men are visual so you will never stop men from looking at us women, however, women have to start showing men that we "see" them!!! meaning, just becuz a man is attracted to other women, let men know that you are just as attracted to other men!!!
@@bres.4806that would be nice but some women play into their delusions in order to financially exploit them, unfortunately. It's so exhausting to be compared to women who would never want them
And what's crazy is ....if those guys were actually able to get their quintessential dream girl they would eventually dog her out too because their insecurities will want to humble her eventually, these guys are literally nuts.
In response to the guy in the gray hoodie, I think if you are with someone you dont even like and you lead them on, act like you love them and you dont care one bit about them then you're a psychopath. that's psychopathic behavior.
They say that, but how much of it is just coping with the embarrassment of knowing other women don't actually want him either? Most of these guys are fooling themselves (with porn, as mentioned) thinking they can "do better." Whatever you want to think, dude. If you could've, you would've 😂
Men constantly fussin about getting lady robots, I think they forget there will be men robots too. Just focus on yourselves and heal bro. I'm tired of my fellow men being lazy and rude af to the ladies they are lucky to have.
Literally had a guy tell me this yesterday 😢. He’s with a girl he thinks is ok - but every time he looks at her he knows he doesn’t want her in the long run 🙄😮💨. She’s “cool” but not the one. 😶
I had something like that happen to me on a bus a few weeks ago there was this couple on the bus and when I looked closer at the woman it was my former manager from the gas station I may of worked for her for like one week and quit because she was a jerk to me when nobody was paying attention so she should probably stop wondering why I left not that she cared but that's how karma works. Her bf was relatively young and handsome and she looked old enough to be his Mom.
@@unicorn73212There must be something about her he likes. Unless he is mentally unstable or broke he should be able to find a woman his age. Even the broke men find women.
@@unicorn73212I see this all the time in nursing women with a guy that u know is just there to be there till something better comes along it’s really sad because the person doesn’t care
Males aren't hard to figure out. A black man that follows mostly non blk and lighter skin women online. Isn't into black woman like that and if he is it's because he can't get his preferences yet. Women are different, who she follows won't necessarily show you whom she finds attractive. But a guy's social media follows and likes is an excellent indication of what he likes in this day and age. I'm speaking from experience. They're fantasy women until he can find similar in real life. I would NEVER entertain a man who followed women that looked nothing like me on social media. I'm a not a place holder.
Honestly I’m tired of some men and I’m tired of some women too. This is why I understand the 4B movement. The world needs a spiritual cleanse. I’ll never settle for bullshit. 🙄🤷🏾♀️congratulations on almost 26K 👍🏾
Now the girl is right about some things of being someone’s “dream girl”. But simultaneously these men treat their girl no different than the woman that they’re previously dealt with. I think being someone’s dream girl is childish.
the clue to why is in the title, "dream".......the feelings that they THINK they're having are nothing but a projected "dream" (onto a REAL person); they were NEVER REAL. whenever that person they projected onto turns into the person that they ACTUALLY ARE, the "dream" dies and the projector is now going to treat them like everyone else (they presumably dated before who wasn't "enough")......... the person who actually gets what they "dreamed" of and then stays contented is generally a bit sus ---- it could mean their level of depth is most likely rivaling your average bird bath...🙄
It's less that men who are obsessing over an unattainable crush are dissatisfied with their partner, but more that the men in question are dissatisfied with who _they_ are-- someone who doesn't (and likely will never) have the status, power, looks, wealth, etc to "obtain" that crush. That's the _real_ disappointment for them. Neither of the women in the equation have intrinsic value as people to this man...he's too wrapped up in objectifying them while thinking about himself.
If he's into his celebrity crush more than you as his woman, it's best to leave him but then again men will say there is a loneliness epidemic for any reason 😂
Yep, my cousin developed permanent cardiac issues during her pregnancy. It's a stark reminder of the risks involved; pregnancy can indeed damage the heart. The pressure to fulfill men's perceived "legacy" comes with significant risks, and it's women who bear the brunt of the burden. It's no wonder many women are beginning to recognize the reality of the situation!
And the thing is some guys are always putting down insta baddies in public and around their friends, but they actually want them. They swear up and down they want a modest woman but the truth is that they would never even look their way bc it’s not visually appealing to them. They have this resentment towards beautiful women on the internet bc those women would never be with them and they know it. So they take it out on them by shaming them in public and then trying desperately to be close to them in private. It’s a tale old as time.. It’s not new just a repackaged form.. idk I try to stay optimistic, but every day there is just something else that just makes me not even want to try. I’m valuing my peace of mind, emotions, and soul more than even trying to risk it to give a guy a chance. I know it’s not all guys, but everywhere I look.. it’s always something 🤦🏾♀️.
