Grownboy Tactics!
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- Опубліковано 19 кві 2020
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A Womans Influence this book is the best ever. I think every woman and every man should get this book for their sons and daughters. Birthday gift! Christmas gift!or just because I love and care for you gift! Thank you Tony and Sheri for sharing this knowledge.
Wow! Thank you! I have to pin this comment. It blessed my spirit! Thank you!
Another great video Nephew Tony, I love all of the examples you give. You break it down in clear plain english. I'm sure you will still receive a whole bunch questions about all of examples you used for further details. Lol
God bless you. SDG
How do I order the book📖
@@cokeytate6022 amazon
@@blossombrown5408 thank you so very much💜
“If you ain’t got no children from that grown boy, the Lord spared you!”
Amennnn 🗣🙌🏾 *praise dancing* 💃🏾🕺🏽
J. T. Yessss
J. T. Say it louder !!!!
Ugh. the Lord did not spare me!!!
R Guerrero no worries boo! I’m sure the love experience you have with your baby is like no other😍 and our good God will surely bless you with the man of your dreams, keep on trusting Him & working on your 3Bs in the meantime! I’m doing the same! 😽
J. T. Amen!!!!
Ladies God is NOT the author of confusion. Please trust your intuition, it will prevent heart aches. ❤
Dimepiece 954 love this
Always trust your gut ...
I needed to hear that right now and I’m seeing some myself over and over to remind myself thank you
So true yes👏
Truth
Most grown boys use the silent treatment as punishment not realizing grown women are Professors in that course! Be careful when playing that game. Blocked, deleted, and forgotten about.
Exactly
Blocked his ass and changed ma number
That's right, we are experts in that area. I don't block at first because I want to have fun with all my ignored calls I'm dishing out!
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Facts❗️
"If you are not happy, whole, and confident in your relationship, youre with a grown boy" --Tony Gaskins
Point, blank, periyawd in my Tony Gaskins voice.
Whitney Hodge 😂😂 Periyawd
A Thomas yasssssss 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! YES INDEED!
@Whitney Hodge Amen namesake .
They lose respect for you when you take them back. Never lower your standards and don’t be afraid to lose them, no matter how old you are or how long you’ve been with them.
I NEEDED to see your comment....THANK YOU❤️
Shontesha Franklin you’re welcome sis❤️
Anybody who would hack your biology in order to addict you for control or their own entertainment never respected you in the first place.
Men like this are not a prize to be won.
You’re 💯 right. I wish I had heard this earlier, I forgave him many times and now he made me look like a fool for taking him back many times.
He’s had been divorced many times with lot’s of baby mama’s , so I thought he was gonna change. I caught him cheating with a young girl again and he doesn’t even care that I know he’s still going out with her.
I Wish I had gone longest time. Lord have Mercy on me. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID ! THATS IT!
"Never let a man see you sweat, even if you gotta wear a towel over your neck."
Dropping Gems !
Facts on facts.
Love it💯
RizzyBone That Part!!!!!!!
cracked me up! But sooooo true!!
GOD WANTED U 2 SEE THIS. GOD DIRECTED U TO SEE THIS! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH U! GOD LOVES US ALL! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! AND PRAY FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW!AND PRAY FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW!!!
So good. If you have no peace, it’s a grown boy.
Yes, "a grown boy will make you feel uncomfortable, confused, will give you silent treatment, threat you with break-up for every little thing, a grown man will make you feel safe"
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That’s irony! The grown boy will resent you for putting up with his BS! Your lack of standards devalues you in his eyes. He will never appreciate you for your sacrifices. Let him go and move forward.
I would say im a grown girl and i oddly resent my man for putting up with me..its true!
Grown boys keep you in self doubt. Remember that Ladies. 💯
Eternity With Christ : Well said...
This is sickening, like why does it have to be so difficult. All of these games
It do not have to be difficult Sis! Just don't play the games. 🥰
It's hard because men/people transgress towards God. And, it is easier to satisfy the flesh than to discipline it. Sacrifices hurt/costs, so people just want to put a bandaid on it so they can stop hurting as fast as they can. But in reality they're setting themselves up for infection of the soul!
