Just remember those meaningless, insignificant comments don't define you... And please don't cry, think of the people who sincerely love you...❤ You're Stronger ...and an incredible person!💞
Oh ❤️ i hope you have someone to talk to, if don't look for someone (friends/familie/therapist)! Don't stay alone with this, situation like this can really be traumatic ❤❤❤❤I'm serious pls don't stay alone with your feelings! I wish you the best! ily girl❤
Okay, off topic but I love how the outfit is so badass and just giving me villain vibes, perfectly coordinating this video's topic. Tam really is a badass for doing this
When a hater was throwing dirt on my name in front of the whole class and I remain silent, everyone assumed that I'm a weak idk how to defend my self. Even that hater thinks that they won.
In this situation you need to stand up for yourself. Or you can just laugh at the person and comment in an ignoring way towrds them like: Oh really?; Are you okay,? You didn't seem well to me since morning; Who lied to you honey?😂 lol
My dear. I'm 42. You are Not cringe. I wish at your age I had acquired the wisdom and focus on goals you seem to have. I watch your videos daily and learn so much. Keep em coming girl! 💪
“You’re too busy prioritizing history over sincerity” DANG! I really needed this video, I’ve been contemplating trying to make “friendships” work that clearly haven’t been working for the last year and I’ve been putting the fact that we’ve been friends for many years over the reality that they’ve been hurtful, hateful and disrespectful towards me. Your videos always straighten me out to help me move forward, so thank you!
This really got me, too. I met my old friends when I was at my lowest, and they have helped me through everything. But then, as soon as I got my shit together, they all started being mean to me and disrespect me, gossip behind my back and stuff... Moving on!!
0:29 idgaf 0:50 #1 master detachment 2:09 #2 "how can i be 1% better than yesterday?" 2:44 #3 live a life where u r ur own bsf 3:18 #4 outdo the rest 4:13 #5 always be busy (not overwork) 8:05 mindset 8:20 #1 being hated on is a privellge 9:20 #2 "why r they on the pedestal?" 9:59 #3 ppl will generalize the tiniest thing u do to ur entire personality 10:59 #4 judgment is a game of miserable 12:24 #5 stop trying to be normal 12:56 #6 "have fun playing with urself" 13:33 #7 ppl can only see reality that they have experienced 14:21 #8 ppl only perceive u in a way that suits them 15:39 #9 they really are just insecure 18:00 #10 ur simply a moment in each other's life 19:01 #11 compassion & empathy 20:50 confidence boost 20:53 #1 why does their opinions even matter? 21:22 #2 u don't need to compete in order to be better than anybody else 21:57 #3 confidence & self love go hand in hand 22:26 #4 real confidence comes from within 23:44 #5 some ppl just hate u and that's normal
The amount of hate I am receiving from work even after I left 😅 Gives me anxiety at times but I try to stay strong and just be confident everytime. Nobody ruining my confidence.
The line when she said "i am the one who held my hand from the day i was born" brought tears in my eyes🥺 Thank you tam for making me realise this simple thing❤️
"People who say that you are cringe are the people who fear of being perceived bad and can't get out of their comfort zone".I really loved this part.As a person who had many haters,Many people tried to spread a lot of rumours about me and tried to make me gain enemies,this video was so relatable for me and your advice is so useful and perfect.💖
my friends i thought were closest to me started isolating me over reasons they never bothered to tell me about, and it hurt alot but i started accepting it and moving on and focusing on myself and working hard towards my life so much because of ur help and advice im so greatful to u im now able to have a peaceful mind even if things arent going well
Sis!! The same shit happened with me a few days back! My clg frnds started ghosting me for no reason :) But I decided not be a side chick all the time and I clearly communicated my boundaries with one of them, this girl was really close to me! And tbh I felt a lil bad.. And now... I'm watching this video :) Well I hope.. Both of us will be getting out of this and get back on track focusing on becoming our best self!! 💗💗💗
@@Ragini.sanjay omg yes i had a similar issue i tried to communicate how i felt about certain things and they thought i was being problematic and just started leaving me out of plans and including someone else :( worst part is it happens everyday in front of me so its pretty difficult but im getting by. At first i blamed myself for it but now i learned to accept that people are always gonna be different i hope you'll get better friends!! u did the best u could
I don't know if you can read our minds but I'm currently going through smt very similar, recently people have been bullying me and posting shit about me on social media due to which I had to leave social media and get away from the negativity even after doing all of that, those ppl kept posting them and calling them “victims” thank you sm for this video, I'm learning not to let these ppl affect my and my mental health, lots of love❤
I am facing backlash from my own family and worst part is that i am only 17 and they are showing me their worst side being toxic to me day by day , i always wish that i had a mentor who can guide and i am so grateful that i found you Tam , thanks for being the elder sister i never had ❤ love your videos
I just want to add something. Real confidence is in being humble. If I'm better than my colleagues and classmates (in terms of achievements), I treat them with kindness and sincerity. Of course people won't respect someone who is suddenly a new person with an IDGAF mentality the moment they see some success. Keep in mind that most truly successful and wealthy people are humble.
Tam, finding you is like one of the best things that could happen 😭 thank you for giving so much confidence in a little 18 year old girl like me. Much love to you too 💖💖💖
Oh me to I have been 18 since the end of June.I am also getting better but sometimes I feel so insecure and get embarrassed of what I am doing or something like insecure of my nose like this.And mostly I get so insecure when I am giving a presentation among other group students it is sooo difficult And still I am being scared of this😢Can we have a conversation if you want?