I’m sorry 😕. Always go with your intuition, even if you don’t have any proof. It’s much more powerful than you know. Someone who really cares about you wouldn’t counter that with putting you down calling you insecure. And let’s say even if you are insecure, a partner that wants to support you will notice that and reassure you or uplift you to encourage your self esteem.. not throw it in your face to deflect. Stay safe out here 🖤
These social media posters don’t even look like that in their real lives.😂 Filters, perfect angles, throwing away every picture that doesn’t look good, and these guys are comparing real life women to fake, made up people on the internet.😂
Speak for yourself. No angle is going to make an amy schumer or wendy williams look good. Also, all cameras have angles. You cant take cheap shots at women just because youre mad you dont look like them. Most are imposters but some do look good. It doesnt take away from the fact that a male who doesnt want you will stray. If its not celebs, its the woman down the street. It boils down to, are you your type's type.
The last girl is on to something. I have friends like this and even though they know intellectually that they can’t get that fantasy woman, it still affects their mindset and their actions. They really start acting as if those fantasy women are really options, and treat their real women as disposable. They will never say this out loud, but that’s how they *behave* You really have to give them a reality check and show them that good women aren’t spending 40 hours a week just trying to look good for them. Good women are out working, studying, creating homes, advancing their careers, caring for their children and spend their time making an honest life for themselves. Those fantasies are just that 20%, looks with no substance, and most will just use them for money, attention, and/or sex, if they even gave them a shot in the first place…
EGGZAKLEE! They come correct or don't come at all because they don't want to risk their dream girl walking away from them forever because they know she will!! ain't no what's your body count talk or 50/50 bs, none of ittt!
This is why I don’t entertain men who come with 50/50 or fwb or cheap dates nonsense. If they value you, it shows in their actions and how they treat you. When your standards are low you end up with men who are just bargain hunting for cheap/easy sex.
And you would never know this if he keeps silent about it 🙄 Then get with his dream girl and treat her like crap too. They are sick in the head. Yeah I’ll stay single.
The second girl was absolutely right when men make jokes like that! 90% joke and 10% truth the fact he would be so bold to publicly announce his girlfriend is not his future wife but his placeholder some men have no decorum!
For me, it's one thing to have a celebrity crush, but when your crush looks NOTHING like your girl (different skin tone, body type, disposition etc) that's def something to pay attention to. Because if you're not his type, I promise the second he comes across someone that IS and actually has access to her, he's gonna be out. He's either gonna leave you, cheat so he can have his cake and eat it, or he'll start acting up so you can leave him. Save yourself the stress sis. If all his celeb crushes are biracial and thick but you're brown skinned and thin, or if you're a plane jane good girl and all his crushes are IG model bad bxtch types, or you're a natural hair modest girlie but all his crushes wear fashion nova attire with the 30in bust down wigs, just focus on yourself sis. You are not what he wants just what he can get. And that's not because you aren't gorgeous etc, you just aren't his preference.
I am honestly tired of it all. I am in these phase in my life that I can say I don’t even want to date no more. I will be in the gym and guys want my number. No I don’t want to give u my number or I don’t want to be taken out. Leave me alone Mr. I am just going abt life and just tired of men and not interested
this has been going on a LONG time.. for centuries...just in different medias. It got worse with the exploitation of women in the "girlie" magazines and corn (p) industry. You can thank Hugh Hefner and Larry Flynt, I love the movies that prop them up and make them out to be sophisticated heroes, when in actuality they were 100% predatory. It was already bad in the 60's, 70's 80's and 90's but now, with the dating apps, internet and phones...it's to the tenth power. Ladies, this is your competition, and you will not win, no shade to you. Just take that focus, drive and energy and put it towards YOU.
Another good way to tell who the guy you're on a date with or dating is truly attracted to...watch who he double looks at in public with you...or the woman in passing he looks at too long. Ive been on quite a few first last dates with men who was very bold with looking at other women...women who looked nothing like me...its all so exhausting and yuck.
It’s not surprising. Most men don’t have access to their first picks. It wouldn’t matter even if they did because they eventually get bored and their eye wanders to the next shiny, new thing. That woman might not even be of the same caliber as their dream woman. Even with us women, there’s always a guy out there hotter than our man and we know it. So, as far as I’m concerned, my man can cry every time he sees Beyoncé because he himself doesn’t have Jay Z money, either.
I had this happen to me. I really liked a man and as we were dating for the two weeks, he kept bringing up a celebrity woman. A girl I was cool with found out and was suddenly began to be a really huge fan. Very disgusting how people use other women’s beauty to hurt others.
