He dumped me… and it sucks:(
Вставка
- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Getting rejected for seemingly no reason is humiliating… so uh, welcome to my public diary.
I tried my best to tell an honest recount of what happened. I'm sure in a few weeks, I will feel differently. Maybe then, I will finally understand what happened, but right now, I just wanted to document my raw thoughts... please be nice:)
Also, the other person isn't here to tell their side or defend themselves. I am sure there are details I am missing and even though this really sucks, I don't want any hate to go toward him.
Girl first of all- there is nothing wrong with you. Literally every five seconds I was thinking “she’s so gorgeous ”. Also, I think you answered your own question. You said that you didn’t see yourself marrying him and he wasn’t everything you wanted. He said that he didn’t want to date for experience. That means he’s looking for a wife. He must’ve realized how you didn’t feel that way, you didn’t see yourself marrying him, he wasn’t everything you wanted, you just wanted to date for fun/company. So he ended things because you two had different goals (like he only wants to date for marriage)
Please don’t be upset, your so so gorgeous. You have got such a pretty face shape, such nice big brown eyes, and a beautiful nose.Literally, as a girl I am thinking that I wish I was as pretty as you. I know someone who went through this, your not alone. Don’t be embarrassed, please don’t. It’s his loss, he’s missing out on a beautiful girl, who is so kind and sweet.
listen girl, number 1 rule is that if a person is not willing to give you as much love and time that you give them then its not worth your time, don't be embarrassed that you tried to reach out to him to understand the situation for closure at least, that wasn't mature of him to block you like that. always put yourself first before anybody and make sure you understand that if anyone cant make time for you at least 30 mins a day then they aren't interested... i wish for you all the best. Personally i came to an understanding that if i go looking for a relationship on dating apps or other places i never find the right person.. just be patient and I'm sure you will stumble upon someone perfect for you, you're still young and you have SOOO much time to find someone lovely just like you
Yes that’s what I am trying to remind myself. I honestly wish I had left sooner and kept more of my dignity throughout the situation. But it was a good learning experience and I know after I take some time to heal, I’ll feel a lot better😊
You’d rather him lie to you then be honest? Trust me if he done that and led you on longer it would hurt a lot more
Relaxx... she is just expressing her feelings
I'm sending hug energy and it really feels humiliating when things like this happen but please remember what you are going through is normal and isn't all your fault.
Breaking up with someone out of spite isn’t wrong especially if they were broken up with first. At the end of the day, people just get over someone for good reasons and illogical reasons. Dating isn’t easy for anyone and is this is just part of dating.
This is normal with relationships unfortunately because of exactly how this guy acted in this video. He did have a reason, he just wanted to flip it to you not liking him or asking too much when it was really his problem. He just did not want to tell you the actual problem and break up like an adult, he wanted to be childish.
Thank you! It’s sad that this is the norm, but I’m glad things ended sooner rather than later ig
@@mypawfectfamily yes me too for you, you will find an honest good guy :)
@@mypawfectfamily your beautiful 😍❤️
ok stop hating on him. He knew they weren’t meant to be, so he stopped wasting her time and told her why. He said that he doesn’t date for experience, which would be her reason for continuing any further relations since she didn’t plan on marrying him. When she broke up with him, she gave less reasons than he did- and he didn’t force/pester/harass her to change her mind, he accepted it. So the reasons he gave her for breaking up should be more than enough in comparison. The only thing I think was childish, was him blocking her and removing her on everything. That’s a bit dramatic/overkill.
@@mypawfectfamily Girl, his loss. You are beautiful and worthy of real love. The beautiful part is that you are still young and can bounce right back but don't rush anything. Don't drown in one man's rejection.... You're 21 and I'm 30 so I am telling you from experience: The faster you get over it, the faster you're going to live your best life. Self love... Real self love is key.
It took me years to learn this lesson, I pray you grab it quicker than I.
P.S: Your two tone lips and your brown skin are perfect the way they are.
Hi Sahana,
You are so honest and raw and I appreciate that so much. I think you have a lot of courage to speak your heart and pour your feelings out and to cry. We aren't perfect as human beings but I love how you don't pretend to be and you are honest and mature enough to show your feelings and emotions to the world. I think this is a quality that people lack often these days.
Life is not easy. It's a roller coaster. I am unhappy and miserable most of my days so I am certainly not the gold standard.
But I think you are more confident than you know and more brave than many.
I love you.
Honestly it kind of sounds like after you broke things off the first time and then reached out again he maybe assumed you guys might have primarily a physical relationship, but because you were reaching out to go on more dates he wanted to end things because it wasn’t going the direction he was expecting. Sadly I’ve been in the exact same situation right down to replying with confusion when they say “I think you’re looking for a relationship and that’s not something I’m interested in”. It’s not your fault I just think you guys wanted different things and even though you said you weren’t even thinking of a relationship yet with him you wanted to do relationshipy things and him to behave like he was still courting you when he most likely wanted just physical benefits. It sucks and sadly the mystery of it has to be accepted you will never get a real answer from him about what went wrong but just know you are young and beautiful and have a lot to offer and you’ll find someone capable of matching your energy.
