. Fast-forward a couple days later, she mentioned her past again and I told her I wanted to take the opportunity to learn more about her past to show I can communicate. It wasn't nice to find out she had many situationships in the past and a bad mental health because of it, but I handled it in a masculine, rational way. This has made me become more gentle and protective of her to an extent and want to show what it's like to be loved properly.
@@69RV I mean that it is most likely to end in a chaotic breakup for you. People with situationships mostly leads to a dead end . Since you seem to have social skills, you can probably get yourself another partner with less baggage
Did he break up with his current girlfriend ? In a previous podcast he mentioned that he broke up with her because of her past and then decided to get back together with her because he was like that in the past as well ? He said in this video that he doesn’t know anything ….
Nah he said he broke things off cos their time together was "instantly gratified" and he wanted more from a wife. Guess she maybe showed she's wife material? Idk. His family said she was the right girl for him.
The problem is that one day i might end up with a girl who seems innocent and hadn't had a big past but in reality has been ran through and just doesn't tell me and I build a relationship with her that will hurt in the long run just because of that
Exactly and that's their fault if they don't preserve theirs and h0e themselves out, they should be left with their consequences however there's so many simps that they end up bailing these Women out and marrying them after she already gave her all to multiple Men in her prime. It's genuinely just stupid how any Man could accept such a horrible deal.
Exactly it’s the same as not being attracted to the bummy broke dude with no future! I don’t get why these 304s go after high value men and the guys actually accept them - best of both worlds for the girls
@@SO01j20 The idea that high-value men accept promiscuous women, allowing them to have the best of both worlds, is misguided. In truth, high-status men with numerous options typically avoid women with extensive sexual histories for long-term relationships, due to evolutionary concerns like ensuring paternity certainty. Far from enjoying the best of both worlds, women with a promiscuous background often struggle to secure lasting relationships with high-value partners later on. Their past choices can significantly narrow their prospects for committed, high-quality partnerships, debunking the notion of reaping both short-term pleasures and long-term relationship benefits.
@@Cub__ I can see from your comment how old are you. Everything you say is not even your own experience or opinion. If Hamza was a degenerative in his past and changed, then also girls can do the same thing. No one says you need to see world black and white, as if there is only women who were fucked by 100 guys or virgins. There is much in between, so where do you draw the line?
@@Cub__Normal men don't care. It's mainly incels who stress out about it on Fresh and Fit's livestreams. If a woman sleeps around and chooses to marry, she'll have little trouble.
Idk it feels unrealistic to want a girl who doesnt have past dating experiences. Like it’s understandable for that to bother someone but as you get older both people in a relationship are gonna have past experiences. Plus the way I think if it since I had a big fuckboy phase, who am I to judge. It matters but it’s not the end of the world if a women has been w a few people
After hearing this video Hamza made me realize that it's better to rather stay a virgin forever than get told at one random day of november by my future wife that when i was younger she used to have sex with 4 black guys at once like my foster female classmate who i thought she would be innocent but something inside of me told me that it's not worth it for me to start getting a girlfriend so i stopped talking to her and she left me alone and then i discover that she is 16 and she's pregnant and she had sex with 3 guys at once. at a party. H o w m a d i s t h a t ? !
It honestly depends on the situation. There’s a difference between her saying that she has kissed someone or lost her virginity vs stupidly admitting how big another man’s pp size was. Cant expect women to be some innocent perfect being, especially if you’re not even one yourself. But if her past really does bother u then just leave because you’re just doing yourself a disservice. Who cares if it’s “not alpha”, if u don’t feel comfortable in that relationship then dip
Well atleast if she admits her past then you can stay sure about whether she's worth committing to or not So if ain't really bad in a way...good for the dudes in a way
I totally get the feeling, felt it myself in the past, but if she GENUINELY changed, then there's no problem. But its totally disrespectful to talk about previous sexual shit with you, dont accept that EVER
As a feminine woman, I am in total agreement. Women should never boast about their past sexual relations to their current partners especially if they love them. Take it as a red flag🚩
On the first date with this girl she have slided over and start talking about a guy who have made a romantic move on her i suddenly got angry and tell no word , she did felt that something is wrong with me i then told her her :"how the hell would you tell something like this like you dont even think about it" ...1 week later we broke up thank god !
Its good to know her past every single thing and you e opwn about yours too.....Women are much likely to have a bigger past than men....The longer you take to accept that the harder itll be to find someone worth it. The longer you wait the more men they sleep with. That's why get married young to someone who didnt go to college and believes in GOD Jesus Christ
In an idealistic world the woman would be pure as so would the man, but the history of mankind is still being written, we are living in the period of time where core values of society have been lost and the ideal family structure is no longer. You just have to accept we are living in an un-ideal world now and the chances of finding a woman who is pure and waiting to marriage is something of the past.
