Most often black women are forced to act in our masculine energy. We have grown up watching our mothers be the strong black woman that she had to be! She had to work hard outside of the home, and take care of the family...cook, clean, and everything else and didn’t miss a beat while doing it. Because of the breakdown of the black family, most black women are left single to raise the children by themselves, so she becomes the provider, the protector, and the harsh disciplinarian...all the things a man should be. Because of the masculine strength these boys have unfavorably seen in their mothers, many of our black men seek out the more feminine and softer white woman, who has to only be a wife and/or a mother...all she has to be is “feminine”. Where black women are left alone playing a dual role, white women are allowed to be exactly what they are, feminine, with men by their sides and in their proper role! In my opinion, it all stems from slavery, where they beat the masculinity out of black men, and the black woman was forced to be strong...cooking, cleaning, working hard, and had to do it without complaint! Without this strength, life couldn’t go on for my family. I would love to be just a wife or just a mom, and simply bask in my femininity, without having to always think about EVERYTHING... but I have no choice! Black women are often left single and by themselves for many, many years....to fend for themselves! It’s often not a choice! So masculine energy sometimes just comes with the territory...
💯 this is absolutely true of our mothers and even our generation but we now have the understanding of feminine energy and we can begin to practice femininity in our relationships even if we have to be masculine the rest of the time. If there was ever a woman who could pull this off like a show star I have no doubt it would be the black woman! 🦋
also, I am a wife and a mom (african american, married to a west african man) unfortunately i was groomed as a child to be very "take charge" and "take life by the reins" my husband came from a home full of sisters and I easily roll over him like a steamroller with my decision making prowess im trying to reverse the roles if you will and be more feminine and let him take more of a leadership position, he is a good man and has the potential to be great but i think each of us needs marriage mentors and learn our roles...im tired of being a take charge masculina ...lol his friends even joke and call me"boss lady" its just black american women are conditioned taught and made to take charge...its not my fault, and yes i had both mom and dad in my life, but my parents were divorced
Hang on.. Im a white Aussie born and raised woman. Im pretty sure Im masculine. Part of that is being in two practical cultures. (Aussie and German) Its a pretty screwed up mix from where I grew up. I grew up with the nazi thing that women are seen, not heard, yet my German traits meant I was naturally assertive. (I was scapegoated for a lot of what I am) I am simultaneously looking into the German culture to realize that women are naturally assertive there.. (got that from my father's side when I argued that respect goes both ways.. lets not get into that. Both of us were natural born leaders that butted heads) That and I have to take care of myself because up until now, Ive been wounded, (I hope things will change with the last parent passing and thats why Im watching these videos) no one has really been there for me and Ive never had a role model of "healthy fem/masc energy dynamic. Im just doing the best I can until someone tells me how to do things differently in relationships. (Im more than capable on my own.. I dont need a man, Id like to have one when Im ready) Ive had to say no to a "feminine" black man because he has trauma in his past. Beautiful in himself but Im not prepared to chase him if he flakes on another date. To me thats not respectful of my time... (GROAN..!, german again) I was told by one of my parents that every aussie woman has her own toolbox.. (maybe that was because I pinched too many of my father's as a preteen... in my defense.. making jewellery) I learned to change a tyre when I was pregnant. (Absolute MUST HAVE skill here in the vast expanses of Australia) Im creative. Im leading myself with that. I am hoping that a masculine man sees my worth as a woman that wont fall apart without him. Im not much of a cook.. He's welcome to provide food.
@@Trex7124 I see through your post that sometimes regardless of race, it’s hard in the dating world for women who come across as confident, assertive, and have natural leadership qualities. Women develop these qualities for all sorts of reasons... but we indeed have them! I look every bit of feminine, but my personality is one that leads because my circumstances forced me to be that way. I do believe however that the man for me has to be extremely masculine... of which I am very attracted to anyway. Feminine men aren’t even an option for me...I’m just not attracted to that type. I’m sure this has a lot to do with my personality. Your reply was very interesting to read and one that I can certainly relate to.
@@jaecreations8648 Exactly.. I guess we are both looking forward to a very masculine man that will take care of us and understand our masculinity long enough for us to let down our guard. I look forward to slipping into feminine energy when I know that I wont be hurt or blindsided. (I think a man would have to earn that vulnerability..) what do you think?
These things are not always straight forward. Some women have unresolved trauma, hurt and pain that cause them to manifest as masculine. I remember the singer Alicia Keys saying when she was a teenager she would dress herself in big baggy clothes to cover her figure because she didn't like the attention she received when she walked down the street and she thought covering up would repel the unwanted attention. Poverty plays a big part to, when people always have to fight up to survive. Unless we heal we won't be able to be comfortable in our feminine energy.
Absolutely and no one is saying that the genesis of masculine energy is often by choice and regardless of your story or trauma it is a choice to stay masculine energy once you know better
I guess what I am really trying to say is if we do all the external stuff without the inner work it doesn't work. I think when you heal everything else flows and ofcourse good mentoring helps. Some of us need to be tutored how to put on make up and combine clothing and choosing the right colours. You seem quite natural in those things but some of us have no clue and need to be taught. Like those ladies who end on on Clinton and Stacey What Not to Wear. Some people need the hand holding and resources are needed so we shouldn't beat ourselves up too much. I know me personally would love to dress up more but I have to balance paying for my kids after school club or doing my hair etc. I do the best with the little resources I have. I have come to realise the more I heal the more everything else comes into place. I am super proud of the work you do Chengi in helping people. I actually met you about 18 years ago at my friends house. You taught us how to wear make up. I always remembered you so elegant and beautiful. You are a beautiful soul. Keep up the good work my Dear.
Me too!! I didn't even know it. In some ways, my femininity is starting to re-emerge but I'm seeing how a lot of my behavior has been masculine. I also notice that when I am around very masculine men, I tend to naturally fall back. That's a positive but I definitely have some work to do.
Masculine energy is about survival. So if you are in survival mode (fight or flight mode aka traumatized) for whatever reason, you will have masculine energy. Sometimes women have no choice but to be in masculine energy for survival and then it just stuck and now she doesn’t know how to be otherwise. There’s a lot of healing and relearning that needs to happen in such cases. Masculine energy in women in modern times speaks of the broken social system.
Thanks for this video, I'm an empath by nature so I'm a caring and a "softie" person in nature. In our culture, being "caring" is a sign of weakness so I always try to suppress it. By discovering feminine energy, I discover that there is greatness in being feminine. Society told us that being feminine is weak without realizing that the world became a dark place because we lack the appreciation for this energy.