You need to set clear boundaries for yourself and stick to them. It’s okay to want a relationship and communication there’s nothing wrong with it. If a man can’t give you those things he’s just not that into you. Don’t let his feelings about you dictate how you see yourself. What one man won’t do another will. It’s just a part of life.
You will be ok, and you’re definitely beautiful, I say this as a girl a couple years older than you- so please don’t doubt yourself there 💜 Men can be fickle creatures, the same is true for women, just hold on the man best suited to you is most definitely out there. You’re only 21 you will grow so much more in the future- yes more beautiful but also more emotionally guarded and mentally strong. You have NOTHING to feel humiliated about. I find you charismatic (this from a hetero girl lol) perhaps once your studies are finished you can establish yourself in a major city on the east or west coast. I know this is very tangential but I think the increased diversity leads to more open minded men?? Sorry that’s a bit left field lol. And yes this video helped me I’ve felt all these emotions and thoughts-even your thought process is familiar. The questions you ask yourself about what you could have done differently, I have also asked myself. Thank you for making this video, and remember that you are enough you are complete, even without a life partner/spouse/boyfriend you are complete and whole. Everything you need to flourish is within yourself. Take care 💜
you're calling *him* fickle? she was obsessed with him, broke up with him, and decided she wanted to get back with him. he stuck to his decisions 🤦♀️
IM SO GLAD THAT YOU FEEL SO COMFORTABLE DHARING THIS WITH US... and I hope you know that ur not alone... I feel like this man is so sweet about the way he ended things with you but I also feel like you should stop blaming urself for what had happened... you are the most beautiful and sweetest lady on the planet... and I feel like it's his loss that he broke up with you... he's missing all of THAT!... if he was still with you I feel like he could see sm more of you! And how perfect you are!... I feel like this man really tried to pit it the best way possible that he didn't want to see you anymore... I'm still in hs but I've had a boy say EW to me before and it hurt... so your definitely not alone in this... and I feel like there are so many more people that are going through these hard times like you are rn... and yes... these things do happen in relationships and it's ok to feel sad... but I'm glad you told someone about and I hope you feel better ♡♡♡♡
Ya I think looking back, he just wasn’t that interested. It’s not his fault, and I’m glad he had the decency to end it in a somewhat civil manner.
It’s hard, but I’m just reminding myself that I am young and have time :)
@@mypawfectfamily Yah. Hang in there! Another opportunity will present itself down the road. Keep your chin up!
@@davidtaylor1164 Your so right!
You’re gonna find someone better! You’re so young, have a whole life ahead of you. Be yourself and whoever likes you, is gonna like u and stay!
His loss, gurl!
honestly don’t be so hard on yourself. what you felt is a totally normal thing in a situation like that and i know because i’ve been there before. you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea that’s just life, and unfortunately not every guy will be willing to give you what you know you deserve but that only means he’s not mr. right. a man who truly wants to be with you will make time for you, invest in your relationship, and learn your person like the back of his hand. “if he wanted to, he would” is just so true and eventually you will find that person for you i believe it.
girl i love you so much and you are absolutely gorgeous. he left cause he wasn't destined for you and the right person will feel like home I promise. Just let things be and if it's meant to be, he’ll be back in the most beautiful way and everything will feel right for you❤❤❤
Yes! Atleast a lot of time wasnt wasted haha. He’s a great guy, I’m sure we’ll both find someone else whose better for us :)
I understand girl!! I went through something similar this year. It is so hard. I understand feeling like the problem is on your end but it’s not! It’s his loss. But do be wary of him possibly coming back. Don’t give him another chance. He will fail you again. I was told my ex would probably come back after a while and try to get back together with me, but I wouldn’t believe it. Then a month later he starts messaging me. I shut him down, but a few months later he starts calling me. He is now blocked. It hurts blocking him when I remember how close we were, but it turned toxic.
As a Christian my faith got me through it, and I’m trusting God to bring me the right guy at the right time.
I really believe in god, and I know he has someone better out there for me :)
I am proud of you for ghosting him back
He finally showed you his true self, take time to work on yourself to heal and be able to be there for your next partner.
Sounds like teenage attraction.
Love isn't even involved.
I haven’t finished the video but you look soo lovely ❤
Also know that EVERYONE gets rejected. It sucks, and it will pass as you said. Thank you for sharing.
I need to see a video of thewizardliz reacting to this.
Omg I love thewizardliz, and she would be so disgusted if she saw this video lmaoo
@@almasjadidi why?
