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For the sake of Allah can you please stop this show. You have men and women freely mixing and talking about matters often which are intimate while they have no islamic knowledge to advise on these matters.
My husband cheated on me twice and got addicted to crystal meth while I was recovering from open heart surgery. My heart is broken but I am trying very hard to make it work
Alhamdulillah i have an amazing husband who i feel i dont deserve, he has all these qualities mashaAllah Alhamdulillah..may Allah grant him high status in the next life aameen
A good husband Wife feels safe and protected emotionally He defends her Praises her cooking and celebrates her achievements Shows gratitude Smiles and has a positive attitude and confidence in himself Energetic and gets things done Makes wife feel seen, heard and loved Light-hearted fun Gives everyone their rights.
I respect my husband because he's not a doormat. He tells me if he doesn't like the way I've said something and tells me how it would sound better to him. Instead of whining and being critical, he prefers me to just be direct and say what I want or how I feel. For example instead of saying "why don't you do it like that?" In a cross way. He would like me to say "can you do it this way. I like it". Or instead of silently sulking because he was out and didnt spend time with me. He said for me to text him when he's out to say "I miss you. Come home". We will continue to learn Insha'Allah. I love him for that Masha'Allah. May Allah make it easy 🙏
There has to be a list with everything, and yet if they manage to find a man like that, they would still complain of something, for that's the nature of woman "eternal unfullfillement".
In a nutshell, a good Muslim husband is the one who treat his wife according to Islamic teachings with best manners. Husband must treat his wife gently and being her leader
Alhamdullilah for my husband my gift from Allah which I believe I do not deserve, I can’t put into words how I feel. I can share he taught me everything; from how to pray, understand Quran teach me about our prophets he waits for me so we can pray together. He wakes me up for fajr in the most beautiful way. Alhamdullilah. How in this world did I do to deserve him. I pray for Allah swt to give him the highest and best in Jenna’s inshallah amen. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for him.
I’m very proud of amira and her husband such a supportive husband allowing her voice to be heard we need married women opinions and single parent women all valuable input thanks for supporting her May Allah bless you both!
im 27 years old i never had a girlfriend before i never kissed a girl and im a virgin. i never smoked cigarettes shisha or drunk alcohol and im proud of my self. But thats why my future wife has to be a virgin too BUT if i wasnt my virgin my self i shouldnt and couldnt expect a virgin wife too
@@oeast1220he'll be fine inshaAllah. Just get married to a young 18-21 sister who's modest and from a good family. Obv bro has to make sure he's financially secure Insha Allah
@@oeast1220 Finding a virgin Muslimah isn't difficult Alhamdulilah. Whats difficult is to find a virgin Muslimah that hasn't been infected with feminism
100% in the same boat. People telling you that is impossible I am appalled. Where were people raised in brothels or somethings. Im confused the amount of people that told you good luck bro. What?? Literally Islam is to stay chaste untill marriage, appalled and shocked at the comments. Wow what?
As you should brother so are 99.99% of muslim women who might even be older then you. It is not an achievement to be a virgin it's given....zina is major sin !!! Thus there are sisters and brothers much older then you who are vurgin until marriage
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I'm sorry for your loss. While it may feel impenetrably difficult to access this place at the moment and heal it you can take comfort in your value and worth to God being independent of your love or connection to this woman, however direct that sounds, it is true. While I sincerely hope you find someone who will love you equally or even more so in the future - my sincere advice would be to fortify your love and connection with God, for it is the most valuable, limitless, primordial and necessary love of all. Warm wishes, Sidi
Hello brother. My humble advice is: focus on making yourself a better, stronger, more capable man. Let her follow her decision, even if it hurts. Women don't like a man who is in needy or dependent, it is not in their nature. Your best choice is to let her go for the moment, and use it to heal and become a better man. Best of luck, you've got this👌.
I will tell you what helped me, it might help you too. 1- i started speaking to other sisters regarding marriage, obv keeping iskamic guidelines, no meeting up etc. just speaking on the phone and testing out what is out there. You will realise there is a lot of people. 2- start thinking about getting married abroad like and speak to sisters there. You will be amazed how feminine, kind, beautiful and loyal those girls are. Then marry if you meet the right person 3- go to your local mosque and start attending lessons on Quran etc if needed. 4- start thinking progressing in your career, courses about your job etc. 5- most importantly, work on your relationship with Allah SWT.
It was an absolute pleasure being on this panel with these amazing Brothers and sisters, may Allah bless you all Allahuma Ameen @AliDawah nice edit 👏 thank you for having me may Allah reward you and your team Allahuma Ameen 😊
lol get your head out of your behind. He brought Hijab to double-down in reaction to Sajids video where they actually show proof and ilm from the deen and advice what they're doing in this podcast is unnecessary and HARAM.
@@FrietoeNONE of the "men" did.they had a weird cuddling bromance whined & complained about working.I was impressed by how intelligent, educated the women were.It felt like kindergartens and college graduates trying to have a conversation..that ofcourse never happened.
A good Muslim man is one who teaches you correctly and practices correctly. Who wants to learn with you and help you while you help him inshallah. He does his sunna and shows empathy. Works hard and is good with children. Overall honestly does his best and is honest. Has saber and love ❤️
I recommend every Muslim who is married, new to marriage or single with intention to marry should listen to the Married Ever After series by imam Ali Hammuda. It really helped soften my heart in my marriage and learn.
I agree. She wasn't heard much. And I felt anytime she spoke, she was interrupted. The rest of the discussion is so superficial. And I am so done with men telling how women should feel and women telling how men should feel. Or it's all about look at me look at me... It's annoying. We are meant to be way more than that.
Exactly I was so glad when she spoke after sister Amina coz sister Amina but she speaks a lot of garbage. How is it a husband’s job to better your deen when you should have a solid foundation to begin? I remember the show when they were talking about does the past matter and she said we had to forgive. When they posted her opinion on IG the Muslims who were cheering her sentiments are the ones comitting tabarruj, going to night clubs, drinking alcohol, having haram relationships & Muslimah going to places without male mahram. I know she’s not trying to gaslight us Muslim brothers but she’s need to be careful with what she says
Been married for 27 years that to a woman I selected who was earlier of a different faith. Didn't have money for a ring, had a very small nikah and walima just 25-30 people. Never brought her flowers. No honeymoon. We couldnt be happier. Took us few years to a bit comfortable financially but we enjoyed every achievement and every experience life threw at us. Now I help people on small things on more than what we were able to afford for our whole marriage.
I couldn’t agree more with you on that statement.. me and my husband got married young and alx had good wedding and Nikkah as it was done by his family god bless them.. but we didn’t have much we were kid’s who then had kids in a struggle and 16 year’s later alx couldn’t be happier we have big family and we raised them with a struggle but we had eachother and our kids had us and we are comfortable now alx not rich by any means but I wouldn’t change a thing and I wouldn’t ask to do all that with anyone else but him..
