Subtle Addictions
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- Subtle Addictions - Over 40 kinds of sneaky addictions which you've probably never considered as addictions, and a general strategy for overcoming them.
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Here's the list of the subtle addictions, in case you don't want additional details:
1. Being loved
2. Judgment and criticism
3. Being right and proving others wrong
4. Arguing and debating
5. Anger, hatred and racism
6. Being moral or good
7. Preaching to others
8. Ideologies of all sorts
9. Getting attention and being liked
10. Arrogance and cockiness (Pride)
11. Succes, work and career advancement
12. Money
13. Material possessions and luxury
14. Collecting and hoarding
15. Security
16. Worry, anxiety and fear
17. Negative self talk
18. Reliving the past
19. Technology
20. Being efficient and productive
21. Min Maxing
22. Competition and wining
23. Being special or being the best
24. Prises of achievements and fame
25. Multitasking and distraction
26. Helping people and changing people
27. Family
28. Companionship and being with people
29. Suffering, drama and self sabotage
30. Control, power and getting things your way
31. Being negative, whining and complaining
32. Victim mentality
33. Thinking, theorizing, overconceptualizing
34. Analysis
35. Show pouting
36. Physical addiction
37. Laziness and procrastination
38. Sloth
39. Perfectionism
40. Need for support
41. Physical appearance
42. Negative motivation
43. Guilt
44. Jealousy and envy
45. Seeking excitement and fun
46. Gossiping
47. Cleanliness and order
48. Cheating and taking shortcuts
49. Lying, manipulating, exploiting
50. Mystical states
51. Hoarding knowledge
Cristian Stoica holy shit thanks I was thinking I might have to write a lot of shit down
Cristian Stoica thanks! I think 21 is min maxing =)
Daniel Wilbo Thanks. I've just edited it
Great job! While watching the video i thought I should have a list of all these addictions and rate myself 1 to 10 of how bad I have them, so I could work on the worst one first.
Thank you!
Leo is my addiction. Every Saturday I refresh for like the whole one hour.
😆
Yay! a new episode.
1.take out paper & pen
2.set speed to 2x
3.take notes
4.pick out the 3 most important points
5.implement them.
efaelka1 setting the speed to 2x wasn’t a good idea .
im addicted to your videos
Addicted to objecting with every statement Leo makes :'( ... Every Sunday... Every time I watch a video of his, can't help myself!! Must objecttttttt LOL
Brian king :-P
time to get a wrist band then ;)
the 26:15 mark really hit home because I wrote this short poem the night before last. "They threw me a float and I cut the rope, I was fine without a boat
I was ankle deep I stared at my feet and laughed as it rose to my throat.
I disappeared like the sails
I gasped and i flailed
now thrashing just to float"
BUT LEOOO, I'm addicted to eating and breathing and blinking and sleeping and I can't stop no matter how hard I try! Please HALP!!
Halp😂😂😂😂😭
Ahahahahahah my answer is also same.
What I got out of this video is basically everything we do is an addiction
multitasking... listening to this video and looking at the comments. Rmmpff.
haha, I gotta get rid of that one as well!
baum7des7lebens7 Now you have to watch the video all over again because you were caught up looking at the comments and not getting a single thing Leo suggested . Hard truth
Keeping track of allthese sounds like a perfectionist addiction. In the end they all come down to chemical reward. In a way you can't really be free of your own reward system rather you must find a way to find out how not to become addicted or how to not become "servant of actions" while still using them to help you to be succesfull.
It's like the ego thingy. The ego has it's place and it wasn't created for no purpose. You don't have to get rid of it despite erroneous teachings. You sort of have to find the balance how to use the ego properly. Kinda always balancing on a fence which requires a lot of awareness and it isn't easy to do.
