I just said that to myself, like this ain't knowledge lol. You make her have to go through 10 years of KNOWING YOU DOING WRONG and when she done, you FOR ONCE feel ALL the ish you put her through lmbo. Men need to grow up and be HONEST with what you want in your life and how you want to live. Women are WWWAAAAYYYYYY MORE honest with what you want from a man and in a relationship NOW and in the future and the feel it. Most men say what they want in the future with fake real feeling in the now... meaning....... it's truly said with genuine feeling in that moment while that butterfly feeling is there (y'all know what feeling in talking about lol) BBBUUUUTTTT asssss soon as it sorta becomes normal. Dumb shit starts lmbo. Fix yo shit and truly communicate all your thoughts and feelings in real time to your partner so they understand you better and to people in general. Like why we even going through dumb shit, talk my nigga. We say everything else but what we really feeling and thinking. Make it make sense lol 😆 🤣 😂 how is this behavior of the self proclaimed smartest species on the planet. We can think to say everything else but the OPEN. HONEST. TRUTH. #bruh
Preach f these fools in the comments 😅 They still won't take accountability for losing the love of their life. That's why you always hear men telling stories about the one who got away....yet I haven't heard a girl tell that story about no boy.😅
These are facts. I spent 5 years out of a 10 year marriage communicating my minimal needs to my husband (date night once a month/keep your mom out of our marriage/remember my birthday/ be affectionate) He wouldn’t budge. FIVE YEARS. I left, he lost his mind. Literally acted like he had no idea why. Happily married again now. Have never looked back. P.s. I cooked, cleaned, kept fit and waited on that man hand and foot. I was frugal as well. He didn’t get it until I was gone.
When he says enemy in this context, he is meaning we WON'T give energy at all. Most don't give energy to their enemies. So what he's stated in this context is truthful.
That was me...married for 18 years. And when I didn't cry, I knew I was done. I even asked him for an open marriage. Needless to say he was shocked and appalled and said he couldn't do that so I said ok and have been divorced now almost 10 years.
💯. You can't trust your enemy so if she can't trust you and you wasted her valuable time then you disrespectful of her so: Disrespectful + Untrustworthy = Enemy. Simple. Strangers are treated better cause they haven't proven to be enemies yet. 🙄 Duh....
When we truly get to that Breaking point -- Bam! It's a done deal. Out of here, goodbye, good riddance, don't wanna see/ know you anymore. Especially the woman who do not have low self esteem.
I will tell you what a relationship therapist told me ..when a women is done and she leaves her partner...the reason that you cannot win her back is because she has already mourned the loss of the relationship ,made her peace with it and moved on ..THEN thats when she leaves ..not only is the man blindsided but he stands NO CHANCE of getting her back because there is no longer any feelings left towards him left. What gets me is WHY why do guys think that we will always stay and take their crap?
When someone tells you that you don't want to be married to them or you're not the person that they would like to be married to is pretty much over at that point but if you love them there's always hope...
@@ericprater8335 No there isn't. Love is verb, an action word. If a man loves a woman, he wouldn't give one man a chance to steal her away. He's entertaining other options and he don't want her to leave his ass before he lands the one he really wants
Riggggght I’ve had men look me dead in the eye talkin bout “you’re so COLD”. Man please after everything you put me through? You’re lucky I even act like you exist.
Yep! I left my husband after 32 years marriage. I’m a good woman , wife and mother but he put his hands on me for the last time , I left this past September. And I feel delivered and peace . I was healed a long time ago , just waiting on God and I booked . Done!
What happens is, we begin to lose respect, unfortunately once that happens all feelings are gone and we’re all the way done. It was starting to happen with me towards my husband 10 yrs ago, I was about to give up, thank God our Pastor stepped in and talked with him. He got it together, We will be celebrating 39 years of marriage.
@@merotygi1213 Heck yeah, Mel. And Jewel's reply doesn't even belong in these comments bcuz dude in the vid is talking about how men mess up. Not about us messing up
That quote had zero to do with this clip....and that's not even what she said 🤣🤣🤣 it was "never make a man tell you he doesn't want you more than once"...
I left when I was told he say I know he cheats an if I want to cheat I can cheat because I never leaving him, after all I caught him 3x in 3weeks with 3 different chicken head each time 😆🤣😂😹😆🤣😂😹😆🤣is he OK 😆🤣😂😹😆who does that but he didn't expect it to come bk to me word for word an the stranger he say that to is a person who knows me since we was kids SMH #17years....single one year an one month now
@@awatifhassan9365 my ex told me. “I have you wrapped around my fingers. You’re not going nowhere”. As soon as he went to jail I blocked him and moved to another city so he won’t find me. I changed the kids last name so he won’t trace us
When people show you who they really are, believe them! No second chances because when you give them a second chance, a third chance, a fourth chance etc, you are telling them that you are okay with their horrible behavior. And the behavior gets worse and worse! Pick yourself off the floor people and stop being a doormat! Protect your peace, keep your legs closed and stay single. Stop breaking your own heart!
And men then say we used them and are heartless or someone else better came along. When in reality, the woman is just tired and has nothing left to give you. … we often are seen moving on with someone else after the relationship ends because the new relationship requires less heartache and we can be at peace and feel safe.
Here's a bit of advice. Each time she gives you a chance, a piece of her heart closes. Also each time she tells you, the intensity of her voice changes. Then finally she becomes quiet and then she leaves.
Most women need drama .. a real man don’t need chances .. we need to be understood… if not let another chump deal with that.. I got real shit things to do..
