He’s honestly speaking FACTS!! I’ve always thought this. The majority of men are not attractive and women will ALWAYS be the “sexier sex”! This is what I find so disturbing today. Even the ugliest of men are getting 🐱 and running games on women. And the women are giving away the 🐱 to just any man.😩 It’s got everything upside down.
@@BetterLoveMovement you right. Very right actually. Very few men can walk in a room and women say “oohhh girl he’s fine look at his gorgeous face and or body “. There’s pretty women all over but only a handful of truly Handsome well built men and that’s just looks I don’t mean personality income circumstances included. Women since they are little are enforced about their looks hair upkeep etc boys are taught brush teeth brush hair that’s about it. I think biology made just a handful of men gorgeous enough to get sex easily and frequently without much hassle so most men 95% have to work hard for sex. Men were designed to work harder stronger bigger so Mother Nature saw no need to make most men gorgeous but more so to work hard and provide and most men are motivated by success but also to attract women with their resources $$$. Women are generally more good looking as you say just by biology. Women are smaller weaker physically fertility is shorter so Mother Nature gave women beauty in excess to make up for women lack of strength and fertility. Women are born with breasts and booty since teens and no gym time is required vs men have to go to gym for years and eat good just to get decent results. And if he’s undisciplined the muscles can go away pretty quickly. Men are fertile till 70 years old easily no medication needed vs women are fertile till 47. Biology really made us opposites in a lot of ways but we need each other to further our blood line. We each have strengths and weaknesses and we were designed as men and women to complement each other. And if you don’t work it out with someone they will die alone no legacy aged out of the dating market men can date longer than women due to fertility is longer but most 65 year old men will not be able to get 42 year old women some will but most won’t. Women have it harder for long term relationships due to limited fertility. A man can have a traditional family at 50 vs women she won’t be having any kids of her own.
I don't understand why some of these men who are extremely homely and have a boring or weird personality and are broke think that they deserve to have beautiful super models throwing themselves at them when they will sit there and tell you that they hate single mother's and hate older women and hate overweight women and unattractive women. These men wouldn't be single if they lower standards in women but even if they got a good homely woman they would ruin her.
I love how Tony’s face genuinely lights up when he interacts with his wife and kids. It’s so genuine. You can tell he not only loves his wife, but likes her too. Healthy black love. God fearing. Prosperous. God Bless y’all ❤
@@fah232alot of these guys don't appreciate it they complain and alot of time it's just for control nothing to really complain about....can't even just be happy smh! Maybe when they see more men like Tony they will understand!
Remember that Tony Gaston ....every man is different... gas is expensive to use to drive for drive.... Don't Make easy access to you... cheap date easy sex.....
‘Everybody is looking for perfection’, ‘Everyone wants something they are not’ are the truest words and completely sums up the dating culture in today 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Tony hit the nail on the head like wow!
I am thankful God led me to your channel. I have been watching your videos for a few years. I am 41 and met my husband at 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your videos are uplifting, encouraging, and I have learned so much
If a man can’t afford a date, it’s not my responsibility to worry about his finances he shouldn’t be dating multiple women because it doesn’t take all day to recognize sunshine.
People are having first dates too soon. It's dangerous to say that men who want to go on coffee dates are generally "safer" when it comes to character. We need to get to know people longer so we can properly discern their intentions whether you're going on a steak date or a coffee date.
I dated a man that wore glasses, was not my type, was even what a lot of people would call fat, and found out the man was on Instagram liking half naked women photos, was texting his ex, hearting his ex photos on FB, never discussed a future with me, and was very secretive with his phone. The man even went on social media and turned off his active status so that he could be able to lie to me by telling me he hadn’t been on social media or doesn’t be on there much. I broke up with the man for lying and all he said when I asked him never to call me again was, “ok”. I dated that guy for 18 mos and now I am mad at myself for getting played by a guy that initially wasn’t my type. The guys that aren’t that attractive physically are the worst ones.
Seriously!!! My ex wasn’t my type at all!!! The little he did for me; he constantly threw it in my face. He lied to me directly in my face a few times and them gaslit me when I got upset… he tried to tear down my self esteem and when he couldn’t break me he then blindsided me and tried to get me kicked out lmaooo.. as woman we cannot win!!!
This sounds like my story, I dated a cornball, thinking he was "nice" and I was being too picky. Almost 2yrs later, dude turned out to be a huge liar, and an addict of many things. He was so disrespectful when I called him out on his nonsense towards the end. The whole time I'm thinking, is he serious?? He don't even look THAT good to be that rude! I would show ppl his picture and they'd tell me, "that dude is pushing his luck" lol. So, moral of the story, stay picky and get you someone who is your "type"
@@TheRealStoryOfMyLife1 we can win. I know I go about saying all wrong. I be in fornication. I won’t sleep with anyone but that one man, and I will make him and myself get tested for HIV, Herpes, and all other sexually transmitted diseases before we sleep together. We share our results. I am super safe with my health because I am a nurse, but it’s still sin. When we know better, God expects us to do better.
Yup, I went for the ones that were not my preference because it was suggested. Big Mistake! They act way worse when given a chance. Do not date the geek if you are not feeling him
If you show too much interest in someone it’s a turnoff!!! This has always been strange to me, people play too many games and are worried about what society thinks!! If you like someone you want to spend time with them!! This goes for men and women!! Getting to know someone is always awkward in the beginning…. Delusional is right!! People have unrealistic expectations and are looking for perfection and they are perfect themselves!!