@Ana Mae Achacoso I have never been told being a woman or feminine was weak. Hmmm I can’t imagine how confusing that must have been. I didn’t feel I knew how to be a helper to a man since my dad had left when I was 5. I saw my friends focused on school and seemed to know all about life. I didn’t feel I knew anything yet I attracted guys who wanted to take care of me.
Ughhh...I used to be a girl that was sensitive,playful,loved wearing pretty clothes,makeup.I get emptional very easily.But due to certain life situations I became a total opposite..I became rigid,unemotional,so cold hearted .I acted tough.I stopped wearing pretty clothes.All I wore was some tshiet and same jeans all the time.I stopped enjoying parties with family and friends,I stopped living in the moment.I stopped doing crafts ,dancing, nurturing children.Omggg! I feel so exasperated with where I am.I got pcod.I think it is linked to me moving away from my feminine essence. God!! I used to be a girl that lived from her heart.But now I dont even what it means.I am always thinking and being logical.ughhhh!!!!
The thing is most of these self help videos alongside giving you those points which will make you feel like you mastered something when you clearly have not are also about making you feel bad about yourself because unless and until you did feel bad about yourself how would they sell their business to you
I think some of this comes down to trauma. Women who have been abused or mistreated may see being in the masculine energy as a way to protect themselves . They see the feminine woman as being weak, or someone that can be easily taken advantage of.
Balance is not contradicting. It’s their misconception and some have a toxic sense of what these energies are and look like. We all have both energies, they are not based on gender or gender identity. You being balanced is what we all should strive for ☯️
I think sometimes financial constraints causes a woman not to dress up as she wants to especially if she is a single mother in a low paying job. Every resource has to be spent on daily survival and providing for herself and children. Deep down every women likes to be and feel beautiful and pampered. Being in a masculine energy is not a choice but necessity. If she is cared for and nurtured then she can sit in her true nature.
indeed when a woman is cared for and cherished it is a lot easier but in the absence of someone doing so, she has to practise self care and self love. In terms of poverty as a reason I disagree, a pair of pants/trousers still costs money to buy and that same amount of money can buy a skirt too. You don't have to be rich to spend your money on items that you already need and opt for feminine choices instead.
When I was married I was able to be feminine. Like you I was raised to be masculine, but my dad & mom were abusive. I met someone who treated me like a lady when I was still a teenager. I got married at 18. For the first time in my life I got to feel like a lady. He opened my doors for me, bought me roses all the time. Unfortunately he also had a drinking problem, abuse became a problem not long afterwards, sexually, mentally & physically. So Mr charming was a ruse for his abuse. To say the least, I no longer felt safe to be my feminine self. Which only increased my need to protect not only myself but my children, especially after the marriage ended. I still dressed feminine, but felt the need to protect, just as I did my siblings growing up. I was the eldest child growing up. I found myself only getting worse with men as I got older, distancing myself from men. I went year's sometimes without dating or being in any kind of a relationship. 4 year's, 6 year's, 11 year's without one date at one point. After the 11 years I thought I was done for life, telling myself I liked being single, and I did. Then someone came along and pulled me out of my slumber. At that point I'd completely forgotten how to be around men. I can honestly say, I was scared to death to date this guy. It took him two months of texting me & calling to talk me into a date, we met on "letgo." Of all places to meet someone. Lol. I know I was stuck in masculine energy, the entire time. I fell hard for him. But it didn't last. I'm still stuck in masculine energy, probably worse than ever. I'm 48 now. I still attract men. But idk how to be with them. It's now been two year's, since the last guy. I suck at dating & relationships & don't even try anymore, I can't bring myself to try. I feel like I'm going to be single for the rest of my life at this rate. Fantasy feels better than reality. Plus, Idk if I dare to be feminine again around men, they scare me, it scares me. 😥
I was recently thinking about this Chengi. How my need to be ‘smarter’ might have impacted my decision making as pertains relationships. Thank you for shedding more light on it. I have already begun to work on that area of my psyche. I really love to listen to you, Chengi. I like when you use the phrase “...how you show up in the world...”. That phrase always rings in my head everyday because I want to show up as a quality person, not just to suitors but to myself, my friends, my family, in my career. I’m glad that I found your channel.
I REALLY appreciate this video. It has turned in a light and I feel you’re absolutely right about our minds and achievements are not all we are. And describing how a masculine woman behaves has showed me my mistakes. This is what I have been doing and I’m the back of my head I’ve always thought is it an internal or energy thing. Thank you so much because we often devalue what makes us women and that’s our feminine, nurturing nature. Love this! It is empowering to know I don’t have to prove my worth like a verbal resume but that i just need to have discernment, know what I want and sit back and listen. And sit in my woman energy.
Lol this is me although I still dress girly and like to look after myself with self care. I’m small and people think I’m cute but I have a masculine mindset and think logically most of the time. I detach myself from emotions and like to rationalise things
I love, love, love this video! I am so proud to be a feminine women and I really appreciate how you are celebrating us. God specifically designed women with specific traits and I hate how this feminist movement is making feminine, demure women come off as weak. There is nothing wrong with being pretty. There is nothing wrong with being inviting, warm or sweet. And there is nothing wrong with being submissive to a man that loves, respects, and honors your worth. Personally, I will cook, clean, massage, iron etc. for a masculine man who knows his purpose and treats me like a queen AND values everything that I bring to the table. I'm not sorry...lol And YES! Gender roles are a thing and it's ok to practice them.Let a GOOD man be a man because there is so, so much power in being a woman.
@Queen Charles: I do not understand what cleaning, cooking and ironing has to do with being feminine or not.🤔 These are house duties not masculine or feminine.
@@p_tiffanii You are right these are the roles that were assigned to women but that is not what we were created to do. Those roles can be fulfilled by both sexes not just the woman. I don’t see the man as my provider or protector. Again this role was given to the man and he was told that was his role. But again I don’t agree with this. Statistics show and man dead women know that a man did not PROTECT her. He ( her husband, boyfriend or father) caused her more pain than anyone and she needed protection from him. Many single moms on welfare know just how much a man has not provided for them. That’s why I again do not agree with tradition and all of these roles the world has assigned to the man and women. Women are more protectors and provider than most men. I believe God is my protector and provider. Just like Eve in the garden traded God in to have Adam over her. She told Adam he could be like God. Like God meant He was over the man and woman and now many women are paying the price for this decision. I choose God to be in the place of the man. Be blessed!
You know..I have tried to have feminine energy until I realized that there is no perfect shape that suits everyone..it depends on the circumstances that you have to deal with..I am dressing too girly, walk and talk like a traditional lady..but, my personality is full of masculine traits which I manifest them in a feminine way. There is no way to be that receptive, passive, follower woman in my current relationship. It will make my life worse. I had to take the lead and be the giver, leader, and protector..Now, I am enjoying my life with the achievements I do, the money I earn and the decision I make to reach my goals. I realized that men around me, especially the masculine, are abusive, controlling, exploiting, not even educated to live up to our standards..I am not going to wait for the man to man up for me..there is no time..I will do whatever I want and cover it with a feminine manner of doing things..not going to blame myself of being masculine just learn when to relax and reward myself with cool things from time to time.