Never has a truer word been spoken. After allowing myself to be manipulated for off &on 6 years (Because I fell in love with his potential) I prayed for strength and the courage to break the soul tie and take back my dignity and self worth and live for me. I’m happier, not stressed living for the Lord. Time heals all wound IF you do the work to heal the hurt in YOU. 3yrs single celibate and focused on God and what He has planned for the rest of my life. I love this channel. ❤God bless
She's giving you chances because she loves you and she's fighting for the relationship but once she gets tired it's a wrap. And one thing about it she's going to move on in your face because a woman don't need to hide and sneak.
I agree. no matter what what that man does..he can do everything right...but once that woman has made her mind up that she's done..it's over. I'm a man & I know this.
@@Ronnadie As it should be because a woman will come to you with the issue but majority of men don't like to have conversations sometimes that's all it takes for you to hear what she's saying, understand, and come to a solution. 9 out of 10 the problem is always about cheating/ disrespect.
100% correct. I went through hell and back with my ex. I gave him a million and one chances. Hell, I gave him two million and one chances! I went through, and took SO MUCH MORE than ANY woman would have stuck by any man through. And one day he says to me, "you'll stay with me no matter what I do". I stopped arguing. I nodded and told him, "I got you" and stepped out of the room. It was obvious that there was nothing left to say and nothing worth fighting for, anymore. That was over a year ago. Guess who didn't stay..
I changed my number and moved.i always wonder about the look on his face when the call didnt go through, when he drove by and saw my car was gone and the place was empty. I heard from friends he was looking and asking. I learned to take care of my self first, i do still miss him though.
The man that callously takes advantage of the heart of a woman and then attempts to discard her like trash IS an enemy. She simply learned to treat him accordingly.
My uncle used to say " as long as she's crying and fighting with you you're good but the moment she's not fighting and crying and everything is okay...you're done"
It doesn't happen overnight. Emotions slowly start to shut down until that day you just feel numb towards that person. No hate. No love. Just numbness towards you like they're a stranger on the street. Can't even try to fake it, once the love dies, it's over 💔
@@Ninikyu95Yes!!! Everything he did made me feel like John Wick did when they hurt his puppy..lol... I would have never had put hands on him but wanted to scratch his eyes out several times a day
Perfect description of what happens. And they seem oblivious to what is happening, they are usually so self absorbed and are shocked when you "all of a sudden" walk out.
this is true. my partner before my husband said, "How can you be so cold?" when I finally walked away. I said because I spent six years falling out of love with you, and you didn't even notice or care. I was done.
Yep, I did 7 yrs of waiting and hoping I was "the one." I finally got tired of wondering and asked, "Where's our relationship going?" Well, I was told something like, "I am not sure I can live like this. " Wtf was I thinking. Well, that was ALL I needed to know. I went in to shock and severed my ties. There was no begging or pleading that could sway me otherwise. Well, I found a good man, and we are living our best lives. I wish my ex-bf the best and hope he treats his next better than I was treated. Ladies ... move on!
That's what happened to my little brother. Him and his wife were married for 18 years I think she fell out of love with him 10 years ago. And he didn't even know it🤐😬
Left and divorced my ex husband 3 years ago and NEVER looked back....19 years had no barring on me once I became aware of what was TRUELY happening! Ladies and gentlemen: Choose your pain! Do you want to leave and hurt temporarily? Or stay and hurt a lifetime? When I tell you the pain of leaving does not hurt FOREVER believe me ❤
I don’t think it’s because she’s “stopped loving you”, it’s more so because she’s realised you’re no longer deserving of her love… it’ll never be the same.
10 months before I left, I started getting used to not talking to the person, getting used to seeing him with another woman, being comfortable on the days we didn't speak, detaching my heart, calling myself single and being okay with that. The day when I left was just a formality, I had already left.
Your story is my story. I already visualized my exit. All I had to do was execute it. I wasn't angry nor hurt. I was just DONE. There is so much Peace on the other side of the door.
My ex husband messed around & found this out. 25 yrs later he’s STILL reminiscing on how much I loved & cared for him but not about how poorly he treated me.
Mentally I'd left my first husband 2 years before I actually packed up and went back to my mum's. After that I shut down when it came to him. He was an emotionally abusive bully and deserved my silence. He had 9 years out of me. Fast forward 22 years later, I had a relationship with a friend, who was always late, hard to make plans with, and I mean even to gonout for a drink., 8 weeks later I dropped him by text ,stooped answering his calls and then it hit me, that I love, respect and honour myself too much to put up with that kind of foolish behaviour.
@@ladyoflove60 What’s funny is women are the same, no matter the culture. The only difference is what their threshold is. The American $ simply stretches more in certain countries, so they are considered “wealthy” by that country’s standards. “Rich” men get away with more, no matter the culture.
My then-husband pushed relentlessly & admitted if I treated him like he did me, he would've left . Toward the end he defensively claimed, "Ive changed". I calmly replied, "So have I". Shortly thereafter I left him. Done.
Lol! Confirmation Brother! When he kept trying me, I tried to be patient! But, now, he thinks he can have our Children change my mind! THAT'S NO OOT, GOING TO HAPPEN. TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN, I'M BUSY! 😊😊😊
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When we have emotionally checked out, when we no longer care, it’s over. And usually that’s when they start to “care” and want to “change.” But they don’t care. It’s their ego that’s talking.
On purpose, like he said. Men know. They enjoy seeing you hurt, cause they think they're smarter than women. Until they feel dumb after you're gone and Happy without them.
Thats so true......I'm done and gone. I left all those years behind me no more memories no more heartache 💔. Its a beautiful feeling to know you're completely healed 😊 I'm colder 🥶 than an iceberg!!!