I am thankful God Led me to your channel a few years ago. I am 41 and have been with my husband since I was 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your channel is very encouraging, inspirational and have opened my eyes up to spiritual growth.
My recent ex fiancé was six foot and made 6 figures. He recently discarded me for his side in an extremely cruel and insensitive manner. Though I am heartbroken I know it’s a blessing in disguise. I’ll leave justice in Gods hands. Won’t let him or any man break me down…I’ll fall, but I’ll get back up with Gods hand. Have taken a vow of abstinence and obtain Tony’s knowledge.
Girl there are at least a million men similar to Toni in this world, the difference is, is one has a platform and over half of the others don’t. Toni seems to be a good man and please believe there are many good men out there.
It’s unfortunately true when Tony Gaskin says men are “ugly”, but what I find from visiting dating sites is that they don’t put much on their physical appearance, I mean nice haircut, little smile, presentable clothes, and their selfies are so…. “scary”. I don’t find them attractive. I don’t want to generalize there are exceptions. I personally try to not be picky and don’t mind the height as long as I like what I see, and I would be more then happy to go on a date on a simple coffee to have a quality conversation. Thank you for this video.
Toni treated his wife as a queen on first date but telling men to take women for coffee. African Americans are not it. Leave these men alone there are Africans. White men that will treat you well
You have to move and carry yourself as ugly 😂😂😂 Tony please lol. But that's definitely the delusion. The guy I'm interested in is probably under 5'7 so he definitely needs to humble himself. Height doesn't bother me, but I have a feeling he thinks he's all that lol. Sir you're 5'7... calm down
So he can’t think he’s all that because he’s 5’7 lmao y’all sound ridiculous. Most aren’t athletes so his height doesn’t matter. If he’s attractive and in shape, he’s doing better than 90% of men.
@@kingleyo9277he definitely can think he's all that but he still has to understand how the world sees a 5'7 man. Just like I have to understand how the world sees a plus size woman like myself. I've never heard any woman say she prefers a man of that height.. most want someone at least 6 ft (even tony said it in the video) lol. Now will women accept a shorter man? Of course but on average... a 5'7 man is gonna get looked over every time regardless of whether he is in shape or not. & to my original point.. height isn't that big of a deal to me like I stated lol but everyone has to remain humble. We are all ugly to someone regardless of if we are small, big, short, tall, fit or unfit.
Guess what love lol I have beat out plenty of tall guys lol no matter the internet narrative YALL keeping wanting to believe lol you also have to throw in the fact society has been brainwashed to believe these things especially women because they spend way more time on the internet and watching television. Most women are literally only repeating what they hear some other women say and what they see on tv. My opinion and my experience has been totally different, women want a good looking man first and foremost . A tall and ugly and ok like guy has never beat my out of anything with women. If he’s attractive and tall maybe but he also may not meet your standard in the bedroom, it all depends. A tall attractive guy who has swag, confident, has a personality and all those other things are super rare. So yea maybe that guy is requested more when women are asked that question but women are literally thinking of the perfect guy when asked that question lol again I have had beautiful tall and short women from all kinds of different races. Trust me women make exceptions for very handsome men no matter their height, who are in shape and especially when the sex is good.
I enjoyed the bread there and I love the chicken fettuccine but it’s so funny cause once I was dating this NBA player and I wanted to go there for dinner and he was like no I don’t eat at chains restaurants lol
The whole coffee date is a hit or miss, I’ve seen men give advice about taking the girl that looks easy to sleep with on a coffee date & the girl who they want to take serious on a dinner date, sometimes those coffee dates aren’t with good intentions
I am so thankful for you brother Tony.. I respect your honesty and authentic approach on dating, marriage and life in general. You have been a positive light in so many lives, and that light is spreading. Godbless you and your family!
"No one has it all. And if someone has it all, they don't want you". Pause and stare into camera for effect 😂😂😂 That was funny Tony. I know, I know... you not joking, butttt 😂
Who is real and who is fake keeps me from men. I’ve had my share of problems and want to live the rest of my life at peace. You are doing a great job Mr. Tony. At my age I’m good single. Thank you for you work.🙏🏾
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂MR. TONY YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ARE OVER THE TOP !!!! I CANT WITCHU !!! THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS.PALATABLE. "DONT LET MY CONFIDENCE OFFEND YOUR INSECURITY " WOW !!! 😮
Why did i laugh when he said they don’t want you 😂😂. He’s speaking TRUTH. We have got to be real with ourselves to properly navigate through this thing called life.
I usually agree with Tony and love his messages but na, at 10:30 I had to stop it and type. I can’t agree with this one. He literally said to women, “you need a lame, you need a square, you need someone who doesn’t give you that spark” well that simply is telling women to settle and NOT go after someone they are attracted too. I absolutely DO NOT agree. When people end up dating someone that isn’t their type, it can be a recipe for disaster in so many ways. There is a slight chance that it can go successful and they may “grow” to love them, but there is 8 Billion people on this planet. Just because dating gets tough, I will never approve for someone settling. What we need to tell women (and men) is to go after what they are attracted too but make sure that person is ALSO mentally healed, financially stable, respectful, loving, GOD fearing, etc! So in all They have attributes outsides of their looks!!! Also, we need to tell people the same thing they want in a person make sure they bring it to the table themselves! That way everyone wins 🤷🏽♂️ just my opinion.. but settling for someone lame and boring, NO!!!!