I was totally in my feminine energy only to be slowly lead into masculine energy over the years by default then accused of having too much masculine energy! 🤔
Very interesting video, I give off a masculine vibe...that is why .my marriage did not worked...I was a more self assured, stronger emotionally, more charismatic "man" than my husband 😂 I know😇 looking back he must have felt terrible...Thank God is over! working on myself and changing so I could live most of the time in my feminine energy ...thank you C.💞🌻
I'm both masculine and feminine. I like wear makeup, trousers, jeans and trainers. I love feminity, but feel powerful acting in some situations masculine way. I prefer masculine men and elegant dressed women. Reason for that is my bi-sexuality.
The "stop leading with your brain part" got to me... because for as long as I can remember I've always identified myself as an intellectual and this was my clutch because I was not the prettiest in the room growing up nor was I the social butterfly... I was just shy, awkward and weird looking... so I developed some brains, worked on my knowledge... and people would at least say ooh she is so smart, and as I grew older worked on my looks and personality, self love and person development and I am atleast a whole package now. But still I'm not winning with men. I've realized that I show up in the world as this intellectual person, I start my conversation with deep concepts and insights... I do this with men I'm interested in, and naturally they start competing with me or get intimidated...and then repeal. I love that you mentioned this, cause I've noticed it on myself, it's a struggle to move differently cause for so long I've relied on my intellect as part of something that sets me off from the rest. Now I'm like, oh now what... how do I converse 😂
Converse from the heart. Know how you feel. Be curious about your feelings and enrol in the FEMININE MASTERY MASTERCLASS at blackswanrelationshipacademy.com
A lot of times, both men and women, will have issues with masculine/feminine when they’ve been sexually assaulted or physically/emotionally abused. In the case of a man it’s when they’ve been emasculated in some way, either by an alcoholic abusive father or a Boy Scout leader that molested them (it happens a lot.) With women it can be the same thing, where they’ve been sexually assaulted and then feeling protective of their bodies, so they decide not to be “attractive.” Also for woman it’s often a totally absent father that didn’t show up to protect them. So, they really have to fend for themselves. In both males and females it can also manifest as an eating disorder or gaining excessive amounts of weight to again ensure they won’t be attractive. It’s really important to take a much deeper look at why someone is being more masculine or feminine. It’s not always an easy thing to just change. Please be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time if you are dealing with this. If you’re wanting to be more feminine, I think you can still wear men’s pants and then also wear makeup and do your hair real pretty. You don’t have to go all the way feminine to bring in feminine energy.
Thats interesting about wearing something masculine but wearing makeup. I was watching Marie Anne Lecuorier (last name isnt right) about the French style. Wearing something feminine with something masculine.. well worth a look.
Everyone is a mixture of both. I personally like my man having feminine energy. Do my nails, cook my dinner & take great care of my babies. He's got more patience than me.
Selecting by hearing only is unwise and ignores many other senses. Select by using the following as a base: 1. Sight 2. Hearing 3. Energy * this is the most important. A man’s energy should never be ignored. It’s a trap and a ditch to use hearing only.
I’m very feminine presenting (even oestrogen dominant hormonally) but I’ve got a lot of natural and trauma based masculinity. Taking time to heal the trauma based stuff is a helping a lot. Ive has to go through anger therapy, learning to let go and allow people to help themselves rather than me stepping in. All these things were exhausting me. However my masculine qualities of organization, being outcomes based have really allowed me to hit my goals.I’m not at a place yet where I can trust men with my life. 😂 I’ve decided to accept that I have a lot of masculinity that has brought me to where I am and find very useful. 5:47 omg the cutting off hair is a very Southern African thing. If you were the smart girl in class you were almost masculinized.
Absolutely! I would focus on healing your trauma rather than deciding on being masculine. Being in dominant masculine energy is a health risk so you definitely do some healing work. Contact a coach in the academy
I’ve always wanted to wear and act feminine.But Every time I try to do so people around me put me down ,it just like I am forced to be and act as a masculine. Because my mom /sisters they all having it so When I want to break the cycle and use my feminine side and act as I like they always define it as weak,dependable on man,or if I try to wear dresses, skirt, wearing bright colours.they will define it as I am trying to attract attention/ or I want men validation .but deep down I am not ,it just what I enjoy to do .
i am learning alot😌 thank you. my masculine man also helps me to be feminine by communicating when i act masculine which i do and im learning to be feminine
High level of testosterone blocks estrogen receptors. Behavior can stimulate testosterone production like planing, taking actions, being competitive. So it is biologically sound
When I embraced & honed in on my femininity, life changed exponentially! I had success in my writing career and more suitors than I could count! It was raining men. Quality men who weren't trying to seduce me. What puzzles me is when I suggest being feminine to Christian, youtubers, SISTERS...they get offended with me. Now mind you, these women want to marry. They are bright and love God but they act like truck drivers. Then they get mad at ME. Why is that?
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Right you are, Chengi! They don't want to change, or don't think it's possible. It's a "take me as I am" mentality. God is always transforming us, so that's a futile and cynical stance. I'd love to email or talk briefly. You gave me your number, but that was over 4 years ago.
My masculine energy is strong. I thought I was very feminine but I’ve been told otherwise. However when I interface with masculine men my feminine side comes out more.
I disliked wearing dresses and skirts since elementary school. I do not wear dresses/skirts unless it is required@a formal event, a wedding, etc. I don't feel comfortable in dresses/skirts. I avoid them at all cost.
I don’t believe I fit the masculine energy buckets however I do hear from men that have masculine energy when I hold firm to a higher standard. It is not a combative energy but authoritative meaning i say what i mean and mean what i say. It is polite and sweet just not what they want to hear. What do you think?
@@kate7932 well defensive in an agressive is known as masculine but hey we girls neem some of those traits like confidence etc, not being agressive but defending yourself in a classy way, the one who doesn't care can be agressive to lol😜 I just meant the girly way
My grandma raised me and she was very feminine then I move to live with my mom and she is EXTREMELY masculine and that’s why we clashed because I’m not like her
Being raised a certain way and witnessing patterns of energy imbalance does not mean we have to subscribe to it. The experience of the black woman becoming the man she needs to be for her family is a generational curse that can be broken. Choosing to thrive in our feminine energy as well as our masculine is a choice. It is not based on the state of society. It is not based on men who exude excess feminine energy. It is YOUR choice. Decide to learn about feminine energy and engage in your natural balance ladies. Life opens up in miraculous ways when you decide to prioritize your balance.
