being “cool”, staying relevant, & the URGE to fit in!!
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2023
- Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon delve into what being "cool" means in their twenties and why life is too short to not like what you like or be yourself.
what being "cool" means to y'all in your twenties? let us know in the comments below! 💗🧡❤️
xoxo Jess
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About Twenty Whatever
Twenty Whatever features Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon talking candidly about navigating your 20's with your friends through different phases of life. (formerly Sierra Unfiltered)
being “cool”, staying relevant, & the URGE to fit in!!
• being “cool”, staying ...
0:19 intro
4:10 update & group chat
7:40 body image
12:54 what does it mean to be cool & fit in?
19:41 the definition of “cool” changed
24:30 unpacking identity issues in your twenties
28:21 try hards vs fitting in
32:03 the “Select Few” debacle
35:14 fitting in on the internet
41:53 how we’ve tried to fit in over the years
49:26 outro
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My mom said something negative about herself and I said, “don’t talk about my mom like that.”
i be doing the sameeeee
I did this too! And she said Ha
Kayla here! Thank you so much for the advice. I let my husband listen to it and he appreciated it as well! I definitely find myself positively shaming him for talking bad about himself, but I never thought to get him to dig deeper to figure out why he’s having these thoughts. Thank you for the advice and thank you for changing my inner voice! I hope I can do the same for him ❤
Love the talk in the beginning about men's body image. My husband is often so negative about himself especially since he has gained weight since we met. And I try to be so encouraging and loving but I know how hard it is when you don't feel those things for yourself. Also people are sooo much more comfortable saying "jokes" to him about how i must be a good cook and touching his stomach or asking if he is expecting and I hate that for him!
Love that quote "when you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything"
Please invite Carrie Dayton on!!
Yes would love to!!
I desperately need for this to happen!
I grew up neurodivergent without realizing it so I didn’t ever fit into groups but also couldn’t afford the Hollister / Abercrombie stuff unless it was second hand. I would cut my clothes to make them fit my style and for comfort. I can’t relate to having certain trends but I was definitely creative and had my own sense of self since I was 14 I’m 28 now.
I was like Paloma, and I think I still am, where my strategy is to just act like I'm down for almost anything even when I'm not. I literally jumped off a cliff because my older cousins wanted to do it. I watched so many awful/disturbing movies that I hated and played it off like I had a great time because that's what I thought my friends wanted. I never really grew out of that, but I'm less shy about hiding my own tastes.
Riayn’s response to the high school reunion is so me! “No, I don’t care about any of those people” 😂😂😂
I'm going to save these podcasts for my kids to listen to. School feels like such a big deal when it's all you know. It's only later in life when you get more experience and perspective, but those things are nearly impossible to explain.
18:06 i ALWAYS watch these while straightening my hair😭
I was just talking to my husband about quality of quantity today! I have my own office and we haven't been opened long so we are desperate to grow the amount of patients we help so we can reach financial stability but I'm not willing to change the way I work to adapt to what people want. I'd rather have a slow build of patients who love what we do than cater to someone who doesn't and us both end up being unhappy in the end. It also ends up being more of a risk to cater to others than be yourself. Everyone is happier in the end when you are true to you.
On the class comment: The wild thing to me is I went to a uniform school (it was not a private school but the uniform pieces still cost a decent amount to get EVERY item or multiples especially if a family had multiple kids) and parents/teachers use to say "oh it's the best because it will stop kids from being bullied because of clothes or looks!" when in reality the kids whose family's could only afford a few shirts, or no school sweater, or whatever, would get bullied SO bad and called "dirty". If you didn't have both colours of the school polo (there was a white and a blue) you got bullied. Same with shoes (shoes were bought from wherever they just had to be black dress shoes) and you had the same pair every year or they were falling apart? Bullied. All the well-off kids who could afford new dress shoes or every uniform item or whatever were ruthless and these same kids always insisted there was "no cliques or bullying at the school" 🙄
Did you go to school in the states or in the UK? I'm living now in Britian (didn't grow up here) and from what I've heard, they all had the same school sweaters and trousers etc but the shoes were bought from wherever. I've heard it's not as badly bullying here, but of course wherever your backpack is from, or phone, or whatever still got bullied for.
@@skylarsa Neither, Canadian Catholic school!
1min30sec in and already relating 😅 I'll be 32 in August. Feels like things were a lifetime ago
Just started my first salaried landscape design position this week.... Watching this on my break🥺 I love you guys so much🥹🥹🥹 Releasing my first week stressies❣️
Congratulations on your new job! That's awesome!
Congratulations!! Proud of you 💗💗 and honored to have you here!
So cool!
I am looking forward to the day you all turn 30! That episode will be a special one :)
Aw! Us too! 💛
Absolutely loving this podcast, look forward to these every week now!