I used to feel petty for this but it makes sense. If a dude is following a bunch of women on socials that look NOTHING LIKE YOU, they arent attracted to you. Im not even really upset about following the half naked women. But if im sitting here all dark skinned, stretch marked and locd and you only following perfect lite brites with 3b hair i know youre probably low key wandering
Thats because men like variety, is what I have observed. Thats why men complain all women look the same… but what are they gonna do about it, when they all get surgery to have the same body and facial features.
This is also why they are so obsessed with "hall passes". They want a green light to cheat with a woman who would probably 🤮 at the thought of them and then they take it out on their gf/wife/whenever once reality hits
@@Priscilla_Boyecompletely lost interest in men and building my best life. I don’t hate men, I just think they are irrelevant to my happiness. They are not to be trusted no matter what, that I know.
I can totally understand finding a celebrity or someone on social media attractive. But it’s the comparison and disappointment, for me! They should at least date women that look like they’re type/the celebrities. Personally, I have never looked at a celebrity or a random man, then looked over at the man that I was with in disappointment . Because I like who I like, I’m attracted to who I’m attracted to. So, that celebrity and my man always were very similar looking. ( plus, I simply CANNOT be with a man I don’t find attractive. ) With that being said, something in my gut has always told me that I needed to look like the man’s past. If I didn’t look like his past, it needed to be because whoever he was with before me, was a completely different race, height, And body structure. Things that I can’t change even if I actually wanted to.
Dream girl here, did I get treated any better? NOPE. If they get the dream girl they ruin it with their own insecurities and abuse tf out of you. Youre a trophy, and still not a person to them. I was just something to impress other men 😂
Pay attention to who is your partner's celebrity crush, particularly if it is the same (homo) or opposite (hetero) sex. Never wonder if he or she is downlow again. You're welcome.
I had an ex that would follow tons of women on IG, leaving them inappropriate DMs, etc. A few of the ladies were actually friends, colleagues....They told me right away. This was years ago, at that time, I was 36, he was 42. We had been together a little over 1 year at that time. I am attractive, a fitness trainer, no small kids, my own place, educated, decent job, raised well, kind to others, treated him like gold. ( my only daughter was a grown adult living on her own) I broke up with him immediately. He wasted his 40s trying to be a player, so now, he's miserable. Yes... he was in his 40s behaving that way 🤮.
Agreed Priscilla, I’m checked tf out and im not gonna date these people 😂 if I ever rejoin the dating scene it’ll be women only that I date. #blessedtobehalfgay
The funny thing is Rubi said she was always insecure about her body when she was very skinny so she went to the gym and gained weight and bulked. I think she looks good either way.
It's one thing to occasionally watch porn or fantasize about a celebrity, but if they are obsessed with or making videos about them, they don't respect you.
Even occasional porn is bad. Stop excusing and normalizing bad behavior. You are more offended by a video than his actual feelings that inspired the video.
I've been there. And the funny thing is that he even projected and accused me of settling. Eventually, after being cornered for his inconsistencies, he admitted that I am not what he wants. That was my free pass out of a toxic relationship. Rejection is protection.
These videos make me grateful every day that I'm single :) EDIT: Also I was so confused why dude's are crying over a famous lesbian Ruby Rose, never heard of Rubi Rose the rapper before lol
I think with maturity comes the realization the we don’t have the options we think we have. Also, comes the reality check that we are all human. We have our good days and bad days. These crushes don’t look like that 24/7 lol, Beyoncé and Halle Barry got cheated on. Stop perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards.
Now I get pretty deep with my celebrity crushes but I would never disrespect my bf or gf like that. It's just a crush I don't think that's harmless unless it goes to extreme or they're disrespecting u
Finding your identity in a human relationship is nuts. I recently surrendered this post of my life to God and stopped expecting that He would give me a relationship... NO NO NO! Because these videos started popping up and now I'm over it. I'm over talking to men in general. I know a lot because of this program I'm a part of, and it's like they can't help but to reduce you or themselves in one way or another. They intrupt you, interject a sexual comment, belittle you by answering a serious question/conversation with a joke that just leaves you confused.
Is he talking about Ruby Rose the actress or Rubi Rose the songwriter? Coz I don't think Ruby Rose would even look at him.. she's a lesbian, I believe.