@@melaninandaura9713 I believe once we apply the rules, then we will begin eliminate the foolishness and games in our lives. Everyone has been raised differently, so we are applying some old tactics in a newly created relationship. It takes willingness to adapt by both persons, but when that man doesn't want to then all the pressure and responsibility is placed on that woman and vice versa. So to ensure we create a win-win situation for ourselves and others, we have to keep our standards all the way up and guard our hearts, our eyes and ears. We need to work the word of God in faith and receive the blessing of God! It's coming together for me!
They're creatures.
Im just too done. God knows Ive tried. Everybody isnt going to have a good man. Simple as that isnt enough to go around
Just got rid of a “grown boy” about two weeks ago. He was childish and manipulative. God is good! 🙌🏾
Finally broke a off and on cycle from a grown boy a week ago.. Never felt so free in my life
PSA: That baby WON'T change him or make him love you. And don't be mad at the chick he chose over you. You don't know what he's told her. Ijs...
Indeed Sis! ✅
Facts! To add to that not your sex either. Stop saying to single woman that’s why you’re single because we decided not to settle.
@@DynamicallyDC 💯💖🌼
@@Glamrocs okay! Tell'em bestie! 💖
@Inkuiring MYnds you ain't never lied! They will tell you one thing & tell her another.
I don't know how I came across this channel a few months ago but it was the biggest blessing I could've asked for, thank you.
Welcome sis! 🌼💖
Cher H thank you Cher !! 🥰
Welcome. This channel will change your life 🙏💕
@@katarinakarakas7800 😊💖
God knew what we all needed
I feel like a women getting the inside scoop when I listen to Tony...Real experiences, straight no chaser.
Softfire STRAIGHT NO CHASER
It’s like dealing with overgrown toddlers.
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I felt this 😭
Exactly!
Lol lol 🤣🤣🤣
Basically
Morning Blessed Tribe!
Reminder: "A man is an accessory not a necessity" ~Sheri Gaskins
New week, new opportunities! Have a blessed Monday! 💫🌼💖
Good morning! This is a good session. Thanks for your infinite wisdom.
Good morning Bestie
@@tricia2804 morning! Blessings💫
@Cher Good morning soulsista👑💃❤
@@Glamrocs morning bestie! 😊💖🌼
Pay attention to his taste in music- if he's listening to singers that speak disrespectfully of women that's your huge red flashing flag!
99 Sparkles. I agree wholeheartedly. Many are unaware of the negative influences that music has on this generation of men and women.
If you pay close attention to the lyrics, it is downright disgusting and degrading.
As a lover of many genres of music, I am guilty and correcting of this issue myself.
Music is either spiritually good or bad. There is no in between. 🙏🏽
40 yoa...listening to Chris Brown 🤔
This is the whole truth!
Not a rule. Mine played classical music and is Narcissist
This video broke my heart. I just recognised something I went through but I didn't see it as tactics, I thought I wasn't good enough. Thank you Tony!
Of course you're good enough!!!
Zawadi Birya it’s sad, I had an epiphany too.
A grown boy sounds like a narcissist.
I thought I wasn't good enough too but I feel like Tony put a light in a room that was dark for me. Light bulb moment
@@marloparker4436 it is narcissism
Grown boy is code word for Narcissist ladies. Tony is on point with this video. It's not worth the headache, keep it moving or else brace yourself for the upcoming discard and trauma bond you are about to encounter at some point.
So true
Exactly
Hi Tony, my ex husband left me while i was pregnant. Im 4,5months pregnant right now and looking for a new house. I was really sad because i realized this is it and im starting over again with our 3y/o and our baby in my stomach. But this video gave me the courage to move on and make something of my and mines lifes. God bless you Tony
I can’t even imagine going through that. The last time a man left me i was upset but God chastised me and told me that if a man wants to leave me let him leave. God will take care of and bless you and your babies.
I lived it. My ex left me 1 month before goving birth to our second child. Do not go back as hard as it may seem now!!!!!! I did and i regret it a lot!!!!!