Thank you for sharing this. I'll be married 10 years next year and we're in a rocky spot. My husband has recently expressed blame to me for the current difficulties in his life- finances, health and fair business. Some things I agree with others I do not. But he needs to hear this about taking responsibility so he can work his way out of his funk.
55:07 I used to believe that women who were beautiful with perfect bodies were treated better by men. When I saw Saweetie and Quavo tussling in the elevator, God gave me a revelation that it doesn’t matter if you are a beautiful woman, men will still cheat and mistreat you. I see now looks does not give you a preferential treatment pass with men. It’s about respecting yourself and requiring respect.
I agree I’m not big on a man spending a certain amount of money on me on the first date. Firstly we might not click so he’s not out of a lot of money. Secondly like Tony mentioned he’s taking multiple women on dates. And lastly I’m not forced to sit through a dinner or whatever he had planned out if I’m not feeling him. I’m able to leave quickly and go on my merry way
I am with you. I was in a long relationship and have not dated in a while. Back in the day, I dated casual and met for small meals. It worked for me because it was some that I did not connect with.
I totally agree with you!!👊....These young people are so delusional. Their priorities are so messed up. I'm 67 yrs old and I see the difference in this younger generation. Then in my younger years.
One problem I have with especially men is telling women to not look for the spark. Been there done that, not good advise. Don't look for perfection, but the beleif system and view of life should be similar. Thats all. But for a relationship to work for a women she has to and will know early on whether he's the right kind of guy. It doesn't take women as long to know, and a level of a positive spark has to be there.
Good morning I been following you for a while I appreciate your videos This one right here hit me I’m going through this right now! I been single for last 4 years I was picky at first but I learned my lesson now what comes into my path is not good! They only be talking about sex or trying to be in control! I don’t give no vibes when I meet this gentleman! I basically just stay to myself
I just want to say thank you for allowing God to use you in the area of relationship between men & women. As a saved woman, they enemy tired to make me think something wrong with me because I refuse to accept foolishness. It amazes me that there’s fully grown men out here still playing little boys games especially at the age 47yrs old. I thank God for the leading of His Spirit and whole enough to see when someone is broken that’s not good for me
I have to disagree. I’m not going on a coffee date or ice cream date. That’s a non negotiable. If you can’t afford to date then you shouldn’t be. Other men from different cultures don’t do that . Only black men, l’ll past respectfully.
8:04 There's a lot between blowing $100 each date vs. $7 coffee... Where's the balance🤷🏾♀️... He doesn't have to spend excessively nor be cheap. How people start usually gets worse over time as they get more comfortable, and what happened to creativity. When I was single, I preferred thoughtful dates rather than the typical doing what everyone else was doing. Also, if he's dating so many women that dates are adding up getting expensive, so he wants to just take everyone to get coffee, then he's dating too many women and needs to narrow it down to his top 2 to decide from. Prioritize and balance, b/c while most women don't care where they go or if they take them anywhere, there are women who have a higher standard who have more options and don't limit themselves to just any one group of men, so they may see that as little to no effort in pursuing them. There's nothing wrong with anyone's standards or lack of standards in general- it just depends what's right for each individual to accept what works for them and reject what doesn't. People have to be honest so they'll stop wasting each other's time being mismatched...Let coffee people go on dates and Meringue lesson people, dinner and movie people, hiking people, etc go on the types of dates they enjoy, but don't shame any of them for what it is they want for their standards
No lies... my ex husband is taking trips to Hawaii and eating out at these steakhouses and over 5months behind on child support 😂 these lil girls out here think they're winning....crazy!
I respect your information and guidance. The truth is just the light, I'm glad body compatibility is real. Physical attraction is what you see in a person before an actual conversation.* Brains, Body and Brand. I AM working on me all the time to attract the right type of people in my circle ⭕,life is real.....
I think the women who want expensive date are assuming that If he has to spend money on a date he’ll be more selective about who he takes out. Less likely to waste the woman’s time while trying to juggle 5 other women.
Brains brand body 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 back to the fundamentals. When I first started watching your videos in 2016 this inspired me to go back to school & finish my bachelors degree. Thank you.