1. DEEN and continuously working on your DEEN 2. Provide 3. Protect 4. Lead 5. Generosity (wife and children are supposed to be your priority anyway) 6. Keep personal information between the 2 of you personal (no need to share it with your mother). 7. Listen to her vent without responding with solutions (women just need to vent) 8. Mutual Respect 9. Compliment 10. Loyalty 11. Kindness 12. Ask about her parents 13. Trustworthiness 14. Patience 15. Forgiveness 16. Offer help without being asked (optional but will score you crazy points). 17. Make it obvious that you are always working on yourself 18. Gratitude 19. Support 20. Surprise her with chocolate and flowers (also scores you crazy points)
loyalty for a man is different than loyalty for a woman. a woman is loyal if she dsnt look at other men, and dsnt sleep/has relationships with other men, i.e Sexual exclusivity to her husband. a man's loyalty has nothing to do with him being sexually exclusive to his wife, but his loyalty is about protecting and providing for his wife. this is why islamically: A Man is obliged to protect and protect his wife, but still can marry 4 wives. whereas a woman is obliged to be sexually exclusive to her husband alone, but she gets protection and provisioning.
@vortexlight8387 yes you are right, but i personally wont accept my husband taking more wives, i would choose a husband who isnt polygamous. I cant bear the pain of sharing my husband, so if that was to happen. I would divorce him.
@naziaiqbal4240 to be honest its not about you accepting it, its his right. he can marry a second wife without telling u aswell. Also divorcing him for that is not a valid reason. Its like him divorcing you because he has to provide for you.
Also, respected brothers, do not expect your wives to be affectionate right after the marriage, especially if you did not know each other well, before. It took one year for me to be confident enough to speak with my husband without being asked anything, and we only saw each other once (in a public place), before marriage. Without a wali because I'm a revert, too. Be patient, it is normal. Edit: yes, loyalty is also very important. It has nothing to do with polygyny, my husband, may Allah SWT bless and protect him, was already married to his first wife and with four kids when he married me. But as wives we support, obey and take care of our husband, so loyalty and honesty is important even when it's uncomfortable.
I’m sorry but it’s not normal. You should be excited to be intimate with your spouse even if your shy. If you’re not; then you don’t actually like the person
@glowstickdrag1967 no, I don't agree. I already had a good impression of my husband, before marriage, but going in a very short time from talking in a distant way, to this man having a certain authority over you, can be uncomfortable and it really is okay. And I'm referring to every aspect of life. It's complicated. At the start I was almost happier during the days he spent with his first wife, than when he was with me. Even if he was kind. But with time AlhamduliLlah it went always better.
I'm married 33 yrs with children and grandchildren. My secret is patience, compassion, and complain to Allah talking to Allah ask always to forgive you. Alhamdu lilah.
Sahl ibn Sa’d reported: The Angel Gabriel came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “O Muhammad, live as you wish, for you will die. Work as you wish, for you will be repaid accordingly. Love whomever you wish, for you will be separated. Know that the nobility of the believer is in prayer at night and his honor is in his independence of the people.” - Source: al-Muʻjam al-Awsaṭ 4410
Jazaka allaah qayr all of you thank you ali dawa creating this show we all need this communication and perspective of the Muslims man/and women very in lighting god bless
Some people will fork out £20k for wedding decor but won’t invest in solidifying the relationship Pre marital coaching is good especially for those never been in a relationship before iNIkkah offers coaching by married women of over 20 years
27:22 what Hijab said reminds me of one of the bitter truth guests in a particular episode. He said he married a wife from a poor village in Morocco and there was no way he was bringing her to London because she would deviate from the right path. And I remember thinking that if that's actually smth he feared then she wasn't the right wife to begin with. If she changes when she goes to London, that's just her true colors showing. It shows that she was pious in her village just because she didn't know there were other options. PS: I'm not saying we don't get tempted and I do ask Allah for thabat.
It could also be the case that the man may have deviated from the path and committed sins himself by falling into temptation and is now self projecting onto his wife from a poor village, who may not have his weakness of easily falling prey to the ills of society.
Mohammed Hijab discussing the Hadith “ Majority of women will be in hellfire due to ungrateful for their husbands.” A deep subject that we must contemplate on , Subhanallah
You walk away you sacrifice your children... yeah you taught her a lesson but now your lost children will teach you plenty gong forward. May Allah save us all
@@Usmanthemecano Dude you don't get the point, it's not leaving her forever necessarily it's when you leave her presence temporarily when you're upset with her like how the Quran says. This shows you have power and not desperate and clingy for her love. But if the marriage is not repairable then of course you have to leave unfortunately
الحمد الله، I'm extremely excited for this episode , as i am a single Muslim male who is ready for Marriage. It is expert advice to hear from the Sisters! May Allah grant you good..عمين
What brother ali was saying about men providing but not being able to get flowers for 2 years....i think its about establishing each others love language and each other working on that. Women like those things. Never seen my dad give my mum flowers so i giver her flowers sometime.
not every woman likes flowers. flowers are like the stereotypical things and they aren't creative or imaginative. a dirty poem on a napkin is more interesting
Yeah very logical showing these few hairs rather than "logically" abiding by how she is supposed to be covered and other things. And no don't say we can't judge and whatever. We merely judge the apparent. Her intentions and secrets and other are between her and Allah.
@@kiyero_8274LOL a typical CHILD out here CRYING cuz woman is SMARTER THAN HIM😂! Fun fact: in the Quran Allah swt told men to LOWER THEIR GAZES FIRST BEFORE TELLING US WOMEN TO COVER UP! So if YOU are here not FOLLOWING YOUR HIJAB (aka LOWERING YOUR GAZE) with what AUDACITY do you HYPOCRITICALLY judge her?!
@@Md_sadiq_Md Alhamdulillah Brother, glad to hear that. May Allah(SWT) keep us all on the Deen brother. Just came back from Masjid, not so far away from home 😅
Lets be honest here...Muhammed hijab is probably the only guy i know that just makes sense to me. Wallahi most men dont make sense but this man just knows a womens heart. When he talked about having that time for your wife and just taking her out and the kids out for that 1 day a week and she feels good for the mext 2 weeks he just knoows mashallah His wife is very lucky
The fact that we have our lion 🦁Bro. Hijab is on the show, being young but being mature, being boyish but being Scholar...being husband and father but being a Daaiee...........this brings a lightening effects to the environment!! I pray for him day and night.....I see him maturing so gracefully in all avenues in his life........yet he gets to maintain a true gentleman's demeanour................ brothers..............forget the famous Alpha Male they talk about today..........When we have Brother Hijab......we don't need anyone teaching us what Masculinity is all about.
In my opinion, a good Muslim husband is a pious one that corrects his wife, or wives, when they practice The Religion in the wrong way (maybe out of ignorance). Not too harshly, also, if there is no need for it. One that protects his wives at the point where he protects their rights too, as sometimes us women are too weak to remember about our rights. AlhamduliLlah for my husband, because he is like this.
I like the talk about gratitude and insecurity. For e.g. I drive a small car and someone else drives a bigger. The difference are the features. The purpose is a debt free road worthy car that drives. It gets from A to B. Gratitude. The one who has a bicycle or a horse or healthy soul that has feet. Alhamdulillaah, gratitude for the blessings and gratitude for direction.
قال رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم -: ((كلمتان خفيفتان على اللسان، ثقيلتان في الميزان، حبيبتان إلى الرحمن: سبحان الله وبحمده، سبحان الله العظيم))؛ متفق عليه
4 things prove a husband who loves you: 1. Faithfulness to you and the marriage 2. He is considerate of how speaks to you 3. He protects you from others and stands up for you 4. He spends on you That's it. Just look for that in your future spouse.
