I’m 43, just came back from a girls trip in the heart of winter. Thankfully never been desperate, but I had a father whose last words to me were: “You are more than enough… married or unmarried. You got everything you need to make it in this world, and you are beautiful!” I didn’t know it would be his last words to me, but I have eternal affirmation from my Heavenly Father, and external confirmation from my daddy. Eternally Thankful… never lost!
@@MsLi-ef1xp Amen… I can honestly say during times of uncertainty I am most appreciative for having his essence in my life. I still feel covered by him when I follow his wisdom. Thankful for both masculine (father) and feminine (my mother) guidance. Glad that you have experienced it too! 😊
I am over 35 and unmarried but not desperate at all. I love spending time with me, friends and family. As a Believer I focus on my relationship with God and His Kingdom agenda. In these last days there is a lot to intercede about as well as helping others find Christ. They just need to shift their focus.
Absolutely spiritual life changing ,chains are being broken,unrealistic expectations, it's a breakthrough to realize a human can't meet your every need . I'm satisfied with GOD,CHRIST,ETERNITY , ONLY HEAVENLY FATHER MEETS YOUR EVERY NEED 🙏🏾
First sentence i laughed...😂Just turned 38yrs, unmarried no kids. Pray God continue to keep me. Abstaining has protected me from alot of "goofiness". I am content with how my life turned out so far🤗.cant wait to c what He has instore for me
I met a man last week on Bumble & went out on a date (completely hyped up on emotions and didn’t catch the flags in person). Last night I felt God tugging at me about this man trying to really show me it was time to walk away & I said God you’re gonna have to make the sign clear literally slap me in the face with it! And ironically enough 4 am I get a notification from one podcast I follow theirs was titled “When to Walk Away” then 12 hrs later this podcast dropped! Ooooh the Holy Spirit was on time! Thank you so much for this content ❤ keep it coming!
Am laughing cos am 35 and unmarried. Coming from Kenya and a highly patriarchal culture, that's almost a crime 🤣 May I never be desperate in the mighty name of Yahusha!!!
Thank you so much Pastor Conway, this message was so powerful and needed!!! As a 43 year old single Christian, there are so much pressure to be married and have a family. I do desire to be married one day, but I do not want to enter a relationship out of desperations.
It really does. Currently over a year for me and now I'm able to more easily discern when a man is a manipulator, selfish (a taker not a giver), a narc...or any other red flags. Ask the right questions. Have thought provoking convos early on that reveal his values (past relationships, health, spirituality, political views, life goals, family, eventually finances). I check for accountability, self awareness, and growth. Observe his communication style, especially how he handles himself during disagreements. Watch to see if his actions match/reflect his claimed values. Are your love languages compatible? Is he able to meet those needs without you nagging? You can literally learn so much about a person in the first 3 months and fall deep in love, when there's no sex blinding you. It's amazing. Observe and be more logical in deciding if this is the right person for you vs letting your heart/feelings take over. And always check in with God.🙏❤️
@Mara Grace O. I always ask God for self control. Also I keep in mind that all the instructions God gave us are for our own good. Nothing good does He withhold from us. So when He tells us wait, when we don't, we almost always find out the hard way.
@@nikkyshamz2696 Absolutely sis🙏😊 I always ask God to help me perservere in my discipleship. A disciple has discipline, so that is the goal. Striving for discipline is not easy, but it's worth it. And I ask for that quality in my future husband as well, in addition to him being wise, hard working, a great leader, kind, humble, loving, slow to anger, someone that wants to be a good husband & father, and someone that values family, health, and healthy communication. I thank God for my progress and the lessons I've learned through the good times and the obstacles I have faced. God bless you🙏.
Man! Pastor Conway made this thing real. When he said, "When you experience heartbreak when a partner cheats, that how God feels." This freed a lot of us! Now I truly understand why I've been abstinence
Hey Brother Laterras. This podcast was an overwhelming blessing. We need a series, meet up, workshop etc. around Pastor Conway's teaching. He is so on point, and I felt the spirit of the Lord while he was speaking and teaching. Truth and such practical application. He made many deep statements. God bless you and your ministry. This is tremendous work that you're doing.
I completely agree. Would love for a Dear Future Wifey/ Dear Future Hubby conference with Pastor Conway as Plenary speaker. I'm willing to support this work.
The 5 Buckets (I will be journaling about this tonight. Thanks for this!) 1. How was I valued in my family? 2. How was I protected by my parents and family? 3. How was I expected to behave? 4. How were my needs/wants taken care of in the home? 5. How free were you growing up (disciplined, constraint)?
Pastor Conway is amazing! He has a heart for singles but he is very insightful for married couples as well. My husband and I have learned so much from him and are blessed that he is our pastor 💜
Thank you for bringing up longevity! Story time… I purchased my 1st vehicle in 2010 the year is now 2022 & I still own & have my car. The guys my age (late 20’s early 30’s) keep telling me to get a new car… I don’t need to so I haven’t! I even cut guys off for not understanding after I further explain why I still have a vehicle. I keep my car up, I keep it clean, maintenance up to date, it’s been paid off for 6 years & I will purchase a car in the future, but right now at this moment a new car would put me back in debt, that’s a 5-7 year commitment with high APR. I’m saving/investing my money, working, prioritizing, building & allowing God to lead me with big financial purchases. I believe the car may symbolize who I am a lil… I’m consistent, I don’t just get something new because it’s no longer shiny or in style, I can take care of things, I prioritize, I manage my money well… the men I date don’t see that they just think I’m too fine to drive a 12 year old car. I’m no longer dating at the moment, but I still attract a lot of men who seem materialistic.
