Breaking down green & red flags in friendships!
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- Опубліковано 21 бер 2023
- Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon discuss the nitty gritty of what makes or breaks friendships in your twenties. The girls share their own friend struggles, what they look for in healthy friendships, and reveal viewer-submitted red and green flags.
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Twenty Whatever features Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon talking candidly about navigating your 20's with your friends through different phases of life. (formerly Sierra Unfiltered)
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Breaking down green & red flags in friendships!
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Idk if this makes sense but I wish the wider shot of the three of you sitting together was a bit more zoomed in LOL. Like just a bit closer to you lovely gals to cut out some of the extra space (like the door next to Sierra). Love the topic, super fun episode ❤
Yes!
Yes!
Also the saturation of the camera is less. Like ever notice how Ryan's zoom in scenes are less quality/not as bright as Palomas? I know it's the camera that they use, but especially in this episode I couldn't stop noticing how "red" Palomas flag was compared to Ryan's.
Agree! I'm always trying to zoom in to see their faces more 😂
Yes!
jess is such a well spoken amazing person. i love her contributions to the podcast!
I love Jess!
agree!!!
Yay "Jess's Therapy Corner"
Not gonna lie, I’ve caught myself doing one or two of these red flags specifically. Watching this made me realize it's time to take a deeper look at myself! Love y'all as always 💕
This episode confirms what I have been thinking lately of one of my best friends for 7 years having a lot of red flags 🚩
Been there. Tough situation
Please have Carrie Dayton on the podcast she is such a vibe and would vibe with all u ladies
One of my biggest red flags goes with the one of “not being able to be myself”, but it’s when my friends yucks my yums. Making fun of my music, movies, books or anything that I like just because they don’t like them. The worst is the “Oh god, I can’t believe you liked that movie! It was SOOO BAD” like ok, what’s the point in telling me that?
This!! But also when you are starting to get to know a new friend and you say something like “oh I love reading/ watching movies” and they will be like “oh cool” instead of engaging and asking questions!! I love learning about people’s interests and it clearly shows you don’t give a crap to even humor me for a second. Like now I feel silly for even bringing it up.
Red flag when you only hear from a friend when they need something.
This came at a perfect time. Currently going through a best friend breakup/fizzle out because I know I deserve better and I deserve peace. Thank you for this ❤
We need to add a therapy moment with Jess❤
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🚩when your friend calls you out for being an outfit repeater lmao. If my outfit is serving…I’ll be serving it multiple times👏 sorry not sorry
Who even has the $ for non repeating outfits. Bad long term financial planning lol
@@Jenalamah literally!!!
The pride when Jess said 'Jess went to therapy' was beautiful. You're amazing!
Jes, sorry to hear about your recent breakup. Thank you for sharing such wisdom. I wish you strength moving forward
The biggest and my most important red flag - not being able to address potential red flags. They can’t fix what they may not know is a problem 🤷🏻♀️ and vice versa…we growing together 💗
I love the topic of this video! The topic of mutual silence is one that I adore! As someone who is autistic and needs someone in the room with me to truly feel productive, mutual silence is something I love.
🙌🏽 my Wednesday morning dose of serotonin has arrived 🤪🫶🏽
This episode made me feel way less alone. Sierra I went through the same situation with my high school boyfriend, he made me cut off all my friends and was so manipulative. Thank you ladies for sharing ❤️
You girls brought up a friend tearing you down in order to build themselves up, I had that very thing happen to me when I was very young. Their friendship was part of my earliest memories of what I was made to believe "friendship" was. They acted one way around me, then when around others they'd go out of their way to mock and belittle me. That was the only experience I had with "friendship" for many years to come, and it's something that I still carry with me to this day all the way into my 20s. It contributed a lot to my insecurity as a person, so truly don't do that to anybody and DON'T let anybody do that to you. {Love you girls, listening to this podcast today has really lifted my spirits, it's so nice getting to listen and be apart of your conversation}
I love everything Jess brings to these episodes!!! Can we please please please hae an episode with her on the couch with everyone?
Omg so cool you guys have the video version on spotify!
“Teeth.” “Skirt.” I cannot I’m using that 🤣
Lmao @ “don’t tell me I’m too sensitive, I’ll cry”
The one-upper is the worst
I’m so excited about the group chat!!
I was waiting for a new episode ❤🎉🎉
y’all after the intro plssssss say your names
The youtube recommended videos page is very good at giving new videos of people you watch often so subscribing is almost not needed so the call to action is really good.
What’s the confetti at 13:32 all about?! 🎉😅
Thank you! I saw that and was like wtf happened there?!
@@skylarsa not mad at it…I was just like…hmmmm? Did I miss something 😅
This one went so quick!
Jess 💜 went through it too x
Love your outfit sierra! So cute 🥰
I lost one of my best friends over new relationships. I got into a serious relationship, and still actively tried initiating times to hangout. But when she got into a serious relationship, she almost tuned me out. I was hurt by it for years because we were really close, we were even planning to go to the same college and get an apartment together later in life.
So excited to watch and listen! I sell vintage clothes and love to put y’all on as I sort and price/tag items. If y’all ever wanted a curated box, let me know! I’m super size inclusive and have a variety of styles/eras. ✨✨
I want this to happen for you and the podcast! I think it would be so cool to see the girls support small business like yours!
@@skylarsa Aw thank you!! I’m excited to see their color analysis video because I have my own theories on their colors, but I’d be STOKED to send them a curated box based on their results!