I colored my hair blue the two strands on the front and this girl that got bangs and regreted it and she always hides her bangs she said to me "i rate ur bangs a 3" and another girl next to me told me "why arent u sad" and i said "why should i be"
Edit: found your videos on motivation and ruts so I'm set and will probably try to go out of my way to absorb that particular material. I think for those of us with abnormal schedules, chronic health situations, etc. for me, my focus will probably be choosing three or so things that will most move the needle. That and reading books about habits and discipline would likely be a great foundation as well. And finding ways to remove screens from the equation whenever possible as they are the ultimate distraction and some of us (Tam) are better than most at using them for good. And focusing on making habits pleasant like you did with studying while you were working/in school. Original comment: While I'm not the girl mentioned, I sympathize with how slowly some of us are to break out of ruts or have work schedules that aren't optimal for the typical early bird popularized schedule. I'd love to see content on breaking bad habits (internet, suboptimal daily routines, binge watching, taking on too little change at once, and excuses). Your content is life changing, you are incredible at what you do and I genuinely mean it when I say that.
I love how the confidence of what your speaking shows through every single video. ❤ Your words of advice has helped me recently and is definitely needed for so many people.
I really needed this video right now in my life, I have been being bullied and hated on just because I act like myself and because I would rather be happy then be popular, so THANK YOU ❤❤❤
I’m going to be rewatching the heck out of this- you are seriously incredible and radiate your confident energy right through the screen. THANK YOU for all of your inspiring and life changing videos, I only found your channel within the past few months and your videos have helped so much in my journey to finding better self confidence
Listening to this video while I’m cooking dinner standing here snapping my fingers in the air because YES! If I care about what others think I am at the mercy of strangers for the rest of my life! Your videos are so awesome. Thank you for sharing your perspectives what an amazing community here!
also, and there are people in my life who get mad or defensive about certain things and they call me disrespectful but i really don't care because i know they are projecting like i know someone who isn't emotionally mature, and they project onto me but i just say ok and move on because i know that what they say isn't true and it's just so simple but has a big impact like truly if you like you that's all that really matters
00:00 🚀 *Lifestyle of Detachment* - Individuals with a "don't care" mentality master detachment. - They cut off anyone misaligned with their dream life. - Prioritize self-actualization over external validation. 02:19 🌟 *Daily Self-Improvement Focus* - Their daily priority is self-improvement, aiming to be 1% better each day. - Shift from seeking external validation to pursuing personal goals. - Embrace uniqueness and rarity, rejecting the desire to fit in. 03:59 🛤️ *Embracing Uniqueness and Non-Conformity* - People who don't care appreciate being unique and rare. - Comfortable not fitting in, understanding that outgrowing others is part of the journey. - Daily focus on pushing personal boundaries and going the extra mile. 06:05 🎓 *Prioritizing Passion and Purpose* - Being busy with fulfilling activities prevents dwelling on negativity. - Having a passion or purpose adds meaning and improves confidence. - Committing time to personal growth and learning contributes to a fulfilling life. 08:06 🧠 *Mindset Shifts* - Being hated on is a privilege, a sign of relevance. - Placing haters below oneself on the pedestal diminishes their impact. - Understanding that people's judgments are often based on limited information. 11:08 🚫 *Normalcy is Overrated* - Rejecting the pursuit of normalcy and embracing individual potential. - Dismissing societal expectations leads to personal empowerment. - Acknowledging that disapproval from others is a sign of breaking away from the norm. 13:02 🙊 *No Response to Haters* - The best response to a hater is no response. - Reacting or defending oneself only gives haters access to energy. - Maintaining a higher vibration by not engaging in negativity. 15:48 🔄 *Haters' Insecurity and Projection* - Haters are often projecting their insecurities and fears. - Understanding that judgments are confessions of the hater's reality. - Realizing that people perceive others in a way that suits their own narrative. 17:50 🔄 *Hater's Apology* - Proof that hating is often a reflection of personal insecurity. - Acknowledging that hate is rarely personal. - Recognizing that interactions with haters are temporary moments in time. 18:19 🌌 *Understanding Adversity and Lessons* - Adversity is a gift that unlocks inner strength. - Every challenging experience teaches valuable lessons. - Shift from victimhood to seeing challenges as opportunities for growth. 19:12 🤝 *Compassion Towards Haters* - Develop compassion for haters by understanding their pain. - Shift from seeing them as mean to recognizing their insecurities. - Transforming anger into pity helps protect your peace. 20:25 ⚡ *Protecting Your Energy from Haters* - Others need your permission to affect your self-esteem. - Refrain from getting triggered; retain control over your emotions. - Don't let haters destruct your peace by allowing yourself to be triggered. 20:53 🌐 *Mastering Confidence: Why Others' Opinions Don't Matter* - Confident individuals don't give undue importance to strangers' opinions. - Inner confidence surpasses the need for external validation. - Being at peace with oneself eliminates the impact of others' opinions. 22:29 🛡️ *True Confidence from Within* - True confidence stems from self-awareness and self-love. - External factors like looks and success are temporary confidence boosters. - Base confidence on understanding and accepting oneself at the core. 23:56 🚫 *Dispelling "All Haters Are Fans" Myth* - Not all haters are secretly admirers; some genuinely dislike you. - It's normal not to get along with everyone; diversity in connections is healthy. - Disliking and being disliked are natural aspects of a fulfilling life tc :)
I loved your badass vibe through it all, I am dealing with some hate at work + family I was just starting to overthink and lowkey panic about "oh but how am I gonna do this and this and that if they don't like it" but then this video came at the absolute perfect time
The idea that even if someone is the prettiest person in the world, if they have a poor self-perception then they see someone ugly in the mirror-it’s such an important shift in perspective.