I raised my daughter to leave when he fks up the first time. It's not her job to raise a male to be mature or build him up or breathe life into him. The first time he fks up or disrespects you LEAVE and don't look back, NEVER settle and since she been living by this she hasn't deal with struggle love and I love this for my baby
Yes you taught her right, Why do so many women think they should stay through all the BS!! Think about it, men would not stay around to allow you to drag them through the mud.
I love this for the both of you. You know how heartbreaking it would be to watch the daughter’s you’ve nurtured and loved since birth get broken over and over again by someone undeserving of their love.? My worst nightmare.
Facts. My ex’s wonder why I block them and don’t look back. If someone took your heart and tore it to shreds why the Hell would you EVER give them the time of day ever again? Why hurt yourself over some chump? Exactly. Act right and you get treated right.
I taught my sons and their friends, "If you cause a woman to become numb to you, there is nothing you can say or do to change that she's done!". Respect, loyalty and time go a long way.
@E CM As a mother, I give knowledge nuggets from a woman perspective! My children are adults now, and my husband (their father) and I raised our children together before he passed away. One thing you should learn is that children receive lessons from their mother and father! A balance of both perspectives is needed for a full understanding of life and interactions between men and women!
@Stephanie L Cowart I agree. If a child can receive any advice, lessons, wholesome words, and encouragement from anyone, it is good. Some people assume fathers are absent when advice comes from a mom/woman.
I also taught my sons what the male relatives in my family were taught,every woman has her own limits,standards & boundaries so make sure you learn the woman you have"..Not all of us want to be"loved on" constantly & we don't want a man in our face every day.Ask what our standards,boundaries etc are then act accordingly.
It’s best for any man that I stop respecting to depart from me . The amount of disgust that incubates in the pit of my throat ready to latch onto his audacity activates
My advice to All young women, Don't give them chances to keep hurting you, if it happens and you address it and they keep doing it, get gone. They know what they are doing and will keep doing it until you get to the breaking point, Break out. Don't look back.
You describe my entire divorce. I gave him 10 years and he couldn’t get it right. Once I let him go, God said, just trust me. Ever since then I have been blessed.
Those feelings need to detached or disconnected from that toxic love/relationship, and connected to a real/faithful love(GOD), then you never give up on Love, and just live your life in forgiveness and understanding, and hope everything else follow
My ex is finding this out right now. He's realizing all that I provided not just financially, but emotionally, mentally and spiritually. His life was better with me but he didn't appreciate or respect my presence and now he's feeling my absence and he's being humbled by it.
Girl men in these days and time they don't care how much you do for them. They will go find another woman in life and she'll help him out financially, emotional, and spiritual. These men out here don't give a f*** I dated one jus the same way mf don't give a f*** but I didn't supply him Financial that's why he didn't like me that much. I'm not giving a boyfriend husband privileges taking care of his a** for free. 🎤
What annoys me the most is men will have more respect for their friends, their boss, Their p.o., ECT. And won't cross them once yet do the women that love you dirty. Shits weird.
In reality she's just giving back the same energy that was given to her. But when the guy is on the receiving end he treats it like it such a tragedy and how could she do this to me.
@@gianna4471 yup and since they didnt pay attention they now have to pay alimony and child support. These men swear up and down they got played and have been talking shit every since......passport bros enters with there ignorance.
Yup!!! I was always the type to cut ppl off after the 1st time and ppl used to try to shame me for it saying I need to be more forgiving and understanding.. Those are the same ppl who went through so many toxic relationships and now talking about being single and happy.. Meanwhile I found my soulmate and happily engaged .. I refused to waste my years with ppl who show me who they are the first time just to end up 40 yrs old, with numerous failed relationships.. I never stopped believing in love and put myself first and I don’t regret any of it..
It’s so sad a man will break your heart, hurt your soul with his actions or lack of, and break down your mind over and over again. But when you’ve finally picked yourself up, got your head right, and he can no longer reach your soft side…that’s when they say their heart is broken and you must be with another man. That’s so toxic, unhealthy and sad. The pain wakes you up, and starts to shut everything you felt for him down.
These are the types that want you bonded to them by chains and don't want you doing anything besides waiting on them to grow up or make up their mind. It is indeed, very toxic and wicked to play with people's hearts and minds.
This perfectly describes my breakup. It was like my feelings got absolutely erased and I was just done. Moved on and found the literal man of my dreams and we’re going on 12 years of marriage with two sons. ❤❤❤❤
You know what’s colder? Making her go through it 101 times. She made you go through it once.
@Alison Maltais: Ma’am! You just settled it. That’s it. That’s IT‼️👏🏾💯
facts!
YES!!
I just said that to myself, like this ain't knowledge lol. You make her have to go through 10 years of KNOWING YOU DOING WRONG and when she done, you FOR ONCE feel ALL the ish you put her through lmbo. Men need to grow up and be HONEST with what you want in your life and how you want to live. Women are WWWAAAAYYYYYY MORE honest with what you want from a man and in a relationship NOW and in the future and the feel it. Most men say what they want in the future with fake real feeling in the now... meaning....... it's truly said with genuine feeling in that moment while that butterfly feeling is there (y'all know what feeling in talking about lol) BBBUUUUTTTT asssss soon as it sorta becomes normal. Dumb shit starts lmbo. Fix yo shit and truly communicate all your thoughts and feelings in real time to your partner so they understand you better and to people in general. Like why we even going through dumb shit, talk my nigga. We say everything else but what we really feeling and thinking. Make it make sense lol 😆 🤣 😂 how is this behavior of the self proclaimed smartest species on the planet. We can think to say everything else but the OPEN. HONEST. TRUTH. #bruh
Ouchhh
My heart does a factory reset....
Nice!
You said a word right there
This!❤️
I love diz❤
This. 💯Be like you never existed
When you treat a person like you don't care don't be surprised when they finally get it 💯
Right
RIGHT
Exactly 😅 acting surprise
Shaking your hand.
