I am just seeing this now 11/7/23. I am 8yrs divorced now after 43yrs married and he's still trying to be a constant controlling manipulator of my life. But now he's dying of cancer. I have NOT gone out or dated anyone since being divorced because I NEEDED time to heal and process things myself. But feeling somewhat better 3 yrs ago I began to start watching and collecting dating videos since I had no personal experience since I was 17. I only recently found your YT channel. I have watched other dating channels speak of this "Giving men space and the importance of it"....BUT....NONE of them seemed to strike a chord in the way that yours just did. I'm not sure if it's the way that you explained it using examples as others have or maybe it was the right time for it to resonate with me. I am soon to be 69 and this dating stuff is so much more complicated then it was years ago!!! I honestly believe there's too much technology in our lives today that make relationships so much more difficult!!! I am currently in a type of relationship as of 6 months now. Long distance I might add. He reached out to me through classmates in 2018 and we would message 1 or 2 times a yr. until this past May. We have been reacquainting each other after 53 yrs apart since we dated steady for 7 months in high-school. We were each others first loves back then. So this has been fun and exciting for both of us. Challenging since we are 1000 miles apart and neither of us on social media. What i find interesting in the videos I watch I asked myself if the information that is being presented resonates just for a specific age group OR if the message resonates across the board... meaning, is the information timeles??? THANK YOU 💞 😊
1. Gives them space to process and think 2. It shows that you have a secure attachment style 3. It gives them space to miss you 4. It can make him wonder if you're really that into him or not 5. It allows them to be able to chase you
Yes, I met my husband on a recon trip to Houston, my hometown, to see if I wanted to move home to raise my 7yo daughter. I attended a singles group at a church with a friend and met him there. I was going to be there just two weeks looking at real estate, applying for jobs etc. He asked me out immediately. I told him I was unsure whether I would relocate or not, bec I had an excellent job in Chicago,asst dir of a state agency. My daughter was with my parents. He said he didnt want children...I said well I have my daughter, but am not wanting MORE children. He spent every moment with me he could and I could during that trip. I FOUND A JOB AND A PROPERTY....told him I was going to turn in my resignation when went back to Chicago, but that I planned to date once I returned ...he was already dating other women in the church singles group when I met him. I meant it too, being a psychologist I knew I didnt want to exclude other options having been widowed only a year and was just getting into dating. His divorce was final the night we met! Too soon for a committed relationship for EITHER of us, we both said. When I returned to Houston he had told the women he had been dating that he had met someone special and was going to be exclusive, butmhe didnt tell me! When I arrived we saw only each other, but kept saying to each other, I am going to,date other people...we just never did. For a year he kept his apartment and finally after that year, we both admitted neither of us had any interest in ever seeing anyone else. That was 40 yrs ago! NONE of this was a game to either of us, there was no conscious strategy involved...we BOTH kept thinking, this is too good to last, we are in the first year of a relationship and the hormones are going to lighten up so we will see....well, we have seen. The happiest day of my life was the day I met this treasure of a man. Sybil Francis, BA, MA, PH.D. Northwestern University, academic, clinical and research psychologist, professor of psychology, retired.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Idk. I think women can learn from these type of videos. I think we should learn to slow down, stop looking for someone to validate us or make us feel whole and complete. And stop trying to date in the way that we were taught to date in the past. It will not hurt to pull away from someone and focus on becoming a better version of yourself. You will either end up with the guy that you wanted to be with initially, or you will end up being with someone else. But at least you took some time for yourself. We have been taught that a man will love us if we are nice, and give and give of ourselves without honoring ourselves in return. When that is simply not the case. Fast, pray, seek God's face, and take sometime alone. Pulling away from that man for a bit is not going to hurt anything. If is meant to be, it will happen in God's timing.
Women also need space to think and remember to keep her independence. Never forget yourself and what YOU are all about. Otherwise you’ll lose your identity.
Keywords here are IF they're in a committed relationship. A lot of these men are not in committed relationships and they pull away in the dating phases. This is what depresses people and the more space we give them, sometimes we'll find out later on down the road that they're actually seeing somebody else!
Brody here, yes and good point Natalie! Although I wouldn't say that you need to be in a committed relationship, the key is that he already has to have SOME emotional attachment to you for these to be really effective
The dating phase is new fragile. Non exculsivity means you should always in my 2 cents be dating others or reserve becoming overly involved. Hes dating others so should you be. Women are to be secure/ fulfilled on own full lives, he will Invest /chase but until then give space
That's why it's very important to really take your time before you are sexually intimate with somebody. Because once a woman's cross that line she's hooked. There's no other way to say it. And then all of a sudden she's feeling needy and out of control because she doesn't have a secure foundation in the relationship.
I've been in relationships that I'm the one that needed space. Having someone be so incredibly attached that they never leave you to your own space can cause women to pull away too.
When a woman is married to a narcissist , she is not loved or respected . So take this man’s advice on how to attract the right man, otherwise you will end up with a very unhappy life.
@@pamelakapke62 It does get thrown around a lot especially when guys manipulate women to get them into the bedroom then ghost them .These guys often get called narcissists when they are players .- Girls can also be players but are called narcissists when they are not .I know a lady who is married to a true narcissist and he has been diagnosed with NPD .He is very abusive and has threatened to kill her .He lacks empathy too .She is setting herself up to leave him.I just hope that people will see the red flags before it is too late.