*Every Sunday morning I take a light jog around a park near my home. There’s a lake located in one corner of the park. Each time I jog by this lake, I see the same elderly woman sitting at the water’s edge with a small metal cage sitting beside her.*
This past Sunday my curiosity got the best of me, so I stopped jogging and walked over to her. As I got closer, I realized that the metal cage was in fact a small trap. There were three turtles, unharmed, slowly walking around the base of the trap. She had a fourth turtle in her lap that she was carefully scrubbing with a spongy brush.
“Hello,” I said. “I see you here every Sunday morning. If you don’t mind my nosiness, I’d love to know what you’re doing with these turtles.”
She smiled. “I’m cleaning off their shells,” she replied. “Anything on a turtle’s shell, like algae or scum, reduces the turtle’s ability to absorb heat and impedes its ability to swim. It can also corrode and weaken the shell over time.”
“Wow! That’s really nice of you!” I exclaimed.
She went on: “I spend a couple of hours each Sunday morning, relaxing by this lake and helping these little guys out. It’s my own strange way of making a difference.”
“But don’t most freshwater turtles live their whole lives with algae and scum hanging from their shells?” I asked.
“Yep, sadly, they do,” she replied.
I scratched my head. “Well then, don’t you think your time could be better spent? I mean, I think your efforts are kind and all, but there are fresh water turtles living in lakes all around the world. And 99% of these turtles don’t have kind people like you to help them clean off their shells. So, no offense… but how exactly are your localized efforts here truly making a difference?”
The woman giggled aloud. She then looked down at the turtle in her lap, scrubbed off the last piece of algae from its shell, and said, “Sweetie, if this little guy could talk, he’d tell you I just made all the difference in the world.”
*The moral: You can change the world - maybe not all at once, but one person, one animal, and one good deed at a time. Wake up every morning and pretend like what you do makes a difference. It does*
❤️💙💚💛💜🖤
iSharePassion.com I don't think you have to pretend that you are making a difference, because you are by doing such things, you won't save the world that way, but you will change someone's world.
*Edijs True. And if more people have this kind of mentality, the world will change. See?* 👐💞❣️💕💝
Donald Trump Yeah you kinda got the point.
iSharePassion.com Exactly! Sometimes you just have to stop (just for a moment) thinking about the big picture. The same old saying - to change the world start with yourself.
Edijs ☺️😊😀😁👐
Suffering is an addiction. That's how most afflictive habits, relationships and beliefs function.
Leo, I want you to know that I've looked up to you ever since the first video I found, why am I depressed. You have given so much to this world, and actualized.org is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen! I was honestly looking for a true friend in this world. I truely hope that you find the amazing life that you deserve. Take Care!
I love this guy. His teachings hits it right on the button. Thank you so much, Leo.
Thank you leo. You have been a hero to me. In my book, you'll forever go down as one of the greatest ever...
I'm eating pizza, listening to you, and creating some custom photo edits for people, all simultaneously as soon as you mentioned multitasking as a huge problem/ addiction LOL. Now the change im noticing within myself: I no longer beat myself up for it. Because what good would that do; unless I wanted to halt my growth. I'm learning to be gentle with myself as I learn to live a life of self actualization. I'm not giving up my pizza!😆 But I'll stop editing and give the video better attention. Thanks Leo!
Subtle addictions is a fascinating topic, much gratitude Leo. Yet again, very thorough research into the subject.
I wrote down a list of all the ways I overthink, at first I thought "Yeah, this is pretty unneccessary, maybe I overthink when I meditate and when I´m going to sleep", but as I sat down and looked at my past, I came up with FIFTEEN items for that list. Just completely mind blowing.
I believe that solitude is crucial to making the shifts necessary for change. After finally dropping almost all of the addictions I was holding onto, I got to the point where I was questioning why and how and how and why etc... and I was laying in bed when everything just felt like it was being sucked away including the air in my lungs. There wasn't much fear but it was a terrible experience (this was just a a few weeks ago). I jumped up and went into the other room where my mother was and just being with her ended whatever was happening, almost immediately. Since then I have been starting to find true joy in interacting with others, which is something I have been avoiding for the longest time.