That "Love You Muah" was the most weird I have felt in 2024. It used to be "Do the hardwork especially when you don't feel like it. Muah"... This is not a hate comment about men telling each other they love each other. Its very normal. But it weird to see that change😭
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"its not very adonis of me" perfect vocabulary lol 5:48
It's just normal, men care about woman past, woman care about her man future simple as that.
Yes it's biological
thats a bar my guy
Plain and simple
Wow,
This statement kinda resonates with me,
Thanks for sharing it.
So if you had a crystal ball and it was revealed that a gf would go on to gain 150lbs, start Onlyfans and flirt with your brother, you wouldn't care?
When I heard Hamza's story about the girl over-sharing about her past partners, I remembered something similar happened to me. I had an ex boyfriend who I liked a LOT, but he wouldn't shut the hell up about how small my chest was, and how he loved girls with big chests. Is that not one of the most idiotic things you can say to someone you're supposed to like back? I always took great care to show my appreciation for this man and not make him insecure by mentioning past relationships, but he wouldn't stop saying these things even after I got upset and asked him to stop. Some people are utterly careless when it comes to respecting their partner.
he was doing it on purpose, some redpill manipulation tactics
She capping about her B.Count and bro is eating it up and being gaslit. Be wise and leave.
Mans just scared of opening the pandora box, thinking that if he pretends that it doesn't exist, it doesn't. But it does and thus it's better to go somewhere else and clean instead of hiding.
facts, she deffo been run thru
Finally someone with some braincells
I wanted that video for a year and here it is, wow thank you
dealt with this bullshit, i just ended up leaving her. the moment it starts fucking up with your mental health is the moment you leave boys
Been there..
Smart move
Yeah man because it's always easier to leave then to deal with yourself. I understand you, but life is about looking these problems into the eyes. That's the only way to grow, you will come in other part of your life again to this point and you will need to deal with the same problems. There is almost no virgin on the problem or do you want a 3/10 girl? Probably not or ? So find your way to live with new world.
@@Igor-2323It's crazy how you're a watcher of this channel which means you likely want to be in the top 0.01% of men, yet you think it's weird that we want a woman who's attractive and a virgin which is 0.01% of women. If you wanna settle for less then go for it, but don't shame men who have high expectations for their life.
@@Igor-2323yah and my way to live in this new world is “no hymen no diamond” Simple
I felt the same way too. I genuinely couldn't sleep at night thinking about it, and it led to my eventual downfall. Also, Hamza's point at 5:40 was so relatable to me. I was given every detail I never asked for and I felt an insane amount of depression. In the end, I was painted out to be sexist. Glad I'm out of it now.
I understand having an issue with a womans past sexually. But kissing? Come on bruh.
Yea most woman don’t even tell you everything so she prob did more than that.
@@jingleballs9935I mean the bell curve of sexual experience is higher on average for women today so it already feels near impossible to believe she hasn't had sex with a few guys that blew her mind body and soul better than the guy she'll end up with. Virginity doesn't really exist imo 🤷.
kissing with multiple men is basically the same as having sex with multiple men
Ye i agree
If she has tongue kissed 40 guys, hypothetically, you don't see any issue with that?
Thank you for making these videos Hamza, they truly make my day.
Somehow the videos remain relevant. I found what you spoke about today so relatable. Even after breaking up, my mind tortured me with these thoughts for over a year.
THANK. YOU! This makes me feel wayyy less alone. I just traveled back home from Canada after breaking a relationship that was toxic. She was my everything, but EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I would overthink and overanalyse little comments and things that I would accidently swipe through on her phone of past lovers and it would haunt me. I felt so mallicious in my thoughts that I felt like I was going insane. It's so refreshing to hear Hamza speak so confidently about what a woman could do instead of blatantly stabbing at her guy with little comments about her past sexual experiences.
Believe me bro leaveeee this is a bad advice from hamza.
You just gave me the answer of my situation, i need to meditate more, THANK YOU.
Thank you for making these videos 🙏
You have genuinely changed my life.
I dated a girl for 14 months, but she had problems with substance abuse. Specifically alcohol. She dropped out of school when I was still dating her. & because of that I started to push her into getting her GED or going to trade school, but she had no interested in moving like that & she chose to work at a burger king her aunt was a manger in. Me already ambigious about the relationship, one day we were just smoking outside her house & she just casually burted out she slept with her older sisters BOYFRIEND, mind you we were both 17 at the time, & he was at least 21 (I think he was 23), because he used to buy me and her alcohol. Absolutely disgusted. I couldn't go out dating for a long time.
Bro, you didn't sound much better, you were smoking and drinking and you're upset that your girl did the same thing. You're supposed to help lead her into good habits yet you're smoking with her? You can't get upset that she's indulged in these things if you're also indulging in these bad habits
bro she cheated on him though, thasts the main point. @@pancakes_go2940
bro came in clutch with this video deadass. thanks for helping me make my decision bro take care
Her past says a lot about your future with her…
Great video with some funny parts. I appreciate your hard work.
The problem what not asking is that you literally don't know how bad it was. What if you don't ask and it turns out that she had a train run on her.