R Guerrero if i listen to my heart i know i would go back as soon as he will come knocking on my door to make it work. But than if i listen to my mind and to tony i know i need to go on about my business and do the best i can to give my babies a good and healthy life. I hope you and your babies are doing well now.. May God bless and protect you
@@zinaa3450 Amen, Thank you!! I wish you the absolute best!!! Just cry ONE time. It will be worth it!!!! And if you need empty your chest out hit me up on IG @rosagcal ❤❤
It truly makes me sick how these men have the audacity to do the things they do. I truly hope you come out the other side stronger than ever ❤️
Wow Tony. You just described my last two relationships. Scary. Ladies listen to Tony & run from any sign of a grown boy. Don't stay for the kids. It gets worse.
Coach Krystle Laughter thank you. Roller coaster 🎢 uneasiness; 7 years of this mess. He left and now wants to come back ( ain’t happening) I said thank you God.
It gets worse for sure.
Oh damn, I hope am not pregnant by this fool! I really don’t want any connection to him. 🤦🏾♀️
DANG
The older a Grown Boy, the younger the mindset!!! 💁🏽♀️
I can personally attest to this comment!!!
Where is the lie?!?
wise words!!
Lord, I regret ever losing my virginity. I'm never getting on my back again. I obviously need to read the book. Ordering right now.
God forgives us and makes things new again. Don't condemn yourself. Pray and wait on God for your husband before you give your body away.
You did the best you could with the information that you had at the time. Watch Tony's videos about breaking soul ties and allow God to free you from that bondage.
Lol so true 😂
Where can I get me one.
Don't regret it, just learn from it
Grownboy = cognitive dissonance, or in other words a jezabel narcissist
A real man = peace
This!!!
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I like that....Grown men are
"Reading and responding"
"Recieving and reciprocating"
There must be a balance
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I'm realizing I've been with some grown boys. I married one. Lord send me a grown man so I can feel the difference. Amen.
Remember you can be the influence toward a grown man with your husband.....don't be afraid of the outcome.
So true a grown boy will not see you being pregnant as a blessing! He will say you are big fat and ugly. He will not find you sexually attractive. He will deny the child. He will not want to be around you because he secretly dislikes you. Been there and done that. it was a horrible experience. Just get out as soon as you can.
Amen! Preach
"Instead of becoming BITTER, let me become BETTER."
Praise God!!! More grace to you, Tony👍🏾(P.S. This needs to be on a shirt!)
I’m weak to my knees with laughter when he was spinning around in that chair talking about he gonna have you on FaceTime like this 😭😭
Been there done that..
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Getting old is inevitable; growing up is optional
I've read a quote in the past Tony has made stating "If you have a Grown Man, realize it and appreciate him..If you have a grown boy, realize it & remove yourself before you lose yourself." This message today definitely differentiates the two!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
That's a gem!!!
@@cherh Most definitely! 🙌🏾💎
Facts!!!
Best advice EVER! Just escaped a grown boy. I felt everything you descriped in the beginning of the video. He broke it off as I began speaking up and calling him out on his lies and inconsistencies. He wanted to be keep me in his life after all of that bull. No way. Blocked him on everything. I’m only 24 and I only spend 2 months with that sucka. I’m running and imma keep on running 🏃🏾♀️ Life has better plans for me. Doing my church dance 🤩
@ Tesi😌👏👏👏👏👑💃💪Good for you sis!!
Momma Tish1 Thank you very much sis 👏🏾👏🏾💛😁😁
I’m so glad you left that grown boy. Tony is the best person to grow and get new knowledge. You’re my daughters ago and I want the best for you both 😘. Become apart of the bless tribe link in Tony’s bio.
Momma Tish1 I’m happy for her
Thank God you didn’t stay for 3 years like I did
Its crazy, after a few days of watching your videos, I finally realize just how good of a man I've been despite certain past issues. I believe more men should also watch because like me, alot doubt if they are doing the right things. shits just as bad for a good man as it is a good woman, so all i can do is pray that both find someone that fits them.
@Eternity With Christ thank you very much for the kind words. And I am learning now not to do so, God bless you!
Godbless
@ Quincy Jackson Thanks for the perspective. Yes, let’s hope this dialogue will help the good men and the good women become more VISIBLE in our society/communities etc.
