WHO BELONGS IN THE KITCHEN? MEN OR WOMAN? - EP 7 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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  • @AliDawah
    @AliDawah  Рік тому +58

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    • @هيثم-خ2ج
      @هيثم-خ2ج Рік тому +6

      Bring back Mahdi

    • @thebesttruth4659
      @thebesttruth4659 Рік тому +1

      pakistan stop kidnapped and killed innocent Baloch family😔
      May Allah protect innocent Balochistan family😔

    • @somethingelse4916
      @somethingelse4916 Рік тому +2

      As salaamu alaykum...Free mixing plus you allow sisters that dont cover their hair on show!
      Ali your sining plus promoting it! STOP IT!!!!!

    • @SerrvantX
      @SerrvantX Рік тому +3

      ali you are fooling yourself if you think free mixing is halal. I would be in fear of being a dayooth if one of those sisters were my wife. stop normalizing this

    • @mikescott4780
      @mikescott4780 Рік тому +1

      Semen retention is the dumbest idea and serves no point. The clown should have stayed home. Repeating himself over and over and not saying anything.

  • @Adamrevertislam
    @Adamrevertislam Рік тому +629

    I’m a new revert and (English born and raised) I work hard all day every day and my wife is a stay at home mom and house wife she keeps the house clean and cooks for me and the children every day and she is happy to do that even before I reverted, I will happily come in and get the children to bed or feed them if she needs it it’s all about mutual understanding and compromise in my opinion. Allahmdulliah

    • @positiveali9214
      @positiveali9214 Рік тому +14

      Love you brother Adam

    • @Adamrevertislam
      @Adamrevertislam Рік тому +8

      @@positiveali9214 👍🏻👍🏻

    • @Adamrevertislam
      @Adamrevertislam Рік тому +10

      @@aliaziz1145 allahmdulliah so far do good brother

    • @sheik74hamid46
      @sheik74hamid46 Рік тому

      ask your quastions live interactive stream please EFDAWAH channel and HAMZAHS DEN channel and dawahwise CHANNEL on UTUBE 💞💞💞 is live interactive

    • @thecuriousapple
      @thecuriousapple Рік тому +12

      welcome to islam brother! so many people are coming to the truth these days!

  • @esthellakomerl8084
    @esthellakomerl8084 Рік тому +83

    Shakeel seems a nice, intelligent guy. Truly agree with him - it used to be overlooking each others flaws and now it seems like, ignoring the good and focusing on the flaws.

  • @santosdellior6917
    @santosdellior6917 Рік тому +79

    I'm a African American Muslim....and wht I love about these shows in the UK and other Islamic based shows around the world is the Universal aspect of Quran and Sunnah....no matter what the race or Nationality carry out the same Sunnah,speak the same language,and praise the same Creater (Allah) SWA.....it makes my heart smile and my eyes water with pleasure....I thank Allah for choosing me and my children to be Muslim and Everyone else who are on the straight path... Allahu Akbar!!!!! I love my brothers and sisters World Wide

    • @AliSidTex
      @AliSidTex Рік тому +2

      i feel exactly the same way. Thanks for putting it into words.

  • @fatmasaad8719
    @fatmasaad8719 Рік тому +69

    I really liked that brother Shakil got the opportunity to give us some context about his situation and teach us to not be so condeming and try to believe the best about each other. I got a bad first impression of him but in this episode he made my heart soften and cleared his intentions. Also this video was much more islamic and reasonble and compassionate. This is what Young people need to hear. May Allah bless you all❤️

  • @DomDeVille
    @DomDeVille Рік тому +510

    This is one of the reasons I became a Muslim. These women value virtue, femininity, and modesty. Ramadan Mubarak ☪️

    • @mose4319
      @mose4319 Рік тому +10

      May Allah bless you brother, Welcome to the deen and ramadan mubarak

    • @irfanshaikh9390
      @irfanshaikh9390 Рік тому +12

      Please, stay off these online 'dawah' scenes. They will only corrupt. Stick to major scholars who are on the path of the salaf.

    • @DomDeVille
      @DomDeVille Рік тому +21

      @@irfanshaikh9390 not everyone is that easily influenced. Allah blessed me with the ability to think critically and to not allow life to imitate art or entertainment. I thank you for your concern.

    • @Tiringiridium55
      @Tiringiridium55 Рік тому +6

      ​@@irfanshaikh9390 'The PaTH OF THE saLaF'; also known as normative Sunni Islam that 99% of the Ummah follow. Not the path of the 't£rr0ristic bl00d-lust group of MIAW' (read tarikh an Najd and Darus saniya) or any other divisive, isolationist cult that is the Salafi cult. 5 pillars of Islam, 6 pillars of Eman and sincerity of action is all that is needed. Not the self-refuting, contradictory, debate-heavy topic of sifat, which Najdi scholars, themselves, disagree upon. Delving into abstract theology is worthless, especially in today's day and age. Focus on realm issues, you miskeen.

    • @irfanshaikh9390
      @irfanshaikh9390 Рік тому +8

      @@Tiringiridium55 at no point did I say the vast majority of sunni Muslims weren't on the path of the salaf. And at no point did I say, only use Saudi scholars. Imam Hanafi, shafi, malik, and hanbal were followers of the prophet (S) and the first 3 generations.
      The main point was not to use misguidance.
      But you're so driven by hate for your own Muslim brothers, you typed out that insult laden drivel.

  • @nilofarrahmaty6902
    @nilofarrahmaty6902 Рік тому +32

    Assalamu alaikum, I'm an asian girl, I came in Europe 10 years ago when I was 8 and I didn't know how these feminists (actors, musics, shows..) have affected me until I watch your podcast. JazzakaAllah for this beautiful show, may Allah bless you. You are doing such a great job brother Ali may Allah give you the reward, I'm thanking from the bottom of my heart...

  • @djxboss1
    @djxboss1 Рік тому +53

    As brother Shakil said from the Sunna “if you have nothing nice to say it’s better to stay quiet” SubhanAllah ❤️🤲🏽🙏🏽🏆

  • @razer0072073
    @razer0072073 Рік тому +1150

    Ironically, I'm in the kitchen preparing everything for iftar whilst listening to this 😂

  • @abiestrellaflores3444
    @abiestrellaflores3444 Рік тому +58

    Literally amazing podcast. From watching some of the old ones, the viral one, to this one… As a revert Muslim woman, THANK YOU. May Allah bless you all 💕

  • @reyhantimmons-cetin6860
    @reyhantimmons-cetin6860 Рік тому +107

    Great podcast this time guys May Allah bless you
    From my point of view…
    Before I reverted to islam I was a feminist without even realising
    I was a working mother, I went back to work when my son was 3 months old because I wanted to prove I could do it all.
    Guess what - biggest regret of my life! I missed my sons first word, his first steps & I was always stressed trying to find childcare!
    After reverting to Islam I got married elhamdulillah & I worked until we had our first child together, after that I never returned to work. We now have 4 wonderful children subhanAllah I’m a stay at home mother and wife and my husband works away 6 days a week.
    SubhanAllah my husband calls me the tree and our kids are the fruit.
    He kisses my hands after he takes his first bite of the food I made him, he says thank you and he shows love and affection, that is all i need subhanAllah all i need is a little appreciation and it fuels me.
    Having been on both sides, being a non hijabi no muslim, being a non hijabi muslim, being a hijabi muslim, being a working mother and a full time house wife and mother.
    I can honestly say i’ve never felt more content & I gain more respect not just from my husband but from outsiders who see me do what i do, they always say how are you coping so well, how have you not lost your mind with your kids 24/7.
    I do lose it sometimes but I know in my heart that Allah SWT will not burden upon me more than i can bare.
    So i tell myself that yes I’m struggling but Allah SWT has trusted this upon me so I know only I am putting myself down and standing in my own way.
    I will also add that me and my husband fought a lot when he started working away, because all i’d see was him before and after work going out for coffee with friends and me at home with the kids 24/7, I was comparing our tasks and feeling sorry for myself ya Allah forgive me.
    It caused a lot of arguments.
    But Subhanallah I took a step back and realised I was looking for a fight for no reason, that I don’t need coffee and friends every day, I was just jealous!
    But my husband maşaAllah he was a lot more stressed than he let me see, once he opened up to me and we had dialogue, my ego settled and I could see how wrong i was, I apologised and now subhanAllah we have found our middle ground.
    My advise to brothers and sisters out there is , marriage is 2 imperfect people coming together and learning about each other, you’re going to argue, irritate and disagree with each other but you both got to win some and lose some.
    &&& remember always apologise, please never be too proud to say sorry, it really goes a long way.
    May Allah SWT bless you all abundantly!

