This is the marriage I’m in the middle of divorcing from. Always argumentative or opposing, high conflict Or always bringing up drama. It’s exhausting 🥵
God bless you & know you will feel better. 3 weeks later after being kicked out I am better but still hurt. We will all heal. Goodluck with everything.
@@David-nu6kw I haven't seen a female life coach talk about the unfair, family court system that favors women. It's sad that a woman can kick you out of your own home, take the kids, and collect cash and prizes. In fact, I noticed that female life coaches amplify feminism, and make things worse. These coaches don't want to lose their subscribers and money, and it's wrong for them to manipulate people.
@@minnesotajude8447 There are videos of woman talking about not dating "nice guys" or settling with them because we won't protect them? How twisted is that? So if your are mean you are out, and if you are nice you are out. What a disaster.
I get these type people here at my business.They come in and start trying to play their manipulation/domination game.When that doesn’t work they run straight to their computer to leave a 1 star review about how terrible my business is and how they are the “innocent victim”!These are the sorriest people alive!
Thank You so much. I've just experienced total meltdown of a coworker in my new job. What happened was, I tried to learn my responsibilities, while my coworker hoped to keep me aside as a useful idiot and dominate me at will. I had trouble sleeping thinking about it. It all makes sense to me now. I'm so happy I decided to keep calm. Thanks again! ;P
Cultivating joy happiness love and gratitude in our lives and moving towards what we are attracted to will assist us in finding more people doing the same. The rest will disappear.
Sage advice Lisa. Sadly, these people are multiplying like rabbits. My wife is among them, and I find myself a target on a daily basis, as well as our son - he's a target as well. It makes me so sad.
I no how you feel my boyfriend is this way and I'm so stuck and he has tried breaking my knees and he came down on top of my head with a gallon of milk I have no we're to go or no we're to turn my family won't have anything to do with me because of him
@@kemberlyethington-jz2wt Know that YOU need to save yourself. I'm working on my personal exit strategy, but with a child in school, I need to be patient. As you're not married, you can compress your timeline and get to safety. Holy moly, you need to be your #1 priority! Rip the bandaid off.
@@kemberlyethington-jz2wt I usually just take a walk with my boy and deny the demon that's driving my wife any reaction. Usually when my son and I return she's calmed down. Sometimes this doesn't work and yes, as crappy as it is, I fight back sometimes. It gets ugly, but (thankfully so far) not physical.
Don’t forget your son’s and daughters ! Their in-Laws have a great deal of power over your son or daughter! Trust me, I have never seen such violence “ vocally “ they have changed my Son’s life by telling him he is not going to visit his Mother and this is a BIG MAJORITY OF our children! I have tried every single possible thing and my son calls the police on his own Mother because I am upsetting the children! I don’t know what to do or say about this madness
After 9 years she kicked me out from "our" apartment and never let me back in. She claims I have "anger problems" because I "argue" with her (once she stops talking over me of course) I actually wasn't arguing, I was stating my own point and opinion in a respectful manner. Eventually I too had enough. I wonder how long before she wants me back. Won't matter though, I see the light. I have seen some flags over the years but let them go for the sake of the relationship. I was definitely too nice. She labelled me with anger issues and abusive. This will take a while to heal from.
the narcs I know are the opposite. calm cool calculated and very controlled. they monitor watch and keep score. they actually seemed quite the opposite by appearance. On the other hand being in reactive abuse you look like a raging pissed off hurt and confused believing everyone is out to get you from smear campaigns etc. Very confusing. They were watching you in your self-esteem and confidence and slowly chipping away at you. Its insane. You show up in honesty and vulnerability and they have that smirk as you are an unassuming clueless genuine person they will soon play with and probably already are. No contact and choose your friends wisely. Anything can be a cause for their assumed slight and heaven forbid you expose the game or them. Lose your job....after they get you fired. Yeup. They push you to rage.
I dealt with the narc over a couple of months - made the mistake of helping her out. Realising her toxicity, i carefully - and politely - backed away from connection, and she has ruthlessly pursued me ever since. It caused a narc injury and she's absolutely enraged! More than five years of vicious smears and relentless provocations have followed. It will never end. I do not respond which enrages her even more. The lies she's told about me - even to the police! I keep meticulous Journals and gather photo/video evidence of the numerous traps she's set around me trying desperately to bait me into any sort of reaction. Constantly dealing with it is exhausting and my character has been quite assasinated. An evil, vicious piece of work.