Good morning Tony I don't mind being taken out for coffee something simple at times. A lot of times the simple things are the most meaningful. Also I'm flexible depending on their finances at the time and you know occasional dates switching up and based on what we talked about the different places we'd like to go. But at times😅 same time I end up not being taken anywhere because of things they claim that they're going through but can turn around and take out of the women. Then when I approached them about the subject expressing how it hurts and it bothers me, as to why we don't go anywhere? When next respond, then they give me excuses that they have issues that they're dealing with or they don't have any money or they don't have the time. When in actuality, they are taking out of the women and don't want anyone else to know that they are seeing me and because I have a disability and they don't want to admit that until further down the line. That's why I have so much trouble dating and I have years in gaps between dating because of these nonsense issues because they don't want to be honest from the very beginning and just tell them that they may have a problem dating someone with a disability or they think that if they like that one won't pick up and found that find out on what they are doing. Then when you call them out on it, they don't like it and they completely disappear or they say they don't like the way you talk because all you want to do is just go out and all this other stuff. So they pretty much just try to dismiss one's feelings. I don't know what to make of the dating scene anymore. People are just becoming more selfish each day. I don't see nothing wrong with going out to simple things and as long as the food is good it's affordable you're having a good time and that's it. Why do people have to be so selfish and materialistic and don't want to go to certain places because they think it's beneath them and they want to drain someone's pockets just for them to look good and don't care how the person is feeling and how well they're treating you but just want to get what they can get for for themselves. Please I hope you will talk about these topics on your next few videos. Thank you for sharing all this information and I wish you and your family lots of love happiness peace and good health. Also have a beautiful and enjoyable holiday and God bless! Much love
Glad hes spoken on this (the obsession with gettinga rich guy thing )🗣️ cause it’s getting worse n worse each yr. A lot of people date people with their similar features (side note)
3:03 Nothing in the dating scene has changed but the restaurants and the prices. There has always been ludicrous expectations, and people wanting something for nothing.
I don’t think Tony understands how unintentionally funny he is at times.😂
"Men is naturally ugly." @ 12:32
He is a whole comedian. There are times I would be hollering and need to pause the video because he says some things so casually.🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right!!! I’m still ROTFL over ‘Men is naturally ugly’ he’s saying out loud what we all thinking though
“If you got veganism…. Not veganism, vitiligo.” 😭😭😭😭😭
true 🤣🤣
I screamed when you said that men are naturally ugly 😂😂
He’s honestly speaking FACTS!! I’ve always thought this. The majority of men are not attractive and women will ALWAYS be the “sexier sex”! This is what I find so disturbing today. Even the ugliest of men are getting 🐱 and running games on women. And the women are giving away the 🐱 to just any man.😩 It’s got everything upside down.
@@BetterLoveMovement you right. Very right actually. Very few men can walk in a room and women say “oohhh girl he’s fine look at his gorgeous face and or body “. There’s pretty women all over but only a handful of truly
Handsome well built men and that’s just looks I don’t mean personality income circumstances included. Women since they are little are enforced about their looks hair upkeep etc boys are taught brush teeth brush hair that’s about it. I think biology made just a handful of men gorgeous enough to get sex easily and frequently without much hassle so most men 95% have to work hard for sex. Men were designed to work harder stronger bigger so Mother Nature saw no need to make most men gorgeous but more so to work hard and provide and most men are motivated by success but also to attract women with their resources $$$. Women are generally more good looking as you say just by biology. Women are smaller weaker physically fertility is shorter so Mother Nature gave women beauty in excess to make up for women lack of strength and fertility. Women are born with breasts and booty since teens and no gym time is required vs men have to go to gym for years and eat good just to get decent results. And if he’s undisciplined the muscles can go away pretty quickly. Men are fertile till 70 years old easily no medication needed vs women are fertile till 47. Biology really made us opposites in a lot of ways but we need each other to further our blood line. We each have strengths and weaknesses and we were designed as men and women to complement each other. And if you don’t work it out with someone they will die alone no legacy aged out of the dating market men can date longer than women due to fertility is longer but most 65 year old men will not be able to get 42 year old women some will but most won’t. Women have it harder for long term relationships due to limited fertility. A man can have a traditional family at 50 vs women she won’t be having any kids of her own.
I don't understand why some of these men who are extremely homely and have a boring or weird personality and are broke think that they deserve to have beautiful super models throwing themselves at them when they will sit there and tell you that they hate single mother's and hate older women and hate overweight women and unattractive women.
These men wouldn't be single if they lower standards in women but even if they got a good homely woman they would ruin her.
@@blkyogi999 You are very blessed indeed!!
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It’s not even their looks, it’s the soul that is unattractive. Sometimes it feels safer not to bother at all.
Say that!
I love how Tony’s face genuinely lights up when he interacts with his wife and kids. It’s so genuine. You can tell he not only loves his wife, but likes her too. Healthy black love. God fearing. Prosperous. God Bless y’all ❤
This! I totally agree! It’s very genuine.
@@fah232alot of these guys don't appreciate it they complain and alot of time it's just for control nothing to really complain about....can't even just be happy smh! Maybe when they see more men like Tony they will understand!
Remember that Tony Gaston ....every man is different... gas is expensive to use to drive for drive....
Don't Make easy access to you... cheap date easy sex.....
Yes, he immediately had dreamy eyes when she came in. That’s beautiful.
Just because something is common doesn’t make it normal. We gotta stop accepting what’s common as synonymous to normal
It was the men are naturally ugly and unbearable for me. 😭🤣🤣
‘Everybody is looking for perfection’, ‘Everyone wants something they are not’ are the truest words and completely sums up the dating culture in today
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Tony hit the nail on the head like wow!
I am thankful God led me to your channel. I have been watching your videos for a few years. I am 41 and met my husband at 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your videos are uplifting, encouraging, and I have learned so much
so sorry to hear about your husband. Bless you ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss
💐🙏🏼 So sorry 😘🤗
😢 Hopefully, God will bless you with another wonderful man one day if that is your desire.🙏🏽❤️
So sorry for your loss. ❤
"If someone has it all, they don't want you." (blank stare) Best line ever Tony! lol lol lol
"Nobody has it all, and if somebody does have it all. They don't want you!!!!"😂😂😂 If you can't say Amen, say Ouch!