I get that he messed up posting something that's lowkey dissing his girl ( I would never do her like that), but I think people are (predictably) making a whole fuss about a Tik Tok skit. If we all agree that your man obsessing over his celebrity crush (liking/commenting in their pics, etc) is disrespectful, than y'all need to collectively agree that women doing the same thing is just as bad. How many thirsty women (single or committed) do we see thirsting daily over Idris Elba, Chris Hemsworth, and the Usher's and Michael b. Jordan's social media posts? Where's the outrage then? If any guy even tried to say something he'd quickly be shut down bcuz "you can't tell me what to do, you're just insecure and that's a YOU problem". Where was this energy when that girl dry-humped Omah Lay on stage? A lot of y'all came out in support of the girl (yay empowerment) , or saying that her mistake was doing "too much" and embarrassing herself. As for the dude, he's just "insecure" and should just grow up.
@@easiersaidwithmeg sure…sounds like an answer you’d give when you don’t actually have anything to back up your statement. there is nothing good about consuming corn.
@@easiersaidwithmeg is that short for "lady is absolutely right and I've got nothing to back up my bs claim"? Our brains aren't able to fully process our current technology, including filmed sa.
@@isa-morena no it just means I don’t have to explain myself online to strangers and I’m content with your opinion being different than mine. I have no urge to try to convince you of anything.
It’s very true, men today would rather have a fake relationship with an IG girl or even an AI girl rather than an actual human that would actually be attracted to them IRL.
These men will date you love you try to marry you and still be waiting on that unicorn. Then when you say that’s what you want a unicorn. “You need to lower your standards your asking for to much”
This is why I am single. These dudes forget a lot of women aren't attractive to their butt as well. We made these dudes too comfortable.
Yasssssssssss
Exactly. Women need to start being more brutally honest as a collective. They don't spare our feelings so their feelings don't need to be spared.
@@bres.4806exactly
men are visual so you will never stop men from looking at us women, however, women have to start showing men that we "see" them!!!
meaning, just becuz a man is attracted to other women, let men know that you are just as attracted to other men!!!
@@bres.4806that would be nice but some women play into their delusions in order to financially exploit them, unfortunately. It's so exhausting to be compared to women who would never want them
Looking at all the men that celebrate when famous girl becomes "legal".
I
Omg disgusting 🤮
predators
Every single time!!! It never fails!!!
🤮🤮🤮
And what's crazy is ....if those guys were actually able to get their quintessential dream girl they would eventually dog her out too because their insecurities will want to humble her eventually, these guys are literally nuts.
💯 Jay Z & Beyoncé is the perfect example of this
I WOULD RATHER STAY SINGLE. THEN SETTLE OR BE ANYONE'S PLACE HOLDER!
Absolutely.
Exactly
Me too, being cat lady sounds good 💯😊
“I don’t think Rubi Rose wanna be entertained by a man in skull pyjamas” 😩 The way I hollered 🤣🤣🤣
😹😹😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾
In response to the guy in the gray hoodie, I think if you are with someone you dont even like and you lead them on, act like you love them and you dont care one bit about them then you're a psychopath. that's psychopathic behavior.
Yup and it’s 100% abuse.
They say that, but how much of it is just coping with the embarrassment of knowing other women don't actually want him either? Most of these guys are fooling themselves (with porn, as mentioned) thinking they can "do better." Whatever you want to think, dude. If you could've, you would've 😂
Men constantly fussin about getting lady robots, I think they forget there will be men robots too. Just focus on yourselves and heal bro. I'm tired of my fellow men being lazy and rude af to the ladies they are lucky to have.
TY for saying this, it's highly appreciated especially from a man!
Literally had a guy tell me this yesterday 😢. He’s with a girl he thinks is ok - but every time he looks at her he knows he doesn’t want her in the long run 🙄😮💨.
She’s “cool” but not the one. 😶
Hopes she sees what he says and leaves him
I had something like that happen to me on a bus a few weeks ago there was this couple on the bus and when I looked closer at the woman it was my former manager from the gas station I may of worked for her for like one week and quit because she was a jerk to me when nobody was paying attention so she should probably stop wondering why I left not that she cared but that's how karma works. Her bf was relatively young and handsome and she looked old enough to be his Mom.
This
@@unicorn73212There must be something about her he likes. Unless he is mentally unstable or broke he should be able to find a woman his age. Even the broke men find women.
@@unicorn73212I see this all the time in nursing women with a guy that u know is just there to be there till something better comes along it’s really sad because the person doesn’t care
Males aren't hard to figure out. A black man that follows mostly non blk and lighter skin women online. Isn't into black woman like that and if he is it's because he can't get his preferences yet. Women are different, who she follows won't necessarily show you whom she finds attractive. But a guy's social media follows and likes is an excellent indication of what he likes in this day and age. I'm speaking from experience. They're fantasy women until he can find similar in real life. I would NEVER entertain a man who followed women that looked nothing like me on social media. I'm a not a place holder.
