I need help , I’m not depressed , I’m not happy either tho . I just wake up , do the same shi I did yesterday and go to sleep . And the cycle continues. I’m truly stuck and lost passion for everything I used to love
My deepest fear is that I’m afraid I’ll turn out becoming a failure/loser in the end. playing video games, making music and hanging out with friends used to be my favourite things to do, I used to do those a lot, but now I feel like wasting time when doing those. I feel like I should spend my time on building the ladder to success, but haven’t figured it out yet. I’m 29
Try 35 😔. Trying so hard to get a job right now, and living with family because I can’t afford to rent at this time. Feeling like a loser and failure in this life, but I have to remind myself it’s the crummy economy I’m stuck with! I also witnessed a few of my friends lose their rent/homes; others next to homelessness. None of this is right. We shouldn’t suffer like this.
I know this may sound stupid but honestly my home life isn’t the best rn, and I’m F 20, don’t have a job, car, nothing to move out. So I’m just stuck here in this house doing the same thing everyday, (cleaning the house, etc,arguments with toxic mom, she’s verbally abusive) sometimes I just want to pack my stuff and leave in the middle of the night, and never come back. And I ask my self “what the hell am I doing?” “This isn’t a good environment to be in, she isn’t good to be around” I feel like I’m a bird in a cage, just longing to be free, what i really want to do is take a long road trip to find myself, go to some of the most beautiful places ever! And take photos with my Polaroid. Places Like Oregon, South Lake Tahoe, Yellowstone, Washington, (nature places). I don’t want a regular 9-5 job I just want to live in the forest and run barefoot without a care in the world. Even if I’m homeless I wouldn’t care, as long as I’m free. I’ve been drinking and smoking, because I feel so lost and tired like I don’t care anymore.. anyway thanks for listening 💕(who ever read this whole thread)
Easy to say to "figure out what makes you feel fulfilled" I can't even figure that out anymore. I have tired and I have thought, but I can't. I just can't. Everytime I think, it's just like static. I am so tired.
@@notahamster333Same everything becomes so uninteresting after a while and then you're left no longer wanting to pursue it. If only I was born into wealth maybe just maybe life would be a bit more enjoyable 😂
I debated suicide earlier. I am truly lost in life. I don’t know what I’m doing. I feel like I need someone to tell me what I should do but at the same time I don’t like the idea of authority. I’m so lost
I’d really just say to start off small. You can’t really figure what you like unless you try things to see if it fits for you. If it doesn’t work out, you now know that it wasn’t for you but overtime you will find that one thing that is satisfying for you. Then those activities with branch out into trying new things in that category. I understand the feeling of wanting someone to tell me what I should do but when you have to make a decision for yourself, you won’t be able to make a confident decision because you’re so used to asking others to do it for you. I say this cuz I’m dealing with the same problem lol. It’s a hard process, but it’s very rewarding once you finally start to see change. Also I hope you get better mentally. This kind of stuff takes time❤️🙏🏾
Perhaps you focus on what's missing in your life rather than what goes well and you can be grateful for.Its easy to fall into this trap but gratitude always makes it better
my parents raised me with such high standards that i have a need for achievements and have unrealistic expectations. went to college as pre-med to please my parents but ended up almost flunking on purpose because i didn't think pre-med was the path i chose to take. instead developed musical skill and found some small success there. but not being able to fulfill my parents dreams is making me so confused and lost in life. it makes me want to give up and become a vegetable and rot away.
I'm terribly sorry to hear you're feeling this way. This is a conversation I'm planning to have with my son of 34, who is married, and I don't see him too often. However, he's doing very well financially but doesn't share his troubles. So I need to tell him that I admire him for his achievements, but that's not why I love him. He has a great interest in electronic music and has an amazing little studio in his basement filled with all kinds of equipment. I think this is his first love. We all want to be loved. Your parents may disapprove, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. So don't become a prisoner of your job title.
This was more answering the question "what to do with your free time" than "what to do with your life". What to do on the weekend is secondary to what to do during the week. What you do during the week needs to address the first two levels of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Wow I felt down today, no job, little money and feeling a bit useless. I know it’s life’s ups and downs but it’s difficult at the time, this is comforting and so are many of the comments. We really are all in this together, camaraderie 🙌🙌🙌
I honestly don’t know why people exist. Without a goal or intention in mind, what are we meant to do? For the past two years I had a goal in mind. I worked hard every day and soon reached the goal I was striving for. Now I have no idea what to do. I wake up, go to school, come back from school and idk wth I’m meant to do with myself… I’ve always had a short term goal or a long term goal. Now I have neither.
I’m almost 19 and my head is filled with doubts and second-guessing myself. I used to be super into things like astronomy, technology and botany but for some reason they each have faded away. This happens to me repeatedly and I don’t know why. My childhood and parents have the greatest influence in how I have come to the point I am today. My father is not really involved and my mother has a lot of toxic and unhealthy behaviors which I somehow absorbed and have been ingrained into me. It’s exhausting to just even begin tracking down what they are.