That’s partially because men are often looking for women they can “upgrade” or impress. Your car and other areas in your life that aren’t materialistic is a breeding ground for men who think they can “buy” women or impress them. They don’t understand your mindset on the matter
It's a turn off for me as well. I am quite frugal. I'm not one to spend just because I have it either. Until last year, I drove a hand-me down 98 Honda Accord. Road it til the wheels fell off lol. I hand washed it myself and made sure the interior was clean and vacuumed. Any man that tries to impress me with what he has (especially if it's something that depreciates like car, clothes, shoes, watches, etc 😅) is not for me tbh. A house is impressive. Savings are impressive. Investments are impressive. How he expresses his love for his family and close friends is impressive. His ability and willingness to express his emotions is impressive. But his love for God and dedication to the Word is the most impressive, and quite frankly, sexy thing ever. To those guys, I simply express that I don't think we are compatible, wish them good luck, and move on. I've stopped letting my feelings get so involved early on. Can't help what you attract, but you can control how fast you cut it off when you see those red flags. Good luck sis!
Wanting love and marriage does not make you desperate at no age. Wanting love is apart of God's plan and the Maslow's hierarchy of needs states every human being has that need for love and relationships. It's too many ppl trying to capitalize off that need today. Never feel bad ladies for wanting love, marriage, children, its ok
Amen, I agree - never feel bad for wanting love, marriage children. So many "worthy" women are waiting and I support and send love out to all. It's my prayer that your wants will be satisfied, God will bless you with the desires of your heart. Never give up... it's coming. Keep believing in God's goodness and his plan for us.....
The problem is that we become so defensive and jump on the build-a-fence all-around me train so fast you miss the point. My dear you missed the point. Buy the book.
@@johnniejohnson6420 I understand the pinpoint of the book. I really think that the points he talked about towards the latter half of the podcast were excellent. I take a bit of an issue with the generalization that women think feel and act in any one particular way - desperate for a man, not being satisfied with God, putting need for family before God. All women are not doing that. (Maybe the pastor is only encountering what he has described) The podcast did not mention some of the other valid reasons that great and Godly women are still waiting and longing for a partner and family. There is a shortage of eligible men due to societal issues and it would be great to converse about how to remedy that/ maybe women can travel more to expand their circle and meet more people, maybe there some networking or out of the box things that these Godly women can engage in. I though the podcast was very good but only focused on the desperate or broken women. To use language that suggest that all unmarried women in 30s and up are in this state perpetuates a stereotype that is untrue and offensive for those that are not and they are really just waiting and trusting God but likely need some effective tools to meeting more prospects.
@Kenya Carl: YES!! You absolutely nailed it. What do you say to the woman that is satisfied in Jesus and yet is still waiting, still abstaining, still staying whole and holy but has not yet gotten her husband she desires? These are the women waiting. Listening to these podcast and buying ALL THE BOOKS to find an answer. Are we saying, just be satisfied with you and God, stop feeling the desire for companionship, and you will finally get your husband?
“Too many pastors got married too young, so they don’t know what it feels like to be single and in the church. Yet still, 65 to 70% of churches are made up of single people.” Church’s don’t spend enough time teaching the importance of marriage, the benefits of it, and what it’s supposed to look like. These guys really understand it. I immediately ordered his book after hearing this episode.
This is an episode that me personally, I would NEED to watch again and again! He spoke so much realness! Whenever I need a refresher about who I am in Christ, this is the video. Jesus! This blessed me.
I'm 41, divorced with no children. I found this segment very rewarding!! I'm so tired of men being physically attracted to me aka lust. However, I'm doing my best not to have a harden heart.. I must make God satisfied first!!! In addition, being over 35 and climbing the corporate ladder...I too experienced all the expectations (marriage/child bearing etc). I'm remaining faithful to God my prayers are answered. Still no husband/child. #GodPlan #Faithful
@Dear Future Wifey Yes looks and brains! He was 15yrs older than me. Im very self motivated driven person! I recently retired from the US Navy as well (20 honorable yrs). Since my divorce back in 2017, I find men think I'm the complete package; however I experience insecurities from men, lack of drive which turns me off once exposed and other little nuances I later discover. Plus most men have kids by now, I just don't want to be someone's second! That was more to your question....I know.
I think it's good for a man to be attracted to you, but the right person wouldn't lead with that. I take that as disrespectful actually. And he should love God more than he loves your body. Is he a disciplined enough to control himself? That is key. What else does he love about you? I know if I'm attracted immediately. But for me, exploring the spiritual connection and emotional connection is priority. I want my partner to feel like my best friend. I should feel most safe with him after God. That talking for hours thing about any- & everything, whether in person or over the phone says alot. Then of course explore all the other areas of compatibility as well. Cut off the wrong ones faster, no minimizing red flags, and stay faithful 🙌🙏.
This is one of those episodes you don’t watch just once because the second time around you may get more out of it. I enjoyed the humor, the truth, as will as the serious undertone of this one. I watched it while preparing dinner before service tonight. So I almost dropped my vegetables a few times 😂Sorry to here about your truck. Hope you were able to get that handled.
Pastor Conway you swept away layers of cobwebs and dust bunnies of teacher-preacher doctrination, false hope, and promises I've heard for so many years. Man of God, my ears have heard the glory of Pure Biblical TRUTH. Like a disobedient child, I have been reprimanded, rectified, and reminded God chastises those He loves. Thank you, sir, for leaving an uncut, rock-solid gem trail towards eternal salvation.
Yes indeed purity leads to clarity. That is so true. With purity you can almost know the first day in meeting someone if they’re worthy of your time. Desperation invites divorce what an observation! I love that he is providing a tool to combat fickle relationships. So good!
This episode right here is mind-blowing and full of powerful gems for singles. God is the only one who satisfies you completely . No man/woman can take His place.
Wow wow wow, ok sorry last one, the 5 buckets. I’m today years old (46) finally seeing what the major problem is. This is no pat on my back at all because my upbringing wasn’t perfect but I had all 5 buckets filled while dealing with others who didn’t have even 1 filled. Lord have mercy. Now I’m crying because for the first time I understand my value and what I bring to a man and marriage but this whole time I undervalued myself and chose based on that. I’m not perfect but never needed a man to fill a need for me I lacked or didn’t have.