@@almasjadidi no she wouldn’t, liz isn’t evil she’s understanding
It's hard dating these days. People make time when they care about you. I know that's hard to hear. Plus if you didn't think you wanted to marry him. You don't need to waste your time or his time. You should be searching for what you want and keep non negotiables and he probably could tell u didn't see him as a soul mate. It probably hurt him
Broo I saw you on Instagram and I was in shock at how awesomely gorgeous but insecure you were
" I wasn't asking for anything, I guess that was still to much" hang in there you'll find someone
Girl unfortunately lots of amazing girls are staying lonely and single nowadays… I feel you… you are amazing, you are really beautiful. Wish you all the best 💗 you deserve to be treated amazingly. You are so genuine 😌 thank you for being real and honest.
she’s a racist, so not that perfect
It's okay lovely, it's absolutely normal and it's healthy to experience these things. I know so many women who have got with their first "sweetheart" and it ends in misery 12 years later with 2 kids because they never got to experience other relationships. Don't reach out to him again. It's done. You are very young. Plenty more fish in the sea.
Great comment! And well said
Hello friend! It’s okay, I’m sorry you had to go through this experience. There isn’t anything wrong with you and don’t ever question whether you’re “pretty enough”… you’re fuckin gorgeous to the right man. Idk if you’re gonna read this but I 100% related to this, thinking back to my 21 year old self. I had never dated in high school either because I wasn’t allowed to. At 21 I got into a similar situationship that lasted like 6 months. It ended with the guy basically rejecting me the same way, using his family problems as an excuse and I was so stupid because I kept holding on to the hope that if I was supportive and caring enough that he’d eventually come back to me… 4 years after all that, I barely think about him anymore and I’m in a wayyy better place in my life. It’s going to get better, I promise you. I love your videos and it really breaks my heart to see you like this. I hope you feel better soon. ❤
Yes!! I think it’s so easy to especially in college to think that 21 is so old, but in reality, we are just getting started
@@mypawfectfamilyYesss! And as cliche as it sounds, you do have your whole life ahead of you. In the grand scheme of things, these two months are just a blip in the timeline! You’re going to be just fine! Also don’t be humiliated, we girls do stuff like this all the time. I’m sure everyone can relate to sending those desperate texts. It’s completely normal! You had something good and it abruptly ended, it’s normal to want answers. I wish it was more normalized to express emotions in this day and age, idk why it’s seen as so negative. Whatever you’re feeling is absolutely valid! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
Im sorry that this happened to you! Always remember that you are beautiful simply because you are and that incompatibility can’t be fixed with good behaviour, some things aren’t meant to be.
I will note that it’s weird that you were shocked at his reaction to you ending things, seemingly wanting it to be more dramatic and wanting him to fight for you.
I might be reading too much into it, but wanting him to fight is a bit toxic and him trying to fix things wouldn’t speak to your value as a person
Girl you said you ended things abruptly first and now you wonder why he ended this? He ended because you played games.
If you are bending over backwards and “trying so hard” and begging. It reduces you in his estimation. As soon as you love yourself more you are gonna do great, you are so beautiful and so smart. You will be fine, find more self acceptance and love.
I think he didn’t feel secure because you broke up with him!! Dating is hard and I get all the feelings you have. Sometimes the reason for something makes you feel worse!
Yeah, same thoughts! Not blaming her, I feel sorry for her and hope she finds love again 💗 I feel like it’s just miscommunication. She felt insecure and broke up with him because she thought he didn’t like her. So then he felt insecure and thought she doesn’t actually like him and just wants to date to date. Unfortunate situation 😢
This is a really honest video.
In fact too honest if you ask me
From what I heard, the breakup happened just a day before this video
And I don't think making a video on UA-cam to release your frustration was the best idea.
You should've gone to your mom or someone with a lot of dating experience for comfort and advice
You said somethings that made you come off as conceited and self important.
The internet and movies have given you this
idea that the more attractive and/or successful you are the more people want to be with you, even when they don't like you, this is why you're hoping that even if your guy didn't like you your beauty and your status would make him want to be with you
And its quite sad that you'd want that
I think that despite all the praises you get, a part of you is insecure and afraid that if someone actually got close and got to know you, they might reject you
Thats probably why you hadn't dated for so long and also why you broke up with the guy first.
You were afraid he was about to reject you so you rejected him first before he could do it to you
What happened to you is totally normal, it happens to most people and it feels just as horrible. The only way to handle it is with time and experience. You're very young and inexperienced in life as well as relationships so of course you'll be devastated when a not so good looking guy rejects you even though you're a person who gets all these validations about her beauty and her successes. With time you'll get to know yourself better and also understand why people do what they do and want what they want
Girl, situationships & guys who use you. Your skin color isn't the issue, believe me. You're 21 and it's ok to make mistakes. Just don't do that again and you'll be ok. Don't put all your eggs in 1 basket, date a bunch of them and don't get attached to a guy who didn't offer you much. Nothing wrong with you. Lick your wounds and get back into the game gorgeous. If you want commitment, you'll get it. Don't change your goals for a bum. It's his role to impress you. Don't chase, don't beg, don't try to change someone's mind. If it's clear from the start he's not going to give you what you want or he's "too busy", you kick him to the curb. Ask and demand and have expectations, cuz if you don't you'll be walked all over and you'll say yes to bums who don't deserve you.