Yeah that's generally horrible advice, it's basically advising you to just turn your eyes and ignore it even if you have suspicions and be left in the dark for good. Stupid.
As Tame Impala sang, “The Less I Know The Better”
#1 no one can change the past. #2 if the past has certain things, it's better to know them and not build the future with her. Kissing is not such a thing. #3 I'm with an amazing woman, who had an unfortunate past. I love honesty, so we talked briefly about it, it doesn't feel good, but I understand her and I see her honest relation to her own past. It's up to me to accept it and work it over, and I'm grateful for the fact that she didn't tell more details and doesn't even want to.
It is not up to you to accept them! It is up to you to be a man, follow your instincts and leave any women with a past if you have any self-respect.
Women play on men's empathy to get what they want. Their past shows their true character and morals.
@@edheldude Someone's past is an indication to their character and morals, but it does not shows what the current state of their soul is. People can change. How long ago her past was, and how bad it was, are both contributors to how "risky" it is to be with her, but you must also simply spend a lot of time talking with her, and learning what kind of person she is NOW.
There are psychopaths out there who have killed, or attempted to kill, and have turned to God and changed their ways. If men like that can be forgiven, and can change, then women who have disgraced themselves can change as well.
And it is up to men to acknowledge the issues with their potential wives calmly, and non-emotionally, to determine whether she will be a good wife NOW. Women are not animals, nor are they children. Their character is not set in stone, they have agency just as men do, and can take responsibility for their actions, and change.
@@Digganob590 The thing is they could have changed and could've not. And we never ever can know that in the absolute sense. Almost all the time when it is about a woman we fell in love with, our decisions or choices are clouded by our emotion. This is the harsh reality. Past affects a person in a very major way. One can take the risk and stay with her or can find peace within himself leaving her. It's a choice.
@@edheldudebrain rot
I won't say anything as your not going to change your mind, just see what happens within 2 weeks, possibly 2 months from now.😊
You conveyed the reality perfectly without any sugar coating. You got some guts man.
Ooooh, it's almost like Hamza's creating videos tailor made for me. 😂😂😂
I actually disagree with the final conclusion in this video which is ''I can't imagine anyone getting over it once they hear about it.''. Both me and my best friend of 10 years, are now in relationships with women who have done some mistakes in their past which, unless clarified, would've massively dropped their quality in our eyes. They're both amazing women. Wife material, submissive, feminine, emotional, chaotic (in a good way), caring, kind, love kids, would give their lives for us in a split second (just like we would for them), and 24/7 cheerleaders for both of us in terms of every single goal we set out to achieve.
Me and him got to discuss about this and figured out that yeah, it's incredibly difficult to get over it, but nowhere near impossible. We both love our women for what they currently are and as much as it was twisting our stomachs when we were thinking about it, my arrogance got the best of me and I came to a mentality which snapped us out of this obsession over their past.
I know she's an amazing woman. I know she's making my life a million times better. I know that the thought of breaking up with her and eventually letting another man have her, is making me rage internally and my chest sink. And now imagine letting another man from her past, who she doesn't even think about for a split second because she's too busy being obsessed with me, influence my relationship with her till the point where I'm letting her go. How pathetic is that?
I am literally allowing a man who doesn't even know I exist, ruin my relationship with this 1 in 1000.000.000 girl, by letting my thoughts of him affect our relationship until the worst outcome possible. A man who doesn't even know I exist. Again, how pathetic is that?
Take it even a step further. Let's imagine he peeks inside of your brain and sees how insecure you get, how much you overthink, how much power he has over you and your relationship and how much he can influence it simply by *existing*.
How would that make you feel?
I cannot allow myself to get to a point where I let one of the most important aspects of my life, my relationship with the woman of my dreams, get absolutely ruined by a man who I've allowed to have control over my thoughts and my relationship till the point where it's getting pushed off a cliff. That is an insult to myself as a man, it is an insult to my masculinity, it is an insult to my honor, it is an insult to my pride, it is an insult to my identity and it is an insult to the man I one day dream to become.
With this, I got to a point where I genuinely have to make a conscious effort to think about this subject and even if I do, I always get to the same conclusion in a matter of seconds. I know it would be absolutely impossible for me to ever notice ''the man who has done this thing to my woman'' . Not because there's a 0% chance I will ever run into him, but because there is a 0% chance that even if I do, I will ever notice him or allow him to get any attention from me or my woman.
He is nothing, because I don't allow him or any other man, this degree of control over my mind or any other important aspect of my life.
I hope this helps.
Good words I do agree
Perfectly said king
This comment is literraly perfect. Well said. I needed to hear this and it helped more than the whole video to be honest.
If her body covnt ain't ZERO, don't be her HERO. There's a reason virginlty is the most valuable asset a woman can bring to a marriage. Zero baggage is what every man wants in a woman. Sadly in today's world finding something like that is like finding a needle in a haystack.
