WHY MEN RESPOND TO DISTANCE AND SPACE

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  • There is a reason men respond to distance and space and we shall explore that in this video.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 91

  • @jordynsimpson4852
    @jordynsimpson4852 3 роки тому +126

    The more I go no contact the less and less I want him back and started seeing things clearer. So if he comes back idk if I’ll even respond

    • @jordynsimpson4852
      @jordynsimpson4852 3 роки тому +23

      He reached out 😂 wanted to come over so I can watch our dog... excuses if you ask me. Little did he know I moved out of state :)

    • @jordynsimpson4852
      @jordynsimpson4852 3 роки тому +34

      UPDATE! After we broke up I lost 20 pounds! And we ran into each other at a music festival we both knew we would see each other at. I looked so hot and he looked stunned when he saw me. He chased me all weekend, apologized and said he didn’t want space anymore. It’s been almost a week and a half since that happened and he calls me everyday and he wants me to come live with him for a few months. Guys… I did it. 😁

    • @danam358
      @danam358 2 роки тому +3

      @@jordynsimpson4852 if you don’t mind me asking, how long was he pulling away for? And why?

    • @Barr.JoyO.
      @Barr.JoyO. 2 роки тому +2

      @@jordynsimpson4852 🤣🤣, maybe leave the dog with the new occupant

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 2 роки тому +3

      @@jordynsimpson4852 is he still pursuing you????

  • @MsAngelface32
    @MsAngelface32 4 роки тому +74

    This is a woman that knows what she’s talking about. I agree with you 100%. I’d find it strange if two people that are dating or just starting to learn more about one another have time to spend four straight days together. I’ve been married for over 20 years and my husband & don’t have time to be around each other for days straight. We both work & I’m also a full time student in graduate school. Men & women need their own personal space and their alone time.

  • @deltaradiance9034
    @deltaradiance9034 2 роки тому +15

    In real life Everyone makes time for their loved ones even when busy. If a man is that busy to a point he spends a week not checking on you. That is a man whose not that into you. You need to let him stay busy. The time he wants you usually you don't want him anymore.

  • @UnexpectedWonder
    @UnexpectedWonder 3 роки тому +42

    The thing I've noticed in comparison is that Women will go silent and distant and simply shut down lines of Communication. I'm a Man who's Huge about Communication. If I'm not heavily about the Communication process, it's one of five things. 1. I'm just stupidly busy with Work and Life. 2. I'm Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally tired and exhausted and am trying to heal and recover. 3. I'm trying to figure out personal issues in my own Life that I may not know how to properly express in the moment. 4. There have been some issues with my Significant Other, and I'm trying to decide how to approach the matter before I make stupid decisions or mistakes like when I was younger and less experienced. 5. She hasn't communicated that she wants more attention. Men often will think things are good, and many Women will get in their own heads and begin to overthink matters.

    • @chiomanwachukwu6744
      @chiomanwachukwu6744 3 роки тому +15

      Lol. I can relate. Go on and let her know you're just tryna fix somethings within/around. She'll definitely understand. You don't want to leave things to assumptions.

    • @noirefit5954
      @noirefit5954 2 роки тому +9

      I think we get into our heads because the man doesn’t simply communicate to let us know. All most of us require is knowing that we won’t hear from you as much. No over explaining and giving various excuses, just letting us know. When you leave us to our own assumptions, God only knows what crazy scenarios we will come up with!

    • @Barr.JoyO.
      @Barr.JoyO. 2 роки тому +5

      @@chiomanwachukwu6744 true not explaining things and leaving the lady to assume is a huge problem, for example am a lawyer and if I am to assume my brain would come up with pretty interesting scenarios .

    • @jencrews
      @jencrews 2 роки тому +2

      This was very very helpful to me

    • @UnexpectedWonder
      @UnexpectedWonder 2 роки тому

      @@chiomanwachukwu6744 I do let Women know. Often times, a lot of Women are stubborn and don't want to listen or will assume and project onto you their own thoughts, Emotions, and Insecurities sadly. This isn't all of the time, but it's a common issue today. It's a two-way street.