This is Real DEEP. Addictions are like endless cycles of drama, over and over again, without even realizing it. Thanks Leo, I was re-watching this episode.
thank you for your selflessness, leo. my life has changed as a result of you.
Watching Leo videos can be a big addiction
hey leo, I love your videos. you have helped me realize my purpose in this life and you should know that you are one of the most positive creative influences in this world and I thank you :)
My addiction: Being constantly efficient and productive.
Why do I need to be efficient and productive?
To attain a degree, to live in a healthy environment, to be happy, deep down I think we are the labour the society needs since they give us so much (financial aid etc.).
"the greatest addictions aren't even considered addictions."
-Leo Gura
Marijuana lol
Thinking is subtle, yet the worst of all
O really? You think we should go back to the cave man ages or something?
at first we may think a lot of these are 'normal habits' and not really addictions. for example efficiency. But that's why we need to go back to the initial part of the video where Leo defines what an addiction is...and then place the rest of the video in this context. For example if efficiency is my strength ....it s not an addiction...but if my need to be efficient is causing me to be negative towards those who are inefficient by my yardstick....and I m always doing that.....it is a subtle addiction. Thanks again Leo.
I am addicted to your channel.. :-/
Kerri Springford i am addicated to your profile picture
Lol... me too!!!!😎
by far the most enlightened youtuber ive seen by far!
I honestly am addicted to suffering. It's sad. I like to play the victim. I like to be addicted to ruining my relationships. It's weird...
Start out by stop feeling sad for being addicted to suffering. Allow yourself to feel the addiction fully. Feeling sad about it makes you look away but you actually look towards it. Start loving your addiction to suffering. Give it your loving awareness and it will wither away over time.
Cesar Ita I can relate to this. You might be self sabotaging to keep your reality in line with how you unconsciously expect it should be. As soon as you get too much success in an area you'll possibly ruin things to bring your circumstances back into alignment with your beliefs about how life should be. Book recommendation: Gay Hendricks- The Big Leap. =)
watching Leo videos, that can be very addicting
Sitting down with people who have lived experience as been a life changing for us on our channel. Addiction is tough, but I believe we need to do better as a community and ensure that we defeat stigma, as well as support people so that less and less people turn to addiction.
thanks, this came up right on time. You inspired me to spend this upcoming summer vacation on my cottage, surrounded by nature. This year i felt like i have been always seeking approval,love, being jealous, crawing social interaction- with girls (thats also seeking approval) and so on. I think that I really need to face lonelyness head on to get majority of my problems solved, and i am really glad you cleared that up for me, thank you once again.
Ps: I think that porn addiction is a bigger problem than we think and needs to be "adressed" more
How about addiction to spiritual growth?
this def can be another one. or growth in general. he kind of covered it within the growth of technology
Set the intention Get clear with yourself. I am setting the intention to be someone who doesn't daydream. I will do it. You get a wristband to be more aware when you do it. It will help you see it. You will look every where in your life to see where it is. You will replace this baby blanket with Raw being. This is what you trynna avoid. Being simple, just living. Being in its pure form. 7-10 days of doing a complete retreat. The solo retreat will put you in touch with being. What can your life be without this addiction. This is a lifetime project. 2 addictions per year for instance. You will be free and liberated.You will change your life.
you should do a video on how to stop being the nice guy.
From the very early age, I've been wanting to be "special or best" but I have failed to achieve that and it has caused a lot of suffering in my life. Only now, at the age of 33, I'm starting to understand the deep psychological trauma which came from childhood that caused me to "wanting to prove that I'm good enough".
In short, it came from me not doing so well in Russian school, because I found sitting in a quiet room and listening to a lecture very boring and always leaned towards physical activities instead. My father of course, didn't like my less then average grades and would intimidate and beat the shit out of me with a belt and verbally abuse, to the point where I was living in a constant fear of him.
I think this is a perfect example of how a dysfunctional educational system that creates "one fits all" environment and parent's misconception of "their child doing well in life by showing good grades" can lead to child's deep psychological, life-lasting trauma.