@@bockman55 are you are also a virgin? Do you expect to magically meet another virgin and both of you hit it off perfectly and nothing ever goes wrong for the rest of your lives? I can only assume that you are extremely young to be this deluded, it takes time and and effort to build a strong relationship, and that includes making fuckups before you build the right relationship.
Gotta say, her having only kissed other guys, ASSUMING SHE'S BEING HONEST (we don't know how honest she's being, we don't have context), is a great sign, and nothing to really worry about, considering the state of our culture right now. We no longer live in medieval times, so smooches between lovers is pretty much as chaste as it gets within dating. The fact she did actually kiss other guys, but didn't go any further, is a great thing. It is encouraging.
Now, if she LIED about only kissing other guys, and say, kissed them somewhere else than the lips, that's where you get into dishonesty, and that's a massive red flag. If a girl cannot be honest about the "level" of sexual experience she has had, then you cannot rely on her. She has to mature more before she's ready for a committed relationship.
Anyways, if you're only worried about her having kissed other guys, that's pretty much all on you bro. That's not even worse than a woman having masturbated to fantasies, which almost all women and men have done these days, most likely more (pornography). Kissing is the most innocent possible way to discover if you're physically compatible, and is nothing to worry about morally, so ill feelings towards the thought must be eliminated, and made peace with. She kept it to kissing FOR YOU.
Given, if she's trashing your kissing skills because she's had better kissers, similar to what Hamza was saying here, she's got to shut the fuck up. Red flag. Best case scenario, she's really bad at dirty talking.
great vid
this shit happened in my last relationship, all of this behaviors, i couldn't move on when we we're together
i didn't know people could relate to that, i was so anxious that i couldn't do shit in my day, and till to this day, i have some feelings for her and this things still hurt me a little when i think
I totally get that uneasy feeling everytime an intrusive thought pops into your mind thinking about your partners past, feels like a curse that perpetually haunts you.
Before you take a call on ending things, I would recommend reading this book called Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy by Zachary Stockhill, if you feel everything else in the relationship is perfect except for her past. Hope this helps
so relatable glad i found this video.
Bro, these are so addictive
Hearing Hamza going off the rails calling people stupid is the funniest thing ever 😂 love the brutal honesty!
I broke up because of this, still feel the paind when remember that the girl i loved had a past.
damn bro I known this girl for three years and she decided to randomly break up with me we are both virgins then when she broke up with me i found out through her sister these past 2 years she used to randomly go on twitch and talk to some next people sexually i even caught her just fuckin talking to some next dudes online sexually and even the day she broke up with me i found out 3 days earlier she was talking to another dude not on her self improvement bullshit like she said she was gonna do well never trust online girls they r hoes fuckin wh-res man it still breaks my heart this shit happened yesterday i found all it out.
The Sexual Revolution and it's consequences...
After watching the video, the guy's situation isn't even bad at all, but far more guys will end up in a similar situation but with much worse circumstances...
oh, yes
John Doyle?
hahaha shes kissed a couple of dudes ...
@@Row_of_E *Nicholas J Fuentes
@@mrvictorian4004 DAMN
bold of you to say the full name tho
14:15 this actually happened to me when I was meditating last year in January, but after that I wasn't consistent and lost this 'super power'. I'm still trying to get it back but it's not happening.
Hey Hamza, i just wanted to say thanks for everything, you literally changed my life.
Aight now I’ll js share my thought process since I’m currently in a long term relationship. So me and my girl are both 18, and when we met, we ultimately both told eachother we weren’t virgins, I only had sex once, I regretted it, as I was 12 and didn’t know any better, but now I’ve realized sex is a precious thing, that should be preserved for the person who inspires you to wanna keep trying your best, the person who’ll always want the best for you and will stay by your side regardless of how fucked up your life could get, and the person who’ll always work with you thru life together like a team. My girl’s experience happened when she was 15, and she didn’t know any better either, and she regrets it since it was a boy who didn’t really give a shit about her.
Now, just last night, I was overthinking and I was thinking “what if I’m not special enough” and all the self doubt shit in my head, yknow the yiddy yadda. The sole reason I was worrying was because, for most my life, I’ve been raised to instill the ideology of how “men bleed, men don’t cry“ and, I wasn’t afraid to be alone man, like honest to god I wasn’t. I was just contemplating my life and growing up, I always visioned myself living alone, away from family, friends, and just living by myself til the day I die. I just couldn’t trust anyone, so id always be blunt, harsh and I never shown an ounce of kindness, and whenever someone got too close, I’d leave them in a heart beat. I’ve always js focused on rugby, seeing as im the captain in my rugby team and since I’m the strongest mf on the field. However, that all changed the day I met her. Honestly dude, after my experience when I was 12, I always avoided girls, all solely because I doubted no girl would truly give two shits about me considering what typa world we live in now, but when I met her, it was like the crowd disappeared and my eyes were glowing, and I js went up to her, spoke to her, and we exchanged texts back and forth, I didn’t expect anything much, and I honestly was afraid of telling her how I felt for a long long time.