So if they express interest but then are poor communicators and don’t really initiate dates , stay in feminine energy by just leaving them be even if y’all fall off ? Or can I at least express hey I’d want to hear from you more times throughout the week.. is that still feminine energy as long as I leave the rest up to him after I express my wants ? Like just don’t sound like I’m complaining .. then I’m good ? But should I even have to express that to a guy? If he’s not communicating much then he’s just not really that interested right ?
you talked about wardrobe and I thought....yeah I mostly wear like that cause I wanna be able to fight and then as you came to you next point I was like Yeah okay
I’m glad you see the light. I watched a video of you from 4 years ago and girl you spoke a bunch of bullshit justifying your masculine predominance. You led those in your comments and who viewed astray. Truth be told you should take it down. I applaud you sis. Also I offer a criticism to make you even better. Less hand movement relax while you speak let your words effect.
So I’m working on being more soft gentle and caring and he the same way. It’s kinda like we’re competing for who can be the more gentle caring and loving ...advice ?
Masculine men are gentle with the feminine but if you are saying he is more feminine than you and you do not like that then you will have to work on your language. I would download the feminine mastery masterclass from my website and start from there or book a call with me or my coaches
Don’t get me wrong , I love your content, However I’m from Kenya (an African country)... and education is not all there is here. There is so much more to life on this side.
What a wisdom filled video.👍 I've noticed that tattoos on women are becoming are the norm and its a major turn-off to high value men because it sends a masculine vibe. I wonder if you can do a video about the negative vibes that tattoos can send to a potential high value partner. Women with tattoos are becoming memes in 2020.
I dont understand... do we really need to change ourselves? Why not just let the feminine guys be with you if you are considered masculine? Wouldn’t you be happy for being who you are and attracting the right person?
You can if you can sustain masculine energy in a female body. Many women can start but eventually struggle to give, protect and cherish a man long term
If you're okay with a man not putting in enough effort and sitting around for you to do the work always then it's great. Go ahead with that if not then we know we need change
Always in boy shorts...defensive...impatient...pursuing the guy....saviour complex....not comfortable to receive information and listen.....dont lead with your accomplishments but rather your sweet loving side....highly competitive....very bossy and just want to have their way even when everyone is miserable...women who chooses with their eyes
i am musculine women....and i can carry my female body nicely...I have feminine energy for guiding me..dont live in illusion lady...coz society lives in illusion.. clear your illusion....and i love feminine man.... if feminine female expectation for money musculine man is right then...why..feminine man expectation for money musculine women is wrong...you are talking only based on body...but you know what ....there is no self...no male ...no female...no person... male and female its only a poster...energy can do anything in any body...you should better understand that in energy there is no gender...do homework well..... musculine and feminine these are two polarities baby...lives in one body..doesnt matter that what kind of body is that... you have both energy ....i have also both energy ...you have left side brain and right side brain... if you are female thats not mean you have only right brain... if somebody male thats not mean you have only left side brain... so please..break this illusion which is based on body... respect energies more...every body is made up of both energies....blv in oneness lady. separation is an illusion...
Most often black women are forced to act in our masculine energy. We have grown up watching our mothers be the strong black woman that she had to be! She had to work hard outside of the home, and take care of the family...cook, clean, and everything else and didn’t miss a beat while doing it.
Because of the breakdown of the black family, most black women are left single to raise the children by themselves, so she becomes the provider, the protector, and the harsh disciplinarian...all the things a man should be. Because of the masculine strength these boys have unfavorably seen in their mothers, many of our black men seek out the more feminine and softer white woman, who has to only be a wife and/or a mother...all she has to be is “feminine”. Where black women are left alone playing a dual role, white women are allowed to be exactly what they are, feminine, with men by their sides and in their proper role!
In my opinion, it all stems from slavery, where they beat the masculinity out of black men, and the black woman was forced to be strong...cooking, cleaning, working hard, and had to do it without complaint!
Without this strength, life couldn’t go on for my family. I would love to be just a wife or just a mom, and simply bask in my femininity, without having to always think about EVERYTHING... but I have no choice! Black women are often left single and by themselves for many, many years....to fend for themselves! It’s often not a choice! So masculine energy sometimes just comes with the territory...
💯 this is absolutely true of our mothers and even our generation but we now have the understanding of feminine energy and we can begin to practice femininity in our relationships even if we have to be masculine the rest of the time. If there was ever a woman who could pull this off like a show star I have no doubt it would be the black woman! 🦋
also, I am a wife and a mom (african american, married to a west african man)
unfortunately i was groomed as a child to be very "take charge" and "take life by the reins"
my husband came from a home full of sisters and I easily roll over him like a steamroller with my decision making prowess
im trying to reverse the roles if you will and be more feminine and let him take more of a leadership position, he is a good man and has the potential to be great but i think each of us needs marriage mentors and learn our roles...im tired of being a take charge masculina ...lol his friends even joke and call me"boss lady"
its just black american women are conditioned taught and made to take charge...its not my fault, and yes i had both mom and dad in my life, but my parents were divorced
Hang on.. Im a white Aussie born and raised woman. Im pretty sure Im masculine. Part of that is being in two practical cultures. (Aussie and German) Its a pretty screwed up mix from where I grew up. I grew up with the nazi thing that women are seen, not heard, yet my German traits meant I was naturally assertive. (I was scapegoated for a lot of what I am) I am simultaneously looking into the German culture to realize that women are naturally assertive there.. (got that from my father's side when I argued that respect goes both ways.. lets not get into that. Both of us were natural born leaders that butted heads) That and I have to take care of myself because up until now, Ive been wounded, (I hope things will change with the last parent passing and thats why Im watching these videos) no one has really been there for me and Ive never had a role model of "healthy fem/masc energy dynamic. Im just doing the best I can until someone tells me how to do things differently in relationships. (Im more than capable on my own.. I dont need a man, Id like to have one when Im ready)
Ive had to say no to a "feminine" black man because he has trauma in his past. Beautiful in himself but Im not prepared to chase him if he flakes on another date. To me thats not respectful of my time... (GROAN..!, german again)
I was told by one of my parents that every aussie woman has her own toolbox.. (maybe that was because I pinched too many of my father's as a preteen... in my defense.. making jewellery) I learned to change a tyre when I was pregnant. (Absolute MUST HAVE skill here in the vast expanses of Australia)
Im creative. Im leading myself with that. I am hoping that a masculine man sees my worth as a woman that wont fall apart without him. Im not much of a cook.. He's welcome to provide food.