I agree with you Pamela. It takes 2. Women have been speaking "victims" for so long and fail to see themselves as part of the problem! Putting up with poor behavior doesn't help!
Women really should just be themselves and find a man who appreciates and respects them for it! I’m usually the one who needs lots of space so I match best with men who also needs space but there are plenty of men who need more attention and should find a women who also needs lots of attention.. just be yourself and find someone who is compatible! Not that complicated..
Hi, Brody here and yes in a perfect world that would be great, unfortunately with attachment style the anxious are generally attracted the the avoidant ones and disregard the other anxious men and vice versa. Healing those attachment styles through practicing a lot of the keys in the vid can start to help with at but it needs to come from a deep level of healing as well so that you can then just BE secure. So yes, be yourself but do the work first! We have a lot of vids on that and more coming as well to help with that healing too :)
It is very complicated. It’s not easy to find good man now a days. If he’s not pulling away, then he will have other issues that’s also hard to deal with. Few years ago I was with a man 6 years who didn’t pull away but he has other self esteem issues. He was too feminine, lazy and didn’t put effort when we saw each other. You will never find a perfect man🙂
This showed up in my feed at the perfect time. The guy that I have been seeing has been distant for about two weeks very suddenly. He went from calling me every night to barely even texting me. I have attachment issues from previous relationships and I needed to see this video to remind me that it isn’t always about him being uninterested or suddenly not in love with me anymore.
I loved a navy man.. waited for him to return. During his travel,our chats was scarce, our talks was little, he always assured me that he loved me, and i promised i will wait for his return since we wanted to marry. Whenbhe returned, he disappeared.didnt come to say hello to me, and told me not to mention any talk about marriage during his stay.in the beginning i understood it is space he needs , but i was hurt.especially that i would see hom on line ,but didnt reply my messege for days-last thing i did,is that i sent him a message telling him i have enough pain in my life,and i too decided to quit since i cant tolerate more pain. I still love him-but i dont see this space thing is an indication of a healthy relationship!! I dont even think he would return back to me. I think when he asked for space,it was a chic way to quit. Not giving a woman the care and emotional support of being loved,that feelingvof warmth in a relation ship-is simply brutal and hurts us women greatly!
I interpreted the need for space as not being so clingy, not him putting the relationship on hold. Thats just him looking for something better. I'm very introverted and need moments to myself to think and assess my feelings. I believe that's what he means. I'm not going to leave my man or move out, I will just go read, cook or sew by myself. I've been this way since I was a kid so I understand the need for space. Completely ignoring loved ones or checking out of a relationship is just cruel, its NOT a part of needing space, believe me. That guy used that as an excuse to try and find someone he thinks is better.
Great video. Robert Greene’s book “Art of seduction “ is a fabulous book. You have to mix pleasure with pain. It’s important! Great breakdown! Ladies. Learn not to be masculine! Let men chase. Be feminine!
He Raquel, Brody here. Yes I LOVE that book. That used to be like my bible when I was in my early 20s. I always say masculine & feminine polarity is the only thing that creates long lasting chemistry, passion & attraction
I have to ask a question here, I mean if you want to not be attached to someone why have a partner at all, I understand having our own lives but isn’t it the whole purpose of having a partner to share your life together. ? Otherwise why have a marriage or a relationship, if you are in a committed relationship with someone if you aren’t some way attached to your lives together. 🤔
U can Need someone who U love ❤️ without attachment or unhealthy attachment. So yes U can need them & I think we all want to be needed by those we love ❤️ 😊
When I was growing up I heard the common cliches that woman are crazy and difficult and don’t know what they want.. that is the furthest from the truth. Men are super complex and have serious commitment and integrity issues
This has been the most powerful video I have watched ever. And I watch a lot of videos. If I had only seen this 30 years ago. Now I know so much more. You have no idea what I have been living through my entire adult life
Oh my gosh, you have explained this so well! This is honestly such a great video! Thank you for sharing! I love the part where you said that there cannot be two people playing in the masculine role!
He went on vacation with his friends and I told him to go have fun and not worry about me. Now he's been texting me the whole time telling me how much he loves me haha
I have a little chihuahua, hobbies, friends, family, and a workout routine that make my life full. I love my boyfriend and cherish our time together. I don’t want to lose myself.
I am always ready to give him space. But I also tried the other way. He gets anxious and starts going in spirals when he has to take an important action/decision regarding me. And gives me tantrums saying he needs space. I told him I'm not giving him space for going around in circles and waste time. And he corrected his course. 😅
This was the best video I've seen thus far. I've watched a few videos on here and most of them are giving false hope instead of breaking it down the way you have. This is so appreciated and those book recommendations your wife has read would be even more appreciated🤣
You don’t give to get true love is unconditional ❤️ it’s acceptance and appreciation understand and being vulnerable trusting not just you boyfriend but you have to trust yourself and you have to know how to fill yourself up and make yourself happy it starts with love yourself everyday because I love myself I can give and receive love
Awesome. Great stuff. This is the first vid I've watched on your channel. This is really good advice. Men are just as much perpetrators of the codependent behaviors. A lot of my male friends have trouble understanding my attraction to women that are kind of not stuck to my side all the time, but I actually prefer space. Thanks.