But god, I just loved her so much and the thought of her being with somebody else, it just angered me that I could breakdown and fall apart, and when I told her how I felt, she js sat on my lap and js rubbed my head and told me how much she loved me, and bro let me tell you, that moment changed my life forever, and she was crying, reassuring me that I’m better than everyone she’s met, and the list goes on.
I’m convinced this woman is right for me, and what am I trying to tell y’all with my experience? Don’t let her past scare you away man. If she’s treating you good, making sure you’re okay, is always there for you, and always tries to make you happy, that shows her hearts full of you bro. If y’all met a hoe and you knew she was one from the beginning, sure, leave her, but if you’re with a genuine girl, and if she acknowledges that she knows she’s made mistakes and if she’s doing everything she can to be better, if she’s treating you good, and if she loves you, trust me, she’ll do everything to make sure you’re okay and to let you know you’re her world.
having one partner before is pretty normal , especially if its an attractive woman , but the problems start when shes had multiple partners before hand , thats when you basically fall apart and never get over it. one partner beforehand is perfectly fine and normal tho
@@Starboy-fu6dm yea, which is why I feel like it’s redundant to wanna know your partners past, especially if it’s sumn sexual and whatnot, cus those are things you’d never wanna know more about
I had a similar relationship, everything was going well until one day she just started telling her past with every single detail for absolutely no reason everything was going well and i was heartbroken till she said it all, am going to be honest it was before i discovered self improvement and this channel, if i had knew this channel i would have not needed to learn the hardway
If your wondering, yup she cheated on me and we broke up, am glad she did
Good luck with your plans to whosoever is reading this
You got it 👑🔥
You're off on this one, bro.
I want to hear and know everything about her past! Are you kidding me? I would find out myself anyway so why hide it from me? Hiding it from me would make it worse when I find out.
I would always start grilling a girl I'm dating about her past as soon as possible so that I can quickly know whether to continue or not before much investment of time and resources.
💯💯💯💯💯
facts dude. it's agonising living in state of ignorance w/ a girl; even if it hurts you in the short run, it'll always be better to polarise the situation
"Clarity cannot be a bad thing" -Dr. Melfi, The Sopranos
A lot of people here say that you should leave the girl if she has a past or a body count over 0. That is easy to say when you haven’t fallen in love with that person. Then it becomes much harder to leave. Because it will be painful for you and here.
I still don’t know the solution to this myself. Time will tell.
The solution is no marriage. If she didn’t save herself, then she don’t get the ring. You should be able keep her as a life partner to love, but to give her the ultimate prize and the chance to fk your life up when she couldn’t save herself for you is absurd.
This is a very important problem to cover hamza🙏
Its humbling if a girl is honest... But if its your first girl telling you the truth of her past then that's tough.
He had me in the first half
How is this timed this well! Thanks bro!
I swear
"...oh, are you delaying gratification 😲"
this is actually my worst fear, and this is the reason that makes me think that i wont be able to continue any relationship in the future because seriously i can't, doesn't matter how many times i try I would never be able accept something even as little as kiss (which i don't believe to be little) thinking about all this makes me realize that i would just end up alone; which i might most probably but still i have little hope(atleast for now) I am 17 now and i don't know how long that hope will last and i seriously fear what i would do once even that little hope vanishes
Oh my goodness the world is scary isn’t it buddy… you’re gonna learn some painful truths when you get older but don’t worry… you’ll get stronger
Are you a kissless virgin?
If u cant accept a kiss you need to work on yourself bro
He had so much integrity.
11:19 looooool
I was talking with a girl in 2022 for 3 month. We had built up a good synergy with each other. Despite her having daddy issues, I showed her great amount of respect. And then one day she told she had a crush on my best friend. At first, I didn't take it very seriously since it was a long time ago. Then one day when I was talking with my Best friend he showed me his & her recent chats, she was talking about sexual stuff with him. I thanked my friend for showing me this & I mentally left her & stopped talking to her. I walked away wishing her All the best & educated her.
But still she bothered me again after 7 months & kept saying sorry & emotional shit. Then I gave her a reality check and shut her mouth for good.
But still this experience was very brutal & disgusting for me, to this day. But I am grateful that I came out as Smarter & wiser after this.
Pardon my Grammartical mistakes.
You have a nice friend.
Good man!
Your friend is a real one. You both did well.
legend
You don't have a friend, that's a brother right there.