Tony’s whole energy changes when he talks to his wife. It’s so beautiful to see. He warms up and softens 😂 it’s so so cute. That’s that love love.
12:55 my mother used to tell me this..”never get a man that THINKS he looks better than you. You’re asking for trouble”
If a man can’t afford a date, it’s not my responsibility to worry about his finances he shouldn’t be dating multiple women because it doesn’t take all day to recognize sunshine.
Dating seems so hard and I don't even date 😂😂😂😂 Lord I just want to pray for what I want and meet him at the grocery store the next day 😂😂😂😂❤❤❤
Those chick flicks have us hoping for this but naw it don't work so
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Same here 🙌🏻
It’s hard to approach women in public nowadays because of social media! It’s like ppl wanna see pics rather than in person
I think it’s smart to meet up for coffee or tea to see if you both have a connection.
People are having first dates too soon. It's dangerous to say that men who want to go on coffee dates are generally "safer" when it comes to character. We need to get to know people longer so we can properly discern their intentions whether you're going on a steak date or a coffee date.
I dated a man that wore glasses, was not my type, was even what a lot of people would call fat, and found out the man was on Instagram liking half naked women photos, was texting his ex, hearting his ex photos on FB, never discussed a future with me, and was very secretive with his phone. The man even went on social media and turned off his active status so that he could be able to lie to me by telling me he hadn’t been on social media or doesn’t be on there much. I broke up with the man for lying and all he said when I asked him never to call me again was, “ok”. I dated that guy for 18 mos and now I am mad at myself for getting played by a guy that initially wasn’t my type. The guys that aren’t that attractive physically are the worst ones.
Seriously!!! My ex wasn’t my type at all!!! The little he did for me; he constantly threw it in my face. He lied to me directly in my face a few times and them gaslit me when I got upset… he tried to tear down my self esteem and when he couldn’t break me he then blindsided me and tried to get me kicked out lmaooo.. as woman we cannot win!!!
This sounds like my story, I dated a cornball, thinking he was "nice" and I was being too picky. Almost 2yrs later, dude turned out to be a huge liar, and an addict of many things. He was so disrespectful when I called him out on his nonsense towards the end. The whole time I'm thinking, is he serious?? He don't even look THAT good to be that rude! I would show ppl his picture and they'd tell me, "that dude is pushing his luck" lol. So, moral of the story, stay picky and get you someone who is your "type"
@@kimberlys347 yes, I agree.Stay picky and get you someone your type.
@@TheRealStoryOfMyLife1 we can win. I know I go about saying all wrong. I be in fornication. I won’t sleep with anyone but that one man, and I will make him and myself get tested for HIV, Herpes, and all other sexually transmitted diseases before we sleep together. We share our results. I am super safe with my health because I am a nurse, but it’s still sin. When we know better, God expects us to do better.
Yup, I went for the ones that were not my preference because it was suggested. Big Mistake! They act way worse when given a chance. Do not date the geek if you are not feeling him
The twinkle in his eye whenever his wife come around lol
I'm going to keep working on me bc I'm not attracted to what's attracted to me
This! Same here.
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Every time I’ve given guys that aren’t my type a chance it backfired
"If you're an atheist, you're dumb." The way I hollered 😭😭😭😂😂. I detect no lies!!
Tony you and Bishop R.C. Blakes are two of the best voices on the topic of relationships
You are so right. I enjoy them both.
If you show too much interest in someone it’s a turnoff!!! This has always been strange to me, people play too many games and are worried about what society thinks!! If you like someone you want to spend time with them!! This goes for men and women!! Getting to know someone is always awkward in the beginning…. Delusional is right!! People have unrealistic expectations and are looking for perfection and they are perfect themselves!!
Not the men getting surgery on they knees Tony. What you call it a KNEE-BL?!?! HILARIOUS!!!! I can’t!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😤🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I am thankful God Led me to your channel a few years ago. I am 41 and have been with my husband since I was 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your channel is very encouraging, inspirational and have opened my eyes up to spiritual growth.
I’m sorry for your loss. I am sending you a hug 🫂
Sis so sorry for your lost 🙏🏾
Sorry for your loss
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A stay at home mom works more than full time. Your wife does work. She does not need to worry about finances
A full time that's have support from husband without support, full time work triple.
‘If someone has it all, they don’t want you! ‘ That took me out 😂
My recent ex fiancé was six foot and made 6 figures. He recently discarded me for his side in an extremely cruel and insensitive manner.
Though I am heartbroken I know it’s a blessing in disguise. I’ll leave justice in Gods hands. Won’t let him or any man break me down…I’ll fall, but I’ll get back up with Gods hand.
Have taken a vow of abstinence and obtain Tony’s knowledge.
Sorry you’re going thru this! Stay strong! Gods rejection is your protection 🙏🏾❤️
I have taken that same vow. 🙏🏽
And sometimes the ppl who have it all, can be ugly inside, So still don’t have it all.
That's true! No such thing as 'having it all'.
“men naturally ugly” 😭 now hold on Tony lol
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Tony you are such an inspiration...I wish there were a million other men like you in the world!!!