i understand your problem, I'm also almost 19(in 6 months but whatever) I used to be into astrology, psychology, robotics, and all that, man I was obsessed I found it interesting and I was dreaming about working for space x one day for example. But I feel so overheated right now even tho all I do is think about shit and being lost in my own mind, idk what to do in life and with way to go, all I think about is money and myself even tho it feels like I'm stuck and can't move because idk where Man I love music, I love sports, I love gym I love nature I love cars I love camping I love astrology I love psychology I love so many things man but how the hell am I suppose to do all of them you know? My family situation is bad I need to help my mom raise more money my dad is moving out, I need money for my drivers license, I need to figure out which way to go and I know I need to do some changes, if I only had my spark back man, energy and motivation again. Good luck mate, hope we find our ways soon
@@jade_blazkowiczsame here I’m also struggling too with money I need to work on getting money but don’t know how to afford a car it so hard out here it like I want to give up
I have to say this - you used to be into certain things because you actually are into those things but sometimes our parents' nonsense spills over into our lives - so I want you to first start with this - your parents' stuff is not your stuff - go ahead and lay that down - work on empathy for them but stop including yourself in that - I promise you, it's not your stuff - pray for them, wish wellness for them but unfollow that shit show :)
Most of my life i have done everything to please my mother, which i genuinely enjoyed for a whort bit in my childhood. Then growing into my teen years i became severely depressed. I have quite a lot of skill in traditional art but my mom dismisses it and tells me that im stupid, i need to think realistically. I have had depression since i was about 13 years old and i am 19 now. I am tired of the expectations and tired of doing what others tells is the right choice. I do what they say i still feel lost, depressed and filled with chronic stress and anxiety. I have nightmares practically every night. I know this is a dumb decision, and i could be better, but im taking the rebellious route. I am quitting college (ive almost finished the semester but i just cant do it anymore bc of mental health issues) and i am doing what ive always wanted to do. Sure, ill be in debt and ill be shamed but right now im just trying to focus on being happy again. If im going to throw my life away, i might as well make the most of it
So take a job and work your way up by doing this ”lower” job well and getting a pay rise or promotion. Not complaining about lack of money on the Internet
@@izabellapinker9705 (oh just get a job, why didn't I think of that? o'em'gee I'm soo schewped) yeah if I could save $1 every paycheck I would probably have $30,000 by the end of the year right?
But make sure you do what you need to do so you can do what you want to do. Too many people want the effects without the effort. Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.
easy choices: Living happily while the time you are most alive, energetic and happy, wasting second half of your life, hard choice: Living above average when you are old, crumpy, non energetic wasting the first half to be productive.
I feel that money holds me back, how can you save in this economy to make your dreams come true? on min wage, single , 3 special needs children. I would love to work and save money for a small farm. Thats my dream. It just seems impossible when you can barely keep your head above water as it is
Same this year im Turning 21 and i still have Zero idea wtf I have Even been Doing all my life nothing pretty much work,sleep,Game barely any Friends left,hating Family who only use me and I have been pondering about ending it so much lately again I just wish to See a light in the middle of the Night to take me away
I developed a drug problem in my teens, got sober over 10 years ago, thought I'd "have it figured out" now. I was in healthcare for 16 years and eventually got burnt out, recently started cleaning houses. It is not what I want to do forever but also have no idea what I want to do. I'm 34 and have no idea where I'm going.
I’m close to your age. I’m 33, and I’ve been in healthcare almost 9 years. I find it to be overrated and exhausting. I just don’t feel like it’s my true calling. I’m not sure what is. I’m a single guy with no kids. I just feel like I’m some random guy who is just… here for no reason. lol
@@jtc9098I understand this. I was a patient transporter for my last job and I got treated like crap and wasn't paid enough. The benefits were good but not worth the pain. I'm so lost now
Goddamn, we need a world in which we do several community services for 15 - 20 hours a week for getting food and shelter and in the remaining time we can do whatever we want. Regular 9 to 5 jobs for 5-6 days of week are consuming our lives. I dont have a purpose, i dont have a goal, i dont have a dream job and i dont want them. I just want to lay around and read philosophy books and world classics.
Unfortunately that’ll never happen. They would rather you rot if you choose to do the bare minimum. We as humans aren’t meant to do these things. That’s why so many people are sick the world is chaos all fighting for control and money. It’s sad. There should be a place on earth that people can go to and we make our own rules.
i'm so glad there are so many 19 yr olds here because as a 19 yr old myself..... This feels just like me and makes me feel like home. i don't think not knowing what to do at 19 is odd but I think there are different kinds of ways of being lost, and i express my lost feeling to everyone i interact with to just get some advice and inspiration, but though all my friends say they aren't sure i somehow feel the most lost as i question everything... I'm seeking therapy which is good, and I'm also actively looking for ways out. But i think this is just because i'm just an enthusiastic person and not knowing makes me feel very uncomfortable
Some people are already living the life they want but they feel bad about it because they compare their life with that of others and then they start to think that what they are doing is not enough and they should do more. That's what makes them unhappy. Don't listen to others. Listen to yourself, your feelings. If you feel right, even if you are not doing much, then that's absolutely ok. You don't have to work through a list of crazy adventures, because you think that this is what a "meaningful" life is. There's no meaning in life. Do what the heck you want as long as you personally feel good and don't listen to others if they tell you to do this or that. In the end, it's your life.
All these suggestions feel like it requires money and right now I’m parent-less no money and with my kids in a hotel. I’m can’t afford to find what fulfills me or makes me happy… that’s a luxury. I constantly worry about money and what’s going to happen to us. I’m just trying to figure out and not give up bc my kids only have me and I have no one 😢
i still dont know what to do, its a constant cycle of the same thing, being ignored all day and everyone putting me down like if im a freak and then i just go home to my grandma who doesn't even know who she is anymore (she has late stage Alzheimer's) all because my dad lost my home to drugs back when i was 12 and im 17 now, i hate being stuck in these fucking mountains, no work or anything, im stuck here, no one realizes how depressing it is to only come home to a Grandma who doesn't even know who i am, my class treats me like an outcast just because i dont have as much cloths as them.
Successful business owner here making 6 digits and I still don’t know what to do with my life. Reminder friends, your work, money, has nothing to do with what fulfills you.
I've been binge watching self-help videos and now knowing I'm a closed-minded person with low IQ I feel doomed to fail and sink further into despair. No wonder I'm lost
I will be turning 27 and have no clue what to do with my life, Have completed my Grad school, iam always occupied with stress, anxiety and fear..... I just cant figure out where to lead myself coz i have zero motivation and no purpose currently. Kindly help me through this your suggestions will mean alot Thanks
It’s good that you went to grad school! I’ve been thinking a lot about whether I should do grad school, but I’m not sure bc I don’t even use my bachelor’s. This whole thing about applying for jobs gives me anxiety and depression.