Nah man I didn’t expect the “I love you” before the kiss I love you too hamza
I understand how he feels. I was in a relationship with a girl that really liked me but after i found out she had sex with several guys including an old friend of mine before she met me it completely changed how I viewed her, and it ruined my relationship with her, especially me being a religious man who is saving himself for marriage, it didnt feel fair to me that while I was waiting for marriage she had already had her sexual experiences before she met me. I tried to show her unconditional love and keep the relationship afloat but just the thought of "my women" having intercoarse with an old friend of mine disgusted me and sadded me. After 6 months with Gods help i had to end things, I still had feelings for her so it hurt but this is what was best for the both of us in the long term. I dont regret ending things despite how good she treated me. I know God has someone more ideal for me in store.
this video got me laughing hahaha :P ur the best
Nah, just leave her
Haha agree 100%
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Ofc not, if you had sex before or have Been with other girls before you did the same thing, dont be insecure who is she with rn? Who is sleeping with who? You mf you are sleeping with her, just say “I wont talk about my past as long as you dont talk about yours” end of discussion
Yep. Women and also men should be more careful who they're having sex with. This isn't a place like you do anything and expect your significant other to be okay with it
Most tone def anwser there is
That's why i honestly would rather build a relationship with a 5-6/10 virgin instead of having to go through the pain of thinking about all the other guys that had her before me, it really is biological, you can't help it, as a man you tend to be more attracted to a woman with no experience and the moment you know she's had more experience than you thought, your view of her changes. It is inevitable, that's why asking her about her past is a double edged sword, you might find relief knowing there was no one else before you or you might end up being unable to move on from what she says, there's also the option where she doesn't tell you because she knows the relationship will die if she does which i can't see as a good thing. Women biologically KNOW this, that a man considers her past to be very important, that's why a lot of the time you see women either hiding it or being disgusting about it, calling men insecure, because they themselves regret their own decisions.
I literally have a friend like this, where she is(or was probably isn't anymore idk) a virgin and the moment she told me she let a random guy finger her at the back of his truck on a first date, whatever attraction i had for her DIED right then and there, and it's impossible for me to ever feel or look at her the same way again i also began distancing myself a bit, she was never very attractive, maybe a 4, so big part of my attraction for her was the fact she was inexperienced and wasn't very "easy", she has also glown up a bit but her glow up didn't matter that much to me especially after she began behaving the way she did and saying stuff like that. This just goes to show it doesn't even have to be sex, just the simple fact another guy is touching her makes your gut hurt.
Long story short, if can't handle the woman's past it's best you just break things off immediately instead of feeling a pain that will never go away unless you're a cuck(these types of people usually don't care) and don't care about feeling that way. Trust me, this feeling never goes away, especially if you actually have feelings for the girl. Don't believe the people that say you're insecure for feeling this way, it's your masculine nature kicking in, insecure is thinking she'll cheat without any actual indications that she will do so, not when it's plastered everywhere in the form of how many partners she's had(the more partners, the more likely she is to cheat, scientifically proven).
I actually think it is better to talk about each other’s past in the beginning of the relationship. This way, you could know what kind of a woman she is.
Things from the past have a very high chance to come up at some point. Imagine you date this girl of your dreams for like 10 years and start a family with her, and then randomly find out some fucked up sexual history about her. Like randomly meeting her friend from uni while taking a walk, and he reveals that she was the main “whore” at their university (just an example to get my point across). And now this deep pain starts, and you can’t think of anything else. That is a fucked up situation to be in.
I would not date a woman with a fucked up and dark past (one night stands, fucking random guys at parties, etc), but I accept the fact, that, for example, my girlfriend had several (and actually healthy) relationships before me. I do not think of it as “she made a mistake”, because it is simply not true. She did not know me at that time, and frankly I was not a man of high value who could attract any quality woman. So I do not think of it as an act of “disloyalty” to me or a “mistake”.
Hope this helps someone.
Thanks bro it made me feel better
100% you need at least some info about her past. If you can't handle her past, she's not the right woman.
Thanks bro,it made me feel happy
This shit you say is honestly naive as fuck. You have to see how present her is, her attude towards things NOW, and then build trust. ¿You really think she is going to tell you "yeah bro, i fucked every man in this country, now put a ring in my finger"?. No, you will never know if she is telling the truth or not. That´s why trust is a major part of relationships.
Have you made bad mistakes in your past? Why do you think Hamza's fans are very keen to give men grace for making mistakes/doing wrong ('we all make mistakes, bro.. you're only human... Onwards and upwards), yet women are held to a higher standard where they are expected to be blemish free
This is so true. I'm exactly on the same page as Hamza.
I don't know why I'm like this but I'm very extreme & sensitive about this subject too, no matter how hard I try not to be.
If I'm dating a woman & find out ANY (and I mean ANY) detail about her past with other men, it instantly puts me off forever.
I just can't accept it no matter how hard I might want to try.
I'm not a virgin myself tbh which is fair enough but I don't know, I can't help it.
You know the reason already, because you're a not a virgin yourself! You will think depending on your own experiences
Facts im petty af too bro, if i know any detail of some sexual experience with another man, i might not break up with her at the moment but shes disqualified to be the mother of my child thats for sure
This is why i have always aired on the side of dont ask questions you might not want to know the answer to
I made a post in adonis gang talking about how my father is a crackhead and idk whether to save him or leave him to rot. Would be really helpful if hamza made a video on this
you shouldn’t’forget’ her past, you should accept it and keep going let that sink in lads
11:08 bro Im black myself and even I was like “holup WHAT THE HELL???!”😂😂
I mean what's the difference between knowing your girl has some crazy past or not, what's the purpose of dodging it and avoiding the truth, when you know that if you had that info, you would probably move on. The goal is to have a girl who doesn't give you nightmares of her past bcs she has no past, not because you just don't know it. my take on it though..
also she is not classy bcs she doesn't talk about her past, she is classy bcs she has no past to talk about.