That’s so freaking accurate. ❤
When a man sings about a woman being cold that’s just him confessing he abused her love.
Yeah, because there’s noooo such thing as a bad woman whose just cold hearted! Lol
@@chancimoore4865there’s a difference between cold hearted and going cold. Very simple concepts.
@laustin2832
Both can be true.
Preach f these fools in the comments 😅 They still won't take accountability for losing the love of their life. That's why you always hear men telling stories about the one who got away....yet I haven't heard a girl tell that story about no boy.😅
A woman starts emotionally detaching until she is ready to go and never come back.
Ohhhh, yeah! I love detaching emotionally🤗
@@miyangtangwan7046 it’s the best! 😊 no return.
@@cocoleluz 🤭so true
yepp it's call I'M DONE...
Unless he’s a thug who puts his hands on her. Then she will keep coming back for more
When’s an woman fed up ….. it’s nothing you can do about it
Even R Kelly's creepy ass knew that 😁
First thing that came too mind 😄😊
@@mmljane😂😂
These are facts. I spent 5 years out of a 10 year marriage communicating my minimal needs to my husband (date night once a month/keep your mom out of our marriage/remember my birthday/ be affectionate) He wouldn’t budge. FIVE YEARS. I left, he lost his mind. Literally acted like he had no idea why. Happily married again now. Have never looked back. P.s. I cooked, cleaned, kept fit and waited on that man hand and foot. I was frugal as well. He didn’t get it until I was gone.
That's true‼️👍
Facts!! 💯💯💯 When a woman’s fed up we will turn completely cold and numb and act like we’ve never met you a day in our lives!
The reason being is because their cold and numb actions. So obviously they like cold and numb and don't like it when it is returned.
Its beautiful when we realize that we deserve better
and you end up being a side: chick, hen & vulture that depends what age group you fall in!!
@@comparecards5688Stop confusing us with your mom😅
@@monejohn9973don’t worry about my mum she still married to my dad. whilst you and yours still riding up and down the hood
@@comparecards5688facts 😂😂
She does not treat you like an enemy. She takes all of the mistreatment that you showed her and gives it back to you all at once.
Facts. Treating you like an enemy takes energy. That energy is now reclaimed for something more fruitful.
When he says enemy in this context, he is meaning we WON'T give energy at all. Most don't give energy to their enemies. So what he's stated in this context is truthful.
SAY THAT 💯💯💯💯
If I could hit the like button 1000x 😩
Nope, that’s too much of my time and energy. Just gonna act like your mama neva birth ya! 😅
When a man does a woman wrong and she doesn't cry over it anymore....YOU'RE DONE SIR!
That was me...married for 18 years. And when I didn't cry, I knew I was done. I even asked him for an open marriage. Needless to say he was shocked and appalled and said he couldn't do that so I said ok and have been divorced now almost 10 years.
Done done
NOT ONE TEAR
Say this!!
That’s the truth.
As a woman gets older, especially older women,you have less tolerance for nonsense...if you're not coming right the first time,she's done .....facts
What you said.
Once I stop respecting you.. the love is instantly gone. And I stop respecting you when I stop expecting you’re going to change
If he's constantly crossing her, he IS her enemy.
Amen
💯. You can't trust your enemy so if she can't trust you and you wasted her valuable time then you disrespectful of her so: Disrespectful + Untrustworthy = Enemy. Simple. Strangers are treated better cause they haven't proven to be enemies yet. 🙄 Duh....
True
A word
This is the one
We can love you like only you exist, or we can walk away like you never existed.💯
Cold blooded 💯
🧊 cold too
When we truly get to that Breaking point -- Bam! It's a done deal. Out of here, goodbye, good riddance, don't wanna see/ know you anymore. Especially the woman who do not have low self esteem.
Omg I love that u broke it down perfectly
Como sis!!! What you said was a mouthful of Facts!!!
I will tell you what a relationship therapist told me ..when a women is done and she leaves her partner...the reason that you cannot win her back is because she has already mourned the loss of the relationship ,made her peace with it and moved on ..THEN thats when she leaves ..not only is the man blindsided but he stands NO CHANCE of getting her back because there is no longer any feelings left towards him left.
What gets me is WHY why do guys think that we will always stay and take their crap?
🙌🏼
She can still love you. But she doesn’t like you no more …
The colder person is actually the man that is repeatedly doing shit his partner hates until she has no choice but to cut her losses and leave.
Thank you...👏👏👏This is good and true!
When someone tells you that you don't want to be married to them or you're not the person that they would like to be married to is pretty much over at that point but if you love them there's always hope...
@@ericprater8335 No there isn't. Love is verb, an action word. If a man loves a woman, he wouldn't give one man a chance to steal her away. He's entertaining other options and he don't want her to leave his ass before he lands the one he really wants
Facts 💯
Riggggght I’ve had men look me dead in the eye talkin bout “you’re so COLD”. Man please after everything you put me through? You’re lucky I even act like you exist.
A woman’s heart is like a safe. When you’re in, you’re in. But once your ass is locked out…YOU ARE OUT.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 This had me rolling cause it's so true.
Assed out at that
💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💯
But we can still get that box though, right?
@@keithrobin6566 You just had to come with the ignorance? Typical. And not a good look.
That’s when they take your kindness for a weakness not knowing you will leave that ass! Sometimes patience ain’t a virtue!
Absolutely 💯
It hurts inside at first but nothing feels better than saying enough is enough.
Today was that day.
When you love them but realize you love yourself even more and it’s time to shut the door and never open it again.
💜💜💜💜💜💜
Come on somebody!!