I just loved the video , it really has boosted my confidence and it was a much needed podcast, Thank you Tam you’re really a blessing in our lives!❤️❤️❤️
Tam, you’re so helpful. I’ve been struggling for a while with bullies and you’re helping me become a better person for myself. You’re like an older sister to me. Thank you ❤❤
This is also an issue in the work environment. Lots of bullies who want to step all over you and want you to bow to their toxicity. And try to villainize you if you speak up or set boundaries.
Your videos and podcasts are so wise and inspirational! I listen to them during my morning routine and feel inspired to keep working on myself and finding light even when all seems dark.
First off you’re beautiful! 😍 and second I really love your content! Even though, I have grown so much on my self-development and self-care journey, I love listening to your content because that means I will become a way better version for myself everyday. Also, I used to always ask myself why I had so much haters and so called friends who put me down. Listening to this video has made me realize that I have always been doing something right and people felt intimidated by my presence. Thank you so much for creating useful content and giving me clarity to visualize things better. ❤❤❤ Much love you beautiful 😍
I literally adore you. When you speak, I can feel how much you are honest and how you want us to successed. And I am really grateful that I found you. ❤
Wow this is one of the best videos I've seen on UA-cam this year. Tam you are a force! I'm 33 and as someone who has had haters, bullies and mean girls come at me from school right up to the corporate world this video has resonated with me massively. Thank you x
I’ve only been on UA-cam 6 weeks and my first “hate” comment broke my heart 😩. I had to quickly shift me feelings and attitude and thoughts and instantly didn’t care 🤗. Thank you for this video ❤
Tam kaur tysm, i really needed this.Recently so many people have been hating and gossiping for no reason.You helped me achieve so much i really hope i can meet you one day
I just got a hate comment under my gofundme post on instagram and I was so enraged… but somehow I knew to come to your UA-cam account and search for a video on how I felt about in the moment then boom. No response is the best response. I’m so at peace when I listen your advice ❤️ I have so much love for you and you helped me through so much. Especially during a difficult time in my life.
Thanks! 🥰 THAT whole thing was SO AWESOME! Thank you, Tam for all you've done and all you're doing! Wishing you infinite success and joy from now til forever Xx 🎈💕
I cannot thank you enough for this video, I loved this man and it was the perfect timing. I literally just had an experience today where people were talking shit behind my back and I found out and I was feeling awful because what kinda person takes a very normal friendly interaction I had with them and paint it to others as being desperate and got no self respect. I was feeling so down and kept telling myself that they are probably just miserable with their lives to take time outta their day and talk shit about a very normal interaction. Your video just emphasized that even more and made me feel so inspired cuz DAMN GIRL I'm doing something right and they probably just feel threatened although I'm just going about my day normally. Thank you so much love.
I got bullied so much by girls since nursery and until 5th Grade because I attended a girls school and was quiet. It was always girls who insulted me and I always accepted it with a smile and never spoke up or yelled at them to make them stop because I was so worried I'd be friend-less again. The side effects of being bullied at a young age are still with me but this video is literally gonna help me get over it soo much! Thank uuu Tam!
thank yu very much for your love, wisdom and inspiration!! :) i have to say that thanks to your videos i am starting my own digital business from an idea of one of your videos, learned a lot about things i completey dismissed in my life and cut all toxicity from my life and now i just feel im becoming my best version :)😍😍💖
I just can't explain in words how much these video helped me personalyy. A group of ppls who were my friends few months ago truly mentioned me and hated me by saying she is always full of herself . I really thought I might me and I need to change myself I just left those ppls after so much of my inner debate as my finals are near and I really just want straight A* and as friends they only gave me negetive energy whole year and I was more focused on pleasing them and fitting into their criteria. But now I am much clamer person who only priotise on self development and self growth. I dont have a older sibling to help guide me and I am grown by not sharing things with my parents but tam never fails to make me feel safe saying I am here. This really means a lot to me. Love you from India ❤
Hi I just wanted to say thank you so much for this video and your channel overall! You really helped me with my journey in overcoming my struggles with confidence because of abuse and bullying from a young age. I truly believe god/the universe led me to your channel because you were the messenger I needed to improve myself!
School just started and i was very much isolated from hanging with people i don't like and after hearing everything you said and my fav is when you said why do wanna fit in when you don't want to be them. Honestly loving black fit and red lips combo.
Oh my god thank you!!! You talk just like me with the same level of drama so your words are not just HELPING they're also extremely entertaining. I saved up so many lines from you and I already memorized them. Struggling with narcissistic, homophobic, racist, confusing, far right parents that don't care about anything but their religion and what it says. They're not faithful they were just traumatized by the people around them to fit in into this religion.
This what i literally needed idk why people continuously comment so much about my looks offline-online everywhere i am tired of it started to think if sm is wrong
in the pastpeoples comments would get to me at a deeper level like I would be sad for days and get insecure, but now that im 23, wiser and had been through a couple of situations that had made me stronger I'm not looking for validation anymore I'm really just busy minding my own business, whether they like it or not I like myself naaah y love myself
Hi, my mother language is not english so it is difficult for me to express how I am feeling, all I have to say is that: thank you for opening my eyes!!! YOU ARE AMAZING!!!