Precisely and well stated my friend
Well said
Exactly I’d rather no upfront , don’t hide it especially when you know the guy cares about that kind of stuff and is becoming invested in you.
@@Kil369 Facts. lots of cope from western low T boys in the comments because they think their girl is "the one" and special even though her count is well over double digits. Having a virgin bride is the best thing a man can get. And the ironic thing is these women that sleep around walk in a white wedding dress to signify 'purity' when it's the complete opposite.. just to show off to their friends they're getting married without wanting to be a wife.
NO seal no deal
if shes even kissing a guy this shows she aint waiting and preserving herself totally in all ways for just solely one person till marriage
Absolutely, many end up settling for less however and the consequences that come with that because so many women chose to wh0re themselves out so the Man thinks he just has to accept it.
I mean it's good to have standards and everything but what are the odds you meet a kissless virgin that has all the personality traits that make you wanna make your life with her in this day and age ? They might represent 5% of the 20yo and 1% of the 25yo ? At some point one has to be realistic and reevaluate his expectations.
@@prenomnom6203Other countries exist. Religious groups exist.
Why should men give up their standards to cowtow to modern women?
@@prenomnom6203really the men are so ridiculous in the comments.. who dates their soulmate in the first try? It is getting more and more rare to have high school sweethearts.. people DATE 😂
@@amarjotsingh8455I'm actually laughing at the comments, sex? i can see that but a kiss?😭😭😭
Hey Hamza, I’m in an awkward position rn. I’m 18 and I’ve never had a girlfriend and at the end of summer, I came out of a year long “situationship” with a girl. I still think about it most days but it doesn’t usually affect me anymore however every so often it still does, like today. I haven’t been speaking to any girls since (mostly due to seeing none I like) and a lot of my friends are starting to speak to girls more now. I’m starting to feel like I should too and I’d be ready to but I don’t know what to do - do I just wait until somebody comes along, or use dating apps, or something else? I’m always busy with college, work, gym etc and I’m concerned I’ll never have time for girls if I’m not careful. What should I do?
08:24 - 09:20 Hamza going on a legendary rant rampage!
I’m leaving my wife soon because of this. I have 4 kids with her but I found out some things about her past that I just can’t accept.
How do i summits a submission to hamza?
If you feel like that, leave my man. Its going to save you from so much pain.
no seal no deal fr
11:23 Holy fkn shit bro🤣🤣
Man the gut pain, i remember the gut pain everytime i would think of it. 😂 I thought i was the only one. I thought maybe i was too religious, but it makes glad to hear im not the only one who would get disgusted with the idea of the woman you love already have been messed with by some other man.
Hamza is doing side quests at this point
I started talking to a new girl recently. We got very close very quickly, in literally two weeks. When she brought up her past, I was jealous at first and I had a petty reaction, to which she wasn't happy with as she said I wasn't communicating. Fast-forward a couple days later, she mentioned her past again and I told her I wanted to take the opportunity to learn more about her past to show I can communicate. It wasn't nice to find out she had many situationships in the past and a bad mental health because of it, but I handled it in a masculine, rational way. This has made me become more gentle and protective of her to an extent and want to show what it's like to be loved properly.
This could end in a bad way or a good one. It doesn't sometimes depend on controllable factors
@@faizissa8617 It could go either way, same with any other relationship. Wdym by that? Of course a relationship cannot be controlled
@@69RV I mean that it is most likely to end in a chaotic breakup for you. People with situationships mostly leads to a dead end . Since you seem to have social skills, you can probably get yourself another partner with less baggage
How bad is it? Let's hear some figures
And you were right. She blocked me off everything, I didn't even do anything wrong. She was still hung up on her ex@@faizissa8617
Did he break up with his current girlfriend ? In a previous podcast he mentioned that he broke up with her because of her past and then decided to get back together with her because he was like that in the past as well ? He said in this video that he doesn’t know anything ….
Nah he said he broke things off cos their time together was "instantly gratified" and he wanted more from a wife. Guess she maybe showed she's wife material? Idk. His family said she was the right girl for him.
The problem is that one day i might end up with a girl who seems innocent and hadn't had a big past but in reality has been ran through and just doesn't tell me and I build a relationship with her that will hurt in the long run just because of that
6:22 broooo :DDDDDD
Women care about guys future,so we guys should care about her past
men have to build their value whilst women just have to preserve it
Exactly and that's their fault if they don't preserve theirs and h0e themselves out, they should be left with their consequences however there's so many simps that they end up bailing these Women out and marrying them after she already gave her all to multiple Men in her prime. It's genuinely just stupid how any Man could accept such a horrible deal.