When time passes, you'll look back and laugh at what you saw in this bum. I promise 🍀
i literally couldnt even listen to what she was saying, I was so distracted by her pet
Perhaps you guys weren’t compatible , and in the long run that’s for the best. Sometimes life can get in the way of enjoying things to the fullest so perhaps he did you the favor that you probably deserved a person more available. You do you , dont alter yourself to fit in to someone else preference. Your person will come when you least suspect it and will appreciate your affection to them ❤️your young, beautiful, smart and kind hearted , these moments while they are hard they do not equate to your self worth or self esteem. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you , it’s a them problem ❤keep your head up , joy and love will come with someone who can communicate better then he did , hope you have a good day ❤
Ya it was definitely a new low for me:(
I would literally check his Instagram and Snapchat, and didn’t understand why he had time for those, but couldn’t reply back to my messages.
30 minutes a day should be the bare minimum:( I’m disappointed in how low little I thought I deserved
I’m sorry you had to deal with that, this is something in the future to look back on with pride to never allow someone to not give you the time and effort you deserve . Your worth more then he could offer. My mom gave me great advise to an ex I had who was emotionally unavailable when I would have him at the fore front of my mind , and wanted to share everything with him yet he rarely gave me any thought made me feel like do you even like me and I slowly lowered my standard of what I thought I was enough affection, when we broke up my mom said to me : he lost someone how loved him, and you rid yourself of someone who didn’t love you . I’m in a happily 14 year relationship and my partner never makes me feel the way my ex did , we actively say to each other your not just the love of my life but your my best friend . Sometimes as women we don’t even see how we slowly lose our self worth when someone rejects us but I promise you the older you get these bad experiences become tools for what not to accept in the future. Let your heart mourn and work through the emotions but don’t do negative self talk like what’s wrong with me instead more like too bad that didn’t work out . For now you get to pour all that effort and time you spent on him on to yourself ❤️so go treat yo self to something change the narrative of the day. My mom after a breakup we would do something fun because no one is allowed to steal my joy😅
Girl I feel u I had the same exact situation and I wanted to cry so bad but I didn't know whyyyyyyy . Gurl u will get better fs ❤
❤❤❤ I know I know. It just sucks right now, but I’m glad it happened sooner rather than later:)
@@mypawfectfamily girl just believe in your self and stop crying for boys who don't even care uk I learned my lesson and you tooo had soo best of luck 👍 ❤
Omg omg omg! Guuurrrl I am going through the same thing! I got blocked as well and I am devastated coz this has never happened to me. I am riddled with questions about what I had done wrong and why was I not good enough for him but we have to remember our self- worth. We bring so much to the table and have so much love to share. It is so painful but I believe this has all happened for a reason and we were saved from more heartbreak. Our special one is out there!!!
I m 23 years old...I too never got any male attention...when I tried talking with anyone, I m always left on seen or they block me...now I m trying to find happiness in solitude now...I m tired of all rejection...my friends make fun of me...I lost my confidence and self esteem
DUMP THOSE "FRIENDS"
@@NEET-uf8im not an easy thing tbh but when people say me you will be single it really doesn't effect me
Everything happens when it suppose to be.
Let me tell you little bit about myself so it make you feel better , i am 28 never been in a relationship. I was never any girls type .
I tried asking but got rejected ,so I stopped doing it .
Instead i realized I need to focus on myself, self improvement, don't focus on past ,focus on future .
I hope you will find someone down the road , Don't put too high expectations from others , if can't meet same deliver same back . Overall consider this as lesson and move on with life😂
Ok girl, the real problem is u seem too desperate. U want love life so badly that ur blinded. Not everyone can deal w/ relationships, maybe this guy didn’t realize until now. It sucks that u had to go through that but even if u weren’t asking for much he might just have not wanted it. In the end it’s better for both of u. Also u don’t know what was happening in his perspective, this makes him seem like the bad guy when there could’ve been sm else.
Ya I really tried not to say anything bad about him. But of course when you’re hurt, things come across differently.
At the end of the day, I’m glad it happened, and things played out how they were supposed to. It’s not necessarily what I wanted, but I know I’ll appreciate it in the long run:)
If the first thing he does is block you on social media he is a immature stop dating men with social media
Hey I've been subscribed to you from the beginning of your channel when you had 500 subs 😭. Now i feel like a proud mom seeing at over 200k. Anyways relationships come and go, the best way to cope with things like this is to take care of yourself. When you focus on yourself you tend to be happier and with happiness comes new opportunities (people)
The way she speaks is so amazing.🥰🥰
I’m sorry I know you’re hurting. I know exactly how it feels to not have had a boyfriend and to wonder if it’s ur fault you haven’t. But girl, the biggest issue I saw in this video is that you were trying to please him and not yourself. You were doing things thinking about him and not thinking about yourself!! remember that it’s always you> everyone! You are perfect and so beautiful as you are. People project their issues. So know that him not wanting to pursue you is his loss not yours. He might just not be on the same page as you for something and that’s fine. Don’t lower your standards or self respect or self worth by chasing validation and acceptance. If my guess is right and you are like me, you are chasing male validation or trying to make up for lost time. Maybe refocus it all on loving you ❤ hope that was relevant !