Wow! The anointing & wisdom coming through this episode is incredibly powerful. This is one we must watch over & over again. Pastor Conway is bringing the truth!
My God I was just here and living these situations and scenarios. Searching for Queen who sees me and allows me to lead has been so challenging for me. Thank you Pastor and brother for this podcast.
@@kaceyscorner3738 Acknowledgement and awareness of who you are and what you bring to the relationship. I have met a few women who told me they wanted a good man but when they had one, they couldn't see me due to past traumas. Granted we all come with scars and even wounds but it's up to us or the individual to do the necessary work to heal.
Wow season 6 is too much! I need to rewatch both and bring extra cups because the one I have now is overflowing! As someone who has been single since I lost my husband to fatal crash at 25 it hasn't been easy being back in the game....now I am 35 and I can say God has used this channel as one of platforms for me to keep going and trusting that GOD IS ENOUGH AND I AM ENOUGH! ONLY HIM GIVES ME CONTENTMENT AND SATISFACTION AS I CONTINUE NAVIGATING THROUGH THE SINGLE'S MAZE! Thank you for the wisdom and for seeing us "The singles in the body of Christ"
At 41:00 minutes my life changed. Tears began to flow, and apologies to my Heavenly Father began. Lord, thank you for allowing me to have more time to understand that my relationship with you is more important than anything, especially you providing my husband. God, I’m so sorry. Thank you for loving me and being patient with me. I appreciate you. GOD Bless you both for this episode…. I needed this! Thank you for teaching me to be satisfied fully in JESUS 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾
OMG what a Blessing!!! Pastor Conway, I thank God for your gift and allowing God to use you in ministering to single people and guiding them to choose wisely in making the second biggest decision they will make in their life. I truly enjoyed every moment of the discussion. I wish I had this type of Godly knowledge before I got married. But I thank God for his Grace and Mercy. Keep on doing what you are doing for the Kingdom of God!!! Kingdom Marriages, Praise God. And thank you Laterras for having Pastor Conway on your show.
I had to end a relationship recently because he was ready to fully commit. As much as I loved and cared for him I didn’t have the confirmation that I needed in my spirit that he was the one. I listened to my inner voice and I just hope I made the right decision. I feel at peace at the moment, but only time will reveal why I had to move on.
Laterras, you have done it again! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 From beginning to end, this conversation was so good. Thank you for being a man of integrity by being transparent about your abstinence journey. I learned so much from your honesty. I agree with Pastor Conway that you are exactly what we need to open the door for these necessary conversations. Well done, King!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
This was a great episode. That last nugget from Pastor Edwards about so many pastors leading churches did get married very young so they don't know what it feels like to be single and in the church. Specifically single in 2023. Grateful for this content.
Desperate that’s just inaccurate. That’s doing women a disservice to say all women over 35 desperate. Lies! Just say some may be desperate. And honestly nowadays even 20 years are desperate because they don’t know who they are nor do they know their worth. So that blanket statement was respectfully not true 🙏🏽
This really blessed my life! Thank you ❤ I’m 27 and I love hearing this kind of wisdom.. no one is teaching like this anymore!! I’m thankful I clicked on this before the New Year 😅🫣
Sheeeeesshhh! This man here was not playing any games! He said do you want to get these jewels or not?! Lol I had to take the punches cause I need this knowledge
Yet another TIMELY episode!! Thank you God, Pastor Conway, & LaTerras!! 🙌🏾 I’m definitely going to purchase this book. I would love to join a good book club to unpack the content of this book!
Sir, thank you for creating a platform to educate, teach and train us all regardless of our relationship status. This episode was a master class most of us could not have afforded if was priced out. That’s how rich it was. I have been married for 12 years and will get this book to continue to learn and pass down what I have learned to my under 10 years old sons. I pray that God continue to bless this pastor and enlarge dear future wifey podcast. Sir, thank you for obeying God’s assignment to invite us into your private space.
Hello DFW Family 👋 Thank you for the new episode 🙏 I am at work, so I will watch the episode later. Have a wonderful week everyone! Merry Christmas ☃️🎄
This bless my soul!!!!! I am two months remarried to my ex husband for this exact reason. Thank you for sharing!! I want to see Jesus ! I now have the opportunity to continue becoming selfless, self giving and self sacrificing and I thank God!
Wow!! Just when I tell myself ive already experienced the best episode the week before!...lol Thanks Pastor Conway Edward's for beautifullly unpacking this message. Hec left no stone unturned sir!! I really need to get this book and would love to hear him preach.. I'm definitely full 🔥 🔥 🔥 God bless you all
Wow!! Bro this is where my heart at for the homeless and children!! Latteral. Sorry if I spelled your name wrong!! But this podcast Episode just really Bless my soul!!
Wow!! The truths in this podcast just keep coming…the more you watch (with a posture of receiving) the more you understand! Good job 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 bringing the truth of GOD! #kingdomtruth
Come on Pastor Conway!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is so good! And to think this is what the singles of our church get every 3rd Thursday of the month in our Pain Free Dating Masterclass. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 We are truly blessed to sit under Pastor Conway in order to get the right perspective. Loving my single life. 💜The book is great read!!!! Every single person should get their hands on it! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yessss! I love Pastor Conway! Pain Free Dating is definitely amazing, waiting for the January session. I love my ONE family. Waiting for Candlelight Service Saturday 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Look I'm getting the book lol. I love how you two just flowed in organic conversation. I like when you have guests that come on that didn't predetermine and plan out everything they were gonna say to try & impress the audience. I have so many great take aways from this episode, that I will be so much more conscious about applying to my life.
I have never bothered to comment until hearing this episode. I’m watching it for the second time and plan to watch it over and over again. Thank you!! We need more of Pastor Conway.
