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I always describe having ADHD as being in a crowded cafeteria, where people are all having conversations around you, but those conversations are my thoughts
I once tried to get homework done, but it was so difficult to actually do anything that I just gave up, and then felt mad at myself for not being able to work normally. These kinds of experiences are super frustrating
Just so you know....adults with ADHD can be super productive people. Over the years I have worked with several adults with ADHD who have learned to work with their adhd instead of against it and have been highly productive people. One guy in particular was extremely successful. His brain going in so many directions actually helped him because his job required him to keep attention on so many different things at once. He did have some interesting ways of getting things done, but he excelled at his job. And when he did have a task that required a lot of focus, he would put on his noise canceling headphones and fly through it. Long story short...school is set up for one kind of learner and people who are good a doing paperwork (and only like 25% of students fall into that category) As an adult, finding the right kind of job can make adhd helpful. I just wanted to say that to you so that you understand ypur not doomed to fail at everything just because you forget your meds one day
When I was doing online college classes, I had to have the TV on of old reruns and music in my ears; creating my own distractions so I could get my work done. Same as at one of my old jobs, they created a position for me. I returned at least 300 emails a day, answers in coming support calls and as well as replying to clients chats, only up to four at once. I was a champ at multitasking.
Well darn. When a stimulus occurs, I have a knee jerk reaction to do something. But I have to stop myself to think about it, is it possible, can I do the thing at all. Usually I can't Mind always going faster than the body
That's exactly all of what caused my spiral and instead of sympathy for the condition and the fact that despite trying to get help I was told "you need to do this even though you were diagnosed as a kid, oh you also need insurance to get an evaluation" which led to depression and then being given Seroquel and here I am. I was told to just deal with everything, like it was a choice rather than a struggle to do so
A correction that I would like to make is that it's not just possible for ADHD to persist into adulthood, it does. If you have it, you have it. It doesn't go away.
I think what she meant to say is that it’s possible people are misdiagnosed in kids. Sometimes kids doing things in a wild fashion isn’t adhd and just a kid. But yeah if you have ADHD you will always have it all you can do is suppress most issues with medication/therapies like grounding. My ADHD makes me a million miles a minute until I take my medicine and then I can live normally.
At least if we get diogenes sooner than later we can build the right bridges or at the very least you can have a 'name' for your absurdity. I think this massage is more likely for the parents of ADHD kids whose like to bring their child to be fix in 2-3 years in hoping that the child will be normal in their teen or adulthood
I think it refers more to the symptoms and difficulties coming with it. Although people will still have adhd, many learn to adapt, either by developing healthy mechanisms or hiding it, while others will still continue to struggle the same way they did as kids
As someone with ADHD one of my favourite things is seeing people light up with a smile and say "I've never thought about it that way" to something I've said.
@@Irani_guy That's such an accurate description, the thing is that what's the point of seeing it in 4d if I can't comprehend what I see, it's way too much.
You forgot hyper focus. It happens when you discover something new and fully revolve your life around it every bit of free time and almost every thought is about what your hyper focusing on it's like an insane amount of focus on that particular thing then something new comes around and that then becomes the thing you hyper focus on while whatever you were focused on before just goes to the side. it's a big part of why people like me can't finish certain things or meet goals they have set for themselves. Hopefully some will understand what I'm trying to say.
This is important to mention, because our ability to focus intensely on the highly stimulating/novel can be turned on us; “You don’t have ADHD; you focus on those video games/that new hobby just fine!”. 😑
Undiagnosed, but absolutely certain I have ADHD. Mom has it, older brother has it, and I've shown symptoms all my life. I've managed pretty well on my own, but I'm definitely considering getting a proper diagnosis... if I can ever remember to get around to it 😅
You have to get diagnosed, I had autism at 30 never knew I had ADHD until recently I was diagnosed and I am happy I did, I was recommended cbd oil and microdosing shroom as way to go and it's been pretty amazing , unlike other medications with poor results and much side effects. Look up albovegateway
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid so I knew pretty much my whole life that I had ADHD, but didn't really understand or know exactly how it was/is effecting me and my day to day till in recent years. Now so many things make so much more sense! Bit of a funny story, I often struggle to get into bed at a decent time. Well Shadow, my little black cat, has taken it upon herself to make me go to bed at night. She usually starts her little bedtime routine around 11pm and does everything she can to get my attention and stop doing whatever it is I'm doing. As soon as I get up/start moving she'll run to the bed/bedroom and stare at me, occasionally meowing at me. If I get distracted by something she starts the process over again. If I try petting her or scratching her ears (she loves having her ears scratched) during this, she'll lash her tail around like she's really mad. Like, "I accept your head scratches, but I'm still mad at you for not going to bed." Once I'm finally settled in for the night she curls up next to me.
That's so lovely, she can tell your head is buzzing, really trying to get you to into bed! Sleep procrastination is adhd?! I'm late diagnosed, but have struggled to go to bed even if tired all my life. My 2 year old dog has started touching me with his paw, when I'm so lost in thought I get stuck and he helps me remember what I was doing. He knows my head is buzzing, he reads me like a book. When I'm overwhelmed he brings a ball to play, which breaks up the thought streams. When I'm in despair from mental exhaustion, he nearly licks my face clean off!☺️ we are so blessed to share our lives with animals! Do you need meds or just life hacks?
That’s so cute 🥰. She’s basically taking care of you. My cat doesn’t do that unfortunately. He just comes up for cuddles occasionally and sometimes naps with me but mostly comes into my room just to get me up lol 😂. He’s my little alarm clock ahaha. He is my wee cutie though tbf. Xx
I wish I could explain that feeling of non-motivation to others in the context I experience it in. I’m in college doing my dream study, and yet without serious help from the people around me to keep me motivated I wouldn’t have made it through my first week. It sucks to lack motivation for things you’re passionate about
I feel like a disconnect.. I have all these plans and WANT to do things.. but I just can’t get my body to do it.. unless I feel like there’s a gun to my head and something bads about to happen if it doesn’t get done
@@EriBarr: That my life to a T! I have so many things I wanna do, but I can’t! The only time I’m able to stick to a schedule is if I like doing the activity, but even then it only lasts a while!
I’ve heard this described as “Important But Not Urgent”. It’s VERY easy to neglect pursuing a goal when the consequences are vague and well off in the future, while this UA-cam video is SUPER interesting RIGHT NOW! 🫠
@@EriBarrman reading all these comments are so cathartic for me. I’m 21 and was diagnosed at 18. I’ve only just realized in the past 2 weeks how this disorder actually has affected my brain and my life. Finally I can really see that it wasn’t me that just couldn’t do it. Sadly many of us require medication to function, but if the tradeoff is a drastically happier and more fulfilling life, then I’ll accept the medication, because without it, it feels impossible to do anything, even if I truly want to do it.
I'm 63 and I've been fighting this devil my whole life. Every one of these symptoms brings back so many bad memories of hurt feelings, frustration with relationships, long bouts of loneliness and cruel teasing because I was 'different. 'But the one positive thing about it is knowing that it wasn't my fault and I don't have to blame myself for so much that went wrong. Looking back now, I see where everything went wrong at, and why it happened. I also understand some people that Ive known in the past were truly concerned about it. They tried in their own way to explain things to me and hoped I could understand through all the static, and from having thousands of thoughts going through my head all at once and I had to grab at one and hope I get lucky. Sometimes I did but most of the time I didn't. Sometimes you just wonder why you couldn't just die and do this life all over again, but this time get things right!
I am your age and I can understand how you feel. For me life has become much more manageable by surrounding myself with supportive people and using technology to keep me organized. I autopay all of my bills now, set reminders on my phone, zone out the house to stay organized, reward myself for finishing a project. Don’t compare yourself to “normals”. A lot of experts believe Leonardo da Vinci was adhd. He never finished anything he started. Also Einstein as he was so disorganized and absent minded. 😊
@@spaceflight1019 Firstly, adhd is hard to spot in women who present completely differently to men. conversation about ND is happening now - this person is 63, and of a generation where people just didn't have the time to sit around self-diagnosing and making an identity out of it, like today.
@KoboldSoul I beg to differ with your opinion. I used to work in the industrial Instrumentation and process controls industry, and I was one of the ADHD nerds who believed that "in spec" wasn't good enough. It was either dead on or all wrong. This is how you turn it into a superpower. When you develop a reputation for accuracy, people don't care what you cost. They want the peace of mind knowing that they can trust their instruments and valves.
@KoboldSoul "There are three basic types, Mister Pizer: The Wills The Won'ts. The Can'ts. The Wills accomplish everything. The Won'ts oppose everything. The Can'ts won't try anything." Which one are you?
I have ADHD, and was diagnosed with it since I was a child. It was difficult to finish my tasks in school growing up, even doing chores at home. When I talk, I have to think about what I'm talking about, before it comes out of my mouth. But I am taking medicine for that, and it helps me to focus on certain tasks better. Thank you, psych2go for this video.
I won't take medicine for it because I am who I am. But as a fellow ADHD homie I must remind you of how amazing it feels when and if we actually finish something in one go
I JUST got diagnosed with ADHD, I'm 35 years old! I for sure believe it's also a superpower and we are not lazy. I mean, I became a vet of all things! It's wasn't easy because studying came really hard for me. But now, the practical side of actually being a vet, is what I was defenitly made for. Even started a UA-cam channel 2 years ago! It's still goingm but I need breaks every once in a while 😊
We thank you for taking care of our beautiful pets! In your experience, how does ADHD help you in your profession? Do you feel like you have some edge ahead of others because of your ADHD?
I learned something new. I always thought the hyperactive part never applied to me. Because I'm opposite, but now I know it can mean mental hyperactivity. And that definitely applies to me. I would like to get tested because I do have these symptoms, but I don't want to assume I have adhd.
I was diagnosed ADD, I was always the space cadet in my school years, I lived in my own head, even today, at 54, I still overthink, then burn out completely, no motivation, very little thinking, mostly static.
The knockout lady, like you, I always assumed that ADHD meant that you were bouncing off the walls and running all around. Meanwhile, At 65, it has been years since I felt I could even get out of bed and do anything. I rarely accomplish what I start out to do. My room looks like a 9 year-old lives in here. Every night I go to bed thinking I'm going to clean it up tomorrow. Every day I wake up thinking I'm going to clean it up today. And guess what? I think you know the answer. Recently I started noticing online that that wasn't exactly what ADHD meant and now I am looking into it. Hopefully we can all get some help. Keep your fingers crossed that someday I will be able to clean my room.. Ha ha ha. 🤗🇲🇽
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
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Timestamps 1). Mental restlessness 0:45 2). Ready! fire! aim! 1:50 3). Trapped in the now 2:37 4). Loss gor words 3:46 5). Unmotivated 4:24 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Lifelong issue, always had and never understood why i always felt so misunderstood and was constantly lagging behind everyone else. Figured it out in my 40's. And i swear by just knowing what it is now has helped me perform so much better. Being able to use strategies that help me succeed. Only wish is that i wouid have gotten an understanding of ADHD much sooner.
I've been diagnosed with ADD the type without hyperactivity. My therapist noticed it when we first talked and I was very glad that I got a part figured out why my brain works like this. It's nice to know there's people similar to this.
I still have ADHD and I take meds but when I don’t take them I have unlimited energy and I taught my self to help use that when I’m doing work but my brain is sometimes on fire
@@Psych2go my mom turns out she never wanted me on them it corrupts a persons, mind and vision on the world and you become so used to that world you can’t leave it
I used to think ADHD could not be much of a problem. But now, with a late autism diagnosis, i think it's clear that i also have ADHD. The two together have wreaked havoc in my life.
I prefer to think of it as overcoming serious disabilities I was given no support and in fact the OPPOSITE of support with my whole life and still being ALIVE! I myself actually live on my own with my two kids now, and am self-supporting, but it took a great deal of resources, grit, luck, smarts, and time to get to this place, and I understand it is an unusual one for us AuDHDers. ❤
I started looking at my ADHD differently. I don’t look at it as an illness anymore. It’s more like a gift and a self-improvement challenge. And even though it’s really exhausting at times, I‘m glad I have been given this huge opportunity. You just have to discover your inner self, your strengths and weaknesses and constantly work on your self awareness. I‘m happy.