Agrees, I still dont agree with celeb crushes on men or women. Just like work husbands and work wives
Exactly
god made men visual, so you will never stop men from looking at women!!!
including yourself.......pay attention to the men who look at YOU!!!
@@vashtikelly6837 spoken like a true pick me
@@vashtikelly6837human beings are visual, men just happen to be more shallow and have unrealistic expectations lmao
Honestly I’m tired of some men and I’m tired of some women too. This is why I understand the 4B movement. The world needs a spiritual cleanse. I’ll never settle for bullshit. 🙄🤷🏾♀️congratulations on almost 26K 👍🏾
True especially of trad wives and picke mes
@@sreyanandhini3944 Funny you mention this. I was actually going to mention the Pickmes, but I can’t be asked with them anymore. 🤷🏾♀️
Thanks darling ❤️❤️😊
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
What is the 4B movement? You'll have to bear with me I live under a rock
Now the girl is right about some things of being someone’s “dream girl”. But simultaneously these men treat their girl no different than the woman that they’re previously dealt with. I think being someone’s dream girl is childish.
They term "girl" is telling.
Legal age should be woman
Initially they go all out then they pull back the veil and tree you like crap
the clue to why is in the title, "dream".......the feelings that they THINK they're having are nothing but a projected "dream" (onto a REAL person); they were NEVER REAL. whenever that person they projected onto turns into the person that they ACTUALLY ARE, the "dream" dies and the projector is now going to treat them like everyone else (they presumably dated before who wasn't "enough")......... the person who actually gets what they "dreamed" of and then stays contented is generally a bit sus ---- it could mean their level of depth is most likely rivaling your average bird bath...🙄
@@plmitchit’s a good thing I read this before commenting because I was about to say exactly this!
@@helena3631yep
It's less that men who are obsessing over an unattainable crush are dissatisfied with their partner, but more that the men in question are dissatisfied with who _they_ are-- someone who doesn't (and likely will never) have the status, power, looks, wealth, etc to "obtain" that crush.
That's the _real_ disappointment for them. Neither of the women in the equation have intrinsic value as people to this man...he's too wrapped up in objectifying them while thinking about himself.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
If he's into his celebrity crush more than you as his woman, it's best to leave him but then again men will say there is a loneliness epidemic for any reason 😂
He's looking over crying like he actually looks like something himself. The Irony!😮
Guy in the safety vest❤🔥
I am pretty sure he was about to say: "at that moment, I realized what women are going through."
Delulu!!!!
Right!😹😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾
Reason 101 why is the birthrate is low asf......
Birthrate is low because more women learn about the risks of pregnancy.
and it's going to continue to drop. Thank God.
@@CordeliaWagner1999and the risk outweighs any pros if there is any
@@CordeliaWagner1999and how men make you a single mother
Yep, my cousin developed permanent cardiac issues during her pregnancy. It's a stark reminder of the risks involved; pregnancy can indeed damage the heart. The pressure to fulfill men's perceived "legacy" comes with significant risks, and it's women who bear the brunt of the burden. It's no wonder many women are beginning to recognize the reality of the situation!
And the thing is some guys are always putting down insta baddies in public and around their friends, but they actually want them. They swear up and down they want a modest woman but the truth is that they would never even look their way bc it’s not visually appealing to them. They have this resentment towards beautiful women on the internet bc those women would never be with them and they know it. So they take it out on them by shaming them in public and then trying desperately to be close to them in private. It’s a tale old as time.. It’s not new just a repackaged form.. idk I try to stay optimistic, but every day there is just something else that just makes me not even want to try. I’m valuing my peace of mind, emotions, and soul more than even trying to risk it to give a guy a chance. I know it’s not all guys, but everywhere I look.. it’s always something 🤦🏾♀️.
You nailed it. I work with 2 guys who are EXACTLY as you described 😂
Insecure people, they just date whomever available, regardless of their types. I was that insecure once. Now I know my type so I’m focusing on that.
But then we have men whining about the 4B movement and claiming how it’s horrible for society. 🤦🏾♀️
Those same guys were supposed to be getting their passports and leaving? What happened to that🤔🤦🏾♀️😒😑
when you saw henry cavill post and then you look at your man😒😭
just do the same to them🤷♀
When you saw Jason momoa post and then you look at your man 😂😢
Brad Pitt, Adam driver, any fine thing in his 20s running around the neighborhood…
@@Kharmaa7 list goes on xD
Henry is gorgeous!!🧐 You might he onto something!!😂😂😂
@@vladimirazubcekova7727 lol these fools don’t like it when we play their games. Oh how they pout and tantrum!