And you don't give a shit about what his says to you. You are a independent woman and you do as you want. Muslim women often say I want my husband to be/ or do this and that, they have a list of things their men musta to for them but women it comes to she must obey him and listen to him she goes crazy and say he want to control me or abuse me and so on.
I couldn’t agree more with brother MH all his points are valid! Being stingy is a terrible character trait. It’s disgusting and a turn off! Allowing your parents to be unjust to your wife will definitely set the tone in your marriage and your wife will lose respect for you, because it’s your role to protect her!
I watched 3 of those episodes and I have to say that Mohammed Hijab, Jibril and the married brother (sorry I did not recall your name brother) were making sense, like really it made me breathe a little from the other 2 episodes where women were so delusional on certain aspects. In fact Islam is perfect, as man or woman be grateful, ALLAH created us to worship HIM, it is our duty, HIS right and yet HE reward us even thought we are obligated to do it. This is the same thing we have to implement in our marriages, reward our spouse for every attention and even if it is his/her duty towards you. Also patience and communication, true communication, not the lies that some people have like when you ask your wife why is she like that and she tells you « nothing ». Talk, be brave, be compassionate and give to your spouse without counting. Also women ,please, you want a husband who is a leader then accept his decisions and do not fight against him, it makes no sense to want a provider leader ect and then not listening to him. With that said may ALLAH bless you all
Everyone will find their pair In Sha Allah yust first be good and pious man, keep your faith straight and be in the middle do not take the stuff that you cannot lift , find your perfect balance and In Sha Allah , Allah Subhana We Te'ala will help you, however even If you do not get married it doesnt mean that Allah hates you or that He thinks that you are not worth it, yust remember be good at your religion and die as a muslim , get to the Jannah by Allah Mercy, and wait for your Jannah Wives ❤❤
Salam brother, it has been quite hard for someone like myself to relate to this. Especially in the 37 min mark of the video when you talk about wives needing to be grateful towards their husband and not expecting much. Women like myself, in today's generation and economy, I need to work as well. We are both working husband and wives in the corporate world - needing to work to make ends meet. It would be really helpful if people like myself can voice our frustrations and difficulties in marriage, because it is really hard to be able to have and advocate both my feminine side of things in my marriage, but also still maintain that dominant side when I need to work. What happens then? How do I still respect my husband when I feel like it's not fair for me to also do household chores, and not get that same level of care and affection?
leave your credentials at the door and learn to be more efficient with your time. also what chores where you doing when you were living with your family? do those when you get free time to do so
Maybe this doesnt apply to you and I know this isnt possible always but Is it possible for you to work less hours or to live on his income only? No hear me out, personally i use to see travelling every few months , eating out twice a week and just consuming a lot, to be basic survival. It really isnt. If you could adopt this mindset - i truly need only a limited amount of stuff to be happy, it really changes everything! Women are weak and get tired way quicker than men. And they really cant do it all. If your income really is needed for survival, then you need to tap into the womanly art of getting him to help with the chores. You can do it!
@@cooljool1 I am as efficient with my time as I possibly can. I am trying to understand where my husband would fall into this. I am not bossing my husband around the house, but I think it is only fair that he also helps out and does half of the chores and I still get the love and respect I deserve as a wife regardless.
Take it from me and stop working. Or work less hours than your husband or part-time if u absolutely have to work, because at the end of the day that is HIS responsibility. Alot of women say they need to work to survive but most of the time its just about wanting more money, wanting a finer life, but then your marriage suffers, because you simply can't change a grown man, and everyday it's going to frustrate you that his not helping around the house and you'll lose respect for him, cos you are helping with the finance too. So better to leave the responsibility for him and you handle the house duties. And men are lazy trust me, if they have a wife that will help them financially they will just soak that all in, enjoy it and take the chill path with finance..but if you the wife didn't work, he would eventually have to man up and work harder, it will bring out his masculinity and he will come up with how to make ends meet on his own...the problem is us women thinking we need to 'help' him with the finance but then it just backsfire in the end!
@@mehrababdullah51 love and respect are earned, not given, so what have you done to earn that love and respect? do you for example initiate sex with him more often, do you cook meals for him etc... half/half doesn't really make any sense. chores are not hard to do if you as you say are self efficient, unless you're doing them manually or something. Putting your clothes in the washing machine and the dishes in the dishwasher or doing some vacuuming for example are not hard tasks to do and don't really take much time either. Same with cooking, meal prep is easy and effective Also try to reduce your work hours a little if you can. don't do full time hours, do part time hours, that should help with any exhaustion and tiredness you may develop and as I said leave your credentials at the door. Making the man do more chores isn't going to get you that love and respect you're after. Finally, when it comes to the chores in your house, pretend your husband isn't there. What chores would you do if you lived alone? or just with your kids? Go do those
Imma be honest! This dialogue looks uncomfortable. We live in a time where we emulate the westerners. But we shouldnt. This honestly looks like the "muslim" version of the -whatever podcast-. Perhaps there is nothing wrong with saying: we are muslims, woman talk to woman.. and men talk to men. This just feels unnatural soubhanallah. May Allah guide all of us. Greetings from a lady from Belgium
They are qualified individuals that are discussing important topics to benefit the ummah (while lowering their gaze), not fraternizing with each other out of leisure time. I don't know what the whatever podcast is but one search and the thumbnails that popped up tells this podcast is nothing like that.
@@luluah1198 Each of the participants either has educational qualifications and/or has been married for a long time thus giving each one of them experience on how to educate someone on being a good husband. That is a pressing topic as divorce rates are increasing amongst muslims and non-muslims. They aren't here to fraternize they are here to educated people on a topic.
My little nephew surprised me. His parents returned from Umrah and his main concern was, Aunty, you gotta buy presents for my parents. We walked into a shop at airport and he disappeared. Guess where I found him, In the ladies section, picking underwear, clothing, shoes and jewellery for his mum. His 5 years old. He saw flowers and said...lets get flowers too. He made me smile on all the ladies smile as well 😂
الحمد لله wonderful discussion from all sides. Thank you for producing this content and shining light on the challenges men face pertaining to modern day self esteem . Can you please clarify which Hadith was being discussed about the nobility of the believer ? Around 45:00 ❤
When choosing a life partner, most people think of this:... Romance, Love, Affection, intimacy & Adventure... The reality is that the vast majority of time together looks like this... Housework, cooking, paying the bills, watching UA-cam, driving, shopping etc...not forgetting Sex... The dishes won’t clean themselves and the house won’t tidy itself up. Someone has to do that work day in and day out for their entire lives. It’s tedious and repetitive, but that’s life. This is what couples will be sharing the most of: their boring lives. It’s a common mistake to forget about this part of it, yet this will account for 99% of how people live together. At some point, our partner won’t look quite so sexy; is the rest enough to keep a couple together? What does it take to live a boring life with someone ? Don't even go there lol..
You have to do all those boring chores even if you live alone lol. Sharing chores and cooking for someone else is nice. I got in from work tired and did not want to move. However after I've had some rest, I got up to wash the dishes and cook something. My motivation was my husband. I like doing things for him. He wouldn't mind if I didn't cook.