Jesus...Why are people so rude in the comments?
Correction: It's not men who are afraid of committment. It's immature, foolish boys. I've gone through this many times as a young woman and now come out the other side. I need you to know something, that one day, you'll be eternally grateful that he's out of your life. He's just not good enough - immature and babyish. Who blocks someone for no reason? You're better off.
Did anyone else have the same experience in their first relationship. After a while it got tiring and I started just seeing guys I liked and using them. I don’t think I really care about guys I’ve learned to prioritize myself.
A little late in seeing this but I think the main thing is your expectations didn’t match. You yourself said you couldn’t see this long long term. But he’s repeatedly said he doesn’t want to play games or what im getting is he doesn’t want to be an afterthought especially after you first broke it off. He already thought “oh okay she doesn’t like me then” and then when you reached out again to him it probably seemed like “oh now she wants to give this another chance??”. He also repeatedly mentioned he cant offer what you want. I think you’ll just find the right person when most of the things match up and you’ll both feel the same way in wanting to pursue a relationship together
STAHPPP GURLL I FEEL FOR YOU :( i swear i would throw hands if I saw him. You deserve all the happiness in the world and I hope good things come your way
what did he do wrong tho? was he just supposed to keep leading her on? 🤦♀️
@@twinkiestar6538 no, but it would've been better if he explained to her why they even broke up instead of leaving her in the dark.
10 years ago, I was ghosted by 2 guys I was seeing in a row. The first I was seeing for 3 months and honestly I should have realized it was a red flag that he had a 1995 black and white flip phone and no social media. He would text me and Skype me when away (we went to college together). He kissed me goodbye one day and was starting a 16 hour car ride, and told me he would text me when he took a break. I didn't hear from him for 6 weeks. Literally thought he died in a car accident or was in jail. After those 6 weeks, he messaged me like nothing happened. Made ME seem crazy that I was saying it's been 6 weeks, and was acting like we had just talked the day before. I'm STILL at a loss for what happened and he still lives in my head 😭. A few months later I started seeing a new guy who I saw for 4 months. Even brought me to his parents house to meet them. The morning of his birthday he wanted to meet up with me after he had dinner with his parents and my stupid ass made a key lime pie from scratch for him as a surprise. Never heard from him again. These two incidents fucked my head up so bad, and I still just wanna ask them both why.
damn sounds like you've got some personality issues you've got to work on
The lizard is giving me anxiety..
Leave it.. you're tiring it..
It wants to go🥲
First of all, you're a very pretty girl. Then, when a Man doesn't prioritise you, you practically have to beg or fight for his attention and time. The relationship won't work this way.
Fact is he's got someone else he likes and he's interested in.
Let him be, if he's the one for you, he will come back to you but if he doesn't, just let him go. Hang out with friends, read books, watch movies, just try to distract yourself. Trust me the moment you outgrow this feeling you will wonder what you really saw in him. Keep an open mind, the one who will love you right will come your way. Cheers
she's just your regular ordinary college student who can afford cosmetic surgery while she's going to school and dates guys she isn't serious about long-term relationships with. lol😅
Also the way you said “am i not pretty enough to be lied to but just straight out rejected” has more to do with how you see men and dating. A GOOD PERSON WOULD NOT STRING SOMEONE ON. Regardless if you’re pretty/ugly etc. if they dont see a future with you the right thing to do is tell you straight up. NOT CHEAT. NOT GHOST. none of the BS.
I’m confused, you dumped him first over text and now ur confused why he dumped you… maybe he was still hurt and didn’t value you anymore
Ya maybe! At the end of the day,I will never know his side:( but I can still share my story and how I felt:)😊
Hey that's not true she explained her reasons after she contacted him, but he did not give her any satisfactory answer to why he did that 🤷♀️
tip, not intended to be mean though it can come off as it can be rather subjective as to whether or not this is unattractive to others, but you do this snorting kind of inhalation through your nose that is noticeable and alarmnig for lack of better words... may want to fix this habit, not sure if thiss is a tick or a habit. hope you feel better.... relationships are hard.
He broke up with you out of spite by the way. I broke up with my ex, we got back together, then when we argued again he hurried up and broke up with me. Then tried to come back 3 weeks later. He messaged you a semi hurtful message so yes, his ego was bruised. Just how you feel rejected, he felt rejected earlier. Just call your energy back, focus on you and work on your self-love/confidence. The more reach out to him, the more they lose respect for you. Hold back from him, and he will reach out. ❤ Sorry this happened to you but sounds like you dodged a bullet. Quit blaming yourself questioning your beauty. That’s unfair to you. Take this as a great learning lesson though!
I don’t think he’ll come back:( and even if he did, I think it would just hurt more.