I just stumbled upon your videos and the content you’re putting out is great. You feel like my sister thousands of miles away. As a 29 year old let me talk to my little sisters right now, I am so proud of you and I want you to know that you are doing an amazing job. Finding yourself and creating your own life has been a struggle, believe me I know. But you are here right now and for that you deserve to give yourself an applause. Now I want you to know that building your confidence is a muscle that has to be worked out over time. Here’s the thing, there will be times in your life when you don’t want to workout that muscle. When you leave the high mountain and find yourself in the valley that life will inevitably bring, that’s when I need you to truly feel your feelings, process them in a healthy manner, and then let then go. Once you’ve done that go back to the tools that worked for you to feel your best. Slowly get back up and put that confidence muscle back to work. If you do this then your life will become more manageable because your doing the work to keep your mindset in check. Much love!
with you girl im improving my english and also my confidence is growing so much people always tell me that im beautiful but i never feel it unless a stranger tolds me i didnt value myself always livin for the approvation of others thinking that im boring or that im not enough and im weird i used to said so many bad things to myself like im stupid but watching you really is changing my life thank u so much
Miss Tam, I'm grateful to you in various ways that I can't even thank you enough! 💜✨ you make me feel better and heard.. idk how you exactly come up with the content that I want in those neediest situations 😭❤️
The one thing I was focused on throughout the video was your lipstick. GIRL, It's GREAT like the shade is top notch and it really makes you look SO SO BOLD AND CONFIDENT
i honestly honestly from the bottom of my heart pray that u become one of the most famous , best youtubers throughout the world known for helping women and girls like me (im 15) to become the baddest and best version of themselves. I will stay with you throughout growing with you.
i came to my school last year and obviously because i was new most people were nice to me. after lots of hard work, i got dux (basically it means highest scoring in the year group) and everyone was so happy and stuff, except my class of 7 (we had an advanced class). First day of next year comes, and the 6 other people in my class immediately turned on me and joined together to basically make sure they could cause as much damage as possible but im just ignoring them and it triggers them SOOO much lolol esp. this one kid who keeps picking on me (my mum is his mum's freiend and apparently he was doing really bad at school so he was jealous) and i ignored him and he was sooo desperate. this video gave me the rest of the energy i need to push on and get top scorer this year too. ill edit u guys at the end of the yrr if someone can pls reply or like at the end of the yr so i can remember just in case
thank you so much for uploading this one Tam! i'd been struggling to deal with toxic people from the longest time- you're a blessing in my life! i wish you keep progressing and growing!!! 💖
shes such a powerful speaker damn , the way she speaks fills me with powerful positive energy so muchh , i really see her as an goddesss and admire her so muchhh
I was recently dealing with so much hate from my own circle and you just posted this video . I wanna put this into lucky girl syndrome. Believe me , you just made my day . Love you dear ❤
hello! okay starting off ofcourse the video was fabulous. i definately took notes but let me take this moment and appreciate how gooddddddd you are looking in this video this is the second time i am watching this video before i coundn't complete it all and didn't notice it but whatever the set up was, your dress ,your makeup everything was so so powerful like the energy here was so different ! i seriously appreciate your efforts for content ,language ,looks everything seems to be all in place. well done sissy !
I love your videos so much Tam ❤ There are 2 girls in my workplace who I know are jealous of me and it makes me so sad and angry. But your video is helping me change how I react to the situation. Thank you so much girl 😊
"If you don't like me but still watch everything I do, honey you're a fan."
Remember sisters Confidence is quiet and graceful whilst insecurity is loud and ugly.
in my opinion, confidence is beautifully loud
So realllll
True❤
@@xa1706 they are talking about the mouth not energy
I still have tearss in my eyes.... I quit my social media acc just half an hour agoo because i was literally crying of all the hate they gave me
Just remember those meaningless, insignificant comments don't define you... And please don't cry, think of the people who sincerely love you...❤ You're Stronger ...and an incredible person!💞
Well done to you. Keep going, be different and bless you ❤
Oh ❤️ i hope you have someone to talk to, if don't look for someone (friends/familie/therapist)! Don't stay alone with this, situation like this can really be traumatic ❤❤❤❤I'm serious pls don't stay alone with your feelings! I wish you the best! ily girl❤
They are not paying your bills,honey. Youu know who you are and that's enough. Don't let them control you.
Y'all sucha lovely people🤗♥️
The ones who directly bully you are weak. However, the ones who indirectly bully you are weaker as they are scared of you.
what other people think about you is a reflection of what they think about themselves
YES!
Okay, off topic but I love how the outfit is so badass and just giving me villain vibes, perfectly coordinating this video's topic. Tam really is a badass for doing this
When a hater was throwing dirt on my name in front of the whole class and I remain silent, everyone assumed that I'm a weak idk how to defend my self. Even that hater thinks that they won.
Same thing happened to me and I reacted the same as you.Know that we are strong and wise and we don't act on anger impulses!
In this situation you need to stand up for yourself. Or you can just laugh at the person and comment in an ignoring way towrds them like: Oh really?; Are you okay,? You didn't seem well to me since morning; Who lied to you honey?😂 lol
this is acc a situation where u needed to stand up for urself…. there’s some places to be quiet but tbh this wasn’t one of them
My dear. I'm 42. You are Not cringe. I wish at your age I had acquired the wisdom and focus on goals you seem to have. I watch your videos daily and learn so much. Keep em coming girl! 💪
This is so sweet ❤ and you have a long beautiful life ahead of you! Never too early or too late to work on yourself and cherish life! :)
“You’re too busy prioritizing history over sincerity” DANG! I really needed this video, I’ve been contemplating trying to make “friendships” work that clearly haven’t been working for the last year and I’ve been putting the fact that we’ve been friends for many years over the reality that they’ve been hurtful, hateful and disrespectful towards me. Your videos always straighten me out to help me move forward, so thank you!
Same girlll!!! That sentence was a game changer!
This really got me, too. I met my old friends when I was at my lowest, and they have helped me through everything. But then, as soon as I got my shit together, they all started being mean to me and disrespect me, gossip behind my back and stuff... Moving on!!