I wish my husband knew how to be a better husband … I’ve tried to be a good wife. My needs are not met especially financially. It’s tough to stay respectful and focused on being a good wife when he doesn’t even do the bare minimum.
@jamal22958 20 is very young for a man. Only few years into manhood so there is time to look or wait for a good spouse. However, if a man in his early 20s can get married he should do so if he's able to
Sister Dopamine lost the whole point that MH was making. Age is a component of what can make someone mature, but it's definitely not the single deciding factor. There are plenty of men 30+ who are very immature because experience isn't about what you've been involved with, but what knowledge you've extracted. I always see sisters who think that sorta of way ending up in the worst kinds of marriages because they base their decisions off what other women are doing. And also men nudging them to think that sort of way because it benefits them even if it comes at their expense. Contrary to what Ali said though, that is not "female nature". It's human nature to make assumptions based on the social surroundings of a person. Like for example, some brothers are huge fanboys over other brothers because he's successful and has social status, etc. The problem with those types of people though is they're not genuine. So if you meet a sister in that sort of way, don't be upset if she leaves you because of what other sisters influenced her to do. MH gave the best pointers. Hands down. He was balanced and stayed on topic. Masha'Allah.
Good husbands need to act in a way that his wife can respect him in every aspect and never do anything that will make her loose respect for him. A women respecting her man in a marriage is like how humans need air to breath It will not only ensure both husband and wife's rights are being fulfilled but cause you both to be a garment for each other in sha Allah, as long as your both sane and good Muslims
Salam Ali Dawah, I hope you and your family are good. Please forgive me for being around people who backbit you. Please forgive everyone who has wronged you. Jzk khair
Also women expect way tooo much in a man. Sorry a man isn’t gonna be perfect and lovey dovey all the time. Stop looking at Hollywood and thinking that’s real life
The brother Jibreel didn’t take reverts into account when he spoke on Pre-Marital Counseling … 5 Pillars of Marriage was a great resource for my wife and I …. I required it for my eldest son when he became engaged and it’s required of his siblings as they become of age.
Yeah, she wouldn’t shut up! Spoke over Ali many times. Masculine energy and feminist qualities, especially when mentioning her 4 mil subscribers and her job role.
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For the sake of Allah can you please stop this show. You have men and women freely mixing and talking about matters often which are intimate while they have no islamic knowledge to advise on these matters.
@@ibrahimavich1443 are they speaking to each other one on one in private though? I still don't get the "free mixing" here .
My husband cheated on me twice and got addicted to crystal meth while I was recovering from open heart surgery. My heart is broken but I am trying very hard to make it work
Why are you freemixing? This show needs to stop
Can you please put links to these people’s social media accounts ? I wanna hear more from the guy with the 🧢
Alhamdulillah i have an amazing husband who i feel i dont deserve, he has all these qualities mashaAllah Alhamdulillah..may Allah grant him high status in the next life aameen
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Ameen . How did you know he was the one?Snd what green flags should a women look for when it comes to marriage?
@@flower12878shuts she willingly married him, she’s one of his wife’s he loves a lot and she loves him back.
What's his background and what things did he fulfil
@@Blood0cean🤑🤑🤑🤑
A good husband
Wife feels safe and protected emotionally
He defends her
Praises her cooking and celebrates her achievements
Shows gratitude
Smiles and has a positive attitude and confidence in himself
Energetic and gets things done
Makes wife feel seen, heard and loved
Light-hearted fun
Gives everyone their rights.
Also treats wife accordingly. A lot of Muslim men nowadays do all this things you mentioned even if the wife is disobedient.
@@sayeeed1303 He needs to let her know what he wants and likes. It's a learning process for both.
I respect my husband because he's not a doormat. He tells me if he doesn't like the way I've said something and tells me how it would sound better to him. Instead of whining and being critical, he prefers me to just be direct and say what I want or how I feel.
For example instead of saying "why don't you do it like that?" In a cross way. He would like me to say "can you do it this way. I like it". Or instead of silently sulking because he was out and didnt spend time with me. He said for me to text him when he's out to say "I miss you. Come home". We will continue to learn Insha'Allah. I love him for that Masha'Allah. May Allah make it easy 🙏
@@roosworld4910 May Allah bless you both, this is so sweet.
There has to be a list with everything, and yet if they manage to find a man like that, they would still complain of something, for that's the nature of woman "eternal unfullfillement".
Alhamdulillah, this was a very evenly tempered, evenly measured and wise discussion. Well done to all who shared. Jzk
I just finished this episode, and I am rewatching it right away. I am getting so much value! and I am a Marrid man of 7 years, alhamdulilah.
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In a nutshell, a good Muslim husband is the one who treat his wife according to Islamic teachings with best manners. Husband must treat his wife gently and being her leader
Most women it seems do not want a leader they want a bobok.
Alhamdullilah for my husband my gift from Allah which I believe I do not deserve, I can’t put into words how I feel. I can share he taught me everything; from how to pray, understand Quran teach me about our prophets he waits for me so we can pray together. He wakes me up for fajr in the most beautiful way. Alhamdullilah. How in this world did I do to deserve him. I pray for Allah swt to give him the highest and best in Jenna’s inshallah amen. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for him.
I’m very proud of amira and her husband such a supportive husband allowing her voice to be heard we need married women opinions and single parent women all valuable input thanks for supporting her May Allah bless you both!
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Jazzakallah khairan Ameen 🙏🏾 I appreciate the positive comment
Fear Allah
is Amira the Somali lady?, she seems very masculine as Somali women use to be. I don't like masculine women. They are rude and have no shame.
im 27 years old i never had a girlfriend before i never kissed a girl and im a virgin. i never smoked cigarettes shisha or drunk alcohol and im proud of my self. But thats why my future wife has to be a virgin too BUT if i wasnt my virgin my self i shouldnt and couldnt expect a virgin wife too
@@oeast1220he'll be fine inshaAllah. Just get married to a young 18-21 sister who's modest and from a good family. Obv bro has to make sure he's financially secure Insha Allah
The first question you gotta ask this modern Muslim women is " do you ride horses?" and then her into the real questions
@@oeast1220 Finding a virgin Muslimah isn't difficult Alhamdulilah. Whats difficult is to find a virgin Muslimah that hasn't been infected with feminism
100% in the same boat. People telling you that is impossible I am appalled. Where were people raised in brothels or somethings. Im confused the amount of people that told you good luck bro. What?? Literally Islam is to stay chaste untill marriage, appalled and shocked at the comments. Wow what?
As you should brother so are 99.99% of muslim women who might even be older then you. It is not an achievement to be a virgin it's given....zina is major sin !!!
Thus there are sisters and brothers much older then you who are vurgin until marriage
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
I'm sorry for your loss. While it may feel impenetrably difficult to access this place at the moment and heal it you can take comfort in your value and worth to God being independent of your love or connection to this woman, however direct that sounds, it is true. While I sincerely hope you find someone who will love you equally or even more so in the future - my sincere advice would be to fortify your love and connection with God, for it is the most valuable, limitless, primordial and necessary love of all. Warm wishes, Sidi
Hello brother.