Girl there are at least a million men similar to Toni in this world, the difference is, is one has a platform and over half of the others don’t. Toni seems to be a good man and please believe there are many good men out there.
It’s unfortunately true when Tony Gaskin says men are “ugly”, but what I find from visiting dating sites is that they don’t put much on their physical appearance, I mean nice haircut, little smile, presentable clothes, and their selfies are so…. “scary”. I don’t find them attractive. I don’t want to generalize there are exceptions. I personally try to not be picky and don’t mind the height as long as I like what I see, and I would be more then happy to go on a date on a simple coffee to have a quality conversation. Thank you for this video.
It’s not just superficial things, it’s peoples mindset as well. People don’t want to commit, communicate, play games, etc.
Toni treated his wife as a queen on first date but telling men to take women for coffee. African Americans are not it. Leave these men alone there are Africans. White men that will treat you well
You have to move and carry yourself as ugly 😂😂😂 Tony please lol. But that's definitely the delusion. The guy I'm interested in is probably under 5'7 so he definitely needs to humble himself. Height doesn't bother me, but I have a feeling he thinks he's all that lol. Sir you're 5'7... calm down
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So he can’t think he’s all that because he’s 5’7 lmao y’all sound ridiculous. Most aren’t athletes so his height doesn’t matter. If he’s attractive and in shape, he’s doing better than 90% of men.
@@kingleyo9277he definitely can think he's all that but he still has to understand how the world sees a 5'7 man. Just like I have to understand how the world sees a plus size woman like myself. I've never heard any woman say she prefers a man of that height.. most want someone at least 6 ft (even tony said it in the video) lol. Now will women accept a shorter man? Of course but on average... a 5'7 man is gonna get looked over every time regardless of whether he is in shape or not. & to my original point.. height isn't that big of a deal to me like I stated lol but everyone has to remain humble. We are all ugly to someone regardless of if we are small, big, short, tall, fit or unfit.
Guess what love lol I have beat out plenty of tall guys lol no matter the internet narrative YALL keeping wanting to believe lol you also have to throw in the fact society has been brainwashed to believe these things especially women because they spend way more time on the internet and watching television. Most women are literally only repeating what they hear some other women say and what they see on tv. My opinion and my experience has been totally different, women want a good looking man first and foremost . A tall and ugly and ok like guy has never beat my out of anything with women. If he’s attractive and tall maybe but he also may not meet your standard in the bedroom, it all depends. A tall attractive guy who has swag, confident, has a personality and all those other things are super rare. So yea maybe that guy is requested more when women are asked that question but women are literally thinking of the perfect guy when asked that question lol again I have had beautiful tall and short women from all kinds of different races. Trust me women make exceptions for very handsome men no matter their height, who are in shape and especially when the sex is good.
Tony really does light up when his wife comes around.. after 16 years! Absolutely beautiful! 👏🏽👏🏽
I don't drink coffee so I'm good on the coffee dates lol. I rather cheesecake factory 😂
Me too cheesecake n food me
The lemon meringue cheesecake is FIRE🔥
@@queenkeesh8660I stayed quiet on that whole internet debate bc I rock with that restaurant lol
I enjoyed the bread there and I love the chicken fettuccine but it’s so funny cause once I was dating this NBA player and I wanted to go there for dinner and he was like no I don’t eat at chains restaurants lol
The Cheesecake Factory video was a FAKE skit. It was allegedly a social experiment to get conversation going.
I know TG be 100% serious but 13 mins into the message and I’m laughing! It’s the truth but also entertaining! Thanks TG!
lol thought i was the only one he said the funniest stuff with the most serious face 😂
Me to
Very funny! I just rolled when he said “If someone has it all then they don’t want you.” 😂😂😂
I was laughing also. I'm glad no longer delusional, but once was and many still are so I got some good lol's
Yes yes
The whole coffee date is a hit or miss, I’ve seen men give advice about taking the girl that looks easy to sleep with on a coffee date & the girl who they want to take serious on a dinner date, sometimes those coffee dates aren’t with good intentions
Coffee is cheap.
So if the lady doesn’t sex him, he only lost $20
Exactly coffee is for women he see no value especially when u know he’s making money
The one coffee date I went on was a disaster and the guy was just trying to treat me like a booty call. I will never do a coffee date again.
I’ve been dating for many many years, and I can tell you with certainty that Man usually never asked me on coffee dates, so I agree
Tony always advised women to suggest a coffee date for the first date, so you can keep it short and sweet and see if u like the person. That's all.
I’m learning everything Tony says is the TRUTH.
Yooo Tony is hilarious lmaooooo he said “now when she sees your knees”😂😂😂😂
@30 When his wife popped in 🥰 His whole face changed and his eyes lit up. Love to see love ❤️
I can't with Tony calling himself "little" 5'10"😂...
Tony has me cracking up 😂😂😂😂 speak the truth brother
“Let’s meet for coffee” ☕️
I ain’t got no problem with that ‘cause I love coffee.☕️ ❤. Coffee and a nice bookstore
I am so thankful for you brother Tony.. I respect your honesty and authentic approach on dating, marriage and life in general. You have been a positive light in so many lives, and that light is spreading. Godbless you and your family!