0:29 idgaf
0:50 #1 master detachment
2:09 #2 "how can i be 1% better than yesterday?"
2:44 #3 live a life where u r ur own bsf
3:18 #4 outdo the rest
4:13 #5 always be busy (not overwork)
8:05 mindset
8:20 #1 being hated on is a privellge
9:20 #2 "why r they on the pedestal?"
9:59 #3 ppl will generalize the tiniest thing u do to ur entire personality
10:59 #4 judgment is a game of miserable
12:24 #5 stop trying to be normal
12:56 #6 "have fun playing with urself"
13:33 #7 ppl can only see reality that they have experienced
14:21 #8 ppl only perceive u in a way that suits them
15:39 #9 they really are just insecure
18:00 #10 ur simply a moment in each other's life
19:01 #11 compassion & empathy
20:50 confidence boost
20:53 #1 why does their opinions even matter?
21:22 #2 u don't need to compete in order to be better than anybody else
21:57 #3 confidence & self love go hand in hand
22:26 #4 real confidence comes from within
23:44 #5 some ppl just hate u and that's normal
Thanks love 😘
The amount of hate I am receiving from work even after I left 😅 Gives me anxiety at times but I try to stay strong and just be confident everytime. Nobody ruining my confidence.
The line when she said "i am the one who held my hand from the day i was born" brought tears in my eyes🥺
Thank you tam for making me realise this simple thing❤️
Omg im gonna watch this vid every single week to remind myself how privileged i am to be hated
YAS
Ily@@tamkaur
"People who say that you are cringe are the people who fear of being perceived bad and can't get out of their comfort zone".I really loved this part.As a person who had many haters,Many people tried to spread a lot of rumours about me and tried to make me gain enemies,this video was so relatable for me and your advice is so useful and perfect.💖
my friends i thought were closest to me started isolating me over reasons they never bothered to tell me about, and it hurt alot but i started accepting it and moving on and focusing on myself and working hard towards my life so much because of ur help and advice im so greatful to u im now able to have a peaceful mind even if things arent going well
Sis!! The same shit happened with me a few days back! My clg frnds started ghosting me for no reason :)
But I decided not be a side chick all the time and I clearly communicated my boundaries with one of them, this girl was really close to me!
And tbh I felt a lil bad..
And now... I'm watching this video :)
Well I hope..
Both of us will be getting out of this and get back on track focusing on becoming our best self!! 💗💗💗
@@Ragini.sanjay as you should queen
@@Ragini.sanjay omg yes i had a similar issue
i tried to communicate how i felt about certain things and they thought i was being problematic and just started leaving me out of plans and including someone else :( worst part is it happens everyday in front of me so its pretty difficult but im getting by. At first i blamed myself for it but now i learned to accept that people are always gonna be different
i hope you'll get better friends!! u did the best u could
This happened with me too. Like literally the same thing.
@@a-headache-fr how are you dealing with it? :)
Tam is in her✨️Dark Femme Era✨️
I don't know if you can read our minds but I'm currently going through smt very similar, recently people have been bullying me and posting shit about me on social media due to which I had to leave social media and get away from the negativity even after doing all of that, those ppl kept posting them and calling them “victims”
thank you sm for this video, I'm learning not to let these ppl affect my and my mental health, lots of love❤
I am facing backlash from my own family and worst part is that i am only 17 and they are showing me their worst side being toxic to me day by day , i always wish that i had a mentor who can guide and i am so grateful that i found you Tam , thanks for being the elder sister i never had ❤ love your videos
May God give you more strength to become the best version of yourself ❤
I just want to add something. Real confidence is in being humble. If I'm better than my colleagues and classmates (in terms of achievements), I treat them with kindness and sincerity. Of course people won't respect someone who is suddenly a new person with an IDGAF mentality the moment they see some success. Keep in mind that most truly successful and wealthy people are humble.
Humble only to the nice ppl. Idgaf to the haters. Being nice to everyone will leave u miserable trust me
Tam, finding you is like one of the best things that could happen 😭 thank you for giving so much confidence in a little 18 year old girl like me. Much love to you too 💖💖💖
Oh me to I have been 18 since the end of June.I am also getting better but sometimes I feel so insecure and get embarrassed of what I am doing or something like insecure of my nose like this.And mostly I get so insecure when I am giving a presentation among other group students it is sooo difficult And still I am being scared of this😢Can we have a conversation if you want?
The timing accuracy of me having a problem and Tam making a video on the exact same topic is literally insane!! 💗😳
I colored my hair blue the two strands on the front and this girl that got bangs and regreted it and she always hides her bangs she said to me "i rate ur bangs a 3" and another girl next to me told me "why arent u sad" and i said "why should i be"
Edit: found your videos on motivation and ruts so I'm set and will probably try to go out of my way to absorb that particular material.
I think for those of us with abnormal schedules, chronic health situations, etc. for me, my focus will probably be choosing three or so things that will most move the needle. That and reading books about habits and discipline would likely be a great foundation as well. And finding ways to remove screens from the equation whenever possible as they are the ultimate distraction and some of us (Tam) are better than most at using them for good. And focusing on making habits pleasant like you did with studying while you were working/in school.
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While I'm not the girl mentioned, I sympathize with how slowly some of us are to break out of ruts or have work schedules that aren't optimal for the typical early bird popularized schedule. I'd love to see content on breaking bad habits (internet, suboptimal daily routines, binge watching, taking on too little change at once, and excuses). Your content is life changing, you are incredible at what you do and I genuinely mean it when I say that.
same
I love how the confidence of what your speaking shows through every single video. ❤ Your words of advice has helped me recently and is definitely needed for so many people.