    • @user-bk9xs3hy7y
      @user-bk9xs3hy7y Рік тому +1

      Ameen MashAllah well said. 🙏

    • @sole008
      @sole008 Рік тому +3

      Manshallah, ask any men who is the strongest woman you know ? he will say his mother. Not because she is a CEO, not because she is a career woman not because she is a celebrity. But because she took care of him because she nurtured him because he have seen her struggle in the home of his father and never abandon her duty nonetheless. I swear I am talking from experience you have made the right choice.

    • @sole008
      @sole008 Рік тому

      @@ldrago6031 there come the feminist trying to brainwash a woman that already has gone through that and understand that there is no point doing that 🤦🏾‍♂️.
      Also cooking and cleaning are not required by Allah but obeying your husband is. Please don't come here spreading your venom at Muslim marriage.

    • @cooljool1
      @cooljool1 Рік тому

      @@ldrago6031 cooking and cleaning are fardh

    • @KBH4
      @KBH4 Рік тому +1

      gaahh you had me in tearss :') so beautiful Ma sha Allah May Allah bless you moree!such a beautiful reminder!! JazakAllahh ❤❤❤❤

  • @mrajiu
    @mrajiu Рік тому +390

    this guy Shakil the guy that cleared the air MashaAllah....really defined the ummah majority of us. May Allah guide him and us all and bless him

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому +5

      He was in fire for people thinking he is supporting Mahdi, but can one please state what did Mahdi say in the podcast that was unreasonable?

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo Рік тому +24

      @@shadmani9687He has no respect for sisters and he’s not using the Quran and Sunnah, just his whims and desires

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому +19

      @@Zazezoo Women asking for a high Mahr that is against the Sunnah. However, it is her whims and desires and it is halal. If women can do that then so can men as long as its not against Islam. So what did he say in the podcast that is against Islam?
      Women cooking for husband is not against Islam. Women pretending to act like as if this is not her obligation to cook and clean when husbands tells her so (one of the sister did that against Mahdi in that Podcast) is against the Quran and Sunnah. And clearly against Islam.

    • @93boxing81
      @93boxing81 Рік тому +3

      @@Zazezoo So cookie are you going to reply to the brother that asked the question? Or is cookie getting cooked by some basic question?

    • @mohamedmohamed-uj5hm
      @mohamedmohamed-uj5hm Рік тому

      No he’s a d******d wasteman revert who said that a muslimah shoodl invite her kafir boyfriend home and he goes in tiktok and says he gets p*** f*** clown he’s on this prodcast because he’s begging it thinking sisters will marry him when he is arrogant and boasts about being able to do zina d***h***d yute

  • @beinspiredbysaaammm
    @beinspiredbysaaammm Рік тому +153

    Bringing brother sirtaj and his wife was positive examples and it might encourage ppl to show love and mercy towards their spouses inshaAllah

  • @saf1999
    @saf1999 Рік тому +450

    Finally some Muslim men and women who are making sense. May Allah bless them all ❤️

    • @kb-gj9lf
      @kb-gj9lf Рік тому +9

      Non productive discussions AGAIN. Muslims the most deprived & most discriminated against demographic in the UK by a mile but these useless pointless discussions that help our Ummah no shape or form take heed? Make it make sense

    • @Zazezoo
      @Zazezoo Рік тому +3

      @@kb-gj9lfIt has to start from our homes, then to the outside world. So these discussions are needed. No matter how baseless they appear to you…

    • @kb-gj9lf
      @kb-gj9lf Рік тому +4

      @@Zazezoo Deprived & Discriminated but ‘who belongs in the kitchen’ discussions need to take place? That delusional view you share is the reason things will never change!

    • @PIXELGamerzXvlogs
      @PIXELGamerzXvlogs Рік тому +2

      @@kb-gj9lf how are muslims discriminated in the UK? I'm muslim but have never faced discrimination for it...

    • @kb-gj9lf
      @kb-gj9lf Рік тому

      @@PIXELGamerzXvlogs I don’t recommend you to travel to towns or villages in England as you will receive a rude awakening of how you a truly perceived.

  • @Princess_Lehlohonolo
    @Princess_Lehlohonolo Рік тому +39

    Listening to this on the 9th April at 02:25 in South Africa, preparing suhoor for my family with a smile on my face

    • @tates4242
      @tates4242 Рік тому +2

      God bless you sister!

  • @salaffiyah.x
    @salaffiyah.x Рік тому +135

    honestly felt for shakil, may الله bless him and keep him firm on the deen💗

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому +6

      Why did he apologise I do not understand. I think the sister bullied him into an apology for even remotely looking like he agreed with Mahdi in one or 2 things.

    • @93boxing81
      @93boxing81 Рік тому +3

      @@Valley6 people came with hate an negativity because he looked like he sided on some topics with a guy that doesnt pander to the female ego. Hence they came with hate. This is why Mahdi will continue to grow. No one can tell these sisters anything.

    • @halimomoremoney1292
      @halimomoremoney1292 Рік тому +1

      @@shadmani9687 Because that Arab sister has some issues and being a Karen for no reason . Why attack the guy who was silent and not the ones talking and laughing? So because his black he should speak up and control other peoples mouth and actions ! She is picking on the wrong group of people!

  • @abdullaheqbal3836
    @abdullaheqbal3836 Рік тому +229

    I absolutely love brother Ali. The amount of patience he has 😭 subhanallah.

    • @Dhuxul9
      @Dhuxul9 Рік тому +14

      I don’t why Ali does these videos lately really just unnecessary feminist and men screaming at each other

    • @benafz
      @benafz Рік тому +7

      @@Dhuxul9 Views akhi. Views and relevance.

    • @GhettoDetective
      @GhettoDetective Рік тому +1

      @@Dhuxul9 Its because the Higher-Ups tell them so.

    • @rubixcube7234
      @rubixcube7234 Рік тому +2

      @@GhettoDetective who

    • @GhettoDetective
      @GhettoDetective Рік тому +1

      @@rubixcube7234 Well it's kinda like a pyramid with an umbrella on top of it.
      From the World Cup Qatar to the Wizards of Najd.😎

  • @resseauxbaby494
    @resseauxbaby494 Рік тому +8

    This podcast is so calm and refreshing from all the other podcasts that yell at eachother and belittle eachother. Thank you❤️

  • @rosekay7090
    @rosekay7090 Рік тому +55

    Brother Michael is the best human being on here MashaAllah. Only 22 years old. What a lovely soul. May Allah protect him and his family ❤

  • @esthellakomerl8084
    @esthellakomerl8084 Рік тому +100

    That brother, sitting next to Ali Dawah is masha Allah, a good man.. With the right balance.. We need more men like him.

    • @urwashahid9210
      @urwashahid9210 Рік тому +18

      True, he is a rare find these days. May Allah bless him and his family. Wish more men were like him. But sadly more men are like Mahdi Tijani these days

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому +15

      @@urwashahid9210 Mahdi didnt say anything bad in the podcasts. Just because your ego is triggered by what he said doesn't mean he is bad.