Took me awhile but all my learning finally came to me in a voice that said the same as you did Lisa, "they're built for this". Their nervous system and wiring etc is wired for this. The person who has done all you speak of and more actually said to me, "I just keep poking at you" knowing how unwell ive been with chronic health conditions, being isolated and smear campaigns, even suicidal at times and knowing the one person who had my back had passed away..my safety net! My heart tried to connect with the wounded part of them that drives some of this until the last time we saw eachother and that's when I heard the voice inside. It doesn't matter what you try to do, your loosing yourself trying to do it, to fix it. Walking away is the best way, thanks for a validating video and compassion for all going through it🙏🤗🌱
Wish I had walked away the first time I saw someone in a rage instead of minimizing what they were doing. After becoming educated about narcissism and other dark personality traits now there is no more excuse for me to remain in any friendship with someone like that long enough to get hooked if that is someone from the opposite sex. I keep as much distance as I can from people like that.
Most bosses would not stall your promotion just because you got angry once.. most bosses won't go in past to ask why you were not given promotion.. just to repeat the past... Most bosses won't call you prostitute when you used word ' hooked' Narcissist judge you very harsh, but they do similar mistakes and when you judge them or start telling others about their behaviour, you are damaging their reputation but they are doing same behind your back...
Once you aré in a relationship with a narcisist you can distinguish them from normal people with personal mental problems, it takes a couple of dates to figure them out.
One of my cashiers gave a customer 19 ones because she was upset he came to her to buy a single carrot and paid with a $20 instead of going to self check out. I spoke to her about it. She has been giving me the silent treatment ever since. This has been going on for about a month now. 😂😂😂
Run! I talked to a Psychiatrist, several years ago, about my husband! He told me that my husband was TEXTBOOK, and that he still hated his mother, and was taking it out, on ME‼️ I'm dying now, bc of 2 stress related diseases, caused by him ! Please don't wait! He's toxic ! ☢️
i think narcissists help certain things happen...like really arrogant hosts of shows, but without that arrogance, they may not be able to gather the group of peole, i'm thinking kerry cassidy
Then you're in my situation. It's a constant pull & tug whether or not to leave. Some days are better than others, but ultimately we both know where this path leads. It's all about timing and preparation.
If divorce is not an option yet then you can focus on changing yourself. By understanding their tactics and not giving them what they want. Lets say they make a mean comment about your appearance or cooking, just stay unbothered and say something like "thanks for sharing. I am actually pretty pleased with it". If they bait you into a fight, ignore the bait. If they yell at you while driving then simply dont drive anymore (this means they can no longer drink at parties so it bites them in the but) or take your own car. (This is a boundarie. I am not sharing a car with you as long as you are yelling at me in the car) If they curse at you, disengage and leave the room/not respond. In all cases, dont take anything personal because it is not personal.
I want to mention that it's been more than 50 per cent in my case and people's behaviour is definitely getting worse in many countries, even the ones that were relatively safe before. 😥
No ,you dont take it in u know where . Thats when you call upon your GOD and angels to protect you take over .You dont half to take anyones disrespect .Show emostional intentions and intelligence .Who cares what people are think .
This is the marriage I’m in the middle of divorcing from. Always argumentative or opposing, high conflict Or always bringing up drama. It’s exhausting 🥵
God bless you & know you will feel better. 3 weeks later after being kicked out I am better but still hurt. We will all heal. Goodluck with everything.
@@David-nu6kw I haven't seen a female life coach talk about the unfair, family court system that favors women. It's sad that a woman can kick you out of your own home, take the kids, and collect cash and prizes. In fact, I noticed that female life coaches amplify feminism, and make things worse. These coaches don't want to lose their subscribers and money, and it's wrong for them to manipulate people.
@@minnesotajude8447 There are videos of woman talking about not dating "nice guys" or settling with them because we won't protect them? How twisted is that? So if your are mean you are out, and if you are nice you are out. What a disaster.