Thank you for your warm words of wisdom 😊 It was a very useful reminder as I’ve been feeling a bit listless and low of late, maybe for. To changes in weather, rise in cost of living lots of uncertainty in the world. I just need to start rebuilding my momentum by doing one thing at a time and do what makes me happy 😊
"What do you want you to learn, do, and feel?" There is no "you" inside of your body or mind, waiting to be formed into something else. Something better. Something different. The You you are today is the You you will always be. Inside of you there is YOU. A consciousness with the ability to choose to do whatever you want, need, or desire to do. Those choices, over time spans you can't imagine waiting for, will create a life you either love, hate, or tolerate, or some constantly jumbling mixture of the three, every day until the day you die.
the pandemic and lockdowns destroyed me and made me alone and isolated for too long :( . every day i pray i would get better but i still lift weights even i suffer alot
I know what I want to do, but my current life is exhausting and overwhelming, and my bank account is hurting. I have no resources or energy to do what I want. I also need more education, which I can't afford. I seriously have no idea how to function like and adult and make things happen.
I'm 22, I have a job, get some money each month but honestly I don't know what to do with my life. Which career I should follow... what's gonna be the next step. Life is so unpredictable, maybe in 5 years I'll be doing something that I've never imagined doing or maybe I'll be doing the same thing that I'm doing today. What makes me feel sad is that I feel lost. At least I have a job, ya know, some money and something to do. But I left behind so many things that I enjoyed doing but now I don't enjoy doing those things right now. I loved learning foreign languages and drawing but now it's a waste of time to me. I hope that's normal in your 20's.
i love driving. i have a fun car, i love working on it, i love my driving simulator. i want to do everything about anything when it comes to performance driving. i have other wants and desires but it all comes down back down to cars. no no i don’t want to be a mechanic, i don’t want to be a truck driver, i want to race. go karts, miata’s, rally, or just hot laps in a grocery getter. but it’s just not realistic. at least, not realistic for me. it’s definitely a pay-to-win environment even when classed. we’re talking tens of thousands of dollars being poured in constantly. i’ll probably never enjoy it as a profession. so for now i’m having to figure what can i REALISTICALLY do without expecting too much and becoming disappointed.
31 years old and still lost no hight school degree.... I regret it...eating my feelings and find comfort from drinking because my family no cares , no friends it's just me and my dog. I feel like I have no future, I feel like I'm disappointment to family and everyone. Idk .... I keep failing my self and diet. Idk what to do to make my self and mom proud
If you’re unsure about what you want to do with your life, consider starting a UA-cam channel. While it may not immediately turn into a full-time gig, it can definitely bring in some extra income. We’re living in unpredictable times, and having a side hustle can offer financial security if anything happens to your job. You never know what opportunities might come your way!
what to do with the situation of I don’t like anything at all? Nothing brings me joy, none of my hobbies, none of the jobs I’ve changed. I feel like I don’t belong and out of place no matter where I am
I’m not young 😅 but that sentiment stands it’s not necessarily a teenager whose lost. All people all ages have different stages in life where they become lost. Spirituality, meditation, community these things can help. Affirmations, journaling. People like gabby Bernstein, Exkhart tolle and yes this is partially part of my fulfillment system but also, this stands as part of the answer for finding fulfillment for all.
Am feeling the same thing... Idk why am not getting inner peace... I know I want to do something big but idk what it is ...always feel fear and anxiety, not getting proper sleep...living w a regret to not say YES to person I liked (he is gone now). Idk what I was thinking that time atleast i had someone to talk to lol. .. Siblings are living apart... Completely lost...idk what should I do cry or laugh. At this situation
Watching this to understand how I can help a loved one. My partner is no longer doing what he loves and not hasn’t got his flow back. I wish I could help but it doesn’t seem like I can. It has to be self directed I guess. So painful to watch.
Sending everyone in the comment section love & light 🤍 dont give up on yourself! You have to go through what you’re going through right now to become the best version of yourself even though its not clear right now. Dont give up, and keep doing the little things that make you happy. Even if its just singing in the shower, or going on a walk, or reading a book. If you keep putting in the effort to to get what you want, be happy, be at peace, i promise you’ll get there with the effort, consistency, and positive mindset about it! It also helps to have faith of some sort to know you are being guided and supported by something bigger than us.
you know sometimes its the one who raised us that supposed to guide and support us but then again alot of people lost their parent figure and their guidance to the point this kind of video exist.
This is very well said. My mind and feelings have been obligated from modern society and people close to me. Most of the time Its just a blur. I know my outlook on life has been altered indefinitely. The only way I feel grounded is when I create digital art. Next year I am going to see if doing freelance work will give me a sense of direction. That is really the only thing keeping me afloat in this existence.
I've always Loved dance or anything that physically moves me... like figure skating.. that is what I just genuinely enjoy doing with my time however my family does not approve they want me to sit in an office......I love them but its driving me insane
Idk what to do after high school but I’m considering veterinarian I’ve always loved animals and animals more then people but the amount of school scares me
I can't keep a job and can't find a career i know I'll like. Didn't finish high school. Been dealing with over 5 different diagnosis my whole life like add, adhd, depression, anxiety, ocd, bpd. I feel like I can't get anything right. As soon as something starts to go good for me, 'poof' its gone in an instant.🤷 I also just got dumped a few days ago by someone i truly loved and now I have nothing & have to start over. Will have to move extremely far to be able to afford a house on my own. Their reasons for leaving me were hurtful too; 'you need to get your life together'.....'i want to be single' .....'i want to live alone' .... but he's already seeing other people & doesn't care how heartbroken i am. I have no friends to talk to about it because of anxiety. Its like I can never catch a break!! Ugh I don't understand this shit. Why is life so difficult for most of us? I'm so tired.