My humble advice is: focus on making yourself a better, stronger, more capable man. Let her follow her decision, even if it hurts.
Women don't like a man who is in needy or dependent, it is not in their nature. Your best choice is to let her go for the moment, and use it to heal and become a better man.
Best of luck, you've got this👌.
I will tell you what helped me, it might help you too.
1- i started speaking to other sisters regarding marriage, obv keeping iskamic guidelines, no meeting up etc. just speaking on the phone and testing out what is out there. You will realise there is a lot of people.
2- start thinking about getting married abroad like and speak to sisters there. You will be amazed how feminine, kind, beautiful and loyal those girls are. Then marry if you meet the right person
3- go to your local mosque and start attending lessons on Quran etc if needed.
4- start thinking progressing in your career, courses about your job etc.
5- most importantly, work on your relationship with Allah SWT.
It was an absolute pleasure being on this panel with these amazing Brothers and sisters, may Allah bless you all Allahuma Ameen @AliDawah nice edit 👏 thank you for having me may Allah reward you and your team Allahuma Ameen 😊
Thankyou for being only one of two of the women who actually covered properly
Dr. Dopamine on this show! Much awaited 😊
@@MALIK-nd2vwyou have to also cover your eyebrows thats proper niqab. On top of that you shouldnt wear makeup in front of non mahrams…
Sister is self promoting 😏😏😂
Thank you But you shouldnt wear makeup in front of non mahrams… and in public places (Laches+Maskara) so on
When you see MH in the line-up, you know it is about to be a good one
yep, he makes very good points and every single one he provides evidence for from the Quran and Hadith
@@muhammadislam4640as all muslims should do most women provide shoulds and ifs not enough evidence provided from quran and sunnah
Stop gassing people.. this deen isn't about personalities
Masha allah, allahumma barik
Let's not give the brother the evil eye
lol get your head out of your behind. He brought Hijab to double-down in reaction to Sajids video where they actually show proof and ilm from the deen and advice what they're doing in this podcast is unnecessary and HARAM.
When the first brother started speak, he spat the maddest truth. The sisters knew it and just smiled. SubhanAllah
He didn’t even come close to answering the question of what makes a good husband at all.
@@FrietoeNONE of the "men" did.they had a weird cuddling bromance whined & complained about working.I was impressed by how intelligent, educated the women were.It felt like kindergartens and college graduates trying to have a conversation..that ofcourse never happened.
A good Muslim man is one who teaches you correctly and practices correctly. Who wants to learn with you and help you while you help him inshallah. He does his sunna and shows empathy. Works hard and is good with children. Overall honestly does his best and is honest. Has saber and love ❤️
Bring the Honest Tea Talk sisters on the show. That would make for extremely interesting discussions.
I recommend every Muslim who is married, new to marriage or single with intention to marry should listen to the Married Ever After series by imam Ali Hammuda. It really helped soften my heart in my marriage and learn.
Sister Fahima is a gem! Her points especially towards the end were 🔥🔥🔥 the advice would be life & (potentially) akhira changing if implemented!
I agree. She wasn't heard much. And I felt anytime she spoke, she was interrupted.
The rest of the discussion is so superficial. And I am so done with men telling how women should feel and women telling how men should feel. Or it's all about look at me look at me...
It's annoying. We are meant to be way more than that.
Exactly I was so glad when she spoke after sister Amina coz sister Amina but she speaks a lot of garbage.
How is it a husband’s job to better your deen when you should have a solid foundation to begin?
I remember the show when they were talking about does the past matter and she said we had to forgive. When they posted her opinion on IG the Muslims who were cheering her sentiments are the ones comitting tabarruj, going to night clubs, drinking alcohol, having haram relationships & Muslimah going to places without male mahram.
I know she’s not trying to gaslight us Muslim brothers but she’s need to be careful with what she says
Nop
@@NoHaraminIslamthat’s why women’s opinions doesn’t and shouldn’t matter.
Disagree
MH dropping gems. I tuned in because of him mA
Been married for 27 years that to a woman I selected who was earlier of a different faith.
Didn't have money for a ring, had a very small nikah and walima just 25-30 people.
Never brought her flowers. No honeymoon.
We couldnt be happier. Took us few years to a bit comfortable financially but we enjoyed every achievement and every experience life threw at us.
Now I help people on small things on more than what we were able to afford for our whole marriage.
I couldn’t agree more with you on that statement.. me and my husband got married young and alx had good wedding and Nikkah as it was done by his family god bless them.. but we didn’t have much we were kid’s who then had kids in a struggle and 16 year’s later alx couldn’t be happier we have big family and we raised them with a struggle but we had eachother and our kids had us and we are comfortable now alx not rich by any means but I wouldn’t change a thing and I wouldn’t ask to do all that with anyone else but him..
1. DEEN and continuously working on your DEEN
2. Provide
3. Protect
4. Lead
5. Generosity (wife and children are supposed to be your priority anyway)
6. Keep personal information between the 2 of you personal (no need to share it with your mother).
7. Listen to her vent without responding with solutions (women just need to vent)
8. Mutual Respect
9. Compliment
10. Loyalty
11. Kindness
12. Ask about her parents
13. Trustworthiness
14. Patience
15. Forgiveness
16. Offer help without being asked (optional but will score you crazy points).
17. Make it obvious that you are always working on yourself
18. Gratitude
19. Support
20. Surprise her with chocolate and flowers (also scores you crazy points)
Now list 20 things that you can offer as a wife.
@Altair-El-Haddad all of the same things mate and add 'giving birth to your children' to that
Instead of provide and protect, maybe serve and comfort
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A good husband is a good muslim, loyal, loves you truly, supportive, treats you with respect and values you, a protector, and a good father.
great answer, lets leave at that and skip the video alhamdulillah.
loyalty for a man is different than loyalty for a woman. a woman is loyal if she dsnt look at other men, and dsnt sleep/has relationships with other men, i.e Sexual exclusivity to her husband.
a man's loyalty has nothing to do with him being sexually exclusive to his wife, but his loyalty is about protecting and providing for his wife.
this is why islamically: A Man is obliged to protect and protect his wife, but still can marry 4 wives. whereas a woman is obliged to be sexually exclusive to her husband alone, but she gets protection and provisioning.
@vortexlight8387 yes you are right, but i personally wont accept my husband taking more wives, i would choose a husband who isnt polygamous. I cant bear the pain of sharing my husband, so if that was to happen. I would divorce him.
@@naziaiqbal4240 That's why you talk about these things before marriage to know if you're both suitable for each other
@naziaiqbal4240 to be honest its not about you accepting it, its his right. he can marry a second wife without telling u aswell. Also divorcing him for that is not a valid reason. Its like him divorcing you because he has to provide for you.
Masha'Allah. The Jibreel guy's speech was impactful and so real.
Alhamdulillah, This was very insightful I’d like to see an episode on how to be a good wife in sha Allah.
Also, respected brothers, do not expect your wives to be affectionate right after the marriage, especially if you did not know each other well, before.
It took one year for me to be confident enough to speak with my husband without being asked anything, and we only saw each other once (in a public place), before marriage. Without a wali because I'm a revert, too.
Be patient, it is normal.