We indeed live in the "dark ages of personal development", but thanks to great teachers like Leo, humanity is starting to wake up from the depths of survival paradigm hell to the loving, symbiotic, creation paradigm of oneness.
Thank you brother Leo!
I like these talks. I find a lot of them uncomfortable, because at first I want to disagree with a lot of what is being said. But I hear it out and realise that I usually completely agree. He just speaks a lot of uncomfortable truths. It's difficult to hear because it's difficult to become 'self actualized' within society.. and society is seemingly everywhere and everything, but it's worth being aware of 'human conditions' and deciding to try and do your best at any given moment.
I'm doing a long list as I watch this and rating myself from 1 to 10 of how much I indulge/get stuck in these behaviors. (0 being not at all) I'm really curious how certain more extreme personality traits (like ADHD, bipolar, autism etc) seems to coincide with certain addictions. Would be really interesting to hear about different personality types in general, for example using the Big 5 Aspects, and how different sort of people gravitate to different addictions.
At 37:33 he says ,”Yeah I could eat quitting potato chips” whereas he meant “Yeah I could quit eating potato chips “ . Wow my observation is awesome 😎
How to replace subtle addiction to being:
1. Select one addiction.
2. Write all the ways of manipulation.
3. How is it the core of my identity?
4. Why do I need it?
5. How alternative would look like? (envision it)
6. Could I really let it go?
7. Set the intention: you will make it.
8. Set indicator to a wrist.
This is soooooooooo great we are so lucky to have found someone who teaches us these things,we would most likely never know this unless we read for gazillion hours self help or psychology books
This video is one of the best for me that you made. Thank you Leo, you are the best.
What a great episode! Really proofed some stuff I felt the last week, thanks for that. Regarding the point of manipulation: Do you think it's a bad thing to phrase sentences a special way or choose specific words, of which you know that they'll influence someone else's behavior/decisions? What if one has a good intent with it?
If society was free of all these addictions,it wouldnt be a "society" anymore,cus everyone would live a solitary life. Yes we would continue as a community but not many interactions would take place.
Hari Sankar Sounds like Heaven.
+Guy Incognito
Please understand that you are miserable. Get out of your head. Order is too restrictive, boring and it kills the spirit.
You too will comply to the New World Order sooner or later. Face it, it's the new way of life. ;)
I had the same thoughts as you for a few months, then I realized I was wrong so
Chom Chom Earth How did you realise it?
man i just realized how we have so much stuff that fuck us up
Deep, need to discuss about this on the forum.
Great video--I like these subtler self-analysis & improvement... this is packed with good points.
I came across your videos by fluke. I'm really loving them. !! your very intelligent and great speaker , may I add a very nice smile :) going to listen to all of your videos..I'm always trying to improve myself. trying to lose weight also. I really liked that video on how you lost weight .good for you !! didn't realise we had so many addictions wow. I left Facebook I realised on my own before watching this that i was allowing it to take up alot of my time n keeping me from growing.
I am so grateful for your videos. Thank you for sharing what you have learned.
The general advice for dealing with these addictions is at 32:05. (The list of addictions is good too, but the description of the solution needs more re-listening.)
One of the hardest thing for me is to drop jusging people. The second i see someone i judge them. I mean in a way it helped me because i can eye people. But it feels like i judge complete strangers based on looks before i even know what they are about.
This sucks so much because i see myself doing it but am bot able to stop..
You're a very wise man, and thank you for this share.
Finally the second part of "how to overcome addiction"?!
everytime your videos surprise me with how much i can learn.
I am addicted to this channel. Now what ?
Great video leo.
I think we can apply this to really all sorts of addictions that exists including the gross ones. I loved a few points you made such as that of finding an alternative and the realisation of the fact that the problem is not in the activity itself but in one's relation to it. internet can be helpful but is an addiction for the majority. This is some real advice but it's deep hard work and with all the conditioning, we're addicted to quick results and minimum efforts. Ok, now that's another addiction to work on. *sigh*
Thanks Leo. Another awesome insight to ones own challenges.