I am F 29.I lost my job because of unstable political situation in our country .I haven't found out a job yet .I am also not applying well coz I feel like I am not enough and i need to have a vocational careeer rather than language's.I don't know but I am sure I 'm feeling lost.
If your a business owner why not focus into making more sales or getting more clients a career is only a short term goal but business is long term cause you can lose your job anytime but your business its still running and paying the bills.
I went to uni, got the degree, went back to uni to get a masters because I didn’t know what else to do. Throughout my 20s I became more and more depressed because I was on the wrong path, pushing myself into a 9-5 trying to make corporate companies make more money. I was lucky to get a job but I couldn’t shake the depression. I’m trying to figure out what would really make me feel at peace. Sometimes life feels like a game, a capitalist game that we’re not supposed to win at
Im 27 in the time of writing and nothing in my life makes sense to me anymore. I keep telling myself i want to achieve the higher purpose in life. But what is that higher purpose?
My problem is i don't know how to be happy or enjoy like my friends do. I don't know my purpose. I don't know what is happening or enjoyment. I don't know why i am living. Wtf is wrong with me
Hey, I feel lost in my life. I’m 35, my life is great, amazing husband, daughter, but I have no work (it was my decision to leave that workplace). Ever since I don’t know what to do, where to go. And why?! Each day is the same. In midday I already start to wait for going to sleep. No ideas in my head, no motivation, no nothing. All blank.
i want to go to fine arts university because i have passion for drawing and fine arts school has always been a dream to me. my parents keep saying i will be broke if i choose art. they are right but i dont have time to change my rotation. i want to follow the path i am already good in and improve. i am sick of crying myself to sleep thinking what i am going to do. nobody can help me either.
Im 15 i dont have a passion for anything really ive started doing bad in school i only enjoy playing video games and going to the gym i dread waking up for school and getting out of bed every morning i have no clue what i want to do after hs i dont know what to do with my life im actually lost and i see myself just becoming nothing and ive been feeling very depressed recently
Dealing with tbi, ptsd, and cfs days are hard. I try but when you throw so many other stressors and things falling apart in life. I don’t know where to go or what to do to find how to do it.
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i am truly lost in this life
Same bro 😪
Find out what are your values, what makes you happy, what is your dream.
Same dude. I just had my birthday and usually I don’t celebrate since I’m very lost and feel worse as I feel like I haven’t achieved anything
same
You are on a good path if you are watching videos like these. Don't give up!
I honestly wish there was a group like AA For people who are depressed and lost and don’t know what it will take to get better…
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Tweet, start this group!
Start doing drugs and then check into rehab
I wish there was something like this but for people who've been through trauma and struggle to fit in to society
Money bro
I need help , I’m not depressed , I’m not happy either tho . I just wake up , do the same shi I did yesterday and go to sleep . And the cycle continues. I’m truly stuck and lost passion for everything I used to love
Me too
How are you doing now
@@EveryonesUA-cam100 got myself a little better for a bit . Somehow I just always end up in the same state … idk what to do
Same except i have extreme chronic pain with headaches and fatigue, havent seen a day without pain 😢gotta stay strong yet taking it easy as well
I understand you bro. It sure is a stressful condition. Hope we get this solved for us all
My deepest fear is that I’m afraid I’ll turn out becoming a failure/loser in the end.
playing video games, making music and hanging out with friends used to be my favourite things to do, I used to do those a lot, but now I feel like wasting time when doing those.
I feel like I should spend my time on building the ladder to success, but haven’t figured it out yet.
I’m 29
1 m 24 , same here. I feel lot of regret of doing all this now.
I'm 1 year behind you and I am literally in the same spot at the moment. "Still fcked up, don't know what to do". Haizz
Try 35 😔. Trying so hard to get a job right now, and living with family because I can’t afford to rent at this time. Feeling like a loser and failure in this life, but I have to remind myself it’s the crummy economy I’m stuck with! I also witnessed a few of my friends lose their rent/homes; others next to homelessness. None of this is right. We shouldn’t suffer like this.
Making music and hanging out with friends isn’t a waste of time. Video games are a lot of the time, though.
@@EricLewandowski-vn7kyhow so
"Ultimately feeling lost is less about figuring out your life and more about Trying to live a life that makes you feel more alive"
I know this may sound stupid but honestly my home life isn’t the best rn, and I’m F 20, don’t have a job, car, nothing to move out. So I’m just stuck here in this house doing the same thing everyday, (cleaning the house, etc,arguments with toxic mom, she’s verbally abusive) sometimes I just want to pack my stuff and leave in the middle of the night, and never come back. And I ask my self “what the hell am I doing?” “This isn’t a good environment to be in, she isn’t good to be around”
I feel like I’m a bird in a cage, just longing to be free, what i really want to do is take a long road trip to find myself, go to some of the most beautiful places ever! And take photos with my Polaroid. Places Like Oregon, South Lake Tahoe, Yellowstone, Washington, (nature places). I don’t want a regular 9-5 job I just want to live in the forest and run barefoot without a care in the world. Even if I’m homeless I wouldn’t care, as long as I’m free. I’ve been drinking and smoking, because I feel so lost and tired like I don’t care anymore.. anyway thanks for listening 💕(who ever read this whole thread)
You’re not alone bro I believe in you!
i felt this
If I don't figure it out in the next 4 months I will legit run into the wild.
@@jeon_kylie287 bruh just called her "bruh"...🤣🤣🤣she's a woman Kylie..
@@silxbeats it’s okay lol my friends call me bro too 😂 it’s all good! No harm done
Easy to say to "figure out what makes you feel fulfilled" I can't even figure that out anymore. I have tired and
I have thought, but I can't. I just can't. Everytime I think, it's just like static. I am so tired.
Yeah, I've never been so jaded with the world and with my life.