Edit: yes, loyalty is also very important. It has nothing to do with polygyny, my husband, may Allah SWT bless and protect him, was already married to his first wife and with four kids when he married me.
But as wives we support, obey and take care of our husband, so loyalty and honesty is important even when it's uncomfortable.
subanallah suster may allah reward you for speaking abt this
@@GethinClc JazakAllahu Khairan 🤲
Great job sister, may Allah azzawajal increase you and bless you! big ups!
I’m sorry but it’s not normal. You should be excited to be intimate with your spouse even if your shy. If you’re not; then you don’t actually like the person
@glowstickdrag1967 no, I don't agree. I already had a good impression of my husband, before marriage, but going in a very short time from talking in a distant way, to this man having a certain authority over you, can be uncomfortable and it really is okay. And I'm referring to every aspect of life. It's complicated.
At the start I was almost happier during the days he spent with his first wife, than when he was with me.
Even if he was kind.
But with time AlhamduliLlah it went always better.
I love how everyone is so respectful. May Allah bless and increase everyone of them, and all of you who stumble upon my comment.
I'm married 33 yrs with children and grandchildren. My secret is patience, compassion, and complain to Allah talking to Allah ask always to forgive you. Alhamdu lilah.
Jazak Allah khaire for such a beneficial episode! I’m learning lots!
Sahl ibn Sa’d reported: The Angel Gabriel came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “O Muhammad, live as you wish, for you will die. Work as you wish, for you will be repaid accordingly. Love whomever you wish, for you will be separated. Know that the nobility of the believer is in prayer at night and his honor is in his independence of the people.” - Source: al-Muʻjam al-Awsaṭ 4410
Jazaka allaah qayr all of you thank you ali dawa creating this show we all need this communication and perspective of the Muslims man/and women very in lighting god bless
Most women want:
Deen, good character/akhlaq, physically attractive, good provisions, supportive at home, affectionate/loving, loyalty.
Money?
A woman always run behind money😂
@@detectivebd that comes under good provisions. So a good provider.
@@FreeToThink0 Right
@@Footballfan9912wow why are u so bitter 😂
Some people will fork out £20k for wedding decor but won’t invest in solidifying the relationship
Pre marital coaching is good especially for those never been in a relationship before
iNIkkah offers coaching by married women of over 20 years
What a plugin
27:22 what Hijab said reminds me of one of the bitter truth guests in a particular episode.
He said he married a wife from a poor village in Morocco and there was no way he was bringing her to London because she would deviate from the right path.
And I remember thinking that if that's actually smth he feared then she wasn't the right wife to begin with.
If she changes when she goes to London, that's just her true colors showing.
It shows that she was pious in her village just because she didn't know there were other options.
PS: I'm not saying we don't get tempted and I do ask Allah for thabat.
It could also be the case that the man may have deviated from the path and committed sins himself by falling into temptation and is now self projecting onto his wife from a poor village, who may not have his weakness of easily falling prey to the ills of society.
Masha Allah just watching this made me love my husband even more. I have the best husband in the world. Allah protect him always ameen
Sister hope he loves you only but not number 2 or 3 or 4 secretly. Allah bless.
@@punjabinetworld1695 undercover shaytan, men nowadays dont marry more than one wife for multiple reasons so dw girl
What a great episode mashallah 👌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Would Mohammed Hijab and Ali Dawah have their own sisters and wives on these types of shows talking to non-mahram men about such topics?
Mohammed Hijab discussing the Hadith “ Majority of women will be in hellfire due to ungrateful for their husbands.” A deep subject that we must contemplate on , Subhanallah
Is it authentic cos wow that acc so sad
What is the timestamp?
@@flyinghorse2739 40:00
@@flyinghorse2739 no idea
I actually googled this. Kinda makes sense why when the hadith is explained in detail
Love to see sister Dr.Dopamine fully covered. Alhamdulilah. Also well spoken Allahuma Baarik alayha.
You would love to see , or you love to see ?
Her niqab is not a full niqab. That's just a long mask
Yes I love to see the sisters fully covered Alhamdulilah.
Ali good work! The Ummah need more of those episodes (discussing between Muslims)
I truly love this kind of content, and I hope you make a lot in the future. Bless you all
Mohammed Hijab dropped gems . “Strongest power a man has in the relationship, is the ability to walk away . “
You walk away you sacrifice your children... yeah you taught her a lesson but now your lost children will teach you plenty gong forward. May Allah save us all
@@Usmanthemecano Dude you don't get the point, it's not leaving her forever necessarily it's when you leave her presence temporarily when you're upset with her like how the Quran says. This shows you have power and not desperate and clingy for her love. But if the marriage is not repairable then of course you have to leave unfortunately
yes you dont talk to her for a week etc...@@j86485
Walk away within an argument or walking away buy devorcing?
@@Hoessein80
Walk away before an argument is allowed to spawn. Without being petty and trying to get the last word like you're a child.
Alhumdulilah very interesting and beneficial conversation. May allah bless you brothers and sisters inshallah.
الحمد الله،
I'm extremely excited for this episode , as i am a single Muslim male who is ready for Marriage. It is expert advice to hear from the Sisters! May Allah grant you good..عمين
masha’Allah Br Hijab fell asleep after the sisters talked about “what is a good husband” 😂😂 😂 and for half the show. Gotta love the guy
What brother ali was saying about men providing but not being able to get flowers for 2 years....i think its about establishing each others love language and each other working on that. Women like those things. Never seen my dad give my mum flowers so i giver her flowers sometime.
not every woman likes flowers. flowers are like the stereotypical things and they aren't creative or imaginative. a dirty poem on a napkin is more interesting
Often men dont show love when women dont show respect.
52:43 sister Ameena is logical and intelligent woman mashallah BarakAllah may Allah bless her
Yeah very logical showing these few hairs rather than "logically" abiding by how she is supposed to be covered and other things. And no don't say we can't judge and whatever. We merely judge the apparent. Her intentions and secrets and other are between her and Allah.
@@kiyero_8274 that is a different topic brother she is very much logical here
@@kiyero_8274LOL a typical CHILD out here CRYING cuz woman is SMARTER THAN HIM😂! Fun fact: in the Quran Allah swt told men to LOWER THEIR GAZES FIRST BEFORE TELLING US WOMEN TO COVER UP! So if YOU are here not FOLLOWING YOUR HIJAB (aka LOWERING YOUR GAZE) with what AUDACITY do you HYPOCRITICALLY judge her?!
I really enjoyed this episode the panel is really good.
Am the first here, But it's Maghrib time now, save to watch later then 😂😂
I am from India and today all prayers completed alhamdulillah
@@Md_sadiq_Md Alhamdulillah Brother, glad to hear that. May Allah(SWT) keep us all on the Deen brother. Just came back from Masjid, not so far away from home 😅
Lets be honest here...Muhammed hijab is probably the only guy i know that just makes sense to me. Wallahi most men dont make sense but this man just knows a womens heart. When he talked about having that time for your wife and just taking her out and the kids out for that 1 day a week and she feels good for the mext 2 weeks he just knoows mashallah
His wife is very lucky
The fact that we have our lion 🦁Bro. Hijab is on the show, being young but being mature, being boyish but being Scholar...being husband and father but being a Daaiee...........this brings a lightening effects to the environment!! I pray for him day and night.....I see him maturing so gracefully in all avenues in his life........yet he gets to maintain a true gentleman's demeanour................ brothers..............forget the famous Alpha Male they talk about today..........When we have Brother Hijab......we don't need anyone teaching us what Masculinity is all about.