@@Trex7124 I see through your post that sometimes regardless of race, it’s hard in the dating world for women who come across as confident, assertive, and have natural leadership qualities. Women develop these qualities for all sorts of reasons... but we indeed have them! I look every bit of feminine, but my personality is one that leads because my circumstances forced me to be that way.
I do believe however that the man for me has to be extremely masculine... of which I am very attracted to anyway. Feminine men aren’t even an option for me...I’m just not attracted to that type. I’m sure this has a lot to do with my personality. Your reply was very interesting to read and one that I can certainly relate to.
@@jaecreations8648 Exactly.. I guess we are both looking forward to a very masculine man that will take care of us and understand our masculinity long enough for us to let down our guard. I look forward to slipping into feminine energy when I know that I wont be hurt or blindsided. (I think a man would have to earn that vulnerability..) what do you think?
A truly masculine man will push a woman more into her feminine essence. I saw it happen with my mum. 😍
Absolutely incorrect! No man should have to push a women to be feminine. You SHOULD BE NATURALLY feminine at ALL TIMES.
I agree
A truly feminine woman will push a man more into his masculine essence. I saw it happen with my dad. 😍
Wow. Love that ❤️
I think it’s VERY important to exist within both energies & know how to manipulate them both to live your true best 👑
I always feel feminine women r usually the ones who r manipulated, cuz muscular women r direct.
@@camilkuo no…
Thoroughly agree with your standpoint , it 's crucial to know how to switch them to live our best lives as a feminine woman.
These things are not always straight forward. Some women have unresolved trauma, hurt and pain that cause them to manifest as masculine. I remember the singer Alicia Keys saying when she was a teenager she would dress herself in big baggy clothes to cover her figure because she didn't like the attention she received when she walked down the street and she thought covering up would repel the unwanted attention. Poverty plays a big part to, when people always have to fight up to survive. Unless we heal we won't be able to be comfortable in our feminine energy.
Absolutely and no one is saying that the genesis of masculine energy is often by choice and regardless of your story or trauma it is a choice to stay masculine energy once you know better
I guess what I am really trying to say is if we do all the external stuff without the inner work it doesn't work. I think when you heal everything else flows and ofcourse good mentoring helps. Some of us need to be tutored how to put on make up and combine clothing and choosing the right colours. You seem quite natural in those things but some of us have no clue and need to be taught. Like those ladies who end on on Clinton and Stacey What Not to Wear. Some people need the hand holding and resources are needed so we shouldn't beat ourselves up too much. I know me personally would love to dress up more but I have to balance paying for my kids after school club or doing my hair etc. I do the best with the little resources I have. I have come to realise the more I heal the more everything else comes into place.
I am super proud of the work you do Chengi in helping people.
I actually met you about 18 years ago at my friends house. You taught us how to wear make up. I always remembered you so elegant and beautiful. You are a beautiful soul. Keep up the good work my Dear.
Oh wow! I absolutely agree! Thank you for sharing. Gosh 18yrs ago is a long time. 💕
True
@@carineogundipe8206 Ive seen women who don't wear makeup or dress really girlie who are in feminine energy. Its the energy.
I dress super girly but give off masculine energy
Im beginning to think that way too
Me too!! I didn't even know it. In some ways, my femininity is starting to re-emerge but I'm seeing how a lot of my behavior has been masculine. I also notice that when I am around very masculine men, I tend to naturally fall back. That's a positive but I definitely have some work to do.
Your hot! Probably seem fierce?
Masculine energy is about survival. So if you are in survival mode (fight or flight mode aka traumatized) for whatever reason, you will have masculine energy. Sometimes women have no choice but to be in masculine energy for survival and then it just stuck and now she doesn’t know how to be otherwise. There’s a lot of healing and relearning that needs to happen in such cases. Masculine energy in women in modern times speaks of the broken social system.
Agreed ❤️
So true.
Thanks for this video, I'm an empath by nature so I'm a caring and a "softie" person in nature. In our culture, being "caring" is a sign of weakness so I always try to suppress it. By discovering feminine energy, I discover that there is greatness in being feminine. Society told us that being feminine is weak without realizing that the world became a dark place because we lack the appreciation for this energy.
Absolutely! ❤️
@Ana Mae Achacoso
I have never been told being a woman or feminine was weak.
Hmmm I can’t imagine how confusing that must have been.
I didn’t feel I knew how to be a helper to a man since my dad had left when I was 5.
I saw my friends focused on school and seemed to know all about life.
I didn’t feel I knew anything yet I attracted guys who wanted to take care of me.
People always talk about wanting to be an alpha. In nature "alphas" are caring! Just like Parents. So nothinh weak about it.
You are teaching the base on how to solve every relationship problem i ever had
Ughhh...I used to be a girl that was sensitive,playful,loved wearing pretty clothes,makeup.I get emptional very easily.But due to certain life situations I became a total opposite..I became rigid,unemotional,so cold hearted .I acted tough.I stopped wearing pretty clothes.All I wore was some tshiet and same jeans all the time.I stopped enjoying parties with family and friends,I stopped living in the moment.I stopped doing crafts ,dancing, nurturing children.Omggg! I feel so exasperated with where I am.I got pcod.I think it is linked to me moving away from my feminine essence. God!! I used to be a girl that lived from her heart.But now I dont even what it means.I am always thinking and being logical.ughhhh!!!!
Well I'm masculine but not offended. One exception is that I never choose with my eyes never but every other point stands.
I know Im masculine and Im not offended either.
The thing is most of these self help videos alongside giving you those points which will make you feel like you mastered something when you clearly have not are also about making you feel bad about yourself because unless and until you did feel bad about yourself how would they sell their business to you
I think some of this comes down to trauma. Women who have been abused or mistreated may see being in the masculine energy as a way to protect themselves . They see the feminine woman as being weak, or someone that can be easily taken advantage of.
I have NEVER felt so attacked in my life! But these are things I'm working on.
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I find myself balanced between masculine and feminine energy. I confuse a lot of people around me because I am contradicting. I live in both energies.
That's a blessing
that’s amazing.
That’s the best to be-you can maximize life that way!!!
Balance is not contradicting. It’s their misconception and some have a toxic sense of what these energies are and look like. We all have both energies, they are not based on gender or gender identity. You being balanced is what we all should strive for ☯️
I think sometimes financial constraints causes a woman not to dress up as she wants to especially if she is a single mother in a low paying job. Every resource has to be spent on daily survival and providing for herself and children. Deep down every women likes to be and feel beautiful and pampered. Being in a masculine energy is not a choice but necessity. If she is cared for and nurtured then she can sit in her true nature.
indeed when a woman is cared for and cherished it is a lot easier but in the absence of someone doing so, she has to practise self care and self love. In terms of poverty as a reason I disagree, a pair of pants/trousers still costs money to buy and that same amount of money can buy a skirt too. You don't have to be rich to spend your money on items that you already need and opt for feminine choices instead.