I get these type people here at my business.They come in and start trying to play their manipulation/domination game.When that doesn’t work they run straight to their computer to leave a 1 star review about how terrible my business is and how they are the “innocent victim”!These are the sorriest people alive!
And they're everywhere...
Ban them and don't sell them anything. What are they going to do leave a bad review? They already did.
Thank You so much. I've just experienced total meltdown of a coworker in my new job. What happened was, I tried to learn my responsibilities, while my coworker hoped to keep me aside as a useful idiot and dominate me at will. I had trouble sleeping thinking about it. It all makes sense to me now. I'm so happy I decided to keep calm. Thanks again! ;P
High conflict personality. This is helpful to hear you on this topic.
Cultivating joy happiness love and gratitude in our lives and moving towards what we are attracted to will assist us in finding more people doing the same. The rest will disappear.
Call them out! Don't wait you'll be sorry if you don't.
Sage advice Lisa. Sadly, these people are multiplying like rabbits. My wife is among them, and I find myself a target on a daily basis, as well as our son - he's a target as well. It makes me so sad.
How do you get out of there radar
I no how you feel my boyfriend is this way and I'm so stuck and he has tried breaking my knees and he came down on top of my head with a gallon of milk I have no we're to go or no we're to turn my family won't have anything to do with me because of him
@@kemberlyethington-jz2wt Know that YOU need to save yourself. I'm working on my personal exit strategy, but with a child in school, I need to be patient. As you're not married, you can compress your timeline and get to safety. Holy moly, you need to be your #1 priority! Rip the bandaid off.
@@kemberlyethington-jz2wt I usually just take a walk with my boy and deny the demon that's driving my wife any reaction. Usually when my son and I return she's calmed down. Sometimes this doesn't work and yes, as crappy as it is, I fight back sometimes. It gets ugly, but (thankfully so far) not physical.
She's definitely met my mother 😂
Mine too
Don’t forget your son’s and daughters ! Their in-Laws have a great deal of power over your son or daughter!
Trust me, I have never seen such violence “ vocally “ they have changed my Son’s life by telling him he is not going to visit his Mother and this is a BIG MAJORITY OF our children! I have tried every single possible thing and my son calls the police on his own Mother because I am upsetting the children! I don’t know what to do or say about this madness
Coverts -- sneaky, sneaky, sneaky 😶🌫️
After 9 years she kicked me out from "our" apartment and never let me back in. She claims I have "anger problems" because I "argue" with her (once she stops talking over me of course) I actually wasn't arguing, I was stating my own point and opinion in a respectful manner. Eventually I too had enough. I wonder how long before she wants me back. Won't matter though, I see the light. I have seen some flags over the years but let them go for the sake of the relationship. I was definitely too nice. She labelled me with anger issues and abusive. This will take a while to heal from.
the narcs I know are the opposite. calm cool calculated and very controlled. they monitor watch and keep score. they actually seemed quite the opposite by appearance. On the other hand being in reactive abuse you look like a raging pissed off hurt and confused believing everyone is out to get you from smear campaigns etc. Very confusing. They were watching you in your self-esteem and confidence and slowly chipping away at you. Its insane. You show up in honesty and vulnerability and they have that smirk as you are an unassuming clueless genuine person they will soon play with and probably already are. No contact and choose your friends wisely. Anything can be a cause for their assumed slight and heaven forbid you expose the game or them. Lose your job....after they get you fired. Yeup. They push you to rage.
I dealt with the narc over a couple of months - made the mistake of helping her out. Realising her toxicity, i carefully - and politely - backed away from connection, and she has ruthlessly pursued me ever since. It caused a narc injury and she's absolutely enraged! More than five years of vicious smears and relentless provocations have followed. It will never end. I do not respond which enrages her even more. The lies she's told about me - even to the police! I keep meticulous Journals and gather photo/video evidence of the numerous traps she's set around me trying desperately to bait me into any sort of reaction. Constantly dealing with it is exhausting and my character has been quite assasinated. An evil, vicious piece of work.