I love this! I am experiencing this love distance relationship it so much true love.i am never think about love or being together in life,but one day my day is coming chasing me he wants to live with me and move in with me forever.i was wow!! I love that feeling my love is true,we love each other more and more over and over again.this is so true.love urself. That enough.👍👍👍
So I was the "Queen " if you will in my last relationship, but he was the clingy one. I even told him at one point I like to miss you. So when i do spend time with him it's always exciting. He always wanted me around 24/7 and when I was around I needed to be touching him or right by him. Anyways, getting to almost a year of dating, I wanted him to understand i really did love him, i just don't have a clingy personality. He ended up cheating on me with just some random chick at his work. So I left him for that. After that whole ordeal, he said it was my fault for why he cheated, but I was good in our relationship, never anxious, or needy like him. He still tried to get back with me, but I found out he's still talking with her, so I'm definitely not taking that back. It was exhausting being with somebody so needy, and he did have a wandering eye as well for any girl that walked by.
Hi there, Brody here and good job walking away! Yes he sounds like he has a lot of work needed to do on himself before he's ready for a serious committed relationship
Anybody that uses their partner as their excuse for why they cheated is full of garbage! it's absolutely garbage! They have a lot of growing up to do. They did what they wanted to do. And didn't have the emotional maturity to talk about what needs were not being met or negotiate for better terms in a relationship.
Ok the hanging out part is true 🤣🤣 also I always say you have no time for me but he never say anything but he have his days to ask what I'm doing so you are right I give him space and when we come together we have a great time but don't know if he wants a realationship so I'm not going to ask him
Thank you for this v.timely and accurate info. Self love, which you talk about, is the key to a woman really being the high value woman that she is but for whatever reason may have gone into hibernation - I love your bear analogy. If those women can rediscover their 'HV', they will as you say have men chasing them whether they want it or not. And, keep it authentic ( you said that too 😂) so that you keep up the momentum. Thank you again. 🙏
Ok , so my husband and I have been together 4 years. Just recently he’s done this. He’s currently not home with me and his family. He told me he loves me but he doesn’t think he’s in love with me anymore. But he comes here and we kiss and act like a normal couple when he’s here. At first I encouraged him to take that time for himself, it’s been a month now. I still in my gut tells me he still loves me and he’s still the one.
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Yes you are right I wait mostly him to text me I don't text him all the time also he go out of time often I don't want to try to say why but he tells me the reason and I say ok .yes I really like I was telling him that I like him I don't ask him for much he is wealthy I don't want him to think I just want his money so what do I do about that he tell me how is single so I give him his space I just don't want to get hurt advice please
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I have a question for you. I have been in a distant relationship for 18 mths now & am aware of him following & liking VERY young females on FB. We are both 73yrs old & it's complicated as to why he hasn't made the move to meet me in person yet. He is very regular with communicating every fay, thru to our gnite messages & says he loves me on a daily basis. Do I approach him about his activities on FB now or leave it until he is with me & confront him then... Am really hurt by what I've seen...
@@MagnetizeYourMan thank you miss antia and mr Brody tumbs to u guys peace and blessings to you both and god shine is light on the two of u and angels and universe surround the both of u 🙏
If my boyfriend can’t give what I need because he is at work or busy with something important I can give it to myself I can meet my needs I know my boyfriend loves me there are so many wonderful things I can do for me so I can be a better person every day by working on myself spending time with God meditating working out hanging out with my friends or family shopping hiking with kids listening to music cleaning reading journaling hanging out with cats or watch movies thanks so much ❤️
This is actually sad that men don’t know how to just love and be loved we gotta employ all this technique which at that point I don’t want it because it didn’t come from him
I just finished reading your ebook Trigger His Desire! Great read but I was wondering if I can undo or correct the mistakes I made with a guy I'm dating and turn things around based on your tips? Where should I start?
That's great to hear Rosegold and Congratulations on picking up the materials! :) The best way to correct a mistake in our experience is to do the correct things moving forward. The corrections you'd need to make depend on what your situation is with him currently and what mistakes were made. I'd recommend posting your question in our free private dating support group to hear more and help with that there! MYMFBGroup.com Coaching for your specific situation with Antia can also help :)
Ok... I wanted to say I need my space as well just as much as him but,how about when they haven't communicated in a week ..I tolded him that I shouldn't give so much energy into a person who can literally go a whole week without saying hey hi or how are you doing is that asking to much of him ,???