@@notahamster333Same everything becomes so uninteresting after a while and then you're left no longer wanting to pursue it. If only I was born into wealth maybe just maybe life would be a bit more enjoyable 😂
I debated suicide earlier. I am truly lost in life. I don’t know what I’m doing. I feel like I need someone to tell me what I should do but at the same time I don’t like the idea of authority. I’m so lost
I’d really just say to start off small. You can’t really figure what you like unless you try things to see if it fits for you. If it doesn’t work out, you now know that it wasn’t for you but overtime you will find that one thing that is satisfying for you. Then those activities with branch out into trying new things in that category. I understand the feeling of wanting someone to tell me what I should do but when you have to make a decision for yourself, you won’t be able to make a confident decision because you’re so used to asking others to do it for you. I say this cuz I’m dealing with the same problem lol. It’s a hard process, but it’s very rewarding once you finally start to see change.
Also I hope you get better mentally. This kind of stuff takes time❤️🙏🏾
I’m also going through the same thing but I also have a disability which makes it harder
I feel sad everyday. I'm losing control. I don't want to live my life like this. Why am I the way I am?
May be we belong to out of the box thinking group
Perhaps you focus on what's missing in your life rather than what goes well and you can be grateful for.Its easy to fall into this trap but gratitude always makes it better
@@Tutume1111 bolna asan hai bhai
Trying to get better
I’m in the same boat brother.
nothing makes me happy truly but i dont think im depressed
Do you often feel unsatisfied with just about anything? Hell, even your own creation or work?
my parents raised me with such high standards that i have a need for achievements and have unrealistic expectations. went to college as pre-med to please my parents but ended up almost flunking on purpose because i didn't think pre-med was the path i chose to take. instead developed musical skill and found some small success there. but not being able to fulfill my parents dreams is making me so confused and lost in life. it makes me want to give up and become a vegetable and rot away.
I'm terribly sorry to hear you're feeling this way. This is a conversation I'm planning to have with my son of 34, who is married, and I don't see him too often. However, he's doing very well financially but doesn't share his troubles. So I need to tell him that I admire him for his achievements, but that's not why I love him. He has a great interest in electronic music and has an amazing little studio in his basement filled with all kinds of equipment. I think this is his first love. We all want to be loved. Your parents may disapprove, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. So don't become a prisoner of your job title.
please don't give up and rot away :( Whatever your gift is - we need it - the world needs it .😀
I am in the same boat. It is so debilitatingly frustrating.
This was more answering the question "what to do with your free time" than "what to do with your life". What to do on the weekend is secondary to what to do during the week. What you do during the week needs to address the first two levels of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Wow I felt down today, no job, little money and feeling a bit useless. I know it’s life’s ups and downs but it’s difficult at the time, this is comforting and so are many of the comments. We really are all in this together, camaraderie 🙌🙌🙌
Hows things going 2 months later for you?
literally
I honestly don’t know why people exist. Without a goal or intention in mind, what are we meant to do?
For the past two years I had a goal in mind. I worked hard every day and soon reached the goal I was striving for. Now I have no idea what to do. I wake up, go to school, come back from school and idk wth I’m meant to do with myself… I’ve always had a short term goal or a long term goal. Now I have neither.
I’m almost 19 and my head is filled with doubts and second-guessing myself. I used to be super into things like astronomy, technology and botany but for some reason they each have faded away. This happens to me repeatedly and I don’t know why. My childhood and parents have the greatest influence in how I have come to the point I am today. My father is not really involved and my mother has a lot of toxic and unhealthy behaviors which I somehow absorbed and have been ingrained into me. It’s exhausting to just even begin tracking down what they are.
i understand your problem, I'm also almost 19(in 6 months but whatever) I used to be into astrology, psychology, robotics, and all that, man I was obsessed I found it interesting and I was dreaming about working for space x one day for example. But I feel so overheated right now even tho all I do is think about shit and being lost in my own mind, idk what to do in life and with way to go, all I think about is money and myself even tho it feels like I'm stuck and can't move because idk where
Man I love music, I love sports, I love gym I love nature I love cars I love camping I love astrology I love psychology I love so many things man
but how the hell am I suppose to do all of them you know? My family situation is bad I need to help my mom raise more money my dad is moving out, I need money for my drivers license, I need to figure out which way to go and I know I need to do some changes, if I only had my spark back man, energy and motivation again. Good luck mate, hope we find our ways soon
@@jade_blazkowiczsame here I’m also struggling too with money I need to work on getting money but don’t know how to afford a car it so hard out here it like I want to give up
I have to say this - you used to be into certain things because you actually are into those things but sometimes our parents' nonsense spills over into our lives - so I want you to first start with this - your parents' stuff is not your stuff - go ahead and lay that down - work on empathy for them but stop including yourself in that - I promise you, it's not your stuff - pray for them, wish wellness for them but unfollow that shit show :)
About to be 18 spent the last 2 years preparing myself to join the military then i just lost that feel. I dont know what to do and im just scared.
Try to identify things of your mother on you and change and relax them. ❤i was there, you can with this. ❤
Most of my life i have done everything to please my mother, which i genuinely enjoyed for a whort bit in my childhood. Then growing into my teen years i became severely depressed. I have quite a lot of skill in traditional art but my mom dismisses it and tells me that im stupid, i need to think realistically. I have had depression since i was about 13 years old and i am 19 now. I am tired of the expectations and tired of doing what others tells is the right choice. I do what they say i still feel lost, depressed and filled with chronic stress and anxiety. I have nightmares practically every night. I know this is a dumb decision, and i could be better, but im taking the rebellious route. I am quitting college (ive almost finished the semester but i just cant do it anymore bc of mental health issues) and i am doing what ive always wanted to do. Sure, ill be in debt and ill be shamed but right now im just trying to focus on being happy again. If im going to throw my life away, i might as well make the most of it
My problems is that I don't have money to pursue a life that's full of living.