@@nanaman Agree! I also recognized, that it’s very important to give yourself a moment to look back on your achievements from time to time. We tend to forget what we have been through, our success and the improvements we made. Especially during hard times it can be a HUGE boost to our confidence and motivation. 💪
This reminds me of myself with my adhd i dont know how but i'm extremely good at maintaining Focus + i use medicine and i have used it for most of my life since i was 6 or 5 years old thanks to mr genius: me i am an expert in school work I LOVE HISTORY & MEDICAL ED
Funny, self love led to me realizing I had adhd and now as a middle aged woman I realize I wasn’t stupid in school and I want to give college another try!
This is very, very helpful indeed. When I was a child in the early 1970s, I was diagnosed with what is now known as ADHD (it was called Hyperactivity back in the day), and as a High Functioning Autistic woman, eight years ago. It is a relief to have them formally diagnosed by medical specialists, but what I suffered as a child ... that time cannot be clawed back. What is needed is that the rest of my life should be the best of my life with help in managing these conditions. Peace and All Good.
Yep, every single bit. Im currently undiagnosed but looking at getting one as a woman the signs were missed, in childhood just like my dyslexia every single sign was missed as a kid, didn't get diagnosed till I was 22 years old with dyslexia and shortly after diagnosis was urged to look into ADHD. Thank you for posting this video
You guys are cracking me up! We may have ADHD, but at least we have a sense of humor. I think that is 1 of the most important things in life. I wish you all the best! 🤗🇲🇽
I can definitely relate to running away from tasks. I go through entire processes in my mind and get overwhelmed before I can even attempt said tasks. A good day for me is a productive day.
Having ADHD myself, I relate to all 5 signs. Throughout my teens I had noticed to get easily distracted, feeling constantly strained and oftern doing what I now know is termed "stimming". It wasn't until my early 20s that I was diagnosed with the condition after been noticed of struggling in studies. They prescribed me Long-lasting medicine, but I also discovered that strolling a lot every day gives additional help to relieving the strain. Non-planned activity has been my routine ever since.
This is true for me too. Whenever I take a long walk in the morning before I take medication I do better during the day when it comes to executive tasks and I feel better in general. Even my handwriting which is usually horrible and only legible to me gets better.
@@margeryojije7862 And what made you think others use it as an excuse? You don't have to care about me, that's ok. But I'm not sure what you actually want to tell me.
Nothing was more eye opening to me than finding out that the H in ADHD also means mental hyperactivity. I always thought I was just dealing with insomnia, and that was separate. Also, I always seem to interrupt my husband when he talks, jumping in to finish what he's saying. I'm working hard to counter this. On the plus side, I actually recently completed a painting I've been working for weeks. I'm so proud of myself!
Hey psych2go! I wanted to thank you for curing my metal health. Ive dealt with depression and now i have never been this happy and you helped with much more! Thank you so much ❤
It's good you're feeling good! Speaking from experience, try to mentally pre prepare yourself to eventually have some bad days again. It's normal, and most importantly, they will pass and you will feel good again. ❤️
I remember getting diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid. School was difficult and even at 23, after getting diagnosed with Autism at 11 or 12, a couple of years later after I got diagnosed with ADHD as a kid, live is still challenging as a guy with ADHD.
Ok possible autistic, adhd, introvert, deep thinker pseudo scientist here. Wtf? How do scientific community keep this mess around? Now psychology is hard, it's the hardest scientific field by far because NONE of the researches are done in a confined environment with repeatable conditions. I'm not blaming them, this is the nature of psychology. But there's one thing that bothers me; they categorized the behavior of the children and labeled them as "adhd" "autistic " and so on. I have no problem with the labels themselves but the society's and especially scientific community's approach to these terms. They are treated like a disease or disability. They are talking about "symptoms carrying over to adulthood " or "inability to focus on jobs" This is utter bullshit. Now let's put my problems with the labeling because if I start to that I'll be writing a scientific paper. Human brains greatest strength is its flexibility and scientific community has a tendency to ignore all this and chooses to adress people's "issues" with medications or therapy. Dude wtf? Am I being a tinfoil hat antiwaxxer? I don't think she or I hope I'm not. Because from scientific standpoint it's not reliable to categorize the behavioral characteristics of the individuals who has a different set of behaviors from the average norm. And since we know that human beings are unique in their own it's not healthy to categorize the minority in this case. You know what's funny? Every famous scientist or celebrity has a possibility of being autistic or ADHD. We can't be sure because they are either dead or just grown up. Adulthood has a major effect on people's behaviors, you develop a work ethic that is a part of your brain activity and this usually tends to suppress the characteristics of ADHD and autism. Those who are able to be aware of their "symptoms " tend to be able to use them to their advantage and enjoy the success. But average people who don't have these eccentric traits fail to utilize the same skills as well as adhd or autistic people because this basically requires them to have a different neurological pattern. I really want to gorge myself to ncbi and pubmed for this. I think we're missing the big picture in here.
I'm a woman with both, in my childhood and early to mid teens used to have struggles with my autism and understand people but now I have more struggles with my ADHD (hate the fact I have the combined one)
I have mildly severe ADHD, and while it can be difficult to reign in at times, I use the excess energy as a teacher to be enthusiastic about learning, keep up with my young students, and show them that a person with challenges can still become a (mostly lol) functioning adult.
To all those who are going through this condition, I know that living with ADHD can be challenging, but I want you to know that you're not alone. There are so many people out there who are going through similar struggles, and there are resources and strategies that can help. Don't be afraid to reach out for help or support when you need it, and remember that you're capable of achieving your goals and living a fulfilling life. Keep pushing forward and never give up 💪
Those are often related closely and can be mistaken with each other. Also, it doesn't mean one excludes another. It's quite the opposite. Usually an autistic person has a bit of ADHD. Also please remember that stating you are autistic means really nothing. They must declare the "level" of autism, meaning to what extent it affects your personal life - most importantly, social interactions. Also please remember, in adult life many of autistic behaviors won't be anymore noticeable by people, as we learned to compensate for them. It's REALLY hard to diagnose an adult person, especially those after their 40's due to that learned compensation. I always knew I was "different", already in my childhood. But back then autism was equal only to a "nodding" and speechless small child - either you have it or not. Nobody considered it as a spectrum with many levels. It gave me a lot of problems in social interactions but also gave me true friends (as we tend to speak VERY honestly), and some skills that other people around don't get even close to. So in the end I consider it as a gift even if sometimes it was really hard 😉
I am adhd autistic somewhere between 45 possibly 70 percent autistics are also adhd. There is no a little of adhd alit autism or vis versa though that us a misconception. U are all in of both only differing at what level of adhd ir autism. Professiinals and people like myself and others recommend self diagnosis akways first. Medical is overall in the dinnoisaur with knowledge. You could be setting yourself up for very negative experience. Some adhd traits mimic autism traits..u might very well just have adhd. ## I can offer one simple trait that only autistics have if u have that then maybe tes uf nit ur not. That is: You Look Young !! If u have had people exclaim all yr life u look way hellu younger then your age thats a autistic trait.
AuDHDer here too! I got diagnosed with Autism first in December just gone and I just got my ADHD mixed subtype diagnosis 3 weeks ago and have been medicated for 3 Weeks and it's really changed everything so far. I've not been losing things as much and I've been way more productive I'm 27 and just got my undergrad degree but I left my whole dissertation project til a week before and missed the deadline and I had to send a screenshot of my PC desktop because I kept opening the file over again and relating it things lile this one, this one for real, this one to submit, send this one last time. The relief I have now with meds is incredible, I hope whatever you need you get it and it makes you feel like I feel!
It's really hard to accept that this is who I am. I'm 32 and I still have so much trouble getting things done. I'm really influenced by this negative perception of my worth and it makes me hate myself intensely at times. I wish I could learn how to truly accept these traits so I could just let go of all the pressure that builds within.
Wow... I'm just laying here enjoying the video and the serenity in her voice, and the second I click off, that, "...and remember, you matter!" At the end nearly made me cry.
When I was a child and teen. I was told my problem that I was from a broken home. Struggled through life. Found it imposable for me to go all the hoops to get diagnosed. I finally got help with my primary. It has been a game changer for me!!
I can relate to your last point the most (lack of motivation). I always thought it was just depression. But it was depression + ADHD. Once I finally got my diagnosis for ADHD at the age of 26, I got on meds and my depression also improved so much.
I've got diagnosed with ADD when I was 13 after my math teacher recommended to my mum get me tested as I was unable to follow instructions, maintain eye contact, and couldn't pay attention at all. It was the time my life-long anxiety got so much worse, so there was surely a correlation between that too (the ADHD symptoms got too noticeable, not only for me). But after diagnosis not much changed for the better. After two years I changed schools I'm very grateful my parents let me follow my dream and transferred me to a multimedia art school. My anxiety was severe, but my attention span got better as I was doing most things that I liked doing. I had behavioral issues mostly with teachers, I had argued with a few of them, but it seemed that everyone including myself forgot about my ADHD that was causing me so much emotional distress etc. I was a good kid, a smart one, so I never had major issues with the principal or authorities, but I was not mentally well. As I turned 18, I finally started therapy and medication for anxiety. My old psychiatrist was ignoring the fact that adults can have ADHD, so after a year I dropped her and went to an ADHD specialist. I've got rediagnosed and started ADHD medication as well. I'm 20 and still trying to put myself together. I wonder how my mental health would be if only I'd gotten help and acceptance sooner. I've always felt something was different with me and I thought it was wrong.
It is so refreshing watching these videos and knowing that I’m not the only one going through life living with these problems. I just started taking ADHD medication about a month ago and the difference in quality of life is night and day. I hope anyone watching this that is experiencing symptoms knows that your not alone and we live in a world where there IS HELP AVAILABLE!
I know I was ADHD as a kid, though there was no diagnosis back then (the 70’s & 80’s). I knew I had something wrong with me, even as a kid, but I had no way to express it. As an adult, I’ve learned to control much of my behavior, though I still have many issues with it. It is a constant struggle, but at least some folks seem to understand these days.
“ADD” was a diagnosis in the DSM-III in 1980; the three forms of “ADHD” were swapped in with the DSM-III-R in 1987. So some kids were diagnosed and even given Ritalin in the 80’s, but not nearly all who would have benefited! 😬
@@misspat7555 My parents were told by doctors that I was "hyperactive", and that I needed to consume less caffeine and sweets. Needless to say, that didn't work at all.
Its very relatable, for me it can also be like trying to work at a desk that has several items on it and on the wall, you'll try your best to focus on the monitor and what you should be working on but in the corner of your eye you'll catch something that triggers a thought or memory, which then leads you to look at another item that relates to it and another, all while you're are trying to fight this constant distraction of thoughts and images to actually do what you want to, and you really really want to do it and the more you struggle the more stressed you feel which makes it harder to focus on the task at hand, until bur out and motivation kicks in.
I wish I had this knowledge years ago before I allowed everyone’s ignorant words about how unintelligent and lazy I am get to me and entered a state of deep depression Thankfully Im in much better place now, as I try to surround myself with more considerate and understanding people who helped me a lot with accepting who I am and what I had to go through to get to where I am now Dont lose hope fellow ADHD Kings and Queens
Wow! Sounds like you got your diagnosis pretty late! How come you decided to get yourself tested in your 50s instead of earlier? How has your life been since your diagnosis?
@@Psych2go I've got diagnosed while recovering from a burn-out, although it didn't came as a suprise. My life has completly changed after this. I choose not to solve the problem with medicine, but with lots of hot yoga, meditation and mindfulness instead, and i became a abstainer. I'm doing really well now and I even started a bachelor psychology at the Open University (in the Netherlands) and my grades are good!
Wow! That's a huge victory! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's amazing to hear that you're avoiding medication and instead are pracitcing yoga, meditation, and mindfulness. We hope that you'll continue to prosper through your bachelor's program. Congratulations!
:(i have but mypsy removed my med and i feel it will be a struggle to have meds again. I cant live without my eitalin. I cant imagine a life like that.😮
It took me until I was 21 to connect the dots to get diagnosed with ADHD, and when I asked my parents about why they never let me get checked for it when I was younger, they didn’t believe it existed. They just thought I was constantly distracted, lazy, forgetful, and that forcing punishments onto me would fix that. It’s been several years since my diagnosis and my dad still doesn’t believe it’s a real condition. 😅
I strongly relate to a lot of these, however at my recent psych screening I was diagnosed with depression only. The doctor said that I may have developed the adhd symptoms while suffering from chronic pain and depression for years and constantly needing to distract myself from the pain, find anything else to focus on, distance myself mentally from reality, etc. She said that medical treatments that work for adhd would not help my symptoms because the chemical causes are different. I find It still helps to learn from adhd resources when these symptoms overwhelm me and I feel like there's something wrong with me.