Hi Tina, and yes that can be tough. To get more clarity with that I'd highly recommend taking our new FREE "Magnetize Your Man" Quiz for custom gifts to help you if you haven't already here! 👉 MYMQuiz.com
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Hi guys. Thank you for this video it’s popped up on my recommended. I LOVE everything you say and it resonates with how I believe we should be in relationship. In my last relationship this worked so well and we had a lovely time. Then I found out his ‘best friend’ is his ex and he spends time with her in her home ‘just as friends’. I tried to accept this believing that we should love and accept people as they are. However after a few months I decided it just wasn’t for me as it makes me feel so uncomfortable and he said he won’t stop as he’s not doing anything wrong as they are just friends. I had to respect myself and with kindness, explained why I can’t be in the relationship and walked away as that was me holding to my standards. My question to you is - are they now friends because they drifted into friendship because of codependency? He is now keeping in touch with me and I’m not convinced this is a good sign! I’m being friendly but ignoring the requests for social distance walks as that just makes me codependent in my view or not helping him with what surely must be attachment issues? I’d appreciate your thoughts 😊
Hi Sharon, Brody here and I think you're doing the right things! Time to meet other high-quality men who don't need to spend hours each week with their other single girl "friend"
@@MagnetizeYourMan I am so grateful for your guidance and support! She has a boyfriend of about a year now but I do still think it shows a codependency of some sort. I look forward to more videos now I am subscribed and I look forward to reading your book! Happy New Year xx
My partner requires space and often. He has told me he needs space to miss me. We live 2 hrs away from each other and do not talk on the phone much. I try to text often and initiate to maintain connection. This past December 2020, we saw each other 2x and we almost didn’t see each other near X-Mas. What’s irritating 😠 to me is when he does come around, I DO NOT FEEL CLOSE TO HIM! How does one feel connected to someone if they require so much damn space!? He comes back and, wants, as he puts it “to get lost in sex with me” Really?! He’s like a stranger! To me, if you’re outta sight, you’re outta my mind. All that space makes me get used to living w/o him in my life. I’m disgusted right now.
Okay well let's look at this. Maybe what you're disgusted with is what you've allowed yourself to accept. you went along with the program. That's an awareness not a judgment. What matters is what you want now. It's very obvious this Arrangement is no longer working for you. So it's your responsibility to tell your partner that it's no longer working for you in a kind and respectful way. Before you tell them how you're feeling you need to know what you do want. Because you are either going to be negotiating for a different Arrangement or terminating the relationship. Obviously it's working okay for him. So don't be too surprised if your change of wants or needs may have him saying he doesn't want what you want. It's good to come to the point were you know that you need, want or deserve something more or different. I wish you and all who read this the very best!
Laura Barber Yes disgusted one myself and him for lying to me in the beginning (love bombing me, talk about marriage when things got more serious) when his behavior changed to the above, I told him that he is not making efforts in the relationship and I feel he has fallen out of love. He “tried” to change, told me I’m the woman of his dreams etc. and didnt change anything. He is now blocked. Thank you for your response.
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thanks big tym
I am just seeing this now 11/7/23.
I am 8yrs divorced now after 43yrs married and he's still trying to be a constant controlling manipulator of my life. But now he's dying of cancer. I have NOT gone out or dated anyone since being divorced because I NEEDED time to heal and process things myself.
But feeling somewhat better 3 yrs ago I began to start watching and collecting dating videos since I had no personal experience since I was 17. I only recently found your YT channel. I have watched other dating channels speak of this "Giving men space and the importance of it"....BUT....NONE of them seemed to strike a chord in the way that yours just did. I'm not sure if it's the way that you explained it using examples as others have or maybe it was the right time for it to resonate with me.
I am soon to be 69 and this dating stuff is so much more complicated then it was years ago!!! I honestly believe there's too much technology in our lives today that make relationships so much more difficult!!! I am currently in a type of relationship as of 6 months now. Long distance I might add. He reached out to me through classmates in 2018 and we would message 1 or 2 times a yr. until this past May. We have been reacquainting each other after 53 yrs apart since we dated steady for 7 months in high-school. We were each others first loves back then. So this has been fun and exciting for both of us. Challenging since we are 1000 miles apart and neither of us on social media.
What i find interesting in the videos I watch I asked myself if the information that is being presented resonates just for a specific age group OR if the message resonates across the board... meaning, is the information timeles???
THANK YOU 💞 😊
1. Gives them space to process and think
2. It shows that you have a secure attachment style
3. It gives them space to miss you
4. It can make him wonder if you're really that into him or not
5. It allows them to be able to chase you
Thanks for sharing. These are pretty good points. Have a blessed day.
Ty nice happy new year
Yes, I met my husband on a recon trip to Houston, my hometown, to see if I wanted to move home to raise my 7yo daughter. I attended a singles group at a church with a friend and met him there. I was going to be there just two weeks looking at real estate, applying for jobs etc. He asked me out immediately. I told him I was unsure whether I would relocate or not, bec I had an excellent job in Chicago,asst dir of a state agency. My daughter was with my parents. He said he didnt want children...I said well I have my daughter, but am not wanting MORE children. He spent every moment with me he could and I could during that trip. I FOUND A JOB AND A PROPERTY....told him I was going to turn in my resignation when went back to Chicago, but that I planned to date once I returned ...he was already dating other women in the church singles group when I met him. I meant it too, being a psychologist I knew I didnt want to exclude other options having been widowed only a year and was just getting into dating. His divorce was final the night we met! Too soon for a committed relationship for EITHER of us, we both said. When I returned to Houston he had told the women he had been dating that he had met someone special and was going to be exclusive, butmhe didnt tell me! When I arrived we saw only each other, but kept saying to each other, I am going to,date other people...we just never did. For a year he kept his apartment and finally after that year, we both admitted neither of us had any interest in ever seeing anyone else. That was 40 yrs ago! NONE of this was a game to either of us, there was no conscious strategy involved...we BOTH kept thinking, this is too good to last, we are in the first year of a relationship and the hormones are going to lighten up so we will see....well, we have seen. The happiest day of my life was the day I met this treasure of a man. Sybil Francis, BA, MA, PH.D. Northwestern University, academic, clinical and research psychologist, professor of psychology, retired.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Thank you 🙏
Idk. I think women can learn from these type of videos. I think we should learn to slow down, stop looking for someone to validate us or make us feel whole and complete. And stop trying to date in the way that we were taught to date in the past. It will not hurt to pull away from someone and focus on becoming a better version of yourself. You will either end up with the guy that you wanted to be with initially, or you will end up being with someone else. But at least you took some time for yourself. We have been taught that a man will love us if we are nice, and give and give of ourselves without honoring ourselves in return. When that is simply not the case. Fast, pray, seek God's face, and take sometime alone. Pulling away from that man for a bit is not going to hurt anything. If is meant to be, it will happen in God's timing.