When I was married I was able to be feminine. Like you I was raised to be masculine, but my dad & mom were abusive. I met someone who treated me like a lady when I was still a teenager. I got married at 18.
For the first time in my life I got to feel like a lady. He opened my doors for me, bought me roses all the time. Unfortunately he also had a drinking problem, abuse became a problem not long afterwards, sexually, mentally & physically. So Mr charming was a ruse for his abuse. To say the least, I no longer felt safe to be my feminine self. Which only increased my need to protect not only myself but my children, especially after the marriage ended. I still dressed feminine, but felt the need to protect, just as I did my siblings growing up. I was the eldest child growing up. I found myself only getting worse with men as I got older, distancing myself from men.
I went year's sometimes without dating or being in any kind of a relationship. 4 year's, 6 year's, 11 year's without one date at one point. After the 11 years I thought I was done for life, telling myself I liked being single, and I did. Then someone came along and pulled me out of my slumber. At that point I'd completely forgotten how to be around men. I can honestly say, I was scared to death to date this guy. It took him two months of texting me & calling to talk me into a date, we met on "letgo."
Of all places to meet someone. Lol.
I know I was stuck in masculine energy, the entire time. I fell hard for him. But it didn't last. I'm still stuck in masculine energy, probably worse than ever. I'm 48 now.
I still attract men.
But idk how to be with them. It's now been two year's, since the last guy. I suck at dating & relationships & don't even try anymore, I can't bring myself to try.
I feel like I'm going to be single for the rest of my life at this rate. Fantasy feels better than reality.
Plus, Idk if I dare to be feminine again around men, they scare me, it scares me. 😥
I was recently thinking about this Chengi. How my need to be ‘smarter’ might have impacted my decision making as pertains relationships. Thank you for shedding more light on it. I have already begun to work on that area of my psyche.
I really love to listen to you, Chengi. I like when you use the phrase “...how you show up in the world...”. That phrase always rings in my head everyday because I want to show up as a quality person, not just to suitors but to myself, my friends, my family, in my career. I’m glad that I found your channel.
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I REALLY appreciate this video. It has turned in a light and I feel you’re absolutely right about our minds and achievements are not all we are. And describing how a masculine woman behaves has showed me my mistakes. This is what I have been doing and I’m the back of my head I’ve always thought is it an internal or energy thing. Thank you so much because we often devalue what makes us women and that’s our feminine, nurturing nature. Love this! It is empowering to know I don’t have to prove my worth like a verbal resume but that i just need to have discernment, know what I want and sit back and listen. And sit in my woman energy.
Lol this is me although I still dress girly and like to look after myself with self care. I’m small and people think I’m cute but I have a masculine mindset and think logically most of the time. I detach myself from emotions and like to rationalise things
Nothing wrong with that as long as you make room for yourself to grow in your feminine!!!
I love, love, love this video! I am so proud to be a feminine women and I really appreciate how you are celebrating us. God specifically designed women with specific traits and I hate how this feminist movement is making feminine, demure women come off as weak. There is nothing wrong with being pretty. There is nothing wrong with being inviting, warm or sweet. And there is nothing wrong with being submissive to a man that loves, respects, and honors your worth. Personally, I will cook, clean, massage, iron etc. for a masculine man who knows his purpose and treats me like a queen AND values everything that I bring to the table. I'm not sorry...lol And YES! Gender roles are a thing and it's ok to practice them.Let a GOOD man be a man because there is so, so much power in being a woman.
AMEN 🙏🏾
Teach me please!
@Queen Charles:
I do not understand what cleaning, cooking and ironing has to do with being feminine or not.🤔
These are house duties not masculine or feminine.
I couldn't agree more lady!!!@Queen Charles
@@p_tiffanii
You are right these are the roles that were assigned to women but that is not what we were created to do. Those roles can be fulfilled by both sexes not just the woman.
I don’t see the man as my provider or protector. Again this role was given to the man and he was told that was his role. But again I don’t agree with this.
Statistics show and man dead women know that a man did not PROTECT her. He ( her husband, boyfriend or father) caused her more pain than anyone and she needed protection from him.
Many single moms on welfare know just how much a man has not provided for them.
That’s why I again do not agree with tradition and all of these roles the world has assigned to the man and women.
Women are more protectors and provider than most men.
I believe God is my protector and provider.
Just like Eve in the garden traded God in to have Adam over her. She told Adam he could be like God. Like God meant He was over the man and woman and now many women are paying the price for this decision.
I choose God to be in the place of the man.
Be blessed!
God bless you for owning up. The why may not matter at all. But you've made clear that female shouldn't BEHAVE MASCULINE, & vice versa.
Thanks please for liking etc.
You know..I have tried to have feminine energy until I realized that there is no perfect shape that suits everyone..it depends on the circumstances that you have to deal with..I am dressing too girly, walk and talk like a traditional lady..but, my personality is full of masculine traits which I manifest them in a feminine way. There is no way to be that receptive, passive, follower woman in my current relationship. It will make my life worse. I had to take the lead and be the giver, leader, and protector..Now, I am enjoying my life with the achievements I do, the money I earn and the decision I make to reach my goals. I realized that men around me, especially the masculine, are abusive, controlling, exploiting, not even educated to live up to our standards..I am not going to wait for the man to man up for me..there is no time..I will do whatever I want and cover it with a feminine manner of doing things..not going to blame myself of being masculine just learn when to relax and reward myself with cool things from time to time.
Those men are feminine, they are not masculine men. They subconsciously know it so they overcompensate for it with toxicity.
Your decision.
I was totally in my feminine energy only to be slowly lead into masculine energy over the years by default then accused of having too much masculine energy! 🤔
Oh dear!
That makes two us
Very interesting video, I give off a masculine vibe...that is why .my marriage did not worked...I was a more self assured, stronger emotionally, more charismatic "man" than my husband 😂 I know😇 looking back he must have felt terrible...Thank God is over! working on myself and changing so I could live most of the time in my feminine energy
...thank you C.💞🌻
I'm both masculine and feminine. I like wear makeup, trousers, jeans and trainers. I love feminity, but feel powerful acting in some situations masculine way. I prefer masculine men and elegant dressed women.
Reason for that is my bi-sexuality.
@Best Peace not always. androgynous people are 50% masculine and 50% feminine. Thats basically thee definition of androgynous
The "stop leading with your brain part" got to me... because for as long as I can remember I've always identified myself as an intellectual and this was my clutch because I was not the prettiest in the room growing up nor was I the social butterfly... I was just shy, awkward and weird looking... so I developed some brains, worked on my knowledge... and people would at least say ooh she is so smart, and as I grew older worked on my looks and personality, self love and person development and I am atleast a whole package now. But still I'm not winning with men.