I don’t have an answer for you, but I relate to what you’re expressing. I’ve had depression for a long time and have been diagnosed with ADHD a year ago. The diagnostic process focuses all on childhood stuff, so I am pretty sure that it is correct. But I’ve wondered too if the years of depression have affected my brain to induce ADHD like symptoms. On the other hand, lots of people with ADHD develop depression because of the challenges it brings in life and how it can make you feel like you’re not good enough. Plenty of people have been told by their care providers that they didn’t have it but they weren’t actually putting them through a diagnostic process, so if that is the case with you and you think a diagnosis could help you don’t hesitate to advocate for yourself.
@@ellecrescent9834 I thought I WAS adocating for myself by asking about it! To be fair, both theories seem equally rational, and they can't just prescribe meds to people who don't fit the all the criteria. Idk.
Most of the ADHD critera are executive disfunctioning issues which depression can also cause, Also, the stresses from untreated ADHD can cause depression, and depression is a common comorbidity to ADHD. So having one does not exclude the other. Depression is serious and is the higher priority thing to treat but if you think your doctor is missing something then you have to be ready to advocate for yourself and keep bringing up your concerns. Take care ❤️
I got diagnosed with ADHD 2 months ago and I can relate to every single part in this video that is mentioned. But thank you so much for this video-- if someone comes to me and says "you're not the typical adhd behaviour", I'll show them this video! ❤️
@@Psych2go Hmm, I think the most relatable things for me are the "mental restlessness" because I'm constantly in inner stress that I permanently need to do something instead of give me some small moments to breath. Then there's the "trapped in now" which causes a lot of fights with my mum. When she tells me to do something a few seconds ago or even multiple times, I just easily forget these things because I get distracted to easily by other things. So she gets angry at me and I get called "lazy". And at last is the "unmotivation". As example: I really really want to clean my room more often because I know I will feel so much better after cleaning it but I can't find the point to start it... even when I want to do it so badly by myself. Long story short, in the end I can relate to everything in the video, but I picked out some of them where I see myself the absolute most in. My life with the knowledge that I have ADHD didn't changed much for me yet. Just that I understand everything about it way much better... and also myself. I'm waiting for the appointment on a doctor that allows me to take Ritalin. And I really have high hopes that these meds could help me focusing a lot more because I'll also start in a new school in august (I'm 24 years old). But thank you so much again for such a good video about this topic ❤️ I hope I can translate this video one day in german for my family so they understand my behaviour a little more. (because they're not good in english)
@@scarecrowprowler I got 2 different medications from there but both didn't really showed some effects on me. Maybe not the right medication or dosis yet but I also have bpd, which makes it probably harder to find a right one.
The end of this video really hit hard. I know what she said is true, but it's nice to hear someone actually say it, I'm forever thinking that I'm just broken and i need to be fixed but i just cant think of how to fix me. It's horrible and while i know logically that I'm not broken at all, my brain just works in different ways to others, or as I sometimes think of it, my brain is in another dimension or reality, it's still nice for it to be acknowledged that I'm not broken or damaged goods. Sometimes I forget that
I hate the fact that no one seems to take ADHD seriously.. Many that I've been around have said "there's no such thing as ADHD they just need a butt whooping" *sigh* they just don't know I have had plenty of butt whoopings
@margeryojije7862 I am well aware of the attitudes of people in this old system of things. That's why I am very careful to surround myself with those that do care.
I never had a “butt whooping”, but both my parents are permanently very disappointed in me for not making the big bucks. Including the one who passed his complex brand of neurodivergence on to me wholesale. 😑
@@misspat7555Hello i want help my age is 17. i think i have adhd . people often misunderstand me . i recently went to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. They both diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. They both say adult adhd is not real. Adhd is a disease only in childhood but it does not persist in adulthood when I am clearly showing the symptoms of adhd . I believed in them the psychiatrist gave me medicine sssri's rize table 10mg. It made my adhd worse i cant even focus for 5 seconds actually 2 seconds.its hard for me to even write this . My friends dont understand me they keep saying i do it deliberately to get attention. I dont I swear man please help me . I am writing this at 2:39 night time am maybe idk cant even remeber or understand whats am or whats pm. I am going to k*'ll myself exactly on 10 october 2024. I have a reason to do that .if nobody replies i will stil end it all . nothing makes sense to me . everything is f*cked
I love to watch these kinds of videos so I can feel normal. It's like someone puts words on what I'm feeling like, I hate having adhd so much, I feel like the worst human on earth. Tbh even while writing this comment I struggled, after I wrote the word "like" my brain went blank and I somehow forgot what I was talking about and didn't know what words to write, I kept reading over and over again without comprehending what I JUST wrote.
I did not realize I have ADD until age 64! It explains thousands of things over my life: the frustration of my parents, teachers, co-workers, customers, employers, and especially wife. I wonder what all I missed in school and university, due to my mind flying into the wild blue yonder because of something in the content of what the teacher said. One thing struck me about this video: the difficulty in getting chores done because of an insufficiency of dopamine. Now Parkinson's runs in my family, which is a destruction of the dopamine factory. Could this have something to do with me, even though I don't have the family disease?
Getting my meds in order helped IMMENSLY with mundaine tasks starting to feel rewarding. Just small things adding up and making me hopefull about the future again.
I think it's great that ADHD and Autism are being given the attention it deserves and more awareness is being spread I hope this continues, but I also hope that more health conditions are also given the attention they deserve as I've noticed that many conditions which can effect mental health as well as quality of life are not spoken of often such as Muscular Dystrophy or MS and or Cerebral Palsy etc, many conditions like these can contribute to mental health related stress struggles yet are rarely mentioned in educational content focused around health and wellness, physical neurological conditions should be factored into discussions about mental health management. I'm a care giver to someone with Autism I've also met many who have been diagnosed with ADHD thus I understand how important it is to spread awareness but it's also important to consider other conditions when speaking about mental health and lifestyle management, and friendship development, more should be aware of the types of struggles many of us endure and how to navigate it, most of the channels I've stumbled upon over the years which advocate for physical disability and spread awareness are struggling and or very rarely active on the platform thus I hope this channel will consider adding some content around physical disabilities ♿🌈
A short while ago, I discovered that a lot of my personal struggles are more than likely undiagnosed ADHD. Along with some behaviors I have witnessed in my kids and husband for years that in the past I justified with some old school thinking or as I have recently started referring to as flat world thinking. Anyway, my eyes are wide open now. As I'm diligently pursuing professional assistance and diagnosis, I'm researching to better understand my family and myself. Before I ask for assistance with my current quest, thank you for creating a space for discussions like this. We need more conversations like this about mental wellness. Mental health and alternative brain functions such as ADHD are still fighting very strong deep callous stigmas that I feel are a direct result of lack acknowledge, understanding, and acceptance. Thank you for working to close the gap. Here's my current endeavor, the connection between gaslighting and ADHD. Considering the struggles with cognitive thinking as an ADHDer and common methods of gaslighting, I have some gnawing questions. 1: could an ADHD brain perceive gaslighting even when it's not there due cognitive thinking struggles? Yes, ADHDers are more subsceptible to gaslighting, but could they also perceive the shortfalls of another ADHDer as gaslighting? 2: Self gaslighting as a coping mechanism to deal with ADHD shortfalls become so intense that they begin to gaslight those closest them? Hopefully that all made sense. Thanks again for everything for you. Looking forward to your insight on this.
ADHD is lack of mental discipline. I'm not blasting anyone, it's a neurological condition(mind you condition not a disorder). It gets worse the more you feed it and yes current technology makes it even worse especially social media. The solution? Meditation, fasting(yes especially the lack of refined carbs) and skipping a meal really helps. And lastly an inspiration. Find tasks and projects that you feel a real necessity to do right now. Each miniature step you do adds up. Even if you drop the project before it's finished you can finish it later on. Having it sit in the back of your mind as an unfinished task will help you jump back at it at some point. Hence you can have multiple things you're working on - that means using your ADHD as a tool instead of suffering of anxiety. Each small step you take on every of the tasks you've started gets you closer to the goal and with time it adds up. Eventually you'll have finished a lot more work than the average person. Keep up the good work and don't focus on how little progress you've done on a single task instead see the overall progress you've made across all the started tasks. Hope it helps someone who took the time to read all thhe crap 😅
I appreciate this perspective! I get so tired of hearing "I have ADHD so I can't......" insert whatever task or life skill a person says they can't do. I wish more people understood the difference between a condition and a disorder. ADHD is a condition that one can learn to manage effectively in their lives by making better life choices and incorporating tools to help improve mental health instead of putting a bandaid on it by overloading on pharmaceutical toxins! Plant medicine is the best medicine!......and exercise, water, grounding, and music.
This is sooo on point ; all of it. It’s extremely frustrating & I literally drive myself crazy. Add to that my OCD & even at 70, though I’m way better than I used to be, I still don’t have a handle on it. The insomnia is the worst. It’s so bad I started watching TV until 5am to wear myself out so I can finally turn my mind off enough to actually sleep. Thankfully, I found that eating Turkey lunch meat just before I go to sleep also relaxes me, so I sleep at least 5 or 6 hours straight instead of waking every hour & a half. An instructor for an Evelyn Wood reading course I took, thinking it would help, ask me when he saw my test answers: are you not taking anything for your ADHD?, because although I could tell him about how he took his coat off & put it on the back of his chair, etc., he saw I didn’t remember much about what I/the class just read silently, even though I (as always) had read the story several times, but kept getting distracted by people around me. The struggle is real. 🙁 When I try to talk to people, a million different subjects come into my head all at once. It’s awful.
Pretty sure I have undiagnosed adhd. This whole video gave me anxiety. I've always wondered why I can't just do "the thing" that normal adults do. I interrupt everyone, have absolutely no volume control over my voice, I either do everything or absolutely nothing because the thought of doing anything overwhelms me when there's so much to do and I don't even know where to start. Which is overwhelming. I am a server, so fortunately my job stimulates me, and I find I perform better when I have 25 things to do for 10 different tables, but then forgot ranch for a table when I have only one. And I already forgot what I was ranting about.
Can be diagnosed in adulthood or childhood. Not here. I tried to get tested for it as an adult. They said they don't diagnose adults because we've survived this long without it. Gee, thanks. I was looking for help with struggles I think are ADHD but guess it's not allowed. The bed time thing is totally me now. 2am I gotta wake at 6 and get my daughter to school. Oops. The over thinking and it's partner in crime the mental restlessness plagues me and is oppressive. Pair that with my untreated PTSD and it's a disaster. Because of this I haven't been able to heal from things that happened 3 years ago and I'm stuck in the moment that it happened in and it's putting my health in jeopardy. But yeah I'm fine and don't need to be diagnosed or treated. Executive dysfunction often kills me when trying to keep up with the housework. So people see me as lazy when I'm trying hard but battling obstacles no one wants to acknowledge let alone allevaite. So. Since my location won't diagnose me I guess I assume I have it (I checked off everything on this list and my son has it and it's known to be genetic) and seek out resources and hope I can make some headway on my own. If my mind will even allow me to do it with these symptoms I struggle with.
@@AlissaSss23 in the middle of nowhere in the Midwest. Very little options for medical care and the one place my insurance covers is the place that caused the PTSD in the first place. So I can't get screenings I'm years overdue for that could save my life. Because the last time I was there I was deathly I'll and they didn't do anything for me. No tests nothing. They ignored me when I told them things. I was back in the er the next day I almost didn't go but my husband and neighbor forced me. I was medflighted out that day with sepsis and needed 3 emergency surgeries to save my life from the routine low risk one they performed days before and botched. So, yeah the over thinking is suffocating me and not helping at all.
@@Persephone549 PTSD can cause executive disfunction issues that look the same as ADHD, one of the criteria for ADHD is that it started in childhood. If the symptoms started after the trauma then that might not be whats up. Some people grow up in an environment that naturally accommodates for ADHD so the symptoms don't really express themselves until there's a life change, also because of ADHD stereotypes girls with ADHD slip through the cracks more often. If thats the case you'd have to find a psychologist thats more up to date on ADHD research to get a proper diagnosis. Anywho, meditation and self-hypnosis can help alleviate the ptsd symptoms while you try and find a better doctor.