Yes i wish that there were indications on good men and women somewhere so that they would know one another...lol
Amen 🙏🏿
Who really has time for all these mind games. This is why I'm still single because I simply cant🥱😧... why do men think they are this important? This is why the Bible says " its better to be single."
Sharita Mayo : So true....
You have pretty much told my story ...minus him controlling my finances and what to eat and dress he knew he couldnt influence me there. I would walk out . He got me in different ways. Whatever your weaknesses and strengths are they will feed off on. Yes even your strengths...to assassinate your character or any type of courage you have they must destroy. 8 yrs married to a ghost! I got up one morning g and told him to get the eff out my life. It was quick as that. My superego kicked in...my pride got out and said what is going on...I told him pack his crap and never come back. I changed my number , filed for divorce all in 4 days after he left! I'm 3yrs no contact strong. I didn't do back and forth he tried to trap me but he was on block in ever way. Ladies we hold the power stop settling ..stop fearing beign alone ..just stop and get your power back!
Thanks to a grown boy you’ll be “arguing about nothing but crying about everything.” TG
I am going through this now, I was apologizing for the smallest things he would get mad about and then when I started talking about boundaries and getting serious, I got dumped the next day and blocked. It really did hurt me because it was soo unexpected but I take that rejection as God's protection and I'm working on building myself up again
@@lashatay29 Glad you made it out alright! 🙏🏾
@Dr.Elaine1 thank you,😘 I'm still hurt but I'm finding more strength everyday but I'm walking away knowing my worth and that's his loss🫠
@@lashatay29 Sis, I’ve been there too: when the person you want doesn’t want you. Im glad you are valuing your worth. I pray that the person you want comes along and he wants you. 🙏🏾
@Dr.Elaine1 that means a lot thank you so much for your time and your words of wisdom..I'm saving your responses so I can look at them everyday
Many times a grown boy can act like a grown man. Everything is perfect and makes it seem like he is everything you are looking for. Over time, his true colors will come out. Once he feels secure.
Yup
Just learned this the hard way, I'm working on building myself up again.
Ever since Tony said to give a man 3-6 months to show his true colors it’s been proven true. And it just doesn’t apply to grown boys or people you’re trying to meet but also people in general. Rule of thumb
@@damarish.torres145 thanks for the reminder
@@lashatay29 I’m rebuilding myself as well and it’s been 10 months . It takes time 💪🏼 you can do it just keep listening to Tony
Tony on point tho! That “take care” closure is real. That means he isn’t interested in you anymore. However you’ll never get the closure from a grown boy. You’ll be on an emotional rollercoaster.
“If you not happy 😃, whole, and confident in your relationship, then you’re with a grown boy or grown girl”
Oh so I was dealing with a grown boy recently! He tried to make it seem like I was the problem because I got on him for not calling me back after he said he would. I'm tired of dealing with grown boys.. I feel like when you get a certain age you should be too grown for that mind game mess!
I feel you girl. How do I tell a grown boy that doesn’t text back to lose my number?
@@SandraMartinez-tm8xw lose his and block him. You won’t have to tell him much after that 😘
“A lot of grown boys look like grown men” SCREAMING!! I’ve experienced this first hand
On another note the re-enactments of these grown boy antics has me cracking up. But he’s so on point with their foolishness!
@ Nikki Real talk ❤👑💃Have a Great Monday sis.
You and me both.
Me 3 smh
Momma Tish1 good morning sis, have blessed Monday 😘
Hey Blessed Tribe & absolutely Sis @Nikki Rowland!! ❤
Anything less than a Grown Man is a waste of precious time. Anyone preying on our kindness needs to be cutoff✂immediately. Move forward with life, bc we only get one. Peace & Blessings🙏🏽
True that!
They also use their kids to make you mellow. You think that if you are introduced to his kids or his family it’s that he really wants you in his life. But it isn’t. He is using everything and anything he can to make you fall.
Spoke a word
They will introduce you to their mom. dad, bro, sis, cat, dog and the roaches!
Christine Warren not the roaches 😂
This is the one thing here that I always knew.
@@Deanna0456 baby Chile yes! Sure do
When I say WOW I mean WOW 😳 you legit literally know US (WOMEN) and giving US the REAL with these grown boys like WOW you are saving our hearts!! Like I’m so serious when I say God bless you and your house!