🔥🔥🔥…. I have no words for this episode !! Whew! Shut your mouth and keep on talking Pastor Conway! I can’t wait to study this book. This is foundational wisdom. So simple yet we make it so hard. Whew!!! 🔥🔥🔥
LATERRAS!!!! LAWDDD!!!!!!! This was for meeeee I was with this guy for many years because when I met him he just made me feel like I mattered, he payed attention to me, he served me, catered to me. I just knew he was the one and last one. But like Pastor said God said because you want him, I don't want him for you but I'm going to give him to you Him came with cheating on me over an over, him came with babymomma drama, just an unhealthy life. I'm the woman that tries to make it work and work at the process, long story short but God!!!! I'm working on Maxine being a better Maxine being transparent, and being authentic Laterras continue blessing us with Dear Future Wifey and Blessings to you King and your family🙏🏾🙌🏾💙
All of this was so GOOD!! I am sharing this video with everyone I know who is single no matter the age. These principles need to be caught! So many greatt gems in here. I am going to be relistening with my boyfriend so we can dissect it all together and answer the questions being asked. The Dear Future Wifey podcast is literally reshaping my perspective and cultivating me into the woman I desire to be and wife I desire to be for my husband one day. Such a blessing! I will be looking for you Pastor Conway because I need another word!
Every week I say to myself ‘this episode was the best ever’, then the following week you drop another bomb! This right here, WHEW!! This hit every nail! I need a Motrin! Man!!!!
Thank God this is awesome. As I continue to work on me and have a conversation with my daughters to discuss some of the things they had lacking from their childhood. And we work together for healing to make sure they become whole for there purpose partner ❤❤❤❤
1. Value bucket - How was I valued in my family ? 2. Vulnerability bucket - How was I protected my parents, family, and friends ? 3. Imperfect bucket - How was I expected to behave in my family ? 4. Dependant bucket - How were my needs and wants taken care of in my family? 5. Openess and spontaneity - How free or contained was I growing up? Lol, I came here looking for the work I needed for a spouse.. I need to work on my parenting and make sure I'm filling my daughters bucket !
Really appreciate this- so solid! As an educator I can definitely attest to the value of the buckets! There were some parents who would always show up for meetings, and others I never met - even with alternative times to meet.
I just found this podcast today… and I am hooked. Now I have to go back to episode one to collect all the jewels I have been missing. Then to comeback and rewatch this episode- it was that amazing. Thank you so much and may God continue to bless you!
I’m 43, just came back from a girls trip in the heart of winter. Thankfully never been desperate, but I had a father whose last words to me were: “You are more than enough… married or unmarried. You got everything you need to make it in this world, and you are beautiful!” I didn’t know it would be his last words to me, but I have eternal affirmation from my Heavenly Father, and external confirmation from my daddy. Eternally Thankful… never lost!
That is so beautiful..thank you for sharing. Makes me miss my dad
What a Blessing!...Affirmation and Confirmation!!🙌...Keep Living Your Best Life!
Did your dad know my dad🤣 Mine always said, “Take it easy, don’t take short cuts in life, your time will come my dear”
Beautiful x
@@MsLi-ef1xp Amen… I can honestly say during times of uncertainty I am most appreciative for having his essence in my life. I still feel covered by him when I follow his wisdom. Thankful for both masculine (father) and feminine (my mother) guidance. Glad that you have experienced it too! 😊
“God is not going to give you something that will compete with Him” … Wheww don’t let that one fly by you!🔥
I am over 35 and unmarried but not desperate at all. I love spending time with me, friends and family. As a Believer I focus on my relationship with God and His Kingdom agenda. In these last days there is a lot to intercede about as well as helping others find Christ. They just need to shift their focus.
God is most satisfied with me when I’m most satisfied in Him. 💎💎💎💎💎💎💎
Life changing! Thank you sir! ❤️
This statement was an absolute true gem!
Wowowowow!! This was also big for me! I'm thankful for the Pastor perspective and clarity!
Absolutely spiritual life changing ,chains are being broken,unrealistic expectations, it's a breakthrough to realize a human can't meet your every need . I'm satisfied with GOD,CHRIST,ETERNITY , ONLY HEAVENLY FATHER MEETS YOUR EVERY NEED 🙏🏾
First sentence i laughed...😂Just turned 38yrs, unmarried no kids. Pray God continue to keep me. Abstaining has protected me from alot of "goofiness". I am content with how my life turned out so far🤗.cant wait to c what He has instore for me
Me too! Just got a job and my mother’s talking about how I should have had my kids so I can concentrate on my growing career😢
Ditto. ❤️
@@berrydoos sadly the pressure comes from close quarters. Coniltinue to trust God with your journey.
God bless you
I met a man last week on Bumble & went out on a date (completely hyped up on emotions and didn’t catch the flags in person). Last night I felt God tugging at me about this man trying to really show me it was time to walk away & I said God you’re gonna have to make the sign clear literally slap me in the face with it! And ironically enough 4 am I get a notification from one podcast I follow theirs was titled “When to Walk Away” then 12 hrs later this podcast dropped! Ooooh the Holy Spirit was on time! Thank you so much for this content ❤ keep it coming!
Did you walk away?
@@Selahhhhhhhhhhh absolutely
Am laughing cos am 35 and unmarried. Coming from Kenya and a highly patriarchal culture, that's almost a crime 🤣 May I never be desperate in the mighty name of Yahusha!!!
Amen my Sister❤️❤️❤️
Amen sis
Amen sis..
Is Kenya a nice country?
🙏🙏🙏🙏
“Highest form of intimacy is spiritual intimacy not physical intimacy” 💥
I thought he said "...not emotional intimacy" 🤔
We don't discuss the process. So many don't make it to the reward because the process gets hard and they quit. The journey is worth it 🙌🏾
AMEN❤❤❤❤
Right!
Thank you so much Pastor Conway, this message was so powerful and needed!!! As a 43 year old single Christian, there are so much pressure to be married and have a family. I do desire to be married one day, but I do not want to enter a relationship out of desperations.