    • @urwashahid9210
      @urwashahid9210 Рік тому +13

      @@shadmani9687 like I said, more men are like Mahdi these days. You just proved my point.

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому +5

      @@urwashahid9210 Could you please give one point he said that you deem to be bad? Please let it be a logical point and not one of emotions.

    • @urwashahid9210
      @urwashahid9210 Рік тому +4

      @Shadman I can you list one he said that's reasonable? Everything he said was completely unreasonable. He won't lift a finger to help the wife what kind of an idiot is that.

  • @christinesimpson304
    @christinesimpson304 Рік тому +176

    I am not a Muslim, but I love the conversations you have on this podcast!

    • @mchowdhury3184
      @mchowdhury3184 Рік тому +18

      May Allah guide you InshaAllah to Islam

    • @adamhaque9479
      @adamhaque9479 Рік тому +7

      Christine, SISTER MAY ALLAH GUIDE U TO ISLAAM - The straight path of all the Prophets of God Almighty, Ameen"

    • @studyquranmultipletimestoc2560
      @studyquranmultipletimestoc2560 Рік тому +4

      Follow islam the relegion of Jesus pbuh

    • @voiddz8980
      @voiddz8980 Рік тому

      Stay away from islam, religion of immortality

    • @blancojay1698
      @blancojay1698 Рік тому +1

      @@studyquranmultipletimestoc2560 isa is not Jesus

  • @ayeshasattar7694
    @ayeshasattar7694 Рік тому +31

    Glad to know I wasn't the only one who was disappointed about the last podcast, this clears alot of things alhamdulilah. Allah SWT protect us ameen

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 10 місяців тому

      What were you dissapointed with, give clear points.

  • @ukhti.khadeejah
    @ukhti.khadeejah Рік тому +48

    Much better than the last podcast Alhamdulillah. I'm glad things were cleared up & everyone is in agreeance that it's just common sense to help your spouse.
    May Allah bless you all 🤲🏻

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 10 місяців тому

      is it because last podcast there was a guy that refused to pander to the female ego?

  • @V_683
    @V_683 Рік тому +114

    I always thought that working is not that difficult until I started working as a financial auditor. I was so stressed like I was never before. After ten months of stress I quit and alhamdulillah enjoying every moment of my housewife life. After that no housework or looking after my child seem stressful to me. Believe me, workinb in a professional service is not easy and cannot be compared to being in the comfort of your home and cooking or cleaning. I was always enjoying looking after my family but after working myself I started appreciating my husband's efforts waaay more. And nope, looking after household and kids can be physically exhaustinh but it cannot be compared to the mental exhaustion that work gives.

    • @esthellakomerl8084
      @esthellakomerl8084 Рік тому +12

      Well said. I've never worked in an office environment, but my husband does.. And masha Allah, I appreciate him 100%

    • @wilddon5363
      @wilddon5363 Рік тому +11

      I think sisters who work an office job whether that be from home or in office may end up appreciating their husbands even more because they understand the effort it takes, Also I have traditional values however am not opposed to the idea of a married sister working in the office as long as it's in an environment that won't subject her to compromise her Deen there are some good sisters only workplaces out there although rare, having said that though where I have an issue is when some sisters use the fact that they work in office and complain about having to do housework when they can do it out of choice whereas, many Muslim men don't work high stress high paying jobs out of choice it's because it's a Islamic obligation for us to do so.

    • @Muslim_Momma
      @Muslim_Momma Рік тому +9

      I found the opposite true for myself.I had to work full time until my oldest child was two, then stayed home because my husband’s work schedule was erratic. I was much more stressed and exhausted being home full time. When I had two children at home, I found part-time work so I could have a break! I love being a mom, but I could not stay home all the time and keep my sanity. I think we are all different. Kids are different, too. Mine were and are good kids, but we’re very energetic and rarely needed a nap, which meant no break.

    • @Muslim_Momma
      @Muslim_Momma Рік тому +1

      Dream seal
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      I found the opposite true for myself.I had to work full time until my oldest child was two, then stayed home because my husband’s work schedule was erratic. I was much more stressed and exhausted being home full time. When I had two children at home, I found part-time work so I could have a break! I love being a mom, but I could not stay home all the time and keep my sanity. I think we are all different. Kids are different, too. Mine were and are good kids, but were very energetic and rarely needed a nap, which meant no break.

    • @V_683
      @V_683 Рік тому

      @@Muslim_Momma i think it also depends on work. When I was working as a teacher it was not stressful at all, but when I started working in Big4 audit firm it was a nightmare. The level of stress was horrible.

  • @samuelhasan5810
    @samuelhasan5810 Рік тому +5

    I'm always gonna be with my wife and she'll never get sick of me. Being sick of me is being sick of herself. We're 1 and her limbs are my limbs. I'm there by her side and I'll do everything for her and with her.

  • @jamila8166
    @jamila8166 Рік тому +23

    I’m so happy this was released, the last video left me feeling literally sick and left me questioning is this what my religion is and am I the only one that finds this unfair? This panel of sisters were much better in showing the true reality and both sides and not just trying to live up to the opinions of the toxic males on the panel. Thank you so much may Allah bless you all!

    • @samahnasser87
      @samahnasser87 Рік тому +2

      Yes and this one didnt have the mehdi guy

    • @samahnasser87
      @samahnasser87 Рік тому +1

      @@Ya39oub_G it made Muslim men look like pigs in my opinion. Which is sad bc there are so many great Muslim men out there.

    • @BoomarnNu-yz5mq
      @BoomarnNu-yz5mq Рік тому

      Amiin

    • @feefs2139
      @feefs2139 Рік тому +3

      Asalaamualaikum, study Islam thoroughly from a scholar if need be. No video should have you questioning Islam. That just means you need to acquire more knowledge. Allah made Islam perfect, not Muslims.

    • @samahnasser87
      @samahnasser87 Рік тому

      @@feefs2139 beautiful words. Thanks for sharing

  • @mht4450
    @mht4450 Рік тому +9

    Listening to brother Shakeel felt more real, it doesn't feel like it's a social media or internet thing. I agree with the brother on the idea that, if you have nothing good to say, don't speak. I rarely comment on anything online, but Brother Shakeel's words deserved a compliment, I hope brother Ali can convey them to him, from me.

  • @roosworld4910
    @roosworld4910 Рік тому +38

    Masha'Allah you guys are good ecample of how we need to keep open communication to improve relationships. Some conversations are hard to have but once had can develop our mindset and make room for positive growth.

  • @Shoryuken_87
    @Shoryuken_87 Рік тому +13

    I feel so bad for brother Shakil. Glad he got to say his peice. People will just nit pick at anything and only shows the sickness thats in their own heart.
    When I watched that episode with Mahdi I was genuinely admiring brother Shakil for his silence as it shows hes not speaking for the sake of it. Silence is a sign of dignity

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 10 місяців тому

      He said he didn't speak because he would be labelled a mysogynist. He also stated that men should not have to debate with a woman if the woman has to cook or not.

  • @rashidafarah3220
    @rashidafarah3220 Рік тому +137

    Cooking, looking after kids, washing clothes, mobing house, that's my job as a muslim somali woman❤😊

    • @shakila5674
      @shakila5674 Рік тому +34

      Yes sister but there is no shame in having your Husband help you out when you really need it . If the messenger of Islam did it why can’t your husband do the same to get more reward from Allah azzawajal. The purpose of marriage ultimately is to win the pleasure of Allah not to say cooking and cleaning and kids are your job as a Somalian women.

    • @jamaalshaikh122
      @jamaalshaikh122 Рік тому +6

      ​@@shakila5674 that's a given but the responsibility falls on her not him

    • @shakila5674
      @shakila5674 Рік тому +9

      @@jamaalshaikh122 yes because men don’t have the mental capability to care and have patience the way women do in the house . I don’t think you got my point . I said men should help around a little and their is no shame for men to help their wife and kids

    • @jamaalshaikh122
      @jamaalshaikh122 Рік тому +5

      @@shakila5674 yes he should but if he is breaking his back all week and she is at home where she has been nice and comfortable and cosy, should she really expect him to work around the house? Is that reasonable?