Man, I guess I was with a grown girl... my friend sent me this. Amazing same behavior as a grown boy. I left my now ex wife and all I can say is that it is hard work to get out I called it getting out the Matrix but now things are better for me and my kids. Love this video.
When you see someone being able to talk about a subject for a full hour without a paper, with the right words and with a stuctured frame and ideas, you know you're not just dealing with an expert, but rather a master in the subject ! That is one of the many reasons why you're one of my most respected role models, Tony Gaskins. I think many people would love to know how you manage your time in detail and what activities you do in regards to your work. Thank you so much for your time, dedication and hard work !
I was dating a guy who was financially well off and portrayed a 'grown man' representative. He's 39. I asked him what the first thing he wants to do when this is over & he responded "I can't wait to party hard" byeeeee grown boy. 39 talking about partying hard🤦🏾♀️
@Bl15 Grace Keep moving sis, don't take a gamble and let him take up and Value any more of your time. You got this sis👑💃💪❤
Probably has an alcohol or drug problem too. Good choice! Run!
I cannot stand a grown party boy. Yuck. It’s so unattractive to want to get drunk out your mind and high as a kite every single weekend for no reason.
I know a grown boy 51 never married no children works hard but mates and drinking come first
I'm not playing games no more he is going crazy in lockdown I feel sorry for these women in pubs and clubs when the lockdown lifts dont go there no more the lord is my only love I was tricked by satan
This dude spinning around in the chair😂😂
😅
That part sent me 😂💀
I’ve experienced this before, I was like get the F,,k outta here.
This is EDUCATION! I thank GOD he spared me. It feels good to say and know that I dodged a bullet. Thank you Tony for your continuous teachings. Praise GOD!
It makes me sick just listening to it. Madness. Every woman on Earth must know this.
Andrea Magyar Lmaoooooo
Same tho lol. The audacity they have
Yes Mr Gaston you are telling the truth I sit there for almost 11yrs I was 58 when it started I'm 71yrs old I had to leave. 2yrs ago he was a grown boy. Thank God I'm doing good God is good. I had to learn at an older age keep up the good work Tony God.Bless you
At the end of the day!!! Work on yourself and learn selflove, know your worths& watch how you Value your time amen, because Tomorrow isn't promise 🙌👑💃🙏
Keep the Almighty 1st
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Love it.
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Pay attention ladies, What he saying is so TRUE!
This needs to be on TV or something. God I want everyone to get the knowledge please!
Aneta Toma Honeeeyyyy! You ain’t NEVER lied!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Too real for TV!!!
They will never let this be on TV because grown boys run the country.
Every life story they steal and make it a move or a song, they always find a way to make that movie show sin even if the real story had no sin in it. Deliver us from Eva was my story but they stole it and made her give it up before marriage twice and use that to make women think it was ok to give it up because it will end the way she wants, but it wont.
Even after my boys wrote a song for me, they took and made them give it too baby boys and than made them same lil boys make another song later about my name that said I will give it up for a lollipop. They do not want anyone to know real women exist. They do not want us to know real men exist.
That is why the internet, that was meant to be a curse, has become a blessing to many of us who does listen and fix our lives from what we learn. Why do you think they put so many restrictions on what can be said on this channel, yet the other channels can say and do anything and never get a video taken down or never get closed off youtube when they should be. They claim it took them long to find their wrong doing but they would find the wrong doing on this channel an hour after it happen and take action.
Be blessed that we have this channel
Hi Tony
You are describing a manipulative narcissist. Well done.
Man if this video wasnt reading my life 😔
Mine too 😔
I’m 9 minutes in and a grown boy doing that is extremely manipulative. It’s a borderline disorder.
@Ocean Flower That's the exact behavior he's describing, he's just not labeling it that.
@Ocean Flower yesss disgusting
Yup, a narcissist.
I had to let go and let god it wasn’t easy but it was the best decision I have ever made in my life!!!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
This happened to me. Thank God he kept me. Got one child, dealt with bs because I didn't know my worth. But god said I'm not finished with you yet.. life gets so much beautiful once you leave..