Brody here. Bingo and thanks for sharing Ladenna! :)
I think women can learn from these type of videos too It seems he wants to do all the taking and not the giving
Brilliantly stated!!
Beautifully stated 👏
This man talks about being sexually attracted to children. You people are disgusting.
Mature , secure, individuals understand and respect each other's space. Women need their space respected too, don't you think.
Yes, for sure! :)
Goldilocks complex is real, too.
@@bouncybutterfly7753 What is Goldilocks Complex?
Yes! I’m an introvert and I need my space and time alone. I also enjoy spending time with my best girlfriend.
@@starr234who's your second best girlfriend 😅
Women also need space to think and remember to keep her independence. Never forget yourself and what YOU are all about. Otherwise you’ll lose your identity.
Lots of women need that Space tooo. 😊❤ha 👍🏼😄
Keywords here are IF they're in a committed relationship. A lot of these men are not in committed relationships and they pull away in the dating phases. This is what depresses people and the more space we give them, sometimes we'll find out later on down the road that they're actually seeing somebody else!
Amen!!!!!!!
Brody here, yes and good point Natalie! Although I wouldn't say that you need to be in a committed relationship, the key is that he already has to have SOME emotional attachment to you for these to be really effective
Natalie305 ..... yes ..,. True ... usually they go online and cheat on you with a prostitute or on dating websites .....
The dating phase is new fragile. Non exculsivity means you should always in my 2 cents be dating others or reserve becoming overly involved. Hes dating others so should you be. Women are to be secure/ fulfilled on own full lives, he will Invest /chase but until then give space
That's why it's very important to really take your time before you are sexually intimate with somebody. Because once a woman's cross that line she's hooked. There's no other way to say it. And then all of a sudden she's feeling needy and out of control because she doesn't have a secure foundation in the relationship.
I love what you said...
"Love emerges from both people being themselves."
Beautiful ❤
I need my space too and I’m a woman. Introvert 😊
Absolutely. Needing space is not exclusive to men.
Same here.
I need my space too. I have Asperger's Syndrome...
I want to have a chance to miss him. It doesn't have to be weeks apart, but please.. I can't be attached at the hip:P
Thanks. I Appreciated it very much and Not Easy After being ABANDONED NEGLECTED BUT GOD'S LOVES ME and I am SAFE BY GODS
I've been in relationships that I'm the one that needed space. Having someone be so incredibly attached that they never leave you to your own space can cause women to pull away too.
When a woman is married to a narcissist , she is not loved or respected . So take this man’s advice on how to attract the right man, otherwise you will end up with a very unhappy life.
We sure do throw that word around a lot. I don't believe every woman is qualified to diagnose narcissism.
@@pamelakapke62 It does get thrown around a lot especially when guys manipulate women to get them into the bedroom then ghost them .These guys often get called narcissists when they are players .- Girls can also be players but are called narcissists when they are not .I know a lady who is married to a true narcissist and he has been diagnosed with NPD .He is very abusive and has threatened to kill her .He lacks empathy too .She is setting herself up to leave him.I just hope that people will see the red flags before it is too late.
Just adding that next time leave when you see the flags❤
I agree with you Pamela. It takes 2. Women have been speaking "victims" for so long and fail to see themselves as part of the problem!
Putting up with poor behavior doesn't help!
I agree it seems like a game with these men
Women really should just be themselves and find a man who appreciates and respects them for it! I’m usually the one who needs lots of space so I match best with men who also needs space but there are plenty of men who need more attention and should find a women who also needs lots of attention.. just be yourself and find someone who is compatible! Not that complicated..
Hi, Brody here and yes in a perfect world that would be great, unfortunately with attachment style the anxious are generally attracted the the avoidant ones and disregard the other anxious men and vice versa. Healing those attachment styles through practicing a lot of the keys in the vid can start to help with at but it needs to come from a deep level of healing as well so that you can then just BE secure. So yes, be yourself but do the work first! We have a lot of vids on that and more coming as well to help with that healing too :)
or work on yourself first and then you can be with both.☺️
It is very complicated. It’s not easy to find good man now a days. If he’s not pulling away, then he will have other issues that’s also hard to deal with. Few years ago I was with a man 6 years who didn’t pull away but he has other self esteem issues. He was too feminine, lazy and didn’t put effort when we saw each other. You will never find a perfect man🙂
This showed up in my feed at the perfect time. The guy that I have been seeing has been distant for about two weeks very suddenly. He went from calling me every night to barely even texting me. I have attachment issues from previous relationships and I needed to see this video to remind me that it isn’t always about him being uninterested or suddenly not in love with me anymore.