    • @aeshaosman2567
      @aeshaosman2567 Рік тому +17

      ​@@jamaalshaikh122 sister i dont know what house you have been living in but in my house the work never ends. And I have worked outside in order to help my family as well both at the same time. So I have done both sides of the argument. A man's work ends when he comes home. When does a woman's? The children and cleaning and cooking never ends. On top of this she needs to find time to commit to her deen. You are oversimplifying a ladys situation in the home.

  • @Eziopct
    @Eziopct Рік тому +18

    Brother Michael is wise for his age. May Allah bless him, his wife and his Nan

  • @aa-fw2pw
    @aa-fw2pw Рік тому +6

    I'm a woman and I love being in my kitchen
    Cooking healthy delicious meals for the people I love - what's not to love?

    • @aa-fw2pw
      @aa-fw2pw Рік тому

      @blue_594 that's very judgemental of you. I am actually a teacher and I have been working for about 16 years ever since I was a teenager. I have always loved cooking, I actually find it very therapeutic

  • @Nrr97
    @Nrr97 Рік тому +14

    Shakeel expressed himself really well! THE NIQABI SPOKE NOOOO LIES 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 well done for articulating herself so well, Ma Sha Allah ❤

  • @Boot_14
    @Boot_14 Рік тому +57

    22 year old broski Sat, listened, then spoke. He said it perfectly. Big up. Big up to all the nani's.

    • @GlassmindProject
      @GlassmindProject Рік тому +3

      Thank you ma bro, I appreciate it

    • @Unknownperson-ob7fu
      @Unknownperson-ob7fu Рік тому

      ​@@GlassmindProject assalamualaikum brother wow subhanallah you have so much attractive personality wow, and you are so much mature I am 2 yrs older than you and not even have 20 percent of your personality wow may Allah bless you ❤

  • @dirilisert8223
    @dirilisert8223 Рік тому +19

    May Allah bless brother Shakil
    He clarified himself, showed his maturity and dignity and did not throw Mahdi under the bus but showed honourably his disagreement

    • @mohamedmohamed-uj5hm
      @mohamedmohamed-uj5hm Рік тому

      He’s a f*** wasteman he’s been trying it with so many sisters hes a d***h***d

  • @lindadarghous
    @lindadarghous Рік тому +18

    As Muslims we do so much damage to the perception of our religion by nitpicking fellow Muslims. As a revert (41 years now), I have experienced Muslim communities in Lebanon, Saudi Arabia and Malaysia and found that there is so much less criticism of our brothers and sisters when living in a Muslim society. In the West it is much harder to find the right balance between social norms and living an Islamic lifestyle; which is why Western Muslims should focus on supporting each other rather than looking for real or imaginary faults.

  • @Nrr97
    @Nrr97 Рік тому +13

    Shakeel had expressed himself really well! THE NIQABI SPOKE NOOO LIES 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Straight factssssss!!! May Allah bless her and continue to strengthen her in her knowledge and speech. Ameen

  • @fizzy4266
    @fizzy4266 Рік тому +10

    Brother Michael 👏👏. Spoken wisely after waiting his turn.
    I also love sister Soul. She spits facts. May Allah guide us all. Ameen.

  • @لؤلؤلطيف-ظ2ق
    @لؤلؤلطيف-ظ2ق Рік тому +5

    I HATE it when my husband does housework, I can't lie. He enjoys ironing and I don't mind that as I hate it BUT anything else? Drives me up the wall, why? Because that's MY job and I take great pride in that. The same way I expect him to enjoy providing for me and our childre. I like to ensure the roles are crystal clear.

  • @ab5613
    @ab5613 Рік тому +13

    Brother Shakeel, so pleased you clarified your stance, I know from experience how it feels to be misunderstood. People always misunderstand me too. Although, that comes from their own selves as you were speaking English, they choose to misunderstand and not think better of their Muslim brother. I hope that you have not lost hope in your Muslim brothers and sisters as we are not all quick to judge.

    • @93boxing81
      @93boxing81 5 місяців тому

      What was he misunderstood to be and why? Is it because he looked like he sided with Mahdi? What did Mahdi say that was bad and how did iyu determine that is bad?

  • @021guest
    @021guest Рік тому +13

    I have worked for 20 years (11 years of my married life) because I have to...I use leave home before my husband, on my way back home do the shopping for cooking, come home cook meal, clean,. contribute to bill.
    Husband - goes to work, comes home, eats and relaxes.
    Now on maternity leave, still do shopping (online shopping so contributing financially), cook, clean and look after baby...there is no rest...24hrs literally
    Husband - works from home, has time to go out with friends like he is still living the single life..
    There is a lot of conversation and noise, but no one is going back to the examples of the prophets and companions...

    • @ucyyesra
      @ucyyesra Рік тому

      Salam aleykom. Good for you if it suits you. Im a stay at home mom and for me working and doing mum stuff at home would be exausting.May Allah bless your family.

    • @021guest
      @021guest Рік тому +3

      @@ucyyesra - I'd rather stay home and focus on my child and home life....but financially the husband wants me back at work....

    • @ucyyesra
      @ucyyesra Рік тому

      @@021guest may Allah reward you and give you strength

    • @karimabelhajla5976
      @karimabelhajla5976 Рік тому +2

      If you had to work and your husband didn't help it's a bit selfish from your husband. It's good to help your wife esoecially if she just had a baby. I hope he changes but hmdl that you can stay at home now.

    • @cooljool1
      @cooljool1 Рік тому +1

      lol, you're not climbing mount Everest here. none of that takes 24 hours.

  • @fatimasuccess07
    @fatimasuccess07 Рік тому +49

    Shakeel is on point👍👌👌

  • @fayhay3057
    @fayhay3057 Рік тому +35

    MashaaAllah to my somali sister Suad, she is dropping some real gems that needed to be heard! So proud that she is representing for us all! Please bring her back on inshaaAllah

  • @anfahnoor9054
    @anfahnoor9054 Рік тому +34

    Somali sisters are very clean, cooks really well and are very strong women when it comes to tarbia May Allah bless our sisters.

  • @esthellakomerl8084
    @esthellakomerl8084 Рік тому +18

    So true, Ali Dawah. The rate of divorce is sky rocketing. May Allah SWT grant our youth the ability to remain patient, respectful and oversee each others flaws, and maintain relations.

    • @fmacauley4622
      @fmacauley4622 Рік тому

      The saying goes unfortunately • we’ve made marriage hard & divorce easy • may ALLAH Help us in this. Aameen

    • @natasjavisuals5523
      @natasjavisuals5523 Рік тому

      Ameen

    • @blueflame3531
      @blueflame3531 Рік тому

      G I wonder why 😂😂😂

  • @wardam1711
    @wardam1711 Рік тому +7

    Allahu Barik Shakil, your authenticity is so refreshing and encouraging 👏👏

  • @tanha2097
    @tanha2097 Рік тому +25

    I'm an afghan man living in the USA I'm in love with your show brother Ali you opening the eyes of those who don't have Islamic knowledge It's so amazing that have amazing sister here to give their own idea may Allah bless you ALL 🤲

    • @Cleanwhitebeige95
      @Cleanwhitebeige95 Рік тому

      @@hashbrown4me those are Arabs honey not us but you know what can’t make any promises 😂😂I actually love actually doing it personally

    • @NoName-fv5oo
      @NoName-fv5oo 11 місяців тому

      @@Cleanwhitebeige95actually the guy with a beard is a pashtun from Pakhtunkwa

    • @Cleanwhitebeige95
      @Cleanwhitebeige95 11 місяців тому

      @@NoName-fv5oo no wonder the most hypocrites lol my mom always debates these Taliban pashtoon living in Democracy breathing democratic air and lecturing about Taliban and how they are great ahhaha no wonder the west hates us ! I’m Afghan and despise these ppl

  • @muhammadislam4640
    @muhammadislam4640 Рік тому +68

    Honestly, I feel like this is a very online issue. People online from both sides love to argue from both extremes and they can go on forever. Everyone I know who is married don't have this argument between husband and wife about who should do what and "you should do this" or "I don't have to do that". I genuinely believe the people online arguing over this stuff are younger brothers who aren't married and feminist sisters who are also not married and they are all speaking from their extreme idealistic point of view. I have yet to see a couple who love each other and have their lives in order argue over this matter.