Ya I just want to focus on me for the rest of the year and take time to evaluate what I want and need :)
Thanks for the kind comment!! I think you nailed how I feel
You are beautiful! You did nothing wrong. But definitely having high standards at your age will change dating for you 100% ❤ You are good enough. Anybody that makes you feel the opposite is not worthy of you. Remember: You should never pay for a guy, you are a luxury he needs to afford. High or low dates are on him. Second, never ask for attention. If he is interested..you will feel it; You will know. If the attention he is giving you doesn’t meet your standards, he can’t fit in your schedule either. Selective dating is important. Your have an amazing platform, date people according to your goals. You are 21..a lot to live, learn and love ♥️ can’t wait to see ALL those HIGH quality men you will date until you find the one. Always date with a purpose, fun, adventure, love, support whatever you are looking for at the time (it always changes) But don’t date just to date.. is like picking an outfit you don’t even like and expect complements. So having no boyfriend is better than having a low quality one 😉
He likes different girl. Just don't talk to him at all. Don't block him or anything just don't pay attention to him. And you need experience with dating. With dating I mean just go hang out and talk. Nothing more otherwise as women you get more confused and misused. eventually you understand the dating game a little bit.That's my advice. now your ego is just bruised, women are not strong like man with rejection. You clinched on the first guy that gave you little bit attention. But it's normal every girl goes through that phase. For now you need to build your self esteem around man
Girl he already blocked me 😭
I think you’re right, I need to slow things down and enjoy the experience, not just rush into something
@@mypawfectfamily he did you huge favor. Well, if you want to enter the dating game brace yourself for the liars and cheaters sooner or later you will encounter them and brace yourself for your first heart break. Everyone has to go through that process. But overall it will be fun and learningfull. Good luck 🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰🥰
Awww yes this unfortunately happens A LOT. I don’t think he fully communicated with you. People would rather ghost than fully explain before leaving. It’s definitely humiliating and confusing.
I also think you sound very insecure and lack a little self-worth and self-love. I’m not saying this to be mean at all I promise because I used to be the exact same way and I kept being in situations like this. I used to question my beauty, my worth and I also made excuses for myself why others treated me badly. You have to start believing in yourself and NEVER ever beg any man, friend, coworker or family member for anything. Once you feel firm in who you are then you will never attract people like this and you will start thriving. You sound like such an incredible person who is a giver but make sure to give wisely and to keep your cup full for your own energy.
You are beautiful and clearly have a good understanding of what potentially happened. Just learn from it and raise your standards and don’t put up with anyone treating you in a shady manner.
I’m also a brown girl and I’ve dated a lot of white men mostly who treated me this way. Smh. Anyway! Sorry for the long comment but I’m totally subscribing to you! 💓
Hey I recently found your channel and I just want to say your beautiful and an amazing person! I went through the same thing I was friends with a guy and we've been talking for 2 years and he told me he had a crush on me I had the same feeling but we're both not interested in online dating we promised we would meet in real life but days goes by he slowly dry texting me I was always excited to talk to him but ig he didn't feel that way and I finally said it's best if we're not friends anymore and he just said okay it hurts and now we stopped talking for 6 days and still miss him he was a great guy but yes not everything will work out. BUT I'M SURE YOU'LL FIND WHO IS BETTER THAN HIM GIRL!! HE MISSED THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL EVER
Plus he was a weird guy he always talks about having kids -_- because I'm half Indian and German and he's Mexican
Dude!
Is that a chameleon? Wait.. lizard fam? What's this creature, my love? And its name?
Cute it cutttee.
I’m really proud of you sharing this. It’s really brave of you and talking about it is relieving. We will never know why he decided to block you. That’s really rude imo but it seems like that’s the norm now? Sorry about that. It sounds like just different asks from each other. I don’t think you did anything wrong. Relationships are not just about checking the boxes of what a good girlfriend should be or act like. Do not blame or question yourself just because he blocked you, that’s out of your control.
What you can control is yourself and how you react. I think you are very mature and articulate and thoughtful! However, perhaps in relationships there is some self work that is needed. Why do you feel anxious when you do not meet him but everything is fine when you meet him? What does dating mean to you? Is it merely seeing each other and hanging out and it’s totally fine if it doesn’t work out or do you actually want something more but saying you’re not looking for commitment is a defensive mechanism? Is that why this is harder on you (barring that rude blocking which is his problem, not yours!) Why is the first thought when he blocked you that it’s something wrong with you/a reflection of your attractiveness? Why do you feel like you’re not good enough for everyone just because you’ve been single all your life at 21 instead of it being because you haven’t found the right person? Be compassionate to yourself ❤
I feel the exact same way ... I just want to cry all day
It doesn’t feel good to be broken up with and blocked. That being said you broke up with him first. That probably soured him on things. He gave it another shot but just didn’t see it working out so he broke up with you. It is hard to come back from a breakup since the trust is kind of broken. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Always try to look at the longer term timeline of events because it can give you more insight into how things actually played out.
You are beautiful and you deserve so much love and happiness ! ❤it’s gonna be okay
I am scrolling through comments to read about the lizard!