Ain't that the truth ... 😵💫 Self love and self-worth above all ✨️
Big facts.
& theres no greater feeling
Yep! I left my husband after 32 years marriage. I’m a good woman , wife and mother but he put his hands on me for the last time , I left this past September. And I feel delivered and peace . I was healed a long time ago , just waiting on God and I booked . Done!
Such a great way to start this new year and new chapter in your life. Best wishes!✌🏽☺️🎉
Good for you
New beginnings. God got you!
Sis, you saved your own life! 🙏🏾 All power to you!
Congratulations! 😻
What happens is, we begin to lose respect, unfortunately once that happens all feelings are gone and we’re all the way done. It was starting to happen with me towards my husband 10 yrs ago, I was about to give up, thank God our Pastor stepped in and talked with him. He got it together, We will be celebrating 39 years of marriage.
It's so painful that I'm numb. But being numb feels better than the pain of the neglect. I'll get over it.
Like judge Lyn says. DON'T give a man 2 chances to say he DON'T want you.
But don't you mess up ONE time though
@@merotygi1213 Heck yeah, Mel. And Jewel's reply doesn't even belong in these comments bcuz dude in the vid is talking about how men mess up. Not about us messing up
@@No-way-oneway right..I was like huh 🤔🥴🤭
That quote had zero to do with this clip....and that's not even what she said 🤣🤣🤣 it was "never make a man tell you he doesn't want you more than once"...
True BUT GUYS DONT LET A WOMAN TELL U MORE THAN ONCE SHE DONT WANT UR ASS EITHER !
The biggest mistake a man can make it to believe his woman won't leave.
This🎯
And sadly that is what most of them believe she’s not gonna go anywhere
I left when I was told he say I know he cheats an if I want to cheat I can cheat because I never leaving him, after all I caught him 3x in 3weeks with 3 different chicken head each time 😆🤣😂😹😆🤣😂😹😆🤣is he OK 😆🤣😂😹😆who does that but he didn't expect it to come bk to me word for word an the stranger he say that to is a person who knows me since we was kids SMH #17years....single one year an one month now
Could this be the reason how passport bro's was invented? Jus asking
@@awatifhassan9365 my ex told me. “I have you wrapped around my fingers. You’re not going nowhere”. As soon as he went to jail I blocked him and moved to another city so he won’t find me. I changed the kids last name so he won’t trace us
When people show you who they really are, believe them! No second chances because when you give them a second chance, a third chance, a fourth chance etc, you are telling them that you are okay with their horrible behavior. And the behavior gets worse and worse! Pick yourself off the floor people and stop being a doormat! Protect your peace, keep your legs closed and stay single. Stop breaking your own heart!
And men then say we used them and are heartless or someone else better came along. When in reality, the woman is just tired and has nothing left to give you.
… we often are seen moving on with someone else after the relationship ends because the new relationship requires less heartache and we can be at peace and feel safe.
Bs…y’all monkey branch. That’s why. That new relationship isn’t better it’s just new and has no resentment.
Here's a bit of advice. Each time she gives you a chance, a piece of her heart closes. Also each time she tells you, the intensity of her voice changes. Then finally she becomes quiet and then she leaves.
Can I love this comment 1000 times?!🙃 #saythatish
💯 💯!!!!! Facts!
Yep you broke her 😔
Yep
Most women need drama .. a real man don’t need chances .. we need to be understood… if not let another chump deal with that.. I got real shit things to do..
And the crazier part is; we can walk away and STILL have so much love for you. We’re just done hurting.
Amen sis
💯 accurate
This. 100%.
I beg to differ. There’s nothing in my heart for any of my exes. The worst could happen to them and I still wouldn’t be phased
well then you'd
need to reset that
You are 💯 right!!!!!!!! Women will give men so many chances but once her mind is made up that she's done. She's really done!!!!!
Never has a truer word been spoken. After allowing myself to be manipulated for off &on 6 years (Because I fell in love with his potential) I prayed for strength and the courage to break the soul tie and take back my dignity and self worth and live for me. I’m happier, not stressed living for the Lord. Time heals all wound IF you do the work to heal the hurt in YOU. 3yrs single celibate and focused on God and what He has planned for the rest of my life. I love this channel. ❤God bless
What a wonderful testimony. God does heal all wounds.
She's giving you chances because she loves you and she's fighting for the relationship but once she gets tired it's a wrap. And one thing about it she's going to move on in your face because a woman don't need to hide and sneak.
P.E.R.I.O.D
Yassssss!! Point, blank and the period.
Yup!
I agree. no matter what what that man does..he can do everything right...but once that woman has made her mind up that she's done..it's over. I'm a man & I know this.
@@Ronnadie As it should be because a woman will come to you with the issue but majority of men don't like to have conversations sometimes that's all it takes for you to hear what she's saying, understand, and come to a solution. 9 out of 10 the problem is always about cheating/ disrespect.
And then we are called masculine afterwards.
Saying you acting like a dude🙄
It’s crazy
YES! After we’ve been a doorman and taking all of their toxic, abusive stuff, then, were called masculine.
@@purplesoul9927 Because we have standards and can make cut throat decisions using logic and not emotions?! Heck yeah😏
Well its definitely a masculine thing to do. If the men is not protecting u then u have to or died a slow death.
100% correct. I went through hell and back with my ex. I gave him a million and one chances. Hell, I gave him two million and one chances! I went through, and took SO MUCH MORE than ANY woman would have stuck by any man through. And one day he says to me, "you'll stay with me no matter what I do". I stopped arguing. I nodded and told him, "I got you" and stepped out of the room. It was obvious that there was nothing left to say and nothing worth fighting for, anymore.
That was over a year ago. Guess who didn't stay..