I loved a navy man.. waited for him to return. During his travel,our chats was scarce, our talks was little, he always assured me that he loved me, and i promised i will wait for his return since we wanted to marry. Whenbhe returned, he disappeared.didnt come to say hello to me, and told me not to mention any talk about marriage during his stay.in the beginning i understood it is space he needs , but i was hurt.especially that i would see hom on line ,but didnt reply my messege for days-last thing i did,is that i sent him a message telling him i have enough pain in my life,and i too decided to quit since i cant tolerate more pain.
I still love him-but i dont see this space thing is an indication of a healthy relationship!! I dont even think he would return back to me. I think when he asked for space,it was a chic way to quit.
Not giving a woman the care and emotional support of being loved,that feelingvof warmth in a relation ship-is simply brutal and hurts us women greatly!
I interpreted the need for space as not being so clingy, not him putting the relationship on hold. Thats just him looking for something better. I'm very introverted and need moments to myself to think and assess my feelings. I believe that's what he means. I'm not going to leave my man or move out, I will just go read, cook or sew by myself. I've been this way since I was a kid so I understand the need for space. Completely ignoring loved ones or checking out of a relationship is just cruel, its NOT a part of needing space, believe me. That guy used that as an excuse to try and find someone he thinks is better.
WOW I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!! BRILLIANT!! I'm in this situation right now and you're validating my choice to give him space.
Great video. Robert Greene’s book “Art of seduction “ is a fabulous book. You have to mix pleasure with pain. It’s important! Great breakdown! Ladies. Learn not to be masculine!
Let men chase. Be feminine!
He Raquel, Brody here. Yes I LOVE that book. That used to be like my bible when I was in my early 20s. I always say masculine & feminine polarity is the only thing that creates long lasting chemistry, passion & attraction
I have to ask a question here, I mean if you want to not be attached to someone why have a partner at all, I understand having our own lives but isn’t it the whole purpose of having a partner to share your life together. ? Otherwise why have a marriage or a relationship, if you are in a committed relationship with someone if you aren’t some way attached to your lives together. 🤔
Clinging behavior feels like trying to rescue a drowning person and their distrust and emotional instability pulls you down with them.
U can Need someone who U love ❤️ without attachment or unhealthy attachment. So yes U can need them & I think we all want to be needed by those we love ❤️ 😊
When I was growing up I heard the common cliches that woman are crazy and difficult and don’t know what they want.. that is the furthest from the truth. Men are super complex and have serious commitment and integrity issues
This has been the most powerful video I have watched ever. And I watch a lot of videos. If I had only seen this 30 years ago. Now I know so much more. You have no idea what I have been living through my entire adult life
I am so glad you loved it!
Oh my gosh, you have explained this so well! This is honestly such a great video! Thank you for sharing! I love the part where you said that there cannot be two people playing in the masculine role!
You're so welcome!
He went on vacation with his friends and I told him to go have fun and not worry about me. Now he's been texting me the whole time telling me how much he loves me haha
I have a little chihuahua, hobbies, friends, family, and a workout routine that make my life full. I love my boyfriend and cherish our time together. I don’t want to lose myself.
My wise Grampa said, Hold onto things loosely.
Perfect Grandpa
this the most significant series I have found, and I won't stop watching
Antia,
Thank you for sharing your insights! They make a lot of sense.
And yes, Attachment is the root of suffering. So true!
Brody here. So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Great advice. If you're there too much. They're only take you for granted.
True and glad you liked the video HM and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
I am always ready to give him space. But I also tried the other way. He gets anxious and starts going in spirals when he has to take an important action/decision regarding me. And gives me tantrums saying he needs space. I told him I'm not giving him space for going around in circles and waste time. And he corrected his course. 😅
I loved what you said about being the balance and being the Queen! It was a perfect description of what I strive for! ❤
I love the dog analogy!! It's a perfect way to look at it. Thanks
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Terrific terrific information!!
This was the best video I've seen thus far. I've watched a few videos on here and most of them are giving false hope instead of breaking it down the way you have. This is so appreciated and those book recommendations your wife has read would be even more appreciated🤣
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This was incredibly helpful! More than any other video I’ve watched about this subject! Thank you.
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I especially like the straightforward way that you speak Brody. I would like to see you do more of these videos
Thanks Ricki, Brody here and great to hear you like them, will do more so stay tuned! :)
Thank you for using West Coast Swing as an analogy for this subject.....well done
You're welcome Cynthia, it's a super fun dance style! :)
You don’t give to get true love is unconditional ❤️ it’s acceptance and appreciation understand and being vulnerable trusting not just you boyfriend but you have to trust yourself and you have to know how to fill yourself up and make yourself happy it starts with love yourself everyday because I love myself I can give and receive love
Awesome. Great stuff. This is the first vid I've watched on your channel.
This is really good advice. Men are just as much perpetrators of the codependent behaviors. A lot of my male friends have trouble understanding my attraction to women that are kind of not stuck to my side all the time, but I actually prefer space.
Thanks.
Hey Doug, Brody here and glad you liked the vid and thanks for sharing! 👍
I love this! I am experiencing this love distance relationship it so much true love.i am never think about love or being together in life,but one day my day is coming chasing me he wants to live with me and move in with me forever.i was wow!! I love that feeling my love is true,we love each other more and more over and over again.this is so true.love urself.