Haha it’s my pet crested gecko names cheeto! He’s the best!!
@@mypawfectfamily aww thats such a cute name! can you make more pet videos?
Went through similar ish when I was your age and a bit older I learned my last lesson at 24 yo. It takes a lot of frogs before meeting the right guy. Btw, get ready for this dude to come right back to you when you will either start dating again, or out of nowhere like a ghost. Men are undecided creatures… that’s why we are taking a huge risk from having them rule our planet. You’ll get over it and in a few months, or even weeks, I bet you’ll laugh about it. Sending hugs from NYC
I feel like they a was more about you than him, it wasn't that you even liked him that much but the rejection itself that you couldn't get over
hey, I found your channel recently and I just wanna say that you these feelings of being "too much" or being "not good enough" are probably related to a deeper issue that has been triggered by this breakup situation and not actually entirely related to the guy itself which is probably why you feel confused. i would also say me and my friends have had similar situations (im 22) since starting to go on dating apps at 18~19 and I agree with the comment that said the guy probably wanted to break up/end things but wasn't sure how to do it so he chose a reason that seemed "better" or less hurtful e.g. im probably not what you're looking for. Also when you ended things over text the first time, he may have felt really hurt and couldn't feel the same about dating you after you initated breaking up, but that's also just speculation. I would say to try and focus on things you love and are good at, and hopefully the right person will show themselves to you ❤️
It just means he’s not into you.. and there wasn’t much of a connection. When they want to leave, just let them go bc it means they don’t want to be with you. Not really a strong legit connection there.
Shame we don't have his version of events....
Ya, I addressed it in the description. Obviously this is just my perspective and he’s not here to defend himself. I’m just sharing how I felt and what it was like on my end:)
Obviously no hate towards him
@@mypawfectfamily The Victim mentality is profitable..or martyr mentality...
I can see why he lost interest.
@@Skills748 honestly I see your point lol. This was filmed like literally hours after it happened, emotions r fresh and obviously I feel bad for myself.
Buttt I did not say a single rude thing about him, and at the end of the day, I still think he’s a great guy and went about it in the best way he knew how! I think no matter how he handled it, I was just not in a headspace to listen and would have felt the same
@@mypawfectfamily don't try to reason w these types of comments tbh they're not trying to hear ur perspective and just wanna play devil's advocate 😭 but i appreciate you being mature when dealing w them. I hope you'll be feeling better soon, these situations are rough af, and you're beautiful by the way so don't be insecure!! ♥️
You just wanted him to be excited to see you, but didn't want something serious. Sounds narcissistic as fuck tbh. You wanted to use him for attention and then he played uno reverse and rejected you lol. Now you're upset
Or... you wanted something serious but have low self esteem so you tell them you want nothing serious because you believe they won't choose you, so you reject them first.
Any of the options are bad girlie
I've been blocked too and I don't know why...I relate with you I grew up in Fargo didn't have a boyfriend in high school either I don't get a lot of attention from men either but I got over it and you will too! ❤❤
It has been a year now since you first posted this storytime....can you please post a followup video about where you are now as far as relationships. Thank You, also I'm sorry to hear your "situationship" did not workout, but maybe you should expand the "type" of guys you like, sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone to have real success.
Similar thing happened to me. I tried to end things, I was bluffing. I didn't me want to end things. Then he dumped me
Nope just be glad it’s over. Move on he is not the one for you. Your Bae is out there. Just wait patiently. If he wasn’t thinking about you he is not for you. ❤ and your gorgeous. Keep being you. ❤
Don't beg for his attention either. It's Nirmal though. It's tough but hard.
You're told him by TEXT that you were good on him first. REMEMBER THAT! It plays a larger role than you think in his behavior. Then you probably blew him up and annoyed him when he had already decided that he was kinda just good on you. He gave you another chance probably against his true will - but he really wasn't interested anymore.
And you called this a situationship - but it DOES sound like you were trying to make it something else. He didn't want that. Basically when he noticed your feelings were getting involved - he moved on.
And when someone blocks you - move ON. Definitely don't run back and embarrass yourself.
you’re 21 then why in your UA-cam bio it’s written 18?
Ya I need to update it lol. I started when I was 18
Hey just want to let you know everything is going to be okay, and we r here for u ❤
I can feel you feeling girl
❤
May be someday you will become one of those old women who are crying online because of fear of living alone..gud luck
The way u always smile while talking is a bit creepy, u don't have to put up a fake front...it's okay to be sad 😅
HOLD UP, WHEN DID YOU GET 170k+ SUBSCRIBERS?!?!?!?!?
Also, I’m really sorry to hear that, relationship stuff sucks.
Haha it really blew up recently from shorts:) and ya thank you! I know it’ll be fine, it just sucks rn
this sounds exactly like my first relationship-
Who is the ungrateful bum?! I will kick his A**!!! No, but seriously, I'm sorry you had to go through this, but I believe it is better that you didn't invest any more time and energy towards a relationship that didn't appear to have enough lasting potential. I also think it's better that he didn't just humor you with a bunch of b.s. dating behavior that wouldn't have been sincere.