  • @boobearam
    @boobearam 4 роки тому +29

    Thank you for this! My bf and I are going through this right now. I assumed I had to be with him all the time because he is my first relationship and for months we were together basically every day but recently he asked for space. So thank you for explaining💗

    • @Ms.Tamara_
      @Ms.Tamara_ 3 роки тому +11

      Omg if a guy asked me for space I would complete fall back. That’s not good. A man should be pursuing , chasing u. If there’s no challenge jd will get bored. Never suffocate a man. Let there be a lil mystery to u . He should be asking for ur time not rejecting

  • @ub69hs
    @ub69hs 3 роки тому +24

    Short and to the point and extremely loaded.This is how it’s done ☑️ ✅

  • @tbunnyshy1
    @tbunnyshy1 3 роки тому +19

    Very well put, as always. In general, I’m the one that feels suffocated. I saw a guy on Tuesday and he asked to meet on Saturday.
    I’m like “how about next week”. Lol. I hope he doesn’t think I’m rude, I just need to BREATHE. 😂

    • @earthgirl7874
      @earthgirl7874 3 роки тому +4

      I agree and at the same time you are letting it sink in. You may have had plans on Saturday already ☺

  • @TheAmaraHorton
    @TheAmaraHorton 4 роки тому +18

    Beautiful, elegant lady. Thank you for sharing your gift with us. 🙏🏾❤️

  • @busara45thevillain22
    @busara45thevillain22 3 роки тому +6

    The long term effect reminds me of the owl in the old oak. The more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Dont underestimate that wise old bird.

  • @incognitanews4865
    @incognitanews4865 4 роки тому +21

    Everyone likes breathing room and to be missed.

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    @AK-gw7sn 4 роки тому +12

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    @mystikal2222 4 роки тому +9

    You are right on time!!!!

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    @nurfatinshuib5910 4 роки тому +10

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  • @quiettefoxworth4713
    @quiettefoxworth4713 4 роки тому +7

    Thank you Chengi...may God continue blessing you and allowing your beautiful natural gifts to be a blessing upon our community

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    @yabe1496 2 роки тому +5

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    @sunnydeessa714 4 роки тому +5

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    @naturale_appeal2790 2 роки тому +5

    Your energy is soooooo amazing and uplifting! So glad I’m a member of your channel!

  • @beautifulqueen748
    @beautifulqueen748 3 роки тому +6

    1st thing even before we get in to the talk I love your hair.

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    @savelikeaprowithleah5157 4 роки тому +5

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  • @murel8319
    @murel8319 3 роки тому +3

    I love you your advise is so on point ♥️

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    @sehrishshah9071 4 роки тому +3

    You are so precious. Love you.

  • @maryakabekwa7313
    @maryakabekwa7313 2 роки тому +1

    Needed this right now.

  • @patienceduwe9839
    @patienceduwe9839 2 роки тому +1

    Good to be here

  • @monicasoares4671
    @monicasoares4671 3 роки тому +4

    I love your videos you are so smart ❤️ helping a lot :)

  • @lyubomirafashion
    @lyubomirafashion 4 роки тому +2

    THANK YOU for you advices, always help me. God bless you 🧚‍♀️🙌

  • @angelabwalya4933
    @angelabwalya4933 4 роки тому +3

    Great piece

  • @raquelserrano2403
    @raquelserrano2403 2 роки тому +1

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  • @Ariun97
    @Ariun97 4 роки тому +4

    Nice video!!!!

  • @JM-yf5rt
    @JM-yf5rt 3 роки тому +2

    I love your hair!

  • @godreigns9605
    @godreigns9605 3 роки тому +2

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  • @Ladymumma444
    @Ladymumma444 3 місяці тому +1

    The thing is though - we get independent in the spaces and then finally I think we won’t need them coz they aren’t there when we needed them?

  • @verat.6339
    @verat.6339 3 роки тому +3

    Great video Chengi 💖

  • @lyndamcmullen9410
    @lyndamcmullen9410 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you. ♥️

  • @mariemarlene7658
    @mariemarlene7658 4 роки тому +2

    Amen Doll.🙏❤

  • @mizzcrazygal
    @mizzcrazygal 4 роки тому +4

    so now i know my ex left me for someone else because not ONCE in the whole 2 months he disappeared did he text or call me. so i changed my number w/o telling him :(

  • @hannagetnet614
    @hannagetnet614 2 роки тому

    My big sis 🥰🥰

  • @zacharydavis4398
    @zacharydavis4398 2 роки тому +2

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  • @anattaokonkwo
    @anattaokonkwo 3 роки тому +5