How cringe
Ewwwww
Very educational and entertaining content. I actually watched until the end.
To be on the show, It should be a condition for the sisters to be covered properly.
I agree a lack of gratitude does a lot of damage.
In my opinion, a good Muslim husband is a pious one that corrects his wife, or wives, when they practice The Religion in the wrong way (maybe out of ignorance).
Not too harshly, also, if there is no need for it.
One that protects his wives at the point where he protects their rights too, as sometimes us women are too weak to remember about our rights.
AlhamduliLlah for my husband, because he is like this.
This is the only realistic take.
Subhanallah perfect answer may Allah bless you and preserve you sister
@@Unknownperson-ob7fu ameen! JazakAllahu Khairan
how are women too weak to remember their rights...? we don't have dementia
I like the talk about gratitude and insecurity. For e.g. I drive a small car and someone else drives a bigger. The difference are the features. The purpose is a debt free road worthy car that drives. It gets from A to B. Gratitude. The one who has a bicycle or a horse or healthy soul that has feet. Alhamdulillaah, gratitude for the blessings and gratitude for direction.
May Allah bless our brothers and sisters of ummah with Jannah ❤
Aameen summa Aameen ❤
قال رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم -: ((كلمتان خفيفتان على اللسان، ثقيلتان في الميزان، حبيبتان إلى الرحمن: سبحان الله وبحمده، سبحان الله العظيم))؛ متفق عليه
Great episode. But the ending was confusing. I didn't see the point Sister Fahima was trying to make around 55 minutes. It sounded like a rant to me.
I felt the same
That rant was cringey.
yeah she went off a tangent there
2:08 (outta here!!)
.. May Allah reward and guide us with to accept his and which we can make well for produce a give all (Ameen)
4 things prove a husband who loves you:
1. Faithfulness to you and the marriage
2. He is considerate of how speaks to you
3. He protects you from others and stands up for you
4. He spends on you
That's it. Just look for that in your future spouse.
If only it was that easy
And you don't give a shit about what his says to you. You are a independent woman and you do as you want. Muslim women often say I want my husband to be/ or do this and that, they have a list of things their men musta to for them but women it comes to she must obey him and listen to him she goes crazy and say he want to control me or abuse me and so on.
I couldn’t agree more with brother MH all his points are valid! Being stingy is a terrible character trait. It’s disgusting and a turn off! Allowing your parents to be unjust to your wife will definitely set the tone in your marriage and your wife will lose respect for you, because it’s your role to protect her!
promoting muslim women with makeup on and hair showing is also wrong. this freemixing was not necessary.
You can’t expect a 10/10 guy/girl if you’re a 3 yourself
Don’t get mad and bitter and blame society for you not getting what you fantasise about
Haq
I watched 3 of those episodes and I have to say that Mohammed Hijab, Jibril and the married brother (sorry I did not recall your name brother) were making sense, like really it made me breathe a little from the other 2 episodes where women were so delusional on certain aspects. In fact Islam is perfect, as man or woman be grateful, ALLAH created us to worship HIM, it is our duty, HIS right and yet HE reward us even thought we are obligated to do it. This is the same thing we have to implement in our marriages, reward our spouse for every attention and even if it is his/her duty towards you. Also patience and communication, true communication, not the lies that some people have like when you ask your wife why is she like that and she tells you « nothing ». Talk, be brave, be compassionate and give to your spouse without counting. Also women ,please, you want a husband who is a leader then accept his decisions and do not fight against him, it makes no sense to want a provider leader ect and then not listening to him. With that said may ALLAH bless you all
السلام عليكم اخواني اخواتي الكرام .احبكم في الله. تعلمنا منكم الكثير ومازلنا نتعلم جزاكم الله خيرا.
Everyone will find their pair In Sha Allah yust first be good and pious man, keep your faith straight and be in the middle do not take the stuff that you cannot lift , find your perfect balance and In Sha Allah , Allah Subhana We Te'ala will help you, however even If you do not get married it doesnt mean that Allah hates you or that He thinks that you are not worth it, yust remember be good at your religion and die as a muslim , get to the Jannah by Allah Mercy, and wait for your Jannah Wives ❤❤
Salam brother, it has been quite hard for someone like myself to relate to this. Especially in the 37 min mark of the video when you talk about wives needing to be grateful towards their husband and not expecting much. Women like myself, in today's generation and economy, I need to work as well. We are both working husband and wives in the corporate world - needing to work to make ends meet. It would be really helpful if people like myself can voice our frustrations and difficulties in marriage, because it is really hard to be able to have and advocate both my feminine side of things in my marriage, but also still maintain that dominant side when I need to work. What happens then? How do I still respect my husband when I feel like it's not fair for me to also do household chores, and not get that same level of care and affection?
leave your credentials at the door and learn to be more efficient with your time. also what chores where you doing when you were living with your family? do those when you get free time to do so
Maybe this doesnt apply to you and I know this isnt possible always but
Is it possible for you to work less hours or to live on his income only? No hear me out, personally i use to see travelling every few months , eating out twice a week and just consuming a lot, to be basic survival. It really isnt. If you could adopt this mindset - i truly need only a limited amount of stuff to be happy, it really changes everything!
Women are weak and get tired way quicker than men. And they really cant do it all.
If your income really is needed for survival, then you need to tap into the womanly art of getting him to help with the chores. You can do it!
@@cooljool1 I am as efficient with my time as I possibly can. I am trying to understand where my husband would fall into this. I am not bossing my husband around the house, but I think it is only fair that he also helps out and does half of the chores and I still get the love and respect I deserve as a wife regardless.
Take it from me and stop working. Or work less hours than your husband or part-time if u absolutely have to work, because at the end of the day that is HIS responsibility. Alot of women say they need to work to survive but most of the time its just about wanting more money, wanting a finer life, but then your marriage suffers, because you simply can't change a grown man, and everyday it's going to frustrate you that his not helping around the house and you'll lose respect for him, cos you are helping with the finance too. So better to leave the responsibility for him and you handle the house duties. And men are lazy trust me, if they have a wife that will help them financially they will just soak that all in, enjoy it and take the chill path with finance..but if you the wife didn't work, he would eventually have to man up and work harder, it will bring out his masculinity and he will come up with how to make ends meet on his own...the problem is us women thinking we need to 'help' him with the finance but then it just backsfire in the end!
@@mehrababdullah51 love and respect are earned, not given, so what have you done to earn that love and respect? do you for example initiate sex with him more often, do you cook meals for him etc...
half/half doesn't really make any sense. chores are not hard to do if you as you say are self efficient, unless you're doing them manually or something. Putting your clothes in the washing machine and the dishes in the dishwasher or doing some vacuuming for example are not hard tasks to do and don't really take much time either. Same with cooking, meal prep is easy and effective
Also try to reduce your work hours a little if you can. don't do full time hours, do part time hours, that should help with any exhaustion and tiredness you may develop and as I said leave your credentials at the door. Making the man do more chores isn't going to get you that love and respect you're after.