@@trecyrobinson8252 you should not 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 keep the faith ❤️
Great teaching on things to be healed from before marriage ☺️
that analogy for how we get hurt when our partner hurts us is the same as the hurt the Lord feels when we break his heart. thats a hard conviction
PURITY LEADS TO CLARITY!!!🔥🔥🔥teach me Lord how to wait.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
It really does. Currently over a year for me and now I'm able to more easily discern when a man is a manipulator, selfish (a taker not a giver), a narc...or any other red flags. Ask the right questions. Have thought provoking convos early on that reveal his values (past relationships, health, spirituality, political views, life goals, family, eventually finances). I check for accountability, self awareness, and growth. Observe his communication style, especially how he handles himself during disagreements. Watch to see if his actions match/reflect his claimed values. Are your love languages compatible? Is he able to meet those needs without you nagging? You can literally learn so much about a person in the first 3 months and fall deep in love, when there's no sex blinding you. It's amazing. Observe and be more logical in deciding if this is the right person for you vs letting your heart/feelings take over. And always check in with God.🙏❤️
Amen and Amen
@Mara Grace O. I always ask God for self control. Also I keep in mind that all the instructions God gave us are for our own good. Nothing good does He withhold from us. So when He tells us wait, when we don't, we almost always find out the hard way.
@@nikkyshamz2696 Absolutely sis🙏😊 I always ask God to help me perservere in my discipleship. A disciple has discipline, so that is the goal. Striving for discipline is not easy, but it's worth it. And I ask for that quality in my future husband as well, in addition to him being wise, hard working, a great leader, kind, humble, loving, slow to anger, someone that wants to be a good husband & father, and someone that values family, health, and healthy communication. I thank God for my progress and the lessons I've learned through the good times and the obstacles I have faced. God bless you🙏.
I’m a 37 year old divorced woman. I’m grateful that I’ve never been desperate to jump into a relationship. I want God’s best
Man! Pastor Conway made this thing real. When he said, "When you experience heartbreak when a partner cheats, that how God feels." This freed a lot of us! Now I truly understand why I've been abstinence
Hey Brother Laterras. This podcast was an overwhelming blessing. We need a series, meet up, workshop etc. around Pastor Conway's teaching. He is so on point, and I felt the spirit of the Lord while he was speaking and teaching. Truth and such practical application. He made many deep statements. God bless you and your ministry. This is tremendous work that you're doing.
I completely agree. Would love for a Dear Future Wifey/ Dear Future Hubby conference with Pastor Conway as Plenary speaker. I'm willing to support this work.
The 5 Buckets (I will be journaling about this tonight. Thanks for this!)
1. How was I valued in my family?
2. How was I protected by my parents and family?
3. How was I expected to behave?
4. How were my needs/wants taken care of in the home?
5. How free were you growing up (disciplined, constraint)?
Pastor Conway is amazing! He has a heart for singles but he is very insightful for married couples as well. My husband and I have learned so much from him and are blessed that he is our pastor 💜
I totally agree!
Yes we are all blessed that he is our pastor ❤. OCC family 🎉
Thank you for bringing up longevity! Story time…
I purchased my 1st vehicle in 2010 the year is now 2022 & I still own & have my car. The guys my age (late 20’s early 30’s) keep telling me to get a new car… I don’t need to so I haven’t! I even cut guys off for not understanding after I further explain why I still have a vehicle.
I keep my car up, I keep it clean, maintenance up to date, it’s been paid off for 6 years & I will purchase a car in the future, but right now at this moment a new car would put me back in debt, that’s a 5-7 year commitment with high APR. I’m saving/investing my money, working, prioritizing, building & allowing God to lead me with big financial purchases. I believe the car may symbolize who I am a lil… I’m consistent, I don’t just get something new because it’s no longer shiny or in style, I can take care of things, I prioritize, I manage my money well… the men I date don’t see that they just think I’m too fine to drive a 12 year old car. I’m no longer dating at the moment, but I still attract a lot of men who seem materialistic.
That’s partially because men are often looking for women they can “upgrade” or impress. Your car and other areas in your life that aren’t materialistic is a breeding ground for men who think they can “buy” women or impress them. They don’t understand your mindset on the matter
@@rickboss4242 so true
It's a turn off for me as well. I am quite frugal. I'm not one to spend just because I have it either. Until last year, I drove a hand-me down 98 Honda Accord. Road it til the wheels fell off lol. I hand washed it myself and made sure the interior was clean and vacuumed. Any man that tries to impress me with what he has (especially if it's something that depreciates like car, clothes, shoes, watches, etc 😅) is not for me tbh. A house is impressive. Savings are impressive. Investments are impressive. How he expresses his love for his family and close friends is impressive. His ability and willingness to express his emotions is impressive. But his love for God and dedication to the Word is the most impressive, and quite frankly, sexy thing ever.
To those guys, I simply express that I don't think we are compatible, wish them good luck, and move on. I've stopped letting my feelings get so involved early on. Can't help what you attract, but you can control how fast you cut it off when you see those red flags. Good luck sis!
This is the video that none of us wanted, but we all NEEDED.
THIS VIDEO WAS AN INTRODUCTION TO FREEDOM. Thank you, gentlemen. God bless you both.
My next marriage will be successful! In jesus name I pray. Amen ❤
Your “forever” marriage! 🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏾
Mine too!!! In Jesus name!!!!
He is unapologetically anointed, very comical, filled with wisdom and beyond. May God bless his efforts always.
"Purity leads to clarity" ,Wow that's hits home . I'm 35 and I'm abstinence journey. Thank you for the episode. 🇿🇦
Wanting love and marriage does not make you desperate at no age. Wanting love is apart of God's plan and the Maslow's hierarchy of needs states every human being has that need for love and relationships. It's too many ppl trying to capitalize off that need today. Never feel bad ladies for wanting love, marriage, children, its ok
Exactly
Amen, I agree - never feel bad for wanting love, marriage children. So many "worthy" women are waiting and I support and send love out to all. It's my prayer that your wants will be satisfied, God will bless you with the desires of your heart. Never give up... it's coming. Keep believing in God's goodness and his plan for us.....