@@Kharmaa7 yea its rules for thy but not for me
I always knew this was suspect but I got called insecure for it.
Same.
Wow
I’m sorry 😕. Always go with your intuition, even if you don’t have any proof. It’s much more powerful than you know. Someone who really cares about you wouldn’t counter that with putting you down calling you insecure. And let’s say even if you are insecure, a partner that wants to support you will notice that and reassure you or uplift you to encourage your self esteem.. not throw it in your face to deflect. Stay safe out here 🖤
my ex followed Belle Delphine as well as over 6000 random girls on Instagram and somehow it was my fault that I was insecure.
Yeah them trying to convince us we’re insecure is a manipulation tactic. I’m glad we’re waking up.
These social media posters don’t even look like that in their real lives.😂 Filters, perfect angles, throwing away every picture that doesn’t look good, and these guys are comparing real life women to fake, made up people on the internet.😂
Speak for yourself. No angle is going to make an amy schumer or wendy williams look good. Also, all cameras have angles. You cant take cheap shots at women just because youre mad you dont look like them. Most are imposters but some do look good. It doesnt take away from the fact that a male who doesnt want you will stray. If its not celebs, its the woman down the street. It boils down to, are you your type's type.
The last girl is on to something. I have friends like this and even though they know intellectually that they can’t get that fantasy woman, it still affects their mindset and their actions. They really start acting as if those fantasy women are really options, and treat their real women as disposable. They will never say this out loud, but that’s how they *behave* You really have to give them a reality check and show them that good women aren’t spending 40 hours a week just trying to look good for them. Good women are out working, studying, creating homes, advancing their careers, caring for their children and spend their time making an honest life for themselves. Those fantasies are just that 20%, looks with no substance, and most will just use them for money, attention, and/or sex, if they even gave them a shot in the first place…
This these guys if they meet their dream girl he wouldn’t ask her for coffee and Netflix and chill I told someone this and they got mad at me lol
Exactly tbh. His whole personality would change if he met his dream girl. That’s how you get those “well my man..” women in the comments.
EGGZAKLEE! They come correct or don't come at all because they don't want to risk their dream girl walking away from them forever because they know she will!! ain't no what's your body count talk or 50/50 bs, none of ittt!
This is why I don’t entertain men who come with 50/50 or fwb or cheap dates nonsense. If they value you, it shows in their actions and how they treat you. When your standards are low you end up with men who are just bargain hunting for cheap/easy sex.
Truth is, if you want to lose interest in a guy, GET TO KNOW HIM FOR REAL!
Works like a charm EVERYTIME 🤣🤣🤣
👍🏾 Fast enough to make your head spin.
😂😂😂😂
The woman talking about porn had such an enlightening comment to the first video. I had never thought of it before.
And you would never know this if he keeps silent about it 🙄 Then get with his dream girl and treat her like crap too. They are sick in the head. Yeah I’ll stay single.
The second girl was absolutely right when men make jokes like that! 90% joke and 10% truth the fact he would be so bold to publicly announce his girlfriend is not his future wife but his placeholder some men have no decorum!
For me, it's one thing to have a celebrity crush, but when your crush looks NOTHING like your girl (different skin tone, body type, disposition etc) that's def something to pay attention to. Because if you're not his type, I promise the second he comes across someone that IS and actually has access to her, he's gonna be out. He's either gonna leave you, cheat so he can have his cake and eat it, or he'll start acting up so you can leave him. Save yourself the stress sis. If all his celeb crushes are biracial and thick but you're brown skinned and thin, or if you're a plane jane good girl and all his crushes are IG model bad bxtch types, or you're a natural hair modest girlie but all his crushes wear fashion nova attire with the 30in bust down wigs, just focus on yourself sis. You are not what he wants just what he can get. And that's not because you aren't gorgeous etc, you just aren't his preference.
It is a red flag if he is scrolling looking for a "dream" girl instead of facing reality. 🙄
They can never go to the same places as their "Dream Girl" 😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾
Its called P0řn brain
Bacisly you are the back up choice if he or she can't get their first choice.😊
correct or the "starter" wife.
I am honestly tired of it all. I am in these phase in my life that I can say I don’t even want to date no more. I will be in the gym and guys want my number. No I don’t want to give u my number or I don’t want to be taken out. Leave me alone Mr. I am just going abt life and just tired of men and not interested
It’s sad but,TRUTH!
this has been going on a LONG time.. for centuries...just in different medias. It got worse with the exploitation of women in the "girlie" magazines and corn (p) industry. You can thank Hugh Hefner and Larry Flynt, I love the movies that prop them up and make them out to be sophisticated heroes, when in actuality they were 100% predatory. It was already bad in the 60's, 70's 80's and 90's but now, with the dating apps, internet and phones...it's to the tenth power. Ladies, this is your competition, and you will not win, no shade to you. Just take that focus, drive and energy and put it towards YOU.