You deserve someone who will genuinely respect you and be honest about everything he says and does. I know it's not common, but it's still possible. I couldn't help but wonder if he might be somewhat insecure and/or intimidated by your considerable celebrity status, but may not want to admit it.
I know I'm just speculating, but he may have checked out a lot of your previous videos/posts, and perhaps would feel awkward if you two were out somewhere, and some of your followers/fans wanted to meet you and socialize a bit. Please forgive me if I'm wrong in presuming that he does not have the recognizable status that you do, as a popular UA-camr.
Even if that's not the case, he still might only be interested in certain aspects of a relationship, as, unfortunately, so many men often are, and thus he may also be commitment-phobic, to some degree or another. If so, then you're still definitely better off without him. Sorry for typing so much, but it could also just be a matter of, "It's not you, it's him." Best Wishes To You! 🙏
Haha no hate towards the guy, it’s okay:) not everything is meant to work out!
Perhaps that's the reason, 'you tried so hard...'....the key is not to please too hard and it's ok, dont take ot personally. .
Perhaps je is dating around and had found a better person for him. Again dont take it personally.
You are very young. There are plenty of mem out there.most important of all. Dont take it personally and always be like are are already fulfiled on your life and dont need them.
I am 44( though i don't look like it) and i still have lots of men chasing me
Maybe cos i just give these.men that yes i can be nice, slightly flirty but i dont need them energy.
Hugs girl. 🤗
Men will show you how they feel with their actions not just their words. You’re too cute to be doing all this chasing. Lay back and let them do a little more of the work next time: if you want a relationship make your needs and attraction clear and sit back and observe.
You seem very insecure
Only Jesus can live you truly, try him . Ask him to come in to come in to your life and try
I used to see your shorts in UA-cam .....and today i thought of seeing one of your video ...and then boom i thought ur Indian but listening to ur voice just made me more curious to know u more... iloveyou ❤️ua very gorgeous
She's probably Indian American
People - men/women are immature even in their late 20’s and early 30’s!! You’re super young and you’ve a lot to experience and learn. When a guy is not into someone they act complicated just like this fellow!! I am glad he’s out of your life!! You don’t want a half assed boyfriend. I’d say study well, start working and when the right one comes along, everything will feel organic there will be an effort. Don’t miss that part. Watch what he does not says.
You’re too young and don’t be bothered ❤️ easier said than done but you’ll be out of it soon!! Also, I married in my community someone my parents short listed!! It was the best decision ever (6 years and a baby later)… culturally, temperament wise, upbringing, food habits are all same and then we hit it off like house on fire right from the word go. Married in two months from that date and I couldn’t be more happier. Parents know the best 🫣🥹☺️
Right!! At the end of the day, I’m glad it worked out how did did and that I can put my time and energy into someone or something else:)
Also yes, love the comment about my age. I think it’s so easy to feel so much pressure when you see all your friends around you in relationships, but at the end of the day, 21 is super young
This comment is the best!
Bro I so wanted to watch it but I can’t tolerate looking at that animal on you
I am so scared
Just listen to it like a podcast???!
Eh a 21 year old guy is basically 12. They think they have tons of options-they don’t really. Whatever you do, do not take him back. No second chances. 21 is very young, you will hit 25 and a million men will hit on you, you’ve just been hanging around college age men who are still adolescent. Shoot a bit older if you want marriage and commitment and take care of yourself.
no second chances...
that's exactly what I tell myself when I ignore texts and emails from chicks I dated years ago that went off to do their own thing and then changed their minds and tried to come crawling back 😂
After watching your entire video all I can say that u are beautiful & brown girls are attractive more than other because of our skin tone... That guy doesn't deserve u so don't think about it
wanna see the whole hairiririir
Girl, don't fret. You are beautiful!! I'm not even being nice lol. You are. It sounds like he thought you were being clingy by wondering why he wasn't thinking about/talking to you more. He sounds stupid honestly. Whatever. I know it hurts now but know it's him, not you. It sounds like you have a lot to offer plus a bonus that you're beautiful! What a catch you will be for a nice mature man. ❤️
Edit: your video about "average white girls" got me feeling different about you now.. Not in a good way. 😒
Something aren’t ment to be…. He probably did you a great favor?
What about your pets
I still have them!! This video actually has my new crested gecko Cheeto haha
please make a bridal makeup tutorial 😃
Same sis. Same.
Please test the man before including them in your every daylife.before emotionally invested to them, though you don't want to attached emotionally but you did and got hurt. You are already busy woman.
If you needed help please book written by emotional stable people like( loving what it is by Bryon Katie) maybe you will be able to get your answers to questions why he did this to me?etc.
How do you test them??
Dude why are you lowering your standards? You’ll be okay, you dont need to be all crying and insecure, dw it will all work out
LOL yeah only MEN have to lower THEIR standards. 😂