Key point Todd brought up. It takes time to Get to know someone and the Chris Rock quote; “when you first date someone you’re actually dating their representative.” That’s dead on!
If somebody is managing multiple conversations simultaneously with different people, they are actively working against the chance for them to really connect with any one of those individuals in particular. If it is really that easy to determine whether or not there is chemistry with someone, then people should date with more intention, and only focus on one person at a time. What is happening right now is that men and women are constantly hedging their bets, stringing people along, and giving themselves an easy out under the assumption that the grass is always greener.
I agree.. I've never dated a woman that I didn't just have some kind of organic chemistry, where that took a turn to friends and dating pretty quickly.. I didn't even have to ask them out, it just made sense to start seeing each other. It wasn't like a mechanical interview and then scheduling appointments to interview her more.
When it comes to canceling dates, my gauge for whether or not it’s a red flag is whether or not she expresses interest in rescheduling. If she immediately says “can we do this day instead?“ or “I’ll be free this time”, I actually see that more as a green flag. It’s when the cancellation isn’t really followed up with anything that I would consider it a red flag. In a mans eyes, that’s a clear signal that she’s not interested.
In order to avoid falling into the friend zone during the talking stage you need to avoid texting to get to know each other and use texting to set up meeting on a date.
Just discovered Emily's content and found this podcast. This was one of the best vids Ive seen so far for relationship advice. Unbiased and it's good to have a guy and a girl in this convo. The timestamps are great too. The red flags vid didnt have them and I didnt want to wait to see if something is value added for me. Especially for a hour long video.
I'm not a psychologist but I feel like I dated one I'm not saying I'm perfect because I NOW when I should've left but I was stuck in a cycle and when I moved back home I noticed it and that's when she felt things weren't going as planned and was with some one a week later
They have others ready. Fine! I spent most of my life alone. Be pedddy and live with cats. I grew up in the woods, I'm good. Would be nice to have someone whom cares.
I disagree with the coffee or drink date. Coffee shops and bars are not great places for a conversation. Taking a walk means I have to split my attention to ensure we are in a safe space and a bunch of other things instead of the conversation. And honestly, if you cannot maintain a conversation with me for more than 30-60 minutes when there is so much to learn about each other, it is not going to work, and I want to know that without any possible "yeah, but" justifications. Being nervous, is perfectly acceptable, and I have no issues working through that on the fly. I am looking for a long-term relationship, so I am happy to invest a little more upfront for a great first meeting. Also, I vet before getting to the point of asking out on the first date. Also, I am happy to pick up a woman for a date, but I will not offer on the first date for safety reasons. I am not sure how it is possible for someone with kids to say there is no reason to postpone a date, or need to wait for a week when the kids are with their other parent. I really appreciate both of you putting the time and energy in this. You are definitely a next level up on the conversation. I gotta say though, it seems like red pill ideas and things that just do not align outside your specific region of the US are pushing in. Just so you know why I am unsubscribing. Positive thoughts for your audience and both of you.
Key point Todd brought up.
It takes time to
Get to know someone and the Chris Rock quote; “when you first date someone you’re actually dating their representative.”
That’s dead on!
If somebody is managing multiple conversations simultaneously with different people, they are actively working against the chance for them to really connect with any one of those individuals in particular. If it is really that easy to determine whether or not there is chemistry with someone, then people should date with more intention, and only focus on one person at a time. What is happening right now is that men and women are constantly hedging their bets, stringing people along, and giving themselves an easy out under the assumption that the grass is always greener.
Great point!
I agree.. I've never dated a woman that I didn't just have some kind of organic chemistry, where that took a turn to friends and dating pretty quickly.. I didn't even have to ask them out, it just made sense to start seeing each other. It wasn't like a mechanical interview and then scheduling appointments to interview her more.
When it comes to canceling dates, my gauge for whether or not it’s a red flag is whether or not she expresses interest in rescheduling. If she immediately says “can we do this day instead?“ or “I’ll be free this time”, I actually see that more as a green flag. It’s when the cancellation isn’t really followed up with anything that I would consider it a red flag. In a mans eyes, that’s a clear signal that she’s not interested.
Well said!
In order to avoid falling into the friend zone during the talking stage you need to avoid texting to get to know each other and use texting to set up meeting on a date.
STOP CONFLATING a woman having "MANY SEXUAL OPTIONS" with "MANY COMMITMENT OPTIONS" --- few quality guys will actually COMPLETELY COMMIT.
Just discovered Emily's content and found this podcast. This was one of the best vids Ive seen so far for relationship advice. Unbiased and it's good to have a guy and a girl in this convo. The timestamps are great too. The red flags vid didnt have them and I didnt want to wait to see if something is value added for me. Especially for a hour long video.
Awesome! Thank you!
Emily, that was a really good idea😅 im about to go read some Google reviews now
About the narcissist part what's the possibility of someone who has a "selfish or im never wrong" personality gonna go get "help"? Probably low
I'm not a psychologist but I feel like I dated one I'm not saying I'm perfect because I NOW when I should've left but I was stuck in a cycle and when I moved back home I noticed it and that's when she felt things weren't going as planned and was with some one a week later
Found this from TikTok but I want to know more about the healthiest couple he’s worked with, you should time stamp the topics
Thanks for your comment. That is something we will start doing Maria - Todd
That's tearable to say he's your second or therd choice. Whom do you think you are? If I had an incline of such a woman thinking that, I'm out!
Woman wouldn't stand for that either! Look at yourself!
They have others ready. Fine! I spent most of my life alone. Be pedddy and live with cats. I grew up in the woods, I'm good. Would be nice to have someone whom cares.
I disagree with the coffee or drink date. Coffee shops and bars are not great places for a conversation. Taking a walk means I have to split my attention to ensure we are in a safe space and a bunch of other things instead of the conversation. And honestly, if you cannot maintain a conversation with me for more than 30-60 minutes when there is so much to learn about each other, it is not going to work, and I want to know that without any possible "yeah, but" justifications. Being nervous, is perfectly acceptable, and I have no issues working through that on the fly. I am looking for a long-term relationship, so I am happy to invest a little more upfront for a great first meeting. Also, I vet before getting to the point of asking out on the first date.
Also, I am happy to pick up a woman for a date, but I will not offer on the first date for safety reasons.
I am not sure how it is possible for someone with kids to say there is no reason to postpone a date, or need to wait for a week when the kids are with their other parent.
I really appreciate both of you putting the time and energy in this. You are definitely a next level up on the conversation. I gotta say though, it seems like red pill ideas and things that just do not align outside your specific region of the US are pushing in. Just so you know why I am unsubscribing.
Positive thoughts for your audience and both of you.
Thanks for your comment
Why talk exes all together?!