Took me awhile but all my learning finally came to me in a voice that said the same as you did Lisa, "they're built for this". Their nervous system and wiring etc is wired for this. The person who has done all you speak of and more actually said to me, "I just keep poking at you" knowing how unwell ive been with chronic health conditions, being isolated and smear campaigns, even suicidal at times and knowing the one person who had my back had passed away..my safety net! My heart tried to connect with the wounded part of them that drives some of this until the last time we saw eachother and that's when I heard the voice inside. It doesn't matter what you try to do, your loosing yourself trying to do it, to fix it. Walking away is the best way, thanks for a validating video and compassion for all going through it🙏🤗🌱
Wish I had walked away the first time I saw someone in a rage instead of minimizing what they were doing. After becoming educated about narcissism and other dark personality traits now there is no more excuse for me to remain in any friendship with someone like that long enough to get hooked if that is someone from the opposite sex. I keep as much distance as I can from people like that.
Most bosses would not stall your promotion just because you got angry once.. most bosses won't go in past to ask why you were not given promotion.. just to repeat the past... Most bosses won't call you prostitute when you used word ' hooked'
Narcissist judge you very harsh, but they do similar mistakes and when you judge them or start telling others about their behaviour, you are damaging their reputation but they are doing same behind your back...
Thank you, Lisa! 🌸
You are so welcome!
The danger zone.
Thank you Lisa ❤
This is very informative! I've known people like this including family. It's good to know it's not me. Thank you! ❤
Glad it was helpful!
After hearing the explanation of how Shutty Shutty came about, I'm going to purchase a shirt.
Once you aré in a relationship with a narcisist you can distinguish them from normal people with personal mental problems, it takes a couple of dates to figure them out.
Thank you for sharing 💖
I’m dead about ripping up paperwork! 😂😂😂 esp Whitehouse paperwork
AMEN !
Good information
Thank you for brilliant advice Lisa.
Wish I knew all this just a couple years ago. This is my narc brother to a tee
What do you do if you did call someone out on their actions, and you are now the target? I wish I would have seen this video sooner 🥺
One of my cashiers gave a customer 19 ones because she was upset he came to her to buy a single carrot and paid with a $20 instead of going to self check out.
I spoke to her about it. She has been giving me the silent treatment ever since.
This has been going on for about a month now. 😂😂😂
When someone is about to snap, you can hear the 👹beast starting to stir in the undertone of their 🗣voice. 🚪Exit stage right.✌
If I’ve already become the target, how do I get away?
Run! I talked to a Psychiatrist, several years ago, about my husband! He told me that my husband was TEXTBOOK, and that he still hated his mother, and was taking it out, on ME‼️ I'm dying now, bc of 2 stress related diseases, caused by him ! Please don't wait! He's toxic ! ☢️
No contact. Shutty shutty. Don't react at all. Ignore and stay silent.
i think narcissists help certain things happen...like really arrogant hosts of shows, but without that arrogance, they may not be able to gather the group of peole, i'm thinking kerry cassidy
😢more than I can even text you... Family narcissist father mother and sister?
What if you are married to this person?😢
Then you're in my situation. It's a constant pull & tug whether or not to leave. Some days are better than others, but ultimately we both know where this path leads. It's all about timing and preparation.
Divorse him
Divorce him but don’t take half his money or kids
If divorce is not an option yet then you can focus on changing yourself.
By understanding their tactics and not giving them what they want. Lets say they make a mean comment about your appearance or cooking, just stay unbothered and say something like "thanks for sharing. I am actually pretty pleased with it".
If they bait you into a fight, ignore the bait.
If they yell at you while driving then simply dont drive anymore (this means they can no longer drink at parties so it bites them in the but) or take your own car. (This is a boundarie. I am not sharing a car with you as long as you are yelling at me in the car)
If they curse at you, disengage and leave the room/not respond.
In all cases, dont take anything personal because it is not personal.
@@UnrealTournament420 I agree!!! I plan on taking it all, or at least as much as I can.
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Covert narcissist is the worse!
💙💙💙💙💙🎉
Are you sure about the most people part? 😅 50 percent of people I've met are like this
I want to mention that it's been more than 50 per cent in my case and people's behaviour is definitely getting worse in many countries, even the ones that were relatively safe before. 😥
No ,you dont take it in u know where . Thats when you call upon your GOD and angels to protect you take over .You dont half to take anyones disrespect .Show emostional intentions and intelligence .Who cares what people are think .