This
So take a job and work your way up by doing this ”lower” job well and getting a pay rise or promotion. Not complaining about lack of money on the Internet
@@izabellapinker9705 (oh just get a job, why didn't I think of that? o'em'gee I'm soo schewped)
yeah if I could save $1 every paycheck I would probably have $30,000 by the end of the year right?
@@ximonwhhatt3796 Although you’re being sarcastic you’re actually correct the answer is yes get a job moron
@@ximonwhhatt3796 😂
But make sure you do what you need to do so you can do what you want to do.
Too many people want the effects without the effort.
Easy choices, hard life.
Hard choices, easy life.
easy choices: Living happily while the time you are most alive, energetic and happy, wasting second half of your life,
hard choice: Living above average when you are old, crumpy, non energetic wasting the first half to be productive.
@@kuruju_vtubeliterally
I feel that money holds me back, how can you save in this economy to make your dreams come true? on min wage, single , 3 special needs children. I would love to work and save money for a small farm. Thats my dream. It just seems impossible when you can barely keep your head above water as it is
It's called finessing people & using other people to get what you need and want
That was AWESOME! Listen, I'm 52 and this video just sparked me to think and I sooo need these words to help me. Thank you so much🙂
I want to live a life where I can do whatever I want, buy what I want, travel where I want and I don’t know where to start
sometimes when I go to bed , I pray god
please don't let me wake up next day.
Hope you're doing okay
Same
Me too, everyday is dread
Same this year im Turning 21 and i still have Zero idea wtf I have Even been Doing all my life nothing pretty much work,sleep,Game barely any Friends left,hating Family who only use me and I have been pondering about ending it so much lately again I just wish to See a light in the middle of the Night to take me away
I’m 30 and chronically depressed. I don’t even know what makes me feel fulfilled. Nothing gives me fulfillment. I have no values. I’m just a husk.
@@soioioioioioio34 How do you figure?
I developed a drug problem in my teens, got sober over 10 years ago, thought I'd "have it figured out" now. I was in healthcare for 16 years and eventually got burnt out, recently started cleaning houses. It is not what I want to do forever but also have no idea what I want to do. I'm 34 and have no idea where I'm going.
I'm in the same boat as well.
sometimes when I go to bed , I pray god
please don't let me wake up next day.
wow great that you over came that what was your addiction exactly?
I’m close to your age. I’m 33, and I’ve been in healthcare almost 9 years. I find it to be overrated and exhausting. I just don’t feel like it’s my true calling. I’m not sure what is. I’m a single guy with no kids. I just feel like I’m some random guy who is just… here for no reason. lol
I Just turned 37 Feel the Same!! Hope you have somthing to help enjoying the simple things can help a lil if possable pick up a Hobby
@@jtc9098I understand this. I was a patient transporter for my last job and I got treated like crap and wasn't paid enough. The benefits were good but not worth the pain. I'm so lost now
Goddamn, we need a world in which we do several community services for 15 - 20 hours a week for getting food and shelter and in the remaining time we can do whatever we want. Regular 9 to 5 jobs for 5-6 days of week are consuming our lives. I dont have a purpose, i dont have a goal, i dont have a dream job and i dont want them. I just want to lay around and read philosophy books and world classics.
I feel this
omg me !! how do i tell my parents this lmao
@@mr3ya33 righttt I’m stuck because the world just doesn’t make sense as it is right now
Epic!!!
Unfortunately that’ll never happen. They would rather you rot if you choose to do the bare minimum. We as humans aren’t meant to do these things. That’s why so many people are sick the world is chaos all fighting for control and money. It’s sad. There should be a place on earth that people can go to and we make our own rules.
i'm so glad there are so many 19 yr olds here because as a 19 yr old myself..... This feels just like me and makes me feel like home. i don't think not knowing what to do at 19 is odd but I think there are different kinds of ways of being lost, and i express my lost feeling to everyone i interact with to just get some advice and inspiration, but though all my friends say they aren't sure i somehow feel the most lost as i question everything... I'm seeking therapy which is good, and I'm also actively looking for ways out. But i think this is just because i'm just an enthusiastic person and not knowing makes me feel very uncomfortable
Some people are already living the life they want but they feel bad about it because they compare their life with that of others and then they start to think that what they are doing is not enough and they should do more. That's what makes them unhappy. Don't listen to others. Listen to yourself, your feelings. If you feel right, even if you are not doing much, then that's absolutely ok. You don't have to work through a list of crazy adventures, because you think that this is what a "meaningful" life is. There's no meaning in life. Do what the heck you want as long as you personally feel good and don't listen to others if they tell you to do this or that. In the end, it's your life.
All these suggestions feel like it requires money and right now I’m parent-less no money and with my kids in a hotel. I’m can’t afford to find what fulfills me or makes me happy… that’s a luxury. I constantly worry about money and what’s going to happen to us. I’m just trying to figure out and not give up bc my kids only have me and I have no one 😢
Sending love and prayers your way sis 🙏🏾❤️
I understand I been homeless and it’s soo hard getting on your feet or finding a stranger thts willing to help instead of judgement or belittle you
@@valenciamcintosh5230 baby prayers don’t help nothing. Action, help and keep thriving does. This not a fantasy or walk on water type deal
i still dont know what to do, its a constant cycle of the same thing, being ignored all day and everyone putting me down like if im a freak and then i just go home to my grandma who doesn't even know who she is anymore (she has late stage Alzheimer's) all because my dad lost my home to drugs back when i was 12 and im 17 now, i hate being stuck in these fucking mountains, no work or anything, im stuck here, no one realizes how depressing it is to only come home to a Grandma who doesn't even know who i am, my class treats me like an outcast just because i dont have as much cloths as them.
hi, how are you now?