I really needed this video right now in my life, I have been being bullied and hated on just because I act like myself and because I would rather be happy then be popular, so THANK YOU ❤❤❤
tam you are changing my entire mindset, THANK YOU
Thank you Tam💚💚👉 “The less you respond to negative people, the more powerful your life will become.” - Robert E. Baine, Jr.
U ARE SLAYING THAT LIPSTICK SHADEEEEE MISS MAAM
I’m going to be rewatching the heck out of this- you are seriously incredible and radiate your confident energy right through the screen. THANK YOU for all of your inspiring and life changing videos, I only found your channel within the past few months and your videos have helped so much in my journey to finding better self confidence
Listening to this video while I’m cooking dinner standing here snapping my fingers in the air because YES! If I care about what others think I am at the mercy of strangers for the rest of my life! Your videos are so awesome. Thank you for sharing your perspectives what an amazing community here!
You’re energy is immaculate and you help me so much
also, and there are people in my life who get mad or defensive about certain things and they call me disrespectful but i really don't care because i know they are projecting like i know someone who isn't emotionally mature, and they project onto me but i just say ok and move on because i know that what they say isn't true and it's just so simple but has a big impact like truly if you like you that's all that really matters
00:00 🚀 *Lifestyle of Detachment*
- Individuals with a "don't care" mentality master detachment.
- They cut off anyone misaligned with their dream life.
- Prioritize self-actualization over external validation.
02:19 🌟 *Daily Self-Improvement Focus*
- Their daily priority is self-improvement, aiming to be 1% better each day.
- Shift from seeking external validation to pursuing personal goals.
- Embrace uniqueness and rarity, rejecting the desire to fit in.
03:59 🛤️ *Embracing Uniqueness and Non-Conformity*
- People who don't care appreciate being unique and rare.
- Comfortable not fitting in, understanding that outgrowing others is part of the journey.
- Daily focus on pushing personal boundaries and going the extra mile.
06:05 🎓 *Prioritizing Passion and Purpose*
- Being busy with fulfilling activities prevents dwelling on negativity.
- Having a passion or purpose adds meaning and improves confidence.
- Committing time to personal growth and learning contributes to a fulfilling life.
08:06 🧠 *Mindset Shifts*
- Being hated on is a privilege, a sign of relevance.
- Placing haters below oneself on the pedestal diminishes their impact.
- Understanding that people's judgments are often based on limited information.
11:08 🚫 *Normalcy is Overrated*
- Rejecting the pursuit of normalcy and embracing individual potential.
- Dismissing societal expectations leads to personal empowerment.
- Acknowledging that disapproval from others is a sign of breaking away from the norm.
13:02 🙊 *No Response to Haters*
- The best response to a hater is no response.
- Reacting or defending oneself only gives haters access to energy.
- Maintaining a higher vibration by not engaging in negativity.
15:48 🔄 *Haters' Insecurity and Projection*
- Haters are often projecting their insecurities and fears.
- Understanding that judgments are confessions of the hater's reality.
- Realizing that people perceive others in a way that suits their own narrative.
17:50 🔄 *Hater's Apology*
- Proof that hating is often a reflection of personal insecurity.
- Acknowledging that hate is rarely personal.
- Recognizing that interactions with haters are temporary moments in time.
18:19 🌌 *Understanding Adversity and Lessons*
- Adversity is a gift that unlocks inner strength.
- Every challenging experience teaches valuable lessons.
- Shift from victimhood to seeing challenges as opportunities for growth.
19:12 🤝 *Compassion Towards Haters*
- Develop compassion for haters by understanding their pain.
- Shift from seeing them as mean to recognizing their insecurities.
- Transforming anger into pity helps protect your peace.
20:25 ⚡ *Protecting Your Energy from Haters*
- Others need your permission to affect your self-esteem.
- Refrain from getting triggered; retain control over your emotions.
- Don't let haters destruct your peace by allowing yourself to be triggered.
20:53 🌐 *Mastering Confidence: Why Others' Opinions Don't Matter*
- Confident individuals don't give undue importance to strangers' opinions.
- Inner confidence surpasses the need for external validation.
- Being at peace with oneself eliminates the impact of others' opinions.
22:29 🛡️ *True Confidence from Within*
- True confidence stems from self-awareness and self-love.
- External factors like looks and success are temporary confidence boosters.
- Base confidence on understanding and accepting oneself at the core.
23:56 🚫 *Dispelling "All Haters Are Fans" Myth*
- Not all haters are secretly admirers; some genuinely dislike you.
- It's normal not to get along with everyone; diversity in connections is healthy.
- Disliking and being disliked are natural aspects of a fulfilling life
tc :)
thank u ❤
@@aissus Np girl 💌
Thank you!!!
@@hipchocolatechip9339 💌
I love you so much.💓😭
As someone with social anxiety, this video is soooo valuable and important to me🥺
Omg this line " they know they are not normal because they didn't want to fit with 99 percent " 😭😭😭🗽🗽🗽🗽
I loved your badass vibe through it all, I am dealing with some hate at work + family I was just starting to overthink and lowkey panic about "oh but how am I gonna do this and this and that if they don't like it" but then this video came at the absolute perfect time
Girl, you’re so spot on! I will listen to this every day! God really is using you for good ❤
The idea that even if someone is the prettiest person in the world, if they have a poor self-perception then they see someone ugly in the mirror-it’s such an important shift in perspective.