Finally, when it comes to the chores in your house, pretend your husband isn't there. What chores would you do if you lived alone? or just with your kids? Go do those
Can you do a segment on sisters who prefer a career than becoming a homemaker ?
I recommend everyone to read Prophet muhammed (saw) the best of all husbands by Dr Ghazi .It gives the hikmah the maturity and akhlaq with his wives .
52:00 Liked the entire Podcast just for this one thing.
29:10
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36:36
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The blurred guy, why are you there when you don't want your face seen?
It doesn't matter, personal choice and lvl of comfort. Why does it really matter to YOU when you can understand what he says?
Jabreel is so good to be true you are a gem.
Honestly marriage sounds like absolute torture I don’t think I’ll ever be getting married after this
😂 nowadays it really is. But with the right person it's pure bliss (even in difficult times)
Same
i was 20 living in alone, a different country and had to be mature enough to survive a big city slums. its when the heat is up everyone adapts.
Imma be honest! This dialogue looks uncomfortable.
We live in a time where we emulate the westerners. But we shouldnt.
This honestly looks like the "muslim" version of the -whatever podcast-.
Perhaps there is nothing wrong with saying: we are muslims, woman talk to woman.. and men talk to men.
This just feels unnatural soubhanallah.
May Allah guide all of us.
Greetings from a lady from Belgium
Purity ur intention
@@escortbacktolife7009 i agree, but your intenties often doesnt dictate what shaytaan does with it.. makes sense?
They are qualified individuals that are discussing important topics to benefit the ummah (while lowering their gaze), not fraternizing with each other out of leisure time. I don't know what the whatever podcast is but one search and the thumbnails that popped up tells this podcast is nothing like that.
@@luluah1198 Each of the participants either has educational qualifications and/or has been married for a long time thus giving each one of them experience on how to educate someone on being a good husband. That is a pressing topic as divorce rates are increasing amongst muslims and non-muslims.
They aren't here to fraternize they are here to educated people on a topic.
My little nephew surprised me. His parents returned from Umrah and his main concern was, Aunty, you gotta buy presents for my parents. We walked into a shop at airport and he disappeared. Guess where I found him, In the ladies section, picking underwear, clothing, shoes and jewellery for his mum. His 5 years old. He saw flowers and said...lets get flowers too. He made me smile on all the ladies smile as well 😂
Unfortunately the moment your wife gets upset, it’s like you have done nothing good for her your entire marriage. 😂
الحمد لله wonderful discussion from all sides. Thank you for producing this content and shining light on the challenges men face pertaining to modern day self esteem .
Can you please clarify which Hadith was being discussed about the nobility of the believer ? Around 45:00
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lmao what's up with the brothers heads being completely blurred like that??
When choosing a life partner, most people think of this:...
Romance, Love, Affection, intimacy & Adventure...
The reality is that the vast majority of time together looks like this...
Housework, cooking, paying the bills, watching UA-cam, driving, shopping etc...not forgetting Sex...
The dishes won’t clean themselves and the house won’t tidy itself up. Someone has to do that work day in and day out for their entire lives. It’s tedious and repetitive, but that’s life.
This is what couples will be sharing the most of: their boring lives. It’s a common mistake to forget about this part of it, yet this will account for 99% of how people live together. At some point, our partner won’t look quite so sexy; is the rest enough to keep a couple together?
What does it take to live a boring life with someone ? Don't even go there lol..
You have to do all those boring chores even if you live alone lol. Sharing chores and cooking for someone else is nice. I got in from work tired and did not want to move. However after I've had some rest, I got up to wash the dishes and cook something. My motivation was my husband. I like doing things for him. He wouldn't mind if I didn't cook.
I’m always waiting for Mohammed Hijab’s turn to speak. Alhamdulillah
I wish my husband knew how to be a better husband … I’ve tried to be a good wife. My needs are not met especially financially. It’s tough to stay respectful and focused on being a good wife when he doesn’t even do the bare minimum.
me at 20 taking notes: 📝
Start looking from now. It gets harder to find someone as you get older.
@@jamal22958 Not as a man
@jamal22958 20 is very young for a man. Only few years into manhood so there is time to look or wait for a good spouse. However, if a man in his early 20s can get married he should do so if he's able to
I actually like this show Maasha Allah 👏🏾
Sister Dopamine lost the whole point that MH was making. Age is a component of what can make someone mature, but it's definitely not the single deciding factor. There are plenty of men 30+ who are very immature because experience isn't about what you've been involved with, but what knowledge you've extracted.
I always see sisters who think that sorta of way ending up in the worst kinds of marriages because they base their decisions off what other women are doing. And also men nudging them to think that sort of way because it benefits them even if it comes at their expense.
Contrary to what Ali said though, that is not "female nature". It's human nature to make assumptions based on the social surroundings of a person. Like for example, some brothers are huge fanboys over other brothers because he's successful and has social status, etc. The problem with those types of people though is they're not genuine. So if you meet a sister in that sort of way, don't be upset if she leaves you because of what other sisters influenced her to do.
MH gave the best pointers. Hands down. He was balanced and stayed on topic. Masha'Allah.
Allahuma barik Ali dawah your haircut is amazing
Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
Good husbands need to act in a way that his wife can respect him in every aspect and never do anything that will make her loose respect for him.
A women respecting her man in a marriage is like how humans need air to breath
It will not only ensure both husband and wife's rights are being fulfilled but cause you both to be a garment for each other in sha Allah, as long as your both sane and good Muslims
Salam Ali Dawah, I hope you and your family are good. Please forgive me for being around people who backbit you. Please forgive everyone who has wronged you. Jzk khair
Most important characteristics in a marriage are rationality and communication
Also women expect way tooo much in a man. Sorry a man isn’t gonna be perfect and lovey dovey all the time. Stop looking at Hollywood and thinking that’s real life
We aren't looking at Hollywood we are looking at Rasulullah Saw who was the BEST to his wife.
Why is Hijab falling asleep when the sisters spoke, his wife better have words with him! 😂😂
BIG UP DR DOPAMINNEEEE 🎉🎉🎉
The brother Jibreel didn’t take reverts into account when he spoke on Pre-Marital Counseling … 5 Pillars of Marriage was a great resource for my wife and I …. I required it for my eldest son when he became engaged and it’s required of his siblings as they become of age.
That woman in red always flipping ruining this podcast. Tooo masculine
It's amazing how you can say so much and so little at the same time...
This show is such a fitna
i also think so!!!
Why? Please explain
@@mirafu3481the free mixing between men and women
huh…
How they not touching there’s a bunch of people are present they kept it halal there’s no problem take a chill pill
Triceps of Mohammed Hijab are on point, Allahuma barek brother
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have anyone of you noticed that how that red scarfed woman was speaking in masculine energy?
Yeah, she wouldn’t shut up! Spoke over Ali many times. Masculine energy and feminist qualities, especially when mentioning her 4 mil subscribers and her job role.
they think its cool, cuz people like Ali dont put their foot down. people like Ali are raised in a generation, where men are raised by women.
She was giving her views. This is a discussion. A podcast. Stop with these masc and fem energies.
@@HomeTravelGardenInsposo masculine = being rude😂😂
Great subject matter Ali, top tier panel as well.