    You are so beautiful, Queen! 😍😍😍😍 Are you Igbo? 🇳🇬

  • @lolaamazonia5218
    @lolaamazonia5218 3 роки тому +5

    Chengi I'm in desperate need of your advice. I recently met this guy online during the Christmas holidays we connected really well. I feel we are perfect for each other. Everything was going great then he told me that I said something that put him off wanting to date me. He said he can only see friendship for us. He friendzoned me. So I messaging him texting him for a week nonstop and he ignored me. When I saw that I was becoming desperate I finally said to him that I won't message him again ever I've harrassed him enough and embarrassed myself in the process. That is when he miraculously responds back saying he left his phone at a friends. As soon as I walk away he contacts me back. At the moment now we as are talking but it's one sided. He only responds if I message him first. We flirt by other than that nothing else. Do I walk away again or give him ultimatum? I asked him if we were friends still he never gave me an answer on that . What do I do?

    • @Liinabadd20
      @Liinabadd20 3 роки тому +9

      Girl cut him off. I was just recently in a similar situation. He was stringing me alone the whole time and I found out because I made my friend message him on Instagram DM and act as if she was interested in him and he asked to see her in the quickness. Meanwhile he never had time for me . I cursed him out and removed him from my life. It’s been 2 weeks and I feel a way but not as hurt and confused as I was feeling when I was involved with him. Time heals wounds let him go. Walking away gets respect.

    • @adj5767
      @adj5767 3 роки тому +11

      You did the right thing the first time when you said you will cease all contact, but you chickened at the end and now he's using you as a football. Get some self-respect.

    • @lolaamazonia5218
      @lolaamazonia5218 3 роки тому +6

      @@adj5767 I'm over him since last month he was the ultimate jerk !

    • @noirefit5954
      @noirefit5954 2 роки тому +4

      Cut him off. He’s using you as an option and he is not respecting boundaries/standards. He’s gonna use your emotions against you

    • @ibiminaabiye257
      @ibiminaabiye257 2 роки тому +1

      He's a narcissist. You better run!!!

  • @feelswithmeesh
    @feelswithmeesh 2 роки тому +1

    You are Gorgeous 🥰❤️😍

  • @elharrop
    @elharrop 2 роки тому +2

    You shouldn't have to be THAT busy that you don't notice a man not putting in the required effort, that's just covering up a problem rather than dealing with the root of the poor behaviour/ low interest. I feel like this is delusional, unrealistic and unsustainable for most people. You know deep down it's not enough, trying to trick yourself into thinking it's fine is a slippery slope for depression. No amount of personal success and friends is going to make it acceptable for men to come and go as they please. Just my 2 cents :)

    • @blackswanrelationshipacademy
      @blackswanrelationshipacademy  2 роки тому

      Hi Emma. Most women need healing if they struggle to give space to their partners. It’s delusional to think we can change the nature of men. If you or any woman cannot afford space to her man she needs to do some work on herself.
      In this video we are not talking about tolerating intolerant neglect or behaviour from a man as I have also mentioned.
      Hope this helps

    • @elharrop
      @elharrop 2 роки тому

      @@blackswanrelationshipacademy Thanks, I know its not a one size fits all but I was only meeting the guy I was dealing with once a week anyway. Not sure how much more space you could give. It's hard to know what's normal these days as people are so complicated now!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Рік тому

      Right you are, Chengi! Giving him space doesn't mean we tolerate abandonment. That's different. We don't give a man license to mistreat us. We understand our differences and we find fulfillment in our purpose and God. Well done, sis!

  • @Jennie-yolan
    @Jennie-yolan 4 роки тому +5

    Is it ok to not respond to his short and distance text for a day or 2 just to get my anxiety in check? Or am i playing games at that point?

  • @mariamastrodicasa5712
    @mariamastrodicasa5712 2 роки тому +2

    Will he forgive me after I give him enough space. We were in a 2 yr relationship. I did something very out of character. I went onto his Facebook page and was embarrassed to own up to my behavior. He was pulling away and when the power shifted I lost myself and was not feeling enough. Wondering what to do?

  • @Tammy_wit_a_y
    @Tammy_wit_a_y 2 роки тому +1

    How can I access the Facebook group

  • @wl6279
    @wl6279 4 роки тому +1

    omg she's funny lol

    • @wl6279
      @wl6279 4 роки тому +1

      not too much space and distance , lol