Current struggle with the dishes. No hot water at the moment, and I have more dishes than I have storage for, but I actually need even more dishes to cook the things I want to cook.
This was sooo relatable😩😩🙈🙈😭😭 if you would, could you please make one on natural ways to combat it as an adult WITHOUT medicating? For us holistic ones😉🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💜💙
I just wanted to gently remind everyone that ADHD is classified as a neurodevelopmental ((referring to the brain's development of neurological pathways that influence performance or functioning)) disorder by the DSM-5, which stipulates that symptoms need to have been present in childhood, even if the diagnosis is made later in life and symptoms change. The video introduction seems to imply something different by focusing on the persistence of ADHD into adulthood. I thought it might be helpful to clarify this, especially from my perspective as someone with ADHD and a background in psychopathology and human development. Also, the perspectives on ADHD and other neurodevelopmental disorders are constantly growing. Love the video and thank you for expanding on this subject!
As a young adult with ADHD, I super appreciate this video! Loving the ADHD videos the last while!!❤❤❤ Can you do a video about having both ADHD and ASD? Thanks #Psych2go !!!❤
I'm 28 years old and i have always felt different. So, I've done a ton of research and ADHD seems to tick all the boxes. I finally got the confidence to call my GP today and he has referred me to a specialist. I'm hoping this will be an answer to why I think like I do and why I struggle so much even though i work so hard. Thank you for these videos, they truly help.
I dont struggle with ADHD. My ADHD struggles with me lol Deadlines and the pressure is the fun part. I find myself acing a test and having better quality work when I hit peak adrenaline anxiety haha. Someone told me that maybe my work would be better if I do everything without the stress. I said that would mean I'd be asleep and never ever get to that project. I need to feel like it is an end all or be all situation.
I got dagnosed at age 5 about 18 years ago, and yeah, this is pretty much the ADHD experience😅. Oddly though, I'm not sure I'd change my brain even if I could, because then I wouldn't be able to think about things in quite the same way. Sure, it's responsible for some bad grades and missed deadlines in the past, but it's also responsible for good grades and higher quality work in other areas. My brain's weird, but it's also a fundamental part of my personality.
Ive done the evaluation last year. Im in my early 40s and was told I had ADHD (without hyperactivity) in my early 30, but wasnt told at all when I was diagnosed as a kid. The difference is noticeable and thoughts are less jumbled with proper meds.
4:00 YES. I've been trying to explain this for so long and that is EXACTLY what it's like!! People always wonder how I'm able to sometimes talk so fast about topics I'm interested in or just conversations I'm fascinated by, and I always explain that I just...do. Dunno why. But I always kinda felt that, like, yeah! I'm saying the words, but as I'm saying them, the next few words are being prepared on the conveyor belt that is my brain. Like I know what the next thought is (usually) while I'm still saying the previous words. But I've never seen it explained so well or described by someone else! That is perfect!!
Stress and life changes, either big or small, can send my ADHD in a frenzy that feels impossible to gain control of. This makes managing my mental and emotional health a struggle, and this can also impact my relationships at times. It's not often that I find myself thinking about going on meds again, especially since my last prescription from 10 years ago gave me a burning headache.... It's just difficult to work around it half the time, and communicating these struggles isn't easy for me.
i wish i could get a diagnosis, its a struggle just existing. sometimes i feel like i don’t actually have those symptoms because of so many people invalidating my experiences. Im glad these kinds of videos exist tho.
Most people i have seen in my life have developed ADHD or ADD recently, as adults. And i have seen them recover as well But It's very rare to see people having ADHD since their childhood and even rarer to see them recover.. I have ADHD since childhood. And i was always referred as dumb, and slow learner, that made my life even difficult. I face problems even till now. Tho i have developed some unconventional methods that supports my ADHD and not what everybody tells or suggests me to do
One of the criteria for ADHD is having had it since childhood, it doesn't develop in adulthood, it might expose its self after a life change, but it would've had to have been there all along to meet the criteria. Most of the ADHD symptoms are executive disfunction problems which can also be caused by different things, ptsd, depression, autism, for example. People don't really recover from ADHD so much as develop better coping strategies and get better at self care, so you shouldn't compare yourself to others who seem to have their problems just magically go away, that wouldn't be realistic and not fair to you. Maintaining a good balanced diet getting plenty of exercise and good sleep work wonders for ADHD symptoms and having a good set of coping strategies that work well for you and a good support system in place can make a world of difference.
@@Sarcasmarkus yes sir.. exerscises, eating habits, and enforced habits have changed a lot. I sucessfully developed few methods and enforced few habits with time. Still adhd remains a problem. Can't do anything. Just learn to live better with it
The guy sent to give a quote on your relocation takes one look at your domicile and asks your mom if you've got (then called) ADD. I came home from work to an appointment for evaluation and the better part of a mom-researched treatment plan. She was intimidatingly effective like that.
Watching this video is simply painful and even saddened while realising I have already reached middle age without much changes since childhood and now having a couple of serious breakdowns at both workplace and home... though, I knew them at the bottom of my heart, always. Thanks anyway for enlightenment.
I sometimes wonder if I have it undiagnosed. Some days can't be bothered to do anything but we all have those days. Procrastinate when I can't decide what to act on first if there's like 3 or more things that need doing. I can go to the shops for milk and forget to get milk in the 10 mins it takes to get there, literally looking at and walking past the milk with no thought of needing it, coming back with everything other than milk. If you tell me 3 or 4 things need doing, I'm so busy trying to remember the 1st and 2nd that I don't hear the 3rd and or 4th. I can open UA-cam to look for X thing, see something in the recommended, click on it, start watching and after barely a minute I go "right, time to search for uhh...uhhh..what was it again?" and just nothing, empty memory of something I was thinking of a minute ago. Really, really frustrating, especially when I like now have a girlfriend again and she's talking about her day, and sometimes I'm so focused on what to say in response that I almost "stop listening" even though I hear her words, and she laughs it off but I know eventually it'll reach the "it's like you don't hear me" argument. Ugh. I'm only mid 30s for god sake, this shouldn't be happening until I'm like..70.
If you can tell yourself to stop trying to think of responses to what your gf is saying and force yourself to just listen, that would be great for both of you probably. Her talking about her day doesn’t necessarily need responses, but just you listening. That is what I tell myself and it works pretty well. And write EVERYTHING down. I have a million lists of things in my phone and multiple little notebooks of thoughts and ideas so I don’t have to keep things in my brain and can make space for new thoughts and ideas. No shame in keeping a shopping list to refer to at the store. Good luck!
I used to have all the signs and was stricken with this BUT...i had a spiritual awakening and in it i began to receive intuition that i needed...never even heard of a chakra prior to this happening...i recognized that this was a form of guidance so i followed it...today i have cert in energy med meditation and yoqi..point is...the problem lies in ur scrambled human energy....i began to do exercises, like holding the third eye and occipital ridge (spot on back of skull where the "ridge" is) and shift the gaze back and forth for approximately two to five min per day...this will strengthen the energy and promote smooth thinking etc...i was the girl who couldn't find the fon that was in her hand ....that all went by the way side when i began yoga and energu work....add adhd is a result of scrambled mental energy. "The Wayne Cook posture" also is HIGHLY effective for these things as it is also for stuttering. EVVVERYTHING u experience can be traced back to ur human energy.
hey psych2go! thx for the informative videos everyday, rlly helped me understand common mental disorders better but, I still struggle with something. I'm not sure what exactly my parents have, and what to do about it. they almost always exaggerate stuff, I'm always the one to blame, and they yell, threaten and blackmail me, sometimes hitting me. they also don't respect boundaries, like not letting me close my door, or checking my phone. plus, they force me to follow their beliefs and do what they say because they're "always right and they're my parents". but then other times they seem nice and...idk. could you help me out pls? I'm still a minor, so I can't shut them out completely.
Sounds like narcissism. From personal experience, I kept my head down as much as possible and avoided any attention from my parents knowing I would be able to be on my own one day. I started buying essential household items in my teens and moved out at 18. Life on the other side is so much better and you will get there. Until then, know you’re not alone and I wish you the best!
One difference I would say is for a lot of people with adhd (I have a few friends who have it and have talked about it) is that they WILL forget a lot of the time what they were going to say if they don't say it. It's not just a fear- more often than not.
Here’s my experience. Not diagnosed as a child. Parents too busy - no I really mean this - plus in the 1960’s/70’s if you were ‘diagnosed’ as having this condition, we know as ADHD, you potentially could end up being diagnosed into a ‘special school’. So minus the parents being too busy, there’s also that, and all it would entail. Potentially, I was done a favour, but to never be told something that at least half a dozen adults must have intimated to one of them, eg teachers, friends and professional colleagues are but three I can state with certainty, to not be told this exists in you is to turn it to an affliction. Everyone else can see it, you are never told. At 60, I have self-diagnosed but believe it’s been stubbornly obvious to any health professional or mainly, teachers, over the years, and also some relatives. But nobody says a word. This, is the affliction, not having something, but struggling with it and without acknowledgement, you are left defenceless and vulnerable to the usual assortment of misfits and abusers that are attracted to someone they see with an issue, who obviously hasn’t yet been made aware of it, and not realised for themselves. In short, it’s ruinous and dangerous to not know your real circumstances. Take care all.
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I always describe having ADHD as being in a crowded cafeteria, where people are all having conversations around you, but those conversations are my thoughts
This makes so much sense it's insane.
That's how I describe to my husband. Only difference is I say it's like a bunch of Me, running around filing into a hundred different file cabinets.
@@gillypiexo The spongebob meme, same
It's one of the reasons I'm introverted. I have enough noise in my head that I don't need more...
i call my adhd having 100 tabs open at once
I once tried to get homework done, but it was so difficult to actually do anything that I just gave up, and then felt mad at myself for not being able to work normally. These kinds of experiences are super frustrating
That sounds rough... have you spoken to a mental health professional yet?
@@Psych2go Yeah, I was diagnosed with ADHD some time ago, I just forgot to take my meds that day.
Just so you know....adults with ADHD can be super productive people. Over the years I have worked with several adults with ADHD who have learned to work with their adhd instead of against it and have been highly productive people. One guy in particular was extremely successful. His brain going in so many directions actually helped him because his job required him to keep attention on so many different things at once. He did have some interesting ways of getting things done, but he excelled at his job. And when he did have a task that required a lot of focus, he would put on his noise canceling headphones and fly through it.
Long story short...school is set up for one kind of learner and people who are good a doing paperwork (and only like 25% of students fall into that category)
As an adult, finding the right kind of job can make adhd helpful.
I just wanted to say that to you so that you understand ypur not doomed to fail at everything just because you forget your meds one day
@@canecorsomom2023 That's reassuring, thanks!
When I was doing online college classes, I had to have the TV on of old reruns and music in my ears; creating my own distractions so I could get my work done.
Same as at one of my old jobs, they created a position for me. I returned at least 300 emails a day, answers in coming support calls and as well as replying to clients chats, only up to four at once. I was a champ at multitasking.
0:44 Mental restlessness
1:50 Ready, fire, aim (Blurting things out)
2:37 Trapped in the now
3:46 Loss for words
4:24 Unmotivated
Well darn. When a stimulus occurs, I have a knee jerk reaction to do something. But I have to stop myself to think about it, is it possible, can I do the thing at all. Usually I can't
Mind always going faster than the body
Thanks!
That's exactly all of what caused my spiral and instead of sympathy for the condition and the fact that despite trying to get help I was told "you need to do this even though you were diagnosed as a kid, oh you also need insurance to get an evaluation" which led to depression and then being given Seroquel and here I am. I was told to just deal with everything, like it was a choice rather than a struggle to do so
Seroquel for adhd?
@@karineaudet6270 depression a side effect of ADHD which was alleviated by Strattera
A correction that I would like to make is that it's not just possible for ADHD to persist into adulthood, it does. If you have it, you have it. It doesn't go away.
Right. We just learn to mask it better.
That is very true
I think what she meant to say is that it’s possible people are misdiagnosed in kids. Sometimes kids doing things in a wild fashion isn’t adhd and just a kid. But yeah if you have ADHD you will always have it all you can do is suppress most issues with medication/therapies like grounding.
My ADHD makes me a million miles a minute until I take my medicine and then I can live normally.