The problem is that we become so defensive and jump on the build-a-fence all-around me train so fast you miss the point. My dear you missed the point. Buy the book.
@@johnniejohnson6420 I understand the pinpoint of the book. I really think that the points he talked about towards the latter half of the podcast were excellent. I take a bit of an issue with the generalization that women think feel and act in any one particular way - desperate for a man, not being satisfied with God, putting need for family before God. All women are not doing that. (Maybe the pastor is only encountering what he has described) The podcast did not mention some of the other valid reasons that great and Godly women are still waiting and longing for a partner and family. There is a shortage of eligible men due to societal issues and it would be great to converse about how to remedy that/ maybe women can travel more to expand their circle and meet more people, maybe there some networking or out of the box things that these Godly women can engage in. I though the podcast was very good but only focused on the desperate or broken women. To use language that suggest that all unmarried women in 30s and up are in this state perpetuates a stereotype that is untrue and offensive for those that are not and they are really just waiting and trusting God but likely need some effective tools to meeting more prospects.
@Kenya Carl: YES!! You absolutely nailed it. What do you say to the woman that is satisfied in Jesus and yet is still waiting, still abstaining, still staying whole and holy but has not yet gotten her husband she desires? These are the women waiting. Listening to these podcast and buying ALL THE BOOKS to find an answer. Are we saying, just be satisfied with you and God, stop feeling the desire for companionship, and you will finally get your husband?
“Too many pastors got married too young, so they don’t know what it feels like to be single and in the church. Yet still, 65 to 70% of churches are made up of single people.” Church’s don’t spend enough time teaching the importance of marriage, the benefits of it, and what it’s supposed to look like. These guys really understand it. I immediately ordered his book after hearing this episode.
“God is most satisfied in you, when you are most satisfied in Him!! “🔥🙌🏾
I like the way Laterras corrected and explained to pastor when he said women over 35 are desperate 👏🏽👏🏽
This is an episode that me personally, I would NEED to watch again and again! He spoke so much realness! Whenever I need a refresher about who I am in Christ, this is the video. Jesus! This blessed me.
My pastor on here just splitting wigs back😅
@AiresWW You know how he is. He never comes to play. He'll cut you and giggle afterwards.
I just turned 40, no kids and divorced. I'm climbing that Corporate ladder...so THAT PART bust me upside my head!! Come on Pastor!!!📢📢📢
I'm 41, divorced with no children. I found this segment very rewarding!! I'm so tired of men being physically attracted to me aka lust. However, I'm doing my best not to have a harden heart.. I must make God satisfied first!!! In addition, being over 35 and climbing the corporate ladder...I too experienced all the expectations (marriage/child bearing etc). I'm remaining faithful to God my prayers are answered. Still no husband/child. #GodPlan #Faithful
I'm curious. Do you think your ex-husband only married you for looks?
@Dear Future Wifey Yes looks and brains! He was 15yrs older than me. Im very self motivated driven person! I recently retired from the US Navy as well (20 honorable yrs). Since my divorce back in 2017, I find men think I'm the complete package; however I experience insecurities from men, lack of drive which turns me off once exposed and other little nuances I later discover. Plus most men have kids by now, I just don't want to be someone's second! That was more to your question....I know.
I think it's good for a man to be attracted to you, but the right person wouldn't lead with that. I take that as disrespectful actually. And he should love God more than he loves your body. Is he a disciplined enough to control himself? That is key. What else does he love about you?
I know if I'm attracted immediately. But for me, exploring the spiritual connection and emotional connection is priority. I want my partner to feel like my best friend. I should feel most safe with him after God. That talking for hours thing about any- & everything, whether in person or over the phone says alot. Then of course explore all the other areas of compatibility as well. Cut off the wrong ones faster, no minimizing red flags, and stay faithful 🙌🙏.
This is one of those episodes you don’t watch just once because the second time around you may get more out of it. I enjoyed the humor, the truth, as will as the serious undertone of this one. I watched it while preparing dinner before service tonight. So I almost dropped my vegetables a few times 😂Sorry to here about your truck. Hope you were able to get that handled.
Pastor Conway you swept away layers of cobwebs and dust bunnies of teacher-preacher doctrination, false hope, and promises I've heard for so many years. Man of God, my ears have heard the glory of Pure Biblical TRUTH. Like a disobedient child, I have been reprimanded, rectified, and reminded God chastises those He loves. Thank you, sir, for leaving an uncut, rock-solid gem trail towards eternal salvation.
LISTEN!!!!...All I can say is WOW.
This episode is LOADED with so many Golden Nuggets. I have to watch this again!!!
And Pastor is Jamaican..lol that's definitely a Plus #passionpeople
Yes indeed purity leads to clarity. That is so true. With purity you can almost know the first day in meeting someone if they’re worthy of your time. Desperation invites divorce what an observation! I love that he is providing a tool to combat fickle relationships. So good!
Only God can meet your needs:
1 .Acceptance
2. Security
3. Purpose
4. Identity
❤🙌🏾
I watch pastor Conway sermons every morning.
Just met him here first time. And I’m going to do what u doing ☺️😁
It’s time to create healthy love legacy’s. Our future generations deserve it. ❤
Yes !!!
Absolutely
This episode right here is mind-blowing and full of powerful gems for singles. God is the only one who satisfies you completely . No man/woman can take His place.
Wow wow wow, ok sorry last one, the 5 buckets. I’m today years old (46) finally seeing what the major problem is. This is no pat on my back at all because my upbringing wasn’t perfect but I had all 5 buckets filled while dealing with others who didn’t have even 1 filled. Lord have mercy. Now I’m crying because for the first time I understand my value and what I bring to a man and marriage but this whole time I undervalued myself and chose based on that. I’m not perfect but never needed a man to fill a need for me I lacked or didn’t have.
