88 - The Spark, Closure, and Debunking Dating Myths With Britt Frank

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  • Опубліковано 27 лис 2024
  • In a discussion debunking dating myths, neuropsychotherapist Britt Frank and host Sabrina explore how the brain is involved with these false ideas. They challenge the myth that knowing why someone behaves a certain way will fix a relationship, emphasizing the importance of personal emotional responses over external explanations. They also address the misconception that triggers are others' responsibilities, suggesting that personal reactions need self-examination. The idea that being single will solve problems is debunked, encouraging curiosity about triggers instead. The duo highlights that texting doesn’t necessarily indicate relationship intentions, stressing the need for contextual understanding and balanced brain chemistry in early dating stages. Finally, they discuss that people don’t change for others unless it aligns with their core values, and adults can't truly be abandoned but can be left, advocating for personal agency in relationships.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 14

  • @ijustneedmyself
    @ijustneedmyself 4 місяці тому +5

    I swear you keep telling me things I need to hear. Had a brief situationship (I'm not ready for a serious relationship as I was fairly recently widowed). I was so focused on the why of his behavior because I was uncomfortable with the unknown. In reality I actually knew the why because we had several conversations about our pasts. It took me a little to realize it but what I was really doing was trying to control the outcome. I was trying to figure out how **I** needed to behave so he wouldn't ghost me again. After being ghosted for the second time I decided that I can have empathy and understanding for someone AND that I needed to extend that to myself. I had to come to terms with the fact that we were just not compatible and I wasn't going to tolerate certain behavior regardless of the source. I look back at our brief time together and I'm honestly grateful because it helped me see certain unhealthy expectations I had surrounding texting. And your show has reinforced that lesson. Thank you ❤

  • @Rootedcalmco
    @Rootedcalmco 4 місяці тому +2

    Yes. If we are aware of what a spark actually means, it makes it so much easier to still stay centered in the dating process and get to know someone in an emotionally intelligent way. So much of our demise is operating with blinders on. The more we heal, the less we are attracted to the choas and look at healthy people as appetizing, not boring.

  • @v9b23j
    @v9b23j 4 місяці тому +6

    Two take aways from this episode for me are: 1. Stop using people as a drug to experience the addictive highs and lows of a roller-coaster ride (or to regulate your emotions) OUCH! 2. The parenting job as an adult is an inside job. Self parenting and self abandonment is the work, not make sure this person never leaves me. The moment we grow the fuck up, individuate and take sovereignty back to our inner locus of control, that's when we have agency and become empowered.

  • @MishasAdventures
    @MishasAdventures 3 місяці тому +2

    Soooooooo much great stuff in this episode! So many topics were hit on! I’m gonna have to go back and re-watch as I started thinking of things, sorting and processing about various topics… I had to pause and will come back when done sorting though a few things and ready for the next one ! Love your content

  • @mariagoldstein5494
    @mariagoldstein5494 4 місяці тому +2

    Every episode is outstanding and incredibly insightful. Thank you.

  • @soniaaguilerabarba
    @soniaaguilerabarba 3 місяці тому

    Amazing conversation!! ❤

  • @omg-dc9mz
    @omg-dc9mz 4 місяці тому +1

    YAYAYAYAYYAY SAB I LOVE THE UA-cam VERSION

  • @laizvera8637
    @laizvera8637 4 місяці тому

    What an incredible conversation!!

  • @MandyArtGames
    @MandyArtGames 4 місяці тому

    Only a few minutes in, but I love how open and honest yall are.

  • @JanineLetizia-gj9te
    @JanineLetizia-gj9te 4 місяці тому +1

    Awesome advise and episode ❤

  • @brdget23
    @brdget23 3 місяці тому

    Loved this

  • @brdget23
    @brdget23 3 місяці тому

    Thats so like me.I make up stories and it feels so toxic.I actually noted that I feel anxious with every guy I meet then I become avoidant and self sabotage. I realized that I am the problem and need to work on the little girl who had to go through mum’s rejection and never receiving enough daddy love who married someone else followed by the death of both parents.

  • @Supsup7777
    @Supsup7777 2 місяці тому

    You could be the sister of Raw Kristina on UA-cam. You look like sisters!!

  • @Tridevchonki
    @Tridevchonki 4 місяці тому

    Getting uspet every time seeing guests :((( would like to listen to you only