I don't have a goal ,all i know is am jealous of people who are successful and i have difficulty copping up😭
Crying about it won't solve shyt. Be a man and grow some sacks buddy
All i want is sit on a balcony with a great view and have a cup of tea
Successful business owner here making 6 digits and I still don’t know what to do with my life. Reminder friends, your work, money, has nothing to do with what fulfills you.
with everything I've experienced so far i can no longer look at life as a normal person would
I've been binge watching self-help videos and now knowing I'm a closed-minded person with low IQ I feel doomed to fail and sink further into despair. No wonder I'm lost
The fact that you think you are "low iq" already shows you are smarter than you think you are
What if you find no enjoyment in anything whatsoever?
I will be turning 27 and have no clue what to do with my life, Have completed my Grad school, iam always occupied with stress, anxiety and fear.....
I just cant figure out where to lead myself coz i have zero motivation and no purpose currently.
Kindly help me through this your suggestions will mean alot Thanks
It’s good that you went to grad school! I’ve been thinking a lot about whether I should do grad school, but I’m not sure bc I don’t even use my bachelor’s. This whole thing about applying for jobs gives me anxiety and depression.
Thank you for your warm words of wisdom 😊 It was a very useful reminder as I’ve been feeling a bit listless and low of late, maybe for. To changes in weather, rise in cost of living lots of uncertainty in the world. I just need to start rebuilding my momentum by doing one thing at a time and do what makes me happy 😊
I'm so lost in this life. I don't know what makes me happy
I wanted this badly.going through very tough phase rn
Me too
@@arunk2710 Did you use a green screen for your profile picture?
@@breather8758 It's a blue screen. I took this picture over a year ago in a photo studio.
Pray for me.
🙏 ❤
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❤️
I truly value fun, happiness, and peace
What makes me feel fulfilled? Dying so no one has to deal with my shit! But no one wants to let me do that so I can’t live a fulfilled life.
Sincerely, most people are surrounded by their own psychological trauma, which affect thier fulfillment in life! I like your content 👏💓
"What do you want you to learn, do, and feel?"
There is no "you" inside of your body or mind, waiting to be formed into something else. Something better. Something different.
The You you are today is the You you will always be.
Inside of you there is YOU. A consciousness with the ability to choose to do whatever you want, need, or desire to do. Those choices, over time spans you can't imagine waiting for, will create a life you either love, hate, or tolerate, or some constantly jumbling mixture of the three, every day until the day you die.
this video gave me so much insight. you deserve more views !! ❤
I am lost. I dont know what to do with my life. I am so confused with what is happening. I dont want this.
the pandemic and lockdowns destroyed me and made me alone and isolated for too long :( . every day i pray i would get better but i still lift weights even i suffer alot
Same
Same we got a little too used to isolation
I know what I want to do, but my current life is exhausting and overwhelming, and my bank account is hurting. I have no resources or energy to do what I want. I also need more education, which I can't afford. I seriously have no idea how to function like and adult and make things happen.
I'm 22, I have a job, get some money each month but honestly I don't know what to do with my life. Which career I should follow... what's gonna be the next step. Life is so unpredictable, maybe in 5 years I'll be doing something that I've never imagined doing or maybe I'll be doing the same thing that I'm doing today. What makes me feel sad is that I feel lost. At least I have a job, ya know, some money and something to do. But I left behind so many things that I enjoyed doing but now I don't enjoy doing those things right now. I loved learning foreign languages and drawing but now it's a waste of time to me. I hope that's normal in your 20's.
Thank you Alex, your advice is appreciated.
i love driving. i have a fun car, i love working on it, i love my driving simulator.
i want to do everything about anything when it comes to performance driving.
i have other wants and desires but it all comes down back down to cars.
no no i don’t want to be a mechanic, i don’t want to be a truck driver, i want to race. go karts, miata’s, rally, or just hot laps in a grocery getter.
but it’s just not realistic. at least, not realistic for me. it’s definitely a pay-to-win environment even when classed. we’re talking tens of thousands of dollars being poured in constantly.
i’ll probably never enjoy it as a profession.
so for now i’m having to figure what can i REALISTICALLY do without expecting too much and becoming disappointed.
31 years old and still lost no hight school degree.... I regret it...eating my feelings and find comfort from drinking because my family no cares , no friends it's just me and my dog. I feel like I have no future, I feel like I'm disappointment to family and everyone. Idk .... I keep failing my self and diet. Idk what to do to make my self and mom proud
Sounds like our parents are neglectful
Wish I had a dog :(
Great video
If you’re unsure about what you want to do with your life, consider starting a UA-cam channel. While it may not immediately turn into a full-time gig, it can definitely bring in some extra income. We’re living in unpredictable times, and having a side hustle can offer financial security if anything happens to your job. You never know what opportunities might come your way!
what to do with the situation of I don’t like anything at all?
Nothing brings me joy, none of my hobbies, none of the jobs I’ve changed. I feel like I don’t belong and out of place no matter where I am
I’m not young 😅 but that sentiment stands it’s not necessarily a teenager whose lost. All people all ages have different stages in life where they become lost. Spirituality, meditation, community these things can help. Affirmations, journaling. People like gabby Bernstein, Exkhart tolle and yes this is partially part of my fulfillment system but also, this stands as part of the answer for finding fulfillment for all.
I love fun, i love succes, i love fullfilment, i love accomplishment i dont want to live a mediocre life
I’m so depressed at this point, I feel like I’m never gonna be fulfilled let alone happy
Watching while I am crying. I am tired, I am alone. I am really feeling bad. 😢 I need to talk.
Am feeling the same thing... Idk why am not getting inner peace... I know I want to do something big but idk what it is ...always feel fear and anxiety, not getting proper sleep...living w a regret to not say YES to person I liked (he is gone now). Idk what I was thinking that time atleast i had someone to talk to lol. .. Siblings are living apart... Completely lost...idk what should I do cry or laugh. At this situation
Me too no friends no one to talk to just UA-cam and games I’m numb
I don't want to settle for bare minimum, I want to do the best I could but I'm scared of failing and I have anxiety huhu
Watching this to understand how I can help a loved one. My partner is no longer doing what he loves and not hasn’t got his flow back. I wish I could help but it doesn’t seem like I can. It has to be self directed I guess. So painful to watch.