Wow! The anointing & wisdom coming through this episode is incredibly powerful. This is one we must watch over & over again. Pastor Conway is bringing the truth!
Right, omg
My God I was just here and living these situations and scenarios. Searching for Queen who sees me and allows me to lead has been so challenging for me. Thank you Pastor and brother for this podcast.
I'm curious, do you mind expanding. What has been challenging?
@@kaceyscorner3738 Acknowledgement and awareness of who you are and what you bring to the relationship. I have met a few women who told me they wanted a good man but when they had one, they couldn't see me due to past traumas. Granted we all come with scars and even wounds but it's up to us or the individual to do the necessary work to heal.
@Chris Parker prayerfully ask God to bring your person your way
@@nikkyshamz2696 I certainly have been sista. It's a process to prepare me for my wife and marriage. So I have to trust and not rush His process💞🙏👑
Wow season 6 is too much! I need to rewatch both and bring extra cups because the one I have now is overflowing! As someone who has been single since I lost my husband to fatal crash at 25 it hasn't been easy being back in the game....now I am 35 and I can say God has used this channel as one of platforms for me to keep going and trusting that GOD IS ENOUGH AND I AM ENOUGH! ONLY HIM GIVES ME CONTENTMENT AND SATISFACTION AS I CONTINUE NAVIGATING THROUGH THE SINGLE'S MAZE! Thank you for the wisdom and for seeing us "The singles in the body of Christ"
At 41:00 minutes my life changed. Tears began to flow, and apologies to my Heavenly Father began. Lord, thank you for allowing me to have more time to understand that my relationship with you is more important than anything, especially you providing my husband. God, I’m so sorry. Thank you for loving me and being patient with me. I appreciate you.
GOD Bless you both for this episode…. I needed this! Thank you for teaching me to be satisfied fully in JESUS 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾
This is life giving! The principles for kids, singles and marriage is like no other. I need one of those 📚
All I can say is, he is awesome and anointed. Thanks for bringing him back on.
OMG what a Blessing!!! Pastor Conway, I thank God for your gift and allowing God to use you in ministering to single people and guiding them to choose wisely in making the second biggest decision they will make in their life. I truly enjoyed every moment of the discussion. I wish I had this type of Godly knowledge before I got married. But I thank God for his Grace and Mercy. Keep on doing what you are doing for the Kingdom of God!!! Kingdom Marriages, Praise God. And thank you Laterras for having Pastor Conway on your show.
I had to end a relationship recently because he was ready to fully commit. As much as I loved and cared for him I didn’t have the confirmation that I needed in my spirit that he was the one. I listened to my inner voice and I just hope I made the right decision. I feel at peace at the moment, but only time will reveal why I had to move on.
Laterras, you have done it again! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 From beginning to end, this conversation was so good. Thank you for being a man of integrity by being transparent about your abstinence journey. I learned so much from your honesty. I agree with Pastor Conway that you are exactly what we need to open the door for these necessary conversations. Well done, King!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
This was a great episode. That last nugget from Pastor Edwards about so many pastors leading churches did get married very young so they don't know what it feels like to be single and in the church. Specifically single in 2023. Grateful for this content.
Wow!!!! Not even 10 minutes in and this teaching is so good.
Principles are paramount. "Purity leads to clarity, beautiful".
Yes!! On time message! I ordered the book as I will be teaching single ministry in 2023 and doing premarital counseling. Love it🎉
My relationship with God was my first healthy relationship. We look for humans to do what only God can.
You spoke to me was about to give up faithful thither committed in my church service 42 year old virgin this is the message I wanted
Girl! So So Good! Keep running the race and don't give up!
Desperate that’s just inaccurate. That’s doing women a disservice to say all women over 35 desperate. Lies! Just say some may be desperate. And honestly nowadays even 20 years are desperate because they don’t know who they are nor do they know their worth. So that blanket statement was respectfully not true 🙏🏽
This really blessed my life! Thank you ❤ I’m 27 and I love hearing this kind of wisdom.. no one is teaching like this anymore!! I’m thankful I clicked on this before the New Year 😅🫣
The story of the car without AC had me rolling with laughter! 🤣🤣 Why wi stay so as Jamaicans?! 😂😂 This was a great discussion.
I agree Laterras . You may have to wait a bit longer … but never compromise .
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This episode just hit different! I need to listen again and take notes! Be satisfied with just you and Christ first!!❤😊
Some 21 years so many have been taught so wrong for so many years. Thank you for that word.
He preached several words in this. This was a gem.
Sheeeeesshhh! This man here was not playing any games! He said do you want to get these jewels or not?! Lol I had to take the punches cause I need this knowledge
This blessed my soul. I love Pastor Conway! He keeps it all the way real ❤
Yet another TIMELY episode!! Thank you God, Pastor Conway, & LaTerras!! 🙌🏾 I’m definitely going to purchase this book. I would love to join a good book club to unpack the content of this book!
Sir, thank you for creating a platform to educate, teach and train us all regardless of our relationship status. This episode was a master class most of us could not have afforded if was priced out. That’s how rich it was. I have been married for 12 years and will get this book to continue to learn and pass down what I have learned to my under 10 years old sons. I pray that God continue to bless this pastor and enlarge dear future wifey podcast. Sir, thank you for obeying God’s assignment to invite us into your private space.
This conversation is so RICH! I'll definitely be watching this again to take notes AND I need this book.
Hello DFW Family 👋 Thank you for the new episode 🙏 I am at work, so I will watch the episode later. Have a wonderful week everyone! Merry Christmas ☃️🎄
My take away Gems: Purity leads to clarity. We are the product by the decision we make. 💚💙
agree MGM
This bless my soul!!!!! I am two months remarried to my ex husband for this exact reason. Thank you for sharing!! I want to see Jesus ! I now have the opportunity to continue becoming selfless, self giving and self sacrificing and I thank God!