At least if we get diogenes sooner than later we can build the right bridges or at the very least you can have a 'name' for your absurdity. I think this massage is more likely for the parents of ADHD kids whose like to bring their child to be fix in 2-3 years in hoping that the child will be normal in their teen or adulthood
I think it refers more to the symptoms and difficulties coming with it. Although people will still have adhd, many learn to adapt, either by developing healthy mechanisms or hiding it, while others will still continue to struggle the same way they did as kids
As someone with ADHD one of my favourite things is seeing people light up with a smile and say "I've never thought about it that way" to something I've said.
One of the gifts for sure
yes because they see the world in 3d while we see it in 4d
@@Irani_guy That's such an accurate description, the thing is that what's the point of seeing it in 4d if I can't comprehend what I see, it's way too much.
I just got diagnosed at 43. It makes a lot of sense why I struggled as a child and now as an adult.
Yup, I was self diagnosed around 50 because my kids all have dyslexia/adhd.
Me too! At 43.
Having a 'whacked on the back of the head' day today, feeling dissociated, unmotivated.
I'm 43 and me too!
43 here too. What is is about 43?
Like me, being diagnosed at 46 last week (in Germany). Feel so relieved it wasn't all my fault
You forgot hyper focus. It happens when you discover something new and fully revolve your life around it every bit of free time and almost every thought is about what your hyper focusing on it's like an insane amount of focus on that particular thing then something new comes around and that then becomes the thing you hyper focus on while whatever you were focused on before just goes to the side. it's a big part of why people like me can't finish certain things or meet goals they have set for themselves. Hopefully some will understand what I'm trying to say.
It's completely relatable..
✋ Me
When i find some good books, out of 24 h i lose 8 up to 14 h reading for many days.
Perfectly.
This is important to mention, because our ability to focus intensely on the highly stimulating/novel can be turned on us; “You don’t have ADHD; you focus on those video games/that new hobby just fine!”. 😑
Undiagnosed, but absolutely certain I have ADHD. Mom has it, older brother has it, and I've shown symptoms all my life. I've managed pretty well on my own, but I'm definitely considering getting a proper diagnosis... if I can ever remember to get around to it 😅
Here's your sister!
Just do it whenever you get around to remembering! I made my appointment at 2am online after 3 months of my therapist telling me to lol.
This is a reminder for you to GER TJAT APPOINTMENT FOR AN ADHD DIAGNOSIS!!!! (You’ll feel relieved, I support you 🫂)
You have to get diagnosed, I had autism at 30 never knew I had ADHD until recently I was diagnosed and I am happy I did, I was recommended cbd oil and microdosing shroom as way to go and it's been pretty amazing , unlike other medications with poor results and much side effects. Look up albovegateway
.....On Instagram.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid so I knew pretty much my whole life that I had ADHD, but didn't really understand or know exactly how it was/is effecting me and my day to day till in recent years. Now so many things make so much more sense!
Bit of a funny story, I often struggle to get into bed at a decent time. Well Shadow, my little black cat, has taken it upon herself to make me go to bed at night. She usually starts her little bedtime routine around 11pm and does everything she can to get my attention and stop doing whatever it is I'm doing. As soon as I get up/start moving she'll run to the bed/bedroom and stare at me, occasionally meowing at me. If I get distracted by something she starts the process over again. If I try petting her or scratching her ears (she loves having her ears scratched) during this, she'll lash her tail around like she's really mad. Like, "I accept your head scratches, but I'm still mad at you for not going to bed." Once I'm finally settled in for the night she curls up next to me.
😍😍
That's so lovely, she can tell your head is buzzing, really trying to get you to into bed! Sleep procrastination is adhd?! I'm late diagnosed, but have struggled to go to bed even if tired all my life. My 2 year old dog has started touching me with his paw, when I'm so lost in thought I get stuck and he helps me remember what I was doing. He knows my head is buzzing, he reads me like a book. When I'm overwhelmed he brings a ball to play, which breaks up the thought streams. When I'm in despair from mental exhaustion, he nearly licks my face clean off!☺️ we are so blessed to share our lives with animals! Do you need meds or just life hacks?
Ive considered getting a cat for the opposite reason - they get you up in the morning because they want food 😂
That’s so cute 🥰. She’s basically taking care of you.
My cat doesn’t do that unfortunately. He just comes up for cuddles occasionally and sometimes naps with me but mostly comes into my room just to get me up lol 😂.
He’s my little alarm clock ahaha. He is my wee cutie though tbf. Xx
@@TheWhovinerd-1963 Yeah, she does her best to take care of me. She's a sweet little kitty.
I wish I could explain that feeling of non-motivation to others in the context I experience it in. I’m in college doing my dream study, and yet without serious help from the people around me to keep me motivated I wouldn’t have made it through my first week. It sucks to lack motivation for things you’re passionate about
I feel like a disconnect.. I have all these plans and WANT to do things.. but I just can’t get my body to do it.. unless I feel like there’s a gun to my head and something bads about to happen if it doesn’t get done
@@EriBarr: That my life to a T! I have so many things I wanna do, but I can’t! The only time I’m able to stick to a schedule is if I like doing the activity, but even then it only lasts a while!
I’ve heard this described as “Important But Not Urgent”. It’s VERY easy to neglect pursuing a goal when the consequences are vague and well off in the future, while this UA-cam video is SUPER interesting RIGHT NOW! 🫠
@@EriBarrman reading all these comments are so cathartic for me. I’m 21 and was diagnosed at 18. I’ve only just realized in the past 2 weeks how this disorder actually has affected my brain and my life. Finally I can really see that it wasn’t me that just couldn’t do it. Sadly many of us require medication to function, but if the tradeoff is a drastically happier and more fulfilling life, then I’ll accept the medication, because without it, it feels impossible to do anything, even if I truly want to do it.
I'm 63 and I've been fighting this devil my whole life. Every one of these symptoms brings back so many bad memories of hurt feelings, frustration with relationships, long bouts of loneliness and cruel teasing because I was 'different. 'But the one positive thing about it is knowing that it wasn't my fault and I don't have to blame myself for so much that went wrong. Looking back now, I see where everything went wrong at, and why it happened. I also understand some people that Ive known in the past were truly concerned about it. They tried in their own way to explain things to me and hoped I could understand through all the static, and from having thousands of thoughts going through my head all at once and I had to grab at one and hope I get lucky. Sometimes I did but most of the time I didn't. Sometimes you just wonder why you couldn't just die and do this life all over again, but this time get things right!
Why think of it as a "devil" when you can think of it as a "superpower" and learn to harness it to your benefit?
I am your age and I can understand how you feel. For me life has become much more manageable by surrounding myself with supportive people and using technology to keep me organized. I autopay all of my bills now, set reminders on my phone, zone out the house to stay organized, reward myself for finishing a project. Don’t compare yourself to “normals”. A lot of experts believe Leonardo da Vinci was adhd. He never finished anything he started. Also Einstein as he was so disorganized and absent minded. 😊
@@spaceflight1019 Firstly, adhd is hard to spot in women who present completely differently to men.
conversation about ND is happening now - this person is 63, and of a generation where people just didn't have the time to sit around self-diagnosing and making an identity out of it, like today.
@KoboldSoul I beg to differ with your opinion. I used to work in the industrial Instrumentation and process controls industry, and I was one of the ADHD nerds who believed that "in spec" wasn't good enough. It was either dead on or all wrong. This is how you turn it into a superpower. When you develop a reputation for accuracy, people don't care what you cost. They want the peace of mind knowing that they can trust their instruments and valves.
@KoboldSoul "There are three basic types, Mister Pizer:
The Wills
The Won'ts.
The Can'ts.
The Wills accomplish everything.
The Won'ts oppose everything.
The Can'ts won't try anything."
Which one are you?
I have ADHD, and was diagnosed with it since I was a child. It was difficult to finish my tasks in school growing up, even doing chores at home. When I talk, I have to think about what I'm talking about, before it comes out of my mouth.
But I am taking medicine for that, and it helps me to focus on certain tasks better. Thank you, psych2go for this video.
Good to hear you are focusing better brother ❤
I won't take medicine for it because I am who I am. But as a fellow ADHD homie I must remind you of how amazing it feels when and if we actually finish something in one go
I JUST got diagnosed with ADHD, I'm 35 years old! I for sure believe it's also a superpower and we are not lazy. I mean, I became a vet of all things! It's wasn't easy because studying came really hard for me. But now, the practical side of actually being a vet, is what I was defenitly made for. Even started a UA-cam channel 2 years ago! It's still goingm but I need breaks every once in a while 😊
We thank you for taking care of our beautiful pets! In your experience, how does ADHD help you in your profession? Do you feel like you have some edge ahead of others because of your ADHD?
I learned something new. I always thought the hyperactive part never applied to me. Because I'm opposite, but now I know it can mean mental hyperactivity. And that definitely applies to me. I would like to get tested because I do have these symptoms, but I don't want to assume I have adhd.
I was diagnosed ADD, I was always the space cadet in my school years, I lived in my own head, even today, at 54, I still overthink, then burn out completely, no motivation, very little thinking, mostly static.
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The knockout lady, like you, I always assumed that ADHD meant that you were bouncing off the walls and running all around. Meanwhile, At 65, it has been years since I felt I could even get out of bed and do anything. I rarely accomplish what I start out to do. My room looks like a 9 year-old lives in here. Every night I go to bed thinking I'm going to clean it up tomorrow. Every day I wake up thinking I'm going to clean it up today. And guess what? I think you know the answer. Recently I started noticing online that that wasn't exactly what ADHD meant and now I am looking into it. Hopefully we can all get some help. Keep your fingers crossed that someday I will be able to clean my room.. Ha ha ha. 🤗🇲🇽
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Doctor Greg Mushrooms he is a great man of God who has the great insight on psychedelic and mushroom. He will guide you on how to use mushrooms to get good trip.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
He’s on the internet
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1). Mental restlessness 0:45
2). Ready! fire! aim! 1:50
3). Trapped in the now 2:37
4). Loss gor words 3:46
5). Unmotivated 4:24
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Lifelong issue, always had and never understood why i always felt so misunderstood and was constantly lagging behind everyone else. Figured it out in my 40's. And i swear by just knowing what it is now has helped me perform so much better. Being able to use strategies that help me succeed. Only wish is that i wouid have gotten an understanding of ADHD much sooner.
I've been diagnosed with ADD the type without hyperactivity. My therapist noticed it when we first talked and I was very glad that I got a part figured out why my brain works like this. It's nice to know there's people similar to this.
Were you put on Ritalin, Adderall, stratera, or any of the other mainstream meds?
I still have ADHD and I take meds but when I don’t take them I have unlimited energy and I taught my self to help use that when I’m doing work but my brain is sometimes on fire
@@rebeccalucas6063I'm supposed to take Ritalin, but honestly I'm not fond of it as I don't like medication in general
How has your life been since the diagnosis?
@@Psych2go my mom turns out she never wanted me on them it corrupts a persons, mind and vision on the world and you become so used to that world you can’t leave it
I used to think ADHD could not be much of a problem. But now, with a late autism diagnosis, i think it's clear that i also have ADHD. The two together have wreaked havoc in my life.
This couldn't be more true. Just got my suspicions about both confirmed like a week ago, and I basically can't function.
It’s the AAA gang- ADHD, Autism, Anxiety. They LOVE to hang out together to create chaos in our lives
I prefer to think of it as overcoming serious disabilities I was given no support and in fact the OPPOSITE of support with my whole life and still being ALIVE! I myself actually live on my own with my two kids now, and am self-supporting, but it took a great deal of resources, grit, luck, smarts, and time to get to this place, and I understand it is an unusual one for us AuDHDers. ❤
I started looking at my ADHD differently. I don’t look at it as an illness anymore. It’s more like a gift and a self-improvement challenge. And even though it’s really exhausting at times, I‘m glad I have been given this huge opportunity. You just have to discover your inner self, your strengths and weaknesses and constantly work on your self awareness. I‘m happy.
The only way for us to get by is through self acceptance and self love. Good for you.
@@nanaman Agree! I also recognized, that it’s very important to give yourself a moment to look back on your achievements from time to time. We tend to forget what we have been through, our success and the improvements we made. Especially during hard times it can be a HUGE boost to our confidence and motivation. 💪
This reminds me of myself with my adhd i dont know how but i'm extremely good at maintaining Focus + i use medicine and i have used it for most of my life since i was 6 or 5 years old thanks to mr genius: me i am an expert in school work
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I congratulate you on your positive outlook. It makes all the difference. Keep it up!