    • @AbuAbdullahAlHanbali
      @AbuAbdullahAlHanbali Рік тому +1

      السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
      This topic can be tackled better and I believe this podcast or discussion is not the best way for it
      الله أعلم
      And you are correct in your saying that most of these people are speaking with their whims and desires and they have no knowledge at all and they are spewing their ignorance that becomes widespread.
      Once you stick to the Kitab And Sunnah everything becomes clear. Once you deviate from it you don’t have guidance nor will you find peace.

    • @abz4674
      @abz4674 Рік тому +7

      This is the comment I was looking for and what I have also observed from married couples. The online arguments honestly make me scared if getting married.

    • @tbouni
      @tbouni Рік тому +4

      Unfortunately that is what I thought as well, until I experienced it myself in a introduction process with a potential wife. This affected me badly.

    • @ismailahmed2501
      @ismailahmed2501 Рік тому +8

      You would be surprised. You havent experienced the reality.

    • @youtubeuser2579
      @youtubeuser2579 Рік тому +1

      @@ismailahmed2501 exactly..why is divorce so high even amongst muslims if this is exclusively an online problem? idealistic thinking

  • @axis2312
    @axis2312 Рік тому +19

    ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “Do not think badly of a word uttered by your brother, when you can find a good interpretation for it.”

  • @abiestrellaflores3444
    @abiestrellaflores3444 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for protecting a sister and telling the trolls to be gone! May Allah bless you as well ❤️

  • @2ummis
    @2ummis Рік тому +31

    I am so proud of this panel for clearing the air about a certain content creator and his message. The youth need to be protected. May Allah swt protect you all and elevate your status in this life and the next. Ameen.

    • @93boxing81
      @93boxing81 Рік тому +1

      Give one point Mahdi stated in the podcast with Ali Dawah, that you have a probelms with. Mahdi is very needed for the Muslim youths.

    • @artsybluecat
      @artsybluecat Рік тому +2

      Mahdi is there just to make money on weak people’s vulnerabilities

    • @93boxing81
      @93boxing81 Рік тому +1

      @@artsybluecat Give proof of this. Slander against a Muslim without proof will result you being sinful in the day of judgement.

    • @OnePunchMuslim
      @OnePunchMuslim Рік тому +3

      ​@@93boxing81they can't give any. Lol. They're just doing the bandwagon fallacy.

    • @hxyzazolchak
      @hxyzazolchak Рік тому

      Where are the women refuting the toxic feminists destroying Muslim community.

  • @freedomPalestine23
    @freedomPalestine23 Рік тому +4

    I recently added a comment onto a video stating that basically a woman can work behind the scenes to make her man great and hold down the forte and that makes her great, his reflection is her reflection and visa versa.
    I had to delete the comment because I got some female sending me a patronising comment as if I'm a wounded bird and can't think and feel for myself.
    She is telling me how I feel, that I feel worthless and I need to have more faith in myself to be great on my own and get out there and make my own greatness because I shouldn't stand behind a man and support a man behind the scenes. She said that men don't need us to make them great, they are great all on their own.
    I was disgusted at the fact that some stranger, who doesn't know me, seems to think she knows how I feel deep down and can't accept the fact that not all women are feminists and not all women see the need to compete for materialism and meaningless things, forsaking the real reason they are here and not all women hate men.
    For me, I've worked full time before and been at home doing everything for my family and beyond and I believe, going out to work for a female, put the kids in childcare to be raised by people with different ideologies and then complain about them being brainwashed. It's is so much easier than staying at home holding down the forte whilst her man's away. Being a real housewife is the hardest job on the planet. It's a huge world you have to take care of just inside the home environment and that includes the backyard and front yard if you have one and if you work from home or you also help with the husband business.
    The point is, don't belittle women who actually care for their families and men and want to hold down the forte when their men are away and are proud of that.
    Remember for those Muslim women, in Islam we are told it is a wife's job to take care of her husband's assets when he is away. This is clear and you and the kids and everything he has worked for is his assets.
    If you feel that you need to be a feminist and stand against your roles as a woman, then question yourself as to why and if it doesn't benefit your afterlife and give you reward from Allah, then why are you doing it? We will all die and if you have focussed on materialism and putting others under you, may Allah have mercy on your soul.

  • @catecolamain
    @catecolamain Рік тому +4

    I saw the panel, and I was hesitant to open the video. But I am so happy that did! Thank you for talking about what happened before. I don't want to mention it. But thank you for fixing the mistakes that happened. Allah bless you all.

  • @asiyanyasiri4219
    @asiyanyasiri4219 Рік тому +21

    I want to be a traditional wife when I get married. But most men nowadays want an independent woman. 🙄
    I have been working since I was 19 and I want to put the effort in my future family.
    In Shaa Allah, anyone who reads this, make dua for me to get a good husband.

    • @soeih8864
      @soeih8864 Рік тому

      im 23 y/o do you have discord or insta because i want a traditional wife

    • @user-74856
      @user-74856 Рік тому

      Most men don't want "independent women" ........STOP LYING!

    • @NaveedKhan-bs1sc
      @NaveedKhan-bs1sc Рік тому

      Most men still want traditional women we just can't say we do because we will be branded toxic masculinity.

    • @Augustin87
      @Augustin87 Рік тому +3

      I don't know of any males in my circle looking for "independent women" who won't stop reminding you of how much they don't need you. That's not a majority of men.

    • @asiyanyasiri4219
      @asiyanyasiri4219 Рік тому +2

      @@Augustin87 then your circle is good. Kudos to you all. MashaAllah Tabarakallah

  • @esthellakomerl8084
    @esthellakomerl8084 Рік тому +54

    Overall, a better panel, this time. Alhamdullillah. The sister who said that mahdi gives power to the men who think like him, is so spot on. Well said, sister. And the sister, who called mahdi, dangerous is also not exaggerating. He is impressionable on young minds. Many Muslim boys don't have role models and God forbid, they take mahdi as their role model.

    • @GokuBlack-sn5dr
      @GokuBlack-sn5dr Рік тому +8

      and who are the role models for the sisters? I will wait.

    • @icecoldcousin3617
      @icecoldcousin3617 Рік тому +2

      @@GokuBlack-sn5dr they are actually quite respectful

    • @esthellakomerl8084
      @esthellakomerl8084 Рік тому +2

      @@GokuBlack-sn5dr, you tell me. In my life, the Prophet pbuh, and good people around me, such as my parents or inspirational people who work hard to follow their deen.

    • @muhammadomar1319
      @muhammadomar1319 Рік тому +7

      How conveniant to just refute someone who is not even there to defend himself.

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому +6

      @@icecoldcousin3617 Sisters didnt even watch Mahdis podcast with Ali Dawah, and made assumptions about what he said and called him a dangerous liar. Sisters here are triggered, and brothers should have checked her for being disrespectful of a man who you didn't even see the full videos off. Give one point Mahdi made that was bad in that podcast?

  • @envynae486
    @envynae486 Рік тому +4

    I’m not Muslim but watching these podcast open my eyes ! ❤

  • @kaneki4087
    @kaneki4087 Рік тому +50

    Good on Shakil for coming, may Allah keep him firm, and all the muslimeen. Islam today has many faces and like the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam said it will split into 73 sects.