I'm going to get this book; it would be great to read this book with a group of singles
Love our Pastor I love how he tells the truth according to the word🙏🏽
Giving my LIKE now, I already know the episode will be good. I’ll come back when I’m not at work and my phone is charged.
Wow!! Just when I tell myself ive already experienced the best episode the week before!...lol Thanks Pastor Conway Edward's for beautifullly unpacking this message. Hec left no stone unturned sir!! I really need to get this book and would love to hear him preach.. I'm definitely full 🔥 🔥 🔥 God bless you all
My thoughts exactly!
Amen sis 🙌🏽 I need this book as well 🙏🏽
Wow!! Bro this is where my heart at for the homeless and children!! Latteral. Sorry if I spelled your name wrong!! But this podcast Episode just really Bless my soul!!
This has BLESSED me! God knows how to speak to you through people and this was all GOD! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Wow!! The truths in this podcast just keep coming…the more you watch (with a posture of receiving) the more you understand! Good job 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 bringing the truth of GOD! #kingdomtruth
Thanks for listening
You got him in the studio. I can't wait to watch it.
Wow. Just wow! I’m always tuning in & I must say this is one of my favorites! POWERFUL. IMPACTFUL. PERIOD.
Wow, thank you!
Come on Pastor Conway!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is so good! And to think this is what the singles of our church get every 3rd Thursday of the month in our Pain Free Dating Masterclass. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 We are truly blessed to sit under Pastor Conway in order to get the right perspective. Loving my single life. 💜The book is great read!!!! Every single person should get their hands on it! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yessss! I love Pastor Conway! Pain Free Dating is definitely amazing, waiting for the January session. I love my ONE family. Waiting for Candlelight Service Saturday 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Honor God and He will honor you...
@@KenH0442It is truly a blessing to be in a church where we are valued as singles. I love our church family. 💜
@@phillipablake9029Yes and Amen 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
This is Powerful... it was a mouthful when Pastor spoke about putting your spouse first.
Look I'm getting the book lol.
I love how you two just flowed in organic conversation. I like when you have guests that come on that didn't predetermine and plan out everything they were gonna say to try & impress the audience. I have so many great take aways from this episode, that I will be so much more conscious about applying to my life.
Dang! He opened up with shots fired. Let me sit here and listen to this humble pie. 😂
I have never bothered to comment until hearing this episode. I’m watching it for the second time and plan to watch it over and over again. Thank you!! We need more of Pastor Conway.
🔥🔥🔥…. I have no words for this episode !! Whew! Shut your mouth and keep on talking Pastor Conway! I can’t wait to study this book. This is foundational wisdom. So simple yet we make it so hard. Whew!!! 🔥🔥🔥
This is so good! I recently met a man and this is perfect timing!
He's Back 💪🏾‼️🌻🤲🏾🎯
Satisfaction in God is priceless. May Jehovah settle your heart ❤ today.
LATERRAS!!!!
LAWDDD!!!!!!!
This was for meeeee
I was with this guy for many years because when I met him he just made me feel like I mattered, he payed attention to me, he served me, catered to me.
I just knew he was the one and last one.
But like Pastor said God said because you want him, I don't want him for you but I'm going to give him to you
Him came with cheating on me over an over, him came with babymomma drama, just an unhealthy life.
I'm the woman that tries to make it work and work at the process, long story short but God!!!!
I'm working on Maxine being a better Maxine being transparent, and being authentic
Laterras continue blessing us with Dear Future Wifey and Blessings to you King and your family🙏🏾🙌🏾💙
All of this was so GOOD!! I am sharing this video with everyone I know who is single no matter the age. These principles need to be caught! So many greatt gems in here. I am going to be relistening with my boyfriend so we can dissect it all together and answer the questions being asked. The Dear Future Wifey podcast is literally reshaping my perspective and cultivating me into the woman I desire to be and wife I desire to be for my husband one day. Such a blessing! I will be looking for you Pastor Conway because I need another word!
There absolutely was a release. A word In season... there was deliverance...
Be satisfied with God..may God be enough.
Wow! Timely and valuable nuggets that everyone needs to listen to. Thanks for sharing truth and both being vulnerable.
Every week I say to myself ‘this episode was the best ever’, then the following week you drop another bomb! This right here, WHEW!! This hit every nail! I need a Motrin! Man!!!!
Thank God this is awesome. As I continue to work on me and have a conversation with my daughters to discuss some of the things they had lacking from their childhood. And we work together for healing to make sure they become whole for there purpose partner ❤❤❤❤
I love Pst.Conway!!!would listen to him all day long!
Mr. Laterras, I LOVE how you are honoring God with this podcast! Each episode is life changing and I thank God for you. Thank you and Keep Going!! 💜
1. Value bucket - How was I valued in my family ?
2. Vulnerability bucket - How was I protected my parents, family, and friends ?
3. Imperfect bucket - How was I expected to behave in my family ?
4. Dependant bucket - How were my needs and wants taken care of in my family?
5. Openess and spontaneity - How free or contained was I growing up?
Lol, I came here looking for the work I needed for a spouse.. I need to work on my parenting and make sure I'm filling my daughters bucket !
Really appreciate this- so solid! As an educator I can definitely attest to the value of the buckets! There were some parents who would always show up for meetings, and others I never met - even with alternative times to meet.
I enjoyed this interview. He spoke truth about what we should work on in the pursuit of marriage.
Such clarity, practicality, wisdom and freedom in this! 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Thank You!
Chiiiilllleeee...let me brace myself...and get ready to (potentially) take some notes! ✍🏾📝
I just found this podcast today… and I am hooked. Now I have to go back to episode one to collect all the jewels I have been missing. Then to comeback and rewatch this episode- it was that amazing. Thank you so much and may God continue to bless you!