I've realized that I show up in the world as this intellectual person, I start my conversation with deep concepts and insights... I do this with men I'm interested in, and naturally they start competing with me or get intimidated...and then repeal.
I love that you mentioned this, cause I've noticed it on myself, it's a struggle to move differently cause for so long I've relied on my intellect as part of something that sets me off from the rest. Now I'm like, oh now what... how do I converse 😂
Converse from the heart. Know how you feel. Be curious about your feelings and enrol in the FEMININE MASTERY MASTERCLASS at blackswanrelationshipacademy.com
A lot of times, both men and women, will have issues with masculine/feminine when they’ve been sexually assaulted or physically/emotionally abused. In the case of a man it’s when they’ve been emasculated in some way, either by an alcoholic abusive father or a Boy Scout leader that molested them (it happens a lot.) With women it can be the same thing, where they’ve been sexually assaulted and then feeling protective of their bodies, so they decide not to be “attractive.” Also for woman it’s often a totally absent father that didn’t show up to protect them. So, they really have to fend for themselves. In both males and females it can also manifest as an eating disorder or gaining excessive amounts of weight to again ensure they won’t be attractive. It’s really important to take a much deeper look at why someone is being more masculine or feminine. It’s not always an easy thing to just change. Please be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time if you are dealing with this. If you’re wanting to be more feminine, I think you can still wear men’s pants and then also wear makeup and do your hair real pretty. You don’t have to go all the way feminine to bring in feminine energy.
Thats interesting about wearing something masculine but wearing makeup. I was watching Marie Anne Lecuorier (last name isnt right) about the French style. Wearing something feminine with something masculine.. well worth a look.
Loved your comment
You are very articulate and a elegant speaker.
Thank you 🙏🏾 ❤️💕
OMG!! I can relate 80% of this masculine energy in me.. Thanks for sharing!
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You are a life saviour. God bless you.
Everyone is a mixture of both. I personally like my man having feminine energy. Do my nails, cook my dinner & take great care of my babies. He's got more patience than me.
Here you are telling me that he is giving and cherishing. This is not feminine. This is a man who knows how to love a woman. Enjoy!🤗
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Very true! Thank you! Keep up the good work.
Enjoyed and learned from this video. I am letting go of me being competitive. Thanks for sharing beautiful 🎀🌸🤍
Father GOD please help me become more and more feminine. And to operate in my feminine energy. Thank you for the content on this video 🙏🏿🙇🏾♀️♥️
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Nothing wrong with embracing your masculine side, just get a soft caring man and there will be balance
Guilty of being impatient and wanting to speed up the pace. Gulity of feeling comfortable persuing
Selecting by hearing only is unwise and ignores many other senses. Select by using the following as a base:
1. Sight
2. Hearing
3. Energy * this is the most important. A man’s energy should never be ignored.
It’s a trap and a ditch to use hearing only.
I’m very feminine presenting (even oestrogen dominant hormonally) but I’ve got a lot of natural and trauma based masculinity. Taking time to heal the trauma based stuff is a helping a lot. Ive has to go through anger therapy, learning to let go and allow people to help themselves rather than me stepping in. All these things were exhausting me. However my masculine qualities of organization, being outcomes based have really allowed me to hit my goals.I’m not at a place yet where I can trust men with my life. 😂 I’ve decided to accept that I have a lot of masculinity that has brought me to where I am and find very useful. 5:47 omg the cutting off hair is a very Southern African thing. If you were the smart girl in class you were almost masculinized.
Absolutely! I would focus on healing your trauma rather than deciding on being masculine. Being in dominant masculine energy is a health risk so you definitely do some healing work. Contact a coach in the academy
I’ve always wanted to wear and act feminine.But Every time I try to do so people around me put me down ,it just like I am forced to be and act as a masculine. Because my mom /sisters they all having it so When I want to break the cycle and use my feminine side and act as I like they always define it as weak,dependable on man,or if I try to wear dresses, skirt, wearing bright colours.they will define it as I am trying to attract attention/ or I want men validation .but deep down I am not ,it just what I enjoy to do .
Keep doing it. They will have to get to the new you 🌸❤️
i am learning alot😌 thank you. my masculine man also helps me to be feminine by communicating when i act masculine which i do and im learning to be feminine
High level of testosterone blocks estrogen receptors. Behavior can stimulate testosterone production like planing, taking actions, being competitive. So it is biologically sound
Uh oh...I do too many of these things!!😣
So insightful! 💕
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When I embraced & honed in on my femininity, life changed exponentially! I had success in my writing career and more suitors than I could count! It was raining men. Quality men who weren't trying to seduce me. What puzzles me is when I suggest being feminine to Christian, youtubers, SISTERS...they get offended with me. Now mind you, these women want to marry. They are bright and love God but they act like truck drivers. Then they get mad at ME. Why is that?
Not everyone is ready for the journey. Too many wounds.
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Right you are, Chengi! They don't want to change, or don't think it's possible. It's a "take me as I am" mentality. God is always transforming us, so that's a futile and cynical stance. I'd love to email or talk briefly. You gave me your number, but that was over 4 years ago.
Wow, wow and more.. Incredible video Chengi!
This video was definitely helpful for me.
I'm so glad for you! 😉
That DEEP RED POT ! Lottts of Capricorn Root Chakra Energy I Wish I Had .
I'm almost everything described here. Not offended but feel like there's no way to change.
You don’t need to change. You simply need to grow your femininity and pursue balance. Join the Nation
I'm watching this now, from South Africa'🇿🇦, I remember our black hair was too be cut, while the other races kept they hair
My masculine energy is strong. I thought I was very feminine but I’ve been told otherwise. However when I interface with masculine men my feminine side comes out more.
I'm working on my Feminine side, cause I'm a whole a** ninja out here in these streets 😂🤣
A thousand likes for this video.
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Triggered af 😩😭
sending you hugs
I know Ads are a part of how you earn from YT but they're overwhelming....it's hard to follow when so many ads are interjecting every few sentences
Unfortunately I have no control over how many UA-cam chooses but I have Premium so I don’t see ads. Perhaps upgrade your account?
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy ok....I didn't know about that option. Thanks, will definitely check it out.
I disliked wearing dresses and skirts since elementary school. I do not wear dresses/skirts unless it is required@a formal event, a wedding, etc. I don't feel comfortable in dresses/skirts. I avoid them at all cost.
This is because you do not practice vulnerability.