Good for you! I know he is siiick about losing you!
I changed my number and moved.i always wonder about the look on his face when the call didnt go through, when he drove by and saw my car was gone and the place was empty. I heard from friends he was looking and asking. I learned to take care of my self first, i do still miss him though.
The man that callously takes advantage of the heart of a woman and then attempts to discard her like trash IS an enemy. She simply learned to treat him accordingly.
My uncle used to say " as long as she's crying and fighting with you you're good but the moment she's not fighting and crying and everything is okay...you're done"
As a woman who has been taken advantage of and taken for granted, and I can 100% tell you that once I'm done, I'm done.
What hurts is when you think they’ll realize they lost you and yet they never do. They just continue with their life like you were never a part of it.
Yes this right here 🙌
I get it I do... But you gotta be willing to focus on YOU at that point. Look forward not behind.
He’s speaking Nothing but FACTS 💯. When we’re Done we Are Done & will avoid you like the plague.
It doesn't happen overnight. Emotions slowly start to shut down until that day you just feel numb towards that person. No hate. No love. Just numbness towards you like they're a stranger on the street. Can't even try to fake it, once the love dies, it's over 💔
No hate, but EXTREME annoyance. I remember it started to make me mad the way he chewed his food and other little things.
Preach!!!! That’s exactly how it goes. You feel nothing. No yelling, screaming, it’s like you’re exhausted internally and just blank.
@@Ninikyu95Yes!!! Everything he did made me feel like John Wick did when they hurt his puppy..lol... I would have never had put hands on him but wanted to scratch his eyes out several times a day
Yes
Perfect description of what happens. And they seem oblivious to what is happening, they are usually so self absorbed and are shocked when you "all of a sudden" walk out.
this is true. my partner before my husband said, "How can you be so cold?" when I finally walked away. I said because I spent six years falling out of love with you, and you didn't even notice or care. I was done.
Yep, I did 7 yrs of waiting and hoping I was "the one." I finally got tired of wondering and asked, "Where's our relationship going?" Well, I was told something like, "I am not sure I can live like this. " Wtf was I thinking. Well, that was ALL I needed to know. I went in to shock and severed my ties. There was no begging or pleading that could sway me otherwise. Well, I found a good man, and we are living our best lives. I wish my ex-bf the best and hope he treats his next better than I was treated. Ladies ... move on!
This💯 colder than any - negative number nature can throw
6 years falling out of love.....yikes
That's what happened to my little brother. Him and his wife were married for 18 years I think she fell out of love with him 10 years ago. And he didn't even know it🤐😬
the thing is you get tired of talking about the relationship and your needs after a while when it falls on deaf ears. eventually you just stop trying
Left and divorced my ex husband 3 years ago and NEVER looked back....19 years had no barring on me once I became aware of what was TRUELY happening! Ladies and gentlemen: Choose your pain! Do you want to leave and hurt temporarily? Or stay and hurt a lifetime? When I tell you the pain of leaving does not hurt FOREVER believe me ❤
Wasn't it R Blake's who said ...choose your pain. I think that's a great metaphor as it so simplifies your thoughts on making the right decision
When a woman's fed up don't matter how ya beg it ain't nothing u can do about it🤷🏽🤷🏽🤷🏽
I don’t think it’s because she’s “stopped loving you”, it’s more so because she’s realised you’re no longer deserving of her love… it’ll never be the same.
@@HarWatSin also very true!
Exactly! We've come to a point where we love ourself more.
Facts
@@nicolette100 yes....no more sacrificing our love , heart and life for someone who doesn't love us!
Same goes round to guys as well . Why do u all always think ladies love the most ?
10 months before I left, I started getting used to not talking to the person, getting used to seeing him with another woman, being comfortable on the days we didn't speak, detaching my heart, calling myself single and being okay with that. The day when I left was just a formality, I had already left.
Your story is my story. I already visualized my exit. All I had to do was execute it. I wasn't angry nor hurt. I was just DONE. There is so much Peace on the other side of the door.
@@sharonshephard6227 yes, that's it exactly. You're not angry or hurt. You are indifferent.
deep !
🎯
I heard that women leave emotionally before they leave physically
My ex husband messed around & found this out. 25 yrs later he’s STILL reminiscing on how much I loved & cared for him but not about how poorly he treated me.
Mentally I'd left my first husband 2 years before I actually packed up and went back to my mum's. After that I shut down when it came to him. He was an emotionally abusive bully and deserved my silence. He had 9 years out of me.
Fast forward 22 years later, I had a relationship with a friend, who was always late, hard to make plans with, and I mean even to gonout for a drink., 8 weeks later I dropped him by text ,stooped answering his calls and then it hit me, that I love, respect and honour myself too much to put up with that kind of foolish behaviour.
True and when there are no more tears. You know she’s done 🎤
Modern men expect women to accept their every mistake and disrespect, then act surprised when women want to leave.
Nah sis, they act mad... Some even take it too far and want to kill you
@@yomie7026 True.
Choice **
Then they go get passports...😒
@@ladyoflove60 What’s funny is women are the same, no matter the culture. The only difference is what their threshold is. The American $ simply stretches more in certain countries, so they are considered “wealthy” by that country’s standards. “Rich” men get away with more, no matter the culture.
After 4 years of hundreds of chances and break ups and heart ache, when I was ready to leave, I never felt so happy and free.
My then-husband pushed relentlessly & admitted if I treated him like he did me, he would've left . Toward the end he defensively claimed, "Ive changed". I calmly replied, "So have I". Shortly thereafter I left him. Done.
If u really want her don't play Russian Roulette with her . .u never know,when ur up.💯
Exactly
💯💯💯
Very well said ‼️👍
Listen!!!✌🏿😅
💯👊🤗
That is the mistake many men make.. thinking you are weak and can’t leave
This....