I had a friend like that at 18:39 , we were friends since 8th grade and lived together in college and she would get mad if I would hang out with other people or get super jealous it was a lot and we have drifted so much (I’m going to be 36 this year) and just over time our friendship started to fade because i distanced myself from her. It’s sad bc we were friends so long but there was too many other issues that ruined us. Some people are in your life for a chapter, not forever.
Not going to lie with the first red flag about not being able to be yourself I felt a little called out because I only got diagnosed with ADHD a year or two ago because it used to be a joke that in high school I had a different personality tailored to each group I hung out with because I didn't have an identity. I did band, choir, theater, cheer, tennis, science olympiad and just would accidentally morph myself into whatever group of people I was with because I didn't understand masking.
13:32…I neeeed to know what’s up with the confetti!
Love you girls.😊
I love you guys so much! I will forever try to be the first comment on every podcast video!! ❤
I don’t have any friends from high school or college. Most of my friends came pretty much after I turned like 23. I of course had friends back then but a lot of them turned out to be toxic or girls with drama that didn’t know how to be a good friend. I have a good set of friends as an adult. I’m doing well now I can’t say the same as of last year tho because I had to cut out two friends and I’m 32. It’s been tiring keeping friends 😅😅 so it’s shocking to me when ppl have the same friends since they were children lol
Much love to Jess!
I was best friends with someone for over 15 years. My kids called her Aunt and my parents considered her their daughter. We got in a huge fight 2 years ago and ever since, I have seen the red flags and watching this I know now that she was toxic and I didn't need that around my kids and family!
The way you're describing a ton of my friends :-)
It would be so funny if you just did a roasting episode 🤣
Does it tell you where we were at in the video when we hit subscribe? Because your call to action a few minutes in genuinely made me check, and I wasn't! So new subscriber here! I agree with a few other commenters, I'd love a more zoomed shot!
Don’t feel guilty about a call to action!! As long as it’s relatively quick we don’t mind :)
"your actions don't match your words" -- I was told by a therapist that this statement is unrealistic and abusive. Granted, that was only a few weeks or months before he terminated me. I was saying that he says he cares, but doesn't show it. We had long discussions about how he showed care in the past and it was no longer happening. :( STICK to your guns. This was definitely a red flag.
I stuck up for my friend whilst they weren't around. They soon stopped the comments, however, never told my friend about what they said.
Love this episode !
Are you guys ever going to have guests on the podcast? Love how it is with you 3, such good vibes but maybe have jadyn or Kenzie on. Love your whole crew and would love to see the different dynamics and perspectives. Almost like how the main channel is now
The red flag with the friend who ghosts friends once they're in a relationship happened in reverse for me. I thought I had friends I would be friends with till we were old, but once I got into an official relationship with my now husband (have known him since we were kids) and transferred universities none, except one, of my friends kept contact. I would text to keep in touch and never get invested replies. It really sucks to feel excluded just because I'm married and moved away. It sucks to see the lack of effort and to watch friendships fade to the point where I've slowed contact because it feels like they don't care about hearing from me. Or to see how our friendships existed because of proximity but faded just because we no longer live together or within the same area. I value friendships regardless of distance or time apart and will always be there and rooting for them no matter what, but it's becoming obvious that maybe I didn't matter in the same ways to them.
i was so thrown by the confetti😭
When a “friend” expects you to be there for them when they need you but is completely disinterested if it’s the other way around (same applies for talking about themselves or their needs, interest etc.)🚩🚩🚩🚩
Random thought: I would love to tune into work sessions with you all. I turn you on when I need to get work done and want company :) I feel like I'd be so productive working with you all
Would love it if you incorporated chapters/timestamps into your videos!
I've been asking for timestamps since they started
checking if i’m subscribed and you betcha i already am!!!
I tell my husband all the time when he asks me why I don't see my friends... I told him like... my ideal friend would just show up here and be here. Haha. I just need someone who interjects into my life 😅. They have to be enough of an extrovert to force me to go out some times tho. Haha.
Trying to add myself to the group chat but when I’m adding my contact. Keeps telling me my city isn’t a valid city. Anyone having this issue? Please help.
Is there a way to text the group chat from internationally? I thought it would be an iMessage number but it's come up as green! I'm really sad I won't be able to participate.
Yeahhh I have a friend that her cousin and I had to work together to plan wedding things. My friend told us she wanted us to be friends and knew we would get along. So after the wedding was all over, it was my birthday the next month, and I invited BOTH my friend and her cousin, and let my friend know that we could all hang out and I invited BOTH of them.
Suddenly my friend got pissed and was very upset I invited her cousin, even tho she told me she wanted us to be friends???
And then the next month her cousin asked if I needed help moving, and we could also work on planning my friends baby shower....I said OK and then my friend got pissed with me AGAIN....and told me I needed to ask permission.
And then told me her cousin has zero intention of being friends and doesn't have time for me (yet the cousin and I texted)
I think my bestie made it up just to make us not be friend. So sadly, me and her cousin stopped speaking after the baby shower.
Can I join the chat if I’m not American?
Woo!
Yay
jess, i just got out of a 5 year relationship (i’m 29!)
The group chat works internationally???
Would also like to know this!
First!! ♥️♥️♥️
Flaky friends who don’t take time to think of what you would like for a change even if it inconveniences their life 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