OMG! I felt like Tony was doing a running commentary on my life! Divorced now! Amen... my ex bought me sweatpants & a sweatshirt for our first xmas together, & it was 2 sizes too big! I really shouldve seen it coming. Can laugh about it now, but the emotional & sometimes volatile drama he kept putting me through was exhausting. He left me alone for 2 days rt after i got home from the hospital with our first child. Now I'm thinking that he was probably with the woman that i later found him to b cheating with...smh.
Wow! You're doing amazing now, keep going! 🌼💖
Vegi girl...I'm going through it right now. I've turned a corner and can finally laugh again. Narcissists bring pure hell to your life and keep confusion and chaos going. Stop the rollercoaster I'm getting off!!
Thank God I let that Grown Boy go January 6, 2020 & DONT Regret it!! Been trying for years to let him go & I was the woman who was trying to get him to become a better man! Now he’s with a woman with 7 kids, driving her car, she providing weed, drinks, sex unlimited, EVERYTHING I WASNT DOING FOR HIM! He isn’t adding anything to her life & I tried to tell her, but I said I will let her find out on her own!! I saw him for who he was, he couldn’t break me, Control me or bring me down!! I continued to prosper because I wasn’t about his Bs! He tried to connect to My Destiny, but I left him out of my lifestyle off & on for 15 years & he didn’t like it! So I let him go for the last time because he could never grow with me! I’m Happy & Grateful my tubes were tied, burnt & clip, so I could not have his child & that wasn’t gonna happen because I knew better!! His Lost 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Good for you. And nah you can never tell a person about their man. She has to walk her own journey with him. She'll find out in the long run. But you're doing amazing keep going! 🌼💖
Testimony
I do want to mention that also the grown boy will talk you up, be kind and all of that in your face but talk mess behind your back and ghost you- be rude to you when no one else but God can see them. Thank God someone is watching and taking notes! These kids out here now a days think they’re slick. Sad part is they’re hurting these naive girls who love them or think they love them. No love lost, there is no love lost ladies just throw up those ✌️
Just happened to me!
It's ABSOLUTELY crazy how accurate this is!!! I wish I saw this video BEFORE I married a "grownboy"! God bless your ministry Tony Gaskins! This message has to be taught even in the church, where grownboys go to find their prey!
You said it! They prey on woman in the church! I’m living it!
Tony, I wish I had your book 30 years ago!! Relationship after toxic relationship, finally a 21/2 yr old one with a 55 yr old live in boyfriend, I became a basket case. I got him his car/job/food/business, he made me feel more unworthy and hateful towards myself than I did on my own(bad!). Contemplated suicide in the last 2 months, then he put his hands on me, TIME TO GO! Your visa has been REVOKED! I am now 49, 50 in December, and now, right this minute, with the help of you and your videos, an now book(elevate!), I have never loved myself more! I cannot thank you enough Mr. Gaskins, thank you for a million lifetimes and then some!
K mac congratulations 🙂
Congratulations
Stay strong, enjoy your freedom!
What a blessing for me to read your victory even a year later. I hope all is well even in the ups and downs of healing. God bless you and your family.
You sound like me. I am so happy i found his channel.
You’ve helped me so much tony! the dating game as completed changed for me
Whew! 😩 It really hurts my soul how strong women are & how much we've put up with. I've lived this too TG... literally!!! Thank God for growth, knowledge, & Tony. God is amazing! Get to know him for yourself 💖
I know sis, But at the end of the day 👑💃😌I really appreciate having strength as a 💪STRONG WOMAN!!!👑💃🗣💪
Aaaaamen 👑💃GOD IS SOOO GOD!!! 🙌🙌🙌
@@coachnatishamommatish185 say that!!! All facts!!!!
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen!!! When you know better, you not only learn better; but you do better! Blessings ❤️
Coach you better preach! Talk to the people! 💁🏽♀️ This video gave me some fuel! You are the brother I never had. 🙌🏾
@ Ms. Kellee Amen❤ I agree hru, I've been praying for you woman of God stay blessed and 🙏💪strong Ms.Kellee❤👑💃🙌🙌🙌
Thank you sister! Right back at ya!
CLASS IN SESSION !!!