"No one has it all. And if someone has it all, they don't want you". Pause and stare into camera for effect 😂😂😂
That was funny Tony. I know, I know... you not joking, butttt 😂
Dang 😢
Who is real and who is fake keeps me from men. I’ve had my share of problems and want to live the rest of my life at peace. You are doing a great job Mr. Tony. At my age I’m good single. Thank you for you work.🙏🏾
I dated a “square” and still got played 😭
“If someone has it all… they don’t want Chu” ((pause, camera stare))😂😂😂😂
Cooking and getting some wisdom at the same time. My kind of night.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂MR. TONY YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ARE OVER THE TOP !!!! I CANT WITCHU !!! THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS.PALATABLE. "DONT LET MY CONFIDENCE OFFEND YOUR INSECURITY " WOW !!! 😮
Ive only seen 1 man in my lifetime in real life that I’d say lookwise was 10/10. And Im pretty sure he was on the DL.
“Aquafina” tho’ LOL!!!😂😂😂😂
Why did i laugh when he said they don’t want you 😂😂. He’s speaking TRUTH. We have got to be real with ourselves to properly navigate through this thing called life.
👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 Mr. Gaskins never Misses! 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 Message received!
I usually agree with Tony and love his messages but na, at 10:30 I had to stop it and type. I can’t agree with this one. He literally said to women, “you need a lame, you need a square, you need someone who doesn’t give you that spark” well that simply is telling women to settle and NOT go after someone they are attracted too. I absolutely DO NOT agree. When people end up dating someone that isn’t their type, it can be a recipe for disaster in so many ways. There is a slight chance that it can go successful and they may “grow” to love them, but there is 8 Billion people on this planet. Just because dating gets tough, I will never approve for someone settling. What we need to tell women (and men) is to go after what they are attracted too but make sure that person is ALSO mentally healed, financially stable, respectful, loving, GOD fearing, etc! So in all They have attributes outsides of their looks!!! Also, we need to tell people the same thing they want in a person make sure they bring it to the table themselves! That way everyone wins 🤷🏽♂️ just my opinion.. but settling for someone lame and boring, NO!!!!
Thank you for sharing this. I'll be married 10 years next year and we're in a rocky spot. My husband has recently expressed blame to me for the current difficulties in his life- finances, health and fair business. Some things I agree with others I do not. But he needs to hear this about taking responsibility so he can work his way out of his funk.
You better preach Tony 🙌 😊
Real talk/Much appreciated Tony!
You can tell he feels those butterflies when his wife comes in! Love it🤍🙌🏽
Uncle Tony. Thank you for this evening service. This blessed me.
55:07 I used to believe that women who were beautiful with perfect bodies were treated better by men. When I saw Saweetie and Quavo tussling in the elevator, God gave me a revelation that it doesn’t matter if you are a beautiful woman, men will still cheat and mistreat you. I see now looks does not give you a preferential treatment pass with men. It’s about respecting yourself and requiring respect.
The prettier you are the more their insecurities cames out.
Ask the lord if you can lie about it got me on the floor🤣🤣
Omggg now Tony you did something when you said the 6’s thing. Omg that’s crazy 😮🔥
I agree I’m not big on a man spending a certain amount of money on me on the first date. Firstly we might not click so he’s not out of a lot of money. Secondly like Tony mentioned he’s taking multiple women on dates.
And lastly I’m not forced to sit through a dinner or whatever he had planned out if I’m not feeling him. I’m able to leave quickly and go on my merry way
I am with you. I was in a long relationship and have not dated in a while. Back in the day, I dated casual and met for small meals. It worked for me because it was some that I did not connect with.
I totally agree with you!!👊....These young people are so delusional. Their priorities are so messed up. I'm 67 yrs old and I see the difference in this younger generation. Then in my younger years.
Bro Tony I love it when your wife comes in the room she gets you to cheesy all over your self. Lol 😂
One problem I have with especially men is telling women to not look for the spark. Been there done that, not good advise. Don't look for perfection, but the beleif system and view of life should be similar. Thats all. But for a relationship to work for a women she has to and will know early on whether he's the right kind of guy. It doesn't take women as long to know, and a level of a positive spark has to be there.
Your right Tony! Ain’t nothing change. But I have to say it’s harder now to decipher who’s real and who’s not
Good morning I been following you for a while I appreciate your videos
This one right here hit me I’m going through this right now! I been single for last 4 years I was picky at first but I learned my lesson now what comes into my path is not good! They only be talking about sex or trying to be in control! I don’t give no vibes when I meet this gentleman! I basically just stay to myself
I appreciate Mr. Gaskin teachings so much! He is definitely a wise person and sent from God! The Aquafina comment took me out, LOL😂
I just want to say thank you for allowing God to use you in the area of relationship between men & women. As a saved woman, they enemy tired to make me think something wrong with me because I refuse to accept foolishness. It amazes me that there’s fully grown men out here still playing little boys games especially at the age 47yrs old. I thank God for the leading of His Spirit and whole enough to see when someone is broken that’s not good for me
I have to disagree. I’m not going on a coffee date or ice cream date. That’s a non negotiable. If you can’t afford to date then you shouldn’t be. Other men from different cultures don’t do that . Only black men, l’ll past respectfully.
I like how TG threw UCL in the knee statement. "It's gone be a word today".
After hearing you speak facts like this, I'm definitely a subscriber.