That enough.👍👍👍
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Omg! Great analogy about the dog! Dang
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I agree with you who need space too.
I need to get some rest for an hour on my own in my bedroom, Its not that I don't Love him
Greeting from Indonesia. Thanks for the insightful and peaceful suggestion.
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It is a good and an eyes opening perspective, however, someone emotionally mature and with a high EQ doesn't need to play that game.
I sooo agree with you!🌻
Not a game. Just learning to not smother the poor dude.
@@DiraMcClintock there is a huuuge difference between smothering someone and actual distancing
exactly, this trainer is so young, still has energy to play like a dog
So I was the "Queen " if you will in my last relationship, but he was the clingy one. I even told him at one point I like to miss you. So when i do spend time with him it's always exciting. He always wanted me around 24/7 and when I was around I needed to be touching him or right by him. Anyways, getting to almost a year of dating, I wanted him to understand i really did love him, i just don't have a clingy personality. He ended up cheating on me with just some random chick at his work. So I left him for that. After that whole ordeal, he said it was my fault for why he cheated, but I was good in our relationship, never anxious, or needy like him. He still tried to get back with me, but I found out he's still talking with her, so I'm definitely not taking that back. It was exhausting being with somebody so needy, and he did have a wandering eye as well for any girl that walked by.
Hi there, Brody here and good job walking away! Yes he sounds like he has a lot of work needed to do on himself before he's ready for a serious committed relationship
Anybody that uses their partner as their excuse for why they cheated is full of garbage! it's absolutely garbage! They have a lot of growing up to do. They did what they wanted to do. And didn't have the emotional maturity to talk about what needs were not being met or negotiate for better terms in a relationship.
He’s very immature and lack masculinity! You better off without him
@@danam358 Thank you. ❤
I'm loving these teachings, they come in handy
Holy smokes this is so valuable for me. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you. Exactly what I needed to hear! Just hav to put in practice. So glad to hear your knowledge! INDY🏎🏁
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Love makes request not demands ❤️
Ok the hanging out part is true 🤣🤣 also I always say you have no time for me but he never say anything but he have his days to ask what I'm doing so you are right I give him space and when we come together we have a great time but don't know if he wants a realationship so I'm not going to ask him
Thank you for this v.timely and accurate info.
Self love, which you talk about, is the key to a woman really being the high value woman that she is but for whatever reason may have gone into hibernation - I love your bear analogy.
If those women can rediscover their 'HV', they will as you say have men chasing them whether they want it or not. And, keep it authentic ( you said that too 😂) so that you keep up the momentum.
Thank you again. 🙏
This makes men wanna be closer to you as well.. because when i tell guys iam not a bug -a- boo they wanna talk to me all the time
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this today! ❤ From the Netherlands greetings
You are so welcome!
Thanks to your advice...for real
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Thank you so much! This video actually really helped me understand my partner
Excellent ! It's true actually.
Best advice i heard more than any other video thank you
Glad it was helpful!
What is your favorite point or top question from the video? 🤔
This is the best video I’ve heard on this topic!!! Very powerful and well said 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Hi Iam, Brody here. So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Ok , so my husband and I have been together 4 years. Just recently he’s done this. He’s currently not home with me and his family. He told me he loves me but he doesn’t think he’s in love with me anymore. But he comes here and we kiss and act like a normal couple when he’s here. At first I encouraged him to take that time for himself, it’s been a month now. I still in my gut tells me he still loves me and he’s still the one.
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Extremely important topic. Thanks so much! The Lord bless you
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Really clear. Thank you!
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Great content! Thank you so much! I know where I'm going wrong now
Welcome!
Ohh thank You for your video, I really appreciate it very much
You are very welcome so glad you loved it!
That's his job to worry about what he wants .I want to understand myself better . Could u please do this same video on what a woman wants ?
Very interesting video am learning
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Hi...from Philippines..thank you for this tip that i dont know...really
Yes you are right I wait mostly him to text me I don't text him all the time also he go out of time often I don't want to try to say why but he tells me the reason and I say ok .yes I really like I was telling him that I like him I don't ask him for much he is wealthy I don't want him to think I just want his money so what do I do about that he tell me how is single so I give him his space I just don't want to get hurt advice please
So glad I came across this ..I've been feeling the exact same way in the relationship 'like the guy' lol ..I really do need to pull back some.😩
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Thank you Brody, this is powerful staff.
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If you’re not in a committed relationship yet. How can you ask a man for space without making it seen like avoidance / uninterested? Thank you!
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You can say you need some “Me Time” to recharge
Great video, but you never mentioned the healthy amount of space. Is it a few days, weeks etc.?
Really great advice... thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great wisdom!!! 👌🏾
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Yes great wisdom...hello
I have a question for you.
I have been in a distant relationship for 18 mths now & am aware of him following & liking VERY young females on FB.
We are both 73yrs old & it's complicated as to why he hasn't made the move to meet me in person yet. He is very regular with communicating every fay, thru to our gnite messages & says he loves me on a daily basis.
Do I approach him about his activities on FB now or leave it until he is with me & confront him then...
Am really hurt by what I've seen...