100% the same thing came to mind for me about this happening all throughout time.
Another good way to tell who the guy you're on a date with or dating is truly attracted to...watch who he double looks at in public with you...or the woman in passing he looks at too long.
Ive been on quite a few first last dates with men who was very bold with looking at other women...women who looked nothing like me...its all so exhausting and yuck.
It’s not surprising. Most men don’t have access to their first picks. It wouldn’t matter even if they did because they eventually get bored and their eye wanders to the next shiny, new thing. That woman might not even be of the same caliber as their dream woman.
Even with us women, there’s always a guy out there hotter than our man and we know it. So, as far as I’m concerned, my man can cry every time he sees Beyoncé because he himself doesn’t have Jay Z money, either.
He'll cheat if he finds a girl that resembles her/celebrity
I can’t wait to buy me a robot.
Ok, when we start getting male robots, they better not complain.
I had this happen to me. I really liked a man and as we were dating for the two weeks, he kept bringing up a celebrity woman. A girl I was cool with found out and was suddenly began to be a really huge fan. Very disgusting how people use other women’s beauty to hurt others.
I used to feel petty for this but it makes sense. If a dude is following a bunch of women on socials that look NOTHING LIKE YOU, they arent attracted to you.
Im not even really upset about following the half naked women. But if im sitting here all dark skinned, stretch marked and locd and you only following perfect lite brites with 3b hair i know youre probably low key wandering
Thats because men like variety, is what I have observed. Thats why men complain all women look the same… but what are they gonna do about it, when they all get surgery to have the same body and facial features.
This is also why they are so obsessed with "hall passes". They want a green light to cheat with a woman who would probably 🤮 at the thought of them and then they take it out on their gf/wife/whenever once reality hits
I'm checked out also.
It’s the best decision in my humble opinion 🤷🏽♀️
@@Priscilla_Boyecompletely lost interest in men and building my best life. I don’t hate men, I just think they are irrelevant to my happiness. They are not to be trusted no matter what, that I know.
They need a caretaker who cooks and does laundry and all other stuff they don't like but hope some day they can lebel up.
I can totally understand finding a celebrity or someone on social media attractive. But it’s the comparison and disappointment, for me!
They should at least date women that look like they’re type/the celebrities.
Personally, I have never looked at a celebrity or a random man, then looked over at the man that I was with in disappointment . Because I like who I like, I’m attracted to who I’m attracted to. So, that celebrity and my man always were very similar looking. ( plus, I simply CANNOT be with a man I don’t find attractive. )
With that being said, something in my gut has always told me that I needed to look like the man’s past. If I didn’t look like his past, it needed to be because whoever he was with before me, was a completely different race, height, And body structure. Things that I can’t change even if I actually wanted to.
Dream girl here, did I get treated any better? NOPE. If they get the dream girl they ruin it with their own insecurities and abuse tf out of you. Youre a trophy, and still not a person to them. I was just something to impress other men 😂
Then break up with her. And try to get with the celebrity. No one what’s to be settled for.
👍🏾 Yep! Wonder what's stopping him. 🤔😂😂
Pay attention to who is your partner's celebrity crush, particularly if it is the same (homo) or opposite (hetero) sex. Never wonder if he or she is downlow again. You're welcome.
I guess what's odd is that the men saying this sound like they don't believe women also have a physical preference & also settle.
I had an ex that would follow tons of women on IG, leaving them inappropriate DMs, etc. A few of the ladies were actually friends, colleagues....They told me right away. This was years ago, at that time, I was 36, he was 42. We had been together a little over 1 year at that time. I am attractive, a fitness trainer, no small kids, my own place, educated, decent job, raised well, kind to others, treated him like gold. ( my only daughter was a grown adult living on her own) I broke up with him immediately.
He wasted his 40s trying to be a player, so now, he's miserable. Yes... he was in his 40s behaving that way 🤮.
Goes to show males only value looks in women, while women value personality, intent, a man of substance, morals and values
*googles Rubi Rose*
Same girl same
@@fayepatrice1672 🤭 and I still don’t know who she is. I just looked at whatever pics can up first.
Agreed Priscilla, I’m checked tf out and im not gonna date these people 😂 if I ever rejoin the dating scene it’ll be women only that I date. #blessedtobehalfgay
Which is why I won’t settle either. I have a type. That is what I will marry and share my body with.
The funny thing is Rubi said she was always insecure about her body when she was very skinny so she went to the gym and gained weight and bulked. I think she looks good either way.