Funny, self love led to me realizing I had adhd and now as a middle aged woman I realize I wasn’t stupid in school and I want to give college another try!
This is very, very helpful indeed. When I was a child in the early 1970s, I was diagnosed with what is now known as ADHD (it was called Hyperactivity back in the day), and as a High Functioning Autistic woman, eight years ago. It is a relief to have them formally diagnosed by medical specialists, but what I suffered as a child ... that time cannot be clawed back. What is needed is that the rest of my life should be the best of my life with help in managing these conditions.
Peace and All Good.
Yep, every single bit. Im currently undiagnosed but looking at getting one as a woman the signs were missed, in childhood just like my dyslexia every single sign was missed as a kid, didn't get diagnosed till I was 22 years old with dyslexia and shortly after diagnosis was urged to look into ADHD. Thank you for posting this video
when you watch a video about ADHD and realize you didn't pay attention to any of it
omg so true! I opened another tab and went to my grocery store to make my grocery list. Now I'm scrolling to see what this video said 🤣🤣🤣
You guys are cracking me up! We may have ADHD, but at least we have a sense of humor. I think that is 1 of the most important things in life. I wish you all the best! 🤗🇲🇽
I can definitely relate to running away from tasks. I go through entire processes in my mind and get overwhelmed before I can even attempt said tasks. A good day for me is a productive day.
Having ADHD myself, I relate to all 5 signs.
Throughout my teens I had noticed to get easily distracted, feeling constantly strained and oftern doing what I now know is termed "stimming". It wasn't until my early 20s that I was diagnosed with the condition after been noticed of struggling in studies. They prescribed me Long-lasting medicine, but I also discovered that strolling a lot every day gives additional help to relieving the strain. Non-planned activity has been my routine ever since.
This is true for me too. Whenever I take a long walk in the morning before I take medication I do better during the day when it comes to executive tasks and I feel better in general. Even my handwriting which is usually horrible and only legible to me gets better.
Hello, do you mind to explain what stimming is?
So much of this is also so close to anxiety/depression
I've never been diagnosed but this video describes me perfectly!
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And what made you think others use it as an excuse? You don't have to care about me, that's ok. But I'm not sure what you actually want to tell me.
Nothing was more eye opening to me than finding out that the H in ADHD also means mental hyperactivity. I always thought I was just dealing with insomnia, and that was separate. Also, I always seem to interrupt my husband when he talks, jumping in to finish what he's saying. I'm working hard to counter this.
On the plus side, I actually recently completed a painting I've been working for weeks. I'm so proud of myself!
Hey psych2go! I wanted to thank you for curing my metal health. Ive dealt with depression and now i have never been this happy and you helped with much more! Thank you so much ❤
Crap, i didn't know your brain was made of metal.
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We're so glad that you enjoy our content! What has been helpful for you in dealing with your depression?
It's good you're feeling good! Speaking from experience, try to mentally pre prepare yourself to eventually have some bad days again. It's normal, and most importantly, they will pass and you will feel good again. ❤️
@@Psych2go you did kinda open my eyes with the videos, i talked to a therapist and after a couple of months, i was really happy again :)
I remember getting diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid. School was difficult and even at 23, after getting diagnosed with Autism at 11 or 12, a couple of years later after I got diagnosed with ADHD as a kid, live is still challenging as a guy with ADHD.
Ok possible autistic, adhd, introvert, deep thinker pseudo scientist here.
Wtf? How do scientific community keep this mess around? Now psychology is hard, it's the hardest scientific field by far because NONE of the researches are done in a confined environment with repeatable conditions. I'm not blaming them, this is the nature of psychology.
But there's one thing that bothers me; they categorized the behavior of the children and labeled them as "adhd" "autistic " and so on.
I have no problem with the labels themselves but the society's and especially scientific community's approach to these terms.
They are treated like a disease or disability. They are talking about "symptoms carrying over to adulthood " or "inability to focus on jobs"
This is utter bullshit.
Now let's put my problems with the labeling because if I start to that I'll be writing a scientific paper.
Human brains greatest strength is its flexibility and scientific community has a tendency to ignore all this and chooses to adress people's "issues" with medications or therapy. Dude wtf? Am I being a tinfoil hat antiwaxxer? I don't think she or I hope I'm not.
Because from scientific standpoint it's not reliable to categorize the behavioral characteristics of the individuals who has a different set of behaviors from the average norm. And since we know that human beings are unique in their own it's not healthy to categorize the minority in this case.
You know what's funny? Every famous scientist or celebrity has a possibility of being autistic or ADHD. We can't be sure because they are either dead or just grown up.
Adulthood has a major effect on people's behaviors, you develop a work ethic that is a part of your brain activity and this usually tends to suppress the characteristics of ADHD and autism. Those who are able to be aware of their "symptoms " tend to be able to use them to their advantage and enjoy the success.
But average people who don't have these eccentric traits fail to utilize the same skills as well as adhd or autistic people because this basically requires them to have a different neurological pattern.
I really want to gorge myself to ncbi and pubmed for this. I think we're missing the big picture in here.
I'm a woman with both, in my childhood and early to mid teens used to have struggles with my autism and understand people but now I have more struggles with my ADHD (hate the fact I have the combined one)
I was diagnosed at 52. It explained sooooo much of my life!
I have mildly severe ADHD, and while it can be difficult to reign in at times, I use the excess energy as a teacher to be enthusiastic about learning, keep up with my young students, and show them that a person with challenges can still become a (mostly lol) functioning adult.
I had this as a kid, got better as an adult but has returned in my 60s. Not fun. I appreciate this video. Thank you
To all those who are going through this condition, I know that living with ADHD can be challenging, but I want you to know that you're not alone. There are so many people out there who are going through similar struggles, and there are resources and strategies that can help. Don't be afraid to reach out for help or support when you need it, and remember that you're capable of achieving your goals and living a fulfilling life. Keep pushing forward and never give up 💪
I’m in the diagnostic process for autism but I relate to absolutely everything in this video. Maybe I should get assessed for ADHD as well!
Those are often related closely and can be mistaken with each other. Also, it doesn't mean one excludes another. It's quite the opposite. Usually an autistic person has a bit of ADHD.
Also please remember that stating you are autistic means really nothing. They must declare the "level" of autism, meaning to what extent it affects your personal life - most importantly, social interactions.
Also please remember, in adult life many of autistic behaviors won't be anymore noticeable by people, as we learned to compensate for them.
It's REALLY hard to diagnose an adult person, especially those after their 40's due to that learned compensation.
I always knew I was "different", already in my childhood. But back then autism was equal only to a "nodding" and speechless small child - either you have it or not. Nobody considered it as a spectrum with many levels.
It gave me a lot of problems in social interactions but also gave me true friends (as we tend to speak VERY honestly), and some skills that other people around don't get even close to. So in the end I consider it as a gift even if sometimes it was really hard 😉
I am adhd autistic somewhere between 45 possibly 70 percent autistics are also adhd. There is no a little of adhd alit autism or vis versa though that us a misconception. U are all in of both only differing at what level of adhd ir autism. Professiinals and people like myself and others recommend self diagnosis akways first. Medical is overall in the dinnoisaur with knowledge. You could be setting yourself up for very negative experience. Some adhd traits mimic autism traits..u might very well just have adhd. ## I can offer one simple trait that only autistics have if u have that then maybe tes uf nit ur not. That is: You Look Young !! If u have had people exclaim all yr life u look way hellu younger then your age thats a autistic trait.
AuDHDer here too! I got diagnosed with Autism first in December just gone and I just got my ADHD mixed subtype diagnosis 3 weeks ago and have been medicated for 3 Weeks and it's really changed everything so far. I've not been losing things as much and I've been way more productive
I'm 27 and just got my undergrad degree but I left my whole dissertation project til a week before and missed the deadline and I had to send a screenshot of my PC desktop because I kept opening the file over again and relating it things lile this one, this one for real, this one to submit, send this one last time.
The relief I have now with meds is incredible, I hope whatever you need you get it and it makes you feel like I feel!
They often come in duo, so it's possible to have both. I do have that combo.
It's really hard to accept that this is who I am. I'm 32 and I still have so much trouble getting things done. I'm really influenced by this negative perception of my worth and it makes me hate myself intensely at times. I wish I could learn how to truly accept these traits so I could just let go of all the pressure that builds within.
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I had been diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid and I didn’t know what was going on with me, so thank you for explaining this.
Wow... I'm just laying here enjoying the video and the serenity in her voice, and the second I click off, that, "...and remember, you matter!" At the end nearly made me cry.
Aww 😭 We're so glad that you found Amanda's voice calming. And yes, you do matter!
When I was a child and teen. I was told my problem that I was from a broken home. Struggled through life. Found it imposable for me to go all the hoops to get diagnosed. I finally got help with my primary. It has been a game changer for me!!
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I can relate to your last point the most (lack of motivation). I always thought it was just depression. But it was depression + ADHD. Once I finally got my diagnosis for ADHD at the age of 26, I got on meds and my depression also improved so much.
I cried watching this. Again. Cant express how beautifully and precisely this video explains all the different struggles of a person with ADHD.
I've got diagnosed with ADD when I was 13 after my math teacher recommended to my mum get me tested as I was unable to follow instructions, maintain eye contact, and couldn't pay attention at all. It was the time my life-long anxiety got so much worse, so there was surely a correlation between that too (the ADHD symptoms got too noticeable, not only for me). But after diagnosis not much changed for the better. After two years I changed schools I'm very grateful my parents let me follow my dream and transferred me to a multimedia art school. My anxiety was severe, but my attention span got better as I was doing most things that I liked doing. I had behavioral issues mostly with teachers, I had argued with a few of them, but it seemed that everyone including myself forgot about my ADHD that was causing me so much emotional distress etc. I was a good kid, a smart one, so I never had major issues with the principal or authorities, but I was not mentally well. As I turned 18, I finally started therapy and medication for anxiety. My old psychiatrist was ignoring the fact that adults can have ADHD, so after a year I dropped her and went to an ADHD specialist. I've got rediagnosed and started ADHD medication as well. I'm 20 and still trying to put myself together. I wonder how my mental health would be if only I'd gotten help and acceptance sooner. I've always felt something was different with me and I thought it was wrong.
It is so refreshing watching these videos and knowing that I’m not the only one going through life living with these problems. I just started taking ADHD medication about a month ago and the difference in quality of life is night and day. I hope anyone watching this that is experiencing symptoms knows that your not alone and we live in a world where there IS HELP AVAILABLE!
I know I was ADHD as a kid, though there was no diagnosis back then (the 70’s & 80’s). I knew I had something wrong with me, even as a kid, but I had no way to express it.
As an adult, I’ve learned to control much of my behavior, though I still have many issues with it. It is a constant struggle, but at least some folks seem to understand these days.
“ADD” was a diagnosis in the DSM-III in 1980; the three forms of “ADHD” were swapped in with the DSM-III-R in 1987. So some kids were diagnosed and even given Ritalin in the 80’s, but not nearly all who would have benefited! 😬
@@misspat7555 My parents were told by doctors that I was "hyperactive", and that I needed to consume less caffeine and sweets. Needless to say, that didn't work at all.
Its very relatable, for me it can also be like trying to work at a desk that has several items on it and on the wall, you'll try your best to focus on the monitor and what you should be working on but in the corner of your eye you'll catch something that triggers a thought or memory, which then leads you to look at another item that relates to it and another, all while you're are trying to fight this constant distraction of thoughts and images to actually do what you want to, and you really really want to do it and the more you struggle the more stressed you feel which makes it harder to focus on the task at hand, until bur out and motivation kicks in.
I wish I had this knowledge years ago before I allowed everyone’s ignorant words about how unintelligent and lazy I am get to me and entered a state of deep depression
Thankfully Im in much better place now, as I try to surround myself with more considerate and understanding people who helped me a lot with accepting who I am and what I had to go through to get to where I am now
Dont lose hope fellow ADHD Kings and Queens
I love how consistent you post💜💜 honestly all of these are super helpful 🥞👍
Thank you so much! We have wonderful animators and writers who work very consistently to produce quality content!
Diagnosed ADHD at 52 I can confirm everything in this video is real. This is 100% me and my brain. 😂😂
Wow! Sounds like you got your diagnosis pretty late! How come you decided to get yourself tested in your 50s instead of earlier? How has your life been since your diagnosis?