  • @JarJarBinkz68
    @JarJarBinkz68 Рік тому +110

    Mahdi watching this in a dark room while eating popcorn and laughing at all the chaos he caused last episode 😂😂🤣😂

    • @uzairkhan1080
      @uzairkhan1080 Рік тому +20

      Ppl Acc love it when mahdi comes secretly. The engagement of vids without mahdi is so less and boring to be frank.

    • @youtubeuser2579
      @youtubeuser2579 Рік тому +30

      @@uzairkhan1080 he's the only man who has the cojones to speak out against feminism and hold his position like an army defends its fort...all the other men are too cowardly even ali dawah is a fence sitter...this is why he will keep growing

    • @uzairkhan1080
      @uzairkhan1080 Рік тому +9

      @@youtubeuser2579 I see no lies

    • @AbuAbdullahAlHanbali
      @AbuAbdullahAlHanbali Рік тому

      @@youtubeuser2579delusion…

    • @moonandstar1991
      @moonandstar1991 Рік тому

      ​@@youtubeuser2579 nah you are just another Mahdi simp. It isn't what Mahdi said, but more so the way he said it. No man of Qur'an and Sunnah talks about women in such a degrading manner. He speaks about women without any compassion or kindness. As if they are his slaves to command...and that is the problem. You just found an excuse to justify your own unjust mentality in regard to women through Mahdi which is why you have described him as a hero. The best of you and the ones who are good to their wives is what the hadith described. We all have our roles in the home, but without respect and compassion...the days are numbered.

  • @jonmiller6727
    @jonmiller6727 Рік тому +20

    Much respect to brother Shakeel man

  • @fayezakamal3778
    @fayezakamal3778 Рік тому +2

    There are times when a husband who has time on the weekend will sit and find fault with anything at the home. Then hearing 'do I have to do everything?' is very discouraging.

  • @amk210
    @amk210 Рік тому +8

    25:20 but you are both working! If women are taking care of children AND home, this is a full time 24/7 365 days a year job. She is doing MUCH, MUCH, MUCH more than the man, who is working 8 or even 16 hours a day, with weekends, and annual leave. In a functional household, EVERYONE HAS TO pitch in and do their part in the house. It’s our house, not just the woman’s and taking care of it is the family’s role, even the children.

    • @cooljool1
      @cooljool1 Рік тому

      what garbage. stop bitching about having to do your duties

  • @Samiiiii
    @Samiiiii Рік тому +26

    I don’t believe these podcasts are beneficial for the ummah. The fact of the matter is that the prompts for all the episodes aren’t black and white, they’re grey. To assume these dialogues will help the Muslim couple next door in their personal affairs, when in reality, it’s all based upon subjectivity and personal experiences (to and extent). Muslim men shouldn’t be taking from Mahdi and use him to justify their behavior while the same applies to sisters taking from feminist niqabis and projecting onto their own marriage. These conversations need to be held privately.

    • @AbuAbdullahAlHanbali
      @AbuAbdullahAlHanbali Рік тому +1

      السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
      Correct Akhi
      May Allah reward you and give you ease
      I have commented the same thing many times on how these issues fade away when one reads the Quran and sunnah and people still want to neglect it. Astagfurallah

    • @orebrh562
      @orebrh562 Рік тому +2

      I agree bro

    • @irfanshaikh9390
      @irfanshaikh9390 Рік тому +1

      You could argue this case for an overwhelming majority of 'Dawah' today. Best to stick major scholars.

    • @supawithdacream5626
      @supawithdacream5626 10 місяців тому

      it's all to generate views and arguments in the comment section fuel the algorithm

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 10 місяців тому

      What behaviour did Mahdi display that was bad?

  • @fatimasuccess07
    @fatimasuccess07 Рік тому +19

    1:05:17 shakeel may Allah bless the words that are coming from ur mouth!! Wallahi u are right

  • @saimabi2268
    @saimabi2268 Рік тому +4

    This is so refreshing to hear this time round. The last discussion stirred more bad than good. It was refreshing to see brother shakil clarify everything just goes to show how much people really pin point things. Mashallah so amazing, very good points highlighted. Please do more discussions like this and be wise in the candidates that join the show. After all, the public do get ‘influenced’ to a certain degree.
    One tip: please don’t talk over one another, it wastes precious time. Jzk!

  • @vcrossCelticfc
    @vcrossCelticfc Рік тому +15

    My husband is a chef, he cooks, I clean.

    • @yahyehyusuf1969
      @yahyehyusuf1969 Рік тому +6

      Rip to him

    • @RmonK2000
      @RmonK2000 Рік тому +8

      You won😂

    • @mufasahm8238
      @mufasahm8238 Рік тому +4

      ​@Yahyeh Yusuf stop it

    • @sayeeed1303
      @sayeeed1303 Рік тому +1

      Do you share the bills?

    • @urfave5605
      @urfave5605 Рік тому

      She said he cooks and I clean 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @adibasiddiqui4387
    @adibasiddiqui4387 Рік тому +11

    My dad after his marriage had shifted his bangle manufacturing unit to our home so the first and the ground floor was completely occupied to his unit and on the second floor our family used to live . I remember the time when workers from pakaging section were less amd the work load was too much to handle . It was my mother who used to go down stairs to help my dad while he was alone working their she used to help him while the workers were absent , but she never said its not my job I'm a women i must just cook n clean . Why can't married couple just work as a team and help each other . In case if husband have to travel long distance for his work , its alright for his wife to take all home responsibilities on herself and the other member of the team i.e the husband can just earn the bread .simple.

  • @Leila-hd3vp
    @Leila-hd3vp Рік тому +32

    please dont interrupt each other so much brothers and sisters... may Allah swt bless you all

  • @siddiqah89
    @siddiqah89 Рік тому +12

    I agree with the men here , fathers are so undermined.
    All I hear nowadays is how much women do.....

  • @fahmuu_x
    @fahmuu_x Рік тому +18

    I loved the Somali sister’s character ❤

  • @roosworld4910
    @roosworld4910 Рік тому +11

    Comparison is the killer of joy. Stop comparing JOBS. Start appreciating each other. I don't have anything more to say to this topic. It gets silly and people focus on things that does not matter. Find problems when there needs not be.
    You reach a point in life where all that noise doesn't matter and being right doesn't matter. If you think you know better, then be a good example with the way you lead your life and build your home. Period.

  • @imanbenamar8978
    @imanbenamar8978 Рік тому +4

    Love this ❤ its nice to hear all sides

  • @ahmedalmahdi9254
    @ahmedalmahdi9254 Рік тому +60

    If being a housewife is so difficult and being the breadwinner is so easy, why don't I see any women aspiring to be the sole provider for their homes? They always seem to adopt the boss babe mentality in their 20's and swiftly discard it in their early 30's when they realize how daunting of a prospect it is to be working full time until retirement age which is around their 60's. Providing truly is the thankless job, not being a stay at home wife.

    • @zakiaitslimane658
      @zakiaitslimane658 Рік тому +7

      Brother dont bother i guess nowadays staying single as a man is better you might not complete your iman but at least you will have peace(ironically what mariage is)by yourself
      All i want is Come home after work to a loving affectionate and devoted wife and find a good homemade meal on the table but with all this cobativeness coming from women i dont think i will ever get that so i quit althought im only 19 i would rather be on my own taking care of my parents and family when i eventually work than getting married to a woman Who is unwilling to give me my peace in return of me providing for her by wanting to work or seek a carreer

    • @blueflame3531
      @blueflame3531 Рік тому

      Yep.