I love when yall talk about more serious stuff like this, wholesome big sister vibes all around ❤️❤️
I never got to experience color skinny jeans haha but that’s good bc I remember always being self conscious wearing something bright or noticeable(?) bc I didn’t want people to think I was an ouTFIT REPEATER. I went to a middle school with uniform (navy and white) but kids were still ruthless if you didn’t have a polo/skinny jeans from Aeropostale/Hollister/AE. If you got your uniform from Walmart (me) or a random uniform store they could tell 😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂 So many laughs, you guys are just too relatable! I get so many flashbacks to my child/teenage years 😅❤️
Hiiiii my girls, love you guys so much!!! I clicked so fast hahaha. 20 Mims till.i gotta leave for work, and you guys are all of them 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Yesss!!! Just went to prep dinner and the new podcast is up! Best meal prep soundtrack everrrr
I have an interesting perspective as a Canadian living in the UK now; growing up as a low income family, the cool thing to wear was Lululemon leggings. All the girls had them, but we couldn't afford them, so I got them from Walmart instead. Well fast forward to me in my 20s, I can finally now afford Lululemon and wear the leggings constantly (Becuase they're comfy af) meanwhile I'm living in a country where they're not relevant at all. Plus in the UK everyone here grew up in school uniforms literally to avoid the class structure of students being bullied. Now that I'm in my Lululemons and feel like I finally got in with the cool girls because I have the same clothes, no one in Britian cares, much less even relates or understands the situation of not fitting in with clothes.
It's crazy how different the culture is here but this conversation made me realise this! Thanks again for another great topic!
All of these throwbacks are cracking me up!!🤣🤣 I was so similar to all of you! Love this podcast so much 🥰
just thinking about what to watch when this was posted!!🎉❤❤
Not me having just turned 23 on Monday and having that same conversation with myself. ‘I’m 23?!?’ 😂
22:45 the high school thing is so true, after the end i was like "WHAT HAVE I BEEN WEARING"? I had all these Nike and Adidas things I realized I didn't even like
Sierra you look so great miss Lady, what ever you are doing is working for you !! Seriously though you look amazing
So cute when y’all were talking about when the podcast becomes 40whatever is a 40whatever lady. I also positive self talk my man. We have been working on focusing what was positive about our day everyday.
As a low income kid I really never stood a chance at fitting in, but now on the other side of adolescence I’m happy that I didn’t! It’s okay not to peak in middle school or high school.
My 14 year old niece is currently going through the middle school BS and I’ve told her none of it will matter when she’s older but obviously that doesn’t work lol she’s starting high school in the fall and I pray it’s easier for her. Girls are so mean!
Dude, looking back on high-school, I can pin point the people who were in therapy, and knew themselves, they were so cool.... not popular but soo ahead, I didn't get there until like 23. My friend group was definitely eclectic... but I shape shifted for years between groups.
the phone part is SO TRUE!! I forgot about how clique-y elementary school started being when people started buying those Motorolas
Honestly iam addicted to yoir podcast and youtube of Sierra and Steph i love all of yoir team Sierra I can’t find words to describe how freaking happy my life is having a sleep over yoir podcast and doing meditation with your channel Siera and steph like omg i am huge fan fan of you and also i love Trisha paytas she is doing amazing i love you Sierra i have tears on my eyes i got so emotional omg im crying love you girls you look so stunning i looooooove youuuuu kiesses xoxoxoxooxx
Please do an eras themed podcast month where you dress as the eras of your life! Like give me paloma with underlined eyes and layered tank tops .... and maybe even straight hair 😳 or is that too far
The rolled gym shorts was a skinny flex.
omg , this brings me back to middle school/jr high ! when we had uniforms (polos) & i NEEDED the aeropostle polos & my mom kept buying me khols one lol i was soooooo upset.
My “friends” in middle school started watching youtube way before me so I would try and reference whatever the fuck charlie the unicorn sketch they were talking about and then they’d call me out like “you haven’t even seen it you don’t know what we’re talking about”😭💀
I relate so much to straightening my hair to fit in. But only after a boy who sat behind me in 5th/6th grade threw pencils in my hair purposely so they would get stuck in my curls.🙃
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Zach Miko is a plus size male model on tiktok that I stumbled upon and (at least from what I’ve seen) has the potential to be a Sierra type figure for guys!
Yay
42:52 literally almost fell into a trap that centered around being asked if I liked something because they told me after I was honest that I didn’t know it that they had made it up and were trying to catch me in a lie. Felt very three way caller fear 😰😰
I pretended for so long with my now husband that I liked fishing 😂 even went deep sea fishing got so sea sick 🤢 a few times because I was I too cared to come clean 😊
He wow knows because I accidentally said”it’s not my favorite thing “ he still teases me about it🤣🤣🤣
Anti-capitalist Paloma arc??!? We love to see it. I wish you’d guys do a whole episode on politics (I know this is highly unlikely but a guy can dream).
My high school was very sports-oriented so it was way more embarrassing to walk the mile than to go fast. You were really cool if you could do sub-5 (not joking I knew the guy who set the record at 4:15.81) and just alright if you were sub-8
I am 30. I still feel like I will be single forever…
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Definitely check out Hasan Piker for men talking about toxic masculinity and working on your self worth. He has a great “every one is a 7 theory” which sounds bro-y of the bat, but is actually a really nice way of looking at yourself and evaluating your life.
My friend would let me listen to her music and if she realized I liked the song she would switch it.
whaaaaat??? no way 😭
My mom would do that to me
Girls can wear trousers and t-shirts or Princess Dresses. Boys don't have that choice.
Hahaha. Sierra. Do you know how fast you'd need to be to run a 6 minute mile or walk it in less than 12? A 6 minute mile is high level athlete territory. Sorry. There's no way you ran a 6 minute mile in high school.
That’s when I was in the best shape of my life playing competitive soccer, pretty much the only time in my life that I could do it! Still was usually closer to 7 minutes though.