Muscle looks better than fat. A 100 lbs of fat and a 100 lbs of muscle still weigh a 100 lbs. 👌🏾😊
Damn right
This video is gold. I appreciate you Tony! God bless you!
Rev Tony, you’re preaching and 10000% correct!!💯
I needed this honest humorous read. Thank you for always speaking truth even when it hurts.
Thank you for giving out this information freely! I have some work to do!!!!!
I love TG a man of God, take care of his family 🙏🏾
Tony be tellin’ the truth even if it hurts your feelings….whew. 🥴
“men is naturally ugly” I get that 💀
8:04 There's a lot between blowing $100 each date vs. $7 coffee... Where's the balance🤷🏾♀️... He doesn't have to spend excessively nor be cheap. How people start usually gets worse over time as they get more comfortable, and what happened to creativity. When I was single, I preferred thoughtful dates rather than the typical doing what everyone else was doing.
Also, if he's dating so many women that dates are adding up getting expensive, so he wants to just take everyone to get coffee, then he's dating too many women and needs to narrow it down to his top 2 to decide from. Prioritize and balance, b/c while most women don't care where they go or if they take them anywhere, there are women who have a higher standard who have more options and don't limit themselves to just any one group of men, so they may see that as little to no effort in pursuing them. There's nothing wrong with anyone's standards or lack of standards in general- it just depends what's right for each individual to accept what works for them and reject what doesn't. People have to be honest so they'll stop wasting each other's time being mismatched...Let coffee people go on dates and Meringue lesson people, dinner and movie people, hiking people, etc go on the types of dates they enjoy, but don't shame any of them for what it is they want for their standards
People don’t even know how to talk now a days.
Omg Toni Gaskins you are definitely speaking the truth! About men and women! Through my dating experiences.🙏🏾
Great video!! All useful and true information! Been married for 16 years as well.
Tony never disappoints 😂😂😂
Comedy and Truth!
No lies... my ex husband is taking trips to Hawaii and eating out at these steakhouses and over 5months behind on child support 😂 these lil girls out here think they're winning....crazy!
The internet, virtual dating apps has also contributed to this delusion ✌🏽
I respect your information and guidance. The truth is just the light, I'm glad body compatibility is real. Physical attraction is what you see in a person before an actual conversation.* Brains, Body and Brand. I AM working on me all the time to attract the right type of people in my circle ⭕,life is real.....
Thank you Lord for the wisdom and revelation knowledge to know how to discern wickedness in the spirit.🙏🙏🙏
I think the women who want expensive date are assuming that If he has to spend money on a date he’ll be more selective about who he takes out. Less likely to waste the woman’s time while trying to juggle 5 other women.
It Depends on The Guy! Mine went All Out to impress!
Brains
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body 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 back to the fundamentals. When I first started watching your videos in 2016 this inspired me to go back to school & finish my bachelors degree. Thank you.
“Until you do what is hard you will never have what your heart desires.” TGjr. 😮💨
Whew !!! Nothing but facts.
Good morning Tony I don't mind being taken out for coffee something simple at times. A lot of times the simple things are the most meaningful. Also I'm flexible depending on their finances at the time and you know occasional dates switching up and based on what we talked about the different places we'd like to go. But at times😅 same time I end up not being taken anywhere because of things they claim that they're going through but can turn around and take out of the women. Then when I approached them about the subject expressing how it hurts and it bothers me, as to why we don't go anywhere? When next respond, then they give me excuses that they have issues that they're dealing with or they don't have any money or they don't have the time. When in actuality, they are taking out of the women and don't want anyone else to know that they are seeing me and because I have a disability and they don't want to admit that until further down the line. That's why I have so much trouble dating and I have years in gaps between dating because of these nonsense issues because they don't want to be honest from the very beginning and just tell them that they may have a problem dating someone with a disability or they think that if they like that one won't pick up and found that find out on what they are doing. Then when you call them out on it, they don't like it and they completely disappear or they say they don't like the way you talk because all you want to do is just go out and all this other stuff. So they pretty much just try to dismiss one's feelings. I don't know what to make of the dating scene anymore. People are just becoming more selfish each day. I don't see nothing wrong with going out to simple things and as long as the food is good it's affordable you're having a good time and that's it. Why do people have to be so selfish and materialistic and don't want to go to certain places because they think it's beneath them and they want to drain someone's pockets just for them to look good and don't care how the person is feeling and how well they're treating you but just want to get what they can get for for themselves. Please I hope you will talk about these topics on your next few videos. Thank you for sharing all this information and I wish you and your family lots of love happiness peace and good health. Also have a beautiful and enjoyable holiday and God bless! Much love
Tony you are so on point with this message it’s not even funny. May the Lord continue to fill you with wisdom and thank you for sharing with us! ❤
Glad hes spoken on this (the obsession with gettinga rich guy thing )🗣️ cause it’s getting worse n worse each yr.
A lot of people date people with their similar features (side note)
I love how gently he spoke to his wife ✨
LOL 31:13, Mrs. Gaskins got him blushing & stuttering, this is too cute lol 😂
🤣🤣🤣 this is better than reality TV haha, makes me laugh
3:03 Nothing in the dating scene has changed but the restaurants and the prices. There has always been ludicrous expectations, and people wanting something for nothing.