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@@MagnetizeYourMan thank you miss antia and mr Brody tumbs to u guys peace and blessings to you both and god shine is light on the two of u and angels and universe surround the both of u 🙏
Thank you guys enjoy the rest of the evening tumbs 👆 up
Dear YOU, this one can help you to understand more and study the psychological function of the person you LOVE. ☺️
Thank you for this. 🥰
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Love this video, agree with u 100%,
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If my boyfriend can’t give what I need because he is at work or busy with something important I can give it to myself I can meet my needs I know my boyfriend loves me there are so many wonderful things I can do for me so I can be a better person every day by working on myself spending time with God meditating working out hanging out with my friends or family shopping hiking with kids listening to music cleaning reading journaling hanging out with cats or watch movies thanks so much ❤️
Sensible, solid information. Rings true.
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I am no different than a man... Distance... I'm a Lone Wolf
Ilove the orchid ovet on rhe table by your book.
This is actually sad that men don’t know how to just love and be loved we gotta employ all this technique which at that point I don’t want it because it didn’t come from him
This is the best video of the year🥰
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@@MagnetizeYourMan Thank you! I've been enjoying your videos! Glad to have found you on UA-cam today 😊
I just finished reading your ebook Trigger His Desire! Great read but I was wondering if I can undo or correct the mistakes I made with a guy I'm dating and turn things around based on your tips? Where should I start?
That's great to hear Rosegold and Congratulations on picking up the materials! :) The best way to correct a mistake in our experience is to do the correct things moving forward. The corrections you'd need to make depend on what your situation is with him currently and what mistakes were made. I'd recommend posting your question in our free private dating support group to hear more and help with that there! MYMFBGroup.com Coaching for your specific situation with Antia can also help :)
Ok... I wanted to say I need my space as well just as much as him but,how about when they haven't communicated in a week ..I tolded him that I shouldn't give so much energy into a person who can literally go a whole week without saying hey hi or how are you doing is that asking to much of him ,???
I have confronted him about it twice but,now it's three days I give him ...
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This was excellent!! Thank you!
Hi Sandy, Brody here. So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Could this apply to early dating/ after two dates ? Excellent content
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Hi guys.
Thank you for this video it’s popped up on my recommended.
I LOVE everything you say and it resonates with how I believe we should be in relationship. In my last relationship this worked so well and we had a lovely time. Then I found out his ‘best friend’ is his ex and he spends time with her in her home ‘just as friends’. I tried to accept this believing that we should love and accept people as they are. However after a few months I decided it just wasn’t for me as it makes me feel so uncomfortable and he said he won’t stop as he’s not doing anything wrong as they are just friends. I had to respect myself and with kindness, explained why I can’t be in the relationship and walked away as that was me holding to my standards. My question to you is - are they now friends because they drifted into friendship because of codependency? He is now keeping in touch with me and I’m not convinced this is a good sign! I’m being friendly but ignoring the requests for social distance walks as that just makes me codependent in my view or not helping him with what surely must be attachment issues? I’d appreciate your thoughts 😊
Hi Sharon, Brody here and I think you're doing the right things! Time to meet other high-quality men who don't need to spend hours each week with their other single girl "friend"
@@MagnetizeYourMan I am so grateful for your guidance and support! She has a boyfriend of about a year now but I do still think it shows a codependency of some sort.
I look forward to more videos now I am subscribed and I look forward to reading your book! Happy New Year xx
Such great content!!! Thank you!
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This video is life-changing! Thank you so much for posting
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@@MagnetizeYourMan Thanks for the love 🙏
Excellent advice. Some Christian friends said this is not Godly but I believe it is!
PROVERBS 25:17 😅
Good scripture btw. Some of the worst advice I have gotten is from my Christian friends who don't have great marriages I might add!
I've enjoyed this
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This is fantastic 👌
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Beautiful
Tks, how many time Is healthy? Meanwhile Is it necesary any contact with him?
My partner requires space and often. He has told me he needs space to miss me. We live 2 hrs away from each other and do not talk on the phone much. I try to text often and initiate to maintain connection. This past December 2020, we saw each other 2x and we almost didn’t see each other near X-Mas. What’s irritating 😠 to me is when he does come around, I DO NOT FEEL CLOSE TO HIM! How does one feel connected to someone if they require so much damn space!? He comes back and, wants, as he puts it “to get lost in sex with me” Really?! He’s like a stranger! To me, if you’re outta sight, you’re outta my mind. All that space makes me get used to living w/o him in my life. I’m disgusted right now.
Okay well let's look at this. Maybe what you're disgusted with is what you've allowed yourself to accept. you went along with the program. That's an awareness not a judgment. What matters is what you want now. It's very obvious this Arrangement is no longer working for you. So it's your responsibility to tell your partner that it's no longer working for you in a kind and respectful way. Before you tell them how you're feeling you need to know what you do want. Because you are either going to be negotiating for a different Arrangement or terminating the relationship. Obviously it's working okay for him. So don't be too surprised if your change of wants or needs may have him saying he doesn't want what you want. It's good to come to the point were you know that you need, want or deserve something more or different. I wish you and all who read this the very best!
Laura Barber Yes disgusted one myself and him for lying to me in the beginning (love bombing me, talk about marriage when things got more serious) when his behavior changed to the above, I told him that he is not making efforts in the relationship and I feel he has fallen out of love. He “tried” to change, told me I’m the woman of his dreams etc. and didnt change anything. He is now blocked. Thank you for your response.