I've spent 51 years trying to figure out what makes me happy and, right now, I just don't know. I wish I did, I really do.
Just do what fulfills you bro.
Yeah but what fulfills me? Do you see the problem?
@@reyne8424 Exactly, I'm with you on that
That’s the issue. I don’t know what will.
Sending everyone in the comment section love & light 🤍 dont give up on yourself! You have to go through what you’re going through right now to become the best version of yourself even though its not clear right now. Dont give up, and keep doing the little things that make you happy. Even if its just singing in the shower, or going on a walk, or reading a book. If you keep putting in the effort to to get what you want, be happy, be at peace, i promise you’ll get there with the effort, consistency, and positive mindset about it! It also helps to have faith of some sort to know you are being guided and supported by something bigger than us.
Great advice, thank you seriously.
you know sometimes its the one who raised us that supposed to guide and support us but then again alot of people lost their parent figure and their guidance to the point this kind of video exist.
Amazing video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤
Thank you so much Sir I Really appeciated for these worthy speech ❤
mf really said "You got nothing to do? Well just do what you want"
I honestly want to move to another country less modern to live as a farmer/rancher.
This is very well said. My mind and feelings have been obligated from modern society and people close to me. Most of the time Its just a blur. I know my outlook on life has been altered indefinitely. The only way I feel grounded is when I create digital art. Next year I am going to see if doing freelance work will give me a sense of direction. That is really the only thing keeping me afloat in this existence.
I've always Loved dance or anything that physically moves me... like figure skating.. that is what I just genuinely enjoy doing with my time however my family does not approve they want me to sit in an office......I love them but its driving me insane
I’m 20 working a dead end job and I’m currently realizing I need to start building my future but idk what to do
Idk what to do after high school but I’m considering veterinarian I’ve always loved animals and animals more then people but the amount of school scares me
I can't keep a job and can't find a career i know I'll like. Didn't finish high school. Been dealing with over 5 different diagnosis my whole life like add, adhd, depression, anxiety, ocd, bpd. I feel like I can't get anything right. As soon as something starts to go good for me, 'poof' its gone in an instant.🤷
I also just got dumped a few days ago by someone i truly loved and now I have nothing & have to start over. Will have to move extremely far to be able to afford a house on my own. Their reasons for leaving me were hurtful too; 'you need to get your life together'.....'i want to be single' .....'i want to live alone' .... but he's already seeing other people & doesn't care how heartbroken i am. I have no friends to talk to about it because of anxiety. Its like I can never catch a break!!
Ugh I don't understand this shit. Why is life so difficult for most of us? I'm so tired.
Finishing highschool doesn't change shit
I am F 29.I lost my job because of unstable political situation in our country .I haven't found out a job yet .I am also not applying well coz I feel like I am not enough and i need to have a vocational careeer rather than language's.I don't know but I am sure I 'm feeling lost.
I feel even more lost now…
I'm not lost in life, I just can't overcome my body dysmorphia to do what I have to do ._.
Thank You. I’m a young business owner looking for a career
But...isn't the business your career?
Punisher logo sales not doing so well?
If your a business owner why not focus into making more sales or getting more clients a career is only a short term goal but business is long term cause you can lose your job anytime but your business its still running and paying the bills.
I went to uni, got the degree, went back to uni to get a masters because I didn’t know what else to do. Throughout my 20s I became more and more depressed because I was on the wrong path, pushing myself into a 9-5 trying to make corporate companies make more money. I was lucky to get a job but I couldn’t shake the depression. I’m trying to figure out what would really make me feel at peace. Sometimes life feels like a game, a capitalist game that we’re not supposed to win at
It’s a mess trying to signup for the free worksheet. It was one email or ad after another and I still don’t have the worksheet…
Im 27 in the time of writing and nothing in my life makes sense to me anymore. I keep telling myself i want to achieve the higher purpose in life.
But what is that higher purpose?
My problem is i don't know how to be happy or enjoy like my friends do. I don't know my purpose. I don't know what is happening or enjoyment. I don't know why i am living. Wtf is wrong with me
Hey genius! having fun isn't going to last long
Hey, I feel lost in my life. I’m 35, my life is great, amazing husband, daughter, but I have no work (it was my decision to leave that workplace). Ever since I don’t know what to do, where to go. And why?! Each day is the same. In midday I already start to wait for going to sleep. No ideas in my head, no motivation, no nothing. All blank.
This was right on time for me
I’m probably just gonna be putting a part in a box for the rest of my life
i want to go to fine arts university because i have passion for drawing and fine arts school has always been a dream to me. my parents keep saying i will be broke if i choose art. they are right but i dont have time to change my rotation. i want to follow the path i am already good in and improve. i am sick of crying myself to sleep thinking what i am going to do. nobody can help me either.
I don't even know what I want and I'm exhausted
what about people who arent young
21, and still don't know what i am doing with life. No motivation in life, don't know where I'm going
Im 15 i dont have a passion for anything really ive started doing bad in school i only enjoy playing video games and going to the gym i dread waking up for school and getting out of bed every morning i have no clue what i want to do after hs i dont know what to do with my life im actually lost and i see myself just becoming nothing and ive been feeling very depressed recently
What makes me happy would make everyone else unhappy
What if we value the wrong thing
Thank you so much for this helpful information 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Dealing with tbi, ptsd, and cfs days are hard. I try but when you throw so many other stressors and things falling apart in life. I don’t know where to go or what to do to find how to do it.
Thank you for the video I just needed this
What if I don’t know what fulfills me
Same problem here
He got no answer to that
Then go have sex. That's very fulfilling
Thank you! needed this!
idk wtf to do
Thank you, Alex. 🙂