    • @zakiaitslimane658
      @zakiaitslimane658 Рік тому +1

      @@floki5182 i know fam im studying right now and focusing on myself by having hobbies (going to the gym ect) but its too much to go abroad i dont live in the West i Live in north africa but even there women want to work and seek carreers so no thanks i dont mind being alone

    • @What-do-you-want824
      @What-do-you-want824 Рік тому

      💯

    • @ghurabaa114xx
      @ghurabaa114xx Рік тому +6

      Hmm....that's made me a little emotional tbh reading that, I guess both are thankless jobs.. but the brothers one is talked about a lot less which makes it worse I guess. SubhanAllah our fathers...took the stress & strain of the whole house on thier shoulders & got on with it quietly with little to no notice... may Allah bless them with jannah with endless flowing streams Aameen yaa Rabbil Arshil Adheem 💕🤲

  • @editscooledits
    @editscooledits Рік тому +23

    Mashallah Ali always makes the best videos

  • @Shin_Akumi
    @Shin_Akumi Рік тому +21

    If your wife is hungry or your kids are hungry, u will feed them. That is being a good father and husband and muslim. Doesn't mean it will be just your job, its part of the contract u have with God and your wife, u wouldn't let them starve just because women belong in the kitchen mentality lol
    I mean, its men who run the restaurants and kebab shops, so obviously men can be in the kitchen. We are also in a new age where machines do the hard work, its a bad excuse why you can't cook for yourself or others.

    • @muhammadmafaz8530
      @muhammadmafaz8530 Рік тому +1

      Why she needs to starving if she can cook while her husband working out

    • @lr88xx
      @lr88xx Рік тому +2

      yes bro, thank u! just like my husband he cooks for me & kids once in a while when i dont do it.

    • @abbkdabbs
      @abbkdabbs Рік тому +3

      @@muhammadmafaz8530 she's starving cause there is no food lol

    • @Shin_Akumi
      @Shin_Akumi Рік тому +7

      @@muhammadmafaz8530 she could be sick or flu, there is the factor of love, if u love someone, why would u watch them starve? If my grandma is hungry, ill make her a sandwich lol shes my grandma. Sometimes if just a good act to do a kindness. Its what God wants, treat others how u want to be treated brother.

    • @ZiggieChamp
      @ZiggieChamp Рік тому

      @@Shin_Akumi Your argument isn't valid because you are pointing out a specific situation where someone is ill or tired. But generally speaking if the husband goes to work it is reasonable for the spouse (housewife( to cook and clean. Now the husband may do it out of love once in a while but it shouldn't be expected. We already have hadith saying that the spouse have role of taking care of house, end of discussion. This is only a issue because of western feminist Muslims. I have never encountered this in a muslim country.

  • @engineeringforlife1367
    @engineeringforlife1367 Рік тому +13

    I cook more than my wife does. I love cooking and I also try to give her some rest since her job is more tiring than mine . We compliment each other.

    • @Somalidoc321
      @Somalidoc321 Рік тому +3

      May Allah reward you! Such a kind Man

    • @engineeringforlife1367
      @engineeringforlife1367 Рік тому +2

      @Julia Roberts Thank you, sister! That's how it's supposed to be. The husband and wife should not wait for each other to start working on something, but unfortunately, most muslim men are so macho, and they pick and choose the duties they see fit for them, which was the case with my dad. I've learned from my parents' mistakes, and Handullah, we barely have any argument my wife and I. Ramadan Kareem.

    • @j86485
      @j86485 Рік тому

      @@engineeringforlife1367 That's up to you if you want to. But the wife obeys the husband and the man provides and protects his family as Allah has commanded. What you're doing isn't haram as you're just helping out as you see fit

  • @Expressonims
    @Expressonims Рік тому +1

    this eppiissoodddee

  • @northernstar239
    @northernstar239 Рік тому +22

    This is one of the most wholesome podcast in the bitter truth show🥹🫧🫶

  • @WorkingWithMonkeys
    @WorkingWithMonkeys Рік тому +33

    1. I watched the previous full podcast however I did not help but laugh at Mahdi as well. I can not believe people were getting upset at the whole cast. I am very happy Shakil cleared the assumptions so he does not get any backlash. I feel like now everyone has to put a "Disclaimer" at every given moment of conversation especially when you are on a Podcast ( Which I notice Ali doing, bravo) I appreciated the sisters speaking on the importance of holding women in a high regard when speaking about them.
    2. Both sides answered the header question very classily and brought up some good points.
    3. Finally, as the sister said, Ali can bring ANY guest he wants but the point is to have a meaningful debate and ask challenging questions and when you disagree make it shown by actions or words during the conversation.

    • @farahmohamed895
      @farahmohamed895 Рік тому +3

      Wallahi facts people get triggered too easily nowadays

    • @Kay-vn7vo
      @Kay-vn7vo Рік тому

      I completely agree with you, I watched the last podcast and I found him hilarious, gosh don’t people know what humour is anymore. And the Muslims getting so offended by everything anyone says, can’t anyone say anything it’s their own opinion.

  • @shadmani9687
    @shadmani9687 Рік тому +8

    The sister stated men in the past did harder work. However, same for the women. Women have more kitchen appliances than before. Why is this not addressed?

    • @MartinMalmy
      @MartinMalmy Рік тому +1

      Washing machine, dryer, dishwasher, stove, vacuum cleaner etc etc etc.

    • @blueflame3531
      @blueflame3531 Рік тому +1

      Because she's salty. 🧂

  • @shadiabashir7666
    @shadiabashir7666 Рік тому +4

    I liked sis su'ad coz she is so calm and her points are clear❤

  • @farhiyaabdi3502
    @farhiyaabdi3502 Рік тому +41

    In my somali culture no NEGOTIATION and dicussion about cooking and cleaning when you get married it is a prerequisite to get married .and its abeautiful thing i enjoy it😊

    • @abdiwadudmaalim38
      @abdiwadudmaalim38 Рік тому +12

      I never saw a somali man cooking unless he's young yet cooking for his mum
      May Allah bless our girls 👧 💖 ❤

    • @MarwaAhmed-ni3tw
      @MarwaAhmed-ni3tw Рік тому +1

      Let be fr Iam somali too born and raise in somaliland so are you trying somali man cooks

    • @MarwaAhmed-ni3tw
      @MarwaAhmed-ni3tw Рік тому

      @@abdiwadudmaalim38 Ameen wllo

    • @abdiwadudmaalim38
      @abdiwadudmaalim38 Рік тому

      @@MarwaAhmed-ni3tw 😁

    • @HamdushMohamed1
      @HamdushMohamed1 Рік тому

      That's right 😊

  • @fakiyasalim2038
    @fakiyasalim2038 Рік тому +56

    Kitchen is women responsible, but if husbands want to help their wives that’s up to them also amazing.

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 Рік тому

      Kitchen is a human beings responsibilities , no one wants to marry a fetus

    • @5.shayan.589
      @5.shayan.589 Рік тому +9

      I respectfully disagree with you . I don’t think it’s only there responsibility…

    • @raeesbismilla7171
      @raeesbismilla7171 Рік тому +7

      @@5.shayan.589 what is a woman's responsibility?

    • @IshaJha-m7u
      @IshaJha-m7u Рік тому +2

      @@raeesbismilla7171Childbirth,which is the most diiificult task in itself.Thats why paradise lies in feet of mothers
      Would you like to experience the pain and trouble women go through for months for this

    • @raeesbismilla7171
      @raeesbismilla7171 Рік тому +15

      @elton dias is that the only responsibility she has has in marriage?

  • @ruweidak3158
    @ruweidak3158 Рік тому +74

    Please bring back the Somali sister. She is full of wisdom Allahuma barik

  • @GoatEditzOfficial
    @GoatEditzOfficial Рік тому +11

    35:20 with all due respect that one lady who is wearing a niqab should have more respect. That one brother was explaining the situation and she interrupts for the 3rd time saying "Can you clear up". Like sister be quiet let the man finish. He even got pissed and told her to stop interrupting let me finish. Ali brother please tell her show more adab next time to someone talking. She kept interrupting like she is the center attention here. Again with all due respect

    • @sistersoul5787
      @sistersoul5787 Рік тому +4

      I agree and already apologised to the brother for that
      I was extremely tired and didn’t realise the mic were on all the time
      But your right that’s on me and I apologise
      Ps if you watch the other podcast you can see this episode was more difficult and I really wanted everyone to take accountability inshALLAH
      And today am taking accountability about my behave that day .