It's one thing to occasionally watch porn or fantasize about a celebrity, but if they are obsessed with or making videos about them, they don't respect you.
Even occasional porn is bad. Stop excusing and normalizing bad behavior. You are more offended by a video than his actual feelings that inspired the video.
I've been there. And the funny thing is that he even projected and accused me of settling. Eventually, after being cornered for his inconsistencies, he admitted that I am not what he wants. That was my free pass out of a toxic relationship. Rejection is protection.
Thats why you always take their money
These videos make me grateful every day that I'm single :)
EDIT: Also I was so confused why dude's are crying over a famous lesbian Ruby Rose, never heard of Rubi Rose the rapper before lol
😂 yes I like the lesbian one she seems so cool. The rapper don’t care about her and never heard her music.
This single since 2018 , people just be settling
😂😂😂 I thought it was Ruby Rose until I read this comment
See I LOOKED UP WHO THAT WAS and was confused, so I guess that's not the same one he meant.
Oh Ruby you DO know what you are missing. 😂
I think with maturity comes the realization the we don’t have the options we think we have. Also, comes the reality check that we are all human. We have our good days and bad days. These crushes don’t look like that 24/7 lol, Beyoncé and Halle Barry got cheated on. Stop perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards.
It's almost like they're gay. Ruby Rose? They're out there depressed they're not with the man of their dreams. lol
He’s talking about the rapper Rubi Rose, not the masculine lesbian woman Ruby Rose.
Only man I follow is Jax teller and whenever my family wants to set me up on a blind date my sister shows them his photos 😂.
I just looked him up. Dreamy 😍
Yess ughhh
Oh my goodness they do love bad girls👏👏👏🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍
Now I get pretty deep with my celebrity crushes but I would never disrespect my bf or gf like that. It's just a crush I don't think that's harmless unless it goes to extreme or they're disrespecting u
Finding your identity in a human relationship is nuts. I recently surrendered this post of my life to God and stopped expecting that He would give me a relationship... NO NO NO! Because these videos started popping up and now I'm over it. I'm over talking to men in general. I know a lot because of this program I'm a part of, and it's like they can't help but to reduce you or themselves in one way or another. They intrupt you, interject a sexual comment, belittle you by answering a serious question/conversation with a joke that just leaves you confused.
This is a good one.....thanks ❤
Is he talking about Ruby Rose the actress or Rubi Rose the songwriter? Coz I don't think Ruby Rose would even look at him.. she's a lesbian, I believe.
My cousin get guys talking to her all the time ha ha ha ha ha ha and she is not nice at all , she carries a 45👏👏👏🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is so true!
Totally agree 8:15
I can't relate
Not me thinking he was talking about the Australian gender fluid Ruby Rose 🤣🤣🤣
I thought the same thing 😂😅
I get that he messed up posting something that's lowkey dissing his girl ( I would never do her like that), but I think people are (predictably) making a whole fuss about a Tik Tok skit. If we all agree that your man obsessing over his celebrity crush (liking/commenting in their pics, etc) is disrespectful, than y'all need to collectively agree that women doing the same thing is just as bad. How many thirsty women (single or committed) do we see thirsting daily over Idris Elba, Chris Hemsworth, and the Usher's and Michael b. Jordan's social media posts? Where's the outrage then?
If any guy even tried to say something he'd quickly be shut down bcuz "you can't tell me what to do, you're just insecure and that's a YOU problem".
Where was this energy when that girl dry-humped Omah Lay on stage? A lot of y'all came out in support of the girl (yay empowerment) , or saying that her mistake was doing "too much" and embarrassing herself. As for the dude, he's just "insecure" and should just grow up.
10:21 i dont agree
That woman who rambled on about pornography made no sense to me, sorry.
That girl talking about corn was soooo off base 😂😂😂😂
how?
@@pabloescobarschanclas too much to type lol
@@easiersaidwithmeg sure…sounds like an answer you’d give when you don’t actually have anything to back up your statement. there is nothing good about consuming corn.
@@easiersaidwithmeg is that short for "lady is absolutely right and I've got nothing to back up my bs claim"?
Our brains aren't able to fully process our current technology, including filmed sa.
@@isa-morena no it just means I don’t have to explain myself online to strangers and I’m content with your opinion being different than mine. I have no urge to try to convince you of anything.
Ew
It’s very true, men today would rather have a fake relationship with an IG girl or even an AI girl rather than an actual human that would actually be attracted to them IRL.
These men will date you love you try to marry you and still be waiting on that unicorn. Then when you say that’s what you want a unicorn. “You need to lower your standards your asking for to much”
Incredibly happy to be single.