I'm very happy for you, it helps me to be different and look to a greater purpose.
The problem is when you become attached to anything. There is nothing unenlightened about enjoying activities that do not do harm to self or others. You give the impression that all we are supposed to do is meditate, contemplate and be ever vigilant over everything we do or say and think. I agree that the real point of life is the inner work, but creativity and the discipline to become a master at what you enjoy doing is God expressing in form. We are individuations of the One expressing God in form. Every time we reach a new level of understanding or clarity, there is always more, even more than just raw being.
+Tammy Allen No, you can of course enjoy life. If you're able.
I'm on the 10th day of meditating for 20 minutes a day, 7th day of no-fap challenge, 9th day of running for 2 miles a day, and 26th day of writing in my journal (at least 7.5 pages a day). I'm addicted to meditating, not spilling my seed, running, and writing!! And I'm reading The Maze Runner. I'm addicted to reading.
You really nailed it with this video Leo. Very valuable content. I shall re-watch this video a couple times and put in the worthwhile work!! :).
OMG efficiency and minmaxing! My minmaxing addiction is so bad it even fucks up my joy and "results" within gaming! 🙈
In my opinion every addiction is justca symptom, so you just need to fix the issue and then the addiction will disapear by itself
leo seems to speak faster in this video. he gets into the content quicker. does anyone agree?( im addicted to reassurance)
Leo! Please please please make a video about addiction to security!! I wasn't aware that that one was one of my deepest problems until you mentioned it. It would be great if you could expand on that. Thanks. Back to the rest of the video now. He
Thank you for your dedication Leo
Thanks for this vid. I have many of these, it's time to start taking action.
Great episode!
I wrote down addictions which apply to me while listening to you. I listed 20.
I might be over my head here, but the part where Leo says when he sets himself a task then goes on his phone after 10 minutes and listen to audiobooks really hit me. After thousands of hours meditating, learning theory and developing yourself and you still can barely do something for 10 minutes without checking your phone ... starting to make me question all if this 'development' work actually creates any real growth.
Leo you are AWESOME!
Leo, will you make videos on breathing techniques, because they can make huge difference in peoples lives. Max Strom has videos on health benefits of breathing.
scph-9000 is that the ice guy
No.
No that's Wim Hof. He's a badass :)
Yes I noticed that I judge everything , I think I am addicted to evaluating everything and then finding that it is not perfect
Liked The Video Before Even Watching It...Great Topic!! Tysm :)
another brilliant video Leo. thank you
Hey Leo, I have a question for you. I started practicing meditation and mindfullness two months ago and I was trying hard to get better at it. I'm a college student, I have exam sessions three times a year and the last one was so stressful that It blocked my meditation routine. Even if I tried to think about meditation as the time when I should release all the stress, I couldn't sit still for even 20 minutes anymore - no matter how I tried my mind just refused to let go of thoughts, or just to watch them pass, of even of being mindful of the fact that I was worrying - I fisically felt the need to "do something" because I was "wasting" 20 minutes on meditation. Now that the exams are over I just got back to my everyday meditation routine after a pause that lasted almost 3 weeks. How can I prevent it in the future? How can I convince my mind of the fact that meditating is the most useful thing I can do when I'm under pressure? Thanks in advance for the reply!
+Tamara S. Meditation can get you Absolute Infinity. What can exams get you? Perhaps a degree which no one in the real world even cares about.
You're absolutely right, in fact I don't care about the degree but about what I'm learning. Still, the exams and other people being so worried about them sometimes get me off track, making me think that I should worry as well, I'd like to be less responsive to that. That's what my question was more about.
P. S. Thanks a lot for your videos, got me out of several years of depression and insecurity
The problem is that I have social anxiety. I am terrified of speaking to anyone and tremble when there are people around me. I just feel like I have no words to say and, even if I do, I know that I will not be able to respond to what is said back to me.