    • @GoatEditzOfficial
      @GoatEditzOfficial Рік тому +2

      @@sistersoul5787 Its all good sister may Allah bless you. We are human we are meant to make mistakes. But what is important is learning from our mistakes.

  • @simonesimone1101
    @simonesimone1101 Рік тому +2

    Somali sister is amazing she talks so softly and has an amazing character ❤

  • @glowstickdrag1967
    @glowstickdrag1967 Рік тому +12

    I love this podcast and all the pious brothers and sisters on it mashallah. Brother Shaqil is a good chap

  • @maryamsusahou1053
    @maryamsusahou1053 Рік тому +21

    Definitely one of the best Podcasts that you did Ali. May Allah bless all of you ❤

  • @saira7097
    @saira7097 Рік тому +3

    1:12:17 There is a key difference between the role of a man vs the role of a woman in Islam which I feel like was completely missed in this video. Islamically, it is a man role to provide. Islamically, it is not a woman's job to 'cook' and 'clean' specifically. This is why the women are able to complain about men not helping in the house whilst men can't complain about women not contributing to rent.

    • @naimam8212
      @naimam8212 Рік тому +1

      Exactly, this is also why women feel under-appreciated bc they According to islam aren’t obligated to cook and clean yet they do it anyway.

    • @retrogamingfrenzy2373
      @retrogamingfrenzy2373 Рік тому

      ​@@naimam8212 but in Islam they are devotedly obedient to their husbands meaning if their husband said cook or clean they have to do it simple as that

    • @saira7097
      @saira7097 Рік тому

      @@retrogamingfrenzy2373 No they don't 'have' to do it - the obedience of a wife to her husband is not a military obedience based on commands and unjustness. It Is obedience out of respect and love and it goes vice versa. Women aren't obedient to anyone except Allah swt

    • @retrogamingfrenzy2373
      @retrogamingfrenzy2373 Рік тому

      @@saira7097 so it's unjust for a men to ask his wife to cook oh nice femesim right there it's written in Quran don't change the meaning. Wife have to listen to her husband unless he's going against Islam and husband need to make his wife happy.

    • @saira7097
      @saira7097 Рік тому

      @@retrogamingfrenzy2373 no its not unjust for a man to ask his wife to cook I didn't say that - he can ask her but the key word here is 'ask' not command meaning she has the option to cook or not cook. As long as she doesn't refuse out of spite for her husband, it is completely halal brother. Disobeying your spouse out of spite is unacceptable for both husband and wife.

  • @umahjibrael1
    @umahjibrael1 Рік тому +12

    Brother shakil! Allahuma barik. I never thought you were laughing agreeing with him . I saw the laughter at him.
    I'm glad you've spoken up brother. Mashallah you're great . May Allah bless your marriage.

  • @AyeshaSheikh-nm2io
    @AyeshaSheikh-nm2io Рік тому +2

    I like how Shakeel cleared himself, for young boys out there not to be mislead.

  • @1446hijri
    @1446hijri Рік тому +7

    Big shoutout to brother Shaquille-much respect.

  • @saira7097
    @saira7097 Рік тому +3

    56:35 A lot of women don't see the value of being in a kitchen because they aren't valued for it. When providing men use their money/provision as a source of control over their wives and a reason for their supremacy (something that is extremely common), why would women willingly want to take up the role of a housewife where they are susceptible to being undervalued/manipulated/abused. Eg. Women would rather work and avoid being the main 'housekeeper' so that that a man can't turn around and use his provisions against her in a negative way. Having your own finances + no reliance from your husband on you cooking/cleaning completely is a way women may protect themselves from potential oppression - which happens way more often than the men in this video think.

    • @cooljool1
      @cooljool1 Рік тому

      gigo. lots of projection on your part. they're highly valued for their cooking. if you don't want to be a housewife you can always be the aging spinster with no family and a cat

    • @saira7097
      @saira7097 Рік тому

      @@cooljool1 and u can speak on behalf of all men and experiences of women in the world? U May value a woman for cooking but not all men do and not all men show a woman they value her for taking care of house - instead, it’s made out like it’s her job and cuz he’s working all day it’s the least she can do (do u not see how this is problematic)

  • @mnljh711986
    @mnljh711986 Рік тому +4

    What Brother Shaquil was talking about I call 'purity spiraling', I know some sisters and brothers who love to 'toot their own horn' and just sit in judgment of others jumping to conclusions, it's not right and it does turn people off, and it is destructive, May Allah guide us and keep us firm on the deen with sincerity and without hubris.

  • @urteruddy8205
    @urteruddy8205 Рік тому +1

    my boyfriend/fiancee doesnt appreciate when i cook/clean. im not going to look after him today and i am thinking of moving out of his house. i feel unloved and completely alone. when i am upset he just blocks me out and doesnt want to listen to me.. i do not want to show my love to a man who wont listen to me.. it seems like he just wants to be around me when im happy but when i am upset over something he just goes away and leaves me to drown in my sadness.

  • @abdelghanim
    @abdelghanim Рік тому +14

    Almost the half of the podcast was about Mahdi. If you don't agree with him why didn't you interrupt him there and now? The sister who is totally against Mahdi that she even didn't go to the podcast because he was going to be there why is she NOW mad about the other guests not speaking or arguing with him. why she bringing him up while she didn't even wanted to be associated with him in the first place. You guys didn't do Mahdi any good in this podcast. you talked about him(not in a good way) and he doesn't have the chance to defend himself because he isn't in the podcast.

  • @Carl007Jr
    @Carl007Jr Рік тому +5

    That Niqabi sister was talking about toxic masculinity among women being a problem, when the vast majority of the time she was interrupting men, saying things like “Ali likes to talk” while interrupting him. For the sister who mentioned Muslim men say that Muslim women should obey their husband according to the Quran, it doesn’t say the same for men for a reason. Men protect and provide. Muslim cook and clean and take care of the kids. Women should pay for a man’s things as much as he cleans and cooks for her, both of which are ridiculous.
    African/Arab sister in the all black on the far left has been on point in this video Mashallah. The desi and niqabi sister were highly delusional and couldn’t stand the slightest criticisms. They make a great case for why Mahdi is actually right about a lot.

  • @kaix6023
    @kaix6023 Рік тому +85

    My respect for sister soul after this episode: 📈. May Allah swt reward you for your efforts sister! Also I really like this panel!

    • @biged7964
      @biged7964 Рік тому +1

      She apologized for her behavior in this episode in this comment section

    • @kaix6023
      @kaix6023 Рік тому

      @@biged7964 Really lol? For what tho?

    • @biged7964
      @biged7964 Рік тому +3

      @@kaix6023 she was simply out of line calling a brother a liar without his presence

    • @shadmani9687
      @shadmani9687 Рік тому

      @@biged7964 Where is her comment for the apology. I cannot find it though.

    • @kaix6023
      @kaix6023 Рік тому +1

      @@biged7964 I mean in that case this whole video is a bunch of people talking about a brother behind his back.

  • @golfergti
    @golfergti Рік тому +3

    The sister on the end keeps interupting. 😂

  • @kin.x
    @kin.x Рік тому +2

    We Need More of Sister Soad , may allah bless her and protect her at all times

  • @sumatrakitchen
    @sumatrakitchen Рік тому +3

    Being a house wife is very good when you have a good husband, but it is suffering for wife when she has a husband with a toxic masculinity type. the difference is that one appreciates his wife as a life partner, the other appreciates her as a use. Just because you want to fight feminism doesn't mean you have to defend toxic masculinity. Admiring the traditional type of wife doesn't mean you can go around labeling her like a maid. High-quality marriages are based on love, respect, trust and cooperation, reflection.