Whew chile!!! When will they learn, I gave him a warning one time, he didn't belive me. I got silent and left silently.
Facts
I heard that
So true been there once and no more.
I am very humble and speak quietly and softly and don’t like to repeat myself over and over. So exit stage left
Lol! Confirmation Brother! When he kept trying me, I tried to be patient! But, now, he thinks he can have our Children change my mind! THAT'S NO OOT, GOING TO HAPPEN. TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN, I'M BUSY! 😊😊😊
I AM THAT WOMAN...AND I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE.
Single 7yrs and I'm much happier.
ditto
MUCH happier
Amen me too 2yrs ago.
It's better to choose to be alone, than be made to feel lonely when you're meant to be together
I AM TOO!! DON PLAY WIF ME, I GET TIRED LONG BEFORE 101
This applies to boyfriend, spouses and toxic parents a like.
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Toxic parents...yep them too
If you grew up wt two Narcissistic parents and where the Scapegoat, you are an Heyoka Empath, look to the channel Empath Uprising and find the signs of a Heyoka ‼️💎Starseed, INFJ Heyoka Empath.
@@Luvurselffirst definitely them too
Add friend and toxic coworkers to the list.
When a woman is fed up there is nothing you can do about it! 💯
When we have emotionally checked out, when we no longer care, it’s over. And usually that’s when they start to “care” and want to “change.” But they don’t care. It’s their ego that’s talking.
Truth...Each time you mess up we love you less...then there's no love left. The coldest person is the dude that keeps messing up.
On purpose, like he said. Men know. They enjoy seeing you hurt, cause they think they're smarter than women. Until they feel dumb after you're gone and Happy without them.
Co-sign…. They’re way colder than they think it’s like they’re completely oblivious as if their repetitive disrespect isn’t icyAF 🥶
@@teabeastl All FACTS!! You preaching today!
@@teabeastl exactly!!!
@Kitten Brave Perfectly put.
The only thing colder is a man who doesn't listen and refuses to get it together and uses her.
You can’t make people do right by you, but you can choose how often you let them do you wrong.
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💯💯💯💯💯
@@Chr194AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️ ☺️
Now imagine when women dnt listen which they dont lol
Thats so true......I'm done and gone. I left all those years behind me no more memories no more heartache 💔.
Its a beautiful feeling to know you're completely healed 😊 I'm colder 🥶 than an iceberg!!!
Yes, they get plenty of chances before a woman cuts then loose!
Once she cuts loose-you can never join again!
That’s just her finally choosing herself.
I raised my daughter to leave when he fks up the first time. It's not her job to raise a male to be mature or build him up or breathe life into him. The first time he fks up or disrespects you LEAVE and don't look back, NEVER settle and since she been living by this she hasn't deal with struggle love and I love this for my baby
Yes you taught her right, Why do so many women think they should stay through all the BS!! Think about it, men would not stay around to allow you to drag them through the mud.
Very well done
👏🏽
I wish I had a mother with common sense 😕
I love this for the both of you.
You know how heartbreaking it would be to watch the daughter’s you’ve nurtured and loved since birth get broken over and over again by someone undeserving of their love.? My worst nightmare.
I just love his facial expressions, it's a whole story right there lol, as always u make complete sense bless u❤
Facts. My ex’s wonder why I block them and don’t look back. If someone took your heart and tore it to shreds why the Hell would you EVER give them the time of day ever again? Why hurt yourself over some chump? Exactly. Act right and you get treated right.
I taught my sons and their friends, "If you cause a woman to become numb to you, there is nothing you can say or do to change that she's done!". Respect, loyalty and time go a long way.
Daddy needs to teach their sons those lessons.
@E CM As long as the lesson is taught, it doesn't matter who teaches it.
@E CM As a mother, I give knowledge nuggets from a woman perspective! My children are adults now, and my husband (their father) and I raised our children together before he passed away. One thing you should learn is that children receive lessons from their mother and father! A balance of both perspectives is needed for a full understanding of life and interactions between men and women!
@Stephanie L Cowart I agree. If a child can receive any advice, lessons, wholesome words, and encouragement from anyone, it is good. Some people assume fathers are absent when advice comes from a mom/woman.
I also taught my sons what the male relatives in my family were taught,every woman has her own limits,standards & boundaries so make sure you learn the woman you have"..Not all of us want to be"loved on" constantly & we don't want a man in our face every day.Ask what our standards,boundaries etc are then act accordingly.
As a woman, I approve this message.
R Kelly said it better when a woman's Fed up ain't nothing you can do about it
It’s best for any man that I stop respecting to depart from me . The amount of disgust that incubates in the pit of my throat ready to latch onto his audacity activates
No one colder indeed🥶 ... they'll ignore you when you approach them or literally cross the street when they see you coming
😂 I do that , I really wanna curse his ass out , but then I ask my self why just keep it moving ..
That's true‼️
Skip crossing the street. I'll move to the next state if I have to.
Yassss!!! Walk right pass you with a smile 😃 😊
That crossing the street kills them everytime.
An old friend of mine, once said, nobody ever learn their lesson by getting a second chance.
THIS!!!
Powerful
As someone who finally went no contact with a covert narcissist 5 months ago, I really really appreciate you sharing this message!
Thankyou 🙏 💗
This comment right here
💯true When a woman fed up there's nothing you can do.i never come back im gone
The mind leaves before the body follows
When someone teaches you how to be ok with out them it is eye opening
Spot on 💯
Ooooooh yes yes 🙌🏽
Yesssssss 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯 🙏 🙌 👏 ❤️ ☺️
Nothing but facts!