Thank you Sister Chengi. Invaluable insights
I don’t believe I fit the masculine energy buckets however I do hear from men that have masculine energy when I hold firm to a higher standard. It is not a combative energy but authoritative meaning i say what i mean and mean what i say. It is polite and sweet just not what they want to hear. What do you think?
It's ok to be like that...
You can be feminine and straightforward but sweet
uhg im a bit masculine.
Stay Bless, Thank you so much!!
What if you like to be stylish and are feminine with the look and creative but also combactive, impatient and defensive.. which energy is that then?
narcissistic.
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy why? I didn’t know narcissists were stylish 😜
@@kate7932 to me it's not really narcissistic idk, but yeah a bit masculine energy too
@@se.i.4393 I would say it’s both masculine and feminine energy
@@kate7932 well defensive in an agressive is known as masculine but hey we girls neem some of those traits like confidence etc, not being agressive but defending yourself in a classy way, the one who doesn't care can be agressive to lol😜 I just meant the girly way
What if people are in a homosexual relationship? Does it has to be a feminine energy and masculine energy?
Guy watching this and....thanks! Helped me understand some things.
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My grandma raised me and she was very feminine then I move to live with my mom and she is EXTREMELY masculine and that’s why we clashed because I’m not like her
If you are clashing it’s because you are more like her than you realize or know.
@@queendove6376 😂 never she’s angry, jealous and bitter I hope she stops that behavior
@@Rasheens-Story
Gotcha!
My bad.
You are absolutely amazing! This was great!
Good teaching
Thanks and you’re welcome 😉
Thank you so much for opening my eyes
Very good video
Makes alot of sense
Was trying to win a guy
And came off way to masculine
Really painful
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Thank you
Taking notes 😘
Being raised a certain way and witnessing patterns of energy imbalance does not mean we have to subscribe to it. The experience of the black woman becoming the man she needs to be for her family is a generational curse that can be broken. Choosing to thrive in our feminine energy as well as our masculine is a choice. It is not based on the state of society. It is not based on men who exude excess feminine energy. It is YOUR choice. Decide to learn about feminine energy and engage in your natural balance ladies. Life opens up in miraculous ways when you decide to prioritize your balance.
May I ask, if women are naturally masculine, do they just need to be at peace with feminine men?
That’s important that they do that as a relationship needs polarity.
What if you have more masculine energy as a female , but you still enjoy nurturing others?
I think thats the energy needed to be a great nurse.
Omg...I heard everything you said...hw do we fix it?
You can start by education and enrolling in the feminine mastery masterclass at blackswanrelationshipacademy.com 💋
So if they express interest but then are poor communicators and don’t really initiate dates , stay in feminine energy by just leaving them be even if y’all fall off ? Or can I at least express hey I’d want to hear from you more times throughout the week.. is that still feminine energy as long as I leave the rest up to him after I express my wants ? Like just don’t sound like I’m complaining .. then I’m good ? But should I even have to express that to a guy? If he’s not communicating much then he’s just not really that interested right ?
Always ask for your needs to be met then decide if he is invested based on his willingness to respond
Good Advice!!!
all true points
you talked about wardrobe and I thought....yeah I mostly wear like that cause I wanna be able to fight and then as you came to you next point I was like Yeah okay
Glad you got it 🌸
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy falling into the feminine energy gives me a lot of anxieties...it's so hard to do
I’m glad you see the light. I watched a video of you from 4 years ago and girl you spoke a bunch of bullshit justifying your masculine predominance. You led those in your comments and who viewed astray. Truth be told you should take it down. I applaud you sis. Also I offer a criticism to make you even better. Less hand movement relax while you speak let your words effect.
So I’m working on being more soft gentle and caring and he the same way. It’s kinda like we’re competing for who can be the more gentle caring and loving ...advice ?
Masculine men are gentle with the feminine but if you are saying he is more feminine than you and you do not like that then you will have to work on your language. I would download the feminine mastery masterclass from my website and start from there or book a call with me or my coaches
Thank you.
You are amazing!! Thanks
Don’t get me wrong , I love your content, However I’m from Kenya (an African country)... and education is not all there is here. There is so much more to life on this side.
Good to hear! 😘
This was dope!
sooo yeahhh I'm a masculine women XD.
Thank you💕
Hi Chengi.
Hey girl
Feeling a little embarrassed that I meet ALL the traits of a female with masculine energy 🙈 lol
Don’t be. Just bring balance
Don't be embarrassed, I think they're all wonderful traits ♥
Ok ..I am a guy in a dress 😂
Yikes, im a masculine woman. I need help. 😆
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What a wisdom filled video.👍 I've noticed that tattoos on women are becoming are the norm and its a major turn-off to high value men because it sends a masculine vibe. I wonder if you can do a video about the negative vibes that tattoos can send to a potential high value partner. Women with tattoos are becoming memes in 2020.
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🤔 not sure about this.
Efforts a very much appreciated but try getting to the points in a straight line. 🤷🏾♂️
She did. It was great!
I dont understand... do we really need to change ourselves? Why not just let the feminine guys be with you if you are considered masculine? Wouldn’t you be happy for being who you are and attracting the right person?
You can if you can sustain masculine energy in a female body. Many women can start but eventually struggle to give, protect and cherish a man long term
If you're okay with a man not putting in enough effort and sitting around for you to do the work always then it's great. Go ahead with that if not then we know we need change
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Que mentira Ma. Fel... DIOS SANTO... Cómo se la pueden creer que es así!!!.. como???..
With all due respect, this persona feels made up. Not getting a genuine vibe from u hon. It would b interesting to see u as u are.
Haha oh dear. Perhaps move on to a genuine channel hon 🤔
Always in boy shorts...defensive...impatient...pursuing the guy....saviour complex....not comfortable to receive information and listen.....dont lead with your accomplishments but rather your sweet loving side....highly competitive....very bossy and just want to have their way even when everyone is miserable...women who chooses with their eyes
i am musculine women....and i can carry my female body nicely...I have feminine energy for guiding me..dont live in illusion lady...coz society lives in illusion..
clear your illusion....and i love feminine man....
if feminine female expectation for money musculine man is right then...why..feminine man expectation for money musculine women is wrong...you are talking only based on body...but you know what ....there is no self...no male ...no female...no person...
male and female its only a poster...energy can do anything in any body...you should better understand that
in energy there is no gender...do homework well.....
musculine and feminine these are two polarities baby...lives in one body..doesnt matter that what kind of body is that...
you have both energy ....i have also both energy
...you have left side brain and right side brain...
if you are female thats not mean you have only right brain...
if somebody male thats not mean you have only left side brain...
so please..break this illusion which is based on body...
respect energies more...every body is made up of both energies....blv in oneness lady.
separation is an illusion...
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