Girl istg u post everytime about something I need to hear this ain't a coincidence anymore.💁♀️💓
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I just loved the video , it really has boosted my confidence and it was a much needed podcast, Thank you Tam you’re really a blessing in our lives!❤️❤️❤️
OMG I just got over a breakup, a jerk ex, his Jerk friends and so many mean girls. You are so right on time gurl. Trust me you're a life saver
Tam, you’re so helpful. I’ve been struggling for a while with bullies and you’re helping me become a better person for myself. You’re like an older sister to me. Thank you ❤❤
This is also an issue in the work environment. Lots of bullies who want to step all over you and want you to bow to their toxicity. And try to villainize you if you speak up or set boundaries.
This helped me tbh. I have always been a people pleaser and cared about other peoples opinions. Thank you for this video and great advice!
Your videos and podcasts are so wise and inspirational! I listen to them during my morning routine and feel inspired to keep working on myself and finding light even when all seems dark.
First off you’re beautiful! 😍 and second I really love your content! Even though, I have grown so much on my self-development and self-care journey, I love listening to your content because that means I will become a way better version for myself everyday. Also, I used to always ask myself why I had so much haters and so called friends who put me down. Listening to this video has made me realize that I have always been doing something right and people felt intimidated by my presence. Thank you so much for creating useful content and giving me clarity to visualize things better. ❤❤❤ Much love you beautiful 😍
She is sexy AF 😊
I literally adore you. When you speak, I can feel how much you are honest and how you want us to successed. And I am really grateful that I found you. ❤
the deep purple and black combo is so beautiful on you like wow!
Wow this is one of the best videos I've seen on UA-cam this year. Tam you are a force! I'm 33 and as someone who has had haters, bullies and mean girls come at me from school right up to the corporate world this video has resonated with me massively. Thank you x
Amazing advice. Tam is legit changing my life and my single journey 🥹😭🥰 waking up happy to myself everyday because of this smart young lady! 👏🏽 ❤
I’ve only been on UA-cam 6 weeks and my first “hate” comment broke my heart 😩. I had to quickly shift me feelings and attitude and thoughts and instantly didn’t care 🤗. Thank you for this video ❤
Tam kaur tysm, i really needed this.Recently so many people have been hating and gossiping for no reason.You helped me achieve so much i really hope i can meet you one day
I never watched such videos but the energy you gave just by the starting of the video, wow!! I wished the video never ended💕
I just got a hate comment under my gofundme post on instagram and I was so enraged… but somehow I knew to come to your UA-cam account and search for a video on how I felt about in the moment then boom. No response is the best response. I’m so at peace when I listen your advice ❤️ I have so much love for you and you helped me through so much. Especially during a difficult time in my life.
You literally helped me so much ❤️
I'm eternally grateful to you girly!
hey tam, im so thankful to you for making this video it really helps thousands of people to heal
Omgg! U have NOO idea how much joy your notifications bring me! I just wanna say tysm 4 ur advice. You're truly helping me in so many ways
Thanks!
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THAT whole thing was SO AWESOME!
Thank you, Tam for all you've done and all you're doing!
Wishing you infinite success and joy from now til forever Xx 🎈💕
I cannot thank you enough for this video, I loved this man and it was the perfect timing. I literally just had an experience today where people were talking shit behind my back and I found out and I was feeling awful because what kinda person takes a very normal friendly interaction I had with them and paint it to others as being desperate and got no self respect. I was feeling so down and kept telling myself that they are probably just miserable with their lives to take time outta their day and talk shit about a very normal interaction. Your video just emphasized that even more and made me feel so inspired cuz DAMN GIRL I'm doing something right and they probably just feel threatened although I'm just going about my day normally. Thank you so much love.
I NEEDED THIS ONE!!! Love this message omg👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽everything u said was FACTS!
I started watching you like two days ago and its already made me so much more confident in myself. Thank you!
"Haters gonna hate potatoes gonna potate rotties gonna rotate who cares .. you do what you do." ❤
By Priyanka Chopra
Some people have serious issues,im glad you are emotionally smart❤
the okay. and? mentality!!!!
I got bullied so much by girls since nursery and until 5th Grade because I attended a girls school and was quiet. It was always girls who insulted me and I always accepted it with a smile and never spoke up or yelled at them to make them stop because I was so worried I'd be friend-less again. The side effects of being bullied at a young age are still with me but this video is literally gonna help me get over it soo much! Thank uuu Tam!
you are a strong girl! Don’t let them define you
@@milkshake3117 Thank You so much!
thank yu very much for your love, wisdom and inspiration!! :) i have to say that thanks to your videos i am starting my own digital business from an idea of one of your videos, learned a lot about things i completey dismissed in my life and cut all toxicity from my life and now i just feel im becoming my best version :)😍😍💖
Yeah.. Nd I learn that we shouldn't ignore the signs of our insecure surrounding
I just can't explain in words how much these video helped me personalyy. A group of ppls who were my friends few months ago truly mentioned me and hated me by saying she is always full of herself . I really thought I might me and I need to change myself I just left those ppls after so much of my inner debate as my finals are near and I really just want straight A* and as friends they only gave me negetive energy whole year and I was more focused on pleasing them and fitting into their criteria. But now I am much clamer person who only priotise on self development and self growth. I dont have a older sibling to help guide me and I am grown by not sharing things with my parents but tam never fails to make me feel safe saying I am here. This really means a lot to me. Love you from India ❤
THIS is the video on haters that I HAVE NEEDED *ALL* my life! Thank you ❤
Hi I just wanted to say thank you so much for this video and your channel overall! You really helped me with my journey in overcoming my struggles with confidence because of abuse and bullying from a young age. I truly believe god/the universe led me to your channel because you were the messenger I needed to improve myself!
School just started and i was very much isolated from hanging with people i don't like and after hearing everything you said and my fav is when you said why do wanna fit in when you don't want to be them. Honestly loving black fit and red lips combo.
Oh my god thank you!!!