Why don't they teach this in school? Should be required reading
100% true about the difference in how grown boys and a grown man make you feel. The grownboy took away my peace and made me feel completely uneasy, didn't care about bringing ease. He even admitted himself that he was unstable so it makes sense. When I dropped him as a friend, the peace came back and I feel that it was truly the holy spirit warning me then.
I felt as though I completely regained my power and completed the last step in realizing who I am in God's eyes. Exiting the roller coaster of a relationship just brought great clarity back to my purpose and life.
‘Unless you can see the oil I’ve oil dripping off him, don’t go back’. Tony you are so funny and real. Thank you.😂🙏🏾
That roller coaster analogy was really legit... that was my last situation 🤦🏾♀️but I knew someone was wrong...
Mel 143 say that!
If you're not happy, whole,& confident.then Yes, You're With A Grown Boy.🤔🥺🤣🤣🤣🤣
So many Jewels dropped in this video....y'all better listen and take heed. YAS! Mr. Gaskins 💯👏
🚨🚨🚨New T-shirt alert! "Healed, whole, & confident" TG put me down for 1 please! Black!
Cher H I need that ! Black V neck size ( L)
@@Glamrocs ikr! I can't wait til he drop that!
Yes. Grey for me!
@@mingtoiisaac4623 😁
47:43 🙌🏾 I talk to my daughter about this ALL THE TIME! I've been through this and there's no way I'm going to withhold my knowledge and experiences from her! It is my responsibility and duty to do so. I take it very seriously. If my parents would've done the same it would've saved me some heartache but none the less I am one who broke the cycle. It ended with me.
Now I'm swallowing knives!! I could've died!! 😩😩🤣🤣🤣🤣
Never let a man see you sweat!!.... Work on your poker face😌
Foreal though.... Save this video people. Listen to it over and over again..... Don't let "love" blind you, especially if it's from a grown boy.
😂😂I see you sis
@@coachnatishamommatish185 I had to edit my comment because... Ngl.... I've dealt with a good grown boy.... It was hard, But I thank God for guiding me, during and after🙌🏽
@Eternity With Christ foreal!! And watch out for Grown Girls too 👀👀🙄🙄🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Yes, I’m swallowing knives, lol 😝
This breaks my heart, but also opens my eyes. I just delt with a grown boy who lied, manipulated, never fully committed and had me on rotation. Kept coming in and out of my life and I would take him back, i felt like I couldn't do better then him . Thank God im out of that situation. Im hurt but im healing
I still say these men will meet their demise one way or another...
Through an early death, sickness, finances, jobs, etc....karma
They are miserable grownboys period...
"When I was I child, I behaved as a child"
Love the real talk. Married to a grown boy for 22 years. Finally free. Still working on the soul ties---- painfully hard. I'm finally starting to see a peak of light in the dark clouds. So grateful to find healing and growth in my soul and spirit and have a chance of a loving relationship in my 2nd chapter in life. ❤🙏
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Jesus is all you need. He will supply your every need call on Jesus when the soul ties start whispering in your ear. You got this Sis!!
I feel you as I was married to a grown boy for 8 years until he died. The pain lingers but there is light and love on the other side. I join you in prayer, praying that God will elevate your self-love and self-care to the point where you experience true joy, and that the Grown Man you deserve finds you, earns you, cherishes you, and exceeds your expectations and desires. Be blessed Sis! 🙏🏽🙌🏾
@bflores3944 glad you are free- how’s it going?
It was 19 years for me. We’re not alone. I wish to God I knew all this when I was younger. Though it is possible I might not have listened as I wasn’t ready to hear. I take comfort in God and my two beautiful and amazing children. That is the only positive that came
of two decades of life. I’ll leave the rest up to God
I need a “Not here for Grownboy Tactics” T-shirt
Tia Forman Please!!
Talk about his relationship w/his mama!! Very relevant!
Wow-Grown Boy Tactics! Red Flags. Ladies let’s not ignore them moving forward!!! My prayer is that We Heal and Have Self Love!
I lost it when you said he wants u to feel turbulence… grab the mask out the ceiling omggg 😂😂😂😂 you’re the best and thank you so much for these videos- you have no idea what it means with this world we live in today. Someone needs to be there for us women so thank you.