@@Psych2go I've got diagnosed while recovering from a burn-out, although it didn't came as a suprise. My life has completly changed after this. I choose not to solve the problem with medicine, but with lots of hot yoga, meditation and mindfulness instead, and i became a abstainer. I'm doing really well now and I even started a bachelor psychology at the Open University (in the Netherlands) and my grades are good!
Wow! That's a huge victory! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's amazing to hear that you're avoiding medication and instead are pracitcing yoga, meditation, and mindfulness. We hope that you'll continue to prosper through your bachelor's program. Congratulations!
:(i have but mypsy removed my med and i feel it will be a struggle to have meds again. I cant live without my eitalin. I cant imagine a life like that.😮
I knew it! No official diagnosis because I feel like no one would believe me but I deal with this everyday and it’s so frustrating 😢
Have you spoken to a mental health professional yet? If not, how come?
It took me until I was 21 to connect the dots to get diagnosed with ADHD, and when I asked my parents about why they never let me get checked for it when I was younger, they didn’t believe it existed. They just thought I was constantly distracted, lazy, forgetful, and that forcing punishments onto me would fix that. It’s been several years since my diagnosis and my dad still doesn’t believe it’s a real condition. 😅
I strongly relate to a lot of these, however at my recent psych screening I was diagnosed with depression only. The doctor said that I may have developed the adhd symptoms while suffering from chronic pain and depression for years and constantly needing to distract myself from the pain, find anything else to focus on, distance myself mentally from reality, etc. She said that medical treatments that work for adhd would not help my symptoms because the chemical causes are different. I find It still helps to learn from adhd resources when these symptoms overwhelm me and I feel like there's something wrong with me.
I don’t have an answer for you, but I relate to what you’re expressing. I’ve had depression for a long time and have been diagnosed with ADHD a year ago. The diagnostic process focuses all on childhood stuff, so I am pretty sure that it is correct. But I’ve wondered too if the years of depression have affected my brain to induce ADHD like symptoms. On the other hand, lots of people with ADHD develop depression because of the challenges it brings in life and how it can make you feel like you’re not good enough.
Plenty of people have been told by their care providers that they didn’t have it but they weren’t actually putting them through a diagnostic process, so if that is the case with you and you think a diagnosis could help you don’t hesitate to advocate for yourself.
@@ellecrescent9834 I thought I WAS adocating for myself by asking about it! To be fair, both theories seem equally rational, and they can't just prescribe meds to people who don't fit the all the criteria. Idk.
Most of the ADHD critera are executive disfunctioning issues which depression can also cause, Also, the stresses from untreated ADHD can cause depression, and depression is a common comorbidity to ADHD. So having one does not exclude the other. Depression is serious and is the higher priority thing to treat but if you think your doctor is missing something then you have to be ready to advocate for yourself and keep bringing up your concerns. Take care ❤️
That is true. If I don't say something when it comes to mind I lose my concentration. If interrupted, I lose my train of thought
I got diagnosed with ADHD 2 months ago and I can relate to every single part in this video that is mentioned. But thank you so much for this video-- if someone comes to me and says "you're not the typical adhd behaviour", I'll show them this video! ❤️
We're so glad that the video was relatable. Which part of the video was the most relatabe for you? And how has your life been since your diagnosis?
@@Psych2go Hmm, I think the most relatable things for me are the "mental restlessness" because I'm constantly in inner stress that I permanently need to do something instead of give me some small moments to breath. Then there's the "trapped in now" which causes a lot of fights with my mum. When she tells me to do something a few seconds ago or even multiple times, I just easily forget these things because I get distracted to easily by other things. So she gets angry at me and I get called "lazy".
And at last is the "unmotivation". As example: I really really want to clean my room more often because I know I will feel so much better after cleaning it but I can't find the point to start it... even when I want to do it so badly by myself.
Long story short, in the end I can relate to everything in the video, but I picked out some of them where I see myself the absolute most in.
My life with the knowledge that I have ADHD didn't changed much for me yet. Just that I understand everything about it way much better... and also myself. I'm waiting for the appointment on a doctor that allows me to take Ritalin. And I really have high hopes that these meds could help me focusing a lot more because I'll also start in a new school in august (I'm 24 years old).
But thank you so much again for such a good video about this topic ❤️ I hope I can translate this video one day in german for my family so they understand my behaviour a little more. (because they're not good in english)
@@applekalypse How did it go with the medication? Any difference?
@@scarecrowprowler I got 2 different medications from there but both didn't really showed some effects on me. Maybe not the right medication or dosis yet but I also have bpd, which makes it probably harder to find a right one.
The end of this video really hit hard. I know what she said is true, but it's nice to hear someone actually say it, I'm forever thinking that I'm just broken and i need to be fixed but i just cant think of how to fix me. It's horrible and while i know logically that I'm not broken at all, my brain just works in different ways to others, or as I sometimes think of it, my brain is in another dimension or reality, it's still nice for it to be acknowledged that I'm not broken or damaged goods. Sometimes I forget that
I hate the fact that no one seems to take ADHD seriously..
Many that I've been around have said "there's no such thing as ADHD they just need a butt whooping"
*sigh* they just don't know
I have had plenty of butt whoopings
@margeryojije7862 I am well aware of the attitudes of people in this old system of things. That's why I am very careful to surround myself with those that do care.
I never had a “butt whooping”, but both my parents are permanently very disappointed in me for not making the big bucks. Including the one who passed his complex brand of neurodivergence on to me wholesale. 😑
@@misspat7555Hello i want help my age is 17. i think i have adhd . people often misunderstand me . i recently went to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. They both diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. They both say adult adhd is not real. Adhd is a disease only in childhood but it does not persist in adulthood when I am clearly showing the symptoms of adhd . I believed in them the psychiatrist gave me medicine sssri's rize table 10mg. It made my adhd worse i cant even focus for 5 seconds actually 2 seconds.its hard for me to even write this . My friends dont understand me they keep saying i do it deliberately to get attention. I dont I swear man please help me . I am writing this at 2:39 night time am maybe idk cant even remeber or understand whats am or whats pm. I am going to k*'ll myself exactly on 10 october 2024. I have a reason to do that .if nobody replies i will stil end it all . nothing makes sense to me . everything is f*cked
I love to watch these kinds of videos so I can feel normal. It's like someone puts words on what I'm feeling like, I hate having adhd so much, I feel like the worst human on earth.
Tbh even while writing this comment I struggled, after I wrote the word "like" my brain went blank and I somehow forgot what I was talking about and didn't know what words to write, I kept reading over and over again without comprehending what I JUST wrote.
I did not realize I have ADD until age 64! It explains thousands of things over my life: the frustration of my parents, teachers, co-workers, customers, employers, and especially wife. I wonder what all I missed in school and university, due to my mind flying into the wild blue yonder because of something in the content of what the teacher said. One thing struck me about this video: the difficulty in getting chores done because of an insufficiency of dopamine. Now Parkinson's runs in my family, which is a destruction of the dopamine factory. Could this have something to do with me, even though I don't have the family disease?
Getting my meds in order helped IMMENSLY with mundaine tasks starting to feel rewarding. Just small things adding up and making me hopefull about the future again.
I think it's great that ADHD and Autism are being given the attention it deserves and more awareness is being spread I hope this continues, but I also hope that more health conditions are also given the attention they deserve as I've noticed that many conditions which can effect mental health as well as quality of life are not spoken of often such as Muscular Dystrophy or MS and or Cerebral Palsy etc, many conditions like these can contribute to mental health related stress struggles yet are rarely mentioned in educational content focused around health and wellness, physical neurological conditions should be factored into discussions about mental health management. I'm a care giver to someone with Autism I've also met many who have been diagnosed with ADHD thus I understand how important it is to spread awareness but it's also important to consider other conditions when speaking about mental health and lifestyle management, and friendship development, more should be aware of the types of struggles many of us endure and how to navigate it, most of the channels I've stumbled upon over the years which advocate for physical disability and spread awareness are struggling and or very rarely active on the platform thus I hope this channel will consider adding some content around physical disabilities ♿🌈
A short while ago, I discovered that a lot of my personal struggles are more than likely undiagnosed ADHD. Along with some behaviors I have witnessed in my kids and husband for years that in the past I justified with some old school thinking or as I have recently started referring to as flat world thinking. Anyway, my eyes are wide open now. As I'm diligently pursuing professional assistance and diagnosis, I'm researching to better understand my family and myself. Before I ask for assistance with my current quest, thank you for creating a space for discussions like this. We need more conversations like this about mental wellness. Mental health and alternative brain functions such as ADHD are still fighting very strong deep callous stigmas that I feel are a direct result of lack acknowledge, understanding, and acceptance. Thank you for working to close the gap. Here's my current endeavor, the connection between gaslighting and ADHD. Considering the struggles with cognitive thinking as an ADHDer and common methods of gaslighting, I have some gnawing questions. 1: could an ADHD brain perceive gaslighting even when it's not there due cognitive thinking struggles? Yes, ADHDers are more subsceptible to gaslighting, but could they also perceive the shortfalls of another ADHDer as gaslighting? 2: Self gaslighting as a coping mechanism to deal with ADHD shortfalls become so intense that they begin to gaslight those closest them? Hopefully that all made sense. Thanks again for everything for you. Looking forward to your insight on this.
ADHD is lack of mental discipline. I'm not blasting anyone, it's a neurological condition(mind you condition not a disorder).
It gets worse the more you feed it and yes current technology makes it even worse especially social media. The solution? Meditation, fasting(yes especially the lack of refined carbs) and skipping a meal really helps. And lastly an inspiration. Find tasks and projects that you feel a real necessity to do right now. Each miniature step you do adds up. Even if you drop the project before it's finished you can finish it later on. Having it sit in the back of your mind as an unfinished task will help you jump back at it at some point. Hence you can have multiple things you're working on - that means using your ADHD as a tool instead of suffering of anxiety. Each small step you take on every of the tasks you've started gets you closer to the goal and with time it adds up. Eventually you'll have finished a lot more work than the average person. Keep up the good work and don't focus on how little progress you've done on a single task instead see the overall progress you've made across all the started tasks. Hope it helps someone who took the time to read all thhe crap 😅
I appreciate this perspective!
I get so tired of hearing "I have ADHD so I can't......" insert whatever task or life skill a person says they can't do. I wish more people understood the difference between a condition and a disorder.
ADHD is a condition that one can learn to manage effectively in their lives by making better life choices and incorporating tools to help improve mental health instead of putting a bandaid on it by overloading on pharmaceutical toxins!
Plant medicine is the best medicine!......and exercise, water, grounding, and music.
This was a really helpful perspective and very encouraging. Thank you! :)
This is sooo on point ; all of it. It’s extremely frustrating & I literally drive myself crazy. Add to that my OCD & even at 70, though I’m way better than I used to be, I still don’t have a handle on it. The insomnia is the worst. It’s so bad I started watching TV until 5am to wear myself out so I can finally turn my mind off enough to actually sleep. Thankfully, I found that eating Turkey lunch meat just before I go to sleep also relaxes me, so I sleep at least 5 or 6 hours straight instead of waking every hour & a half. An instructor for an Evelyn Wood reading course I took, thinking it would help, ask me when he saw my test answers: are you not taking anything for your ADHD?, because although I could tell him about how he took his coat off & put it on the back of his chair, etc., he saw I didn’t remember much about what I/the class just read silently, even though I (as always) had read the story several times, but kept getting distracted by people around me. The struggle is real. 🙁 When I try to talk to people, a million different subjects come into my head all at once. It’s awful.
When you know you really needed this ❤ Thank you 🙏🏻
i watched this video carefully pausing every 5 seconds and recalling my memories. you just explained my life to me.
Pretty sure I have undiagnosed adhd. This whole video gave me anxiety. I've always wondered why I can't just do "the thing" that normal adults do. I interrupt everyone, have absolutely no volume control over my voice, I either do everything or absolutely nothing because the thought of doing anything overwhelms me when there's so much to do and I don't even know where to start. Which is overwhelming. I am a server, so fortunately my job stimulates me, and I find I perform better when I have 25 things to do for 10 different tables, but then forgot ranch for a table when I have only one. And I already forgot what I was ranting about.
Also seen it described as trying to watch 5 TV's at once with different shows you love on each of them.
Thank you for this video, I'm 41 and just got diagnosed. After a very rough morning, i needed to hear your lovely voice and your kind words!
Can be diagnosed in adulthood or childhood. Not here. I tried to get tested for it as an adult. They said they don't diagnose adults because we've survived this long without it. Gee, thanks. I was looking for help with struggles I think are ADHD but guess it's not allowed.