I realise that mindfulness might be able to help you relax when you're on your own, but how will it help me when in a situation that means I have to speak to someone. I can't just stand there fucking breathing when I'm supposed to be responding :( :( :( :( :(
i feel so desperate and CONSTANTLY unhappy
Hey Leo,
I've watched 3 or 4 of your 1hr long videos and loved all of them. The problem is that I have no idea what you will talk about and sometimes I expect the argument to consider other factors. Why don't you provide a summary in the beginning ( without spoilers) in the beginning or the description. I really want to have 2-3-10 guiding points during the conversation. That way I can take notes, prepare my mood and environment, or pre-research. OR if I know everything in your first 20 mins and am mindblown in the next 20, I would really love to know if it is worth it to keep watching or skip to minute 19. This is stopping me from watching more. Peace
Even a 2 min intro video that you post the day before hey tomorrow I will speak about 1-2-3-5, join me bla bla
I think I'm addicted to solitude, actually. I hate being around other people.
Overall good video, though it's really not fair to put self-driving cars on the list. Those of us who are visually impaired and can't drive are watching the progression of self-driving cars with great interest, for obvious reasons :)
I recently thought of a new definition for enligtenment. Shifting into a more accurate framework of knowledge. I like it :D.
+sean johnson That's not a good definition. Enlightenment is just the absence of all frameworks and knowledge.
Actualized.org That's true. In my opinion I think that a framework has to be in place for functional purposes or the projection would just end? I think that updating the language could help remove the dogmas attached to "enligtenment".
I depend on my family to provide for me. It's so sad. I am in college. I need to get off my ass and look for a job, work on my resume.
Cesar Ita then do it now. Stop wasting your time.
Thanks, Leo. 😁👍
I'm a collector myself but if someone barges in and starts messing around with things, I don't get all up in arms about it. It's just stuff.
I collect and preserve because it's a fun hobby that I love doing - not because I need it. I'm not married to it.
I'm curios Leo, to what UA-cam Channels are you subscribed?
Now, I have a new addictions: your videos! Anyways, I think is a better addiction than any others!
Thank you very much for this video, very insightful. I have some to tackle.
Very insightful video
What if I am addicted to vegetables, healthy food (don't want to eat all this other shit) and to sport (not in an extreme amount)? Should I stop eating vegetables and should I stop to move? Is my way out there to eat unhealthy stuff and to stop doing any sports? And what about a daily morning routine with one cup of coffee, one per day, because its like a ritual to start the day, it tastes awesome and it makes me feel warm and for me it´s like a "self-love-me-time thing". If I don't do this, the day feels wrong, so thats an addiction right? But it feels so helpful and enjoyable. Exspecially this cup of coffee in the morning. The sport often doesn't feel enjoyable.
Addiction to self actualization
Could you do a video on how to get rid of negative self images?
Yamcha the wolf pretty sure he has at least one on that topic.
+Hubert cumberdale sounds interesting, I'll search for that. Never hurts to have multiple perspectives though.
+Daniel Wilbo He made one explaining the importance of self images, not how to get rid of a negative one.
hmm yamcha asking about negative self image... why am i not surprised ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
;))
I've thought about this before and getting addicted to weed made me realise that pretty much everything is an addiction or at least can be an addiction.( no idea what a solution would like lol)
im addicted listening to leo😁
I needed this so much
Absolutely Amazing
I'm addicted to Actualized.org videos lol
social media is another one
Great video!
Actually great...great video advice.....thanks Leo....always i like your meditation videos....
Can one become so heavily addicted to Consciousness, to Knowing, craving more and more of it, leading to a ridiculous state in which a glimpse of no-state, beyond-time, prior-to-consciousness, can be realized?
The unlearnt, unpredictable, unknowable, unidentified realm which Nisargadatta and U.G. Krishnamurti alluded to.
Thanks Leo.