Exactly it’s the same as not being attracted to the bummy broke dude with no future! I don’t get why these 304s go after high value men and the guys actually accept them - best of both worlds for the girls
@@SO01j20 The idea that high-value men accept promiscuous women, allowing them to have the best of both worlds, is misguided. In truth, high-status men with numerous options typically avoid women with extensive sexual histories for long-term relationships, due to evolutionary concerns like ensuring paternity certainty. Far from enjoying the best of both worlds, women with a promiscuous background often struggle to secure lasting relationships with high-value partners later on. Their past choices can significantly narrow their prospects for committed, high-quality partnerships, debunking the notion of reaping both short-term pleasures and long-term relationship benefits.
@@Cub__ I can see from your comment how old are you. Everything you say is not even your own experience or opinion. If Hamza was a degenerative in his past and changed, then also girls can do the same thing. No one says you need to see world black and white, as if there is only women who were fucked by 100 guys or virgins. There is much in between, so where do you draw the line?
@@Cub__Normal men don't care. It's mainly incels who stress out about it on Fresh and Fit's livestreams. If a woman sleeps around and chooses to marry, she'll have little trouble.
Knew a vid is coming when I saw you commenting
I think you've just explained why in Islam it's don't ask don't tell about the past
Excellent posts
Idk it feels unrealistic to want a girl who doesnt have past dating experiences. Like it’s understandable for that to bother someone but as you get older both people in a relationship are gonna have past experiences. Plus the way I think if it since I had a big fuckboy phase, who am I to judge. It matters but it’s not the end of the world if a women has been w a few people
11:09 oh man, that would be the end of the relationship for me
After hearing this video Hamza made me realize that it's better to rather stay a virgin forever than get told at one random day of november by my future wife that when i was younger she used to have sex with 4 black guys at once like my foster female classmate who i thought she would be innocent but something inside of me told me that it's not worth it for me to start getting a girlfriend so i stopped talking to her and she left me alone and then i discover that she is 16 and she's pregnant and she had sex with 3 guys at once. at a party.
H o w m a d i s t h a t ? !
Why Always blackguys ? Are you insecure
@@sdfsdf928if a chick dates black guys she has no respect for herself.
Follow your instincts, young man. They will warn you.
how old r u bro
11:22 brooo :DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
hamza selling out once again
It honestly depends on the situation. There’s a difference between her saying that she has kissed someone or lost her virginity vs stupidly admitting how big another man’s pp size was. Cant expect women to be some innocent perfect being, especially if you’re not even one yourself. But if her past really does bother u then just leave because you’re just doing yourself a disservice. Who cares if it’s “not alpha”, if u don’t feel comfortable in that relationship then dip
First time I saw Hamza show REDPILL RAGE
Well atleast if she admits her past then you can stay sure about whether she's worth committing to or not
So if ain't really bad in a way...good for the dudes in a way
Boom
Retroactive jealousy. I have it too.
Plus remember guys, you know only the part that she told you. She never fully tells you anything .
im so stuck im in love with this girl but from what you have told me i should probably breakup with her
I totally get the feeling, felt it myself in the past, but if she GENUINELY changed, then there's no problem. But its totally disrespectful to talk about previous sexual shit with you, dont accept that EVER
How is the situation of yall right now ??
As a feminine woman, I am in total agreement. Women should never boast about their past sexual relations to their current partners especially if they love them. Take it as a red flag🚩
On the first date with this girl she have slided over and start talking about a guy who have made a romantic move on her i suddenly got angry and tell no word , she did felt that something is wrong with me i then told her her :"how the hell would you tell something like this like you dont even think about it" ...1 week later we broke up thank god !
Ahahahahah Hamza mate ur hilarious 😂. All he says is fax tho
Its good to know her past every single thing and you e opwn about yours too.....Women are much likely to have a bigger past than men....The longer you take to accept that the harder itll be to find someone worth it. The longer you wait the more men they sleep with. That's why get married young to someone who didnt go to college and believes in GOD Jesus Christ
Cool
In an idealistic world the woman would be pure as so would the man, but the history of mankind is still being written, we are living in the period of time where core values of society have been lost and the ideal family structure is no longer. You just have to accept we are living in an un-ideal world now and the chances of finding a woman who is pure and waiting to marriage is something of the past.
You're fucking right bro
get a girl with no past
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@@nikos9804 ε ναι ρε φιλε
Literally
Impossible in any English speaking country
@@classic595 you only need 1 girl not many
lmfao it bothers him that she's kissed a bunch of dudes? even I'm not that unhinged
12:50 great points here. Takeaway for me is if you even hear a shred of her past from her, it's a massive red flag.
That "Love You Muah" was the most weird I have felt in 2024. It used to be "Do the hardwork especially when you don't feel like it. Muah"... This is not a hate comment about men telling each other they love each other. Its very normal. But it weird to see that change😭