The bed time thing is totally me now. 2am I gotta wake at 6 and get my daughter to school. Oops.
The over thinking and it's partner in crime the mental restlessness plagues me and is oppressive. Pair that with my untreated PTSD and it's a disaster. Because of this I haven't been able to heal from things that happened 3 years ago and I'm stuck in the moment that it happened in and it's putting my health in jeopardy. But yeah I'm fine and don't need to be diagnosed or treated. Executive dysfunction often kills me when trying to keep up with the housework. So people see me as lazy when I'm trying hard but battling obstacles no one wants to acknowledge let alone allevaite.
So. Since my location won't diagnose me I guess I assume I have it (I checked off everything on this list and my son has it and it's known to be genetic) and seek out resources and hope I can make some headway on my own. If my mind will even allow me to do it with these symptoms I struggle with.
My heart goes out to you. Where do you live???
@@AlissaSss23 in the middle of nowhere in the Midwest. Very little options for medical care and the one place my insurance covers is the place that caused the PTSD in the first place. So I can't get screenings I'm years overdue for that could save my life. Because the last time I was there I was deathly I'll and they didn't do anything for me. No tests nothing. They ignored me when I told them things. I was back in the er the next day I almost didn't go but my husband and neighbor forced me. I was medflighted out that day with sepsis and needed 3 emergency surgeries to save my life from the routine low risk one they performed days before and botched. So, yeah the over thinking is suffocating me and not helping at all.
@@Persephone549 PTSD can cause executive disfunction issues that look the same as ADHD, one of the criteria for ADHD is that it started in childhood. If the symptoms started after the trauma then that might not be whats up. Some people grow up in an environment that naturally accommodates for ADHD so the symptoms don't really express themselves until there's a life change, also because of ADHD stereotypes girls with ADHD slip through the cracks more often. If thats the case you'd have to find a psychologist thats more up to date on ADHD research to get a proper diagnosis. Anywho, meditation and self-hypnosis can help alleviate the ptsd symptoms while you try and find a better doctor.
Current struggle with the dishes. No hot water at the moment, and I have more dishes than I have storage for, but I actually need even more dishes to cook the things I want to cook.
I love how you explained my entire life to me in 6 mins 🥰 it's so comforting to be understood and seen .. thank you
This is one of the best list of signs ive seen for adhd. Sometimes i feel as though all i am is my signs. Thanks for sharing!
This was sooo relatable😩😩🙈🙈😭😭 if you would, could you please make one on natural ways to combat it as an adult WITHOUT medicating? For us holistic ones😉🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💜💙
I just wanted to gently remind everyone that ADHD is classified as a neurodevelopmental ((referring to the brain's development of neurological pathways that influence performance or functioning)) disorder by the DSM-5, which stipulates that symptoms need to have been present in childhood, even if the diagnosis is made later in life and symptoms change. The video introduction seems to imply something different by focusing on the persistence of ADHD into adulthood. I thought it might be helpful to clarify this, especially from my perspective as someone with ADHD and a background in psychopathology and human development. Also, the perspectives on ADHD and other neurodevelopmental disorders are constantly growing. Love the video and thank you for expanding on this subject!
As a young adult with ADHD, I super appreciate this video! Loving the ADHD videos the last while!!❤❤❤ Can you do a video about having both ADHD and ASD? Thanks #Psych2go !!!❤
I describe my daily ADHD experience as a choose your own adventure book: decision trees leading to different outcomes. No routines or habits.
I'm 28 years old and i have always felt different. So, I've done a ton of research and ADHD seems to tick all the boxes. I finally got the confidence to call my GP today and he has referred me to a specialist. I'm hoping this will be an answer to why I think like I do and why I struggle so much even though i work so hard.
Thank you for these videos, they truly help.
I dont struggle with ADHD. My ADHD struggles with me lol
Deadlines and the pressure is the fun part. I find myself acing a test and having better quality work when I hit peak adrenaline anxiety haha.
Someone told me that maybe my work would be better if I do everything without the stress. I said that would mean I'd be asleep and never ever get to that project. I need to feel like it is an end all or be all situation.
I love the "you matter" at the end, beautiful touch!
I got dagnosed at age 5 about 18 years ago, and yeah, this is pretty much the ADHD experience😅. Oddly though, I'm not sure I'd change my brain even if I could, because then I wouldn't be able to think about things in quite the same way. Sure, it's responsible for some bad grades and missed deadlines in the past, but it's also responsible for good grades and higher quality work in other areas. My brain's weird, but it's also a fundamental part of my personality.
Ive done the evaluation last year. Im in my early 40s and was told I had ADHD (without hyperactivity) in my early 30, but wasnt told at all when I was diagnosed as a kid. The difference is noticeable and thoughts are less jumbled with proper meds.
Psych to go releasing videos late night knowing we all can’t sleep 😂
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4:00 YES. I've been trying to explain this for so long and that is EXACTLY what it's like!! People always wonder how I'm able to sometimes talk so fast about topics I'm interested in or just conversations I'm fascinated by, and I always explain that I just...do. Dunno why. But I always kinda felt that, like, yeah! I'm saying the words, but as I'm saying them, the next few words are being prepared on the conveyor belt that is my brain. Like I know what the next thought is (usually) while I'm still saying the previous words. But I've never seen it explained so well or described by someone else! That is perfect!!
I... what..? Thinking faster than you speak is not normal..?
YESSS!! THISS
I can't finish saying my thoughts but I am grateful that my loved ones know how I think and the fill in words for thoughts that already escaped me.
Stress and life changes, either big or small, can send my ADHD in a frenzy that feels impossible to gain control of. This makes managing my mental and emotional health a struggle, and this can also impact my relationships at times. It's not often that I find myself thinking about going on meds again, especially since my last prescription from 10 years ago gave me a burning headache.... It's just difficult to work around it half the time, and communicating these struggles isn't easy for me.
Omg, this is totally ME.. evidenced by leaving this comment at 3AM 🙄
March on, my friends; our best productivity occurs while others sleep! 😉
i wish i could get a diagnosis, its a struggle just existing. sometimes i feel like i don’t actually have those symptoms because of so many people invalidating my experiences. Im glad these kinds of videos exist tho.
Most people i have seen in my life have developed ADHD or ADD recently, as adults. And i have seen them recover as well
But It's very rare to see people having ADHD since their childhood and even rarer to see them recover.. I have ADHD since childhood. And i was always referred as dumb, and slow learner, that made my life even difficult. I face problems even till now. Tho i have developed some unconventional methods that supports my ADHD and not what everybody tells or suggests me to do
One of the criteria for ADHD is having had it since childhood, it doesn't develop in adulthood, it might expose its self after a life change, but it would've had to have been there all along to meet the criteria. Most of the ADHD symptoms are executive disfunction problems which can also be caused by different things, ptsd, depression, autism, for example. People don't really recover from ADHD so much as develop better coping strategies and get better at self care, so you shouldn't compare yourself to others who seem to have their problems just magically go away, that wouldn't be realistic and not fair to you. Maintaining a good balanced diet getting plenty of exercise and good sleep work wonders for ADHD symptoms and having a good set of coping strategies that work well for you and a good support system in place can make a world of difference.
@@Sarcasmarkus yes sir.. exerscises, eating habits, and enforced habits have changed a lot. I sucessfully developed few methods and enforced few habits with time. Still adhd remains a problem. Can't do anything. Just learn to live better with it
The guy sent to give a quote on your relocation takes one look at your domicile and asks your mom if you've got (then called) ADD. I came home from work to an appointment for evaluation and the better part of a mom-researched treatment plan. She was intimidatingly effective like that.
Thank you 😊 it was real helpful
Thank you! Did you learn anything new from the video? :)
Watching this video is simply painful and even saddened while realising I have already reached middle age without much changes since childhood and now having a couple of serious breakdowns at both workplace and home... though, I knew them at the bottom of my heart, always.
Thanks anyway for enlightenment.
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I sometimes wonder if I have it undiagnosed. Some days can't be bothered to do anything but we all have those days. Procrastinate when I can't decide what to act on first if there's like 3 or more things that need doing. I can go to the shops for milk and forget to get milk in the 10 mins it takes to get there, literally looking at and walking past the milk with no thought of needing it, coming back with everything other than milk. If you tell me 3 or 4 things need doing, I'm so busy trying to remember the 1st and 2nd that I don't hear the 3rd and or 4th. I can open UA-cam to look for X thing, see something in the recommended, click on it, start watching and after barely a minute I go "right, time to search for uhh...uhhh..what was it again?" and just nothing, empty memory of something I was thinking of a minute ago. Really, really frustrating, especially when I like now have a girlfriend again and she's talking about her day, and sometimes I'm so focused on what to say in response that I almost "stop listening" even though I hear her words, and she laughs it off but I know eventually it'll reach the "it's like you don't hear me" argument. Ugh. I'm only mid 30s for god sake, this shouldn't be happening until I'm like..70.
If you can tell yourself to stop trying to think of responses to what your gf is saying and force yourself to just listen, that would be great for both of you probably. Her talking about her day doesn’t necessarily need responses, but just you listening. That is what I tell myself and it works pretty well. And write EVERYTHING down. I have a million lists of things in my phone and multiple little notebooks of thoughts and ideas so I don’t have to keep things in my brain and can make space for new thoughts and ideas. No shame in keeping a shopping list to refer to at the store. Good luck!
I used to have all the signs and was stricken with this BUT...i had a spiritual awakening and in it i began to receive intuition that i needed...never even heard of a chakra prior to this happening...i recognized that this was a form of guidance so i followed it...today i have cert in energy med meditation and yoqi..point is...the problem lies in ur scrambled human energy....i began to do exercises, like holding the third eye and occipital ridge (spot on back of skull where the "ridge" is) and shift the gaze back and forth for approximately two to five min per day...this will strengthen the energy and promote smooth thinking etc...i was the girl who couldn't find the fon that was in her hand ....that all went by the way side when i began yoga and energu work....add adhd is a result of scrambled mental energy. "The Wayne Cook posture" also is HIGHLY effective for these things as it is also for stuttering. EVVVERYTHING u experience can be traced back to ur human energy.
hey psych2go! thx for the informative videos everyday, rlly helped me understand common mental disorders better
but, I still struggle with something. I'm not sure what exactly my parents have, and what to do about it. they almost always exaggerate stuff, I'm always the one to blame, and they yell, threaten and blackmail me, sometimes hitting me. they also don't respect boundaries, like not letting me close my door, or checking my phone. plus, they force me to follow their beliefs and do what they say because they're "always right and they're my parents". but then other times they seem nice and...idk.
could you help me out pls? I'm still a minor, so I can't shut them out completely.
Sounds like narcissism. From personal experience, I kept my head down as much as possible and avoided any attention from my parents knowing I would be able to be on my own one day. I started buying essential household items in my teens and moved out at 18. Life on the other side is so much better and you will get there. Until then, know you’re not alone and I wish you the best!
@@chloe2264 seeing my parents as narcissists makes a lot more sense. thx for the advice!
One difference I would say is for a lot of people with adhd (I have a few friends who have it and have talked about it) is that they WILL forget a lot of the time what they were going to say if they don't say it. It's not just a fear- more often than not.
Take rejections as lessons getting you closer to your yes
I have just been diagnosed at 33 and it helped me give myself grace and work with my brain not try to beat it into submission
Here’s my experience. Not diagnosed as a child. Parents too busy - no I really mean this - plus in the 1960’s/70’s if you were ‘diagnosed’ as having this condition, we know as ADHD, you potentially could end up being diagnosed into a ‘special school’. So minus the parents being too busy, there’s also that, and all it would entail. Potentially, I was done a favour, but to never be told something that at least half a dozen adults must have intimated to one of them, eg teachers, friends and professional colleagues are but three I can state with certainty, to not be told this exists in you is to turn it to an affliction. Everyone else can see it, you are never told. At 60, I have self-diagnosed but believe it’s been stubbornly obvious to any health professional or mainly, teachers, over the years, and also some relatives.
But nobody says a word. This, is the affliction, not having something, but struggling with it and without acknowledgement, you are left defenceless and vulnerable to the usual assortment of misfits and abusers that are attracted to someone they see with an issue, who obviously hasn’t yet been made aware of it, and not realised for themselves. In short, it’s ruinous and dangerous to not know your real circumstances. Take care all.