You talk just like me with the same level of drama so your words are not just HELPING they're also extremely entertaining. I saved up so many lines from you and I already memorized them. Struggling with narcissistic, homophobic, racist, confusing, far right parents that don't care about anything but their religion and what it says. They're not faithful they were just traumatized by the people around them to fit in into this religion.
Your video helped me a lot as I am on a public platform with a following and I got a lot of hate. This video is amazing and I appreciate you !
Gurllll you are a dammmnnn saver !!!!! I am just 15 but seeing you is a blessing, or say that you bless us with your confidence 💞
This what i literally needed idk why people continuously comment so much about my looks offline-online everywhere i am tired of it started to think if sm is wrong
NO ITS NOT THEY ARE DEFINITELY JEALOUS OF YOUUU
@@ella7513 I don't think they're jealous but why they do that
in the pastpeoples comments would get to me at a deeper level like I would be sad for days and get insecure, but now that im 23, wiser and had been through a couple of situations that had made me stronger I'm not looking for validation anymore I'm really just busy minding my own business, whether they like it or not I like myself naaah y love myself
Hi, my mother language is not english so it is difficult for me to express how I am feeling, all I have to say is that: thank you for opening my eyes!!! YOU ARE AMAZING!!!
I will definitely rewatch this video every time i get discouraged by people giving not nice comments. It’s such a nice pep talk
I just stumbled upon your videos and the content you’re putting out is great. You feel like my sister thousands of miles away. As a 29 year old let me talk to my little sisters right now, I am so proud of you and I want you to know that you are doing an amazing job. Finding yourself and creating your own life has been a struggle, believe me I know. But you are here right now and for that you deserve to give yourself an applause. Now I want you to know that building your confidence is a muscle that has to be worked out over time. Here’s the thing, there will be times in your life when you don’t want to workout that muscle. When you leave the high mountain and find yourself in the valley that life will inevitably bring, that’s when I need you to truly feel your feelings, process them in a healthy manner, and then let then go. Once you’ve done that go back to the tools that worked for you to feel your best. Slowly get back up and put that confidence muscle back to work. If you do this then your life will become more manageable because your doing the work to keep your mindset in check. Much love!
with you girl im improving my english and also my confidence is growing so much people always tell me that im beautiful but i never feel it unless a stranger tolds me
i didnt value myself
always livin for the approvation of others thinking that im boring or that im not enough and im weird
i used to said so many bad things to myself like im stupid
but watching you really is changing my life thank u so much
Miss Tam, I'm grateful to you in various ways that I can't even thank you enough! 💜✨ you make me feel better and heard.. idk how you exactly come up with the content that I want in those neediest situations 😭❤️
The one thing I was focused on throughout the video was your lipstick. GIRL, It's GREAT like the shade is top notch and it really makes you look SO SO BOLD AND CONFIDENT
I haven't seen anyone pulling of that lipstick so stunningly! 😮
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ! THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO QUEEN 💕
i honestly honestly from the bottom of my heart pray that u become one of the most famous , best youtubers throughout the world known for helping women and girls like me (im 15) to become the baddest and best version of themselves. I will stay with you throughout growing with you.
It’s wonderful to see women shaping the thoughts and mindset by addressing the biggest challenges of dealing with haters and negativity. 👏🏻
at 10:53 this is so important because when you get angry or you slip up once, you're apparently 'showing your true colours'
i came to my school last year and obviously because i was new most people were nice to me. after lots of hard work, i got dux (basically it means highest scoring in the year group) and everyone was so happy and stuff, except my class of 7 (we had an advanced class). First day of next year comes, and the 6 other people in my class immediately turned on me and joined together to basically make sure they could cause as much damage as possible but im just ignoring them and it triggers them SOOO much lolol esp. this one kid who keeps picking on me (my mum is his mum's freiend and apparently he was doing really bad at school so he was jealous) and i ignored him and he was sooo desperate. this video gave me the rest of the energy i need to push on and get top scorer this year too. ill edit u guys at the end of the yrr if someone can pls reply or like at the end of the yr so i can remember just in case
thank you so much for uploading this one Tam! i'd been struggling to deal with toxic people from the longest time- you're a blessing in my life! i wish you keep progressing and growing!!! 💖
9:55 I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS SO MUCH.
Can we all take a moment and appreciate the vibe her makeup is giving with this video. Damnnn gurrrrlll🖤🖤
thank you very much this video, it is good for those who criticize and who would really like to stop
shes such a powerful speaker damn , the way she speaks fills me with powerful positive energy so muchh , i really see her as an goddesss and admire her so muchhh
literally one of the best videos on UA-cam. You’re amazing!! ❤️
this shade of lipstick looks so great on you
I was recently dealing with so much hate from my own circle and you just posted this video . I wanna put this into lucky girl syndrome. Believe me , you just made my day . Love you dear ❤
Love this video! Tami, could you make a video about being a quiet speaking person and gaining confidence speaking in front of people
hello! okay starting off ofcourse the video was fabulous. i definately took notes but let me take this moment and appreciate how gooddddddd you are looking in this video this is the second time i am watching this video before i coundn't complete it all and didn't notice it but whatever the set up was, your dress ,your makeup everything was so so powerful like the energy here was so different ! i seriously appreciate your efforts for content ,language ,looks everything seems to be all in place. well done sissy !
Sorry it's out of context but your makeup looks really great the lipcolor is complementing very well with video's topic
I love your videos so much Tam ❤ There are 2 girls in my workplace who I know are jealous of me and it makes me so sad and angry. But your video is helping me change how I react to the situation. Thank you so much girl 😊
my new fav quote: "okay and 🙄??". This is the most important vid to me by you so farr