My advice to All young women, Don't give them chances to keep hurting you, if it happens and you address it and they keep doing it, get gone. They know what they are doing and will keep doing it until you get to the breaking point, Break out. Don't look back.
“They know what they’re doing and will keep doing it until you get to the breaking point”
Take no abuse of ANY KIND PERIOD!!!❤️ THY SELF 💕💕💕
Right they are making decisions
Absolutely.. Run & don’t look back
Another mouth full,so TRUE
Sometimes enough is enough
You describe my entire divorce. I gave him 10 years and he couldn’t get it right. Once I let him go, God said, just trust me. Ever since then I have been blessed.
Every door opened💯💯💯Blessed over and abundantly. God showed out 💝💝💝
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, ME 2, #ALMOST 13 YRS OF MARRIAGE 💯💯💯💯
@@aprilcarpenter8830AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯 🙏 🙌 👏
HALLELUJAH 🙌
Amen blessings pouring in 🙏🏾❤️✨
Once I lose those feelings, I don’t think I can ever find them again.
Same I completely forget. People call me cold. I just don't respond well to emotional abuse.
Those feelings need to detached or disconnected from that toxic love/relationship, and connected to a real/faithful love(GOD), then you never give up on Love, and just live your life in forgiveness and understanding, and hope everything else follow
Facts
my toxic trait is that I always warm up again after I go cold. So the cycle never ends
@Roro, right?!?! Done-done.
What he said! 💯 facts. 🎤
That's right. BECAUSE we shouldn't EVEN have to GO through that crap from men to even get there...
My ex is finding this out right now. He's realizing all that I provided not just financially, but emotionally, mentally and spiritually. His life was better with me but he didn't appreciate or respect my presence and now he's feeling my absence and he's being humbled by it.
Good..let him learn that lesson. Surely he will seek out another crutch.
Real shit!
Girl men in these days and time they don't care how much you do for them. They will go find another woman in life and she'll help him out financially, emotional, and spiritual. These men out here don't give a f*** I dated one jus the same way mf don't give a f*** but I didn't supply him Financial that's why he didn't like me that much. I'm not giving a boyfriend husband privileges taking care of his a** for free. 🎤
Pray for him and yourself obviously 😊
@@a-t5380 Are you her ex? You sound bitter
Final chances DO NOT come with warnings! -Rob Hill Sr.
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What R Kelly said ? When a woman fed up it ain’t nothing you can do about it.
Exactly. One of my exs said I had a way of making him feel like he never existed. Out of sight, out of mind.
Facts! My ex-fiance even drove me to the airport. He told me he will give me a month and I will be back. It never happened😂🤣😂
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Your boyfriend 😂
thank you
Legend has it, he's still waiting...lmfao 😆😁😄
Good for you 🙏
What annoys me the most is men will have more respect for their friends, their boss, Their p.o., ECT. And won't cross them once yet do the women that love you dirty. Shits weird.
It’s VERY weird. That why I don’t trust most of them.
That comes from an unhealed inner child and contuining family/generational curses
Crazy! Sad.
Their damn barber too lol
It's crazy especially when you know she is a good woman and they still play around with her. Just crazy!
Truth be told once we are done you no longer exist
In reality she's just giving back the same energy that was given to her. But when the guy is on the receiving end he treats it like it such a tragedy and how could she do this to me.
True we set dates men don't even know about
You are telling the truth!! Whole time playing cool, no change in routine or attitude. Then boom that day comes in my martin voice "I'M OUUUUUT"🤣
@@gianna4471 yup and since they didnt pay attention they now have to pay alimony and child support. These men swear up and down they got played and have been talking shit every since......passport bros enters with there ignorance.
🤣😂🤣 we do lol
Yep!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm doing that right now.
The lesson here is… leave after the first time, unless you want it 100 more times:/
Facts✨
Yup!!! I was always the type to cut ppl off after the 1st time and ppl used to try to shame me for it saying I need to be more forgiving and understanding.. Those are the same ppl who went through so many toxic relationships and now talking about being single and happy.. Meanwhile I found my soulmate and happily engaged .. I refused to waste my years with ppl who show me who they are the first time just to end up 40 yrs old, with numerous failed relationships.. I never stopped believing in love and put myself first and I don’t regret any of it..
Hardest lesson to learn and the say hindsight is 20/20 is a stinging slap in the face.
@@copperamerindian050 Same. I play no games!
Very profound!!
You Nailed It. Don't. Blink.
This man speaks the truth. Don’t push it.
It’s so sad a man will break your heart, hurt your soul with his actions or lack of, and break down your mind over and over again. But when you’ve finally picked yourself up, got your head right, and he can no longer reach your soft side…that’s when they say their heart is broken and you must be with another man. That’s so toxic, unhealthy and sad. The pain wakes you up, and starts to shut everything you felt for him down.
These are the types that want you bonded to them by chains and don't want you doing anything besides waiting on them to grow up or make up their mind. It is indeed, very toxic and wicked to play with people's hearts and minds.
This perfectly describes my breakup. It was like my feelings got absolutely erased and I was just done. Moved on and found the literal man of my dreams and we’re going on 12 years of marriage with two sons. ❤❤❤❤
Beautiful 😍 story I'm glad you did what was right for an am God blessed it. 🙌
Yaaay 🤗 good for you! *God bless 😊
Amen, & congratulations, on God sending you a real one, you deserve to be happy, wishing you many, many more beautiful happy years to come❤❤❤❤❤🥰🥰🥰🥰
I'm so glad for you
YES GIRL!!!
Ive explained it to him in those exact words and he cant even reply even though he is active online everyday. He threw out 17 years. Im gold.
How about one chance, because for me that is my strength. Listen ladies one time that’s your strength.