He will dog you out, outgrow you then be with a woman that’ll hold him accountable!!!!! 🙌🏽
"Never let a man see You,the Queen sweat even if you need a towel around your neck"..... Excellent point to all Queens
If you got to watch this video to figure out if you with a grown boy, you with a grown boy. Thanks Tony for yet another great message I will add this to my Tony video catalog lol😊
Grown boy really is just another word for abuser. Run.
Yes
“You are arguing about nothing and yet you are crying over every thing.” That hit home hard
The jelly done carmelized and crystallized now I'm swallowing knives🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣OMG Tony you are funny and on point!
A grown man is going to bring peace, confidence, calm. I love it!
Tony must’ve ran every game on women known to mankind. Knowledgeable.
Yup perhaps
That’s why I’m staying single for however long because I don’t want to become the people who hurt me. Even if it’s not a intimate relationship .... I want a best friend and someday we may grow into more. Hopefully love is still out there for me 💜
It is what it is 225 what do you mean that’s prison ?
You don’t want to keep a man around too long as just a friend. Look at Tony other videos about that. You put that man in a friend zone and he gone seek revenge and you may not even realize it.
Ashley B. do you have a link by any chance?
I recently found this channel and am learning a lot from it. I can’t help but feel discouraged, though. I don’t feel bitter, just sad. Who wants to go through all this crap and do all this work? Is it too much to just want to love and be loved? Yes, you must find someone worthy of your love, but why put up with being tested, being sized up, measured, compared....just to likely be lied to, treated as a placeholder, etc. etc...good God! I can’t believe love was always such a game - the kind of sick game it’s become now. I can’t even call it love. I don’t know what it is, but it’s a big turn off to me, and that is very sobering and sad because somebody would be SO blessed to receive what I’ve got to give. But I’m not going through all that shit. I’d rather just keep it and give it to myself, in that case.
I Agree I left my husband of 9yrs because he didn’t want to work a job. And he was in the street. He wrote a book and that didn’t do well, because he didn’t have the right people behind him. And I was there though it all, but I just wanted him to help me with bills etc.... we was like roommates more then husband and wife 🤷🏾♀️
@ Michelle 🙏❤May the Almighty bless you on this new journey in 2020 amen!!! Stay encourage&strong!!!👑💃🙌🙌🙌
Michelle Lucius same, girl. Thank God we got out. 🙏🏻
Michelle Lucius same here Michelle. My ex husband was in the streets and wouldn’t stay consistent with a job, just side hustles and street life. We divorced and it was the best decision i ever made. My life has been renewed with Jesus. Only Jesus could’ve kept me and healed me. May your new season of Joy be full of blessings and Peace! 💕💕
Eternity With Christ 😂😂 you hit it and he moved back to his mommy house. SMH
Tony be like stop with all the stupid questions you with a grown boy. 💯👏🏾
I AM THE BOOK YOUR PSYCHOLOGIST STUDIED TO TALK TO YOU!” 😩😩 I felt that in my soul 🙌🏽
It’s so true. The more you put up with from them the more they treat you like trash. Mine has started actually calling me trash and worthless the pst few years. 12 years with this grown boy. It’s been a hard lesson, and it’s taken me 2 years of weekly therapy and probably a year of watching Tony videos to finally realize what it means when they say you teach somebody how to treat you.
This video actually had me in tears. Thank you for all the healing your trying to do for people.
Wow! Sorry to hear this. I'm happy you chose yourself. Stay strong
"If you're not happy, whole, and confident in your relationship, you're with a ***** ***." Lol. Hello, from the Philippines! Wow! Hail to you, Mr. Tony Gaskins! You're the best of the best living legend! Just simply a natural at this, --is YOU, no doubt! Thank you so much for doing extremely well. We really appreciate you. We'll keep an eye on your beautiful channel. More power to you and your family. God bless.
Fellow Filipina! Eyyy
This is so true this was my last relationship. I choose not to date until I get myself together mind spirit and soul and body much Love Big Bro Tony
Dangit! That was me. Now I see it. Thanks Mr. Gaskins for your enlightenment.😃
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